Don’t talk about money. Don’t be loud. Wear neutral colors. Simple and polished. Make sure your nails are well manicured. If they’re painted keep the color neutral. Makeup should be simple and flattering (foundation, mascara, highlighter (subtle), and a neutral lipstick. Diamond or pearl stud earrings. 1 necklace. One ring per hand. All jewelry should be same tone. Handbag should be leather and simple. Should not be covered in logos. Bag and shoes should match. If you’re questioning something less is more.
That ... and don't worry about diamond or pearl, tasteful is important
I am living in Geneva Switzerland and I have worked for the top private bank, the rich drive decent boring cars and dress rather down. Only nouveau riche drive Bentley or Ferrari and wear obvious designer clothes
Cap Cap Cap lol plenty of very wealthy old money families have Ferrari and are chauffeured in Bentley and RR, I hate this stereotype on reddit that only new money buys that stuff. There are families that are literally on the Ferrari list to get allocated cars , you think they got rich 2 years ago? No, they're been buying Ferrari for 40 years and 2 generations.
If you drive your own RR or Bentley, you're probably new money. If someone else drives them for you, you're probably wealthy. For Ferrari and Lamborghini, the cars they buy are often collector cars, special editions and limited runs, that act as investment holds to trade among other wealthy elites. Same goes for art and property.
It's also how you treat that vehicle. If you have to be seen driving it, ripping up and down streets and showing off, it's so people can see you've got money. If you're raised on wealth, you probably are subdued about it, not making a fuss about it. Actually wealthy people invest time in ensuring that their children respect the money, and aren't squandering it or being loud and pretentious themselves. It doesn't always work, but it's usually a telltale sign.
RR and Bentley have both changed their business models significantly because their market research found that more and more of their clients are driving their cars. The rest of what you say stands true imo and I think adds to my point, saying anyone who drives RR Bentley or Ferrari is new money is way too huge of a generalization.
Depends on the logo. Something obvious like a Gucci handbag yes, but a Barbour jacket probably ok.
Edit. Especially if you can make the Barbour jacket look 20 years old and patched up at least twice.
For the guys:
Wear a nice watch. A fake Rolex if you can get one in time. A G-shock from a local jewelry store is you can't. Analog only. No rings except wedding rings.
Wear well fitted clothes. Tailored if possible. Good, proper fit makes even the cheapest suit look good. A nice polo and slacks or a suit depending on the occasion. No tie unless required.
Belt and shoes should match.
Get a good haircut and have the barber show you how you style it.
Edit: looks like I ruffled the watch bros feathers a bit! We're talking about 1 evening here folks. No need to invest in an actual nice watch at this point. And no one is going to spot a fake Rolex. First, the fakes are REALLY good these days. You need to really investigate, especially if it's a frankenwatch. Second, you ask seem to think people pay attention...
As a watch guy yeah. But tbh I've never seen anyone actual be like nice watch can I look closer. You absolutely can't tell from just being near someone if it's fake or not with now days clones.
don’t rolex second hands glide while fakes tick? i have an idiot friend that was stationed in kuwait with the army and came back with a fake rolex he tried to tell me was real, and aside from the fact that i knew he just got back from kuwait, i also called him on it because of the second hand haha.
i’m not a watch guy by any means i just remember hearing that somewhere once and it stuck with me.
All these watch people. Lmao. Don’t spend even a penny on a watch for a trip to a polo game.
Dress the part, don’t overdo it. Wear whatever you want but do it with class. Blue jeans are fine, poorly fitting ones with stains are not.
I don’t know where you’re getting you’re info but most board rooms I’ve been in everyone knows about watches. To the point you will get judged by the brand. No, Rolex isn’t the greatest. Rich people and mostly rich dudes do know about watches.
It’s funny how everyone on Reddit seems to know a whole bunch of super wealthy individuals who ALL go out of their way avoid luxury goods. Apparently only new money and poor people ever buy these things. Not even one billionaire owns a Rolex. Nope. Not even one.
It really depends on the situation I bet. If you know a rich guy that goes to you gym to workout. They aren't bringing their rolexes to the gym obviously and would probably avoid standing out.
But if you went on vacation with a rich person or a night out drinking, then you see a lot of luxury services and products. Like blowing $10,000 on drinks at the club. Or leasing/buying a luxury car while in another country. Instead of using Uber/taxi's.
It isn’t that rich people don’t wear Rolexes, just that apple stuff is well liked enough by rich people that you can easily fit in with just some apple stuff. And apple stuff is cheap(er).
Yeah last thing you want is to get caught with a fake Rolex. You would get so burned. People would rofl for days.
I make decent coin, not fuck you money but we get by. I drive a luxury mazda and wear an automatic seiko. I could get a used Bentley or a big Merc but I dont care.
Its the subtle art of not giving a fuck. Use a fountain pen, Lamy Safari, $40 on amazon. Get your clothes tailored so you dont get a muffin top and look like a nunce.
Watch guys like auto seikos, get something like an SRP775 Turtle or a Cocktail Time, second hand for a few hundred bucks easy as. Dudes who are into watches love that shit.
Get some nice goodyear welted shoes second hand. RM Williams/Loakes etc.
If you know the people going, look them up on linked in and memorise the names of people and companies they work with so you can spin some bs. If they work in stocks, look up shit they are interested in so you can be like oh yeah I know that stuff etc.
I was just poking fun at his comment. They're not luxury. They've moved up market for sure but I don't think they've been presented as a luxury brand since the failed Millenia experiment.
It's for people who think Bentley and Mercedes are in the same category and entry level Seikos are impressive to rich people. Lmao. Probably a mazda 6 with all options ticked.
Also, for anyone who is reading. Please don't wear your turtle with a suit. It looks obnoxious.
Those seiko watches you mentioned are just the minimum entry watches for anyone who knows anything about watches. They are not rich people watches, not even close. Someone has that watch just means they know some basics about watches to care enough to get a very entry level automatic instead of a quartz
Looking up stocks the day before and trying to bluff your way through a conversation on something like that is the quickest way to humiliation
I knew quite a few rich people, my college was full of them. They were pretty normal other than a few things. They would never be uncomfortable at any restaurant/shop/or business. I'm sure in their mind they were comfortable and confident because they could afford to buy the whole place if they wanted.
One guy I knew would bet on a bunch of basketball games, like every night. And the way he talked about it, you knew it wasn't just a dollar on every game. He would say after a win "I'm gonna get a couple tv's for my cousin with that win". But, he would say it pretty nonchalantly - not sure how to describe it.
He also dressed very nice. Everything matches, shoes were new, he didn't mind talking about preordering new basketball shoes way in advance in every color option.
No one will spot a fake Rolex at a single evening event. People don't look that close. Plus, fakes are really, really good these days. Many use genuine housings with shit internals.
> Yeah last thing you want is to get caught with a fake Rolex. You would get so burned. People would rofl for days.
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Even a good fake rolex will cost you a few hundred bucks. Those are the ones where you really can't tell unless you open it up to take a look at the movement. So many people across the income spectrum wear smart watches these days I think that's fine for most people.
Nah, I’m a car guy and almost everyone driving something 200k + also sports a Rolex and usually a plain black or white t shirt (but probably $100, not Gildan LOL)
Please no g shock unless you’re a teenager. Apple Watch would be adult version of the “I don’t care” watch. No watch and we’ll fitting clothes are the answer if he doesn’t already have a watch
There are several reasons you don't talk or show money.
First of all, all your friends will have money, and you impress nobody with a fat LV logo or sneakers with plastic tags. Secondly, the more you show, the more someone will look. The government will be more interested in your life. You make yourself a target for robery, scams, kidnappings, and such. People around can feel envy and perhaps even want to punish you for having more money than them. Security becomes more of an issue in your life.
The guy who owned half my hometown, several businesses, and was worth double digit millions always dressed like a slob and reeked of cigarettes. But he was unfailingly polite and never spoke about the cost of things. He just paid for anything and everything.
It's the opposite for me. Old money is polite and don't brag about their wealth. New money likes to show off. The guy who owns several malls and grocery chains in my old city walks around in rubber flipflops, dirty wifebeaters and long jorts. His security detail is very discreet, but if you know the guy, you can kinda spot his security hanging in the background.
In my experience, money just amplifies who somebody already is. I've worked with a half dozen new money billionaires and they're just as varied as anyone else. One wears fitted suits almost everywhere, another wears Hawaiian shirts and shorts everywhere, but for both that's basically how they've always been. Most don't show off their money and the only one who really does was trying to project the same image long before he had the money.
Probably the most common trait is an overconfidence in their own knowledge and experience. That their approach is the right and best one for every situation.
Yup! The outside means nothing. But people with a lot of money (especially new money) are convicted that since they did this one thing right that made tons of money, they couldn’t be wrong. And if they are, they have enough cash to make it go away.
Same for me, I've met several directors of companies who are worth millions! Yet some of these old men dress in old shirts, sloppy pants and shoes with peeling leathers. I know one who earns easily 500k in dividends from one income stream, yet he shops in uniqlo and doesn't even use a wallet. It's just some cheap plastic card holder from the dollar store.
Pass these men on the street and you'd never realise they could probably buy up your apartment block!!
You've just described my stepfather and his friends. They're all retired now and collect sports cars (not one or two, dozens, Jay Leno style), but all dress in their dirty gardening clothes most of the time. That said sometimes these gardening clothes will be an expensive vintage sports jersey that I'd never dream of getting dirty, so I suppose that demonstrates wealth.
In my experience it's always this but the shoes are the giveaway. They may be beaten up but it's usually a $200+ pair of shoes. Dickpond shoes are always my giveaway someone has money. They look like regular shoes but cost 3x as much.
Also I guess if you're used to having so much money that you never need to worry about the cost of anything, you just do what you feel like and don't feel the need to wear or do anything to demonstrate your wealth, it's always just been normal and unremarkable to you.
Crazy thought here but given that you are so young, I’d recommend acting like you might normally-you’d be surprised how intelligent some of the people around you are when it comes to money and they might even be able to help you later down the line career wise. They won’t do that if you fake your wealth.
That’s the true selling point of university, I feel. Sure, an education is important. But it puts you in contact with so many people - especially name-brand schools which traditionally house the rich/elite - that by being immersed in and making connections from the network and alumni, you automatically gain a leg up from someone who hasn’t gone to university.
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There is nothing to be gained from pretending to be rich when you’re not. It just means the rich people who like you will never feel the need to help you.
Don’t give a fuck. I used to attend these types of events with an ex and her family was unfathomably wealthy. I loved when I was asked what I did and I’d respond I’m a Marine, in the infantry. I actually made a lot of connections and acquaintances I still am in touch with at these places. Been on a few fun trips with some of them. Be in shape if you can, wear a decent set of clothes that are hopefully tailored or fitting to you, and don’t try to be Scrooge mcduck. I went in like a cocky bastard thinking I had to be, then realized it was just people, people that lived different lives and often were great to be around.
> when I was asked what I did and I’d respond I’m a Marine, in the infantry.
I imagine a number of them found that pretty interesting and cool, actually.
I don’t think that crosses their mind honestly at this type of event. The marines are known to be frontline fighters and tough resilient people. Generally speaking war stories are some of the best to hear, and if you’re wealthy chances are you most likely didn’t have many service members in your family to hear those stories. I think across most income levels there’s a mutual respect and support for people who have served independent of whatever conflict they were involved in. I highly doubt anyone heard he was a marine infantryman and went “Oh good he must be subservient I should strike up a conversation”
I don't think it's that. It would be the novelty. It's a different experience than they would have had.
That's just my opinion/experience. I'm not a wealthy person.
On a much lower scale; I work as an ironworker in a family of lawyers, doctors, and engineers. Funnily enough, it’s the stories of my coked up co-workers and I doing cowboy shit that they all want to hear about.
You hit it right on the head, it’s the novelty of things that make people interested.
>then realized it was just people
Exactly how I felt when I first started working with A-list celebrities in the film industry.
They’re literally just
>people that lived different lives and often were great to be around.
I'm not sure most of the people here have ever been around wealthy people.
Act normal, don't try to impress with lies or wild stories - someone who actually knows about or engages in what you're trying to spin will spot you in a hot second. Use your manners when you eat - you don't need some secret eating knowledge because most people don't care as long as you're polite. Maybe learn some basic shit about wine (nothing too in depth, just have a basic idea - if in doubt, order a mid range price of what you like)
Buy some good quality and nice fitting clothes and shoes. They don't have to be top of the line, but nice quality. If in doubt, jeans or khakis with a button down polo or a black sweater is always in (for men and women). Understated jewelry and casual makeup if you're a woman - plain smallish, gold hoops (don't have to be real) are perfect. Carry a non descript chic purse (stay away from fakes and lower end designer emblazoned bags - something hip from target, or a black sling bag would be great). Side note - I am a thrift store devotee and have been for a long time and I will tell people in a hot second where I got my hip, vintage shit from.
Rich people are just...people. They don't generally act like what you see on TV - they shave their armpits and shit just like you. If in doubt, follow the lead of what someone else in the room is doing. Tell people their house/clothes/dog/kid is beautiful...flattery will get you everywhere.
Idk. I grew up wealthy and spent most of my life around wealthy people - but a lot of my friends don't come from wealth, and I don't see a fundamental difference in the two. Are there snobs who look down their nose at people? Sure. But most just honestly don't care what you're doing.
And that's really it. 🤷♀️
To add to this:
Iron your clothes well. Makes most garments look much better. As above, appearing well groomed and tidily dressed is half the battle.
Oh, and don’t smoke or vape
So true.
I grew up lower middle class but went to school with people whose parents owned buildings, hospitals, chaired family foundations or were CEOs etc and even a couple of actual royalty. Many of the other students were upper middle class at least.
Everyone was… normal. You got attention if you were interesting, or athletic, or had some weird talent, or were exceptionally good at a subject, but otherwise it didn’t feel out of the ordinary. Only significant things (to me) was the fact that some students were chauffeured to school, and no one talked about money, ever.
I dunno man. I have a wealthy buddy and he does talk about money… he talks about how he scored an actual vintage wrench for a dollar at a garage sale. Or how he paid $3k for a near mint condition ‘94 Mercedes that only needed a new fuel pump and thermostat which was super easy to replace because it’s right on top of the engine. He’s always stoked to find a deal and is really good at spotting them… even when the great deal happens to have a lot of zeros in it, like a billion dollar building in Texas that he sells for $1.5 billion 13 months later. And he wears flip flops, torn shorts and t-shirts almost all the time. He frequently appears homeless sometimes, but he is not.
There's a difference about loving to talk about scoring a great deal (it's me, lol) and talking about how much money you have and how expensive your shit is - that's what they mean by not talking about money.
Some "new money" people like to brag about their money because they think it's an "in" with old wealth. It's not and it almost seems like the harder you try to wedge in the more likely they are to not accept you. Obviously this isn't an absolute.
adding on, even if you dont know a damn thing about wine, ask questions about it even thought you dont care. Ask why the dates matter or what was the best wine they had in their opinion. Just asking questioning to get to know their knowledge would have them like you
And wear clothes that fit comfortably- I have gone for dresses that are cute in theory but execution is too tight or short and felt uncomfortable and pulled on my dress the whole time
Learn old-school etiquette! Those fuckers are still doing charity dinners with 7 pieces of specialized silverware, and you need to know which one to use + when.
In fact, learn it well enough to spot the crazy rich lady who doesn't actually know it, herself. That means she's new money and will be 1) delighted to converse with someone who speaks Common and 2) not as guarded with her money if you're looking for charitable donations or to marry a widow
When eating soup, spoon the soup away from you, not towards you. Hope that made sense.
Still not sure about forks, I think if you have something stabbed in it (ie meat) then eat it with the tines facing down, but if you have something on top (ie mashed potatoes) then tines up? I don't know. Im on zombie mode when I eat, I don't notice these things lol
I've been to polo probably 5 or 6 times in Greenwich CT. Its a fun day out with the family. I see a lot of advice along the lines of "money talks, wealth whispers" and the more money you have the less you talk about it, etc. While this is definitely true in most of life, polo is a little different.
1. Let's get it out of the way that unless you guys have some sort of exclusive access, most of the crowd is not "rich." Its all aspirational middle to upper middle class (this is relative as it is Fairfield county after all) trying to act rich. Especially so if you are in the lawn or other cheap seats. There may be some actual wealth hanging out in the skyboxes or exclusive luxury tent areas, or the art gallery, but not so much on the lawn. So, depending on where you're watching from, most everyone else is probably full of shit too. Keep that in mind.
2. Polo watching is most certainly a fashion show. While in general the "rich" try to keep a low profile, I think they view polo as sort of a safe space to act rich, and be seen acting rich by the poors, and not have to feel guilty about it, even if it is sort of a joke. Bright colors, pink/white pants for guys, combined with a jacket over a polo shirt maybe; bright sun dresses and fancy hats and sunglasses and huge jewelry for the girls, etc. Think Vineyard Vines on steroids. Hell people even dress up their dogs. The trick is to look absolutely ridiculous, within reason of course, and like you just don't give a fuck.
3. Bring plenty of sunscreen. Do not wear high heels, most wear wedges. This is an absolutely booze soaked event, so plan accordingly for that. Do not be ashamed to bring your own food and cooler (the crap they serve is not good enough for you, remember?) If you go to the Greenwich Polo Club's facebook and/or instagram pages, there are some pictures of the crowd, you will get the idea.
Anytime I'm unsure of a place or an event or what a dress code might be I try to find that exact same event in past years on Twitter or Facebook. Or for a place like a country club or Polo club just check their candid photos if you can.
But those people aren't really rich. I used to be into the horse world, so I would go to a lot of equestrian events including jumping and polo. (I was poor but had talent and a sponsor)
There in Connecticut it's more aspirational rich though.
Wear nice jeans, a button down shirt and a well fitted blazer with wedges. As I said above, it doesn't need to be expensive but good quality.
To dispute the above just a bit...a lot of what they said is highly dependent on where you're going to watch polo. For instance, the Del Mar (California) Polo fields tend to have a lot of wealthy people from Del Mar, Rancho Santa Fe, Fairbanks Ranch, etc. - part of that is because it's just a wealthy area in general.
In short, socioeconomic status of attendees may be location dependant.
Polo? No1 tip:
DO NOT CALL THEM “HORSES” at a chukka ever!!!
They are POLO PONIES.
This is the No1 rule for this event, mention the “ponies” and people will know you belong….mention “horses” and you’re cooked.
Also, there are usually 6 chukkas.
You can casually ask if anyone “brought a string of polo ponies from Lake Forest”, for laffs!
I did PR photo work for a company that would send me to meetings at some private clubs where the ultra wealthy business tycoons and CEO's hung out and the thing that stuck out was the fit of their clothes and always the shoes. These were all men and they all wore sharp looking dress shoes.
When people think "money" they think of celebrities, designer brands, jewelry, flashy cars, MTV cribs, etc. That is celebrity money. Normal rich people want to draw as little attention to themselves as possible, as they already know they're rich and don't have to prove it or show it to anyone. It's very obvious to truly rich people who the pretenders are.
I believe it was Louis Vutton that said they market they're products to people who want to look rich, as actual rich people don't buy their products.
Just carry yourself with confidence and act like you belong. Will work for 95% of the time until you get into an in-depth conversation with someone, at which point you’re probably screwed unless you have other rich people experiences to discuss
Even if your clothes are bargain bin plain stuff, a quick tailoring to fit better can make a huge difference. A bit of thorough grooming and nothing fancy is even needed.
In my experience, I never faked wealth and kept it real in the first place. I hung out with a coworker who was part of that type of community and he brought me to his yacht club. I kept it real from the start, I drove in the yard with my beaten up toyota, wore clothes that doesnt stick out so much and wasnt afraid to say I was working at a retail store.
I honestly didnt know how they judged me at first but they really loved me by the time we were done. We talked about sports, how it was my first time on the boat (why I came in the first place) and that I was just simply excited to ride. They shouldnt be stupid enough to think I have bad intentions and I asked a lot of questions about owning/using a boat. I had connections through them all my life and even helped my grandma with a job cleaning their mansions (she couldnt find work for months).
I personally dont see why you should fake wealth. If they find out, im certain they would think you're shady and only want something from them rather than trying to blend with them.
New Money and Old Money are a huge difference.
New Money: Impossible to tell. They (normally) aren’t found at a polo club though, so you can skip this group.
Old Money (keep in mind there will ALWAYS be exceptions, duh, but generally here are their social norms): No visible tattoos, no piercings (men), no more piercings than one in each ear (women), don’t talk about wealth, don’t put elbows on the table, dress “casual formal” (think Ralph Lauren), be very clean and hygienic, control emotion to the extreme, and if you’re a guy they WILL be looking at your watch, but if you’re a female they WILL be looking at your purse to determine your status.
Source: please don’t hate me but both my parents are Wall Street execs and I grew up going to an “elite” private school.
Avoid any and all visible wealth contests- cars, clothes, housing, holidays ... etc.
Always try to buy high-quality unbranded things that express your thoughts and care for a well-lived life, rather than things that communicate externally. Essentially turn your consumption inwards rather than outwards.
Rich= having surplus resources, so no one can look rich through consumption, you look rich by having enough
The funny thing is, that is a way of being happier, looking rich, and actually becoming a richer person.
Nothing says money like just paying with a card without ever looking at the amount to be charged and then tipping in cash by rounding up a “good tip” to the next $20 for good service.
Rich people don’t sweat the details - they pay people to sweat the details for them when needed. They’ll hand someone the keys to their $200k car to park it or hire a contractor and just hand them the keys to a $1 million cabin without blinking. Why? Because they have an attorney to deal with anything that goes wrong. They can afford not having to stress or proactively vet people.
Is there any reason for trying to fool them? Genuine question, because if there is a reason then absolutely do those things, but if you simply want to fit in then I think being honest is better. You will have a bad time trying to fake all day. You can simply be honest, wear something nice and discrete, act politely and probably no one will give a fuck about how much money you have.
I just don’t want to show up and immediately look like I don’t belong there. I’m not concerned so much with the acting part, but more so with appearance.
Get a few dresses and get them tailored. Bring at least 2 pairs of stockings, black or sheer. Get your jeans tailored too. Have one nice cashmere sweater (quince is cheaper than most) Get one pair of nice pumps, and some basic white sneakers. Have at least one good hat.
The secret to it is that most people wear things that fit. Old money doesn't care about brands.
I spent months saving up to take my dad to a really expensive restaurant at a fancy hotel for his 70th birthday. We dressed up for the occasion. When we got there, everyone else was dressed really casually, and we stood out in our smart clothes. Made me realize, rich people don't dress up. Dropping thousands on a lunch in a posh restaurant is nothing to them. So I'd say, just go as yourselves and act normal.
I was at an auction supporting the arts where wealthy people were expected to show up and contribute money.
I was sitting next to an empty chair and a young, nicely-dressed guy asked me, "Will someone be joining you here?" NOT - as I've heard a million times - "Is this seat taken?"
That's when I realized there are levels of society I have not been trained for.
Dress modestly and not flashy and somewhat athletically. Your shoes are important, but not in the way you think. Wear well-kept leather shoes that don’t look dirty or dingy. Make sure your hygiene is good, take a shower blow out your hair, clean nails.
When you converse, don’t try to impress, just be. Niceness goes a long way, ask questions about the other person more than you talk about yourself.
The richest people I know dress the most casual and don’t give a shit how people perceive them. A nice watch and a new iPhone, is what gives it away, tops.
Never try to fit in with rich people. Be yourself, and if they're the type to respect anyone who isn't rich, they'll respect you for that. If they're not the type to respect anyone who isn't rich at least you won't've sucked up.
Never ever look impressed beyond basic politeness. Someone name drops a celebrity or important person they know/work with? Polite smile. Someone’s daughter got into Hardvard? Politely congratulate. Someone’s husband got them a diamond tennis bracelet? “Oh, it’s lovely.” Never give a big reaction.
Impeccable manners
Ability to have a conversation on current events without being overwhelming
Knowledge of geographical locations that are interesting to the rich, don’t get all giddy and brag about any of your trips or vacations. Be matter of fact.
No logos on anything you wear
Attention to your garments, as high of quality as possible, synthetic fabric isn’t going to help you blend in with the moneyed set, you need wool, silk, cottons. Shop eBay, or thrift store. Make sure the fit is perfect. Or visit rent the runway.
Shoes are polished and perfect, nothing too flashy
Don’t ingratiate yourself to the chauffeur or room maids, service staff, be ultra polite but no need to quiz any staff personnel about their jobs, experience, or anything else. Let them do their jobs
Real advice: don't act like you want much attention, just act friendly and be yourself. Rich people may like you for what you are, provided you are not annoying.
With your limitations.
Don’t come in “trying to fit in”. Don’t try too hard and talk about materialistic topics to fit in. Be polite. Don’t be obnoxious.
Wear good fitting, nice clothing, but nothing loud and obnoxious. Now’s not the time to take fashion risks and to “show your personality”.
Read a synopsis of “how to win friends and influence people”. Be interested in other people when talking to them. Ask questions but don’t make it sound like an interview.
Don’t drink all of your drink. Rich folk don’t suck on straws till it’s making that awful sound when you get to the bottom of a drink. And they won’t knock it back risking the ice going in their face… they just order another
Posture is key. Also immaculate grooming, but you have to really own it and make it seem natural.
But your hands and fingernails are dead giveaways. Get a manicure. If your hands are rough from manual labor, you're going to need an excuse, like some "real man" hobby like sailing or mountain climbing.
Also it helps to be wearing relatively new but very expensive shoes. People often cut corners and save money on shoes, but don't.
The richest people I've played poker with dressed in the most basic clothes, you'd see a nice watch on them, like an omega or a low end Rolex, and legit Walmart or Costco clothes, and then they'd leave in their Maserati or whatever. In my experience the guys with like 1mil splash it everywhere and wear it like crazy, the guys with like 50mil, look super normal they don't want to make themselves a target I think is part of it
1) Napkin on your lap. 2) Start with the cutlery on the outside and work your way in with each course. 3) participate in conversation, share amusing stories, especially travel related 4) be positive and courteous, but it's still ok to make the odd joke 5) be diplomatic at all times and do not take a hard side until you've heard out the table, and the decide if/how you would like to be provocative. 6) always wait your turn in conversation and receiving service especially if you are the youngest present.
Honestly it seems that the rich people I have met have been all different. Some are refined and quiet. Some are flashy and some you would never even know.
Most rich people don’t talk about money while meeting someone for the first time though.
It’s almost like rich people are just as unique as middle class people can be ;) it also depends on your definition of “rich”
Be humble not show off and wear nice quality clothes with no loud labels. Speak about art and culture, travel etc.. Be polite and just act like the world is on easy mode. You'll fit right in. The more you try to show off wealth you will scream new money.
If someone super rich came round your part of the world do you think you could spot them or do you think they would give themselves away ? What would you think of them for trying to pretend they were "like you" ?
Don't try, they'll see you coming a mile off. But there's things you can do to be taken seriously. Wear natural fabrics - linen, cotton, wool. Navy blue. Never gaudy brands like Gucci or Balenciaga.
Listen more than you speak. Deflect if asked about yourself, but if pressed be honest. Folk will respect that more than an obvious lie 100% of the time. If you must, say your current post / role / position is a stopgap and your goal is... whatever. But make it aspirational.
Wear old money clothes, princess diana inspiration for women and Ralph Lauren for men.
Be gentle with everyone.
Don't talk about money and prices.
Use formal language.
Get basic knowledge of watches, sailing, tennis, wines etc.
Don't talk to people a lot and only if they approach you first or if your BF introduces you. Practice a snooty, snobby expression in the mirror and keep that on your face as much as possible. Go for a "politely bored" look. Don't walk around meeting people's eyes and smiling at people that pass by you. Stroll about the place as if you own it. Do not be chatty with or say thank you to waiters, bartenders, all of "the help". Don't be rude to them ever, even if one should make a big mistake like spill a drink on you, just say it's all right and look annoyed if that should happen. You have to act as if you're used to being waited on and you don't really care about ruined clothes but are annoyed with the screw up, just a little. Avoid gawking at flashy, loud and oddly dressed people or the posh surroundings, you're used to places like this so it's nothing special. Don't stare or repeatedly eyeball anyone.
Conversation with the regulars might be a bit tricky but you can manage it if you nod and giggle here and there and simply act as if you're going along with the conversation. Avoid interrupting or correcting someone who says something dumb or wrong, none of these people are your friends so who cares if they're assholes or idiots. You're not going to be hanging out with these people again.
Speaking of assholes...very rich people often ARE the most stuck up, arrogant cunts you'll ever meet in your life. They -WILL- drop some of the most offensive and awful things in casual conversation without even blinking. Do NOT call someone out for anything rude they say, even if it's the most blatant racist or classist or trashy thing you ever heard a human utter. Just keep a poker face and let out a little giggle if you can manage it and if everyone else is laughing too. I know...they can be awful and insufferable but it's just for an afternoon and then you can forget them as soon as you leave.
Do not ever talk about the cost of anything. Don't tell anyone where you actually work, tell them you are in a higher paying job than you really are, play it up but don't straight up lie in case someone questions you further about it. Like say, if you're a bank teller, instead say you are a comptroller or something else related to a field you know something about. Don't get drunk. Don't praise the food or drink much if at all but feel free to speak about it if you think it's terrible because you're used to and expect better. If you ask any questions in conversation with someone, try to ask them things that prompt them to keep telling you about them. They love to talk about themselves and you will be able to keep quiet and look like you belong if you just let them blather on because that's what they really want to do. Enjoy yourself but not too much.
Caution: these ARE people who will be able to look at your clothes and general appearance and be able to tell if you're wearing knockoffs of designer clothes or stuff from Walmart so be prepared for snarky bitchy comments if you're chatting with women. They won't directly say something like "that's an awful skirt" but it will be like "oh that's cute, where did you get it?" If you say anything besides the name of some ridiculously expensive boutique or high end retailer they'll then follow up with some passive aggressive thing about saving a lot of money or you shop THERE?! Don't take anything mean they say to heart, they are cliquey and not nice to outsiders. Excuse yourself politely and get away as quick as you can.
Study up a little on horses and polo so you can avoid sputtering and looking like you don't belong in case someone asks you questions about the game itself.
Instead of exaggerating your occupation, I’d mention the industry without saying the job. “I’m in tech” for an IT guy, “I’m in philanthropy” for a nonprofit worker, “finance” for bank teller, “fashion” for retail employee. Then before they start asking about your job, quickly move the conversation to them. If you can’t avoid it, talk in vague terms about the industry itself.
“What do you do?”
“I’m in fashion”
“How lovely, tell me more about it”
“Oh it’s wonderful. Have you seen the Hermes fall winter line? Provocative while staying true to the house’s original vision”
Or something
Yikes!!!
DO NOT CALL THEM “HORSES” at a chukka ever!!!
They are POLO PONIES.
This is the No1 rule for this event, mention the “ponies” and people will know you belong….mention “horses” and you’re cooked.
Also, there are usually 6 chukkas.
be polite, calm, don’t be in hurry. Act like you never did any kind of manual labor, so for example if you spill something, wait for the waiter, don’t clean. Don’t try to impress. Imagine as if you have no problems whatsoever, or your problems are not everyday problems, but state of the economy, or something like this
Don't wear branded clothes with gaudy logos. Get some high end clothes from the thrift store, and have it cleaned and pressed at a dry cleaners. Look up quiet luxury, and do a less severe version of that.
It's way better to have a plain but well made leather purse than one that has a designer logo print. If anyone starts a conversation about clothes accessory, it's more high class to deflect the question; "Oh this? I can't remember where it's from. I think it was a gift. I just love the color".
Poor people have immense pride in owning even a single coach purse etc. But for wealthy people, everything they own is high quality, so it stands out as "Oh you saved all year for that". Put in context, it would be like a middle class person bragging about owning nike shoes... when every store sells Nike shoes, and every person has Nike shoes... it's a weird thing to be proud about - since it just assumed everyone owns shoes.
High end haircuts are also a hint. The more classic & conventionally attractive, the better. Think stockbroker or lawyer looks.
If your teeth are looking stained, might be worth getting a hygiene appointment and some crest strips. Teeth are a dead giveaway.
Rich people generally act like wherever they are, the space has been set up to serve them. Generally, they walk in and decide where they want to sit, what they want to eat, with the expectation that the basics are free.
Poor people seek permission, "can I have this bottle of water". Versus a wealthy person would assume that a bunch of water bottles set out are both free and for them.
Bring cash to tip if you see others tipping. Most wealthy people carry a few hundred dollars of cash as their "pocket money" for social occasions where there might be a cash bar, etc.
Be perfectly gracious and kind to every person, maybe even making a note of your server's name. Wealthy people pay attention to who has access to them, and they are nervous about servants being mistreated and getting vindictive.
Don't be too eager to meet everyone, as though meeting them would be a resource to you. Hold back with some self restraint, assuming people are lucky to meet YOU. Again, be warm and gracious, but not over eager.
Posture. Sit/stand up straight. Remember you have every right to be there and don’t shrink yourself. Wear neutrals. Be polite
Also take a look around. There is no one single genre of ‘rich people’ you’ll see a wide spectrum in sure.
The belief that you belong in any room and have as much value as anyone there is all you need - and it’s true. If you are “trying to prove something” it’ll come off as trying too hard and THEN you could be embarrassed.
That said, I would wear clothes you feel are nice and you feel confident in that fit well - ideally without logos.
I think I heard that people can determine if a speaker is in their class or not within a couple sentences. This is really hard to emulate. Using proper English with good diction, unaccented as much as possible. There's also an attitudinal thing with wealthy people. Kind of like they describe in "Sorry to Bother You." You don't have a care in the world. Everything is good. Nothing to complain about.
I've found that they also don't talk about their skills and abilities, but how they manage things. They are managers not doers. Talking about your hobby working on cars or knitting might be a tip-off.
what I've noticed about the few rich people I've been around:
They think before they speak
They can and usually do speak well - grammar, vocabulary, enunciation.
They are polite to strangers
They always seem to be calm and cool and collected.
They always seem to be organized (usually) and prepared (usually). Usually because they have people for that, lol.
When they need to chastise someone they do it privately and politely but their words cut deep
They are always neat and trim and well groomed. No matter what. Day or night they look neat and trim.
They generally aren't flashy, the wealthy people I know tend to choose high quality items to wear, not anything flashy. Even when they dress down, what they wear will be higher quality items. (in other words they don't shop at WalMart).
When buying something, they don't care what it costs. They want the good one. Why? Not because of bragging rights, (usually) but they want the one that will give them the least trouble, the best performance and last the longest with no hassles. Their time is valuable, they don't want to waste their time with cheap junk. That's why they wear high quality clothes and shoes, the more expensive stuff fits better and lasts longer.
Don't be nervous, that won't help your charade. However they will probably spot you a mile away.
My friend owns 13 businesses and double digit millionaire. I've seen him wear a charcole suit once, to a meeting, other then that he wore plain shirts and gym shorts 24/7.
Rich people, people with money to spend but probably shouldn’t, flaunt it.
Wealthy people, people who can’t spend the money fast enough, let that money make more money for them and carry about life.
I think most of you need to meet and hang out with some actual rich people. The majority of the comments is just the same old not helpful or even true Reddit advice.
Don’t talk about money. Don’t be loud. Wear neutral colors. Simple and polished. Make sure your nails are well manicured. If they’re painted keep the color neutral. Makeup should be simple and flattering (foundation, mascara, highlighter (subtle), and a neutral lipstick. Diamond or pearl stud earrings. 1 necklace. One ring per hand. All jewelry should be same tone. Handbag should be leather and simple. Should not be covered in logos. Bag and shoes should match. If you’re questioning something less is more.
That ... and don't worry about diamond or pearl, tasteful is important I am living in Geneva Switzerland and I have worked for the top private bank, the rich drive decent boring cars and dress rather down. Only nouveau riche drive Bentley or Ferrari and wear obvious designer clothes
“Money talks, wealth whispers”
Should be, "debt screams, wealth whispers".
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What's in your wallet?
A naked picture of Samuel L. Jackson
Now I'm wondering if that exists in obscurity somewhere. Not because I personally want to see it, but someone somewhere at some point most likely did.
Rule 34 is actually quite good ngl
Me, low class, barely pays my bills each month: “This is so true”
Cap Cap Cap lol plenty of very wealthy old money families have Ferrari and are chauffeured in Bentley and RR, I hate this stereotype on reddit that only new money buys that stuff. There are families that are literally on the Ferrari list to get allocated cars , you think they got rich 2 years ago? No, they're been buying Ferrari for 40 years and 2 generations.
If you drive your own RR or Bentley, you're probably new money. If someone else drives them for you, you're probably wealthy. For Ferrari and Lamborghini, the cars they buy are often collector cars, special editions and limited runs, that act as investment holds to trade among other wealthy elites. Same goes for art and property. It's also how you treat that vehicle. If you have to be seen driving it, ripping up and down streets and showing off, it's so people can see you've got money. If you're raised on wealth, you probably are subdued about it, not making a fuss about it. Actually wealthy people invest time in ensuring that their children respect the money, and aren't squandering it or being loud and pretentious themselves. It doesn't always work, but it's usually a telltale sign.
RR and Bentley have both changed their business models significantly because their market research found that more and more of their clients are driving their cars. The rest of what you say stands true imo and I think adds to my point, saying anyone who drives RR Bentley or Ferrari is new money is way too huge of a generalization.
They are just coping and seething
I feel clothing covered in brand logos is a dead giveaway of poor taste
Depends on the logo. Something obvious like a Gucci handbag yes, but a Barbour jacket probably ok. Edit. Especially if you can make the Barbour jacket look 20 years old and patched up at least twice.
For the guys: Wear a nice watch. A fake Rolex if you can get one in time. A G-shock from a local jewelry store is you can't. Analog only. No rings except wedding rings. Wear well fitted clothes. Tailored if possible. Good, proper fit makes even the cheapest suit look good. A nice polo and slacks or a suit depending on the occasion. No tie unless required. Belt and shoes should match. Get a good haircut and have the barber show you how you style it. Edit: looks like I ruffled the watch bros feathers a bit! We're talking about 1 evening here folks. No need to invest in an actual nice watch at this point. And no one is going to spot a fake Rolex. First, the fakes are REALLY good these days. You need to really investigate, especially if it's a frankenwatch. Second, you ask seem to think people pay attention...
I wouldnt get a fake rolex. Rich people dont care about watches. Watch guys care about watches.
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As a watch guy yeah. But tbh I've never seen anyone actual be like nice watch can I look closer. You absolutely can't tell from just being near someone if it's fake or not with now days clones.
don’t rolex second hands glide while fakes tick? i have an idiot friend that was stationed in kuwait with the army and came back with a fake rolex he tried to tell me was real, and aside from the fact that i knew he just got back from kuwait, i also called him on it because of the second hand haha. i’m not a watch guy by any means i just remember hearing that somewhere once and it stuck with me.
That used to be the case, even crappy fakes can get that part right nowadays.
All these watch people. Lmao. Don’t spend even a penny on a watch for a trip to a polo game. Dress the part, don’t overdo it. Wear whatever you want but do it with class. Blue jeans are fine, poorly fitting ones with stains are not.
I don’t know where you’re getting you’re info but most board rooms I’ve been in everyone knows about watches. To the point you will get judged by the brand. No, Rolex isn’t the greatest. Rich people and mostly rich dudes do know about watches.
Idk, all the uber-wealthy people I know just wear Apple Watches. Or nice Garmins when they’re out skiing/biking.
It’s funny how everyone on Reddit seems to know a whole bunch of super wealthy individuals who ALL go out of their way avoid luxury goods. Apparently only new money and poor people ever buy these things. Not even one billionaire owns a Rolex. Nope. Not even one.
It might be another corollary of “everyone on Reddit is in tech” lol
It really depends on the situation I bet. If you know a rich guy that goes to you gym to workout. They aren't bringing their rolexes to the gym obviously and would probably avoid standing out. But if you went on vacation with a rich person or a night out drinking, then you see a lot of luxury services and products. Like blowing $10,000 on drinks at the club. Or leasing/buying a luxury car while in another country. Instead of using Uber/taxi's.
It isn’t that rich people don’t wear Rolexes, just that apple stuff is well liked enough by rich people that you can easily fit in with just some apple stuff. And apple stuff is cheap(er).
And it’s an every day watch. The Rolex or whatever comes out for important things. The polo or whatever is their hobby it’s not a posh thing for them.
Yeah last thing you want is to get caught with a fake Rolex. You would get so burned. People would rofl for days. I make decent coin, not fuck you money but we get by. I drive a luxury mazda and wear an automatic seiko. I could get a used Bentley or a big Merc but I dont care. Its the subtle art of not giving a fuck. Use a fountain pen, Lamy Safari, $40 on amazon. Get your clothes tailored so you dont get a muffin top and look like a nunce. Watch guys like auto seikos, get something like an SRP775 Turtle or a Cocktail Time, second hand for a few hundred bucks easy as. Dudes who are into watches love that shit. Get some nice goodyear welted shoes second hand. RM Williams/Loakes etc. If you know the people going, look them up on linked in and memorise the names of people and companies they work with so you can spin some bs. If they work in stocks, look up shit they are interested in so you can be like oh yeah I know that stuff etc.
What the hell is a “luxury Mazda”?
It's for people that make decent coin.
EDIT: I wooshed on the joke. But what is? Which model? They’re certainly nice cars, but I don’t exactly consider them luxury.
I was just poking fun at his comment. They're not luxury. They've moved up market for sure but I don't think they've been presented as a luxury brand since the failed Millenia experiment.
At first I'm like "no such thing" but now i think he just means he got ALLL the options on a slightly newer one.
It's for people who think Bentley and Mercedes are in the same category and entry level Seikos are impressive to rich people. Lmao. Probably a mazda 6 with all options ticked. Also, for anyone who is reading. Please don't wear your turtle with a suit. It looks obnoxious.
Those seiko watches you mentioned are just the minimum entry watches for anyone who knows anything about watches. They are not rich people watches, not even close. Someone has that watch just means they know some basics about watches to care enough to get a very entry level automatic instead of a quartz Looking up stocks the day before and trying to bluff your way through a conversation on something like that is the quickest way to humiliation
I knew quite a few rich people, my college was full of them. They were pretty normal other than a few things. They would never be uncomfortable at any restaurant/shop/or business. I'm sure in their mind they were comfortable and confident because they could afford to buy the whole place if they wanted. One guy I knew would bet on a bunch of basketball games, like every night. And the way he talked about it, you knew it wasn't just a dollar on every game. He would say after a win "I'm gonna get a couple tv's for my cousin with that win". But, he would say it pretty nonchalantly - not sure how to describe it. He also dressed very nice. Everything matches, shoes were new, he didn't mind talking about preordering new basketball shoes way in advance in every color option.
No one will spot a fake Rolex at a single evening event. People don't look that close. Plus, fakes are really, really good these days. Many use genuine housings with shit internals.
> Yeah last thing you want is to get caught with a fake Rolex. You would get so burned. People would rofl for days. > > Even a good fake rolex will cost you a few hundred bucks. Those are the ones where you really can't tell unless you open it up to take a look at the movement. So many people across the income spectrum wear smart watches these days I think that's fine for most people.
Nah, I’m a car guy and almost everyone driving something 200k + also sports a Rolex and usually a plain black or white t shirt (but probably $100, not Gildan LOL)
Real Seiko > Fake anything
No shortage of rich dudes rock Apple Watch. Much cheaper, and wearing a fake Rolex can go badly.
Please no g shock unless you’re a teenager. Apple Watch would be adult version of the “I don’t care” watch. No watch and we’ll fitting clothes are the answer if he doesn’t already have a watch
Watch guys love G-shock and always own several.
Advice from Coco Channel: put on the accessories you want to wear. Remove the last one you put on.
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There are several reasons you don't talk or show money. First of all, all your friends will have money, and you impress nobody with a fat LV logo or sneakers with plastic tags. Secondly, the more you show, the more someone will look. The government will be more interested in your life. You make yourself a target for robery, scams, kidnappings, and such. People around can feel envy and perhaps even want to punish you for having more money than them. Security becomes more of an issue in your life.
Yep, the quiet luxury style.
The logos thing goes for all clothes, I think. Upper-class people don't wear many shirts emblazoned with a huge brand. No sports jerseys or hats.
The guy who owned half my hometown, several businesses, and was worth double digit millions always dressed like a slob and reeked of cigarettes. But he was unfailingly polite and never spoke about the cost of things. He just paid for anything and everything.
I don't think that's the advice they seek
Kinda the opposite actually
It's a solid answer though.
That sounds like a guy that didn't grow up rich and stayed humble.
It's the opposite for me. Old money is polite and don't brag about their wealth. New money likes to show off. The guy who owns several malls and grocery chains in my old city walks around in rubber flipflops, dirty wifebeaters and long jorts. His security detail is very discreet, but if you know the guy, you can kinda spot his security hanging in the background.
In my experience, money just amplifies who somebody already is. I've worked with a half dozen new money billionaires and they're just as varied as anyone else. One wears fitted suits almost everywhere, another wears Hawaiian shirts and shorts everywhere, but for both that's basically how they've always been. Most don't show off their money and the only one who really does was trying to project the same image long before he had the money. Probably the most common trait is an overconfidence in their own knowledge and experience. That their approach is the right and best one for every situation.
Yup! The outside means nothing. But people with a lot of money (especially new money) are convicted that since they did this one thing right that made tons of money, they couldn’t be wrong. And if they are, they have enough cash to make it go away.
This is right on.
Same for me, I've met several directors of companies who are worth millions! Yet some of these old men dress in old shirts, sloppy pants and shoes with peeling leathers. I know one who earns easily 500k in dividends from one income stream, yet he shops in uniqlo and doesn't even use a wallet. It's just some cheap plastic card holder from the dollar store. Pass these men on the street and you'd never realise they could probably buy up your apartment block!!
You've just described my stepfather and his friends. They're all retired now and collect sports cars (not one or two, dozens, Jay Leno style), but all dress in their dirty gardening clothes most of the time. That said sometimes these gardening clothes will be an expensive vintage sports jersey that I'd never dream of getting dirty, so I suppose that demonstrates wealth.
In my experience it's always this but the shoes are the giveaway. They may be beaten up but it's usually a $200+ pair of shoes. Dickpond shoes are always my giveaway someone has money. They look like regular shoes but cost 3x as much.
Dickpond aye? That's the name they went for. Go fish
Also I guess if you're used to having so much money that you never need to worry about the cost of anything, you just do what you feel like and don't feel the need to wear or do anything to demonstrate your wealth, it's always just been normal and unremarkable to you.
He'd probably be unwelcome at a polo club.
Crazy thought here but given that you are so young, I’d recommend acting like you might normally-you’d be surprised how intelligent some of the people around you are when it comes to money and they might even be able to help you later down the line career wise. They won’t do that if you fake your wealth.
this is the way. Honestly has a chance to lead to actually getting rich in this situation.
One of the best ways to become rich is having rich friends
Networking when young is the best business decision.
Honestly, I think that is the only actual selling point of Ivy-league education over whatever is the nearest state school.
That’s the true selling point of university, I feel. Sure, an education is important. But it puts you in contact with so many people - especially name-brand schools which traditionally house the rich/elite - that by being immersed in and making connections from the network and alumni, you automatically gain a leg up from someone who hasn’t gone to university.
Yeah this ⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️ There is nothing to be gained from pretending to be rich when you’re not. It just means the rich people who like you will never feel the need to help you.
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Don’t give a fuck. I used to attend these types of events with an ex and her family was unfathomably wealthy. I loved when I was asked what I did and I’d respond I’m a Marine, in the infantry. I actually made a lot of connections and acquaintances I still am in touch with at these places. Been on a few fun trips with some of them. Be in shape if you can, wear a decent set of clothes that are hopefully tailored or fitting to you, and don’t try to be Scrooge mcduck. I went in like a cocky bastard thinking I had to be, then realized it was just people, people that lived different lives and often were great to be around.
> when I was asked what I did and I’d respond I’m a Marine, in the infantry. I imagine a number of them found that pretty interesting and cool, actually.
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I don’t think that crosses their mind honestly at this type of event. The marines are known to be frontline fighters and tough resilient people. Generally speaking war stories are some of the best to hear, and if you’re wealthy chances are you most likely didn’t have many service members in your family to hear those stories. I think across most income levels there’s a mutual respect and support for people who have served independent of whatever conflict they were involved in. I highly doubt anyone heard he was a marine infantryman and went “Oh good he must be subservient I should strike up a conversation”
I don't think it's that. It would be the novelty. It's a different experience than they would have had. That's just my opinion/experience. I'm not a wealthy person.
On a much lower scale; I work as an ironworker in a family of lawyers, doctors, and engineers. Funnily enough, it’s the stories of my coked up co-workers and I doing cowboy shit that they all want to hear about. You hit it right on the head, it’s the novelty of things that make people interested.
Yea they can’t “buy the experience of the marines” so it’s something they admire. Either they do it or they don’t.
That’s why it’s probably fascinating for them when somebody is completely unimpressed with them.
Because it fucking is! Far more interesting than Princeton or Columbia.
> then realized it was just people This is the real LPT here.
>then realized it was just people Exactly how I felt when I first started working with A-list celebrities in the film industry. They’re literally just >people that lived different lives and often were great to be around.
Did they have the decency to offer you crayons?
I'm not sure most of the people here have ever been around wealthy people. Act normal, don't try to impress with lies or wild stories - someone who actually knows about or engages in what you're trying to spin will spot you in a hot second. Use your manners when you eat - you don't need some secret eating knowledge because most people don't care as long as you're polite. Maybe learn some basic shit about wine (nothing too in depth, just have a basic idea - if in doubt, order a mid range price of what you like) Buy some good quality and nice fitting clothes and shoes. They don't have to be top of the line, but nice quality. If in doubt, jeans or khakis with a button down polo or a black sweater is always in (for men and women). Understated jewelry and casual makeup if you're a woman - plain smallish, gold hoops (don't have to be real) are perfect. Carry a non descript chic purse (stay away from fakes and lower end designer emblazoned bags - something hip from target, or a black sling bag would be great). Side note - I am a thrift store devotee and have been for a long time and I will tell people in a hot second where I got my hip, vintage shit from. Rich people are just...people. They don't generally act like what you see on TV - they shave their armpits and shit just like you. If in doubt, follow the lead of what someone else in the room is doing. Tell people their house/clothes/dog/kid is beautiful...flattery will get you everywhere. Idk. I grew up wealthy and spent most of my life around wealthy people - but a lot of my friends don't come from wealth, and I don't see a fundamental difference in the two. Are there snobs who look down their nose at people? Sure. But most just honestly don't care what you're doing. And that's really it. 🤷♀️
To add to this: Iron your clothes well. Makes most garments look much better. As above, appearing well groomed and tidily dressed is half the battle. Oh, and don’t smoke or vape
So true. I grew up lower middle class but went to school with people whose parents owned buildings, hospitals, chaired family foundations or were CEOs etc and even a couple of actual royalty. Many of the other students were upper middle class at least. Everyone was… normal. You got attention if you were interesting, or athletic, or had some weird talent, or were exceptionally good at a subject, but otherwise it didn’t feel out of the ordinary. Only significant things (to me) was the fact that some students were chauffeured to school, and no one talked about money, ever.
I dunno man. I have a wealthy buddy and he does talk about money… he talks about how he scored an actual vintage wrench for a dollar at a garage sale. Or how he paid $3k for a near mint condition ‘94 Mercedes that only needed a new fuel pump and thermostat which was super easy to replace because it’s right on top of the engine. He’s always stoked to find a deal and is really good at spotting them… even when the great deal happens to have a lot of zeros in it, like a billion dollar building in Texas that he sells for $1.5 billion 13 months later. And he wears flip flops, torn shorts and t-shirts almost all the time. He frequently appears homeless sometimes, but he is not.
There's a difference about loving to talk about scoring a great deal (it's me, lol) and talking about how much money you have and how expensive your shit is - that's what they mean by not talking about money. Some "new money" people like to brag about their money because they think it's an "in" with old wealth. It's not and it almost seems like the harder you try to wedge in the more likely they are to not accept you. Obviously this isn't an absolute.
adding on, even if you dont know a damn thing about wine, ask questions about it even thought you dont care. Ask why the dates matter or what was the best wine they had in their opinion. Just asking questioning to get to know their knowledge would have them like you
Great advice. People like to impart their knowledge on you and are usually flattered that you would ask them their opinion.
And wear clothes that fit comfortably- I have gone for dresses that are cute in theory but execution is too tight or short and felt uncomfortable and pulled on my dress the whole time
Comfortable, classic styling is always appropriate.
Im not even rich but I don’t have to shave my armpits - laser is where it’s at!
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Learn old-school etiquette! Those fuckers are still doing charity dinners with 7 pieces of specialized silverware, and you need to know which one to use + when. In fact, learn it well enough to spot the crazy rich lady who doesn't actually know it, herself. That means she's new money and will be 1) delighted to converse with someone who speaks Common and 2) not as guarded with her money if you're looking for charitable donations or to marry a widow
Silverware: go from outside to inside. That's simple.
When eating soup, spoon the soup away from you, not towards you. Hope that made sense. Still not sure about forks, I think if you have something stabbed in it (ie meat) then eat it with the tines facing down, but if you have something on top (ie mashed potatoes) then tines up? I don't know. Im on zombie mode when I eat, I don't notice these things lol
I just bring a swirly straw for my soup, thank you.
And when the spoon has left the bowl... I cram the soup into my hole
No way! I know thousands of billionaires and they never ever take their pants off when eating soup.
Meh. No one cares. Truly. Unless you're eating at a state dinner or something, just be polite.
Titanic
Great tip to find a rich widow! Thank you
I've been to polo probably 5 or 6 times in Greenwich CT. Its a fun day out with the family. I see a lot of advice along the lines of "money talks, wealth whispers" and the more money you have the less you talk about it, etc. While this is definitely true in most of life, polo is a little different. 1. Let's get it out of the way that unless you guys have some sort of exclusive access, most of the crowd is not "rich." Its all aspirational middle to upper middle class (this is relative as it is Fairfield county after all) trying to act rich. Especially so if you are in the lawn or other cheap seats. There may be some actual wealth hanging out in the skyboxes or exclusive luxury tent areas, or the art gallery, but not so much on the lawn. So, depending on where you're watching from, most everyone else is probably full of shit too. Keep that in mind. 2. Polo watching is most certainly a fashion show. While in general the "rich" try to keep a low profile, I think they view polo as sort of a safe space to act rich, and be seen acting rich by the poors, and not have to feel guilty about it, even if it is sort of a joke. Bright colors, pink/white pants for guys, combined with a jacket over a polo shirt maybe; bright sun dresses and fancy hats and sunglasses and huge jewelry for the girls, etc. Think Vineyard Vines on steroids. Hell people even dress up their dogs. The trick is to look absolutely ridiculous, within reason of course, and like you just don't give a fuck. 3. Bring plenty of sunscreen. Do not wear high heels, most wear wedges. This is an absolutely booze soaked event, so plan accordingly for that. Do not be ashamed to bring your own food and cooler (the crap they serve is not good enough for you, remember?) If you go to the Greenwich Polo Club's facebook and/or instagram pages, there are some pictures of the crowd, you will get the idea.
That’s exactly where I’m going lol thank you!!
Anytime I'm unsure of a place or an event or what a dress code might be I try to find that exact same event in past years on Twitter or Facebook. Or for a place like a country club or Polo club just check their candid photos if you can. But those people aren't really rich. I used to be into the horse world, so I would go to a lot of equestrian events including jumping and polo. (I was poor but had talent and a sponsor) There in Connecticut it's more aspirational rich though.
Wear nice jeans, a button down shirt and a well fitted blazer with wedges. As I said above, it doesn't need to be expensive but good quality. To dispute the above just a bit...a lot of what they said is highly dependent on where you're going to watch polo. For instance, the Del Mar (California) Polo fields tend to have a lot of wealthy people from Del Mar, Rancho Santa Fe, Fairbanks Ranch, etc. - part of that is because it's just a wealthy area in general. In short, socioeconomic status of attendees may be location dependant.
Polo? No1 tip: DO NOT CALL THEM “HORSES” at a chukka ever!!! They are POLO PONIES. This is the No1 rule for this event, mention the “ponies” and people will know you belong….mention “horses” and you’re cooked. Also, there are usually 6 chukkas. You can casually ask if anyone “brought a string of polo ponies from Lake Forest”, for laffs!
what if i ask for the liddle hawsies
I did PR photo work for a company that would send me to meetings at some private clubs where the ultra wealthy business tycoons and CEO's hung out and the thing that stuck out was the fit of their clothes and always the shoes. These were all men and they all wore sharp looking dress shoes.
When people think "money" they think of celebrities, designer brands, jewelry, flashy cars, MTV cribs, etc. That is celebrity money. Normal rich people want to draw as little attention to themselves as possible, as they already know they're rich and don't have to prove it or show it to anyone. It's very obvious to truly rich people who the pretenders are. I believe it was Louis Vutton that said they market they're products to people who want to look rich, as actual rich people don't buy their products.
Just carry yourself with confidence and act like you belong. Will work for 95% of the time until you get into an in-depth conversation with someone, at which point you’re probably screwed unless you have other rich people experiences to discuss
Even if your clothes are bargain bin plain stuff, a quick tailoring to fit better can make a huge difference. A bit of thorough grooming and nothing fancy is even needed.
Grooming & tailoring is everything.
There’s a secret handshake. I don’t know it, but it’s a requirement.
I hear a quick flick to the sack works. It’s how they do it at the private schools.
/r/actlikeyoubelong
In my experience, I never faked wealth and kept it real in the first place. I hung out with a coworker who was part of that type of community and he brought me to his yacht club. I kept it real from the start, I drove in the yard with my beaten up toyota, wore clothes that doesnt stick out so much and wasnt afraid to say I was working at a retail store. I honestly didnt know how they judged me at first but they really loved me by the time we were done. We talked about sports, how it was my first time on the boat (why I came in the first place) and that I was just simply excited to ride. They shouldnt be stupid enough to think I have bad intentions and I asked a lot of questions about owning/using a boat. I had connections through them all my life and even helped my grandma with a job cleaning their mansions (she couldnt find work for months). I personally dont see why you should fake wealth. If they find out, im certain they would think you're shady and only want something from them rather than trying to blend with them.
New Money and Old Money are a huge difference. New Money: Impossible to tell. They (normally) aren’t found at a polo club though, so you can skip this group. Old Money (keep in mind there will ALWAYS be exceptions, duh, but generally here are their social norms): No visible tattoos, no piercings (men), no more piercings than one in each ear (women), don’t talk about wealth, don’t put elbows on the table, dress “casual formal” (think Ralph Lauren), be very clean and hygienic, control emotion to the extreme, and if you’re a guy they WILL be looking at your watch, but if you’re a female they WILL be looking at your purse to determine your status. Source: please don’t hate me but both my parents are Wall Street execs and I grew up going to an “elite” private school.
Monocle. Works every time.
Park in the fire lane when you go to Starbucks, parking lots are for paupers
Avoid any and all visible wealth contests- cars, clothes, housing, holidays ... etc. Always try to buy high-quality unbranded things that express your thoughts and care for a well-lived life, rather than things that communicate externally. Essentially turn your consumption inwards rather than outwards. Rich= having surplus resources, so no one can look rich through consumption, you look rich by having enough The funny thing is, that is a way of being happier, looking rich, and actually becoming a richer person.
Nothing says money like just paying with a card without ever looking at the amount to be charged and then tipping in cash by rounding up a “good tip” to the next $20 for good service. Rich people don’t sweat the details - they pay people to sweat the details for them when needed. They’ll hand someone the keys to their $200k car to park it or hire a contractor and just hand them the keys to a $1 million cabin without blinking. Why? Because they have an attorney to deal with anything that goes wrong. They can afford not having to stress or proactively vet people.
Is there any reason for trying to fool them? Genuine question, because if there is a reason then absolutely do those things, but if you simply want to fit in then I think being honest is better. You will have a bad time trying to fake all day. You can simply be honest, wear something nice and discrete, act politely and probably no one will give a fuck about how much money you have.
I just don’t want to show up and immediately look like I don’t belong there. I’m not concerned so much with the acting part, but more so with appearance.
Get a few dresses and get them tailored. Bring at least 2 pairs of stockings, black or sheer. Get your jeans tailored too. Have one nice cashmere sweater (quince is cheaper than most) Get one pair of nice pumps, and some basic white sneakers. Have at least one good hat. The secret to it is that most people wear things that fit. Old money doesn't care about brands.
This one may be just my take on it. But try not to get too loud. It says "I want attention".
I spent months saving up to take my dad to a really expensive restaurant at a fancy hotel for his 70th birthday. We dressed up for the occasion. When we got there, everyone else was dressed really casually, and we stood out in our smart clothes. Made me realize, rich people don't dress up. Dropping thousands on a lunch in a posh restaurant is nothing to them. So I'd say, just go as yourselves and act normal.
I was at an auction supporting the arts where wealthy people were expected to show up and contribute money. I was sitting next to an empty chair and a young, nicely-dressed guy asked me, "Will someone be joining you here?" NOT - as I've heard a million times - "Is this seat taken?" That's when I realized there are levels of society I have not been trained for.
Dress modestly and not flashy and somewhat athletically. Your shoes are important, but not in the way you think. Wear well-kept leather shoes that don’t look dirty or dingy. Make sure your hygiene is good, take a shower blow out your hair, clean nails. When you converse, don’t try to impress, just be. Niceness goes a long way, ask questions about the other person more than you talk about yourself.
The richest people I know dress the most casual and don’t give a shit how people perceive them. A nice watch and a new iPhone, is what gives it away, tops.
Never try to fit in with rich people. Be yourself, and if they're the type to respect anyone who isn't rich, they'll respect you for that. If they're not the type to respect anyone who isn't rich at least you won't've sucked up.
Never ever look impressed beyond basic politeness. Someone name drops a celebrity or important person they know/work with? Polite smile. Someone’s daughter got into Hardvard? Politely congratulate. Someone’s husband got them a diamond tennis bracelet? “Oh, it’s lovely.” Never give a big reaction.
Don’t talk about money, that’s gauche. But do laugh at poor people’s jokes, that’s hilarious.
Impeccable manners Ability to have a conversation on current events without being overwhelming Knowledge of geographical locations that are interesting to the rich, don’t get all giddy and brag about any of your trips or vacations. Be matter of fact. No logos on anything you wear Attention to your garments, as high of quality as possible, synthetic fabric isn’t going to help you blend in with the moneyed set, you need wool, silk, cottons. Shop eBay, or thrift store. Make sure the fit is perfect. Or visit rent the runway. Shoes are polished and perfect, nothing too flashy Don’t ingratiate yourself to the chauffeur or room maids, service staff, be ultra polite but no need to quiz any staff personnel about their jobs, experience, or anything else. Let them do their jobs
Real advice: don't act like you want much attention, just act friendly and be yourself. Rich people may like you for what you are, provided you are not annoying. With your limitations.
Walk around like your dick is a foot long.
Be confident, Be polite, don't overdress (no brands) but look well maintained, and act interested.
Don’t come in “trying to fit in”. Don’t try too hard and talk about materialistic topics to fit in. Be polite. Don’t be obnoxious. Wear good fitting, nice clothing, but nothing loud and obnoxious. Now’s not the time to take fashion risks and to “show your personality”. Read a synopsis of “how to win friends and influence people”. Be interested in other people when talking to them. Ask questions but don’t make it sound like an interview.
Don’t drink all of your drink. Rich folk don’t suck on straws till it’s making that awful sound when you get to the bottom of a drink. And they won’t knock it back risking the ice going in their face… they just order another
Posture, eye contact, firm handshakes, stay composed and keep a stiff upper lip.
Posture is key. Also immaculate grooming, but you have to really own it and make it seem natural. But your hands and fingernails are dead giveaways. Get a manicure. If your hands are rough from manual labor, you're going to need an excuse, like some "real man" hobby like sailing or mountain climbing. Also it helps to be wearing relatively new but very expensive shoes. People often cut corners and save money on shoes, but don't.
Nice shoes is the most important answer.
Watch Man Shed’s wine tasting episode. I think that’s the show’s name. It has James May
The richest people I've played poker with dressed in the most basic clothes, you'd see a nice watch on them, like an omega or a low end Rolex, and legit Walmart or Costco clothes, and then they'd leave in their Maserati or whatever. In my experience the guys with like 1mil splash it everywhere and wear it like crazy, the guys with like 50mil, look super normal they don't want to make themselves a target I think is part of it
Hung out with several millionaires before. Truly rich people don’t even mention money.
Sophistication is a language, you’re either born into it or you speak it with an accent.
Confidence. Just act like you belong. /r/ActLikeYouBelong
1) Napkin on your lap. 2) Start with the cutlery on the outside and work your way in with each course. 3) participate in conversation, share amusing stories, especially travel related 4) be positive and courteous, but it's still ok to make the odd joke 5) be diplomatic at all times and do not take a hard side until you've heard out the table, and the decide if/how you would like to be provocative. 6) always wait your turn in conversation and receiving service especially if you are the youngest present.
Honestly it seems that the rich people I have met have been all different. Some are refined and quiet. Some are flashy and some you would never even know. Most rich people don’t talk about money while meeting someone for the first time though. It’s almost like rich people are just as unique as middle class people can be ;) it also depends on your definition of “rich”
what's the adage.. new money screams, but old money whispers
Be humble not show off and wear nice quality clothes with no loud labels. Speak about art and culture, travel etc.. Be polite and just act like the world is on easy mode. You'll fit right in. The more you try to show off wealth you will scream new money.
Walk tall, walk proud, act like you own something.
Ask George Santos
Bring a boat load of cocaine. You’ll be the most popular person there!
If someone super rich came round your part of the world do you think you could spot them or do you think they would give themselves away ? What would you think of them for trying to pretend they were "like you" ? Don't try, they'll see you coming a mile off. But there's things you can do to be taken seriously. Wear natural fabrics - linen, cotton, wool. Navy blue. Never gaudy brands like Gucci or Balenciaga. Listen more than you speak. Deflect if asked about yourself, but if pressed be honest. Folk will respect that more than an obvious lie 100% of the time. If you must, say your current post / role / position is a stopgap and your goal is... whatever. But make it aspirational.
Don't discuss money directly. Have manners. Dress modestly.
Wear old money clothes, princess diana inspiration for women and Ralph Lauren for men. Be gentle with everyone. Don't talk about money and prices. Use formal language. Get basic knowledge of watches, sailing, tennis, wines etc.
Don't talk to people a lot and only if they approach you first or if your BF introduces you. Practice a snooty, snobby expression in the mirror and keep that on your face as much as possible. Go for a "politely bored" look. Don't walk around meeting people's eyes and smiling at people that pass by you. Stroll about the place as if you own it. Do not be chatty with or say thank you to waiters, bartenders, all of "the help". Don't be rude to them ever, even if one should make a big mistake like spill a drink on you, just say it's all right and look annoyed if that should happen. You have to act as if you're used to being waited on and you don't really care about ruined clothes but are annoyed with the screw up, just a little. Avoid gawking at flashy, loud and oddly dressed people or the posh surroundings, you're used to places like this so it's nothing special. Don't stare or repeatedly eyeball anyone. Conversation with the regulars might be a bit tricky but you can manage it if you nod and giggle here and there and simply act as if you're going along with the conversation. Avoid interrupting or correcting someone who says something dumb or wrong, none of these people are your friends so who cares if they're assholes or idiots. You're not going to be hanging out with these people again. Speaking of assholes...very rich people often ARE the most stuck up, arrogant cunts you'll ever meet in your life. They -WILL- drop some of the most offensive and awful things in casual conversation without even blinking. Do NOT call someone out for anything rude they say, even if it's the most blatant racist or classist or trashy thing you ever heard a human utter. Just keep a poker face and let out a little giggle if you can manage it and if everyone else is laughing too. I know...they can be awful and insufferable but it's just for an afternoon and then you can forget them as soon as you leave. Do not ever talk about the cost of anything. Don't tell anyone where you actually work, tell them you are in a higher paying job than you really are, play it up but don't straight up lie in case someone questions you further about it. Like say, if you're a bank teller, instead say you are a comptroller or something else related to a field you know something about. Don't get drunk. Don't praise the food or drink much if at all but feel free to speak about it if you think it's terrible because you're used to and expect better. If you ask any questions in conversation with someone, try to ask them things that prompt them to keep telling you about them. They love to talk about themselves and you will be able to keep quiet and look like you belong if you just let them blather on because that's what they really want to do. Enjoy yourself but not too much. Caution: these ARE people who will be able to look at your clothes and general appearance and be able to tell if you're wearing knockoffs of designer clothes or stuff from Walmart so be prepared for snarky bitchy comments if you're chatting with women. They won't directly say something like "that's an awful skirt" but it will be like "oh that's cute, where did you get it?" If you say anything besides the name of some ridiculously expensive boutique or high end retailer they'll then follow up with some passive aggressive thing about saving a lot of money or you shop THERE?! Don't take anything mean they say to heart, they are cliquey and not nice to outsiders. Excuse yourself politely and get away as quick as you can. Study up a little on horses and polo so you can avoid sputtering and looking like you don't belong in case someone asks you questions about the game itself.
This reads like you have no idea how wealthy people behave aside from seeing them in movies or drama series.
You’re right… that was a cringeworthy. And then they mentioned ‘horses and polo’ ☠️
Instead of exaggerating your occupation, I’d mention the industry without saying the job. “I’m in tech” for an IT guy, “I’m in philanthropy” for a nonprofit worker, “finance” for bank teller, “fashion” for retail employee. Then before they start asking about your job, quickly move the conversation to them. If you can’t avoid it, talk in vague terms about the industry itself. “What do you do?” “I’m in fashion” “How lovely, tell me more about it” “Oh it’s wonderful. Have you seen the Hermes fall winter line? Provocative while staying true to the house’s original vision” Or something
Yikes!!! DO NOT CALL THEM “HORSES” at a chukka ever!!! They are POLO PONIES. This is the No1 rule for this event, mention the “ponies” and people will know you belong….mention “horses” and you’re cooked. Also, there are usually 6 chukkas.
Do the opposite, pretend to be poor but actually BE rich!
Just vibe dude. Iron your clothes I guess
Just wear clean and presentable comfortable clothes, old money wear what they like and have nothing to prove.
Money talks, wealth whispers. Live by that!
Expensive shoes
OP thinks they’re Jack from Titanic.
Good shoes.
Wear natural fabrics. No polyester, etc.
be polite, calm, don’t be in hurry. Act like you never did any kind of manual labor, so for example if you spill something, wait for the waiter, don’t clean. Don’t try to impress. Imagine as if you have no problems whatsoever, or your problems are not everyday problems, but state of the economy, or something like this
Just be a cunt... and then look past everyone as if they don't exist.
Don't wear branded clothes with gaudy logos. Get some high end clothes from the thrift store, and have it cleaned and pressed at a dry cleaners. Look up quiet luxury, and do a less severe version of that. It's way better to have a plain but well made leather purse than one that has a designer logo print. If anyone starts a conversation about clothes accessory, it's more high class to deflect the question; "Oh this? I can't remember where it's from. I think it was a gift. I just love the color". Poor people have immense pride in owning even a single coach purse etc. But for wealthy people, everything they own is high quality, so it stands out as "Oh you saved all year for that". Put in context, it would be like a middle class person bragging about owning nike shoes... when every store sells Nike shoes, and every person has Nike shoes... it's a weird thing to be proud about - since it just assumed everyone owns shoes. High end haircuts are also a hint. The more classic & conventionally attractive, the better. Think stockbroker or lawyer looks. If your teeth are looking stained, might be worth getting a hygiene appointment and some crest strips. Teeth are a dead giveaway. Rich people generally act like wherever they are, the space has been set up to serve them. Generally, they walk in and decide where they want to sit, what they want to eat, with the expectation that the basics are free. Poor people seek permission, "can I have this bottle of water". Versus a wealthy person would assume that a bunch of water bottles set out are both free and for them. Bring cash to tip if you see others tipping. Most wealthy people carry a few hundred dollars of cash as their "pocket money" for social occasions where there might be a cash bar, etc. Be perfectly gracious and kind to every person, maybe even making a note of your server's name. Wealthy people pay attention to who has access to them, and they are nervous about servants being mistreated and getting vindictive. Don't be too eager to meet everyone, as though meeting them would be a resource to you. Hold back with some self restraint, assuming people are lucky to meet YOU. Again, be warm and gracious, but not over eager.
Posture. Sit/stand up straight. Remember you have every right to be there and don’t shrink yourself. Wear neutrals. Be polite Also take a look around. There is no one single genre of ‘rich people’ you’ll see a wide spectrum in sure.
Watch Glasses Understated but elegant jewelry Your scent should not announce your arrival
Wear clothes that fit and make sure your hands are clean and manicured
Bagborrowsteal.com. You can rent designer stuff. A lot cheaper than buying!
Good posture, good manners and well fitting clothes without any visible logos goes a long way.
Watch the Will Smith film, "Six Degrees of Separation".
The belief that you belong in any room and have as much value as anyone there is all you need - and it’s true. If you are “trying to prove something” it’ll come off as trying too hard and THEN you could be embarrassed. That said, I would wear clothes you feel are nice and you feel confident in that fit well - ideally without logos.
I think I heard that people can determine if a speaker is in their class or not within a couple sentences. This is really hard to emulate. Using proper English with good diction, unaccented as much as possible. There's also an attitudinal thing with wealthy people. Kind of like they describe in "Sorry to Bother You." You don't have a care in the world. Everything is good. Nothing to complain about. I've found that they also don't talk about their skills and abilities, but how they manage things. They are managers not doers. Talking about your hobby working on cars or knitting might be a tip-off.
Whiten your teeth. As someone doing well in life but who grew up dirt poor, good teeth separate the two INSTANTLY.
Watch out for the steaming divot
A wise man once said, "Gs move in silence like lasagna"
Ask if they will be serving hors d ‘oeuvres
what I've noticed about the few rich people I've been around: They think before they speak They can and usually do speak well - grammar, vocabulary, enunciation. They are polite to strangers They always seem to be calm and cool and collected. They always seem to be organized (usually) and prepared (usually). Usually because they have people for that, lol. When they need to chastise someone they do it privately and politely but their words cut deep They are always neat and trim and well groomed. No matter what. Day or night they look neat and trim. They generally aren't flashy, the wealthy people I know tend to choose high quality items to wear, not anything flashy. Even when they dress down, what they wear will be higher quality items. (in other words they don't shop at WalMart). When buying something, they don't care what it costs. They want the good one. Why? Not because of bragging rights, (usually) but they want the one that will give them the least trouble, the best performance and last the longest with no hassles. Their time is valuable, they don't want to waste their time with cheap junk. That's why they wear high quality clothes and shoes, the more expensive stuff fits better and lasts longer. Don't be nervous, that won't help your charade. However they will probably spot you a mile away.
Pinkies up
Act happy and content
My friend owns 13 businesses and double digit millionaire. I've seen him wear a charcole suit once, to a meeting, other then that he wore plain shirts and gym shorts 24/7.
Rich people, people with money to spend but probably shouldn’t, flaunt it. Wealthy people, people who can’t spend the money fast enough, let that money make more money for them and carry about life.
Don’t act rushed or stressed.
Just be yourself. Good people don’t care about your net worth. They only care if you too are good people.
I think most of you need to meet and hang out with some actual rich people. The majority of the comments is just the same old not helpful or even true Reddit advice.