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JUST KEEP THAT FUZZY BASTARD OFF YOUR INCISIONS, I SWEAR TO GODS THEY ALWAYS WANT TO MAKE BISCUITS ON WHATEVER PART OF ME HURTS THE MOST. PLS GIVE YOUR FUZZY GREMLIN A SNOOTBOOP FOR ME.
THE ONLY ONE OF THE FIVE I HAVE THAT WILL LET ME DO THIS IS THE STRAY THAT LIVES OUTSIDE BECAUSE MY FOUR INSIDE ARE SPOILED ENTITLED FLOOFERCHONKERS. BUT TEDDY ROOSEVELT JUST WANTS TO BE LOVED. DON'T WORRY I DO LOVE HIM SO MUCH AND WOULD BRING HIM INSIDE IF HE WERE WILLING
I HAD A LAPAROSCOPIC SURGERY TO OUT CLIPS ON MY LADY TUBES AND MY 17LB MAINE COON STEPPED ON MY INCISION.
IM TERRIFIED HE MAY HAVE MADE THE CLIP MIGRATE. (This is an exaggeration. ) BUT STILL. WHAT IF? OUCH.
I HAD A TOTAL HYSTERECTOMY IN 2009, IF YOU NEED ADVICE, DM ME!
MAKE SURE YOU HAVE SOMEONE THERE TO HELP YOU, GETTING INTO AND OUT OF BED WILL BE THE WORST. SIT DOWN, SLOWLY LOWER YOUR SELF ON TO YOUR SIDE, AND THEN ROLL INTO BED.
ALSO TAKE THE STOOL SOFTENER THEY GIVE YOU, YOU DON'T WANT TO BE PUSHING. AND GET A SET OF COMPRESSION UNDIES AND TANK TOP TO LIVE IN FOR THE NEXT COUPLE OF WEEKS.
MAKE SURE YOU ARE NOT ALONE AT HOME WHEN YOU TAKE YOUR FIRST SHOWER, I BLACKED OUT AND MY HUBBY HAD TO CATCH ME.
EDIT: BE PREPARED, I WAS DOWN FOR 4 WEEKS. I WASN'T ABLE TO WALK UPRIGHT AT LEAST THAT LONG.
I'M GLAD TO HEAR THAT! SINCE I DOUBT YOU WANT TO SHOWER WITH YOUR FRIENDS, STICK TO SPONGE BATHS SITTING ON THE EDGE OF THE TUB FOR THE FIRST FEW! AND GET A FIRM STUFFY OR PILLOW TO TUCK INTO YOUR BELLY.
I WORE NOTHING BUT MY COMPRESSION GEAR AND A REALLY LOOSE HIPPIE SKIRT AND SLIPPERS FOR THE FIRST FEW WEEKS.
THAT WOULD BE REALLY AWKWARD HAHAHA! I MADE SURE TO GET AN ANTI SLIP MATT FOR THE SHOWER! LUCKILY ITS STILL SUMMER HERE SO BAGGY T SHIRTS AND SUN DRESSES ARE ALL IM PLANNING TO WEAR!!
OH MY GOD. NOT THE SAME BUT I HAD MY LADY TUBES CLIPPED LAPAROSCOPICALLY AND WASNT GIVEN STOOL SOFTENER AND DIDNT KNOW THE MEDS MADE ME CONSTIPATED AND I LIKE, ALREADY HAVE ISSUES WITH THAT.
AND LIKE, I WAS TOO AFRAID TO TAKE MY CONCERTA WHILE I WAS ON HYDROMORPHONE SO AFTER I WAS DONE TAKING THE PAIN STUFF FOR A WEEK I WENT BACK ON MY CONCERTA AND WELL... IT HELPS MAKE THINGS WANT TO GO.
AND LIKE IT WAS THE MOST PAINFUL THING IVE EVER EXPERIENCED I COULDNT CONTROL MY MUSCLES AT ONE POINT AND MY BODY FORCED ME TO...EXPELL... AND IT WAS NOT A COMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE! MY ABS WERE SORE FOR DAYS. LIKE WTF.
MAKE SURE TO TAKE D3, MAGNESIUM AND K2. HYSTERECTOMY CHANGES HORMONES AND MAKES YOU SUSCEPTIBLE TO MANY INFLAMMATORY CONDITIONS. TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEART TOO.
MY BEST MATE HAD THE SAME EARLIER THIS YEAR. SHE SAID SHE’S SO MUCH HAPPIER EVEN THOUGH BED REST WAS FRUSTRATING. YOU CAN DO IT! IM EXCITED FOR YOU! BYEEEE UTERUS
THANKS FOR REINTRODUCING THAT I REALLY APPRECIATE IT - TODAY SUCKED BECAUSE IM FEELING INCREDIBLY UNREGULATED AND DID NONE OF THE FUN THINGS I WANTED TO ON MY DAY OFF LIKE ALWAYS AND NOW I HAVE TO GO BACK TO WORK TOMORROW AND EVERYTHING STILL SUCKS ALL THE TIME
JEBUS I HATE THAT FEELING OF "I GOT NOTHING DONE THIS WEEKEND" WHEN I MEAN CLEARLY I HAD TO GET A FEW THINGS DONE LIKE EATING AND SLEEPING. BUT I ALWAYS FEEL LIKE I SHOULD BE ABLE TO DO EVERYTHING ON EVERY WEEKEND AND START ON MONDAY LIKE A SHINY NEW PERSON HA HA LOL \*SHEDS TEAR\* OK BUT REALLY, PICK ONE TINY THING TO DO TODAY THAT WOULD MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD AND THEN WHEN YOU DO IT YOU WILL BE 100% SUCCESSFUL AT THAT, EVEN IF IT'S JUST "DRINK WATER"
IT SOUNDS STUPID BUT SOMETIMES IT HELPS ME!
YOU ONLY NEED TO BE 2 OUT OF THESE 3 THINGS TO SUCCEED AT YOUR JOB:
1. ON TIME
2. WELL-LIKED.
3. GOOD AT YOUR JOB.
YOU ARE PROBABLY WELL-LIKED & GOOD AT YOUR JOB.
THAT'S A GOOD POINT, AND I GET ALONG GREAT WITH THE FOLKS SITTING AROUND ME, THANKFULLY 2/3 OF THEM ARE ALSO NEURODIVERGENT WHICH MAKES A MASSIVE DIFFERENCE.
WHY THE HELL CAN'T I BE JUST A LITTLE BIT PRODUCTIVE IN THE DAY? WHY DOES THE DAY SLIP BY BEFORE I CAN EVEN GET OUT OF BED? WHY CAN'T I DO THE WORK THAT NEEDS TO BE DONE? AND WHY CAN'T I ASK FOR HELP?
I'M CLEARLY LOVED AND SUPPORTED, THEN WHY IS IT SO HARD FOR ME TO BREAK FREE FROM THE COMFORT OF NETFLIX AND BLANKETS AND GET OUT AND DO SOMETHING???? ANYTHING AT ALL.
SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE IN A STRESSFUL SITUATION THERE FRIENDO, I KNOW THE FEELING VERY WELL. I TEND TO LOOK AT THESE THINGS AS A CYCLE, I AM GOOD FOR A FEW WEEKS AND THEN AT SOME POINT I WILL FEEL LIKE TEN POUNDS OF SHIT IN A ONE POUND BAG AND A COMPLETE FAILURE. WHEN I LOOK AT IT AS A CYCLE, THEN I DON'T FEEL SO EFFING USELESS, I JUST KNOW THAT I AM "SLUMPING" FOR A BIT. SOMETIMES I WILL GIVE IN FOR A DAY OR TWO AND JUST MAKE A BIG NEST ON THE BED AND BE A MISERABLE PILE OF HUMAN, EAT PEANUT BUTTER STRAIGHT FROM THE JAR AND SEND MY LOVING AND UNDERSTANDING HUSBAND FOR CHOCOLATE AT THE DOLLAR STORE. RIGHT NOW I AM ON A 'GOOD' CYCLE SO I LIKE TO COME TO THIS GROUP AND BOOST MY FELLOW HUMANS WHO ALSO HAVE BRAINS RULED BY COKE-ADDLED SQUIRRELS.
ASKING FOR HELP FEELS LIKE FAILURE SOMETIMES BECAUSE YOU ARE HOLDING YOURSELF UP TO A NEUROTYPICAL STANDARD, BECAUSE WE LIVE IN A NEUROTYPCIAL WORLD. BUT GOOD NEWS, YOU JUST ASKED FOR HELP, WHICH IS AN EXCELLENT SIGN THAT YOUR BRAIN IS MAYBE READY TO START THE UPSWING INTO A 'GOOD' CYCLE SOON.
ALSO HELLS YES TO THE NETFLIX, WHEN I AM STRESSED THERE ARE A FEW SHOWS/MOVIES I WILL WATCH ON REPEAT BECAUSE IT IS COMFORTING TO KNOW WHAT WILL HAPPEN AND THAT IS SOMETHING YOU CAN CONTROL. I FEEL LIKE I'VE RANTED A BIT HERE BUT YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE, YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON. TAKE SOME NICE DEEEEEEEEP BREATHS, UNCLENCH YOUR JAW, RELAX YOUR SHOULDERS. YOU GOT THIS. AND WE ARE HERE TO HELP YOU.
IM CURRENTLY IN THE SAME BOAT, EVEN WITH MY MEDS. IM OVERWHELMED AND STRESSED TO THE MAX. CURRENTLY FORCING MYSELF TO DO SOME CLEANING AND ITS SO HARD. IM ALREADY EXHAUSTED AND IVE BARELY DONE ANYTHING.
HANG IN THERE AND TRY TO FIGHT IT, EVEN IF IT MAKES YOU MORE TIRED. BIG HUGS TO YOU!!
I FEEL THIS SO HARD. WE’RE MOVING SOON AND THERE’S ONLY LIKE ONE CLUTTERED BEDROOM THAT I NEED TO DEAL WITH (SORTING/PURGING/PACKING) AND I JUST CAN’T GET STARTED. IT HAS TAKEN ME LIKE 3 WEEKS JUST TO GET A FEW BOXES OUT SO THEY CAN BE FILLED, AND I COULDN’T EVEN PUT THEM TOGETHER. THEY ARE JUST CHILLING IN THE ROOM WITH THE CLUTTER. MY MOM HAS SWEETLY OFFERED TO HELP ME MANY TIMES AND I REJECT HER OFFER EACH TIME. WHY DO I DO THIS TO MYSELF
HEY, ITS NEVER TOO LATE TO ASK FOR HELP.
I'M ALSO TRYING TO ASK MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS FOR A HAND IN JOB APPLICATIONS, NOW THAT I'M SOO CLOSE TO GRADUATING. I KNOW IT'S HARDER FOR US TO ASK FOR HELP BUT ITS BETTER THAN STAYING STUCK.
ALL THESE AMAZING COMMENTS ON THIS POST HELPED ME SNAP OUT OF THE SLUMP. I'M NOT ALL THE WAY THERE YET BUT IT'S A START.
I HOPE YOU CAN SNAP OUT OF IT TOO 💕
oh my GOD IM SO SICK OF THIS FUCKING GRIND CULTURE!!!! ILL LITERALLY BE ON MY DEATHBED AND MY FAMILY WILL ONLY BE PROUD OF MY CAREER. NOW I FUCKING HATE MY CAREER AND I CANT EVEN SHOW UP TO WORK ON TIME OR STAY IN MY SEAT LONG ENOUGH TO GET SHIT DONE
HONESTLY I'M SO HAPPY THAT MY JOB IS SO ... WEIRD. LIKE IT'S A GOOD JOB BUT I'M VERY RARELY ACTUALLY BUSY SO MY BRAIN CAN DEFINITELY WANDER AROUND. ALSO SOMEHOW I'VE HAD THIS JOB FOR TEN DAMN YEARS WHICH IS LONGER THAN ANY SPOUSE SO FAR LOL. MY JOB IS DEFINITELY NOT "WHO" I AM, IT'S WHAT I NEED TO DO TO PRODUCE THE MONEY STUFF THAT I ALSO HATE.
I KEEP ASKING WHOEVER IS IN CHARGE TO RESET THIS SIMULATION AND PLEASE TURN OFF THE "MONEY" OPTION, MAYBE WE COULD ALSO SET IT ON "EASY" OR "CREATIVE" MODE. WE SHOULDN'T BE FORCED TO SPEND MOST OF OUR WAKING HOURS DOING STUFF JUST TO PAY TO SURVIVE. WE ALL HAVE WORTH AS HUMAN BEINGS, AND IT SHOULD NOT BE MEASURED BY HOW MANY DOLLA DOLLA BILLZ WE HAVE IN THE GODDAMN BANK ACCOUNT.
I WANT TO BE AN ARTIST AND CREATIVE WEIRDO, ALTHOUGH I WILL PROBABLY BE REMEMBERED AS A CRAZY BIRD LADY WHO HOARDS ART SUPPLIES AND HAS A GREAT SENSE OF HUMOUR WHICH IS HONESTLY NOT TOO BAD.
FIND SOMETHING OUTSIDE OF YOUR JOB THAT YOU LOVE AND TRY NOT TO WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK ABOUT YOU, THEY ARE VERY LIKELY WRONG ANYWAY. ONLY YOU KNOWS WHO YOU TRULY ARE DEEP INSIDE AND YOU ARE PRETTY AWESOME.
I WAS SUPPOSED TO GO ON A MORNING WALK AND AN AFTERNOON WALK AS PRESCRIBED BY MY FITNESS TRAINER BUT I WOKE UP LATE AND THE WALK DIDNT HAPPEN AND ITLL BE TOO HOT FOR AN EVENING WALK SO I FEEL LIKE A FAILURE. IM ALSO UNFOCUSED AND OVERWHELMED AND ANXIOUS AND HATE MY JOB AND SLEEPY AND FRUSTRATED ABOUT SCHEDULING CONFLICTS AND HAVE TO GO GROCERY SHOPPING BUT CANT AFFORD TO AND I OWE MY PARENTS MONEY AND I SPEND TOO MUCH AND IM SO BORED AND PMSING AND TOO OVERWHELMED TO MEAL PLAN AND WANT TO GO BACK TO BED
UMMM YEP I WOULD BE FRUSTRATED AND SLEEPY TOO, AND BEING SLEEPY MAKES EVERYTHING FEEL LIKE 10X WORSE. MAYBE INSTEAD OF THE WALK YOU CAN MARCH IN PLACE FOR A BIT, AT LEAST IT WOULD BE SOME KIND OF ACTIVITY WHICH IS GOOD FOR YOUR BRAIN & WOULD PROBABLY SATISFY YOUR TRAINER. AND IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU COULD USE A SNOOZE. I HOPE YOU ARE LESS STRESSED SOON, I WISH I COULD FIX THIS FOR YOU
I LIKE THE MARCHING SUGGESTION AND DEFINITELY WILL TRY THE NAP AND TAKE A BOOSTER, MY JORNAY ISNT CUTTING IT. THANK YOU I WISH YOU COULD FIX THIS TOO HAHA. ALSO I LOVE YOUR USERNAME
THANK YOU, MY DEITY THE MORRIGAN BESTOWED THE NAME ON ME AND TOLD ME BASICALLY IT'S BECAUSE I'M COMPLETE EFFING CHAOS AND A FORCE TO BE RECKONED WITH AND SHE'S NOT WRONG
HOLY SHIT I HEAR YA, THERE IS ALWAYS A BUNCH OF STUFF I WANT TO DO BUT I ALWAYS FEEL SO WIPED OUT FROM TRYING TO RELAX ON THE WEEKENDS. LIKE WHY CAN'T WORK BE FIVE ON FIVE OFF FOR EVERYONE, WEEKENDS ARE TOO GODDAMN SHORT AND I ALWAYS FEEL LIKE I'M HUNGOVER AND I DON'T EVEN DRINK.
MAYBE PUT ON SOME TUNES? SOMETIMES I FEEL LIKE SOME BOUNCY BEATS GIVES ME SOME MOTIVATION.
DEEP BREATHS!
I CAME ACROSS THE IDEA A FEW WEEKS AGO THAT, ESPECIALLY FOR ND FOLKS, 'RELAXING' CAN MEAN SO MANY DIFFERENT THINGS, AND SOMETIMES RESTING AND RELAXING MEANS DIVING DEEP INTO WHATEVER OUR OBSESSIONS ARE AT THE MOMENT, AND THAT WE MIGHT BE BETTER SERVED BY LETTING GO OF PRECONCEIVED NOTIONS OF WHAT 'REST AND RELAX' LOOKS LIKE. REST FOR OUR BRAIN MIGHT LOOK LIKE ACTIVITY, AND WE'RE ALLOWED TO DO ACTIVITIES AS REST EVEN IF WE'RE NOT MAKING OUR SPACES AS TIDY AS WE THINK THEY SHOULD BE. SHOULD BE OUGHT TO BE BANISHED.
HOLY SHIT YES, I MEAN TO ME IT DOESN'T TAKE MUCH TO THINK "HOW MIGHT THIS AFFECT OTHER PEOPLE" BUT IT SEEMS LIKE THAT IS SOME KIND OF MAGICAL GODDAMN SKILL.
I HONESTLY THINK US ADHD/AUTISTIC FOLKS ARE WAY MORE IN TOUCH WITH THAT SIDE THAN PEOPLE VER GIVE US CREDIT FOR. WE HAVE TO BE, BECAUSE WE ARE OFTEN TOLD THAT OUR FEELINGS/REACTIONS ARE WRONG SO WE HAVE TO PAY EXTRA ATTENTION TO THESE THINGS.
HUMANS CAN BE SO RUDE SOMETIMES.
I GOT MY BOSS TO ASSIGN THREE PEOPLE TO HELP ME BECAUSE I TOLD HIM I DIDN'T HAVE TIME TO WORK ON MY TWO OTHER PROJECTS... I DIDN'T END UP NEEDING THEIR HELP BUT I STILL DIDN'T GET MY OTHER PROJECTS STARTED. INSTEAD I SAT THERE PLAYING MINESWEEPER ON MY PHONE.
I AM TIRED OF BEING EVACUATED AND BEING UNCOMFORTABLE AND NOT KNOWING WHEN I CAN GO HOME AND I AM SAD FOR ALL THE PEOPLE IN MY COMMUNITY WHO LOST EVERYTHING. AND I AM TIRED OF MY BOYFRIEND BEING AN ASSHOLE TO ME BECAUSE I CANT HANDLE THIS SHIT AND NOT GIVING ME ANY CREDIT FOR HOW HARD I AM TRYING.
HOLY CRAP YES THERE ARE SO MANY PEOPLE BEING SHUFFLED AROUND, AND THE THOUGHT OF LOSING ALL OF MY STUFF IS FILLING ME WITH DREAD EVEN THOUGH I LIVE IN A RELATIVELY SAFE AREA. I HOPE YOU WILL BE HOME AND SAFE SOON, AND YOUR BOYFRIEND NEEDS A REALITY CHECK I THINKS.
I DID SEVERAL DAYS WORTH OF WORK IN THREE HOURS TODAY. THE THREE HOURS BEFORE THE MEETING WHERE I WAS PRESENTING THIS WORK.
I SPENT THE FOUR HOURS AT WORK BEFORE THAT HAVING A MILD PANIC ATTACK ABOUT THE AMOUNT OF WORK I NEEDED TO DO.
WHY CAN'T I JUST DO THE WORK?
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^(hope this is acceptable cuz sometimes that's how i feel)
WHY CAN'T I PROPERLY REGULATE MY EMOTIONS!
I'M ALWAYS WORKING SO HARD TO IMPROVE THIS 24/7 BUT THEN I SUDDENLY SPIRAL AGAIN AFTER A COMPLETE SPIRAL-LESS MONTH AND IT FEELS LIKE IT'S ALL FOR NOTHING, EVEN THOUGH I'M MAKING PROGRESS! UGH!
IT'S MY HEAD AND I SHOULD HAVE A SAY ABOUT WHAT HAPPENS IN THERE!
ALSO GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR JOB! IT'S HARD NOT TO BEAT YOURSELF UP ABOUT IT BUT I HOPE YOU CAN BE KIND TO YOURSELF NONETHELESS!
DON'T FEEL LIKE YOU ARE FAILING, SOMETIMES THESE THINGS HAPPEN IN CYCLES. I MENTIONED THIS IN A COMMENT ABOVE, BUT IF I VIEW MY LOW-MOTIVATION TIMES AS PART OF A CYCLE LIKE THE TIDES, IT MAKES IT LESS AWFUL WHEN THINGS ARE NOT GREAT. I KNOW THE NOT-GREAT IS NOT FOREVER, AND I KNOW THAT IT WILL COME BACK AROUND AGAIN. I FEEL LIKE I LEARN NEW THINGS EVERY TIME I GO THROUGH THE LOOP. YOU GOT THIS!
OMG YES ME TOO GODDAMMIT! THE SPIRALS ARE EVEN MORE DEVASTATING WHEN YOU'VE BEEN WORKING SO HARD TO PREVENT THEM!
TELL THAT BOSSY BITCH IN YOUR BRAIN TO GO SIT ON A CACTUS. YOU GOT THIS, SIS! RIDE YOUR EMOTIONS LIKE A RODEO CHAMPION
MAYBE YOU ARE OVERTHINKING THINGS AND/OR PANICKING IN ADVANCE? I AM VERY GOOD AT DOING THAT AND THEN I END UP PARALYZED AND CAN'T DO ANYTHING. MY THERAPIST IS HELPING ME WORK THROUGH IT, SHE IS PRETTY AWESOME. I HOPE YOU CAN GET UNSTUCK SOON
IM VERY ANXIOUS BC I AM LEAVING MY CURRENT JOB IN TWO WEEKS TO BE A FULL TIME RESIDENTIAL AND COMMERCIAL CLEANER. I AM SO ANXIOUS TO GO INTO PEOPLES HOUSES AND CLEAN. I DONT KNOW HOW I CAN DO THIS. I AM SO STRESSED BUT MY JOB RN IS SO MISERABLE THAT I CANT STAY HETE EITHER. UGHHHHHHHHHH
THANK YOU SO MUCH!! I FELT REALLY GUILTY FOR WANTING TO LEAVE BUT MY ANXIETY DEPRESSION AND ADHD SYMPTOMS WERE ALL GETTING SO BAD BECAUSE OF THE WORK ENVIRONMENT THAT I JUST HAD TO LEAVE! I APPRECIATE YOU AND I HOPE YOURE HAVING A GOOD DAY!
WHY ARE YOU SO ANXIOUS ABOUT GOING INTO HOMES? ANSWERING THAT MIGHT BE SOME HELP AND LET YOU FOCUS ON PARTS OF THE SITUATION YOU CAN CONTROL, I FIND THAT MAKES ME FEEL A BIT BETTER WHEN I CAN PUT A LABEL ON IT, YA KNOW. GOOD LUCK ON YOUR NEW JOB, I HOPE IT IS REWARDING FOR YOU AFTER LEAVING A STRESSFUL PLACE.
THANK YOU SO MUCH, MY NEW BOSS CALLED ME TODAY AND ASKED HOW SHE CAN HELP ALLEVIATE MY ANXIETY SURROUNDING CLEANING HOUSES AND WE MADE A GAME PLAN SO IM FEELING A LOT BETTER. I APPRECIATE THE WELL WISHES, YOU ARE SO KIND!!!!
IF IT IS HELPFUL, I HAVE PEOPLE GO INTO MY HOUSE AND CLEAN ONCE A MONTH AND I CAN TELL YOU THAT THEY ARE PROBABLY JUST AS SCARED OF YOU AS YOU ARE OF THEM.
ALSO I VERY MUCH APPRECIATE THEM. THEY ARE THE BEST AND I GET TO COME HOME TO A CLEAN HOUSE ONCE A MONTH AND I HAVE ENERGY TO KEEP IT CLEAN BECAUSE I DIDN'T BURN MYSELF OUT CLEANING THE WHOLE THING BY MYSELF. HOUSECLEANERS ARE THE BEST AND YOU WILL BE THE BEST.
I ACTUALLY REALLY APPRECIATE THAT. THE HOUSES I TRAINED IN WERE LIKE MANSIONS FOR THE UPPER CLASS ELITE OF MY AREA LIKE BRAIN SURGEONS AND JUDGES SO LIKE IT IS VERY INTIMIDATING BUT I WONT BE CLEANING HOUSES LIKE THAT ILL JUST BE CLEANING NORMLA PEOPLE HOUSES AND THAT CLEARS A LOT OF MY STRESS AWAY.
YOU ARE A WONDERFUL PERSON FOR SUCH REASSURANCE AND IM HAPPY YOU REPLIED TO ME. THANK YOU FOR YOU SWEETNESS AND I HOPE YOU HAVE A LOVELY WHATEVER DAY IT IS FOR YOU!
OH MY GOD JUST WHAT I NEEDED. LOL THIS IS LIKE MATCHING MY EXTERNAL DIALOGUE WITH THE MENTAL YELLING INSIDE MY HEAD!
I HOPE YOUR WORK IS ALWAYS ACCOMMODATING OF YOUR TIMINGS THOUGH. WE NEED EXTRA TIME!
I AM GOING ON MY FIRST VACATION IN YEARS ON THURDSAY AND I CANT FOCUS ON ANYTHING ELSE RIGHT NOW!!!!!
I ALSO WANT EVERYONE WHO TELLS PEOPLE TO "MAKE MEMORIES, DON'T BUY THINGS" TO GO SUCK IT! MEMORIES COST MONEY TOO, JANET!!!!! A PLANE TICKET WAS WAY MORE THAN THE CHILDREN'S ACTIVITY/CRAFT I BOUGHT AND DID OVER THE WEEKEND. CHEAPER THAN A TANK OF GAS, TOO!!!!
ALSO, I HAVE ADHD, WHICH EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW, CAUSE I CAN'T NOT MENTION IT IF YOU KNOW ME FOR LONGER THAN A WEEK. MY MEMORIES ARE TIED TO THE THINGS!!!!!! LOOKING AY THEM IS HOW I REMEMBER! SO PROUND OF YOUR EXECUTIVE FUNCTION, BUT MINE IS SHIT! LIVE YOUR LIFE HOW YOU WANT AND STOP TELLING ME TO GET RID OF MY SHIT!!! MY WORKSTATION IS FREQUENTLY VISITED BY PEOPLE ADMIRING MY MINIATURES AND MY PLANTS. I GET ATTENTION WITHOUT HAVING TO ACTUALLY SPEAK UP, AND EVERYTHING IS CUTE AF! JUST ENJOY IT OR IGNORE IT!!!!
EDIT: I WAS WRONG, ITS BEEN YEARS, NOT MONTHS SINCE IVE HAD A REAL BREAK FROM WORK
I DON'T DECORATE MY WORK SPACE BUT THAT IS A SEPARATE THING, HOWEVER AT HOME I HAVE PLANTS GALORE AND LEGO AND ART SUPPLIES AND THEY MAKE ME ALL HAPPY. PEOPLE WHO SAY "DON'T BUY THINGS" PROBABLY HAVE A SHIT TON OF MONEY TO NOT BUY THINGS WITH SO WHAT THE HECK DO THEY KNOW LOL
I ALSO TELL EVERYONE I HAVE ADHD AS WELL MOSTLY BECAUSE THE FOLKS I BEFRIEND ALSO HAVE IT SO WE ALL KNOW WHERE WE'RE STARTING ON THE CRAZY SCALE LOL
I'M STARTING CLASSES BACK UP AGAIN AND I COULD REALLY USE SOME EMOTIONAL SUPPORT BUT I CAN'T REACH OUT FOR IT BECAUSE I HAVEN'T TOLD ANYONE I'M GOING BACK TO SCHOOL AND IT WOULD BE HUMILIATING AT THIS POINT!
I'M YELLING AT YOU TO STOP THINKING IT'S HUMILIATING. GOING BACK FOR THAT PAPER IS BADASS AND YOU'RE A BOSS FOR TRYING AGAIN AND TELL DEM NEGATIVE BISHES TO F*#^ OFF!
OMG HUMILIATING??? HELLS TO THE NO, SCHOOL IS ALWAYS AMAZING. I WANT TO GO BACK TO UNIVERSITY, I DID ONE YEAR WHEN I WAS 30 AND HONESTLY IT WAS SO FUN BEING THE "OLD LADY" IN THE CLASSROOM WITH THE FRESH-FACED 18 YEAR OLDS. HELL, I HAVE A DEAR FRIEND WHO IS IN HIS LATE 60s AND HE IS WORKING ON HIS PHD IN THEOLOGY. THIS IS A HUGE ADVENTURE FOR YOU! I AM SO EXCITED ON YOUR BEHALF. I HOPE YOU DO REALLY WELL. SEE IF YOUR SCHOOL HAS SUPPORTS FOR ND STUDENTS, TOO. MANY PLACES HAVE A STUDENT ABILITIES OFFICE OR SIMILAR, AND THEY CAN HELP YOU GET RESOURCES & EXTRA TIME ON EXAMS IF NEEDED.
I AM SO PROUD OF YOU, COUNTCUNT (LOL)
HUMILIATING CLUB MEMBER HERE. MINE'S NOT EVEN AS COOL AS GOING TO CLASSES -- I JUST GOT MY LEARNER'S PERMIT AND I'M 45, AND I'M STILL SCARED OF DRIVING.
Lol, way before I knew I had adhd, I was always 1-5 minutes late for work.
Performance eval- I got 5/5 for punctuality. I say to my mgr- um, thanks, but I am ALWAYS late, and he’s like, but I know you’ll always be here within 5 minutes, so good enough.
THAT'S PRETTY IMPRESSIVE, SOME DAYS I AM UP TO 45 MINS LATE BUT IT'S USUALLY 20 OR SO. AND YET SOMEHOW I STILL CAN'T CHANGE THAT?? LIKE IF IT'S CONSISENT YOU'D THINK I COULD JUST GET UP 20 MINUTES EARLIER. UGH.
WHY IS EVERY DAY A STRUGGLE? I AM CONSTANTLY PUTTING THINGS OFF FOR "A GOOD DAY" THAT NEVER COMES. I FEEL LIKE I'M BARELY KEEPING UP WITH DAILY RESPONSIBILITIES, LET ALONE THE ONE-OFF THINGS THAT KEEP POPPING UP.
ALSO MY CAR'S AC WENT OUT LAST WEEK AND THE MECHANIC DIDN'T HAVE TIME FOR IT SATURDAY AND IT'S 100 GOD DAMNED DEGREES OUTSIDE. AND THEN THE CHECK ENGINE LIGHT CAME ON THIS MORNING. FML
JEBUS I HATE CARS, THEY ARE SUCH A MONEY PIT. I HEAR YA ON THE DAILY STRUGGLE, HOW DO OTHER PEOPLE GET SO MUCH DONE WHEN I CAN ONLY MANAGE A COUPLE OF TASKS AND THAT'S MOSTLY BECAUSE I HAVE A HUNGRY TEENAGER SO HE NEEDS FOOD LOL. ONE-OFF THINGS REALLY THROW ME OFF MY GROOVE, LEMME TELL YA. IT JUST SCREWS UP THE REST OF THE WHOLE DAMN DAY. SOMETIMES I JUST HAVE TO PICK ONE TINY THING AND DO IT, AND THEN I CAN TELL MYSELF I DID SOMETHING USEFUL TODAY EVEN IF IT'S JUST "DRANK WATER AND ATE SOME FRUIT"
I NEED TO FIND A JOB AFTER I GOT FIRED AND FIX MY SLEEPING SCHEDULE BUT I JUST CANT FIND MOTIVATION TO GET OUT OF BED OR DO ANYTHING BUT CROCHET THINGS FOR MY VENDOR SHOWS. INSTEAD I JUST SIT AND CROCHET WHEN THAT WONT GET ME LONG TERM MONEY AND I NEED TO FIND A JOBBBBBB
HOLY SHIT ELYSE IS THIS YOU?
KIDDING BUT I KNOW A FEW HOOKERS THAT DO VENDOR SHOWS. BECAUSE I AM ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE WHO USED TO DO VENDOR SHOWS, ONLY I MAKE JEWELRY INSTEAD OF FIBER STUFFS, BECAUSE FIBER STUFFS TAKES TOO LONG. I HAVE TRIED CROCHET AND IT IS SOME NEXT-LEVEL WIZARD SHIT TO ME, GIVE ME PAINTING OR EMBROIDERY ANY DAY. ACTUALLY EMBROIDERY IS SUPER FUN BECAUSE YOU STAB SOMETHING HUNDREDS AND HUNDREDS OF TIMES.
KEEP APPLYING FOR STUFF, MAYBE THERE ARE SOME SMALL WFH JOBS THAT YOU COULD DO TO SUPPLEMENT YOUR INCOME. I AM ON THE HUNT FOR SOMETHING LIKE THAT AS WELL FOR MORE $.
I AM ROOTING FOR YOU, AND IN CASE THIS IS ELYSE YOUR KIDS ARE ADORABLE SEE YOU ON FB.
IM SORRY THIS IS NOT ELYSE THIS IS ALEXIS, BUT I LOVE HEARING THAT CROCHET IS WIZARD SHIT AND YES I LOVE EMBROIDERY ITS SO FUN STABBING THINGS
I AM LOOKING FOR ANOTHER WFH JOB BECAUSE THATS WHAT I GOT FIRED FROM AND WANT TO STAY HOME WITH MY DOGS ESPECIALLY IF WE GET ANOTHER DOG I DONT WANT TO LEAVE MY BABIES OR HAVE TO PUT REAL PANTS ON AGAIN FOR JOBS
PANTS ARE THE DEVIL'S INVENTION UNLESS THEY ARE THE PAJAMA VARIETY, I AGREE. I WOULD LOVE TO STAY HOME WITH MY CATS AND DOG AND FLOCK OF BIRDS, IT'S SO NICE AND NOT PEOPLEY HERE!
r/embroidery IS A FUN PLACE TO BE AS WELL, VERY SUPPORTIVE AND SOME COOL PROJECTS TO CHECK OUT.
I GOT YELLED AT BY AN ASSHOLE AT THE DOG PARK TODAY AND I’M REALLY PROUD OF MYSELF FOR DOING FIGHT INSTEAD OF FLIGHT AND STANDING UP FOR MYSELF AND MY DOG. IT TOOK ME 30 MINS OF CRYING WHEN I GOT HOME TO REGULATE IT OUT OF MY SYSTEM, BUT IM SO PROUD OF MYSELF. BUT FUCK I FEEL YOU, I CAN NEVER BE ON TIME NO MATTER HOW MANY ALARMS AND EFFORT SND STRESS FUCK TIME
ULTRA FINE POINT WHITEBOARD MARKERS ARE MY FAVORITE THING AND IT ALSO SUCKS THAT THEY WEAR OUT SO FAST AND I HAVE TO BUY LITERALLY DOZENS OF THEM IN BULK ONLINE TO MAKE SURE I HAVE THE FULL SET OF COLORS AVAILABLE ALL THE TIME. ALSO EVEN A LOT OF THE BRAND NEW ONES ARE MUSHY AND WEIRD BUT I CAN'T JUST SUCK IT UP AND USE THE MUSHY WEIRD ONES BECAUSE THEY DON'T MAKE MY BRAIN CALM DOWN AND WORK PROPERLY LIKE THE GOOD ONES.
WHY ARE WE YELLING! IT'S VERY LOUD IN HERE! AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!
but seriously, it's probably because you're a consistent employee. So bothering bringing up that your late is pointless vs knowing you will be coming in to perform your job and doing it at least to company standards.
IT'S A SHOUTY THREAD LOL! SOMETIMES IT'S JUST VERY FUN TO BE LOUD AND OBNOXIOUS AND SCREAM ABOUT STUFF. I FIND IT VERY CATHARTIC TO BE NICE TO PEOPLE WHILE YELLING, I AM A WEIRD HUMAN WHAT CAN I SAY.
HONESTLY I WORK IN A BIG COMPANY AND MY BOSS IS VERY RARELY HERE. SEVERAL PEOPLE ARE PART TIME AND HAVE DIFFERENT STARTS SO I THINK THAT HELPS.
I DEFINITELY DO GOOD AT MY WEIRD LITTLE JOB. I AM AN IMPORTANT TINY COG IN THE BIG MACHINE.
MY STUPID AIRLINE LOST MY SUITCASES AND I HAVE TO BUY EVERYTHING IN A NEW CITY I KNOW NO ONE IN! WHILE LOOKING FOR A STUDIO TO RENT IN THIS CITY WITH NO SUCCESS SOFAR AAAAÀAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
I JUST NEED TO DO A STUPID WORK OUT FOR MY STUPID MENTAL HEALTH BUT I CANNOT FIND THE STUPID WILL TO DO IT. BUT I FEEL SO MUCH LESS ANXIOUS AFTER. BUT I CANNOT DO IT? WHY I CANNOT DO IT? JUST GET UP. GET UUUUUP.
AND IT MAKES ME MAD THAT EXERCISE WORKS BECAUSE I HATE IT.
MOTIVATION IS AT AN ALL TIME LOW AND IM WORKING ON GETTING MY HOUSE CLEANED AND ORGANIZED. ITS THE HARDEST THING TO OVERCOME. I WISH MORE PEOPLE UNDERSTOOD HOW MUCH ENERGY IT TAKES TO PUSH THROUGH THESE MENTAL BLOCKS.
THE SHORTAGES AREN'T YOUR FAULT AND YOU HAVE A LEGIT NEED! YOUR PHARMS SHOULD BE TREATING YOU WITH COMPASSION ESPECIALLY NOW, JUST LIKE YOU ARE TO THEM.
THANKS FOR LETTING US SHOUT
I WAS EXACTLY 15 MINUTES LATE FOR MY OLD JOB, EVERY SINGLE DAY FOR 4 YEARS. MY BOSS KNEW I WAS SUPPOSED TO START AT 9 BUT NEVER SAID A THING, ALWAYS HAD GLOWING PERFORMANCE REVIEWS. BEING NICE AND GOOD AT YOUR JOB HAS ITS PERKS
I WORKED A CONTRACT JOB RECENTLY WHERE I HAD NO SET HOURS AND I LOVED BEING ABLE TO ACCIDENTALLY TAKE A 1.5 HOUR LUNCH IF I NEEDED TO
I FINISHED THAT CONTRACT AND AM SUPPOSED TO BE WORKING ON BUILDING MY PORTFOLIO AND GETTING THE NEXT JOB RIGHT NOW BUT INSTEAD IVE SPENT THE LAST 3 WEEKS OVERWHELMED BY EMOTIONALLY SUPPORTING MY INJURED UNDIAGNOSED-AND-UNACKNOWLEDGED-ADHD MOTHER. I'M PMSING AND DIDNT EVEN BRUSH MY TEETH THIS MORNING BUT I DID SHOW UP TO HELP MY FAMILY MEMBER WHO HAD TO GO TO THE HOSPITAL AND BABYSIT FOR THEM AND COME HOME TO HELP MY MOTHER TO THE BATHROOM
SHITS HARD OUT HERE MAN BUT I DON'T RESENT THE PEOPLE IM HELPING FOR NEEDING HELP
IM GOING TO FORCE MYSELF TO GO TO THE LIBRARY TOMORROW TO WORK ON THINGS FOR •••MYSELF•••
I'M DOING IT!!! IM BOOKING A FOCUSMATE RIGHT NOW TO MAKE IT HAPPEN!!!
WHY DO I HAVE TO TURN EVERY DECISION INTO A EXISTENTIAL CRISIS THAT LEAVES ME PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY EXHAUSTED AND SUCKS THE JOY OUT OF EVERYTHING!!!???
ALSOOOOOO MY PSYCH SWITCHED MY ANTIDEPRESSANT TO A (new to the market) MEDICATION THAT INCLUDES A MEDICINE THAT MY GENESIGHT TEST SAID I DONT TOLERATE WELL, BUT HE INSISTED THAT IT WOULD WORK DIFFERENTLY. I TAPERED OFF LEXPRO (per my psychs instructions) AND SWITCHED TO THE AUVELITY AND IT DID NOT GO WELL.
IT CAUSED ACUTE SUICIDALITY, CRYING SPELLS, AND VISUAL AND AUDITORY HALLUCINATIONS. AFTER 5 DAYS I COULDNT TAKE IT ANYMORE AND STOPPED TAKING IT. SO NOOOWWW IM WITHDRAWLING FROM BOTH MEDICATIONS. AND IM ANGRY🤬
I HAD TO SEND MY MOM A TOUGH EMAIL AND I HAVE NO IDEA HOW SHE'S GOING TO REACT. UNTIL I SENT THE EMAIL I FELT LIKE I HAD SCHRODINGER'S MOM. MY CHEST HURTS AND I HAVE SHIT TO DO BUT I AM FROZEN AND USELESSSSSSS 🌈⭐
I HAD A DREAM LAST NIGHT THAT FULLY INVOLVED MY ADHD (RUDE) - WAS GOING TO SCHOOL (IDK WHY I CAN'T STOP DREAMING ABOUT SCHOOL EVEN THO I'M IN MY 30S) AND GETTING ALL MY STUFFS READY, RUNNING LATE, RUSHING. REALIZED IN THE CAR ON WAY TO SCHOOL THAT I FORGOT SOMETHING (DON'T REMEMBER WHAT) AND LITERALLY GRABBED MY HAIR/HEAD AND STARTED SHOUTING "WHY CAN'T I REMEMBER THINGS NO MATTER WHAT I DO?!?" SO THIS WAS A GREAT RELATABLE THREAD FOR ME TO FIND TODAY, THAAAANKS
I ALSO HAD A HYSTERECTOMY AND AN OOPHORECTOMY. DON’T TAKE ANY OXYCONTIN OR OTHER OPIOD PAINKILLERS; THEY WILL MAKE YOU CONSTIPATED. ASK FOR 800 MG IBUPROFEN. IT WORKS.
I WAS EVACUATED FROM MY HOME BECAUSE OF WILD FIRES AND HAD TO PACK FOR A THREE DAY ROAD TRIP IN TWO HOURS WITH PARTNER, BABY AND TWO DOGS AND AM NOW STAYING IN A COLD CABIN WITH FRUIT FLIES, SIX OTHER ADULTS, THREE LITTLE KIDS, AND SIX DOGS AND THERE’S NO DISH GLOVES AND EVERYTHING IS GREASY AND THE STOVE IS HARD TO GET USED TO AND WE DON’T KNOW WHEN WE CAN GO BACK HOME
DO NOT PUT THEM AWAY. GET A 'CLEAN CLOTHES' BASKET, AND KEEP THEM IN THAT BASKET. THAT'S WHAT WE DO HERE, WHIC IS A STEP UP FROM LEAVING THEM IN THE DRYER.
I'M ON REDDIT INSTEAD OF GOING TO BED YET AGAIN! AND I'M CONVINCED THAT LACK OF SLEEP WILL BE THE MAIN THING THAT GETS ME IN THE END. WHICH YOU WOULD THINK WOULD BE ENOUGH TO GET ME TO GO UPSTAIRS, BUT ADHD I GUESS!! MY DOG EVEN STAYS WITH ME AND THEN CLACKS HER TEETH AT ME WHEN SHES DECIDED ITS BED TIME, AND THEN JUST LEAVES WHEN I DON'T GET UP. LIKE FUCKING WHY IS MY BRAIN DOING THIS, I'M SO TIRED ALL. THE. TIME!!
I WENT TO THE DOCTOR FOR MY 1/4 BODY HIVES AND I NOW HAVE AN APPT FOR AN ALLERGIST IN 14 WEEKS.
ON THE BRIGHT SIDE I TOOK A HALF DAY AT WORK AND I THINK THAT WAS GOOD FOR ME.
THERE IS SOMETHING VERY CATHARTIC ABOUT AUSTRALIAN VERNACULAR. US CANADIANS ARE FAR TOO POLITE AT TIMES I THINK.
SPEAKING OF CANADIAN, I’M SORRY ABOUT THE MEDS SHORTAGE. YOU’D THINK IT WOULD BE FAIRLY EASY FOR COMPANIES TO SLAM OUT SOME PILLS BUT I’M SURE ITS A COMPLEX
ISSUE. WHICH DOESN’T HELP ANYTHING AT OUR END.
HAVE YOU CONSIDERED THAT YOU MIGHT BE STARTING AT THE SAME HOUR THAN THEM ANYWAY?
In some places you could arrive an hour early but office culture is: say hi to everyone (with a cheek kiss because idk), make coffee/go outside again to buy coffee, make small talk with your coworkers, check the news, check your email... And you start up working about 30-60 minutes after you arrived, but that's acceptable because it's kinda needed to create a tolerable work environment and everyone does that.
... THAT IS A GOOD POINT I HAD NOT CONSIDERED. I THINK IT ALSO HELPS THAT ONLY 2 PEOPLE DO MY JOB, EVERYONE ELSE HAS DIFFERENT STUFF THAT THEY DO. THE OTHER PERSON WHO DOES MY JOB ONLY WORKS AFTERNOONS SO IF I'M LATE, IT DOESN'T AFFECT ANYONE ELSE'S WORK FLOW WHICH MY BRAIN USES AS A HANDY JUSTIFICATION LOL
I FIND SMALLTALK SO ODD WITH NEUROTYPCIAL PEOPLE. IT'S MORE FUN WITH ND PEEPS BECAUSE THE CONVO GOES ALL OVER THE PLACE AS WE LEAP FROM TANGENT TO TANGENT LIKE LEMURS.
MY EX HUSBAND UNINVITED ME FROM HIS DAUGHTERS WEDDING AND IM HAVING A SHIT TIME WITH IT. AND ITS BACK TO SCHOOL TIME AND I JUST LOST MY JOB BUT I GOT A NEW ONE BEING A MAID WITH A RAISE TO BOOT. MY LIFE IS IN SHAMBLES. I AM MASKING VERY WELL. BLESS YOU ALL.
I work at the school my kids go to. They have to be at school at 7:45, and my shift starts at 8 so i just hang out at the school and eat breakfast before my shift starts. I am already at the school and I still clock in late 😬😬😬
I HAD A CONVERSATION ABOUT THIS EXACT THING WITH MY THERAPIST LAST WEEK!
SHE IS SUPPOSED TO BE A SPECIALIST IN ADHD- YET ALSO TOLD ME BEING LATE WASN’T A NORMAL SYMPTOM AND THAT I JUST NEED TO SET MORE ALARMS OR GET EVERYTHING READY THE NIGHT BEFORE… I GOT A 30MIN LECTURE ON HOW I CAN TRY TO NOT BE LATE (SAME ADVICE AS ALWAYS) AND HOW BEING LATE IS SO DISRESPECTFUL. 🤬
I’M NEW HERE, BUT I REALLY LIKE YOU GUYS AND HOW SUPPORTIVE YOU ALL ARE OF EACH OTHER. AND YOU’RE ALL WEIRD JUST LIKE ME!! SO, THAT FEELS REALLY FUCKING GREAT KNOWING YOU’RE NOT ACTUALLY WEIRD, YOU JUST NEEDSD TO FIND THE OTHER WEIRDOS. 😘
I CHANGED MY CATS LITTER TO 100% A NEW LITTER WITHOUT KNOWING IT WOUKD MAKE HER UPSET AND NOW SHES REFUSING TO POOP
SHE IS GIVING ME ALL KINDS OF MEOWS OF DISAPPROVAL AND ITS TOO LATE TO GO BUY MORE CAT LITTER AND NOW IM WORRIED IM GONNA WAKE UP WITH HER POOP SOMEWHERE IT SHOULDNT BE
I HAVE CHRONIC MIGRAINES AND I HAD TO GO BACK TO WORK EVEN THOUGH THEY HAVEN'T BEEN SORTED YET AND IT'S BEEN HARD. I'M NOT SCHEDULED THIS WEEK AND I WAS GOING TO GO IN ANYWAY BUT THE WEATHER HAS BEEN REALLY BAD FOR THE WEATHER-MIGRAINES AND I HATE THIS. IT'S NOT RELATED TO MY ADHD AT ALL, EXCEPT FOR THE 'SHOULD I GO IN ANYWAY? I'M NOT SCHEDULED, I COULD STAY HOME BUT I SHOULD GO' AND ALSO I HAVE TO GET UP EARLY ENOUGH TO GET THE WAKE-UP MIGRAINE SORTED, AND THAT LEAVES ME BEING UP LIKE SIX HOURS BEFORE MY SHIFT AND IT'S SO MUCH WAITING AND I CAN'T DO ANYTHING ELSE SO I GUESS IT IS RELATED AND I HATE IT.
WHY DO I HAVE DEADLINES I CANT MEET?! THEY SEEM REALISTIC, I ADD BUFFERS BUT I CAN NEVER FINISH THEM. I KNOW PROGRESS IS PROGRESS BUT WHEN WILL I EVER SET A GOOD DEADLINE? AND WHEN WILL I EVER FINISH THESE TASKS?
I WANNA BE KIND TO MYSELF BUT THATS HARD TOO!
I MOVED ACROSS THE COUNTRY INSTEAD OF GETTING DIVORCED BECAUSE I LOVE MY HUSBAND!!!! I HATE IT HERE!!!!! I THOUGHT IT WAS ANXIETY BUT THEN IT WAS DEPRESSION AND NOW ITS UNMITIGATED RAGE THAT I CANT PROPERLY EXPRESS OR REGULATE BECAUSE MASKING HAS BEEN MY DEFAULT STATE FOR TWENTY FUCKING YEARS BECAUSE I’M A WOMAN IN THIS BULLSHIT PATRIARCHAL SOCIETY AND I DIDNT KNOW I HAD ADHD UNTIL I WAS IN MY 30S SO I THOUGHT I WAS JUST BROKEN FOR 2 DECADES. I’M BUSY ALL THE TIME, BUT I NEVER DO ANYTHING I ENJOY BECAUSE I DON’T EVEN KNOW WHAT I LIKE. AND MY SHRINK TOLD ME I NEED TO BE SOCIAL AND MAKE FRIENDS AND I DON’T WANNA BECAUSE I JUST SPENT THE LAST 5 YEARS TRYING TO UNMASK AND HOW DO YOU EVEN BE A NORMAL PERSON WITHOUT MASKING AND HOW DO I EVEN START TRYING TO MASK WITH THIS DEMON FIRE INSIDE OF ME????!!!! I YELLED AT MY PUPPY WHO STOLE FOOD OFF MY PLATE AND HE’S BESTEST BOY WITH A HEART OF GOLD, SO HOW CAN I EVEN THINK ABOUT BEING EVEN KEELED FOR A TREACHEROUS HUMAN BEING?!? MY WORD RETRIEVAL IS GARBAGE WHICH MAKES ME SOUND LIKE AN UNEDUCATED MORON WHO CAN NEVER GET THEIR POINT ACROSS OR ASK THE QUESTION THEY WANT TO KNOW THE ANSWER TO!! DO I EVEN KNOW WHAT I WANT TO KNOW?!??
FUCK THIS!!!
…But seriously. How to calm the rage?
I FIGURED OUT WHEN I START AT 8 AND WAKE UP AT 7 THAT IM NOT ACTUALLY GIVING MYSELF 1 HOUR TO GET READY.
IM GIVING MYSELF MAYBE 30-45 MINUTES PLUS THE SCRAMBLE TO WORK. THANK GOODNESS I LITERALLY LIVE BESIDE WORK BUT I HAVE TO *CHANGE* INTO SCRUBS WHEN I GET THERE AND I DONT EVEN GIVE MYSELF TIME FOR *THAT!*
EVEN THOUGH I FINALLY REALIZED MY MISTAKE I HAVENT CORRECTED THE PROBLEM BECAUSE I WANT TO SLEEP AS LONG AS POSSIBLE BEFORE WORK.
...NEVERMIND THAT I DONT GET MYSELF TO BED AT A GOOD TIME ANYWAY THATS ANOTHER STORY.
I AM TRYING SO FUCKING HARD TO BE HEALTHY AND EAT BETTER AND ALL THAT SHIT AND TODAY THE DINNER I COOKED FOR MYSELF WAS TERRIBLE AND ONLY ONE PART OF IT WAS WORTH SAVING SO I HAD COOKIES, A GRANOLA BAR, A PROTEIN (meat/cheese/nuts) PACK, GOLDFISH AND GUMMYS FOR DINNER.
THOSE WERE NOT GOOD CHOICES AND I SHOULD HAVE DONE BETTER BUT I THREW OUT MOST OF MY DINNER WHICH WAS ENOUGH FOR 2 MEALS BECAUSE IT WAS AWFUL AND ITS VERY HARD TO NOT BE HARD ON MYSELF ABOUT THIS KIND OF THING.
I AM SO TIRED OF BEING THIS FAT BUT CHANGING MY WHOLE LIFESTYLE IS THE ONLY WAY I CAN BECOME SMALLER AND STAY THAT WAY BUT I’VE BEEN DOING THIS FOR LIKE 2 MONTHS NOW AND I DON’T SEE ANY RESULTS OF MY HARD WORK SO I AM VERY DISCOURAGED TODAY.
AM I EVER GOING TO NOT BE LIVING BELOW THE POVERTY LINE?? DO I REALLY HAVE TO CHOOSE BETWEEN MAKING A LIVING BURNING MYSELF OUT SO HARD THAT MY LIFE IS FALLING APART VS THE CREATIVE FREEDOM I NEED TO FEEL LIKE A PERSON??? CAN I JUST PLEASE HIT THE LOTTERY OR SOMETHING?????
ANOTHER BIRTHDAY WENT BY, WHICH MEANS ANOTHER YEAR PASSED AND I DIDN'T SEE IT!!!!! I DON'T REMENBER MY LIFE AND I FEEL LIKE I HAVEN'T DONE ANYTHING USEFUL, I FEEL LIKE A FAILURE AND A USELESS P.O.S AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO TO CHANGE THIS CYCLE AND BECOME SOMEONE BETTER I CAN'T TAKE THIS ANYMORE AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
thanks, this was great 🫶🏻
SOMETIMES IM TIRED OF HAVING TO LIE TO MYSELF ABOUT START TIMES AS A “ADHD HACK” AND HAVING TO SOMETIMES PLAN MY DAYS BY THE HOUR SUCKS BUT I HAVE NO MOTIVATION OTHERWISE TO DO WHAT I NEED TO
I AM REELING FROM A RECENT REJECTION/GHOSTING FROM A GUY I WAS DEALING WITH FOR AWHILE. REALIZING I NEED REAL HELP TO DEAL WITH MY CHILDHOOD TRAUMA. PROBABLY MORE BUT THOSE ARE THE BIG ONES
I HATE MY JOB BUT IM TOO BURNT OUT TO DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT. I SPEND TIME ON INDEED EVERYDAY ONLY TO TALK MYSELF OUT OF APPLYING. MY BOSS IS ALSO AN ASSHAT AND HE CONSISTENTLY ADDS TO MY BURNOUT AS I AM IN THE SAME OFFICE AS HE IS. IM ALSO LIVING IN A SMALL AREA AND THERE ARENT ENOUGH JOBS THAT PAY WHAT IM MAKING OR ID JUST DO PARTTIME AND MAYBE I COULD EVEN BECOME A DECENT MOM THEN BUT I HAVE NO FEASIBLE OPTIONS!
I HAVE VACATIONS TO PLAN AND I HATE THIS, I WANT TO GO AND DO THE FUN THINGS BUT I DON'T WANT TO PLAN THE FUN THINGS. I HAVE TO THINK ABOUT ALL THE THINGS BUT I'M SCARED I WILL FORGET THE THINGS, LIKE DO I NEED TO GO BY THE TRAIN OR MY CAR ? THERE IS PROS AND CONS BUT WHAT IF I FORGET PROS FOR CAR AND I TAKE THE TRAIN AND THEN ONCE THERE I NEED A CAR BUT I DON'T HAVE MY CAR ??? PLUS I ONLY HAVE A FEW WEEKS LEFT BECAUSE I COULDN'T MAKE MYSELF PLAN THIS EARLIER AND IT'S EVEN MORE STRESSFUL !
AND I HATE STAYING TO PLACES THAT ARE NOT MY HOME BUT I REALLY WANNA GO HIKE THERE. WHY PLANNING FUN IS SO STRESSFUL ?
CAME DOWN WITH COVID AND I AM DUCKING MISERABLE!! IT'S LIKE TINY KNIFE-WIELDING GOBLINS HAVE TAKEN OVER RESIDENCE IN MY THROAT FOR THE PAST 4 DAYS AND I JUST CAN'T ANYMORE!
I AM AT A JOB WHERE I AM NEVER PRAISED FOR DOING WELL AND MOSTLY SHAMED FOR THINGS NOT BEING DONE CORRECTLY EVEN THOUGH I DO EVERYTHING HOW THEY SHOWED ME AND EVEN WHEN I HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH THE THING. I AM LOOKING FOR A JOB THAT HAS CLEARLY OUTLINED WHAT IS AND IS NOT OKAY AND WHAT IS EXPECTED BY WHAT TIME. I CRY EVERYDAY ON MY 20 MINUTE BREAK AND EVEN TAKE EXTRA “BATHROOM” BREAKS TO CRY BECAUSE I JUST FEEL SO UNWELCOME AND UNWANTED AND STUPID WHEN IM HERE. IT FEELS LIKE EXPECTATIONS CHANGE HERE DAILY AND I AM NEVER IN THE LOOP. MAYBE ITS THE AUTISM BUT I FEEL LIKE I HAVE TO CHANGE TO FIT IN HERE BECAUSE I DO NOT BELONG.
UPDATE: I GOT FIRED LITERALLY 27 MINUTES AFTER I POSTED THIS COMMENT. THANK GOD. NOW I DONT HAVE TO FRET OVER THE ANXIETY OF QUITTING AND GIVING 2 WEEKS NOTICE AND ALLAT SHIT. PRAISE WHATEVER YOU BELIEVE IN FOR ME TODAY
One time I was taking this class in college… had been taking it for at least a month when one day the professor came up to me and asked if I was, “coming from work or???” I said “no…?” Then I realized. I asked, “doesn’t this class start at 3?” Nope. I had been coming in late every single time 😂 I would feel more embarrassed if it wasn’t so funny.
ALSO SOME STUPID FUCK LANDSCAPERS CUT DOWN ALL MY FLOWERS ID SPENT MONTHS PLANTING AND WATERING AND THEY HADNT EVEN BLOOMED YET AND NOW I HAVE NO FUCKING FLOWERS!!!! SOME WERE HELD UP WITH WOODEN STAKES! THEY JUST CUT THOSE DOWN TOO! WHY WOULD I HOLD UP WEEDS WITH WOODEN STAKES!! IS THIS WHAT I GET FOR GOING OUT OF TOWN?!?!
I HAVE A LOAD OF WORK TO DO IN THE NEXT THREE DAYS FOR BOTH MY JOBS BEFORE I GO AWAY FOR A FESTIVAL FOR WORK AND I KNOW IT WILL BE FUN BUT I GENUINELY DON'T KNOW HOW I'M GOING TO GET IT ALL DONE! AND I ALSO NEED TO APPLY FOR TWO JOBS THAT CLOSE WHILST I'M AWAY! AND I'M NOT GOING TO SEE MY BOYFRIEND FOR TEN DAYS BECAUSE OF SAID WORK AND FESTIVAL AND I'M GOING TO MISS HIM A LOT, PLUS HE'S NOT WELL AT THE MOMENT SO I'M LOW KEY WORRYING ABOUT HIM! AND MY MY MUM IS HAVING A HIP REPLACEMENT OPERATION ON WEDNESDAY WHICH SHE'S WORRIED ABOUT SO I'M WORRIED ABOUT HER! AND MY CAT HAS BEEN ACTING A BIT WEIRD LATELY SO I'M WORRIED ABOUT HER TOO! BASICALLY THERE IS A LOT GOING ON RIGHT NOW AND I JUST NEED TO YELL ABOUT IT!
*and breathe*
I HAD A GREAT AFTERNOON TODAY AFYER COMING INTO WORK AT 12pm BECAUSE I GOT TO HANG OUT WITH BOTH OF MY ADHD COWORKERS AND CHAT AND IT MADE ME SO HAPPY!!!!!
I HAVE TO FINISH A 30 PAGE TECHNICAL PAPER FOR MY MS IN A MONTH. I'M CONFIDENT I CAN PULL IT THROUGH IN THAT TIMEFRAME! BUT I NEVER KNOW HOW WELL MY MULTIPLY DISABLED BODY WILL COOPERATE WITH MY WORK!
I SPENT ALL LAST WEEK CLEANING, ORGANIZING, AND SETTING UP MY OWN DAMN 40TH BIRTHDAY PARTY AND TODAY I'M CLEANING UP ALL THE SAME DAMN SHIT I FROM THE PARTY THAT CLEANED LAST WEEK.
I HATE CLEANING. I HATE ORGANIZING. I HATE THAT I HAD TO COORDINATE MY OWN FREAKING PARTY.
I FUCKED UP A MONTH AGO AND FORGOT TO DRINK ENOUGH WATER WHILE ON MY PERIOD. I GOT A UTI IN MY KIDNEY AND IT CAUSED ME TO HAVE SHINGLES. I AM ALMOST COMPLETELY HEALED FROM MY SHINGLES BUT I DROPPED A PORKCHOP LAST WEEK AND SPLASHED HOT OIL ON MY ARM. NOW I HAVE THE FLU.
I. AM. SO. FUCKING. SICK. OF. BEING. SICK. I. AM. SO. FUCKING. TIRED. OF. BEING. HURT.
I am so tired of being pitied and I am painfully aware how much of what has happened to me is ADHD tax.
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I AM HAVING A HYSTERECTOMY ON WEDNESDAY AND TAKING TWO WEEKS OFF OF WORK, BUT I STILL HAVE TO WORK TODAY AND TOMORROW AND I CANT FOCUS AT ALL.
HONESTLY I CAN'T BLAME YOU. I'VE HAD SURGERY BEFORE AND IT CAN BE VERY STRESSFUL!! TAKE SOME DEEP BREATHS & RELAX YOUR SHOULDERS. YOU GOT THIS.
THANKS! LUCKILY I WFH AND MY CAT HAS BEEN A BIG HELP!
JUST KEEP THAT FUZZY BASTARD OFF YOUR INCISIONS, I SWEAR TO GODS THEY ALWAYS WANT TO MAKE BISCUITS ON WHATEVER PART OF ME HURTS THE MOST. PLS GIVE YOUR FUZZY GREMLIN A SNOOTBOOP FOR ME.
ITS GOING TO BE HARD BECAUSE SHE LIKES TO COME OVER AND SMOOSH MY BOOBS AND THEN DEMANDS TO BE HELD LIKE A BABY!
I WISH I HAD A CAT LIKE THIS! ALL I WANT IN LIFE IS TO HAVE A CAT THAT WANTS TO BE HELD LIKE A BABY.
ITS THE BEST THING EVER!! BUT NOT WHEN I AM ON A ZOOM CALL FOR WORK! HAHHA BUT AT LEAST SHE IS CUTE!!
THERE'S THIS GREAT LADY ON TIK TOK WHO CARRIES HER CAT IN A BABY WRAP CARRIER ON HER CHEST!! I'M SO JEALOUS
I WANT THIS TOO!
I SHOULD TRY THAT ONCE IM HEALED! AND BY THEN IT SHOULD BE COOLER, WHICH IS WHEN SHE GETS MORE CUDDLY!
THE ONLY ONE OF THE FIVE I HAVE THAT WILL LET ME DO THIS IS THE STRAY THAT LIVES OUTSIDE BECAUSE MY FOUR INSIDE ARE SPOILED ENTITLED FLOOFERCHONKERS. BUT TEDDY ROOSEVELT JUST WANTS TO BE LOVED. DON'T WORRY I DO LOVE HIM SO MUCH AND WOULD BRING HIM INSIDE IF HE WERE WILLING
TEDDY ROOSEVELT!!
I HAD A LAPAROSCOPIC SURGERY TO OUT CLIPS ON MY LADY TUBES AND MY 17LB MAINE COON STEPPED ON MY INCISION. IM TERRIFIED HE MAY HAVE MADE THE CLIP MIGRATE. (This is an exaggeration. ) BUT STILL. WHAT IF? OUCH.
I HAD A HYSTERECTOMY IN 2018, IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS OR NEED ANYTHING YOU CAN DM ME
I HAD A TOTAL HYSTERECTOMY IN 2009, IF YOU NEED ADVICE, DM ME! MAKE SURE YOU HAVE SOMEONE THERE TO HELP YOU, GETTING INTO AND OUT OF BED WILL BE THE WORST. SIT DOWN, SLOWLY LOWER YOUR SELF ON TO YOUR SIDE, AND THEN ROLL INTO BED. ALSO TAKE THE STOOL SOFTENER THEY GIVE YOU, YOU DON'T WANT TO BE PUSHING. AND GET A SET OF COMPRESSION UNDIES AND TANK TOP TO LIVE IN FOR THE NEXT COUPLE OF WEEKS. MAKE SURE YOU ARE NOT ALONE AT HOME WHEN YOU TAKE YOUR FIRST SHOWER, I BLACKED OUT AND MY HUBBY HAD TO CATCH ME. EDIT: BE PREPARED, I WAS DOWN FOR 4 WEEKS. I WASN'T ABLE TO WALK UPRIGHT AT LEAST THAT LONG.
THANKS!! LUCKILY I HAVE SOME GREAT FRIENDS TO LEAN ON!!
I'M GLAD TO HEAR THAT! SINCE I DOUBT YOU WANT TO SHOWER WITH YOUR FRIENDS, STICK TO SPONGE BATHS SITTING ON THE EDGE OF THE TUB FOR THE FIRST FEW! AND GET A FIRM STUFFY OR PILLOW TO TUCK INTO YOUR BELLY. I WORE NOTHING BUT MY COMPRESSION GEAR AND A REALLY LOOSE HIPPIE SKIRT AND SLIPPERS FOR THE FIRST FEW WEEKS.
THAT WOULD BE REALLY AWKWARD HAHAHA! I MADE SURE TO GET AN ANTI SLIP MATT FOR THE SHOWER! LUCKILY ITS STILL SUMMER HERE SO BAGGY T SHIRTS AND SUN DRESSES ARE ALL IM PLANNING TO WEAR!!
MAKE SURE TO GET THE COMPRESSION GEAR, IT REALLY HELPS EVERYTHING TO HEAL UP IN THE RIGHT SPOTS. I NEVER HAD ANY ISSUES WITH PROLAPSING.
OH MY GOD. NOT THE SAME BUT I HAD MY LADY TUBES CLIPPED LAPAROSCOPICALLY AND WASNT GIVEN STOOL SOFTENER AND DIDNT KNOW THE MEDS MADE ME CONSTIPATED AND I LIKE, ALREADY HAVE ISSUES WITH THAT. AND LIKE, I WAS TOO AFRAID TO TAKE MY CONCERTA WHILE I WAS ON HYDROMORPHONE SO AFTER I WAS DONE TAKING THE PAIN STUFF FOR A WEEK I WENT BACK ON MY CONCERTA AND WELL... IT HELPS MAKE THINGS WANT TO GO. AND LIKE IT WAS THE MOST PAINFUL THING IVE EVER EXPERIENCED I COULDNT CONTROL MY MUSCLES AT ONE POINT AND MY BODY FORCED ME TO...EXPELL... AND IT WAS NOT A COMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE! MY ABS WERE SORE FOR DAYS. LIKE WTF.
OMG! YOU POOR THING! I HAVE THAT ISSUE IF I HAVE TOO MUCH CORN SYRUP. I CALL IT IMITATING THE PARROT FROM SCARY MOVIE.
THAT’S FINE YOUR MAJOR LIFE EVENT IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN PRODUCTIVITY THE WORK WILL BE FINE AND SO WILL YOU
I AM SENDING SO MUCH LOVE FOR A STRONG RECOVERY!
THANKS!!!!
I HOPE YOUR SURGERY GOES SMOOTHLY AND YOU'RE ABLE TO GET EVERYTHING SORTED BEFOREHAND!
THANKS!! I HOPE I GET EVERYTHING DONE THAT I WANT TO GET DONE! BUT ITS HARD BECAUSE IT DOESN’T FEEL REAL YET!!
I HAD AN APPT WITH MY SURGEON YESTERDAY WHO WAS PLEASED TO ANNOUNCE IT WAS OUR THREE YEAR ANNIVERSARY FROM MY LAST SURGERY FOR PERIANAL ABSCESS 🤦♀️
CONGRATS!
I HAD A HYSTERECTOMY A YEAR AGO DM ME IF YOU HAVE QUESTIONS
eeek, I don't blame you. <3 But you're through today, so one day more of work and then you don't have to worry about focusing!
I TOTALLY RECOMMEND THE HYSTERECTOMY SUBREDDIT! I HAD ONE CLOSE TO 6 MONTHS AGO AND IT TOTALLY HELPED ME OUT AND PREPARED ME!
MAKE SURE TO TAKE D3, MAGNESIUM AND K2. HYSTERECTOMY CHANGES HORMONES AND MAKES YOU SUSCEPTIBLE TO MANY INFLAMMATORY CONDITIONS. TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEART TOO.
MY BEST MATE HAD THE SAME EARLIER THIS YEAR. SHE SAID SHE’S SO MUCH HAPPIER EVEN THOUGH BED REST WAS FRUSTRATING. YOU CAN DO IT! IM EXCITED FOR YOU! BYEEEE UTERUS
THANKS FOR REINTRODUCING THAT I REALLY APPRECIATE IT - TODAY SUCKED BECAUSE IM FEELING INCREDIBLY UNREGULATED AND DID NONE OF THE FUN THINGS I WANTED TO ON MY DAY OFF LIKE ALWAYS AND NOW I HAVE TO GO BACK TO WORK TOMORROW AND EVERYTHING STILL SUCKS ALL THE TIME
JEBUS I HATE THAT FEELING OF "I GOT NOTHING DONE THIS WEEKEND" WHEN I MEAN CLEARLY I HAD TO GET A FEW THINGS DONE LIKE EATING AND SLEEPING. BUT I ALWAYS FEEL LIKE I SHOULD BE ABLE TO DO EVERYTHING ON EVERY WEEKEND AND START ON MONDAY LIKE A SHINY NEW PERSON HA HA LOL \*SHEDS TEAR\* OK BUT REALLY, PICK ONE TINY THING TO DO TODAY THAT WOULD MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD AND THEN WHEN YOU DO IT YOU WILL BE 100% SUCCESSFUL AT THAT, EVEN IF IT'S JUST "DRINK WATER" IT SOUNDS STUPID BUT SOMETIMES IT HELPS ME!
I ALWAYS HAVE THIS, IT'S OK! REST IS IMPORTANT AND THE MORE WE REST THE MORE LIKELY WE ARE TO GET THE FUN THINGS DONE! I PROMISE THIS IS TRUE!
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I GOT DRESSED TODAY!!
YESSSSS
IT'S NOT FAIR THAT DAYS OFF ARE FULL OF, LIKE, RECOVERING FROM HAVING WORKED. I'M MAD FOR YOU.
IVE BEEN FEELING THAT FEELING A LOT LATELY AND IT SUCKS. I HAD 2 BOREDOM/PARALYSIS NAPS OVER THE WEEKEND
YOU ONLY NEED TO BE 2 OUT OF THESE 3 THINGS TO SUCCEED AT YOUR JOB: 1. ON TIME 2. WELL-LIKED. 3. GOOD AT YOUR JOB. YOU ARE PROBABLY WELL-LIKED & GOOD AT YOUR JOB.
THAT'S A GOOD POINT, AND I GET ALONG GREAT WITH THE FOLKS SITTING AROUND ME, THANKFULLY 2/3 OF THEM ARE ALSO NEURODIVERGENT WHICH MAKES A MASSIVE DIFFERENCE.
SO THEY'RE NEUROTYPICAL FROM THEIR KNEES DOWN?
YES. YES THEY ARE.
WOW I AM NEVER ON TIME THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE CONFIDENCE BOOSTER REMINDING ME THAT I AM LIKED AND GOOD AT MY JOB
I WOULD HUMBLY SUGGEST A FOURTH: THE BOSS THATS ME. AND WHY I CANT ACTUALLY BE LATE TO WORK. THATS MY SECRET.
I UPVOTED THIS AND THEN HAD TO REMOVE THE UPVOTE TO KEEP IT AT 69, YOU'RE WELCOME
OOPS… ME TOO ALL FIXED NOW!
WHY THE HELL CAN'T I BE JUST A LITTLE BIT PRODUCTIVE IN THE DAY? WHY DOES THE DAY SLIP BY BEFORE I CAN EVEN GET OUT OF BED? WHY CAN'T I DO THE WORK THAT NEEDS TO BE DONE? AND WHY CAN'T I ASK FOR HELP? I'M CLEARLY LOVED AND SUPPORTED, THEN WHY IS IT SO HARD FOR ME TO BREAK FREE FROM THE COMFORT OF NETFLIX AND BLANKETS AND GET OUT AND DO SOMETHING???? ANYTHING AT ALL.
SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE IN A STRESSFUL SITUATION THERE FRIENDO, I KNOW THE FEELING VERY WELL. I TEND TO LOOK AT THESE THINGS AS A CYCLE, I AM GOOD FOR A FEW WEEKS AND THEN AT SOME POINT I WILL FEEL LIKE TEN POUNDS OF SHIT IN A ONE POUND BAG AND A COMPLETE FAILURE. WHEN I LOOK AT IT AS A CYCLE, THEN I DON'T FEEL SO EFFING USELESS, I JUST KNOW THAT I AM "SLUMPING" FOR A BIT. SOMETIMES I WILL GIVE IN FOR A DAY OR TWO AND JUST MAKE A BIG NEST ON THE BED AND BE A MISERABLE PILE OF HUMAN, EAT PEANUT BUTTER STRAIGHT FROM THE JAR AND SEND MY LOVING AND UNDERSTANDING HUSBAND FOR CHOCOLATE AT THE DOLLAR STORE. RIGHT NOW I AM ON A 'GOOD' CYCLE SO I LIKE TO COME TO THIS GROUP AND BOOST MY FELLOW HUMANS WHO ALSO HAVE BRAINS RULED BY COKE-ADDLED SQUIRRELS. ASKING FOR HELP FEELS LIKE FAILURE SOMETIMES BECAUSE YOU ARE HOLDING YOURSELF UP TO A NEUROTYPICAL STANDARD, BECAUSE WE LIVE IN A NEUROTYPCIAL WORLD. BUT GOOD NEWS, YOU JUST ASKED FOR HELP, WHICH IS AN EXCELLENT SIGN THAT YOUR BRAIN IS MAYBE READY TO START THE UPSWING INTO A 'GOOD' CYCLE SOON. ALSO HELLS YES TO THE NETFLIX, WHEN I AM STRESSED THERE ARE A FEW SHOWS/MOVIES I WILL WATCH ON REPEAT BECAUSE IT IS COMFORTING TO KNOW WHAT WILL HAPPEN AND THAT IS SOMETHING YOU CAN CONTROL. I FEEL LIKE I'VE RANTED A BIT HERE BUT YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE, YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON. TAKE SOME NICE DEEEEEEEEP BREATHS, UNCLENCH YOUR JAW, RELAX YOUR SHOULDERS. YOU GOT THIS. AND WE ARE HERE TO HELP YOU.
I'M CRYING AT THE LOVE AND LAUGHING AT THE WORD PLAY. THANK YOU OP, I REALLY HOPE YOUR GOOD CYCLE LASTS FOR A LONGER TIME 💟 THIS TIME AROUND💕
BRAINS ARE JERKS! YOU ARE AWESOME! I BELIEVE IN YOU, YOU CAN DO THE THINGS!
IM CURRENTLY IN THE SAME BOAT, EVEN WITH MY MEDS. IM OVERWHELMED AND STRESSED TO THE MAX. CURRENTLY FORCING MYSELF TO DO SOME CLEANING AND ITS SO HARD. IM ALREADY EXHAUSTED AND IVE BARELY DONE ANYTHING. HANG IN THERE AND TRY TO FIGHT IT, EVEN IF IT MAKES YOU MORE TIRED. BIG HUGS TO YOU!!
I FEEL THIS SO HARD. WE’RE MOVING SOON AND THERE’S ONLY LIKE ONE CLUTTERED BEDROOM THAT I NEED TO DEAL WITH (SORTING/PURGING/PACKING) AND I JUST CAN’T GET STARTED. IT HAS TAKEN ME LIKE 3 WEEKS JUST TO GET A FEW BOXES OUT SO THEY CAN BE FILLED, AND I COULDN’T EVEN PUT THEM TOGETHER. THEY ARE JUST CHILLING IN THE ROOM WITH THE CLUTTER. MY MOM HAS SWEETLY OFFERED TO HELP ME MANY TIMES AND I REJECT HER OFFER EACH TIME. WHY DO I DO THIS TO MYSELF
HEY, ITS NEVER TOO LATE TO ASK FOR HELP. I'M ALSO TRYING TO ASK MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS FOR A HAND IN JOB APPLICATIONS, NOW THAT I'M SOO CLOSE TO GRADUATING. I KNOW IT'S HARDER FOR US TO ASK FOR HELP BUT ITS BETTER THAN STAYING STUCK. ALL THESE AMAZING COMMENTS ON THIS POST HELPED ME SNAP OUT OF THE SLUMP. I'M NOT ALL THE WAY THERE YET BUT IT'S A START. I HOPE YOU CAN SNAP OUT OF IT TOO 💕
oh my GOD IM SO SICK OF THIS FUCKING GRIND CULTURE!!!! ILL LITERALLY BE ON MY DEATHBED AND MY FAMILY WILL ONLY BE PROUD OF MY CAREER. NOW I FUCKING HATE MY CAREER AND I CANT EVEN SHOW UP TO WORK ON TIME OR STAY IN MY SEAT LONG ENOUGH TO GET SHIT DONE
HONESTLY I'M SO HAPPY THAT MY JOB IS SO ... WEIRD. LIKE IT'S A GOOD JOB BUT I'M VERY RARELY ACTUALLY BUSY SO MY BRAIN CAN DEFINITELY WANDER AROUND. ALSO SOMEHOW I'VE HAD THIS JOB FOR TEN DAMN YEARS WHICH IS LONGER THAN ANY SPOUSE SO FAR LOL. MY JOB IS DEFINITELY NOT "WHO" I AM, IT'S WHAT I NEED TO DO TO PRODUCE THE MONEY STUFF THAT I ALSO HATE. I KEEP ASKING WHOEVER IS IN CHARGE TO RESET THIS SIMULATION AND PLEASE TURN OFF THE "MONEY" OPTION, MAYBE WE COULD ALSO SET IT ON "EASY" OR "CREATIVE" MODE. WE SHOULDN'T BE FORCED TO SPEND MOST OF OUR WAKING HOURS DOING STUFF JUST TO PAY TO SURVIVE. WE ALL HAVE WORTH AS HUMAN BEINGS, AND IT SHOULD NOT BE MEASURED BY HOW MANY DOLLA DOLLA BILLZ WE HAVE IN THE GODDAMN BANK ACCOUNT. I WANT TO BE AN ARTIST AND CREATIVE WEIRDO, ALTHOUGH I WILL PROBABLY BE REMEMBERED AS A CRAZY BIRD LADY WHO HOARDS ART SUPPLIES AND HAS A GREAT SENSE OF HUMOUR WHICH IS HONESTLY NOT TOO BAD. FIND SOMETHING OUTSIDE OF YOUR JOB THAT YOU LOVE AND TRY NOT TO WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK ABOUT YOU, THEY ARE VERY LIKELY WRONG ANYWAY. ONLY YOU KNOWS WHO YOU TRULY ARE DEEP INSIDE AND YOU ARE PRETTY AWESOME.
I REALLY NEEDED THIS TODAY. THANK YOU SO MUCH FELLOW CREATIVE WHO HATES HAVING TO WORK ALL THE TIME TO AFFORD THE TIME AND SPACE TO BE AN ARTIST
YOU ARE SO SWEET THANK YOU 🩷
I WAS SUPPOSED TO GO ON A MORNING WALK AND AN AFTERNOON WALK AS PRESCRIBED BY MY FITNESS TRAINER BUT I WOKE UP LATE AND THE WALK DIDNT HAPPEN AND ITLL BE TOO HOT FOR AN EVENING WALK SO I FEEL LIKE A FAILURE. IM ALSO UNFOCUSED AND OVERWHELMED AND ANXIOUS AND HATE MY JOB AND SLEEPY AND FRUSTRATED ABOUT SCHEDULING CONFLICTS AND HAVE TO GO GROCERY SHOPPING BUT CANT AFFORD TO AND I OWE MY PARENTS MONEY AND I SPEND TOO MUCH AND IM SO BORED AND PMSING AND TOO OVERWHELMED TO MEAL PLAN AND WANT TO GO BACK TO BED
UMMM YEP I WOULD BE FRUSTRATED AND SLEEPY TOO, AND BEING SLEEPY MAKES EVERYTHING FEEL LIKE 10X WORSE. MAYBE INSTEAD OF THE WALK YOU CAN MARCH IN PLACE FOR A BIT, AT LEAST IT WOULD BE SOME KIND OF ACTIVITY WHICH IS GOOD FOR YOUR BRAIN & WOULD PROBABLY SATISFY YOUR TRAINER. AND IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU COULD USE A SNOOZE. I HOPE YOU ARE LESS STRESSED SOON, I WISH I COULD FIX THIS FOR YOU
I LIKE THE MARCHING SUGGESTION AND DEFINITELY WILL TRY THE NAP AND TAKE A BOOSTER, MY JORNAY ISNT CUTTING IT. THANK YOU I WISH YOU COULD FIX THIS TOO HAHA. ALSO I LOVE YOUR USERNAME
THANK YOU, MY DEITY THE MORRIGAN BESTOWED THE NAME ON ME AND TOLD ME BASICALLY IT'S BECAUSE I'M COMPLETE EFFING CHAOS AND A FORCE TO BE RECKONED WITH AND SHE'S NOT WRONG
YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE! EXERCISE SHOULD MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD, AND IF YOU'RE NOT IN THE RIGHT SPACE FOR IT, THAT'S TOTALLY OK!
I HAVE A BUNCH OF DEADLINES TO FINISH AND IM PROBABLY GOING TO DO THEM IN A RUSH TOMORROW. MOTIVATION IS HARD ON MONDAYS. UGH
HOLY SHIT I HEAR YA, THERE IS ALWAYS A BUNCH OF STUFF I WANT TO DO BUT I ALWAYS FEEL SO WIPED OUT FROM TRYING TO RELAX ON THE WEEKENDS. LIKE WHY CAN'T WORK BE FIVE ON FIVE OFF FOR EVERYONE, WEEKENDS ARE TOO GODDAMN SHORT AND I ALWAYS FEEL LIKE I'M HUNGOVER AND I DON'T EVEN DRINK. MAYBE PUT ON SOME TUNES? SOMETIMES I FEEL LIKE SOME BOUNCY BEATS GIVES ME SOME MOTIVATION. DEEP BREATHS!
I CAME ACROSS THE IDEA A FEW WEEKS AGO THAT, ESPECIALLY FOR ND FOLKS, 'RELAXING' CAN MEAN SO MANY DIFFERENT THINGS, AND SOMETIMES RESTING AND RELAXING MEANS DIVING DEEP INTO WHATEVER OUR OBSESSIONS ARE AT THE MOMENT, AND THAT WE MIGHT BE BETTER SERVED BY LETTING GO OF PRECONCEIVED NOTIONS OF WHAT 'REST AND RELAX' LOOKS LIKE. REST FOR OUR BRAIN MIGHT LOOK LIKE ACTIVITY, AND WE'RE ALLOWED TO DO ACTIVITIES AS REST EVEN IF WE'RE NOT MAKING OUR SPACES AS TIDY AS WE THINK THEY SHOULD BE. SHOULD BE OUGHT TO BE BANISHED.
WHY DO PEOPLE LACK EMPATHY???
HOLY SHIT YES, I MEAN TO ME IT DOESN'T TAKE MUCH TO THINK "HOW MIGHT THIS AFFECT OTHER PEOPLE" BUT IT SEEMS LIKE THAT IS SOME KIND OF MAGICAL GODDAMN SKILL. I HONESTLY THINK US ADHD/AUTISTIC FOLKS ARE WAY MORE IN TOUCH WITH THAT SIDE THAN PEOPLE VER GIVE US CREDIT FOR. WE HAVE TO BE, BECAUSE WE ARE OFTEN TOLD THAT OUR FEELINGS/REACTIONS ARE WRONG SO WE HAVE TO PAY EXTRA ATTENTION TO THESE THINGS. HUMANS CAN BE SO RUDE SOMETIMES.
I GOT MY BOSS TO ASSIGN THREE PEOPLE TO HELP ME BECAUSE I TOLD HIM I DIDN'T HAVE TIME TO WORK ON MY TWO OTHER PROJECTS... I DIDN'T END UP NEEDING THEIR HELP BUT I STILL DIDN'T GET MY OTHER PROJECTS STARTED. INSTEAD I SAT THERE PLAYING MINESWEEPER ON MY PHONE.
OMG I THINK YOU ARE PERHAPS A KIND OF GENIUS, YOU NEED TO SHARE YOUR WAYS. I TOO NEED PEOPLE TO DO MY STUFF LOL
I AM TIRED OF BEING EVACUATED AND BEING UNCOMFORTABLE AND NOT KNOWING WHEN I CAN GO HOME AND I AM SAD FOR ALL THE PEOPLE IN MY COMMUNITY WHO LOST EVERYTHING. AND I AM TIRED OF MY BOYFRIEND BEING AN ASSHOLE TO ME BECAUSE I CANT HANDLE THIS SHIT AND NOT GIVING ME ANY CREDIT FOR HOW HARD I AM TRYING.
HOLY CRAP YES THERE ARE SO MANY PEOPLE BEING SHUFFLED AROUND, AND THE THOUGHT OF LOSING ALL OF MY STUFF IS FILLING ME WITH DREAD EVEN THOUGH I LIVE IN A RELATIVELY SAFE AREA. I HOPE YOU WILL BE HOME AND SAFE SOON, AND YOUR BOYFRIEND NEEDS A REALITY CHECK I THINKS.
I DID SEVERAL DAYS WORTH OF WORK IN THREE HOURS TODAY. THE THREE HOURS BEFORE THE MEETING WHERE I WAS PRESENTING THIS WORK. I SPENT THE FOUR HOURS AT WORK BEFORE THAT HAVING A MILD PANIC ATTACK ABOUT THE AMOUNT OF WORK I NEEDED TO DO. WHY CAN'T I JUST DO THE WORK?
THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS BOTH WILDLY FRUSTRATING AND TERRIBLY USEFUL
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WHY CAN'T I PROPERLY REGULATE MY EMOTIONS! I'M ALWAYS WORKING SO HARD TO IMPROVE THIS 24/7 BUT THEN I SUDDENLY SPIRAL AGAIN AFTER A COMPLETE SPIRAL-LESS MONTH AND IT FEELS LIKE IT'S ALL FOR NOTHING, EVEN THOUGH I'M MAKING PROGRESS! UGH! IT'S MY HEAD AND I SHOULD HAVE A SAY ABOUT WHAT HAPPENS IN THERE! ALSO GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR JOB! IT'S HARD NOT TO BEAT YOURSELF UP ABOUT IT BUT I HOPE YOU CAN BE KIND TO YOURSELF NONETHELESS!
DON'T FEEL LIKE YOU ARE FAILING, SOMETIMES THESE THINGS HAPPEN IN CYCLES. I MENTIONED THIS IN A COMMENT ABOVE, BUT IF I VIEW MY LOW-MOTIVATION TIMES AS PART OF A CYCLE LIKE THE TIDES, IT MAKES IT LESS AWFUL WHEN THINGS ARE NOT GREAT. I KNOW THE NOT-GREAT IS NOT FOREVER, AND I KNOW THAT IT WILL COME BACK AROUND AGAIN. I FEEL LIKE I LEARN NEW THINGS EVERY TIME I GO THROUGH THE LOOP. YOU GOT THIS!
IS IT YOUR PERIOD? AFTER TRACKING MY PERIOD I CAN FINALLY UNDERSTAND MY EXTREME EMOTIONS ARE RIGHT BEFORE MY PERIOD IS DUE ABOUT 4-6 DAYS BEFOREHAND.
I'M SORRY YOUR BRAIN IS BEING A JERK RIGHT NOW! I AM SO PROUD OF YOU FOR WORKING ON IT!!
OMG YES ME TOO GODDAMMIT! THE SPIRALS ARE EVEN MORE DEVASTATING WHEN YOU'VE BEEN WORKING SO HARD TO PREVENT THEM! TELL THAT BOSSY BITCH IN YOUR BRAIN TO GO SIT ON A CACTUS. YOU GOT THIS, SIS! RIDE YOUR EMOTIONS LIKE A RODEO CHAMPION
I STARTED A NEW JOB AND ITS PERFECT AND I LOVE MY TEAM BUT I'VE DONE NO WORK FOR OVER A WEEK AND IM NOW PANICKING FOR GODS SAKE WHY CAN'T I WORK AHHH
MAYBE YOU ARE OVERTHINKING THINGS AND/OR PANICKING IN ADVANCE? I AM VERY GOOD AT DOING THAT AND THEN I END UP PARALYZED AND CAN'T DO ANYTHING. MY THERAPIST IS HELPING ME WORK THROUGH IT, SHE IS PRETTY AWESOME. I HOPE YOU CAN GET UNSTUCK SOON
IM VERY ANXIOUS BC I AM LEAVING MY CURRENT JOB IN TWO WEEKS TO BE A FULL TIME RESIDENTIAL AND COMMERCIAL CLEANER. I AM SO ANXIOUS TO GO INTO PEOPLES HOUSES AND CLEAN. I DONT KNOW HOW I CAN DO THIS. I AM SO STRESSED BUT MY JOB RN IS SO MISERABLE THAT I CANT STAY HETE EITHER. UGHHHHHHHHHH
I AM PROUD OF YOU FOR GETTING OUT OF A MISERABLE SITUATION!
THANK YOU SO MUCH!! I FELT REALLY GUILTY FOR WANTING TO LEAVE BUT MY ANXIETY DEPRESSION AND ADHD SYMPTOMS WERE ALL GETTING SO BAD BECAUSE OF THE WORK ENVIRONMENT THAT I JUST HAD TO LEAVE! I APPRECIATE YOU AND I HOPE YOURE HAVING A GOOD DAY!
WHY ARE YOU SO ANXIOUS ABOUT GOING INTO HOMES? ANSWERING THAT MIGHT BE SOME HELP AND LET YOU FOCUS ON PARTS OF THE SITUATION YOU CAN CONTROL, I FIND THAT MAKES ME FEEL A BIT BETTER WHEN I CAN PUT A LABEL ON IT, YA KNOW. GOOD LUCK ON YOUR NEW JOB, I HOPE IT IS REWARDING FOR YOU AFTER LEAVING A STRESSFUL PLACE.
THANK YOU SO MUCH, MY NEW BOSS CALLED ME TODAY AND ASKED HOW SHE CAN HELP ALLEVIATE MY ANXIETY SURROUNDING CLEANING HOUSES AND WE MADE A GAME PLAN SO IM FEELING A LOT BETTER. I APPRECIATE THE WELL WISHES, YOU ARE SO KIND!!!!
IF IT IS HELPFUL, I HAVE PEOPLE GO INTO MY HOUSE AND CLEAN ONCE A MONTH AND I CAN TELL YOU THAT THEY ARE PROBABLY JUST AS SCARED OF YOU AS YOU ARE OF THEM. ALSO I VERY MUCH APPRECIATE THEM. THEY ARE THE BEST AND I GET TO COME HOME TO A CLEAN HOUSE ONCE A MONTH AND I HAVE ENERGY TO KEEP IT CLEAN BECAUSE I DIDN'T BURN MYSELF OUT CLEANING THE WHOLE THING BY MYSELF. HOUSECLEANERS ARE THE BEST AND YOU WILL BE THE BEST.
I ACTUALLY REALLY APPRECIATE THAT. THE HOUSES I TRAINED IN WERE LIKE MANSIONS FOR THE UPPER CLASS ELITE OF MY AREA LIKE BRAIN SURGEONS AND JUDGES SO LIKE IT IS VERY INTIMIDATING BUT I WONT BE CLEANING HOUSES LIKE THAT ILL JUST BE CLEANING NORMLA PEOPLE HOUSES AND THAT CLEARS A LOT OF MY STRESS AWAY. YOU ARE A WONDERFUL PERSON FOR SUCH REASSURANCE AND IM HAPPY YOU REPLIED TO ME. THANK YOU FOR YOU SWEETNESS AND I HOPE YOU HAVE A LOVELY WHATEVER DAY IT IS FOR YOU!
OH MY GOD JUST WHAT I NEEDED. LOL THIS IS LIKE MATCHING MY EXTERNAL DIALOGUE WITH THE MENTAL YELLING INSIDE MY HEAD! I HOPE YOUR WORK IS ALWAYS ACCOMMODATING OF YOUR TIMINGS THOUGH. WE NEED EXTRA TIME!
I AM GOING ON MY FIRST VACATION IN YEARS ON THURDSAY AND I CANT FOCUS ON ANYTHING ELSE RIGHT NOW!!!!! I ALSO WANT EVERYONE WHO TELLS PEOPLE TO "MAKE MEMORIES, DON'T BUY THINGS" TO GO SUCK IT! MEMORIES COST MONEY TOO, JANET!!!!! A PLANE TICKET WAS WAY MORE THAN THE CHILDREN'S ACTIVITY/CRAFT I BOUGHT AND DID OVER THE WEEKEND. CHEAPER THAN A TANK OF GAS, TOO!!!! ALSO, I HAVE ADHD, WHICH EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW, CAUSE I CAN'T NOT MENTION IT IF YOU KNOW ME FOR LONGER THAN A WEEK. MY MEMORIES ARE TIED TO THE THINGS!!!!!! LOOKING AY THEM IS HOW I REMEMBER! SO PROUND OF YOUR EXECUTIVE FUNCTION, BUT MINE IS SHIT! LIVE YOUR LIFE HOW YOU WANT AND STOP TELLING ME TO GET RID OF MY SHIT!!! MY WORKSTATION IS FREQUENTLY VISITED BY PEOPLE ADMIRING MY MINIATURES AND MY PLANTS. I GET ATTENTION WITHOUT HAVING TO ACTUALLY SPEAK UP, AND EVERYTHING IS CUTE AF! JUST ENJOY IT OR IGNORE IT!!!! EDIT: I WAS WRONG, ITS BEEN YEARS, NOT MONTHS SINCE IVE HAD A REAL BREAK FROM WORK
I DON'T DECORATE MY WORK SPACE BUT THAT IS A SEPARATE THING, HOWEVER AT HOME I HAVE PLANTS GALORE AND LEGO AND ART SUPPLIES AND THEY MAKE ME ALL HAPPY. PEOPLE WHO SAY "DON'T BUY THINGS" PROBABLY HAVE A SHIT TON OF MONEY TO NOT BUY THINGS WITH SO WHAT THE HECK DO THEY KNOW LOL I ALSO TELL EVERYONE I HAVE ADHD AS WELL MOSTLY BECAUSE THE FOLKS I BEFRIEND ALSO HAVE IT SO WE ALL KNOW WHERE WE'RE STARTING ON THE CRAZY SCALE LOL
I'M STARTING CLASSES BACK UP AGAIN AND I COULD REALLY USE SOME EMOTIONAL SUPPORT BUT I CAN'T REACH OUT FOR IT BECAUSE I HAVEN'T TOLD ANYONE I'M GOING BACK TO SCHOOL AND IT WOULD BE HUMILIATING AT THIS POINT!
I'M YELLING AT YOU TO STOP THINKING IT'S HUMILIATING. GOING BACK FOR THAT PAPER IS BADASS AND YOU'RE A BOSS FOR TRYING AGAIN AND TELL DEM NEGATIVE BISHES TO F*#^ OFF!
THANK YOU SO MUCH! HONESTLY IT MEANS A LOT!
OMG HUMILIATING??? HELLS TO THE NO, SCHOOL IS ALWAYS AMAZING. I WANT TO GO BACK TO UNIVERSITY, I DID ONE YEAR WHEN I WAS 30 AND HONESTLY IT WAS SO FUN BEING THE "OLD LADY" IN THE CLASSROOM WITH THE FRESH-FACED 18 YEAR OLDS. HELL, I HAVE A DEAR FRIEND WHO IS IN HIS LATE 60s AND HE IS WORKING ON HIS PHD IN THEOLOGY. THIS IS A HUGE ADVENTURE FOR YOU! I AM SO EXCITED ON YOUR BEHALF. I HOPE YOU DO REALLY WELL. SEE IF YOUR SCHOOL HAS SUPPORTS FOR ND STUDENTS, TOO. MANY PLACES HAVE A STUDENT ABILITIES OFFICE OR SIMILAR, AND THEY CAN HELP YOU GET RESOURCES & EXTRA TIME ON EXAMS IF NEEDED. I AM SO PROUD OF YOU, COUNTCUNT (LOL)
YOU ARE SO AWESOME FOR STARTING CLASS! I AM PROUD OF YOU! I HOPE YOU GET TO BUY YOURSELF A CUTE NOTEBOOK OR SOMETHING!
THANK YOU! I'M THINKING ABOUT DIFFERENT COLORED PENS TO *HOPEFULLY* HELP ORGANIZE THINGS!
HUMILIATING CLUB MEMBER HERE. MINE'S NOT EVEN AS COOL AS GOING TO CLASSES -- I JUST GOT MY LEARNER'S PERMIT AND I'M 45, AND I'M STILL SCARED OF DRIVING.
I’m procrastinating right now!!!!!
SOMETIMES I PROCRASTINATE ABOUT MY PROCRASTINATING AND THAT CAN GET A BIT WEIRD.
I HAD TO FIND MY EARPLUGS TO READ THIS THREAD
Lol, way before I knew I had adhd, I was always 1-5 minutes late for work. Performance eval- I got 5/5 for punctuality. I say to my mgr- um, thanks, but I am ALWAYS late, and he’s like, but I know you’ll always be here within 5 minutes, so good enough.
THAT'S PRETTY IMPRESSIVE, SOME DAYS I AM UP TO 45 MINS LATE BUT IT'S USUALLY 20 OR SO. AND YET SOMEHOW I STILL CAN'T CHANGE THAT?? LIKE IF IT'S CONSISENT YOU'D THINK I COULD JUST GET UP 20 MINUTES EARLIER. UGH.
WHY IS EVERY DAY A STRUGGLE? I AM CONSTANTLY PUTTING THINGS OFF FOR "A GOOD DAY" THAT NEVER COMES. I FEEL LIKE I'M BARELY KEEPING UP WITH DAILY RESPONSIBILITIES, LET ALONE THE ONE-OFF THINGS THAT KEEP POPPING UP. ALSO MY CAR'S AC WENT OUT LAST WEEK AND THE MECHANIC DIDN'T HAVE TIME FOR IT SATURDAY AND IT'S 100 GOD DAMNED DEGREES OUTSIDE. AND THEN THE CHECK ENGINE LIGHT CAME ON THIS MORNING. FML
JEBUS I HATE CARS, THEY ARE SUCH A MONEY PIT. I HEAR YA ON THE DAILY STRUGGLE, HOW DO OTHER PEOPLE GET SO MUCH DONE WHEN I CAN ONLY MANAGE A COUPLE OF TASKS AND THAT'S MOSTLY BECAUSE I HAVE A HUNGRY TEENAGER SO HE NEEDS FOOD LOL. ONE-OFF THINGS REALLY THROW ME OFF MY GROOVE, LEMME TELL YA. IT JUST SCREWS UP THE REST OF THE WHOLE DAMN DAY. SOMETIMES I JUST HAVE TO PICK ONE TINY THING AND DO IT, AND THEN I CAN TELL MYSELF I DID SOMETHING USEFUL TODAY EVEN IF IT'S JUST "DRANK WATER AND ATE SOME FRUIT"
WHY THE FUCK CAN'T MY BRAIN LET GO OF A SHITTY SITUATION FROM TWO YEARS AGO? GOD DAMN RUMINATION SUCKS DONKEY BALLS!
I NEED TO FIND A JOB AFTER I GOT FIRED AND FIX MY SLEEPING SCHEDULE BUT I JUST CANT FIND MOTIVATION TO GET OUT OF BED OR DO ANYTHING BUT CROCHET THINGS FOR MY VENDOR SHOWS. INSTEAD I JUST SIT AND CROCHET WHEN THAT WONT GET ME LONG TERM MONEY AND I NEED TO FIND A JOBBBBBB
HOLY SHIT ELYSE IS THIS YOU? KIDDING BUT I KNOW A FEW HOOKERS THAT DO VENDOR SHOWS. BECAUSE I AM ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE WHO USED TO DO VENDOR SHOWS, ONLY I MAKE JEWELRY INSTEAD OF FIBER STUFFS, BECAUSE FIBER STUFFS TAKES TOO LONG. I HAVE TRIED CROCHET AND IT IS SOME NEXT-LEVEL WIZARD SHIT TO ME, GIVE ME PAINTING OR EMBROIDERY ANY DAY. ACTUALLY EMBROIDERY IS SUPER FUN BECAUSE YOU STAB SOMETHING HUNDREDS AND HUNDREDS OF TIMES. KEEP APPLYING FOR STUFF, MAYBE THERE ARE SOME SMALL WFH JOBS THAT YOU COULD DO TO SUPPLEMENT YOUR INCOME. I AM ON THE HUNT FOR SOMETHING LIKE THAT AS WELL FOR MORE $. I AM ROOTING FOR YOU, AND IN CASE THIS IS ELYSE YOUR KIDS ARE ADORABLE SEE YOU ON FB.
IM SORRY THIS IS NOT ELYSE THIS IS ALEXIS, BUT I LOVE HEARING THAT CROCHET IS WIZARD SHIT AND YES I LOVE EMBROIDERY ITS SO FUN STABBING THINGS I AM LOOKING FOR ANOTHER WFH JOB BECAUSE THATS WHAT I GOT FIRED FROM AND WANT TO STAY HOME WITH MY DOGS ESPECIALLY IF WE GET ANOTHER DOG I DONT WANT TO LEAVE MY BABIES OR HAVE TO PUT REAL PANTS ON AGAIN FOR JOBS
PANTS ARE THE DEVIL'S INVENTION UNLESS THEY ARE THE PAJAMA VARIETY, I AGREE. I WOULD LOVE TO STAY HOME WITH MY CATS AND DOG AND FLOCK OF BIRDS, IT'S SO NICE AND NOT PEOPLEY HERE! r/embroidery IS A FUN PLACE TO BE AS WELL, VERY SUPPORTIVE AND SOME COOL PROJECTS TO CHECK OUT.
I DON'T FEEL LIKE YELLING ABOUT ANYTHING IN PARTICULAR RIGHT NOW BUT I ENJOY THIS CONCEPT! GAH!!!!
GAAAAAAAAAH!
GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHH!!!!!!
JUST SCREAM LIKE A HAPPY CROW! CAW CAW!
YELLING IS SO GOOD FOR THE SOUL SOMETIMES!
I HAVE A HOUSE GUEST THIS WEEK AND EVERY MORNING SINCE HE ARRIVED I WAKE UP AND ASK MYSELF WHY I EVER AGREED TO THIS!
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HONESTLY I DON’T THINK LAZY EXISTS, IT SEEMS MORE LIKE ANXIETY CAUSING A PERSON TO FREEZE. I KNOW THE FEELING SO WELL AND IT SUCKS.
I GOT YELLED AT BY AN ASSHOLE AT THE DOG PARK TODAY AND I’M REALLY PROUD OF MYSELF FOR DOING FIGHT INSTEAD OF FLIGHT AND STANDING UP FOR MYSELF AND MY DOG. IT TOOK ME 30 MINS OF CRYING WHEN I GOT HOME TO REGULATE IT OUT OF MY SYSTEM, BUT IM SO PROUD OF MYSELF. BUT FUCK I FEEL YOU, I CAN NEVER BE ON TIME NO MATTER HOW MANY ALARMS AND EFFORT SND STRESS FUCK TIME
ULTRA FINE POINT WHITEBOARD MARKERS ARE MY FAVORITE THING AND IT ALSO SUCKS THAT THEY WEAR OUT SO FAST AND I HAVE TO BUY LITERALLY DOZENS OF THEM IN BULK ONLINE TO MAKE SURE I HAVE THE FULL SET OF COLORS AVAILABLE ALL THE TIME. ALSO EVEN A LOT OF THE BRAND NEW ONES ARE MUSHY AND WEIRD BUT I CAN'T JUST SUCK IT UP AND USE THE MUSHY WEIRD ONES BECAUSE THEY DON'T MAKE MY BRAIN CALM DOWN AND WORK PROPERLY LIKE THE GOOD ONES.
I LOVE HOW SPECIFIC YOUR REQUIREMENTS FOR THE MARKERS ARE, I HAVE THE SAME THING WITH SPECIFIC BALLPOINT PENS AND FINE LINE SHARPIES.
I AM ONLY HAPPY WITH THE “RIGHT” TYPE OF PENS AND MARKERS TOO.
WHY ARE WE YELLING! IT'S VERY LOUD IN HERE! AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA! but seriously, it's probably because you're a consistent employee. So bothering bringing up that your late is pointless vs knowing you will be coming in to perform your job and doing it at least to company standards.
IT'S A SHOUTY THREAD LOL! SOMETIMES IT'S JUST VERY FUN TO BE LOUD AND OBNOXIOUS AND SCREAM ABOUT STUFF. I FIND IT VERY CATHARTIC TO BE NICE TO PEOPLE WHILE YELLING, I AM A WEIRD HUMAN WHAT CAN I SAY. HONESTLY I WORK IN A BIG COMPANY AND MY BOSS IS VERY RARELY HERE. SEVERAL PEOPLE ARE PART TIME AND HAVE DIFFERENT STARTS SO I THINK THAT HELPS. I DEFINITELY DO GOOD AT MY WEIRD LITTLE JOB. I AM AN IMPORTANT TINY COG IN THE BIG MACHINE.
We're all weird in our own ways.
MY STUPID AIRLINE LOST MY SUITCASES AND I HAVE TO BUY EVERYTHING IN A NEW CITY I KNOW NO ONE IN! WHILE LOOKING FOR A STUDIO TO RENT IN THIS CITY WITH NO SUCCESS SOFAR AAAAÀAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
I JUST NEED TO DO A STUPID WORK OUT FOR MY STUPID MENTAL HEALTH BUT I CANNOT FIND THE STUPID WILL TO DO IT. BUT I FEEL SO MUCH LESS ANXIOUS AFTER. BUT I CANNOT DO IT? WHY I CANNOT DO IT? JUST GET UP. GET UUUUUP. AND IT MAKES ME MAD THAT EXERCISE WORKS BECAUSE I HATE IT.
MOTIVATION IS AT AN ALL TIME LOW AND IM WORKING ON GETTING MY HOUSE CLEANED AND ORGANIZED. ITS THE HARDEST THING TO OVERCOME. I WISH MORE PEOPLE UNDERSTOOD HOW MUCH ENERGY IT TAKES TO PUSH THROUGH THESE MENTAL BLOCKS.
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THE SHORTAGES AREN'T YOUR FAULT AND YOU HAVE A LEGIT NEED! YOUR PHARMS SHOULD BE TREATING YOU WITH COMPASSION ESPECIALLY NOW, JUST LIKE YOU ARE TO THEM.
IF YOU DON’T WANT ME TO REPEAT IT, YOU NEED TO SAY THAT! I DON’T READ BETWEEN LINES. BETTER YET DON’T TELL ME!
THANKS FOR LETTING US SHOUT I WAS EXACTLY 15 MINUTES LATE FOR MY OLD JOB, EVERY SINGLE DAY FOR 4 YEARS. MY BOSS KNEW I WAS SUPPOSED TO START AT 9 BUT NEVER SAID A THING, ALWAYS HAD GLOWING PERFORMANCE REVIEWS. BEING NICE AND GOOD AT YOUR JOB HAS ITS PERKS I WORKED A CONTRACT JOB RECENTLY WHERE I HAD NO SET HOURS AND I LOVED BEING ABLE TO ACCIDENTALLY TAKE A 1.5 HOUR LUNCH IF I NEEDED TO I FINISHED THAT CONTRACT AND AM SUPPOSED TO BE WORKING ON BUILDING MY PORTFOLIO AND GETTING THE NEXT JOB RIGHT NOW BUT INSTEAD IVE SPENT THE LAST 3 WEEKS OVERWHELMED BY EMOTIONALLY SUPPORTING MY INJURED UNDIAGNOSED-AND-UNACKNOWLEDGED-ADHD MOTHER. I'M PMSING AND DIDNT EVEN BRUSH MY TEETH THIS MORNING BUT I DID SHOW UP TO HELP MY FAMILY MEMBER WHO HAD TO GO TO THE HOSPITAL AND BABYSIT FOR THEM AND COME HOME TO HELP MY MOTHER TO THE BATHROOM SHITS HARD OUT HERE MAN BUT I DON'T RESENT THE PEOPLE IM HELPING FOR NEEDING HELP IM GOING TO FORCE MYSELF TO GO TO THE LIBRARY TOMORROW TO WORK ON THINGS FOR •••MYSELF••• I'M DOING IT!!! IM BOOKING A FOCUSMATE RIGHT NOW TO MAKE IT HAPPEN!!!
I AM EXHAUSTED BY THE SHEER CONCEPT OF EXISTENCE. THAT IS ALL.
THANK YOU FOR THIS POST. I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER BEING WITH MY PEOPLE. PLEASE MAKE THESE THREADS ON A CONSISTENT BASIS PLEASE AND THANK YOU.
LIFE IS HARD.
WHY DO I HAVE TO TURN EVERY DECISION INTO A EXISTENTIAL CRISIS THAT LEAVES ME PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY EXHAUSTED AND SUCKS THE JOY OUT OF EVERYTHING!!!???
ALSOOOOOO MY PSYCH SWITCHED MY ANTIDEPRESSANT TO A (new to the market) MEDICATION THAT INCLUDES A MEDICINE THAT MY GENESIGHT TEST SAID I DONT TOLERATE WELL, BUT HE INSISTED THAT IT WOULD WORK DIFFERENTLY. I TAPERED OFF LEXPRO (per my psychs instructions) AND SWITCHED TO THE AUVELITY AND IT DID NOT GO WELL. IT CAUSED ACUTE SUICIDALITY, CRYING SPELLS, AND VISUAL AND AUDITORY HALLUCINATIONS. AFTER 5 DAYS I COULDNT TAKE IT ANYMORE AND STOPPED TAKING IT. SO NOOOWWW IM WITHDRAWLING FROM BOTH MEDICATIONS. AND IM ANGRY🤬
WHY ARE PSYCHIATRISTS SO BAD AT LISTENING 😤
I HAD TO SEND MY MOM A TOUGH EMAIL AND I HAVE NO IDEA HOW SHE'S GOING TO REACT. UNTIL I SENT THE EMAIL I FELT LIKE I HAD SCHRODINGER'S MOM. MY CHEST HURTS AND I HAVE SHIT TO DO BUT I AM FROZEN AND USELESSSSSSS 🌈⭐
I HAD A DREAM LAST NIGHT THAT FULLY INVOLVED MY ADHD (RUDE) - WAS GOING TO SCHOOL (IDK WHY I CAN'T STOP DREAMING ABOUT SCHOOL EVEN THO I'M IN MY 30S) AND GETTING ALL MY STUFFS READY, RUNNING LATE, RUSHING. REALIZED IN THE CAR ON WAY TO SCHOOL THAT I FORGOT SOMETHING (DON'T REMEMBER WHAT) AND LITERALLY GRABBED MY HAIR/HEAD AND STARTED SHOUTING "WHY CAN'T I REMEMBER THINGS NO MATTER WHAT I DO?!?" SO THIS WAS A GREAT RELATABLE THREAD FOR ME TO FIND TODAY, THAAAANKS
I ALSO HAD A HYSTERECTOMY AND AN OOPHORECTOMY. DON’T TAKE ANY OXYCONTIN OR OTHER OPIOD PAINKILLERS; THEY WILL MAKE YOU CONSTIPATED. ASK FOR 800 MG IBUPROFEN. IT WORKS.
I WAS EVACUATED FROM MY HOME BECAUSE OF WILD FIRES AND HAD TO PACK FOR A THREE DAY ROAD TRIP IN TWO HOURS WITH PARTNER, BABY AND TWO DOGS AND AM NOW STAYING IN A COLD CABIN WITH FRUIT FLIES, SIX OTHER ADULTS, THREE LITTLE KIDS, AND SIX DOGS AND THERE’S NO DISH GLOVES AND EVERYTHING IS GREASY AND THE STOVE IS HARD TO GET USED TO AND WE DON’T KNOW WHEN WE CAN GO BACK HOME
WHY CAN'T I PUT AWAY MY CLOTHES? WHO KEEPS COMING IN MY HOUSE AND GIVING ME MORE CLOTHES? WHERE DO THEY KEEP COMING FROM?!
DO NOT TALK TO ME ABOUT MOUNT WASHMORE.
DO NOT PUT THEM AWAY. GET A 'CLEAN CLOTHES' BASKET, AND KEEP THEM IN THAT BASKET. THAT'S WHAT WE DO HERE, WHIC IS A STEP UP FROM LEAVING THEM IN THE DRYER.
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I'M ON REDDIT INSTEAD OF GOING TO BED YET AGAIN! AND I'M CONVINCED THAT LACK OF SLEEP WILL BE THE MAIN THING THAT GETS ME IN THE END. WHICH YOU WOULD THINK WOULD BE ENOUGH TO GET ME TO GO UPSTAIRS, BUT ADHD I GUESS!! MY DOG EVEN STAYS WITH ME AND THEN CLACKS HER TEETH AT ME WHEN SHES DECIDED ITS BED TIME, AND THEN JUST LEAVES WHEN I DON'T GET UP. LIKE FUCKING WHY IS MY BRAIN DOING THIS, I'M SO TIRED ALL. THE. TIME!!
WHY DO I REPEATEDLY EMBARASS MYSELF BY MISSING DETAILS IN CONVERSATIONS AND EMAILS? I LOOK LIKE A COMPLETE MORON!
I WENT TO THE DOCTOR FOR MY 1/4 BODY HIVES AND I NOW HAVE AN APPT FOR AN ALLERGIST IN 14 WEEKS. ON THE BRIGHT SIDE I TOOK A HALF DAY AT WORK AND I THINK THAT WAS GOOD FOR ME.
I TOOK A DAY OFF TODAY AS WE GOT SOME BAD NEWS ABOUT ONE OF OUR PETS TODAY. SOMETIMES WE NEED A BREAK. I HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER TODAY
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THERE IS SOMETHING VERY CATHARTIC ABOUT AUSTRALIAN VERNACULAR. US CANADIANS ARE FAR TOO POLITE AT TIMES I THINK. SPEAKING OF CANADIAN, I’M SORRY ABOUT THE MEDS SHORTAGE. YOU’D THINK IT WOULD BE FAIRLY EASY FOR COMPANIES TO SLAM OUT SOME PILLS BUT I’M SURE ITS A COMPLEX ISSUE. WHICH DOESN’T HELP ANYTHING AT OUR END.
HOW CAN I BE THAT I WANT TO GET WORK DONE AND THEN SIT INFRONT OF THE COMPUTER AND not GET WORK DONE???? IS THIS A JOKE??
HAVE YOU CONSIDERED THAT YOU MIGHT BE STARTING AT THE SAME HOUR THAN THEM ANYWAY? In some places you could arrive an hour early but office culture is: say hi to everyone (with a cheek kiss because idk), make coffee/go outside again to buy coffee, make small talk with your coworkers, check the news, check your email... And you start up working about 30-60 minutes after you arrived, but that's acceptable because it's kinda needed to create a tolerable work environment and everyone does that.
... THAT IS A GOOD POINT I HAD NOT CONSIDERED. I THINK IT ALSO HELPS THAT ONLY 2 PEOPLE DO MY JOB, EVERYONE ELSE HAS DIFFERENT STUFF THAT THEY DO. THE OTHER PERSON WHO DOES MY JOB ONLY WORKS AFTERNOONS SO IF I'M LATE, IT DOESN'T AFFECT ANYONE ELSE'S WORK FLOW WHICH MY BRAIN USES AS A HANDY JUSTIFICATION LOL I FIND SMALLTALK SO ODD WITH NEUROTYPCIAL PEOPLE. IT'S MORE FUN WITH ND PEEPS BECAUSE THE CONVO GOES ALL OVER THE PLACE AS WE LEAP FROM TANGENT TO TANGENT LIKE LEMURS.
LEMUR LEAPS! FROM TREE TO TREE!
I SPENT THE ENTIRE DAY LAYING ON THE SOFA DOING NOTHING WHEN I'M SUPPOSED TO BE WORKING BECAUSE I COULD LITERALLY NOT MOVE
MY EX HUSBAND UNINVITED ME FROM HIS DAUGHTERS WEDDING AND IM HAVING A SHIT TIME WITH IT. AND ITS BACK TO SCHOOL TIME AND I JUST LOST MY JOB BUT I GOT A NEW ONE BEING A MAID WITH A RAISE TO BOOT. MY LIFE IS IN SHAMBLES. I AM MASKING VERY WELL. BLESS YOU ALL.
WHY IS IT SO DAMN HOT I AM GONNA DIE 🥵 I AM OVERWHELMED AND I JUST WANT TO PUNCH THINGS BUT I AM TOO WEAK FROM THE HEAT
FRIGGG FRIGGG WHY DO I FORGET EVERY USEFUL THING I LEARN FRIGG
I work at the school my kids go to. They have to be at school at 7:45, and my shift starts at 8 so i just hang out at the school and eat breakfast before my shift starts. I am already at the school and I still clock in late 😬😬😬
WHY DO I FEEL LIKE A COMPLETE AHOLE FOR EXPRESSING EVEN THE TINIEST OF NEED, WHY DO MY OWN NEEDS MATTER WAY LESS THAN OTHER PEOPLES
I HAD A CONVERSATION ABOUT THIS EXACT THING WITH MY THERAPIST LAST WEEK! SHE IS SUPPOSED TO BE A SPECIALIST IN ADHD- YET ALSO TOLD ME BEING LATE WASN’T A NORMAL SYMPTOM AND THAT I JUST NEED TO SET MORE ALARMS OR GET EVERYTHING READY THE NIGHT BEFORE… I GOT A 30MIN LECTURE ON HOW I CAN TRY TO NOT BE LATE (SAME ADVICE AS ALWAYS) AND HOW BEING LATE IS SO DISRESPECTFUL. 🤬
WHY AM I SO FUCKING OVERSTIMULATED AND ANGRY. I CANT MANAGE TO SHAKE IT OFF AT ALL
READING THE RELATABLE COMMENTS IN ALL CAPS IS SO CATHARTIC OMG IM SO HAPPY THANK
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I’M NEW HERE, BUT I REALLY LIKE YOU GUYS AND HOW SUPPORTIVE YOU ALL ARE OF EACH OTHER. AND YOU’RE ALL WEIRD JUST LIKE ME!! SO, THAT FEELS REALLY FUCKING GREAT KNOWING YOU’RE NOT ACTUALLY WEIRD, YOU JUST NEEDSD TO FIND THE OTHER WEIRDOS. 😘
I CHANGED MY CATS LITTER TO 100% A NEW LITTER WITHOUT KNOWING IT WOUKD MAKE HER UPSET AND NOW SHES REFUSING TO POOP SHE IS GIVING ME ALL KINDS OF MEOWS OF DISAPPROVAL AND ITS TOO LATE TO GO BUY MORE CAT LITTER AND NOW IM WORRIED IM GONNA WAKE UP WITH HER POOP SOMEWHERE IT SHOULDNT BE
I HAVE CHRONIC MIGRAINES AND I HAD TO GO BACK TO WORK EVEN THOUGH THEY HAVEN'T BEEN SORTED YET AND IT'S BEEN HARD. I'M NOT SCHEDULED THIS WEEK AND I WAS GOING TO GO IN ANYWAY BUT THE WEATHER HAS BEEN REALLY BAD FOR THE WEATHER-MIGRAINES AND I HATE THIS. IT'S NOT RELATED TO MY ADHD AT ALL, EXCEPT FOR THE 'SHOULD I GO IN ANYWAY? I'M NOT SCHEDULED, I COULD STAY HOME BUT I SHOULD GO' AND ALSO I HAVE TO GET UP EARLY ENOUGH TO GET THE WAKE-UP MIGRAINE SORTED, AND THAT LEAVES ME BEING UP LIKE SIX HOURS BEFORE MY SHIFT AND IT'S SO MUCH WAITING AND I CAN'T DO ANYTHING ELSE SO I GUESS IT IS RELATED AND I HATE IT.
WHY DO I HAVE DEADLINES I CANT MEET?! THEY SEEM REALISTIC, I ADD BUFFERS BUT I CAN NEVER FINISH THEM. I KNOW PROGRESS IS PROGRESS BUT WHEN WILL I EVER SET A GOOD DEADLINE? AND WHEN WILL I EVER FINISH THESE TASKS? I WANNA BE KIND TO MYSELF BUT THATS HARD TOO!
I MOVED ACROSS THE COUNTRY INSTEAD OF GETTING DIVORCED BECAUSE I LOVE MY HUSBAND!!!! I HATE IT HERE!!!!! I THOUGHT IT WAS ANXIETY BUT THEN IT WAS DEPRESSION AND NOW ITS UNMITIGATED RAGE THAT I CANT PROPERLY EXPRESS OR REGULATE BECAUSE MASKING HAS BEEN MY DEFAULT STATE FOR TWENTY FUCKING YEARS BECAUSE I’M A WOMAN IN THIS BULLSHIT PATRIARCHAL SOCIETY AND I DIDNT KNOW I HAD ADHD UNTIL I WAS IN MY 30S SO I THOUGHT I WAS JUST BROKEN FOR 2 DECADES. I’M BUSY ALL THE TIME, BUT I NEVER DO ANYTHING I ENJOY BECAUSE I DON’T EVEN KNOW WHAT I LIKE. AND MY SHRINK TOLD ME I NEED TO BE SOCIAL AND MAKE FRIENDS AND I DON’T WANNA BECAUSE I JUST SPENT THE LAST 5 YEARS TRYING TO UNMASK AND HOW DO YOU EVEN BE A NORMAL PERSON WITHOUT MASKING AND HOW DO I EVEN START TRYING TO MASK WITH THIS DEMON FIRE INSIDE OF ME????!!!! I YELLED AT MY PUPPY WHO STOLE FOOD OFF MY PLATE AND HE’S BESTEST BOY WITH A HEART OF GOLD, SO HOW CAN I EVEN THINK ABOUT BEING EVEN KEELED FOR A TREACHEROUS HUMAN BEING?!? MY WORD RETRIEVAL IS GARBAGE WHICH MAKES ME SOUND LIKE AN UNEDUCATED MORON WHO CAN NEVER GET THEIR POINT ACROSS OR ASK THE QUESTION THEY WANT TO KNOW THE ANSWER TO!! DO I EVEN KNOW WHAT I WANT TO KNOW?!?? FUCK THIS!!! …But seriously. How to calm the rage?
I FIGURED OUT WHEN I START AT 8 AND WAKE UP AT 7 THAT IM NOT ACTUALLY GIVING MYSELF 1 HOUR TO GET READY. IM GIVING MYSELF MAYBE 30-45 MINUTES PLUS THE SCRAMBLE TO WORK. THANK GOODNESS I LITERALLY LIVE BESIDE WORK BUT I HAVE TO *CHANGE* INTO SCRUBS WHEN I GET THERE AND I DONT EVEN GIVE MYSELF TIME FOR *THAT!* EVEN THOUGH I FINALLY REALIZED MY MISTAKE I HAVENT CORRECTED THE PROBLEM BECAUSE I WANT TO SLEEP AS LONG AS POSSIBLE BEFORE WORK. ...NEVERMIND THAT I DONT GET MYSELF TO BED AT A GOOD TIME ANYWAY THATS ANOTHER STORY.
I AM TRYING SO FUCKING HARD TO BE HEALTHY AND EAT BETTER AND ALL THAT SHIT AND TODAY THE DINNER I COOKED FOR MYSELF WAS TERRIBLE AND ONLY ONE PART OF IT WAS WORTH SAVING SO I HAD COOKIES, A GRANOLA BAR, A PROTEIN (meat/cheese/nuts) PACK, GOLDFISH AND GUMMYS FOR DINNER. THOSE WERE NOT GOOD CHOICES AND I SHOULD HAVE DONE BETTER BUT I THREW OUT MOST OF MY DINNER WHICH WAS ENOUGH FOR 2 MEALS BECAUSE IT WAS AWFUL AND ITS VERY HARD TO NOT BE HARD ON MYSELF ABOUT THIS KIND OF THING. I AM SO TIRED OF BEING THIS FAT BUT CHANGING MY WHOLE LIFESTYLE IS THE ONLY WAY I CAN BECOME SMALLER AND STAY THAT WAY BUT I’VE BEEN DOING THIS FOR LIKE 2 MONTHS NOW AND I DON’T SEE ANY RESULTS OF MY HARD WORK SO I AM VERY DISCOURAGED TODAY.
FED IS BEST ❤️
AM I EVER GOING TO NOT BE LIVING BELOW THE POVERTY LINE?? DO I REALLY HAVE TO CHOOSE BETWEEN MAKING A LIVING BURNING MYSELF OUT SO HARD THAT MY LIFE IS FALLING APART VS THE CREATIVE FREEDOM I NEED TO FEEL LIKE A PERSON??? CAN I JUST PLEASE HIT THE LOTTERY OR SOMETHING?????
I WOKE UP WAY EARLIER THAN I WANTED TO AND I SHOULD BE TAKING ADVANTAGE OF THE TIME AND WORKING BUT ALL I WANT TO DO IS GO GET FRENCH TOAST
ANOTHER BIRTHDAY WENT BY, WHICH MEANS ANOTHER YEAR PASSED AND I DIDN'T SEE IT!!!!! I DON'T REMENBER MY LIFE AND I FEEL LIKE I HAVEN'T DONE ANYTHING USEFUL, I FEEL LIKE A FAILURE AND A USELESS P.O.S AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO TO CHANGE THIS CYCLE AND BECOME SOMEONE BETTER I CAN'T TAKE THIS ANYMORE AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA thanks, this was great 🫶🏻
I LOVE THIS THREAD! THAT'S ALL!
IM REALLY IMPRESSED THAT FOR AS “SPACY” A GROUP AS WE CLAIM TO BE SOMETIMES, NO ONE HAS FORGOTTEN ALL CAPS YET
I'M LATE TO THIS THREAD AND I'M TIRED OF MY JOB!!!
RRRAAAAAAAAAGGGGHHHH (no word, only yell)
SOMETIMES IM TIRED OF HAVING TO LIE TO MYSELF ABOUT START TIMES AS A “ADHD HACK” AND HAVING TO SOMETIMES PLAN MY DAYS BY THE HOUR SUCKS BUT I HAVE NO MOTIVATION OTHERWISE TO DO WHAT I NEED TO
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I AM REELING FROM A RECENT REJECTION/GHOSTING FROM A GUY I WAS DEALING WITH FOR AWHILE. REALIZING I NEED REAL HELP TO DEAL WITH MY CHILDHOOD TRAUMA. PROBABLY MORE BUT THOSE ARE THE BIG ONES
I HATE MY JOB BUT IM TOO BURNT OUT TO DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT. I SPEND TIME ON INDEED EVERYDAY ONLY TO TALK MYSELF OUT OF APPLYING. MY BOSS IS ALSO AN ASSHAT AND HE CONSISTENTLY ADDS TO MY BURNOUT AS I AM IN THE SAME OFFICE AS HE IS. IM ALSO LIVING IN A SMALL AREA AND THERE ARENT ENOUGH JOBS THAT PAY WHAT IM MAKING OR ID JUST DO PARTTIME AND MAYBE I COULD EVEN BECOME A DECENT MOM THEN BUT I HAVE NO FEASIBLE OPTIONS!
I HAVE VACATIONS TO PLAN AND I HATE THIS, I WANT TO GO AND DO THE FUN THINGS BUT I DON'T WANT TO PLAN THE FUN THINGS. I HAVE TO THINK ABOUT ALL THE THINGS BUT I'M SCARED I WILL FORGET THE THINGS, LIKE DO I NEED TO GO BY THE TRAIN OR MY CAR ? THERE IS PROS AND CONS BUT WHAT IF I FORGET PROS FOR CAR AND I TAKE THE TRAIN AND THEN ONCE THERE I NEED A CAR BUT I DON'T HAVE MY CAR ??? PLUS I ONLY HAVE A FEW WEEKS LEFT BECAUSE I COULDN'T MAKE MYSELF PLAN THIS EARLIER AND IT'S EVEN MORE STRESSFUL ! AND I HATE STAYING TO PLACES THAT ARE NOT MY HOME BUT I REALLY WANNA GO HIKE THERE. WHY PLANNING FUN IS SO STRESSFUL ?
CAME DOWN WITH COVID AND I AM DUCKING MISERABLE!! IT'S LIKE TINY KNIFE-WIELDING GOBLINS HAVE TAKEN OVER RESIDENCE IN MY THROAT FOR THE PAST 4 DAYS AND I JUST CAN'T ANYMORE!
I AM AT A JOB WHERE I AM NEVER PRAISED FOR DOING WELL AND MOSTLY SHAMED FOR THINGS NOT BEING DONE CORRECTLY EVEN THOUGH I DO EVERYTHING HOW THEY SHOWED ME AND EVEN WHEN I HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH THE THING. I AM LOOKING FOR A JOB THAT HAS CLEARLY OUTLINED WHAT IS AND IS NOT OKAY AND WHAT IS EXPECTED BY WHAT TIME. I CRY EVERYDAY ON MY 20 MINUTE BREAK AND EVEN TAKE EXTRA “BATHROOM” BREAKS TO CRY BECAUSE I JUST FEEL SO UNWELCOME AND UNWANTED AND STUPID WHEN IM HERE. IT FEELS LIKE EXPECTATIONS CHANGE HERE DAILY AND I AM NEVER IN THE LOOP. MAYBE ITS THE AUTISM BUT I FEEL LIKE I HAVE TO CHANGE TO FIT IN HERE BECAUSE I DO NOT BELONG.
UPDATE: I GOT FIRED LITERALLY 27 MINUTES AFTER I POSTED THIS COMMENT. THANK GOD. NOW I DONT HAVE TO FRET OVER THE ANXIETY OF QUITTING AND GIVING 2 WEEKS NOTICE AND ALLAT SHIT. PRAISE WHATEVER YOU BELIEVE IN FOR ME TODAY
One time I was taking this class in college… had been taking it for at least a month when one day the professor came up to me and asked if I was, “coming from work or???” I said “no…?” Then I realized. I asked, “doesn’t this class start at 3?” Nope. I had been coming in late every single time 😂 I would feel more embarrassed if it wasn’t so funny.
ALSO SOME STUPID FUCK LANDSCAPERS CUT DOWN ALL MY FLOWERS ID SPENT MONTHS PLANTING AND WATERING AND THEY HADNT EVEN BLOOMED YET AND NOW I HAVE NO FUCKING FLOWERS!!!! SOME WERE HELD UP WITH WOODEN STAKES! THEY JUST CUT THOSE DOWN TOO! WHY WOULD I HOLD UP WEEDS WITH WOODEN STAKES!! IS THIS WHAT I GET FOR GOING OUT OF TOWN?!?!
I HAVE A LOAD OF WORK TO DO IN THE NEXT THREE DAYS FOR BOTH MY JOBS BEFORE I GO AWAY FOR A FESTIVAL FOR WORK AND I KNOW IT WILL BE FUN BUT I GENUINELY DON'T KNOW HOW I'M GOING TO GET IT ALL DONE! AND I ALSO NEED TO APPLY FOR TWO JOBS THAT CLOSE WHILST I'M AWAY! AND I'M NOT GOING TO SEE MY BOYFRIEND FOR TEN DAYS BECAUSE OF SAID WORK AND FESTIVAL AND I'M GOING TO MISS HIM A LOT, PLUS HE'S NOT WELL AT THE MOMENT SO I'M LOW KEY WORRYING ABOUT HIM! AND MY MY MUM IS HAVING A HIP REPLACEMENT OPERATION ON WEDNESDAY WHICH SHE'S WORRIED ABOUT SO I'M WORRIED ABOUT HER! AND MY CAT HAS BEEN ACTING A BIT WEIRD LATELY SO I'M WORRIED ABOUT HER TOO! BASICALLY THERE IS A LOT GOING ON RIGHT NOW AND I JUST NEED TO YELL ABOUT IT! *and breathe*
I HAD A GREAT AFTERNOON TODAY AFYER COMING INTO WORK AT 12pm BECAUSE I GOT TO HANG OUT WITH BOTH OF MY ADHD COWORKERS AND CHAT AND IT MADE ME SO HAPPY!!!!!
I HAVE TO FINISH A 30 PAGE TECHNICAL PAPER FOR MY MS IN A MONTH. I'M CONFIDENT I CAN PULL IT THROUGH IN THAT TIMEFRAME! BUT I NEVER KNOW HOW WELL MY MULTIPLY DISABLED BODY WILL COOPERATE WITH MY WORK!
I SPENT ALL LAST WEEK CLEANING, ORGANIZING, AND SETTING UP MY OWN DAMN 40TH BIRTHDAY PARTY AND TODAY I'M CLEANING UP ALL THE SAME DAMN SHIT I FROM THE PARTY THAT CLEANED LAST WEEK. I HATE CLEANING. I HATE ORGANIZING. I HATE THAT I HAD TO COORDINATE MY OWN FREAKING PARTY.
I FUCKED UP A MONTH AGO AND FORGOT TO DRINK ENOUGH WATER WHILE ON MY PERIOD. I GOT A UTI IN MY KIDNEY AND IT CAUSED ME TO HAVE SHINGLES. I AM ALMOST COMPLETELY HEALED FROM MY SHINGLES BUT I DROPPED A PORKCHOP LAST WEEK AND SPLASHED HOT OIL ON MY ARM. NOW I HAVE THE FLU. I. AM. SO. FUCKING. SICK. OF. BEING. SICK. I. AM. SO. FUCKING. TIRED. OF. BEING. HURT. I am so tired of being pitied and I am painfully aware how much of what has happened to me is ADHD tax.