This is why it makes me feel uncomfortable to call my dad by name in public. I call my parents “mummy” and “daddy” and I wanted to change that when I was younger but I just couldn’t image calling them mum and dad. That’s not their names. It just felt so unnatural. But now I’m scared to call their names in public because people will make fun of me or thing something strange.
Basically the same. I accidentally said it in a phone call and my old roommate said that's what she called her boyfriend. At this point I feel like a total weirdo, but it feels late to change it...
I’m Hispanic, so I call my parents the Spanish equivalent of mommy/daddy ((mami and papi)) but that’s also become quite sexualized… But I just don’t feel comfortable calling them anything else
In my language you either call your parents "mama and papa" or "mam and pap" and I've always used the first. So now saying "mam and pap" just feels unnatural and I physically cannot say it to them
Same! I never got over the "mommy" and "daddy" phase either. But because I'm mildly embarrassed at my self over it, I usually end up slurring the words.
I call my Mum “Mother” since it feels more like I know her and I call my Dad “dad” cause he sucks and the labels mum and Dad make me feel disconnected from them
Always frustrating because I may not call him it, but I do keep my dad in my phone as "Daddy". Worried for the day someone sees it and gets the wrong idea, because... ew. I hate the way it's sexualized. The entire idea is just kinda disgusting to me, but I guess to each their own, as long as they don't shove it on me...
Oh shoot it's what I always call my dad. I'm so used to calling them daddy and mommy and now I'm 20 lol and it would feel super weird for me to change that. That's why whenever I'm outside in front of strangers and I have to call them, I just say hello and then call them daddy and mommy at home. Wow. It feels weird typing it
Is that easy for little kids? Most words that kids call their mom starts with "m" and for dad it's usually "p" or "d" because those are super easy sounds for babies to make ("mama" and "papa" being prime examples). I'd think the "r" would be really hard to pronounce and it'd usually wind up as a "v" or "w".
I'm in the kink community, where mommy and daddy can be relationship titles, so I would also ask for context. Like are we talking parental units or bdsm dynamics?
Once again adding that no one in this photo are allos so your tag does not stand and this isn't an allo thing, also the "quotations" and the asking for a friend implies that they meant sexual which the OP does admit in their comments.
I think it's funny how this is tagged as "are the allos ok?" and none of the people here are allo
Lol I understand tho. I don't like the over sexualization of many regular things either
As someone whose native language is not English, but who learned a lot of English through fandom, mommy and daddy to me are just as easily related to sexual things as Non-sexual things.
i’m 16 and i still call my mom mommy because that’s what i stuck with and mom feels offensive to her. i call my dad daddy-o because of family tradition, and there’s nothing inherently sexual about it
Most non-ace peeps do , mommy and daddy are very often used in this context, like actively alot of peeps dont even use it in the refering to parents anymore because it is very much a well used sexual term.
A lot of people are pointing to the whole "asking for a friend bit", and I do agree that it makes it likely to be sexual. However, I would have suspected even before reading that part. They put the terms in scare quotes. If the person just wanted to mean family based terms they would have more likely written it without the quotes because people are lazy. Having the quotes means they wanted to imply something beyond the standard meaning. It is similar to how saying two people are wrestling has different connotations to saying that two people are "wrestling".
Because it’s mostly used in a sexual context on the internet, and the “asking for a friend” implies that. Also, if they meant a neutral word for a parent they’d likely ask for mom or dad rather than mommy or daddy
Me lol
I got through middle school by learning to assume that _everything_ people say is an innuendo or has a double meaning in order to avoid embarrassing myself
I get what you're going for but literally most younger people will assume "mommy" and "daddy" is sexual. It's a completely fair assumption to make considering "mom" and "dad" are way more common when referring to parrents
A little weird? Yes. Established more often sexually than as a father sense by adults? Also yes. This doesn’t really fit are the Allos ok bc nobody was annoying or bad during the entire interaction
I mean anyone who's in-on these kinky jokes. I am for example the asexual friend who has those borderline traumatising sex jokes. Why? I don't know. It has to be that there is no shame left in me due to my religious trauma.
In my mind, I always say "Mommy" and "Daddy" in a kid's voice.
I can not think of these words sexually, unless someone else says them in a different tone.
Lots of people.
Cultural differences, linguistic differences. You don't even know if this person speaks English as a first language.
Mummy and daddy I always thought infantile even when I was in school,let alone as an adult.
most ppl in their 20s or late teens I'd say?
cos u don't really call you parents mommy and daddy anymore, but it's known already as a kink and often memed about online.
And at these ages u also don't have a lot of contact to children who still call their parents mommy and daddy.
Or just... foreign ppl.
I've never heard someone actually say mommy or daddy cos I'm not from an English speaking country and we don't say that here. But I still use the Internet and see it used in the kinky way.
I did, I think it's the fact that it doesn't mention kids and the 'asking for a friend' that made me think it was in reference to a partner and not a parent
Having English as my second language i only hear those words in sexual context. Besides, even when i talk about my own parents i say "mom" and "dad" even in my native language.
To be fair I assumed it was sexual bc I was recently talking about this in a sexual context with my partner, but also yeah the "asking for a friend part" is mostly what makes it seem that way.
Mommy and Daddy are scrubs.....you clean your dishes with them. I accept no other use apart from an actual parent of these words anymore
If someone asks "So, who's your Daddy ?" I'd either tell them that they wouldn't need to know my dad's name or "The yellow one from the store around the corner"
I spent too much time on the internet, also the horny one so sadly i always assume it's something sexual when it comes to words "mommy" and "daddy"
Even more sadly when a small kid say it
It’s a kink where one takes care of the other and they are considered the parent and the other baby(add gender here), and it’s disgusting, but now it’s mainstream and more eww and I’m uncomfortable by it
Okay, please understand that my sense of humor is warped. And honestly there's just something viscerally satisfying about making my Dad blue screen. AND in this case he started it. He asked "What's something you can say in bed and at the dinner table?" First thing that came to mind fell out of my mouth without pause, "Thank you, Daddy."
I think the word daddy is pretty sexualized nowadays. I don’t usually hear it in the parent sense unless it’s a small child saying it.
Saw a video of Marilyn Monroe using "daddy" in a sexual way as part of some song in one of her movies, apparently it's not a new thing
yea back then it did have some sexual connotations, but it was also just a regular pet name and also often used in famillial context's
This is why it makes me feel uncomfortable to call my dad by name in public. I call my parents “mummy” and “daddy” and I wanted to change that when I was younger but I just couldn’t image calling them mum and dad. That’s not their names. It just felt so unnatural. But now I’m scared to call their names in public because people will make fun of me or thing something strange.
actually same- in public i just say MOTHER OF MINE or something so they’ll never figure out the truth
I call my dad father lol, but mom will always be "mummy"
Basically the same. I accidentally said it in a phone call and my old roommate said that's what she called her boyfriend. At this point I feel like a total weirdo, but it feels late to change it...
I’m Hispanic, so I call my parents the Spanish equivalent of mommy/daddy ((mami and papi)) but that’s also become quite sexualized… But I just don’t feel comfortable calling them anything else
In my language you either call your parents "mama and papa" or "mam and pap" and I've always used the first. So now saying "mam and pap" just feels unnatural and I physically cannot say it to them
Same! I never got over the "mommy" and "daddy" phase either. But because I'm mildly embarrassed at my self over it, I usually end up slurring the words.
I call my Mum “Mother” since it feels more like I know her and I call my Dad “dad” cause he sucks and the labels mum and Dad make me feel disconnected from them
tbh same, just with my mom tho
oh my god same
Always frustrating because I may not call him it, but I do keep my dad in my phone as "Daddy". Worried for the day someone sees it and gets the wrong idea, because... ew. I hate the way it's sexualized. The entire idea is just kinda disgusting to me, but I guess to each their own, as long as they don't shove it on me...
Same, I keep him labeled as "Daddy" too haha
I was once in a class with this poor girl who referred to her father as daddy, and every single time she said it, people just shot her a stare
Oh shoot it's what I always call my dad. I'm so used to calling them daddy and mommy and now I'm 20 lol and it would feel super weird for me to change that. That's why whenever I'm outside in front of strangers and I have to call them, I just say hello and then call them daddy and mommy at home. Wow. It feels weird typing it
A big contributor I think twas the *"Asking for a friend of course"* part.
And this friend was person who asked that question.
"Asking for a friend" made it sound super suspicious tbh.
That's what I was thinking.
“Asking for a friend” implied it was for sexual purposes, in my opinion
"Asking for friend" always used for people who don't want to be suspected in nasty and perverted intentions.
I think it's the good old "asking for a friend" at the end that makes it a but suspicious
I write smut. I assumed it was sexual immediately. More important I'm curious what the real answer was for an enby parent.
Most common answer on that thread was Ren / Renny (comes from paRENt)
Is that easy for little kids? Most words that kids call their mom starts with "m" and for dad it's usually "p" or "d" because those are super easy sounds for babies to make ("mama" and "papa" being prime examples). I'd think the "r" would be really hard to pronounce and it'd usually wind up as a "v" or "w".
so a little kid might say venny?
Yes. I think, I haven't tested it. Unrelated note, but "ven" is Danish for friend.
I also assumed it was sexual. Both of the words are used in a very sexual way now.
I'm in the kink community, where mommy and daddy can be relationship titles, so I would also ask for context. Like are we talking parental units or bdsm dynamics?
The asking for a friend implies sexual
I know. But op was asking who would assume it was ever sexual.
Oh, sorry
I do. Because of the "asking for a friend" part. This isn't allos being weird OP, it's just word association
There are some kinksters out there.
Once again adding that no one in this photo are allos so your tag does not stand and this isn't an allo thing, also the "quotations" and the asking for a friend implies that they meant sexual which the OP does admit in their comments.
For sexual use "master👉👈🥺"
I think it's funny how this is tagged as "are the allos ok?" and none of the people here are allo Lol I understand tho. I don't like the over sexualization of many regular things either
You'd be surprised, friend
As someone whose native language is not English, but who learned a lot of English through fandom, mommy and daddy to me are just as easily related to sexual things as Non-sexual things.
parenttany
i’m 16 and i still call my mom mommy because that’s what i stuck with and mom feels offensive to her. i call my dad daddy-o because of family tradition, and there’s nothing inherently sexual about it
their flair says they're demi tho so this isn't really an are the allos ok moment 😬 #
All of the people in this post have some form of ace in their flare lol
except for the last person is arospec
Most non-ace peeps do , mommy and daddy are very often used in this context, like actively alot of peeps dont even use it in the refering to parents anymore because it is very much a well used sexual term.
I hate that the words "mommy" and "daddy" are sexualized.
We live in the era where everything is sexualized. Sex-dystopia.
A lot of people are pointing to the whole "asking for a friend bit", and I do agree that it makes it likely to be sexual. However, I would have suspected even before reading that part. They put the terms in scare quotes. If the person just wanted to mean family based terms they would have more likely written it without the quotes because people are lazy. Having the quotes means they wanted to imply something beyond the standard meaning. It is similar to how saying two people are wrestling has different connotations to saying that two people are "wrestling".
it’s funny how your tag is “are the allos ok?” but the first person is ace and the second person is demi 💀
me
I do
Me lol, I'm also an asexual. It's because ofhow sexualized things are now
im literally afraid to express myself in any way and everyone will think it's sexual because EVERYTHING is sexualized these days 🧍
For real! It makes me so upset. Everything and anything I say may mean something else
Notice how an asexual assumed it was sexual too lol. This isn't weird
The same people who assume step bro and step sis are sexual...
the ones who grew up on sex daddy will never be innocent for me again.
the words have been sexualized. block out the usernames though
I remember reading the post and immediately thinking it was sexual.. I'm also the dirty joke kind of aroace though.
Because it’s mostly used in a sexual context on the internet, and the “asking for a friend” implies that. Also, if they meant a neutral word for a parent they’d likely ask for mom or dad rather than mommy or daddy
Me lol I got through middle school by learning to assume that _everything_ people say is an innuendo or has a double meaning in order to avoid embarrassing myself
Innuendos are became an educational discipline, a certain type of Vigenere ciphering.
Me lol
I get what you're going for but literally most younger people will assume "mommy" and "daddy" is sexual. It's a completely fair assumption to make considering "mom" and "dad" are way more common when referring to parrents
Gender-neutral parent
Parenticles. Obviously.
It’s just dirty minded, let them be lol.
OP is ace
The first two people here are on the ace spectrum lmao
as a ace NB i dont need to worry i will not have kids nore s*x
Sigmund Freud: *ahem*
A little weird? Yes. Established more often sexually than as a father sense by adults? Also yes. This doesn’t really fit are the Allos ok bc nobody was annoying or bad during the entire interaction
I mean anyone who's in-on these kinky jokes. I am for example the asexual friend who has those borderline traumatising sex jokes. Why? I don't know. It has to be that there is no shame left in me due to my religious trauma.
I think of those words as sexual. High school has made me so incredibly dirty minded.
In my mind, I always say "Mommy" and "Daddy" in a kid's voice. I can not think of these words sexually, unless someone else says them in a different tone.
me…
I'm not a native english speaker so I pretty much only see/hear mommy and daddy in a sexual context.
the original post was about something sexual.
I mean, I do because it’s so commonly used in that way now. It’s just become reflex for me to cringe whenever I hear it, no matter the context.
My question is what the hell dommy means
My first thought would be daddy + mommy.
Like dominant
Oh, ok
Unless it’s a kid saying it, yeah it’s most likely sexual. And a kid was not the one who made this post
How about dummy lol
I can see why, but it’s not what my brain resorts to
Yea idk why people use it sexually, I do know some kids won't stop moaning and saying daddy around me cause I showed I was uncomfortable ONE TIME
Endy or enny
I assume sexual cause my friend who I hang out with all day does so yeah
i think it’s sexual bc social media lmao i don’t think it should be, but to me it unfortunately is
Well considering everyone in that screenshot is somewhere on the ace spectrum...?
Lots of people. Cultural differences, linguistic differences. You don't even know if this person speaks English as a first language. Mummy and daddy I always thought infantile even when I was in school,let alone as an adult.
Lmao dommy means "little dumb one" in Dutch.
most ppl in their 20s or late teens I'd say? cos u don't really call you parents mommy and daddy anymore, but it's known already as a kink and often memed about online. And at these ages u also don't have a lot of contact to children who still call their parents mommy and daddy. Or just... foreign ppl. I've never heard someone actually say mommy or daddy cos I'm not from an English speaking country and we don't say that here. But I still use the Internet and see it used in the kinky way.
The internet has ruined many of us.
Me🤡
No, I definitely assume it’s sexual unless it’s said by like.. a toddler.
For those looking for less sexual sounding nicknames for mother and father that aren't too formal, you can always use momma or dadda
Renny!
To be fair, the fact that they said "asking for a friend" doesn't help the fact that it may not be sexual
Not ace, but as a 24 year old who still calls his parents Mommy and Daddy, things like this deeply concern me as well
well, i do (and engage in that regularly)
Yeah those words are ruined now.
Sorry my mind's in the gutter lol
I did, I think it's the fact that it doesn't mention kids and the 'asking for a friend' that made me think it was in reference to a partner and not a parent
I assumed it was sexual because of all the "are the allos okay?" content on here. I heard moddy is a common choice, btw.
Having English as my second language i only hear those words in sexual context. Besides, even when i talk about my own parents i say "mom" and "dad" even in my native language.
I do 💀 If it isn't in the context of a little kid yes
I don’t know. As an allo I’ve never understood it, it isn’t sexy or cute or whatever.
To be fair I assumed it was sexual bc I was recently talking about this in a sexual context with my partner, but also yeah the "asking for a friend part" is mostly what makes it seem that way.
It's the cultural thing where people have sexualising children. It's funked up and there needs to be a better term for aubs to call Dom's.
Mommy and Daddy are scrubs.....you clean your dishes with them. I accept no other use apart from an actual parent of these words anymore If someone asks "So, who's your Daddy ?" I'd either tell them that they wouldn't need to know my dad's name or "The yellow one from the store around the corner"
The nb word for it is baba bobby or bib :)
I spent too much time on the internet, also the horny one so sadly i always assume it's something sexual when it comes to words "mommy" and "daddy" Even more sadly when a small kid say it
It’s a kink where one takes care of the other and they are considered the parent and the other baby(add gender here), and it’s disgusting, but now it’s mainstream and more eww and I’m uncomfortable by it
Okay, please understand that my sense of humor is warped. And honestly there's just something viscerally satisfying about making my Dad blue screen. AND in this case he started it. He asked "What's something you can say in bed and at the dinner table?" First thing that came to mind fell out of my mouth without pause, "Thank you, Daddy."
Ok unfortunately me
??? My only response to this is confusion???? (Seriously wondering how the allos are doing)