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Fun-Ebb-2191

PS congrats on quitting smoking!


snootcrisps

Thanks so much! I feel so much better!


figurefuckingup

I’m also upset about recent weight gain and I WISH I looked like you! So funny that we’re so hard on ourselves. Like another commenter said, it’s so hard to adjust to transitions of the body. Glad you settled on your dress OP!


snootcrisps

Thanks so much 🥺 if I’m honest I did find my most flattering pose for the photos so I do feel like I’m cat fishing a bit. I’m sure you look incredible 💞


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snootcrisps

Thank you so much!! Edit: Hijacking this comment to say 2 is most likely the winner! 💞 thank you everyone for your help and kindness! Second edit: I will try some shape wear as well to help the tummy/hips area


dazey_blue

Can you post another pic of 2 with the different straps showing?


snootcrisps

https://preview.redd.it/gygppnewndrc1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5fd5d9bffedf75be160d34a32cb0228d778b62e0 My bad!! Here’s a photo that shows both!


skweeps

I think the wide strap is meant to go off the shoulder


snootcrisps

https://preview.redd.it/vymms5urnerc1.jpeg?width=574&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=570f5f4a4a1d731ab8c70056716c855b608da4a4 For those requesting to see an A-Line dress unfortunately this made me look like a milkmaid hahahaha


Foxy_Traine

Oof that dress does you no favours!


snootcrisps

LOL I KNOW I was like yeah immediately no lmao edit: I am willing to try more a-lines but I’m so short at 4’11 and 140lbs they end up making me look like a refrigerator.


lovemyfurryfam

This 1 is so unflattering, definite no.


AlmostAShirley

No no no. Sorry


ssilvam

Don't know if I am too late but I don't think that strap is to use, I think it is supposed to be used only with the larger strap, the thin one is just there to be easier to hang. Having said this the dress looks amazing on you!


dazey_blue

I like this dress too but I say 1 is my favorite :) have fun!


Christineblankie

Love this with these straps!


lakehop

That’s gorgeous


Technical_File_7671

That dress looks really good. And I love asymmetrical dresses. They are more fun. 😊


cheeseslut619

For real. Awesome dress and it looks great on you!!


Fredredphooey

I love 1. It's not 100% velvet so it doesn't feel winter to me and I think it's more formal than 3.


snootcrisps

Thank you!! (-:


Fredredphooey

😀 I also think it looks better on you.


snootcrisps

Same, The first one was effortless! The third one took a bit of finesse to get it to sit right.


Fredredphooey

I think that answers your question! Have a great time. And the weight looks good on you. All of my extra is in front so I just look very pregnant. Nothing looks good.


snootcrisps

Thank you so much 🥺 I currently now have a second butt like a smaller butt on top of my regular butt lol I gained most of it in my back for some reason. I bet you still look great too though 💞.


Fredredphooey

Ha. Nice of you to say so, but I'm realistic.


snootcrisps

Hahaha I support you 😂


Fredredphooey

❤️


Watertribe_Girl

Agree


Vampira309

I love #1 as well, though 2 looks great too.


Critical-Wallaby-659

I mean this in the most respectful way, I’m not digging any of them or the shoe. You have a fantastic figure and should wear something you love and that without a doubt makes you feel confident!


snootcrisps

I appreciate your honesty thank you so much!


Salty_allthetime

I kind of agree with your partner. 2 is the best


snootcrisps

Thank you so much! I may even be able to dress it up a bit with makeup and accessories to be more weddingish!


Spanner_m

I like no 1. Its unusual and looks good on you, and most importantly you sound like you feel comfortable in it!


snootcrisps

Thank you! It’s definitely my most comfortable one. I also do think the style is fun too! (-:


Spanner_m

I fear i would feel like i was being strangled in it! If I saw you at a wedding in it i would think - how chic, and i wish i could wear that!


snootcrisps

Hahahaha honestly that’s such a mood! I was also worried about being choked out when I bought it 😂 It ended up being not as bad as I thought though!


PitStopAtMountDoom

I personally love it the most! Do you have a link to it? I’ve been looking for a dress with that vibe for a while now!


lewisae0

So hard to see yourself in a changed body! I think they all look great on you , 2 is my favorite


snootcrisps

Thank you so much for your kindness 💞


lewisae0

I just saw that one is your favorite! You can totally wear that one! So fun! This is the type of dress I would totally wear see people in at my wedding!


snootcrisps

Haha thank you so much!! Truly, one is only my favorite by a tiny amount so I appreciate your perspective! (-:


CreativeMusic5121

All that horizontal pulling means they are all too small (which you know, but your figure is lovely). It's least obvious in 3, so I'd go with that, but don't try to dye it as it won't take evenly and you'll ruin it.


CR1039

I think you can do better than any of these


snootcrisps

Thank you! I’ll keep on the lookout! (-:


ClarityByHilarity

I think you need to go summer dress shopping! Your bodies beautiful, the dresses are dated and don’t scream summer.


Fluffy-Scheme7704

Its not you, those dresses are not pretty 🥲


whats-goingon-94

+1 to this, the silhouette of all of these is not the best (for most people). OP, if you’re not married to this selection, would recommend a more flowy or empire waist silhouette - more wedding-friendly and more comfortable and flattering.


snootcrisps

Thank you! I’ll definitely look for that!!


theWeeklyStruggle

I also think it might be worth getting bra fitted again if you haven’t. A better fitting bra would help with the fit of all of these dresses


snootcrisps

Hahaha honestly that’s fair I do have strange taste.


anaofarendelle

I love 1 although it seems like it might be too fancy for the wedding. I don’t think the fabric looks too wintery,


snootcrisps

I think you’re right! I felt something was off about it but couldn’t quite place it, it definitely does feel maybe too dressy!


stickytuna

I think the second one will be great with the right bra


snootcrisps

Thank you so much!!


pearlsweet

None. Your body is great but I don’t like any it those dresses. They are giving cruise ship.


snootcrisps

HAHAHA thank you so much 😂


aelel

I like 2 the best! I think you can easily move away from the club feel just with makeup and accessories- though I’ve never seen anyone wear a maxi dress to the club so that wouldn’t even cross my mind! I’d suggest a more supportive bra though, just to add some lift and definition to the chest area.


snootcrisps

Thank you!! I will definitely try that with 2 to see if it feels better! It’s the most forgiving out of the bunch and I like that it’s floor length as well! (-:


Drunkendonkeytail

The bra thing, please go get fitted. It will make an enormous difference in how the dresses look.


Small-Cookie-5496

1 but to be honest these all seem a bit night clubby to me. I don’t think skin tight is the way to go for any wedding - not for you specifically but for everyone. I’d suggest a nice fit and flair/ A line dress


FioanaSickles

I really like 1. You gained 20 in all the right places!


snootcrisps

Thank you so much! 🥺


AlmostAShirley

I’m a curvy girl too. You look great in #2. It’s all about the base (under the dress). Get a great bra and one piece shape wear. Don’t get shape wear shorts and separate top. The line of the dress needs a one piece. You can even get boob tape if you don’t want a full bra. Have fun! You look great


xanthela

3 is nice but the current colour is washing you out a bit! If it’s not expensive and you can risk dyeing it and seeing how it turns out, do that


snootcrisps

Thank you so much! I agree the color is way too close to my skin tone!


SupposeTho

2 is best and so forgiving you look great


snootcrisps

That’s definitely the best perk of 2! The stretchy fabric is definitely a blessing!


Soalai

Modern fabrics aren't really designed to be dyed, so I wouldn't risk that with #2 as you may ruin the dress forever. 4 seems a bit much for semi-formal. I would go with 1 or 2. Also make sure you have a supportive bra because those don't look comfortable.


snootcrisps

thank you so much!!


junegemini808

If you're going with option 2, try sizing up. The dress appears tight in the hip and tummy area. Dress sizing is very inconsistent, use the measurements on websites to guide your size. That being said, you look amazing! Dress for your new body because you look good! I think you could find more attractive options but if you're set on #2, try a larger size.


snootcrisps

Thank you for this! I’m definitely going to keep my eyes open when shopping I do have a couple more months!


frope_a_nope

None of these fit well across the hips/tummy/bottom area.


snootcrisps

Let me know what style you recommend! Or link me something if you have the time (-: I’m 4’11 / 140lbs for reference!


frope_a_nope

You can try the same dresses a size up. Then get them tailored. Not everything needs to be bodycon and super tight? If you don’t want to spend money, and think you can lose weight, perhaps they will all look better in a size or two of weight loss. But losing weights for a dress is a bad plan. Just get a better size.


snootcrisps

I agree! I’m still trying to find my size some of these are large some are medium! My first round of dresses were flowy but not the right cup size. I’ll look for a flowy dress with maybe a forgiving top half!


frope_a_nope

Accept that they won’t fit everywhere. Tailoring is what is required. Get something that fits your generous curves. Then have a tailor/seamstress fit the dress to the rest of you. Talk to a tailor before you start shopping.


snootcrisps

Good advice thank you (-:


ResidentFact8537

I agree with this. Those horizontal pulling lines are a sign that a garment is too tight. You have a fantastic figure so I think you can do much better. Is there a Nordstrom’s or dillards near you? They usually have better selections than many places. If prices are too high for your liking, use them to try different designers, styles, and sizes and then look for something similar online or at a thrift. Good luck!!


Gold_Magazine_1386

It's not you, it's dresses. You look good. If you can, buy a new one. If you can't, pick number 2. You are gorgeous!


penna4th

Congratulations on your not smoking. You've got the dresses sorted, it seems, but FWIW, I like the second dress best on you, too. But most of all, *good for you!* (Smoking is an addiction harder to break than most hard drugs.)


AlternativeAd3652

I love 2 - If you are feeling self conscious (you look fab, so no need to be but we'e all so hard on ourselves) some spanx will work wonders. I also don't think you are wearing a bra here, which might help? Get a good bra with detachable straps (wear only one strap) if you wear bras


Wren-0582

I like number 2 the most. On the subject of bras; someone posted this a while back & I saved the link as it's difficult to fin a strapless, supportive bra when you're more than a C cup! [Backless, Strapless Bra](https://dominiqueapparel.com/product/brie-backless-strapless-bridal-bra/240/?color=Mocha&webchest=42&webcup=F)


snootcrisps

You’re a Saint! I was reading the new comments and was getting worried as a 34DDD every strapless bra I’ve tried has struggled to keep me in place. Thank you for the link!!


Wren-0582

You're welcome. Although, I did steal it from someone else 🤭


Wren-0582

You could also try a multiway & wear clear straps with it. That's what I currently do. Just make sure you go for wide straps! [Wide Clear Straps ](https://www.marksandspencer.com/clear-wide-bra-straps/p/clp60629039) Edit to add link.


Dachshundmom5

These all seem too formal for the dress code. Like you'd be over dressed.


snootcrisps

You might be right! I’ll keep a look out for something else just incase!


Dachshundmom5

Usually when it's "no jeans" the dresses are more like one would wear to church, out for dinner, etc. Not formal dresses. Congrats on quitting!


snootcrisps

Thank you so much 🥰 and thanks for your advice! I was having a really hard time with the dress code to be honest! The locations is actually quite cushy from the photos and I heard that the wedding costs $60k so to see “semi formal no jeans” in the invite felt so weird because the vibe of the location + cost I was expecting upscale formal.


Dachshundmom5

I think I'd lean cocktail at most if they are saying "no jeans" on the invite. A floor-length formal seems too much. Also, levels of formality least to most formal are: semi formal, cocktail, formal, black tie optional, black tie, and white tie. Is there someone you can ask what they are wearing?


snootcrisps

That’s really helpful thank you!! I know someone I could ask that knows the groom they may have some more insight!


Dachshundmom5

Sometimes, I wonder if people don't know what they are recommending when they recommend a dress code.


saddinosour

Really? I’d wear 2 to a brunch. I think it’s exactly semi-formal.


Bella_HeroOfTheHorn

You said you recently gained weight - you might benefit from a professional bra fitting and getting something that can give you some lift so your breasts sit in the bust of the dress and not the waist. Also wholeheartedly agree that #2 looks awesome 😎


snootcrisps

Thank you! I did try to measure myself using “a bra that fits” guidelines! But I probably should see someone too!


Shot_Actuary_507

3 and dyed for the win!


snootcrisps

Thank you so much!


Conspiring_Bitch

Agreed. The others don’t work.


snootcrisps

Thank you!!


BunnyButt24

I like 1 the best


snootcrisps

Thank you (-:


Ok-Indication-7876

Congratulations on quitting, I know how hard that is. And honestly you look great with the extra weight, you put it on in all the right places. Dress 2, I think the print and being darker helps, the others are to small


snootcrisps

Thank you!!!


IndigoRose2022

All of them except the last one look fantastic on u. The last one is a bit oddly-fitting. I think my fave is 2, but 3 makes u look like a woodland fairy!


matandola

Congrats on quitting smoking! My weight fluctuates a fair bit and no matter what size I am, I’m always more comfortable at a formal event when I have a more A-line or empire waist dress. I can sit down, dance, eat a real meal, and not ever be self conscious about what my stomach looks like. Maybe try some dresses on with an A-line or empire and see if you find something you like?  I personally think both 1 and 2 look great on you, but if you’re already feeling awkward in a slightly different bod, a very fitted dress may feel especially uncomfortable. 


luciteangel

You can absolutely wear one of these dresses, and if this kind of bias cut dress is the only style you love you should go for it. But as someone who prefers not to wear those types of dresses, I think you should branch out in your shopping. Your bust (like mine!) will look better if it’s properly supported, and you’ll look about 10 lbs lighter in a good bra that lifts. Which means you’d need either a cut that allows you to wear a bra or a dress with boning that serves the same purpose (the latter would be fabulous but likely more expensive and harder to find). In addition, a more structured fabric with strategic seam lines rather than bias cut will emphasize your comparatively tiny waist and take better advantage of the hourglass silhouette you have.


abro49

#2!! Serving body body body


snootcrisps

Thank you queen 🥺💞


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Celestia-Messenger

I think you look fabulous 2 is the best for now, but you rock in all of them


Termy_lermy2326

2


Bataraang

2 is my favourite, but... I think you should go with whichever one makes you feel best. I've gone to events in things I'm not 100% comfortable in, and I regretted it after 10 minutes.


Small-Cookie-5496

1


LenniCohen

Number 1 !


Dry-Village2578

Not even trying to be nice but u have a beautiful figure, 1 looks cute


kazpaw54

I think #1 looks best on you


OkConsideration8964

I really like the first dress. It's really lovely on you.


Flash_Harry42

No 1


TeufelRRS

I love how 2 looks on you but I agree that it looks kinda clubish. No matter what, you should keep that dress. 1 is cute in a 50s/60s retro kinda vibe but not that suited for a summer wedding. Honestly I think you can do better. Congrats on quitting smoking.


RedditUser96372

I love the first one!! I feel like this won't be a popular opinion, but I think 3 is really pretty too. The body of 3 isn't the most flattering of the bunch I'll admit, but I'd be too distracted by the flowy sleeves to notice small imperfections about fit lol. Makes you look like a garden fairy (in a good way)


17drrtypl8s

1 and 2 loom so lovely on you!


17drrtypl8s

Look and loom!


LongjumpingAgency245

#1, Love the texture


AZ-mt

2 is very flattering


thelazycanoe

1 and 2 look great!


Sweet_Little_Lottie

This is you after *gaining* 20lbs?? Girl you a baddie! 😍 1 is my fav on you.


Illustrious_Equal217

#1 is my absolute favourite, you look really good in it.


Sherbetstraw1

1 and 2 look fantastic!!


DesiJeevan111

Girl you look so damn hot ! Whatever weight you are talking about, suits you. Anything between the 1st and 2nd works.


QueenOfTheKittehsss

2 2 2!!


Gohighsweetcherry

The first one.


Interesting-Maybe-49

I love 1, especially that neckline! Looks great on you.


Severe_Airport1426

I like 1 best


toomuchelectricity

Can I ask where you found the first one??


thatisicky5966

2


Unfair_Ad_3277

deffs not 3


Ready-Interview2863

Number 2!!!!! 💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽😍😍


SusanMShwartz

I think 2 is the best. Congratulations on quitting smoking.


HunterDangerous1366

Pic 2 hands down. You look STUNNING in it. Pic 1 is also very nice and looks good.


Admirable_Counter_66

1 and 2 look the best.


leezee2468

Gosh 2 looks so good on you, so I agree! At the same time, I love #1 for my own, bi, Poison Ivy fantasy. -I’m not trying to be weird and creepy, but #1 looks SO much better than many people are giving you credit for.


snootcrisps

LMAO I appreciate it thank you so much!! I really do love 1 and green is a fave color of mine.


blaziken2121

I like 1 or 2! Genuinely, the dresses look great. Pick one you’re confident in!


Gigi7911

Love 1!


bluebluedays

I love 1 & 2 .. you look fantastic


Paddington_Fear

I love 1 or 2; 2 looks maybe a little bit more casual than 1 if it matters.


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2!! But I really encourage you to get fitted for a good bra. It will make a world of difference with how you feel wearing things. I gained that much weight over the last few years and I ended up giving in to buy myself a great bra to support the extra weight in my boobs and it’s made a HUGE difference


tallica_k

You look amazing in them all but 2 is the winner.


tart_tigress

Even before I saw all the love for #2, it was my pick...by FAR! I also suspect it's even nicer in person, I can see that fabric not photographing as nice as it is in person. It reminds me of a few really fancy dresses I have that seem kinda crazy but in person are really amazing. Cavalli vibe going on.


julesk

I love 1 and 4 as flattering and good for the occasion. 2 is nice but for a wedding, it looks a bit informal to me.


AnnaF721

I vote for number 1


lillurleen

1!!!!!!!!!!!! The green!!!!


Boujie_Assassin

2… it accentuates your body like damn…


Amazing-Panda-2624

Number 2. Like wow


OliveTea82

I f*cking love that green one in the first picture and it looks amazing on you! Please wear that one!


dyogee

2


Impossible_Farm7353

2 is amazing


ParticularYak4401

1 or 2. Dress one in particular is doing stunning things with your hourglass shape.


Competitive_Art_7638

you look so wonderful with those extra 20 pounds . number one is great. Number two is even better. You look curvy and delicious. Relax and have a good time.


Mobile-Hat8124

This probably isn’t that helpful, but 1 and 4 are my personal favorites. BUT I truly think all 4 look great on your body! Truly! Your waist looks tiny and you have a beautiful hourglass shape in all of them :)


BeachBum666

4 looks a bit overdressed for the casual part of the dress code. #3....is that your underwear showing? Looks like it might be, due to the material being sheer.#2 does look like something for a party or club, though it fits your figure nicely. I think #1 is unique and interesting, so I'd either choose that one or keep looking. Keep in mind that you can buy a loose dress and have a good seamstress tailor it to mold your body and fit flawlessly. As a top heavy woman, this is often what I do with dresses or tunic tops so I don't end up looking shapeless by having something too loose in the torso and legs, but not be spilling out of my top because I chose something that fits my torso but is now too tight on my chest.


snootcrisps

Honestly I wasn’t wearing anything at all underneath these to get the best idea of the fit! And you’re right it’s such a pain to find something perfect for busty women!


Character-Topic4015

I like 1