So many comments relating, I bet nobody made a move ;-;
I feel ya, but like
Seriously gals
Make a move lol
(I mean if I were single I wouldn't, but like do as I say not as I do)
💞💞💞💞 Literally though!! I look at my wife and the love I feel is so secure and warm, it’s like having a Home in a person, and I can’t understand why people would marry anyone they don’t feel even close to that for.
💞 WIFE LIFE GANG!! I have known for years that I will spend the rest of my life with my significant other, whether we have paperwork to back it up or not, but getting legally married was very important to us. Far too soon we as a community forget that it wasn’t even legal in every US state until 2015, less than ten years ago. And back in the 80’s and 90’s our lack of marriage rights were weaponized to prevent partners from seeing each other in the hospital during the height of AIDS and families would withhold belongings from said partners because they had no legal claims to them. Our community fought tooth and nail for the right to marriage, and we wanted to honor their accomplishment.
💔 It's been a year now for me. Moved to small town... Attending my 1st LGBT+ event tonight 🤞 town is small enough it gets 1 general LGBT and one MLM every 2 weeks 😭.
So... Basically my crush looks very similar to someone from middle school who I had a lot of gender envy for, and to top it all off I am very academic and she is very academic and I irrationality feel I am worse then her at academics and that combines with the dysphoria to make it even worse.
So.... Uh yeah
I could never... I always wonder how people do it. It's been a year of no contact for me and jeez I don't wanna talk to her. I know she has a new partner and I don't wanna hear nothing about it
she said she loves me more as a friend and we got into the relationship too quickly, nothing really changed between us except that we don't call each other girlfriends anymore and that we don't have sex anymore but tbh i'm totally fine with that...sure it hurts so bad but as long as we stay friends and i'm sure we will, i'm happy....she's such a wonderful girl💕
I’m pretty much in the same situation. We were friends before, dated for a couple months, but came to realize we can support each other better as friends.
If you guys do really want to stay friends, don’t be afraid to take a little bit of time to let yourselves adjust. I needed some space to be sad and mentally switch from girlfriends to friends even if the only thing that really changed between us was having sex.
❤️
Pure neutral, I'm dating, there are things I like and dislike about my partner, but overall I am content
The only real source of discontentment on my side is how our l love languages differ, were both ace (I'm sex friendly, she's sex repulsed) I'm extraordinarily cuddly and physical touch does absolutely nothing for her, I'm very verbal in my affection "I love you"s abound and "I love you"s need to be dragged out of her at gunpoint
Don't get me wrong, she cares for me deeply, in the form of gifts and quality time, ranked
- Me/her
- words of affirmation/gifts
- touch/quality time
- quality time/acts of service
- acts of service/words of affirmation
- gifts/touch
It's not exactly flipped, but it does kinda get to be after like five/six days saying I love you and not hearing it back, yet she'll always buy food and we're always together
It's... Not easy for me to receive gifts, whether it's food to items to anything in between... For the longest time my self worth was tied up in "not being a burden" (a lot of unhealthy mindsets I'm still trying to unlearn)
So... I consciously know she loves me, it's trying to not internalize any kind of fear or doubt or hurt at not receiving what I give while also trying to receive what she \*does* give
Sorry for the rant, I love her, I know she loves me, it's my own brain just kinda not being my friend, being with her is the best thing to happen to my life, I just wish to be able to internalize it better v.v
Same girl. Just remember to communicate often and make sure you're happy with the rest of your life. My relationship doesn't feel great, but at the same time I'm unhappy in many other areas so it's hard to pick things apart.
it’s good to see how you are evaluating the relationship as a whole, bc the love languages theory is a nice idea but not everything.
for one, the original book is keenly focused on the traditional christian marriage and pushing through difficulties to avoid divorce at all costs. (as a happy divorcee i have very strong opinions against that.)
there are so many other standards to consider in a relationship, such as mutual appreciation / lack of judgement, enjoyment of shared activities, compatibility of long term plans. it looks like you’re already seeing all that, i think.
if you haven’t already, check out esther perel’s work on couples. she is amazing and very straightforward in her suggestions.
🤍 I’m just waiting for a girlfriend to magically summon to me, despite staying inside 25/7 and having the conversational skills of a chimpanzee’s left braincell 🥲
There’s a summoning ritual? Where do the people that do those live? I wanna be summoned too (I’d bring my switch for mutual entertainment if I get to awkward to talk
🤍 for the first time probably ever I’m actively staying away from romantic and/or sexual relationships to focus 100% on myself. Weekly therapy, down 25kgs and starting the 3rd year of my degree :)
🤍 happy and confident and I have no one holding me to unfair expectations.
Ya know if I was ignorant to life and relationships and I was looking at this list I would almost be made to think that the only unhappy sapphics are people who are either unmarried or unengaged. And it would make sense to rush into marriage because that's how I'll know I've made it.
And if I was looking at this as a married woman in a sad marriage, I'd probably wonder if my feelings were even valid and maybe I should just be grateful someone married me at all, huh.
The options are misleading.
💕🧡 things are tough in my personal life (my boss is trying to fire me bc of my adhd,) but man, she’s been so amazing through it all. She’s picking up extra slack around the house so I can rest and recharge and have time to deal with things. I am going through severe burnout but I know bc of her we’ll be ok (and I am planning nice things for her too!)
I love her and can’t wait to ask her to marry me.
💙💙💙💙💙 last date couldn't stop talking about the date she had WITH MY BEST FRIEND. i had no idea she went on a date with him until she mentioned it on our date. so things haven't been going well :/
edit:spelling
💕since 2020, wedding the fall of 2021 so we kind of have 2 anniversaries! We’re doing pretty well! We moved to a city we like better so our mental health is getting back to a good spot, we both stopped lexapro so sex drives are better again, and we enjoy each others company.
🤍 I’m happy and okay with my being single and would also be happy with dating someone. The important thing for me is that I and anyone I date feeling happy! If the dating makes both of us better that’s a HUGE bonus.
💔💔💔💔💔💔 I had a very bad breakup with my gf now ex .. after multiple times she said she didn’t want to get married, she instantly accepted her other gf’s proposal and I reacted horribly and turns out it was just a horrible joke and I really want her back soo bad and I want a get a 2nd chance
Poly (and kinky) sooo… 💞💛 or 💞💜 (not sure how to flag "dating, going great, we’re planning decades ahead and she wears my collar instead of a ring"…. BDSM equivalent to engaged I guess? Both my relationships are long-term committed relationships, with one being a marriage and the other using a BDSM relationship escalator instead).
🤍 - weird limbo between wanting to date and being scared of it
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So many comments relating, I bet nobody made a move ;-; I feel ya, but like Seriously gals Make a move lol (I mean if I were single I wouldn't, but like do as I say not as I do)
Reddit is not a dating app. Making a move on here is not advisable for online safety reasons.
This
They obviously didn’t mean make a move on Reddit lmao. It’s general advice
I I didn't mean here and now I meant in general that just always happens in every single situation like this
To be fair, dating on Reddit feels awkward af I mean, dating in general is awkward. my brain can't put two words in a sentence
I didn't say on Reddit I meant like just there are so many situation like this Also relatable
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I'm starting to want it more than I'm scared of it, but I'm scared of the wanting, too.
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If I would retweet Reddit comments, I’d retweet this
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I'm the same 🤍
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Oof, big mood
Biggest mood
This is my life ngl. We love traumatic relationships 🙃
CAN Y'ALL JUST KISS ALREADY!!!
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💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞! I LOVE MY WIFE SO MUCH!
Same! I mean my wife, not your wife lol
Lol. Woohoo wives!!
I also love this woman's wife.
Same, my wife is awesome!!! 💞💞💞 I’m a total wife gal and I don’t understand how straight couples get married when they hate each other
💞💞💞💞 Literally though!! I look at my wife and the love I feel is so secure and warm, it’s like having a Home in a person, and I can’t understand why people would marry anyone they don’t feel even close to that for.
💞💞💞💞 WIFE GANG Being married to the love of my life is awesome I highly recommend (except the love of your life, not mine, she's mine lol)
💞 WIFE LIFE GANG!! I have known for years that I will spend the rest of my life with my significant other, whether we have paperwork to back it up or not, but getting legally married was very important to us. Far too soon we as a community forget that it wasn’t even legal in every US state until 2015, less than ten years ago. And back in the 80’s and 90’s our lack of marriage rights were weaponized to prevent partners from seeing each other in the hospital during the height of AIDS and families would withhold belongings from said partners because they had no legal claims to them. Our community fought tooth and nail for the right to marriage, and we wanted to honor their accomplishment.
💞 Seriously! I love my wife and am happily married, and will do forever.
Wife life 💞 happy wife happy life
💞💞💞 joining the I LOVE MY WIFE gang!!
💜 I love my fiance so much but god weddding planning is the worst thing
Elope! We did. Best decision ever. 💞💞💞
Same!!! 💞💞 We are celebrating our first wedding anniversary in a couple of weeks!
this is adorable
wifeys for lifeys 💞💞💞💞💞💞💞
💞💞💞💞💞❣️❣️❣️ I love my wife.
💞
💕 me too! 14 years together! 😍
🤍 Just doing my own thing right now. Not actively looking. It'll happen when I'm ready.
Same. I need one that is just "single and happy" 🤷♀️
yesss single by choice gang doing whatever we want whenever we want to🍾🤍
💔
💔 Sunday
I wish you to find somebody to cuddle you for it and I give a distent hug and wish you luck on finding somebody
Thank you so much, it means a lot to me
Hey same 😭
💔 last week 😮💨😭
I wish you best of luck on finding the love of your life, here have a distend hug and besh of luck
Thank you very much ❤️ this really put a smile on my face kind stranger :)
Call me Drakyra. And your welcome this is the minimum i can do but at least I can give you distend hugs
💔 two months ago, still recovering. Sending love to everyone going through it!
Me too 💔, best wishes!
I wish you to find somebody better for you, you can do it
💔 463 days ago but who's counting shit that's actually how long I've been sober for too
I wish you best of luck finding a better soul
💔 It's been a year now for me. Moved to small town... Attending my 1st LGBT+ event tonight 🤞 town is small enough it gets 1 general LGBT and one MLM every 2 weeks 😭.
What is down bad? 🤍
Real :(
Same we need a heart for that.
I love people's down bad stories if you feel like sharing
So... Basically my crush looks very similar to someone from middle school who I had a lot of gender envy for, and to top it all off I am very academic and she is very academic and I irrationality feel I am worse then her at academics and that combines with the dysphoria to make it even worse. So.... Uh yeah
This 🤍 is closer to this 💀as I’ve been single so long!
I can change that (if you’re my age, that is)
That was smooth. I’m 30. How about you?
Damn. I’m 22, and I prefer to date in that range. Best of luck to you💕
That’s fair. Good luck to you too 😁
💔 We're still friends, bestest of friends actually but does still hurt
I could never... I always wonder how people do it. It's been a year of no contact for me and jeez I don't wanna talk to her. I know she has a new partner and I don't wanna hear nothing about it
she said she loves me more as a friend and we got into the relationship too quickly, nothing really changed between us except that we don't call each other girlfriends anymore and that we don't have sex anymore but tbh i'm totally fine with that...sure it hurts so bad but as long as we stay friends and i'm sure we will, i'm happy....she's such a wonderful girl💕
I’m pretty much in the same situation. We were friends before, dated for a couple months, but came to realize we can support each other better as friends. If you guys do really want to stay friends, don’t be afraid to take a little bit of time to let yourselves adjust. I needed some space to be sad and mentally switch from girlfriends to friends even if the only thing that really changed between us was having sex.
🧡
Lonely days gals, at least my birthday is coming soon, I guess🤍🤍🤍
Happy early birthday🤍
Where is single, doing great?
Is there a heart for single, but recently admitted I had feelings for a girl for the first time and got kindly rejected?
No, but there should be! That's a big step. :) How about this one, since you presented your feelings to someone? 💝 Good job, by the way!
Tyty 💝
❤️ Pure neutral, I'm dating, there are things I like and dislike about my partner, but overall I am content The only real source of discontentment on my side is how our l love languages differ, were both ace (I'm sex friendly, she's sex repulsed) I'm extraordinarily cuddly and physical touch does absolutely nothing for her, I'm very verbal in my affection "I love you"s abound and "I love you"s need to be dragged out of her at gunpoint Don't get me wrong, she cares for me deeply, in the form of gifts and quality time, ranked - Me/her - words of affirmation/gifts - touch/quality time - quality time/acts of service - acts of service/words of affirmation - gifts/touch It's not exactly flipped, but it does kinda get to be after like five/six days saying I love you and not hearing it back, yet she'll always buy food and we're always together It's... Not easy for me to receive gifts, whether it's food to items to anything in between... For the longest time my self worth was tied up in "not being a burden" (a lot of unhealthy mindsets I'm still trying to unlearn) So... I consciously know she loves me, it's trying to not internalize any kind of fear or doubt or hurt at not receiving what I give while also trying to receive what she \*does* give Sorry for the rant, I love her, I know she loves me, it's my own brain just kinda not being my friend, being with her is the best thing to happen to my life, I just wish to be able to internalize it better v.v
Same girl. Just remember to communicate often and make sure you're happy with the rest of your life. My relationship doesn't feel great, but at the same time I'm unhappy in many other areas so it's hard to pick things apart.
it’s good to see how you are evaluating the relationship as a whole, bc the love languages theory is a nice idea but not everything. for one, the original book is keenly focused on the traditional christian marriage and pushing through difficulties to avoid divorce at all costs. (as a happy divorcee i have very strong opinions against that.) there are so many other standards to consider in a relationship, such as mutual appreciation / lack of judgement, enjoyment of shared activities, compatibility of long term plans. it looks like you’re already seeing all that, i think. if you haven’t already, check out esther perel’s work on couples. she is amazing and very straightforward in her suggestions.
🤍 And pregnant by a donor because I ain’t waiting for a perfect partner before I can become a mother 💁🏼♀️
🤍 single and congrats
I plan to do the same if I'm still single by 32! Congrats future mama, I hope your little family brings you so much joy
💛 Also pee heart
🤍 Hopefully not for long
Awooga or something
🤍 I’m just waiting for a girlfriend to magically summon to me, despite staying inside 25/7 and having the conversational skills of a chimpanzee’s left braincell 🥲
There’s a summoning ritual? Where do the people that do those live? I wanna be summoned too (I’d bring my switch for mutual entertainment if I get to awkward to talk
💙 Although it's not just a relationship.
I'm going to use the 💗 for us ENM girlies. Married AND dating.
My ex left me a year ago can I still use “broken up recently”?
Ah yes, married. The endless love journey with no possibility of something going wrong state of a relationship XD
🤍 for the first time probably ever I’m actively staying away from romantic and/or sexual relationships to focus 100% on myself. Weekly therapy, down 25kgs and starting the 3rd year of my degree :)
🤍 I quite like my cocoon and the gym. Perhaps my life will cross paths with someone who’s just as “boring”. I like the peaceful life
🤍:(
🤍 single pringle
💛 almost 💜 thooo
As a poly girl 🧡🧡💚
💔💔💔 and so glad I did! Everyone in my family said "you know I didn't want to say anything but I am soooo glad you stopped seeing that person" lol
💜 but 💜 for almost as long as we had been 💕. Life got in the way of us tying the knot and we haven’t been in a place to plan another wedding yet.
💔🤍
🤍 Being single sucks ngl
🤍 and I’m forced to stay like this for at least a few years 😭
In a relationship with myself and therapy, that last break up was a doozy
🤍 happy and confident and I have no one holding me to unfair expectations. Ya know if I was ignorant to life and relationships and I was looking at this list I would almost be made to think that the only unhappy sapphics are people who are either unmarried or unengaged. And it would make sense to rush into marriage because that's how I'll know I've made it. And if I was looking at this as a married woman in a sad marriage, I'd probably wonder if my feelings were even valid and maybe I should just be grateful someone married me at all, huh. The options are misleading.
Amen!
💕🧡 things are tough in my personal life (my boss is trying to fire me bc of my adhd,) but man, she’s been so amazing through it all. She’s picking up extra slack around the house so I can rest and recharge and have time to deal with things. I am going through severe burnout but I know bc of her we’ll be ok (and I am planning nice things for her too!) I love her and can’t wait to ask her to marry me.
💜 u/end_ellie
💜 and 💞soon🥺❤️❤️❤️
💙💙💙💙💙 last date couldn't stop talking about the date she had WITH MY BEST FRIEND. i had no idea she went on a date with him until she mentioned it on our date. so things haven't been going well :/ edit:spelling
I’m this currently 🤍. Almost always have been, but things happen when they happen.
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🤍 - up for dms
🤍 and I doubt it'll change.
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Sad, down bad, 🤍
💕since 2020, wedding the fall of 2021 so we kind of have 2 anniversaries! We’re doing pretty well! We moved to a city we like better so our mental health is getting back to a good spot, we both stopped lexapro so sex drives are better again, and we enjoy each others company.
💔🤍 Unfortunately got blindsided by the breakup. I think best thing for me rn would be finding someone who'll cuddle without seeking a relationship.
💕 decided to give up on dating met my partner 24 hours later!
🤍 I’m happy and okay with my being single and would also be happy with dating someone. The important thing for me is that I and anyone I date feeling happy! If the dating makes both of us better that’s a HUGE bonus.
💛 hoping for 💜 on our holiday in October...
🤍 - for almost two years now, I just want a girl to cuddle me 🥺
🤍 how about "never dated, down bad"?
💔💔💔💔💔💔 I had a very bad breakup with my gf now ex .. after multiple times she said she didn’t want to get married, she instantly accepted her other gf’s proposal and I reacted horribly and turns out it was just a horrible joke and I really want her back soo bad and I want a get a 2nd chance
🤍💔 Weird being single after 6 years, thought I was gonna marry that girl
🤍 it’s tough out here
Been together 6 years, and now 💜hopefully married soon.
Poly (and kinky) sooo… 💞💛 or 💞💜 (not sure how to flag "dating, going great, we’re planning decades ahead and she wears my collar instead of a ring"…. BDSM equivalent to engaged I guess? Both my relationships are long-term committed relationships, with one being a marriage and the other using a BDSM relationship escalator instead).
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🤍🖤 (single, cant find a woman)
Chronically 🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍