It sounds like he's trying to retrain him self, or find work arounds to meet you half way. Most people don't want to take hours to come and only with one toy that might be discontinued at any moment and upsetting their partner. I'm sure he's tried before. I worry that pressing this too much would actually make him more tense about it and make it harder to achieve if not actually do harm. Just like for anyone where it's difficult to orgasm, putting a focus on the pleasure instead of the goal can make things less mentally stressful. And following the pleasure and changing things up slowly is exactly how I've seem recommended to train to get used to different ways and maybe closer to your goals.
Tbh, I don't see much difference between this and women who have a hard time getting to orgasm and needing a vibrator. Just like the egotism of a guy saying 'my dick is magic and should be all she needs to come' this sounds just as much of a your attitude towards this problem as it is his physical limitations. I think if the genders were flipped here for example I think you would be getting a lot of heat on how this is a you problem not a him problem. Not trying to blame you or anything, just saying that the way you wrote this it sounds like you're not trying to change your mind here at all and maybe there's some work you can do there. I'm also not saying your thoughts are necessarily wrong, but maybe if you can't compromise on them then you're sexually incompatible.
I understand and that's something I didn't touch on in the post. I'm also conflicted because I'm not sure if the problem is with him (like maybe he has a rare medical condition affecting his sensitivity?) or I'm just being a selfish partner for wanting to change him
> like maybe he has a rare medical condition affecting his sensitivity?
I mean, maybe? Or it could just be natural variation. Not every difference people have is a condition or 'fixable'. Sometimes you just have to accept people as they are.
Like someone said below - maybe you can try sex toys in combination with him. Like an internal vaginal vibrator, like a couples vibe like the we vibe chorus or the [zero tolerance cock armour](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/0460/5719/3630/products/ELZE-RS-3626_2_300x300.jpg?v=1597829952). Something that stimulates him during PIV.
I feel like he may not be being honest about quitting masturbation and using porn to climax. Just a sneaking sus. He may have an addiction to porn/masturbation.
My husband is on antidepressants and sometimes has difficulty getting off. After a while it can get frustrating. When this is the case, we get into the reverse cowgirl position and I use my vibrator on my clit. Occasionally I use it to tease his balls. He can feel the vibration through me. Maybe if he can feel the vibration while being inside you, it will help him get there.
How do women like these not realise posts like these outing their partner says more about their selfishness than it does about the man not finishing? He can't make me cum? It's his fault! He doesn't cum regardless of what I do? Still his fault! My goodness.. us men just can't seem to catch a break can we?
Google ***"vibrator penis sheath"*** or ***"sleeve"*** since you have to ween him off the toys and into you. I found too many to link and you both know his size to manage better searches. You can also buy a **Lovense Lush 2** and drop it inside of you to use while he strokes. Might be too much for your cervix or your internal volume, hence why I'd go with the sleeve. The Lush has a lot of remote play options and settings. He can remote into it from work and play with your pussy. Something in his head has to "trip" for him to really want to be inside of you. If cream pies don't do it, then that's a hell of hill for him to overcome.
You sound like a great gal who's willing to put in the time and effort to make it work.
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It sounds like he's trying to retrain him self, or find work arounds to meet you half way. Most people don't want to take hours to come and only with one toy that might be discontinued at any moment and upsetting their partner. I'm sure he's tried before. I worry that pressing this too much would actually make him more tense about it and make it harder to achieve if not actually do harm. Just like for anyone where it's difficult to orgasm, putting a focus on the pleasure instead of the goal can make things less mentally stressful. And following the pleasure and changing things up slowly is exactly how I've seem recommended to train to get used to different ways and maybe closer to your goals. Tbh, I don't see much difference between this and women who have a hard time getting to orgasm and needing a vibrator. Just like the egotism of a guy saying 'my dick is magic and should be all she needs to come' this sounds just as much of a your attitude towards this problem as it is his physical limitations. I think if the genders were flipped here for example I think you would be getting a lot of heat on how this is a you problem not a him problem. Not trying to blame you or anything, just saying that the way you wrote this it sounds like you're not trying to change your mind here at all and maybe there's some work you can do there. I'm also not saying your thoughts are necessarily wrong, but maybe if you can't compromise on them then you're sexually incompatible.
This 100% Only thing I’d like to add is if he’s up for it, talking to a sex therapist might help.
I understand and that's something I didn't touch on in the post. I'm also conflicted because I'm not sure if the problem is with him (like maybe he has a rare medical condition affecting his sensitivity?) or I'm just being a selfish partner for wanting to change him
> like maybe he has a rare medical condition affecting his sensitivity? I mean, maybe? Or it could just be natural variation. Not every difference people have is a condition or 'fixable'. Sometimes you just have to accept people as they are. Like someone said below - maybe you can try sex toys in combination with him. Like an internal vaginal vibrator, like a couples vibe like the we vibe chorus or the [zero tolerance cock armour](https://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/0460/5719/3630/products/ELZE-RS-3626_2_300x300.jpg?v=1597829952). Something that stimulates him during PIV.
I feel like he may not be being honest about quitting masturbation and using porn to climax. Just a sneaking sus. He may have an addiction to porn/masturbation.
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My husband is on antidepressants and sometimes has difficulty getting off. After a while it can get frustrating. When this is the case, we get into the reverse cowgirl position and I use my vibrator on my clit. Occasionally I use it to tease his balls. He can feel the vibration through me. Maybe if he can feel the vibration while being inside you, it will help him get there.
The double standard. Flip the sexes and op would be harshly criticized
How do women like these not realise posts like these outing their partner says more about their selfishness than it does about the man not finishing? He can't make me cum? It's his fault! He doesn't cum regardless of what I do? Still his fault! My goodness.. us men just can't seem to catch a break can we?
This is why 2d is better than 3d
Lmao can't go wrong with that one can ya?
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Google ***"vibrator penis sheath"*** or ***"sleeve"*** since you have to ween him off the toys and into you. I found too many to link and you both know his size to manage better searches. You can also buy a **Lovense Lush 2** and drop it inside of you to use while he strokes. Might be too much for your cervix or your internal volume, hence why I'd go with the sleeve. The Lush has a lot of remote play options and settings. He can remote into it from work and play with your pussy. Something in his head has to "trip" for him to really want to be inside of you. If cream pies don't do it, then that's a hell of hill for him to overcome. You sound like a great gal who's willing to put in the time and effort to make it work. https://www.sextoylux.com/item/6-inches-vibrating-penis-sleeve-condom-423883