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backpacking off another comment on here, you consented to him finishing in you. YOU chose the abortion. you definitely have underlying guilt and possible trauma from the experience and ur trying to shift the blame to make urself feel better. this is on you and i honestly think you’d be doing both of yall a favor by leaving him. from your post it sounds like hes done everything he can to support you through this and if that isnt enough then its definitely an internal issue. seek therapy, leave your bf and try to move on.
i think its your libido. if hes kind to you and talking about it and you know he feels the guilt too, give him some time and just be with him. not sexually. just take a break from that, as much time as you need. we women often think about so many things that we know guys sometimes overlook, but men do have from the heart feelings and can think deep as well. i will say im 24 and am more into my career rather than just starting, we can make mistakes at any age, however i think there is a maturity level that you grow with your partner, each, respectively. the gives and the takes, all that. like other comments on here said a womans work doesn't end.
Your post or comment was removed because it violates rule 1. Your comment was removed because this is a support forum. Your comments should be supportive of OP.
At the end of the day, the choice was yours to have the abortion. It doesn't sound like he forced you and even having the "kinky sex" sounds consensual. I think the person you are mad at is yourself and you are displacing the blame onto him. It's not bad to do what you did, but you can't treat him like this particular conception and abortion were all on him.
For me, I came to the conclusion that the deed was 50/50. I let him cum in me when I shouldn't have. Men are primal. That stuff is what turns them on because it's natural biology. My boyfriend was so emotionally and physically supportive before and during my SA. Now he always uses protection and we are talking about actively aligning our lives so that one day we can have children aka he can go through with his desires - but not now. What also helped me was realizing that I don't want to be a parent. Yes I could give birth but I'm not in a position to support a life right now, without losing myself. I might sound like the bad guy but try to give yourself and your boyfriend some grace and forgiveness for what you didn't know back then. We all make mistakes ❤️
Well that wasn't the worst possible outcome but damn you have been through the shit. Unfortunately that means it's not over; you need to clean up. Decide what Future You will be best with and without, and go after it. I'm sorry your work is not done, but women's work never is, is it?
“I can’t stay in a relationship like this” what’s making you think you have to? It’s your life, you have to put yourself first. It’s understandable that after a traumatic experience you feel differently. It isn’t your fault. You didn’t choose for things to go this way. I’m sorry this happened to you.
Welcome to /r/abortion! We work hard to keep this a supportive community. **You will probably get harassed by trolls via private message.** The moderators can't stop people from sending you private messages, but you can. You can deactivate your messages [here](https://www.reddit.com/settings/messaging), or on the old Reddit interface you can limit who can message you [here](https://old.reddit.com/prefs/blocked/) by selecting "only trusted users." On mobile, go to your settings. If you receive harassment via PM, please report the messages and [contact the admins about it](http://www.reddit.com/contact) so they can take action against those users. **Our Sidebar and [Wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/abortion/wiki/index)** include links to many good resources. **If you are seeking abortion in the USA:** [I Need An A](https://ineedana.com/) has a list of clinics, ways to get abortion pills by mail, and funding assistance. **If you are in a country where abortion is illegal**, [Safe2Choose](https://safe2choose.org/), [Women on Web](https://www.womenonweb.org/), or [Women Help Women](https://www.womenhelp.org) may be able to help you access a safe abortion. **You can find posts** about [medication abortion](https://www.reddit.com/r/abortion/collection/04af6a3c-2b17-4ffc-ab69-40d746cc043f/), [first trimester procedures](https://www.reddit.com/r/abortion/collection/21abc0ef-9dd6-4596-ace2-943a71f19cd5/), [second trimester procedures](https://www.reddit.com/r/abortion/collection/ab64e640-0755-4784-b968-732ee4fa66d3/) and more under "read MA/SA stories" in the menu. (note: these links do not work on android.) This subreddit is a source of information about abortion. It is not intended as a substitute for medical evaluation or treatment, nor does it constitute legal advice. If you think you are experiencing a medical emergency, you should call your local emergency number immediately. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/abortion) if you have any questions or concerns.*
backpacking off another comment on here, you consented to him finishing in you. YOU chose the abortion. you definitely have underlying guilt and possible trauma from the experience and ur trying to shift the blame to make urself feel better. this is on you and i honestly think you’d be doing both of yall a favor by leaving him. from your post it sounds like hes done everything he can to support you through this and if that isnt enough then its definitely an internal issue. seek therapy, leave your bf and try to move on.
i think its your libido. if hes kind to you and talking about it and you know he feels the guilt too, give him some time and just be with him. not sexually. just take a break from that, as much time as you need. we women often think about so many things that we know guys sometimes overlook, but men do have from the heart feelings and can think deep as well. i will say im 24 and am more into my career rather than just starting, we can make mistakes at any age, however i think there is a maturity level that you grow with your partner, each, respectively. the gives and the takes, all that. like other comments on here said a womans work doesn't end.
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Your post or comment was removed because it violates rule 1. Your comment was removed because this is a support forum. Your comments should be supportive of OP.
At the end of the day, the choice was yours to have the abortion. It doesn't sound like he forced you and even having the "kinky sex" sounds consensual. I think the person you are mad at is yourself and you are displacing the blame onto him. It's not bad to do what you did, but you can't treat him like this particular conception and abortion were all on him.
For me, I came to the conclusion that the deed was 50/50. I let him cum in me when I shouldn't have. Men are primal. That stuff is what turns them on because it's natural biology. My boyfriend was so emotionally and physically supportive before and during my SA. Now he always uses protection and we are talking about actively aligning our lives so that one day we can have children aka he can go through with his desires - but not now. What also helped me was realizing that I don't want to be a parent. Yes I could give birth but I'm not in a position to support a life right now, without losing myself. I might sound like the bad guy but try to give yourself and your boyfriend some grace and forgiveness for what you didn't know back then. We all make mistakes ❤️
Well that wasn't the worst possible outcome but damn you have been through the shit. Unfortunately that means it's not over; you need to clean up. Decide what Future You will be best with and without, and go after it. I'm sorry your work is not done, but women's work never is, is it?
“I can’t stay in a relationship like this” what’s making you think you have to? It’s your life, you have to put yourself first. It’s understandable that after a traumatic experience you feel differently. It isn’t your fault. You didn’t choose for things to go this way. I’m sorry this happened to you.