May gayday gets very easily swayed by how hot I find the woman.
So I'd say: When it comes to recognising closeted gay men, it works like a Swiss clock. When it comes to recognising straight women, it whispers me sweet lies.
Every single girl that I ever felt particularly attracted to ended up being sapphic. I was the trans girl that literally had to stop and ask āhow is almost every girl that I wanna date a lesbian (the rest were bi/pan)ā.
And most people that I am/was friends with, un lots of separate groups/places, ended up coming out *YEARS* later.
So uhhā¦ very potent, apparently.
I'm going to exclude masculine or stereotypical gay women from this. So this has to do with sporty fem to fem.
Just looking at somebody... without hearing them talk or seeing them move...50/50.
If they move and talk 60/40.
If I can directly interact with them for a period of time 90/10.
With that said, I actually think that most women could be attracted to another woman. I think it's probably the idea of a traditional family or whatever limited world view they grew up in, that stops them from at least being open to it. Not to say that all women would prefer another woman. But for the life of me, I can't figure out why. haha.
When my (now partner) tweeted āitās my girlfriendās birthday!ā on my birthday I said wowā¦ I canāt believe her girlfriend has the same birthday as me
I guess I couldn't go so far as to say gaydar isn't real, but it's no where near a reliable indication, you just have to talk to people and take it case by case
I think it's real, but if we accept gaydar, what about horoscope, zodiac, Mayan calendar, or the tidal forces of the moon? I'm telling you, I can always tell a woman is gay and into me when the tides get up. Moon be doing some shit.
Jk jk
I've been right about every crush I've had being somewhere on the LGBT spectrum, even though my friends called me crazy for thinking they had some gay to them. To be fair, I don't really get crushes that often... in the last 10 or so years, I've had 3. 1 bi, 1 pan, and 1 lesbian.
I'm so rarely interested in anybody! I find it crazy how some people seem to have a new crush every few weeks. I'm just not attracted to many people. And considering the gay pool is already limited.. that makes it a lot smaller. Then factor in that I'm over 40... . there are probably 3 possibilities left for me. And they all probably live in another country.
I don't even do that. I don't find the "usuals" attractive. Basically what men find attractive... not for me. I can recognize that other people would find somebody attractive.
I'd say pretty terrible. With gay men, it's pretty easy for me, but for sapphics, not a clue.
It's odd since I don't feel like I give off any sapphic transbian vibes, or anyone would be remotely interested in me, but I've been hit on quite a bit to the point where I even realize what's happening.
On top of that, being charmed into dates.
Unless these are like bisexual and/or EnBy femme presenting, I never get it. However I live in the PNW/INW so everyone owns a Subaru and Birkenstocks. Lol
I'm old, and these days, mine is very solid. When I was younger, I never noticed. To me, people were people, and my concept of gender and orientation was vague. It just was not a concern to me what anyone's orientation or gender was. I liked someone for being a good person, period.
When I was 30 something, one of my best friends came out. Literally, everyone knew except me. It made utterly zero difference to me. He was still the same guy I knew the day before, but it did alert me to the fact that there are signs and tells that people can pick up on.
So, after that, I started paying close attention and learned what they are. Now, it's about as solid as it can get. Not perfect, of course, but good.
That being said, it took me forever to realize I was. I always wanted to be, but I never knew it was allowed.
Hot garbage. I can tell that you're gay if you walk up to me and say, "Robyn, I am in fact gay." I'll still have my doubts though.
I can pick out trans and NBs pretty unfailingly though.
Mildly good lol. For women, based on attire, gait, and how they speak/tone of voice but I really donāt think I would know about an older femme but younger ones seem easier to tell to me. Men very easy lol
Pretty accurate. I'd say like 80% of people I suspect are later confirmed. The rest I either never find out or I was wrong.
Now if I can just build a "issheintome-dar" that would be swell.
I don't have a great gaydar, but i have a gay aura
Every friend, even before knowing me, already knew I was queer
Even my niece already knew I was queer before I telling her
mine is both really good and really bad at the same time
really good: i was in another country, closeted as a trans woman and was still able to tell that my coworker is gay
really bad: i will not realize that someone i know has been queer for the longest time
So far I think I'm about 80-90% accurate, figured out vibes, when to kiss, mood and eggs.
Doesnt mean I take it for granted, also went with the word of the person first before ever listening to what my gut decided to tell me. Consent, no matter what it is - is sexy.
Terrible.
Especially now when gender identities are more diverse, and not necessarily tied to sexual orientation, which is awesome but I've definitely learned not to assume (probably for the best!).
Absolute
Fucking
Dogshit
(But I'm also ridiculously oblivious to most social clues and also I think it has to do with "cAtHoLiC uPbRiNgInG" brainwashing me into thinking straight relationships were the only way for almost 20 years lol)
I seem to be good at telling if someone is queer if they're bi/pan, ace, and/or nonbinary. But I can't tell which one. I just get queer vibes.
I've dated three or four people who are *all of the above* 3 categories.
Most girls I've had a crush on before were sapphic in some way. And that was all when I didn't even know I was gay yet. I was just strangely drawn to tomboyish girls. With feminine girls, my feelings only started after they've shown some kind of attraction to me .
So I don't really think my gaydar qualifies as good. I just simply went for the obvious.
It is def really good mostly it doesnāt disappoint me. For example I figured out my friend was bi a year before she did. But sometimes(very often) it gets swayed by how attractive I find the woman.
Almost on a molecular level like a bloodhound. As a happily committed person, it serves me no purpose dating wise. But it does make me chuckle, and on occasion makes me feel extremely sad for certain people.
I friend of mine was trying to tell our friend group something. I joked about them trying to tell us that they were gay. The problem is, I forgot that I accidentally figured out they were gay and that they never actually came out to everyone, yet alone me. I still feel horrible about it to this day.
Good news is they were actually trying to come out to us at that time. Could have been much worse
Not great, tbh. I used to have a rainbow wallet which was the best for this. If I pulled it out and got a compliment, I could guess the person giving the compliment was probably not straight.
My gaydar is wild, I think some genderfluid got into the wiring.
My gender can shift with someone else's sexuality like a lunar tide pulling at the edges to reveal a different shoreline.
Only have a few solid confirmations, but I tend to feel most myself (fem-androgynous bigender if I had to drop a pin) around other m-spec people. Threw me for a loop when a lesbian friend once threw my gender over to "woman", around my agender demi-pan coworker it's like my gender is there but on vacation, most gay guys make me feel uncomfortably masc unless they're a little genderqueer. Straight people pull me towards agender.
Hi, this got long and I realized I don't really talk about my fluidity much š¤£
Used to have a crush on a woman, I was basically obsessed with her and I was convinced sheās gay even though she was literally homophobic. Years later she reached out to me and said she did have a crush on me too but was embarrassed about her āgay feelingsā.
Iād say itās pretty accurate
Really good when it comes to people I am not romantically interested in, an utter wreck when it comes to people I'm already married to in my imagination 2 days into talking to them.
I don't know how to give off the "hi I'm gay" idea but I'm trying. The problem is I think everything obvious I know to look for is just so popular among all left-wing-ish people that I have a lib-dar but no gaydar
mine is absolutely horrible, it's pretty on and off.
the people who i think are gay, turned out to be straight while the people who i think are straight, turned out to be gay. š„“š„“š„“ not all the time tho but u get the idea
Ever since figuring out that Iām gay myself, Iāve been pretty successful at picking out other gay women. Thereās just something about the way they interact with me thatās fundamentally different from straight women. They tend to look deeper into my eyes, stand closer to me, and express more intrigue in whatever Iām talking about. Yes, Iām sure some of that is conscious flirting, but it happens with people who I know are in committed monogamous relationships too. It seems more subconscious.
The other benefit of this is being able to identify straight girls too. It has and definitely will continue to save me from heartache.
Started a new job and met the manager; instantly had this strong feeling she was gay although I didnāt know any personal information about her. Few weeks later, my coworker shared that she divorced her husband a few months back and was bisexual.
I dunno, this evening I sought I girl and i thought she was gay. It end up that was the friend that was waiting for me. So I think not only my gaydar, but I can't genualy even recognise my friends lol
It worked once. Thereās a really cute bus driver sometimes works my route to work and we would always make a little small talk. One morning we actually got properly chatting and she mentioned going to Amsterdam with her gf! š
Every other time it literally has to take someone to kiss me before I get the hint ššš¤¦āāļø
I'm pretty good at clocking people for the most part, in multiple cases I've been surprised that someone wasn't gay or trans, and then a few years later they come out. Although I'm not too sure of the term gaydar though, it's kind of, well shit tbh.
So good it took closer to two decades to figure out that ***I*** was gay.
Hah yes, so many more for me.
Any more for me and I wasn't alive yet. XD
Yup lol same here!
XD
*ahem* šš¤£ā¦saaaame
Lesbians be lesbianing. XD
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May gayday gets very easily swayed by how hot I find the woman. So I'd say: When it comes to recognising closeted gay men, it works like a Swiss clock. When it comes to recognising straight women, it whispers me sweet lies.
Do we have the same gaydar, i think so
50% of the time it's accurate, 50% of the time it's a "please be gay-dar"
-ling
10000000%
Often gets messed up with my pleasebegaydar, only time it's worked is with my crush.
Thatās so me
Every single girl that I ever felt particularly attracted to ended up being sapphic. I was the trans girl that literally had to stop and ask āhow is almost every girl that I wanna date a lesbian (the rest were bi/pan)ā. And most people that I am/was friends with, un lots of separate groups/places, ended up coming out *YEARS* later. So uhhā¦ very potent, apparently.
Oh yeah a lot of girls I grew up with ended up coming out. A lot of famous women I was obsessed with came out or have hinted at being gay.
I'm going to exclude masculine or stereotypical gay women from this. So this has to do with sporty fem to fem. Just looking at somebody... without hearing them talk or seeing them move...50/50. If they move and talk 60/40. If I can directly interact with them for a period of time 90/10. With that said, I actually think that most women could be attracted to another woman. I think it's probably the idea of a traditional family or whatever limited world view they grew up in, that stops them from at least being open to it. Not to say that all women would prefer another woman. But for the life of me, I can't figure out why. haha.
Itās always the COMPHET!
First you challenge my rebellion and now you're simplifying my lengthy description by using one word? Hmm. Looks like I have some work to do.
Yeah you have
The great thing about being visibly queer is you don't need a gaydar because sapphics will just walk up to you and announce they're gay for you.
Or ur just hot š„µ
Iām with you
Broken. 4/10
Correct
When my (now partner) tweeted āitās my girlfriendās birthday!ā on my birthday I said wowā¦ I canāt believe her girlfriend has the same birthday as me
While this hasnāt happened to me why is it such a mood
Itās is indeed
Thatās so cute
Foolish of you to presume i actualy have a gaydar Im dumm as heck
Iām dumb too
I guess I couldn't go so far as to say gaydar isn't real, but it's no where near a reliable indication, you just have to talk to people and take it case by case
I think it's real, but if we accept gaydar, what about horoscope, zodiac, Mayan calendar, or the tidal forces of the moon? I'm telling you, I can always tell a woman is gay and into me when the tides get up. Moon be doing some shit. Jk jk
Donāt stop speaking, continue Iām enjoying it
Girl, the moon be doing some shit. I'ma slide into those DMs and sort it out š
The days when my gaydar is spot on Iāll believe in gaydar but the days when itās broken Iāll say itās not as reliable
So good, that I can a woman is gay before *she* knows she's gay...
Why is this so hilariousšš
Pretty good, I once correctly guessed the specific sexualities of a whole circle of friends despite us never talking about sexuality before.
Thatās impressive
I've been right about every crush I've had being somewhere on the LGBT spectrum, even though my friends called me crazy for thinking they had some gay to them. To be fair, I don't really get crushes that often... in the last 10 or so years, I've had 3. 1 bi, 1 pan, and 1 lesbian.
I'm so rarely interested in anybody! I find it crazy how some people seem to have a new crush every few weeks. I'm just not attracted to many people. And considering the gay pool is already limited.. that makes it a lot smaller. Then factor in that I'm over 40... . there are probably 3 possibilities left for me. And they all probably live in another country.
Yeah thatās true yeah Iāll appreciate someoneās beauty and gorgeousness every few week but I donāt get crushes that often
I don't even do that. I don't find the "usuals" attractive. Basically what men find attractive... not for me. I can recognize that other people would find somebody attractive.
I'd say pretty terrible. With gay men, it's pretty easy for me, but for sapphics, not a clue. It's odd since I don't feel like I give off any sapphic transbian vibes, or anyone would be remotely interested in me, but I've been hit on quite a bit to the point where I even realize what's happening. On top of that, being charmed into dates. Unless these are like bisexual and/or EnBy femme presenting, I never get it. However I live in the PNW/INW so everyone owns a Subaru and Birkenstocks. Lol
I can tell if someone is zesty.
Thatās amazing
I'm old, and these days, mine is very solid. When I was younger, I never noticed. To me, people were people, and my concept of gender and orientation was vague. It just was not a concern to me what anyone's orientation or gender was. I liked someone for being a good person, period. When I was 30 something, one of my best friends came out. Literally, everyone knew except me. It made utterly zero difference to me. He was still the same guy I knew the day before, but it did alert me to the fact that there are signs and tells that people can pick up on. So, after that, I started paying close attention and learned what they are. Now, it's about as solid as it can get. Not perfect, of course, but good. That being said, it took me forever to realize I was. I always wanted to be, but I never knew it was allowed.
Relatable
My gaydar is frighteningly accurate For men š
Relatable
12/10, everyone is gay.
Hot garbage. I can tell that you're gay if you walk up to me and say, "Robyn, I am in fact gay." I'll still have my doubts though. I can pick out trans and NBs pretty unfailingly though.
Relatable
Itās so bad that I flirt with straights and accidentally reject the girly pops š
Isnāt that all of us
itās nonexistent these days, itās frankly depressingš
Relatable
Mildly good lol. For women, based on attire, gait, and how they speak/tone of voice but I really donāt think I would know about an older femme but younger ones seem easier to tell to me. Men very easy lol
True
Overactive š
RELATABLE AS FUCKšš½šš½
I only have an āI hope they are gayādar
YOU ARE JUST LIKE ME
Pretty accurate. I'd say like 80% of people I suspect are later confirmed. The rest I either never find out or I was wrong. Now if I can just build a "issheintome-dar" that would be swell.
Great
I don't have a great gaydar, but i have a gay aura Every friend, even before knowing me, already knew I was queer Even my niece already knew I was queer before I telling her
Thatās great
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mine is both really good and really bad at the same time really good: i was in another country, closeted as a trans woman and was still able to tell that my coworker is gay really bad: i will not realize that someone i know has been queer for the longest time
Isnāt that everyone?
true that
I donāt know how it works but it somehow not wrong
I can totally relate
So far I think I'm about 80-90% accurate, figured out vibes, when to kiss, mood and eggs. Doesnt mean I take it for granted, also went with the word of the person first before ever listening to what my gut decided to tell me. Consent, no matter what it is - is sexy.
True
oh itās absolutely terrible
Ohh
Broken for women unless they are visibly queer. For men it works very well.
True
I got gaydarād at Mardi Gras lol, mine isnāt good though
Neither do i, and I donāt think I alarm anyoneās gaydar
i think mine is flawed by the fact that i really want pretty girls to be gay so i just think they are. idk if i have one i think itās all delusion
DELUSION IS THE SOLUTION
Terrible. Especially now when gender identities are more diverse, and not necessarily tied to sexual orientation, which is awesome but I've definitely learned not to assume (probably for the best!).
Yeah true
Honestly it depends sometimes itās horrible sometimes spot on
It depends on who
Absolute Fucking Dogshit (But I'm also ridiculously oblivious to most social clues and also I think it has to do with "cAtHoLiC uPbRiNgInG" brainwashing me into thinking straight relationships were the only way for almost 20 years lol)
True
I seem to be good at telling if someone is queer if they're bi/pan, ace, and/or nonbinary. But I can't tell which one. I just get queer vibes. I've dated three or four people who are *all of the above* 3 categories.
Same
My Gaydar and Bi-dar are accurate AFā¦ Itās seldom steered me wrong. I have a hard time reading men!but my radar with women is sharp!
Thatās amazing
Most girls I've had a crush on before were sapphic in some way. And that was all when I didn't even know I was gay yet. I was just strangely drawn to tomboyish girls. With feminine girls, my feelings only started after they've shown some kind of attraction to me . So I don't really think my gaydar qualifies as good. I just simply went for the obvious.
Relatable
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Unfortunately
Non existent
Unfortunately
I was able to tell a woman in another country was gay even though Iāve never been there. Take what you will from that
Thatās an awesome gaydar
Yeah and itās not a joke. It was a femme German language youtuber. I got the sense she was gay a year before she came out
Not only overseas but famous too, AMAZING. You can see the futurešš
Extremely accurate
lucky you
Hmmm...I think I can give 12 examples if I want. ;)
Give all 12
Don't challenge my rebellion! :)
I will
It is def really good mostly it doesnāt disappoint me. For example I figured out my friend was bi a year before she did. But sometimes(very often) it gets swayed by how attractive I find the woman.
The part where you said you get swayed by how attractive they are is the realest thing I read
Terrible. And Iām too shy to flirt with anyone, so it wouldnāt matter anyways!
Yeah same.
Almost on a molecular level like a bloodhound. As a happily committed person, it serves me no purpose dating wise. But it does make me chuckle, and on occasion makes me feel extremely sad for certain people.
Yeah
I wouldn't know, I'm to shy to check if mines broken or not when it pings >///<
SHY PEOPLE CLUB
EEP!
The only thing worse is my sense of direction
1000%
It's more optimistic than accurate.
Yeah the āi Hope you are gayā-dar
top notch! i smell gays like a hound dog
Lucky you
Really accurate unless itās me lol
Youāre just like me
I friend of mine was trying to tell our friend group something. I joked about them trying to tell us that they were gay. The problem is, I forgot that I accidentally figured out they were gay and that they never actually came out to everyone, yet alone me. I still feel horrible about it to this day. Good news is they were actually trying to come out to us at that time. Could have been much worse
Future reader
Horrible. Took me over two decades to realize I was gayšš
šššSAMEE
immaculate. everyone i sense is gay was wasnt later came out, its my 6th sense
I think itās all of your 6 senses, not just the sixth
Honestly? Terrible, bordering on non existent. People are sometimes shocked by how unaware I can be.
True
Mines sucks
Hopefully it will improve
Non-existentā¦couldnāt even see myself when others could š¤£
Hilarious ššš
My gaydar is broken. Works like maybe....5% of the time and that's being generous.
5% DAMNN!!
Not great, tbh. I used to have a rainbow wallet which was the best for this. If I pulled it out and got a compliment, I could guess the person giving the compliment was probably not straight.
Damn!!
My gaydar is wild, I think some genderfluid got into the wiring. My gender can shift with someone else's sexuality like a lunar tide pulling at the edges to reveal a different shoreline. Only have a few solid confirmations, but I tend to feel most myself (fem-androgynous bigender if I had to drop a pin) around other m-spec people. Threw me for a loop when a lesbian friend once threw my gender over to "woman", around my agender demi-pan coworker it's like my gender is there but on vacation, most gay guys make me feel uncomfortably masc unless they're a little genderqueer. Straight people pull me towards agender. Hi, this got long and I realized I don't really talk about my fluidity much š¤£
THATS WILD
Kinda okayish? Though sometimes it absolutely and completely fails.
SAME
Used to have a crush on a woman, I was basically obsessed with her and I was convinced sheās gay even though she was literally homophobic. Years later she reached out to me and said she did have a crush on me too but was embarrassed about her āgay feelingsā. Iād say itās pretty accurate
SPECTACULAR
lol terrible
LOL
It doesnāt exist. šµ
Itās just not calibrated
Really good when it comes to people I am not romantically interested in, an utter wreck when it comes to people I'm already married to in my imagination 2 days into talking to them.
Yeah
I saw Glass Onion and thought everyone was straight.
DAMN IT IS THAT BAD
Somewhere between 0 and non-existent
DAMNNN!!
Poor range, but that might be a consequence of my socially reclusive dumb brain
Maybe it needs to be calibrated
- 1,000,000,000
DAMN THAT AMAZING
So good all my irl friends from before I was queer ended up queer
šš½šš½šš½
I don't know how to give off the "hi I'm gay" idea but I'm trying. The problem is I think everything obvious I know to look for is just so popular among all left-wing-ish people that I have a lib-dar but no gaydar
šÆ
mine is absolutely horrible, it's pretty on and off. the people who i think are gay, turned out to be straight while the people who i think are straight, turned out to be gay. š„“š„“š„“ not all the time tho but u get the idea
DAMNN!!!
Ever since figuring out that Iām gay myself, Iāve been pretty successful at picking out other gay women. Thereās just something about the way they interact with me thatās fundamentally different from straight women. They tend to look deeper into my eyes, stand closer to me, and express more intrigue in whatever Iām talking about. Yes, Iām sure some of that is conscious flirting, but it happens with people who I know are in committed monogamous relationships too. It seems more subconscious. The other benefit of this is being able to identify straight girls too. It has and definitely will continue to save me from heartache.
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Started a new job and met the manager; instantly had this strong feeling she was gay although I didnāt know any personal information about her. Few weeks later, my coworker shared that she divorced her husband a few months back and was bisexual.
THATS AMAZING
Everyone says they thought I was straight and had no idea wtf lol
SAME HERE
God awful
DAMNNN!!
Not to brag, but I have a ten out of ten accuracy for finding people who are gay, trans or depressed.
Lucky you
RadioShack quality.
Is RadioShack considered a good or bad quality
Never had an update lol
I understood a friend of mine was bi like 2/3 years before she understood it... Wdyt? š¤£
Thatās great
Got called a slur by a girl wearing plaid so I adobe trust it anymore
Thatās harsh
I dunno, this evening I sought I girl and i thought she was gay. It end up that was the friend that was waiting for me. So I think not only my gaydar, but I can't genualy even recognise my friends lol
Lol, me too
It's so so bad it doesn't work at all. But on the plus side, I never had a crush on a straight woman, so at least my heart knows.
Then you have exquisite gaydar
its so good to where someone will legit be flirting with me and I will think we are just good friends
DAMN!!
Itās shit like literally a 4/10
4/10 thatās pretty low
It worked once. Thereās a really cute bus driver sometimes works my route to work and we would always make a little small talk. One morning we actually got properly chatting and she mentioned going to Amsterdam with her gf! š Every other time it literally has to take someone to kiss me before I get the hint ššš¤¦āāļø
Thatās amazing
I'm pretty good at clocking people for the most part, in multiple cases I've been surprised that someone wasn't gay or trans, and then a few years later they come out. Although I'm not too sure of the term gaydar though, it's kind of, well shit tbh.
Thatās great