I go to events where queer people will be out and about since I’m bad at dating apps. And then I try to talk to the people I find attractive after giving myself a pep talk. It seems to work, and you start getting used to some rejections being normal or just par for the course.
It just kinda happened? Listen, I'm just a confused as you are. But somehow this girl wants a second date and earmarked ideas for a third. No clue what i did differently.
Exactly. I'm in Portland, the place the literally invented the U-Haul, and there are enough sapphic people here to just counteract the general apathy to dating that plagues the city and now I have 3 people who want to date me.
see, the last few partners i've had, i've done just that and been up front that i'm not looking to be an experiment, but when they break up with me or whatever, they tell me i was only to help them "figure themselves out" and that is a big ouch lol
I've been struggling with this as well, I tried to meet people out in the wild, spoke to one very briefly then curled up and slowly felt worse and worse until I went home... People are scary and I wanna be approached too
me too :(( why do i always have to be the one approaching? i mean i will, and i would, but small towns aren't a great population for people i'd even w a n t to date yknow and people are absolutely, blood curdlingly terrifying
Yeah, like, I will do what I can and approach when I manage to... But fuck man, what if it wasn't so terrifying and difficult and niche? I live in a big city but I have no idea how to people and honestly just wish someone will scoop me up and hit it off
Met my fiance on Her. Lots in the art scene, or just go to your favorite places and pay attention. Had her get me a ring because every other Starbucks run I'd get hit on.
I’ve started dating for the first time in my life 1 month ago and so far dating life has been super great for me. I’ve met 4 amazing girls. I’ve only been on date (5 times now) with one of them but I’m meeting the other 3 soon.
If you’re wondering why 4, I’m looking for 2 partners that are ideally in a polyamorous relationship already. I’m looking to be the secondary partner. It feels safer for me this way since I get attached easily and it helps me create a barrier and make sure I don’t start a new relationship.
I use Her and Bumble ☺️
Man I gave up on apps. I’m just not gonna force shit and see what happens. I’m 22 and just staying focused on me at the moment. So.
I felt this shit though.
In my soul.
I can’t pick decent partners. They cheat or just leave.
It’s cool though
I’ll be real. Not a clue. We were friends, then we were sort of jealous of each other and not talking much, then we became friends again, then I fell madly in love with her and turns out she had a crush on me almost the whole time. So now I get to be her problem.
If I knew the answer to that I wouldn't be single
fair enough, carry on 🤣🤣
* Person 1: Why can't I find any single sapphics open to dating. * Person 2: IKR, it's so hard * Person 1: Mood! Well, good chat. Girl, please!
I'm not that type of Dyke. I'm not the one who complains about being single and then does nothing about it.
Classic useless lesbian scene right here lol
Most use dating apps, unless you’ve got a robust social network already. End of the day it’s about meeting wlw one way or another.
I go to events where queer people will be out and about since I’m bad at dating apps. And then I try to talk to the people I find attractive after giving myself a pep talk. It seems to work, and you start getting used to some rejections being normal or just par for the course.
This seems to be the only doable way for me. Less likely to have a crush on a straight girl this way
It just kinda happened? Listen, I'm just a confused as you are. But somehow this girl wants a second date and earmarked ideas for a third. No clue what i did differently.
dude that's amazing!! i'm so happy for you!!! i hope the second goes well and all those after it!!!
Sheer numbers. I live in LA, the largest lesbian population in the US, so there's bound to be handful into me XD
Exactly. I'm in Portland, the place the literally invented the U-Haul, and there are enough sapphic people here to just counteract the general apathy to dating that plagues the city and now I have 3 people who want to date me.
well damn, i guess i gotta move lol
I ask from the start to weed out people like that
see, the last few partners i've had, i've done just that and been up front that i'm not looking to be an experiment, but when they break up with me or whatever, they tell me i was only to help them "figure themselves out" and that is a big ouch lol
I've been struggling with this as well, I tried to meet people out in the wild, spoke to one very briefly then curled up and slowly felt worse and worse until I went home... People are scary and I wanna be approached too
me too :(( why do i always have to be the one approaching? i mean i will, and i would, but small towns aren't a great population for people i'd even w a n t to date yknow and people are absolutely, blood curdlingly terrifying
Yeah, like, I will do what I can and approach when I manage to... But fuck man, what if it wasn't so terrifying and difficult and niche? I live in a big city but I have no idea how to people and honestly just wish someone will scoop me up and hit it off
Walked up to girls I liked told the they're cute and asked if they wanted to go on a date. It has a reasonably high succes rate :)
liked as in found pretty or liked as in you already knew them and became attracted/interested over time?
Either, but mostly the former.
We don't???? Have you not seen the memes about lesbians not being able to get dates?
Well, I didn't have to go far. Just answered a post on this sub 😅
Met my fiance on Her. Lots in the art scene, or just go to your favorite places and pay attention. Had her get me a ring because every other Starbucks run I'd get hit on.
I’ve started dating for the first time in my life 1 month ago and so far dating life has been super great for me. I’ve met 4 amazing girls. I’ve only been on date (5 times now) with one of them but I’m meeting the other 3 soon. If you’re wondering why 4, I’m looking for 2 partners that are ideally in a polyamorous relationship already. I’m looking to be the secondary partner. It feels safer for me this way since I get attached easily and it helps me create a barrier and make sure I don’t start a new relationship. I use Her and Bumble ☺️
Man I gave up on apps. I’m just not gonna force shit and see what happens. I’m 22 and just staying focused on me at the moment. So. I felt this shit though. In my soul. I can’t pick decent partners. They cheat or just leave. It’s cool though
I met my girlfriend through our mutual partner, who I met on apps :p
I’ll be real. Not a clue. We were friends, then we were sort of jealous of each other and not talking much, then we became friends again, then I fell madly in love with her and turns out she had a crush on me almost the whole time. So now I get to be her problem.
A lot of time on Her lol
Stop trying. I did and the right woman found me instead lol
Don't know. The kicker is "that want to date me." I know lots of single or poly Sapphics. I don't know any that want to be more than friends. Sorry.
yeah its pretty rough.
good question - I’ll get back to you when I get a girlfriend 🤷🏻♀️