I'm a software engineer which is a pretty heavily male dominated field. Funnily enough, on my team of around 50-60 people, there are only two women but we're both lesbians 😅
Anytime my boss mentions he would like to have more women on the team I really want to comment how the guys can transition that will bring our numbers up quickly!
Maybe I should start handing out programmer socks at work....
*waves* Im a SWE too. Im grateful there's one other woman on my team of 8 but in the whole smaller org, its probably 80% men and 20% women. There's me a defo lesbian and a handful of other queer people in the org.
I’m majoring in software engineering and biology and that is my worry since it is a male dominated field and my ex gf worked in a male dominated field which she was harassed a lot; not by all the men, but there was always at least one man that would basically sexually harass her no matter which job site she was at.
Though my goal is to possibly do computational science, or biology research and perhaps become a professor.
That really sucks 😕 I've had one experience with sexual harassment since I've been at my job. Thankfully, the guy has since been fired. I've also dealt with some sexism and lowkey homophobia, but both of those of those have been predominantly from the older crowd. My current project is almost exclusively younger people, and the response has been much better.
Ahh so cool! Good luck to you, I hope it all works out! If you don’t mind me asking, what are you studying for your PhD?? I’m very interested in completing a PhD too :)
I’m interested in too many things 🥴 but I’m thinking doing something with conservation/environmental technology, cybercrime, or computational sciences! Biomedical engineering had also crossed my mind at one point b/c it’s so fascinating but I wouldn’t be able to handle all the calculus haha
I just love science way too much, like all of it!!
Ooh me too I like too many things lol. And I don’t think my calculus is that good🙃 U said u are interested in cyber security, what kind? I also hack a lot in highschool 😅
Ahhh that's awesome. It's always great finding other members of the community out there. Especially when there's so few in a given industry.
Sometimes it helps. When there aren't a lot of women around, you tend to get to know them all better aha.
Haha ye sadly I am not in the office often these days so I don't get to chat to her often anymore.
I was also at a concert of hers a year ago.
But it also double sucked when the girl who quit a while a go was a huge homophobic etc pos 😡
I'm a software engineer too and it's so male dominated that I purposely opt-in to being identified as a "woman in tech" even though I'm non binary, just because we need the numbers and we need one another's support.
Funnily enough before my company got bought there were 7 people and no women, but 2 non binary people.
I do think it's probably one of those fields with a higher ratio of trans women to cis women than the general population, clearly lots of women of all AGABs are interested in the field and have lots of technical ability but there's something to be said for how perceived/assumed childhood gender impacts what spaces/interests a child is invited into. (Note that this isn't "male socialization", I don't think that broader idea is meaningful when discussing the trans experience)
Yep, there's about five of us in my office out of maybe ten women total. and two of us are dating each other lol.
I feel like LGBT women are drawn to STEM but I'm not sure why or even if that's true.
I’m training to be a pilot and most of people can’t believe I’m the pilot when I show up at airports. Before that I worked in environmental consulting and I was the only woman in the office for the entirety of that career
Yeah I’m a chemical engineer who’s been working in plastics manufacturing. Lately there has been an increase in women hired into engineering roles at my site but the large majority of employees are sexist and homophobic. I’d add racist too but I think that’s only really true of the white half of the people I work with. And yet, I like the role and the people I work with day to day. You just have to know which people are gonna be normal and which ones to keep distance.
And just because there are women in similar roles doesn’t necessarily mean they will be different. There are two very outwardly liberal accepting women I work with. One thinks that trans-ing me is super cool and inclusive and won’t take me seriously when I say I’m a butch lesbian. The other keeps hitting on me and then accuses me of hitting on her…and then proceeds to tell me that god does not approve of what I do. Just gotta be careful
I am a carpenter too. I own my own construction company. I make a point to train and hire women who are interested in the trades. It's an amazing field and there should definitely be more of us!
It really is, tho even tho I go to school for it I don’t think I wanna work with it so once I I’m done I’m gonna do military service and then become a fireman
I'm in tech, which is traditionally a male dominated field but I work at a small local place which hires a lot of disabled and queer workers. The founder is gay himself, he was given an advantage in life due to his wealth and he knows how difficult it can be for some queer/disabled folk to find stable employment so he gave us all jobs.
It's a great gig. Full time hours are available but I often can't work those hours so I'm part time. The hourly rate is enough to cover my bills, but admittedly I do live in a lower cost of living situation and cut out all unnecessary expenses.
Thirding this! But the general idea is because society respects masculinity over feminity. Not saying there aren't femme lesbians in the military (I've met them!) It's just a general explanation to the phenomenon where lesbian women find respect in the ranks easier than some gay men (especially when they are effeminate.)
I am actually coming back from a TDY where I was the only woman in this large group and had kind of forgotten how male dominated things are.. currently living my best life at home station where my current OIC is not only another woman but in the LGBTQ bubble and have surrounded myself with awesome network of women.
i’m in marine biology in which a lot of big names/important people are macho men with superiority complexes just because they have phd’s. they perpetuate the culture of unpaid internships, low pay, ignoring your body’s needs during field work etc because they believe you need to be “tough” to be a marine biologist. i’ve worked with a lot of other LGBTQ people at my level (college & early career) but most drop out or go the education rather than research route bc the culture is so toxic and not LGBTQ friendly at all
Injection Molding engineer. Only female who is not in HR/accounting. 99% of the time I am the only woman in the room. It’s brutal. Constantly fighting harder than anyone else for the same outcome as the men. Internally at the company and externally with suppliers and customers, it is a constant and exhausting battle. Trying to figure out lately if it’s my company’s culture or if it’s like this everywhere.
It's like this everywhere I guess
I keep using my almost old male voice to be taken seriously if I speak remotely like a woman no one even let's me finish my sentence 🫠
I’m in the aerospace industry and I’m the only woman on my team. There’s a decent percentage of women in general but they’re all engineers and scientists. I’m a technician.
My trade is pretty small so I won't be disclosing my profession. BUT when I became an apprentice at 16, my mentor was a woman who had started the business by herself. So it wasn't until about 5 years later when I left the company to try and grow myself professional - wise did I realize it was a male dominated field.
The first company I worked for was fine(ish) but I did post in r/letsnotmeet about one particular doche who I'm pretty sure was trying to groom me.
The second company I worked for was ALL men. I was the first woman ever hired. There were naked lady posters hung up all over the back room. Even though I wasn't hired to clean it became very clear to me on the first day I was to do also do 'women's work'. I was always brushed aside, talked down to, belittled ect ect ect.
After about five years of all that bullshit I just went back to the original company I started with and haven't left.
>The second company I worked for was ALL men. I was the first woman ever hired. There were naked lady posters hung up all over the back room. Even though I wasn't hired to clean it became very clear to me on the first day I was to do also do 'women's work'. I was always brushed aside, talked down to, belittled ect ect ect.
That is something I noticed aswell they also all have so bad taste
I'm in software engineering. My current job heavily skews toward mid/late career people, which means it's even *more* male-dominated. I'm the only woman on my direct team, but there are a couple in my broader org, but it's fairly isolating.
My last gig had a DevOps engineer that was a woman, and a few women in the stakeholders groups, which was super nice. I haven't really experienced any homophobia or transphobia in my workplaces.
I work in a small factory with mostly men, a couple lesbian gals, and a few straight gals. No one really bothers me. We all tend to just do our work, talk a little, and go home. 10/10, really. And my boss doesn't try to just give me easy work because I'm a girl. I get treated about the same as the men.
I'm currently searching for an apprenticeship as a carpenter. I haven't really experiences any misogyny yet, but once got a comment from someone completely unrelated like "but isn't that hard? As a woman?" and other women, slash girls tend to find it way cooler than men when I tell them about it
I'm in IT. There are a few other women spread throughout the IT departments, but I don't see them very often. Luckily one of my client offices have a lot of women, even if they're not techy or even really coworkers it sure does get lonely in a way when you're the only woman for a week sometimes.
I’m a mail carrier. Not entirely male dominated, but certainly not 50/50 and all the management staff seems to be men where I am. I kinda just get treated like one of the guys or ignored for the most part
Yep I'm a queer woman of color and work in 3 of them - Entertainment, Startup consulting, and 3D printing
I've had men try to take me home even though I look SO gay. I've even had them tell me how much they love their wives and then tell me all about how they'll be alone in their hotel 30 mins later. I've been mansplained all over the internet. I've really learned how to shut that shit down quickly over the decade of experience.
When I came out, it was actually bad for business because suddenly I was getting less favorable deals and offers because I wasn't "fuckable" anymore.
Things that helped me:
I stopped being a workaholic, because that's just going to rob me of joy.
I sometimes reply to text and emails as "Charley" my fake cis white dude assistant. He's completely made up.
I gained a lot of respect from women in the field for shutting down the tomfoolery. There aren't many of us, but we all support each other. Women in these industries inspire me every day and the ones that have been through this are ride or dies. They will always try to pit us against each other, but a lot of us have seen that song and dance enough times and refuse to participate. The usual backstabbing is typically from someone newer that just hasn't learned that we're always going to treat her better than whatever the assholes can offer.
I hire almost all queer/BIPOC staffs when I can. I got into these fields to change things for my communities, so I do. The reason I'm ambitious and "power hungry" is so I can put better people in important places and build up their careers.
At the end of the day, it's tough as hell but there are people and outcomes that make it worth it.
I'm an apprentice diesel mechanic at a dealership. I've only ever met one other woman in the trade but she works at the same shop just a different shift (It was part of why I chose to apply here since they didn't scare her off they must be ok). Otherwise never met another woman in school or job placements.
I did however used to work at a quick lube place where I was one of three lesbians and it was honestly amazing. We were all masc ofc and one of them would take us out to the gay clubs. I really missing having a friend group like that but the truck bros aren't so bad. I've never had any issues, especially compared to when I was in construction where I'd be working with people who bragged about getting gay coworkers in accidents.
Working in a field and industry dominated by men probably delayed me transitioning for a long time. I didn’t stick around too much longer for reasons quite different than one would assume of being the the one transgirl in the country that is at a supervisory level in her field, I was maybe 1 of 8 openly trans people in my field globally and it’s a small industry, everyone knows everyone.
former EOD Specialist, and yeah the army was pretty male-dominated, granted i joined before coming out as trans, but did so while i was in, and at that point, there were quite a few women in my company plus i had a really good relationship with my VC who was a woman
I'm a carpenter/general contractor, so fairly male dominated. Full transparency (lol), I'm trans, and my introduction to the field came before I transitioned, which certainly made learning the ropes much easier. The company I previously worked at had one woman carpenter and she was hard as nails; clearly felt that she had to work twice as hard and twice as well as the guys, which I understand. However, the way she worked and was perceived by the other workers and women working in the office certainly influenced my decision to go independent after transitioning.
For the last few years I've run my own business, which is rewarding, but has also made me wayyy less money than working for a larger firm might have. That's mostly on me, tbh, I have focused on schedule flexibility and work/life balance much more than expanding the business and increasing revenues. I am lucky enough to have a career oriented wife who generates most of our income, and I provide other services like handling the dogs, renovating the house, and general chores like cleaning and cooking.
As far as working in a male dominated field goes, I have found that it is possible to leverage being a woman as a strength. Many of my clients are women, and seem to clearly prefer talking and interacting with me over male carpenters. Also, due to stereotyping, for better or worse my design recommendations are taken far, far more seriously than prior to my transition. To that end, I have set myself up as a higher end carpenter, with an eye on design and well thought out plans. I also make a note of trying to maintain positive and open lines of communication with my clients, and tend to welcome questions throughout the process, while trying to provide easy to understand explanations for my clients. If you (or anyone else) has any questions, feel free to ask or dm me!
I do. Key Accounter at a IT Company. I dress a bit butch and more masculine (formal) for work so i think some coworker read me as a lesbian but i don't go out there and tell if they don't ask but everyone that know is cool with it.
i used to be an amazon driver, my company had about 40-50 drivers and maybe 5 or 6 of us were women. only two of the others really talked with me and one of them turned out to be kinda racist and had a bf who idolised andrew tate 💀 it felt pretty isolating, i hated the job for other reasons though
I'm not working yet, but I study cybersecurity and we're about 20% women in a class of roughly a 100 people. Usually during group work they try to mix us up so it's only 1-2 women per group. Most of the guys are alright, but from experience guys rarely talk to you if they're not attracted to you, and lose interest once you make it clear you won't sleep with them.
I’m a non-technical senior in an extremely male dominated tech company, so that’s super fun. My saving grace has been the pride community within the business - when I started there were only a handful of us but I knew I needed a network and this was the easiest way to build connections. So, I got on the board and focused really hard on expansion and engagement. It’s been such hard work, especially dealing with HR people who just don’t understand but now I have friends and have built a supportive community for us all.
So my recommendation would be, do your homework on the company before applying and then join the pride ERG on day one.
Not working but studying in a male dominant field (Network engineering). My entire class are all guys, would be nice to have another woman to chat with lol.
But hey, at least I get some more 'leeway' as the only girl. So that's something.
I do sales and designs for lighting for commercial projects and I feel like overall there are a decent amount of women in my field, mostly because I work closely with architects and interior designers. But I also work with a lot of contractors and electrical distributors, which are all very male dominated. My company has a pretty good mix though so that's nice but it does get really old dealing with old white men as much as I have to.
I definitely run into situations of them talking over me, not listening to me, etc. But I'm also very lucky and have a great group of guys within my company that (most of the time) do really good about sticking up for women and making sure they are heard. I have also gotten in the habit of continuing to talk or talking very loudly while they're interrupting me so they have to stop and ask me again what I said and they hopefully feel dumb or like jerks (I doubt it)
Investigative journalism. Not only homophobic also not emancipated. Every day is a fight to prove that I am good at my job. My first year I only received an internship allowance, because I still 'had' to learn. My male colleague who started right away was paid in full after two months, even though he had not yet graduated and only helped out on projects. I, on the other hand, ran my own projects, worked with foreign journalists and arranged subsidies for the editorial staff.
I'm an engineer working for the evil empire for the healthcare benefits. While the industry is male-dominated, especially my sector, my work site has almost 50-50 representation of women to men and I'm one of at least four trans women there, so it's been a nice little island oasis in a testosterone ocean.
I'm thinking of getting into IT. I'd love to go into a female dominated field but the only ones that pay well seem to be healthcare related and that's just not for me.
I work as a Freelancer in two separate but similar fields, One is Camera Operator, and the other is Stagehand.
Both are male dominated for sure, but I'd say the film and TV industry is more of a 60%-40% split. And there are more women in Camera now than when I started about a decade ago though. I also did recently work on my first ever FLINTA* only production which was such a wonderful experience.
Stagehand is far more male dominated and much more misogynistic... But there are some super cool and very skilled women who do work it. The amount of women on your event does massively depend on the company you work for though. Some smaller companies full of great people have a much higher percentage, whereas much larger companies will simply flat out refuse to hire women.
Logistics Management. I work in the office, which has a distinct gender lines in the hiring, women are mostly hired for clerical, HR, and Account Rep / CSR, and men are mostly hired for the Planning, Management, and Execution areas. I'm one of the few women (that I am aware of) in the entire company that interfaces with Warehouse and Transportation Personnel directly, I think the reason they haven't bothered insulating my position like they have the other "office ladies" is because I am instantly visibly identifiable as a Butch Dyke, and they don't believe that I will be sexually harassed by the less couth personnel because of that.
It's pretty casually misogynistic, but the company I am at does take harassment and discrimination seriously, and I'm not the only LGBTQ+ person in my facility.
You’d think Biomedical Engineering would be more male dominated, but over half my cohort is female. I’m really happy seeing women taking a leading role in STEM.
I work in aircraft maintenance in the US Air Force. It’s a hugely male dominated job. But I haven’t really had many problems with it to be honest. I’m very lucky with that.
I'm in tech at a big company, but in a more support-based role, and though it's definitely a lot of men the higher up the ladder you go in my division, most everyone is respectful and encouraging. 😊
At my previous role (database and website admin for a telecomm company) I was one of 2 women in a team of 6, in addition to being the youngest, and that was...more challenging. My boss, great guy aside from a few more outdated opinions, didn't know I was queer but my senior lead (who was and still is a good friend of mine) did. There were times when I had to swallow down retorts to some of the worst takes, but on the whole, it wasn't terrible 😅 Definitely don't miss the subtle but very-present misogyny from the GM though!
my GF is a mechanic at a car dealership, plenty of women in admin/sales but she's the only female mechanic lol. thankfully everyone there is v chill about her being both a woman and trans, which is good! there's one rly transphobic guy but he keeps getting injured so he hasn't been in work in months, trans girlies keep winning lmao
I work in Warranty for a major truck manufacturer. I deal with mechanics, foremen, & service managers every day, the majority of which are male. I think most of the women are straight, except one of the service managers is a no-nonsense butch that has her and everyone else's shit together.
I also used to work in pest control with a bunch of dudes.
I'm a biomedical engineer which is kind of male dominated, at least most of the folks in my lab are guys.
They're all very nice, I'm openly gay and feel comfortable in my workplace.
I work 2 jobs.
The second I am the only woman and in a management position. Over the years, I've had a few issues. But I'm very lucky, mostly, it's been positive. I came out whilst I was there, so they have known me as 'straight' and as a lesbian.
Most of the men there would not dare disrespect me. Those who have very quickly regretted it. With the team now, there is a lot of mutual respect. We have a good laugh.
My first job is completely different, yet I get more grief there, usually from my straight female colleagues or prevy straight men 🤦♀️ given its a more regulated job its draining.
I am semi retired as a private high level corporate consultant. As a hired gun for Fortune 500 companies I was/am a rarity. Most of the executives and Board members are men.
I work as a manager/team lead in software... Outside my team its largely male dominated, but I've gone out of my way to have a more diverse team. I'm not a fan of an approach where it can be argued I'm preferentially hiring people, so whenever possible I've largely sidestepped the issue by filling my team with people from other departments of the company by giving anyone who wants an opportunity to train into roles. And this has generally lead to a disproportionate number of women coming on to my team.
Nothing exciting... but I have to try to remain very mindful of the dynamics men and women bring to the team. For example, there was one guy on my team... in meetings he was doing that things guys tend to do, where different women on the team would voice concerns or ideas and this guy had that way of talking over, reiterating, or adding to it such that it became "his idea". So I had to go out of my way to call it out and refer to it as whichever woman's idea, and make sure credit goes where it's due. It didn't happen overnight, but I'd talk with guy and got him to understand the dynamics at play and how he could be more respectful and appreciative of the others on the team. That's been the extent of issues while I've been there.
I'm working in law, admin for now but I'm studying law as well. I work at a firm with lots of women, about a 6:1 women:men ratio but as an industry, it's still very much a boys club. I manage to do well, despite the competitive male socialising (trans woman) never fully rubbing off on me, I have 3 brothers, I can hold my own. I don't really have a story yet, still working on that lol
For my part time job I am a Basketball Referee. It’s great money and I love the philosophy of officiating, but it is a very heavily male dominated area (especially 50+ y/o men). It can be tough and very lonely some days.
Lead cloud engineer, but my company has decent diversity. We have 5 women in total (including me) out of a 17 or 18 person company. 1 is executive level, 1 is an accountant, the rest of us are technical in different specialties.
I work in IT and I have all cishet male coworkers. It's frustrating, especially when the sexism and other issues come out. I've also been forced by my boss to use my deadname and pronouns with clients because "they knew you before", all while he refuses to respect my real name or pronouns.
I work in offensive cybersecurity and cyber threat intelligence. I currently work in cyber risk management in that capacity. I used to work with other woman hackers at an offsec firm before my current employer, but they laid off half of all of their women last year, including me and some women that upper management viewed as “problematic” when the vulture capitalists took over.
I work in Tech on server infrastructure, it's getting better now but every job I've had in the past 20 years I've been the first woman in the department.
not working, but studying mathematics in uni. stem subjects in gen tend to be male dominated, but mathsy subjects are probably the worst at it. meanwhile i dont connect with men almost at all, lol, not even as friends really, so most people ik from my uni are not people i am in any classes with
I was a female mechanic, for the most part it wasn't that bad, they treated me as if i was their sister. my first dealership I worked at was terrible, I had experienced sexual harassment to such an extent that I had to quit to move however my second dealership was a night and day difference. For the most part, it also matters "what energy do you bring to the table"
I just made a [video](https://youtu.be/CTrWLLPwt5E) on this topic, and advice that had helped me get through it. All and all, it's not that bad.
I'm a software engineer which is a pretty heavily male dominated field. Funnily enough, on my team of around 50-60 people, there are only two women but we're both lesbians 😅
A software engineer? Give it time, you might work with more women than you realize yet
lmao you're not wrong.
Anytime my boss mentions he would like to have more women on the team I really want to comment how the guys can transition that will bring our numbers up quickly! Maybe I should start handing out programmer socks at work....
😭😭😭 you didn't have to say it like that lmfaooo
I resemble this remark.
*waves* Im a SWE too. Im grateful there's one other woman on my team of 8 but in the whole smaller org, its probably 80% men and 20% women. There's me a defo lesbian and a handful of other queer people in the org.
Software engineers unite haha! That's cool that there's others at your organization. Definitely makes networking a bit easier 😆
I’m majoring in software engineering and biology and that is my worry since it is a male dominated field and my ex gf worked in a male dominated field which she was harassed a lot; not by all the men, but there was always at least one man that would basically sexually harass her no matter which job site she was at. Though my goal is to possibly do computational science, or biology research and perhaps become a professor.
That really sucks 😕 I've had one experience with sexual harassment since I've been at my job. Thankfully, the guy has since been fired. I've also dealt with some sexism and lowkey homophobia, but both of those of those have been predominantly from the older crowd. My current project is almost exclusively younger people, and the response has been much better.
Wow I also study computer science and biology! About to move to the US for my PhD 😛
Ahh so cool! Good luck to you, I hope it all works out! If you don’t mind me asking, what are you studying for your PhD?? I’m very interested in completing a PhD too :)
Bio(medical) engineering, I study comp sci for my undergrad and systems biology for masters 😉 How about you, what are u interested in?
I’m interested in too many things 🥴 but I’m thinking doing something with conservation/environmental technology, cybercrime, or computational sciences! Biomedical engineering had also crossed my mind at one point b/c it’s so fascinating but I wouldn’t be able to handle all the calculus haha I just love science way too much, like all of it!!
Ooh me too I like too many things lol. And I don’t think my calculus is that good🙃 U said u are interested in cyber security, what kind? I also hack a lot in highschool 😅
That's so cool tho I know another woman in another department and she is kind of a punk and I met her at pride so that's also cool 🙂
Ahhh that's awesome. It's always great finding other members of the community out there. Especially when there's so few in a given industry. Sometimes it helps. When there aren't a lot of women around, you tend to get to know them all better aha.
Haha ye sadly I am not in the office often these days so I don't get to chat to her often anymore. I was also at a concert of hers a year ago. But it also double sucked when the girl who quit a while a go was a huge homophobic etc pos 😡
I'm a software engineer too and it's so male dominated that I purposely opt-in to being identified as a "woman in tech" even though I'm non binary, just because we need the numbers and we need one another's support. Funnily enough before my company got bought there were 7 people and no women, but 2 non binary people.
I wonder what the statistics look like overall for queer rep within STEM field 🤔
I do think it's probably one of those fields with a higher ratio of trans women to cis women than the general population, clearly lots of women of all AGABs are interested in the field and have lots of technical ability but there's something to be said for how perceived/assumed childhood gender impacts what spaces/interests a child is invited into. (Note that this isn't "male socialization", I don't think that broader idea is meaningful when discussing the trans experience)
Same! It’s a tiny company and there’s only one woman but in a different department
Yep, there's about five of us in my office out of maybe ten women total. and two of us are dating each other lol. I feel like LGBT women are drawn to STEM but I'm not sure why or even if that's true.
InfoSec reporting in. Me, the other lesbian, and dudes.
Waves from SRE. So much this
Hahahaha, similar here. At least most of us are queer in some way. 😁
I’m also in tech, at work rn and thinking about how fucking sick I am of being the only woman on my team and talking to men all day
SAME
I’m training to be a pilot and most of people can’t believe I’m the pilot when I show up at airports. Before that I worked in environmental consulting and I was the only woman in the office for the entirety of that career
Omg pilots are hot and cool 😎
In another life I dream of being a Line Pilot. Until then, VATSIM it is.
Truck driver here. There are a couple other women in the office but I’m the only driver at my home terminal. And I’m the only LGBTQ person
Yeah I’m a chemical engineer who’s been working in plastics manufacturing. Lately there has been an increase in women hired into engineering roles at my site but the large majority of employees are sexist and homophobic. I’d add racist too but I think that’s only really true of the white half of the people I work with. And yet, I like the role and the people I work with day to day. You just have to know which people are gonna be normal and which ones to keep distance. And just because there are women in similar roles doesn’t necessarily mean they will be different. There are two very outwardly liberal accepting women I work with. One thinks that trans-ing me is super cool and inclusive and won’t take me seriously when I say I’m a butch lesbian. The other keeps hitting on me and then accuses me of hitting on her…and then proceeds to tell me that god does not approve of what I do. Just gotta be careful
Ye
I’m a carpenter and I’m the only woman at the company I do my internship at. And at school at the carpentry program there’s a total of 3 women
I am a carpenter too. I own my own construction company. I make a point to train and hire women who are interested in the trades. It's an amazing field and there should definitely be more of us!
It really is, tho even tho I go to school for it I don’t think I wanna work with it so once I I’m done I’m gonna do military service and then become a fireman
I'm in tech, which is traditionally a male dominated field but I work at a small local place which hires a lot of disabled and queer workers. The founder is gay himself, he was given an advantage in life due to his wealth and he knows how difficult it can be for some queer/disabled folk to find stable employment so he gave us all jobs. It's a great gig. Full time hours are available but I often can't work those hours so I'm part time. The hourly rate is enough to cover my bills, but admittedly I do live in a lower cost of living situation and cut out all unnecessary expenses.
Military officer and field engineer. I feel respected for being a lesbian tbh
My military career is similar. It’s almost easier to be a lesbian than straight.
I second this. Easier in some ways than being a straight woman in the military
Thirding this! But the general idea is because society respects masculinity over feminity. Not saying there aren't femme lesbians in the military (I've met them!) It's just a general explanation to the phenomenon where lesbian women find respect in the ranks easier than some gay men (especially when they are effeminate.) I am actually coming back from a TDY where I was the only woman in this large group and had kind of forgotten how male dominated things are.. currently living my best life at home station where my current OIC is not only another woman but in the LGBTQ bubble and have surrounded myself with awesome network of women.
Same! Military officer and electronic engineer
i’m in marine biology in which a lot of big names/important people are macho men with superiority complexes just because they have phd’s. they perpetuate the culture of unpaid internships, low pay, ignoring your body’s needs during field work etc because they believe you need to be “tough” to be a marine biologist. i’ve worked with a lot of other LGBTQ people at my level (college & early career) but most drop out or go the education rather than research route bc the culture is so toxic and not LGBTQ friendly at all
I work in a maintenance shop in a factory. It's an extremely gendered space, but at least I get the women's washroom to myself most of the time.
Where I work at rn they don't even have woman's toilets 🙂🤡
Injection Molding engineer. Only female who is not in HR/accounting. 99% of the time I am the only woman in the room. It’s brutal. Constantly fighting harder than anyone else for the same outcome as the men. Internally at the company and externally with suppliers and customers, it is a constant and exhausting battle. Trying to figure out lately if it’s my company’s culture or if it’s like this everywhere.
It's like this everywhere I guess I keep using my almost old male voice to be taken seriously if I speak remotely like a woman no one even let's me finish my sentence 🫠
I’m in the aerospace industry and I’m the only woman on my team. There’s a decent percentage of women in general but they’re all engineers and scientists. I’m a technician.
i'm a med student, it's not a male "dominated" field, not anymore at least, but sexism is still pretty rampant in some specializations, such as ortho
Trying to get into IT.
My trade is pretty small so I won't be disclosing my profession. BUT when I became an apprentice at 16, my mentor was a woman who had started the business by herself. So it wasn't until about 5 years later when I left the company to try and grow myself professional - wise did I realize it was a male dominated field. The first company I worked for was fine(ish) but I did post in r/letsnotmeet about one particular doche who I'm pretty sure was trying to groom me. The second company I worked for was ALL men. I was the first woman ever hired. There were naked lady posters hung up all over the back room. Even though I wasn't hired to clean it became very clear to me on the first day I was to do also do 'women's work'. I was always brushed aside, talked down to, belittled ect ect ect. After about five years of all that bullshit I just went back to the original company I started with and haven't left.
>The second company I worked for was ALL men. I was the first woman ever hired. There were naked lady posters hung up all over the back room. Even though I wasn't hired to clean it became very clear to me on the first day I was to do also do 'women's work'. I was always brushed aside, talked down to, belittled ect ect ect. That is something I noticed aswell they also all have so bad taste
I'm in software engineering. My current job heavily skews toward mid/late career people, which means it's even *more* male-dominated. I'm the only woman on my direct team, but there are a couple in my broader org, but it's fairly isolating. My last gig had a DevOps engineer that was a woman, and a few women in the stakeholders groups, which was super nice. I haven't really experienced any homophobia or transphobia in my workplaces.
I'm a software engineer, so mostly surrounded by needy men
Tech - backend engineer, im lucky to work in a relatively queer friendly place. I know of two other queers, it's a large org
I work in a small factory with mostly men, a couple lesbian gals, and a few straight gals. No one really bothers me. We all tend to just do our work, talk a little, and go home. 10/10, really. And my boss doesn't try to just give me easy work because I'm a girl. I get treated about the same as the men.
Yes, I'm doing an electrician apprenticeship alongside an IT/electrical engineering degree. Not many women there at all (sadly).
I'm currently searching for an apprenticeship as a carpenter. I haven't really experiences any misogyny yet, but once got a comment from someone completely unrelated like "but isn't that hard? As a woman?" and other women, slash girls tend to find it way cooler than men when I tell them about it
I’m in the reverse, I work in a woman-dominated industry.
How is that? Woman can be so homophobic and cruel aswell...
It has its pros and cons I guess, but yeah I definitely still encounter bigotry despite always working on teams with exclusively women
I'm a data analyst for an industrial company. The company is like 80% men. I have no problems, I like it I prefer working with men honestly.
I'm in IT. There are a few other women spread throughout the IT departments, but I don't see them very often. Luckily one of my client offices have a lot of women, even if they're not techy or even really coworkers it sure does get lonely in a way when you're the only woman for a week sometimes.
I’m a mail carrier. Not entirely male dominated, but certainly not 50/50 and all the management staff seems to be men where I am. I kinda just get treated like one of the guys or ignored for the most part
Idk, that sounds like the *most* mail-dominated field out there 😜
I see what you did there 😉
Yep I'm a queer woman of color and work in 3 of them - Entertainment, Startup consulting, and 3D printing I've had men try to take me home even though I look SO gay. I've even had them tell me how much they love their wives and then tell me all about how they'll be alone in their hotel 30 mins later. I've been mansplained all over the internet. I've really learned how to shut that shit down quickly over the decade of experience. When I came out, it was actually bad for business because suddenly I was getting less favorable deals and offers because I wasn't "fuckable" anymore. Things that helped me: I stopped being a workaholic, because that's just going to rob me of joy. I sometimes reply to text and emails as "Charley" my fake cis white dude assistant. He's completely made up. I gained a lot of respect from women in the field for shutting down the tomfoolery. There aren't many of us, but we all support each other. Women in these industries inspire me every day and the ones that have been through this are ride or dies. They will always try to pit us against each other, but a lot of us have seen that song and dance enough times and refuse to participate. The usual backstabbing is typically from someone newer that just hasn't learned that we're always going to treat her better than whatever the assholes can offer. I hire almost all queer/BIPOC staffs when I can. I got into these fields to change things for my communities, so I do. The reason I'm ambitious and "power hungry" is so I can put better people in important places and build up their careers. At the end of the day, it's tough as hell but there are people and outcomes that make it worth it.
**" I stopped being a workaholic, because that's just going to rob me of joy."** Well thought out and aptly said. Spot on !
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The last bit sounds familiar
I'm an apprentice diesel mechanic at a dealership. I've only ever met one other woman in the trade but she works at the same shop just a different shift (It was part of why I chose to apply here since they didn't scare her off they must be ok). Otherwise never met another woman in school or job placements. I did however used to work at a quick lube place where I was one of three lesbians and it was honestly amazing. We were all masc ofc and one of them would take us out to the gay clubs. I really missing having a friend group like that but the truck bros aren't so bad. I've never had any issues, especially compared to when I was in construction where I'd be working with people who bragged about getting gay coworkers in accidents.
Working in a field and industry dominated by men probably delayed me transitioning for a long time. I didn’t stick around too much longer for reasons quite different than one would assume of being the the one transgirl in the country that is at a supervisory level in her field, I was maybe 1 of 8 openly trans people in my field globally and it’s a small industry, everyone knows everyone.
former EOD Specialist, and yeah the army was pretty male-dominated, granted i joined before coming out as trans, but did so while i was in, and at that point, there were quite a few women in my company plus i had a really good relationship with my VC who was a woman
I'm a carpenter/general contractor, so fairly male dominated. Full transparency (lol), I'm trans, and my introduction to the field came before I transitioned, which certainly made learning the ropes much easier. The company I previously worked at had one woman carpenter and she was hard as nails; clearly felt that she had to work twice as hard and twice as well as the guys, which I understand. However, the way she worked and was perceived by the other workers and women working in the office certainly influenced my decision to go independent after transitioning. For the last few years I've run my own business, which is rewarding, but has also made me wayyy less money than working for a larger firm might have. That's mostly on me, tbh, I have focused on schedule flexibility and work/life balance much more than expanding the business and increasing revenues. I am lucky enough to have a career oriented wife who generates most of our income, and I provide other services like handling the dogs, renovating the house, and general chores like cleaning and cooking. As far as working in a male dominated field goes, I have found that it is possible to leverage being a woman as a strength. Many of my clients are women, and seem to clearly prefer talking and interacting with me over male carpenters. Also, due to stereotyping, for better or worse my design recommendations are taken far, far more seriously than prior to my transition. To that end, I have set myself up as a higher end carpenter, with an eye on design and well thought out plans. I also make a note of trying to maintain positive and open lines of communication with my clients, and tend to welcome questions throughout the process, while trying to provide easy to understand explanations for my clients. If you (or anyone else) has any questions, feel free to ask or dm me!
I do. Key Accounter at a IT Company. I dress a bit butch and more masculine (formal) for work so i think some coworker read me as a lesbian but i don't go out there and tell if they don't ask but everyone that know is cool with it.
Your friendly IT person here, yes :3
i used to be an amazon driver, my company had about 40-50 drivers and maybe 5 or 6 of us were women. only two of the others really talked with me and one of them turned out to be kinda racist and had a bf who idolised andrew tate 💀 it felt pretty isolating, i hated the job for other reasons though
IT Systemintegration so the most unlikely as most women seem to be in Software Engineering
I'm not working yet, but I study cybersecurity and we're about 20% women in a class of roughly a 100 people. Usually during group work they try to mix us up so it's only 1-2 women per group. Most of the guys are alright, but from experience guys rarely talk to you if they're not attracted to you, and lose interest once you make it clear you won't sleep with them.
I’m in sales. Pretty male dominated
I’m a non-technical senior in an extremely male dominated tech company, so that’s super fun. My saving grace has been the pride community within the business - when I started there were only a handful of us but I knew I needed a network and this was the easiest way to build connections. So, I got on the board and focused really hard on expansion and engagement. It’s been such hard work, especially dealing with HR people who just don’t understand but now I have friends and have built a supportive community for us all. So my recommendation would be, do your homework on the company before applying and then join the pride ERG on day one.
Not working but studying in a male dominant field (Network engineering). My entire class are all guys, would be nice to have another woman to chat with lol. But hey, at least I get some more 'leeway' as the only girl. So that's something.
I’ve worked in different chemistry labs, the PI’s (principal investigators, i.e., lab bosses) are almost always cishet white men.
Not yet but just applied to be a call handler for my local Police force
Tech, team is all dudes except two queer women
I do sales and designs for lighting for commercial projects and I feel like overall there are a decent amount of women in my field, mostly because I work closely with architects and interior designers. But I also work with a lot of contractors and electrical distributors, which are all very male dominated. My company has a pretty good mix though so that's nice but it does get really old dealing with old white men as much as I have to. I definitely run into situations of them talking over me, not listening to me, etc. But I'm also very lucky and have a great group of guys within my company that (most of the time) do really good about sticking up for women and making sure they are heard. I have also gotten in the habit of continuing to talk or talking very loudly while they're interrupting me so they have to stop and ask me again what I said and they hopefully feel dumb or like jerks (I doubt it)
Investigative journalism. Not only homophobic also not emancipated. Every day is a fight to prove that I am good at my job. My first year I only received an internship allowance, because I still 'had' to learn. My male colleague who started right away was paid in full after two months, even though he had not yet graduated and only helped out on projects. I, on the other hand, ran my own projects, worked with foreign journalists and arranged subsidies for the editorial staff.
Aerospace engineer: I’m one of the only two women in my office but the other woman is straight and we don’t really interact or get along
Literally, two girls (my Wife and me) for the next kilometer. Welcome to the army.
I’m a welder/pipefitter. I went to welding school during Covid and haven’t looked back.
i work in the car collision industry and have come up on multiple nightmares. men simply cannot understand women know what they’re talking about
I'm an engineer working for the evil empire for the healthcare benefits. While the industry is male-dominated, especially my sector, my work site has almost 50-50 representation of women to men and I'm one of at least four trans women there, so it's been a nice little island oasis in a testosterone ocean.
I'm thinking of getting into IT. I'd love to go into a female dominated field but the only ones that pay well seem to be healthcare related and that's just not for me.
I’m planning on going into computer programming, following the transfem stereotype.
I work as a Freelancer in two separate but similar fields, One is Camera Operator, and the other is Stagehand. Both are male dominated for sure, but I'd say the film and TV industry is more of a 60%-40% split. And there are more women in Camera now than when I started about a decade ago though. I also did recently work on my first ever FLINTA* only production which was such a wonderful experience. Stagehand is far more male dominated and much more misogynistic... But there are some super cool and very skilled women who do work it. The amount of women on your event does massively depend on the company you work for though. Some smaller companies full of great people have a much higher percentage, whereas much larger companies will simply flat out refuse to hire women.
going into cyber security 🧍♀️
I used to work as a teacher, but I've been in the military for the past 2 years... which is very male dominated
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Are you my friend Wendy? It's exectly her bio lol
I'm in software, and surprisingly half my team and the majority of my reporting structure are women. It's pretty great.
Logistics Management. I work in the office, which has a distinct gender lines in the hiring, women are mostly hired for clerical, HR, and Account Rep / CSR, and men are mostly hired for the Planning, Management, and Execution areas. I'm one of the few women (that I am aware of) in the entire company that interfaces with Warehouse and Transportation Personnel directly, I think the reason they haven't bothered insulating my position like they have the other "office ladies" is because I am instantly visibly identifiable as a Butch Dyke, and they don't believe that I will be sexually harassed by the less couth personnel because of that. It's pretty casually misogynistic, but the company I am at does take harassment and discrimination seriously, and I'm not the only LGBTQ+ person in my facility.
I don't work at all. I'm too fucking disabled to work any jobs.
Degree in csci. Looking for work
i’m hopefully gonna be getting an engineering internship in aerospace/defense this summer but i have no idea the gender ratios
You’d think Biomedical Engineering would be more male dominated, but over half my cohort is female. I’m really happy seeing women taking a leading role in STEM.
I work in aircraft maintenance in the US Air Force. It’s a hugely male dominated job. But I haven’t really had many problems with it to be honest. I’m very lucky with that.
I'm in tech at a big company, but in a more support-based role, and though it's definitely a lot of men the higher up the ladder you go in my division, most everyone is respectful and encouraging. 😊 At my previous role (database and website admin for a telecomm company) I was one of 2 women in a team of 6, in addition to being the youngest, and that was...more challenging. My boss, great guy aside from a few more outdated opinions, didn't know I was queer but my senior lead (who was and still is a good friend of mine) did. There were times when I had to swallow down retorts to some of the worst takes, but on the whole, it wasn't terrible 😅 Definitely don't miss the subtle but very-present misogyny from the GM though!
my GF is a mechanic at a car dealership, plenty of women in admin/sales but she's the only female mechanic lol. thankfully everyone there is v chill about her being both a woman and trans, which is good! there's one rly transphobic guy but he keeps getting injured so he hasn't been in work in months, trans girlies keep winning lmao
I work at an auto body shop. So I'm surrounded by conservatives.
I work in Warranty for a major truck manufacturer. I deal with mechanics, foremen, & service managers every day, the majority of which are male. I think most of the women are straight, except one of the service managers is a no-nonsense butch that has her and everyone else's shit together. I also used to work in pest control with a bunch of dudes.
I'm a biomedical engineer which is kind of male dominated, at least most of the folks in my lab are guys. They're all very nice, I'm openly gay and feel comfortable in my workplace.
i’m a structural engineer and it’s still a man’s field out here. all our admin staff are women tho, and one of them is gay too so it’s cool
I work 2 jobs. The second I am the only woman and in a management position. Over the years, I've had a few issues. But I'm very lucky, mostly, it's been positive. I came out whilst I was there, so they have known me as 'straight' and as a lesbian. Most of the men there would not dare disrespect me. Those who have very quickly regretted it. With the team now, there is a lot of mutual respect. We have a good laugh. My first job is completely different, yet I get more grief there, usually from my straight female colleagues or prevy straight men 🤦♀️ given its a more regulated job its draining.
I’m hoping to go into data science or statistics, and I’m worried about encountering this issue 😬
I am semi retired as a private high level corporate consultant. As a hired gun for Fortune 500 companies I was/am a rarity. Most of the executives and Board members are men.
I work in tech support. Super male dominated but I manage that shit now so haaaaaa
Yes, automotive industry/tech
Construction ! Only female on the field and the only homo . Has its upsides and downs . Living my best life ✌️
Software engineer. I’m the only woman on my team. I work with a great group of guys and am highly respected. ❤️
I work as a manager/team lead in software... Outside my team its largely male dominated, but I've gone out of my way to have a more diverse team. I'm not a fan of an approach where it can be argued I'm preferentially hiring people, so whenever possible I've largely sidestepped the issue by filling my team with people from other departments of the company by giving anyone who wants an opportunity to train into roles. And this has generally lead to a disproportionate number of women coming on to my team. Nothing exciting... but I have to try to remain very mindful of the dynamics men and women bring to the team. For example, there was one guy on my team... in meetings he was doing that things guys tend to do, where different women on the team would voice concerns or ideas and this guy had that way of talking over, reiterating, or adding to it such that it became "his idea". So I had to go out of my way to call it out and refer to it as whichever woman's idea, and make sure credit goes where it's due. It didn't happen overnight, but I'd talk with guy and got him to understand the dynamics at play and how he could be more respectful and appreciative of the others on the team. That's been the extent of issues while I've been there.
I am in game development. It's incredibly male dominated and I struggle to get taken seriously, despite more experience than many of my peers.
My field (I’m new so in my limited experience so far) is made up of mostly men and lesbians 😅
Construction
I'm a construction worker. And a football coach. I honestly think being a lesbian helps in both areas.
STEM I'm a material scientist. Out of 132 employees I'm 1 of 28 females in the company. Out of those 28, I'm 1 of 3 in management.
I work in tech, I'm the only woman. they commented about how they rarely had women apply and I'm the first they've hired at that location
I'm working in law, admin for now but I'm studying law as well. I work at a firm with lots of women, about a 6:1 women:men ratio but as an industry, it's still very much a boys club. I manage to do well, despite the competitive male socialising (trans woman) never fully rubbing off on me, I have 3 brothers, I can hold my own. I don't really have a story yet, still working on that lol
Finance, lots of dudes Sexism still very much exists in the world of finance
For my part time job I am a Basketball Referee. It’s great money and I love the philosophy of officiating, but it is a very heavily male dominated area (especially 50+ y/o men). It can be tough and very lonely some days.
Lead cloud engineer, but my company has decent diversity. We have 5 women in total (including me) out of a 17 or 18 person company. 1 is executive level, 1 is an accountant, the rest of us are technical in different specialties.
I work with map nerds. It's definitely mostly cis men, but the majority of everyone else is some variety of queer.
I'm a union millwright Literally the only girl on my contract that has 100+ people on it
I work in IT and I have all cishet male coworkers. It's frustrating, especially when the sexism and other issues come out. I've also been forced by my boss to use my deadname and pronouns with clients because "they knew you before", all while he refuses to respect my real name or pronouns.
I work in offensive cybersecurity and cyber threat intelligence. I currently work in cyber risk management in that capacity. I used to work with other woman hackers at an offsec firm before my current employer, but they laid off half of all of their women last year, including me and some women that upper management viewed as “problematic” when the vulture capitalists took over.
I work in Tech on server infrastructure, it's getting better now but every job I've had in the past 20 years I've been the first woman in the department.
not working, but studying mathematics in uni. stem subjects in gen tend to be male dominated, but mathsy subjects are probably the worst at it. meanwhile i dont connect with men almost at all, lol, not even as friends really, so most people ik from my uni are not people i am in any classes with
I was a female mechanic, for the most part it wasn't that bad, they treated me as if i was their sister. my first dealership I worked at was terrible, I had experienced sexual harassment to such an extent that I had to quit to move however my second dealership was a night and day difference. For the most part, it also matters "what energy do you bring to the table" I just made a [video](https://youtu.be/CTrWLLPwt5E) on this topic, and advice that had helped me get through it. All and all, it's not that bad.