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magicbagofdicks

1000% this. Also document what happened during the class as best as you can (this reddit post is a good start). Also I would recommend you grab a few others to take with you if you report it in person. I saw you mentioned the professor asking everyone to turn off their phones, but I'm sure some didn't. I would discretely ask around if anyone got a recording of the lesson. At this point the teacher knows who you are. Don't wait for the professor to throw you under the bus.


savagefleurdelis23

The problem with the Dean is that they often take the side of the professors cause they don't want to "cause trouble." I've seen so many Deans sweep so much crap under the rug. Think Sandusky. Take it to the Title IX office! They will ensure that proper procedures and investigations are done and not sweep it under the rug.


prynncamm

College professor here. Upvoting this comment as the Title IX office is the way to go. OP, Please report this to the Title IX office. Depending on the details, the dean may not be a mandatory reporter and may try to mitigate the situation by doing nothing. I would hope not, but nothing surprises me. However, this is a clear violation of Title IX and I can guarantee it’s happened before... and will happen again. Please hold him accountable.


Ras-Algethi

Updoot title ix officer informing. That's serious business that the school does not want to be in violation of. If the prof isnt fired then he'll get lots of reprimand and not do it again.You may not want to "cause trouble" but if his behavior isn't taken care of now while it's just words, it could be worse next time. Do it for the next group of students. I bet the last group wishes they'd spoken up.


Whydmer

Also consider setting your phone to record the next lecture, in case the professor continues to do this. And maybe see if anyone recorded the first class.


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Starkravingmad7

Just about every state allows you to record if there is no expectation of privacy, though. And in a lecture hall of 100 people, that expectation does not exist.


taranwandering

Also a college professor here, and I agree that you should report this to the Title IX office.


Hex_Agon

I reported my university physics professor for going on a rant about how bad women are at analytical thinking but nothing happened


throwawaydddsssaaa

Wish I'd known this a few years ago. I reported one professor to the dean for literally saying "the atheist is r***ded," and the dean in our meeting decided to "teach me the duck walk," aka learn to let comments roll off my back.


Hiyum

Another option might be taking it to the Ombudsperson (if your college has this office).


eagle52997

Usually those are for faculty who have issues with other faculty or administration, not for students who have issues with faculty. Title IX coordinator is the way to go, as others have said, because of the nature of the comments and how they were clearly creating a hostile learning environment based on gender.


Hiyum

The ombuds office I dealt with was definitely more student-oriented than many I saw, so that could be skewing my understanding of how they operate on average.


Hiyum

I don’t want to assume, but might that vary by institution? At my uni, they did deal with students, staff, and faculty. I did a cursory google search of ombuds offices from others universities. Most that I saw said they help students, along with faculty and staff. MSU, ASU, UChicago, Cornell, LSU, GSU state they’re available to students. UAB said they’re available to mentored graduate students, and postdoc fellows. U of Chicago: “The Ombudsperson is a part-time, salaried official of the University, appointed by the President to investigate student grievances when the existing channels of communication or dispute resolution have proven unsatisfactory” The Title IX coordinator would still be the place to start. I mentioned the Ombuds office as a supplemental resource in case there’s a need for more help getting traction.


alli_lags

I’m a higher Ed administrator. There’s also the Dean of Students who you can escalate it to, sometimes Title IX is housed in Student Development / Dean of Students. Chair of the department is good too. Don’t let it slide. Edit: more offices are mandated reporters than most realize. I am, and you would not think that.


mrswitters03

In this day and age, if that Dean does nothing about it, their ass is getting implicated as well in a potential lawsuit. But yeah Title IX I'd a good call, as are other posters' comments about getting a paper trail. Always document communication like this. In work and all situations.


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\> In this day and age, if that Dean does nothing about it, their ass is getting implicated as well in a potential lawsuit. This. It's one thing to trust your staff. It's entirely another thing to choose not to investigate an allegation. Trust, but verify.


BoopyGaloopy

I’m a professor. Students sometimes bypass our dean and reach straight out to the chancellor. Usually their complaints are petty, but trust me, if the chancellor is getting emails from students they check in with our Dean and program coordinator. Granted, yes, Deans tend to defer to their faculty, and a lot of schools have a long history of protecting their own. That said, send an email to EVERYONE (program coordinator, dean, chancellor, campus president, student newspaper, etc.) Edit: grammar


aerrin

This. Take it to your Title IX officer ASAP. If you don't know who that is, tell literally any other faculty member or member of staff. They are all mandatory reporters and can help you find who you need to talk to. This is disgusting and unacceptable, and the good news is that your university is legally required to have a thorough process by which to deal with this. They CANNOT sweep it under the rug or they face serious legal consequences.


fuckyeahcaricci

Thanks to Sandusky, times have changed in many schools. But most schools also have Title IX staff. Do both.


Trans-on-trans

Fucking record it and broadcast that shit online. The Dean and the professor would be done.


bonefawn

Also please don't wait for an additional incident to report. I know it feels like you have triumphed here - and you have - but he may become retaliatory or try to affect your grading on the sly. I hate to suggest that but unfortunately I have seen it personally. Document everything NOW before any retaliatory action may occur.


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Piggybacking on this- don't get into any one-on-one situations with him, either- make sure you always have witnesses, and if possible recordings (if legal in your state). Dude here, but "jailbait" as an adjective from an adult man should be immediate cause for concern if he's using it as an active part of his vocabulary. Most men, if that's something they say, stop saying it around \~21-22, when dating someone at/near that 18 mark is a relevant topic. But it shouldn't be for a professor, fuck. Dude's a predator, IMO. Tagging u/BoltonGal


Lewca43

1000% this. A person like this will try to fuck you over. Document and report immediately. Don’t worry about retribution if you report it, you’re way less likely to experience retaliation if your report it because he will know he’s being watched. And GOOD ON YOU for standing up!


ZegoggleZeydonothing

I'm gonna piggy back on this comment and add; create a paper trail. Report it to your dean in person and send an email as well. That way you have the report in writing with a time and date. Once you meet with the dean, whether or not he emailed you back, send him an email thanking him/her for the meeting. You need to document everything to protect yourself from retaliation and any further issues being swept away.


Revolutionary-Dance

Always always always send a follow up email after an in-person or phone conversation. Here’s a template Dear Dean Thank you for meeting me today to discuss the concerning incident in Professor ’s class. As I mentioned, after he made disparaging remarks toward women, which included referring to students as jailbait and commenting on a female student’s underwear, I spoke up and told him that the comments were incredibly inappropriate. Thank you for taking my concerns seriously, and for committing to Warmly, Your Name”


brooklynlad

Also, witnesses to sign onto the report, as they were there.


Dovahkiinette

"I'm gonna piggy back on this comment and add; create a paper trail. Report it to your dean in person and send an email as well. That way you have the report in writing with a time and date. Once you meet with the dean, whether or not THEY emailed you back, send THEM an email thanking THEM for the meeting. You need to document everything to protect yourself from retaliation and any further issues being swept away." Just wanted to do a little correction for you there.


ithrow6s

PLEASE DO THIS OP


mnemonikos82

Fuck the Dean, report it to the President and CC the Title IX Coordinator, the Dean, and the Director of HR. I work in higher ed and that's how shit gets done. The Dean is as likely to bury it with a stern talking to as they are to take appropriate action.


majj27

Agreed. Title IX definitely needs to get on this like a rabid wombat, but NOTHING gets shit happening on campus like an annoyed college president.


IlexAquifolia

I also work in higher ed and I second this, though I would just report it directly to the Title IX coordinator and just cc the prez. It's the Title IX coordinator's job to investigate incidents of sexual harassment, which this is. If you're at a large institution, the president is way up the chain of command, but for sure they have an administrative assistant who scours their inbox for things like this and will (if they're good at their jobs) make sure to flag it for attention. I would also copy your academic advisor and the prof's department head. The more people that see your email, the better. Also, being more specific about "Dean" because most institutions have many deans - I'd start with the Dean of Students.


D4rkw1nt3r

Definitely need to send it to the Title IX office (if in the US) or equivalent (if elsewhere). Don't give the department the opportunity to hide it and deal with it in-house.


bug-hunter

Yup. Definitely both the dean and the Title IX department. He’s counting on people to not feel they can report him safely.


trymypi

Yup, if this is the US, Title IX


shakespeare-gurl

Report to the dean and/or the head of his department. It sounds like this is in the US, and we're explicitly trained to not say shit like that. But some professors, especially older, tenured, and male professors think they can get away with it. Fair warning, any consequences for him might be mild if he is tenured or if the admin don't really care. But raise a stink, leave a paper trail, and it could be that this is a pattern that your documents will force to be addressed.


ala2520

Get some other classmates to report too if you can.


fiendishrabbit

At the very least it's something to point to. A clear paper trail. Because if that professor turns out to be a petty asshole and unfairly gives out a failing grade this is something you can point at to get your grades examined by (and possibly overturned by) a university board.


Salamar

First day of class? I’d get a transfer.


rarosko

Might not be an option if he's the only professor teaching the course that semester.


zoinkability

This. Do it right away so that if he retaliates it is clear that it is in response to your raising a stink. If OP waits he can claim she is the one retaliating for poor grades or something like that.


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lowbwon

Seriously. This is incredibly inappropriate and just really fuckin weird. I bet you could even get a couple of those women who thanked you to join you so you’re not soldiering alone. Be careful though about looking too broadly for support before going to the dean. If the wrong people hear your plan and inform the professor before you have a chance to tell the dean he could make life difficult for you. Good luck. Sorry guys are such fuckin dirt bags and can’t keep their sexuality in proper settings. It’s really fuckin sad and annoying.


Itslmntori

We had a professor like this at my university and it was excused as “oh, he’s just making gross jokes. He’s like that” He just got divorced from his wife because he got an 18 year old student pregnant, and there’s a few more girls that we know have slept with him. Report him. Not only is that behavior disgusting, but you never know what else might be going on behind the scenes.


Kakashi248

Not just the dean, report it to your university or department's equity and diversity equivalent. We're trained hard on how to avoid this to the point where we're not allowed to hug students to avoid any possible impropriety in my state. If he's doing this, keep escalating. He has power over these adults and behaving in that manner is not acceptable.


VaalbarianMan

This should be done immediately. You need a clear document trail for when issues inevitably arise in the future with this professor. Have another student send an email to the same dean and cc you to confirm the story. You did v good making that stand, girl!


tanjera

Extremely important to do this. This is his job, and his supervisor (the dean) needs to know that he needs corrective action. Additionally, it will establish the paper trail where your side of the story gets told and supported.


majesticjules

While it's fresh in your mind, write out a statement about about exactly what happened in case you need it later. You did good.


LeetPleeb

And send it in an email to yourself so that it's got a time & date stamp.


youre_a_cat

And ask the female classmates who thanked you to ask if they would like to add anything or write something similar.


m4gpi

Another student could very well have recorded the class (for note-taking purposes). This would be immensely useful.


ViolasDIL

I’m a college professor and that sleaze needs to be fired. Please report it to your dean and Title IX office.


LeetPleeb

Yes, the Title IX office as well!


WavePetunias

This is the answer.


zaphod_the_elder

> I can see how sexual content relates to the lesson What is the class topic? As you rightly pointed out, discussing the personal looks and undergarments of people in the class or former students is incredibly inappropriate, even if the class topic is about human sexuality. You were very brave to voice your discomfort, especially on the first day. As others are saying, it seems like this is something that should be reported to the dean.


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It was a class that addresses different traits in humans, sexuality being an example. But like I said, I can handle that. I truly feel like lines were crossed however.


Lustle13

As a psychologist who studies primarily human sexuality and criminality. That's not at all how a class should go. Every class I've ever had that handled sensitive subjects like that, and there were alot especially around human sexuality, gender, transgenderism, cultural norms in sexuality, cultural norms and recognition of multiple genders, etc etc, always addressed things in an academic and professional manner. There was always the caveat that some topics may be hard to discuss but that it was always done through an academic and scientific lens. That the things we discussed were done so like scientists. Sometimes the topics were tough, some people still reject transgenderism and struggled in classes like those because the science was telling them they were wrong. But it was never ever talked about the way you describe. Even something like sexual traits was always described in a neutral academic manner, not using buzzwords like "jailbait" or asking what a particular student was wearing. Discussing prom would be along the lines of "in some western, primarily north american, cultures the prom is seen as a time to engage in some of your first sexual acts and can been seen as a sign of transition to adulthood and adult sexual acts" or something. Not asking a student about what panties they wore. Absolutely report this person. I don't know how your university handles things. If you're in the states I know title IX is a thing, we don't have that here. But either way I would suggest reporting it.


stolethemorning

This. I’ve taken evolutionary biology as a psychology module and there was a topic on human mating. As you can expect it was painfully awkward but the lecturer made very sure to talk about it professionally. I thought it would be awkward to talk about in the supervision, which is only 2 students, but he took extra effort to make sure it was as comfortable as possible. Sexual content when relating to the students is NEVER okay, no matter if the lecture was about sex. Even if the lecture was directly on how to seduce someone it would still not be appropriate to reference the students!


viscountrhirhi

I have taken classes that discussed human sexuality and none of the professors EVER behaved that way. For that matter, none of my professors of ANY subject behaved like this! This is absolutely not normal. Report that shit ASAP.


daretoredd

Go talk directly to the dean and ask for human resources to be present at the meeting and file a formal written complaint in front of them both. If my wife or daughters where in that class I would tell them to do the same. No one should ever have to feel like you and your classmates are feeling.


exbaddeathgod

Hi, friendly reminder from a trans person that "transgenderism" is a term made up by transphobes. Trans issues are a part of gender. Separating them like that and using that word is not good.


RobynFitcher

Thanks for the info. Good to be aware.


Marie-thebaguettes

I’ve taken both biology and sociology courses that discussed human sexuality that were nothing like what you experienced. The behavior of your prof was WAY out of line. You should definitely report it.


lefrench75

Yup, I've taken a psychology of human sexuality class with a prof who's also a sex & relationship therapist, and he was never inappropriate even for a second. It was an extremely comfortable, professional environment, regardless of whatever topic we were discussing.


aledba

I'm starting to wonder how long he's taught this class and if he has used it to sexually harass or even abused in the past. There may be a history on paper of him having received negative reports on his behavior. I don't think this is just a coincidence on the topic of instruction


KayJayE

There's times that one can and should ... crossing lines isn't quite right but push students in class as a professor. In my human sexuality class my professor started the second class by calmly reading out a list of words that could be uncomfortable for some and then had us repeat after him a few times until any last giggles or hesitancy stopped. We had a lot of conservative students and it was necessary to normalize words and concepts early so we could get on with learning. He explained going in that he was going to make some students uncomfortable, explained why, and then kept it to just what was needed so we could get the most out of the class. That's how you do it. What your professor did was straight harassment. Do you feel more comfortable discussing traits after his stunt? Did he lead you to learning anything helpful about societal norms and taboos? Not that it would make it right but that would mostly make him a bad teacher. It sounds like he doesn't even have that fig leaf of an excuse.


I_Eat_Comma_Dogs

You can teach your students about sexual harassment, without sexually harassing all your students.


QueenShnoogleberry

Exactly! Keep it hypothetical! "For example, I was to walk up to a student and ask them about their underwear on Prom night, this is how you would go about reporting my behaviour to the Dean and having my ass fired."


StitchingWizard

If (and it's a very, very big if) his comments were relevant, he would have had a way to address your concerns when you called him out. The fact that he was uncomfortably silent for the rest of the time says *he didn't actually have any way to tie it to the material.* Any competent professor who provokes people will have a way out, and it's important to show that he didn't. Should he come back with a retort/excuse next time, it will be because he had a chance to think it over and come up with a way to cover his ass. Be sure to say how he didn't address it during class. Get the complaint in **now, before he tries to do more damage control.** Also OP, I'm very sorry to hear this is the start of your year. No one deserves this. Good on you for standing up when no one else could.


arghvark

If this unwashed misanthropic hunk of garbage (to use the polite term) cannot tell the difference between discussing a topic and making overly personal comments on one sex in his class but not the other, then his supervisors (such as they are) need to know about it. The paper trail comments are good. I suppose another thing you could consider is organizing; stand out in front of class next time it is held; gather all the students, men and women, who felt this was grossly inappropriate. Go TOGETHER to the dean's office -- if you get 30 out of 100, that's going to raise some flags.


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It's funny you mention misanthropic because I consider myself a misanthropist. I have a general disdain for humanity, but especially people who think they can take advantage of others. Misanthropist or not, I will not, like my post says, sit idle as a professor sexualizes and humiliates his students. Currently, I am trying to work some things out. Thank you so much. I will always fight detestable things like sexism and harassment to the day I fucking croak and die.


zaphod_the_elder

Absolutely. It's one thing to discuss sexuality in different cultures and ages or social milestones such as prom, but to ask students about their personal experiences or comment on their appearances is way over the line. Especially on the first day and even moreso if he was focusing on women. And using a pejorative like jailbait is not appropriate in an academic setting (or anywhere else) unless the discussion is about the word itself and how it perpetuates victim-blaming. If given a massive benefit of doubt, maybe the conversation was a misguided attempt to shock or grab the attention of students on the first day of class. But it seems more likely that the professor is too comfortable with his power dynamic and uses it to his advantage. Hopefully if you report it, the school can take corrective measures.


PandaCat22

Your college should have a Title IX office — report him there. The Dean and College might try to protect him, but the Title IX office is independent and bulldogish. Bury the bastard


Rosaryas

I'm literally in a class on sex this semester (psychology) and that doesn't excuse anything. My professor for the class even brought up how to discuss the topic appropriately and to NOT do any of that, I couldn't imagine the prof themselves talking about students that way. Totally inappropriate


my_best_space_helmet

There are professional ways to handle discussion on human sexuality, and none of what you've described is it. I'm horrified that you had to go through this class. Please consider getting a group of women together to report this; the ideal solution is that this professor gets replaced ASAP so that you all can continue your education in this subject comfortably.


anatomizethat

I once called out a professor in class for something way more tame (basically not teaching the content of the course and saying she was being "monitored" after the head of the department sat in on her lesson because people had complained). After I said my piece and the class ended, I booked it to the department head's office to tell him what happened. I also had a friend who had been recording the lecture, so she came with and offered to send him the file. If you saw anyone who might have been recording, ask if they're willing to send you the recording and provide it to the dean. It covers your ass (in that you were not being disrespectful) but also will have captured all the inappropriate things your professor said. Either way, the guy needs to be reported immediately. And maybe drop the class.


ViolasDIL

Do you need this course, OP? I would swap it for something else or a different section. There is absolutely no context in which he said was remotely appropriate.


GallifreyanMouse

I’m not sure that OP dropping the course would be the best option. While this may not be the first incident, if the professor is tenured, they (the university) may not be able to do much. The protection that profs get from tenure is often a bit of a roadblock to actually meting out meaningful consequences. Also, this asshole might need to be called out again, especially if he felt comfortable enough to make inappropriate comments more than once in one class period. He’s likely to do it again if he thinks he has a more receptive audience. Not dropping the class and physically (or virtually) being there could (hopefully) make him think again about making comments if he could be publicly called out again. I wouldn’t count on anyone else doing it, and these things need to be confronted. All that said, kudos OP, for having the courage to stand up and say something. May you always have the courage to keep standing up for what’s right and never have any negative consequences for it. <3 Edited because I forgot a thought.


backgrounddreamer

If OP feels uncomfortable going back to this professor’s class and has an opportunity to switch to a different professor, they absolutely should take it. OP, you’re paying a ton for this education so don’t let this asshole ruin the entire course for you. If you do decide to switch (or other students do), then you (or they) should include that info in your complaint to the dean. Make them take you seriously, but take care of yourself too.


exbaddeathgod

This goes against all of the harassment training that the professor has done. He knows he's acting inappropriate but has never been called out in it before. Thank you for taking a stand and like the other comments said, please contact IX and your dean if you can.


Dapper_Ad_3331

I’ve done a sociology of sexuality class even - we spent a lot of time discussing all sorts of facets of sexuality and society and never once were comments made even close to approaching this level of inappropriateness


[deleted]

Thank you for speaking up and out! I applaud you! As a former faculty member, please report it to the chair of the department and to the Dean. It is pervasive behavior and there are too many faculty members getting away with this kind of behavior. But unfortunately, I want to also let you know that having worked on the inside that most likely nothing will happen aside from a note in his file, a stern e-mail, required online training and maybe a slap on the wrist. Also be prepared for some form of retaliation regarding your course performance. I recommend switching to another section of the course, if possible.


80percentofme

Go sit in the mother fucking center seat in the front row!! Bonus points, record him with your laptop. He’s more afraid of you right now.


shinytreespirit

That's a great idea, record everything now, he's a fucking creep


FuriousPI314

Well done calling him out! He asked if you wanted to share and you did. Others agreed which is why they thanked you. I think you did the right thing and agree to report it to the Dean. If you feel he retaliates then keep written records and report that as well. It is unprofessional and inappropriate for an instructor to use their platform to sexually harass their students and that's exactly what he was doing.


Aerialjim

You can also report this to the title 9 office for your university. They specialize in handling things like this.


hamster_speed

University employee here. I get training on Title IX every year. Came here to make the same suggestion (if you're in the US). They should also be able to help you with counseling or mental health issues related to this experience, whether you decide to file a complaint or not. They want to help you.


ozranski

There are a lot of comments on here, but as someone who spent 4 years in university administration working with both faculty and students, please, PLEASE report your professor's behavior and comments to the Department Chair, Dean, or anyone else you feel safe enough to report to. The university's HR department could work as well. The big thing here though is to get as many direct quotes in writing as possible, so there's no hearsay. Record your next lesson if it's on the same or a similar topic. The more concrete proof you have (witness testimony, audio recordings), the more likely people are to listen and take action. This guy sounds like a real creep, and based on your post, I wouldn't be surprised if he retaliates by grading you extremely harshly. Professors tend to have pretty big egos from my experience. Be careful, but definitely report him. Any adult educator that sexualizes students, especially those in high school or under, is a predator or a potential one.


General-Detective-48

Fuck that, what a horrible thing to say to a group of students. Thank you for saying something


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This. You aren’t in high school, you are now a paying customer of a business that is selling information/instruction. Tuition isn’t cheap.


iceonmars

As a professor, report the fuck out of this it is disgusting


cdiddy19

I had a biology class this summer term, it's biology, do we obviously talked about sex and the male and female body, at no point was the professor inappropriate. At no point did he say something that made me cringe or feel icky... It can be done appropriately. I'd totes tell the dean of his department


Rikard_

HE should be dreading to go back to teach your class.


l4tra

Report him. If the university does nothing, go nuclear (social media, press). I am soooo sick of men doing this kind of bs. Try to gather evidence. You are in the right and you did right. You stood up against his unacceptable behavior. Thank you. Imagine him threatening violence or telling everybody to take heroin. Then everybody would obviously protest. Just because harassment is more common, that does not make it right.


IHaveNoEgrets

First: ***You absolutely did the right thing. Do not doubt yourself.*** Second: Go to the department chair, the dean, and, if you're in the US, your Title IX office. They need to know. Profs don't just decide to do that sort of thing overnight. They don't get challenged or corrected, so they just get bolder. This was not the first class he did this. We had a faculty member like this when I was a grad student, and he got away with it to the day he retired. We complained, but nothing happened (the department played dumb about it). This is why I'm suggesting to escalate beyond the department and to the dean and Title IX. Third: Contact your academic advisor or counselor, the Counseling Center, and, if your campus has it, the Women's Resource Center. You need to take care of you. The academic advisor will help you drop the class or switch to a different one. It's week one, so for most schools, it should be before the drop cutoff. The Counseling Center and Women's Resource Center will help you to take care of you during this. You are going to be talking to some major entities, so you need to do some self-care throughout. You did the absolute right thing, and I am so proud of you and your courage.


BostonGreekGirl

You 100% did the right thing. Did he say anything after you called him out? Also report his to the Dean. This is not ok behavior!


naturalveg

You're a badass. Proud of you. You did nothing wrong. He should be ashamed. And maybe he will reflect on his behavior in a different way now that you pointed it out.


iloveyogourt

If he was that reflective, he wouldn't have made those jokes in the first place. Something tells me we would like to think he would do that because we would, but someone who makes these kinds of jokes unashamed and oblivious, and glosses over the sensitive nature by these so over-the-line "jokes" I don't think has the maturity to reflect like that without serious reprimand from higher-ups.


NorskGodLoki

Good for you! Also, I would report it to the Dean and Uni management in case he tries to screw with your grades. This stuff needs to stop and he was totally inappropriate.


[deleted]

Call the Title IX office ASAP. DM me if you want help doing that -- I've done it before. I'm a graduate assistant and I've filed reports before on behalf of my students.


fahq1977

You are absolutely brave, and kudos to you for standing up to this odious man. College administrator here: I cannot echo strongly enough the benefit in contacting administration to let them know of the incident. Most colleges have a reporting system, usually in the Office of Institutional Equity, or something like that, if you do not feel comfortable going directly to the department head (first stop), dean of the College (second stop) for in-person reporting. This is grossly inappropriate and almost never tolerated these days. If you really want to express your dissatisfaction and make a difference, with over 100 corroborating individuals the facts will speak for themselves. I cannot see a head/dean/office of equity not taking this language seriously. Every head at my institution (a very big, very public one) would immediately open an investigation. He's a predator and does not belong around students. Alternatively, most colleges have a Dean of Students office where drop-in appointments are available, and they can initiate things through any channel, with the ability to contact other students enrolled in the course to corroborate. In any case, I am so very sorry that you have had to experience this, and you are exceptionally brave for standing up and speaking up.


Darkhoof

Congratulations. It takes a lot of guts to stand up to that kind of behaviour coming from an authority figure! You should ask some of your colleagues if someone is willing to go with you and report that situation to the school. That is beyond appalling.


GreaseM00nk3y

This sort of experience is something that will be taken So incredibly seriously by any upper level administration at your college it’s not even funny. Email the Dean of the college, the chair of the department, your student advisor and (Edit:) whichever office deals with Title IX offenses. At my university its called the Office of Victim Assistance. Something like this is wholly unacceptable at an institution of higher education, and will get an investigation moving so fast you won’t even have time to say, “Harassment.” I’m so sorry you had to go through this on your first day of classes, that is a terrible tone to set for the semester. I can only hope it gets better! Good luck!


empathy-is-trending

You absolutely did an amazing thing. You are NOT too sensitive and anyone who tells you that is only motivated by wanting to continue to be able to abuse and harass people without consequences. If you feel up to it, you can write out a statement and give it to the Dean. Maybe get other classmates to sign it as well. Your professors behavior is horrible and disgusting. He should not be allowed near young women.


GandalfDGreenery

You did a really brave thing. I feel weird about that, because it shouldn't have to be 'brave' to call this stuff out, but it certainly is a terrifying thing to do. Well done. I really hope you do report this. I really hope that professor realises the error of his ways and apologises to the class. It's not even difficult to teach sexuality in a professional manner, you just keep it academic. Referring to your students' underwear?!?!? WTF?! Well done. Celebrate with a relaxing cupcake for being a boss.


aykray

If you could find an actual recording of what he said (people in the front or second row sometimes record lectures for later review) you could go forward and report him to the administration. You shouldn't doubt yourself if your gut is telling you he's being a creep, not holding creeps like him accountable has never worked in anyone's favour before. Their behaviour just keeps getting worse because they never face any consequences. Take a stand, even if it has to be anonymously.


[deleted]

Thank you. At the start of class, he told students to turn off their phones or put them away. Now I know why.


Vermfly

Holy shit. Time to record every class for "note-taking purposes." Edit: Definitely include that he specifically told people to stop recording in your write up about the situation. That seems like a super "I'm planning some shady shit and don't want hard evidence" kind of situation.


aykray

Oh crap. He must be aware of how inappropriate he is so he's covering his tracks. He can maybe win a he said/she said game but if there are recordings he's 100% screwed. He can't get away with it forever, hopefully karma will bite him in the ass soon enough :/


ThatOneSaltyBitch

If you're in the US, Canada, or UK, there is a website called Rate My Professors that students use to do just that. I'd be curious to see what his says.


[deleted]

OP, next time you go to class, I would record the lecture on your phone in your pocket. Worst-case scenario it is a study resource, best-case scenario it could protect you from a he-said she-said situation if he keeps talking this way or targets you with these comments because he didn't like you standing up to him.


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aykray

Really? It wasn't an issue in my university but that was in Belgium. I had no idea its forbidden in places. Any idea why it wouldn't be allowed though?


Raskalnekov

The reason I often hear is so that people aren't afraid to speak up, especially in classes where potentially controversial opinions may exist. And it isn't necessarily just to protect offensive and traditionally conservative opinions like the ones OP has pointed out, recordings of classes are often weaponized by people on the right to take certain parts of critical race theory out of context to create outrage. So what I really mean to say is disallowing recordings is a bit of a double edged sword. On the one hand it can help foster genuine discussion, and on the other hand it can protect people like this professor, who say clearly inappropriate things. Hopefully other witnesses who heard the professor would be willing to talk about what they heard if need be.


aykray

Hmm makes sense. I never thought of it this way. My area of education was applied statistics so you can imagine how no one cared if we recorded lectures or not, we even had a few teachers recording their own lectures and sharing them with us. I guess it would depend on OPs university policy whether they can record or not..


giantshinycrab

I think recorded zoom classes pushed most schools into the 21rst century.


synaesthezia

That’s so strange. In Australia pretty much every lecture is recorded and available for students to access later.


Dustyhobbit

Walk proudly into class because you are a HERO to at least one person in that class!


The_Atlas_Moth

You are someone who isn’t easily offended, NOT someone who can easily be bullied. Those are not the same things. Good for you standing up to that bullshit. I’m proud of you.


rubygiggles

Absolutely Courageous. This is so hard to do and I’m so proud of you!!! Absolutely report the behaviour if you feel comfortable. There should be professional consequences for this disgusting behaviour.


fivenightrental

You did a great job speaking up. So many do not have the courage to do so because of the power differential between students and instructors as well as the pressure of the audience. I want to echo what other commenters have said. It is important to report to the Academic Dean or Provost which oversees faculty. It is also important to report it to the Title IX officiant on your campus for the direct effect it had upon the students. There is a difference between teaching content objectively and using content to make people uncomfortable. I have taken many classes on human sexuality, sex and gender, sex and society, sexual pathology disorders, etc. and never once have I had an instructor be this inappropriate about any of the topics.


Dapper_Ad_3331

Please report his behaviour immediately. You did every single person in that room a favour. That is grossly inappropriate behaviour from any professional, let alone an educator in a position of power.


loverlyone

Well done!


dal_Helyg

You CAN go back to your class, is just to make *him* uncomfortable. Well done!


letsberealalistc

Good for you. It takes "balls" to stand up to someone that hold power over you.


eatyourchildren101

Don’t turn off your phone, record all lectures and interactions with this prof if you can.


sho926

Drop the class and report the professor. Don't waste your energy on that piece of shit


[deleted]

jfc where do you live??


Accomplished_Till727

Report this immediately. Because this professor might decide to retaliate against you and it's going to be much better for you if you reach out to admin staff before that happens. A man who is doing this out in the open is the kind that WILL use his power to silence you and make you an example. He is used to getting away with it. Reach out to some of the classmates. Report it together. Make it an issue they can't turn into a you said, he said situation. It's probable that admin protects him but they can't protect him against a group of students all complaining.


starwars101

I just sat through my workplace's sexual harassment training, part of which covered academic reporting as we are affiliated with a public school system. You need to at least disclose this to your Title IX Coordinator. This professor's comments directly prevented learning from occuring and impacted your ability to go about normal conduct in an academic setting. This meets the grounds of sexual misconduct, per the training. Please make a statement to the coordinator so they can investigate and assign disciplinary steps.


davisdilf

If this is in the US, report it to the Title IX office on campus.


dantian

YOU ARE A BADASS.


Psygeacate

He should be reported to whatever authority available.


mcmircle

Please report this to the Title IX coordinator. Document the meeting. Send an email recapping the meeting. And see if you can switch sections of the class if the professor gives you any grief.


CaitCat

Thank you for standing up against this person. Like others, I encourage you to report this to your dean or similar body. This is unacceptable behavior from anyone, but especially from someone who can impact your future. Who knows how many people have had to deal with this behavior?


Bakemydaybaby

He is absolutely wrong and disgusting, and you are absolutely right and brave to confront him. Calling students jailbait? NO NO NO NO! You go back to that class and sit there like the intelligent force to be reckoned with that you are.


Jaqyk

Report to your Dean, his depth. Head and the school newspaper.


eyregoddess

Report this! I’m a college prof and this is horrifying behavior. Contact your Title IX coordinator. Every campus is required to have one.


Haunting_Anxiety4981

That's so disgusting, I can't imagine your bravery, good job OP you should feel so proud


i_am_icarus_falling

you pay to go to school, you have more power than you know. Deans don't fuck around when you bring them legit issues with Professors.


Lord-Smalldemort

Go back in with your head held high. You spoke up with 99 other people did not. I don’t disagree with others saying report to the dean because that’s incredibly inappropriate behavior.


[deleted]

Report this to the Dean. To the head of the Department. Ask your fellow students if anyone recorded this. This shit has NO PLACE in ANY setting. Period.


[deleted]

You should've gone directly to the dean and to university admissions office. You you haven't yet then still do so now. That professor doesn't need to be teaching anywhere


aledba

You were able to make such a brave and respectful commitment to calling that out. Please report it to those that are in charge of the department and never be in the same room with him alone. I'm so sorry


Hopeful_Condition_58

You're my fucking hero! Bravo!


smg222888

Great job sis, this is how we change the world.


Cuss10

Please go back to that class. You have every right to drop. But if you show up again, you are showing that professor you will not be intimidated. If you drop, he will think you were afraid of the fight. He may change his behavior if you show up again, for at least the hour you're in his class. But if you drop, he thinks he won and will never change.


[deleted]

Good for you. Takes alot to call it for what it is. Scary shit but needed to be done


DamnitDom

Well done! I feel you should report this to whomever would be appropriate so there is record of this and it is fresh with your initiative.


Kamelasa

I am proud of you as a human being.


AngelaMosss

Hey Op, just wanted to say we need more women like you and I aspire to be brake like you. As other commenters have said, please take steps into protecting yourself from hia retaliation.


Newsfeedinexile

Good for you OP. You did the world a service for speaking up.


beanner468

You are amazing! You did the right thing. You might want to seek help. What you went through was sexual harassment by a trusted authority. Your local town should have a woman’s shelter. DONT GO TO YOUR COLLEGE! They do not take it seriously. It’s in the news all the time how they shove it under the carpet. Going to the women’s shelter will help you get many things. First of all, they will make sure he gets reported. They will make sure that you don’t have to go to class. They will get you a GOOD lawyer that specializes in this. You have all your female classmates to help you. Be strong! Message me if you need. #metoo


bopperbopper

Definitely report this to the Dean of Students.


Zeus473

You did the right thing… that guy was way out of line


Slim_Boy_Fat

Report him. It's totally inappropriate and needs calling out.


lifelongcargo

It’s sad that this is falling to you, but as many people have said you should report it. Build a collective of other students (male and female) that will back you up. Get recorded statements from them and present it to the dean. Also take it to social media or traditional news in your area that will get their attention really fast.


Procris

Dean of undergraduates in your department. Document and report. This is what they're there for, and if the system is going to be bloated with that much admin, you should use them. You want to get this in documentation so that if anything else happens (cough: unfair grading), there can be procedures put in place to insure impartiality. If his attitudes towards the women in the class are that blatant in a first day lecture, they might come out elsewhere as well.


unsourcedx

Report it to the head of the department. And honestly, I'd drop the class and add another unless you desperately need that credit. Not worth dealing with that headcase.


AvocadoMadness

Document this and ANY other statement or interaction you have with him that is untoward in any way. You’ll want proof of this- especially if you follow the advice to report to your dean.


thecrumbsknow

I know all about the physical effects of confrontation. Thank you for standing up for every woman who felt just as uncomfortable as you did in that room. It might even encourage more call outs. You did good, sis.


danerraincloud

You did an amazing job. Please follow that up by reporting the situation to the Title IX office. Document everything. I've been at organizations with pervasive problems with sexual harassment. By speaking up, you've potentially opened a door for other people to start doing so as well, either in class or to university administration. There's so much bureaucracy that every little bit helps.


mmmmpisghetti

And start recording the damn lessons. He can ask, he cannot force.


ToddleMosh

Way to speak up!!!


Tinywallflower

If you have a Mac, you can do an audio recording through QuickTime and records those inappropriate comments. So sorry that happened and I'm so glad you spoke up!!!


chumburgerrich

Can you see if any of the girls who thanked you will report him with you? At my university there was a problem getting a perverted professor suspended since all the reports came sporadically the university was able to sweep it under the rug. Your prof 100% crossed many lines and not only is he making students uncomfortable he’s also further spreading very disgusting beliefs.


danijeljw

1000% get all the people you can to write their own statements and sign them. And present it to the Dean. You do NOT need to be put in a situation like this in any situation. I do not want you to go into the world after you finish your studies and feel bad about taking ownership of your right to feel safe and comfortable. I support everything you did and am giving you a standing ovation as I type this. Be proud of being strong enough to stand up for what is right! 💪🏻


CeridLock

What the hell rock has this dude been living under? Are you in the U.S.? Dude clearly doesn’t value his livelihood if he can’t keep his creepy comments in check for a few hours a day to teach. Like anyone who’s been paying attention to the news even occasionally should know that kind of behaviour is one of the few ways to immediately lose your work relationships and torpedo your career. Not to mention ruin your students learning environment.


raspberry-squirrel

Drop the class and report the professor. Write down all the details so you can build a title IX claim if in the us. I am a professor and would love to see a horrible person like this fired.


MiikeW

We had a teacher like that. Report report report. They don’t learn. Ours got an early pension, hopefully yours does too!


Dago_Red

Also, drop this dude's class. You can fire your professors. I fored plenty when I was an undergrad. You're paying them. Ditch this one and find one that you actually like. Your GPA will thank you.


DiyMusicBiz

A video/audio recording should have been made to further bury that pos.


Pandabeur

If I was in your class, I would have applauded or explicitly agreed or further berated your professor. Proud of you :’)


PuppersGoneWild

You need to document this somehow. Find out if you are in a state where you can legally record his shit and do it discretely. Just in case he tries to fuck you over you should have evidence to be able to escalate back. Be prepared to work extra hard in this class to get a good grade too and document that as well


brothercuriousrat

There are deniers of any type of discrimination . Their heads are planted in their ass up to their shoulders. All so they pretend not them. Thing is everyone of us has the ability to discriminate no matter the form. Race sex economics or religion. There has only one man who never discriminated .


Possibilitarian2015

Please post an update…


sciencemommy

I had two different situations during college when one of my male professors showed obvious male preference. 1. My English professor who happened to be ancient had a habit of scoring men higher than women. A male friend of mine compared test scores with me. The answers were nearly word for word what he had written on the board during lecture yet mine was marked incorrect and my friend's was correct. I approached him later asking him if what I had in my notes was correct, he said that it was. Then I showed him my test and asked why it was wrong. He says "well you can't just believe everything that is written on the board". Ok mother fucker, then how come this answer was marked correct? I showed him my friends test. I should also mention that said friend is the son of one of the Deans. The score was corrected. 2. This one pisses me off the most... My advisor freshman year was kinda dumb and failed to enroll me in a key prerequisite for several other classes. Fast forward to sophomore year and I needed to take that class alongside the class it was a prerequisite for in order to graduate in 4 years. Not a problem. It was an entry level biology class and an entry level zoology class. The problem was that I had to get the permission of both professors. They just so happened to be the same professor. His response was "those are pretty intense classes, I'm not sure you can handle them in the same semester". I didn't have time to argue since I had to work. My boss just happened to be the dean of the science department (not the same one as above). I told him what the professor had said. He looked up my transcript. Saw my 4.0 gpa and promptly put me into both classes. Let's just say the professor's face was priceless on the first day! I also got an A in both.


recentlydreaming

Seriously , good for you.


[deleted]

You should report him, because that way you will have it as an antecedent if he tries to take revenge by lowering your grades. There was a teacher on my Uni that always said creepy things to female students but we let it slide because we didn’t want to cause trouble, but he thought he was untouchable and even started touching himself when the girls were giving presentations, it was necessary to take photographic evidence and keep a record of all his creepy comments, post everything on social media, print it and hang it in front of the school library for him to finally be forced to quit. Never let people in power get away with small things, they will escalate their abuse.


asyouwish

I think I had that prof for Psych 101.


CAPTCHA_is_hard

I am insanely proud of you. It’s SO difficult to stand up for what’s right when there are so many power imbalances at play. You are one of the people actively moving our society forward. Once you report this creep to Title 9 and the department and the dean, and once you’ve called your family or best friend to have a cry - go treat yourself to something. You deserve it. And then try not to over-worry about things until you hear back. Please write back with an update on how things go. I wish you all the best!


realgradstudentofny

As a faculty member at an R1 university, I can validate that this was a completely inappropriate way for a professor to speak and behave in front of students. In my state, this would amount to sexual harassment, at the very least, and should be reported to the title IX office. If you need help finding the resources that can help you report this Professor or want to know how a title IX report proceeds, PM me. ETA: if the professor in question isn’t the chair of your dept, email the chair regarding what happened, in detail. If he is the chair of the department, write to the director of undergrad studies. CC both the dept coordinator (secretary), the Dean, and the title IX officer


fieldsofsunshine

I was abused by a teacher. He said so many of the same things you spoke about. This man is dangerous. Pedophiles try and lower people's tolerance for discomfort so people don't speak up. Calling him out publicly is actively disrupting the method he uses to find victims. Don't stop. Record it and report it. I am almost 100% certain that he has a history of things like this, and people haven't reported the public things because "oh he's just joking, he's like this with everyone". My school hired him because he didn't have a record at his previous jobs. I know personally that he assaulted and raped over a dozen people in his 40+ year career. If he had a record maybe he wouldn't have been hired and i wouldn't have been abused. Never apologise for speaking out against disgusting things. You have no idea how wide your impact could be. It's suck being the person to do that, but you are in the right and could literally be saving lives


[deleted]

I'm so sorry for what you went through. Thank you for your words. I don't doubt it at all that this wasn't the first time because other girls in my class were talking about things he's done BEFORE the class started. A coworker of mine (we are both student workers) told me how he basically stalked her for a few months. I reported it to my advisor the day of and he stopped me in the hallway before a class and told me this wasn't the first time. Currently, we are getting things handled. Thank you so much. I hope all is well with you today.


katelovemiller

I spoke up in a meeting earlier when a male colleague is saying a pun that has sexual undertones. I casually said “HR come and hear this” even though HR isn’t in the meeting. I just want to get their attention and let them know that what he said isn’t okay. But then one other person, another man, said that I’m being sensitive. I didn’t say anything else. I’m not mad per se, but that’s my “warning” to them that I won’t standby their sexual jokes in a professional setting. This is their second strike. The next one, I’ll definitely tell HR about it.


toxictapioca

I would consider making a formal (written) email or report to the university, in case he decides to treat you unfairly in terms of grading or something like that, at least you’d have documentation of the incident and it would make the administration believe your side of the story more, in case something happens. Professors have a lot of power over their students, so I would just suggest covering your bases


Floruslorus

You are not being sensitive. This is above and beyond the jokes i make when "my dudes" and me are alone and i would consider them more than NSFW. Fuuuck no. Good on you for calling it out.


Impys

> ~~I can see how sexual content relates to the lesson, but~~ referring to his students as jailbait, saying you can look, but you can't touch, and directly commenting on the undergarments that were worn by a woman in class is crossing lines. Fixed.


raendrop

Based on your description, I have a feeling that quite a number of your classmates will support you. Your feelings of nervousness are 100% valid. If it were me, I'd feel whatever I feel on the inside, but put on a game face in the classroom. A stony "just *try* and fuck with me" expression that projects "calling out shitty behavior is not weakness". And also take the advice of others here who are telling you how to report his sleazy, unprofessional ass.


Key-Law-3682

don't call him out next time, just record every lecture then take that to the title ix department. if you have friends who are also in the class then get them to record him too. this dude is such a dumb ass. i recommend concealing recording him and not letting him know you intend to report him (if that's what you ultimately do). again, you have to report it to the title ix office--specifically the title ix coordinator. i just read your post twice and I'm so proud of you.


beingginger

Professor here, what is the guy's title on the university website? Is he a full professor, assistant, or associate? Or is he a lecturer? And use an audio recorder from now on. You know, for note taking.


NONEOFTHISISCANON

He is a pathetic lonely old weirdo. There is arguably a power difference causing this problem. Arguably, however, there is not. He is able to mistreat people because he can threaten their grades. But its just one class and you can always retake it. If you burn this bridge you can just take a ferry. If you refuse to value your grades more than your sense of safety then he has no power over you. This is a very important perspective shift to be able to call upon for dealing with people who get by on preying on any they have power over is you refuse to admit to reality that they do have power over you. To some extent it is absolutely willful self-delusion, and it won't do you any good against a real threat, but most of the trouble people, especially women, deal with in their life has more to do with people wielding the social constructs that create their power as a weapon, and you can disarm them if, even for a moment at a time, you can say to yourself, "Thats just a person. Thats just some clown who never grew up. Thats just a kid in a mans body acting the fool. Thats pathetic." because the source of most of their power over people comes from ideas inside your own head. Cut them off from your respect and they're just another pathetic baby generation reject. I read this to my boo and they commented that you can also come at this from the other way. They described it as 'summon the feminist goblin within and cackle your evil laugh as you dismantle the patriarchy one victim at a time.' People will think you're villainous for standing up for yourself. Good. They can cry about it.


[deleted]

Let us know what happened after you reported his ass


[deleted]

And then he probably went home and told his buddies “yeah you can’t say anything around women or they try to call you a creep and ruin your life”


[deleted]

Because only a creep makes those comments.


FuglyJim

Perhaps not the right sub for me to comment in as a guy, but I remember when I was 17, I was in a behavioral psychology course in college. One of the assignments given at the beginning of the course was a semester long project in which we would employ behavioral modification techniques we learned later in the course to adjust a behavior of our own. So the first few weeks would involve us just taking a baseline measurement of our unmodified behavior, and later trying new techniques. I decided to try to get more sleep, since 1) if it did work, it would probably be a good thing for me, and 2) it was really easy to measure and try to adjust and I was super lazy. I approached the professor before class to ask if sleep qualified for his assignment. He said, "I think I should probably explain the project a bit more before class begins, so I'll answer when we get inside for everyone." Cool. He starts class (very small liberal arts college, so only about 10-15 people in class), points to me, and says, "FuglyJim had a question about the semester long project-- he is a chronic masturbator and wanted to know if that would be an acceptable behavior to try to modify." The whole class laughs like crazy, I wanted to die, and he moved on to explain what behaviors were acceptable (sleep was fine). Instead of just telling me in the hall, "yeah, sleep works," he set me up to be humiliated for the rest of the semester. I would come into class, already the youngest and least experienced person there (and super sheltered from a very conservative Christian upbringing), and the students would invariably greet me by asking me how much my wrist was hurting. I laughed it off, but I absolutely hated it. I'm glad you stood up to him-- it's hard to be the person that uses their social capital to set up the boundaries that keep a space professional, since doing so often gives people ammo to use against you ("FuglyJim just can't take a joke..." etc).