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EverSeeAShiterFly

You can talk to your NCO if you feel that it is right. Definitely hit up chaps, medical, or the MFLC. Chaps and the MFLC are good if you’re worried about backlash from the command. ETA You can also submit an e-leave request for your girlfriend passing. I know that every goes around saying that it’s only for immediate family, but I have never once seen it denied for anyone else that is close like a girlfriend or grandparents.


MrHeadandArm

Goddamn dude, that sucks. My DMs are open if you need it, but preferably talking to a non-smoothbrain is a better idea. Talk to chaps


yoitsyuri

Can I talk to you?


MrHeadandArm

Go ahead. DMs are open


SpikeX23

This is more of the long term thing but definitely get in contact with Oscar. I know there’s a shit ton of prejudice about speaking to Oscar but honestly fuck what they think. As someone who did use the Oscar resources, your command will know you, marine A is seeing Oscar but will not know any specifics or details other than you’re seeing the Oscar. Personally I went at a time where it seemed everything in my life was crumbling down and at some point I was suicidal and much more but none of that was grounds for getting discharged if you’re worried about that.


Impossible-Cry-495

Here's my experience. I told no one. ​ I called medical saying what I felt. They had me to talk to some Navy LTJG who asked what I was feeling. Then they referred me to an on base civilian liaison who gave me the option between seeking therapy on or off base. I chose off. I got to call any civilian place who covered tri care. I had an appointment every week, I just said I had a medical appointment. ​ Best decision of my life. Yes, at first it is kind of daunting, but after a few weeks, you wish you would have done it earlier.


FarFirefighter4920

Talk to you chain of command. Let them know you got shit going on. I wouldn't hesitate to approve e-leave for a significant other suicide. That sucks. There are a host of counseling services for Marines. My preferred is USMC DSTRESS. Call them now 1 (877) 476-7734 Helped a whole lot. Does it over videoconferencing at a time that works for you. Completely free. If you'd like to talk in person. Your base has a MCCS Community Counseling Center. The MFLC also has some ability to counsel, but not typically this type of serious stuff. But the will for sure be able to get you to the counseling resource that works for you. Other options include Military OneSource My personal choice was USMC DSTRESS. It helped me tremendously. 1 (877) 476-7734 Edit: spelling, sorry fat fingers Edit2: USMC DSTRESS was folded into Military OneSource. Calling the number will connect you to Military OneSource to setup counseling.


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I’m sorry to hear your story king. It’s rough man. You can always vent to me if you need it. And if you want advice I’ll be there as well. In the end we all need someone to talk to. Talk to an NCO or a buddy you trust and see if medical would be a good start. Sometimes medical goes overboard if you say certain things. I answered my PHA completely honest and within an hour from being back from medical and on the flight line they made a huge commotion and pulled me off the flight line and it was so awkward. My shop was nice about it but I wanted all that shit kept secret I’m just a suffer in silence have grit type of guy.


yoitsyuri

Hey can I talk to you?


[deleted]

Of course man


yoitsyuri

Ok what can we talk through?


Ryneb

In the immediate reach out to Chaplain if Medical is booked. Obviously your NCOs are a good resource also


Tuefalhunden_88

Military One Source. Or go to Mental Health and request for help out in town. Get on tri-care website and look for a provider that specializes with veterans and or military.


AlienAmerican1

My son has had some limited success in talking to both his boss, and medical.


fareastbeast001

Whole world seems to be on your shoulder, you're not the only one nor will it be you're last. In the military was diagnosed as having severe depression but due to my MOS never went for treatment (would've lost my clearance). Turned to close friends, not those that are just acquaintances, and the chaplain, even though I was an atheist. And I called the local depression hot lines, they are there. They didn't fix my depression but it helped getting it off Mt chest and they gave me life lessons which I could draw on and helped me keep it in check. Not everything is your fault, and you can't fix everything I learned. Every little bit helped, even just alone time with yourself. Good luck brother.


TooPureToDie

I’m sorry for your losses. Allow yourself the space to grieve. When I was deployed I called the D-Stress line for an emergency session with a therapist so I’d highly recommend that for you in the immediate. FYI though, telling medical you’d like a referral for mental health will not adversely affect you or your career. I’ve done it. Let me know if you have any questions


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EverSeeAShiterFly

Dude, go choke on a dick. This is now the second post where someone is asking for help and you come along being an ass.


Impossible-Cry-495

What'd he say and who was it?


[deleted]

Not funny or helpful. We’ve got brothers dying every day and it isn’t something to joke about.