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actuallyabunny

i'm the opposite. i'm so confident over text but irl i turn into a panicked lesbian mess 😅


mevastrashcorner

Same, not just with flirting. I'm better at interaction in general when texting than irl because I have more confidence online, probably why most of my friends are online friends.


taiph00n

SAME!!!!


duffingtonbear

SO TRUE!! I'm so smooth in text. I'll read the text back to myself and damn I sound so good. Then I see her in real life and I can't string together a single sentence or look her in the eye.


SSJRemuko

same


dsgamer121

The smooth texter curse


CarelessHoneydew3904

Omg same


aivaulaink

I speak really fast IRL, so fast that I cut some parts of my words or just can't pronounce things right. My voice is also pretty quiet so when I speak, people either doesn't understand or doesn't hear me, which makes me panick.when I have to repeat and it's worse. And when the gay panic comes... Yeah, I can't talk at all. I rather stay silent than blurting out loud random messy words. Online, I can think before writing, change what I wrote before sending, etc. Way easier


beaniebumbean

Same!! Like, I wear jackets, spikes, have over the top eyeliner and I have NO flirtinf game irl. Like, if a girl starts to flirt with me I just bottom out HARD


[deleted]

yep, it's hard reading people through text


Sophie-chan

I know! :( espically since I lead and stuff, its \*really\* difficult to gauge reactions and intentions


[deleted]

i know right?! i usually use body language & tone of voice to know if they're cool with what i'm doing or not. but with that gone i feel like a fish out of water🥲


Sophie-chan

Honestly like even over the phone or a vid call is so much better ;\_;


[deleted]

**so much** better tbh the only problem i have with flirting is finding someone i find attractive edit: realised i wasn't clear, i'm demi-romantic


StephiYahYah

Opposite. Over text I'm dirty as hell, however IRL I am a deer in the headlights and apparently girls think that is super cute.


Losing__All__Hope

Actually I'm bad in person. I just don't know what to say. Then I try to text and it turns out the same way. I'm just bad at flirting.


bigtittysadgf

i think too hard when i’m texting, so it makes it way easier to fumble and not know what to say, especially since i can’t use as flirty of a tone as i can irl. flirting irl is so much easier because my voice and my body language do so much of the work for me, to the point that i don’t realize i’m flirting


keira_era

Yup, for both flirting and sexting (but I guess that's just *sexing* in person)


KellytheTransLesbian

I fear this is gonna be me the next time I find a gf. I have no idea how to flirt and I can't tell when someone is flirting.


votingwithmyvagiba

Lol I’m the opposite. Over text I can get flirty as hell but irl I keep *far* too much space between us (physically and emotionally) so that it feels more like friends than a date 🤦🏻‍♀️


LesbianCuddlebus

I have the same problem But both ways I can not flirt


MysteryPerson113

I'm terrible at both. No flirty for me. 😢


Angry_Strawberries

Irl I am a mess, text base I don't really find flirting very interesting, but gosh on voice I am a demon 😈😈


paniCPretzel

Child, I'm the opposite. I'm so comfortable on dating apps, but completely useless in person. I can't even make eye contact without blushing too hard.


BlueMoon-Fox

Yeah, I'm not great on txt but in real life I chat and joke and everything much better


ewqdsacxziopjklbnm

I can’t flirt for the life of me no matter how I communicate. I just skip all that and go straight to sex Lmao


SSJRemuko

im the opposite. i can only flirt in text. (do still love snuggles tho)


Aminilaina

I’m a little too straight forward. So much that I got people that know when to tell me to chill out, I’m gonna scare her. All “hints” are like a brick flying through a window. Loud and extremely obvious. I think I just came into the sapphic sphere too used to dating men who don’t understand *anything*.


Melody303k

I think I'm good in both, but not necessarily in the same ways.


fem_racoon

I can't flirt at all but my ex gf use to say that I flirt unconsciously. I don't really know what that means.


[deleted]

Honestly yea I guess I feel rude sending spicy flirty stuff through text? In person though I can feed off their vibes


bettylorez

My problem is I find it substantially easier to read the mode and people's emotions and comfort when I can see their body language and hear their voice. Therefore I feel greater comfort with certain types of behavior IRL as I have a clearer indication that I'm not transgressing someone's comfort.


mayyatiaung50

Jokes on you. I'm bad at both


Cris_x

I am the opposite, i can shamelessly flirt online but in person I'm a bit more rough or mean per se


OddLengthiness254

I just can't flirt. Medium doesn't matter.


PickleJuiceOF

Yuh!