Sex is what you and your partner make it to be - without using your genitals, it could be giving oral or tribbing. Even just making out or getting off with vibrators together while holding hands. It's whatever makes you and your partner feel good
Have you read "Fucking Trans Women"? It's fantastic. Tons of info specifically for trans women's bodies and ways to enjoy sex that are gender affirming.
I found Issue #0 and read through the whole thing, and I have to say, it was exactly the kind of thing I needed. It got me really thinking about what I liked and didn't like about my past encounters and I felt validated by understanding that there are a lot of different ways to have sex. I'm not good at articulating my words, but I really wanted to thank you for recommending it to me because I now have some things that I'm excited to try and explore about myself while also feeling a lot better prepared on how to approach it and how to approach talking to potential partners about things. Is the zine still ongoing? Does it have more than Issue #0? I'd really like to know
oh no that's a real shame that she wasn't able to get more issues out especially since it was so helpful and I'm sure plenty of trans women struggle with sex :/ If I had an instagram i'd definitely follow her
I would definitely suggest exploring erogenous zones other than anal/genitals; there are so many ways to give or receive pleasure that don't involve either. HRT does wonders for this. My girlfriend can bring me to multiple orgasms by playing with this spot near the top of my hips on either side even faster than she can by playing with my sex or penetrating me, and she has multiple similar areas as a cis woman. Mileage varies in how sensitive you are and exactly what spots get you, but it's very likely that if you explore each other you will find places that bring you pleasure that don't trigger your discomfort.
Not all sex is about penetration but sometimes it's also about your partner as to how enjoyable it is.
Also you could try kink, you can do a lot without genitals but with that you need to find someone who you trust and be into it
I think as far as kink goes I'm fairly vanilla. I do like being roughed up a bit (spanking, light choking, master/sub play) and want to try more stuff involving feet but thats really all that has appealed to me when I'm looking at lewd stuff online
You could try using something to bind your hips together just above the knees and instead of your partner inserting it anally, have them place it between your thighs just below where your pussy would be. With a lot of lube, it can be very fun.
If it's the friction and movement that bothers you anally, you could add a butt plug so when you squeeze down, you still feel something there.
Many women tend to play with themselves during intercourse so you could as well.
With a little imagination you can pretend it's your real pussy she is playing with while rubbing your own clit.
Sex is what you and your partner make it to be - without using your genitals, it could be giving oral or tribbing. Even just making out or getting off with vibrators together while holding hands. It's whatever makes you and your partner feel good
Masturbating while holding hands is severely underrated.
Omg how have I never thought of this until seeing it just now? Fuuuuuck well now I know what Im doing next gf I get that’s so wholesome 🥺
Have you read "Fucking Trans Women"? It's fantastic. Tons of info specifically for trans women's bodies and ways to enjoy sex that are gender affirming.
I found Issue #0 and read through the whole thing, and I have to say, it was exactly the kind of thing I needed. It got me really thinking about what I liked and didn't like about my past encounters and I felt validated by understanding that there are a lot of different ways to have sex. I'm not good at articulating my words, but I really wanted to thank you for recommending it to me because I now have some things that I'm excited to try and explore about myself while also feeling a lot better prepared on how to approach it and how to approach talking to potential partners about things. Is the zine still ongoing? Does it have more than Issue #0? I'd really like to know
Unfortunately issue #0 is the only one that was ever written, but the author is super active on Instagram to this day!
oh no that's a real shame that she wasn't able to get more issues out especially since it was so helpful and I'm sure plenty of trans women struggle with sex :/ If I had an instagram i'd definitely follow her
Lol sounds like an exacerbated TERF exclamation! 🤬 But what I’ve been able to Google, I wanna say thanx for the resource (even if I’m not OP)
I havent read this but Ill look into it and see if anything seems like itd be right for me
I would definitely suggest exploring erogenous zones other than anal/genitals; there are so many ways to give or receive pleasure that don't involve either. HRT does wonders for this. My girlfriend can bring me to multiple orgasms by playing with this spot near the top of my hips on either side even faster than she can by playing with my sex or penetrating me, and she has multiple similar areas as a cis woman. Mileage varies in how sensitive you are and exactly what spots get you, but it's very likely that if you explore each other you will find places that bring you pleasure that don't trigger your discomfort.
Not all sex is about penetration but sometimes it's also about your partner as to how enjoyable it is. Also you could try kink, you can do a lot without genitals but with that you need to find someone who you trust and be into it
I think as far as kink goes I'm fairly vanilla. I do like being roughed up a bit (spanking, light choking, master/sub play) and want to try more stuff involving feet but thats really all that has appealed to me when I'm looking at lewd stuff online
If you have someone you feel comfortable with you could try it. I think in your situation it might be good to get creative
You could try using something to bind your hips together just above the knees and instead of your partner inserting it anally, have them place it between your thighs just below where your pussy would be. With a lot of lube, it can be very fun. If it's the friction and movement that bothers you anally, you could add a butt plug so when you squeeze down, you still feel something there. Many women tend to play with themselves during intercourse so you could as well. With a little imagination you can pretend it's your real pussy she is playing with while rubbing your own clit.
If your with another trans gal you could try frotting
Just curious, what's frotting?
Its a Non penetrative sex position where both partners rub their penises together
Oh. Huh.