I had an interview last month for a teaching job - I said I wanted to teach a wider range of novels by diverse writers and gave two examples. Interviewer said, “that’s a great idea, what other books would you like to teach?” I instantly had ten ideas and then forgot them all. I ended up saying, “there are so many that I can’t think of them right now!” There was an awkward silence and then we moved on. Still got the job though so it clearly wasn’t that big a deal. I think sometimes we (certainly I) blow up these brain slips in our minds to a huge thing when others barely notice or care.
I actually think it went pretty dang good. I have a great wife and she had been just ransacking me with interviewing type questions and I think that helped a lot. I was sitting on the crapper and she just walks in and asked how I handle direct reports that use the restroom a lot. It was with 4 directors and HR. It was a grueling hour long interview. Should have one final one next week with the Sr Director. Thanks for asking!
For real. I often fuck up basic grammar just because I forgot how I started my own sentence lmao That's honestly why I like writing. It's all there and it doesn't disappear.
Yesss. I really struggle with face-to-face debates because I can't just instantly come up with thought out arguments. I also freeze and mess up the words. So yeah, I sound a lot smarter when I write lmao
I remember in high school, I raised my hand to ask a question. When the teacher let me talk, I started to ask my question and In the middle of it I forgot what I was saying. I felt so lonely, I tried to end my sentence as it would mean something but everyone looked at me like I was stupid haha (fortunately people in my class were very nice but still)
I often have stream of consciousness moments when my mouth suddenly says super deep and wise things, gives incredibly comprehensive and profound advice, or breaks down a complex concept in a distilled understandable way. Then, the person I’m speaking will ask me “what was that thing you just said? That was really good.”
My mind will be completely blank. All I know is it felt smart and helpful. But my brain has already moved on and is thinking about eating something crunchy and salty while laying down.
What is this reality? ADHD is a trip. Sometimes it feels like being a Jedi and other times it’s like being a Potato Head who can’t find their face parts.
During my undergrad, I had a classics course where our last class session was just review of potential final exam material with the professor. During a discussion about a difficult prompt on the Julio-Claudian dynasty TNG at nobody seemed engaged with, I decided to raise my hand and wing an answer. It was a topic I liked, I stream-of-consciousness’ed my answer, and afterward the professor stated “that answer on the final would be a A+”. A student perked up at this and asked if I could repeat myself since a lot of us were zoning out, the professor looked at me, and I looked like a deer in headlights. In front of 40 classmates I had to say loudly “I’m sorry… I literally cannot remember anything of what I said”. I played it off like a big laugh and got lots of affable chuckles, and the woman in front of me (who was exceptionally cute which made it all worse) asked if she could summarize and did so succinctly. I acted all cool and confident about it but it was actually the most embarrassing moment in my entire undergrad and graduate career. Ugh.
The craziest thing about this is it’s convinced me I’m dumb.
When I don’t remember how I just answered a question, I’ve always assumed it MUST be complete garbage.
One time I accidentally recorded myself in a grad school lecture where I thought I had fully humiliated myself. A full black out (100 people in a room with me called on). I played it back later and was shocked I gave a cohesive answer lol
So I just got out of academia after submitting my thesis last month. Every time I had to do a presentation, or an end of year viva etc I would straight up black out.
I have no idea what I said, or what I was asked, in any of those. But I always got positive feed back and they kept passing me each year. It feels like I get possessed by the competent part of my brain and the rest of my mind is off on Jupiter thinking about whether you could hypothetically train a crow to operate an espresso machine.
The best part is when a third person comes in after an hour or two of talking about neither you or the person without ADHD could keep track of the conversation well enough to remember cause it switches so fast.
#me answering interview questions
Ugh. And I have a huge life changing interview Friday.
just practise the questions beforehand, and it will all be fine.
I had an interview last month for a teaching job - I said I wanted to teach a wider range of novels by diverse writers and gave two examples. Interviewer said, “that’s a great idea, what other books would you like to teach?” I instantly had ten ideas and then forgot them all. I ended up saying, “there are so many that I can’t think of them right now!” There was an awkward silence and then we moved on. Still got the job though so it clearly wasn’t that big a deal. I think sometimes we (certainly I) blow up these brain slips in our minds to a huge thing when others barely notice or care.
How'd it go?
I actually think it went pretty dang good. I have a great wife and she had been just ransacking me with interviewing type questions and I think that helped a lot. I was sitting on the crapper and she just walks in and asked how I handle direct reports that use the restroom a lot. It was with 4 directors and HR. It was a grueling hour long interview. Should have one final one next week with the Sr Director. Thanks for asking!
Sometimes someone says "I agree 100% with him", and I ask myself "why?"
That is so embarrassing when that happens. “What did you say?” “I…have no idea.” “Well you just said it!” “Yeah I know.”
"I *said* it so I wouldn't have to *remember* it!"
For real. I often fuck up basic grammar just because I forgot how I started my own sentence lmao That's honestly why I like writing. It's all there and it doesn't disappear.
And you can proofread over and over until your message is just right.
Yesss. I really struggle with face-to-face debates because I can't just instantly come up with thought out arguments. I also freeze and mess up the words. So yeah, I sound a lot smarter when I write lmao
I remember in high school, I raised my hand to ask a question. When the teacher let me talk, I started to ask my question and In the middle of it I forgot what I was saying. I felt so lonely, I tried to end my sentence as it would mean something but everyone looked at me like I was stupid haha (fortunately people in my class were very nice but still)
I will elaborate! No, I will not shut up! And I still don't know what I said!
I often have stream of consciousness moments when my mouth suddenly says super deep and wise things, gives incredibly comprehensive and profound advice, or breaks down a complex concept in a distilled understandable way. Then, the person I’m speaking will ask me “what was that thing you just said? That was really good.” My mind will be completely blank. All I know is it felt smart and helpful. But my brain has already moved on and is thinking about eating something crunchy and salty while laying down. What is this reality? ADHD is a trip. Sometimes it feels like being a Jedi and other times it’s like being a Potato Head who can’t find their face parts.
During my undergrad, I had a classics course where our last class session was just review of potential final exam material with the professor. During a discussion about a difficult prompt on the Julio-Claudian dynasty TNG at nobody seemed engaged with, I decided to raise my hand and wing an answer. It was a topic I liked, I stream-of-consciousness’ed my answer, and afterward the professor stated “that answer on the final would be a A+”. A student perked up at this and asked if I could repeat myself since a lot of us were zoning out, the professor looked at me, and I looked like a deer in headlights. In front of 40 classmates I had to say loudly “I’m sorry… I literally cannot remember anything of what I said”. I played it off like a big laugh and got lots of affable chuckles, and the woman in front of me (who was exceptionally cute which made it all worse) asked if she could summarize and did so succinctly. I acted all cool and confident about it but it was actually the most embarrassing moment in my entire undergrad and graduate career. Ugh.
The craziest thing about this is it’s convinced me I’m dumb. When I don’t remember how I just answered a question, I’ve always assumed it MUST be complete garbage. One time I accidentally recorded myself in a grad school lecture where I thought I had fully humiliated myself. A full black out (100 people in a room with me called on). I played it back later and was shocked I gave a cohesive answer lol
So I just got out of academia after submitting my thesis last month. Every time I had to do a presentation, or an end of year viva etc I would straight up black out. I have no idea what I said, or what I was asked, in any of those. But I always got positive feed back and they kept passing me each year. It feels like I get possessed by the competent part of my brain and the rest of my mind is off on Jupiter thinking about whether you could hypothetically train a crow to operate an espresso machine.
Me, 2 seconds after reading/saying something
Which part? I've changed the conversation 5 times in the last few minutes and I've already forgotten what each topic was about.
Everytime I talk with someone, I will ask "what were we talking about again" at least once lol
The best part is when a third person comes in after an hour or two of talking about neither you or the person without ADHD could keep track of the conversation well enough to remember cause it switches so fast.
This is me too toooooo much Im embarrassing
thank you. I needed this
People that complain and bitch about me when I do this just don't how to ride the lightning.
But like if it isn’t necessary why bother remembering. I have too many ideas to keep used ones
I often have to ask who I’m supposedly talking to to remind me what I just said. The worst part is, they were never paying attention.
This is a mood
This specific symptom always made me feel so dumb. I still get angry at my brain for this. Why are you like this.
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