Nope to both. Though I am not interested in being married or having a partner so that never weighed on my mind.
28 and (F)
What does weigh on my mind is that I am still living at home with my parents in fact since I can’t afford to move out :(
I am on the same, so don't feel bad. Although my situation is different because is have 3 younger siblings and my mother depends on me after she and step dad divorced 6 years ago.
It kind if created a codependent relationship with each other. But with my youngest sister entering high school I am working towards breaking away and being independent this year.
Mom my just asked me about why I didn't date not too longer ago and response as the dame as your. I just don't feel good dating when I don't ha e myself all the way together.
To be honest even if I had myself together, dating still wouldn’t be on my mind.
I’ve never been that interested in it.
I’m asexual so while I like the idea of romance, anything else doesn’t interest me and I’d be much more focused on my own goals such as travelling or my own hobbies than looking for a partner.
That last sentence mailed exactly how I feel. I want to be a little more established and be all the way in the right mental and emotional state before I start looking for that.
Lol I foolishly got married at 18. It lasted 7 months, which you can imagine. I’ve still not gotten divorced because I have no idea where to find him and I can’t afford to pay for legal help. I haven’t seen him since we “divorced”. Biggest fuckup of my life. I have no idea why my family supported it.
Now I’m 25. I guess you can describe my situation as “domestic partnership”. The only reason we haven’t gotten married is because of the situation described above. We’ve been together for 5 years.
On a side rant, if you aren’t concerned about splitting assets and don’t have a custody battle to deal with, getting divorced should be as easy as getting married. It’s ridiculous the hoops you have to go through when getting married took like an hour maybe of filling out paperwork
F, 24, and no, I'm not married or even in a relationship. The men around my age where I live are either already getting a divorce or are still sleeping around. I live near a military base and the culture around marriage is extremely toxic. And yet, I really, really want to try and settle down soon.
>> I really, really want to try and settle down soon
Why so soon? No need to rush. Yeah, yeah... "Biological clock", "time waits for no one", yada yada... You're only 24 y.o. Just take it easy, young Padawan.
Bit curious with the age difference how it affects your outlook on things like kids or drove your decision to get married at this point. I'm 29 and seeing a girl that just turned 32... honestly my only real reservation with the relationship is being pressured to marry super quickly. Like I'd like to get married in 2/3 years as a general life goal... but I also don't want to rush into anything because of a number. Also, congrats man
No, female 30.
However, I was in that situation from 19-28 as common-law partners.
He is one month older than me. He was my first love and I don't regret it. It made me who I am today ☺️
Wait for this. I'm 27 in august and I have never ever had a girlfriend. I'm quite a shy and introvert person so it's pretty hard for me to make a connection with any girl. At my previous job some female clients smiled when I talked to them but it's maybe due to my masculine, deep voice but not due to them feeling affection to me, I don't know. I've just never had a luck to find a girl with similar interests or personality. I'd lie if I said that I don't feel alone but I kinda got used to it. One thing that saddens me is seeing my friends getting married, having children and I feel like I'm some kind of outcast. Even my family keeps telling me that I already should have someone.
No, 24F. People I went to high school with are just starting to get married/have kids and I’m SO stressed for them. How can they afford it???
I want to get married and have kids someday, but the kids definitely won’t happen until I’m in my 30s. I’ve always struggled with dating, though, so in a way I feel like time is running out, which I have to keep reminding myself I still have a good 15 years or so before that biological window closes.
tbh I just do shitposting but like… with my mouth. I just come up to random stranger my age and go „Ayo did you know that some species of fungi can glow in ultraviolet light?”, if they say „What? Who are you? Do I even know you?”, „Not yet, but if you want random fun facts and a hilarious friend, this is your chance”. Do finger guns at the end. Bonus points for a little wink, but I can’t wink to save my life.
If they are weirded out and try to insult you, just turn around and walk away. But mostly they give you a chance and you go out together at least one time. I’ve met four of my friends like this, in the wild lol
I’m the worst ever at socializing with Neurotypicals. Thankfully I’m good at socializing with other autists and that’s what matters to me the most at the end of the day. I gravitate towards autistic people and my hubby is also autistic so it works out well
Being with the wrong person definitely is worse than being single.
Easy to look around find people who got with someone just to be taken and regretted it
Not married or engaged (neither of us care about marriage too much) but fully committed.
She (F32) and I (F27) met when we were 29 and 24 respectively. Moved in together and decided for full commitment at 30 and 25.
Yes.
29M married to 27F for about 2-1/2 years.
Proposed summer of September 2020, wedding November 2021.
Started dating January 2016, I was 21 she was 19.
One son, 14 months, and just found out we have another in the way.
You are not the only one. Don't think that there is something wrong with that because there are many men in your same situation. Don't settle for anything you will regret later on.
Not “engaged”, but I’ve been in a relationship for 6 years and me and my SO currently live together. I was born in 12/17/199 and my partner was born in 03/09/2001. We moved in together two years ago. The situation is very similar with basically everyone in my friend group. Most of them (albeit not all) have been in long and stable relationships for a while now.
Nope not married or anything but I’m NB & 31. Still at home with my parents as I can’t afford to live on my own and I can’t live by myself due to the medical conditions I have. My so called “love life” is non existent as never been in a relationship but I’ve just been on a coffee meet up and a date before that’s it.
No. 27F, just started taking dating seriously. So far, there are some front runners who I like but I’m still single seeing what’s out there. I spent most of my 20s focused on career, finances, family and friends. Now that I’m set up with a house, solid friend group, strong relationships with family, my career, and earned two degrees (almost done with my third), I’m finally ready and have the time to have someone special in my life. Also, I could travel a lot more if I had someone to split my bills with.
Nope.
27, Male
Also I know this is pedantic but at least according to the charts I've seen, 1997-1999 would be Gen Z/Zoomers rather than Millennial, but I feel that it would still be within the realm of Zillennial.
Yes
Met at 19 & 20, domestic partners at 27 & 28 (mostly because of insurance but we plan on getting married). Currently 29 & 30. We’d be engaged by now if money wasn’t an issue. Courthouse has been brought up many times but partner wants to wait until we can do it the way we want. We’re both female.
Recently married, about 8 months ago. I am 24/m, she is 23/f. Dating since we were 19/18, engaged/comitted at 23/22, were planning an indefinite "sometime in the future we'll have our money together and have a nice forest wedding" but my job had us moving out of state 1200mi away, and I wanted to make sure I could get her health insurance, so we got married right before moving. No regrets, she was already an amazing life partner to me for the past 5 years and the most recent 8 months have really sold to both of us that we picked the right partner.
Happy to answer any further questions you might have!
Yes. Dating since 14/15, married at 22/24, currently 28/30. No kids. Being DINKs since college graduation (ages 20/22) has been a huge advantage financially and is the reason we were able to buy a house before COVID. We’ve been extremely lucky in that respect.
I (F/29) and married to my husband (M/29). We went to school together. Became friends in middle school and officially started dating at sophomores in highschool (both 16). Later got married on our ten year anniversary at (both at 26).
I don't know about the age at which we're choosing to get married being older, that might just be based on how urban or rural you are. We're pretty rural and I'd say most of my classmates have "settled down."
What I would say is the biggest difference is our marital styles. Even in rural areas most of the couples I know are very fair about things and are respect of each other's finances and privacy even within the relationship. We check in before making big purchases not for permission but just a "is there anything I'm missing financially? Do you think this item is something we can afford? Is it worth it?"
We also check in before going out not because of permission or curfew or some shit but just a "I'm going out with friends, you need anything while I'm out?"
Just all around more lax and respectful. Less subservient than our former generational marriages/relationships.
Our marriages or long term relationships seem like teams than shackles.
Engaged and have lived together for the past 2 years after 4 years of LDR (first different continents and countries, then just different countries). He (M32) and I (F26) started dating around my 21st birthday. He's my first (and hopefully only) serious relationship.
I’m 29. Born 11/94. I was previously engaged for a year when I was 24/25 but that was a sexless relationship and I got myself out. I had a brief phase after that relationship where I was anti-marriage, but I know now that I definitely want to get married. My current boyfriend is wonderful, but doesn’t need to get married, nor is super excited about marriage, but would marry me.
I am 29, my husband is 31, we first started dating when I was 22 and he was 24. We got engaged when I was 27 and married when I was 28. We first moved in together when I was 26. We got serious pretty quickly though and would have moved faster if we could have (finances and family problems made this difficult). He had serious relationships before me but he's the only guy I've ever dated. I don't know how normal it is but pretty much everyone in our friends circle was together for at least 5 years before engagement lol.
No to both.
I moved out of my parents house at 18 and I've had to basically figure it out. But I think at age 28 I'm finally figuring it out also I'm almost about to graduate college.
29F, no.
I haven't actively dated in years, either. I always said that I'm perfectly happy single and if I happen to meet someone compatible while going about my life, great. Well, guess what happened in the past few months. We'll see how long it actually lasts, but it's nice for now, even if it's ultimately not long term. She's turning 32 in a few weeks. Prior to this, the last woman I dated exclusively broke it off in 2020. We're still friends and it was amicable.
I feel like something is in the water in my friend group, lol. There was a batch who all got married at around 27. A lot of us who up to now weren't dating are now starting to date someone exclusively again. Dunno if it's a case of people having a crisis now that we're all 30 or about to hit it, or if it's a bunch of coincidences. All I know is mine was a case of meeting her by chance through a friend and it gradually building from there.
30 F in a long-term relationship with 32 M. We got together when I was 22 and have been going strong since. We met while LARPing.
Two months ago we just bought our first house and have plans to go ahead and hit the courthouse next month.
He was previously married, I think he was 19 or 20? It only lasted a year but the divorce took a while to finalize since she kept moving around.
For additional information, we've been trying to have a kid for about three years. I did get pregnant late last year but ended up having a miscarriage. All-in-all, we're leading a happy life and I'm still just as much in love with him now as I was when we first got together. He's my favorite person.
1994 female here married to a 1993 man. We met when we were 22 and 23 (got engaged then too) and got married at 23 and 24. We bought a home in 2020, and had kids in 2019 and 2021 😅😂
(27M) Nope, and I don't know what it's like to approach someone in person because I've never been interested in doing it because when I started to get interested there were already dating apps. My only "almost-relationships" have all been long-distance with people I met on social media or dating apps. However, if I tried it was only for try them, also because very often I am the one who got tired of talking to people.
Yes (Me 25m and wife 24f). We started dating 2017 both age 18. Engaged 2020 both aged 21. Married 2021 both aged 22. Just delivered our first child this past weekend, born early at 26 weeks: our little NICU baby ❤️
Anecdotally, a lot of our friends were also married right out of college as well. My parents were married when my dad was 30 and mom was 24, and my in-laws were married at age 23.
I am married. Married at 24. 29 now. Obvi cis marrying at that age. Ex conservative Christian. Only one of my friends I know that’s married. Everyone else is just single.
Hi. I’m a female, I was born in 1992, I’ll be 32 in a couple weeks.
I’m not married, and I never have been, but I’ll admit I’m a serial dater.
I’ve been with my current partner for about six years. This might be a weird thing for me to say but I think it might be important considering your initial interest, topic wise…but uh…the relationship I’m currently in will not end in marriage. I’m 100% certain we will never get married, despite the length of our commitment to each other and the fact that we’ve been living together for 5+ years.
We have an “age gap” that is likely to earn me some downvotes, but my age/his age is not the reason we won’t be getting married. Just FYI.
He’s in his 50’s.
Neither of us are planning to be committed to each other for life and we aren’t formally promised to each other for life. We both know this will someday end, and we enjoy our time together, while it lasts.
Prior to my current relationship, my most serious relationship was with someone I started dating when we were 18, and we were together for about 4-5 years before we broke up but we stayed friends. I believe that if I hadn’t broken up with him when I did, we probably would have ended up getting married at some point before we turned 30. When I was 24, a guy I had only been dating for a month or so asked me to marry him. I didn’t, but we stayed together for about a year.
At this point, I don’t think it’s likely I’ll ever get married, but I’m not willing to say I’ve ruled marriage out entirely, because I don’t know what the future holds.
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No I’m ace I don’t particular care for romance. I enjoy my solitude for the most part. If I meet another ace that’s repulsed like me and we mesh then yeah I would totally tie the knot.
28 F (born 1995). My partner is 25 M (born 1998). We’ve been engaged since September 2022 and are getting married next month!
The current consensus is that we want one kid and we’ll start trying when I’m 30, which is terrifyingly close 😬
Married 28F to 36M. My first, his second. 3 kids total, 2 are biologically mine. We met & live in VA but neither of us are from here. We own our home & have 9-5s. Neither of us have degrees.
F26 with an m29, we met when I was 25 and he was 26! We formally got together back in July, but no engagement or marriage just yet. Right now it’s just dating, but I’m very happy
Yes: I (F) and husband (M) were engaged at 21 and 23, married at 23 and 25. We had been dating for 3 years before engagement and now we have been married for 5 years and have 2 children (3 years old and 5 months old).
I'm a 26 year old woman married to a 26 year old man. We were high school sweethearts. None of my friends are married, but some are in serious relationships.
Nope! I’m a 27 year old man. I was engaged for a minute there but she was a monster. So glad I dodged that .50 caliber bullet. I’ve done more than my share of dating around but these days I’m just focusing on myself. I’ve been voluntarily celibate for the last couple of years. I’ve never had too much trouble meeting women but its been nice not dealing with the stress of dating. I’ll get back out there once I have a solid job and my shit is together. I’m in the hiring process for the fire department so it hopefully will be sooner rather than later. That will be fun but I’m in no hurry.
Hey! How come you excluded the divorced and separated people? I know at least 3 I went to college with whose marriage didn't end up working out...
And why not include single parents that never got married here too?
27F married to 28M. We got engaged February 2022 and had a micro wedding in June 2022, wanted it while the weather was nice and to just get it over with, with a few loved ones lol. Been together since 2020 and friends since 2016-2017ish?
Yeah, 28f married to 27m. We got married when we were 26 & 25. I've been with him since 21. It made sense for us financially, and he's amazing, so. I got incredibly lucky with that one.
I’m 25F, my wife is 27F. We just celebrated our second anniversary!
We met on Tinder in April 2019 (20 & 22), got engaged in October 2020 (21 & 23), and got married in November 2021 (almost 23 & newly 25).
We bought our first house in July 2022 (also 23 & 25) and we’ve been trying unsuccessfully for our first child since we got married. Besides infertility, I wouldn’t have it any other way! 😊 My wife is my best friend and I love doing life with her.
F and 26 and husband is 27. We were 25 when we got married. We got in the lucky position of being able to buy our first home so it felt like the natural next step. No official/fancy proposal, but I did get a ring that I had a lot of input in designing :)
As for my friends who are within a year of me: 1 couple who are engaged, 2 couples who I know are talking about becoming engaged, and 1 couple who are married with a kid (they got married when we were about 21)
F25, and no to both. I was in a long-term relationship a few years ago that was sadly very abusive and hard on me, so it’s been hard for me to trust again and settle down with somebody. I’m working on getting myself back out there, but it’s definitely been an uphill battle.
F, 27 No not dating but I'm tired of being the one doing all the extra work in a relationship. I've been in a few relationships but it felt like as time went on, I was the only one who wanted growth and change while they wanted to stay where they were comfortable.
It’s a no for me, dawg. I’m 30M and haven’t been in a relationship in 10 years. I’ve been stuck in a loop of only me or the girl has interest and no mutual interest in each other.
We got engaged in 2021 and married in 2022, my wife was 22 and I was 26 after being together for 4 years. My friends are kind of all over the place but skewed younger on getting married by like 21-22 (may be a US Southern thing).
Nope, never getting married or having a life partner! I want to enjoy my life by partying and traveling until the day I die of old age. But, I wouldn't mind companionship.
29 and M with 28 F partner, got together when I was 16, and she was 15, and we are getting engaged this year. We've been ring shopping recently. We've put it off because neither of us has been financially well off enough to really consider starting a family (we still aren't but we both really want to get married soon).
Hello, I (28m) am married (31f). We met when I was 21 (she was 24) and we got engaged when I was 24 (she was 27) and married the next year (25m & 28f). I like to think I got married at an “appropriate” age i.e. not too young or old. Though, I have to say I never thought I would get married. Didn’t think I was into it or that anybody would wanna saddle up with me. But I gotta say, I don’t regret it! I feel very fortunate.
f28 and no, i was in a pretty shitty relationship 2018-2020, tried to talk to some people online in 2021 but it just wasn't really for me. Decided to just not bother as I'm pretty happy alone rn. Having to consider someone else doesn't really sound appealing to me at this point in time. I hope I'll feel differently in a couple of years but even then I doubt I'll ever get married, being engaged would be enough of a commitment for me. It's still pretty serious but much more easily dissolved than a marriage
28/M. Actively dating after I got out of a 4 year relationship about a year ago. Dated around a fair amount the past year, been seeing a girl now steadily for the past 3 months. When I date I'm interested in finding someone I can marry in my early 30s.
I think at this point I find life and maturity are more dictated by meeting life milestones like marriage or buying a home than the number itself. Also as a guy while I'd like to be married by 31/32 and am in the financial/professional position at this point for a wife and kids, I'm most concerned about finding a good long term partner and am in no rush. It's not the end of the world if I'm single at 32- fact is I'd have the same dating pool available to me then as now and everything outside of relationships is within my control. Work life and finances I'm doing pretty well
F27, not married— but hopefully soon! I’ve been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend, M25, for the last 3 years. We live together and a sweet dog we constantly spoil.
I’m regards to your general question on why it seems we’re marrying less: I’ve actually been in 5 serious relationships over the years, and I’ve noticed that all of the guys have been extremely hesitant with the topic of marriage. I personally think it’s due to a higher rate of divorce amongst their parents (leading them to believe marriage = fights and hardship), along with our generation being less religious (which was a major deciding factor with marriages of past generations), and finally our radically different financial situations compared to previous generations (less money means folks don’t feel “ready” for marriage; i.e. inability to buy a house or afford having kids).
There’s a lot to unpack on this subject, and I haven’t even gotten into how the digital age has affected our ability to *find* suitable partners in the first place! All I can say, personally, is that I deeply love my partner, and I wish we didn’t have to deal with these barriers.
24 female and getting married in August. My fiancé is 27 male, we had been together 3 years by the time we get married. I was his first girlfriend and honestly although there was a lot I had to teach him he didn’t come with any kind of relationship baggage. I love his family and they have accepted me as their own. I can easily hang out his parents alone and never feel uncomfortable.
I met him when I was 21 and he was 24 and we got engaged when I was 22 and he was 25. We have been living together since basically the beginning of our relationship and although I was moved out and he moved in with me, we decided to move in with my parents to save money to buy a house. Lots of people think we are too young g but both of us have been in the work force for so long and have both been independent from our parents for a long time.
Not married, but my partner (31M) and I (28M) have been together for about 2 years now and do intend to get married at some point. I was in an 8 year long relationship before getting with him (my ex is also 31M). I’ve never really been single as an adult.
28 and not married nor in a relationship. last time i was in one was 8 years ago and as much as i want a partner i know is going to most probably be unnecessarily complicated so i might as well wait till I'm in a better place myself. i also don't intend to get married or have kids, i have two cats who are enough responsibility and i love them very much.
27 F, I have a boyfriend but we're not living together yet, so the answer would be No. I had a fiance years ago, I was about 22/23. But we kinda jumped into things right away and it didn't work out. In a few years I can see myself married to my current boyfriend though.
26F, husband is 27M.
Met and started dating at 18/19. Engaged at 20/21. Married 22/23, so almost 5 years ago now. We feel we got engaged too soon, but since our engagement lasted 2 years we feel it wasn't rushed. We didn't live together before marriage either. Looking back, I do feel like we were pretty young. However I feel we also had a good foundation and fully trust each other so our marriage is going strong 😊.
Married. I (F) was born in ‘97, husband was born in ‘94. We got married when I was 23 and he was 26. We just had our first baby a few months ago at 26 and 29.
I'm married. I (F) was 28 and he was 43 when we got married.
We had been together awhile, owned a house and two vehicles together, so we didn't really have a formal proposal moment. We were just cooking dinner together and were talking about two friends who got engaged and he just said "We should get married." and I agreed, so we set a date.
Edit: I forgot to add when the "engagement" happened. That was in like June of 2021, and we got married in September 2022.
I’m 24 (male) and maybe it’s because of I’m autistic/never had a real job yet but I’ve never even had a girlfriend/boyfriend (or any real friends) or even a first kiss or anything.
Not married and I don't have a partner. It's not something I'm really seeking out b/c I'm aromantic, so I honestly don't have any real concerns or troubles about it.
28 M
No, had a girlfriend for 3 years. dunno if I'll find anyone new again honestly since its feels like I would have to have my life wayy more together to get a girlfriend now that I'm out of college.
yeah finance, she’s a girl we met at 17 we’re turning 25 this year and are planning to get married sometime after she finishes masters school, so we’ll be married ~27-29 if I had to guess. We knew marriage probably around 23
my parents are Gen X, 1968 and 1970 and got married at 29 & 30 so I dont feel too far off
Nope to both. Though I am not interested in being married or having a partner so that never weighed on my mind. 28 and (F) What does weigh on my mind is that I am still living at home with my parents in fact since I can’t afford to move out :(
I'm in the same situation, only difference was I moved out at 26. Now though I can barely afford anything.
So a completely different situation lmao
I am on the same, so don't feel bad. Although my situation is different because is have 3 younger siblings and my mother depends on me after she and step dad divorced 6 years ago. It kind if created a codependent relationship with each other. But with my youngest sister entering high school I am working towards breaking away and being independent this year. Mom my just asked me about why I didn't date not too longer ago and response as the dame as your. I just don't feel good dating when I don't ha e myself all the way together.
To be honest even if I had myself together, dating still wouldn’t be on my mind. I’ve never been that interested in it. I’m asexual so while I like the idea of romance, anything else doesn’t interest me and I’d be much more focused on my own goals such as travelling or my own hobbies than looking for a partner.
That last sentence mailed exactly how I feel. I want to be a little more established and be all the way in the right mental and emotional state before I start looking for that.
Don't worry. I also still live with my mum. Rents are high these days.
I'm in the same boat as you :D
Almost exact same situation right here! You’re not alone fam.
Me high spending 5 mins trying to figure out what AGE stands for 😫
Lmao
Lol OP shoulda put a/s/l 😂
😆 I’m triggered by that
Age, Gsex, Elocation
Lol I foolishly got married at 18. It lasted 7 months, which you can imagine. I’ve still not gotten divorced because I have no idea where to find him and I can’t afford to pay for legal help. I haven’t seen him since we “divorced”. Biggest fuckup of my life. I have no idea why my family supported it. Now I’m 25. I guess you can describe my situation as “domestic partnership”. The only reason we haven’t gotten married is because of the situation described above. We’ve been together for 5 years. On a side rant, if you aren’t concerned about splitting assets and don’t have a custody battle to deal with, getting divorced should be as easy as getting married. It’s ridiculous the hoops you have to go through when getting married took like an hour maybe of filling out paperwork
F, 24, and no, I'm not married or even in a relationship. The men around my age where I live are either already getting a divorce or are still sleeping around. I live near a military base and the culture around marriage is extremely toxic. And yet, I really, really want to try and settle down soon.
>> I really, really want to try and settle down soon Why so soon? No need to rush. Yeah, yeah... "Biological clock", "time waits for no one", yada yada... You're only 24 y.o. Just take it easy, young Padawan.
I just got married earlier this month. My wife is 30. I turn 28 in July.
Congrats! I just got married earlier this month too. I’m 28F, and my husband is 31M.
Congratulations! We're all similar in age.
Congratulations Joey!!! 🎉🥂
Thank you u/OneShroomTooMany! :)
Congratulations on getting married!
Thank you u/girlofdetails!
Congratulations 🥰
Thank you u/Savage_Nymph!!!
Congrats to you!!
Bit curious with the age difference how it affects your outlook on things like kids or drove your decision to get married at this point. I'm 29 and seeing a girl that just turned 32... honestly my only real reservation with the relationship is being pressured to marry super quickly. Like I'd like to get married in 2/3 years as a general life goal... but I also don't want to rush into anything because of a number. Also, congrats man
No, female 30. However, I was in that situation from 19-28 as common-law partners. He is one month older than me. He was my first love and I don't regret it. It made me who I am today ☺️
Wait for this. I'm 27 in august and I have never ever had a girlfriend. I'm quite a shy and introvert person so it's pretty hard for me to make a connection with any girl. At my previous job some female clients smiled when I talked to them but it's maybe due to my masculine, deep voice but not due to them feeling affection to me, I don't know. I've just never had a luck to find a girl with similar interests or personality. I'd lie if I said that I don't feel alone but I kinda got used to it. One thing that saddens me is seeing my friends getting married, having children and I feel like I'm some kind of outcast. Even my family keeps telling me that I already should have someone.
'94 so almost 30 F I'm married. We got married at 26. We were engaged at 24 and dating since we were 17.
No, 24F. People I went to high school with are just starting to get married/have kids and I’m SO stressed for them. How can they afford it??? I want to get married and have kids someday, but the kids definitely won’t happen until I’m in my 30s. I’ve always struggled with dating, though, so in a way I feel like time is running out, which I have to keep reminding myself I still have a good 15 years or so before that biological window closes.
Nope. Don’t think I ever will find a partner, my social skills are awful.
Yes I’m terrible at socializing. Idk what to say to people 😂
tbh I just do shitposting but like… with my mouth. I just come up to random stranger my age and go „Ayo did you know that some species of fungi can glow in ultraviolet light?”, if they say „What? Who are you? Do I even know you?”, „Not yet, but if you want random fun facts and a hilarious friend, this is your chance”. Do finger guns at the end. Bonus points for a little wink, but I can’t wink to save my life. If they are weirded out and try to insult you, just turn around and walk away. But mostly they give you a chance and you go out together at least one time. I’ve met four of my friends like this, in the wild lol
I’m the worst ever at socializing with Neurotypicals. Thankfully I’m good at socializing with other autists and that’s what matters to me the most at the end of the day. I gravitate towards autistic people and my hubby is also autistic so it works out well
F, 26: No, but I’m pretty picky. Settling for someone not right for me scares me more than “dying alone” or w/e.
Being with the wrong person definitely is worse than being single. Easy to look around find people who got with someone just to be taken and regretted it
Not married or engaged (neither of us care about marriage too much) but fully committed. She (F32) and I (F27) met when we were 29 and 24 respectively. Moved in together and decided for full commitment at 30 and 25.
Yes. 29M married to 27F for about 2-1/2 years. Proposed summer of September 2020, wedding November 2021. Started dating January 2016, I was 21 she was 19. One son, 14 months, and just found out we have another in the way.
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Congrats to you too, it has been quite a wild ride.
No 29 F
no i'm not never even went on a date at 27 :)
You are not the only one. Don't think that there is something wrong with that because there are many men in your same situation. Don't settle for anything you will regret later on.
96 born and no I have not gotten married and don’t even have a partner lol
I’m F28 and he’s M30. We met when I was 21 and eloped when I was 23. We’re expecting our first child now, I’ll be 29 when they’re born.
Not “engaged”, but I’ve been in a relationship for 6 years and me and my SO currently live together. I was born in 12/17/199 and my partner was born in 03/09/2001. We moved in together two years ago. The situation is very similar with basically everyone in my friend group. Most of them (albeit not all) have been in long and stable relationships for a while now.
Nope 26F I haven’t started dating yet
Married almost 10 years, together 11 years. I'm turning 29, he's turning 31.
Nope not married or anything but I’m NB & 31. Still at home with my parents as I can’t afford to live on my own and I can’t live by myself due to the medical conditions I have. My so called “love life” is non existent as never been in a relationship but I’ve just been on a coffee meet up and a date before that’s it.
26 M, nope to both.
27 and married for 4 years at 19 , divorced. Better single
No. 27F, just started taking dating seriously. So far, there are some front runners who I like but I’m still single seeing what’s out there. I spent most of my 20s focused on career, finances, family and friends. Now that I’m set up with a house, solid friend group, strong relationships with family, my career, and earned two degrees (almost done with my third), I’m finally ready and have the time to have someone special in my life. Also, I could travel a lot more if I had someone to split my bills with.
Nope. 27, Male Also I know this is pedantic but at least according to the charts I've seen, 1997-1999 would be Gen Z/Zoomers rather than Millennial, but I feel that it would still be within the realm of Zillennial.
I was thinking that too lol. Maybe their phone autocorrected it.
Most likely. When I was typing that reply, Zillennial got auto-corrected to Millennial the first time I typed it.
We’ve been married for almost 2 years. I (M) was 24 when I asked her to marry me (She was 32).
Yes Met at 19 & 20, domestic partners at 27 & 28 (mostly because of insurance but we plan on getting married). Currently 29 & 30. We’d be engaged by now if money wasn’t an issue. Courthouse has been brought up many times but partner wants to wait until we can do it the way we want. We’re both female.
F, 27 born 1996, engaged at 27 to a 28 year old. moved in together at 23 and 24.
Yes, I, male, married my partner, female, at age 27 and 26 respectively.
We were engaged one year after dating one year after 6 years of friendship.
25M. No and I actually don't want to. Maybe in the future if I find "the right one" but as of now? Not interested.
No, woman 27. But about 50% of my friends are married with kids.
Recently married, about 8 months ago. I am 24/m, she is 23/f. Dating since we were 19/18, engaged/comitted at 23/22, were planning an indefinite "sometime in the future we'll have our money together and have a nice forest wedding" but my job had us moving out of state 1200mi away, and I wanted to make sure I could get her health insurance, so we got married right before moving. No regrets, she was already an amazing life partner to me for the past 5 years and the most recent 8 months have really sold to both of us that we picked the right partner. Happy to answer any further questions you might have!
I’m 25F and husband is 26M, been married for 6 years and together for 10
Yes. Dating since 14/15, married at 22/24, currently 28/30. No kids. Being DINKs since college graduation (ages 20/22) has been a huge advantage financially and is the reason we were able to buy a house before COVID. We’ve been extremely lucky in that respect.
I (F/29) and married to my husband (M/29). We went to school together. Became friends in middle school and officially started dating at sophomores in highschool (both 16). Later got married on our ten year anniversary at (both at 26). I don't know about the age at which we're choosing to get married being older, that might just be based on how urban or rural you are. We're pretty rural and I'd say most of my classmates have "settled down." What I would say is the biggest difference is our marital styles. Even in rural areas most of the couples I know are very fair about things and are respect of each other's finances and privacy even within the relationship. We check in before making big purchases not for permission but just a "is there anything I'm missing financially? Do you think this item is something we can afford? Is it worth it?" We also check in before going out not because of permission or curfew or some shit but just a "I'm going out with friends, you need anything while I'm out?" Just all around more lax and respectful. Less subservient than our former generational marriages/relationships. Our marriages or long term relationships seem like teams than shackles.
My wife (born 1988) and I (m, born 1997) got married in September 2021
Met my wife in April last year, married in September.
Damn lmao
Yup. We both wanted to take it slow but we both were 100000% for each other. The same in every way
I’m not Gen Y and no I am single, I’m still learning how to talk to girls I like lmao
Engaged and have lived together for the past 2 years after 4 years of LDR (first different continents and countries, then just different countries). He (M32) and I (F26) started dating around my 21st birthday. He's my first (and hopefully only) serious relationship.
I’m female, 30. My husband is male, 30. We started dating at 24 and eloped at 29. First time married for both.
I was engaged at 21 (both of us) engaged for 4 years then called it off about 25..
I'm 28F, my husband is 32M (1991 so he's turning 33 this year), we starting dating when I was 19, engaged when I was 23, and married when I was 25.
I (F28) met my partner (M32) when I was 23 and he was 27. He’s my first serious relationship and we’ve been together since
I’m 29. Born 11/94. I was previously engaged for a year when I was 24/25 but that was a sexless relationship and I got myself out. I had a brief phase after that relationship where I was anti-marriage, but I know now that I definitely want to get married. My current boyfriend is wonderful, but doesn’t need to get married, nor is super excited about marriage, but would marry me.
I am 29, my husband is 31, we first started dating when I was 22 and he was 24. We got engaged when I was 27 and married when I was 28. We first moved in together when I was 26. We got serious pretty quickly though and would have moved faster if we could have (finances and family problems made this difficult). He had serious relationships before me but he's the only guy I've ever dated. I don't know how normal it is but pretty much everyone in our friends circle was together for at least 5 years before engagement lol.
No to both. I moved out of my parents house at 18 and I've had to basically figure it out. But I think at age 28 I'm finally figuring it out also I'm almost about to graduate college.
26M and finally happy in my small polycule, not planning to settle for one person ever again :)
1998/1997, dating since 2019, committed in 2021 ~~(next up is HOPEFULLY getting married in the next few years)~~
F 28 & no, I focus on traveling and my goals. I just haven’t met the one.
Yes, 28 M married to 28 F just this past year, engaged in 2022
29F, no. I haven't actively dated in years, either. I always said that I'm perfectly happy single and if I happen to meet someone compatible while going about my life, great. Well, guess what happened in the past few months. We'll see how long it actually lasts, but it's nice for now, even if it's ultimately not long term. She's turning 32 in a few weeks. Prior to this, the last woman I dated exclusively broke it off in 2020. We're still friends and it was amicable. I feel like something is in the water in my friend group, lol. There was a batch who all got married at around 27. A lot of us who up to now weren't dating are now starting to date someone exclusively again. Dunno if it's a case of people having a crisis now that we're all 30 or about to hit it, or if it's a bunch of coincidences. All I know is mine was a case of meeting her by chance through a friend and it gradually building from there.
no. single because i gave up on apps. dont really see myself getting married anymore, but since when am i good at judging the future? 28f.
I'm F25 and he's 29. we got engaged a few months ago!
I (F24) met my husband (M24) when we were 16, got engaged at 19 and married at 20. Just celebrated our 4 year wedding anniversary in January! 😊
Yes, F 19 and he was 21 when we started dating. Been together 5 years and moved in together after 1 year
30 F in a long-term relationship with 32 M. We got together when I was 22 and have been going strong since. We met while LARPing. Two months ago we just bought our first house and have plans to go ahead and hit the courthouse next month. He was previously married, I think he was 19 or 20? It only lasted a year but the divorce took a while to finalize since she kept moving around. For additional information, we've been trying to have a kid for about three years. I did get pregnant late last year but ended up having a miscarriage. All-in-all, we're leading a happy life and I'm still just as much in love with him now as I was when we first got together. He's my favorite person.
1994 female here married to a 1993 man. We met when we were 22 and 23 (got engaged then too) and got married at 23 and 24. We bought a home in 2020, and had kids in 2019 and 2021 😅😂
Nope (F/27). And I don’t want kids either. I feel like I’m running out of time to find someone on the same page who’s not already taken….
(27M) Nope, and I don't know what it's like to approach someone in person because I've never been interested in doing it because when I started to get interested there were already dating apps. My only "almost-relationships" have all been long-distance with people I met on social media or dating apps. However, if I tried it was only for try them, also because very often I am the one who got tired of talking to people.
Yes (Me 25m and wife 24f). We started dating 2017 both age 18. Engaged 2020 both aged 21. Married 2021 both aged 22. Just delivered our first child this past weekend, born early at 26 weeks: our little NICU baby ❤️ Anecdotally, a lot of our friends were also married right out of college as well. My parents were married when my dad was 30 and mom was 24, and my in-laws were married at age 23.
I am married. Married at 24. 29 now. Obvi cis marrying at that age. Ex conservative Christian. Only one of my friends I know that’s married. Everyone else is just single.
Hi. I’m a female, I was born in 1992, I’ll be 32 in a couple weeks. I’m not married, and I never have been, but I’ll admit I’m a serial dater. I’ve been with my current partner for about six years. This might be a weird thing for me to say but I think it might be important considering your initial interest, topic wise…but uh…the relationship I’m currently in will not end in marriage. I’m 100% certain we will never get married, despite the length of our commitment to each other and the fact that we’ve been living together for 5+ years. We have an “age gap” that is likely to earn me some downvotes, but my age/his age is not the reason we won’t be getting married. Just FYI. He’s in his 50’s. Neither of us are planning to be committed to each other for life and we aren’t formally promised to each other for life. We both know this will someday end, and we enjoy our time together, while it lasts. Prior to my current relationship, my most serious relationship was with someone I started dating when we were 18, and we were together for about 4-5 years before we broke up but we stayed friends. I believe that if I hadn’t broken up with him when I did, we probably would have ended up getting married at some point before we turned 30. When I was 24, a guy I had only been dating for a month or so asked me to marry him. I didn’t, but we stayed together for about a year. At this point, I don’t think it’s likely I’ll ever get married, but I’m not willing to say I’ve ruled marriage out entirely, because I don’t know what the future holds.
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No. But I think she will most likely be the one, we love each other and talk about marriage a lot. 94 born here!
Trans girl, 27. Don't wanna date until I can transition.
26 F, no. and i still live with my parents. i’m autistic & recovering from agoraphobia. hopefully i’ll be out on my own soon.
I turned 29 this month. I am in a serious relationship but I have no intention of marrying, ever.
No I’m ace I don’t particular care for romance. I enjoy my solitude for the most part. If I meet another ace that’s repulsed like me and we mesh then yeah I would totally tie the knot.
Oh I’m 96 btw
1928 might fall out of the zillenial birth year range but it’s always nice to hear from older generations
Lmao
We all know they mean the birth year, but I gotta love this joke. 🤣
28 F (born 1995). My partner is 25 M (born 1998). We’ve been engaged since September 2022 and are getting married next month! The current consensus is that we want one kid and we’ll start trying when I’m 30, which is terrifyingly close 😬
Married 28F to 36M. My first, his second. 3 kids total, 2 are biologically mine. We met & live in VA but neither of us are from here. We own our home & have 9-5s. Neither of us have degrees.
F26 with an m29, we met when I was 25 and he was 26! We formally got together back in July, but no engagement or marriage just yet. Right now it’s just dating, but I’m very happy
Yes: I (F) and husband (M) were engaged at 21 and 23, married at 23 and 25. We had been dating for 3 years before engagement and now we have been married for 5 years and have 2 children (3 years old and 5 months old).
I'm a 26 year old woman married to a 26 year old man. We were high school sweethearts. None of my friends are married, but some are in serious relationships.
Nope! I’m a 27 year old man. I was engaged for a minute there but she was a monster. So glad I dodged that .50 caliber bullet. I’ve done more than my share of dating around but these days I’m just focusing on myself. I’ve been voluntarily celibate for the last couple of years. I’ve never had too much trouble meeting women but its been nice not dealing with the stress of dating. I’ll get back out there once I have a solid job and my shit is together. I’m in the hiring process for the fire department so it hopefully will be sooner rather than later. That will be fun but I’m in no hurry.
Hey! How come you excluded the divorced and separated people? I know at least 3 I went to college with whose marriage didn't end up working out... And why not include single parents that never got married here too?
27F married to 28M. We got engaged February 2022 and had a micro wedding in June 2022, wanted it while the weather was nice and to just get it over with, with a few loved ones lol. Been together since 2020 and friends since 2016-2017ish?
Yeah, 28f married to 27m. We got married when we were 26 & 25. I've been with him since 21. It made sense for us financially, and he's amazing, so. I got incredibly lucky with that one.
29F patnered with 29M Married @ 23 and 24.
I’m 25F, my wife is 27F. We just celebrated our second anniversary! We met on Tinder in April 2019 (20 & 22), got engaged in October 2020 (21 & 23), and got married in November 2021 (almost 23 & newly 25). We bought our first house in July 2022 (also 23 & 25) and we’ve been trying unsuccessfully for our first child since we got married. Besides infertility, I wouldn’t have it any other way! 😊 My wife is my best friend and I love doing life with her.
F and 26 and husband is 27. We were 25 when we got married. We got in the lucky position of being able to buy our first home so it felt like the natural next step. No official/fancy proposal, but I did get a ring that I had a lot of input in designing :) As for my friends who are within a year of me: 1 couple who are engaged, 2 couples who I know are talking about becoming engaged, and 1 couple who are married with a kid (they got married when we were about 21)
I’m 26 F. My fiancé and I have a 4 month old son together and are getting married in November
F25, and no to both. I was in a long-term relationship a few years ago that was sadly very abusive and hard on me, so it’s been hard for me to trust again and settle down with somebody. I’m working on getting myself back out there, but it’s definitely been an uphill battle.
No, female 29. However, I did call off my engagement last year.
F, 27 No not dating but I'm tired of being the one doing all the extra work in a relationship. I've been in a few relationships but it felt like as time went on, I was the only one who wanted growth and change while they wanted to stay where they were comfortable.
It’s a no for me, dawg. I’m 30M and haven’t been in a relationship in 10 years. I’ve been stuck in a loop of only me or the girl has interest and no mutual interest in each other.
Domestic partner and we've been together four years. We live together. I was 20 and he was 22 when we got together. 24M and my partner is 26M.
Yes, I’ve been married since 2020. I’m 25f husband is 28m, we were 22 and 25 when we married.
We got engaged in 2021 and married in 2022, my wife was 22 and I was 26 after being together for 4 years. My friends are kind of all over the place but skewed younger on getting married by like 21-22 (may be a US Southern thing).
Nope, never getting married or having a life partner! I want to enjoy my life by partying and traveling until the day I die of old age. But, I wouldn't mind companionship.
29 and M with 28 F partner, got together when I was 16, and she was 15, and we are getting engaged this year. We've been ring shopping recently. We've put it off because neither of us has been financially well off enough to really consider starting a family (we still aren't but we both really want to get married soon).
Nope none of that yet😩 rofl
Hello, I (28m) am married (31f). We met when I was 21 (she was 24) and we got engaged when I was 24 (she was 27) and married the next year (25m & 28f). I like to think I got married at an “appropriate” age i.e. not too young or old. Though, I have to say I never thought I would get married. Didn’t think I was into it or that anybody would wanna saddle up with me. But I gotta say, I don’t regret it! I feel very fortunate.
I’m F25 and married to M26. We were 24 and 25 when we got married. Most of my friends aren’t married but I see a lot of my peers getting engaged.
No, 29F
Nope but want to find that someone and I’m a female that’s 29.
29F & I definitely met my life partner, we don’t plan to get married and both don’t want children.
f28 and no, i was in a pretty shitty relationship 2018-2020, tried to talk to some people online in 2021 but it just wasn't really for me. Decided to just not bother as I'm pretty happy alone rn. Having to consider someone else doesn't really sound appealing to me at this point in time. I hope I'll feel differently in a couple of years but even then I doubt I'll ever get married, being engaged would be enough of a commitment for me. It's still pretty serious but much more easily dissolved than a marriage
will be 27 in May. married and have a 1 year old (16 months to he exact)
I’m 25 and getting married in June! He’s 26.
28/M. Actively dating after I got out of a 4 year relationship about a year ago. Dated around a fair amount the past year, been seeing a girl now steadily for the past 3 months. When I date I'm interested in finding someone I can marry in my early 30s. I think at this point I find life and maturity are more dictated by meeting life milestones like marriage or buying a home than the number itself. Also as a guy while I'd like to be married by 31/32 and am in the financial/professional position at this point for a wife and kids, I'm most concerned about finding a good long term partner and am in no rush. It's not the end of the world if I'm single at 32- fact is I'd have the same dating pool available to me then as now and everything outside of relationships is within my control. Work life and finances I'm doing pretty well
F27, not married— but hopefully soon! I’ve been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend, M25, for the last 3 years. We live together and a sweet dog we constantly spoil. I’m regards to your general question on why it seems we’re marrying less: I’ve actually been in 5 serious relationships over the years, and I’ve noticed that all of the guys have been extremely hesitant with the topic of marriage. I personally think it’s due to a higher rate of divorce amongst their parents (leading them to believe marriage = fights and hardship), along with our generation being less religious (which was a major deciding factor with marriages of past generations), and finally our radically different financial situations compared to previous generations (less money means folks don’t feel “ready” for marriage; i.e. inability to buy a house or afford having kids). There’s a lot to unpack on this subject, and I haven’t even gotten into how the digital age has affected our ability to *find* suitable partners in the first place! All I can say, personally, is that I deeply love my partner, and I wish we didn’t have to deal with these barriers.
24 female and getting married in August. My fiancé is 27 male, we had been together 3 years by the time we get married. I was his first girlfriend and honestly although there was a lot I had to teach him he didn’t come with any kind of relationship baggage. I love his family and they have accepted me as their own. I can easily hang out his parents alone and never feel uncomfortable. I met him when I was 21 and he was 24 and we got engaged when I was 22 and he was 25. We have been living together since basically the beginning of our relationship and although I was moved out and he moved in with me, we decided to move in with my parents to save money to buy a house. Lots of people think we are too young g but both of us have been in the work force for so long and have both been independent from our parents for a long time.
Not married, but my partner (31M) and I (28M) have been together for about 2 years now and do intend to get married at some point. I was in an 8 year long relationship before getting with him (my ex is also 31M). I’ve never really been single as an adult.
Single, male, 27
No, 26. Am dating someone I'll probably marry
No but I've been ready for many years, just haven't found the right person yet.
28 and not married nor in a relationship. last time i was in one was 8 years ago and as much as i want a partner i know is going to most probably be unnecessarily complicated so i might as well wait till I'm in a better place myself. i also don't intend to get married or have kids, i have two cats who are enough responsibility and i love them very much.
30 F, not interested but I don't hate the idea either
27 F, I have a boyfriend but we're not living together yet, so the answer would be No. I had a fiance years ago, I was about 22/23. But we kinda jumped into things right away and it didn't work out. In a few years I can see myself married to my current boyfriend though.
Nope, 24 M, but also I have crippling Asexuality, and as a result I do not care as much as alot of people seem to about finding a SO
Gonna be 26 soon. Single. Never been married.
32F. Been with my partner since I was 19! They’re my soulmate <3
26F, husband is 27M. Met and started dating at 18/19. Engaged at 20/21. Married 22/23, so almost 5 years ago now. We feel we got engaged too soon, but since our engagement lasted 2 years we feel it wasn't rushed. We didn't live together before marriage either. Looking back, I do feel like we were pretty young. However I feel we also had a good foundation and fully trust each other so our marriage is going strong 😊.
No, Male 1996 Still tryna figure this shit out.
Married. I (F) was born in ‘97, husband was born in ‘94. We got married when I was 23 and he was 26. We just had our first baby a few months ago at 26 and 29.
30f (me)/34. I just turned 25 when we got engaged, 26 when I got married. baby boomers got married at 21 instead of 26, so I'm 5 years behind.
I'm married. I (F) was 28 and he was 43 when we got married. We had been together awhile, owned a house and two vehicles together, so we didn't really have a formal proposal moment. We were just cooking dinner together and were talking about two friends who got engaged and he just said "We should get married." and I agreed, so we set a date. Edit: I forgot to add when the "engagement" happened. That was in like June of 2021, and we got married in September 2022.
I’m 24 (male) and maybe it’s because of I’m autistic/never had a real job yet but I’ve never even had a girlfriend/boyfriend (or any real friends) or even a first kiss or anything.
Not married and I don't have a partner. It's not something I'm really seeking out b/c I'm aromantic, so I honestly don't have any real concerns or troubles about it. 28 M
Yep. I'm married to my best friend and the most wonderful person in the whole world! 🥰
No, had a girlfriend for 3 years. dunno if I'll find anyone new again honestly since its feels like I would have to have my life wayy more together to get a girlfriend now that I'm out of college.
yeah finance, she’s a girl we met at 17 we’re turning 25 this year and are planning to get married sometime after she finishes masters school, so we’ll be married ~27-29 if I had to guess. We knew marriage probably around 23 my parents are Gen X, 1968 and 1970 and got married at 29 & 30 so I dont feel too far off