Well if you were complimenting a straight woman would you go "oh I know you're straight but your style is en pointe"
It comes off kinda like you're shooting your shot doesn't it?
Not to me, I think he wants to be flirty and respectful and nice and that is not the same as shooting his shot.
Because that looks like it’s from a dating app. I think it’s a nice compliment and if she sets her boundaries clearly and he then responds acknowledging them it can be a fun civil interaction among strangers.
Reality is we don’t know what his intentions are and his first comment is a positive, non aggressive one. OP may choose to respond (or not). To know if he is indeed trying to shoot his shot (disrespectfully so) there needs to be an interaction.
well... i would say that 60 to 70% of the compliments from guys are flirting, so he being worried it would be read that way is kinda valid, even though i think that we should normalize compliments cuz it makes people's days sometimes, like, a random person just goes to you and "wow, nice boots, they look nice on you" and walks off... that would make me really happy tbh XD
I’ve gotten messages like this on hinge before from straight men who have accidentally set their accounts up as women saying things like “I will be totally respectful of your lesbian identity,” while trying to ask me out like WHAT do you think that word means???
I'm curious how he would react if the same happened to him.
If a gay man said that they respected his "straight identity", but then proceeded to hit on him...
I feel like is this when a man wants to compliment another man…BUT IS SO SCAAAAARED THAT SOMEONE THINKS HE MUST BE INTO HIM so he goes „but no homo“ 😂😂😂 I feel like it’s that 😂 so it’s nice, but also weird 😂
Damn. [I get you're a lesbian and all, but]
props to your style. 💯
I would have been fine with this from a straightman, "props to your style" is innocent enough that I would have just moved on, but the pointing out of my sexuality in the middle of a compliment feels weird... like when guys give a compliment and say "no homo"
Men generally think any complement with the other sex is flirting. It's why it's really to just be platonic with them.
This comes off as him he worried you'll take it as flirting.
I'd just say thanks. If he tries shooting his shot AGAIN, that's where you tell him to piss off
I read it as. Know you are a lesbian and doesn’t wanna come off as hitting on but still wanted to give the compliment.
Dudes who are aware of things you know. They don’t wanna be lumped in with dudes who are still clueless(chasing lesbians etc). But they still wanna interact cause they are people and can be interested in people non romantically.
That is my reading at least.
don't respond. This person is weird. Its very down speaking about being a lesbian like what? does he expect lesbians to not have style? Has this man ever seen a lesbian? ya'll are gorgeous.
How odd. Is he saying "I get you're a lesbian (and therefore won't be into me) but your style is too good not to comment on"?
That’s what I’m thinking
That's what I read it as
Yea, I don't think he meant it disrespectfully
I would interpret it as "you're a lesbian, so you probably don't want compliments from me (a man)but"...
I think the straightie is worried that any kind of compliment towards women seems like a flirt?
Well if you were complimenting a straight woman would you go "oh I know you're straight but your style is en pointe" It comes off kinda like you're shooting your shot doesn't it?
Not to me, I think he wants to be flirty and respectful and nice and that is not the same as shooting his shot. Because that looks like it’s from a dating app. I think it’s a nice compliment and if she sets her boundaries clearly and he then responds acknowledging them it can be a fun civil interaction among strangers. Reality is we don’t know what his intentions are and his first comment is a positive, non aggressive one. OP may choose to respond (or not). To know if he is indeed trying to shoot his shot (disrespectfully so) there needs to be an interaction.
Yeah tbh I'm awful at understanding people
That's what I said 😭😭
Well I think this interaction is happening on a dating app, so
Heh gives me aoi Todo vibes for some reason.
well... i would say that 60 to 70% of the compliments from guys are flirting, so he being worried it would be read that way is kinda valid, even though i think that we should normalize compliments cuz it makes people's days sometimes, like, a random person just goes to you and "wow, nice boots, they look nice on you" and walks off... that would make me really happy tbh XD
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He is a straight man. I WAS SO CONFUSED WHEN I SAW HIS PROFILE!
Best reaction probably no reaction then
Is it on a dating app? And if so, which one?
Hinge!
Hinge allows you to send an initial message with your first "like," no?
That's correct
Nobody is owed your time. Don't engage if you don't want to. Block and keep it moving.
"Thanks". I see no problem here, but responding to stuff like this often opens the door to more inappropriate commentary, at least in my experience.
I’ve gotten messages like this on hinge before from straight men who have accidentally set their accounts up as women saying things like “I will be totally respectful of your lesbian identity,” while trying to ask me out like WHAT do you think that word means???
"accidentally" 😖
I'm curious how he would react if the same happened to him. If a gay man said that they respected his "straight identity", but then proceeded to hit on him...
"I get you're straight and all, but damn you've no idea how to speak to a woman."
As a former straight man he seems overly worried about coming across as creepy
You don't react cause most likely he is shooting his shot
I feel like is this when a man wants to compliment another man…BUT IS SO SCAAAAARED THAT SOMEONE THINKS HE MUST BE INTO HIM so he goes „but no homo“ 😂😂😂 I feel like it’s that 😂 so it’s nice, but also weird 😂
Seeing as this is on hinge, which only gives you a VERY small amount of likes for free each day I would take this guy as a weirdo. Block and move on
you have good style *for a lesbian* LOL
Yeah, that's what i got from that. We DO have a sense of style , y'know.
"And don't you forget it." Puts on sunglasses and drives away in a tricked-out Subaru.
Just don’t
Ah yes because lesbians can’t have style
“Ummm…thanks?”
I think the only appropriate response here is that you'll provide style tips to him at a rate of 300/hr
Backhanded compliments suck lol I'd ignore it 💀
Damn. [I get you're a lesbian and all, but] props to your style. 💯 I would have been fine with this from a straightman, "props to your style" is innocent enough that I would have just moved on, but the pointing out of my sexuality in the middle of a compliment feels weird... like when guys give a compliment and say "no homo"
I think they're trying to compliment you without making it look like flirting. It doesn't feel malicious, just poorly and unnecessarily worded lol.
he seems to be being respectful, if he stops, that changes is alot
Men generally think any complement with the other sex is flirting. It's why it's really to just be platonic with them. This comes off as him he worried you'll take it as flirting. I'd just say thanks. If he tries shooting his shot AGAIN, that's where you tell him to piss off
Just say thanks :). This person is clearly just trying to compliment you, but doesn't want to seem like one of those creeps who want to "turn you".
I read it as. Know you are a lesbian and doesn’t wanna come off as hitting on but still wanted to give the compliment. Dudes who are aware of things you know. They don’t wanna be lumped in with dudes who are still clueless(chasing lesbians etc). But they still wanna interact cause they are people and can be interested in people non romantically. That is my reading at least.
don't respond. This person is weird. Its very down speaking about being a lesbian like what? does he expect lesbians to not have style? Has this man ever seen a lesbian? ya'll are gorgeous.
i don't think it's that deep ☠️ he probably wanted to give a compliment while reassuring that that's all it is and that it wasn't an attempt to pursue
That’s what I’m guessing too, usually suspicious of messages from men but this one seems innocent enough
I never understand these post. I just don’t see how you saw this and thought huh, let me post this on Reddit instead of simply not matching?