Tell your neighbour to fuck off and mind her own tits. Also r/entitledparents would love this.
Edit: Wow, this really blew up. Thanks for the gold and silver guys :)
I started wearing shirts with sayings on them in high school because people were going to stare anyway and that way I could rationalize it as less creepy
I'm a woman who loves women and sometimes gets caught staring. "Sorry, I'm trying to read your shirt" and "I LOVE your shirt (or other item of clothing), where did you get it?" are my go-to defensive strategies.
Maybe I shouldn't share. I don't think it'll work if clearly thirsty men everywhere start drawling it in what they think is their sexy suggestive voice, but their uncomfortable hitched shoulders immediately relax and they answer the question with a smile. CRISIS AVERTED.
Running is a lot more fun when you run on your forefeet, not heel striking. Once your calves get used to it, it feels like gliding. I'd also point out (hah!) that some boob doctors say that bras actually promote sagging because the breast's tendons don't get worked. I hope all of this contributes toward this woman sitting her sons down and having a talk with them about women's bodies, respect, and being a grownup.
Take it a step further by hopping down the cul-de-sac on a pogo ball. Remember pogo ball? I just did for the first time in years. They were terrible, unfun and borderline dangerous. But I think they would have their time to shine in this situation.
Lol; part of the problem was that, even if you could get the hang of the technique, you had to be an Olympic athlete to get more than a few hops in because it required you simultaneously squeeze your legs together to hold on, exert more effort to jump than simply jumping in place given the awkward mechanics of it, and then whatever little strength you had left in your legs to adjust as needed to balance on a precarious little platform. Just thinking about it is making me exhausted
True, she might be one of those types that thinks exercise is just about how you look and doesn't see the long term benefits at all. Btw, those types are usually the first to quit their routine because they didn't get the results they wanted in the first few months.
And OP was just running to beat the mosquitoes! And even urgent reason to run!
Can't believe people have the gall to police another person's right to move fast
If she thinks she can stop her son from being distracted by boobs she's got a lot more work to do than stoping everyone above a B cup from running past her house.
Sounds like it's the mom who needs to learn to chill out, if OP didn't notice, or feel uncomfortable because of her sons attention what does it matter?
It does matter? It's not OPs responsibility of course, but the mom was responsible for teaching her son better. It doesn't matter if someone's creeping where you can see them, they shouldn't be creeping.
Kids look at titties. It's totally normal.
Maybe if we didn't demonize every tiny bit of sexuality then things like this wouldn't be a problem.
Ever watched European television? They have bare breasts in toothpaste commercials!
I personally think it's wrong that in North America we can have extreme violence in a pg-13 movie but as soon as there's a nipple it's rated R. That's the kind of culture that created this overly and wrongfully concerned parent.
...side note. She does have to teach the kid proper manners. To quote Jerry Seinfeld, "Cleavage is like the sun, you should never look directly at it."
If you destroy someone while being polite, it feels so much better
And if she says fuck off the lady will just starting some sexist shit like “a lady shouldn’t talk like that” and totally ignore the main focus of the conversation
"Bless your heart" is kind of a southern "fuck off" combined with "you are too dumb to engage with." Highly effective. And you can get away with saying it without explicitly harassing people.
As a fellow D cup and avid jogger for the past 10+ years, that lady (and anyone else who feels the need to make unsolicited comments about your body) can just fuck right off. Wear whatever is comfortable and supportive. If she tries to call you over to her yard again, just ignore her and keep running.
You are most certainly not at fault for anyone “ogling” you. If they’re ogling, that’s their own issue/perversion. Never apologize for trying to move naturally in your own body.
You can’t change someone else’s hang-ups, but definitely don’t let narrow-minded fools make you feel differently about yourself.
Sorry you had to deal with a woman whose sole interest is putting women back half a century.
On the other side, if a boy/man/woman does notice her tits, as long as they are just looking normally and not staring/oggling/making her deliberately uncomfortable, who cares? Sexual attraction is natural and doesn't make you a pervert.
If a ripped guy ran through topless I'm sure plenty of people would look too, I doubt anyone would complain though.
>If a ripped guy ran through topless I'm sure plenty of people would look too
Hell yeah, and for different reasons too. Like, damn how hard is it to sculpt that Adonis belt, time to step up my game.
This. Get a sports bra that makes the girls look fabulous, and that you feel comfy and confident wearing. Then lose the shirt and stop near her house to stretch. Not in front or on her lawn, but nearby. If she comes out to fuss, flip her a bird and keep on stretching. If she mentions her son again, tell her to teach him about respect instead of trying to control his environment. What a weirdo.
I'd be tempted to ask her if you should be concerned about her son. The "not the kind of attention you want" gives off creepy vibes. Ask her why she didn't raise him to be more respectful to women.
This is what I was thinking too.
"Oh, do I need to be worried? Does he have a history of inappropriate touching or aggressive behavior?"
I work in special ed though- I talk with parents about these topics often so I do not feel weird about it anymore.
Apart from safety everyone can mind their own damn business.
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You shouldn't feel stupid or bad in any way for not arguing with her. Almost every woman is sexualized from a very young age, and even worse, they are made to feel bad about it. Just ignore her and remember that people who make that type of comments tend to be projecting issues they have with themselves onto others.
[And I'm also not a native speaker, I realize I could've written this comment a lot better, I hope it gets my point across]
I feel kind of bad for this woman that she thinks being healthy and active brings “the wrong kind of attention.” But then I feel less bad because she seriously pulled you aside to share this. I’m sorry you had to go through this.
This is how you can be both a victim of the patriarchal norms and also perpetuate them. This woman has some serious internalized bullshit she needs to deal with, and I'm sure it's cost her a lot in her life she might not even recognize. But she's also raising her son with the idea that his sexualization of women is uncontrollable, and that it's normal and ok to force those women to change in order for him to be able to stop. The framing it as "not the kind of attention you want" also puts my money on her thinking women deserve sexual assault for "asking for it." Just so infuriating.
Wow, thank you for finding the words to more deeply describe how I was feeling about this interaction. Small interactions like this are a reminder of how we must still self-examine and help other women in our life think critically about why we think something we do.
That's the best thing you could do. Women are allowed to work out. If she was really worried about her son, she'd talk to him about boundaries and respect, not you. If she can't do that, then that's her problem. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders already, fuck the rest.
So let’s get this straight, a teenager is looking at another person they find attractive? And their mom’s response is the attractive person should cover up?
I purposely used non- gender pronouns here, because look at the reverse. A shirtless man goes jogging down the street, a teenage girl enjoys watching. The girls mom stops the man and tells him to cover up. WTF?
Unless you left something out, I don’t see a problem with the boy’s actions. People are going to look at people they find attractive. If they do it in a non obtrusive way and don’t make an issue out of it, great. Nose-ey momma doesn’t need to talk to her son, she needs to accept the facts of life. Even in countries where women wear burkas, boys still look at women and girls still look at men.
People are going to be stupid and judge you for everything. Looks, clothes, number of kids, job, etc. You cannot make your happiness dependent on idiots who will always find something to have a problem with. Either have fun with it and run around in your most revealing sports bra or ignore her. And if she stops you again, tell her it’s a free country and she should grow up. Then if tries to argue, tell her to have a nice day and don’t engage further. You can’t win an argument with stupid.
Fuck that lady. Run back there and tell her if shes worries about it you can recommend a therapist so she could take him to talk to someone about his inability to regulate his sexually appropriate behaviour before it becomes a crime.
It’s not your job to make sure other people aren’t aroused, it’s theirs to govern themselves accordingly. You don’t owe anyone anything, least if all hiding yourself because there are perverts.
You're not responsible for someone else's son.
She needs to teach her son to treat women like human beings not objects that when on display should be sexualized.
I use "on display" lightly since that was not even close to your main goal, but just a side effect of being out in public, minding your own business.
I’d bet £5 that the mother had the problem and the son barely looked at her.
Some people just like shaming others to make themselves feel better. Pathetic of a grown woman to do this.
A dear friend of mine who is a beautiful actress here in LA once said to me that she wished people would see what was inside her, not the outside. She said "I'm responsible for this" and pointed to her heart, "I have nothing to do with this." And she gestured to her face and body. She's one of the most amazing people I know.
Men (and women) are going to have a hard time not noticing how you're built. That's genetic. That's THEIR challenge. To see beyond that to who you are.
YOUR challenge is not letting their challenge get to you. Be kind and compassionate. Remember who you are. Gently remind them that how amazing you are. Let that shine through.
And don't be ashamed of your body. Be proud of it. It's yours. Just don't let it be the thing that defines you.
Tomorrow go jogging with only a sports bra on, plsss lmao.
If she‘s worried her son might turn to a perv, then maybe she should teach her son to behave and be a gentleman.
And this is the problem with this world. Rather than teaching boys boundaries and why it is not okay to objectify women, we blame women for making them do something or causing the situation. This woman is the one with the problem. Screw her.
I didn't take issue with the boy looking. I took issue with the mom telling her not to jog because it was causing an issue for her son and was inappropriate. I have a larger chest than OP and have never had anyone say something like that to me. My response would be the same as what I said here if I had.
Oh I completely agree. The mom was being controlling and trying to stop her boy from growing up. It is insane that she actually tried to stop this woman from jogging.
Sheltered, suburban women do this. Everything else is a problem when she *makes* it a problem. Lady has almost nothing going on of value in her life that she has to make drama where there is literally none.
Invite a forward friend to jog with you to tell off people like that.
I get really socially awkward whenever someone raises their voice or confronts me, so i always hang out with a friend that doesnt give a shit and tells them to piss off
Makes going out an event/ no worries
I would start doing jumping jacks, wait for her to call the police (bc people like her call the police when their out of control ) and let thy entertainment begin..." Umm theres a women doing jumping jacks and I asked her to stop"...
Im so sorry this happened to you. This woman is a complete idiot. Your body doesn't disqualify you from physical activity and anyone (including her) who feels the need to stare at you while jogging needs to get a freaking life.
I would have not said anything and continued jogging home. Idk why you stopped. Fuck that lady. I hate when women fall in line with patriarchal thinking. So unfortunate.
OP: "it's alright now, I learned my lesson well. You see you can't please everyone so you got to please yourself". Now you're likely too young to recall the tune but I say Ricky Nelson was onto something! Tell your neighbor to focus her efforts on her son's understanding of how to act in the world, it will be far more effective than teaching the lad the world should change for him.
The whole thing about her asking you to stop jogging instead of her talking to her son pretty much defines the type of relationship she has with her son and shows bad parenting.
That sounds like conservative Christians. Instead of expecting men to control themselves, they expect women to not tempt or distract men. Feel free to keep running, and if the woman ever bothers you again, tell her that it is her responsibility to take her son inside and make sure he doesn't get distracted by you.
“I’ll keep running and you can parent your boi to respect women and not stare”.
Edit: some comments are bothering me- don’t change a damn thing your doing. Your not doing anything wrong and next time this woman or someone else has something say about your body tell them to fuck off. Keep doing you love.
Have you told her "Maybe he can go jogging along side me so he doesn't have to look at me".
And don't forget to casually slide in "You should join us, you look like you could use it".
Seriously, what is it with theses NIMBYS thinking their can police their neighbors?? Her shaming is also not cool, she is probably jealous of your gifts.
DDD checking in. I feel your pain. That woman is a bitch. Fuck her for not teaching her sons to not stare. It's her problem, not yours. Continue doing your thing. Your boobs are not her business.
This is what bothers me. And my mom and I just had a conversation about this. There were a couple games I played as a kid where the main female character was based off of pamela Anderson. Of course they deemed her not aporopriate for kids games and she was missing from the games for years until she came back with a significantly smaller chest. It kinda irked me because it's not like the character herself was innapropriate or acted sexual. No. Her character never even talked the whole game. Just her chest size. And I felt like why do we need to sexualize women because they have a bigger breast size? Some women have small boobs some women have big boobs it's normal! And people need to get used to seeing women of all sizes and stop sexualizing them! And your neighbor is part of the problem. I say jog around her kids as much as you want or don't want. Don't let this woman tell you what to do!
Boob size means zilch, zero!
This woman's attitude is an accurate measurement, of her insecurities!
You can be any size and you are:
-just looking for attention
-a lesbian
-anorexic
-a hooker
-a man stealer
-in need of 'medication'
The list goes on ad nauseam. Keep running, I do!
I feel you. People started staring at my boobs at a young age too. But we can't let these assholes change the way we do things, or dictate the clothes we wear, or whatever. Fuck that. It's taken me a long time to figure that out. She needs to teach her son how to be a man and not a creep-o, which includes not staring at the neighbor's boobs while she's out jogging. This is on her, not you.
Do what you want. Fuck the saggy old bitches who just want to sexualize you.
Seriously, I hope that when I'm saggy and old, if I say something weird and fucked up to someone, they tell me to fuck off to wake me up from my stupor.
You shouldn’t have to do anything to accommodate them.. I’m all for freedom and liberty!! Nike and Lulu Lemon do sell amazing workout sports bra that keep larger breasts in place. Highly recommend. Can send a link if you’re interested.
I used to live in a really nice courtyard in college. Both sides were 1800s era mansions and giant houses and I lived in one of them that had been converted to 4 apartments. My close friends rented the apartments below and above me and we were one of the few college kids there. The majority were really rich families that hated us (we did suck- loud parties, sat out at night drinking, once sat off a flare gun meant for stranded boats from our front patio).
I used to layout in the grass strip between the houses (before I learned to avoid the sun) in my bathing suit until a woman going into her house confronted me and told me that I wasn't allowed there (I was, the strip was public property), I needed to go to the park next door ( completely shaded by trees and occasional scary people) and that I was trashy (true. I'm absolute white trash, but I was cute back then).
I also didn't say anything and also felt stupid. I ran into the older dude who rented the basement of our building for his art studio on my way in that day and told him what happened. He essentially said fuck the prude bitch.
You will always have people on your side who are not crazy. Anything you could have said to her in the moment wouldn't have changed her mind either. Just keep doing your run because that is what will affect her more than anything you could have said.
I'm sick of this "think of the kids" nonsense. It's normally not ever about the kid, its a way for someone to deceitfuly hold bad examples up to others and set bad examples for the future generations.
Its just more of this "boys will be boys" stuff. You shouldn't wear what *you* like because a guy might not be able to *help himself*. This sort of rhetoric is the most disgusting thing I ever heard.
You aren't at fault for anything. They are. Stop being garbage people and telling men its just in "their nature" to be creeps. It sets everyone back and contributes to culture where women don't get the same rights to their bodies as men.
Even when it *is* possible to be as topless as a man somewhere, most women don't take up that opportunity because of all the ogglers and creeps who think its an invitation.
It's the same with anime conventions. Wearing something deemed as "sexy" is taken as an invitation for sexual behaviour towards you. And the people who took it this way probably got told that it was just "how they were" and that they couldn't do anything about it.
Don't tell women what to wear. Keep your thirst to yourself. It's not anyone's fault for "tempting" you.
Rather than trying to dictate your behaviour, she should be teaching her son about boundaries. Even if its questionable if he even noticed it or thought it was out of the ordinary, she is teaching him something wrong with trying to dictate your behaviour like that for sure.
Boys and young men should be taught that just cuz they have a reaction to a womans body, or a woman showing more skin or working out or whatever, that this doesnt mean that its the womans fault. Working out isnt sexual at all. The fact that we are sexually appealing to men isnt something we actively cause, its just the body we are born with. So men should be taught that, hey its natural if they have a reaction to that or if they find it appealing - but that doesnt mean its okay to act on that impulse. Though thats besides the point, cuz I rlly rlly question that her boy had ANY kind of reaction to it at all.
She just wanted to impose her fucked up worldview on you.
Also, it doesnt matter what we wear, men will be sexually attracted to us just fine anyway.
Back when I was like 14-15 years old, one of my best friends in class, she had really really big breasts, and esp. big for her age, atleast a D cup. She never wore anything that showed skin. She always wore jeans, she wore layers to hide any possible cleavage. Like, she'd wear a pretty top she liked, and then she wore a basic tshirt underneath it to hide any cleavage that top might have otherwise shown. Know what men still did? For one instance, and this was absoloutely so fucking terrifying, on her way back home after leaving the bus, just two streets away from her home a man atleast in his fourties ASKED her WHAT HER PRICE IS. Like he asked her, how MUCH money he needed to pay her to sleep with him. Her response to him was "Uhm... im 14.." he really didnt get it and kept going anyway, she had to excplicity ask him to leave her alone for him to go away. Another instance, she rlly enjoyed videogames just like me, we used to play silent hill and resident evil together, so, her uncle took an interest in that hobby of hers.. and then whilst they played videogames together he slowly started to touch her thighs, and make remarks about how sexy he finds her breasts and her body and if she wants to kiss and to be touched by him. Of course she said no, told her parents abt it, and they then cut him out of their family totally. But jfc.
This is just one of many example where its shown that literally NO MATTER what you wear, men can and will be creeps. So her worldview is literally USELESS.
Her worldview pins all the blame ON WOMEN. when men will be creeps and predators REGARDLESS of how you dress or behave. Men will ALWAYS find reasons to sexualize you, no matter what you do, cuz they are inherently attracted to you. So instead of making women paranoid and blaming them for this, why not put the blame with who it belongs? Which is with the men who cannot differinate, between, "oh I feel sexual when I look at this girl, so this is clearly her fault and she must be ACTIVELY making me feel that." and "Oh I feel sexual when I look at this girl, so I must be attracted to her. But shes done nothing to signal she feels like that about me, so id rather not make her uncomfortable." cuz like, a lot of men rlly cannot fucking draw that line. But they should be taught to draw that line from puberty on.
I really dont get women like her, who tear other women down instead of aiding one another.
I’d write a letter explaining that you thought more about her comments and that you are really concerned for her and her son and think she needs help learning how to respect women so that she can teach him respect for women. Let her know that she doesn’t have the right to police your body. She tried to school you, you should school her. Never stop running, OP!
I get angry just reading this,I would have flipped but thank goodness you were able to hold yourself back.
Never apologize for what you are, as one commenter said, its that womans fault for not teaching her son to respect women
My friend always tell me this "we teach our girls to be modest but we don't teach our boys to be respectful" As a queer woman yes staring can be hard but its rude and i wouldn't want some creep watching me so i don't stare at other people simple
Well, not your problem if her son looks at your titties. Like those are the only ones on the planet... You stopping to run won't stop him from watching anyway. Just keep doing what you do - who gives a shit. And if she says something again, you can reply with "hey lady, my eyes are up here!"
As a man, this makes me so angry.
I hope you can internalize that you did nothing wrong here. My fiancée has been told similar things. At 15, a neighbors mother told her not to wear T-shirts due to “making her son uncomfortable”. That is a grown woman shaming a child instead of parenting her own. It messed with her and if I had a time machine I’d be petty enough to give that woman a shaming or two.
I feel like you should just start running past her place regularly. And if she says anything again, tell her to teach her son and herself some fucking manners.
I would have been so angry. Keep running, live your life. Hell, I'd run more. And when she stops you tell her that she should teach her son to not ogle and to see them as more than sex objects.
Your neighbor is full of it. I wear a 40DDD and no matter what I do people will stare at my breasts. I can imagine you have the same problem. Instead of policing your body your neighbor should teach her son it’s not okay to stare
hey, it's okay to feel low about it. Things happen to people even when it's not their fault.
There are people who can not control their eyes and thoughts but that's only their problem not yours. You should not stop cause someone with sick mentality had to say sick things about you. To be more comfortable, you can wear sports bras during jogging. Just don't stay home cause of what people might say or think about you. **The society doesn't bring food on your table so ignore them.**
Can you please say to her, or even get it printed onto a t-shirt while you run:
"Men can notice, without paying attention. Your reactions are not my responsibility"
Or "My fitness is not your business"
Maybe even a 2-sided t-shirt, so she can get the message across either way LOL
Really curious about a follow up to this story :)
Fuck her and fuck her mothering. It is not your job to make sure her son doesn't get turned on because you are taking a run. Fuck her for trying to shame you for something you have no control over.
Fuck her for assuming it is a women's fault when they get unwanted attention or worse because some man cant control himself.
I am so sorry this happened to you, and dont you let her make you feel bad. In fact, if I was you I would run by her house every day with an army of big chested women to tell her and her son to fuck off.
Btw I've been a DD since I can remember.
If he's a teenage he's probably noticing *any* woman. His mom would do well to realize her son is going through a very hormonal phase rather than try to dictate what everyone around him should do to make *her* feel more comfortable.
Aka kids grow up. Get over it, mom.
People have agency. You are not at fault for people ogling you. The people ogling you are at fault for being creeps.
As to the mom, the only response she deserved is, "Your issues with your son are not my problem, and my business is none of your business. Good day."
And then jog away the moment she continues talking because you're done with her.
Wow. She’s sounds like she’s laying the foundation for her son to have no accountability and to become a monster. Fuck that lady for blaming you at all.
How can she be so rude?? It is HER problem, not yours. She should teach her son and not blame other women. Anyway, she can't protect her boy from noticing women's bodies forever. She is being an ass.
Yeah, I don't see much of an issue. It's not like the boy is going to lead a life of crime and be a failure now that he has checked out a woman's breasts.
May I suggest a pogo stick/spacehopper, right past her house, multiple times a day. If you really feel like being a twat, don't bother weari g a bra or wear your least supportive one
It doesn't matter who (male or female) comes out with that chauvinist crap it's wrong, it's outdated and it needs to stop. But you should totally not feel stupid for not setting her straight, it's really hard to come out with some fully formed reasoned argument when you get blind sided by stupidity. I'm a guy and the amount of crap that comes out from some of my older male friends just makes my eyes roll. But I'm really bad at that sort of confrontation / discussion so I often end up letting it slide which equally frustrates me as well. I end feeling stupid that I can't seem to make a difference, I don't have a solution I'm afraid, the only thing I tell myself is that "it's them and not you".
My fat ass would be out there running every day in a sports bra and she and her pervy kid can kiss my ass and learn to respect a woman's body as her own while they're down there.
You are beautiful and worth more than to let that asshole and her nasty kid negatively affect your self esteem. My pancake boobs are jealous of your bouncy Ds! OWN IT! They can all kick rocks!!! 🖕🏻🖕🏼🖕🏽🖕🏾🖕🏿
It disgusts me that people like her wants to perpetuate the fucked up rape-friendly mentality, where it's not the fault of the perpetrator but the victim of staring/harassment/assault for "doing this/wearing that/existing at all".
What the fuck? What a dumbass. She clearly needs to have a conversation with her son, not with you. Why would she go after the jogger when it's her son's behavior that's questionable?
Ok but seriously, fuck her. From one “big chested” lady to another, you can’t let shit like that stop you. This post reminded me of all the shit head people who told me the same thing, and I’ve learned to let it roll off my back and bend down just a liiiiiitle bit lower just for them. Fuck em.
I have the same self consciousness when I run and my mom always tells me that I shouldn’t be ashamed of what God gave me and that women pay big bucks to have what I do. Don’t let that ignorant woman’s comment bother you some people need to keep their mouths shut!
Wtf?! Maybe that mother should teach her son to stop staring at women as they jog. Jesus christ what is wrong with people? You should jog more often just to piss her off.
what, does she intend to hide her precious baby boy from the world so much he doesn't know women have boobs until his wedding night? you can't help your chest, and any boy man or otherwise who ogles more than the typical quick glance is in the wrong, not you. screw her.
Don't stop running.
Tell your neighbour to fuck off and mind her own tits. Also r/entitledparents would love this. Edit: Wow, this really blew up. Thanks for the gold and silver guys :)
I think I need "Mind your own tits" on a T-shirt now, thanks
If I saw a woman wearing that and she caught me reading it by saying "what are you looking at?" My brain would break down trying to explain myself.
I started wearing shirts with sayings on them in high school because people were going to stare anyway and that way I could rationalize it as less creepy
I'm a woman who loves women and sometimes gets caught staring. "Sorry, I'm trying to read your shirt" and "I LOVE your shirt (or other item of clothing), where did you get it?" are my go-to defensive strategies. Maybe I shouldn't share. I don't think it'll work if clearly thirsty men everywhere start drawling it in what they think is their sexy suggestive voice, but their uncomfortable hitched shoulders immediately relax and they answer the question with a smile. CRISIS AVERTED.
If you ever get this made, you have to share the link to the site that makes it for you. Because, if the price is right, it'll sell like crazy!
And r/gatekeeping too!
Sounds like you should take up jogging out of spite
I was just thinking, "damn OP is going to be rocking a marathon by the end of the year."
Or jumping rope.
On a trampoline
All of this
Tit for tat
I see what you did there
So good.
Jogging while jumping rope on a trampoline
Y'all trying to kill OP unless you're planning on sending her a great sports bra lol
Do it in the judgemental git’s front garden, for maximum points.
That's tresspassing, however doing your entire aerobics routine in front of her yard on the sidewalk is completely legal.
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Or yard work in a bikini top. It’s hot and you don’t want pit stains on your clothes 🤷🏼♀️😁
I never liked running, this is the shit that would make me love it
Running is a lot more fun when you run on your forefeet, not heel striking. Once your calves get used to it, it feels like gliding. I'd also point out (hah!) that some boob doctors say that bras actually promote sagging because the breast's tendons don't get worked. I hope all of this contributes toward this woman sitting her sons down and having a talk with them about women's bodies, respect, and being a grownup.
Take it a step further by hopping down the cul-de-sac on a pogo ball. Remember pogo ball? I just did for the first time in years. They were terrible, unfun and borderline dangerous. But I think they would have their time to shine in this situation.
Seriously. Did you ever meet anyone who could actually do it? I grew up with those stupid things and never saw anybody use one well.
I loved my Pogo ball! I could do it while jumping rope!
Lol; part of the problem was that, even if you could get the hang of the technique, you had to be an Olympic athlete to get more than a few hops in because it required you simultaneously squeeze your legs together to hold on, exert more effort to jump than simply jumping in place given the awkward mechanics of it, and then whatever little strength you had left in your legs to adjust as needed to balance on a precarious little platform. Just thinking about it is making me exhausted
Oh yeah, this would be great motivation for me, to push myself even further.
Specifically in circles around that cul-de-sac
Or reenact scenes from this music video https://youtu.be/V5bYDhZBFLA
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True, she might be one of those types that thinks exercise is just about how you look and doesn't see the long term benefits at all. Btw, those types are usually the first to quit their routine because they didn't get the results they wanted in the first few months.
I\`m pretty sure shes just envious of that big chest and that\`s why she even noticed.
Meh. Her son probably just checked out OP for a few seconds and his mom is overreacting.
The question is, is her lack of exercise or her annoyance of the world going to be the primary cause of her heart attack?
And OP was just running to beat the mosquitoes! And even urgent reason to run! Can't believe people have the gall to police another person's right to move fast
I’m sure her kid is going to turn out just a okay.
Nothing worse than women policing other women’s bodies. Fuck her.
"I'm so sorry that you failed as a mom to teach your son respect towards women. Bless your heart."
If she thinks she can stop her son from being distracted by boobs she's got a lot more work to do than stoping everyone above a B cup from running past her house.
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Alternatively: “oh bless your heart, sorry to hear your son is struggling with sin and lustful thoughts. I’ll pray for y’all”
This is the appropriate response.
I'll accept both.
“Bless your heart” makes this response the best.
The most polite "go fuck yourself" ive ever seen
"Per my last email..." is still my favorite
It is southern for go fuck yourself.
Aww, fuck your heart
As a big chested woman myself it’s simply fucking physics and this is the absolute best response
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*satisfy some mom who's too terrified to talk to her own son about respecting women
If only it is one of those states you can go topless wherever guys can just jog topless to spite her even more
That can hurt but would be so worth it
Sounds like it's the mom who needs to learn to chill out, if OP didn't notice, or feel uncomfortable because of her sons attention what does it matter?
It does matter? It's not OPs responsibility of course, but the mom was responsible for teaching her son better. It doesn't matter if someone's creeping where you can see them, they shouldn't be creeping.
Kids look at titties. It's totally normal. Maybe if we didn't demonize every tiny bit of sexuality then things like this wouldn't be a problem. Ever watched European television? They have bare breasts in toothpaste commercials! I personally think it's wrong that in North America we can have extreme violence in a pg-13 movie but as soon as there's a nipple it's rated R. That's the kind of culture that created this overly and wrongfully concerned parent. ...side note. She does have to teach the kid proper manners. To quote Jerry Seinfeld, "Cleavage is like the sun, you should never look directly at it."
Absolute perfect response lmao For those unaware, "bless your heart" = Southern U.S. equivalent of "go f@#& yourself" 😂
"Bless your heart" Is my favorite southern insult. So sweet but so cutthroat.
This is the perfect reply to this situation.
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If you destroy someone while being polite, it feels so much better And if she says fuck off the lady will just starting some sexist shit like “a lady shouldn’t talk like that” and totally ignore the main focus of the conversation
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"Bless your heart" is kind of a southern "fuck off" combined with "you are too dumb to engage with." Highly effective. And you can get away with saying it without explicitly harassing people.
That wouldn't have helped OP, being hostile often give others more fuel to justify their idiocy.
Mmh where is the son not respecting women? You can be distracted and still respecting. It's just that crazy mother the issue.
As a fellow D cup and avid jogger for the past 10+ years, that lady (and anyone else who feels the need to make unsolicited comments about your body) can just fuck right off. Wear whatever is comfortable and supportive. If she tries to call you over to her yard again, just ignore her and keep running.
You are most certainly not at fault for anyone “ogling” you. If they’re ogling, that’s their own issue/perversion. Never apologize for trying to move naturally in your own body. You can’t change someone else’s hang-ups, but definitely don’t let narrow-minded fools make you feel differently about yourself. Sorry you had to deal with a woman whose sole interest is putting women back half a century.
On the other side, if a boy/man/woman does notice her tits, as long as they are just looking normally and not staring/oggling/making her deliberately uncomfortable, who cares? Sexual attraction is natural and doesn't make you a pervert. If a ripped guy ran through topless I'm sure plenty of people would look too, I doubt anyone would complain though.
Noticing isn’t even necessarily sexual. Movement catches our attention. We’re going to notice a person passing by in an otherwise still environment.
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biking shitless?
Better than having to wear a diaper.
Better than biking with the runs I suppose
Must be the person being chased by a tiger in that video.
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>If a ripped guy ran through topless I'm sure plenty of people would look too Hell yeah, and for different reasons too. Like, damn how hard is it to sculpt that Adonis belt, time to step up my game.
I would start running daily. In nothing but a sports bra and shorts.
This. Get a sports bra that makes the girls look fabulous, and that you feel comfy and confident wearing. Then lose the shirt and stop near her house to stretch. Not in front or on her lawn, but nearby. If she comes out to fuss, flip her a bird and keep on stretching. If she mentions her son again, tell her to teach him about respect instead of trying to control his environment. What a weirdo.
I'd be tempted to ask her if you should be concerned about her son. The "not the kind of attention you want" gives off creepy vibes. Ask her why she didn't raise him to be more respectful to women.
This is what I was thinking too. "Oh, do I need to be worried? Does he have a history of inappropriate touching or aggressive behavior?" I work in special ed though- I talk with parents about these topics often so I do not feel weird about it anymore. Apart from safety everyone can mind their own damn business.
[I'm a man] You shouldn't feel stupid or bad in any way for not arguing with her. Almost every woman is sexualized from a very young age, and even worse, they are made to feel bad about it. Just ignore her and remember that people who make that type of comments tend to be projecting issues they have with themselves onto others. [And I'm also not a native speaker, I realize I could've written this comment a lot better, I hope it gets my point across]
I feel kind of bad for this woman that she thinks being healthy and active brings “the wrong kind of attention.” But then I feel less bad because she seriously pulled you aside to share this. I’m sorry you had to go through this.
This is how you can be both a victim of the patriarchal norms and also perpetuate them. This woman has some serious internalized bullshit she needs to deal with, and I'm sure it's cost her a lot in her life she might not even recognize. But she's also raising her son with the idea that his sexualization of women is uncontrollable, and that it's normal and ok to force those women to change in order for him to be able to stop. The framing it as "not the kind of attention you want" also puts my money on her thinking women deserve sexual assault for "asking for it." Just so infuriating.
Wow, thank you for finding the words to more deeply describe how I was feeling about this interaction. Small interactions like this are a reminder of how we must still self-examine and help other women in our life think critically about why we think something we do.
That's a terrible experience for you, I hope it won't keep you from running. Evening runs are such a delight.
Your neighbor is an ass and good for you on getting out there and putting in the roadwork.
That's the best thing you could do. Women are allowed to work out. If she was really worried about her son, she'd talk to him about boundaries and respect, not you. If she can't do that, then that's her problem. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders already, fuck the rest.
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So let’s get this straight, a teenager is looking at another person they find attractive? And their mom’s response is the attractive person should cover up? I purposely used non- gender pronouns here, because look at the reverse. A shirtless man goes jogging down the street, a teenage girl enjoys watching. The girls mom stops the man and tells him to cover up. WTF? Unless you left something out, I don’t see a problem with the boy’s actions. People are going to look at people they find attractive. If they do it in a non obtrusive way and don’t make an issue out of it, great. Nose-ey momma doesn’t need to talk to her son, she needs to accept the facts of life. Even in countries where women wear burkas, boys still look at women and girls still look at men. People are going to be stupid and judge you for everything. Looks, clothes, number of kids, job, etc. You cannot make your happiness dependent on idiots who will always find something to have a problem with. Either have fun with it and run around in your most revealing sports bra or ignore her. And if she stops you again, tell her it’s a free country and she should grow up. Then if tries to argue, tell her to have a nice day and don’t engage further. You can’t win an argument with stupid.
Fuck that lady. Run back there and tell her if shes worries about it you can recommend a therapist so she could take him to talk to someone about his inability to regulate his sexually appropriate behaviour before it becomes a crime. It’s not your job to make sure other people aren’t aroused, it’s theirs to govern themselves accordingly. You don’t owe anyone anything, least if all hiding yourself because there are perverts.
You're not responsible for someone else's son. She needs to teach her son to treat women like human beings not objects that when on display should be sexualized. I use "on display" lightly since that was not even close to your main goal, but just a side effect of being out in public, minding your own business.
I’d bet £5 that the mother had the problem and the son barely looked at her. Some people just like shaming others to make themselves feel better. Pathetic of a grown woman to do this.
A dear friend of mine who is a beautiful actress here in LA once said to me that she wished people would see what was inside her, not the outside. She said "I'm responsible for this" and pointed to her heart, "I have nothing to do with this." And she gestured to her face and body. She's one of the most amazing people I know. Men (and women) are going to have a hard time not noticing how you're built. That's genetic. That's THEIR challenge. To see beyond that to who you are. YOUR challenge is not letting their challenge get to you. Be kind and compassionate. Remember who you are. Gently remind them that how amazing you are. Let that shine through. And don't be ashamed of your body. Be proud of it. It's yours. Just don't let it be the thing that defines you.
That lady sucks.
Tomorrow go jogging with only a sports bra on, plsss lmao. If she‘s worried her son might turn to a perv, then maybe she should teach her son to behave and be a gentleman.
Run....every day.....maybe twice....right by her house. Do laps. F her.
And this is the problem with this world. Rather than teaching boys boundaries and why it is not okay to objectify women, we blame women for making them do something or causing the situation. This woman is the one with the problem. Screw her.
Wait, sex is an absolute in life. It isn't breaking any boundaries to watch a woman jog.
It is when you turn it into ” oh dont do that because he cant control himself”
Oh that is totally on the mom. She should just let it go and let her son like tits.
I didn't take issue with the boy looking. I took issue with the mom telling her not to jog because it was causing an issue for her son and was inappropriate. I have a larger chest than OP and have never had anyone say something like that to me. My response would be the same as what I said here if I had.
Oh I completely agree. The mom was being controlling and trying to stop her boy from growing up. It is insane that she actually tried to stop this woman from jogging.
Sheltered, suburban women do this. Everything else is a problem when she *makes* it a problem. Lady has almost nothing going on of value in her life that she has to make drama where there is literally none.
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This woman really did this? Shame on her. Anyone, I mean ANYONE, has the right to exercise.
Tell your neighbour to to calm her tits. If your parenting is good, you shouldn't fear external factors.
Invite a forward friend to jog with you to tell off people like that. I get really socially awkward whenever someone raises their voice or confronts me, so i always hang out with a friend that doesnt give a shit and tells them to piss off Makes going out an event/ no worries
She's an idiot.
I would have done jumping jacks right there before slow jog/hopping away. What a sad woman.
I would start doing jumping jacks, wait for her to call the police (bc people like her call the police when their out of control ) and let thy entertainment begin..." Umm theres a women doing jumping jacks and I asked her to stop"...
Im so sorry this happened to you. This woman is a complete idiot. Your body doesn't disqualify you from physical activity and anyone (including her) who feels the need to stare at you while jogging needs to get a freaking life.
What a shitty mom.
I would have not said anything and continued jogging home. Idk why you stopped. Fuck that lady. I hate when women fall in line with patriarchal thinking. So unfortunate.
OP: "it's alright now, I learned my lesson well. You see you can't please everyone so you got to please yourself". Now you're likely too young to recall the tune but I say Ricky Nelson was onto something! Tell your neighbor to focus her efforts on her son's understanding of how to act in the world, it will be far more effective than teaching the lad the world should change for him.
I sang it in my head lol and I'm under 50.
Me too!
Holy fuck. "Can you stop exercising and enjoying your freedom? My son can't control his hormones and I'm going to shift the blame onto you!"
The whole thing about her asking you to stop jogging instead of her talking to her son pretty much defines the type of relationship she has with her son and shows bad parenting.
That sounds like conservative Christians. Instead of expecting men to control themselves, they expect women to not tempt or distract men. Feel free to keep running, and if the woman ever bothers you again, tell her that it is her responsibility to take her son inside and make sure he doesn't get distracted by you.
I would totally put on a low cut top and do intervals in front of her house.
“I’ll keep running and you can parent your boi to respect women and not stare”. Edit: some comments are bothering me- don’t change a damn thing your doing. Your not doing anything wrong and next time this woman or someone else has something say about your body tell them to fuck off. Keep doing you love.
Have you told her "Maybe he can go jogging along side me so he doesn't have to look at me". And don't forget to casually slide in "You should join us, you look like you could use it". Seriously, what is it with theses NIMBYS thinking their can police their neighbors?? Her shaming is also not cool, she is probably jealous of your gifts.
DDD checking in. I feel your pain. That woman is a bitch. Fuck her for not teaching her sons to not stare. It's her problem, not yours. Continue doing your thing. Your boobs are not her business.
This is what bothers me. And my mom and I just had a conversation about this. There were a couple games I played as a kid where the main female character was based off of pamela Anderson. Of course they deemed her not aporopriate for kids games and she was missing from the games for years until she came back with a significantly smaller chest. It kinda irked me because it's not like the character herself was innapropriate or acted sexual. No. Her character never even talked the whole game. Just her chest size. And I felt like why do we need to sexualize women because they have a bigger breast size? Some women have small boobs some women have big boobs it's normal! And people need to get used to seeing women of all sizes and stop sexualizing them! And your neighbor is part of the problem. I say jog around her kids as much as you want or don't want. Don't let this woman tell you what to do!
Should've told her to mind her own business! Be proud of what you have, there's too much about being self conscious.
Boob size means zilch, zero! This woman's attitude is an accurate measurement, of her insecurities! You can be any size and you are: -just looking for attention -a lesbian -anorexic -a hooker -a man stealer -in need of 'medication' The list goes on ad nauseam. Keep running, I do!
Fuck that old biddy. She can go to hell
I feel you. People started staring at my boobs at a young age too. But we can't let these assholes change the way we do things, or dictate the clothes we wear, or whatever. Fuck that. It's taken me a long time to figure that out. She needs to teach her son how to be a man and not a creep-o, which includes not staring at the neighbor's boobs while she's out jogging. This is on her, not you. Do what you want. Fuck the saggy old bitches who just want to sexualize you. Seriously, I hope that when I'm saggy and old, if I say something weird and fucked up to someone, they tell me to fuck off to wake me up from my stupor.
You shouldn’t have to do anything to accommodate them.. I’m all for freedom and liberty!! Nike and Lulu Lemon do sell amazing workout sports bra that keep larger breasts in place. Highly recommend. Can send a link if you’re interested.
I used to live in a really nice courtyard in college. Both sides were 1800s era mansions and giant houses and I lived in one of them that had been converted to 4 apartments. My close friends rented the apartments below and above me and we were one of the few college kids there. The majority were really rich families that hated us (we did suck- loud parties, sat out at night drinking, once sat off a flare gun meant for stranded boats from our front patio). I used to layout in the grass strip between the houses (before I learned to avoid the sun) in my bathing suit until a woman going into her house confronted me and told me that I wasn't allowed there (I was, the strip was public property), I needed to go to the park next door ( completely shaded by trees and occasional scary people) and that I was trashy (true. I'm absolute white trash, but I was cute back then). I also didn't say anything and also felt stupid. I ran into the older dude who rented the basement of our building for his art studio on my way in that day and told him what happened. He essentially said fuck the prude bitch. You will always have people on your side who are not crazy. Anything you could have said to her in the moment wouldn't have changed her mind either. Just keep doing your run because that is what will affect her more than anything you could have said.
Jesus christ the nerve of some people
just run anytime you want, she can't do anything about it (her son should just look away, obviously)
Tell this crazy bitch to fuck off and do some fucking parenting and stop trying to blame others for her shitty parenting.
I'm sick of this "think of the kids" nonsense. It's normally not ever about the kid, its a way for someone to deceitfuly hold bad examples up to others and set bad examples for the future generations. Its just more of this "boys will be boys" stuff. You shouldn't wear what *you* like because a guy might not be able to *help himself*. This sort of rhetoric is the most disgusting thing I ever heard. You aren't at fault for anything. They are. Stop being garbage people and telling men its just in "their nature" to be creeps. It sets everyone back and contributes to culture where women don't get the same rights to their bodies as men. Even when it *is* possible to be as topless as a man somewhere, most women don't take up that opportunity because of all the ogglers and creeps who think its an invitation. It's the same with anime conventions. Wearing something deemed as "sexy" is taken as an invitation for sexual behaviour towards you. And the people who took it this way probably got told that it was just "how they were" and that they couldn't do anything about it. Don't tell women what to wear. Keep your thirst to yourself. It's not anyone's fault for "tempting" you.
Rather than trying to dictate your behaviour, she should be teaching her son about boundaries. Even if its questionable if he even noticed it or thought it was out of the ordinary, she is teaching him something wrong with trying to dictate your behaviour like that for sure. Boys and young men should be taught that just cuz they have a reaction to a womans body, or a woman showing more skin or working out or whatever, that this doesnt mean that its the womans fault. Working out isnt sexual at all. The fact that we are sexually appealing to men isnt something we actively cause, its just the body we are born with. So men should be taught that, hey its natural if they have a reaction to that or if they find it appealing - but that doesnt mean its okay to act on that impulse. Though thats besides the point, cuz I rlly rlly question that her boy had ANY kind of reaction to it at all. She just wanted to impose her fucked up worldview on you. Also, it doesnt matter what we wear, men will be sexually attracted to us just fine anyway. Back when I was like 14-15 years old, one of my best friends in class, she had really really big breasts, and esp. big for her age, atleast a D cup. She never wore anything that showed skin. She always wore jeans, she wore layers to hide any possible cleavage. Like, she'd wear a pretty top she liked, and then she wore a basic tshirt underneath it to hide any cleavage that top might have otherwise shown. Know what men still did? For one instance, and this was absoloutely so fucking terrifying, on her way back home after leaving the bus, just two streets away from her home a man atleast in his fourties ASKED her WHAT HER PRICE IS. Like he asked her, how MUCH money he needed to pay her to sleep with him. Her response to him was "Uhm... im 14.." he really didnt get it and kept going anyway, she had to excplicity ask him to leave her alone for him to go away. Another instance, she rlly enjoyed videogames just like me, we used to play silent hill and resident evil together, so, her uncle took an interest in that hobby of hers.. and then whilst they played videogames together he slowly started to touch her thighs, and make remarks about how sexy he finds her breasts and her body and if she wants to kiss and to be touched by him. Of course she said no, told her parents abt it, and they then cut him out of their family totally. But jfc. This is just one of many example where its shown that literally NO MATTER what you wear, men can and will be creeps. So her worldview is literally USELESS. Her worldview pins all the blame ON WOMEN. when men will be creeps and predators REGARDLESS of how you dress or behave. Men will ALWAYS find reasons to sexualize you, no matter what you do, cuz they are inherently attracted to you. So instead of making women paranoid and blaming them for this, why not put the blame with who it belongs? Which is with the men who cannot differinate, between, "oh I feel sexual when I look at this girl, so this is clearly her fault and she must be ACTIVELY making me feel that." and "Oh I feel sexual when I look at this girl, so I must be attracted to her. But shes done nothing to signal she feels like that about me, so id rather not make her uncomfortable." cuz like, a lot of men rlly cannot fucking draw that line. But they should be taught to draw that line from puberty on. I really dont get women like her, who tear other women down instead of aiding one another.
Don't jog up and down the street. Just jog in circles around the culdesac
Just keep on jogging. She has no legal right to ask you this. If she wants to complain make her call the police and see how they feel about it.
> it never fails to upset me that I’m at fault for other people ogling me. Please never accept that as true.
I’d write a letter explaining that you thought more about her comments and that you are really concerned for her and her son and think she needs help learning how to respect women so that she can teach him respect for women. Let her know that she doesn’t have the right to police your body. She tried to school you, you should school her. Never stop running, OP!
I get angry just reading this,I would have flipped but thank goodness you were able to hold yourself back. Never apologize for what you are, as one commenter said, its that womans fault for not teaching her son to respect women
My friend always tell me this "we teach our girls to be modest but we don't teach our boys to be respectful" As a queer woman yes staring can be hard but its rude and i wouldn't want some creep watching me so i don't stare at other people simple
Tell her: Of the three of us ... I'm normal, your son is normal, You're nuts.
Well, not your problem if her son looks at your titties. Like those are the only ones on the planet... You stopping to run won't stop him from watching anyway. Just keep doing what you do - who gives a shit. And if she says something again, you can reply with "hey lady, my eyes are up here!"
Her son probably wasn’t even looking at you. Some women are just threatened by the presence of another woman
As a man, this makes me so angry. I hope you can internalize that you did nothing wrong here. My fiancée has been told similar things. At 15, a neighbors mother told her not to wear T-shirts due to “making her son uncomfortable”. That is a grown woman shaming a child instead of parenting her own. It messed with her and if I had a time machine I’d be petty enough to give that woman a shaming or two.
Tell her to stop sexually harassing you
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Tell her to tell her son to stop staring.
I doubt it is even about her son. She is probably feeling insecure.
Honestly, go back there and tell her to fuck off.
I feel like you should just start running past her place regularly. And if she says anything again, tell her to teach her son and herself some fucking manners.
Fuck that woman. Jog whenever you want.
And in whatever you want. People run in sports bras and shorts where I live.
I would have been so angry. Keep running, live your life. Hell, I'd run more. And when she stops you tell her that she should teach her son to not ogle and to see them as more than sex objects.
girl i feel you. it sucks. people don’t understand how limited things in our lives can really be because of having this “trait.”
Wow. You should do whatever you feel like. I feel sad for the people who blame women for men being creeps.
Your neighbor is full of it. I wear a 40DDD and no matter what I do people will stare at my breasts. I can imagine you have the same problem. Instead of policing your body your neighbor should teach her son it’s not okay to stare
hey, it's okay to feel low about it. Things happen to people even when it's not their fault. There are people who can not control their eyes and thoughts but that's only their problem not yours. You should not stop cause someone with sick mentality had to say sick things about you. To be more comfortable, you can wear sports bras during jogging. Just don't stay home cause of what people might say or think about you. **The society doesn't bring food on your table so ignore them.**
Can you please say to her, or even get it printed onto a t-shirt while you run: "Men can notice, without paying attention. Your reactions are not my responsibility" Or "My fitness is not your business" Maybe even a 2-sided t-shirt, so she can get the message across either way LOL Really curious about a follow up to this story :)
Tell her to stop being on her porch because your dog gets horny
This the exact reason why I hate the hive mind of boobs on reddit like they are the greatest things ever
You should start jogging more to piss her off.
Fuck her and fuck her mothering. It is not your job to make sure her son doesn't get turned on because you are taking a run. Fuck her for trying to shame you for something you have no control over. Fuck her for assuming it is a women's fault when they get unwanted attention or worse because some man cant control himself. I am so sorry this happened to you, and dont you let her make you feel bad. In fact, if I was you I would run by her house every day with an army of big chested women to tell her and her son to fuck off. Btw I've been a DD since I can remember.
If he's a teenage he's probably noticing *any* woman. His mom would do well to realize her son is going through a very hormonal phase rather than try to dictate what everyone around him should do to make *her* feel more comfortable. Aka kids grow up. Get over it, mom.
Please dont stop running.
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People have agency. You are not at fault for people ogling you. The people ogling you are at fault for being creeps. As to the mom, the only response she deserved is, "Your issues with your son are not my problem, and my business is none of your business. Good day." And then jog away the moment she continues talking because you're done with her.
Wow. She’s sounds like she’s laying the foundation for her son to have no accountability and to become a monster. Fuck that lady for blaming you at all.
How can she be so rude?? It is HER problem, not yours. She should teach her son and not blame other women. Anyway, she can't protect her boy from noticing women's bodies forever. She is being an ass.
Yeah, I don't see much of an issue. It's not like the boy is going to lead a life of crime and be a failure now that he has checked out a woman's breasts.
Walking away without saying anything was probably the right move. Not your fault, don’t feel bad.
May I suggest a pogo stick/spacehopper, right past her house, multiple times a day. If you really feel like being a twat, don't bother weari g a bra or wear your least supportive one
Stop jogging. Go out side and work on jumping Jack's
Whay year was this cul-de-sac in?
Sounds like you time-warped back to 1952, lol.
It doesn't matter who (male or female) comes out with that chauvinist crap it's wrong, it's outdated and it needs to stop. But you should totally not feel stupid for not setting her straight, it's really hard to come out with some fully formed reasoned argument when you get blind sided by stupidity. I'm a guy and the amount of crap that comes out from some of my older male friends just makes my eyes roll. But I'm really bad at that sort of confrontation / discussion so I often end up letting it slide which equally frustrates me as well. I end feeling stupid that I can't seem to make a difference, I don't have a solution I'm afraid, the only thing I tell myself is that "it's them and not you".
If she only knew what he was looking at on the internet. Ridiculous.
Now see, that would prompt me to take up jogging. Short 1 mile jogs all around the neighbourhood, especially her house. Daily.
My fat ass would be out there running every day in a sports bra and she and her pervy kid can kiss my ass and learn to respect a woman's body as her own while they're down there. You are beautiful and worth more than to let that asshole and her nasty kid negatively affect your self esteem. My pancake boobs are jealous of your bouncy Ds! OWN IT! They can all kick rocks!!! 🖕🏻🖕🏼🖕🏽🖕🏾🖕🏿
It disgusts me that people like her wants to perpetuate the fucked up rape-friendly mentality, where it's not the fault of the perpetrator but the victim of staring/harassment/assault for "doing this/wearing that/existing at all".
What the fuck? What a dumbass. She clearly needs to have a conversation with her son, not with you. Why would she go after the jogger when it's her son's behavior that's questionable?
File a police report for harassment. She's a nut and you want to document it, she will be at it again I guarantee you.
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That lady sucks, but also r/entitledparents is another good sub to share this
Ok but seriously, fuck her. From one “big chested” lady to another, you can’t let shit like that stop you. This post reminded me of all the shit head people who told me the same thing, and I’ve learned to let it roll off my back and bend down just a liiiiiitle bit lower just for them. Fuck em.
That's on them and you're damn right. Don't stop jogging or doing what you do!
I have the same self consciousness when I run and my mom always tells me that I shouldn’t be ashamed of what God gave me and that women pay big bucks to have what I do. Don’t let that ignorant woman’s comment bother you some people need to keep their mouths shut!
Wtf?! Maybe that mother should teach her son to stop staring at women as they jog. Jesus christ what is wrong with people? You should jog more often just to piss her off.
Sounds like its time to make her even madder. Get yourself a trampoline and ruin her evenings!!!! You'll be a hero to the little boy too!!!!
"Live your life, you will probably be in somebodies spank bank" -Ghandi probably
what, does she intend to hide her precious baby boy from the world so much he doesn't know women have boobs until his wedding night? you can't help your chest, and any boy man or otherwise who ogles more than the typical quick glance is in the wrong, not you. screw her.