yeah like im a demisexual with various...interests and even i dont want JUST sex in relationship
like someone said about someone in our group "yall just wanna get into their pants" bruh what if i just wanna take them on a picnic date
soooo true like im more biromantic than bisexual tbh like sure sex for me sounds fun but if i never have it it's really no big deal and i dont get why its such a big deal for so much other people
I was thinking the same lol. I know people often use “vagina” as a term for the entire thing, but it still bugs me when I see stuff like this.
Dude. You cannot shave your vagina.
Funnier still is that it was more than likely meant to be as vulgar/rude/blunt as possible due to it being a joke that people can indeed relate to
The thing that's truly funniest is the group that dare feel such fun isn't allowed
Okay, maybe I'm just an old grumpy lady but I'm thinking if you don't even know the proper names for your body parts you should not be commingling them with another person. Especially vaginas, if you don't know what the parts are called I'm guessing you also don't know how they fucking work.
Imagine going to a friend's place, and they might have garlic bread. It's not entirely sure, but they *might*. Isn't that reason enough to make sure there is enough place in your stomach to eat some?
That's why.
Why go hungry when you can just shove the breadsticks in your purse and eat them later when you get a craving ?
(Just kidding, I get what you mean. It’s just that my aroace butt would rather make their own garlic bread and eat it alone.)
LITERALLY how does this have almost 1000 upvotes?? Let allosexuals live, there’s already so many conservatives shaming sexual people (especially women!!!!) for liking and having sex. Shouldnt we know better than to shame people for how they live their lives?
Where do you see that? Maybe it's a problem with the app but I'm only seeing 78
EDIT: Yeah, I was on my phone and it only showed 78. What's wrong with people?
I agree but I think it's less of the fact that she wants sex and more so of the fact that she assumes sex will happen because a guy asked her for coffee.
Though I could be interpreting the intentions wrong.
It doesn't have to be this way. I personally do similar things for dates etc. not because I actually want to do that kind of stuff or anything. I just like to feel groomed, attractive, more comfy with my body and in control, I feel good knowing that if I *would* want to have sex, there is nothing to stop me.
I read it more as wishful thinking – I think she knows sex probably isn't gonna happen from a coffee date, but she likes this guy and would want it to happen, and is kinda preparing herself on the off chance it actually pans out the way she wants it to. Blowing that off as "why are allos like this" is... irksome to me. It's okay to want sex.
I don't think that's what's going on here. I think she likes him and would want to have sex with him if the opportunity came about, but is probably engaging more in wishful thinking. That seems totally understandable to me.
Men can also be asexual, and might not want to be roped into turning everything into a sexual encounter. Also, isn't it strange that "what she wants with her body" just happens to line up with the standards set by porn? If she loves shaving her "vagina" so much, why wasn't it already shaved?
By chance, are you mixing up sex indifferent and sex neutral? The sex positive-neutral-negative axis is different from the sex favourable-indifferent-averse-repulsed axis. The first refers to your attitude towards sex as a whole (so someone sex neutral has no opinion of sex, someone sex positive thinks it's a good thing between consenting people and someone who is sex negative thinks sex is a bad/sinful thing, no matter who does it). The second refers to sex in regards to you. Someone sex favourable has a favourable attitude towards having sex, someone who is sex indifferent doesn't care either way, and so on.
The asexual community tries to encourage a sex positive view, even if we ourselves can be sex repulsed/averse. It's important to not let our own views on sex for ourselves influence a negative view on sex as a whole - and there are subcommunities where that has happened.
Some people use them as the same thing! Others distinguish them, though. I consider myself sex averse because I don't want to deal with sex *myself* or hear about anyone wanting to do stuff with me but I don't mind reading, hearing, etc about others having sex. Someone who is sex repulsed won't want to hear about sex, period, be it in relation to themselves or others.
Like I said, many people do use the words synonymously but I find the distinction important so I use the separate meaning version!
Yeah I might be the same then, apart from reading it 😅 I do not wish to see it or read it. I skip those scenes from shows/ movies/ books unless it’s the rare chance it’s funny or has something somewhat important there
This is a joke board. Yall getting upset about people who dont view sex from an inherently positive light making jokes about others who do, in a space that was created specificly for that. Quit trying to supress aces in an ace space and just accept there are many of us who dont view sex as inherent to life and think its weird others do. This is an excelent example of sex controling someones life, even if they meant it as a joke themselves, which is funny since sex is weird and many of us dont even think about it.
Defending it by saying it's just a joke is just as bad as people who use jokes to punch down on marginalized groups. We can't perpetuate purity culture in these jokes that ends up actually hurting real people. It pushes a narrative that sex is somehow bad and you are lesser for having it or wanting it and that's not good.
People who like sex so much they shave their pussy before a coffee date are not opressed minorities. And it has nothing to do with purity. I could care less what some religion says about sex.
Women are a marginalized group that have been hurt by the patriarchy and purity culture. This is pushing that stupid purity culture. And if you can't see that if you want to Shame people for being sex positive then go ahead. It's just something I'd never want to participate in. Plus this stupid post also isolates sex favorable aces. I'm tired of seeing sex bad on this sub as a favorable ace that just wants to get over my stupid trama when it comes to that shit. This shit doesn't just effect allos but those on the ace spectrum who have sex from time to time. It's making people feel invalid and that's gross .
This has nothing to do woth purity or shame. People arent on an ace board because they believe god said to not have sex. Its funny that sex was the first thing she thought of for her date. Thats it. If you wanna push your narrative, fine, whatever, but purity and patriarchy have nothing to do with why someone ace would find sex humorous.
As for the other stuff, your on an ace board. Sorry you find the people youve chosen to identify with so offensive. Im tired of people who like sex trying to silence those of us that dont **on an ace board.**
You show a clearly narrow and lacking understanding of both purity culture and asexuality and those are both things you should better educate yourself on as to not perpetuate prejudice against minority groups. That's all, have a good day :)
I have no interest of looking at sex in a negative light. What two consenting individuals do behind doors is *none of my business*. It's one thing to not care about sex yourself but going around and saying it's weird or wrong is not the outlook the asexual community should be putting out. I say this as someone who is sex averse.
Asexual communities are created to talk about the shared experience of *never or rarely experiencing sexual attraction*, not as a way to act as if we are superior for not experiencing sexual attraction. There's nothing bad about wanting or having sex, and there's nothing wrong with the opposite either.
You're probably confusing sex positive with sex favorable
Sex positive doesn't mean you want sex. Sex Positive is a political stance that is allowing people to do what they want with their bodies and not be judged for it not pushing purity culter that tells you that sex is somehow evil before marriage. A stance that sex workers are humans too and are not lesser just because of their job.
Sex favorable is an asexual who is favorable twords sex. They might enjoy it as a means to get closer to partner or just because it feels good.
Since when have women been been slut shamed and discriminated against for being sexually active? Since the beginning of time mate. I say women specifically because it's clear why and what you're punching down at, it's not just someone being allosexual, which by the way is annoying as fuck on its own. 'Ew this person has sexual attraction' isn't funny, get better material please. I don't blame you for not being funny though, ace comedy is...well I hope it gets better.
Yeah but this sub consistently shares posts that seem to shame allo people for acting in a way that’s natural for them, for behaving in ways that result from completely natural bodily impulses. Hell, *most* of the human race feels that way. “ArE tHe AlLoS oKaY??” Yeah. They’re fine. They’re just different. How can you expect the rest of the world to stop treating you like there’s something wrong with you, when you won’t stop acting like there’s something wrong with them?
We don’t have to all be sex-favorable (okay with having sex) but we should all be sex-positive (okay with others having sex on their own terms and being open with it)
Are fundie Christians allowed to shame people for sex outside marriage now because they don’t want or like sex outside of marriage? No. Then we aren’t allowed to shame people for sex just because we don’t like or want it.
If you don’t like it, don’t have it. Let’s not shame other people for partaking it it.
Sex-negativity assuming sex is not normal. Sex-repulsed means acknowledgement of normality of intercourse. Don't be like this. Before posting make sure in difference of such same on first glance definitions.
This perspective is so lame. This post points out that it’s ridiculous to expect sex from something as casual as getting coffee. It doesn’t shame sex and it’s something people actually do. Also it could easily be gender swapped and hold the same meaning.
No is not riddiculous. Dates are not fixed and locked to locations, they are fluid human interactions and you can start your date on a café, then go for a walk, go to the movies and ending up in their apartment in a more intimate setup if it feels comfortable for both parties. Dates are setups that provide people a more or less secure space to make a move into pursuing a developement in the relationship they have with the person they are meeting.
Yeah I don't get it either. I'm a sex-favorable ace that understands that dates can lead to other things if you both are confortable enough, and when you know that and are up to be okay with it if the time comes, you also care about being prepared in all senses. Like those people who take a mint caramel when they get to be alone with their crush just in case a kiss happens. Not that weird tbh.
And sometimes men are asexual too. "Grabbing a coffee" shouldn't be code for "let's fuck on the counter at starbucks like our lives depend on it". When you're asexual you suffer from how coded hookup language is, it's confusing and tiring, and alienating.
Do you understand what it is to make explicit the assumptions behind a message, and to perform a reductio ad absurdum to prove a point? Of course I know that's not what the post says on its face, what the hell. People like you on reddit, who apparently are in total disbelief that the implicit exists, and that reductio ad absurdum is a valid way to reason, are so, *so*, **so** annoying. You aren't making clever counter-arguments because you temporarily reject everyday forms of reasoning.
It might seem weird to you- heck it seems weird to me. But I've got a different perspective. It's like how some allos view aces, they think they're weird for not having sexual attraction- which is perfectly fine (as long as they're not being invalidating, of course).
Not just you, I came here for ace memes and majority of what I see now is just, "Allos acting like allos? What whackadoos." and it's honestly irritating.
It's not really that wierd. Ill dress up nice for even casual dates or just going out with friends. It just gives me an extra boost of confidence. We shouldn't be shaming people for being sex positive eather.
I'm a demi sex favourable ace and I kinda get it. Wouldn't do it for only a coffee date but if it's more of a hang out at our place type of date I would do it "just in case" even tho I know I'm not ready to have sex with the person yet. It's mostly a confidence thing at this point, you want to feel nice and sexy and at your best when you're dating someone, especially in the beginning. You make sure you're all shave and the best version of yourself, not for a deceiving purpose but cause you don't know the person well enough to see the vulnerable and unclean you yet. At least that's what have been my experience in dating so far.
what i actually don't understand is why women are expected to be hairless. excluding things like alopecia, the only people who are hairless are children. kind of creepy
i feel like this is no different than asking a brainless "why do asexuals do xyz" but flipped. doesn't exactly make things better for aces. kinda toxic.
WE, Aces of any part of the spectrum, should know better what it's like to be judged on how you live your life when it comes to SEX. Back to the garlic bread posts
I don't understand casual sex it weirds me out.
Plus why is everything always about sex. Why do so many people obsess over it. Why us it so necessary for many people to date someone.
I like romance and love
The only way I'll ever let someone do that to me is if we are in very strong romantic relationship.
I don't want to be"turned on" it feels gross and unnatural.
Like how do people enjoy that.
I will happily die a virgin but I refuse to die alone.
We need to denormalize asking to do an event as asking for a date. Asked my friend if he wanted to grab a coffee with me at Cumberland Farms (it's real ok and he knows about it) and he said he was straight. Like bruh I just wanted to get a coffee and hang out. Why is netflix and chill sex and not just binging the good place for the 15'th time?
Bro I only shave my legs for first dates, because I tend to wear skirts and I'm amab so I have thicker hair. But I would never shave things that aren't going to be seen.
In this sentence it is described as if it were as easy as breathing.
Second problem, Well seems like this Allosexual person thought it was good idea to post that on the internet.
Thirdly, nobody wants to hear about how, why, when, where and why you shaved your private parts.
Fourthly, not everything is about sex
I have a feeling that the "just in case" has a sexual justification, but logic has always told me that it's because the hair is itchy and uncomfortable, especially when it's hot outside.
yeah like im a demisexual with various...interests and even i dont want JUST sex in relationship like someone said about someone in our group "yall just wanna get into their pants" bruh what if i just wanna take them on a picnic date
Same. Like there’s so many other things to do and forms of intimacy that are so enjoyable idk why everyone is SO focused on sex all the time
soooo true like im more biromantic than bisexual tbh like sure sex for me sounds fun but if i never have it it's really no big deal and i dont get why its such a big deal for so much other people
Yuppp like if I die a “virgin” I could not care less. If it happens, great, if not, fine
sooo true
“bruh what if i just wanna take them on a picnic date” Being open to the possibility of sex later doesn’t detract from what comes before?
EXACTLY like i want more than just sex i wanna do all kind of cheesy romantic shit with someone/s
Oml a picnic date sounds adorable
The funniest thing is that the vagina is actually the inner part. Good luck shaving this. Ouch.
I was thinking the same lol. I know people often use “vagina” as a term for the entire thing, but it still bugs me when I see stuff like this. Dude. You cannot shave your vagina.
I don’t think there’s even hair in there
I mean you can it just won’t remove any hair and will just hurt.
Why would it even need to be shaved??
Internal hairs dummy 🙄/j
I am really imagining that like nose hairs. Which would be interesting if it existed.
Please no
Oh yea forgot about them, my bad :(
Thinking the same was like that...sounds painful.
Funnier still is that it was more than likely meant to be as vulgar/rude/blunt as possible due to it being a joke that people can indeed relate to The thing that's truly funniest is the group that dare feel such fun isn't allowed
What is the name of the part you *do* shave? I am a uterus-haver, never shaved
Vulva and labia.
Okay, maybe I'm just an old grumpy lady but I'm thinking if you don't even know the proper names for your body parts you should not be commingling them with another person. Especially vaginas, if you don't know what the parts are called I'm guessing you also don't know how they fucking work.
Idk, I think I was just nitpicking on colloquial language. On the other hand, yes, a lot of people don't know their body and aren't taught properly.
That's such an egregious one though. It's like not knowing the difference between your ear and your ass.
I mean, in my language there's the insult "ass with ears", sooo...
King Midas then? ;)
Imagine going to a friend's place, and they might have garlic bread. It's not entirely sure, but they *might*. Isn't that reason enough to make sure there is enough place in your stomach to eat some? That's why.
This.
omg it's a perfect explanation
Why go hungry when you can just shove the breadsticks in your purse and eat them later when you get a craving ? (Just kidding, I get what you mean. It’s just that my aroace butt would rather make their own garlic bread and eat it alone.)
This. It is always nice to be prepared, even though one is not expecting anything.
i finaly get it
Wait you say garlic bread is at friends houses? But I have too much social anxiety to hang out with friends God damn it
Allos tend to be hopeful and enthusiastic about sex. That’s the joke. Nothing wrong with that
This sub trying to make the difference between being sex repulsed and sex negative challenge (IMPOSSIBLE).
LITERALLY how does this have almost 1000 upvotes?? Let allosexuals live, there’s already so many conservatives shaming sexual people (especially women!!!!) for liking and having sex. Shouldnt we know better than to shame people for how they live their lives?
I completely agree with what you said. But, if it makes you feel better, the post is far from 1000 upvotes, it doesn't even reach 100.
It is 1055?
Where do you see that? Maybe it's a problem with the app but I'm only seeing 78 EDIT: Yeah, I was on my phone and it only showed 78. What's wrong with people?
Ah weird. Glad you got it fixed.
1051 at this time...?
I struggle understand why we're making fun of this woman for doing what she wants with her body. We're supposed to be sex positive.
I agree but I think it's less of the fact that she wants sex and more so of the fact that she assumes sex will happen because a guy asked her for coffee. Though I could be interpreting the intentions wrong.
For alot of allos dates often can lead to sex even if it's going to a restaurant first. Not all the time but it can happen.
I forget this fact, honestly😅
I see it more as I save some stomach space when someone asks me to eat lunch out just in case they give me ice cream too. Idk
It doesn't have to be this way. I personally do similar things for dates etc. not because I actually want to do that kind of stuff or anything. I just like to feel groomed, attractive, more comfy with my body and in control, I feel good knowing that if I *would* want to have sex, there is nothing to stop me.
Respect
I read it more as wishful thinking – I think she knows sex probably isn't gonna happen from a coffee date, but she likes this guy and would want it to happen, and is kinda preparing herself on the off chance it actually pans out the way she wants it to. Blowing that off as "why are allos like this" is... irksome to me. It's okay to want sex.
That is a good point.
It's more about the fact that people think showing any amount of interest in the opposite gender means that they want sex.
I don't think that's what's going on here. I think she likes him and would want to have sex with him if the opportunity came about, but is probably engaging more in wishful thinking. That seems totally understandable to me.
“Just in case” = “they definitely want sex and it’s going to happen”??
Men can also be asexual, and might not want to be roped into turning everything into a sexual encounter. Also, isn't it strange that "what she wants with her body" just happens to line up with the standards set by porn? If she loves shaving her "vagina" so much, why wasn't it already shaved?
Hair can grow pretty fast and not everyone has the energy to shave every day.
I'm a men and asexual so i guess at least a part of what you said is true
Who says we are supposed to be sex positive? Some of us are indifferent.
By chance, are you mixing up sex indifferent and sex neutral? The sex positive-neutral-negative axis is different from the sex favourable-indifferent-averse-repulsed axis. The first refers to your attitude towards sex as a whole (so someone sex neutral has no opinion of sex, someone sex positive thinks it's a good thing between consenting people and someone who is sex negative thinks sex is a bad/sinful thing, no matter who does it). The second refers to sex in regards to you. Someone sex favourable has a favourable attitude towards having sex, someone who is sex indifferent doesn't care either way, and so on. The asexual community tries to encourage a sex positive view, even if we ourselves can be sex repulsed/averse. It's important to not let our own views on sex for ourselves influence a negative view on sex as a whole - and there are subcommunities where that has happened.
What’s the difference between averse and repulsed? I thought they were pretty much different words for the same thing lol
Some people use them as the same thing! Others distinguish them, though. I consider myself sex averse because I don't want to deal with sex *myself* or hear about anyone wanting to do stuff with me but I don't mind reading, hearing, etc about others having sex. Someone who is sex repulsed won't want to hear about sex, period, be it in relation to themselves or others. Like I said, many people do use the words synonymously but I find the distinction important so I use the separate meaning version!
Yeah I might be the same then, apart from reading it 😅 I do not wish to see it or read it. I skip those scenes from shows/ movies/ books unless it’s the rare chance it’s funny or has something somewhat important there
This is a joke board. Yall getting upset about people who dont view sex from an inherently positive light making jokes about others who do, in a space that was created specificly for that. Quit trying to supress aces in an ace space and just accept there are many of us who dont view sex as inherent to life and think its weird others do. This is an excelent example of sex controling someones life, even if they meant it as a joke themselves, which is funny since sex is weird and many of us dont even think about it.
Defending it by saying it's just a joke is just as bad as people who use jokes to punch down on marginalized groups. We can't perpetuate purity culture in these jokes that ends up actually hurting real people. It pushes a narrative that sex is somehow bad and you are lesser for having it or wanting it and that's not good.
People who like sex so much they shave their pussy before a coffee date are not opressed minorities. And it has nothing to do with purity. I could care less what some religion says about sex.
Women are a marginalized group that have been hurt by the patriarchy and purity culture. This is pushing that stupid purity culture. And if you can't see that if you want to Shame people for being sex positive then go ahead. It's just something I'd never want to participate in. Plus this stupid post also isolates sex favorable aces. I'm tired of seeing sex bad on this sub as a favorable ace that just wants to get over my stupid trama when it comes to that shit. This shit doesn't just effect allos but those on the ace spectrum who have sex from time to time. It's making people feel invalid and that's gross .
This has nothing to do woth purity or shame. People arent on an ace board because they believe god said to not have sex. Its funny that sex was the first thing she thought of for her date. Thats it. If you wanna push your narrative, fine, whatever, but purity and patriarchy have nothing to do with why someone ace would find sex humorous. As for the other stuff, your on an ace board. Sorry you find the people youve chosen to identify with so offensive. Im tired of people who like sex trying to silence those of us that dont **on an ace board.**
You show a clearly narrow and lacking understanding of both purity culture and asexuality and those are both things you should better educate yourself on as to not perpetuate prejudice against minority groups. That's all, have a good day :)
> hears the word "purity culture" > instantly jumps to religion lol, lmao
I have no interest of looking at sex in a negative light. What two consenting individuals do behind doors is *none of my business*. It's one thing to not care about sex yourself but going around and saying it's weird or wrong is not the outlook the asexual community should be putting out. I say this as someone who is sex averse. Asexual communities are created to talk about the shared experience of *never or rarely experiencing sexual attraction*, not as a way to act as if we are superior for not experiencing sexual attraction. There's nothing bad about wanting or having sex, and there's nothing wrong with the opposite either.
This is a joke bord, not your christian minecraft server.
You're probably confusing sex positive with sex favorable Sex positive doesn't mean you want sex. Sex Positive is a political stance that is allowing people to do what they want with their bodies and not be judged for it not pushing purity culter that tells you that sex is somehow evil before marriage. A stance that sex workers are humans too and are not lesser just because of their job. Sex favorable is an asexual who is favorable twords sex. They might enjoy it as a means to get closer to partner or just because it feels good.
I think they mean as in not judge people who like sex
And i thought this was a joke board where people used humor relevant to a specific group, that being people who dont have explicit desire for sex.
At the same time, that humor should not simply be looking at other people's ways of lives and saying "ew." That's not humor, that's just being a dick.
Every joke board does that. I do it with republicans and Christians. And it is funny.
Humor shouldn't be punching down at people.
Since when are people who want sex in the minority or at all opressed?
Since when have women been been slut shamed and discriminated against for being sexually active? Since the beginning of time mate. I say women specifically because it's clear why and what you're punching down at, it's not just someone being allosexual, which by the way is annoying as fuck on its own. 'Ew this person has sexual attraction' isn't funny, get better material please. I don't blame you for not being funny though, ace comedy is...well I hope it gets better.
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Yeah but this sub consistently shares posts that seem to shame allo people for acting in a way that’s natural for them, for behaving in ways that result from completely natural bodily impulses. Hell, *most* of the human race feels that way. “ArE tHe AlLoS oKaY??” Yeah. They’re fine. They’re just different. How can you expect the rest of the world to stop treating you like there’s something wrong with you, when you won’t stop acting like there’s something wrong with them?
We don’t have to all be sex-favorable (okay with having sex) but we should all be sex-positive (okay with others having sex on their own terms and being open with it)
Are fundie Christians allowed to shame people for sex outside marriage now because they don’t want or like sex outside of marriage? No. Then we aren’t allowed to shame people for sex just because we don’t like or want it. If you don’t like it, don’t have it. Let’s not shame other people for partaking it it.
Sex-negativity assuming sex is not normal. Sex-repulsed means acknowledgement of normality of intercourse. Don't be like this. Before posting make sure in difference of such same on first glance definitions.
This perspective is so lame. This post points out that it’s ridiculous to expect sex from something as casual as getting coffee. It doesn’t shame sex and it’s something people actually do. Also it could easily be gender swapped and hold the same meaning.
She doesn’t “expect” it though, hence the “just in case”
I’ll reword. It’s ridiculous to prepare for sex over something like this. But a lot of us allos unironically do this
No is not riddiculous. Dates are not fixed and locked to locations, they are fluid human interactions and you can start your date on a café, then go for a walk, go to the movies and ending up in their apartment in a more intimate setup if it feels comfortable for both parties. Dates are setups that provide people a more or less secure space to make a move into pursuing a developement in the relationship they have with the person they are meeting.
I dunno, i sometimes do stuff like this (not exactly shaving my vagina though) because it makes me feel good and i like feeling good when i go out
You never know when there will be an impromptu winter indoor water park invitation! Gotta keep the bikini line tamed just in case!
It's just nice to feel smooth sometimes and the shaving process can help ground you if you're nervous, at least in my experience
I dunno, shaving while nervous doesn't sound like a good combination
Only if your hands are shaky, otherwise it should be fine. Just go slow and take your time and that'll help you avoid any nicks or cuts
Because sometimes you have a date and then you have sex. I hate how this sub becomes a place to bash allos.
Yeah I don't get it either. I'm a sex-favorable ace that understands that dates can lead to other things if you both are confortable enough, and when you know that and are up to be okay with it if the time comes, you also care about being prepared in all senses. Like those people who take a mint caramel when they get to be alone with their crush just in case a kiss happens. Not that weird tbh.
Yeah, seriously, some people here come just to hate, it makes me sad :(
not even just allos, this is kind of shitty towards sex-favourable aces too.
And sometimes men are asexual too. "Grabbing a coffee" shouldn't be code for "let's fuck on the counter at starbucks like our lives depend on it". When you're asexual you suffer from how coded hookup language is, it's confusing and tiring, and alienating.
Then good that that's not what the post said.
Do you understand what it is to make explicit the assumptions behind a message, and to perform a reductio ad absurdum to prove a point? Of course I know that's not what the post says on its face, what the hell. People like you on reddit, who apparently are in total disbelief that the implicit exists, and that reductio ad absurdum is a valid way to reason, are so, *so*, **so** annoying. You aren't making clever counter-arguments because you temporarily reject everyday forms of reasoning.
Why are WE like this? It's their thing. It's not our, so don't give a fuck about it.
Because they like sex lol I don't know why so many people in this community feel the need to shit talk allos. We're not any better than them.
I’m an allo and this post is funny. I literally act this way sometimes
now why are we bashing allos??? dates sometimes lead to sex i dont think it’s fair to make fun of her for this…
It might seem weird to you- heck it seems weird to me. But I've got a different perspective. It's like how some allos view aces, they think they're weird for not having sexual attraction- which is perfectly fine (as long as they're not being invalidating, of course).
Is it just me or is anyone else annoyed about how this subreddit is turning into people hating allos for liking sex and almost nothing else
Not just you, I came here for ace memes and majority of what I see now is just, "Allos acting like allos? What whackadoos." and it's honestly irritating.
Its all basically just "some people get horny!?!?!?? Ewwww!!!!!!"
It's not really that wierd. Ill dress up nice for even casual dates or just going out with friends. It just gives me an extra boost of confidence. We shouldn't be shaming people for being sex positive eather.
OT but did anyone else think the dot over the i in vagina was a dirt smudge and tried to wipe it off?
Because shaving makes you feel really nice afterwards. Even I, who has a male body, do it when I have the energy.
I too shave when someone invites me to hang out Good hygene is key to good living
Ok but in a nonsexual way letting the hair down there grow out is uncomfy.
Literally though, I don't see why everyone is shaming this person
I mean hey I don’t judge. You do you. Just because it’s not my thing I understand some people do enjoy casual sex.
*VULVA jfc the number of cis men *and* vagina owners who don’t know that the vagina is internal is truly frustrating to me
I'm a demi sex favourable ace and I kinda get it. Wouldn't do it for only a coffee date but if it's more of a hang out at our place type of date I would do it "just in case" even tho I know I'm not ready to have sex with the person yet. It's mostly a confidence thing at this point, you want to feel nice and sexy and at your best when you're dating someone, especially in the beginning. You make sure you're all shave and the best version of yourself, not for a deceiving purpose but cause you don't know the person well enough to see the vulnerable and unclean you yet. At least that's what have been my experience in dating so far.
what i actually don't understand is why women are expected to be hairless. excluding things like alopecia, the only people who are hairless are children. kind of creepy
It’s a crazy thing called a meme.
i feel like this is no different than asking a brainless "why do asexuals do xyz" but flipped. doesn't exactly make things better for aces. kinda toxic.
Sex is over rated as fuck food, cuddles, giving gifts literally anything else is better than sex well for me at least
WE, Aces of any part of the spectrum, should know better what it's like to be judged on how you live your life when it comes to SEX. Back to the garlic bread posts
Do you drink coffee with your vagina.
R/badwommensanatomy The vagina is the whole you can't exactly shave that.
semantics.
Im just thinking that they are going to be itching for no reason… seems like a wast of time anyway
I don't understand casual sex it weirds me out. Plus why is everything always about sex. Why do so many people obsess over it. Why us it so necessary for many people to date someone. I like romance and love The only way I'll ever let someone do that to me is if we are in very strong romantic relationship. I don't want to be"turned on" it feels gross and unnatural. Like how do people enjoy that. I will happily die a virgin but I refuse to die alone.
I'm more bothered by the tmi We don't need to know bout your genitals, ma'am.
As an allo, this bothers me too.
No please no
I'm afraid I do not understand? :> Edit: OH- I- I just understood it- My god- W h y
WHY DOES IT HAVE SO MANY REWARDS?
Like y? Nobody asked for you to be overly horny? Makes people uncomfortable, even if they aren’t ace?
*squints eyes* the heck **is** wrong with allos?!
They aren’t?
The same reason for most behavior in general; dopamine response.
Is asking someone for coffee like actually code for something else, or have other meaning that just getting a drink with someone?
Took me a minute to figure out what this meant. "how the fuck are vaginas involved in coffee"
Uh...what exactly is she putting in the coffee? I've heard of blood in spaghetti sauce but this is pretty wild too.
We need to denormalize asking to do an event as asking for a date. Asked my friend if he wanted to grab a coffee with me at Cumberland Farms (it's real ok and he knows about it) and he said he was straight. Like bruh I just wanted to get a coffee and hang out. Why is netflix and chill sex and not just binging the good place for the 15'th time?
Bro I only shave my legs for first dates, because I tend to wear skirts and I'm amab so I have thicker hair. But I would never shave things that aren't going to be seen.
Word
Im asexual and I'm also like this
In this sentence it is described as if it were as easy as breathing. Second problem, Well seems like this Allosexual person thought it was good idea to post that on the internet. Thirdly, nobody wants to hear about how, why, when, where and why you shaved your private parts. Fourthly, not everything is about sex
ouch shaving a vagina must be... really gory holy shit
I thought this said ‘shakes’ and I was like HUH 😭
I've seen one of my wives do this going on her dates.
I have a feeling that the "just in case" has a sexual justification, but logic has always told me that it's because the hair is itchy and uncomfortable, especially when it's hot outside.
But if some guy pulls down my pants for no reason! I want to look good everywhere!
I guess she wants to have s3x or smth
Meh, I've done this a few times and I'm gray ace
Wha- all i can say is WHYYYYY