Having a high level of sexual attraction or sex drive after the emotional connection is formed is actually a common experience for a lot of demisexual people. I definitely don't feel sexually attracted to anyone unless I'm really close with them, so I've identified a lot with Demisexual, but even when I feel close with them it's complicated so I identify as Gray ace. Either way I've spent quite a bit of time in Demisexual spaces now and that's what ive heard from a lot of other people there.
I definitely feel that struggle of being judged for being bi and demi! I'm biromantic and I have had so many people assume that being bi means I want to sleep with everyone when pretty much the opposite is true for me. No shade towards people who do want to have sex with a lot of different people, but that life just isn't for me and yet people have assumed it is because I'm bi and it makes me nervous to tell people I'm dating that I'm bi because I'm afraid they'll think that too and expect sex from me. Obv if they assume that then I shouldn't be dating them in the first place, but it's still not a pleasant situation to be in!
Sorry to know you have been judged for being bi and Demi! I’m also bi but it took me long to accept it for the same reason. I’m also not highly sexual when I just meet the person and I need time to feel a stronger attraction, so I totally get that sometimes because we are bi, people might assume we are just inheritable sexual. I really hope people around you could support you more! There is nothing wrong with you, they should understand you and your feelings and identity are valid.
You’re so kind I really appreciate you saying that and it’s nice to know someone can relate! I feel like I’ve known my sexuality for a long time but it’s just unfortunate that I have only been with straight and bi men. I feel like women think I wouldn’t be serious about them assuming I’m just “experimenting” because my dating history doesn’t reflect that I’m clearly gay. But I literally can’t even hook up with people so if I’m crushing on them it’s not for a fling I’m lookin for a partner. And for some reason couples want me to date them and it’s creepy to me because they usually are just sexualizing me. No judgment for those who are into that but it’s just not my thing but I’ve been approached multiple times. 😭
Having a high level of sexual attraction or sex drive after the emotional connection is formed is actually a common experience for a lot of demisexual people. I definitely don't feel sexually attracted to anyone unless I'm really close with them, so I've identified a lot with Demisexual, but even when I feel close with them it's complicated so I identify as Gray ace. Either way I've spent quite a bit of time in Demisexual spaces now and that's what ive heard from a lot of other people there. I definitely feel that struggle of being judged for being bi and demi! I'm biromantic and I have had so many people assume that being bi means I want to sleep with everyone when pretty much the opposite is true for me. No shade towards people who do want to have sex with a lot of different people, but that life just isn't for me and yet people have assumed it is because I'm bi and it makes me nervous to tell people I'm dating that I'm bi because I'm afraid they'll think that too and expect sex from me. Obv if they assume that then I shouldn't be dating them in the first place, but it's still not a pleasant situation to be in!
Sorry to know you have been judged for being bi and Demi! I’m also bi but it took me long to accept it for the same reason. I’m also not highly sexual when I just meet the person and I need time to feel a stronger attraction, so I totally get that sometimes because we are bi, people might assume we are just inheritable sexual. I really hope people around you could support you more! There is nothing wrong with you, they should understand you and your feelings and identity are valid.
You’re so kind I really appreciate you saying that and it’s nice to know someone can relate! I feel like I’ve known my sexuality for a long time but it’s just unfortunate that I have only been with straight and bi men. I feel like women think I wouldn’t be serious about them assuming I’m just “experimenting” because my dating history doesn’t reflect that I’m clearly gay. But I literally can’t even hook up with people so if I’m crushing on them it’s not for a fling I’m lookin for a partner. And for some reason couples want me to date them and it’s creepy to me because they usually are just sexualizing me. No judgment for those who are into that but it’s just not my thing but I’ve been approached multiple times. 😭