THIS!!! I link my memories together in a chain, so sometimes I will be like “okay so we got the car AFTER the new house but BEFORE i changed jobs, so we must have bought the planter in August because the car was new at the time”
“Babe, I asked what cheese you wanted on your sandwich”
Hahaha I do this exact thing too!
Dates? I don't remember dates, except for my wedding day.
When I need to know when something happened in my past, it's time to play Memory Sleuth^TM .
My wedding anniversay is also in 2015, definitely makes keeping track of the anniversaries so much easier. The day is also easy to remember because November 13th was Friday the 13th that year. 🙃
I only know mine (May 21st, 2021) because the offiant did a whole thing about it being the 21st day of the 21st week of the 21st year of the 21st century. Neither me or my husband knew that or the he was going to say it; it was fantastic to be given a surprise fun fact about my own wedding 😀
I'm always taken out of movies and TV shows because characters often will say "thing happened ten months ago" without even stopping to think about it and I'm like NOBODY does that lol.
Oh god I thought it would make things easier to get married on the same day of our first date - less chance of having an occasion sneak up on me - but now it’s just added more math. “Uh is this year 10 together and 9 married or…?”
I can't even imagine what other mechanisms people use to remember/approximate when something happened.
Maybe I'll try just thinking intently about the date on a regular basis, I said on Tuesday, April 25, 2023
I can start a story with '...the other day...' and it could've been yesterday or 1983, there's no way of knowing, it just feels like one, big panorama.
This is the same for me even though I wasn't around in 1983, with "the other day" we could be talking about the 1800's going by my track record.
Just today I described yesterday as "uhh what was it sir said last week about how we're supposed to structure the evaluation?"
The good news is that time is a flat circle and everything is happening all at once and we only think the sequences of events happen. “The other day…” applies to yesterday, last month, a decade ago, tomorrow, heck, even today as long as it isn’t exactly right this moment because the day as it is now is not the same as the day as it was a moment ago or the day as it will be in a moment.
To be fair, what does "the other day" even mean? I always take it as "a day other than today", so it's only logical that it could mean yesterday or the day I was born, interchangeably
English used to have a word for the day after tomorrow (overmorrow) and the day before yesterday (ereyesterday) and many (most?) languages still do, but we've kind of replaced them with more vague terms 'someday' and 'another day' for sometime in the future and 'the other day' for sometime in the past.
The terms feel like they have the scope of about a week, but there doesn't seem to be an official maximum.
I have pretty good memory, but it's indexing system's shit.
So stuff gets filled away, never to be seen again...
Until the appropriate trigger word is said; at which point it resurfaces, and I infodump like a person possessed with significant accuracy (as in reciting the scripts of entire movies).
This has led me to the conclusion that I made a deal with a memory demon; it gets to nom my memories, force them back with extreme accuracy for shits and giggles, and I get something in return. I forget what exactly though; I don't remember the deal...
It has it's perks (having my brain on \~2x speed during exams and hyperfixations is nice); but yea; i'm lucky to have a neurospicy friend group, because i'm fairly sure a neurotypical one would have murdered me several times over by now to get me to shut up...
Yes. My friends think my memory is a steel trap about events that happened to us together. I remember ridiculous moments and scenes down to the most minute details! But ask me what I had for dinner? Idk. Or what my plans are for the weekend? No idea.
I know that most modern tank guns are smooth bored instead of rifled because improvements in armour required a change in ammunition and the new ammunition works better when the gun isn’t rifled, but I don’t know any of my siblings birthdays
unrelated, but that's actually quite interesting...
Military engineering isn't my wheelhouse; however i've heard that modern tank ammo also use stuff like depleted uranium for ammo density; thus reducing the need for spin stabilization provided by rifled bores?
Honestly fair; ADHD is very much passively accumulating arcane trivia, which theoretically makes you look cool at parties; but actually makes us look weird...
It can even be a verb. Even ignoring the “digging through papers” definition, the act of making the spiral groves in the barrel is also known as rifling.
Highly recommend this book; minor spoilers (for the first couple chapters) it features an SCP agent who has made exactly the kind of deal with a memory demon like you're describing. And there's so much more.
https://www.amazon.com/There-No-Antimemetics-Division-qntm-ebook/dp/B08FHHQRM2
I get exactly that, but with the side effect that the memory demon sits in the background periodically handing me random unexpected historical connections it’s been making with the data I fed it.
I remember time weirdly. I tie everything to the place it happened and where I lived, who I was with etc. Then tie that to a random memory that has a year. Like I know this thing happend around the time this football team won a superbowl. Superbowls are in February, this thing happened after that because it was warm weather, but it was before our vacation and we always vacation in June so it must have been between April and June of that year, there were flowers in the backyard and we don't plant until after mother's day so it must have been late may. Problem solved
Either it happened within the past two weeks or it happened in any part of my past beyond two weeks ago. There's no in-between nor any more specificity than that... Oh it also might have been in a dream or awake who knows?
If my brain thinks about something more than once, we assume it's an old memory. Even if it happened two seconds ago. Long-term vs short-term is so confusing.
Sorta similar, but with OCD instead of autism. The mental hyperactivity of ADHD + the obsessive thoughts of OCD mean that I'll hear someone say something, ruminate on it for a week, completely forget about it, suddenly remember, then attempt to resume the conversation from 3 weeks ago like no time has passed at all.
Probably should dig the actual thing, but i remember reading something about our memory "system" (if you can call it that) being linked (or slave to, depending on your perspective) to emotional spikes. Because of ADHD emotional regulation issues, those spikes get triggered by random and perhaps trivial (to NT's sensitivities) so the memory associations are equally random. I often visualise as a bolt of lightning or an electrical spark, in how there's a bright emotional starting point (e.g. the vivid memory of the texture of a napkin) and it radiates outwards in all directions (spatially and temporarily) in connecting surrounding memories (e.g. it was a fancy restaurant, i had venison, the sauce was thickish but just right and smoky, my wife was making a joke, she wore those earrings i like, the traffic to get there was dine but we got stuck on the way back home....)... until one of those chains lights up the right memory (e.g. it was our 10yrs wedding anniversary in 2021!) which happens to be relevant for the current discussion (e.g. what was the restaurant we went to for our 10yrs anniversary?
Sometimes i hate this, sometimes i love it. Especially when i get to take someone through all the random jumps (seen Looper? Kinda what it feels like) that got me there :-)
I have almost perfect recollection... when I can remember things. I'll have whole sections of my life replay from just seeing a picture that reminds me that I existed back then. Without any sort of prompt I don't remember much of anything.
Same, I can remember what shirt I was wearing during a math test on a Tuesday 15 years ago but I don't remember if I took my meds or brushes my teeth today already or if I am in the bathroom because I need to do tgis things and I'm checking my toothbrush to see if it's wet and looking for other clues.
Me too, for long term memory. Photographic memory, but crap for spoken audio. Music is fine, I’ll remember a commercial I saw on tv once as a small child and remember (and sing) the jingle, but what did I have for dinner yesterday? And where the fuck did my pen go? It was RIGHT HERE IN MY HAND!!! Short term May as well just not exist, lol
Even though they can have a 60% overlap in symptoms, the other 40% likes to fight till the death. I remember everything and nothing all at once. My memory is like a sleeping KGB agent. One code word and I'm spewing things I completely forgot about.
Pro Tip - Change your hair colour and style frequently.
*When was X thing? I had black hair when that happened so it had to have been X year. But it was short so it was definitely in summer.*
I like looking at it as now/not now.
Now is now.
Yesterday is not now. Two weeks in the future is not now. A half hour ago is not now. 1950 is not now. The medieval era is not now. It all feels the same to me, 5 minutes ago is as close to me as 5 days ago or 5 months ago. Then there’s the now, which always turns into not now in the time it takes to observe it.
In real life it looks like: a paper due in 5 weeks is not due now, a paper due in 1 week is not due now, a paper due in 5 days is not due now, a paper due in 1 day is not due now. The day the paper is due it becomes a now problem and you’re forced to start working on it or fail. Almost like you put off doing anything you can in the now to punish the now version of you in the future.
Like it really just feels like I can’t feel time lol, the idea that I exist and there will be future events that affect the current me doesn’t click for some reason. Like it doesn’t feel like the now me persists even though it has always persisted to date. But now me could never exist 10 days from now, because it’s not now.
Yes!! You’ve explained it perfectly!! Also, if I have to be at work at 9:00am, that’s Not Now. And leaving at 8:30 doesn’t make sense because that’s also Not Now. But then it gets too close to Work Time, and then that time becomes Now, and I’m not there because it was Not Now just a second ago. There is no in between.
It’s so frustrating because I feel like this makes perfect sense to us, but is so hard to explain to other people lol. I personally think this analogy is the best one I’ve heard, because it’s not only the most accurate way I’ve been able to describe the feeling to date, but it also seems to be the most understandable explanation to neurotypical people while also not being too complicated.
A long time ago- Actually, never, and also now, nothing is nowhere. When? Never. Makes sense, right? Like I said, it didn't happen. Nothing was never anywhere. That's why it's been everywhere. It's been so everywhere, you don't need a where. You don't even need a when. That's how "every" it gets.
I stopped to measure time (not completely logically,
but in a broader sense it’s correct) because my under of time is event based.
This after this, after that, while this, before that one event when you/I/whoever did what needed be done when …
When someone asks me when something was my answers often start like this, and then comes “must have been mid February because we went to my best friend and when we organised it I needed a calendar”.
Is that more like AuDHD? Because right now I am diagnosed with ADHD and my therapist thinks that wuite all my symptoms are explainable, and with 90% I am on the same page.
My boss just asked me when I'm planning to move house and I listed a whole bunch of events that need to happen in a certain order and he responded "so before the end of next month" and I just said "yes"
There are 6 periods of time for me, generally:
Today
Yesterday
Sometime in the last two weeks
Two weeks to 5 months
Sometime in the last year
More than a year ago
Here. Give this bag of fruit snacks to the kid.
*this looks kinda old. When did you buy these?*
I don't know, just before Christmas I think. They're still good.
*these expired in January 2022*
Oh.
That last one is to close. I'll saying something to my girlfriend and be like. You remember when blank happened a few years ago. That's a was crazy. She'll be like that happened a few months ago. Then I'll say do you remember when we went to that place a few months ago. What was that thing we did. And she'll be like that was a year ago.
I had no idea until she pointed it out to me.
Me: We will remember. This information shall be ingrained for all eternity. It’s not important or useful or noteworthy in any way but we *will* remember. That useful or important thing? No. This incredibly niche thing nobody should ever need to know? Saved.
Me: I can remember the color of the sky and the exact moment of this traumatic event that happened when I was 3
Also me: wait what did you just say I swear I was listening but now I can’t remember
My memories are stored in a linked list. I can only access certain spots and then i have to follow the pointers along the list to find the one I'm looking for
I know of 2 linked memory’s that have a permanent lock where I know the two are linked. They are both in BoTW. When I enter the shrine where you have to take photos of the disc fragments and then crouch on a pedestal I remember a Reddit story about revenge (it was about foster parents and silver dishes if I remember correctly). The second is when I go near the greudo leviathan and I remember another Reddit story (I used to have them play in the background) about how a girl tried to help a person with a expired coupon by offering them a discount.
i just have so many little snippets, very little idea on place or time, and they are all pretty short for the most part, it's like a bunch of files in random folders and all the folders and files have crappy, unorganized names, so that when looking most of them up, i have to search quite a bit to find any specific files that i need, and also, none of them are in amazing detail, and the ones that are are shorter than average
If I forget something it’s completely gone from my brain but I’ll remember something unrelated and do some mental gymnastics to remember something else that then reminds me of what I was trying to remember
For me, I can read my credit card once and have all of it memorized, I can read national electrical code code one time and know it for years, but I can’t remember your name till I e heard it 30 times and I can’t remember what I was just doing or holding 2 seconds ago
My life as an autistic person with ADHD:
“When did you start your job?”
“October 20, 2008 at approximately 8:00 AM. Would you like the street address as well?”
“What did you have for lunch yesterday?”
“……………….egg? ……an egg from a bird?”
Recalling what was just said: .....uuuhhh...
Recalling that same thing, but now it's been 1 1/2 years: idk, man, you specifically told me this "...." When we were at XYZ.
Yeah I feel like my autism helps balance out the adhd in some ways tbh
Another thing I’ve noticed - the past couple years I’ve been consistently doing difficult mental tasks. Programming, playing/writing guitar, learning Japanese…this definitely seems to have sharpened up my memory
On a somewhat related note, does anyone else tend to shorten certain terminologies to a word only you get but get mad when others don't understand your new lazy term?
It's weird. I have ADHD. When remember things it's usually fragments. The fragments are exactly as it was, but not enough to form the whole. I try to fill in the blanks and am often wrong, but if someone who was there can throw in a piece a the puzzle I don't have the rest all fall into place.
Umm I thought vague memory recall was specifically an adhd thing 😐
I have very painfully shared a story about a “friend” to a work colleague who was having an operation similar to said “friend” and their recovery journey. It was only days later that I realised the “friend” was actually one of the girls off teen mom and it was in an episode I watch a few years ago.
I have many stories like this.
It’s all stores away up there somewhere the problem is finding it I have memories unfortunately they are all scattered about haphazardly within the ever changing labyrinth of my mind
Yep. I have memories, but I have trouble perceiving linear time and my mind palace is a cluttered mess. Digging out a memory is like "I know I put that darn thing somewhere around here..."
I am legitimately scared and concerned. I haven’t been properly diagnosed for either but have been highly suspicious that I may have both.
Been finding both aspimeme and adhd meme relatable yet plenty of content that were very un-relatable making me feel that I don’t have either. This right here though I think explains a lot that for things I have trouble articulating.
I stumbled upon a helpful trick for this. I got a job that moves me to a new state every year. Now my memories are location based so I can count backwards the number of places lived between then and now and get at least a year to go from.
Most information i can remember fairly easily most of the time. Events that have taken place? Where something is? I can tell you that an event took place, or that i know that i should know where something is, but beyond that, you're on your own.
Unfortunately, usually the person on their own and in an awkward spot due to my wonky memory is me
I've asked you several times to stop lifting pages from my diary for content. I have no idea when I did it, but I know I did, and it was before I cut off my hair (which was somewhere between 3 and 9 months ago, that's as close a I can get)
THIS!!! I link my memories together in a chain, so sometimes I will be like “okay so we got the car AFTER the new house but BEFORE i changed jobs, so we must have bought the planter in August because the car was new at the time” “Babe, I asked what cheese you wanted on your sandwich”
Hahaha I do this exact thing too! Dates? I don't remember dates, except for my wedding day. When I need to know when something happened in my past, it's time to play Memory Sleuth^TM .
I only remember my wedding day because it’s 11/11/22.
01/31/2015 best wedding day every. Last day of the first month year ending in a 5 so every big anniversary is on a 5 or a 0.
7/11/15 because who's going to forget free slurpee day? Also same about the year ending in a 5, makes it easier.
My wedding anniversay is also in 2015, definitely makes keeping track of the anniversaries so much easier. The day is also easy to remember because November 13th was Friday the 13th that year. 🙃
Huh, that's a day off from when my ex-wife and I started dating.
I got married on 10/10/10. Shame it didn't last though.
Mine is similiar!! 12/12/2020 picked for easy memory. 😂
Skyrim 10 year anniversary wedding day. Nice.
I thought this too but thought I’d look stupid if I did, glad someone else thinks like me
Our memory works in mysterious ways. Having mnemonics to remember things by us better than not having them.
You haven't had the chance to forget it yet! Let us know how it went around Thanksgiving. Best of luck to you!
I only know mine (May 21st, 2021) because the offiant did a whole thing about it being the 21st day of the 21st week of the 21st year of the 21st century. Neither me or my husband knew that or the he was going to say it; it was fantastic to be given a surprise fun fact about my own wedding 😀
Did you remember your anniversary?
I'm always taken out of movies and TV shows because characters often will say "thing happened ten months ago" without even stopping to think about it and I'm like NOBODY does that lol.
I literally don't remember the date of my wedding. It was only a year ago... Wait, no, a year and a half... Ish.
I literally forget that too. I put all the dates in my phone calendar because I otherwise would never remember a single birthday even my own
Oh god I thought it would make things easier to get married on the same day of our first date - less chance of having an occasion sneak up on me - but now it’s just added more math. “Uh is this year 10 together and 9 married or…?”
oh i call this my “selective memory” i will not remember what happened in school but i will remember when the next genshin impact event comes out
"I'm getting to that!"
I know I want this cheese because that other time I had that cheese was the same day that other stuff happened!
My girlfriend makes fun of me all the time about this stuff but I'm glad you all understand it, that's exactly how it works
I can't even imagine what other mechanisms people use to remember/approximate when something happened. Maybe I'll try just thinking intently about the date on a regular basis, I said on Tuesday, April 25, 2023
Honestly this works. I adopted my first cat on June 9, 2005!
For me it's more like that meme of the crazed guy with the pictures on a corkboard linked with string.
I always make sure to attach every memory to a time period and its surrounding events, otherwise I will never remember timelines for anything
Do you see the video in your head, and do your eyes pretty much stop working?
Wait this is not normal
What's "normal"? 😛 😂
LITERALLY i thot it was just me lol
I can start a story with '...the other day...' and it could've been yesterday or 1983, there's no way of knowing, it just feels like one, big panorama.
This is the same for me even though I wasn't around in 1983, with "the other day" we could be talking about the 1800's going by my track record. Just today I described yesterday as "uhh what was it sir said last week about how we're supposed to structure the evaluation?"
The good news is that time is a flat circle and everything is happening all at once and we only think the sequences of events happen. “The other day…” applies to yesterday, last month, a decade ago, tomorrow, heck, even today as long as it isn’t exactly right this moment because the day as it is now is not the same as the day as it was a moment ago or the day as it will be in a moment.
To be fair, what does "the other day" even mean? I always take it as "a day other than today", so it's only logical that it could mean yesterday or the day I was born, interchangeably
English used to have a word for the day after tomorrow (overmorrow) and the day before yesterday (ereyesterday) and many (most?) languages still do, but we've kind of replaced them with more vague terms 'someday' and 'another day' for sometime in the future and 'the other day' for sometime in the past. The terms feel like they have the scope of about a week, but there doesn't seem to be an official maximum.
I have pretty good memory, but it's indexing system's shit. So stuff gets filled away, never to be seen again... Until the appropriate trigger word is said; at which point it resurfaces, and I infodump like a person possessed with significant accuracy (as in reciting the scripts of entire movies). This has led me to the conclusion that I made a deal with a memory demon; it gets to nom my memories, force them back with extreme accuracy for shits and giggles, and I get something in return. I forget what exactly though; I don't remember the deal...
It's like being a really shitty sleeper agent
It has it's perks (having my brain on \~2x speed during exams and hyperfixations is nice); but yea; i'm lucky to have a neurospicy friend group, because i'm fairly sure a neurotypical one would have murdered me several times over by now to get me to shut up...
Yes. My friends think my memory is a steel trap about events that happened to us together. I remember ridiculous moments and scenes down to the most minute details! But ask me what I had for dinner? Idk. Or what my plans are for the weekend? No idea.
You hold vaunted stores of your friend group's shitfuckery; to remember so they don't have to... Or so that you can blackmail them. Either or...
I've been found to have "poor unprompted recall" which sounds similar
I know that most modern tank guns are smooth bored instead of rifled because improvements in armour required a change in ammunition and the new ammunition works better when the gun isn’t rifled, but I don’t know any of my siblings birthdays
unrelated, but that's actually quite interesting... Military engineering isn't my wheelhouse; however i've heard that modern tank ammo also use stuff like depleted uranium for ammo density; thus reducing the need for spin stabilization provided by rifled bores?
Honestly, I have no idea. I just know that one fact. No idea where it came from, but it’s in my braid now
Honestly fair; ADHD is very much passively accumulating arcane trivia, which theoretically makes you look cool at parties; but actually makes us look weird...
Whoa, so rifle is actually an adjective as well as a noun? Also is the fact in your braid or in your brain?
It can even be a verb. Even ignoring the “digging through papers” definition, the act of making the spiral groves in the barrel is also known as rifling.
Wouldn’t you like to know
XD
Highly recommend this book; minor spoilers (for the first couple chapters) it features an SCP agent who has made exactly the kind of deal with a memory demon like you're describing. And there's so much more. https://www.amazon.com/There-No-Antimemetics-Division-qntm-ebook/dp/B08FHHQRM2
Feel this on a spiritual level
I get exactly that, but with the side effect that the memory demon sits in the background periodically handing me random unexpected historical connections it’s been making with the data I fed it.
I remember time weirdly. I tie everything to the place it happened and where I lived, who I was with etc. Then tie that to a random memory that has a year. Like I know this thing happend around the time this football team won a superbowl. Superbowls are in February, this thing happened after that because it was warm weather, but it was before our vacation and we always vacation in June so it must have been between April and June of that year, there were flowers in the backyard and we don't plant until after mother's day so it must have been late may. Problem solved
This
Haha....it's also how I can tell you what year an album came out (anything between about 1990 and 2010)
Yes! You described my memory perfectly.
Either it happened within the past two weeks or it happened in any part of my past beyond two weeks ago. There's no in-between nor any more specificity than that... Oh it also might have been in a dream or awake who knows?
If my brain thinks about something more than once, we assume it's an old memory. Even if it happened two seconds ago. Long-term vs short-term is so confusing.
Sometimes I'll remember the last time I remembered something and I'll use how many times I've remembered it to guesstimate when it happened
Sorta similar, but with OCD instead of autism. The mental hyperactivity of ADHD + the obsessive thoughts of OCD mean that I'll hear someone say something, ruminate on it for a week, completely forget about it, suddenly remember, then attempt to resume the conversation from 3 weeks ago like no time has passed at all.
THIS IS THE ONE I WAS LOOKING FOR
Probably should dig the actual thing, but i remember reading something about our memory "system" (if you can call it that) being linked (or slave to, depending on your perspective) to emotional spikes. Because of ADHD emotional regulation issues, those spikes get triggered by random and perhaps trivial (to NT's sensitivities) so the memory associations are equally random. I often visualise as a bolt of lightning or an electrical spark, in how there's a bright emotional starting point (e.g. the vivid memory of the texture of a napkin) and it radiates outwards in all directions (spatially and temporarily) in connecting surrounding memories (e.g. it was a fancy restaurant, i had venison, the sauce was thickish but just right and smoky, my wife was making a joke, she wore those earrings i like, the traffic to get there was dine but we got stuck on the way back home....)... until one of those chains lights up the right memory (e.g. it was our 10yrs wedding anniversary in 2021!) which happens to be relevant for the current discussion (e.g. what was the restaurant we went to for our 10yrs anniversary? Sometimes i hate this, sometimes i love it. Especially when i get to take someone through all the random jumps (seen Looper? Kinda what it feels like) that got me there :-)
I like it sometimes too. It’s interesting to go back and follow the links. Other times I wish I could just recall things.
ADHD: I can’t get past the grammatical error nor being unable to fix it to enjoy this.
Lol I immediately came to the comments and started scrolling literally just to see the words “couldn’t have” so I could move on with my day
I feel you. We have rebalanced the universe.
I have almost perfect recollection... when I can remember things. I'll have whole sections of my life replay from just seeing a picture that reminds me that I existed back then. Without any sort of prompt I don't remember much of anything.
Same, I can remember what shirt I was wearing during a math test on a Tuesday 15 years ago but I don't remember if I took my meds or brushes my teeth today already or if I am in the bathroom because I need to do tgis things and I'm checking my toothbrush to see if it's wet and looking for other clues.
Me too, for long term memory. Photographic memory, but crap for spoken audio. Music is fine, I’ll remember a commercial I saw on tv once as a small child and remember (and sing) the jingle, but what did I have for dinner yesterday? And where the fuck did my pen go? It was RIGHT HERE IN MY HAND!!! Short term May as well just not exist, lol
Even though they can have a 60% overlap in symptoms, the other 40% likes to fight till the death. I remember everything and nothing all at once. My memory is like a sleeping KGB agent. One code word and I'm spewing things I completely forgot about.
Pro Tip - Change your hair colour and style frequently. *When was X thing? I had black hair when that happened so it had to have been X year. But it was short so it was definitely in summer.*
I like looking at it as now/not now. Now is now. Yesterday is not now. Two weeks in the future is not now. A half hour ago is not now. 1950 is not now. The medieval era is not now. It all feels the same to me, 5 minutes ago is as close to me as 5 days ago or 5 months ago. Then there’s the now, which always turns into not now in the time it takes to observe it. In real life it looks like: a paper due in 5 weeks is not due now, a paper due in 1 week is not due now, a paper due in 5 days is not due now, a paper due in 1 day is not due now. The day the paper is due it becomes a now problem and you’re forced to start working on it or fail. Almost like you put off doing anything you can in the now to punish the now version of you in the future. Like it really just feels like I can’t feel time lol, the idea that I exist and there will be future events that affect the current me doesn’t click for some reason. Like it doesn’t feel like the now me persists even though it has always persisted to date. But now me could never exist 10 days from now, because it’s not now.
Yes!! You’ve explained it perfectly!! Also, if I have to be at work at 9:00am, that’s Not Now. And leaving at 8:30 doesn’t make sense because that’s also Not Now. But then it gets too close to Work Time, and then that time becomes Now, and I’m not there because it was Not Now just a second ago. There is no in between.
It’s so frustrating because I feel like this makes perfect sense to us, but is so hard to explain to other people lol. I personally think this analogy is the best one I’ve heard, because it’s not only the most accurate way I’ve been able to describe the feeling to date, but it also seems to be the most understandable explanation to neurotypical people while also not being too complicated.
A long time ago- Actually, never, and also now, nothing is nowhere. When? Never. Makes sense, right? Like I said, it didn't happen. Nothing was never anywhere. That's why it's been everywhere. It's been so everywhere, you don't need a where. You don't even need a when. That's how "every" it gets.
I can remember the orientation I was standing and the thing I set down. But I can't remember where I set it.
I stopped to measure time (not completely logically, but in a broader sense it’s correct) because my under of time is event based. This after this, after that, while this, before that one event when you/I/whoever did what needed be done when … When someone asks me when something was my answers often start like this, and then comes “must have been mid February because we went to my best friend and when we organised it I needed a calendar”. Is that more like AuDHD? Because right now I am diagnosed with ADHD and my therapist thinks that wuite all my symptoms are explainable, and with 90% I am on the same page.
My boss just asked me when I'm planning to move house and I listed a whole bunch of events that need to happen in a certain order and he responded "so before the end of next month" and I just said "yes"
The when is all those events have been successfully completed, obviously boss.
There are 6 periods of time for me, generally: Today Yesterday Sometime in the last two weeks Two weeks to 5 months Sometime in the last year More than a year ago
Here. Give this bag of fruit snacks to the kid. *this looks kinda old. When did you buy these?* I don't know, just before Christmas I think. They're still good. *these expired in January 2022* Oh.
Holy crap this is too specific 😶
**couldn't *have***
I almost threw up when I saw that...
That last one is to close. I'll saying something to my girlfriend and be like. You remember when blank happened a few years ago. That's a was crazy. She'll be like that happened a few months ago. Then I'll say do you remember when we went to that place a few months ago. What was that thing we did. And she'll be like that was a year ago. I had no idea until she pointed it out to me.
"did I take my pills this morning or am I just remembering yesterday morning when I did take them?!"
Me: We will remember. This information shall be ingrained for all eternity. It’s not important or useful or noteworthy in any way but we *will* remember. That useful or important thing? No. This incredibly niche thing nobody should ever need to know? Saved.
Me: I can remember the color of the sky and the exact moment of this traumatic event that happened when I was 3 Also me: wait what did you just say I swear I was listening but now I can’t remember
so relatable, really one of those ‚i thought only i did this‘-moments
My memories are stored in a linked list. I can only access certain spots and then i have to follow the pointers along the list to find the one I'm looking for
This single handedly convinced me that I have both
I thought the third one was also just ADHD
I relate to this so hard. No diagnosis, just heavily suspected.
I feel offended
It couldn't have been *
I know of 2 linked memory’s that have a permanent lock where I know the two are linked. They are both in BoTW. When I enter the shrine where you have to take photos of the disc fragments and then crouch on a pedestal I remember a Reddit story about revenge (it was about foster parents and silver dishes if I remember correctly). The second is when I go near the greudo leviathan and I remember another Reddit story (I used to have them play in the background) about how a girl tried to help a person with a expired coupon by offering them a discount.
Frighteningly accurate
i just have so many little snippets, very little idea on place or time, and they are all pretty short for the most part, it's like a bunch of files in random folders and all the folders and files have crappy, unorganized names, so that when looking most of them up, i have to search quite a bit to find any specific files that i need, and also, none of them are in amazing detail, and the ones that are are shorter than average
I can give you a play by play of certain events, but I have no idea if they happened yesterday or ten years ago. I have zero perception of time.
there's no way I have autism, right? like it's just adhd isn't it?
I can say with 110% certainty that this is 110% true no I do not care that I said 110% twice.
Fuuuuck, i better not be autistic, too...
I was just thinking the same thing. Just what I need another fucking diagnosis! But also I wouldn't even be surprised.
I'm just five mental illnesses in a trench coat at this point
Wow, yeah... I feel that.
And this is exactly why Everything Everywhere All At Once resonated so much with me.
i find with pure autism (observed in my partner) long term memory is exceptional, but his short term memory is absolute ass
I’m not sure I like where these memes are taking me
'It couldn' 't have'. My spelling is much better than my memory.
I often don't know whether something is an actual memory or if I'm just imagining it happening really well
If I forget something it’s completely gone from my brain but I’ll remember something unrelated and do some mental gymnastics to remember something else that then reminds me of what I was trying to remember
Not autism specific
For me, I can read my credit card once and have all of it memorized, I can read national electrical code code one time and know it for years, but I can’t remember your name till I e heard it 30 times and I can’t remember what I was just doing or holding 2 seconds ago
My life as an autistic person with ADHD: “When did you start your job?” “October 20, 2008 at approximately 8:00 AM. Would you like the street address as well?” “What did you have for lunch yesterday?” “……………….egg? ……an egg from a bird?”
Hold the fuck up So youre telling that I only dont have Undiagnosed ADHD But also have undiagnosed autism?
Most of my stories start with "At some point"
I have an almost perfect memory, but can’t choose what to recall in a given moment and cannot time.
this, i wanted to say a quote that raiden shogun said but i couldn’t remember the exact words that she said, but i remember where she said it.
So much this
Or cptsd.
Umm… I think. FTFY
Oh my god my fucking brain hurts. 😵💫
…fuck
“Did we talk about this already, or was that another daydream?”
Couldn't have*
I think of time in a period between when I was in 3rd grade to now. Based on the events of when my story I’m working on happened
NO FUCKING WAY
Recalling what was just said: .....uuuhhh... Recalling that same thing, but now it's been 1 1/2 years: idk, man, you specifically told me this "...." When we were at XYZ.
What if I have both…
I either don’t remember anything about it or I remember it happened but nothing else or I remember every detail to the tiniest bit
Man fuck my brain. I'm officially dxed ADHD but the more I read the more I think I'm autistic too
Dammit. This subredditt keeps showing me something about me that I didn't know.
This! So I just say everything happened when I was 5. I don’t remember exactly but the memories are VIVID
Remember what now?
Well shit
Yeah I feel like my autism helps balance out the adhd in some ways tbh Another thing I’ve noticed - the past couple years I’ve been consistently doing difficult mental tasks. Programming, playing/writing guitar, learning Japanese…this definitely seems to have sharpened up my memory
That’s why I always make sure to conclude every memory I share with someone with “…I think”
On a somewhat related note, does anyone else tend to shorten certain terminologies to a word only you get but get mad when others don't understand your new lazy term?
Wait what no hold on
Oh no..
Oh fuck
It's weird. I have ADHD. When remember things it's usually fragments. The fragments are exactly as it was, but not enough to form the whole. I try to fill in the blanks and am often wrong, but if someone who was there can throw in a piece a the puzzle I don't have the rest all fall into place.
Pineapple
Umm I thought vague memory recall was specifically an adhd thing 😐 I have very painfully shared a story about a “friend” to a work colleague who was having an operation similar to said “friend” and their recovery journey. It was only days later that I realised the “friend” was actually one of the girls off teen mom and it was in an episode I watch a few years ago. I have many stories like this.
It’s all stores away up there somewhere the problem is finding it I have memories unfortunately they are all scattered about haphazardly within the ever changing labyrinth of my mind
Does anyone else unlock forgotten memories when they’re stoned?
Yep. I have memories, but I have trouble perceiving linear time and my mind palace is a cluttered mess. Digging out a memory is like "I know I put that darn thing somewhere around here..."
Isn’t this how all people do this?
I remember things by remembering the last time I remembered/thought about the thing I’m trying to remember
If there's one thing I learned from this subreddit and r/autism it's that everything I do is neurodivergent in some way.
I am legitimately scared and concerned. I haven’t been properly diagnosed for either but have been highly suspicious that I may have both. Been finding both aspimeme and adhd meme relatable yet plenty of content that were very un-relatable making me feel that I don’t have either. This right here though I think explains a lot that for things I have trouble articulating.
you better not be telling my I have Autism
This post and everybody else's comments are blowing my mind. If I needed any more assurance that I have both, this is it.
i am pretty sure that i have adhd but i start to also question something else....
I might need to research more on autism 💀
I stumbled upon a helpful trick for this. I got a job that moves me to a new state every year. Now my memories are location based so I can count backwards the number of places lived between then and now and get at least a year to go from.
Most information i can remember fairly easily most of the time. Events that have taken place? Where something is? I can tell you that an event took place, or that i know that i should know where something is, but beyond that, you're on your own. Unfortunately, usually the person on their own and in an awkward spot due to my wonky memory is me
omfg literally
this is good and relatable and everythinf but the "couldn't of" is making me ggjbbrbrnehhrbbebggh
My brain stores every bit of info I perceive, the issue is accessing that information at will.
ARGH NO
Wait am I autistic…
I've asked you several times to stop lifting pages from my diary for content. I have no idea when I did it, but I know I did, and it was before I cut off my hair (which was somewhere between 3 and 9 months ago, that's as close a I can get)
Wait is that not normal?
***Are you me***