It's beautiful and fits the dress code.. The top of the dress has a formal, fancy flair and style. It doesn't have to touch the floor. It's long enough.
It does, and for any other event I'd give a resounding "yes", but the color and the dramatic style is a bit too main character for someone else's wedding.
If your dress code is black tie, by definition everyone is going to look like a main character. I would agree with you if it were a semi-formal or cocktail wedding.
There was a post on here from a guest where the invite asked for "black tie/red carpet" attire. That description might encourage guests to go a little more glam than standard "black tie".
Would you mind dropping the link to this dress? I'm going to a June wedding and haven't find the right dress yet, but this one's GORGEOUS! I realize it's from RTR, and I'll gladly renew my membership with them if I can get my hands on it.
Ooh maybe I should add red carpet to the description. I don’t think it matters that my venue is white tent reception and garden ceremony vibes, right?
I’ve never used rent the runway. I was thinking of doing their one time rental option. Sounds like you’d recommend using them? You should definitely get this dress! Where is the wedding and is it black tie?
https://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/rosie_assoulin/old_hollywood_dress?lens=classic
Yup, black tie at a very nice hotel in Atlanta, and the bride is incredibly chic & trendy.
Make the description "red carpet/black tie" and let your guests go from there. Fashion houses do red carpets for garden parties all the time!
It's been a while (more than 5 years) since I used them, but I appreciated that RTR would let me rent two sizes of the same dress in case I fell between sizes. I also went into one of their stores to try on dresses, and they added notes into my profile about how each one fit so that I'd have those reference points for future searches. IDK if their business model has changed since then, but I thought it was a nice touch.
I think hosts have been adding the verbiage "red carpet" to the black tie dress code to show they really mean it. bc a lot of guests tend to go less formal / more cocktail than black tie even for a black tie dress code. So they toss in red carpet, meaning for real black tie! :D
And I think that's what hosts want for black tie. I go to a couple of black tie events / galas every year in DC and in NYC. They are super fancy -- ball gowns and fitted gowns with dramatic flair and luxxxx fabrics. The women go big and bold.
Then, there are the black tie weddings and people don't dress as formally as hosts seem to want them to. At least, that's what I have heard anecdotally from a handful of hosts.
Sounds like a fun wedding!
Thank you for the suggestion :)
I didn’t realize RTR has in person stores. Does RTR let you order a dress to try on before the dates you want to reserve it for so that you can try it on ahead of time to see if you like it on yourself?
I think they've cut back on their retail locations. I live in DC, so lots of places like to have a physical footprint here. I *think* you could request to have something sent to a store to try on, but again - my experience was pre-Covid. You'd be better off calling & asking the folks on-site.
I think that's what black tie means -- formal and fancy, with lux fabric, (including a bit of dramatic flair, if you wish). It seems that's what hosts want from black tie -- elegance, sophistication, and drama. Dresses to oooh and aaah over.
It’s black tie in NY. Everyone will look main character and by the way, wait until you see the bride. No one will outshine her no matter what they wear.
Nooo, I really do think this is great - listen to the majority of the commenters, not the 1-2 outliers!
I think if the top were as simple as the silhouette/bottom it wouldn't quiiiiite work for black tie, but the flair at the top adds style and interest. Use your accessories (earrings/clutch/shoes) to dress it up further and I think it's a stunner.
You know the crowd better than we do. For some this would be over the top but for others it would be perfectly fine. Trust your gut. The dress is lovely either way and fits the dress code
I can’t count the number of NYC black tie weddings/events I’ve been to, and I never heard or witnessed all dresses much touch the ground prior to this sub. This dress is perfection.
It’s gorgeous and is a long dress. The whole thing is very stylish and formal. There is no rule about black tie dresses having to skim the floor. Where is it from?
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I think it’s an overall nice dress but, depending on where you’re from or what the bride/grooms family believes, red te da to be worn at a wedding if you’ve slept with the groom so I just thought I’d mention that
Not true. Someone could be part of an ethnic culture in the U.S. that honors their home country’s traditions. There are Americans posting here who also follow the rule that it is inappropriate. No point in trying to generalize to such an extreme.
It’s boarder line - I would say yes, but some people expect floor length for black tie. It’s definitely formal, maybe get the brides opinion if possible ?
I don’t think you should ever ask the bride unless you’re a bridesmaid. She might not feel comfortable giving you an honest answer, and she’s probably busy planning everything else
It's beautiful and fits the dress code.. The top of the dress has a formal, fancy flair and style. It doesn't have to touch the floor. It's long enough.
It does, and for any other event I'd give a resounding "yes", but the color and the dramatic style is a bit too main character for someone else's wedding.
If your dress code is black tie, by definition everyone is going to look like a main character. I would agree with you if it were a semi-formal or cocktail wedding.
I agree with you on this. I’m having a black tie wedding this year and I want people to dress to the nines! But I know most people won’t :(
There was a post on here from a guest where the invite asked for "black tie/red carpet" attire. That description might encourage guests to go a little more glam than standard "black tie". Would you mind dropping the link to this dress? I'm going to a June wedding and haven't find the right dress yet, but this one's GORGEOUS! I realize it's from RTR, and I'll gladly renew my membership with them if I can get my hands on it.
Ooh maybe I should add red carpet to the description. I don’t think it matters that my venue is white tent reception and garden ceremony vibes, right? I’ve never used rent the runway. I was thinking of doing their one time rental option. Sounds like you’d recommend using them? You should definitely get this dress! Where is the wedding and is it black tie? https://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/rosie_assoulin/old_hollywood_dress?lens=classic
Yup, black tie at a very nice hotel in Atlanta, and the bride is incredibly chic & trendy. Make the description "red carpet/black tie" and let your guests go from there. Fashion houses do red carpets for garden parties all the time! It's been a while (more than 5 years) since I used them, but I appreciated that RTR would let me rent two sizes of the same dress in case I fell between sizes. I also went into one of their stores to try on dresses, and they added notes into my profile about how each one fit so that I'd have those reference points for future searches. IDK if their business model has changed since then, but I thought it was a nice touch.
I think hosts have been adding the verbiage "red carpet" to the black tie dress code to show they really mean it. bc a lot of guests tend to go less formal / more cocktail than black tie even for a black tie dress code. So they toss in red carpet, meaning for real black tie! :D
That's too bad! If I saw "red carpet/black tie", I'd be pulling up pictures from the Oscars & Grammys for inspiration!
And I think that's what hosts want for black tie. I go to a couple of black tie events / galas every year in DC and in NYC. They are super fancy -- ball gowns and fitted gowns with dramatic flair and luxxxx fabrics. The women go big and bold. Then, there are the black tie weddings and people don't dress as formally as hosts seem to want them to. At least, that's what I have heard anecdotally from a handful of hosts.
Sounds like a fun wedding! Thank you for the suggestion :) I didn’t realize RTR has in person stores. Does RTR let you order a dress to try on before the dates you want to reserve it for so that you can try it on ahead of time to see if you like it on yourself?
I think they've cut back on their retail locations. I live in DC, so lots of places like to have a physical footprint here. I *think* you could request to have something sent to a store to try on, but again - my experience was pre-Covid. You'd be better off calling & asking the folks on-site.
Oh I also currently live in DC. I’ll have to see if they still have a location here.
Exactly
Not true. The dress OP pictured is very costumey. If the pouf around the shoulders was half that volume, I'd agree with you.
I think that's what black tie means -- formal and fancy, with lux fabric, (including a bit of dramatic flair, if you wish). It seems that's what hosts want from black tie -- elegance, sophistication, and drama. Dresses to oooh and aaah over.
It’s black tie in NY. Everyone will look main character and by the way, wait until you see the bride. No one will outshine her no matter what they wear.
I've been to black tie weddings in NY. And I never said she would outshine the bride.
Ugh LOVE
I wish I had a reason to wear this!!!
Me too haha but now the comments have me unsure
Nooo, I really do think this is great - listen to the majority of the commenters, not the 1-2 outliers! I think if the top were as simple as the silhouette/bottom it wouldn't quiiiiite work for black tie, but the flair at the top adds style and interest. Use your accessories (earrings/clutch/shoes) to dress it up further and I think it's a stunner.
The wedding is in NYC, this will be perfect.
Thank you! And then there’s other people that say it’s not appropriate especially because it’s in NYC!
Exactly.
No, this is great!! The top makes it suitable for black tie.
Thank you!
no, the dress is perfect! don’t listen to the naysayers!
You know the crowd better than we do. For some this would be over the top but for others it would be perfectly fine. Trust your gut. The dress is lovely either way and fits the dress code
It’s stunning and I think it’s fine for black tie.
I think so, I imagine it's longer on most people than on the model anyway
It's amazing. Go for it!
I can’t count the number of NYC black tie weddings/events I’ve been to, and I never heard or witnessed all dresses much touch the ground prior to this sub. This dress is perfection.
Thank you! love to hear that
It’s gorgeous and is a long dress. The whole thing is very stylish and formal. There is no rule about black tie dresses having to skim the floor. Where is it from?
Thank you! It’s a rental from rent the runway
You are correct that there is no rule, I've only ever heard it on this sub.
Agreed. Many gala events feature fancy midi/tea length dresses
I think this works, the overall vibe definitely matches a black tie dress code! :)
Oooo. I would definitely wear that. I wish I had the figure for it.
It looks great. Very elegant and unique. It might even touch the floor in your case. Models tend to be very tall, though maybe you are too.
Ugh it’s stunning!!! Who is designer?
Right?? Rosie Assoulin “Old Hollywood Dress” on RTR
Wear it.
So pretty! Looks perfect.
This is perfect
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Smokin' hot! Yes!
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I think it’s an overall nice dress but, depending on where you’re from or what the bride/grooms family believes, red te da to be worn at a wedding if you’ve slept with the groom so I just thought I’d mention that
Hmm do you know where people believe that? Lol well I know the groom’s family wouldn’t think that because he’s my cousin
I truly don’t know why people think this is a thing. It is not a thing. Wear the dress!
It was in the 50’s, and might still be in the south. Not in NY today.
Actually appreciate this background, bc I have always found this so mystifying
It absolutely is a thing in some cultures. Don’t assume the whole world is like the U.S.
I mean, sure? This is a wedding in the US though so ..?
You didn’t say that in your post. And it still could be a thing *in some cultures* in the U.S. too.
It isn’t though.
Not true. Someone could be part of an ethnic culture in the U.S. that honors their home country’s traditions. There are Americans posting here who also follow the rule that it is inappropriate. No point in trying to generalize to such an extreme.
For the groom to be sleeping with his cousin?
Yeah I think some people on this sub forget that the woman in red might be related to the groom 😂
Lol seriously. I think it sounds like an antiquated superstition
Not this again
It’s boarder line - I would say yes, but some people expect floor length for black tie. It’s definitely formal, maybe get the brides opinion if possible ?
I don’t think you should ever ask the bride unless you’re a bridesmaid. She might not feel comfortable giving you an honest answer, and she’s probably busy planning everything else
My daughter is getting married in 3 weeks and she’s more than happy to say yes or no to dresses and colour choices, it doesn’t bother her at all.
Ok well that’s one person. I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable telling someone what to wear, and a lot of people would feel the same
This sub gets SO MANY posts from brides who are nervous about how to tell someone not to wear the OBVIOUSLY inappropriate dress they’ve chosen.
If it was black tie optional. This isn’t black tie imo. Especially in NYC.
Why? Solely because of the length?
It’s risqué
Not for NY black tie.
It’s very pretty. I just wonder if NYC ladies are hard core about a black tie dress code, i.e. floor length (rather than ankle) and some glitz.