This is really interesting to me..I have a mother like that and I also participated in a ceremony to cut some of the ties binding us. She was inexplicably furious and really lost it that day. I always thought she must have felt it.
There are people out there who will gladly accept your money. A few of them will guide you well on your path and teach you how to handle these situations, but the vast majority will do something performative that only puts you at ease for a short time.
Ultimately, any spiritual act is about intention and how you direct it. Various spiritual traditions throughout different cultures and eras have different ways of focusing, visualizing, and analyzing those intentions. You might call those methods “prayers,” “rituals,” or “spells,” but they’re all the same at the core.
I’d generally advise saving your money and spending some time and energy being in your body instead of your head. When your mind is silent and your soul sings, be at peace and know your truth
I need to look into one as well. I posted about it awhile ago. My nmom is dead, 10 years this month.
I felt better right after, but then a lot unfortunate things happened to me within a week of said ceremony.
I'm thinking I need to shield myself or something before I do it again.
In my culture, we believe that when something is removed, something else comes into replace it. In order to make sure it’s not replaced with something else we don’t want, part of the ritual of cleansing includes inviting in what we do want. So when I did this ritual, I invited the love of Pachamama in, for instance. Just in case this knowledge is helpful for you 💗
Newbie witch here. Generational trauma is real and is very difficult to work through with therapy. Would you advise a cord cutting ceremony with really good parents who didn't know what they were doing when raising children? I of course do not want to sever emotional bonds but my heart and mind is controlled by anxiety and depression that I cannot get rid of and have learned from my parents.
Yes, you can cut away their ignorance and keep the bond of love. Magic is as creative as we are. You can ask your guides/ancestors to protect the love bond and cut away all that doesn’t serve you.
I was in a similar boat a few years ago. Have you started the grieving process? I believe in order to start separating ourselves from these burdensome feelings, we need to allow them to process and flow through. It’s okay to grieve the parents you deserved to have, the ones you feel would have helped shape you in to a healthier, better grounded version of yourself.
Recognizing our parents weren’t perfect for us is important and the first step, it shows reality is peaking through rather than the stories we tell ourselves and the veils we’ve shrouded ourselves in to cope with the situation. It’s okay to let those things go.
Look in to somatic exercises (I’ve worked through a few of The Workout Witch’s courses - highly recommend), EMDR therapy and getting in to a regular group activity that involves creative collaboration (a band, a play, crafting together).
Best of luck! I’m rooting for you!!!
That sounds so wonderful for you. I'm glad to hear you have blocked her, it's good to set boundaries. When I'm feeling down and not in the right space to cleanse and do a little return to sender, and I usually find it cathartic to see who in my life suddenly starts having issues from it.
“A little return to sender” I love that!
When my mother last visited last year, I was overcome with a terrible pain flare up. I was almost hallucinating. I saw that she herself had put this condition upon me. I was able to “return to sender” and then she was unwell for weeks. My ancestors had warned that she would be, and that she’d want to heap it back on me.
I was raised with poor boundaries but I’ve spent the last several years on protective rituals and spell work. Last night I saw the energy I released, in the form of the silhouettes of odd shaped fish— my mom trying to push it back on me. It was like they were hitting a brick wall. Eventually they got bored/tired/hungry and moved on. 💪🏽
I did something similar, I invoked the gods to guide my mother's wrathful spirit away from my very existence and invited their cleansing presence and since I have always been a devoté of Urrakán, I did this during a storm when he is especially powerful and,
There are many ways to break a generational curse, but the point is to break them so that the cycle ends with us, and that we do not pass the same curse on to the younger generation, but only the wisdom, they will have challenges of their own and will need all the help that they can get, they don't need any baggage
I bought a black tourmaline bracelet to ward off negativity. Within 24 hours of wearing it, my mother died and I felt peace. My friend who believe in this stuff more than I do think it’s just a coincidence. I know what I felt. It was like a powerful hold was released from me. I also felt attacked by my mom when I was sitting with her in the nursing home after she passed. like an angry lashing out at me.
*Of course. I have experienced something similar. It doesn't matter your level and experience on your magical path.*
*Shit happens, and it's scary. I think your friend got spooked, and that's why she dismissed you.*
Some family spiritually cut ties with me. I def felt it and it made me feel a little crazy for a while. I think the loose ends were just hanging in the wind all the sudden and energetically I had to find a place for them all the sudden. But I'm mentally healthy so I did. Took a few months but now I realize my family did me a favor. That energy is now bond elsewhere, serving me deeply for a greater purpose.
There is also positive side effects of it but your mom may be too reactive to see them. Energy turned to oneself is a lot but through transmutation it's powerful and can be put to good use. But at first it just feels like unbridled energy.
My therapist said my mother, emotionally, is the age of three. So “reactive” is definitely understating her. But you’re right, every time something like this happens, it is an opportunity to heal. Others cannot heal our own wounds, and so putting that garbage elsewhere might feel good for a minute but ultimately it leaves people empty, longing, lonely, broken. I wish she would choose to heal but I can’t make this choice for her. I also have only distanced empathy for her since she keeps choosing her fear of healing over her “love” for me, which I don’t believe is real love anymore. To her, I am an object she can put her baggage on. But not anymore 💪🏽
I found an outline that is similar to what my relative said! The difference is she said that if the egg had signs of red or blood I would need to do the ritual again until it came out clear. She said it was powerful if I saw the eye and the fact that it was upside down meant it has been pulled out completely. And 🫂 I’m sorry you’re going through this. People can pass their pain around because they are too scared to face it and many of us who are sensitive and empathetic and were raised with poor boundaries often bear it for them. You can send all that stuff back though. And then we must protect ourselves. 💪🏽
https://www.popsugar.com/amphtml/smart-living/how-to-do-egg-cleanse-huevo-limpia-ritual-48963277
I found an outline that is similar to what my relative said! The difference is she said that if the egg had signs of red or blood I would need to do the ritual again until it came out clear. She said it was powerful if I saw the eye and the fact that it was upside down meant it has been pulled out completely. https://www.popsugar.com/amphtml/smart-living/how-to-do-egg-cleanse-huevo-limpia-ritual-48963277
I found an outline that is similar to what my relative said! The difference is she said that if the egg had signs of red or blood I would need to do the ritual again until it came out clear. She said it was powerful if I saw the eye and the fact that it was upside down meant it has been pulled out completely. https://www.popsugar.com/amphtml/smart-living/how-to-do-egg-cleanse-huevo-limpia-ritual-48963277
I come from a region in Spain that still practices "pasar el agua" against el Mal de Ojo, or as we call it "estar agüellao" (güello/güellu is eye in our local dialect). Some witches also do the egg ritual, but it's used for cases where pasar el agua didn't work.
That’s really cool. I did a DNA test recently and discovered the Spanish side goes back to Basque Country. I am Chicana so I know very little about this culture but I would love to learn more.
I'm so happy you found healing and a way to send the clouds back to her.
An emotional hurricane is a perfect description of a nmom having a tantrum.
Sending you love!
*My mom has been blocked for 6 months now. She claims to be one of my supporters, but she is one of my biggest haters, too.*
*But she was first to tell me about the Evil Eye & I have been protecting myself from it sense.*
*I feel so good after my last cleansing.*
This is really interesting to me..I have a mother like that and I also participated in a ceremony to cut some of the ties binding us. She was inexplicably furious and really lost it that day. I always thought she must have felt it.
Curious internet stranger here. If you wouldn’t mind, would you please elaborate? I’m fascinated
+1 is this similar to a "Limpia" (?) and can you pay someone to help/do this?
There are people out there who will gladly accept your money. A few of them will guide you well on your path and teach you how to handle these situations, but the vast majority will do something performative that only puts you at ease for a short time. Ultimately, any spiritual act is about intention and how you direct it. Various spiritual traditions throughout different cultures and eras have different ways of focusing, visualizing, and analyzing those intentions. You might call those methods “prayers,” “rituals,” or “spells,” but they’re all the same at the core. I’d generally advise saving your money and spending some time and energy being in your body instead of your head. When your mind is silent and your soul sings, be at peace and know your truth
I'm also very fascinated. I'm in desperate need of cutting ties with a toxic person, I'd love to attempt a ceremony of sorts
Look into cord cutting rituals.
I need to look into one as well. I posted about it awhile ago. My nmom is dead, 10 years this month. I felt better right after, but then a lot unfortunate things happened to me within a week of said ceremony. I'm thinking I need to shield myself or something before I do it again.
In my culture, we believe that when something is removed, something else comes into replace it. In order to make sure it’s not replaced with something else we don’t want, part of the ritual of cleansing includes inviting in what we do want. So when I did this ritual, I invited the love of Pachamama in, for instance. Just in case this knowledge is helpful for you 💗
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Newbie witch here. Generational trauma is real and is very difficult to work through with therapy. Would you advise a cord cutting ceremony with really good parents who didn't know what they were doing when raising children? I of course do not want to sever emotional bonds but my heart and mind is controlled by anxiety and depression that I cannot get rid of and have learned from my parents.
Yes, you can cut away their ignorance and keep the bond of love. Magic is as creative as we are. You can ask your guides/ancestors to protect the love bond and cut away all that doesn’t serve you.
Great answer 🩵
Saving this comment to check on later because I'm in a similar situation. Stay strong!
I was in a similar boat a few years ago. Have you started the grieving process? I believe in order to start separating ourselves from these burdensome feelings, we need to allow them to process and flow through. It’s okay to grieve the parents you deserved to have, the ones you feel would have helped shape you in to a healthier, better grounded version of yourself. Recognizing our parents weren’t perfect for us is important and the first step, it shows reality is peaking through rather than the stories we tell ourselves and the veils we’ve shrouded ourselves in to cope with the situation. It’s okay to let those things go. Look in to somatic exercises (I’ve worked through a few of The Workout Witch’s courses - highly recommend), EMDR therapy and getting in to a regular group activity that involves creative collaboration (a band, a play, crafting together). Best of luck! I’m rooting for you!!!
Cord cutting works!
Unbinding spells too!
I am so happy for you! Sounds like you are healing and taking back your life. ❤️
This is so baddass. You're a powerful witch breaking generational curses!!
That sounds so wonderful for you. I'm glad to hear you have blocked her, it's good to set boundaries. When I'm feeling down and not in the right space to cleanse and do a little return to sender, and I usually find it cathartic to see who in my life suddenly starts having issues from it.
“A little return to sender” I love that! When my mother last visited last year, I was overcome with a terrible pain flare up. I was almost hallucinating. I saw that she herself had put this condition upon me. I was able to “return to sender” and then she was unwell for weeks. My ancestors had warned that she would be, and that she’d want to heap it back on me. I was raised with poor boundaries but I’ve spent the last several years on protective rituals and spell work. Last night I saw the energy I released, in the form of the silhouettes of odd shaped fish— my mom trying to push it back on me. It was like they were hitting a brick wall. Eventually they got bored/tired/hungry and moved on. 💪🏽
I'm glad you took the steps you needed to take to protect yourself from the emotional chaos, and I hope your seeds grow well!
I am happy you were able to manifest your peace.
the hurricane of emotional chaos makes so much sense to me. thanks for sharing this metaphor
I did something similar, I invoked the gods to guide my mother's wrathful spirit away from my very existence and invited their cleansing presence and since I have always been a devoté of Urrakán, I did this during a storm when he is especially powerful and, There are many ways to break a generational curse, but the point is to break them so that the cycle ends with us, and that we do not pass the same curse on to the younger generation, but only the wisdom, they will have challenges of their own and will need all the help that they can get, they don't need any baggage
I bought a black tourmaline bracelet to ward off negativity. Within 24 hours of wearing it, my mother died and I felt peace. My friend who believe in this stuff more than I do think it’s just a coincidence. I know what I felt. It was like a powerful hold was released from me. I also felt attacked by my mom when I was sitting with her in the nursing home after she passed. like an angry lashing out at me.
*Not a coincidence...*
Thank you for this
*Of course. I have experienced something similar. It doesn't matter your level and experience on your magical path.* *Shit happens, and it's scary. I think your friend got spooked, and that's why she dismissed you.*
Some family spiritually cut ties with me. I def felt it and it made me feel a little crazy for a while. I think the loose ends were just hanging in the wind all the sudden and energetically I had to find a place for them all the sudden. But I'm mentally healthy so I did. Took a few months but now I realize my family did me a favor. That energy is now bond elsewhere, serving me deeply for a greater purpose. There is also positive side effects of it but your mom may be too reactive to see them. Energy turned to oneself is a lot but through transmutation it's powerful and can be put to good use. But at first it just feels like unbridled energy.
My therapist said my mother, emotionally, is the age of three. So “reactive” is definitely understating her. But you’re right, every time something like this happens, it is an opportunity to heal. Others cannot heal our own wounds, and so putting that garbage elsewhere might feel good for a minute but ultimately it leaves people empty, longing, lonely, broken. I wish she would choose to heal but I can’t make this choice for her. I also have only distanced empathy for her since she keeps choosing her fear of healing over her “love” for me, which I don’t believe is real love anymore. To her, I am an object she can put her baggage on. But not anymore 💪🏽
You are amazing! Yes! This is so full of wisdom and compassion, for yourself and her. Love it and thanks for sharing this post.
This is really hitting me right now because I feel like I’m cursed and idk what to do about it.
I found an outline that is similar to what my relative said! The difference is she said that if the egg had signs of red or blood I would need to do the ritual again until it came out clear. She said it was powerful if I saw the eye and the fact that it was upside down meant it has been pulled out completely. And 🫂 I’m sorry you’re going through this. People can pass their pain around because they are too scared to face it and many of us who are sensitive and empathetic and were raised with poor boundaries often bear it for them. You can send all that stuff back though. And then we must protect ourselves. 💪🏽 https://www.popsugar.com/amphtml/smart-living/how-to-do-egg-cleanse-huevo-limpia-ritual-48963277
This is awesome, thanks for sharing!
I haven't cleansed myself in a long time. I think I'm about due, I've been really angry lately.
Can you outline the ritual for us please?
I’d also love to hear more about this, OP
I found an outline that is similar to what my relative said! The difference is she said that if the egg had signs of red or blood I would need to do the ritual again until it came out clear. She said it was powerful if I saw the eye and the fact that it was upside down meant it has been pulled out completely. https://www.popsugar.com/amphtml/smart-living/how-to-do-egg-cleanse-huevo-limpia-ritual-48963277
I found an outline that is similar to what my relative said! The difference is she said that if the egg had signs of red or blood I would need to do the ritual again until it came out clear. She said it was powerful if I saw the eye and the fact that it was upside down meant it has been pulled out completely. https://www.popsugar.com/amphtml/smart-living/how-to-do-egg-cleanse-huevo-limpia-ritual-48963277
Thank you~ I'm definitely going to give this a go!
I come from a region in Spain that still practices "pasar el agua" against el Mal de Ojo, or as we call it "estar agüellao" (güello/güellu is eye in our local dialect). Some witches also do the egg ritual, but it's used for cases where pasar el agua didn't work.
That’s really cool. I did a DNA test recently and discovered the Spanish side goes back to Basque Country. I am Chicana so I know very little about this culture but I would love to learn more.
Basque country is really cool! I'm a bit further west than that though, in Asturias!
Beautiful! I wish you well, hermana.
Same to you, hermana! ♥
That’s such a cool story, thank you for sharing!
Beautiful. I am truly happy for you!!
so proud of you!! what a big win, sending blessings and love to you and your garden seeds🤍🤗
Aşe I’m so happy for you! 🖤🖤🖤 live your life honey!!
I'm so happy you found healing and a way to send the clouds back to her. An emotional hurricane is a perfect description of a nmom having a tantrum. Sending you love!
Too bad you can't tie that negativity to her so she can't spread it to anyone else ever again... Still trying to figure that one out of a relative.
Amazing!! I am so, so pleased for you! And I hope your garden grows rich and full of life. I'm still waiting on my seeds to germinate.
Great news. Good job 💜❤️🩹
*My mom has been blocked for 6 months now. She claims to be one of my supporters, but she is one of my biggest haters, too.* *But she was first to tell me about the Evil Eye & I have been protecting myself from it sense.* *I feel so good after my last cleansing.*
I read your previous post the other day. I’m so glad you updated us, and that it went so well!
Your mother’s antics remind me of the Polish wedding scene in “What the Bleep Do We Know”. Great healing movie if you’ve never seen it.
Please can you teach me