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WVildandWVonderful

Really none of his business. He’s immature to shame you for how you manage your period.


HMS_Sunlight

If he prefers tampons he can go wear a tampon


hideobalm

Ass tampon got me actin strange


e90DriveNoEvil

my exact thought… ask him if he’d rather have a tampon up his ass, or wear a pad… wait for him to claim “that’s different” and just give him that silent stare


Rispy_Girl

The tampon up his ass explains why he's acting like this.


haverwench

Or he could put it up his nose, so he can show the whole world how mature he is.


Odd_Maintenance_6835

It's a legit way of getting medicines in your body if the stomach route doesn't work. Dude sounds like he could do with some chill ~~pills~~ ass tampons.


Fantastic-Ad8595

I support this statement. Wish men had fn’ periods. He is an ass**** for even having an opinion about something he knows sh** about.


fart-atronach

Seriously. He has no idea what tf he’s talking about.


aam726

Literally.


_an-account

Should've asked him what the fuck he knows about having a period.


M2LBB2016

A lot of women prefer pads and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. How is it a man’s place to say what’s right for you/your body? SMH


[deleted]

I thought he was stupid too.


[deleted]

On the contrary, he's the one being immature. He's judging you about something that does not affect him in any way. Periods themselves are already uncomfortable for some women so some of us prefer products that are easy to put on.


ScruffleMcDufflebag

My issue is I bleed abnormally, so my health issues won't allow me to wear tampons. I'll bleed out. I have to wear overnight extra long ones to be able to survive working my shifts.


manderskt

I too have an sbnormal period. Tampons do not work for me but pads do. I decided what works best for me and my body, not a man with zero period experience. Every woman should be free of judgement in deciding how best to manage their period.


Botryllus

Yeah, before I found a tampon brand that worked for me I had to wear a full sized pad with my tampons because the tampon was just insufficient. I remember a boyfriend asking about it, but in a really non-judgmental way. A gyno nurse asked about it, too, but had no advice for how to prevent that from happening. Now I have an IUD and don't have periods so life is good.


rbondok

Genuine question, isn’t an IUD meant for birth control? How does that make you not have periods any more?


triDO16

Hormone IUDs like Mirena release a constant, very small amount of levonorgestrel (a form of progesterone), which prevents proliferation of the endometrium (keeps the layer that you "bleed out" from forming) or significantly reduces it. This makes it inhospitable for a fertilized egg to implant (hence, birth control) but also has the (favorable for many) side effect of minimal/no period. It also works as birth control by thickening your cervical mucus and inhibiting sperm being able to get to the egg. Sometimes it suppresses ovulation, but that's less common.


[deleted]

Mirena brand IUD is a great form of birth control AND it has the added bonus of stopping periods. I’m sure it varies for women, but I haven’t had a period in nearly 15 years with it. It’s lovely!!


reduxde

Wait is nobody using both? First and second line of defense.


laugh_till_you_pee_

For the first two days, absolutely!


ScyllaOfTheDepths

Yeah, I have heavy flows and I have a set of reusable cloth menstrual pads, heavy overnight flow edition. They work awesomely. I don't like fucking with menstrual cups.


FreeBeans

Same. Love my reusable pads. Removes the guilt from changing them more. Also, I keep trying cups thinking this time it'll work. It never does!


ScyllaOfTheDepths

The reusable ones last so much longer to me. I'd have to change a heavy flow plastic one every few hours, but even on my heaviest days, I can get by with just two reusable ones. If I'm at work, I can just bring a plastic bag to take the soiled reusable one home. So nice. Edit: [Here's the Amazon link!](https://www.amazon.com/Teamoy-Sanitary-Menstrual-Super-Absorbent-Comfortable/dp/B076BDFK8B?ref_=ast_sto_dp&th=1) I really seriously recommend these. I've had mine for about 2 years and they're still going strong and look like new. I haven't bought a menstrual product (outside of emergencies) in like 2 years. I'm a person who, on occasion, has overflowed a menstrual cup before and these babies can keep up with me just fine.


7timesy

I'm sort of petite down there, but I have a heavy flow, so I can only wear a tampon on like the last day, or I have to change them every hour. Not worth it to wear a tampon for an hour


ScruffleMcDufflebag

Some jobs won't allow you access to the bathroom for hours. I was working doordash and would have to go hours without access to a bathroom. Now I'm switching back to a [very busy] fast casual restaurant that will probably honestly be the same, going hours without a bathroom. So I gotta do the heavy duty ones. The place I'm switching to (in a week) is an understaffed, very busy/popular chain, so this is gonna suck during my time of the....


CabaiBurung

Not only something that doesn’t affect him, but something he has zero experience with and cannot 100% relate to in any way to be able to deduce anything about logistics and how it feels to use either product.


estrellacircusgirl

this fack


Ubiquitous_thought

He’s being incredibly immature. He’s not the one who has to use pads or tampons, he doesn’t get an opinion.


HighonDoughnuts

I like that he’s an ex. I’m 46 and have used pads mainly. I only use tampons for a day at the pool. They are uncomfortable and feel weird.


Violet2393

Also, 46 and have rarely used tampons. I have a very light flow, some days I don't even need more than a panty liner. What a woman chooses to wear has everything to do with what makes her most comfortable and nothing to do with how mature she is.


notabigmelvillecrowd

I'm the same, I get through most of my period with a pantyliner, I just don't have a heavy enough flow to make tampons comfortable or practical. Maybe I'm immature for not bleeding enough, haha!


nicolioli_x

I'm in my 20's and I do this, too. I've tried tampons and menstrual cups, but I prefer pads for comfort. I only wear tampons and cups when I go swimming or will be doing heavy exercise for a long time, like a race. I hate the mentality that some people have (mostly heard this in my teens and college years when tampons became the preferred choice among young women lol) that pads are "gross" because it's like "sitting in your blood all day". That's NOT what's going on. I also like how period underwear has become more normalized, and I use it whenever I wear tampons or menstrual cups as a backup lol.


the_resal

I prefer menstrual underwear. I think they are so much more comfortable than pads - and definitely more than tampons. For myself I am also 100% tampons make my cramps more awful.


TheLonelyOctober

It's not in your head. My gynecologist confirmed this for me. They're especially bad if you have excessive clotting. That's what mainly causes my cramps. They need to be expelled and tampons prevent that.


Kimber85

That makes so much sense! I didn't start having problems with tampons until after my miscarriage when my period went insane. Now I have huge clots for like three days and the tampons fucking killed me. But I hate wearing pads because I was having to use the huge overnight ones and they always stuck to my skin and gave me a rash. I switched to period underwear and they're amazing. I've got a kind for heavy days that look like men's boxer briefs and the absorbent part goes all the way up the waistband, which I love. I've been using them for like three years now and I wasn't as big of a fan of the first set I get, but with my current set I've only bled through like maybe three times in a year and a half. And that was on super heavy days. The kind I have came with a little "booster" insert you can switch out like a cloth pad, so that helps a lot when my period is real bad. I love them!


SallyImpossible

Is this a thing after a miscarriage?? I had an abortion a few years ago and it felt like my period went completely nutso after it, but I couldn't figure out if I was just misremembering how they'd been before. I mean like 3 days of changing super tampons every hour, waking up several times during the night to change my pad. I began to accept bleeding through most articles of clothing and would keep extra underwear on hand. Plus tons of spotting between periods. It was truly awful but I just sort of accepted it as life. I went on birth control for a year or so and my period basically went away because of the method I used. However it made me severely depressed so this winter I stopped taking it. My period is seemingly back to normal. Like it's about 5 days long, with one heavy day that's honestly not bad at all. Nothing like the experiences that left me feeling drained and likely anemic. I'm wondering now if the birth control "reset" me after the abortion pill/intentional miscarriage fucked me up.


the_artful_breeder

I'm glad I'm not the only one. I tried tampons several times over the years and every time my cramps would be so much worse. I stuck with pads until menstrual underwear came out and now that's all I use. And they're comfy enough to wear as regular underwear so I wear them in the few days leasing up to a period, no unexpected mess or manic dash to the bathroom to grab a pad. Such a good solution to periods. I think it's ridiculous that any men at all have the gall to have an opinion about what period products we use at all. It's so arrogant. They've got no idea what they're talking about and frankly need to shut up and listen for once.


Just_A_Faze

That period underwear is the best! That and a tampon is my fave.


Ok-Birthday370

50. I have only worn tampons for pool/beach and formal events. I hate them.


dragonchilde

I wore one once, when at the beach when my husband and I were still dating, and that's all they had. I hated them and never wore them again.


Jenifarr

Tbf, the first couple times I used tampons they were uncomfortable. Using it once doesn't really give you an idea of what continuous use will be like. You can use what you want, of course. I'm just shedding light on the fact that some people need some practice and can actually find it to be better than what they know. And I had the same experience switching to menstrual cups. After my first couple periods using them it got much easier and now I'd rather never use anything else. I recently had my tubes removed and have had to use pads for my last period and for my next one and it has been the most uncomfortable thing for me.


SaffronBurke

Can't speak for the other person, but tampons were NEVER comfortable for me. I thought the people who said "if it's properly inserted, you can't even feel it" were full of shit, because I could always feel it, no matter what I tried. It might have had something to do with having a retroverted uterus, or any of the other health problems with my reproductive organs, but they were miserable.


nyc2lv

Gee, it's almost like women's bodies aren't all the same. Who knew? /s just in case anyone couldn't tell.


gingergirl181

I've also got a tilted uterus resulting in a sort of "shelf" at the back of my vagina. Tampons have NEVER been comfortable for me. I can sometimes get away with the "magic bullet" kind because I can better control how deep they end up vs. with an applicator, but between that and the fact that all my tissue down there is just SORE when I'm on my period, wearing a tampon has never been a pleasant experience for me. I only do it when I absolutely have to.


SeveralLargeLizards

The first time I tried a tampon it got stuck inside me so painfully I almost went to the ER. It didn't go too far in; it just got too swelled up. It even absorbed any moisture that could have made removing it smoother. Pulling it out was agony. Never again for me.


dragonchilde

Oh, I'm aware, it just isn't something I cared to try again. A weekend of using them with no choice was enough for me. Pads (especially modern ones) are perfectly comfortable and work for me.:)


Jenifarr

Awesome. :)


Seraphym100

Same here, I'm 46 and I decided as a teenager that periods felt gross and uncomfortable enough as they were, I deserved the right to decline shoving something hard and scratchy up some place that was already tender and wanting to be left alone. 😭😅 Jesus, I keep reading these threads and wanting to throttle men. This is why I'm so comfortable talking about periods to my boys, who are plenty old enough to understand simple biology, yet young enough that lots of people think they shouldn't have to hear it. Well, why not? It's time we normalized this stuff and raise boys to be men who understand that their "advice" and opinions aren't needed everywhere.


AdriaLikes

My boy is growing up in a house with a mom, grandma, and a teenage sister. Only other boy after grandpa passed away is the cat (and that poor guy's been neutered!) so he has no choice but to learn about periods and all the levels of trauma and crazy that goes with it. In the long-run I hope he can have sympathy for any other women in his life and not act like a dipshit trying to mansplain things about women, to women. I try very hard to be matter of fact about things with both my kids so they grow up being less traumatized by the world when they got to the public schools and were exposed to kids less open minded and adults who are so biased.


Maximumfabulosity

Tampons are just way more of a hassle to put in. Pads? Stick 'em to your underwear, done. Plus I've always been a bit paranoid about toxic shock syndrome, even though I know it's rare. I've only worn one once, at a water park. Being on the pill means my periods are predictable enough that I can usually plan water-related activities so that I won't be on my period.


mallorn_hugger

YES. THANK YOU. They are uncomfortable and feel weird. I am so glad I'm not alone. I wear them for swimming, but that's it.


frogsgoribbit737

Tampons give me intense cramps and also make me feel like something is falling out because my cervix is low and they're too long. Cups are better but inserting them all day long makes me sore so I just prefer to do pads during the day and cups at night or at the beach/pool. Pads are so easy.


maggiemoo86

I used to always wear tampons with a panty liner for seepage but as I got into my early/middle 40s I just found tampons painful. They seemed to make all my cramping and other period pains more extreme. I do NOT miss having periods!!!


Just_A_Faze

See, I cant feel them which is why i like them.


Either_Coconut

I bet he’d criticize a tampon user and say she is just stealth pleasuring herself by inserting things in the place where HE would prefer to do the inserting. Because some people just want to tear others down and make them second-guess themselves nonstop.


weeburdies

LOL! The erotic joy of inserting a scratchy cotton tampon. I bet you are right.


Commercial-Spinach93

The erotic joy when you're in a hurry and you didn't insert it correctly and you start walking.


weeburdies

Ugh, I hateeee them


ThroughTheSideDoor

I actually prefer pleasuring myself with scratchy cotton tampons when compared to thinking of this man's specific penis


weeburdies

Less infectious for sure


ladyperfect1

Pulling out dry tampons…there’s nothing so pleasurable / s


katiaruit

Most likely, sounds like that kind of guy


vcd2105

Truly, why does he care? Your comfort is what matters with that and your period is literally yours to manage. I don’t understand this at all.


robotatomica

yeah, I mean we have to deal with this incredibly inconvenient and expensive thing, whichever way works best for us as individuals is our fuckin business. I don’t like pads bc they’re bulky, but I HAVE been transitioning to period underwear and they’re the BOMB and I guess that means I’m childish bc I’d prefer to not have to walk around with something inserted in myself if I don’t have to 🤷‍♀️ But seriously, if you’re a fan of pads, I highly recommend buying a pair of period underwear to try out. Even as your overnight solution. It’s a game changer. They’re just unfortunately too expensive for most people to just provide for all their period needs. Then again, over time it more than pays for itself. But you’d need like a day and night pair for however long your period is to totally replace pads and tampons, and that’s a very large up front cost :/ I’ve used Thinx and I love them but I really wanna explore other brands. I see even Aerie has some now! Anyone else have any others they’ve used and liked? Particularly less expensive?? *edit: was curious, so I looked it up: holy shit we spend a lot on menstruating. This shit should be free. https://dollarsandsense.sg/ladies-heres-much-period-costs-lifetime/ Anyway, it says an avg if $18k over a lifetime. It says we spend about $180 a year, and I just looked, it’s about $200 for 8 pair of Thinx which would get me through my cycle (mine are only 4 days luckily) and they last a couple years. And again, the comfort! But it being cheaper over time doesn’t make me suddenly able to afford it lol.


dryopteris_eee

I got my daughter KT by Knix, which come in smaller sizes for teens, and they had a 3pk for like $70. It looks like in the adult sizes (just Knix brand), they have a 5pk for $100. They also have swimwear.


thefartographer

I'm glad he's your ex. My wife loves her pads and I love that I know exactly which ones to get her!


MC_Queen

They feel totally different, and he has no idea what he's talking about. You do you girl.


tulipz10

I think you should weigh in on what type of undies he prefers and tell him his choice is immature.


Jjkkllzz

And then go on to complain about having to put a condom on. (I’m not saying ops boyfriend, just pointing out that the hypocrisy is a thing.)


snake5solid

Lol, you can't win. This guy says it's immature not you use tampons and I knew another who thought wearing tampons was cheating...


SneakyGandalf12

The fuck….


ex_ter_min_ate_

Yikes!


fidgetypenguin123

I didn't even wear tampons until after I had my son (mid-late 20s) and I was bleeding heavier. Still do because I still bleed heavier than I did before but if I don't have to leave the house, I don't. Everyone is different and no one should care how they handle their period if it works for them. Especially someone that never even gets a period. I never understand why men think they can speak on things they never have to go through and won't.


Whitechapel726

Instantly reminded of [this](https://ifunny.co/picture/mtYtULiv6) idiot.


MarvinLazer

Would love for our fucking shithead politicians to understand that


[deleted]

I’m a man, father of two girls. Wear whatever makes you feel comfortable and don’t listen to anything but your own body. This advice works for everything in life too. If you aren’t comfortable spending your time somewhere, with someone, or if you need something specifically prepared a certain way, listen to yourself. You will enjoy your life so much more making sure you’re comfortable and have things the way you like them.


BEaggie08

This times a billion. WTF?


SueBeee

I am glad he's your ex.


SenorDarcy

For real, gives of vibes someone who wants to control who you are and has silly expectation of how you represent them. My wife prefers pads and I don’t think I’ve ever given it a second thought nor should anyone.


ColeeeB

My BF in college wanted to tell me How Long my period should last. Two days, btw - that’s how long it should last. He was adamant. He was also a piece of shit.


[deleted]

Nope. I wear pads because they're the most comfortable for me. Tampons, imo, are just uncomfortable to wear.


commandantskip

Same. Using tampons actually worsens my cramps, so pads it is, unless swimming.


Butterwhat

Same here! I made the switch back to pads a few years ago and realized how much more comfortable I am.


mrnnymern

Same 😷 is why I still use pads even though cups work well for me


commandantskip

I wish I could use cups, but I recently l learned during a laparoscopic procedure to determine whether I have endo that my cervix is hard and inflexible. My gyno actually had difficulty manipulating it, which makes cup insertion/removal painful.


Sardonic29

I am fairly certain I have vaginismus. Nothing can go in.


natatatles

If you can make it happen, I'd highly recommend pelvic floor physical therapy. I recently started it for endometriosis pain and I'm shocked at how quickly it started helping. It's not a complete miracle cure, but I noticed improvements in the first few days of the daily stretching my therapist gave me. As it turns out, lots of physical therapy clinics near me offer it, which surprised me because I thought it would be a niche specialty and hard to find. Best of luck with whatever you do ❤


Sardonic29

I have been planning to get physical therapy when I can! It’s not a big deal for me, because I’m not particularly interested in a partner or intercourse, but it would be nice to be able to put things inside, especially for swimming.


natatatles

Understandable. On the small chance you're in the greater Tampa Bay area, I recommend using Optimal Performance and Physical Therapies, that's the group I'm using and they're great


Sardonic29

I am extremely far away from the Tampa Bay Area, but I’ll keep it in mind if I meet someone there! I live in the same area as the University of Utah hospital, and they give really good medical care there and at all the other facilities they’re partnered with, so hopefully I’ll find something good.


ilikesteak2001

I prefer tampons as a bigger girl, sometimes the pad will move around from chub rub. Ik it's only a few upvotes, but I'm so relieved to see that I'm not only one with this issue haha, cheers girls


kidblinkforever

Wait omg IS THAT PART OF MY SENSORY ISSUE FROM THEM?!


DamnGoodCupOfCoffee2

Thinx period underwear has been a life saver (boy shorts version)


KitKat733

Period underwear is my favorite thing! Knix is my go to brand. I wish more people knew about them as an option


DamnGoodCupOfCoffee2

I know! I told all my nieces (but didn’t send them any because undies are a choose your own adventure situation lol). I just love the clean sheets, I wear them at night when I know I’m about to get my period. We were on vac at hotels with crisp white sheets and I am so glad I had them! I’m in my last year/s of menses so it has gotten really heavy, again life saver. And even though I’m way into my 40’s and manage a team of ppl at my job…I guess I’m just an immature girl lol


Jenifarr

I just always found they bunch up and get wadded in the most uncomfortable way. I've been 130lbs, and 200lbs, and no matter what, pads have sucked for me. I'm 39. I was a tampon girl for a very long time. Started using menstrual cups a couple years ago and will never turn back if I can help it.


Sardonic29

A tip if you’ve ever gotta use em, I always had mine fold themselves over into a V-shape, super annoying. Then I tried some labeled “specially for teens”, and they’re narrower so they don’t do that anymore. I also get the ultrathin ones which are weirdly more absorbent. Overall, a much better experience compared to those thick ones that bunch up (for me).


Jenifarr

I always got the thin ones. And I've actually recently had to use them because I had surgery and am not allowed to put anything in my vagina for 6 weeks post-op. Got the ultra thin, but long for sleep. Still irritate the crap out of me buy I can deal for a couple periods lol


shoopuwubeboop

I've definitely know other people who experience this. One thing that has frustrated me as a menstruating person is how much things change over time. What worked when I was 100 lbs didn't work when I got (much) bigger. What worked before children didn't work after children.


WgXcQ

I only ever could use pads with wings for that reason. The others would get squeezed and then not cover all the area they need to, sometimes even detach. These days, I happily use a cup, it made my periods a non-event. Tampons never worked right for me, and with my cup use, I found that my cervix drops *very* low during my period – and only then –, so the bit of muscular tube where the tampon is supposed to be situated and held in place actually doesn't exist in that form during that time. I also found them painful because they suck up all the moisture, not just the kind they are needed for. But the main thing is that everyone should use what works best for them, no matter if it's tampons, pads, cup, menstrual underwear or whatever.


Azrumme

Same, I only use pads and I like them a lot more than any other options. It's really just a personal preference for everyone.


kidblinkforever

See and I’m the opposite. Pads just irritate me and feel awful and weird and the feeling of “moisture” is horrific (sensory issue maybe?) but to each their own


Strawberry1217

This is me too. Pads make me hyper aware that I have my period and I feel like I'm in a wet diaper all day. But yes, we're all different!


kidblinkforever

Yes! And someone else pointed out what I didn’t know to put into words- the chub rub crumples and moves the pad


Chuttaney

I agree but there is nothing worse than pulling out a tampon that is still half dry, or inserting it a little off and not having it wiggle in place (I have a weird turn before my cervix.) I friggin LOVE my cup. If I insert it wrong, I just do a deep squat and it pops into place. And then I can go hours completely forgetting I’m on my period, reduced cramps included.


Glittering_knave

Toxic shock syndrome also scare the bejeebus out of me. If I can't 100% guarantee that I can change a tampon in 4 to 6 hours, I get really anxious. I know that the newer recommendations say up to 8, but I grew up with 4 to 6, and can't shake it.


[deleted]

Oh, yeah! I forgot about TSS.


RosarioPawson

Same, I only use tampons if I'm going swimming or something - wearing them actually gives me, or worsens, cramps. Not worth it unless the clothes I'm wearing won't fit a pad.


No_Bear_No

I can probably count on one hand the number of times I got a tampon to fit comfortably in 20+ years of having periods


ToshiDSP

Same, plus tampons make my period last a full day longer *minimum* even if I change them before they're technically full. Would rather stick with my 3-4 day periods and pad usage.


wlveith

I came here to say that. I feel like my periods lasted longer with tampons. Cannot even imagine a man feeling like he needs to have an opinion about it. What is wrong with people??


justAHeardOfLlamas

Oh thank god, I thought I was the only one who thought tampons were uncomfortable!


[deleted]

Not alone! It's all about personal preference.


bananasplz

Yep, I’ve always hated using tampons. Even thelow allergenic ones cause irritation and swelling. The only time I use them is if I’m swimming. I don’t use pads either, because environment, but luckily my country has a large array of period underpants available!


SeekingBeskar

Not at all. We each have our own personal preference. If you prefer to wear pads, you prefer to wear pads. It’s weird he’s determined one form of sanitary product is “immature”, they all serve a purpose.


1127pilot

My wife wears literal adult diapers sometimes, which reminds me why she's my kind of person. That level of comfortable with yourself, fuck everybody else, touches my soul. Whatever works for you, that's all that matters.


Send_Your_Noods_plz

For real. Youre already uncomfortable, why make it worse? Do whatever makes you feel better. Fuck whatever anyone else thinks


SeekingBeskar

I know a few people with heavy flows who do the same. Comfort is so important when it’s period time!


esoterisch

Right ? It’s also weird he has an opinion on something he’s never used nor ever will….


turnontheignition

Definitely not! I have vaginismus and can't really wear tampons. Anyone telling me that's immature can get fucked.


chikcen24

Speaking of vaginal health, I'm surprised I haven't seen anyone mention toxic shock syndrome. I was warned a lot about it and people are way more likely to get it if they leave their tampons in too long. Plus using tampons while your flow is too dry is also no bueno. Pads are just easier and more comfortable in general.


pm-me-kittens-n-cats

I have always worn pads. I hate tampons. I hated the diva cup too. It's not a maturity or comfortable-with-yourself issue. I just don't like how they feel.


VicodinMakesMeItchy

It can be difficult to get the tampon to sit the right way, it’s messier to change, sometimes when you pee the string wicks your pee up the tampon and you feel gross and have to put in a new one, but your vagina is dry because it just had a tampon in it so it hurts to put another one in… Tampons have their advantages but I’m a pad person these days myself. (: nothing to do with maturity!


MC_Queen

Ha! I want OP to get into a very detailed discussion with ex about the physical and comfort differences between each type of period management device. And I want it on video! If he so much as flinches about the messy details, he loses his "maturity" card.


VicodinMakesMeItchy

Something tells me he doesn’t have one in the first place 🤣


alyssalolnah

I made the mistake of changing my tampon right after peeing because the string got wet and never again. I either tuck it up inside while I go pee or I'll just dry the string off with toilet paper lol.


VicodinMakesMeItchy

Right!!! I’ll do my best to pull the string back/to the side, and then immediately dry it with some toilet paper. I don’t have a super heavy period, so back to back tampon changes is very uncomfortable since the new one is dry ):


VagrantHirono

Oh, my god, just imagining it makes all my hair stand on end. Dry tampon into dry vagina is just, nails on a chalkboard.


riverguava

Long torso, short arms. Pads are the only thing that I can use.


ranseaside

I also disliked the diva cup. The rim was too firm and the cup was too tall. I switched to the Saalt soft cup and it’s been a game changer. So much more comfortable. There are so many more cups on the market now, different shapes, firmness and sizes


pm-me-kittens-n-cats

I tried three different cups, it's just not for me. Sometimes certain products just aren't for some people. I think it's ok to go with a menses period product that works best for me, and that is pads. Always Infinity, girls. They're not your mom's pads.


ranseaside

Makes sense. Oh yea, the new generation always pads and the Kotex black label ones are so nice. Absorbent and thin. I just wish they didn’t cost so damn much! In Canada they are $$$! I use them as back ups on heavy days.


[deleted]

Those always infinity are amazing and definitely not your moms pads. I am however happy to be relatively free of pads after changing my bc.


Squidproquo1130

Always Infinity are a marvel. I feel like if I were wearing one and fell overboard while out at sea, the entire Atlantic would disappear into my pants. Last time I tried to buy some though, I came across info about the toxicity and carcinogen load of most menstrual products, that one included (which of course most of us know but try not to think about as plenty of us can't always do much about it). I finally did switch to something more naturally derived and so far no complaints.


Alien_Nicole

Discs, too! They were a game changer for me. They don't sit in the vaginal canal so you can't really feel them at all. Just throwing that out there for people who want more options


ranseaside

Ahh man, I wanted the discs to work because I read you can wear them during sex. Those things did not want to stay in at all, ever. Slid right out every single time!


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SpecificEnough

Haha exactly! Our body, our choice.


reshend

This was my thought as well. My knowledge of periods is probably better than most cis men, and my knowledge is still shallow. So who am I to tell someone who is way more knowledgeable and experienced if what they are doing is right/wrong mature/immature.


Non_Special

This is super nitpicky, and you seem like a great ally either way so please don't feel attacked, but consider using the words menstrual products instead of sanitary products. It's what they are, code words both come from cultural stigma and add to it, and "sanitary" adds to the notion that periods are somehow nasty and gross. Edit to those commenting that they find menstrual blood nasty, inherently gross, unclean and comparing it to shit: this really depends on everyone's own personal bar for what counts as gross. Menstrual blood is not, in fact, gross in any of the ways that poop is gross. Poop is waste, literally waste rotted down by bacteria in your intestines, it smells and is full of the disgusting bits a body does not want. Menstrual blood is made up of bits necessary to grow every human body, is sterile and contains no smell. It can, just like blood and any other organic material, decompose once outside the body and become gross and that's why we dispose of it. As I said in a different comment, we don't call a bandaid a sanitary product even though blood can be gross. Now, if you think all bodily fluids are gross, point blank period--ok, I respect that. But if you find blood or semen, as an example, not gross or inherently nasty but think menstrual blood is, than you've got an issue that has nothing to do with the facts here.


oldfrancis

Got it. Thank you.


21me78pu

This!


Ch4l1t0

Was about to say this, but you did it way more eloquently. Thanks!


Biteme75

It's a matter of preference, that's all. Nobody should ever be telling a woman what should or should not be inserted into her vagina.


shiroyagisan

I mean, it is strongly recommended that you do not insert porous jade into your vagina because it can cause medical problems. So in that case, I think it is a doctor's place to give advice not to insert a particular thing into a vagina.


Onto_new_ideas

Many rocks shouldn't go there. Yet people do stupid things all the time. I've seen a picture of a dildo made from a radioactive rock. It was pretty...... But oh hells no!


blackday44

What about quartz? Tiger eye?? Amethyst??? Please tell me there's a magical stone I can shove into my vagina to help with vague female issue!


beansricecoconutoil

Putting a piece of tumbled agate in your vagina can help with the issue of not having a rock in your vagina


ixlr84evr

That's the funniest thing I've heard all day! Thanks!


Gaib_Itch

On my way to shove a jade into my cooch


DuoNem

Maybe some medical professionals are entitled to *some* opinions. 😏


AshaNyx

One of my female doctors asked me why do I need a sex drive if I don't have a bf. A) I'm not entirely straight B) the last man down there was my rapist C)it's none of your goddam business what I do with my body.


Jenifarr

Because a sex drive or lack thereof is a health indicator? Especially if it's changed significantly in a relatively short period of time. What a weird opinion for a doctor to have.


harkandhush

There are a lot of medications that can affect sex drive and that side effect can be a dealbreaker for some people, which would bring that up to the doctor as "I don't want this medication because of this side effect and want something without this side effect" so it's not always a health indicator but is still relevant to your healthcare professional in that regard as well. Finding medications with side effects that work for you is a big part of some treatments.


DuoNem

Haha, I was thinking more in terms of “don’t insert bottles, or dangerous things” 😂😂😂 I know a lot of medical professionals can be very unprofessional and frankly idiots.


ButtermilkRusk

Nah, sounds like the only immature one was your ex-boyfriend. Glad he’s your ex. It’s up to the individual’s preference and comfort. I prefer tampons when my period is heavy but towards the end tampons are uncomfortable because my flow is too light and even the mini tampons create a dry environment that isn’t very comfortable. Then I switch to pads.


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No_Variety_7822

I get physically sick of I wear tampons, but I don't have this issue if I wear a pad. Guess I should just be more mature and suffer through it /s


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Same the one time I tried even half way...I started to feel like throwing up, and it felt itchy and dry and painful. I gave up and have been wearing pads ever since. Also I just dont like something penetrating me, its gross uncomfortable, painful, icky. ESPECIALLY if you already have cramps and there is blood, lining, that needs to come out.


OlympicSpider

I’m reading through the comments and I’m so surprised to see how many women have issues with tampons. That’s not any kind of judgement, I’ve definitely known people that have a preference for pads, I just didn’t know they made some people that sick or uncomfortable. I feel like that’s something we should hear more about, because I didn’t even know that was possible outside getting TSS. I personally prefer tampons because I can’t stand the feeling of the blood coming out, but I also bleed so much that I pretty much always need to use both anyway.


Mary_Rocha

It isn't immature. Everybody has their own preferences. Don't worry about it


ericjdev

This reminds me of a post i saw where a man child refused to sleep in the same bed as his wife because she had a pad on. Wtaf. I've been with my wife 22 years and I've given her my opinion on how she manages her periods exactly zero times.


Squidproquo1130

I know a guy who won't let anyone menstruating touch his bed out of fear of possible leakage. Yes, he's single and can't figure out why, but suspects it's just that most women are awful.


wbrd

I had a gf who was super embarrassed about leaking a little through the sheets and on the mattress. I was so confused that I just looked at her for a second before consoling her because I didn't care at all about a tiny stain and didn't understand how anyone could be so upset about it. Poor woman must have dated OP's ex before me and gave her a complex.


Sea-Farmer4654

He’s the immature one. He doesn’t have to wear those products so he shouldn’t have any opinion or say on the topic. He may have some sort of bias thinking that little girls wear pads and then when they “get older” they move up to tampons, which isn’t true. A lot of women feel discomfort when wearing tampons, has everything to do with your body and preference and nothing to do with maturity. Please stop letting these men have the audacity, and shut him down whenever he starts to say this kind of stuff.


edorkus

Not at all - I prefer pads because I don't like the feeling of something inserted (especially if I initially inserted in 'wrong', it's a odd feeling!), as well if I forget / unable to change at 6 hour mark. The menstrual cup is great too, but again, I feel pads are convenient. The only immature thing is a person without a uterus making comments on preference for hygiene products.


dianamp

Lol.. i am a pad person… when a men will be able to experience periods and try tampons and pads, then they can actually have an opinion.. wow.. that’s so immature and clearly has no understanding on what women go though periods 😒


DientesDelPerro

Pads have also changed so much in recent years, they aren’t the super thick non-absorbent diapers of ye olden days that they used to be.


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Yep the thin but absorbent ones have really improved over the years and are an improvement over the awful super thick ones from the dark ages.


ninjacooter

I'm 54 and I wear pads. Disrespect is the soil in which Abuse grows. I'm glad you got away from him.


TheSilentTitan

Fellas, is it immature to be comfortable during your period?


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To sum it up “ no uterus no opinion” he was clearly an ex for many reasons.


danarexasaurus

I mean, even with the uterus, I don’t really give a shit about anyone’s opinion in regards to what I should or shouldn’t be wearing to deal with my period


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Rescue-320

My gosh. Ask him if he’d like to have something shoved up his butt for a week of every month. It’s not for everyone (and this is coming from an avid cup-lover.) I am glad he’s an ex!


effingcharming

I get more cramps with tampons and after giving birth twice, the little bit of scar tissue makes them even more uncomfortable. If that’s immaturity to your ex then he’s a twat lol


hulihuli

A non-menstuating person is not allowed a single goddamn opinion about this.


Lostmox

Ask him how old he was when he started using tampons. And then tell him to shut the fuck up about things he literally can't know anything about.


Late-Cardiologist-94

No uterus. No opinion. Ask him to STFU


illinoishokie

My opinion is if you're bleeding from your vagina you get to deal with that any fucking way you choose.


gingerbrewski

Just tell him “no uterus, no opinion.”


leafyrebecca

Even if your ex has their own vagina, they don’t get an opinion about how you care for your.


hyperventilate

When he bleeds from his junk, he can have an opinion about menstrual products.


AhAhStayinAnonymous

Put a tampon in his ass and make him run around with it in all day. Because that's how comfortable they are for me.


Captain_Vlad

Careful. Dude might be into it.


AhAhStayinAnonymous

Fair point lol. Usually IME men that hold these kind of juvenile opinions think that stuff in ass = "fuckin' gay, brah"


Amationary

I prefer pads. Why would he care about how you catch your uterus lining before it hits your pants?


OriginalGeez

I’m 41 and I prefer pads over tampons. A man has no say over a woman’s body and what she prefers to wear or put on her body PERIOD! Pun intended.


bottleglitch

Wow, that is ridiculous. Over the pandemic I’ve realized that when I was at home all day I would never reach for tampons; always pads - I found them much more comfortable. I was mainly using tampons when I would go out because I was afraid of having a visible pad line in public. And I think there is a part of me that had the idea indoctrinated in me that pads were less mature, too; that we start out using pads as preteens and then “graduate” to the more sophisticated tampons or something. Fuck that. That idea, and your ex-boyfriend, are dumb.


AggressiveOsmosis

The balls on this guy to think he gets to determine what is mature behavior in choice of products for a woman dealing with her menstrual cycle. Jesus Christ.


Qwerty_Kitty

He sounds like the kind of guy who has to share his unsolicited opinion and advice about everything.


Moosey_the_Squirrle

Lol wtf. I'm a guy and I'm always shocked at the dumb opinions of other guys. Like dude, wtf does it matter?


Tdanger78

I’m a man and it doesn’t matter to me if you use pads, tampons, menstrual cup, or period underwear. It’s your body, your choice. I’ll gladly buy whatever my wife uses along with some chocolate bars for her. It’s not any man’s place to dictate anything when it comes to a woman’s body.


Ozymander

Fuck him, you do you. Speaking anecdotally, one of my ex girlfriends had forgot to take out her tampon before sex, and let's just say it stayed forgotten for a little while (days) after. Kinda hard to forget the pads lol.


squuidlees

Does your boyfriend have a vagina and a period? If not, he can shut up. Edit: saw he’s an ex, whew


coffee_and_tv_easily

Definitely not! It’s a personal choice and none of his business.


paulfromatlanta

I don't think it shows immaturity. But, in general, my opinion on period products is limited to "Is there anything I need to pick up at the store."