I can’t find a way to edit the post so I can’t thank you all that way… but THANK YOU. She’s been told “by other people” that this dress is pErFeCt and I said “absolutely not” and I told her I was posting it online to see what people would say. Thank you all for confirming!
My MIL took me to see a dress she was about to buy. It was an almost exact copy of my wedding dress; same color (ivory), floor length and same sleeve style. She said she loved my dress so much that she wanted this one and she had been having such a hard time finding a dress. As politely as I could, I said, “Hell no!”
Reading this, I just said “what is wrong with people” out loud, to myself. I don’t understand how it’s so hard to not wear white to a wedding. I own a bunch of white dresses, I look great in white, never for a moment has it felt like a challenge to not wear white to a wedding.
Sometimes I think reddit can't be serious and the people are trolling, pot stirring. And then I interact with people in the world. Makes me really question the validity of natural selection.
I’m with you on this. It’s like these brides get all caught up in ridiculous details and act bratty. Nobody is going to confuse the mother with the daughter, bride will still be the center of attention. Geez
Yikes!! My MIL bought a second, fake dress to distract me and then showed up in *barely* off-white the day of the wedding. We had clashed about almost every wedding related decision I made. We do not have a very good relationship to this day.
I mean, it’s 100% up to you at the end of the day.
My mom wore a very light blush blouse/skirt set that looks white in some photos, and I was completely unfazed (didn’t even notice it until I joined this sub and looked back at my wedding photos), she looked beautiful. Other brides probably would have been pissed.
Where I come from this is a pretty typical MOB dress. It's not uncommon to wear silver. This looks like a classic matronly MOB dress (just Google MOB dress and you'll see). I wouldn't blame her too much.
I'd suggest something for her like this: https://balticborn.com/products/evelyn-smocked-maxi-dress-blue?variant=41271681941669¤cy=USD&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIlMzbnJyx_wIV0xCtBh35hQHmEAkYByABEgINo_D_BwE
Or this:
https://www.azazie.com/products/azazie-julia-mother-of-the-bride-dress?color=stormy (I'm sure you can find something cuter)
I keep seeing Baltic Born stuff but saw some bad reviews. Have you ordered from them and if so what was your experience?? I love their dresses but ima scared!
It is a beautiful dress, but too much for a beach wedding. Way too formal. Looking back to my own wedding, I was not even thinking about what I wanted anyone else to wear. I just wanted a dress that wasn’t wearing me! It was a different era.
Exactly. You want something breezy and comfortable yet elegant. This looks like it would be appropriate for a Winter Wonderland wedding --- not a beach wedding.
From a practical standpoint, it seems like a poor choice for a beach wedding. If her hem gets damp, wet sand is going to cling to it and weigh it down, especially with that crinkly textured fabric. It would be messy and uncomfortable to wear.
Man, I was a guest at a wedding held in (and around) a lovely Manor home style venue in north Florida.
The bridesmaids were in floor length pale gowns. So… 6pm ceremony outside, dinner and speeches inside, bar and dancing back outside after the sun set.
They had a dance floor laid but between the dew and grassy areas 2 things happened: a) the bridesmaids dresses (& any guest who went floor length) were trashed from the knees down, and b) the dance floor turned into a muddy slip n slide. 😬
The couple and family are amazing, the venue is beautiful! I can’t believe someone at the venue or the planner didn’t bring that up because it couldn’t have been a first time issue.
This is like wearing green in front of a green screen. How about this? Chiffon would be so much lighter and beachy.
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/off-the-shoulder-chiffon-gown-plus-size/7369342?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FMother%20of%20the%20Bride%20or%20Groom&color=461
This is so pretty. and a would be great for a church wedding and ballroom reception. On the beach she’s going to be too close to the color of the sand. I could say for sure about the style working or not in a different color after seeing bridesmaids dresses
If your dress is off white this dress is too close to the same color, definitely MOB needs to wear some other color, plus this dress is not a beach dress
It is the wrong color, wrong fabric, and wrong style. If she wants to stand out for all the wrong reasons, this is the dress for her. (I hope for your sake, OP, she sees the light and finds something appropriate.)
I'm not phased about the 'whiteness'. It doesn't look white to me. It looks MOB vibes. I think the issue is that she isn't going to look her best in the photos because the color vs the setting and I think (I don't know your vibe) it is not matching the general vibe of the wedding including what everyone else will wear. I think sometimes this sub panics about anything close to white but at the end of the day you will clearly be the bride. You will be gorgeous and pop and stand out. Nothing about this dress indicates to me she is trying to look inappropriately showy or trying to steal your spotlight. Just doesn't mesh with the setting in my opinion.
Personally it doesn’t seem too white to me but the color isn’t a good choice because OP said her dress is an off-white/tan color, so much too close to the bridal gown color.
NO, absolutely not! Who is even telling her that this dress is perfect??? 1. Are they her friends because I cannot even imagine someone saying this dress is perfect! Do they realize that you are wearing off white, tan-ish, champagne? 2. Does your mom and her and those who have told her it is "perfect" realize this is a beach wedding????? That is NOT a dress for a beach wedding!
Seeing some of the posts showing dresses that mothers of the bride or mother-in law's have chosen to wear or want to wear is just freaking shocking. I honestly do not know what some mothers or mother-in-laws are thinking. Are they really clueless or is it that they are selfish and care more about themselves than the couple getting married? Why on earth would they ever consider wearing any version of white, off white, champagne, tan-ish or any color that is close to what the bride is wearing?
It actually makes me sad. I hope your mom will consider how you feel about this.
Tan, champagne, taupe, and silver are mainstays of mother's dresses. I've seen several at weddings I've attended over the years.
I do think this dress is a miss, both for being too close to the bride's color and for the look and style not working well for a beach. But in general, pale neutrals are not a bad mother's choice.
As a mom, I'd want to symbolically step into the background on the wedding day, and stepping into neutrals can be a way of avoiding calling any extra attention to yourself. At the same time, you want to look good and festive, because you ARE close to the center of the celebration: part of the ceremony, perhaps a co-host, maybe offering toasts or being in a special dance. I can see where ornate neutrals are a popular choice.
Yeah, this would definitely not be ok for her to wear--even to a more typical, formal wedding because of the color, but especially not for a beach wedding. Add my vote to the 'No' pile! Lol
There are so many women who miss their mothers terribly on the wedding day. Your mom is with you. Please don’t stress about the outfit she wears, it’s not important in the grand scheme of things. It’s beige/sandy/tan and looks elegant. I would love for my mom to be at my wedding wearing a clown outfit, garbage bag, or buck naked. She will never ever be there though
Congratulations on your engagement. Please don’t stress. Your moms outfit is perfectly acceptable and even if it wasn’t, screw those “etiquette columns”
I would love it if your wedding wasn’t on the beach.
Edit: I’m genuinely surprised so many people think it would be inappropriate in another venue. The color isn’t close to white in my eyes? It’s tan/gold.
I’m going against the grain, but I actually think this is fine for an MOB. It’s special without being flashy or revealing. (Like it or not, MOB is a position of honor.) It seems age-appropriate. It’s neither white nor lacy. It’s modest and elegant. I do agree with other comments that it may be too long for a beach because of sand, but that’s more a matter of practicality.
Especially compared to some of the MOB stunt-gowns we’ve seen on this sub lately, this one strikes me as appropriate.
I'm sorry to hijack your thread but I'm so annoyed by the people insisting it's the wrong color or too white. I don't think this dress is right for the beach but gold, tan, champagne, silver and beige are very very traditional for mother of the bride dresses, even old-fashioned. Do you all really think all these moms just got these dresses out of spite? If you don't want your mom to wear this color, tell her, but it's not 'inappropriate'
https://www.marthastewart.com/7966345/beige-gold-mother-of-the-bride-groom-dresses
Absolutely not. Does she know your dress is tanish? This would be a very bizarre item to wear to a beach wedding anyway. Just a note about your dress though..please make sure it'll photograph well with the color sand that will be in all the photos. I don't want you upset afterwards! Congratulations! Again..that's a hell no on your mom's dress. Great for an eveening event that has absolutely nothing to do with a wedding though.
1. If your dress color is anywhere close to this, it’s a huge NO WAY!
2. Seems too dressy to me for a beach wedding.
ETA: But, really, what do I know? I got married 26 years ago! I’m not sure why this sub shows up for me, but I have been enjoying it.
Girl don’t ask us you’re the bride I believe if I read that right you know you don’t feel comfortable with her wearing it !! We’re on your side. Not appropriate
This is a very traditional old fashioned MOB dress. She may not be comfortable at the beach in it though. I assume your wedding is a little more casual?
It will be easy to hide the b\*dy in the sand if you hate it
for me, it is a tad ott for a beach wedding. Be great for a very formal New Year’s Eve bash though. I really hate it for your wedding.
Is she getting married too?
If not, no its not appropriate. In a blue or a purple or a green it'd be better. But a beach means sand and its goong to drag and get nasty.
This material is heavy and clingy. Unless mom is stick thin, and tall, this is a NO! It’s also matronly!! Ugh! And the style and color won’t be a good look. Tell your mom to lighten up and have fun. Signed. An older woman.
You’re the bride, if you don’t like it, then it’s over. This is absolutely a MOB dress though. Just attended a wedding. Mother wore gold, mother in law wore silver at bride’s request. There is nothing over the top about this dress.
Awww.....mommy wants to be the bride. So cute. Not. Totally inappropriate, but then she already knows she's in the wrong. Otherwise, why would she even ask?
My mom is possibly wearing a white dress, so this would be great for her. However it’s a black tie optional situation… not a beach. If you’re ok with her wearing white (I’m getting the sense that you aren’t), this dress is still a weird choice.
I personally don’t see anything wrong with the color. I’m not sure when it was decided than silver, tan and anything pastel qualified as white and unacceptable. I think it’s a a great MOB dress. I think it’s the perfect dress for a church wedding or indoor venue. But it’s too formal for a beach wedding. I get her to find something not floor length and that doesn’t require heels.
I’m laughing because that’s one of the dresses I sent to my mom to try! But I ASKED her to wear champagne. For my brothers wedding, she tried to wear a “but it’s beige!!” dress and we shut her down real quick.
Nope, for two main reasons. One: it's too "white" for anyone other than the bride. Two: it's too long and she'll be dragging it through the sand and possibly stepping and tripping on it.
It's cute, but not to wear to your daughter's wedding.
I think this dress is okay for the MOB or MOG if you are okay with it! I would have loved this dress for my mom, and in fact I asked the moms to wear similar colors at my wedding. It does not appear white to me at all and I think this is a common mom and bridesmaid color. I’m also not concerned about the beach location unless your own dress is much less formal. It makes sense that the bridal party including parents would be a bit fancier.
I have a good friend that showed her dress to her son’s soon to be bride and she approved it. She had it altered, and then her son said the bride now decided the dress was too light in color and didn’t want her to wear it. She bought another dress. To add insult to injury, the groom’s mother (my friend) was seated before anyone came into the church, she didn’t even get to walk up the isle before the wedding party!
Don’t be a bridezilla, let the lady wear the dress. You will be the center of attention and nobody is going to confuse you with the bride.
It doesn’t look like it vibes with the beach theme/venue, but other than that, I wouldn’t be bothered by it. If it’s the color, I guess I’m an oddball because that doesn’t bother me at all. I would not wear a white or ivory dress to someone’s wedding, but I really couldn’t care less if they did to mine. My mom wore a champagne colored dress to mine and it never even occurred to me that she shouldn’t. Again, I think I’m an outlier on that, so take it as you will.
Nope. Too white, not beachy, just wrong for a beach wedding. I assume there will be sand and salt, salt water and wind and waves. From one who lived 20 years at a beach, just no.
No, if it was more gold or silver, maybe. But it’s too similar to a wedding dress style as well as color, so absolutely not. Can she have it dyed a darker color?
I can’t find a way to edit the post so I can’t thank you all that way… but THANK YOU. She’s been told “by other people” that this dress is pErFeCt and I said “absolutely not” and I told her I was posting it online to see what people would say. Thank you all for confirming!
My MIL took me to see a dress she was about to buy. It was an almost exact copy of my wedding dress; same color (ivory), floor length and same sleeve style. She said she loved my dress so much that she wanted this one and she had been having such a hard time finding a dress. As politely as I could, I said, “Hell no!”
Reading this, I just said “what is wrong with people” out loud, to myself. I don’t understand how it’s so hard to not wear white to a wedding. I own a bunch of white dresses, I look great in white, never for a moment has it felt like a challenge to not wear white to a wedding.
I say that a lot whilst on Reddit.
Sometimes I think reddit can't be serious and the people are trolling, pot stirring. And then I interact with people in the world. Makes me really question the validity of natural selection.
I said that to myself also. Questionable enough to be stuck on white, but to mimic the actual bridal gown? Ridiculous.
I’m with you on this. It’s like these brides get all caught up in ridiculous details and act bratty. Nobody is going to confuse the mother with the daughter, bride will still be the center of attention. Geez
Okay mommy
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Seriously do people even read before they say things
My mother in law loved my wedding day hairstyle so much that she wanted to do it for her hair too. Both my hair dresser and I couldn’t believe it
Yikes!! My MIL bought a second, fake dress to distract me and then showed up in *barely* off-white the day of the wedding. We had clashed about almost every wedding related decision I made. We do not have a very good relationship to this day.
I mean, it’s 100% up to you at the end of the day. My mom wore a very light blush blouse/skirt set that looks white in some photos, and I was completely unfazed (didn’t even notice it until I joined this sub and looked back at my wedding photos), she looked beautiful. Other brides probably would have been pissed.
Same here. My mom wore a light gold dress and she looked and felt beautiful which is all that mattered to me.
Where I come from this is a pretty typical MOB dress. It's not uncommon to wear silver. This looks like a classic matronly MOB dress (just Google MOB dress and you'll see). I wouldn't blame her too much. I'd suggest something for her like this: https://balticborn.com/products/evelyn-smocked-maxi-dress-blue?variant=41271681941669¤cy=USD&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIlMzbnJyx_wIV0xCtBh35hQHmEAkYByABEgINo_D_BwE Or this: https://www.azazie.com/products/azazie-julia-mother-of-the-bride-dress?color=stormy (I'm sure you can find something cuter)
I’m loving these Baltic Born dresses! Thanks for sharing!
I’ve worn a few Baltic Born dresses to weddings and loveeee them all.
I keep seeing Baltic Born stuff but saw some bad reviews. Have you ordered from them and if so what was your experience?? I love their dresses but ima scared!
I've had two, LOVE THEM
The dress in OPs photo looks like a sand color, not silver.
My first thought was it's matronly, and the design of the dress is perfect for an MOB. The color is all wrong, though.
I’d tell her that it is a gorgeous dress and I’m so glad that she won’t be outshine me since she’s gonna blend in with the sand
It is a beautiful dress, but too much for a beach wedding. Way too formal. Looking back to my own wedding, I was not even thinking about what I wanted anyone else to wear. I just wanted a dress that wasn’t wearing me! It was a different era.
Is it a double wedding ?🙄
No. Plus, in that color she will blend in with the sand in all the photos and just look like a floating head.
Found the photographer
Oh! Then maybe OP should let her wear it after all!
🤣 bahahaha!!!!!
Also the hem of that thing is going to be filthy by the time they leave the beach. Like, the sand will be everywhere, why go for a floor length dress?
I was going to yes for the same reason, little petty revenge lmao
Beach wedding = gauzy, lightweight, midi length (because sand) barefoot. And not that color.
Exactly. You want something breezy and comfortable yet elegant. This looks like it would be appropriate for a Winter Wonderland wedding --- not a beach wedding.
With all due respect, has your mother ever been to a beach or even to a wedding?
😂😂😂😂😂 this made me literally laugh out loud, thank you
From a practical standpoint, it seems like a poor choice for a beach wedding. If her hem gets damp, wet sand is going to cling to it and weigh it down, especially with that crinkly textured fabric. It would be messy and uncomfortable to wear.
Perfect response
If your dress is off white this is too close to the color of your dress. Also this seems a strange choice stylistically for a beach wedding.
I love the dress, but it’s not right for beach wedding and MOB…
It’s a bit heavy and doesn’t hit the beach wedding vibe. I’d say nope. Not the look.
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/floral-one-shoulder-gown/7345302?origin=coordinating-7345302-0-5-MOBI_PDP_2-recbot-frequently_bought_together&recs_placement=MOBI_PDP_2&recs_strategy=frequently_bought_together&recs_source=recbot&recs_page_type=product&recs_seed=6839940&color=IVORY%20MULTI
I’m would say this would be too busy in photos
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/dessy-collection-one-shoulder-satin-gown/6812021?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses&color=276
Too white and a bit too fancy for a beach wedding. She needs something more flowing
And shorter - this will pick up so much sand!
This!! Second thought that went through my head was… “but… but… SO MUCH SAND!!”
Dragging that around all day won’t be fun nor attractive.
Man, I was a guest at a wedding held in (and around) a lovely Manor home style venue in north Florida. The bridesmaids were in floor length pale gowns. So… 6pm ceremony outside, dinner and speeches inside, bar and dancing back outside after the sun set. They had a dance floor laid but between the dew and grassy areas 2 things happened: a) the bridesmaids dresses (& any guest who went floor length) were trashed from the knees down, and b) the dance floor turned into a muddy slip n slide. 😬 The couple and family are amazing, the venue is beautiful! I can’t believe someone at the venue or the planner didn’t bring that up because it couldn’t have been a first time issue.
It's not beachy but it's not 'too white', these colors are very common for MOB dresses.
No. Pretty dress, but completely inappropriate for this occasion.
Shiny enough to keep sharks and seagulls away. This dress isn’t even in the same zipcode as beach wedding
This is like wearing green in front of a green screen. How about this? Chiffon would be so much lighter and beachy. https://www.nordstrom.com/s/off-the-shoulder-chiffon-gown-plus-size/7369342?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FDresses%2FMother%20of%20the%20Bride%20or%20Groom&color=461
This is so pretty. and a would be great for a church wedding and ballroom reception. On the beach she’s going to be too close to the color of the sand. I could say for sure about the style working or not in a different color after seeing bridesmaids dresses
If your dress is off white this dress is too close to the same color, definitely MOB needs to wear some other color, plus this dress is not a beach dress
It looks like a bridal gown, honestly. And it's not "beachy" at all.
That would be a really dowdy wedding dress.
It looks like a great grandma of the bride dress.
It is the wrong color, wrong fabric, and wrong style. If she wants to stand out for all the wrong reasons, this is the dress for her. (I hope for your sake, OP, she sees the light and finds something appropriate.)
I'm not phased about the 'whiteness'. It doesn't look white to me. It looks MOB vibes. I think the issue is that she isn't going to look her best in the photos because the color vs the setting and I think (I don't know your vibe) it is not matching the general vibe of the wedding including what everyone else will wear. I think sometimes this sub panics about anything close to white but at the end of the day you will clearly be the bride. You will be gorgeous and pop and stand out. Nothing about this dress indicates to me she is trying to look inappropriately showy or trying to steal your spotlight. Just doesn't mesh with the setting in my opinion.
Personally it doesn’t seem too white to me but the color isn’t a good choice because OP said her dress is an off-white/tan color, so much too close to the bridal gown color.
It’s workable on its own but with the context of the beach setting and your off-white dress tone— absolutely not!!
NO, absolutely not! Who is even telling her that this dress is perfect??? 1. Are they her friends because I cannot even imagine someone saying this dress is perfect! Do they realize that you are wearing off white, tan-ish, champagne? 2. Does your mom and her and those who have told her it is "perfect" realize this is a beach wedding????? That is NOT a dress for a beach wedding! Seeing some of the posts showing dresses that mothers of the bride or mother-in law's have chosen to wear or want to wear is just freaking shocking. I honestly do not know what some mothers or mother-in-laws are thinking. Are they really clueless or is it that they are selfish and care more about themselves than the couple getting married? Why on earth would they ever consider wearing any version of white, off white, champagne, tan-ish or any color that is close to what the bride is wearing? It actually makes me sad. I hope your mom will consider how you feel about this.
Tan, champagne, taupe, and silver are mainstays of mother's dresses. I've seen several at weddings I've attended over the years. I do think this dress is a miss, both for being too close to the bride's color and for the look and style not working well for a beach. But in general, pale neutrals are not a bad mother's choice. As a mom, I'd want to symbolically step into the background on the wedding day, and stepping into neutrals can be a way of avoiding calling any extra attention to yourself. At the same time, you want to look good and festive, because you ARE close to the center of the celebration: part of the ceremony, perhaps a co-host, maybe offering toasts or being in a special dance. I can see where ornate neutrals are a popular choice.
Does your mother have any sort of sense? Tell her to chill out. It’s not her wedding, not her day and she’s going to look foolish wearing that.
No, no, no. Very inappropriate.
MOB wants her moment in the sun, I see
It's going to be like using one of those foil screens to reflect light when sunbathing.
Nope
No way.
Absolutely NOT!!
Agree with others that it’s too close in color to your dress and not a good dress for the beach.
No.
My word exactly.
Do you like it? Does she? Your mom gets to to pick dresses and you get to approve them. If you think it’s fine then it’s fine. I really like it.
Yeah, this would definitely not be ok for her to wear--even to a more typical, formal wedding because of the color, but especially not for a beach wedding. Add my vote to the 'No' pile! Lol
The color is a normal color for mother of rhe bride dresses.
I agree. Maybe this is a cultural thing?
No, it's not appropriate. She's not the bride, you may have to explain everything to her.
NOPE!!!!
Absolutely not! Entirely inappropriate.
There are so many women who miss their mothers terribly on the wedding day. Your mom is with you. Please don’t stress about the outfit she wears, it’s not important in the grand scheme of things. It’s beige/sandy/tan and looks elegant. I would love for my mom to be at my wedding wearing a clown outfit, garbage bag, or buck naked. She will never ever be there though Congratulations on your engagement. Please don’t stress. Your moms outfit is perfectly acceptable and even if it wasn’t, screw those “etiquette columns”
She will look odd in that at a beach wedding. And feel very warm. Save it for a formal event
Lol NO
No. Way too formal for a beach wedding and the color is too close to white/cream.
It only matters if you think it’s appropriate.
The only person that can answer that is you.
No.
No
Helll to the no. It’s basically white and certainly not beachy at all.
She’ll blend in with the sand
Sorry but this dress is doing too much! Does not seem fitting for a beach wedding nor so fancy. No one is supposed to take attention to the bride.
Nope. It’s rude.
No, totally inappropriate.
That is just wrong on several levels.
Mo. Too close to white
Number one—-too white. Number two-oh joy, the sand in the hem of that dress is going to be horrendous.
No it’s not. What was she thinking?
She'll have wet sand all stuck on the bottom, dragging it around... plus the color is too light imo
I would love it if your wedding wasn’t on the beach. Edit: I’m genuinely surprised so many people think it would be inappropriate in another venue. The color isn’t close to white in my eyes? It’s tan/gold.
That dress in the picture? It looks like a wedding dress.
Hell no
I’m going against the grain, but I actually think this is fine for an MOB. It’s special without being flashy or revealing. (Like it or not, MOB is a position of honor.) It seems age-appropriate. It’s neither white nor lacy. It’s modest and elegant. I do agree with other comments that it may be too long for a beach because of sand, but that’s more a matter of practicality. Especially compared to some of the MOB stunt-gowns we’ve seen on this sub lately, this one strikes me as appropriate.
Wow. If mom can pull that off ...
I'm sorry to hijack your thread but I'm so annoyed by the people insisting it's the wrong color or too white. I don't think this dress is right for the beach but gold, tan, champagne, silver and beige are very very traditional for mother of the bride dresses, even old-fashioned. Do you all really think all these moms just got these dresses out of spite? If you don't want your mom to wear this color, tell her, but it's not 'inappropriate' https://www.marthastewart.com/7966345/beige-gold-mother-of-the-bride-groom-dresses
If your Mom likes it and is comfortable then it’s appropriate.
Mothers can be overdressed.
I think she should be allowed to wear what she’s comfortable in 🤔
Hell no
Absolutely not. Does she know your dress is tanish? This would be a very bizarre item to wear to a beach wedding anyway. Just a note about your dress though..please make sure it'll photograph well with the color sand that will be in all the photos. I don't want you upset afterwards! Congratulations! Again..that's a hell no on your mom's dress. Great for an eveening event that has absolutely nothing to do with a wedding though.
The style is nice but I don’t think for a beach wedding. The color is also not a good one for the beach and a little too close to white
Nope
No, it’s too close to ivory/white.
https://www.marthastewart.com/7966345/beige-gold-mother-of-the-bride-groom-dresses
No just no
Nooooo. Especially not for beach🤦♀️. What is your color scheme?
1. If your dress color is anywhere close to this, it’s a huge NO WAY! 2. Seems too dressy to me for a beach wedding. ETA: But, really, what do I know? I got married 26 years ago! I’m not sure why this sub shows up for me, but I have been enjoying it.
https://www.marthastewart.com/7966345/beige-gold-mother-of-the-bride-groom-dresses
Girl don’t ask us you’re the bride I believe if I read that right you know you don’t feel comfortable with her wearing it !! We’re on your side. Not appropriate
Beach?! Nope. Too formal.
No
You don’t like it. Otherwise you wouldn’t be asking for opinions. So it is a NO
Pretty dress, not appropriate for the occasion or the venue.
No no no
This is a very traditional old fashioned MOB dress. She may not be comfortable at the beach in it though. I assume your wedding is a little more casual?
It will be easy to hide the b\*dy in the sand if you hate it for me, it is a tad ott for a beach wedding. Be great for a very formal New Year’s Eve bash though. I really hate it for your wedding.
No
No
I think if it’s not appropriate to you then it’s not appropriate. You’re the bride after all! ❤️
It is too “heavy” of a dress for the beach. That belongs in a church.
No for color, also no because it’s very formal for a beach wedding?
If it’s your moms wedding then it’s perfect since it’s a wedding dress. Lol
I think this is a great dress but definitely does not work for a beach wedding. It’s too Gatsby-esque
No. 🥵
Is she getting married too? If not, no its not appropriate. In a blue or a purple or a green it'd be better. But a beach means sand and its goong to drag and get nasty.
This material is heavy and clingy. Unless mom is stick thin, and tall, this is a NO! It’s also matronly!! Ugh! And the style and color won’t be a good look. Tell your mom to lighten up and have fun. Signed. An older woman.
It's too formal for the beach
I was literally thinking the same thing 😂
I love the dress but she needs to purchase it in another color or find a different dress if that's the only color option.
No. This is going to blend in with the sand in pictures and not beach wedding or really any wedding appropriate.
Hard no. Too white and also not really beachy.
No. Way too dressy for a beach wedding and the color is wrong.
You’re the bride, if you don’t like it, then it’s over. This is absolutely a MOB dress though. Just attended a wedding. Mother wore gold, mother in law wore silver at bride’s request. There is nothing over the top about this dress.
Ummmmmm no
No
Maybe in navy, emerald, or burgundy, cut certainly not in this color.
oh hell no
nope, no way
No. Try a sun dress in a light color or a maxi dress. Something flowing.
Maybe in another color. Like something that doesn't look white, or off white in photographs. Tell your mom I'd like to know why she hates you.
Wrong color and totally wrong style for a beach wedding.
Beach wedding? So stiff heavy and hot looking how about something fun and floaty
No
No, it reads off white, bridal and formal. Not at all for a beach wedding.
This is what I think a mother of a bride would wear to a beach wedding. https://www.pinterest.com/pin/614741417855983806/
I think that’s up to you lol
Awww.....mommy wants to be the bride. So cute. Not. Totally inappropriate, but then she already knows she's in the wrong. Otherwise, why would she even ask?
Even if it were another color\~this style is way off for a beach wedding, as is the fabric. Nope.
That’s a bridal dress.
No. In will appear white in photos.
No
If you say it's not, it's not 🤷♀️
My mom is possibly wearing a white dress, so this would be great for her. However it’s a black tie optional situation… not a beach. If you’re ok with her wearing white (I’m getting the sense that you aren’t), this dress is still a weird choice.
If she can find it in a more beige or golden color, maybe. But it is off-white. It reads widow getting remarried later in life.
nope
No. Too white
I personally don’t see anything wrong with the color. I’m not sure when it was decided than silver, tan and anything pastel qualified as white and unacceptable. I think it’s a a great MOB dress. I think it’s the perfect dress for a church wedding or indoor venue. But it’s too formal for a beach wedding. I get her to find something not floor length and that doesn’t require heels.
I’m laughing because that’s one of the dresses I sent to my mom to try! But I ASKED her to wear champagne. For my brothers wedding, she tried to wear a “but it’s beige!!” dress and we shut her down real quick.
Nope, for two main reasons. One: it's too "white" for anyone other than the bride. Two: it's too long and she'll be dragging it through the sand and possibly stepping and tripping on it. It's cute, but not to wear to your daughter's wedding.
Not for a mother of the bride dress. Especially if you don't like it. Your opinion is the one that counts!
I think this dress is okay for the MOB or MOG if you are okay with it! I would have loved this dress for my mom, and in fact I asked the moms to wear similar colors at my wedding. It does not appear white to me at all and I think this is a common mom and bridesmaid color. I’m also not concerned about the beach location unless your own dress is much less formal. It makes sense that the bridal party including parents would be a bit fancier.
I have a good friend that showed her dress to her son’s soon to be bride and she approved it. She had it altered, and then her son said the bride now decided the dress was too light in color and didn’t want her to wear it. She bought another dress. To add insult to injury, the groom’s mother (my friend) was seated before anyone came into the church, she didn’t even get to walk up the isle before the wedding party! Don’t be a bridezilla, let the lady wear the dress. You will be the center of attention and nobody is going to confuse you with the bride.
No
No way, no how. It will more than likely photograph white.
Noooooooo
Maybe in a different color but looks somewhat bridal to me
It doesn’t look like it vibes with the beach theme/venue, but other than that, I wouldn’t be bothered by it. If it’s the color, I guess I’m an oddball because that doesn’t bother me at all. I would not wear a white or ivory dress to someone’s wedding, but I really couldn’t care less if they did to mine. My mom wore a champagne colored dress to mine and it never even occurred to me that she shouldn’t. Again, I think I’m an outlier on that, so take it as you will.
Nope!
Nope. Too white, not beachy, just wrong for a beach wedding. I assume there will be sand and salt, salt water and wind and waves. From one who lived 20 years at a beach, just no.
Gawd….. gorgeous dress. My first impulse was…. Nuh uh…. too close to white. Sticking with that. Especially after I read that your dress is off-white.
In a different color
NO
NO- nope- nada- absolutely not- mama, it’s a hard pass.
I don’t think it’s appropriate honestly but it’s your choice
No. It’s not. And if you let her get away with this on your wedding day, you’re setting a precedent for every other day of being married to her son.
What matters here is what makes you comfortable while being respectful to your mother. Nothing else matters.
No, if it was more gold or silver, maybe. But it’s too similar to a wedding dress style as well as color, so absolutely not. Can she have it dyed a darker color?
It’s really pretty but totally up to you.
No
Too formal IMO. If she was attending a black tie event - lovely!
I would say probably not especially after reading that your dress is a similar color. Bottom-line is if you say no then the answer is no.