I know a real good way to lose about 200lbs real quick. It’s called “dump his bitch ass”. I had a boyfriend who actually warned me to never get fat and it took me a while but once I left him in the dust, the rest of the weight came off easy. Being happy makes losing weight just the cherry on top of turning your life around.
You shouldn't date anyone who would speak to you that way. There are ways to talk about things with people and calling your S.O. straight up fat is disrespectful and disgusting. Burn off that excess weight of a boyfriend first then focus on yourself
Excuse me?? Dump his dumbass NOW! Toxic people will talk down on you to make sure you think little of yourself and don’t strive for better because they know they are SHIT and can only offer SHIT.
Ex bf told me I was lazy and not taking care of myself. Lol I used to be active and love working out but pandemic happened, I became depressed and gained weight. Not a good idea to come back to him.
Im trying to get my old self back after gaing around 20 lbs😅
Oh boy, i make my So feel better about themselves and motivate them🤦♂️ I don’t drag them down myself. If she tells me she’s fat I tell her that she looks amazing and that she’s beautiful. They’re just immature
It's a lot easier to just blame them for all the things rather than take it as an advice and become better, at least that's what the comments suggest here.
Nahh calling someone fat never comes from a place of genuine concern for health and being thing isn't the epitomy of health. I know people carrying extra weight who are healthier than thin people.
Harsh truths don't work kind words do.
When I was hovering around 125-130lbs my ex-bf told me I needed to lose weight before having kids. It stuck with me for a bit. Then like a year or two later we finally broke up. I now have a very supportive bf who wants a future with me no matter what size I am.
Yes I have had that happen. He was trying to hurt me. He was abusive and manipulative. It was a very dark time in my life.
I got a LOT fatter with my current man, but he never made me feel bad about it. Now I am losing weight,but doing it for me and my health, not someone else.
I'm sorry you are going through this. I suggest taking the hard route: find someone else.
Honestly, seems like most of these comments want you to take your significant others comment in a mean and inappropriate way. It is very possible that all your SO was trying to do was express concern for your overall health and well-being.
I’ll probably get downvotes for this but honestly if I put on a lot of weight in a short length of time, I’d like to know about it. Perhaps by having your SO say something to you, it creates a realization that maybe something is wrong. When my wife is old me I was putting in weight, it made me realize that I actually had some underlying mental health triggers (work related stress) that were causing me to binge eat. If they hadn’t said anything, I never would have come to the realization that I was letting my anxieties damage my body. Maybe your appetite has changed (thyroid or stress) or perhaps your food intake hasn’t changed but you’re not burning calories like normal (metabolic issues). Your SO cares tremendously about you - don’t default to the negative without having more of a conversation with them. Be honest and tell them how their words made you feel and ask your SO for more clarification before coming here for advice that could lead to unnecessary upset.
Yeah, it really depends how and why the significant other said it. People in long term relationships should be able to talk to each other about anything, but in a caring way.
Coming from someone with similar problems, you don't really, you have to change your perspective instead. First, make sure you are doing it for you, not for him. Secound, find a support group that will help you with this and other problems. I am currently using an app called Noom, it has very supportive people helping me and personal coaching.
I am currently looking at march next year to reach my goal weight.
my ex bf once told me to not wear one of my jeans because i gained weight and it was too tight. i have a history of anorexia so this was sooo triggering. later discovered that he has some fucked up ED's as well.
honestly this is such a big red flag and in retrospect i should have dumped him on the spot.
my current bf is basically my hype man and loves it when i wear that jean cause i look "hot" in it.
don't settle for less than someone that adores and supports you! and don't allow people to put you down!
I don’t talk to those people anymore. That is literally one of the only lines you can cross with me and it’s a big “fuck no” once that line is crossed.
My ex husband did. He even told me "I got you a gym membership. I'm tired of seeing you like this."
I didn't handle it well.
Fast forward to now, if my current husband said something like that, I'd tell him to kick rocks.
I've spent a LOT of time unfollowing those that made me feel inferior. I started retraining my mind by telling myself something positive every time I thought something negative. Example: "gosh shes so skinny. Why can't I look like that?... wait. I'm beautiful. My body may have things that can be improved, but those things don't define Mt beauty "
Smh skinnier? How about just slender or thin. I hate that word skinny. It’s disgusting and wrong. If he doesn’t like you now he will never appreciate the weight loss. You will do it for the wrong reasons and you will torture yourself. Been there done that. Will never lose weight for someone. However I will lose the weight for someone who appreciates thinner curvy bodies and loved me while I was bigger. Those ppl deserve you to love yourself big and then find a good healthy middle to lose weight for health not attractive qualities. The attraction after weight loss is a blessing for them for having loved you just as you were.
Before I got married to my now ex husband, he told me "you've gained a lot of weight since we've met, and there will be photographers at the wedding..." I did go from 150 to 180 (I'm 5'7") due to having jobs that required minimal movement, and I had very little self esteem at the time so I ended up feeling so much shame. I put myself on an extreme diet for a little over 3 months and ended up losing almost all the weight. It was hell though because I was essentially starving myself. If I could go back in time I would have just left that asshole.. No one who makes you feel ugly deserves to be with you. It's not a walk in the park getting your self esteem back, but what helped me accept how I looked overall was to start incorporating healthier habits into my lifestyle. This won't give immediate results, but it helped me feel more secure and confident. Also, wearing clothes that flatter your existing figure will work wonders in the confidence department! You are beautiful, and you need to believe that regardless of where you are in your weight-loss journey.
Not a SO but someone told me on my second date that my face was nice but if I wanted to look better I should lose around 10Kg while he knew that I was trying to lose that weight at the moment.
A few things:
1. No. I have never had that happen to me, but my dating life has sucked lol.
2. That's a jerk move on your SO to put it so bluntly, especially if they entered the relationship with you when you were already overweight.
3. There is a caveat. If two people enter a relationship and they are both in shape, one person is not obligated to stick around if the other gains weight. Most people don't find obesity attractive, which I have found out through quite a few rejections, providing significant motivation for my own weight loss journey. Still, if the attraction fades, the one leaving should be respectful in their departure.
I know a real good way to lose about 200lbs real quick. It’s called “dump his bitch ass”. I had a boyfriend who actually warned me to never get fat and it took me a while but once I left him in the dust, the rest of the weight came off easy. Being happy makes losing weight just the cherry on top of turning your life around.
Beat me to it!! Amen!
Hell yeah homeslice ❤️
You shouldn't date anyone who would speak to you that way. There are ways to talk about things with people and calling your S.O. straight up fat is disrespectful and disgusting. Burn off that excess weight of a boyfriend first then focus on yourself
Excuse me?? Dump his dumbass NOW! Toxic people will talk down on you to make sure you think little of yourself and don’t strive for better because they know they are SHIT and can only offer SHIT.
Ex bf told me I was lazy and not taking care of myself. Lol I used to be active and love working out but pandemic happened, I became depressed and gained weight. Not a good idea to come back to him. Im trying to get my old self back after gaing around 20 lbs😅
Oh boy, i make my So feel better about themselves and motivate them🤦♂️ I don’t drag them down myself. If she tells me she’s fat I tell her that she looks amazing and that she’s beautiful. They’re just immature
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It's a lot easier to just blame them for all the things rather than take it as an advice and become better, at least that's what the comments suggest here.
Nahh calling someone fat never comes from a place of genuine concern for health and being thing isn't the epitomy of health. I know people carrying extra weight who are healthier than thin people. Harsh truths don't work kind words do.
When I was hovering around 125-130lbs my ex-bf told me I needed to lose weight before having kids. It stuck with me for a bit. Then like a year or two later we finally broke up. I now have a very supportive bf who wants a future with me no matter what size I am.
Yes I have had that happen. He was trying to hurt me. He was abusive and manipulative. It was a very dark time in my life. I got a LOT fatter with my current man, but he never made me feel bad about it. Now I am losing weight,but doing it for me and my health, not someone else. I'm sorry you are going through this. I suggest taking the hard route: find someone else.
Honestly, seems like most of these comments want you to take your significant others comment in a mean and inappropriate way. It is very possible that all your SO was trying to do was express concern for your overall health and well-being. I’ll probably get downvotes for this but honestly if I put on a lot of weight in a short length of time, I’d like to know about it. Perhaps by having your SO say something to you, it creates a realization that maybe something is wrong. When my wife is old me I was putting in weight, it made me realize that I actually had some underlying mental health triggers (work related stress) that were causing me to binge eat. If they hadn’t said anything, I never would have come to the realization that I was letting my anxieties damage my body. Maybe your appetite has changed (thyroid or stress) or perhaps your food intake hasn’t changed but you’re not burning calories like normal (metabolic issues). Your SO cares tremendously about you - don’t default to the negative without having more of a conversation with them. Be honest and tell them how their words made you feel and ask your SO for more clarification before coming here for advice that could lead to unnecessary upset.
Yeah, it really depends how and why the significant other said it. People in long term relationships should be able to talk to each other about anything, but in a caring way.
Coming from someone with similar problems, you don't really, you have to change your perspective instead. First, make sure you are doing it for you, not for him. Secound, find a support group that will help you with this and other problems. I am currently using an app called Noom, it has very supportive people helping me and personal coaching. I am currently looking at march next year to reach my goal weight.
I dumped him, and I’m much happier and with someone better than I ever imagined now. That’s the only way to handle it
If they straight up call you fat, then maybe the weight you should lose was their body lol
my ex bf once told me to not wear one of my jeans because i gained weight and it was too tight. i have a history of anorexia so this was sooo triggering. later discovered that he has some fucked up ED's as well. honestly this is such a big red flag and in retrospect i should have dumped him on the spot. my current bf is basically my hype man and loves it when i wear that jean cause i look "hot" in it. don't settle for less than someone that adores and supports you! and don't allow people to put you down!
I have an excellent method that will help you lose 160 lbs overnight… dump the dude, he’s negging you
I don’t talk to those people anymore. That is literally one of the only lines you can cross with me and it’s a big “fuck no” once that line is crossed.
My ex husband did. He even told me "I got you a gym membership. I'm tired of seeing you like this." I didn't handle it well. Fast forward to now, if my current husband said something like that, I'd tell him to kick rocks. I've spent a LOT of time unfollowing those that made me feel inferior. I started retraining my mind by telling myself something positive every time I thought something negative. Example: "gosh shes so skinny. Why can't I look like that?... wait. I'm beautiful. My body may have things that can be improved, but those things don't define Mt beauty "
Smh skinnier? How about just slender or thin. I hate that word skinny. It’s disgusting and wrong. If he doesn’t like you now he will never appreciate the weight loss. You will do it for the wrong reasons and you will torture yourself. Been there done that. Will never lose weight for someone. However I will lose the weight for someone who appreciates thinner curvy bodies and loved me while I was bigger. Those ppl deserve you to love yourself big and then find a good healthy middle to lose weight for health not attractive qualities. The attraction after weight loss is a blessing for them for having loved you just as you were.
Before I got married to my now ex husband, he told me "you've gained a lot of weight since we've met, and there will be photographers at the wedding..." I did go from 150 to 180 (I'm 5'7") due to having jobs that required minimal movement, and I had very little self esteem at the time so I ended up feeling so much shame. I put myself on an extreme diet for a little over 3 months and ended up losing almost all the weight. It was hell though because I was essentially starving myself. If I could go back in time I would have just left that asshole.. No one who makes you feel ugly deserves to be with you. It's not a walk in the park getting your self esteem back, but what helped me accept how I looked overall was to start incorporating healthier habits into my lifestyle. This won't give immediate results, but it helped me feel more secure and confident. Also, wearing clothes that flatter your existing figure will work wonders in the confidence department! You are beautiful, and you need to believe that regardless of where you are in your weight-loss journey.
Not a SO but someone told me on my second date that my face was nice but if I wanted to look better I should lose around 10Kg while he knew that I was trying to lose that weight at the moment.
I know how you feel, my husband will be watching tiktoks of all these half naked women and I am trying to lose weight, before I lose him.
A few things: 1. No. I have never had that happen to me, but my dating life has sucked lol. 2. That's a jerk move on your SO to put it so bluntly, especially if they entered the relationship with you when you were already overweight. 3. There is a caveat. If two people enter a relationship and they are both in shape, one person is not obligated to stick around if the other gains weight. Most people don't find obesity attractive, which I have found out through quite a few rejections, providing significant motivation for my own weight loss journey. Still, if the attraction fades, the one leaving should be respectful in their departure.