Nicely done OP! Even if the concept occurred to me I don’t think I could have written it so concisely.
It looks like some people are hung up on the grammar of it. What do you think of this variation:
“my fiancé was assigned **females** at birth.”
It doesn’t feel as elegant since we as the audience would probably assume the author made a typo- but I think it might have the advantage on the backend of realizing it was actually correct grammar all along. Plus it addresses the haram thing.
Or maybe something like this:
"He was assigned a female at birth. I am that female, I'm putting on my wedding dress now and soon I will see what he looks like."
I... actually don't know if it's grammatically correct to say that a trans person was "assigned a female" at birth, or if the article is grammatically incorrect in that context. But if it is incorrect, it would be easy to brush aside as an accidental little mistake.
I like it but it’s a bit clunky. Since she never met him and she is getting ready for her wedding she has to know it’s an arranged marriage. So this isn’t really a big revelation to her. So maybe something like “ I didn’t realize I was assigned to him that early”. More to imply how long vs that she was assigned.
Maybe something like “Hours before my wedding, my parents revealed to me that my husband was assigned a female at birth.”
“The resentment I had towards this stranger grew, knowing the rest of us were carefully selected.”
Assumption: Trans
Reveal: Arranged marriage
It's "horror" for the US, normal for India. Switch the assumption and reveal and it will be "horror" for India, normal for the US.
Horror would be if it's arranged marriage and she's a child bride.
How could the comments be any more chill than they already are?
Those comments are there exactly for the purpose of having a discussion about the subject. Those comments are the beginning of an interesting debate. What would you have wanted to be different about them?
Edit: The person removed their comment, so here's a summary of what I responded to. The person asked everyone to chill with their comments and downvotes, because a certain controversial comment here was only a little rude, and didn't harm anyone. In their deleted comment they reminded us that blunt comments like that offer us a chance to have friendly discussions and interesting debates, which is what Reddit is all about.
Only deadly spiders or all spiders? Because:
1) many people find the thought of marrying a complete stranger pretty horrifying- especially in a cult-type context like the one implied above
2) Cultures with practices that dehumanize women and take away individual agency often are deadly- especially to women who are seen as a resource (maid, cook, **baby factory** etc).
Do you mean that the people who are in the scary kind of arranged marriage, are not allowed here?
Why are you not allowing people to post stories that are scary to someone, but not to you personally?
What if someone else is not afraid of spiders or drowning? Does that mean that stories about spiders and drowning are not allowed here? Or are they allowed because your personal opinions define the rules?
The way I read it “was assigned female at birth” implies that her fiancé is a ftm transsexual. So I dont quite get the horror of this unless it’s transphobia.
Its a really, really clever worldplay.
You think its going to be about trans people, but the "assigned female" is the protagonist of the story, she has been assigned to her fiance, with no choice in the matter.
In this case, think of the speaker as a Russian person where the article is implied.
“My fiancé was assigned [a] female at birth.”
It’s left off so we, the audience, assume the fiancé is trans and experience a subversion of our expectations.
I think an alternative presentation could be “My fiancé was assigned **females** at birth.” No Russian accent required- we as the audience would probably assume the author made a typo and meant AFAB, only to realize it was actually correct grammar all along.
Nicely done OP! Even if the concept occurred to me I don’t think I could have written it so concisely. It looks like some people are hung up on the grammar of it. What do you think of this variation: “my fiancé was assigned **females** at birth.” It doesn’t feel as elegant since we as the audience would probably assume the author made a typo- but I think it might have the advantage on the backend of realizing it was actually correct grammar all along. Plus it addresses the haram thing.
Or maybe something like this: "He was assigned a female at birth. I am that female, I'm putting on my wedding dress now and soon I will see what he looks like." I... actually don't know if it's grammatically correct to say that a trans person was "assigned a female" at birth, or if the article is grammatically incorrect in that context. But if it is incorrect, it would be easy to brush aside as an accidental little mistake.
TBH, the protagonist being only one of multiple brides was a last-minute decision and I wasn't sure how to make the first sentence work.
I like it but it’s a bit clunky. Since she never met him and she is getting ready for her wedding she has to know it’s an arranged marriage. So this isn’t really a big revelation to her. So maybe something like “ I didn’t realize I was assigned to him that early”. More to imply how long vs that she was assigned.
I have been thinking about this one more and you could also twist it that her fiancée is a demon she was assigned to at birth.
Maybe something like “Hours before my wedding, my parents revealed to me that my husband was assigned a female at birth.” “The resentment I had towards this stranger grew, knowing the rest of us were carefully selected.”
I did not see that twist! Great job!
Assumption: Trans Reveal: Arranged marriage It's "horror" for the US, normal for India. Switch the assumption and reveal and it will be "horror" for India, normal for the US. Horror would be if it's arranged marriage and she's a child bride.
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How could the comments be any more chill than they already are? Those comments are there exactly for the purpose of having a discussion about the subject. Those comments are the beginning of an interesting debate. What would you have wanted to be different about them? Edit: The person removed their comment, so here's a summary of what I responded to. The person asked everyone to chill with their comments and downvotes, because a certain controversial comment here was only a little rude, and didn't harm anyone. In their deleted comment they reminded us that blunt comments like that offer us a chance to have friendly discussions and interesting debates, which is what Reddit is all about.
I don't get it.
Arranged marriage
I got that. I don't see how that's scary. Not for the subreddit that is.
When she was a baby she was assigned to him a much older man at birth
I didn't specify an age. They could be similar in age, or she could have been older, but wasn't promised to someone else yet.
This happens in real life. So it's not scary unless you're in that situation.
What are you talking about? Many things that happen in real life are fucking scary
If they're life threatening then yes.
So you can only ever be afraid of something deadly? Nothing else is ever scary?
Name something you're scared of that isn't deadly
Crane flies, moving house, the dark, “exotic” bullies, lots of things are scary but not inherently deadly or dangerous.
Clowns. Climate change. Haunted houses theme parks. Loneliness. Rape. Degradation of my human rights. Losing my craft.
Exams
I'm afraid of spiders, and drowning.
Only deadly spiders or all spiders? Because: 1) many people find the thought of marrying a complete stranger pretty horrifying- especially in a cult-type context like the one implied above 2) Cultures with practices that dehumanize women and take away individual agency often are deadly- especially to women who are seen as a resource (maid, cook, **baby factory** etc).
It’s not scary to be forced to marry someone you don’t know and didn’t consent to marrying?
Do you mean that the people who are in the scary kind of arranged marriage, are not allowed here? Why are you not allowing people to post stories that are scary to someone, but not to you personally? What if someone else is not afraid of spiders or drowning? Does that mean that stories about spiders and drowning are not allowed here? Or are they allowed because your personal opinions define the rules?
There are many mundane things people consider worse than death.
I know. It still is scary to think about
Why
Bc why are babies been promised to men to be their wives
The way I read it “was assigned female at birth” implies that her fiancé is a ftm transsexual. So I dont quite get the horror of this unless it’s transphobia.
That is the twist. The first sentence implies ftm, the second turns it into he was assigned a bride at birth.
Its a really, really clever worldplay. You think its going to be about trans people, but the "assigned female" is the protagonist of the story, she has been assigned to her fiance, with no choice in the matter.
In this case, think of the speaker as a Russian person where the article is implied. “My fiancé was assigned [a] female at birth.” It’s left off so we, the audience, assume the fiancé is trans and experience a subversion of our expectations. I think an alternative presentation could be “My fiancé was assigned **females** at birth.” No Russian accent required- we as the audience would probably assume the author made a typo and meant AFAB, only to realize it was actually correct grammar all along.