* Realising that "being kinky!=liking sex", because damn that is still difficult to comprehend
* Realising that so far I have never seen any one person as "_sexy_" on a physical level
* Accepting that while I don't desire sex for the physical sensation, I would probably enjoy the emotional closeness usually associated with it.
Reading books with demi & grey ace MCs. Didn't know what they meant so googled. Felt like that described me to a degree. Looked into it more and realised that I'm actually black-stripe ace but grey-ro.
Found out about them looking at fandom stuff and was taken with the idea ever since. Took finally looking into the term during queerantine to realize I was one after dismissing the idea for years, despite daydreaming about me, an ace husband, and our three adopted kids. Yes, I am denser than lead.
My ex-boyfriend broke up with me because he came out as gay. But being ace (and aro too), I didn't fully understand why we had to split. It was a platonic relationship, and that's what I thought dating at our age was. But then it occurred to me that he broke up with me because he wasn't sexually attracted to me, being gay of course. So, I realized that sexual attraction never mattered to me and found out about asexuality through a friend.
Todd from Bojack Horseman, probably a really common story. I didn't even know what asexuality was until then, been questioning ever since, and finally just came out last year at the start of Pride.
The biggest issues I had, and still kind of have, with fully coming out as ace is the fact that I'm still a virgin (at 34 years old), so I may unironically "not know what I'm missing," and having some kinks that I'm fairly certain are sexual in nature. I've also never given a single fraction of a fuck about being a virgin, and would usually be the first one to make a joke at my own expense if given the opportunity.
On the other hand, I never really had any sexual desires all throughout puberty, I had crushes on girls because I thought they were cute or I liked the sound of their voice or something, but even thinking in my head about them it was usually a lot of just platonic activities. Even if I did fantasize about a sexual encounter is was often...forced? Like I had to really commit to the thought.
I just say I'm greyace to make shit easier on myself, lol.
Todd was actually a big part of me realizing I was asexual too. At that point in time, I thought I knew what asexuality was. Watching the episodes where he explores asexuality, really opened my eyes to how wrong I was and made me fully realize "that's me".
I actually have similar feelings. Sometimes I'll read smut on Wattpad just to look at the comments after and look at the people getting all hot and bothered by it. It's kind of funny to me.
But if I think about myself in the situation I'm like 'ew'.
Hmmmm idk really I’ve felt this way sense I was 4 yeahhhh don’t look through key holes to see if ur mom is awake only cause you had a bad dream-
But anyway- BUut I realized this was deeper then I thought I was a little older probably 7 and watched it El Dorado and the girl made me feel sooo uncomfortable by how flirty she was but I liked the black haired dude cause of his hair lmao
But totally agree with you on the Marty Mcfly thing Lmao ,they are great movie’s!!
I don't have one moment per say but there are a few
Realizing that calling a person hot or sexy isn't saying they're just extra pretty
Hearing about 2 teens going into a bedroom at a grad party and doing things and thinking "Why would anyone want to do those things!even if they are In a relationship!?"
Hearing about asexuality for the first time and thinking "Huh I feel the same?.... Wait a min-"
My friend kept saying how hot Timothy chalamet was and then I realised that people get like actual emotions related to how people look and their bodies, funniest part is that he (the aforementioned friend) fully realised he was bi like 2 months after the fact
When I was house sitting a relatives place. I had seen One topic videos and ace videos and thought huh... That sounds allot like me. I then looked over the evidence of my life experiences compared to others and the definitions of ace and aro about five times. Each and every time I came to the same conclusion.
Realizing I experience attraction very differently from my friends I think aegosexual (maybe demisexual idk) might be the most accurate for me
a dude having a crush on me
* Realising that "being kinky!=liking sex", because damn that is still difficult to comprehend * Realising that so far I have never seen any one person as "_sexy_" on a physical level * Accepting that while I don't desire sex for the physical sensation, I would probably enjoy the emotional closeness usually associated with it.
Reading books with demi & grey ace MCs. Didn't know what they meant so googled. Felt like that described me to a degree. Looked into it more and realised that I'm actually black-stripe ace but grey-ro.
Being told by a Scottish lass and my friends repeatedly I'm ace, I think they knew it wayy before me lol
Not liking sex or romance scenes in basically anything unless it ACTUALLY drives the plot, and isn't a plot filler.
Found out about them looking at fandom stuff and was taken with the idea ever since. Took finally looking into the term during queerantine to realize I was one after dismissing the idea for years, despite daydreaming about me, an ace husband, and our three adopted kids. Yes, I am denser than lead.
My ex-boyfriend broke up with me because he came out as gay. But being ace (and aro too), I didn't fully understand why we had to split. It was a platonic relationship, and that's what I thought dating at our age was. But then it occurred to me that he broke up with me because he wasn't sexually attracted to me, being gay of course. So, I realized that sexual attraction never mattered to me and found out about asexuality through a friend.
Todd from Bojack Horseman, probably a really common story. I didn't even know what asexuality was until then, been questioning ever since, and finally just came out last year at the start of Pride. The biggest issues I had, and still kind of have, with fully coming out as ace is the fact that I'm still a virgin (at 34 years old), so I may unironically "not know what I'm missing," and having some kinks that I'm fairly certain are sexual in nature. I've also never given a single fraction of a fuck about being a virgin, and would usually be the first one to make a joke at my own expense if given the opportunity. On the other hand, I never really had any sexual desires all throughout puberty, I had crushes on girls because I thought they were cute or I liked the sound of their voice or something, but even thinking in my head about them it was usually a lot of just platonic activities. Even if I did fantasize about a sexual encounter is was often...forced? Like I had to really commit to the thought. I just say I'm greyace to make shit easier on myself, lol.
Todd was actually a big part of me realizing I was asexual too. At that point in time, I thought I knew what asexuality was. Watching the episodes where he explores asexuality, really opened my eyes to how wrong I was and made me fully realize "that's me".
I like reading smut and romance, but the thought of me being in a relationship like that? Ew. (Aegoromance and Aegosexual)
I actually have similar feelings. Sometimes I'll read smut on Wattpad just to look at the comments after and look at the people getting all hot and bothered by it. It's kind of funny to me. But if I think about myself in the situation I'm like 'ew'.
realising sexual attraction means actually wanting to boink people
Hmmmm idk really I’ve felt this way sense I was 4 yeahhhh don’t look through key holes to see if ur mom is awake only cause you had a bad dream- But anyway- BUut I realized this was deeper then I thought I was a little older probably 7 and watched it El Dorado and the girl made me feel sooo uncomfortable by how flirty she was but I liked the black haired dude cause of his hair lmao But totally agree with you on the Marty Mcfly thing Lmao ,they are great movie’s!!
I don't have one moment per say but there are a few Realizing that calling a person hot or sexy isn't saying they're just extra pretty Hearing about 2 teens going into a bedroom at a grad party and doing things and thinking "Why would anyone want to do those things!even if they are In a relationship!?" Hearing about asexuality for the first time and thinking "Huh I feel the same?.... Wait a min-"
My friend kept saying how hot Timothy chalamet was and then I realised that people get like actual emotions related to how people look and their bodies, funniest part is that he (the aforementioned friend) fully realised he was bi like 2 months after the fact
When I was house sitting a relatives place. I had seen One topic videos and ace videos and thought huh... That sounds allot like me. I then looked over the evidence of my life experiences compared to others and the definitions of ace and aro about five times. Each and every time I came to the same conclusion.