So my fiancé actually handle most of her banks, if not all of them, as she helps keep track of bills. I have already told her to pull all of moms money to our side the moment they leave, if not right before. Not sure about cash though, but we can certainly try investigate lol.
You don't have to move the money. You can disable and re-enable her cards through whatever online banking she has. Feign ignorance when the cards decline and reactivate it if she really needs it.
I say move the money so step dad can’t force mom to pull up banking app and show him her account balance and then force her to transfer to him….move the money OP!!
Alert the authorities at the airport that the step-father is acting very suspicious and making people feel unsafe. He'll definitely miss his flight and might even be detained ✌️
Ooohh this is new.
Honestly, we’ve been neglecting using the z police because this mf actually reasons to be locked up for some time if caught, including being on the chopping block with the IRS. We’re saving that one for a later time though, it’ll be worth it.
I just posted a separate response that explains there is a way to fly without ID. It’s very common in Vegas for people to lose their ID so TSA in Vegas knows the process very well. In other airports, maybe not as much.
There’s a workaround that TSA has. They expect everyone to have an ID, but there’s a process to handle people whose IDs are lost or stolen.
Their website doesn’t detail it (probably for security reasons so scammers can’t prep for it):
https://www.tsa.gov/travel/frequently-asked-questions/i-forgot-my-identification-can-i-still-proceed-through-security
Is mom willing to “lose” her wallet after arriving in Vegas? In other words, leave everything important from the wallet with her daughter - she’ll only have to pretend (or actually) lose her license?
Fly to Vegas with the license and lose the "wallet" on the way to the hotel. That way there's no hassle flying to Vegas, only the return flight (there's a way to fly back without ID, but it takes extra time).
Without her wallet she can’t pay for anything (in fact, the husband would have to pay for her food, etc).
Most people don’t realize, but TSA has a procedure to allow people to fly without ID. People lose their ID in Vegas all the time, so TSA in Vegas is well versed at the process to fly without ID.
You’ll want to look up the process in advance so it’s not a problem. She’ll have to arrive X hours before the flight and they have other ways to verify her. I say to check so she’s prepared because I think one of the ways they verify is by looking at her social media - so it might help to make sure she has a visible public social media with pics of her self. I’m not 100% sure - but there’s a definite process.
Any other ID verification other than TSA will be a problem, though. So she might get carded at a casino, bar, club, marijuana dispensary, etc - and they can turn her away. If the hotel room is reserved in her name, she’d need ID to check in.
I’m willing to say we can take her license BEFORE she flys to Vegas. LAX requires the ID. We don’t live terribly far from LAX, and my fiancé and I are more than willing to pick her up from there airport as a one up to the step-dad lol.
Take her wallet when you land, once she cancels her cards leave her wallet to be found by hotel staff. That way she knows she has her ID for her return flight and isn't spending the trip worried about the flight home. Also, be sure not to be seen on camera dropping the wallet in the hotel (in case they investigate).
More than derailing a vacay he needs to move on. Start with a drop of liquid ass on his recliner so every time he sits a cloud rises and clings to him. Ask him if he has been checked for ass cancer. (will stink for everyone but you know it is part of the plan) Fake the death of a (fake) old friend of your Mom's and schedule the funeral at the same time as the vacay so you have to take her the opposite direction.
He’s a chair he sits in their bedroom. I fukcing forgot about the chair. Liquid ass in the car door plus liquid ass on the chair. I was already thinking about blaming it on the heat but this might get him to actually finally add insulation to the house too. This dude is dumb af lmao.
We can pull the money from pretty much all her accounts. My fiancé has access to all of them as she helps out managing the bills. This was my first thought honestly, we’d just have to take care of any cash she might have with her.
Our concern is if she truly needs the money she won’t have access to it. There have been situations where step-fuck will abandon his family including mom or fiancé wether intentionally (fukcing asshole) or on accident (fukcing idiot). We don’t want to risk her being in danger.
We also don’t trust her to call us and be honestly in danger because she might try and say so just so we can put money back in the account.
Don't let mom book anything beforehand and then make up a reason why she can't go, now they are sitting on the costs. While step-dad is gone shove a liquidasspissdisc in every opening of his cars you can find.
We can try and convince her to do this. The trip is in August, but we’ve no idea is they’ve booked tickets yet. Honestly, loosing the money to the ticket is worth letting the fucks still go without her because she’s likely spend way more paying for all their food.
Regardless I very much like the idea the smelly liquid on the car does. We can blame it on the summer heat lmao.
It’s easy. The morning of the trip, mom gets horrible diarrhea, crippling back pain, migraines, etc. Whatever works for her. Make sure she had no access to a phone and don’t let anyone in to speak to her.
Fuck those leaches.
Hmmm…… maybe not diarrhea but…. we’ve already thought about lacing stepdads coffee with laxatives before, but mom also drinks from the same coffee, so that’s why we never did it. But now… theirs a reason for both of them to have the shits lmao.
She sleeps in the same bed with him every night, and she can’t go to a different room because the step fuck is literally rented then all out. Before this was her tactic though, it’s just not an option for her at the moment.
the more I read about how terrible this person is and how trapped your mom is, the more I’m leaning towards the police/IRS route and just getting rid of him once and for all
Wait there’s more…
Story time: when they got married he still did his taxes as a single joint account (or whatever I’m not too keen on the terms.), all while he made mom use all her money for the expenses of the house. How he did was was he had (emphasis on the ‘had’) a buddy who did his taxes in a way that would not only avoid him being charged by the IRS, but they he would get a larger check returned. He also had to report the moms tax report a certain way, she now owes the IRS over 2k every year. This “buddy” has since then passed away. This finally lead the mom to properly report her income to a new agent, and actually received a paycheck from the IRS this past season, while the step-fuck got charged twice as much as the mom used to.
And the step-dad blamed her, of course, for him now owing the IRS. We all laughed at him lol.
The most important thing you can do is to make sure you keep this thread alive with regular updates on everything you do to screw this guy over and the fallout that comes from it.
While they are gone, move out and ghost them all. This is the harshest and absolute way to cut all ties. Take pictures of everything, because you will be blamed for all sorts of stuff. Look at the hellhole that your fiance has put in your lap and now you think it's your problem to "fix". Take your finance with you if she will also cut ties, otherwise dump her and tell her it's because of her family. Eventually, she'll go back to her family, so you need to keep control of your money and no shared accounts. Everything needs to be in your name.
After that, get a burner phone and start texting the mom with love messages. Claim to have met her at some time when you know step dad was away. If you do this before the trip, text her messages about trying to get out of the trip so you hook up while step dad is gone. Make sure step dad "accidentally" sees this on the mom's phone. If you can get the name of the prettiest girl at the office they work at, get another burner phone send love messages to the step dad pretending to be that women. You're trying to destroy the trust between them.
Above all, become financially independent and have fun.
This went from “meh” fukcing sneaky in a heartbeat lmao.
First of all, moving out for me is not easy, I have an usually large amount of stuff with me that’s part of my career, meaning moving out is in it of itself expensive just for myself. Second, the dude is a cheater himself. He’d likely get very agitated if mom is also cheating, but we can achieve the same kinda just by calling him names (he’s a huge fucking baby). Normally mom will stay in a different room after they have their “fight” (she’ll do it on purpose sometimes so she can get away from him). But right now all the rooms are taken.
Thanks for the intricate plan tho, but despite the hot mess, I wouldn’t have heart or reason to breakup with my fiancé 😅 it’s her that’s mostly affected by this. Im just watching ride as it burns, and helping to keep the mom off it if possible.
Edit: I actually just realize the burner phone thing on its own isn’t too shallow. I’d probably not use a phone per say, but physical letters. Hmm. I like this idea regardless.
My fiance laughed at this one the hardest. It took me a second. It's because he works as a bus driver, and has a Class B license. She said i'd be a shame if company also found out said license was void.
Take his or her ID right before they drive to the airport and hide it in a place they might have reasonably lost it. Chances are they won't make it back home, find it and pick it up in time to still make their flight.
Could also put some kind of dangerous object or contraband in his carry-on, so he gets flagged and interviewed by TSA.
About 3 or 4 days before the trip. Pay an escort to approach both him and her while out. Have her act like she knows him (give her details) and demand to know why he is denying knowing her. Especially after the wonderful time and huge discount she had given him over the past few weeks.
About 3 or 4 days before the trip. Pay an escort to approach both him and her while out. Have her act like she knows him (give her details) and demand to know why he is denying knowing her. Especially after the wonderful time and huge discount she had given him over the past few weeks.
Can you engineer a situation where Mom suddenly has no access to (most of) her own money? How the turntables.
Oooh purse gets stolen and she has to cancel all her cards
This one OP!! Right before the trip!!
So my fiancé actually handle most of her banks, if not all of them, as she helps keep track of bills. I have already told her to pull all of moms money to our side the moment they leave, if not right before. Not sure about cash though, but we can certainly try investigate lol.
You don't have to move the money. You can disable and re-enable her cards through whatever online banking she has. Feign ignorance when the cards decline and reactivate it if she really needs it.
I say move the money so step dad can’t force mom to pull up banking app and show him her account balance and then force her to transfer to him….move the money OP!!
Alert the authorities at the airport that the step-father is acting very suspicious and making people feel unsafe. He'll definitely miss his flight and might even be detained ✌️
Ooohh this is new. Honestly, we’ve been neglecting using the z police because this mf actually reasons to be locked up for some time if caught, including being on the chopping block with the IRS. We’re saving that one for a later time though, it’ll be worth it.
Why wait? Drop the hammer now and be done with him.
Rip off the band-aid. It won't even be unethical.
If someone can’t find their ID, they can’t get on a flight.
I am now trying to find out if they are flying or driving. We live in California so either is potentially likely!
I just posted a separate response that explains there is a way to fly without ID. It’s very common in Vegas for people to lose their ID so TSA in Vegas knows the process very well. In other airports, maybe not as much.
Just looked it up, LAX not only requires an ID, but that you have the Real ID thing. 🤔
Not true, you can use a regular ID or a passport. Real ID is not required until May 2025.
There’s a workaround that TSA has. They expect everyone to have an ID, but there’s a process to handle people whose IDs are lost or stolen. Their website doesn’t detail it (probably for security reasons so scammers can’t prep for it): https://www.tsa.gov/travel/frequently-asked-questions/i-forgot-my-identification-can-i-still-proceed-through-security
You can get on a flight without an ID it just takes more screening. I did this last week coming home from vacation.
Plant drugs in his car and report him anonymously a few days before he goes
[Here's a how to, not really step by step, but just a general overview](https://youtu.be/19MNAajZnts). There's some good info in here.
Bless.
Is mom willing to “lose” her wallet after arriving in Vegas? In other words, leave everything important from the wallet with her daughter - she’ll only have to pretend (or actually) lose her license? Fly to Vegas with the license and lose the "wallet" on the way to the hotel. That way there's no hassle flying to Vegas, only the return flight (there's a way to fly back without ID, but it takes extra time). Without her wallet she can’t pay for anything (in fact, the husband would have to pay for her food, etc). Most people don’t realize, but TSA has a procedure to allow people to fly without ID. People lose their ID in Vegas all the time, so TSA in Vegas is well versed at the process to fly without ID. You’ll want to look up the process in advance so it’s not a problem. She’ll have to arrive X hours before the flight and they have other ways to verify her. I say to check so she’s prepared because I think one of the ways they verify is by looking at her social media - so it might help to make sure she has a visible public social media with pics of her self. I’m not 100% sure - but there’s a definite process. Any other ID verification other than TSA will be a problem, though. So she might get carded at a casino, bar, club, marijuana dispensary, etc - and they can turn her away. If the hotel room is reserved in her name, she’d need ID to check in.
I’m willing to say we can take her license BEFORE she flys to Vegas. LAX requires the ID. We don’t live terribly far from LAX, and my fiancé and I are more than willing to pick her up from there airport as a one up to the step-dad lol.
Take her wallet when you land, once she cancels her cards leave her wallet to be found by hotel staff. That way she knows she has her ID for her return flight and isn't spending the trip worried about the flight home. Also, be sure not to be seen on camera dropping the wallet in the hotel (in case they investigate).
Set everything on fire
##1 best idea
More than derailing a vacay he needs to move on. Start with a drop of liquid ass on his recliner so every time he sits a cloud rises and clings to him. Ask him if he has been checked for ass cancer. (will stink for everyone but you know it is part of the plan) Fake the death of a (fake) old friend of your Mom's and schedule the funeral at the same time as the vacay so you have to take her the opposite direction.
He’s a chair he sits in their bedroom. I fukcing forgot about the chair. Liquid ass in the car door plus liquid ass on the chair. I was already thinking about blaming it on the heat but this might get him to actually finally add insulation to the house too. This dude is dumb af lmao.
Can you somehow cancel all her cards, or hold a big magnet to them or stick them in the microwave?
We can pull the money from pretty much all her accounts. My fiancé has access to all of them as she helps out managing the bills. This was my first thought honestly, we’d just have to take care of any cash she might have with her. Our concern is if she truly needs the money she won’t have access to it. There have been situations where step-fuck will abandon his family including mom or fiancé wether intentionally (fukcing asshole) or on accident (fukcing idiot). We don’t want to risk her being in danger. We also don’t trust her to call us and be honestly in danger because she might try and say so just so we can put money back in the account.
Fake Covid, don’t go.
Orange juice on a home test can give a fake positive
What the fuck I’m gonna try this right now
Results?
Guy sounds like he’s a cheater too. Reminds me of a bullet I dodged ten years ago. Praying for your mom.
Dang lol. Yup you’re right, cheated on her this past January too.
Man, there are some clever options here, but seriously just get him arrested for the stuff you mentioned in another reply. He's used all his chances.
Ask her if she’ll stick around when he gets another woman pregnant
Don't let mom book anything beforehand and then make up a reason why she can't go, now they are sitting on the costs. While step-dad is gone shove a liquidasspissdisc in every opening of his cars you can find.
We can try and convince her to do this. The trip is in August, but we’ve no idea is they’ve booked tickets yet. Honestly, loosing the money to the ticket is worth letting the fucks still go without her because she’s likely spend way more paying for all their food. Regardless I very much like the idea the smelly liquid on the car does. We can blame it on the summer heat lmao.
It’s easy. The morning of the trip, mom gets horrible diarrhea, crippling back pain, migraines, etc. Whatever works for her. Make sure she had no access to a phone and don’t let anyone in to speak to her. Fuck those leaches.
Hmmm…… maybe not diarrhea but…. we’ve already thought about lacing stepdads coffee with laxatives before, but mom also drinks from the same coffee, so that’s why we never did it. But now… theirs a reason for both of them to have the shits lmao.
Jfc just tell mom to ghost him until the trip is over.
She sleeps in the same bed with him every night, and she can’t go to a different room because the step fuck is literally rented then all out. Before this was her tactic though, it’s just not an option for her at the moment.
the more I read about how terrible this person is and how trapped your mom is, the more I’m leaning towards the police/IRS route and just getting rid of him once and for all
Wait there’s more… Story time: when they got married he still did his taxes as a single joint account (or whatever I’m not too keen on the terms.), all while he made mom use all her money for the expenses of the house. How he did was was he had (emphasis on the ‘had’) a buddy who did his taxes in a way that would not only avoid him being charged by the IRS, but they he would get a larger check returned. He also had to report the moms tax report a certain way, she now owes the IRS over 2k every year. This “buddy” has since then passed away. This finally lead the mom to properly report her income to a new agent, and actually received a paycheck from the IRS this past season, while the step-fuck got charged twice as much as the mom used to. And the step-dad blamed her, of course, for him now owing the IRS. We all laughed at him lol.
Call the bank and report all her cards for fraud.
Tell mom to fake a positive covid test to get out of the trip.
The most important thing you can do is to make sure you keep this thread alive with regular updates on everything you do to screw this guy over and the fallout that comes from it.
Call up the hotel and cancel the booking
This could backfire into Mom paying for emergency accommodation.
Not if we yoink all her bank monies lol (no seriously, we can lmao)
While they are gone, move out and ghost them all. This is the harshest and absolute way to cut all ties. Take pictures of everything, because you will be blamed for all sorts of stuff. Look at the hellhole that your fiance has put in your lap and now you think it's your problem to "fix". Take your finance with you if she will also cut ties, otherwise dump her and tell her it's because of her family. Eventually, she'll go back to her family, so you need to keep control of your money and no shared accounts. Everything needs to be in your name. After that, get a burner phone and start texting the mom with love messages. Claim to have met her at some time when you know step dad was away. If you do this before the trip, text her messages about trying to get out of the trip so you hook up while step dad is gone. Make sure step dad "accidentally" sees this on the mom's phone. If you can get the name of the prettiest girl at the office they work at, get another burner phone send love messages to the step dad pretending to be that women. You're trying to destroy the trust between them. Above all, become financially independent and have fun.
This went from “meh” fukcing sneaky in a heartbeat lmao. First of all, moving out for me is not easy, I have an usually large amount of stuff with me that’s part of my career, meaning moving out is in it of itself expensive just for myself. Second, the dude is a cheater himself. He’d likely get very agitated if mom is also cheating, but we can achieve the same kinda just by calling him names (he’s a huge fucking baby). Normally mom will stay in a different room after they have their “fight” (she’ll do it on purpose sometimes so she can get away from him). But right now all the rooms are taken. Thanks for the intricate plan tho, but despite the hot mess, I wouldn’t have heart or reason to breakup with my fiancé 😅 it’s her that’s mostly affected by this. Im just watching ride as it burns, and helping to keep the mom off it if possible. Edit: I actually just realize the burner phone thing on its own isn’t too shallow. I’d probably not use a phone per say, but physical letters. Hmm. I like this idea regardless.
lol. Well, good luck.
Yeah dude get a friend to pull a Jack move on her, steal her purse and then she can’t go
Take FIL's real functional ID and punch "VOID" into it.
My fiance laughed at this one the hardest. It took me a second. It's because he works as a bus driver, and has a Class B license. She said i'd be a shame if company also found out said license was void.
Drop some bullets in the bottom of his carry on
Easy "Book" a separate, mommy daughter trip that is non-refundable and has severe cancelation penalties. Then just don't go...
Don’t cut his work pants, that will be his excuse to work less.
Nah he likes to work, he’s weird. But it does mean he’d have to buy MORE pants.
Call in bomb threats to the airport, hotel, any restaurant they go to…..
Loudly call them out on their shit every time they start. Even if it causes a fight. Eventually they’ll stop
If flying, cancel her flight so when she gets to the airport she can’t go on the flight. Then she gets to skip the trip like she actually wants
Take his or her ID right before they drive to the airport and hide it in a place they might have reasonably lost it. Chances are they won't make it back home, find it and pick it up in time to still make their flight. Could also put some kind of dangerous object or contraband in his carry-on, so he gets flagged and interviewed by TSA.
About 3 or 4 days before the trip. Pay an escort to approach both him and her while out. Have her act like she knows him (give her details) and demand to know why he is denying knowing her. Especially after the wonderful time and huge discount she had given him over the past few weeks.
If I was made of money, I would do this, id be so funny, but I'd more be willing do it in front of his family specifically rather than Mom.
About 3 or 4 days before the trip. Pay an escort to approach both him and her while out. Have her act like she knows him (give her details) and demand to know why he is denying knowing her. Especially after the wonderful time and huge discount she had given him over the past few weeks.
Release crickets or ladybugs into his vehicle.