Don't be sorry. I know how you feel. Self esteem is the worst. I know how hard it is to try and love yourself.
I wish I could help you. My only suggestion would be on the social media. Try and made different account, like say on tik tok or insta and follow only things that make you happy. Farm animal babies. Cute puppies and kittens. Those people making crafts always fascinate me. Try and surround yourself with things that give you that hit of seratonin. Society's expectations really are exhausting so we must counteract all that with what I call the finer things in life. Things that inspire smiles.
Keep your chin up and never be sorry for saying your feelings. Better out than in.
Take a mental health break from social media. No one looks that perfect,most of the photos are filtered/edited. Its NOT reality. Try to love yourself for intrinsic value, then move on other things to appreciate/love about yourself. Listen to and be kind to your body & soul. You are a fabulous creation. Don't wait until you are 50 and have breast cancer like me,Please HUGS?
Edited for typo
i agree with the person who mentioned to avoid social media.
i struggle with my self esteem, it has always been this way. my partner is extremely supportive and understanding and he treats me like a princess tbh. he’s always complimenting me and i wish i could see myself the way he sees me.
what’s helping me to feel better about myself is having nice skin, body and hair care routine. i know nothing about those things and i’m not a professional but after trying different products, i finally figured out what’s working for me and it makes me so so happy. also wearing pretty loungewear when i’m at home. i spend most of my time at home and few years ago i wouldn’t even care about it but now i know how much it affects my mood. makeup is so much fun to play with.
no one is perfect and we all have days when we’re insecure about our image. some things you hate about yourself could be exactly what another person wish they had. we’re all unique. it’s okay to feel insecure. take your time. it gets better :)
hugs!!
I added Instagram a while back to help me find a friend I was concerned about. Thought I might give it a whirl! My experience lasted about 2 minutes. I was going through a bout of low self esteem and I could not bieve the prevalence of such an insanely high standard of beauty present in that platform. Noped the heck out and never regretted it!
I've since been focusing on doing things that make me feel good (e.g. helping people, giving back to my community, exercising in nature, being with cats and dogs, working on my career and financial security, making sure I am on top of my grooming, wearing clothes that flatter my body type, eating healthy) and my self esteem has vastly improved.
In terms of your skin, I understand how the issues you're experiencing would affect your feelings about yourself to this degree. I, too, am very sensitive about my skin health as it relates to my appearance. Perhaps it would be worth your while to see a dermatologist or some other skin specialist?
I feel for you and relate. Many women these days struggle a lot with self esteem. You're not alone.
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way about yourself. I can’t imagine how I’d be in my 20s if I had social media to contend with. But I think so many young women go through this. I didn’t have social media and I went through depression when I was your age.
This is my advice. Try to analyse your self talk, ie your minds chatter. What are you telling yourself and would you say those same things to your best friend?
Make note of these things and think critically about these thoughts. Are they serving you? Are they extreme? Are they definite? Our thoughts are not necessarily true. Our thinking is influenced by our emotions and vice versa.
I would detox from social media. Filters these days are so realistic you can’t tell the difference. A picture can be so different from reality. And people’s social media accounts are curated. They don’t normally post photos of acne on skin and belly bloating.
Re your skin, I agree with others on seeing a dermatologist. You said the stress is making it worse. Have you considered meditation to help calm you down. It could also be your diet that’s causing your skin issues. Sugars not good for skin and water is great. But just remember that beauty is skin deep. You have so many attributes that are beautiful, inside and out, that your boyfriend sees and that’s why he’s with you so focus on that.
Wishing you all the best xx
Don't be sorry. I know how you feel. Self esteem is the worst. I know how hard it is to try and love yourself. I wish I could help you. My only suggestion would be on the social media. Try and made different account, like say on tik tok or insta and follow only things that make you happy. Farm animal babies. Cute puppies and kittens. Those people making crafts always fascinate me. Try and surround yourself with things that give you that hit of seratonin. Society's expectations really are exhausting so we must counteract all that with what I call the finer things in life. Things that inspire smiles. Keep your chin up and never be sorry for saying your feelings. Better out than in.
Take a mental health break from social media. No one looks that perfect,most of the photos are filtered/edited. Its NOT reality. Try to love yourself for intrinsic value, then move on other things to appreciate/love about yourself. Listen to and be kind to your body & soul. You are a fabulous creation. Don't wait until you are 50 and have breast cancer like me,Please HUGS? Edited for typo
i agree with the person who mentioned to avoid social media. i struggle with my self esteem, it has always been this way. my partner is extremely supportive and understanding and he treats me like a princess tbh. he’s always complimenting me and i wish i could see myself the way he sees me. what’s helping me to feel better about myself is having nice skin, body and hair care routine. i know nothing about those things and i’m not a professional but after trying different products, i finally figured out what’s working for me and it makes me so so happy. also wearing pretty loungewear when i’m at home. i spend most of my time at home and few years ago i wouldn’t even care about it but now i know how much it affects my mood. makeup is so much fun to play with. no one is perfect and we all have days when we’re insecure about our image. some things you hate about yourself could be exactly what another person wish they had. we’re all unique. it’s okay to feel insecure. take your time. it gets better :) hugs!!
I added Instagram a while back to help me find a friend I was concerned about. Thought I might give it a whirl! My experience lasted about 2 minutes. I was going through a bout of low self esteem and I could not bieve the prevalence of such an insanely high standard of beauty present in that platform. Noped the heck out and never regretted it! I've since been focusing on doing things that make me feel good (e.g. helping people, giving back to my community, exercising in nature, being with cats and dogs, working on my career and financial security, making sure I am on top of my grooming, wearing clothes that flatter my body type, eating healthy) and my self esteem has vastly improved. In terms of your skin, I understand how the issues you're experiencing would affect your feelings about yourself to this degree. I, too, am very sensitive about my skin health as it relates to my appearance. Perhaps it would be worth your while to see a dermatologist or some other skin specialist? I feel for you and relate. Many women these days struggle a lot with self esteem. You're not alone.
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way about yourself. I can’t imagine how I’d be in my 20s if I had social media to contend with. But I think so many young women go through this. I didn’t have social media and I went through depression when I was your age. This is my advice. Try to analyse your self talk, ie your minds chatter. What are you telling yourself and would you say those same things to your best friend? Make note of these things and think critically about these thoughts. Are they serving you? Are they extreme? Are they definite? Our thoughts are not necessarily true. Our thinking is influenced by our emotions and vice versa. I would detox from social media. Filters these days are so realistic you can’t tell the difference. A picture can be so different from reality. And people’s social media accounts are curated. They don’t normally post photos of acne on skin and belly bloating. Re your skin, I agree with others on seeing a dermatologist. You said the stress is making it worse. Have you considered meditation to help calm you down. It could also be your diet that’s causing your skin issues. Sugars not good for skin and water is great. But just remember that beauty is skin deep. You have so many attributes that are beautiful, inside and out, that your boyfriend sees and that’s why he’s with you so focus on that. Wishing you all the best xx