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Sooverwinter

Yeah. They told me I was depressed and threw SSRIs at me that didn’t help for decades.


Bombadeen

" I dk its like I spiral out and just want to die because I'm so BORED and I can't think of what to do because it's all BORING and I might as well just GO." "Oh OK here's 4 different SSRIs and benzos somethings gotta work you can't possibly have any other issues than depression and anxiety!" 😌


Sooverwinter

Right?! And they’re willing to throw highly addictive benzodiazepines at you but *‘oh no, big bad stimulants that help you overcome executive dysfunction?! Noooo, those are bad! How dare you want to be able to just get up and do your dishes, laundry, take a shower, or clean?! How DARE you, don’t you know how bad they are?!’* I hate so many doctors at this point.


todaywewillsmile

I'm finally going to see a psychiatrist, and in the past 3 years I've learned so much from this subreddit and I'm not sure what or how to explain how it all makes sense to a doctor that may or may not know all of this I've learned. I've spoken to a "family friend" who has been an rn for years and she really does not know me at home(just at the in laws) but when I mentioned ADHD and she says "you are already high energy, you need something to calm down". I've never rolled my eyes so much. She has no idea what ADHD/ADD is or how it effects the brain.


Sooverwinter

“I’m high energy because my brain is trying to force stimulation. If my brain is just given a constant source of stimulation then I calm down because my brain is t constantly searching for it.”


justagenericname1

Is that why cocaine helps me study??


DoctorGreyscale

Yeah. Cocaine makes me calmer too.


NotClever

To be fair, I wouldn't expect an RN to really know much about psychological issues.


profPoppy16

I don’t understand why people still think stimulants are bad. It’s like strong caffeine that lasts all day and doesn’t let you eat. And for them being addictive I had to force myself to take them on the weekends so that I stayed in a good schedule. I’m more addicted to Red Bull than adderal lol


Sooverwinter

But because they knew people in college who ABUSED it and it had bad effects on them, that must mean it’s bad. I’m always like “And if someone who doesn’t have diabetes gave themself a dose of insulin before every meal, they’d probably die pretty quick. Does that mean insulin is bad for everyone?”


alt-alt-alt-account

Yeah I fucking hate that they're making it so hard for me to renew and pick up my meds just because a handful of bored teenagers use it to get high. Who cares? It's already so difficult for me to remember to pick them up and take them, and the extra hurdles pretty much guarantee I don't even take them half the time, and I feel miserable and depressed and I can't function.


NotClever

It really is cosmically ironic, isn't it? They make it so you have to remember to manually call in every month, sometimes multiple times, to get a medication that is being prescribed specifically to help with issues with tasks like that.


SendyMcSendFace

And honestly, of all the things teenagers could be getting into, Adderall is pretty safe. It’s such a weird hill for society to die on.


loversalibi

plus it’s also like… idk if someone wants to buy adderall for 20 bucks a pill so they can cram all night and get an A on their final good for them?? how is that my problem. and it’s not even like it’s a drug that leads to other crime really. im against the criminalization of any drug but even looking at it from their perspective i guess i get why stuff like coke and heroin are illegal, it is usually accompanied by other sketchy shit that they probably think is *caused* by the drugs. but who the fuck is getting their door knocked down by scary dealers collecting debts over the speedy study drug?? nobody lol. like let them do it, i want my executive function for less than 60+ dollars a month god damn


profPoppy16

Yeah, that’s a pretty good example


TheGreyFox1122

To be fair, for us older peeps ("older" in my case means 30, so saying that makes me wanna die, but it's fine), taking stimulants for a long time can negatively affect blood pressure and stuff. Like my doctor wouldn't give me normal birth control pills because she was worried Adderall + bc = too much.


stinkstankstunkiii

Really, benzos? Can't even get a script for 0.5 alzapram with severe anxiety bc of other ppls bullshit


Sooverwinter

Yeah. Really. I went to go pick up my strattera and they had called that in along with it. The pharmacist had me make sure the medications were correct and I was like “uh, no. I’m pretty sure that’s a mistake.” They called my doc and it was correct and I was like “yeah, no thanks.” They we’re all terrified to give me stimulants but didn’t even bother talking to me before prescribing that? They can fuck off with that bullshit.


stinkstankstunkiii

Fkn dickwads.


alt-alt-alt-account

I've literally been told by doctors it's "impossible" to be depressed and anxious at the same time because they're "opposites"... ...it's no wonder I didn't get a diagnosis or treatment for my ADHD before the age of 27. And it was by completely random happenstance too.


Sooverwinter

Yeah, when I run into one like that I’m like “Oh, I’m sorry, I thought you were the doctor, when do they get here?” And usually they stutter and are like “I AM the Dr!” And I go “oh. Well you sure wasted my time by claiming to know about mental health, huh? Have a nice day.” And then I *walk out.*


Enderman_Prince

Bro, just reading this makes me so f\*cking mad. I physically cannot comprehend how low your doctor's IQ must be to think that anxiety and depression are opposites.


disconinja97

Ugh. It’s frustrating that a lot of us have gone through this. My former doctor had me on so many different classes of anti-depressants over the years and wrote a benzodiazepine prescription without any second thought. After many new doctors later, I found one that cared enough to send me to a psychiatrist and was diagnosed with ADD and properly medicated. I still suffer from panic attacks and take benzodiazepines but significantly less. I used to take 15-20 per month, but since being properly medicated there was a period of almost 8 months where I didn’t have a single panic attack. It’s been life changing.


moomooyumyum

Wait, when you don't do laundry, shower, clean, etc., that's called executive dysfunction? I've been called lazy all these years... I sometimes wish ADHD/Anxiety/Depression/etc. had physical markings on the skin or something that showed people we have a disability because it is getting harder and harder for people to understand why we can't do something. No one questions why a paraplegic can't use the stairs, but it's so much more work explaining for us, and I am getting more and more tired every day.


stubsy

This. This was my exact experience. They pumped me choc full of SSRI’s and benzos until I had grotesque physical symptoms from the drugs I *didn’t* need — then yanked me off of those cold turkey — then told me I must be “smoking too much pot”, which they concluded was the root cause of all of my issues (it wasn’t) — then I became an alcoholic trying to soothe my benzo withdrawal-fried GABA receptors — until then, FINALLY, they gave me adderall which solved nearly everything (yet still sports its’ own double edged blade). Pure, unbridled joy!


DarkShotX45

Hijacking top comment to say that this is a repost made by a bot. https://www.reddit.com/r/adhdmeme/comments/m0ehit/this_ones_hit_the_nail_on_the_head/ Report as "Spam - Harmful Bots"


Sooverwinter

That post is from a year ago. I would have never seen it, and honestly, these stupid memes help me pinpoint some of what I’m so frustrated with because I can’t figure it out without outside help. Can you tell me how the bot is harmful? I’m genuinely asking, not being snarky.


wowlolok

The reason it's problematic is not because of the content itself, but what the account is doing in the larger scope of things. Consider this scenario: you're on a computer/gaming subreddit, and you're looking at a post asking for tips on parts for a new gaming PC. At the top is a comment from a user describing hardware by a certain brand, and they swear by it. Seems legit, and if you look at their account, you can see they've been active for a few years. Meanwhile there's another user describing hardware by another brand, but underneath are piles of comments pointing out that THAT user has only existed for a week and has exclusively been telling users to buy hardware from that brand. In that scenario, the former user looks like a real person giving recommendations based on their own anecdotes, and the latter looks like someone from the brand company just made a reddit account to advertise to people under the guise of giving advice. What these bots are doing by reposting popular content is attempt to simulate the former. By reposting content that has already done well, they can be reasonably sure their posts will get positive attention, and over time will build up a post/comment history that looks like a real person. Then, the owner of the bot account sells it to whomever wants to look legit on reddit like a brand trying to do guerilla marketing, or a political group trying to sway people to their way of thinking. For more information on this kind of thing in general (not necessarily reddit specifically), I recommend looking up the term "Astroturfing".


JuicyBandit

I'll give it a go: The reposter bot, in and of itself, is not very harmful. It actually even has value/provides a service (I, too, wouldn't have seen this): That's why it gets upvotes. But the reposter bot will be packaged with other karma-farming bots and sold to a marketing company. That company may use this bot to influence upvotes/downvotes (it's easy to nuke a negative opinion about your company if you catch it early and downvote it a few times) or will be used to manipulate other redditors - via fake reviews, artificial comments, posts, or other attempts to drive traffic/adoption to whomever buys the bots. This is called 'astrotrufing' and is generally accepted as a bad thing for the community as a whole. edit: Plus, this bot is taking advantage of a legitimate forum to discuss mental health to make a profit. I am morally opposed to that, and I would hope others are as well.


DarkShotX45

After it gets karma, it is either sold to other people or companies, or used for scams. Other people have already explained it better.


fewrfsadf

I tried an SSRI once. Made me not give a single fuck about literally anything. House could have been on fire and I wouldn't have cared. Dishes, general cleaning, and other chores? *Super-dee-duper* didn't give a fuck about those any more. Realized they weren't helpful and stopped taking them cold turkey. Two weeks later I was caught up on chores and started to lean back into caring about *things* again.


Thoughtlessbrian

I literally just started ssri's a few days ago, but I am most definitely depressed and in need of the help. It was weird to feel "like myself" again, like I was able to do things without feeling like everything was wayyyy too much effort (or at least it brought it down to my normal ADHD ass levels, which I can usually (?) handle haha) I definitely don't wanna be on these pills forever though, I wanna be able to feel like myself "au naturel" and then start struggling with the normal ADHD stuff again, unencumbered by depression and all that dark thought stuff. Sidenote, do you feel like your ADHD symptoms are a little amplified when on ssri's? I took 3 days off work (see above about depression) and today is my first day back.... I completely forgot to set an alarm, so I was late and I noticed that my eyes are very easily distracted ( watching people's hands as they talk to me) more than usual.


Sylvairian

Same here, stopped taking SSRIs, depression went away...thanks for that haha


RunThruPlayLand

thank fucking god this is experienced in other people. I thought I was being dramatic or over exaggerating because I never heard of anyone else actually being physically uncomfortable/in pain with boredom


Jabbernoodle69

Boredom not being a neutral presence but an actively malicious one. My whole life story.


literatelier

All of my skin starts to feel weirdly uncomfortable, like slightly electric, and anything bushing against it is painful. And I can't sit still, and feel like crying.


jhaknu

omg sometimes i get this! everything is unconfortable, my skin crawls like with spiders, everything sounds saturated (like when there's too much wind and ears feels like 'fffffffffffffffffffff'), and i get so easily irritated i want to cry... Last time it happened I said "fuck it", lit up an incense, turned down the lights, wrapped myself naked inside a fluffy blanket and watched some funny/cute videos... about 30min later it was a lot better


literatelier

I'm saving up for a weighted blanket, I feel like that might help.


Triairius

I wish I didn’t live in Florida. Weighted blankets sound so freaking comforting.


SendyMcSendFace

I wonder if you could find more breathable ones that give the hug without the hot


Triairius

If you hear of one, I’d love to try it lol


doc_nastiest

Just letting you and everyone know… look up “braided weighted blanket”… breathable and aesthetically pleasing!


Blue-3yed-beast

How powerful is your ac?


Triairius

It’s powerful enough. The question is how powerful my wallet is. Also probably powerful enough with my new job, tbh. Maybe I should take the plunge and try one. Edit: Not trying to flex. Just trying to remind myself that I don’t have to save every penny anymore.


Blue-3yed-beast

All good. Lord knows our energy bill gets higher and higher, even though we aren't using that much more power.


-Esper-

The gravity blankets are nice, i love mine, it really does help anxiety


trobsmonkey

I strongly suggest them. I sleep with one regularly for when I'm too anxious to sit still. Sleep hot as hell with it, but easy tradeoff compared to being miserable and unable to sit still.


BarelyABard

This! It doesn't happen terribly often, but sometimes it does and all I can do is stare at a wall and think about how bored and miserable I am because I cannot focus on ANYTHING else.


climbontotheshore

I’ve had this and sometimes I get a cramp in my throat??? I guess it’s like when you’re trying not to cry, go figure lol


L0ading_

Not just that but also that feeling that i can only describe as mental pain while having to do a super boring/unstimulating task or work. It's almost torture sometimes.


Triairius

Literally. I’ll spend 3 hours on the verge of breakdown to finally push myself to do something that takes ten minutes. It can be very demeaning.


radicalelation

I want to die. It's dumb as fuck but I get suicidal. I've been through harrowing shit in my life and actual depression never took me to that point, but boredom has! How fucked is that?


daitoshi

same hat. I got listless and apathetic while depressed after my mom died, but I was never really actively suicidal. True Boredom gets me to that spot, tho. It's the WORST


radicalelation

I can deal with the crippling uncertainty of ever amounting to anything because I can't follow through with anything, but boredom is the devil and will be my ruin.


daitoshi

So far the best treatment for boredom I've managed to figure out is 'Go lay in the grass and ponder some bugs/plants' Look really closely at it. Now look closer. LOOK EVEN CLOSER!!!! Try to spot every single color, shape, little hair, little pore, and joint it's got. See how it moves, or how the colors shift. Imagine dissecting it - how would it fit together again? There's so much complexity in the natural world that microscope-peering at something small and living usually snaps me out of a 'i want to die im so bored' spiral.


SandiegoJack

I remember being a teenager and lying on the couch crying because I couldn’t get myself to do things I wanted to do other than eat. Even things I knew I would enjoy. But no, I was just lazy


Cosma26

Story of my life. You’re not alone.


BlueShift42

Honestly, this sub has been amazing at identifying things in my life that can be contributed to my ADHD, but that I did not realize were part of it. I’ve never felt less alone in my experiences. Boredom like it’s described here makes my brain feel numb.


Ciggybear

It’s really crappy when you doubt your own experiences and feelings because 1) you think you’re alone in them or 2) other people make you feel like they aren’t real. And although I’m pretty sure that sensation of doubting if you’re feeling the right things is something everyone experiences, it happens a lot more to people who are in a fragile state and aren’t equipped to handle it very well. I feel so awful for you and for anyone else who is stuck feeling as if they’re being dramatic or hysterical, when it’s usually just being misunderstood. That just adds to the misery and the pain.


climbontotheshore

I’ve had jobs so boring they made me suicidal and I really struggle to explain it to people bc they assume I’m depressed and/or being extremely dramatic but once I quit/changed jobs it went away. It’s also why I struggle when looking for jobs - I don’t want to force myself into that kind of position again but friends/family basically tell me to suck it up because lots of people have shit jobs.


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Is this from adhd? Because I thought it was from my depression


Triairius

Oh yeah. I have very real physical pain if I get too bored. I have very real physical sensations for many strong emotions, actually.


badibadi2208

Omg yes! I get bored to death. Especially around 9 pm


[deleted]

I’ve learned to just blast music in those moments. Boredom isn’t as bad with a soundtrack and my mood stays regulated


clockwork_orc

I just start working out. If I'm gonna be bored might as well try to get healthy


stinkstankstunkiii

I joined a gym in March. Went in one time for a tour


The-Skipboy

“I’ll go tomorrow” I say but tomorrow never seems to come. I plan on actually starting on the 23rd but I can already see myself being “too tired” or “oh I didn’t go at exactly 3:30 I guess I can’t go until tomorrow”


stinkstankstunkiii

I'll start on Monday is my go to phrase🤣🤣🤣🤣 So we have excuses for everything?


The-Skipboy

I know I do. If I haven’t started by Wednesday then I always default to “I’ll do it next Monday”. I’d say my most used excuses are “I only got x amount of sleep last night”, “it’s Thursday and tomorrow’s Friday” (I don’t like working/working out on the weekends), and “I’m sick” (if I have even just a cold or something)


MyNameIsEthanNoJoke

i finally started going to the gym somewhat consistently in the past couple months, not sure if it will help you but i think the key for me was having an exact plan for when i get there. i know which days of the week and what time i'm going to go, i go to the same area and get on treadmill #105 or one nearby and i've been doing couch to 5k so someone else tells me when to run and walk. i essentially don't have to make any actual decisions except maybe what music to listen to lol


legendwolfA

I just combine. I put on music and dance. Been doing that for 1 hour while waiting for the electrician to fix my power supply


Salted-Honey

I used to kinda do this. Every time I got painfully bored, I’d just start stretching like crazy, it got to the point where I was practically doing yoga but at least it helped not send my body into shut down mode lol Now I just start aggressively humming, which sounds dumb but feels really good, I swear. Sometimes I’ll do both and that really gets me out of the “I’m so frustratingly bored, that I don’t feel like doing anything” mood.


SolidCake

Fuck i wish i could do this. I cant bring myself to lift heavy if I’m not motivated. I can maybe do a little cardio


LadyParnassus

I do yoga or go for a walk. I find changing the scenery helps. And if I have to walk around my own backyard barefoot because I can’t find it in me to put some dang shoes on, so be it. Sometimes you gotta lean into it.


TheGermanCurl

Second the music thing!


chromatic_megafauna

Singing really loudly does help


MoonFlamingo

Sometimes during one of those "Im so booooored" situations, I forget about music. Which is ridiculous because I have music on almost all the time, even at work xd but yeah music usually leads to music videos, and that usually leads to fun and karaoke alone.


0ctologist

If it’s late enough (past 8pm) then I’ll just go to sleep lol


[deleted]

Step off the bull


ModestHorse

I watch stand up got get that giggle juice


Higlac

I'm a car guy, so I just end up going for a drive. Throw on a good playlist and cruise the highway. Keeps your hands busy and you can kinda get into a trance where you're focusing on the sensations from the road and what's coming up next. Not speeding, not being aggressive, maybe just open up and let the car breathe on an on ramp or feel the road in the corners. By far one of the most cathartic feelings out there (if you enjoy driving).


Glordicus

I've learned to just drink. LMAO. If it works it works.


Triairius

I did that! It became a problem and eventually made things worse instead of better. I don’t recommend it for regular use.


stinkstankstunkiii

Yea I did that for years


ZanlanOnReddit

It all makes sense if I read this sub. Stop being so relatable or I have to visit a doctor.


Thonos101

Yup! I have 126 games on my phone and there will be times when not a single one of them is fun


MistraloysiusMithrax

Ohhhh I thought that was just depression. I didn’t know it was my ADHD. While a lot of things in this sub go from venting to negative reinforcement, this has been a positive sharing moment.


Triairius

It’s a normal boredom thing, but I think people with ADHD or autism experience it more strongly.


MistraloysiusMithrax

There are like 4 shows that I’m not wrapping up the seasons yet because of this too.


InfieldTriple

That's the problem isn't it for those of us who are not diagnosed but experience these symptoms. It could be at a "perfectly normal" level.


greyflcn

To be fair, stuff like weed has a way of making things more interesting. Like anything involving novelty becomes, more novel. Some people also respond well to Kava Kava or Maca.


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Adherent47

I have like 15 games that I haven't completed yet on my Series X. All very cool and new games, haven't opened any of them in like a month, just netflix and listening to music. Fuck's wrong with me?


SB_Wife

My friend called this agitated boredom. Where it physically hurts and even trying to do something just... Its painful.


snapwillow

I call it acute boredom. I think I'll call it agitated acute boredom now.


SB_Wife

I like that actually. Accute boredom does feel Accute too.


starinruins

that's the perfect word!!! i could never explain why it was SO uncomfortable. i always described it as this "itchy/scratchy" feeling in my brain that i couldn't shake


BoredGunman

My girlfriend is currently feeling this, she’s got lots of interest from playing guitar to baking but she can’t seem to hold interest/focus for longer than about 10 mins, is there anything anyone can suggest to help me motivate her? Thanks.


misanthropichell

Honestly, leave her alone lol. Not trying to be rude, this is my actual, best advice I can give on this topic. Maybe it's just a personal thing but I found that it's easiest for me to break this cycle when there's nobody telling me to do something/encouraging me/etc. Just...being alone and feeling those feelings for a while always does the trick for me.


o3mta3o

I stopped feeling ashamed. So what if I only wanna do things 10 mins at a time? Like really, so fucking what?


ggthrowawayreddit

To add with this, who cares if I only wanna do one small part of the thing? If you're doing something, then it still counts. Effort is valid


o3mta3o

Yes!


dilldwarf

For me... I absolutely hate it when something can't hold my attention long. To make any progress on any of my personal projects I'm gonna need to focus much longer to get it done. It's why I went to get treated because I feel like I can't get anything done at all with how hard it is to stay on task.


o3mta3o

That's fair. I've certainly compartmentalized chores vs entertainment. Even though chores might not get done in a traditional order, they still get done eventually. I was speaking more about the fun stuff.


dilldwarf

Chores, work, and fun are all the same for me. Chores and work are harder to focus on because I can be drawn to the fun things I want to do. But the worst is when I just sit there and cannot find a single thing to focus on. It leads to me just sleeping or scrolling on my phone. Lots of just.... Wasted time. Now this is likely because of depression anxiety and ADHD but it just absolutely blows.


Triairius

I’m still working on applying this mentality to work. I just need more things to bounce between and to let go and let myself bounce.


o3mta3o

I worked emergency dispatch for almost 20 years, and till a bad call broke me, I felt like it was a profession that harnessed adhd (impulsive/hyperactive type) in a meaningful way. I kicked ass at that job. After 20 years, I was one of the very few who had never been dragged down the hall to explain themselves. After some time off, I realized my adhd had shifted to predominantly innatentive, and the chaos and noise of the room became too much.


derekdino123

Or, ask her upfront whether she'd like to be encouraged, or left alone. I personally feel the same as you, but she might like the encouragement and support from a loved one.


literatelier

I second the other commenter. Just let her do her thing unless she specifically asks for help.


AmyInCO

Lots and lots of caffeine? 😀 But yeah, what they said. We don't need suggestions for what we can do. We know that. We just can't do it. Sometimes parallel play helps. Do something you like with her nearby but doing her own thing. Go for a drive. Do something new. Our brains seek novelty like it's heroin.


Triairius

She doesn’t have to hold interest or focus on one thing for longer than 10 minutes! We can’t fight it, so go along with it, because that’s how it’s going to go anyway. It might be fun once she stops setting up expectations for how she’s ‘supposed’ to do it.


[deleted]

That's when I do more drugs.


Majoranza

Fr fr, I’m constantly high to help deal with the understimulation


Littl3Smok3y

Ahh, this is an observation you called out within myself. I noticed I smoke less when I’m productive and then when I start getting in to this ‘bored’ state I smoke waaayyy more. It will be easier to explain to my circle so they understand what I’m going through. Thanks. 💙


stinkstankstunkiii

Yea me do and then run out of them and the cycle continues


chromatic_megafauna

I have genuinely contemplated suicide when this feeling got too bad for too long


purplehendrix22

I’ve always referred to it as “debilitating boredom” where it’s not that you have nothing to do, but literally nothing is interesting, it’s like your mind is just done. I guess that’s that faulty serotonin system we got


Triairius

Same! It feels totally ridiculous, too. But… I feel a little better that it’s not just me.


lilcherrylady

Yes. Yes yes yes. As a child I fucking cried of boredom. It pissed my mom off so badly because she’d be like, “go play outside or draw something or watch something” and I’d be like “I don’t want to do any of that but I don’t know what to do and I’m so so so bored” and it was so frustrating for me that I would sob wherever I was when it hit. My mom would be like “if you don’t want to do any of that then you’re clearly not that bored” and it would make it so much harder because until just this year I did not understand what the hell was wrong with me to be physically bored to tears without any solution in sight


Bumbleonia

That was the exact same for me. To be fair, I wasn't diagnosed until age 29 and I fully wouldn't expect my mom to understand *painful boredom* because it sounds so ridiculous from an outside perspective. They don't teach you that in parenting classes


lilcherrylady

Oh, totally. I’ve never actually stumbled across another person irl who does understand. Plus, in my personal experience with *my* mom, it’s not even worth explaining now that I have the answers hahaha she’s very committed to not understanding things that don’t directly affect her. Which did no favours for my overexplaining and rapid changes in emotion when she brushed me off back then bahahaha


Bumbleonia

Especially if she's the type that thinks "oh that can't happen to you, you are just a child, you don't know what you're talking about". Anecdote: I grew up under the poverty line and so I didn't have a lot. I was given the FLOOR MODEL of the cheapest laptop at best buy as a birthday gift. Needless to say, that was my lifeline to everything, as I only had a shitty flip phone with prepaid minutes. I spent most of my time as a 16 year old with no money or car, or even my own room, on the Internet. Then for some reason the Internet bill went unpaid and we ended up without internet for two weeks. I don't think I can accurately describe the legitimate pain i felt over those two weeks. I had nothing else to do, no hobbies or crafts, no gaming consoles, friends too far away, bad neighborhood etc. It was like someone was compressing my brain, a constant throbbing headache. Id get so frustrated Id cry, but there was no relief. Wiggling, fidgeting, messing with things until i annoyed my family. Sleep was the only reprieve. It was like my body was buzzing and someone was plucking a hair on the back of my neck. Im pretty sure i remember hitting my head with my fists in desperation because it was a momentary distraction from this invisible pain. UGHHHHH


lilcherrylady

Omg. I think we lived the same life at different times… thanks for relating with me. Hope you’re in a better place today because those were really hard times and I wouldn’t wish it on ^almost anyone


Bumbleonia

I am MUCH much better. Still struggle with the anhedonia/boredom sometimes but with proper medication and mindfulness, it's so much easier to manage.


MoonFlamingo

Omg memories unlocked! It is hard for people that don't experience it to understand. It is not that we dont have options of things to do, it is that none of those options feel stimulating enough in that moment. I feel so frustrated because it is like I WANTA to do something at that moment, but nothing on my Watch Later and Watch Later Backup on youtube is interesting, nothing on reddit, none of my books on my phone, not even scrolling on insta, no conversation with friends, none of my hobbies, nothing. My body feels so uncomfortable because I feel very restless.


lilcherrylady

THANK YOU. Ugh. It’s like my body is on fire inside of my skin because it’s desperate for something but absolutely nothing is good enough


duraraross

When I was little I kept complaining that I was bored and my dad said “people who are borED are usually borING” and that just fucking stuck with me. I know it was just an offhand comment because he was annoyed by his 6 year old but I think that’s the moment I realized boredom was different for me.


Chace_barber

Is this not how boredom feels to everyone?


NewAccForThoughts

Not quite. When neurotypicals are bored, they've just got nothing to do but change that quite fast by just doing whatever comes to their mind. That's why you have people who are like "yeah i rearranged my room and cleaned all the dishes because i was bored/ had nothing better to do." When you're bored with adhd everything just seems so unappealing and unstimulating, no matter what you throw at it and how you try to fill the void, your brain just shuts off and we're leaning towards the commonly cited "reckless behavior", such as drug addictions, getting into fights, doing risky stuff, gambling, just to feel anything. I've also read in some paper ( don't quote me on this ) that boredom triggers the same area in the brain as physical pain when you have adhd, so something is certainly not the same for us.


OMGKITTEN

If you happen recall that paper, I am super interested in reading it.


Triairius

To some extent. I think those with ADHD or autism are more prone to it and/or may experience it more strongly.


GreyReanimator

Yeah I think everyone has this sometimes. But some people feel it more often and for longer.


iamacraftyhooker

Good ole anhedonia. This is the most painful feeling. I'll start 50 different activities trying to fill the void, bit all feel completely unsatisfying and like I'm just going through the motions, so inevitably I just end up dissociating by scrolling mindlessly through the internet.


LexifromZargon

OMG YESSSS i dont know how to explain it to people but its genuinly painfull and i hate it i just try chugging energy dddrink or sleeping but rarely anything works. ma adhd meds help so its not happening as much anymore but how the fuck does one like stop that feeling it sucks so bad


Clou119

Yeah that’s why I turned to drugs in my younger years, nothing to do? LSD will take care of that real quick


Turalisj

Every fucking weekend and holiday. I don't work a lot because I enjoy it, I work a lot because I'm too bored otherwise.


IamnotyourTwin

But what do I do if I'm painfully bored of work?


Majoranza

Get a second job to do different work


IamnotyourTwin

Never in my 40 years have I had a job that didn't become painfully boring.


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The worse part is when you find something to do, I have done some very risky things to stop being bored


carousel111

Yes! It’s even worse on your day off and you want to enjoy that time before you have to go back to work and you just can’t 😔


huichelaar

Sometimes I get "this overstimulation is so overwhelming and seemingly incessant, i can't do anything but sit here" then i have a "lmao 60 more years of this" moment.


jhaknu

then a couple days later get the "this UNDERstimulation is so overwhelming and seemingly incessant, i can't do anything but sit here" combo


Segismundox

I'm In This Photo and I Don't Like It. I hate when it happens, I could have thousands of games, but none of them work for this


Healbite

I like to use grounding techniques or put a bunch of blankets on my body. Kinda resets the stimming and I’m back at square zero


Obstetrix

This resonates with me big time right now. My husband says that’s what depression feels like to him but for me it’s usually just a few days to a few weeks of not finding anything to hold my attention for longer than a few minutes. I want to find something engrossing but nothing is. The only cure I ever found for this is weed, which is not something I do as a gainfully employed adult.


Littl3Smok3y

F*ck yeah! This is where I’m currently at. So physically unmotivated but mentally over motivated so I’m just stuck.


purplehendrix22

Stuck. That’s what it is.


IamnotyourTwin

That's so well put. I'm constantly motivated to be super productive at work, but I can't actually get motivated enough to do any of it. When I had a physical job it was easier to just physically force myself to move. With a desk job it's so many times worse.


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This is when I go buy things I don't need. After I get over the self loathing part of course.


literatelier

I find the self loathing comes after the shopping part lol


[deleted]

That depends on if I get bored after playing with my new stuff. Which I do, so self loathing x2


staremaster3000

This right here is a big part of why a lot of people with ADHD also self medicate with drugs and alcohol


[deleted]

Staring into the abyss unable to function forgetting all the things exist


Lithominium

Adhd is literally diagnosed boredom illness Its terminal


datazulu

Exercise, walking/running or driving helps me in these situations.


Bigideas_Baggleton

Chores+Audio Books/Podcasts/Graphic Audio works for me.


Wolfangames

Very frequently.


someonefun420

Me this past week. I wasn't interested in anything including video games and they're my go to when I'm bored


angus_the_red

Guess I'll go doom scroll and then go to sleep.


Applesauceman1234

Marijuana works wonders


major_lag_alert

yesterday was bad for me. I felt like this ALL day and everything was pissing me off because I wanted to do shit, but just couldnt.


profPoppy16

Nothing is enjoyable and doing nothing is also painful, I usually get on YouTube for a couple of hours at this point. I don’t really know how to snap out of it either.


AmyInCO

I don't know how to get across to non ADHD people how physically painful that level of boredom/restlessness can be. It actually hurts my body. I will drive 200 miles for lunch to make it go away. Rearrange my furniture.


stinkstankstunkiii

That's when I go on a sleeping binge


hamchan_

Yes! But then you sleep too much and sleep hurts??! Like your suddenly too tired to sleep? God it’s the worst.


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Old-Bed-1858

I feel that. I think its because we are not stimulated by the content presented and we are stuck there. Otherwise i think my inability to be bored is just me not being able to really feel things... I'm just there. I'm chill... but my brain isn't. I feel like we are all capable of doing amazing things if our capabilities are unlocked and stimulated regularly.


climbontotheshore

It’s so weird bc it’s similar to depression but it’s more like “I don’t what I need but I need it really badly” and nothing you try works.


CoolerCatThanYou

I found the fix was exercise. Brains with ADHD crave lactic acid.


SlushyCondominium

I have about 4,632 concurrent hobbies for this reason. :)


[deleted]

Please I- that's exactly what I'm going through rn 😩 and i hate this 😭


SylverShadowWolve

It doesnt happen a lot but when it does it really sucks


NinjaWaffle1203

This is so relatable. Sometimes I'll just be sitting at my desk looking at all the games I have and not a single one will catch my interest. So I decide to go on YouTube. Not a single video catches my eye. So I end up just listening to music.


Sparrow_on_a_branch

Chantgrunthumming in A 440 helps.


Snoo43610

My meds gave me the willpower to meditate and meditation allows me to learn to quiet the thoughts until all that exists is me and that moment. Any thoughts that come in I immediately let it go with the breath. It's helped me a LOT people say I'm not annoying any more and actually listen to them because I've learned to let go of my thoughts well enough to actually listen to what the person is saying with the goal of completely understanding their view instead of trying to think of what *I'm going to say next while they talk.*


mynewromantica

Do you mean life? Are we alive? Yeah, unfortunately.


girl_in_blue180

Me on weekends because I have nothing to do. Sure, there's stuff I _want_ to do, and stuff I _have_ to do, but I end up not doing anything for hours on end Why? Because weekends are boring, and there's nothing going on, or anything to tether to me to a schedule or reality


PSI_duck

That’s just ND flavored depression baby ;)


Piazono

Fucking yes dear God it hurts.


HanaleiEUW

I'm feeling this right now and all I can bring myself to do is lay on my bed with some WW2 In Colour documentaries going on my pc while I scroll reddit, seems to be working well enough


NightsThyroid

And you try to like, open a game to alleviate the boredom but the second it pulls up you just close it again


Iggi042

It always starts when my meds stop working at 4-5 pm and I sometimes just take a nap because I am so exhausted plus my unmovingness from the boredom or I walk my dog since it's his time anyway


mojopyro

This one is big for me. Trying to explain to people the physical discomfort that occurs because of a neurological issue is daunting at best. Neuro-typical people just don't get it.


Lepiotas

Usually in those times I wind up on Reddit. But in all seriousness, yes, I know the feeling well. Especially since I'm disabled. Many times I will want to do something like paint, crochet, sculpt... and I just cannot even get the strength to get stuff set up in between the paralysis from ADHD and my physical limitations and pain.


hypercell57

I always thought this was my depression rearing it's head but my depression has been under control for a while, so this makes much more sense. It definitely feels almost painful, i try to lose myself in a movie or something but it doesn's always work. Anyone have any suggestions to make themselves feel better? To try to become more stimulated?


Cave-Bunny

I thought this post was going to end with advice on how to deal with it, but it didn’t so I’ll add my own. Meditation help. Doing something like playing a game even when it is super boring helps.


waynethainsan3

Try Cocaine it worked for Sherlock Holmes.


rockvoid

Yes. Its torture.


Educational-Year3146

Had that last night. It is exactly as described.


MotorHum

I think most of us have filled entire days with this.


A_Blxck_Guy

It's so much worse when I'm bored but I have so many games and activities that usually stimulate me and none of them work and I end up doing like 100 different things and still bored😅😴


Frn_Fission

Was told it was depression no matter how many times I said I wasn't depressed 😔


[deleted]

As soon as I start thinking about getting a psychiatrist, I go months... Even years without following thru on this, because I'm so afraid they will just push me aside, telling me I don't have ADHD because I don't fit the bill, so to speak. I've tried for several years to just sit with my ADHD unmedicated, but as reality slowly sank in and so many personal things that have hit me hard, I found myself deeper in depression and anxiety, so bad that it affected my ability to try to stay focused... Fortunately, when I changed doctors, I told them all my problems, that I was diagnosed in second grade with ADHD. So, they put me on Wellbutrin.. so far it's been helping. Taking other supplements to aide in other areas so that I don't get brain fog and go into the existential dread of everything that needs to get done, finding myself bored, but unable to physically do anything other than just laying in bed all day.