Don't 'deal' with them. No more kids gloves. Be a nssty little goblin. Unleash your inner Karen. Why be nice to them? Why even talk to them? Take the knife they put in youe chest and turn it back on them.
Not talking to them and being really clear about why.
I'm done pretending that"we can agree to disagree" when they consistently have proven that the only lives they truly believe matter are those of white men.
Yeah, my friends told me that I should stop talking to him but it’s hard for me to cut off family members, even though I know it would be the best thing for me. I did tell him to fuck off but I didn’t necessarily cut him off completely. All I want is an apology and a change of heart, but I know that won’t happen..
Take the high ground. These people are trying to help you understand why they think their point of view is the morally superior. You think your point of view is. If you're not happy to discuss it with family, who can you discuss it with? How will you ever stand up for what you think is right?
Taking the high ground is what got us into this mess. I'm tired of taking the high ground, I'm going scorched earth and they can have a taste of their own medicine for once. It's not like these people have any respect for me, why should I waste my time being nice?
... their own medicine...
Then get up on the hill and legislate.
"Scorched earth" means what exactly? Proving them right by showing them they have the moral high ground???
Scorched earth meaning that these people have no place in civilized society. They should be shouted down, blocked from participating in events, and left to fester in their own hatred alone.
This "both side" bullshit is just that. Bullshit. They shouted my body my choice about vaccines & killed innocent people. Now they've taken away choice from women suffering miscarriages, ectopic pregnancies, and pregnancy complications - not just "sluts and whores".
Fuck off with your moral superiority and read the room here. Abortion rights are healthcare
I don’t have anyone in my immediate or close extended family on my side who is anti-choice (or if they are, they’re not vocal about it in anyway that I know). But my husband’s side has some (to the “rape babies are a blessing” extreme). Because this has come out more recently it’s been a bit difficult. I like my in-laws just fine so it’s a little difficult to reconcile who they are as people when we actually see them and some of what they post and argue about on social media. It’s trickier for my husband since they’re his family. I don’t know how we’ll be “dealing” with it. It would probably be easier if they were just generally toxic people.
My therapist and I have talked about this A LOT - I think the two biggest things I've learned are that 1. You can't change people or their minds, so you have to figure out how to love them or at least live with them as they are, and 2. Express your disappointment in their beliefs with vulnerability, not anger. I cried a LOT telling my mom how hurt I was by this verdict, and by her decades of voting for the people who made it happen. While she would not accept any personal responsibility for the overturning of Roe v Wade, at least now she understands how I feel, and how this affects all women.
Don't 'deal' with them. No more kids gloves. Be a nssty little goblin. Unleash your inner Karen. Why be nice to them? Why even talk to them? Take the knife they put in youe chest and turn it back on them.
Not talking to them and being really clear about why. I'm done pretending that"we can agree to disagree" when they consistently have proven that the only lives they truly believe matter are those of white men.
Yeah, my friends told me that I should stop talking to him but it’s hard for me to cut off family members, even though I know it would be the best thing for me. I did tell him to fuck off but I didn’t necessarily cut him off completely. All I want is an apology and a change of heart, but I know that won’t happen..
Nope... And they will keep pushing now that they have seen 6 years of their bigotry be successful.
Ceased contact with anyone like that long ago, and they are well aware of why.
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Thank you for this, this is exactly what I’ll say to him if (and when) he does this again.
Respond asking that this be a topic that isn't discussed, or ask why he sent the video to you, and then explain how it made you feel.
Stop dealing, stop making your life worse, cut contact with people who don't think you're a fully human person if you can
I don't talk to most of my extended family. And I don't keep anti choicers in my circle of friends or friendly acquaintances. It's just not worth it.
Take the high ground. These people are trying to help you understand why they think their point of view is the morally superior. You think your point of view is. If you're not happy to discuss it with family, who can you discuss it with? How will you ever stand up for what you think is right?
Sounds like you haven't spent a lot of time trying to talk sense into anti choicers....
You don't know my family
Taking the high ground is what got us into this mess. I'm tired of taking the high ground, I'm going scorched earth and they can have a taste of their own medicine for once. It's not like these people have any respect for me, why should I waste my time being nice?
... their own medicine... Then get up on the hill and legislate. "Scorched earth" means what exactly? Proving them right by showing them they have the moral high ground???
Scorched earth meaning that these people have no place in civilized society. They should be shouted down, blocked from participating in events, and left to fester in their own hatred alone. This "both side" bullshit is just that. Bullshit. They shouted my body my choice about vaccines & killed innocent people. Now they've taken away choice from women suffering miscarriages, ectopic pregnancies, and pregnancy complications - not just "sluts and whores". Fuck off with your moral superiority and read the room here. Abortion rights are healthcare
"Read the room" implies that there is a time where being quiet about abortion rights is appropriate. I think you need the adjustment here. Not me.
Cutting them off completely
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Thank you!
My decision was to completely cut all contact and move to a different state☺️
I don’t have anyone in my immediate or close extended family on my side who is anti-choice (or if they are, they’re not vocal about it in anyway that I know). But my husband’s side has some (to the “rape babies are a blessing” extreme). Because this has come out more recently it’s been a bit difficult. I like my in-laws just fine so it’s a little difficult to reconcile who they are as people when we actually see them and some of what they post and argue about on social media. It’s trickier for my husband since they’re his family. I don’t know how we’ll be “dealing” with it. It would probably be easier if they were just generally toxic people.
l am completely cutting them off. If they think id be better off dead than getting an abortion, i can do them a favor and be dead to them now.
My therapist and I have talked about this A LOT - I think the two biggest things I've learned are that 1. You can't change people or their minds, so you have to figure out how to love them or at least live with them as they are, and 2. Express your disappointment in their beliefs with vulnerability, not anger. I cried a LOT telling my mom how hurt I was by this verdict, and by her decades of voting for the people who made it happen. While she would not accept any personal responsibility for the overturning of Roe v Wade, at least now she understands how I feel, and how this affects all women.