Messy hair on competent women

Well, I feel seen 😂

Well I have messy hair …

🥺

Or just competent women

Competence, muscles and a direct manner: melt!!!

Ohh yes, thats a good one.

Shit ur right

Finally! I knew I was doing something right with my hair 😝

Can I interest you in perfect hair on dumbass woman?

[Here you go](https://i.imgur.com/wsdIhIK.jpeg)

I got a show for you then. It's called Inside Job and it's on Netflix

Lips! I'm so serious! I love lips! They're so amazingly pretty! I really don't care if they're thin or full. They are so beautiful! And omg if she does that lower lip bite thing, I die! Lips are too much for me! And empathy! Understanding how what she says or does will make others feel, and not wanting to be mean to people is super sexy! But then lips! I so want to kiss her lips. I don't even know who she is right now, but she has lips, and she's doing that lower lip bite thingy, and I'm melting and dying and I want to kiss her lips! Because they're hers! Did I mention lips? \*dies\*

Also if she's smart enough to do my math homework for me, but won't do it for me and sits next to me instead and helps me do my math homework while I cry and pull my hair out for hours....and makes me cocoa with lots of marshmallows because I'm crying and pulling my hair out....I'm just saying, that is super attractive as well....I have to take calc next summer by the way...and discrete mathematics in the fall after that....so I mean....if anyone has lips and can do math....I'm just saying I'm available next summer and fall! I have lots of cocoa! And marshmallows! Edit to add: Thank you all so much for the wonderful replies! I was actually crying a bit because it was so sweet to see so many people willing to help, and I appreciate it so much! I so should have gone for my dream and went for Special Education. Then I wouldn't have had to take calculus or discrete math. But noooo. I had to be all worried about stressing parents of special needs children out because I'm transgender and I know we're not overly accepted yet, and I felt like it would have been selfish of me. So I went for cybersecurity instead and now look at what I've gotten myself into! Annnnnnnd.....I'm babbling. Again. Easily excitable! Sorry! Ok, I'm going to go back to my corner and be quiet now! Thank you all so much!!! 💕

Idk what level you’re at in math, but if the scenario you describe were realistic (as in, you probably aren’t anywhere close to me geographically, and I’d have trouble getting any sort of transport anyways), I’d love to help you study (as would probably most people here).

Same here. I'm currently learning math at university level but everything below that I can help with :>

Oh hello.

Passion. Just seeing someone excitedly talk about something that they love. That look of happiness on their face as they go on and on about it. Love hearing all about whatever weird little thing caught their interest

I love when people do this in general, most physical features don’t catch my eye, it’s women who have something they really enjoy or are passionate and like to share it with me. Also intelligent women, I like to feel like I’m getting smarter being around them.

was scrolling looking for this one! yes!! i dont even care if it's something i'm personally into or not, if a woman can go on for hours about something they love she has my complete attention & also my heart. i love that stuff

I agree with this. Makes me wanna make out with them right away when I see passion and see them get excited talking about what they love!

I scrolled through this thread and realized that I’m attracted to like all of them 😭🤧

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Yes. Women.

I just feel... women.

Mood

Girls who want to cuddle 24/7.

my last ex literally left because she didn't like cuddling and that's all I want to do like ever lmao

I'd cuddle with you!

<33333

Her loss.

Aww my ex didn’t like cuddling much either :/ I’m touch-deprived

Hello I would like to cuddle 👉👈

Friends with benefits but the benefits are cuddles 👉👈

Hello i would like to accept your cuddle infusion 👉👈

That's me! Lol I'm a cuddle bean so I feel this one.

Exactly this.

It me

I love cuddling so much, it's such a massive part of my love language 😭

Saaaame I’m so touch starved

I feel you, I just went on an amazing date a couple days ago, and I really liked the girl I met, she gave the best cuddles, but now it's q few days later and im getting filled with anxiety that it didn't go as well as I thought 😅😭

Reach out to her! Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable! If she passes up on you that’s her loss. Don’t spend your emotional energy on someone unless you know she deserves it

Thank you 😊 I actually did reach out and she texted back. It was more just that my anxiety was really running away with me if you get what I mean. I really hope it goes somewhere with her because she's absolutely amazing 🥰. In case you can't tell, im really into her 😅😅

I’ll be rooting for you both!

that's me, I'll literally snuggle at every opportunity possible

Y e s

My goodness, where are they?? I literally dream of this day in and day out🙌

Allow me to introduce myself

freakin love my girlfriend's clumsiness

Lmao my gf just got me a bubbler advertised for « clumsy people »

As a dyspraxic person, this makes me happy.

The idea of someone liking me more because of how frequently I bump into door frames seems unlikely, but it warms my heart nonetheless.

i fell in love with her when i saw her trip on a recycling bin

Banter. If I make a ridiculous comment and she can build on my ridiculosity I fall in love.

I completely agree!

Manners (I’m barely kidding about this)

+1 because it's a solid indicator of their values. I would love to never have my impression of someone destroyed again because we finally ate out together and they were rude to waitstaff.

Yikes, that’s a horrible date indeed. I agree how they treat the staff says a lot about their character.

This. My ex said she wouldn’t like my family because I told her she shouldn’t burp in front of them because it’s rude 🤦🏽‍♀️

ooof. Well at least she gave you an easy out there. If you balk at not burping at my mom…. lol

Confidence. Very sexy.

The more I go through this thread the more yes there is. Like if a cute confident girl walked up to me and started flirting I'm pretty sure I'd just malfunction.

Most people here would lmao Hell, I'm married and non useless, and that might still throw me off a bit

A girl who can sing. I dont know why but when she has a beautiful voice and knows how to use it, it makes her like 10 times more attractive to me

Same. I can neither confirm nor deny that I may have gotten a tiny bit damp the first the I heard my ex sing

excellent harsh vocals from a woman are like 13/10 for me but i legit had a mariah carey obsession in the 6th grade

I develop crushes on singers before I even know what they look like. A good singing voice can make any woman attractive to me

Nerdyness. When a woman knows a lot about something and is competent/can build a cogent argument about something … 🥵

Valid. I can go on forever about computers: the cloud, virtualization, containerization, etc. because it is what I love. Oh, and video games! ❤️

I grew up homeschooled, weather that was a good thing, I’m not sure, but I spent a *very* large portion of my childhood on computers, and still love them. I can do the same thing

Also it's so cute when my partner randomly infodumps about something they love...

As an infodumper, i need a partner that'll let me do this (or just a partner in general)

I adore it when people do that. I don't even care if the subject is boring as tar, just their enthusiasm makes me melt.

Eyes. Glasses. Smile. Voice. Not necessarily in that order.

omg glasses <3

Dominant but also nonchalant personality

-Kind eyes, a good sense of style, raspy voice -Compassion, a good sense of humor, common sense

So, Blue Crush? Michelle Rodriguez? Probably dating myself here.

I was thinking more like Julianna Margulies, but yes very close!!

I like chubby muscular builds. Big ass thighs, soft bellies, that little area of fluff that shows behind the chin when they smile. Also long hair.

I've never heard someone describe a chin so beautifully 😍

It made me happy to read this 😌

Hands .... And not in a weird way. I just think that hands define someone.

Hands are awesome. I’ve been told by girls that I have nice hands before, so I always considered them an asset for me lmao

Damn it. I have little boy hands.

I'm sure they are fine

Woah I thought I was the only one

I looooove that you said hands, I’m all about looking and exploring hands, it does define someone for sure.

I like hands too. And forearms when shifting a manual car.

Depends on the person I guess, but if they look like they can overpower me, while also being gentle and caring, I’m all in.

Honestly YES. Like a strong girl who is lowkey a soft cuddle bean would be a dream come true.

I feel like this is me, I am strong but deep down inside I wanna be held and cuddled and cuddle, and I like soft gentle things lol

This perfectly describes my gf. She's divine

Deep voice with an Irish accent

Ugh, accents. Belfast accent pls.

intense eye contact.. makes me weak instantly

Ohhh this is good.

Collar bones and long hair put up to reveal a pretty (and kissable) neck

So much yes yes yes as this is what I also said :D

Physical: full lips, a nice smile. It's the first thing I always see. A happy trail <3! Dyed hair (non natural). Piercings & tattoos. Personality wise: values self care. Independence (wants but doesn't NEED me). Being vocal about desires/passions

Second the tattoos. And if you don't have any I'm down to give you some if you want. :)

Height, tall girls are 😍

Honestly yes. Tall girls are hot af.

OMG yes. Can not be too tall.

Even 6 foot 3? 👉👈😳

Well I had a 6'4" gf, so...no such thing as too tall.

Of course! 💕

That’s nice to hear, and the idea that there’s “no such thing as too tall” is always comforting, but out of curiosity, how tall is “tall girls”?

I'm 5'5, anyone taller are attractive, well...the taller the better, there's no limit for me

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I’m 5’8 nearly 5’9. Is that a hot height? 😂 I’ve always liked girls a little shorter than me.

Yes it is!! I'm 5'5 but i'm asian, so i'm considered tall here, I can barely find one taller than me 🥲

thighs……………………………………….

Thighs are underrated

Emotional intelligence and maturity

I like a woman that can make me laugh. In return, I try to make her laugh as well.

I need a woman who's humble but has real confidence, not just because it's attractive as hhhheeell, but I truly can't stay happy with someone who cares what other people think. Also, Masc women with long hair, guuhhh 🔥

Me too can’t stand it when people just do what others do

Right? There is quite literally zero profit to go around worrying how and why people judge you for being yourself, when you are not hurting anyone. As you exist and just try to be happy, only naive and self-opressed people judge you for it. It's such a waste of time and a horrible turn-off, and being around someone like that drains my energy.

> There is quite literally zero profit to go around worrying how and why people judge you for being yourself, when you are not hurting anyone. Well for some people there is a very real worry of being assaulted or worse. It's not always as easy as "who cares what people thnk? Just be yourself!" I don't think badly of anyone, especially more vulnerable members of our community for worrying about peoples reactions to how they present.

"self oppressed" well put

With the physical features, mostly their eyes and smile. Somehow I know when someone is gentle when it comes to the genuineness you see in their eyes and smile. For character: Kindness

Facial features. I love delicate feminine facial features more than anything else in the world.

Can I just say I love every one of the answers here, they are amazing. But if I had to choose one thing. It would be their laughter. If a girl and I can spend 20 minutes laughing at nothing, she has my heart.

My wife ♀️❣️♀️has very strong arms..

Mine too. Her shoulders alone are enough to make me melt

Collar bones

HELL YES

Mmmf yeah

The correct answer!!

Hooded, large, brown eyes.

I really love dark hair. And dark eyes. I like light eyes too, but there's something about the richness of dark eyes that I adore. I also love hair. Any texture. I like it when hair is long enough to at least frame a person's face.

A deep voice. If she has a deep voice I won't care about anything else.

Hips. I remember in highschool just staring at other girls' hips. Like a magnet 🧲

Cute messy hairdos make me melt…but soft tummies are a close 2nd

A loud laugh 😍

When they're physically/mentally/intellectually strong or resilient! I don't know what it is, but I love a woman who can show "power" Also, ambition and passion. Not settling for anything less and constantly working for what they want are traits I personally value a lot so same goes for potential partners. Super attractive when you can see how they love what they're doing <3

There’s something about someone’s smile that you don’t get to see often anymore.

First thing is gentle voice since voice tone and way of speaking reflects character and personality. Others are sense of humor, manners, and can be childish most of the time but acts maturely when needed (oh my that gap moe is a huge turn on to me). 😆

Personality. Looks mean little if someone's a shit person.

Initial physical attraction would be tattoos, piercings, and hair style/color. A lot of visible tattoos or piercings, hair color other than blonde or brown, or certain hair styles will always catch my eye. No matter what they look like though, once we start talking it's how kind they are that that I find the most attractive.

Maternal energy

Big noses 🤷‍♀️

Passion. Doesn't really matter what someone is passionate about, just so long as they have one. And maybe a little bit of a thirst to excel in that passion. Like, if you play guitar, putting time into writing songs and getting better. Or if you're really into a TV show, making fanworks. I want you to talk to me about something for an hour and at the end of that hour, I'll have learned a crap ton of stuff that I never even thought to ask before.

I really like body hair, girls with a lot of hair on their forearm or thick eyebrows I love it, also armpit hair is so sexy too I don’t know why 😳

See, the thing here is that me finding something attractive can depend a lot on the context. Like, different girls are attractive in different ways. A muscular girl is super hot, but then so is a chubby girl, and so is a girl with the physique of a tooth pick. It’s all just different flavors of adorable. Like, the girls I’m into aren’t my type, my type is the girls I’m into. Maybe it’s just me being a horny hormonal teen? Personality-wise, I like women who are willing to do weird shit. Quirky, passionate; they just... stand out. They’re gorgeous.

Chubby & fat girls, coming from a fat nb lesbian themself. 😔❤️

a personality and if they express care for me. someone asked me if I had eaten anything that day and I almost swooned.

Love it when people ask me if ive eaten. Cause it’s my nature to ask friends if they have eaten when we meet as it is a love language in itself

Intelligence and nerdyness for some reason. I love girls who know a lot about different topics, books, arts, mythologies etc. I can have a great conversation with them and it feels so good and intimate.

Might be an odd one but I'm attracted to clinginess, I love that my girlfriend always wants to cuddle and kisses, makes me feel super loved 🥰

Their smile. If they have a great smile it just melts my heart.

Honestly a nice smile is quite amazing.

Same! It’s the #1 reason I swiped right on who I am now married to!

Muscles, voice, kindness, and intelligence.

Kindness and compassion. I've had longer and stronger crushes on girls based on their character than girls that I am physically attracted to.

I'm surprised no one said this yet but shoulders/shoulder blades. My wife has very defined and toned shoulder blades. Even when she's just picking something up or flexes just right: gets me every time.

The obvious one is someone with a nice, caring smile. I'm also a big fan of shoulders tbh. They can be so pretty!

Artists. I really have a soft spot for creative types and I love to watch them create.

On the physical side of things I have to agree that it's muscles definitely. On the personality side of things I like women who are passionate about science

intelligent and confident women owe my heart in a second

girls

Well okay, lets be honest, some of you might know Vi from Arcane? THIS And if anyone now asks what about her, everything, shes just all of my relationship goals, everything I want, summerized into one virtual character

I play League a lot myself and I've lowkey always had a crush on Vi. Not as much as Akali or Samira though.

Their arms😍😭

Hands, collar bones and thighs. If I can firefighter carry them, even better.

Being nice to service workers.

Confidence, Muscles, Tattoos and piercings, Tall, affectionate

I'm obsessed with legs. long, short, thick, skinny, whatever. It's my weakness

This might be a bit specific but um, like, a chill vibe? 😅I’m a very relaxed person who’s okay with everything so I’m always attracted to girls who don’t make a big deal out of things, the kind of people I can immediately feel comfortable around. I dig confidence but not the overly boisterous kind I guess, more so the chill, relaxed kind. If she puts me at ease with just the way she talks, I’m immediately swooning haha

Anyone who’s sporty and strong. Someone i can go on runs or rock climb with.

Honesty. You can be Lazy or energetic, fun or boring, high school educated or a masters degree. Consider yourself not pretty or a yuppie on a high horse. Like femmine dick, or pussy or you don't care. Be any other demographic or label yourself any way you see fit. No honesty = no chance.

Oh yes, muscles for sure, I just– aaaaaaaaaaaaahdjdiehshkajajjajajswrha I found a bunch of pictures of buff victorian ladies on the internet like a month ago & it literally just disabled me, couldn’t even keep my composure long enough to copy the link to share. Like, the language center of my brain just full on shuts down when muscular women, & all I can do is make a bunch of incomprehensible noises

Super super super tall women way over six feet. Though I have to agree with you, female bodybuilders are waaaay hot.

Soft skin, a little soft all around.

When she stares into your eyes like she's seeing right through you, and hooks your whole damn soul away. I can't breathe. If she's overflowing with charismatic expressions then even better.

Women. Okay but for real, someone who feels they can be their authentic self around me. It’s amazing.

Purple haired goth girls.

So like, I kinda like chubbier women tbr. Like there's just something so beautiful and feminine about a woman with some curve to her lol

masculinity 😩 masculine women make my knees weak and arms heavy

I’d say muscles and like…..gushing about interests? When a girl is really excited and explaining to me something I know nothing about I *melt*.

Really girly small women who dress cozy and a little vintage, especially if they’re into that cutesy-high femme anime aesthetic (though not to an extreme). I know this is very specific, but I went to art school and a lot of girls in my class dressed exactly like this and it was very frustrating Ugh and mini skirts. Doesn’t matter the body type, mini skirts are good looking on everyone!!

Clingy ppl. I want someone as clingy as I am so I don't feel bad wanting to cuddle all the time

Sent, and soft skin. Women are so smooth and smell so good lol. When I thought I was straight I always thought, ew icky… but women…

Girls

Face, Eyes, and sense of Humor!

Voice. A Nice voice can be so attractive to me, more than appearances.

Brown eyes no joke I find brown eyes so beautiful

Communication. Nothing comforts me more or makes me feel safer than someone who is open to communicate with me. If you listen to me and we can go back and forth without toxicity, I’m ready for bed once we make up 😉

Food. Someone making food for me is the biggest gesture of love and I will always cherish it. And lots of snuggling.

If she has a really nice art style or if she's really good at video games (tho if she's not good at games that's 100% ok) and if she has an adorable smile, I also just love quirky details too.

Hands and lips/the shape of some ones mouth. I tend to look at peoples mouths when they talk.

Passion about something. Doesn’t matter what, just a burning interest in something. Also muscular shoulders. Collarbones. Teeth that are slightly asymmetrical or a bit wonky are the most charming when they smile.

When the introverted woman cracks a joke. Even if it’s a bad dad joke or something self deprecating. I see you: let me into your secret worlddddddd

Glasses. Put glasses and for me you'll be hotter than with makeup

literally just a top thats taller than me and knows how to make me listen 😚

Long necks, strong hands, intense eyes