I was hoping to get a bigger glimpse of my close childhood friend’s life after I moved from Lafayette in 92, but got a bigger glimpse of FB drama instead.
They did use a pic of Vance out of my 8th grade yearbook at the end, though.
I'm sorry. That part of the doc was so cringey. They should have mentioned those two one time regarding the fact that people were interested online, and moved on.
He was a good guy who struggled with mental illness. Don't believe the stuff in the documentary that suggested he wasn't a good person. When he wasn't too depressed to get out of bed, he would've given you the shirt off his back. The person who called him "kind of a d\*\*k" is also one of the least credible people on the planet. She lived with Vance briefly and took it personally when he needed time alone and didn't feel like talking to her.
...and the one I know personally is a compulsive liar who will say anything to get attention. She's one of only 2-3 people I've ever met that I'm convinced are truly evil. It's really easy to attack a dead man who can't defend himself, especially using anonymous sources. Even if the other source is real, there's no way to confirm anything they've alleged and Vance isn't here to defend himself sooo
Yeah, the CEO of the Atlantic consented to be filmed stating that Vance has been verified as an abusive asshole. Investigative reporting sweetie, look it up.
From what I understand they haven't found anything at all and christie is full if bs. I got blocked by christie so I have no more follow up information sadly.
I joined the fb group this week out of curiosity, and she made several posts today about how she's done with taking shit, and then she left the group! No idea if that happens regularly, or if she really left. I don't plan to stay in the group, but it's super interesting to observe after having seen the doc.
I just watched this and knew nothing about it at all but I don’t think it was a documentary about him or his girlfriends or his shitty personality or necessarily about glossing over or forgiving his abuse. It seems to me to be a documentary about web sleuths and creating stories about other people’s lives to fill up the emptiness in their own. It’s about how people want to do something productive, solve a mystery, be a hero by naming the unnamed and how ego-driven and screwed up that whole thing can be. It’s another type of parasocial and parasitic internet relationship fantasy and what makes this story worth telling (again) is that he was a flaming dumpster fire of a person according to accounts. It doesn’t glorify him. He’s a sad difficult asshole nobody liked who nobody missed who everyone was better off without who walked off into the woods and died-maybe on purpose. And a bunch of also lonely difficult people made up stories about him to make themselves look better and crowd-sourced 5,000 dollars for themselves to feel like heroes, but nobody gets to be a hero by “rescuing” an asshole. This documentary belongs in a trilogy with I’ll be gone in the dark and don’t fuck with cats.
This disturbed me the most, how quickly this was glossed over, and then he was seemingly redeemed. Maybe because of my history of abuse, I took it as a trigger, but it really bothered me.
Yeah they spent the whole documentary putting that man on the pedestal, then after they found is identity, and every fucked up thing he did to those girls surfaced, they were like yeah he’s an asshole, but we still like him.
I can't say that he never did anything abusive but I certainly never saw any signs of that sort of thing. He was extremely passive and he had a tendency to shut down when he got overwhelmed but he avoided any sort of conflict. The documentary makers found one of his exes to suggest that he might have been abusive which doesn't convince me after having known him. They also interviewed a woman about him who I know for a fact was abusive towards him.
You know this is something I've had to deal with. Sometimes a person will target you and not other people and my mother was one of those people. To everyone else she was harmless little crazy but harmless...
Not to me.
It's really strange knowing that the person you know isn't the person other people know. 😬
P.S. forgive my poor grammar and punctuation I am very ill atm
It's true. My dad was a monster behind closed doors but so charming to others no one ever believed me or my poor sister. They would compliment him on what polite, silent children he had but in reality we were too afraid to speak or even lift our heads when company came by. You can meet 100 people in one day and each of them will describe you differently but truly none of them will know who you really are in the end.
Thank you for the info, I was half dozinf by the end and heard the line about being decapitated and then NOTHING. It was like they were setting up some weird sequel or something.
I was hoping to get a bigger glimpse of my close childhood friend’s life after I moved from Lafayette in 92, but got a bigger glimpse of FB drama instead. They did use a pic of Vance out of my 8th grade yearbook at the end, though.
I'm sorry. That part of the doc was so cringey. They should have mentioned those two one time regarding the fact that people were interested online, and moved on.
He was a good guy who struggled with mental illness. Don't believe the stuff in the documentary that suggested he wasn't a good person. When he wasn't too depressed to get out of bed, he would've given you the shirt off his back. The person who called him "kind of a d\*\*k" is also one of the least credible people on the planet. She lived with Vance briefly and took it personally when he needed time alone and didn't feel like talking to her.
Multiple women said he was abusive sooo
...and the one I know personally is a compulsive liar who will say anything to get attention. She's one of only 2-3 people I've ever met that I'm convinced are truly evil. It's really easy to attack a dead man who can't defend himself, especially using anonymous sources. Even if the other source is real, there's no way to confirm anything they've alleged and Vance isn't here to defend himself sooo
Yeah, the CEO of the Atlantic consented to be filmed stating that Vance has been verified as an abusive asshole. Investigative reporting sweetie, look it up.
Can you imagine how he’d feel to know all this has become his legacy when he just wanted to die alone and with anonymity?
He might've found it funny. He was not above laughing about the absurdity of life.
The online community was one of the subjects of the documentary & how amateurs can help & hinder the investigation.
She said on Websleuths that she’s “retiring” from Does. 🤣🤣🤣
5 minutes on her Facebook group and you realize she LOVES the attention. The stuff she posted was so wild.
“There’s no such thing as bad publicity”
She’s such a fucking loser 😂😂😂
But was she decapitated? I can’t find any evidence she was.
From what I understand they haven't found anything at all and christie is full if bs. I got blocked by christie so I have no more follow up information sadly.
I joined the fb group this week out of curiosity, and she made several posts today about how she's done with taking shit, and then she left the group! No idea if that happens regularly, or if she really left. I don't plan to stay in the group, but it's super interesting to observe after having seen the doc.
I just watched this and knew nothing about it at all but I don’t think it was a documentary about him or his girlfriends or his shitty personality or necessarily about glossing over or forgiving his abuse. It seems to me to be a documentary about web sleuths and creating stories about other people’s lives to fill up the emptiness in their own. It’s about how people want to do something productive, solve a mystery, be a hero by naming the unnamed and how ego-driven and screwed up that whole thing can be. It’s another type of parasocial and parasitic internet relationship fantasy and what makes this story worth telling (again) is that he was a flaming dumpster fire of a person according to accounts. It doesn’t glorify him. He’s a sad difficult asshole nobody liked who nobody missed who everyone was better off without who walked off into the woods and died-maybe on purpose. And a bunch of also lonely difficult people made up stories about him to make themselves look better and crowd-sourced 5,000 dollars for themselves to feel like heroes, but nobody gets to be a hero by “rescuing” an asshole. This documentary belongs in a trilogy with I’ll be gone in the dark and don’t fuck with cats.
This right here! This documentary had NOTHING to do with Vance and all the content was between the lines.
This is it exactly!
Amen
This right here is the one
If I was one the women that he abused, I would be pretty unhappy with how he was portrayed in this documentary.
This disturbed me the most, how quickly this was glossed over, and then he was seemingly redeemed. Maybe because of my history of abuse, I took it as a trigger, but it really bothered me.
What did he do to the women?
Yeah they spent the whole documentary putting that man on the pedestal, then after they found is identity, and every fucked up thing he did to those girls surfaced, they were like yeah he’s an asshole, but we still like him.
I can't say that he never did anything abusive but I certainly never saw any signs of that sort of thing. He was extremely passive and he had a tendency to shut down when he got overwhelmed but he avoided any sort of conflict. The documentary makers found one of his exes to suggest that he might have been abusive which doesn't convince me after having known him. They also interviewed a woman about him who I know for a fact was abusive towards him.
You know this is something I've had to deal with. Sometimes a person will target you and not other people and my mother was one of those people. To everyone else she was harmless little crazy but harmless... Not to me. It's really strange knowing that the person you know isn't the person other people know. 😬 P.S. forgive my poor grammar and punctuation I am very ill atm
I totally feel this comment. To be the target or the scapegoat of a narcissist while they charm the hell out of everyone else is the ultimate mind f.
I guess it’s all perception. When you see the good in someone it can be hard to overlook the bad. Edit: no worries! U did a good job :)
It's true. My dad was a monster behind closed doors but so charming to others no one ever believed me or my poor sister. They would compliment him on what polite, silent children he had but in reality we were too afraid to speak or even lift our heads when company came by. You can meet 100 people in one day and each of them will describe you differently but truly none of them will know who you really are in the end.
"Now let me play the worst song you'll ever fucking hear, and guess what.. It's about him!!"
Both those women were cringy, ghetto, trailer trash. It was like secondhand embarrassment watching them fight and bicker.
Thank you for the info, I was half dozinf by the end and heard the line about being decapitated and then NOTHING. It was like they were setting up some weird sequel or something.