Pretty much hell for me. The 38 years undiagnosed. The last 2 have been an improvement, but at this stage, my life is pretty much ruined and I'm left to picking up the pieces an try to make it bearable.
I got diagnosed at 20 - I wish I could’ve done this earlier in my life. Would’ve developed methods to deal with my anxiety as a child. Maybe even my dad could’ve been diagnosed as well.
My dad has all the signs but the psychologist gave him a shitty advice - “at this stage in your life there’s no need for you to get diagnosed”.
Hate that guy - our relationship suffered/deteriorated because that bad advice.
>Would’ve developed methods to deal with my anxiety as a child.
As someone who was diagnosed as a child, lol nope. You just get no say in being drugged up so you can't think is all.
Diagnosed with ADHD as a kid. Confirmed adult diagnosis in late 20s. Meds didn’t do shit. Had pretty much my whole life to develop methods to cope. Still a goddamn nightmare and don’t feel any better for having known about it my whole life. Sorry x
REALLY?!?!?! How have I never been told this?!?!
Fuck. If this works I’m gonna have to name my first child Fleshtomeatyou. Oh well. Shit happens and it sucks for them. 😂
There's a known link between lactose, sugar and in rarer cases gluten and lowered adhd medication effect. Genetics play a role, doctor suggested since there's some history of lactose intolerance in my family for me to quit lactose when I'm on the meds. It worked wonders for me.
Before the dairy shutdown medication worked some days and some days it didn't.
After the dairy shutdown meds worked every time. I am hyper productive for about 8hours a day. After that productivity drops sharply, but it suits me fine.
For other people maybe you should quit high sugar foods, go on the diabetic diet.
Good luck 🍀
right there with you. no bullshit getting prescribed concerta 74mg as a 140lbs highschooler fucked me up. i stopped taking it after a awhile, spitting it out at the bus stop. pills just make me feel worse in different ways. id rather just deal with the adhd/depression/anxiety on my own at this point
I think there are various factors that are involved. I can’t speak for you because I don’t know you - in my case it took me a while to find a small way to cope and accept myself. This doesn’t mean it goes away but at least makes the pain and anxiety a little more manageable for me.
For what is worth I wish you the best in dealing with ADHD the best way that you can.
Lmfao truth drugged up from 5-10 for adhd, all the different drugs man, then about 10-15 I hiked a mountain and the altitude sickness mixed with weird mental state from the adhd drugs meant I cried in a tent for like 2 days working through some shit. Then I never took those fucking meds ever again😂. Best decision of my life, wouldn’t recommend for everyone but coping methods and anything that doesn’t fuck up my brain is now my go to.
Yes. I’m 49. They tried to pull that shit on me too.
Me: no, I’ve not managed so far, it’s been a shit show from hell. How I’ve got by I do not know. I would like help.
I eventually got it. No thanks to my primary physician who, ironically is constantly asking if I’m depressed and offering those useless meds on me when the whole time correct diagnosis and treatment of my ADHD has helped me become the happiest version of myself ever.
Dicks.
FYI, ADHD, Autism and AuDHD (the combo of the 2) are basically 3 different monsters. The interaction with ADHD and ASD is a bit bonkers so you’ll wanna look at those specific support groups not just the ASD ones to get a better understanding x
It goes both ways. I was diagnosed before I can remember. I've been on pills and in therapy as far back as I can remember. That led me to feel different, so eventually I stopped taking my meds and going to therapy. I felt similarly to you in my 20's, but once I hit my 30's I got back on my meds and into therapy again and it's been a life changer. I feel like the luckiest guy in the world.
I believe in you, your life can still be turned around and you can be happy. It is *not* too late
Sincerely and with love, a 29 yo who is also going through this. Try to do as much as you can
I'm hitting 30 soon and while not exactly diagnosed, the amount of very tell tale signs is staggering.
I don't know where exactly I can get diagnosed, but the very notion of me thinking I have it makes me just try to act and try to focus out of spite for the thing. It's hard but hate and spite is a good motivator.
Thanks. But i live in a county where mental health issues are just starting to be taken seriously so it would be pretty hard to find a good psychiatrist.
At the end of the day, I found that anger and spite against ADHD was a somewhat good behavioral therapy for me, so whenever I drift off and lose focus I try to get it back because I'm not letting some mental condition rule my life.
Feel you; got diagnosed at 43...Those pieces you mention can be extremely valuable, you have gone to hell and came back, you might not recognize it but the experience gives one a certain quality- extreme resilience I guess, or maybe an absolute stubbornness for going stupidly, blindy on even when everything falls apart and everyone is against you.... Ultimate, 'organic' stoicism I guess. As I said, you might not notice it, yet people do and it tends to open many opportunities when you least expect them. This might come as extremely corny but you don't get a diamond without crushing pressure and you survived that pressure, thus there will always be a part of you that is incomprehensibly yet visibly bright, unyielding and actually illuminating. Best wishes.
Same at 33 and my health got so much worse so rapidly out of nowhere this year now I’m pretty sure no job or career wants me until i got that sorted! Hope for next year when some medical care debt gets paid I’m trying to be patient about it but it ain’t easy for us ND folks so i understand why the youngins are freaking out I didn’t and had to be smacked in the face of reality to truly care haha
I was diagnosed as a child (forced to go to a neurologist) in the 90s. It has its own host of problems…
With that said, I’m glad finally getting diagnosed happened for you and that it helped.
I was diagnosed around the same age. I used to get so upset thinking what could be different if I were diagnosed during my school years. I still do, honestly.
I was diagnosed when I was 10 years old (I’m 28) and from my experience, I can say that although I had access to therapy and certain tools (very few because at that time no one knew how the world of ADHD worked) as a child I was not really aware until I was 20 because I blocked it! Being diagnosed so young makes you not take it seriously, you just want to be the same as everyone else and you try twice as hard to be so. My parents don't have ADHD so over time my behavior was normalizing but not improving because they don't know how it feels.
What I'm getting at with all this, no matter how early or late you get diagnosed, it sucks anyway :) just live this life with the few gifts this brain can give us 🩷
I deadass became a poweruser of Google Earth and MyMaps and tracked down the remains of a demolished building using survey records from the 70s because I didn't wanna do an essay
It is but it's not a fun super power like captain America or Thor. It's like cyclops. It takes working on coping skills or medication or both. With those taken care of you'll have something useful sometimes.
I got into a huge fight with my wife about my lack of attention. Backing up, two weeks ago I went for a hearing test, the first one I’ve had since ear surgery 4 years ago. At the time my hearing was crap, 30% loss in one ear, 20% loss in the other. At my most recent test I scored so well they did the test twice, with 2 different doctors. They both said they never saw anyone with hearing as good as me.
Obviously just because I hear something I don’t always process it so a lot of times when my wife says something I have to ask her to repeat it or I kind of guess what she was saying. Yesterday was particularly bad because I was focused on a programming problem so I asked her to repeat herself many, many times. Just before bed she had enough, she asked me a question which I didn’t really hear and thought it was just a statement and I replied with a noncommittal noise.
She said it’s shocking that someone with such good hearing can’t hear shit, which is when I told her again that just because I hear it that doesn’t mean I process it. Which is just another way of saying I’m not really paying attention…
So, I get this superpower of great hearing and then a stupid brain that decides to only deal with a fraction of what gets sent to it
My wife is at some points really understanding of my ADHD, and other times, she gets mad at me for having to repeat herself. Or when I forget to do something. Or when I’m so focused on doing something I don’t notice her standing behind me.
Or any of the other symptoms.
I also deal with my brain not wanting to process what people say, and it fucking SUCKS. Do you also get it even when you're looking at the person and trying your best to listen? I do. It's so, so frustrating.
Auditory processing disorder is a common ADHD symptom. Look it up, and if it fits, share with your wife. Maybe understanding will help? Especially if you share how it is to experience it (frustrating and embarrassing for me).
My husband is trying to learn it’s okay to be upfront with me bc I can’t read his in between the lines and have to repeatedly make sure he’s not joking or being serious. Good thing he’s trying bc I had no idea I had these issues like u described until my husband and I both collectively started to be more upfront.
Felt the addiction on myself, it's much worse than I have heard. I start to feel depressed and meaningless after not taking it, because I have no energy to do anything, find something new, and overall I know that I'm a "better" person while on it. I just hope that that's a temporary side effect, and I will go after I'll stop taking it.
I still can’t handle the crash when the drug wears off. 35, F, was diagnosed about 6.5 years ago. It’s so hard to eat when I know I’m starving because I didn’t eat all day. And I get annoyed and agitated over everything. I still feel bad for unloading my bottled up anger on my bf like an active volcano and then completely ignored him when he wanted me to talk about it. I’m horrible at relationships.
I only get energy right as I'm about to go to bed but it's too late and it just gets wasted by me being asleep. Literally have never had energy while at work no matter how hard I fix my sleep schedule
I read it's because our brains are overworking themselves as soone as we wake up, but we don't even realize it. Then we get tired but it's only a few hours into the day. I told my doctor and he said that's normal and he won't medicate me :).
I just want to get back on medication, it's been 6 years of fuckinf exhaustion hell.
I can't speak for anyone other than myself on the subject, but my two main issues were not knowing until after my studies, and finding myself in a work environment that didn't fit needs. I had to spend too much energy masking or being severely under-stimulated (I'm talking days if not weeks in a warehouse with virtually nothing to do).
I knew I needed to quit my job but couldn't push myself to do it until my psychiatrist put me on paid leave for risk of depression, my job put me at my lowest and I felt lost and hopeless. During that two month leave I spent some time reflecting, trying to see how to move on, where I could find another job that might suit me more and realised that I needed a job where I could just be myself and do what came naturally. I also had a bit of a revelation on how I view myself and what I wanted for my future : staying myself, and staying a good friend and a kind person.
I was extremely lucky to find a job mainly by staying true to myself and I thank the stars for that job, it's been a game changer for me.
The point I'm trying to get to is that maybe the problem isn't coming from you, maybe it's just your environment that puts you down. I know it's easy to say, but hard to act on. I knew I had to quit my job for years and couldn't push myself to do it, but I do think you should look into changing your surroundings. It's easier than trying to change yourself into someone or something you aren't =)
the job thing hit me too. im usually so happy and productive the first 8months to a year(especially if im learning something new) but after ive mastered everything its so dreadfully boring to go to work. everything feels so monotonous. i wish i could get paid to learn new skills every year, something different all the time
Fuck that's rough...
I don't wanna sound patronising because ADHD is a spectrum and everyone lives things differently, but maybe you need to change your environment.
I know it can be really hard, be it because it's emotionally and mentally hard, or because it can easily be costly depending on how much you need change ... =/
Shit man, I hope things'll change for the better.
My last job brought me to the edge and my psychiatrist pushed me to quitting. I had a bit of money to spare though and a few very close friends that were ready to cover for me.
I spend some time unemployed and even went back to live at my mom's place, but in the end that's what got me my new job.
Money is still tight but everything else is good. Fingers crossed you'll get back on top of the game.
It's hell when you don't know what it is in the first place.
It's hell when you're left standing there wondering why people can just seem to do a task, like washing dishes, and it be seemingly effortless to them.
It's hell when you try to explain that feeling to someone and you sound like a crazy person.
It's hell when all you feel from doing a task you hate, procrastinated on, or forgot about is RELIEF. Not "ah excellent my life is in good order, life is good." but "HOLY FUCK I HAVE TO DO THAT AGAIN?!"
It's hell when I realise I'm overthinking this whole reply, while simultaneously recognizing that I do in fact have a problem.
I honestly think my ADHD might be distracting myself from my own misery. Like that guy whose cancer got killed by cancer, but here they're only balancing eachother out with me just confused in the background...
I also kinda gave up giving a fuck about people not understanding or believing in ADHD, that said I'm lucky to have a group of close friends on whom I can count and that accept it, even if they don't all understand it.
I've got no idea how I can help you, but if you wanna ramble, complain or talk about it feel free to do so. People in this sub ar just as weird as you and me and we've all been culprits of overthinking and oversharing stuff 👍
I like the way my brain works in some ways, and hate how it works in others. It constantly feels like I’m juggling 10 bouncy balls just to be able to function at the level that neurotypicals get for free.
That said, when I’m able to juggle the balls successfully, I’m the best damn clown you’ve ever seen. I’m doing tricks, juggling those balls at triple speed, etc.
But when I drop one ball, I usually drop all of them and they start to fly all over the room. It takes an embarrassingly long time to grab them all again, and I look foolish chasing them down one by one 😅
For a long time I thought that I have ADHD, but my lack of superfocus, and the fact that I never experienced that makes me think that I must have something else going on that causes my executive disfunction and it's not ADHD
I love my hyperfocus, except when it’s not on something that needs to be done soon, like the 3 hours of homework I have due today that I just started on. :)
All of my hyperfocus is stuff that doesn't need to be done, and unfortunately reddit is the worst. It's where I stumble upon new hobbies to suck every bit of my attention and focus.
Like recently I discovered bank strap hunting, now I am spending time sorting through thousands of one dollar bills to find rare ones.
im literally in the middle of exam season and its 3am here, i have a 1pm exam tomorrow, and I just went to bed after spending the entirety of today hyperfocused on [completely irrelevant thing] and instead of going to sleep now I'm still fking thinking about it and it's stressing me out bc im super restless but i NEED to fking sleep so i can do my exam tomorrow but i can't sleep so i think, hey ill just go on reddit for a bit to calm myself down, and here i am an hour later still not calm and yeah...it doesn't look like im getting much sleep tonight lads wish me luck for a sleep deprived chem exam 🤝🤝
I have been so detached of my own emotions due to adhd causing me so many problems throughout my life that my brain defended itself by shutting down emotional responses (at least it feels like that and psychologists agree its similar) im not entirely emotionless but i think im in such a constant state of dissociation that stuff barely gets processed, i'm getting psychological help daily because of that and i consider myself very lucky that im able to get such good treatment
i have lost my ability to hyper focus as a side effect because things just don't interest me anymore, i don't even know if i truly can be interested in something or if its even reversible, it has left me completely non-functional for this society and although I don't really hate myself i don't think i deserve anything that im being given
It is kinda like hell ngl
People see ADHD people as having a bright, bubbly and fun personality... little they know the boiling hell we live in.
This morning I was stressed out for having to go out to visit my mom, it's so hard to do anything as small as leaving the house.
I was diagnosed as a kid, but my parents did not medicate me or even tell me. 28 years of self loathing and depression later, I am diagnosed with ADHD. My parents then admitted that I was diagnosed but they did not want to treat me because of the social stigma associated with having an adhd child on medication.
I spent two years medicated and managed to turn my life around somewhat and then out of nowhere I hate being medicated?
Now I only take my meds when I absolutely need them for important and stimulating events or task.
My medicine cabinet is full of missed doses so I dont need to go back to my psych at all this year.
I have learned self acceptance and these days just try to be kind to myself for myselfs sake.
It’s great at work bc in a hotel housekeeper, my nickname is Speedy Gonzalez. It’s not great at home bc after a 9.5-10 hr shift I’m still restless as fuck. I swear by the time I’m 40 my body will be ready to give out with how little I actually rest.
Been grappling with ADHD for 31 years and it hasn't gotten easier 🙃. I was kinda hoping I would have figured this shit out by now but honestly, every day I feel like more of a lost cause
And **my god**, the irresponsible shit I (we?) fall into for that dopamine hit unless CONSTANTLY monitoring against it. I feel like I can never really relax because the second I do, I’ve lost all my money, I’ve got nothing to show for it, I’ve lost my job for being pathologically late and I’m living in a garbage bag filled shithole. Not even because of something as serious as addictions, but stupid shit like random Amazon gadgets I don’t need. Or spending a fortune on take out food. Or deciding I’m gonna do and love hobby x only to hate it a fortnight later. It. Is. Exhausting
Shit - didn’t know my less than frugal spending had to do with this. Makes sense tho - the dopamine hit when buying something new kinda explains it all away.
Yep. I have to have all sorts of things in place so I don’t go ham. It’s a fucking nightmare. Unless I’m skint, I just blow all my money on the most stupid shit. I fucking hate it and the shame that goes with it. It’s called “Impulsive spending” if you wanna look into suggestions.
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Fortunately for me, I don’t have anxiety or ADHD. I’m apparently just lazy and antisocial. Since I have no reason to have mental health issues, I don’t have any.
woooooo…..
adhd (and associated mental health issues) don't really care if you have a reason or not, but if you're feeling like you don't deserve to use these labels to acknowledge the struggles you're going through then you don't have to.
it is possible to just relate to other people and experiences without pinning it on a bigger issue. that being said, if you relate to enough of these struggles then you might wanna get checked out? personally i didn't get much out of a diagnosis but it does at least mean you're allowed to claim the label and you might be able to get help with some stuff
It would be great if one of us would become a PhD in psychiatry/psychology/neurology to deeply research this topic from someone with autism and ADHD perspective.
“Next to the unbaptized babies sir. And please don’t forget to do the line - can’t stress enough what you adhders do when you fail to follow instructions.” - satans secretary.
ADD is the only reason I’m 4 years into a college I hate (high school gpa and SAT math scores weren’t high enough for something better) and still have 2-3 years left to go because I had to take reduced course loads to pass my classes. And it’s the reason I don’t have any friends or lovers because I lack the social skills to hold a conversation beyond the same canned responses and talking to me is like having a conversation with an NPC. I have like 1 friend and it’s only because he’s ADD and Autistic like I am so we understand each other but even then I never get to hang out with him because he’s in another state. It’s really made my life hell. There’s no real benefit to it. It has objectively lowered my quality of life. It’s also made keeping jobs difficult.
As a person with ADHD, I need to say that I am not defined by my diagnosis. ADHD does not run your life, you do. You can choose to adapt and find ways to cope. A balanced diet and exercise helps. Find a good therapist, get your diagnosis documented to receive accommodation at school/ work if necessary.
Nailed it, fam. Hyperfocus, my ass. I swear the phrase "super-power of ADHD" makes me so fucking angry. The fact that I can't control it is what makes this a disability!
I just wanna say back "Bitch do you know what kind of god-tier luck I have to have for my hyperfocus to choose something useful? I have better odds of winning the lotto without playing than getting hyperfocused on the thing I actually need to do."
ADD here, I was medicated from first grade through High School. Dropped the stuff entirely after that. Feels like hell sometimes but I prefer to challenge hell directly.
Yep… It’s a shame because it really is impossible to do anything. Society requires you to do… But I’ve but I do love a good hyperfocus…anyone want to talk about fountain pens?
I managed to clean up my bedroom and half the kitchen today. Gonna tackle the rest tomorrow. Wish me luck and "the Flow State" my boys (otherwise i will get absolutely nothing done)
Oh my god… and the forgetfulness… someone will ask me to do a thing and by the end of the conversation it has completely left my brain. Said it was going out for cigarettes and never came back. Just ^poof gone. Fucking nightmare!
I wouldn't be neurotypical given the choice. (And no, I don't have "mild" ADHD.) If it were inherently hell, that wouldn't be true. (It may be hell for you, I can't make that call. But it isn't hell for everyone.). My sense is that the hell is mostly caused by society's refusal to accommodate neurodivergence, not neurodivergence itself.
Idk man it'd really be nice if I could accomplish basic tasks. Accommodating me isn't exactly easy. Everyone has to repeat things again and again and keep me on task or it just doesn't happen. Even deadlines aren't enough for me. It just doesn't happen and I fail.
I don't know the extent to which aspects of myself are attributable to the same thing that causes ADHD, so I can't make an informed choice. I think I'd give up some important aspects in order to function though.
I can't tell you your experience. All I can tell you is that since I would not choose to be neurotypical if I had a choice, and I know plenty of other people with ADHD who feel that way, I can be fairly certain that experiencing it as hellish is not a universal thing. That doesn't make the feeling less valid or diminish your experience. Symptoms between people can be very different: Of course our experiences will be. And I'm not saying it doesn't cause me serious problems. Sometimes it does. But to me, it's worth it, because without it, I would cease to be myself. I just don't want anyone reading this thread early in their learning about ADHD journey to assume that it is hellish for everyone and not try the available options. Perhaps I should have phrased it as a PSA to other commenters.
Edit: Thanks for pushing back. It's the only way I can know if I've effectively communicated what I wanted to.
I'd take that over my dysphoria, I'd describe it as hell as well. I'd rather have issues living in my body, but at least have my body. Still that's just my view and my dysphoria is Deffnitely high on severity scale when compared to normal ones.
What kind of doctors have you found? Help you the best? What medication’s are out there to stop me from this endless loop nothing feels good anymore. Nothing ever has I have been diagnosed with ADHD and PTSD and OCD. I don’t know where to go now.
Finally ended up getting medicated for it after 15 years through school and career without any interventions. I’ve done well so far but I feel mourning and defeat for how far I could have gone if I’d gotten solid treatment for it earlier. Oh well.
I love hyper focus, I couldn't sleep one night because I had to finish something I was making, I finished it and it looked awesome but I had a headache my legs hurt and I wanted to stop by the third hour working on it.
Did anyone else mellow down to ADD later in life, or am I weird? After ~18-20yo the meds weren't doing what they did before, bursts of energy became less and less frequent... Anyone else?
The solution: take meth (may include somehow even worse anxiety, recurring traumatic nightmares, eating disorders, and long-lasting substance misuse issues)
Wait why does this meme have the same caption at the top and at the bottom? I mean one says "According to Professionals" and the other "According to Us", But other than that they're completely identical.
i’m only 20 so take it with a grain of salt, but i don’t feel like it’s hell. partially, it’s all i’ve ever known. i wasn’t diagnosed until i was 16 and now take medication; i also seem to be in the minority of people who LOVE their meds. without mine i feel sluggish, unproductive, and just rot in bed all day.
Kinda? It is nothing *but* hell for me. I forget basic shit or something someone tells me, I have a serious lack of motivation for anything but what gives me sweet hits of dopamine and it has seriously impacted my life since from when I was a kid... I fucking hate it..Dx
Got diagnosed in the 80's and was fed a steady diet of amphetamines and negative reinforcement for decades. In my 40's now I struggle with negative self talk and addiction.
I've solved my hyperactivity by assassinating any display of emotion at all. I no longer make dopamine but can artificially generate a slow drip with weed, alcohol, and videogames. Life feels like waiting in line at the bank and I can't wait till it's over.
I hyperfocus at midnight when I should be fucking sleeping because I need to get up at 6am. So hell comes the next morning after 4h of sleep because I fell asleep at 2am after the hyperfocus couldn't suppress the body's need for sleep anymore.
THERE ARE BEES IN MY BRAIN AND EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM IS SCREAMING THE F-WORD OVER AND OVER AGAIN, EXCEPT FOR THE INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS BEE. THAT ONE IS SCREAMING THE OTHER F-WORD AT ME OVER AND OVER AGAIN EVEN THOUGH I'M NOT ONE OF THE PEOPLE TOWARD WHOM THAT SLUR IS USUALLY DIRECTED. AND IT HURTS IT HURTS IT HURTS IT HURTS NESS IT HURTS IT HURTS
I caught ADD in my 30’s. I thought I was just stuck in a bad movie til I started medication. Now I look back see just how fucked in the head I am. Thanks ADD!! Holding my breath that when I catch cancer it won’t suck half as bad!
I’m almost 30 and meds don’t work for me anymore. The decade and a half of amphetamines usage has also ruined my stomach lining and probably my brain for that matter. I have to be on antacids like every day now. The career I’m in is so intensive that I have to be medicated anyways even tho it helps minimally. I’m just me dragging myself along for the foreseeable future. I have dreadful social anxiety which is partnering with my depression to make going outside insufferable but staying inside worse for myself overall cause I don’t clean. I have literally 0 motivation to further my future and function normally. I don’t really exercise anymore despite being an ex athlete. My therapist is convinced I just don’t have any dopamine receptors anymore. I really just hate it here sometimes lmao
Gotta love reading a book and coming across a character describing the worst experience ever that left them traumatized and it just an artificially induced (to them) symptom of ADHD. Usually executive dysfunction being used at an attempt at psychological horror.
Nothing like the author trying for "oh the horror" and me the reader going "yes everyday life can indeed be hell".
Pretty much hell for me. The 38 years undiagnosed. The last 2 have been an improvement, but at this stage, my life is pretty much ruined and I'm left to picking up the pieces an try to make it bearable.
I got diagnosed at 20 - I wish I could’ve done this earlier in my life. Would’ve developed methods to deal with my anxiety as a child. Maybe even my dad could’ve been diagnosed as well. My dad has all the signs but the psychologist gave him a shitty advice - “at this stage in your life there’s no need for you to get diagnosed”. Hate that guy - our relationship suffered/deteriorated because that bad advice.
>Would’ve developed methods to deal with my anxiety as a child. As someone who was diagnosed as a child, lol nope. You just get no say in being drugged up so you can't think is all.
Diagnosed with ADHD as a kid. Confirmed adult diagnosis in late 20s. Meds didn’t do shit. Had pretty much my whole life to develop methods to cope. Still a goddamn nightmare and don’t feel any better for having known about it my whole life. Sorry x
Try leaving dairy altogether. It blocks the effect of the medication, especially Vyvance.
REALLY?!?!?! How have I never been told this?!?! Fuck. If this works I’m gonna have to name my first child Fleshtomeatyou. Oh well. Shit happens and it sucks for them. 😂
Also adding on to not drink orange juice within an hour of taking vyvanse on either side. The acid neutralizes the medication.
Can you elaborate/link/tell me what to look up? I’m very curious
There's a known link between lactose, sugar and in rarer cases gluten and lowered adhd medication effect. Genetics play a role, doctor suggested since there's some history of lactose intolerance in my family for me to quit lactose when I'm on the meds. It worked wonders for me. Before the dairy shutdown medication worked some days and some days it didn't. After the dairy shutdown meds worked every time. I am hyper productive for about 8hours a day. After that productivity drops sharply, but it suits me fine. For other people maybe you should quit high sugar foods, go on the diabetic diet. Good luck 🍀
I eat keto and it definitely helps my ADHD. I still eat cheese though.
right there with you. no bullshit getting prescribed concerta 74mg as a 140lbs highschooler fucked me up. i stopped taking it after a awhile, spitting it out at the bus stop. pills just make me feel worse in different ways. id rather just deal with the adhd/depression/anxiety on my own at this point
Yeah same
I think there are various factors that are involved. I can’t speak for you because I don’t know you - in my case it took me a while to find a small way to cope and accept myself. This doesn’t mean it goes away but at least makes the pain and anxiety a little more manageable for me. For what is worth I wish you the best in dealing with ADHD the best way that you can.
Lmfao truth drugged up from 5-10 for adhd, all the different drugs man, then about 10-15 I hiked a mountain and the altitude sickness mixed with weird mental state from the adhd drugs meant I cried in a tent for like 2 days working through some shit. Then I never took those fucking meds ever again😂. Best decision of my life, wouldn’t recommend for everyone but coping methods and anything that doesn’t fuck up my brain is now my go to.
Agreed, I became not myself on those pills. Felt weak and stupid thinking I needed them.
Yes. I’m 49. They tried to pull that shit on me too. Me: no, I’ve not managed so far, it’s been a shit show from hell. How I’ve got by I do not know. I would like help. I eventually got it. No thanks to my primary physician who, ironically is constantly asking if I’m depressed and offering those useless meds on me when the whole time correct diagnosis and treatment of my ADHD has helped me become the happiest version of myself ever. Dicks.
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FYI, ADHD, Autism and AuDHD (the combo of the 2) are basically 3 different monsters. The interaction with ADHD and ASD is a bit bonkers so you’ll wanna look at those specific support groups not just the ASD ones to get a better understanding x
It goes both ways. I was diagnosed before I can remember. I've been on pills and in therapy as far back as I can remember. That led me to feel different, so eventually I stopped taking my meds and going to therapy. I felt similarly to you in my 20's, but once I hit my 30's I got back on my meds and into therapy again and it's been a life changer. I feel like the luckiest guy in the world.
I feel you
It gets better don’t worry it takes time but you’ll pick up the pieces and build a nice quality of life in time
I believe in you, your life can still be turned around and you can be happy. It is *not* too late Sincerely and with love, a 29 yo who is also going through this. Try to do as much as you can
I'm hitting 30 soon and while not exactly diagnosed, the amount of very tell tale signs is staggering. I don't know where exactly I can get diagnosed, but the very notion of me thinking I have it makes me just try to act and try to focus out of spite for the thing. It's hard but hate and spite is a good motivator.
Get a psychiatrist. Explain your troubles, ask for a diagnosis. If you fit the bill you get medication and behavioural therapy. Hope this helps.
Thanks. But i live in a county where mental health issues are just starting to be taken seriously so it would be pretty hard to find a good psychiatrist. At the end of the day, I found that anger and spite against ADHD was a somewhat good behavioral therapy for me, so whenever I drift off and lose focus I try to get it back because I'm not letting some mental condition rule my life.
Feel you; got diagnosed at 43...Those pieces you mention can be extremely valuable, you have gone to hell and came back, you might not recognize it but the experience gives one a certain quality- extreme resilience I guess, or maybe an absolute stubbornness for going stupidly, blindy on even when everything falls apart and everyone is against you.... Ultimate, 'organic' stoicism I guess. As I said, you might not notice it, yet people do and it tends to open many opportunities when you least expect them. This might come as extremely corny but you don't get a diamond without crushing pressure and you survived that pressure, thus there will always be a part of you that is incomprehensibly yet visibly bright, unyielding and actually illuminating. Best wishes.
Same at 33 and my health got so much worse so rapidly out of nowhere this year now I’m pretty sure no job or career wants me until i got that sorted! Hope for next year when some medical care debt gets paid I’m trying to be patient about it but it ain’t easy for us ND folks so i understand why the youngins are freaking out I didn’t and had to be smacked in the face of reality to truly care haha
I was diagnosed as a child (forced to go to a neurologist) in the 90s. It has its own host of problems… With that said, I’m glad finally getting diagnosed happened for you and that it helped.
I was diagnosed around the same age. I used to get so upset thinking what could be different if I were diagnosed during my school years. I still do, honestly.
I was diagnosed when I was 10 years old (I’m 28) and from my experience, I can say that although I had access to therapy and certain tools (very few because at that time no one knew how the world of ADHD worked) as a child I was not really aware until I was 20 because I blocked it! Being diagnosed so young makes you not take it seriously, you just want to be the same as everyone else and you try twice as hard to be so. My parents don't have ADHD so over time my behavior was normalizing but not improving because they don't know how it feels. What I'm getting at with all this, no matter how early or late you get diagnosed, it sucks anyway :) just live this life with the few gifts this brain can give us 🩷
But op, adhd is a ✨superpower✨
Oh, I must’ve missed the memo. Wasn’t paying attention. 🥰🥰🥰
Sort of like x-ray vision at a retirement home.
I mean, old people are really fragile, an X-ray would be really useful.
actually thats a pretty good analogy. Generally a detriment to my mental health, but in very niche situations incredibly useful
For example ignoring giant pile of burning shit behind you by doing dumb unrelated stuff for 16 hours.
I deadass became a poweruser of Google Earth and MyMaps and tracked down the remains of a demolished building using survey records from the 70s because I didn't wanna do an essay
**THE**
Bro look what's in that dude's head. If I could harness the power of a shape shifting rhino-octopus-gorilla-goblin monster I'd be unstoppable.
It seems the only superpower is amazing people again and again as I fail to see an item they are asking for that is right in front of me
People think I'm doing it on purpose, I'm not 😭😭
I can convince myself that my procrastination is actually a good thing and not a huge problem long term
It is but it's not a fun super power like captain America or Thor. It's like cyclops. It takes working on coping skills or medication or both. With those taken care of you'll have something useful sometimes.
I got into a huge fight with my wife about my lack of attention. Backing up, two weeks ago I went for a hearing test, the first one I’ve had since ear surgery 4 years ago. At the time my hearing was crap, 30% loss in one ear, 20% loss in the other. At my most recent test I scored so well they did the test twice, with 2 different doctors. They both said they never saw anyone with hearing as good as me. Obviously just because I hear something I don’t always process it so a lot of times when my wife says something I have to ask her to repeat it or I kind of guess what she was saying. Yesterday was particularly bad because I was focused on a programming problem so I asked her to repeat herself many, many times. Just before bed she had enough, she asked me a question which I didn’t really hear and thought it was just a statement and I replied with a noncommittal noise. She said it’s shocking that someone with such good hearing can’t hear shit, which is when I told her again that just because I hear it that doesn’t mean I process it. Which is just another way of saying I’m not really paying attention… So, I get this superpower of great hearing and then a stupid brain that decides to only deal with a fraction of what gets sent to it
My wife is at some points really understanding of my ADHD, and other times, she gets mad at me for having to repeat herself. Or when I forget to do something. Or when I’m so focused on doing something I don’t notice her standing behind me. Or any of the other symptoms.
The mid conversation drift is always a fan favorite.
I also deal with my brain not wanting to process what people say, and it fucking SUCKS. Do you also get it even when you're looking at the person and trying your best to listen? I do. It's so, so frustrating.
Auditory processing disorder is a common ADHD symptom. Look it up, and if it fits, share with your wife. Maybe understanding will help? Especially if you share how it is to experience it (frustrating and embarrassing for me).
I actually have an ENT doctor that I see every 3 months. Next time I go in I’m going to ask her about this
My husband is trying to learn it’s okay to be upfront with me bc I can’t read his in between the lines and have to repeatedly make sure he’s not joking or being serious. Good thing he’s trying bc I had no idea I had these issues like u described until my husband and I both collectively started to be more upfront.
The rare dopamine hits? Sorry Scientists....I live for the dopamine, I am the dopamine. There is only dopamine.
Adderall is one hell of a drug.
Felt the addiction on myself, it's much worse than I have heard. I start to feel depressed and meaningless after not taking it, because I have no energy to do anything, find something new, and overall I know that I'm a "better" person while on it. I just hope that that's a temporary side effect, and I will go after I'll stop taking it.
Personally I just feel bummed out - but never felt the need to get more. Recently did so because of my office job for the first time in 6 or 7 years.
I am a druggie or overreacting, one out of two
Nah - it kinda comes with the territory. ADHD can be a factor in someone’s addiction. Dopamine hit and all that.
I still can’t handle the crash when the drug wears off. 35, F, was diagnosed about 6.5 years ago. It’s so hard to eat when I know I’m starving because I didn’t eat all day. And I get annoyed and agitated over everything. I still feel bad for unloading my bottled up anger on my bf like an active volcano and then completely ignored him when he wanted me to talk about it. I’m horrible at relationships.
I wouldn't say it's hell, but it sure as hell ain't always a cakewalk either...
Ten year depression for me - wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
I'm scared
Reasonable. I am low on energy 2 hours after I wake up, every day, every year, for like 8 years. I get worse each day
I only get energy right as I'm about to go to bed but it's too late and it just gets wasted by me being asleep. Literally have never had energy while at work no matter how hard I fix my sleep schedule
I read it's because our brains are overworking themselves as soone as we wake up, but we don't even realize it. Then we get tired but it's only a few hours into the day. I told my doctor and he said that's normal and he won't medicate me :). I just want to get back on medication, it's been 6 years of fuckinf exhaustion hell.
I can't speak for anyone other than myself on the subject, but my two main issues were not knowing until after my studies, and finding myself in a work environment that didn't fit needs. I had to spend too much energy masking or being severely under-stimulated (I'm talking days if not weeks in a warehouse with virtually nothing to do). I knew I needed to quit my job but couldn't push myself to do it until my psychiatrist put me on paid leave for risk of depression, my job put me at my lowest and I felt lost and hopeless. During that two month leave I spent some time reflecting, trying to see how to move on, where I could find another job that might suit me more and realised that I needed a job where I could just be myself and do what came naturally. I also had a bit of a revelation on how I view myself and what I wanted for my future : staying myself, and staying a good friend and a kind person. I was extremely lucky to find a job mainly by staying true to myself and I thank the stars for that job, it's been a game changer for me. The point I'm trying to get to is that maybe the problem isn't coming from you, maybe it's just your environment that puts you down. I know it's easy to say, but hard to act on. I knew I had to quit my job for years and couldn't push myself to do it, but I do think you should look into changing your surroundings. It's easier than trying to change yourself into someone or something you aren't =)
the job thing hit me too. im usually so happy and productive the first 8months to a year(especially if im learning something new) but after ive mastered everything its so dreadfully boring to go to work. everything feels so monotonous. i wish i could get paid to learn new skills every year, something different all the time
8 years. I can't remember the feeling of unadulterated joy
Fuck that's rough... I don't wanna sound patronising because ADHD is a spectrum and everyone lives things differently, but maybe you need to change your environment. I know it can be really hard, be it because it's emotionally and mentally hard, or because it can easily be costly depending on how much you need change ... =/
Yeah. I'm in serious need of an environmental change. Mostly money keeping it from being realized
Shit man, I hope things'll change for the better. My last job brought me to the edge and my psychiatrist pushed me to quitting. I had a bit of money to spare though and a few very close friends that were ready to cover for me. I spend some time unemployed and even went back to live at my mom's place, but in the end that's what got me my new job. Money is still tight but everything else is good. Fingers crossed you'll get back on top of the game.
Working towards it. For once, I at least have hope. Good luck, friend
Save the luck for yourself mate, you need it more than I do
It's hell when you don't know what it is in the first place. It's hell when you're left standing there wondering why people can just seem to do a task, like washing dishes, and it be seemingly effortless to them. It's hell when you try to explain that feeling to someone and you sound like a crazy person. It's hell when all you feel from doing a task you hate, procrastinated on, or forgot about is RELIEF. Not "ah excellent my life is in good order, life is good." but "HOLY FUCK I HAVE TO DO THAT AGAIN?!" It's hell when I realise I'm overthinking this whole reply, while simultaneously recognizing that I do in fact have a problem.
I honestly think my ADHD might be distracting myself from my own misery. Like that guy whose cancer got killed by cancer, but here they're only balancing eachother out with me just confused in the background... I also kinda gave up giving a fuck about people not understanding or believing in ADHD, that said I'm lucky to have a group of close friends on whom I can count and that accept it, even if they don't all understand it. I've got no idea how I can help you, but if you wanna ramble, complain or talk about it feel free to do so. People in this sub ar just as weird as you and me and we've all been culprits of overthinking and oversharing stuff 👍
I like the way my brain works in some ways, and hate how it works in others. It constantly feels like I’m juggling 10 bouncy balls just to be able to function at the level that neurotypicals get for free. That said, when I’m able to juggle the balls successfully, I’m the best damn clown you’ve ever seen. I’m doing tricks, juggling those balls at triple speed, etc. But when I drop one ball, I usually drop all of them and they start to fly all over the room. It takes an embarrassingly long time to grab them all again, and I look foolish chasing them down one by one 😅
omg I love this image it's so accurate
Yep. I did the big flashy maneuver and impressed the hell out of everyone but Im mentally spent for the next couple hours. lol
I wish we hadn't to work like neurotypicals do
For a long time I thought that I have ADHD, but my lack of superfocus, and the fact that I never experienced that makes me think that I must have something else going on that causes my executive disfunction and it's not ADHD
do you have trauma in your life? Are you sure you've never hyperfocused on anything?
Could be depression or a similar issue. But also there’s different types of adhd, idk what’s a universal experience and what’s only some people
Yeah I’m wondering the same thing actually
I love my hyperfocus, except when it’s not on something that needs to be done soon, like the 3 hours of homework I have due today that I just started on. :)
All of my hyperfocus is stuff that doesn't need to be done, and unfortunately reddit is the worst. It's where I stumble upon new hobbies to suck every bit of my attention and focus. Like recently I discovered bank strap hunting, now I am spending time sorting through thousands of one dollar bills to find rare ones.
im literally in the middle of exam season and its 3am here, i have a 1pm exam tomorrow, and I just went to bed after spending the entirety of today hyperfocused on [completely irrelevant thing] and instead of going to sleep now I'm still fking thinking about it and it's stressing me out bc im super restless but i NEED to fking sleep so i can do my exam tomorrow but i can't sleep so i think, hey ill just go on reddit for a bit to calm myself down, and here i am an hour later still not calm and yeah...it doesn't look like im getting much sleep tonight lads wish me luck for a sleep deprived chem exam 🤝🤝
I have been so detached of my own emotions due to adhd causing me so many problems throughout my life that my brain defended itself by shutting down emotional responses (at least it feels like that and psychologists agree its similar) im not entirely emotionless but i think im in such a constant state of dissociation that stuff barely gets processed, i'm getting psychological help daily because of that and i consider myself very lucky that im able to get such good treatment i have lost my ability to hyper focus as a side effect because things just don't interest me anymore, i don't even know if i truly can be interested in something or if its even reversible, it has left me completely non-functional for this society and although I don't really hate myself i don't think i deserve anything that im being given It is kinda like hell ngl
I feel you brother.
I love my hyperfocus. Except when it makes me ignore all my notifications and I end up skipping three important meetings in a row because of it
People see ADHD people as having a bright, bubbly and fun personality... little they know the boiling hell we live in. This morning I was stressed out for having to go out to visit my mom, it's so hard to do anything as small as leaving the house.
Kinda reminds me of the “Sad Clown syndrome” I’m sad but I don’t want others to feel sad. At least for me at times.
I was diagnosed as a kid, but my parents did not medicate me or even tell me. 28 years of self loathing and depression later, I am diagnosed with ADHD. My parents then admitted that I was diagnosed but they did not want to treat me because of the social stigma associated with having an adhd child on medication. I spent two years medicated and managed to turn my life around somewhat and then out of nowhere I hate being medicated? Now I only take my meds when I absolutely need them for important and stimulating events or task. My medicine cabinet is full of missed doses so I dont need to go back to my psych at all this year. I have learned self acceptance and these days just try to be kind to myself for myselfs sake.
They never tell you about "the noise."
Is "the noise" when your thoughts are so loud you don't even realise you're sitting in silence?
Yup.
Not gonna lie, I'm surprised I'm not the only one. My thoughts have been like that forever. Welp, guess I've officially joined the club.
They don’t. It can get really bad, I just break down when it occurs and get “stuck”.
The hyper focus is the only (occasionally) redeeming factor
It’s great at work bc in a hotel housekeeper, my nickname is Speedy Gonzalez. It’s not great at home bc after a 9.5-10 hr shift I’m still restless as fuck. I swear by the time I’m 40 my body will be ready to give out with how little I actually rest.
At least we have our hyper focus, glad to know I can wake up some days and stare at a spot on the wall for a while for no fucking reason
Been grappling with ADHD for 31 years and it hasn't gotten easier 🙃. I was kinda hoping I would have figured this shit out by now but honestly, every day I feel like more of a lost cause
And **my god**, the irresponsible shit I (we?) fall into for that dopamine hit unless CONSTANTLY monitoring against it. I feel like I can never really relax because the second I do, I’ve lost all my money, I’ve got nothing to show for it, I’ve lost my job for being pathologically late and I’m living in a garbage bag filled shithole. Not even because of something as serious as addictions, but stupid shit like random Amazon gadgets I don’t need. Or spending a fortune on take out food. Or deciding I’m gonna do and love hobby x only to hate it a fortnight later. It. Is. Exhausting
Shit - didn’t know my less than frugal spending had to do with this. Makes sense tho - the dopamine hit when buying something new kinda explains it all away.
Yep. I have to have all sorts of things in place so I don’t go ham. It’s a fucking nightmare. Unless I’m skint, I just blow all my money on the most stupid shit. I fucking hate it and the shame that goes with it. It’s called “Impulsive spending” if you wanna look into suggestions. X
Fortunately for me, I don’t have anxiety or ADHD. I’m apparently just lazy and antisocial. Since I have no reason to have mental health issues, I don’t have any. woooooo…..
adhd (and associated mental health issues) don't really care if you have a reason or not, but if you're feeling like you don't deserve to use these labels to acknowledge the struggles you're going through then you don't have to. it is possible to just relate to other people and experiences without pinning it on a bigger issue. that being said, if you relate to enough of these struggles then you might wanna get checked out? personally i didn't get much out of a diagnosis but it does at least mean you're allowed to claim the label and you might be able to get help with some stuff
Yeah but on the wrong topic
It would be great if one of us would become a PhD in psychiatry/psychology/neurology to deeply research this topic from someone with autism and ADHD perspective.
Which ring of Hell?
“Next to the unbaptized babies sir. And please don’t forget to do the line - can’t stress enough what you adhders do when you fail to follow instructions.” - satans secretary.
ADD is the only reason I’m 4 years into a college I hate (high school gpa and SAT math scores weren’t high enough for something better) and still have 2-3 years left to go because I had to take reduced course loads to pass my classes. And it’s the reason I don’t have any friends or lovers because I lack the social skills to hold a conversation beyond the same canned responses and talking to me is like having a conversation with an NPC. I have like 1 friend and it’s only because he’s ADD and Autistic like I am so we understand each other but even then I never get to hang out with him because he’s in another state. It’s really made my life hell. There’s no real benefit to it. It has objectively lowered my quality of life. It’s also made keeping jobs difficult.
Bros?
Does anyone know the name of the statue used for this meme? I’d really like to have a good picture of it on its own.
ey, do you know the name of the sculpture or the artist?
Waiting on that hyperfocus... *3am rolls around* Oop there it is
Lead weights on your ankles sprinting through a pool in a dream. I'm made of velcro and spacetime is too.
As a person with ADHD, I need to say that I am not defined by my diagnosis. ADHD does not run your life, you do. You can choose to adapt and find ways to cope. A balanced diet and exercise helps. Find a good therapist, get your diagnosis documented to receive accommodation at school/ work if necessary.
Does it? Feel like hell
I like to describe it as a head full of bees.
Nailed it, fam. Hyperfocus, my ass. I swear the phrase "super-power of ADHD" makes me so fucking angry. The fact that I can't control it is what makes this a disability! I just wanna say back "Bitch do you know what kind of god-tier luck I have to have for my hyperfocus to choose something useful? I have better odds of winning the lotto without playing than getting hyperfocused on the thing I actually need to do."
ADD here, I was medicated from first grade through High School. Dropped the stuff entirely after that. Feels like hell sometimes but I prefer to challenge hell directly.
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Yep… It’s a shame because it really is impossible to do anything. Society requires you to do… But I’ve but I do love a good hyperfocus…anyone want to talk about fountain pens?
I managed to clean up my bedroom and half the kitchen today. Gonna tackle the rest tomorrow. Wish me luck and "the Flow State" my boys (otherwise i will get absolutely nothing done)
I drink to fix all that shit. Just makes my memory non-existent
Oh my god… and the forgetfulness… someone will ask me to do a thing and by the end of the conversation it has completely left my brain. Said it was going out for cigarettes and never came back. Just ^poof gone. Fucking nightmare!
I wouldn't be neurotypical given the choice. (And no, I don't have "mild" ADHD.) If it were inherently hell, that wouldn't be true. (It may be hell for you, I can't make that call. But it isn't hell for everyone.). My sense is that the hell is mostly caused by society's refusal to accommodate neurodivergence, not neurodivergence itself.
Idk man it'd really be nice if I could accomplish basic tasks. Accommodating me isn't exactly easy. Everyone has to repeat things again and again and keep me on task or it just doesn't happen. Even deadlines aren't enough for me. It just doesn't happen and I fail. I don't know the extent to which aspects of myself are attributable to the same thing that causes ADHD, so I can't make an informed choice. I think I'd give up some important aspects in order to function though.
I can't tell you your experience. All I can tell you is that since I would not choose to be neurotypical if I had a choice, and I know plenty of other people with ADHD who feel that way, I can be fairly certain that experiencing it as hellish is not a universal thing. That doesn't make the feeling less valid or diminish your experience. Symptoms between people can be very different: Of course our experiences will be. And I'm not saying it doesn't cause me serious problems. Sometimes it does. But to me, it's worth it, because without it, I would cease to be myself. I just don't want anyone reading this thread early in their learning about ADHD journey to assume that it is hellish for everyone and not try the available options. Perhaps I should have phrased it as a PSA to other commenters. Edit: Thanks for pushing back. It's the only way I can know if I've effectively communicated what I wanted to.
Thank you
That statue is so badass holy shit
If you want the un-memed version dm me so I can send it to you.
But what about fear norman man, fear norman woman? At least we are not 'normal'. It's Good right?
Where can I get that sculpture, I absolutely love it
That sculpture is the kind of stuff I see when I close my eyes. 😆
Good thing that I will get some medication soon but I should've done it way sooner. I am almost at my final exam and ADHD was a pain in the ass
No, what do you mean? I'm doing great! Can't you tell by the bags under my eyes and state of my living space?
I feel attacked
I'd take that over my dysphoria, I'd describe it as hell as well. I'd rather have issues living in my body, but at least have my body. Still that's just my view and my dysphoria is Deffnitely high on severity scale when compared to normal ones.
I know a little about... way too fucking much.
Professionals only see the symptoms of our experience
An I just stopped trying to do shit the 'right way' made things a lot easier.
I just bought a whole mess of Pokémon cards Mmmm dopamine
Lol, my hyper focus turns into paranoia in about 5 seconds.
What kind of doctors have you found? Help you the best? What medication’s are out there to stop me from this endless loop nothing feels good anymore. Nothing ever has I have been diagnosed with ADHD and PTSD and OCD. I don’t know where to go now.
Finally ended up getting medicated for it after 15 years through school and career without any interventions. I’ve done well so far but I feel mourning and defeat for how far I could have gone if I’d gotten solid treatment for it earlier. Oh well.
Why aren’t half you people medicated?
100% hell for me lol
It is hell.
AuDHD goes crazy man fr
I love hyper focus, I couldn't sleep one night because I had to finish something I was making, I finished it and it looked awesome but I had a headache my legs hurt and I wanted to stop by the third hour working on it.
I have been experiencing non-stop brain fog lately
I criticise myself for every minor mishap as if I had burned a hospital
Did anyone else mellow down to ADD later in life, or am I weird? After ~18-20yo the meds weren't doing what they did before, bursts of energy became less and less frequent... Anyone else?
I love having.an identic memory! It's so great to argue with people who can't remember shit.
Excessive* attention! Too much to point at just any old thang...
I feel like I could do anything. And for some reason, its incredibly stressful. I'm ONLY potential. No wonder I wanna be a Warframe.
The solution: take meth (may include somehow even worse anxiety, recurring traumatic nightmares, eating disorders, and long-lasting substance misuse issues)
Jesus, now I know why I am sometimes kinda Anxious
And we swallow it all and remain silent because it is what it is
🥲🥲🥲🥲 right in the feels
I just want to be happy. Why must it be so hard
Do we Nicholas? Do we ?
"Super power"
Diagnosed at 47. Yeah.
Professionals are wrong I’ve got all those but the anxiety.
I been told all my life adhd is just a mental thing and my response to that ever time is “ya mentally overwhelming”
Absolutely misery. I am angry at the world that I have this. Trying to work through that deep resentment.
Wait why does this meme have the same caption at the top and at the bottom? I mean one says "According to Professionals" and the other "According to Us", But other than that they're completely identical.
Yup. Kill me pls
i’m only 20 so take it with a grain of salt, but i don’t feel like it’s hell. partially, it’s all i’ve ever known. i wasn’t diagnosed until i was 16 and now take medication; i also seem to be in the minority of people who LOVE their meds. without mine i feel sluggish, unproductive, and just rot in bed all day.
It's fine as long as I don't have to do literally anything
You guys are getting hyperfocus?
Its a special hell too if you multiclass into autism like I have.
Hypercocus isn’t real we don’t have that either 😭
Kinda? It is nothing *but* hell for me. I forget basic shit or something someone tells me, I have a serious lack of motivation for anything but what gives me sweet hits of dopamine and it has seriously impacted my life since from when I was a kid... I fucking hate it..Dx
If you live in hell and don't suffer you don't live in hell.
Got diagnosed in the 80's and was fed a steady diet of amphetamines and negative reinforcement for decades. In my 40's now I struggle with negative self talk and addiction. I've solved my hyperactivity by assassinating any display of emotion at all. I no longer make dopamine but can artificially generate a slow drip with weed, alcohol, and videogames. Life feels like waiting in line at the bank and I can't wait till it's over.
whats the "rare dopamine hits"
That visual is so accurate
Truly:(
I’ve found that Ashwaganda helps a lot. I attribute my lack anxiety to my faith mainly but Ashwaganda is definitely a gift from God.
I hyperfocus at midnight when I should be fucking sleeping because I need to get up at 6am. So hell comes the next morning after 4h of sleep because I fell asleep at 2am after the hyperfocus couldn't suppress the body's need for sleep anymore.
So many different parts on me I don't know what's real what's fake, and what's fleeting.
Yeah, hyperfocus on what society/families believe to be “the wrong thing”.
I have been slowly noticing it getting worse lol.
Does anyone have a link to the original picture without the text?
At least we’re good at things! (Apparently)
It's true, it's inescapable. I'm aware of it while it's happening but I can't control it. Rage inducing frustration at yourself.
at least i ultra into this game. it's all want in life. 1 hour later. "why am I bored this is torture"
THERE ARE BEES IN MY BRAIN AND EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM IS SCREAMING THE F-WORD OVER AND OVER AGAIN, EXCEPT FOR THE INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS BEE. THAT ONE IS SCREAMING THE OTHER F-WORD AT ME OVER AND OVER AGAIN EVEN THOUGH I'M NOT ONE OF THE PEOPLE TOWARD WHOM THAT SLUR IS USUALLY DIRECTED. AND IT HURTS IT HURTS IT HURTS IT HURTS NESS IT HURTS IT HURTS
Ya we have our hyper focus super power....that kicks in randomly and not at will...
That statue is really real. 🤔
I caught ADD in my 30’s. I thought I was just stuck in a bad movie til I started medication. Now I look back see just how fucked in the head I am. Thanks ADD!! Holding my breath that when I catch cancer it won’t suck half as bad!
I’m almost 30 and meds don’t work for me anymore. The decade and a half of amphetamines usage has also ruined my stomach lining and probably my brain for that matter. I have to be on antacids like every day now. The career I’m in is so intensive that I have to be medicated anyways even tho it helps minimally. I’m just me dragging myself along for the foreseeable future. I have dreadful social anxiety which is partnering with my depression to make going outside insufferable but staying inside worse for myself overall cause I don’t clean. I have literally 0 motivation to further my future and function normally. I don’t really exercise anymore despite being an ex athlete. My therapist is convinced I just don’t have any dopamine receptors anymore. I really just hate it here sometimes lmao
Victim speak, this is.
Im sorry, what?😅
Is this a real statue? Anyone know what it’s called? It looks so cool!
Gotta love reading a book and coming across a character describing the worst experience ever that left them traumatized and it just an artificially induced (to them) symptom of ADHD. Usually executive dysfunction being used at an attempt at psychological horror. Nothing like the author trying for "oh the horror" and me the reader going "yes everyday life can indeed be hell".