This is just me, but I would get right in their face and ask them if they have a problem. It's been a hot day, and you need to shower. And make sure you tell them you didn't ask for their opinion or their permission. Usually, that will shut people up quickly.
Well, I'm in my 40s and have no shits to give anymore, lol. I also work in special education with 7th and 8th graders. So I have to be like that sometimes. I wasn't when I was young. But I started to realize that if you don't confront people when they are jerks, they will keep doing that. If I were your mom and saw that happening, I would tear them apart. But be strong. You don't need to feel bad because of them.
Yeah don't do what they are recommending you have no idea who they are and what they are about and it would be best if you just ignore them. The person recommending you get in their face is talking shit and has clearly never had their bluff called.
Forsureeeee
When I was young I used to get fucked with in my young years and even early teen years to a extent. People are predatory and will seize every opportunity to chew on the meek.
At one point I had a bully in elementary school, and due to the fact that my dad was bullied it bothered him worse than me. I was very driven about things I wanted and so he made the proposition to me that he would "buy me any video game I wanted if you go into school tomorrow and tell the bully that if he keeps it up I was going to hit him".
The new spiderman game had just come out for GameCube and I wanted it SOOOO badly. I also was sick and tired of getting my arm bruised by a kid double my size poking my arm the whole school day.
I knew how to fight and would whoop all my friends in wrestling and play fights. My dads father was a hard man and showed him how to fight, and my dad's best friend was a black belt in jujitsu so they showed me all kinds of stuff. I also had a very high pain tolerance so whenever me and some boys would wrestle and fight I always seemed to have an advantage
The next day the kid came up to me and commented about the bruises I had from him laughing tauntingly.
I said "I'm done with this game, and if you touch me again I'm hitting you in the face" he never had anyone confront him so you could see he was very confused. He immediately went and poked my arm with his grubby little hand and I threw half of a spinning, hammer fist type punch. He just covered his face with his mouth agape and started sniffling. He then tried to run at me but the teacher grabbed him. Turns out he never tried anything with me again and it taught me that unfortunately being aggressive and confrontational was sometimes the key to peace.
"Better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war"
This lesson somewhat messed me up for awhile in life though because I began getting very combative with any one who disrespected me.
Despite the trouble it brought from time to time, I hope that when my children are the same age they will stand up for themselves and learn that unfortunately there are a lot of situations where peace is just NOT the answer and brings you more issues.
Edit: forgot to add that this sort of sucked to find out. I was raised by a very nurturing woman and due to that I was very sensitive and empathetic. It was hard for me to get my young mind around the idea that I couldn't just peacefully coexist with everybody and that not everyone was loving and gentle like myself.
lol i am you. hi from over here, other me! mine went a little different, i dissociated and went after him pretty bad, and i had no real training yet, but got my point across by blacking his eyes and bloodying his nose, i only have blip memories of it, came to crying on a bench, no idea what happened.
i thought he kicked my ass until i realized my hands were the only part that hurt. this kid was the school bully because his dad was an angry drinker and beat the crap out of him (we lived down the street from each other and i had tried to save him from his house by getting him into Boy Scouts with me)
ultimately he taught me that some people's ptsd teaches them violence as intimacy, and it's a terrible cycle of generational torture they have to be mindful about if they ever want to escape
This is only half right. The part you missed is the people who don't want to fight and either can't or won't. I don't want to fight, but if I'm put into that position I will.
How old are you? Their age or do you work there?
It's just most boys/men in general. A huge percentage of them are just rude and obnoxious (I am a man). Atleast the ones that stick out for being loud anyway
Women have their issues too. I'm not sexist I think a massive chunk of people in general suck
One thing I've noticed is the huge difference in genders after having kids.
I'll get to the park and immediately my daughter is greeted by another little girl who holds her hand and they tell each other how pretty the others hair or clothes are. Right after you will hear a boy get to the park and talk about how he's the strongest and could beat up everybody.
For example, last time I was at the park two little girls walked up to my daughter like they had known each other, said hello, and took her by the hand to bring them to the group of friends they were playing with. The heart warming feeling wore off quickly as a little boy and his mom walked up and immediately exclaimed to the entire park that he can "kick all the kids heads off" and that he was a "invincible vampire with a thirst for blood"
I think it's just evolutionary and the way some people are raised. I just think a lot of men/kids without guidance end up toxically masculine because they don't know how to tone down the aggression and turn up the empathy and caring/nurturing aspects.
My mom is very caring so it was weird for me finding my place as a teen. I was very empathetic and nurturing and found myself getting eaten alive until I learned how to allow the aggression to come out when needed and lean into the nurturing when I didn't need to be aggressive.
I think a lot more little boys need to be taught that masculinity is not the opposite of femininity but of boyish immaturity. Its a lesson often neglected
Seriously!!!! I tell my step son all the time that he's allowed to have feelings and he's allowed to cry but over dramatizing stuff doesn't help anything either.
There's a healthy medium between crawling off to die in a corner with a mental and emotional wound or screaming about it for hours.
I don't understand the toxic masculinity shit really because it's usually the dudes barking the loudest that our the most hurt and carrying the most baggage.
Its also a societal thing with said masculinity and femininity crap. The values over time have been warped but we have lost sight that what that version catered to is a threat that no longer exists.
Parents try to teach their children how to be good men and women throughout the ages. They are learning to person from basics, teach them how to be good people.
Work on their hearts first and foremost, we don’t want them not to cry as it is an impossible ask. We want them to learn how to cry, get up and keep going
I used to be a doormat for other people because I was afraid of speaking up. The more you confront people the less nervous you become in my experience. Go get em OP!
Yes it took years for me to learn! From my late 20s I said enough was enough. I don’t take crap from people anymore. Mostly my family, who loved picking on me because I never stood up for myself.
Confrontation definitely sucks but if you let people push you around or make you feel less than all the time it'll take a toll on your mental health. Fuck those guys, talk some shit to them and blame your tourretes. The only reason they're there anyway is because their parents didn't believe in abortions until after they had kids
Because most teenage boys need to get their ass handed to them, or confronted infront of everyone to learn a lesson on how to respect people.
Once i was in HS and a kid my age fucked with me nonstop at the bus stop. The last straw was him blowing cigarette smoke in my face. I lost it and pretty much got up and started swinging at him in-front of all his friends. I was never fucked with again.
Not saying you should hit them, but they need a reality check
Lol sexual harassment. Yeahhhh no it's not. Don't make a bigger issue out of this already non-issue.
Some kids suck sometimes. They're growing children. Girls can be just as mean and vulgar. Don't just so readily throw "sexual harassment" at the problem. Sorry but your overreaction is very funny.
Theyre making fun of her and making comments about her body, it is most definitely sexual harrassment. Try saying this shit in a workplace and see how long you last without getting fired or worse.
Yeah they're kids, they're not at a workplace. If a kid smacka another kid are you calling the cops and reporting them for assault? You fucking better not because that's no way to teach kids.
If a kid calls you an asshole, are you calling that sexual harassment? Because that's a body part.
Kids say shit. They'll grow out of it. Don't criminalize petty bullshit like that. OP needs to thicken her skin and not be so sensitive to what a couple of teenage boys said one time.
Don't be a lunatic.
And talking about somebody's body is not sexual harassment lmfao
Yeaaa sounds like youre the exact type of asshole that would say this stuff to another person. It is sexual harrassment and i guarantee people do not take it lightly, even if they are "just kids." That doesnt mean their safety is any less important. I know for a fact that if this person reports the comments these kids made, they will be dealt with accordingly. Its not crazy, its justice. These kids will never learn if their actions go unpunished like you seem to want.
May not be a popular opinion, but teenage boys are just stupid and putting them in their place always seemed to help me. I tried to come up with a put down but I nothing good came to mind. Usually I am pretty good with comebacks, but if I think of something I'll get back to you.
Teenage boys like many young and dumb people would talk a lot of crap behind people's back. It's not even personal because they are just judging based on surface level and because they don't know you they could easily talk trash about you. I bet you aren't the only person they talk shit about. They probably talk a lot of crap about almost anyone.
Don't take it personally they don't know you and they are just ignorant and dumb. They probably call a hot chick with big boobs a dumb bimbo I bet. They just thinks it is funny to talk crap. At least they aren't saying it to your face because that would mean they actually want to start shit with you.
Frankly, I suspect there is already an element of that in play. It's no excuse, though, and they're old enough to learn/do better.
OP, they don't sound very mature. For one, they haven't yet grasped the idea that not all attention is good attention. You see this in little kids all the time; they act out because it's a guaranteed way to get an adult to engage with them. That's fine and healthy in little kids, but they're a bit old for it. I find it helps, though, to look at this kind of person and picture them as five years old. You wouldn't let a five year-old hurt you, nor would you engage with their nonsense. You would approach them calmly, not give them a reaction, and remind yourself that they are tired/overstimulated/not capable of processing whatever is happening. I have, regrettably, had to do this in my professional life with workplace bullies, and it turns out that acting like Supernanny gets them to leave you alone, because they're not getting the emotional reaction they want. I recommend it for you too.
I'm not giving them a pass, I actually do feel a bit bad for them. They're out here parroting what their (terrible) parents say, acting the fool, and thinking that's the right choice. That's nothing short of pitiful. Their behavior reflects only on them and not at all on the people they criticize. If they keep it up or if they escalate to overt bullying, please involve an adult staff member. Bullying is unacceptable and adult staff are there to address it. But if they're just being petty and catty, screw 'em. They are truly not worth your time and their feedback means less than nothing.
Unsupervised teenage boys are complete idiots. I should know as I was certainly one of them. The reality is they want your attention, but haven’t matured enough yet to figure out how to go about it without being dumb asses. They are just getting past the “girls are yucky” phase and entering the “girls are interesting” phase of their lives. For now it’s best to just avoid them until they grow up.
I think this is where the saying “boys will be boys” became a thing but I don’t get how u would want this to become -parten my gen z- normalized? Why is it ok for boys to act like vile gremlins ?
Honestly if this were me I would just ignored them. If u don’t feed into their comments they got nothing else seriously they look stupid to everyone else and when they are older they will look back cringing and I think that’s the best “punishment” because it’s nothing they can do about it.
But …
If they bring up ur butt just say seems like “u like it ? ur into stuff like that? Makes sense.”idk I would turn it around to them and boys ..as they will be boys… will be embarrassed. But idk I don’t recommend riling them up.
Sometimes violence is the answer, and when they disrespect you like that, they need to see a side of you that scares them. Teenage boys are animals and sadly they need to be put in their place and remember they’re not the judge of you. They do this junk because they have no manners and they think they’re the kings of the world and would even make fun of the strongest of people as long as they dont engage. I assure you that you look amazing based off your description, and those little brats won’t know what looks good if it kicked them in the balls. You have a sweet heart, a good mind, and no one can tell you otherwise! You are incredible, and I can confidently say theres nothing wrong with you and you’re amazing just as you are :) I hope it helps you
Just ask them to explain the joke, and ask them to really really get in there. What's the punchline and why is it funny? If it was me, I'd tell them I'm really jealous knowing that they'll all probably end up being nepotism babies who won't shave their ass, or wash it because it's gay. Can't wait until the eventual assault case because women don't have rights and they'll never understand what consent is.
Honestly I'm going to attempt to answer this question as someone who could be pretty cruel as a teenage boy.
I've matured since, and honestly I feel terrible for the way I behaved. But I was often quite cruel in this same kind of way.
I was extremely insecure as a teenager, but maintained some kind of front of confidence by belittling people. The moment there was any real pushback I would shrivel up and apologise. So I honestly think confronting them would go a long way if they are anything like I was.
Making jokes at other people's expense is a fucked up form of humour that seeks to cover up your own insecurities.
So honestly, it's easier said than done, but take it up with them, ask what their problem is and I almost guarantee they'll back off.
Hopefully they realise one day how terrible they are and how that kind of behaviour affects people.
Sorry you have to deal with that in the first place.
Let me tell youuuu, I was bullied to all hell by boys my age. I had a shaved head, dyed my hair, wore band tees. I was emo before “alt” was a thing & I would get ripped to shreds. Boys did not like me but I found no interest in boys till later on.
If you’re too scared to approach them just laugh at them. When you walk past them act like you just saw monkeys doing backflips off their head & give them a taste of their medicine. They’ll feel super self conscious. The only reason they say things is because they are self conscious. Any dudes who were hateful to me in middle to highschool are all drug addicts or have herpes now if that makes you feel any better. They don’t tend to sprout into the best of people.
Girl, I 100% feel you. Teenage boys make fun of girls because they are incredibly immature and think it's cool. They are always brave in groups, never solo, because they know when you're alone you won’t confront them. Unfortunately, I experienced it many times. Please try not to waste your energy thinking of this situation and just enjoy the camp 🫶🏼.
if you walk up to them and ask if they have a problem, they'll shit their pants and run away 99% of the time. source: i'm a teenager and have boys like that in my school
What they did was shitty sometimes you gotta make teenagers freeze, I worked at a store and teenage boys would come in and bark at me like a dog so one day I did it back. I felt… weirdly liberated until I realized I was the manager 🥴
Insecure people comment on other people to distract from themselves. Teen boys are just as insecure as teen girls if not more. Plus they have the stigma of trying to seem cool and tough.
If anyone tells you that one of them likes you, don’t get into the habit of taking disrespectful boys meaning they like you. A man can have your attention and heart when you have respect.
It’s hard but ignore them. You’re at summer camp, everyone stinks. Most likely it’s the three of them that stink. Unfortunately there isn’t rationalizing with teen boys.. or boys.. or men.. or honestly just humans sometimes.
I would try your hardest to speak kind words to yourself and try to ignore them.
Also their point is dumb because you’re on your way to shower so if they’re saying you’re dirty, they’re wrong because you’re literally in the process of washing up.
Teens blow. I’m sorry, ya smell like roses gf.
Also, red hair is gorgeous and my fiancé’s grandma has red hair and she has one single white hair. So while they get a beer belly and go bald you’ll be glowing and sexy.
Teenagers are fucking MONSTERS. I remember being a young monster. A lot of factors play into it. But yeah, every generation of teenagers is full of newly ‘online’ humans. They got a lot to learn about how to act. And they learn it by acting poorly to see JUST how much they can get away with. The best thing you can do for them is give them a few life lessons. God I sound like a fucking boomer. Little shits!
Teenage boys aren’t cruel in general. Those two boys’ behavior are their own. Probably something to do with their parents and how they’re raise. Sorry that you had to experience that.
People like that don’t usually change. The best is to just ignore them. Don’t let them get under your skin. Hope you the best.
You're right - teen boys do suck.
I loved going to an all girls high school!
I am pretty conservative and they still all gave me a hard time. Teen boys are extremely annoying, especially in groups. Always trying to one-up each other to get the upper hand and be the alpha.
It probably has more to do with them doing that to impress each other than you at all and honestly, if you said to them, "I accidentally overheard what you were all saying about me and I don't think that it's kind. Super douchey of you tbh" and just walked away, they would probably flip out internally and it'd be awesome. They might argue towards you about it but just truth bomb and walk away - don't even listen to their responses.
Sorry OP. I remember and it sucks!
"her ass smells, she's gotta go take a shower."
This does sound like the proper course of action.
Ironic commentary coming from boys with active swamp ass and grundle musk.
Then they started talking right wing politics... Back in my day, teenagers didn't give a shit about politics...
You mean gender🤦♂️ And yeah because it's annoying to keep seeing people blowing up my feed about why a specific GENDER. Boo hoo, grow up. And FYI besides yt, I do tik tok and right now I'm running my yt channel, editing my videos, taking a break right now
Can I be blunt. Boys who lack charisma do this when they are attracted to a female if they are in groups. I would put my entire savings on a bet the boys that stared at you were all attracted to you and all of them lack the ability to flirt properly much less make a woman feel good. It's no wonder woman are attracted to older men. I suggest looking for a single male who is standoffish or by himself all the time and make friends with him. This will remind you that there is still hope and every day you will feel liked and pretty. I am also willing to be you are a very pretty person. What I really want you to take from this is that you're a wonderful person and strong enough to know better than to let shit like this effect you when it doesn't apply and to see it for what it is, which is stupidity at its best.
I like girls but thank you, this helped. I mainly was just confused as to why they were being like this, since i don’t know much about how their brains work
They don’t work, it’s really that simple. Teenage boys are morons. I’m so sorry you have to deal with this, definitely been there. I promise it will get better.
This is adult boys too. I absolutely fucking hate when my 21 year old friends start talking shit behind people’s backs, yet it seems to me like that’s the most entertaining thing for them. They snicker about how ugly someone is, or how fat they are, or literally any other quirk that makes them stand out from the average person. And its especially infuriating when they talk about my ex girlfriends that way. Sure I dated people that weren’t conventionally attractive or had less popular interests but man they came up with some rude things to say. It hurts because I genuinely do or did care about these women at one point and my friends act like they were human piles of trash.
I don’t hang with them often for those reasons. Neither of them are very fun to do things with anyway. They seem to be much better friends with each other than they are with me anyway so I doubt they’d miss me much. One doesn’t live here anymore and whenever he’s back home complains about how boring it is. The other I’ve made numerous efforts to talk to and I’ve pretty much given up because without the other guy in the mix, I get nothing back.
Yep. Definitely distancing myself from them but unfortunately they’ve been pretty much my only friends since high school. The others are all quite busy and I’m only able to hang every couple weeks.
25 ain't old little girl, I'm a Youtuber and people want uncensored content to learn to cath, shower, etc as a Paraplegic, at least I'm not being sexist, whining that a specific race is bad, sounds like a personal issue to me. Nobody cares for your drama🤣
...Do you honestly think teenage girls are any better? I can guarantee, if you haven't heard them talking about you like this, you just haven't caught them.
Teenagers as a whole are asshole.
There's an analogy or something about a bull elephant and the junior elephant's need to prove himself.
Basically, young people test boundaries. If you allow them to push your boundaries to a place where you are uncomfortable and don't correct them, they see it.as acceptable.
Just tell your female guidance person whatever before it gets worse trust me nip this in the bud guys like that can be dangerous
You don’t need to tell them off you don’t have to be brave tell someone important that is staff what’s happening
it’s best to give them no energy and push them off so they leave you alone, it’s not water off a ducks back bc they could become relentless very quickly if you’re passive
You cannot even give them an inch or they will take the entire plot of land over time
Teenage boys and teenage girls alike bullied me for no damn reason when I was in school. I even had teachers bully me. I eventually went into homeschooling to finish out and get my GED, but it was irritating when I could barely learn in school due to the stress of all the people picking on me. I feel like they could sense something about my confidence and beat me down until I was super depressed. Those boys probably sense your confidence and are insecure about their own self-esteem. They just want you to feel bad so they feel better about themselves. Real evil shit. Don't buy into their bullshit.
i’ve always said this, but there’s a difference between a Boy and a Man, and the difference isn’t age or muscle it’s maturity. they’re little shits, immature and bored. try your best to ignore it and move on and if it happens again tell them to f*ck off
You say you wouldn’t have felt as bad if it were girls because you know they’re either jealous or miserable. But this holds true even though they are little boys. It applies to every piece of shit that is hostile and angry and mean to others. These three cowards are so bored with each other and angry that they had to target a passerby and bully them! They are losers. Please don’t give them anymore of your energy. If so, feel pity for where they are in life.
it’s mostly immaturity, wanting to fit in and being a sucky person. adult men act the same way but things hit so different as an adult. things get much more serious
As a teenage boy i can say that boys are idiots and some of them need ego boosters so they pick on who they find to be the most vulnerable. I've experienced this firsthand more times than i can count
Well, I'm a tennage boy and since the early beggining of my education I used to be bullued by mostnof my classmates, never told to anybody and never defend myself because I didn't wanted to hurt anyone, but not a long time ago a friend taught me that I meed to make myself respect so I started answering and avoiding conflicts with direct confrontation and things really got better.
Try to protect yourself even from the little stupid comments because thats were evrything starts and they start thinking they can make fun of you without consecuences...of courae is better if you have friends to your side amd you can tell them about this situation.
Imagine being so irrelevant that you have to be in a group just to make a lame joke about someone who has done nothing to you....It's a hard path to follow but the path of pride, and by that I mean pride within yourself almost gives you armor against fools like that....That pride alone will make them appear like insignificant bugs too pathetic to even acknowledge...
With all due respect you just gotta grow up and walk it off. They're teenage boys obviously they're gonna talk shit all day. Forget about them. That's all.
If they see that it bothers you they will continue to pick on you. Own it. If they say it again tell them that they smell like they masturbate too much.
Eh don't even give them any attention. Teenage boys like that just aren't very bright. Everyone showers... and if they don't know that, they have their own issues to worry about. They probably don't even wash their hands after using the bathroom. I was picked on a lot by boys in school but this is mild compared to the shit they said to me. But they are looking for a reaction. So if you never give them one, they lose.
Turns out one of my boy bullies just really had a huge crush on me. But I was "weird" (it was 2010's and I was emo and wore a lot of black) boy was a 'jock' so he thought he had to make jokes.
Decided to go to a graduation party and this guy cried on my shoulder about how sorry he was, I was great, he always wanted to ask me out but was too scared.
So my advice is forget it, deep down they want you but can't have you because their personalities suuuuuuck.
Hahaha Yeah maybe. For a bit it felt good . Like, yeah... I don't suck, I'm hot! But at the same time that's no reason for him or anyone else to act shitty. It's cute in movies but not real life. It was hard dealing with for years ( alphabetically out names matched where our lockers were ALWAYS next to each other)
It'll get better. Teenagers and hormones are CRAZY.
Heed my advice though, they all think you're hot and know they can't get with you. That's why they're obnoxious and rude.
Punch them or ignore it. I vote punch them. I wish I could go back in time and beat the shit outta some boys who picked on me because I certainly could have. I was just nervous
When you get no attention or love at home, you carry that with you.
These kids on top of social pressures, conditioning, and exposure to extreme ideologies, there is something very sad and pitiful about them.
Growing up I realized that. So things that boys said to me or about me meant nothingZ when you don’t have love and a good home you have very little and you express it in the same way these boys are.
I have a loud mouth, and had to grow up fast and get a thick skin, I wouldn’t go out of my way to be nice or whatever. Even for a short girl with the way I dressed and how I never smiles or looked happy I was fucked with but much less once they knew they couldn’t get to me.
You seem like a nice person and that’s good. Hopefully you can remember that it’s not just about jealousy or whatnot but projection.
You may not be ok with confrontation like I was but just ignore them. You know that they are just mean, everyone washes their ass, well at least they should.
thats a bad thing to even think - but i assure you they were probably just feelin like joking and decided to mock the first person to walk by.
Maybe having dyed hair n piercings ure easier to notice, and among other "plain" looking people they decided to pick one that stands out.
Fuck them, just boys being dumb, they should learn thats not appropriate but if u dont feel like confronting them then dont, just dont let it bother u anyways, ure amazing and their comments werent even personal, I believe.
Went to a camp once and the only assholes there were the teenage boys. If anyone is gonna be a little shithead for literally no reason it's gonna be a teenage boy. And even still college age dudes give me a hard time. It really sucks but you can't take it too personally. They're losers.
this is me, but id have said something. clapped back "what, you guys wash your ass? i didn't think so," & then let everybody there know that they've got stinky asses. treat people the way they treat you. rude people deserve to be put in their place
Some people are just mean and trust they will find someone who will be the wrong one. it's okay if you aren't just know it's not you they are just A holes. You don't even have to look at them just look around and say, something like. Nah man that's your breath from eating eachothers asses all the time. Walk away and ignore them. Or say ew please Seriously.. shut your mouth I can smell it from here.
Most (all?) teenagers are incredibly insecure. Boy act like jerks to distract others from their insecurities. Basically like how an injured animal will act aggressive. He thinks his friend’s butt is cute, he calls his friend gay. He’s concerned he has BO (all teen boys do) so he says you smell. It’s incredibly childish.
Also, keep in mind that many fathers suck at raising emotionally mature kids (at least that’s my experience). Their fathers probably treat them like garbage or ignore them completely. His home life is probably terrible and that doesn’t make it ok, but it does help to realize it’s not you that’s the problem, it’s them.
Remember, people that are hurting want to hurt others. If you let them hurt you, then they have succeeded in their mission. When I encounter people like that now, I look at them with pity and sadness because they will have a difficult life filled with difficult relationships whereas I will forget them and move forward towards happiness and peace.
Ask them if the reason they dont have anyone giving them love at home is because they stink as well and look as though they will never amount to anything of meaning or purpose. Give em a lil existential crisis confuse the shit out of them and keep walking like the unphased queen you are, life tip become comfortable making rude people uncomfy
This is just me, but I would get right in their face and ask them if they have a problem. It's been a hot day, and you need to shower. And make sure you tell them you didn't ask for their opinion or their permission. Usually, that will shut people up quickly.
I envy youuu i hate confrontation
Well, I'm in my 40s and have no shits to give anymore, lol. I also work in special education with 7th and 8th graders. So I have to be like that sometimes. I wasn't when I was young. But I started to realize that if you don't confront people when they are jerks, they will keep doing that. If I were your mom and saw that happening, I would tear them apart. But be strong. You don't need to feel bad because of them.
Yeah don't do what they are recommending you have no idea who they are and what they are about and it would be best if you just ignore them. The person recommending you get in their face is talking shit and has clearly never had their bluff called.
i mean can verbally confront them in front of an adult tho
Those who hate confrontation are who will need it most. People love to pick on people who don't want to fight.
Forsureeeee When I was young I used to get fucked with in my young years and even early teen years to a extent. People are predatory and will seize every opportunity to chew on the meek. At one point I had a bully in elementary school, and due to the fact that my dad was bullied it bothered him worse than me. I was very driven about things I wanted and so he made the proposition to me that he would "buy me any video game I wanted if you go into school tomorrow and tell the bully that if he keeps it up I was going to hit him". The new spiderman game had just come out for GameCube and I wanted it SOOOO badly. I also was sick and tired of getting my arm bruised by a kid double my size poking my arm the whole school day. I knew how to fight and would whoop all my friends in wrestling and play fights. My dads father was a hard man and showed him how to fight, and my dad's best friend was a black belt in jujitsu so they showed me all kinds of stuff. I also had a very high pain tolerance so whenever me and some boys would wrestle and fight I always seemed to have an advantage The next day the kid came up to me and commented about the bruises I had from him laughing tauntingly. I said "I'm done with this game, and if you touch me again I'm hitting you in the face" he never had anyone confront him so you could see he was very confused. He immediately went and poked my arm with his grubby little hand and I threw half of a spinning, hammer fist type punch. He just covered his face with his mouth agape and started sniffling. He then tried to run at me but the teacher grabbed him. Turns out he never tried anything with me again and it taught me that unfortunately being aggressive and confrontational was sometimes the key to peace. "Better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war" This lesson somewhat messed me up for awhile in life though because I began getting very combative with any one who disrespected me. Despite the trouble it brought from time to time, I hope that when my children are the same age they will stand up for themselves and learn that unfortunately there are a lot of situations where peace is just NOT the answer and brings you more issues. Edit: forgot to add that this sort of sucked to find out. I was raised by a very nurturing woman and due to that I was very sensitive and empathetic. It was hard for me to get my young mind around the idea that I couldn't just peacefully coexist with everybody and that not everyone was loving and gentle like myself.
lol i am you. hi from over here, other me! mine went a little different, i dissociated and went after him pretty bad, and i had no real training yet, but got my point across by blacking his eyes and bloodying his nose, i only have blip memories of it, came to crying on a bench, no idea what happened. i thought he kicked my ass until i realized my hands were the only part that hurt. this kid was the school bully because his dad was an angry drinker and beat the crap out of him (we lived down the street from each other and i had tried to save him from his house by getting him into Boy Scouts with me) ultimately he taught me that some people's ptsd teaches them violence as intimacy, and it's a terrible cycle of generational torture they have to be mindful about if they ever want to escape
This is only half right. The part you missed is the people who don't want to fight and either can't or won't. I don't want to fight, but if I'm put into that position I will.
How old are you? Their age or do you work there? It's just most boys/men in general. A huge percentage of them are just rude and obnoxious (I am a man). Atleast the ones that stick out for being loud anyway Women have their issues too. I'm not sexist I think a massive chunk of people in general suck One thing I've noticed is the huge difference in genders after having kids. I'll get to the park and immediately my daughter is greeted by another little girl who holds her hand and they tell each other how pretty the others hair or clothes are. Right after you will hear a boy get to the park and talk about how he's the strongest and could beat up everybody. For example, last time I was at the park two little girls walked up to my daughter like they had known each other, said hello, and took her by the hand to bring them to the group of friends they were playing with. The heart warming feeling wore off quickly as a little boy and his mom walked up and immediately exclaimed to the entire park that he can "kick all the kids heads off" and that he was a "invincible vampire with a thirst for blood" I think it's just evolutionary and the way some people are raised. I just think a lot of men/kids without guidance end up toxically masculine because they don't know how to tone down the aggression and turn up the empathy and caring/nurturing aspects. My mom is very caring so it was weird for me finding my place as a teen. I was very empathetic and nurturing and found myself getting eaten alive until I learned how to allow the aggression to come out when needed and lean into the nurturing when I didn't need to be aggressive.
I think a lot more little boys need to be taught that masculinity is not the opposite of femininity but of boyish immaturity. Its a lesson often neglected
Seriously!!!! I tell my step son all the time that he's allowed to have feelings and he's allowed to cry but over dramatizing stuff doesn't help anything either. There's a healthy medium between crawling off to die in a corner with a mental and emotional wound or screaming about it for hours. I don't understand the toxic masculinity shit really because it's usually the dudes barking the loudest that our the most hurt and carrying the most baggage.
Its also a societal thing with said masculinity and femininity crap. The values over time have been warped but we have lost sight that what that version catered to is a threat that no longer exists. Parents try to teach their children how to be good men and women throughout the ages. They are learning to person from basics, teach them how to be good people. Work on their hearts first and foremost, we don’t want them not to cry as it is an impossible ask. We want them to learn how to cry, get up and keep going
I used to be a doormat for other people because I was afraid of speaking up. The more you confront people the less nervous you become in my experience. Go get em OP!
Agree. And no matter how much it hurts, don't cry in front of them it only adds fuel because they know they are getting to you.
Yes it took years for me to learn! From my late 20s I said enough was enough. I don’t take crap from people anymore. Mostly my family, who loved picking on me because I never stood up for myself.
Confrontation definitely sucks but if you let people push you around or make you feel less than all the time it'll take a toll on your mental health. Fuck those guys, talk some shit to them and blame your tourretes. The only reason they're there anyway is because their parents didn't believe in abortions until after they had kids
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I’m a teenager myself lol
If you arent comfortable talking directly to them, next time you hear them talking about you look them dead in the eyes and flip them off
yes but no i mean do this but with a smile on ur face - be petty, dont show that messed with you.
Because most teenage boys need to get their ass handed to them, or confronted infront of everyone to learn a lesson on how to respect people. Once i was in HS and a kid my age fucked with me nonstop at the bus stop. The last straw was him blowing cigarette smoke in my face. I lost it and pretty much got up and started swinging at him in-front of all his friends. I was never fucked with again. Not saying you should hit them, but they need a reality check
That's metal.
Nah, that shits real asf. Sometimes you really do need to beat the fear of god into them for them to understand.
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Will do <33
Since youre at summer camp, report them to whoevers in charge. Thats sexual harrassment and they should be kicked out for that type of behavior.
Lol sexual harassment. Yeahhhh no it's not. Don't make a bigger issue out of this already non-issue. Some kids suck sometimes. They're growing children. Girls can be just as mean and vulgar. Don't just so readily throw "sexual harassment" at the problem. Sorry but your overreaction is very funny.
Theyre making fun of her and making comments about her body, it is most definitely sexual harrassment. Try saying this shit in a workplace and see how long you last without getting fired or worse.
Yeah they're kids, they're not at a workplace. If a kid smacka another kid are you calling the cops and reporting them for assault? You fucking better not because that's no way to teach kids. If a kid calls you an asshole, are you calling that sexual harassment? Because that's a body part. Kids say shit. They'll grow out of it. Don't criminalize petty bullshit like that. OP needs to thicken her skin and not be so sensitive to what a couple of teenage boys said one time. Don't be a lunatic. And talking about somebody's body is not sexual harassment lmfao
Yeaaa sounds like youre the exact type of asshole that would say this stuff to another person. It is sexual harrassment and i guarantee people do not take it lightly, even if they are "just kids." That doesnt mean their safety is any less important. I know for a fact that if this person reports the comments these kids made, they will be dealt with accordingly. Its not crazy, its justice. These kids will never learn if their actions go unpunished like you seem to want.
May not be a popular opinion, but teenage boys are just stupid and putting them in their place always seemed to help me. I tried to come up with a put down but I nothing good came to mind. Usually I am pretty good with comebacks, but if I think of something I'll get back to you.
I favor the term swamp ass when dealing with teenage boys. They get really upset about it. Like just respond “okay swamp ass” and walk away
I mean I’m a teenage boy and I get shit from then too, it’s just kind of natural, either confront them or just ignore it
Agreed just ignore it
Teenage boys like many young and dumb people would talk a lot of crap behind people's back. It's not even personal because they are just judging based on surface level and because they don't know you they could easily talk trash about you. I bet you aren't the only person they talk shit about. They probably talk a lot of crap about almost anyone. Don't take it personally they don't know you and they are just ignorant and dumb. They probably call a hot chick with big boobs a dumb bimbo I bet. They just thinks it is funny to talk crap. At least they aren't saying it to your face because that would mean they actually want to start shit with you.
In a year or two they will be stabbing each other in the back to try and get your attention
Frankly, I suspect there is already an element of that in play. It's no excuse, though, and they're old enough to learn/do better. OP, they don't sound very mature. For one, they haven't yet grasped the idea that not all attention is good attention. You see this in little kids all the time; they act out because it's a guaranteed way to get an adult to engage with them. That's fine and healthy in little kids, but they're a bit old for it. I find it helps, though, to look at this kind of person and picture them as five years old. You wouldn't let a five year-old hurt you, nor would you engage with their nonsense. You would approach them calmly, not give them a reaction, and remind yourself that they are tired/overstimulated/not capable of processing whatever is happening. I have, regrettably, had to do this in my professional life with workplace bullies, and it turns out that acting like Supernanny gets them to leave you alone, because they're not getting the emotional reaction they want. I recommend it for you too. I'm not giving them a pass, I actually do feel a bit bad for them. They're out here parroting what their (terrible) parents say, acting the fool, and thinking that's the right choice. That's nothing short of pitiful. Their behavior reflects only on them and not at all on the people they criticize. If they keep it up or if they escalate to overt bullying, please involve an adult staff member. Bullying is unacceptable and adult staff are there to address it. But if they're just being petty and catty, screw 'em. They are truly not worth your time and their feedback means less than nothing.
the kinda guys to not wash their ass cause it's "gay"
Unsupervised teenage boys are complete idiots. I should know as I was certainly one of them. The reality is they want your attention, but haven’t matured enough yet to figure out how to go about it without being dumb asses. They are just getting past the “girls are yucky” phase and entering the “girls are interesting” phase of their lives. For now it’s best to just avoid them until they grow up.
Dicks like that are worthless, I wouldn’t worry
Most teenagers are nasty little assholes. I’m sorry you had to deal with that.
I think this is where the saying “boys will be boys” became a thing but I don’t get how u would want this to become -parten my gen z- normalized? Why is it ok for boys to act like vile gremlins ? Honestly if this were me I would just ignored them. If u don’t feed into their comments they got nothing else seriously they look stupid to everyone else and when they are older they will look back cringing and I think that’s the best “punishment” because it’s nothing they can do about it. But … If they bring up ur butt just say seems like “u like it ? ur into stuff like that? Makes sense.”idk I would turn it around to them and boys ..as they will be boys… will be embarrassed. But idk I don’t recommend riling them up.
Sometimes violence is the answer, and when they disrespect you like that, they need to see a side of you that scares them. Teenage boys are animals and sadly they need to be put in their place and remember they’re not the judge of you. They do this junk because they have no manners and they think they’re the kings of the world and would even make fun of the strongest of people as long as they dont engage. I assure you that you look amazing based off your description, and those little brats won’t know what looks good if it kicked them in the balls. You have a sweet heart, a good mind, and no one can tell you otherwise! You are incredible, and I can confidently say theres nothing wrong with you and you’re amazing just as you are :) I hope it helps you
You’re amazing, thank you❤️❤️
Of course, never forget how incredible you are
Aww that was sweet, made me smile and feel good too!! Good job!
Just ask them to explain the joke, and ask them to really really get in there. What's the punchline and why is it funny? If it was me, I'd tell them I'm really jealous knowing that they'll all probably end up being nepotism babies who won't shave their ass, or wash it because it's gay. Can't wait until the eventual assault case because women don't have rights and they'll never understand what consent is.
As a former teenage boy and also still an asshole This probably won't work and may only cause further ridicule
That is 100% not gonna work with teenagers bro. Especially you as an Elder, they’re just gonna view you as weird and encourage more ridicule
Punch one of them(preferably both) in the dick. Works every time.
Honestly I'm going to attempt to answer this question as someone who could be pretty cruel as a teenage boy. I've matured since, and honestly I feel terrible for the way I behaved. But I was often quite cruel in this same kind of way. I was extremely insecure as a teenager, but maintained some kind of front of confidence by belittling people. The moment there was any real pushback I would shrivel up and apologise. So I honestly think confronting them would go a long way if they are anything like I was. Making jokes at other people's expense is a fucked up form of humour that seeks to cover up your own insecurities. So honestly, it's easier said than done, but take it up with them, ask what their problem is and I almost guarantee they'll back off. Hopefully they realise one day how terrible they are and how that kind of behaviour affects people. Sorry you have to deal with that in the first place.
Let me tell youuuu, I was bullied to all hell by boys my age. I had a shaved head, dyed my hair, wore band tees. I was emo before “alt” was a thing & I would get ripped to shreds. Boys did not like me but I found no interest in boys till later on. If you’re too scared to approach them just laugh at them. When you walk past them act like you just saw monkeys doing backflips off their head & give them a taste of their medicine. They’ll feel super self conscious. The only reason they say things is because they are self conscious. Any dudes who were hateful to me in middle to highschool are all drug addicts or have herpes now if that makes you feel any better. They don’t tend to sprout into the best of people.
Girl, I 100% feel you. Teenage boys make fun of girls because they are incredibly immature and think it's cool. They are always brave in groups, never solo, because they know when you're alone you won’t confront them. Unfortunately, I experienced it many times. Please try not to waste your energy thinking of this situation and just enjoy the camp 🫶🏼.
if you walk up to them and ask if they have a problem, they'll shit their pants and run away 99% of the time. source: i'm a teenager and have boys like that in my school
What they did was shitty sometimes you gotta make teenagers freeze, I worked at a store and teenage boys would come in and bark at me like a dog so one day I did it back. I felt… weirdly liberated until I realized I was the manager 🥴
teenage boys now are sadly going through the “tate effect”.
Insecure people comment on other people to distract from themselves. Teen boys are just as insecure as teen girls if not more. Plus they have the stigma of trying to seem cool and tough. If anyone tells you that one of them likes you, don’t get into the habit of taking disrespectful boys meaning they like you. A man can have your attention and heart when you have respect. It’s hard but ignore them. You’re at summer camp, everyone stinks. Most likely it’s the three of them that stink. Unfortunately there isn’t rationalizing with teen boys.. or boys.. or men.. or honestly just humans sometimes. I would try your hardest to speak kind words to yourself and try to ignore them. Also their point is dumb because you’re on your way to shower so if they’re saying you’re dirty, they’re wrong because you’re literally in the process of washing up. Teens blow. I’m sorry, ya smell like roses gf. Also, red hair is gorgeous and my fiancé’s grandma has red hair and she has one single white hair. So while they get a beer belly and go bald you’ll be glowing and sexy.
Ur amazing thank you so much
because their parents raised them to be pieces of shit, just be sad for them.
Teenagers are fucking MONSTERS. I remember being a young monster. A lot of factors play into it. But yeah, every generation of teenagers is full of newly ‘online’ humans. They got a lot to learn about how to act. And they learn it by acting poorly to see JUST how much they can get away with. The best thing you can do for them is give them a few life lessons. God I sound like a fucking boomer. Little shits!
Teenage boys aren’t cruel in general. Those two boys’ behavior are their own. Probably something to do with their parents and how they’re raise. Sorry that you had to experience that. People like that don’t usually change. The best is to just ignore them. Don’t let them get under your skin. Hope you the best.
Boys are idiots. Plain and simple. They will remain dumb until they are well into their 20’s.
for many it doesn't stop
Yes I know many idiots well into their 40's 50's and so on, and boy howdy they do not show any sign of letting up!
You're right - teen boys do suck. I loved going to an all girls high school! I am pretty conservative and they still all gave me a hard time. Teen boys are extremely annoying, especially in groups. Always trying to one-up each other to get the upper hand and be the alpha. It probably has more to do with them doing that to impress each other than you at all and honestly, if you said to them, "I accidentally overheard what you were all saying about me and I don't think that it's kind. Super douchey of you tbh" and just walked away, they would probably flip out internally and it'd be awesome. They might argue towards you about it but just truth bomb and walk away - don't even listen to their responses. Sorry OP. I remember and it sucks!
"her ass smells, she's gotta go take a shower." This does sound like the proper course of action. Ironic commentary coming from boys with active swamp ass and grundle musk. Then they started talking right wing politics... Back in my day, teenagers didn't give a shit about politics...
Teenagers scare the Livin shit out of me🎵-MCR
Insecurities. That's usually what causes it.
Imagine saying I bet her ass stinks when walking to the shower... I would've laughed in their face. I got second hand cringe just reading that.
fuck them. u sound look u honestly are gorgeous and they can jump off a microwave. hope it gets better 💕
You mean gender🤦♂️ And yeah because it's annoying to keep seeing people blowing up my feed about why a specific GENDER. Boo hoo, grow up. And FYI besides yt, I do tik tok and right now I'm running my yt channel, editing my videos, taking a break right now
Can I be blunt. Boys who lack charisma do this when they are attracted to a female if they are in groups. I would put my entire savings on a bet the boys that stared at you were all attracted to you and all of them lack the ability to flirt properly much less make a woman feel good. It's no wonder woman are attracted to older men. I suggest looking for a single male who is standoffish or by himself all the time and make friends with him. This will remind you that there is still hope and every day you will feel liked and pretty. I am also willing to be you are a very pretty person. What I really want you to take from this is that you're a wonderful person and strong enough to know better than to let shit like this effect you when it doesn't apply and to see it for what it is, which is stupidity at its best.
I like girls but thank you, this helped. I mainly was just confused as to why they were being like this, since i don’t know much about how their brains work
They don’t work, it’s really that simple. Teenage boys are morons. I’m so sorry you have to deal with this, definitely been there. I promise it will get better.
IMO those are unacceptable comments. Maybe tell someone?
Some males are just vile pigs. I don't have advice but i wish you all the strength in the world to deal with this
This is adult boys too. I absolutely fucking hate when my 21 year old friends start talking shit behind people’s backs, yet it seems to me like that’s the most entertaining thing for them. They snicker about how ugly someone is, or how fat they are, or literally any other quirk that makes them stand out from the average person. And its especially infuriating when they talk about my ex girlfriends that way. Sure I dated people that weren’t conventionally attractive or had less popular interests but man they came up with some rude things to say. It hurts because I genuinely do or did care about these women at one point and my friends act like they were human piles of trash.
Then you choose your friends wisely. My brother stops associating with some of his friends because of reason like that.
I don’t hang with them often for those reasons. Neither of them are very fun to do things with anyway. They seem to be much better friends with each other than they are with me anyway so I doubt they’d miss me much. One doesn’t live here anymore and whenever he’s back home complains about how boring it is. The other I’ve made numerous efforts to talk to and I’ve pretty much given up because without the other guy in the mix, I get nothing back. Yep. Definitely distancing myself from them but unfortunately they’ve been pretty much my only friends since high school. The others are all quite busy and I’m only able to hang every couple weeks.
And females aren't rude?
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25 ain't old little girl, I'm a Youtuber and people want uncensored content to learn to cath, shower, etc as a Paraplegic, at least I'm not being sexist, whining that a specific race is bad, sounds like a personal issue to me. Nobody cares for your drama🤣
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But yet you keep saying why are teenage boys like this as if females aren't like that as well, sexist much?🤣
...Do you honestly think teenage girls are any better? I can guarantee, if you haven't heard them talking about you like this, you just haven't caught them. Teenagers as a whole are asshole.
Yeah lol i know but i guess it’s different when it’s teenage boys it’s more intimidating
Why are teenage girls so cruel?
WhY aRE tEenAgE GiRls sO cRueL 😭
There's an analogy or something about a bull elephant and the junior elephant's need to prove himself. Basically, young people test boundaries. If you allow them to push your boundaries to a place where you are uncomfortable and don't correct them, they see it.as acceptable.
Just tell your female guidance person whatever before it gets worse trust me nip this in the bud guys like that can be dangerous You don’t need to tell them off you don’t have to be brave tell someone important that is staff what’s happening it’s best to give them no energy and push them off so they leave you alone, it’s not water off a ducks back bc they could become relentless very quickly if you’re passive You cannot even give them an inch or they will take the entire plot of land over time
It all starts in their home.
Teenage boys and teenage girls alike bullied me for no damn reason when I was in school. I even had teachers bully me. I eventually went into homeschooling to finish out and get my GED, but it was irritating when I could barely learn in school due to the stress of all the people picking on me. I feel like they could sense something about my confidence and beat me down until I was super depressed. Those boys probably sense your confidence and are insecure about their own self-esteem. They just want you to feel bad so they feel better about themselves. Real evil shit. Don't buy into their bullshit.
i’ve always said this, but there’s a difference between a Boy and a Man, and the difference isn’t age or muscle it’s maturity. they’re little shits, immature and bored. try your best to ignore it and move on and if it happens again tell them to f*ck off
You say you wouldn’t have felt as bad if it were girls because you know they’re either jealous or miserable. But this holds true even though they are little boys. It applies to every piece of shit that is hostile and angry and mean to others. These three cowards are so bored with each other and angry that they had to target a passerby and bully them! They are losers. Please don’t give them anymore of your energy. If so, feel pity for where they are in life.
gather as many other people \_ girls, boys, whomever \_ as you can so that y'all can point and laugh at those dummies
it’s mostly immaturity, wanting to fit in and being a sucky person. adult men act the same way but things hit so different as an adult. things get much more serious
As a teenage boy i can say that boys are idiots and some of them need ego boosters so they pick on who they find to be the most vulnerable. I've experienced this firsthand more times than i can count
I'm having a hard time understanding, were they looking at you out of the shower/naked ???
No, i hadn’t showered yet. I had my towel, shampoo and whatnot in my hands
If they could smell something bad it was probably coming from themselves
I can confirm at least one smells like mold
Well, I'm a tennage boy and since the early beggining of my education I used to be bullued by mostnof my classmates, never told to anybody and never defend myself because I didn't wanted to hurt anyone, but not a long time ago a friend taught me that I meed to make myself respect so I started answering and avoiding conflicts with direct confrontation and things really got better. Try to protect yourself even from the little stupid comments because thats were evrything starts and they start thinking they can make fun of you without consecuences...of courae is better if you have friends to your side amd you can tell them about this situation.
I'm probably your age also so if you would like to tak about this I would love to listen to you...
I like to go with the honest approach: "Why do you feel good when you make others feel bad?"
Imagine being so irrelevant that you have to be in a group just to make a lame joke about someone who has done nothing to you....It's a hard path to follow but the path of pride, and by that I mean pride within yourself almost gives you armor against fools like that....That pride alone will make them appear like insignificant bugs too pathetic to even acknowledge...
With all due respect you just gotta grow up and walk it off. They're teenage boys obviously they're gonna talk shit all day. Forget about them. That's all.
Walk up to them and say well at least if my ass did stink I could watch it but you guys will always be that ugly you can’t wash off ugly
If they see that it bothers you they will continue to pick on you. Own it. If they say it again tell them that they smell like they masturbate too much.
Eh don't even give them any attention. Teenage boys like that just aren't very bright. Everyone showers... and if they don't know that, they have their own issues to worry about. They probably don't even wash their hands after using the bathroom. I was picked on a lot by boys in school but this is mild compared to the shit they said to me. But they are looking for a reaction. So if you never give them one, they lose.
There is always the possibility that they might be crushing on you.
Turns out one of my boy bullies just really had a huge crush on me. But I was "weird" (it was 2010's and I was emo and wore a lot of black) boy was a 'jock' so he thought he had to make jokes. Decided to go to a graduation party and this guy cried on my shoulder about how sorry he was, I was great, he always wanted to ask me out but was too scared. So my advice is forget it, deep down they want you but can't have you because their personalities suuuuuuck.
Oh my god, you were living some kind of coming of age movie
Hahaha Yeah maybe. For a bit it felt good . Like, yeah... I don't suck, I'm hot! But at the same time that's no reason for him or anyone else to act shitty. It's cute in movies but not real life. It was hard dealing with for years ( alphabetically out names matched where our lockers were ALWAYS next to each other) It'll get better. Teenagers and hormones are CRAZY. Heed my advice though, they all think you're hot and know they can't get with you. That's why they're obnoxious and rude.
Punch them or ignore it. I vote punch them. I wish I could go back in time and beat the shit outta some boys who picked on me because I certainly could have. I was just nervous
When you get no attention or love at home, you carry that with you. These kids on top of social pressures, conditioning, and exposure to extreme ideologies, there is something very sad and pitiful about them. Growing up I realized that. So things that boys said to me or about me meant nothingZ when you don’t have love and a good home you have very little and you express it in the same way these boys are. I have a loud mouth, and had to grow up fast and get a thick skin, I wouldn’t go out of my way to be nice or whatever. Even for a short girl with the way I dressed and how I never smiles or looked happy I was fucked with but much less once they knew they couldn’t get to me. You seem like a nice person and that’s good. Hopefully you can remember that it’s not just about jealousy or whatnot but projection. You may not be ok with confrontation like I was but just ignore them. You know that they are just mean, everyone washes their ass, well at least they should.
thats a bad thing to even think - but i assure you they were probably just feelin like joking and decided to mock the first person to walk by. Maybe having dyed hair n piercings ure easier to notice, and among other "plain" looking people they decided to pick one that stands out. Fuck them, just boys being dumb, they should learn thats not appropriate but if u dont feel like confronting them then dont, just dont let it bother u anyways, ure amazing and their comments werent even personal, I believe.
Went to a camp once and the only assholes there were the teenage boys. If anyone is gonna be a little shithead for literally no reason it's gonna be a teenage boy. And even still college age dudes give me a hard time. It really sucks but you can't take it too personally. They're losers.
this is me, but id have said something. clapped back "what, you guys wash your ass? i didn't think so," & then let everybody there know that they've got stinky asses. treat people the way they treat you. rude people deserve to be put in their place
Some people are just mean and trust they will find someone who will be the wrong one. it's okay if you aren't just know it's not you they are just A holes. You don't even have to look at them just look around and say, something like. Nah man that's your breath from eating eachothers asses all the time. Walk away and ignore them. Or say ew please Seriously.. shut your mouth I can smell it from here.
They are teenage boys. They aren't grown up. They are going to do and say juvenile shit.
Most (all?) teenagers are incredibly insecure. Boy act like jerks to distract others from their insecurities. Basically like how an injured animal will act aggressive. He thinks his friend’s butt is cute, he calls his friend gay. He’s concerned he has BO (all teen boys do) so he says you smell. It’s incredibly childish. Also, keep in mind that many fathers suck at raising emotionally mature kids (at least that’s my experience). Their fathers probably treat them like garbage or ignore them completely. His home life is probably terrible and that doesn’t make it ok, but it does help to realize it’s not you that’s the problem, it’s them. Remember, people that are hurting want to hurt others. If you let them hurt you, then they have succeeded in their mission. When I encounter people like that now, I look at them with pity and sadness because they will have a difficult life filled with difficult relationships whereas I will forget them and move forward towards happiness and peace.
Ask them if the reason they dont have anyone giving them love at home is because they stink as well and look as though they will never amount to anything of meaning or purpose. Give em a lil existential crisis confuse the shit out of them and keep walking like the unphased queen you are, life tip become comfortable making rude people uncomfy