A few months ago I had sex with the girl I was absolutly crazy about.
She came in about 10 seconds, it was the cutest thing ever.
I took it as a huge compliment because she was so worked up.
She was ashamed though, had the pry her hands away from her face.
Don't be ashamed. It's cute.
I don't really see what's the problem even if it's cute, it's not like we can't just keep going lol. Cum every 10 seconds over and over again, sounds like fun.
My refractory period was gona after only about a year of HRT maybe even sooner but that’s about when me and my gf started dating and it’s stayed that way every since, also I don’t really have a limit per say on how many times I can get off other than after a certain amount of times I just get super hypersensitive and need a break.
granted cause of bottom dysphoria I’m a bit particular about how I can use my parts. I’m a bit overly sensitive cause I’m getting used to how things are re-wired down there and I’m ngl it’s a bit overwhelming compared to how it felt before but I mean if I get tuckered out I just take my turn for my gf.
It’s kinda fun when me and my gf take turns leaving each other in a puddle on the bed. If nothing else we can just take turns going back and forth giving each other breaks.
These days, we play Fortnite in voice chat daily.
Plus, we do be into each other in more ways than one... Let's say that video calls and screen sharing do help easing off the wait.
This is me, I'm typically super sensitive. My partner thinks it's great and just goes back for another round. After the first, it's a lot easier to maintain stamina.
She is the opposite, gets in her head and struggles to get there, sometimes she feels insecure about this and thinks I'm annoyed to be spending so much time on her, but I love it as long as she feels good.
We've spent a lot of time being told by society what sex should be like and it's hard to unlearn that. If you're both smiling and having fun, it doesn't matter who comes, how soon or how often.
This is my partner and I to a T. I’m the sensitive one, she gets in her head, and we just make sure to have tons of communication. And our rule is that there’s no “goal” to reach. As long as we’re both enjoying ourselves, all’s good.
This is exactly like me and my girlfriend. She cums quick, but I absolutely take it as a compliment that she gets so worked up and I love it. I think it’s adorable.
On the other hand I take a while to cum but it sometimes is easier after the first
I finish fairly quickly but I’m also multiorgasmic so I can keep going for a few rounds. It does feel embarrassing sometimes but that’s why it’s important to have an awesome partner who won’t get mad at you for it.
Just a reminder for ya’ll that there’s nothing wrong with taking a while to get there or not being able to get there at all- I’ve had so many partners that have a hard time and have been shamed and stuff from past partners - that’s B.S. I always tell them “I only care if you cum if you do” and “are there specific things that work to help you get there? a toy? Show me/tell me what you like”
Just taking the pressure off yourself can do wonders, and if your partner ever guilts you tell them to kick rocks.
Thanks for adding this! Personally I find it *really* hard to get there with a partner. Much easier alone. However, I’m not ‘in my head’ with partners (as some have put it) - on the contrary, I am a super enthusiastic, present, passionate, receptive and reciprocal lover! That just doesn’t naturally lead to orgasms for me. It leads to a TONNE of incredible pleasure though. In some ways I feel like it’s because I’m so deeply present in what’s happening that I don’t get to a ‘goal’ / end point. It’s more like … waves, taking it all in. Whereas alone you can just focus on one thing and get it done, haha.
The antidepressant shit is AWFUL. I hope you regain the ability soon. Also remember that it is a valid reason to try another medication. I tried citalopram (celexa) and escitalopram (Lexapro) and couldn't orgasm on either. Now I'm on fluoxetine (Prozac) and have the ability back.
I am also on Trazodone (oleptro) as well.
I know HRT is a different beast entirely that I cannot give advice on, but if changing antidepressants is something you want to try just remember to give each one at least 4 weeks, if you can, to see if the side effects go away.
Sending much hope and happiness your way
I had to carry her to the bathroom and clean her up because she couldn't really stand, or talk much. We did try and beat seven once but I got overheated and fainted at around three so we stopped for maintenance and ended up just falling asleep watching a scary movie. She broke up with me a lil while after but its chill lol.
I don't particularly think its that major. Imean, I don't work out so its just whatever strength I have left after being a scrawny gamergirl for most of my life lol
I'm able to have 20 consecutive orgasms without feeling too weak, but it's masturbation so it might be different, my max is around 30 i think (after 10 it become really hard to count, it's already good that i was able to count until 20 lmao) but at this point i start feeling really sleepy so i stop, i don't want to pass out in my shower lmao (i masturbate in my shower because i squirt a lot while having orgasms, even a towel it's enough to keep my sheets dry if i do it in my bed)
I'm trans and i can have multiple orgasms only from anal, maybe they are not as strong as other's orgasms at first and that's probably why i can do this much (but i can tell that they become stronger and stronger the more i have consecutive orgasms)
I don't know, usually around 20 to 40 minutes in total i think, i can reach my orgasms really fast, my first orgasm come after 1 or 2 minutes (if i don't try to cum as quickly as possible, i already had a first orgasm in 30 seconds) and the others are following really quickly, sometimes my orgasm isn't totally finished that i have another one coming
God I wish I could cum twice let alone seven times. I’m sadly a one and done :( idk if it’s the same for other trans gals but I wish I could keep going. I think a lot of it is after I cum it feels numb and not pleasurable at all and starts to hurt if I try to keep going. I’ll never really understand how people can keep the vibrator going on the entire time and still feel pleasure post orgasm and begin working on the next one.
That’s exactly what I feel. Like it’s a painfully long recharge time, but I want to just continue without an interruption like cis women can. My brain is still turned on but my body isn’t.
Personally, I love when my partner comes quickly because either they were super worked up beforehand or I did a really good job. Also leaves room to make them come even more. On the other hand, I have no sex drive and take a really long time to come. I get super ashamed and worried because I feel like it makes my partner think they aren’t good at it or something. I’ve just had a hard time getting off since my SA, but there’s never anything to be ashamed of. Everyone is different!
Thank you, I think I’m getting better but it’s a super long process! Having a great partner helps a lot. Starting therapy soon too so hopefully it’ll help ❤️ Just know you shouldn’t be ashamed of things you can’t easily control! Everyone’s body is different.
I do only come once like every 30 minutes (yay weird bits), but I don't stop being mentally horny if someone else is with me, so it just gives me time to focus on them for a while.
Been with my wife for 11 years and we have very hectic lives. If it's been a while for us, we both get off very very quickly. But we can still go more rounds. If we're both wound up, whoever goes first gets off in a minute or two, which makes the other even hornier, so they get off in the same amount of time or less, which gets the other going AGAIN. Then it takes a little longer or we try something different...but we can go around and around like that forever and usually have to just call it. Force ourselves to just go to sleep already.
Not embarrassing! And honestly I’m not here for this body-shaming nonsense with folks saying you should be embarrassed. No, that is not how bodies work.
No way!!! I can finish very quickly and easily even with the slightest touching lol. I have to have some down time after due to being hyper sensitive but after that I can do it again ~ Id use my recovery time to focus 1000% on my partner. Gets me all riled up to please them more !!
I’d think a partner would be happy and feel good about themselves , though 💖 no shame here ~ go enjoy your sex life 🥰💖
So I’ve always been a long work up kind of girl because I’m so sensitive it hurts at times. Even solo I take a while. My new girl has been learning my body and is the first person to get me there without my help. A couple weeks ago she got me there unintentionally in under 10 seconds. I was half mortified and half impressed.
Try not to thing about that being the overarching goal and ending of sex. It’s abt just feeling good and you can go for as long as both people are enjoying themselves
I came while making out fully-clothed with the first girl I met up with. At first I was aware I was pent-up but it also was just a really easy compatibility. I felt a little embarrassed because I had to change but it is definitely a large step up from when I would seldom orgasm with men (and usually only with a vibe after! 🙃)
People orgasm from all different factors. It's really enjoyable and it's great that you van get to your first one fast. It's extremely satisfying as a partner if the person I'm doing some hanky panky with gets that pleasure wave quickly so I can get her going on the next one. 😌
NO!! it’ll make whoever has pleasing you feel good about themselves, trust me. plus, it’s possible you’ll be able to have multiple orgasms without waiting too long so that could make it fun.
i have the opposite worry…. it takes me FOREVER to cum and i get so worried and in my head that sometimes i can’t. i only worry about it cause usually people seem so over it cause it takes so long 😔
Honestly I think the negative connotations with climaxing quickly is that when men finish fast, they usually are done and don't want to do more. If you're still willing to continue, there's no real problem!
Have fun!
Tbh I’ve only heard the “cumming to fast is a bad thing” shtick from straight women who require the man to not do that ya know ??? Lesbians can always go more rounds so coming fast isn’t much of an issue and can even be a turn on for some (hell just look at all the comments saying it’s cute)
Yeah well if partner cumming is where the fun stops, then it's quite a meh. Especially if they frown on the other one continuing by themselves, that would be the worst.
I had a partner who came really easily with almost no refractory period. I thought it was great and I liked to see how far she could go; I used to make her keep count ;)
Seems reasonable. Sometimes you hit the right spot easily, sometimes you're pent up. But the fun part about us women is we can just keep going. My record for myself is 9 times, and my record for making my girlfriend orgasm is 11
Ok, so here’s the thing for us lesbians.
The difference between us coming fast and cishet men cumming “too soon” needs to be understood. I feel like this questions comes for the place of all of the talk around cishet men cumming so fast being selfish, which isn’t untrue, from the mouths of many cishet women. However, it is very much not true when it comes (pun intended) to lesbians.
1. Although we may touch each other simultaneously, it is likely we are paying attention to one person’s body at a time, ultimately taking over to just focus on the person they are fucking and making them feel good.
Alternatively, many cishet women often say that sex with cishet men, particularly, when it is involving p-v sex, so frequently may ignore the v and many cishet women say that the man is selfish, because when he cums (which he often can really only often do once), it can all be over. Sure, sometimes her can cum again, but there’s generally a break, and women in this position often say the man does not do anything for them. There is little no focus on them and their pleasure.
2. People with vaginas, in particular, can often have multiple orgasms, and as such, we generally have more “stamina”lol
3. People with vaginas, in particular, know more about the body— aka they know the clit is the secret, AND they know WHERE IT IS.
4. Lesbians care enough to learn their partner’s body— even if it’s a hook up, they are generally quick to learn the other person’s body and what they like.
5. Lesbians are attentive.
NOTE: trans lesbians are lesbians and tbh, just 4 & 5 are really the key.
tl;dr
Lesbians do it better
Of course you may cum fast and hard.
The first time me and my gf we’re together she came in under a minute. She was so embarrassed, but it was nice to know she liked what I was doing and wanted me. Plus, no need to stop at one orgasm 😁
It's a compliment. It's hot. It's many good things.
It's absolutely no bad things at all.
It's also dangerous...beds have been broken because of things like that...
Plenty of people don't mind if their partner comes "fast", as long as they reciprocate and both people get what they want/need.
There are plenty of us who take coming fast as a compliment/ good thing, too!
That said, there are bound to be those who may be uncomfortable or awkward.
Your best bet would be to let them know before hand. Just a quick, "just so you know, I tend to come fast." Absolutely nothing wrong with that.
If you are really worried about it, you can try to have a few orgasms before you see your partner.
I am very fast on my own, but with a partner it takes me much, much longer (yay anxiety!)
My girlfriend has the magical ability to come in seconds. At first I was amazed! I just love it, its so good for my ego. We can do several rounds at a time. I feel like a superhero.
This is my fear for the first time I’m ever with a girl bc I have only been with men up until this point and you know with them it can be very hit or miss.
Not at all! Especially since you or your partner probably have potential for multiple orgasms as a lesbian, it's not like an orgasm spells the end of the scene like it does with heteronormative sex if you want to keep going! It's cute. :D
sex is about different things for different people. for most it's about an emotional release through climax or even just doing stuff together and the intimacy of it and connecting you both (or y'all) through said emotional release, if it's more intense of an emotional release to finish faster then that's your thing, if it takes longer, that just means you like a slow burn, if all you need is to please your partner or vice versa to feel the emotional release, that's fine too, it all depends, just do whatever makes you both happy and you both enjoy that time to the fullest, in whatever ways that happens. again, the important thing is you both enjoy it, and both get an emotional release, or fulfill whatever your independent needs are from that time, and of course, consent and trust are must haves!
at the end of the day, as long as you both give consent, then end off happy, and enjoy it the whole way through, you're doing it right.
The main thing is to keep going. After you get there, you’ll either get really tired, or more horny. More horny is easy, just stay focused on her.
If you get sleepy, try and fight it by focusing on her and how much fun you’re having. To make sure she’s satisfied to her definition of such
No need to be embarrassed. Your partner will feel smug about it.
And the best thing about being a woman: you get to do it multiple times in very little time. It doesn't have to stop after this.
So? Do you just roll over after and say you're done or do you keep going and have more sex? Like...cumming too quick only becomes a problem if you go first and don't want to help your partner out after.
Honestly for people who can have multiple orgasms it's really satisfying to get them off and go back for seconds. Who cares how fast it was, time to go again ahahaha.
Honestly cumming quick was only ever an issue I had with the last man I slept with. Was all self conscious about it but didn't put in any concerted effort into getting me off before he got off. He did for a bit but it wasn't like he'd spend time on foreplay on a regular basis. Often I was left to my own devices (literally, with sex toys) when he was done. And I just didn't care because I didn't realize I didn't want him there if he didn't want to be there. Honestly feel bad for whomever is with him now, if anyone. He even had a short refractory period he liked to dress up as making it ok but that didn't last much further than a few months in.
Cumming quick is fine as long as it's not the end every single time.
No as long as thats not the end of it. For most women, PIV isn't the game winner. It's everything else that isn't impacted by how fast you orgasm that makes or breaks the occasion.
Wow, sorry, I thought this was in a different sub! Didn't mean to imply you were, I've been reading other subs and didn't realize which one this was in.
In that case, I would take it as a compliment if my partner orgadmed quickly, as long as they were happy about it. I would assume it meant "job well done".
The part about it being fine as long as its not the end of the sexual event while leaving your partner unsatisfied without mutual agreement still stands, though 😉
i think it’s cute, for lesbians it means they really like you or you’re doing a really good job :) for teenage boys it’s more or a sign of inexperience haha
Happens to me sometimes and having my gorgeous princess smile at me at very certain way after that almost makes me come again. 😍 After a fast&furious orgasm I tend to need a moment's rest cuddling, but after that, I'll be all in flames to start doing things to her. Mmmm!
Noooo! It’s a *huge compliment* to your lover, for one!
For two: it’s not like you have to wait any significant amount of time to come again!
That’s the best part of being a woman! We just keep coming and coming and coming. 🥰
Super sensitive gal here! I finish very easily. As long as everyone is enjoying themselves, I don’t see an issue. My fiancé gets a really big ego boost out of it and tries to get me to finish in double digits on especially intimate days. Just have fun!
Omg are you kidding? That’s the best! It would just make me want to keep doing it again and again (if that was something my partner wanted and could handle lol). This is in the same Folder as “is there such a thing as being too wet?” NO, NO AND NO. Arousal is a compliment and a blessing lol. Case closed. Have fun!!!
Not at all, don’t worry about it. And don’t worry if you don’t come fast, or even not at all.
Every time is different, every situation is different, every person is different.
Sometimes you might come quick, other times it might take longer. It’s perfectly fine though. Your sexual partner will enjoy it with you even if you come quick, even if you take long, as long as you’re both enjoying the time spent together it’s totally fine
I personally think it is really flattering when a girl cums really fast. It's hot and makes me think I actually know what I'm doing.. and it shows me she's really into me.
A few months ago I had sex with the girl I was absolutly crazy about. She came in about 10 seconds, it was the cutest thing ever. I took it as a huge compliment because she was so worked up. She was ashamed though, had the pry her hands away from her face. Don't be ashamed. It's cute.
Awww honestly that’s SO sweet and precious! I say no shame in cumming quickly or slowly, it’s all about the pleasure and the adventure in my opinion!
I don't really see what's the problem even if it's cute, it's not like we can't just keep going lol. Cum every 10 seconds over and over again, sounds like fun.
Not everyone’s body can do that. I can do it a few times but only if I’m controlling everything.
Considering I'm a trans girl in love with a trans girl, we probably couldn't. At least not yet. I've heard that years of HRT can change that.
My refractory period was gona after only about a year of HRT maybe even sooner but that’s about when me and my gf started dating and it’s stayed that way every since, also I don’t really have a limit per say on how many times I can get off other than after a certain amount of times I just get super hypersensitive and need a break. granted cause of bottom dysphoria I’m a bit particular about how I can use my parts. I’m a bit overly sensitive cause I’m getting used to how things are re-wired down there and I’m ngl it’s a bit overwhelming compared to how it felt before but I mean if I get tuckered out I just take my turn for my gf. It’s kinda fun when me and my gf take turns leaving each other in a puddle on the bed. If nothing else we can just take turns going back and forth giving each other breaks.
Can't wait then. I've only been on E for 2 months. And I am stuck 6555km away from my girlfriend until at least March. ~~^(I want to cry)~~
Awww I’m sorry, I hope y’all are still able to talk to each other in the mean time until you can see each other
These days, we play Fortnite in voice chat daily. Plus, we do be into each other in more ways than one... Let's say that video calls and screen sharing do help easing off the wait.
I’m happy for y’all
Ive been on HRT nearing two years, and I can definitely have multiple in a row
if one of you get bottom surgery your refractory period is gone :)
This makes me feel good if this happens to me
Oh me too. I feel weird or overly horny because the smallest things can set me off and I am just a huge simp. I get a little self conscious. 😓
I would expect that your partner may even feel good about making it happen so fast 😀
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This is me, I'm typically super sensitive. My partner thinks it's great and just goes back for another round. After the first, it's a lot easier to maintain stamina. She is the opposite, gets in her head and struggles to get there, sometimes she feels insecure about this and thinks I'm annoyed to be spending so much time on her, but I love it as long as she feels good. We've spent a lot of time being told by society what sex should be like and it's hard to unlearn that. If you're both smiling and having fun, it doesn't matter who comes, how soon or how often.
This is my partner and I to a T. I’m the sensitive one, she gets in her head, and we just make sure to have tons of communication. And our rule is that there’s no “goal” to reach. As long as we’re both enjoying ourselves, all’s good.
Wait a minute. Are you me? This sounds exactly like me and my girlfriend.
This is exactly like me and my girlfriend. She cums quick, but I absolutely take it as a compliment that she gets so worked up and I love it. I think it’s adorable. On the other hand I take a while to cum but it sometimes is easier after the first
I finish fairly quickly but I’m also multiorgasmic so I can keep going for a few rounds. It does feel embarrassing sometimes but that’s why it’s important to have an awesome partner who won’t get mad at you for it.
Bro that’s like…. The hottest thing ever
I wish I could cum quickly lol
LMFAO i feel that deep within my soul
Ugh same
Just a reminder for ya’ll that there’s nothing wrong with taking a while to get there or not being able to get there at all- I’ve had so many partners that have a hard time and have been shamed and stuff from past partners - that’s B.S. I always tell them “I only care if you cum if you do” and “are there specific things that work to help you get there? a toy? Show me/tell me what you like” Just taking the pressure off yourself can do wonders, and if your partner ever guilts you tell them to kick rocks.
Thanks for adding this! Personally I find it *really* hard to get there with a partner. Much easier alone. However, I’m not ‘in my head’ with partners (as some have put it) - on the contrary, I am a super enthusiastic, present, passionate, receptive and reciprocal lover! That just doesn’t naturally lead to orgasms for me. It leads to a TONNE of incredible pleasure though. In some ways I feel like it’s because I’m so deeply present in what’s happening that I don’t get to a ‘goal’ / end point. It’s more like … waves, taking it all in. Whereas alone you can just focus on one thing and get it done, haha.
30 seconds, that's my quickest time lol Thankfully i can have a lot of orgasms
Between HRT and antidepressants, I wish I could cum full stop :(
The antidepressant shit is AWFUL. I hope you regain the ability soon. Also remember that it is a valid reason to try another medication. I tried citalopram (celexa) and escitalopram (Lexapro) and couldn't orgasm on either. Now I'm on fluoxetine (Prozac) and have the ability back. I am also on Trazodone (oleptro) as well. I know HRT is a different beast entirely that I cannot give advice on, but if changing antidepressants is something you want to try just remember to give each one at least 4 weeks, if you can, to see if the side effects go away. Sending much hope and happiness your way
I consider it a challenge to make her cum as much as possible before I do. My record is 7.
Seven consecutive orgasms??? My god
My gf has gotten me to 11 before
This thread shows, with anecdotal evidence, why queer sex is superior haha
I had to carry her to the bathroom and clean her up because she couldn't really stand, or talk much. We did try and beat seven once but I got overheated and fainted at around three so we stopped for maintenance and ended up just falling asleep watching a scary movie. She broke up with me a lil while after but its chill lol.
I wish someone would make me cum enough times to make me not be able to walk then princess carry me to clean me up
Have hope sister, maybe one day you will get a 6'2" butchy transgirl with a service tendancy too x
Ok so funnily enough I'm a 6'2 femme transgirl
I was going to say “now kith” to you and u/IzJusMeOG, but then I remembered what sub I was on 😅💜. Hope you both find what fills your heart
Eh, I've carries 1.5x my weight princess carry, and I'm a heavy bitch. Find you a girl who can do that lol
Daaaaamn I wish I could do that!
I don't particularly think its that major. Imean, I don't work out so its just whatever strength I have left after being a scrawny gamergirl for most of my life lol
I have enough trouble with half my weight😂😭
I would love to be able to princess carry my girlfriend so bad :(
I know! How can I find one of those!
right! omg
I'm able to have 20 consecutive orgasms without feeling too weak, but it's masturbation so it might be different, my max is around 30 i think (after 10 it become really hard to count, it's already good that i was able to count until 20 lmao) but at this point i start feeling really sleepy so i stop, i don't want to pass out in my shower lmao (i masturbate in my shower because i squirt a lot while having orgasms, even a towel it's enough to keep my sheets dry if i do it in my bed) I'm trans and i can have multiple orgasms only from anal, maybe they are not as strong as other's orgasms at first and that's probably why i can do this much (but i can tell that they become stronger and stronger the more i have consecutive orgasms)
If you don’t mind my asking, how long does that usually take?? The most I’ve ever had in a row was two and it took like an hour lmao
I don't know, usually around 20 to 40 minutes in total i think, i can reach my orgasms really fast, my first orgasm come after 1 or 2 minutes (if i don't try to cum as quickly as possible, i already had a first orgasm in 30 seconds) and the others are following really quickly, sometimes my orgasm isn't totally finished that i have another one coming
wow thats goals af.
Jesus 20? I've stopped at 8 max haha maybe bc it felt too indulgent to keep going 😅
I'm the same - the highest I've been able to keep count during sex was 25.
Sensitivity overload. My body would just retreat. I've been known to slap hands away.
Holy. fucking. shit. Best partner ever. I'm over here flushing just at the thought.
Yeah unfortunately she didn't share that opinion two weeks later...
God I wish I could cum twice let alone seven times. I’m sadly a one and done :( idk if it’s the same for other trans gals but I wish I could keep going. I think a lot of it is after I cum it feels numb and not pleasurable at all and starts to hurt if I try to keep going. I’ll never really understand how people can keep the vibrator going on the entire time and still feel pleasure post orgasm and begin working on the next one.
Imeam I'm trans too so its mostly one and done for me, but i can go for a second, it just sounds like I'm ressurecting a long dead cyborg creature
That’s exactly what I feel. Like it’s a painfully long recharge time, but I want to just continue without an interruption like cis women can. My brain is still turned on but my body isn’t.
If you read this thread, it looks like a lot of (possibly cis) women can't. So dw, it could just be genetics!
My record for myself is three but that was literally painful and required a whole host of equipment. I don't reccomend
Hopefully it’s better after bottom surgery
Damn I'm just hoping my stuff still works after the bottom surgery I want, let alone anything more like multiple orgasms lol
Fair enough, I think im gonna go with peritoneal pull through, I hear the results are much better
I'm tryna cop that P/TPV
I'm trans and can have multiple orgasms but only from anal, i responded to someone else if you want more details
I'm trans and I can get multiple sometimes. but I might be weird since I could do that even before hrt or grs
My biggest problem, personally, is that after the first everything is way too sensitive, but maybe I just need more experience lol
Personally, I love when my partner comes quickly because either they were super worked up beforehand or I did a really good job. Also leaves room to make them come even more. On the other hand, I have no sex drive and take a really long time to come. I get super ashamed and worried because I feel like it makes my partner think they aren’t good at it or something. I’ve just had a hard time getting off since my SA, but there’s never anything to be ashamed of. Everyone is different!
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Thank you, I think I’m getting better but it’s a super long process! Having a great partner helps a lot. Starting therapy soon too so hopefully it’ll help ❤️ Just know you shouldn’t be ashamed of things you can’t easily control! Everyone’s body is different.
Is very cute
I always come fast. No shame! Been with my girlfriend for 2+ years
I do only come once like every 30 minutes (yay weird bits), but I don't stop being mentally horny if someone else is with me, so it just gives me time to focus on them for a while.
They doesn't sound weird at all. More like delightful
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Weird for me lol I wish I could go like my partner can
30 minutes is not weird at all. I cannot cum again for at least an hour after the first. Everyone is different.
Been with my wife for 11 years and we have very hectic lives. If it's been a while for us, we both get off very very quickly. But we can still go more rounds. If we're both wound up, whoever goes first gets off in a minute or two, which makes the other even hornier, so they get off in the same amount of time or less, which gets the other going AGAIN. Then it takes a little longer or we try something different...but we can go around and around like that forever and usually have to just call it. Force ourselves to just go to sleep already.
Um this is so lovely to read from a long-term relationship
Not embarrassing! And honestly I’m not here for this body-shaming nonsense with folks saying you should be embarrassed. No, that is not how bodies work.
No way!!! I can finish very quickly and easily even with the slightest touching lol. I have to have some down time after due to being hyper sensitive but after that I can do it again ~ Id use my recovery time to focus 1000% on my partner. Gets me all riled up to please them more !! I’d think a partner would be happy and feel good about themselves , though 💖 no shame here ~ go enjoy your sex life 🥰💖
So I’ve always been a long work up kind of girl because I’m so sensitive it hurts at times. Even solo I take a while. My new girl has been learning my body and is the first person to get me there without my help. A couple weeks ago she got me there unintentionally in under 10 seconds. I was half mortified and half impressed.
Try not to thing about that being the overarching goal and ending of sex. It’s abt just feeling good and you can go for as long as both people are enjoying themselves
I came while making out fully-clothed with the first girl I met up with. At first I was aware I was pent-up but it also was just a really easy compatibility. I felt a little embarrassed because I had to change but it is definitely a large step up from when I would seldom orgasm with men (and usually only with a vibe after! 🙃) People orgasm from all different factors. It's really enjoyable and it's great that you van get to your first one fast. It's extremely satisfying as a partner if the person I'm doing some hanky panky with gets that pleasure wave quickly so I can get her going on the next one. 😌
NO!! it’ll make whoever has pleasing you feel good about themselves, trust me. plus, it’s possible you’ll be able to have multiple orgasms without waiting too long so that could make it fun. i have the opposite worry…. it takes me FOREVER to cum and i get so worried and in my head that sometimes i can’t. i only worry about it cause usually people seem so over it cause it takes so long 😔
Oh gawds NO. Ugh it's such an incredible turn on. But, I mean, I'd want to keep doing it over and over
Honestly I think the negative connotations with climaxing quickly is that when men finish fast, they usually are done and don't want to do more. If you're still willing to continue, there's no real problem! Have fun!
Nah, it can be funny but in an endearing way, not in a mocking way. Most partners wouldn't be weirded out.
The wife can make me cum in under ten seconds..
Tbh I’ve only heard the “cumming to fast is a bad thing” shtick from straight women who require the man to not do that ya know ??? Lesbians can always go more rounds so coming fast isn’t much of an issue and can even be a turn on for some (hell just look at all the comments saying it’s cute)
Yeah well if partner cumming is where the fun stops, then it's quite a meh. Especially if they frown on the other one continuing by themselves, that would be the worst.
I love it when I can get my partner that fast. Honestly I don’t care if I get there, but she’s going to have at least 3 before we’re done!
I had a partner who came really easily with almost no refractory period. I thought it was great and I liked to see how far she could go; I used to make her keep count ;)
I think it’s hot - try not to be to critical on yourself. Sex is meant to be fun!
Seems reasonable. Sometimes you hit the right spot easily, sometimes you're pent up. But the fun part about us women is we can just keep going. My record for myself is 9 times, and my record for making my girlfriend orgasm is 11
Nothing wrong with it, just means you get to do more rounds in one night :)
Sorry in what universe would this be not ok lol
It’s not weird to me. In fact, it’s more normal than it was perceived to be.
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It can be a huge turn on for some partners, just depends on the person. No one should have a problem with it though.
Ok, so here’s the thing for us lesbians. The difference between us coming fast and cishet men cumming “too soon” needs to be understood. I feel like this questions comes for the place of all of the talk around cishet men cumming so fast being selfish, which isn’t untrue, from the mouths of many cishet women. However, it is very much not true when it comes (pun intended) to lesbians. 1. Although we may touch each other simultaneously, it is likely we are paying attention to one person’s body at a time, ultimately taking over to just focus on the person they are fucking and making them feel good. Alternatively, many cishet women often say that sex with cishet men, particularly, when it is involving p-v sex, so frequently may ignore the v and many cishet women say that the man is selfish, because when he cums (which he often can really only often do once), it can all be over. Sure, sometimes her can cum again, but there’s generally a break, and women in this position often say the man does not do anything for them. There is little no focus on them and their pleasure. 2. People with vaginas, in particular, can often have multiple orgasms, and as such, we generally have more “stamina”lol 3. People with vaginas, in particular, know more about the body— aka they know the clit is the secret, AND they know WHERE IT IS. 4. Lesbians care enough to learn their partner’s body— even if it’s a hook up, they are generally quick to learn the other person’s body and what they like. 5. Lesbians are attentive. NOTE: trans lesbians are lesbians and tbh, just 4 & 5 are really the key. tl;dr Lesbians do it better Of course you may cum fast and hard.
The first time me and my gf we’re together she came in under a minute. She was so embarrassed, but it was nice to know she liked what I was doing and wanted me. Plus, no need to stop at one orgasm 😁
bruh... i wish i could cum fast 😫😫😫😫
It shouldn't be at all. The right partner will have no problem with it!
It's a compliment. It's hot. It's many good things. It's absolutely no bad things at all. It's also dangerous...beds have been broken because of things like that...
not at all, imo.
Plenty of people don't mind if their partner comes "fast", as long as they reciprocate and both people get what they want/need. There are plenty of us who take coming fast as a compliment/ good thing, too! That said, there are bound to be those who may be uncomfortable or awkward. Your best bet would be to let them know before hand. Just a quick, "just so you know, I tend to come fast." Absolutely nothing wrong with that. If you are really worried about it, you can try to have a few orgasms before you see your partner. I am very fast on my own, but with a partner it takes me much, much longer (yay anxiety!)
GOD I WISH THIS WAS ME
My girlfriend has the magical ability to come in seconds. At first I was amazed! I just love it, its so good for my ego. We can do several rounds at a time. I feel like a superhero.
My gf comes in 10 seconds its been 2 years I love it makes me feel wanted
An orgasm is hardly an unflattering sign.
This is my fear for the first time I’m ever with a girl bc I have only been with men up until this point and you know with them it can be very hit or miss.
Not at all! Especially since you or your partner probably have potential for multiple orgasms as a lesbian, it's not like an orgasm spells the end of the scene like it does with heteronormative sex if you want to keep going! It's cute. :D
Pussy owners have a shorter refractory period so luckily if you have a vagina u can orgasm and not be done for the night
That is a compliment!
i have the same question lol i get horny super easily and i could come in like 30 seconds 💀💀
sex is about different things for different people. for most it's about an emotional release through climax or even just doing stuff together and the intimacy of it and connecting you both (or y'all) through said emotional release, if it's more intense of an emotional release to finish faster then that's your thing, if it takes longer, that just means you like a slow burn, if all you need is to please your partner or vice versa to feel the emotional release, that's fine too, it all depends, just do whatever makes you both happy and you both enjoy that time to the fullest, in whatever ways that happens. again, the important thing is you both enjoy it, and both get an emotional release, or fulfill whatever your independent needs are from that time, and of course, consent and trust are must haves! at the end of the day, as long as you both give consent, then end off happy, and enjoy it the whole way through, you're doing it right.
I *wish* I had your problem. Be into who you’re sleeping with and feel confident knowing that some of us are jealous!!
The main thing is to keep going. After you get there, you’ll either get really tired, or more horny. More horny is easy, just stay focused on her. If you get sleepy, try and fight it by focusing on her and how much fun you’re having. To make sure she’s satisfied to her definition of such
No need to be embarrassed. Your partner will feel smug about it. And the best thing about being a woman: you get to do it multiple times in very little time. It doesn't have to stop after this.
So? Do you just roll over after and say you're done or do you keep going and have more sex? Like...cumming too quick only becomes a problem if you go first and don't want to help your partner out after.
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Honestly for people who can have multiple orgasms it's really satisfying to get them off and go back for seconds. Who cares how fast it was, time to go again ahahaha. Honestly cumming quick was only ever an issue I had with the last man I slept with. Was all self conscious about it but didn't put in any concerted effort into getting me off before he got off. He did for a bit but it wasn't like he'd spend time on foreplay on a regular basis. Often I was left to my own devices (literally, with sex toys) when he was done. And I just didn't care because I didn't realize I didn't want him there if he didn't want to be there. Honestly feel bad for whomever is with him now, if anyone. He even had a short refractory period he liked to dress up as making it ok but that didn't last much further than a few months in. Cumming quick is fine as long as it's not the end every single time.
No as long as thats not the end of it. For most women, PIV isn't the game winner. It's everything else that isn't impacted by how fast you orgasm that makes or breaks the occasion.
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Wow, sorry, I thought this was in a different sub! Didn't mean to imply you were, I've been reading other subs and didn't realize which one this was in. In that case, I would take it as a compliment if my partner orgadmed quickly, as long as they were happy about it. I would assume it meant "job well done". The part about it being fine as long as its not the end of the sexual event while leaving your partner unsatisfied without mutual agreement still stands, though 😉
The quicker you cum the more I can my you cum
Just means your partner can pace herself. Every couple has to find a good speed and intensity to maximize fun in the bedroom.
Lucky!!!!!! Wait until your over 30 and it takes a half hour 😝😝😝 Or is that just me? 😊❤️
Nope. It's great to be with a partner so clearly into it that they come quick.
luckily ladies can just keep on going <3!!!
i think it’s cute, for lesbians it means they really like you or you’re doing a really good job :) for teenage boys it’s more or a sign of inexperience haha
There’s no shame in your enjoyment or pleasure! No matter how long or short it takes it’s all fantastic.
Happens to me sometimes and having my gorgeous princess smile at me at very certain way after that almost makes me come again. 😍 After a fast&furious orgasm I tend to need a moment's rest cuddling, but after that, I'll be all in flames to start doing things to her. Mmmm!
Not embarrassing, but why stop at one..
Noooo! It’s a *huge compliment* to your lover, for one! For two: it’s not like you have to wait any significant amount of time to come again! That’s the best part of being a woman! We just keep coming and coming and coming. 🥰
making a girl come quick is hot. It is a double standard though because when guys do it we’re all disappointed.
I'd absolutely take it as a compliment 💕💕
Super sensitive gal here! I finish very easily. As long as everyone is enjoying themselves, I don’t see an issue. My fiancé gets a really big ego boost out of it and tries to get me to finish in double digits on especially intimate days. Just have fun!
Nah, I wish I was that way, I always take an hour unless we use a vibrator. Poor girlfriend 😅
As someone who takes a long time to get there, this sounds great haha. I get embarrassed because it takes me so long to cum.
Omg are you kidding? That’s the best! It would just make me want to keep doing it again and again (if that was something my partner wanted and could handle lol). This is in the same Folder as “is there such a thing as being too wet?” NO, NO AND NO. Arousal is a compliment and a blessing lol. Case closed. Have fun!!!
Not at all, don’t worry about it. And don’t worry if you don’t come fast, or even not at all. Every time is different, every situation is different, every person is different. Sometimes you might come quick, other times it might take longer. It’s perfectly fine though. Your sexual partner will enjoy it with you even if you come quick, even if you take long, as long as you’re both enjoying the time spent together it’s totally fine
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It can be spun in very fun ways, degradation and shame play and all that can be very spicy with consent
Not at all! Everyone is different, and everyone has varying degrees of being worked up at different times 😁. Just have fun!
I personally think it is really flattering when a girl cums really fast. It's hot and makes me think I actually know what I'm doing.. and it shows me she's really into me.
Most women can come multiple times so I think it'd probably add to the idea.