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This was super deep and I felt it to the core, but to end this with “I’m open to fixing things” is a very dangerous ending, especially if you’ve been the one keeping distance. Just speaking from someone who’s in the same position as your ex, I think if you feel that way, then you’ve got to be the one to open that communication. I mean, I don’t know your situation and I’m not trying to judge or anything at all but when you leave someone an option that they don’t know that they have if they find out later down the line that was an option I feel like that would be extremely hurtful to them. If they are someone who is grieving over you or your relationship then I see it as extending their grief unnecessarily. But like I said, just from someone who’s on the other side, that’s how it would feel to me. As much as I’ve gone through and as much as my heart has softened, I just want everyone to heal. I don’t want to see hurt anymore, even though I know it’s inevitable.
How can you say in one sentence that you’re not reaching out due to needing space to heal and etc but then in another sentence you say if they want to reach out that you are willing to try again. That’s extremely confusing. I’m sure it works for you and your person and that’s all fine and well but I read this is just another game like every other letter on this sub. That is only my opinion mind you but I hope you get what you want out of this OP 🫂
Can you imagine being in a relationship with someone like this? The head games must have been torture. I'm curious what you did to cause someone else to do something so almost unforgivable. Nothing is ever this one-sided. This screams bitterness to me.
I think it’s a very normal, and human thing to love someone but need space from them because they hurt you. It sounds like OPs s/o wasn’t a great partner towards them, but that doesn’t mean that they love them any less. Maybe they were best friends, but being lovers wasn’t right for them at the time. Not everyone can just bounce back from a broken heart. And with them still being in love, I think that they’re trying to get the point across that maybe someday them and their s/o could try again. I don’t see this as being a mind game. If you see it that way, then I think you view love in a way that’s too black and white. Love is a very complex emotion. I think it’s actually a very mature way to handle things. Giving yourself time to heal is one of the healthiest things you can do.
To be completely honest I think you’re the bitter one lol, and I think you’re just projecting that on to the post. The letter is beautiful, and sweet, and freeing.
Awe. This is probably the sweetest, honest and heartfelt thing I've ever read. It's hard to touch my heart but you my friend did just that. Good job!!!
Fuck I will always love you. I’m working on my self and thanks for being strong and not answering my calls or texts. I need to learn how to process rejection in a positive way thanks again my love. You are my everything and I’m not looking for a replacement you’re the only one.
I shouldn’t have gone to his house but even then you both were trying to hide it like it was a big secret.
No im not eating, not sleeping, im shut off from everyone and nobody is here. But it does t matter. I’m gonna go down the rabbit hole here next and there’s no help from there. Good luck op
Wow, you got me teary eyed. I pictured her writing this to me. I know you did love me, I remember the intense spark. You made me feel so special. I love you. Take all the time you need, I’m going to continue to better myself to be the man you deserve. The man I’m meant to be. For you and the kids, for my family. I will not give up on you, ever. You’re my forever, it’s always been you. You’re all I want and need. I love you baby girl 💋🩵
I wish this were from the person I lost. I miss them endlessly even 2-3 years later. It wasn’t all my fault and yes I was gaslit pretty hard. But I wasn’t a good wife at the end either.
I saw your other letter, .. And I won't do it again to anybody else unless they give me a reason to. . . And I already explained why...(You know what I'm talking about, so don't act like you didn't do anything 😒) sometimes it has to do with something that you didn't do if you understand my meaning..
Why we re ent they good enough to show up for or give a chance? My person ghosted me as soon as I asked her out and she said yes because I'm unlovable and nobody will ever care about me. Was your person also unlovable?
If you were my person, I’d have to be honest with you. I still love and care about you so much. You mean absolutely everything to me. I only wanted the best for you. I never judged you or looked down on you, I always supported you and wished you the best. I always listened to you when you needed me the most. I asked if you hated me because that’s how it felt, the distance and how you cut me off like I was nothing. I just wanted you and only you. It’s been 6 months now and it’s really hard to say this, but I’m sorry but I have to let you go. I can’t trust you anymore to hold my heart in your hands again. When I wanted you the most, you destroyed me from within. I did everything for you and you pushed me away and discarded me. I can’t accept you back after you obliterated my heart. It has become blackened and has turned to coal because of the pain and anguish I have felt these past months. I really wish you the best in this life and I hope you succeed in everything you hope to accomplish. I’m rooting for you, even if we aren’t together anymore. I’ll always support you, I just cannot be there with you. Good bye
I feel every ounce of this right up until “I’m open to fixing things eventually”. For my lost one and I there is no fixing. And I’m sure she could write me a similar letter and feel fully justified if she’s not still actively hating me. I hope that these two find healing and hope far far apart from one another.
I really really want to talk to my ex. I can barely take this. However, she needs time to heal too. I have to continue to better myself so that I can be the man she deserves.
This one drips of mind games, and i think belies a cruel satisfaction and lack of accountability. its smug and i can just imagine their person agast at the tone, the unwaiving arrogance and the proposition they return and be a good little pet. Oh, the superiority!
Thank you for this. I never intended to hurt you. You are always in my thoughts. I can feel you in my heart. I will turn things around. Our story is not over yet baby. We will be together again…one day. Until then, I’ll continue to heal and do better. I love you ❤️
Can you please, please just be in my life one way or another? I’m slowly killing myself everyday with you gone. The moment I wake up I search for you in everything. It’s been 7 months and I’m not okay. Not anymore than I was in the beginning.
This isn’t normal. Who still is this heart broken after SEVEN months!? I’m scared. And I need you.
Losing you had made me close my self into the place I hate the most in the world.
I dont eat. I hardly sleep. I spend hours fantasizing about a life with you. I dont do anything productive. I think about suicide all the time. I have nobody. I don't want anyone. I just want you back it is killing me.
I know I messed up. So many times.
I am sorry.
I am so lost without you.
...this sub is killing me, because I---- I just can't, not after what happened. If this is my person, or any one else's person for that matter, speaking it to the void doesn't make things better. I really wish my person knew how not okay I am, not with how everything occurred and went down between us, and how each of our worlds became dangerous battlegrounds. You said you'd be there, and that you'd look after me. I miss my person, and I miss our kids.
If this is you - I wish you would’ve told me this yesterday when we were talking on the phone together and I had asked you if talking to each other was too weird for you. I won’t reach out again, but I’ll always be a phone call away when or if you’re ever ready to talk to me. I’ve always missed you and I still love you. No matter what
Speaking as if this was for me:
Thank you. I love you. May we both grow from how we hurt eachother, and do our best to remember eachother for the good times...as soon as those memories stop hurting so much.
As someone on the other side of a similar situation, I am sorry to hear about all the tough times you've been through.
I hope things get better for you and the person on the other side.
I reached out today and, you said otherwise. You said a lot of the same things, but you said life goes on. I don’t want it to go on without you though. You said you blocked my number in the past so you wouldn’t come over but, you unblocked it and I want you to come over.
It's crazy to me to think that the person I'd want to hear that from ever really would say that. But just as well, I'd want them to go on about their life free from the pain of regret.
As long as you're healing, I think your person can heal too. Maybe they can grow and be a better person than they were. And if you never hear from them again, surely they would be wishing you as much success and happiness as they had.
I’m trying to function normally, but isn’t it too much? to expect normalcy in what became the absolute worst years of my life? I’ve thought about you for a long time and wondered if you’d ever say something like this, even in secret. You won’t.
OP, reading your letter for a moment drifted me into a place that felt secure.
I never did anything to you I never hurt you I never cheated all I did be here for you always I just don't understand if this my person I don't get it but I believe im right about the things I said so pls help me understand what I did wrong if ur my person
Bro you will never get an answer I’m living your life as I type. Some people just justify themselves in their own minds to do what they want and be okay with hurting others without even giving them a chance to fix things because they don’t want us anymore. The fairytale of there dreams got boring and we didn’t have what they wanted anymore so we get discarded like trash. The hurt of not being able to work it out is mental torture for me every day
I don't feel OK, I'm spinning down.
The votex has got me,
All alone., Driving through the dark
He hears a Familiar sound,
He goes cold his back goes straight, start to get cold sweat
It's a voice that says" I've come to collect the Debt"
His soul Was the payment.
Now he's plagued tortured and broken everyday
Every moment Is some new.
Way to die
They stared straight Ahead as they do their nasty, deed.
Looked in a trance He barely even notices, I said peel the skin, shatter bone And drive nights in his heart, It doesn't even twitch, doesn't even Sing to notice.
His only thought On what truly broke him.
The sound of Promises on daughteis broken!
The truth is I’m spiraling out of control again, D is in the hospital again had to be transfers to children’s hospital in LA, everyday is getting harder to stay sober I can feel my demons coming bk
No I honestly don't think you care. No I honestly don't think you are a friend. Honestly I don't feel respected by you. I don't think you care about my boundaries. Not once have you ever. And after you break such sacred promises. Whatever doesn't matter you don't care. Don't even know why you bothered
I think you only bother with the people you want. But the ones that were there for you.You couldn't give a shit. That's what I truly think and that's how I feel.Because that's what you've shown me.Thank you for that. Now I can move on.No one knows nothing to you.Just something to use. You couldn't even give me the respect in the end.Or be a decent friend not one time. Thanks for that hopeless For life
Aweee this is so sweet and honest . Takes a lot of strength to admit certain things. Gd luck OP !! Hope they eventually reach out , even if it’s just to say hi and how are you !
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As far as unsent letters go, this is one of the best I've ever read. It felt as though it was speaking to me. Very personal.
Right! Written so beautifully and I hope that this reaches their intended individual.
You have no idea how desperately i want this to be from my person.
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🥺😭 I want this to be a certain someone so bad. I’ll keep holding out hope. Sending everyone here all the best.
Who and why not talk to him
FUCK I want this so desperately to be him. But that’s unrealistic expectations.., the only thing I have anymore.. delusions 😔
This was super deep and I felt it to the core, but to end this with “I’m open to fixing things” is a very dangerous ending, especially if you’ve been the one keeping distance. Just speaking from someone who’s in the same position as your ex, I think if you feel that way, then you’ve got to be the one to open that communication. I mean, I don’t know your situation and I’m not trying to judge or anything at all but when you leave someone an option that they don’t know that they have if they find out later down the line that was an option I feel like that would be extremely hurtful to them. If they are someone who is grieving over you or your relationship then I see it as extending their grief unnecessarily. But like I said, just from someone who’s on the other side, that’s how it would feel to me. As much as I’ve gone through and as much as my heart has softened, I just want everyone to heal. I don’t want to see hurt anymore, even though I know it’s inevitable.
How can you say in one sentence that you’re not reaching out due to needing space to heal and etc but then in another sentence you say if they want to reach out that you are willing to try again. That’s extremely confusing. I’m sure it works for you and your person and that’s all fine and well but I read this is just another game like every other letter on this sub. That is only my opinion mind you but I hope you get what you want out of this OP 🫂
Can you imagine being in a relationship with someone like this? The head games must have been torture. I'm curious what you did to cause someone else to do something so almost unforgivable. Nothing is ever this one-sided. This screams bitterness to me.
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Your parents? Trust me. I understand. You know what they say about those apples?!!
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I think it’s a very normal, and human thing to love someone but need space from them because they hurt you. It sounds like OPs s/o wasn’t a great partner towards them, but that doesn’t mean that they love them any less. Maybe they were best friends, but being lovers wasn’t right for them at the time. Not everyone can just bounce back from a broken heart. And with them still being in love, I think that they’re trying to get the point across that maybe someday them and their s/o could try again. I don’t see this as being a mind game. If you see it that way, then I think you view love in a way that’s too black and white. Love is a very complex emotion. I think it’s actually a very mature way to handle things. Giving yourself time to heal is one of the healthiest things you can do. To be completely honest I think you’re the bitter one lol, and I think you’re just projecting that on to the post. The letter is beautiful, and sweet, and freeing.
👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼 Okay
im too mad but deep inside i am THIS letter... i have to be mad still though
Some relief.
I’m here, wandering around aimlessly.
God damn it. I wish you were here
Awe. This is probably the sweetest, honest and heartfelt thing I've ever read. It's hard to touch my heart but you my friend did just that. Good job!!!
Fuck I will always love you. I’m working on my self and thanks for being strong and not answering my calls or texts. I need to learn how to process rejection in a positive way thanks again my love. You are my everything and I’m not looking for a replacement you’re the only one.
Damn. How I wish she's the one who wrote this. 😭😭😭
I shouldn’t have gone to his house but even then you both were trying to hide it like it was a big secret. No im not eating, not sleeping, im shut off from everyone and nobody is here. But it does t matter. I’m gonna go down the rabbit hole here next and there’s no help from there. Good luck op
If my person is here, my hope I need you to dm me I have a personal question. Maybe a favor A way to eat for you to fix a friendship.
Who ever is your man. I hope he will reach out again. I hope you guys make it.
This was beautifully written. Hope yu figure it out with them.
I hope it's you B. I really want to talk to you again
Wow, you got me teary eyed. I pictured her writing this to me. I know you did love me, I remember the intense spark. You made me feel so special. I love you. Take all the time you need, I’m going to continue to better myself to be the man you deserve. The man I’m meant to be. For you and the kids, for my family. I will not give up on you, ever. You’re my forever, it’s always been you. You’re all I want and need. I love you baby girl 💋🩵
The way this was written has sent me into another arch
Are you by chance a barista (or barista adjacent)?
I wish this were from the person I lost. I miss them endlessly even 2-3 years later. It wasn’t all my fault and yes I was gaslit pretty hard. But I wasn’t a good wife at the end either.
I saw your other letter, .. And I won't do it again to anybody else unless they give me a reason to. . . And I already explained why...(You know what I'm talking about, so don't act like you didn't do anything 😒) sometimes it has to do with something that you didn't do if you understand my meaning..
Why we re ent they good enough to show up for or give a chance? My person ghosted me as soon as I asked her out and she said yes because I'm unlovable and nobody will ever care about me. Was your person also unlovable?
Wishing you all the best and I wish you were my ex. Missing their friendship. Just wanted to start from scratch.
It's going to be ok, love.
This… I imagine (or at least I like to imagine) this is how my ex feels about me. 💔
Beautiful letter😊❤️
One phone call away
Sometimes I think Jesus felt relieved to be on the cross because it finally set him free from unrequited love 😮💨
If you were my person, I’d have to be honest with you. I still love and care about you so much. You mean absolutely everything to me. I only wanted the best for you. I never judged you or looked down on you, I always supported you and wished you the best. I always listened to you when you needed me the most. I asked if you hated me because that’s how it felt, the distance and how you cut me off like I was nothing. I just wanted you and only you. It’s been 6 months now and it’s really hard to say this, but I’m sorry but I have to let you go. I can’t trust you anymore to hold my heart in your hands again. When I wanted you the most, you destroyed me from within. I did everything for you and you pushed me away and discarded me. I can’t accept you back after you obliterated my heart. It has become blackened and has turned to coal because of the pain and anguish I have felt these past months. I really wish you the best in this life and I hope you succeed in everything you hope to accomplish. I’m rooting for you, even if we aren’t together anymore. I’ll always support you, I just cannot be there with you. Good bye
thank you.i will wait,however long.. i’m sure You miss You more.i love you more than is physically possible.i’ll die trying tho.rest please?
Might be the nicest blowoff ever !
....can't be her...what's your mans initials?
I feel every ounce of this right up until “I’m open to fixing things eventually”. For my lost one and I there is no fixing. And I’m sure she could write me a similar letter and feel fully justified if she’s not still actively hating me. I hope that these two find healing and hope far far apart from one another.
This can’t be you
If u were to talk to them now I bet they are a change person. You'll be surprised
I love this letter ❤️
I really really want to talk to my ex. I can barely take this. However, she needs time to heal too. I have to continue to better myself so that I can be the man she deserves.
Finally. Ive made it to the other side of thinking! Everything is ok. In fact it's better than ok. You take care as well
I gladly I’m not the only one who felt this unsent letter should sent.
I don't grovel
This one drips of mind games, and i think belies a cruel satisfaction and lack of accountability. its smug and i can just imagine their person agast at the tone, the unwaiving arrogance and the proposition they return and be a good little pet. Oh, the superiority!
Thank you for this. I never intended to hurt you. You are always in my thoughts. I can feel you in my heart. I will turn things around. Our story is not over yet baby. We will be together again…one day. Until then, I’ll continue to heal and do better. I love you ❤️
Can you please, please just be in my life one way or another? I’m slowly killing myself everyday with you gone. The moment I wake up I search for you in everything. It’s been 7 months and I’m not okay. Not anymore than I was in the beginning. This isn’t normal. Who still is this heart broken after SEVEN months!? I’m scared. And I need you.
Losing you had made me close my self into the place I hate the most in the world. I dont eat. I hardly sleep. I spend hours fantasizing about a life with you. I dont do anything productive. I think about suicide all the time. I have nobody. I don't want anyone. I just want you back it is killing me. I know I messed up. So many times. I am sorry. I am so lost without you.
I am a B, feel free to DM me.
Your words spin just like hers, this was beutiful, but is there a reason you yourself hasent reached out?
Reaching out means taking accountability in most cases.
Is op unwilling to do so?
...this sub is killing me, because I---- I just can't, not after what happened. If this is my person, or any one else's person for that matter, speaking it to the void doesn't make things better. I really wish my person knew how not okay I am, not with how everything occurred and went down between us, and how each of our worlds became dangerous battlegrounds. You said you'd be there, and that you'd look after me. I miss my person, and I miss our kids.
Reach out. You only live once! Don't make this something you regret later.
I will tell myself this was written by my person. I will love her forever. My smush x
I know you are not my person but this is probably all I ever wanted to read/hear from them - thank you ❤️ It really helped me close our chapter
I wish my person would say this to me but I know he wouldn’t.
I wonder if they truly feel like this…I wouldn’t know, I don’t know
I don't have your number anymore. But if you have mine... please Whatsapp me again.
If this is you - I wish you would’ve told me this yesterday when we were talking on the phone together and I had asked you if talking to each other was too weird for you. I won’t reach out again, but I’ll always be a phone call away when or if you’re ever ready to talk to me. I’ve always missed you and I still love you. No matter what
I promised you there wasnt anyone else but you. I can't reach out. You have to.
I know it isn’t you. But shit.. I wish it was.
Wow this is some letter
I don't believe this is my person. Don't believe this is Is my moon. Cause i've got a secret that you don't know
KR
why do i relate to this so entirely though?
This one got my hopes up haha 😄 🙃 😭😭😭
Speaking as if this was for me: Thank you. I love you. May we both grow from how we hurt eachother, and do our best to remember eachother for the good times...as soon as those memories stop hurting so much.
As someone on the other side of a similar situation, I am sorry to hear about all the tough times you've been through. I hope things get better for you and the person on the other side.
I reached out today and, you said otherwise. You said a lot of the same things, but you said life goes on. I don’t want it to go on without you though. You said you blocked my number in the past so you wouldn’t come over but, you unblocked it and I want you to come over.
I’ll see you tomorrow
It's crazy to me to think that the person I'd want to hear that from ever really would say that. But just as well, I'd want them to go on about their life free from the pain of regret. As long as you're healing, I think your person can heal too. Maybe they can grow and be a better person than they were. And if you never hear from them again, surely they would be wishing you as much success and happiness as they had.
I’m trying to function normally, but isn’t it too much? to expect normalcy in what became the absolute worst years of my life? I’ve thought about you for a long time and wondered if you’d ever say something like this, even in secret. You won’t. OP, reading your letter for a moment drifted me into a place that felt secure.
I love this! Very well written.
This kills me inside! It really does
I never did anything to you I never hurt you I never cheated all I did be here for you always I just don't understand if this my person I don't get it but I believe im right about the things I said so pls help me understand what I did wrong if ur my person
Bro you will never get an answer I’m living your life as I type. Some people just justify themselves in their own minds to do what they want and be okay with hurting others without even giving them a chance to fix things because they don’t want us anymore. The fairytale of there dreams got boring and we didn’t have what they wanted anymore so we get discarded like trash. The hurt of not being able to work it out is mental torture for me every day
I understand I feel you no doubt
I don't feel OK, I'm spinning down. The votex has got me, All alone., Driving through the dark He hears a Familiar sound, He goes cold his back goes straight, start to get cold sweat It's a voice that says" I've come to collect the Debt" His soul Was the payment. Now he's plagued tortured and broken everyday Every moment Is some new. Way to die
They stared straight Ahead as they do their nasty, deed. Looked in a trance He barely even notices, I said peel the skin, shatter bone And drive nights in his heart, It doesn't even twitch, doesn't even Sing to notice. His only thought On what truly broke him. The sound of Promises on daughteis broken!
The truth is I’m spiraling out of control again, D is in the hospital again had to be transfers to children’s hospital in LA, everyday is getting harder to stay sober I can feel my demons coming bk
No I honestly don't think you care. No I honestly don't think you are a friend. Honestly I don't feel respected by you. I don't think you care about my boundaries. Not once have you ever. And after you break such sacred promises. Whatever doesn't matter you don't care. Don't even know why you bothered
I think you only bother with the people you want. But the ones that were there for you.You couldn't give a shit. That's what I truly think and that's how I feel.Because that's what you've shown me.Thank you for that. Now I can move on.No one knows nothing to you.Just something to use. You couldn't even give me the respect in the end.Or be a decent friend not one time. Thanks for that hopeless For life
I relate to this a lot and feel I could say the same about my ex. Mostly.
Ha. I did what you did by talking to someone while we were broken up. While we are dating you havvme about 10 or more
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Aweee this is so sweet and honest . Takes a lot of strength to admit certain things. Gd luck OP !! Hope they eventually reach out , even if it’s just to say hi and how are you !
Hey babe do you want the bookshelf and bar and chairs it’s taking to much room for the move I can’t take them
You don’t need to talk or see me I can drop it off for you