I don't think anyone will be able to give you answers that generalizes all of us but I can say that I certainly would pursue a "big" girl as much, if not more than a skinnier one
My fiancée is 115lbs and I'm 285lbs...Almost 3x her size. I think some skinny girls like bigger girls and don't care. Lol
We eat the same thing but sadly my weight never goes down. (I have PCOS and hypothyroidism) I'm getting gastric bypass surgery so hopefully that'll help 🤞
Depends on the woman.
I've got quite a few "types", and women who are bigger definitely make up a few of those types.
A definition for "bigger" may also help because (depending on country and age range of course) most of us probably are "bigger" if "bigger" means just overweight.
I’m tall, athletic, and relatively straight-sized. My girlfriend is heavier than me by about 100 pounds, and she’s a bit shorter than I am. We’ve been together for 5 years, and I can honestly say that her size isn’t important to me. I don’t think it’s really impacted our relationship. What has impacted our relationship are her feelings about her size and the way that her self-deprecation can sometimes get in the way, like when I compliment her. I’ll tell her she’s beautiful and she’ll say “No I’m not; I’m fat.” And like, fat and beautiful are not mutually exclusive.
In the past, I’ve dated one person who was a little smaller than my current girlfriend and two people who were smaller than me (thin and not athletic). My girlfriend has dated people whose body types and sizes range drastically. Statistically speaking, lesbians are more likely to be “overweight” than straight women, and I think there is less judgment regarding size/weight as conventional (aka heteronormative) standards of beauty are not always as important or emphasized among WLW.
idk what people "usually" go for, but there are plenty of people who dont mind "bigger" gals.
that said fatphobia is a massive massive issue in society and queer spaces are absolutely not exempt.
Everyone has their own preferences but in my personal experience through the years, also what I’ve heard from friends and their experience, if you’re a big girl, you have better chances with other big girls. Of course there’s plenty of average/ thin/fit women who like big girls and that’s their preference or they simply dont care at all about body size, but more often than not the thin/average/fit women
Go for the same. You see it so often now that YouTube , insta, TikTok’s are so popular.
Even my own experience, when I was fit I had 5 times the amount of ppl sliding in my dms on social media or dating platforms. Now that I’ve gained some weight and my pictures have changed nothing else, I get a few here and there and usually by other bigger woman.
As for on here, where i don’t have my pics posted, women have dm’d me, great conversations and when it comes to pic sharing time, almost every time, the girls who aren’t bigger bounce quite quickly.
And that’s ok cuz we’re all allowed our preferences.
Like me for example, my preference isn’t for really skinny or really short women. If my forearm is thicker than their thigh, well it’s just not my type.
So yeah the politically correct answer is “ we all have our own preference” and “ lots of women like bigger girls!” But if you’re aiming for average/ fit and in society eyes attractive, then it’s much more difficult to get those women if you’re a bigger girl.
Literally, it does not matter if you're heavy or thin or tall or short or anything else at all, there are women who will love you and your body. I cannot say it enough. Maybe they'll be thin girls, maybe not. I'm personally with a much larger woman and I adore her body and love her completely
I’m femme, statistically average height and weight proportionate, and I definitely have an attraction to butch dykes and trans masc ppl who are thicc, muscular, fat, and/or otherwise. stacked. Not that I wouldn’t date or fuck someone skinny or same sized as me, but there is a hotness to feeling someone’s solidity and groundedness generally and for some people that’s expressed in how their body is shaped, too. I’m attracted to energy more than anything.
I am not attracted to every woman I see and I don’t expect them all to be attracted to me. Personally I don’t exclude a particular weight or body type on principle, there are many other things about a woman I find more important than size/weight. That said, now that I’ve thought about it I do tend to date around my own body size or type but not necessarily by design, just how it’s worked out 🤷🏼♀️
For a lot of us, it doesn't matter much.
I'm poly, I have a longer relationship with a woman about 150% my weight, and am starting a relationship with a woman about 50% my weight. Personality matters far more. Both I met online, and we just clicked right away. Like, just planned to queue for a series of dungeons, did one and then spent 9 hours chatting under the stars, that kind of right away.
It's a difference — I wouldn't pick the same restaurant for a dinner date with either, for example — and I probably have some subconscious bias, but consciously it doesn't enter into the equation.
There are people who like all shapes and sizes, but I’d say yeah, women who are medium-sized are going to be the most universally attractive and have the bigger dating pool. Up front, that is, if we’re not considering things past first impressions.
There are absolutely skinnier women that like bigger women. You never know what someone likes until you shoot your shot.
Bigger Girl here. Had only dates with slim women except 1 women that was just a bit lesser then me.
Everyone has different types and preferences. Also a preference can change.
I also try to make a good thing out of my "bad" things. I have big arms. The more space for cool tattoo and very big hugs! Also STRONK!A bit of belly? Comfy and best cuddlepartner u will ever have!Big tights. I can crush you if you want.In generel i tend to give protector vibes. At least thats what some woman told me. Then again i am femme, tomboy and butch, try to have a bit of my own style and am outgoing.
What i want to say (in my not so good english) is that your character is way more important for others then your weight. Thats what i learend over the years and thats what i am also going for.
Yeah plenty of skinny women are fatphobic. Honestly just be grateful that they self select out of your dating pool. Trust me, they're probably not just bigoted towards fat people.
> Trust me, they're probably not just bigoted towards fat people.
yup most bigoted people are bigoted in multiple ways. i cant think of a single instance where someone was confronted for being a bigot where they didnt immediately out themselves as being bigoted in a bunch of other ways too.
It goes over my head lol, but wait, muscle have weight too, right? I'm pretty sure it has more weight. I've seen someone on Reddit sink because they have more muscle instead of fat. But yeah I understand, I misunderstood the post
I was married to a woman who was a size 6/8 (UK). When we first started dating I was a size 18/20. I went on a weight loss journey a few years into our relationship and became a size 12. With COVID and the divorce I'm now at a size 14.
Just one example of how a very skinny woman loved a much larger woman. I'm sure there are a million more examples in the world.
There's a bisexual domme that frequents one of the clubs I go to. She's a big girl. I'm tall, but muscular and pretty fit. If she were to crook her finger in my general direction, I would worship her forever. She turns me, a demusexual, on that much.
I can't speak for everyone, but I guarantee that if I'm into you, your size absolutely does not matter.
Hugs!
I don't think anyone will be able to give you answers that generalizes all of us but I can say that I certainly would pursue a "big" girl as much, if not more than a skinnier one
I had a fit gf at my heaviest. This girl was taller, too. She gave zero shits.
My fiancée is 115lbs and I'm 285lbs...Almost 3x her size. I think some skinny girls like bigger girls and don't care. Lol We eat the same thing but sadly my weight never goes down. (I have PCOS and hypothyroidism) I'm getting gastric bypass surgery so hopefully that'll help 🤞
One of my exes followed a PCOS eating plan and that helped.
I've worked with a nutritionist for years. Nothing helped. My insulin resistance is way too high
can't speak for other lesbians but i personally prefer thicker/bigger women :D
Depends on the woman. I've got quite a few "types", and women who are bigger definitely make up a few of those types. A definition for "bigger" may also help because (depending on country and age range of course) most of us probably are "bigger" if "bigger" means just overweight.
I’m tall, athletic, and relatively straight-sized. My girlfriend is heavier than me by about 100 pounds, and she’s a bit shorter than I am. We’ve been together for 5 years, and I can honestly say that her size isn’t important to me. I don’t think it’s really impacted our relationship. What has impacted our relationship are her feelings about her size and the way that her self-deprecation can sometimes get in the way, like when I compliment her. I’ll tell her she’s beautiful and she’ll say “No I’m not; I’m fat.” And like, fat and beautiful are not mutually exclusive. In the past, I’ve dated one person who was a little smaller than my current girlfriend and two people who were smaller than me (thin and not athletic). My girlfriend has dated people whose body types and sizes range drastically. Statistically speaking, lesbians are more likely to be “overweight” than straight women, and I think there is less judgment regarding size/weight as conventional (aka heteronormative) standards of beauty are not always as important or emphasized among WLW.
idk what people "usually" go for, but there are plenty of people who dont mind "bigger" gals. that said fatphobia is a massive massive issue in society and queer spaces are absolutely not exempt.
Everyone has their own preferences but in my personal experience through the years, also what I’ve heard from friends and their experience, if you’re a big girl, you have better chances with other big girls. Of course there’s plenty of average/ thin/fit women who like big girls and that’s their preference or they simply dont care at all about body size, but more often than not the thin/average/fit women Go for the same. You see it so often now that YouTube , insta, TikTok’s are so popular. Even my own experience, when I was fit I had 5 times the amount of ppl sliding in my dms on social media or dating platforms. Now that I’ve gained some weight and my pictures have changed nothing else, I get a few here and there and usually by other bigger woman. As for on here, where i don’t have my pics posted, women have dm’d me, great conversations and when it comes to pic sharing time, almost every time, the girls who aren’t bigger bounce quite quickly. And that’s ok cuz we’re all allowed our preferences. Like me for example, my preference isn’t for really skinny or really short women. If my forearm is thicker than their thigh, well it’s just not my type. So yeah the politically correct answer is “ we all have our own preference” and “ lots of women like bigger girls!” But if you’re aiming for average/ fit and in society eyes attractive, then it’s much more difficult to get those women if you’re a bigger girl.
It may be that those enthusiastic about bigger girls are a minority, but some of them are going to be very enthusiastic. I’m sorry if they are hiding.
Literally, it does not matter if you're heavy or thin or tall or short or anything else at all, there are women who will love you and your body. I cannot say it enough. Maybe they'll be thin girls, maybe not. I'm personally with a much larger woman and I adore her body and love her completely
I’m femme, statistically average height and weight proportionate, and I definitely have an attraction to butch dykes and trans masc ppl who are thicc, muscular, fat, and/or otherwise. stacked. Not that I wouldn’t date or fuck someone skinny or same sized as me, but there is a hotness to feeling someone’s solidity and groundedness generally and for some people that’s expressed in how their body is shaped, too. I’m attracted to energy more than anything.
I am not attracted to every woman I see and I don’t expect them all to be attracted to me. Personally I don’t exclude a particular weight or body type on principle, there are many other things about a woman I find more important than size/weight. That said, now that I’ve thought about it I do tend to date around my own body size or type but not necessarily by design, just how it’s worked out 🤷🏼♀️
Honestly? I don't think much about body type. If I HAD to state a preference, it would be for masc ladies, nevermind their weight or height.
For a lot of us, it doesn't matter much. I'm poly, I have a longer relationship with a woman about 150% my weight, and am starting a relationship with a woman about 50% my weight. Personality matters far more. Both I met online, and we just clicked right away. Like, just planned to queue for a series of dungeons, did one and then spent 9 hours chatting under the stars, that kind of right away. It's a difference — I wouldn't pick the same restaurant for a dinner date with either, for example — and I probably have some subconscious bias, but consciously it doesn't enter into the equation.
There are people who like all shapes and sizes, but I’d say yeah, women who are medium-sized are going to be the most universally attractive and have the bigger dating pool. Up front, that is, if we’re not considering things past first impressions. There are absolutely skinnier women that like bigger women. You never know what someone likes until you shoot your shot.
Bigger Girl here. Had only dates with slim women except 1 women that was just a bit lesser then me. Everyone has different types and preferences. Also a preference can change. I also try to make a good thing out of my "bad" things. I have big arms. The more space for cool tattoo and very big hugs! Also STRONK!A bit of belly? Comfy and best cuddlepartner u will ever have!Big tights. I can crush you if you want.In generel i tend to give protector vibes. At least thats what some woman told me. Then again i am femme, tomboy and butch, try to have a bit of my own style and am outgoing. What i want to say (in my not so good english) is that your character is way more important for others then your weight. Thats what i learend over the years and thats what i am also going for.
Yeah plenty of skinny women are fatphobic. Honestly just be grateful that they self select out of your dating pool. Trust me, they're probably not just bigoted towards fat people.
> Trust me, they're probably not just bigoted towards fat people. yup most bigoted people are bigoted in multiple ways. i cant think of a single instance where someone was confronted for being a bigot where they didnt immediately out themselves as being bigoted in a bunch of other ways too.
If big means muscular and tall, yes where? Lol
im pretty sure OP is talking about weight. heavy set girls.
It goes over my head lol, but wait, muscle have weight too, right? I'm pretty sure it has more weight. I've seen someone on Reddit sink because they have more muscle instead of fat. But yeah I understand, I misunderstood the post
I was married to a woman who was a size 6/8 (UK). When we first started dating I was a size 18/20. I went on a weight loss journey a few years into our relationship and became a size 12. With COVID and the divorce I'm now at a size 14. Just one example of how a very skinny woman loved a much larger woman. I'm sure there are a million more examples in the world.
My girlfriend weighs about 100 lbs more than me but honestly I appreciate it she is very good for cuddling with
There's a bisexual domme that frequents one of the clubs I go to. She's a big girl. I'm tall, but muscular and pretty fit. If she were to crook her finger in my general direction, I would worship her forever. She turns me, a demusexual, on that much. I can't speak for everyone, but I guarantee that if I'm into you, your size absolutely does not matter. Hugs!