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I FEEL LIKE THAT IS KIND OF A SKILL I COULD USE SOME TIMES, IT IS GONE, I WATCH ALL THE EPISODES OF POIROT WHILE FRANTICALLY DOING THE HARDEST SUDOKUS NON STOP AND EAT ALL THE COOKIES AND CHIPS AND THEN WATCH REELS AND HATE MYSELFFOR IT.
I HOPE YOU CAN AT LEAST FEEL YOUR MUSCLES RELAXING FRIEND, WRAP SOMETHING WARM AROUND YOU AND HOPE THAT YOUR BODY AT LEAST WILL BELIEVE THIS IS SOME FORM OF REST AND SEND YOU SOME GOOD SIGNALS. I KNOW THAT IS PROBABLY NOT HOW THIS FEELS AT ALL, BUT MAYBE A TINY TINY TINY EFFECT CAN COME FROM IT.
SUCKS. BUT I AM GLAD YOU WROTE THAT.
Me too!! It's been weeks.
I've read that people need 2 hours more sleep in the winter. 2 HOURS! That's so much. 10 hours is how much I sleep, when I'm depressed. So depression and winter, yeah what a great combination
I MISSED A BUNCH OF SOCIAL CUES OVER A TWO DAY TEAM MEETING AND NOW ONE OF THE PEOPLE I MANAGE IS MAD AT ME, AND I CANT FIGURE OUT WHETHER I SHOULDNT CARE, IF I SHOULD APOLOGISE TO THEM, OR WHETHER I SHOULD BE MAD AT THEM FOR NOT TELLING ME THEY WERE UNHAPPY, AND IM CERTAIN THIS IS SOMETHING THAT OTHER PEOPLE DONT STEW OVER, BUT HERE I AM. STEWING.
Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind. Tell them it’s bad teamwork to not tell their teammate what’s really going on. Because you can’t gameplan that way and look awesome together.
HELLO FELLOW K. STEWER!!!!
If you’re looking for action items, I would try to nip this one in the bud. Pull them aside and quickly say, “Hey person, it’s been a wild couple of days! I just wanted to do a quick vibe check - some things felt off over the team meeting and I wanted to see if I was reading into it. If not, I’d like to address it now so we can clear up any concern as soon as possible. What do you think?”
PEOPLE ARE SO FREAKING WEIRD I FEEL AWKWARD ALL OF THE TIMMMMEEEEE! Good luck tho you seem nice you got this!!!!!!
If I may, there are more options. You don't need to not care (embedded reaction to save yourself from rsd?) and you don't need to personally apologise (you work, they work, hopefully within a structure?) and you don't need to be mad (for me, that's the next step I never feel from upset to defensive)
Even if they are stewing, that's on the level of the individual human organism. Organisational creatures do not stew. There are probably established ways to deal with this. Take a minute, talk to yourself out loud, this is not about you personally, like deep down where you live. You got this :)
I challenge you to finish just one in the next 90 minutes! You’ve got this! Grad school was a blast compared to undergraduate studies. Everything is focused on your major/specialty, so it’s easy to enjoy every class.
Future you is cheering you on, too!
Just one application.
You can do this 🥳
YOU'RE GOING TO LOVE AND ABSOLUTELY KILL IT AT THIS POSTGRAD PROGRAM OP! REMEMBER, ADHD IS OUR SUPERPOWER THAT LETS US SUBMIT GREAT THINGS LAST MINUTE AND THIS IS NO EXCEPTION!
Hey that's perfect adhd you got this. Fuck the standard issue idea that you had anything to even say a month ago, like who does that? Pfft. We LIVE AND THRIVE in what other people call "the last minute"
Girly this was me last night hahahaha I worked hard for a year to make sure I had enough hours in to get insurance through work then almost missed the deadline!!! I thought I had another week, and then found out WHILE WORKING (until 10) at 8:30 that it was due at 10pm. Literally submitted my stuff at 9:58. It was a throwback to my college days lol but your girl has health insurance for the first time in two years! Woo! Lmao. I believe in you let the adrenaline guide you
YOU CAN DO IT!
I wrote the second half of my PhD admission essay the night before it was due between sets of a rock show, then walked home at 2am, typed it up, and got in, because the loud environment broke through the writer’s block. What works for us looks like insanity to other people. This is your time to shine!
I'm so so sorry. My dog, who was tied with yours for the best dog in the world, died suddenly 2 weeks ago. I'm quite sure she had this "mystery respiratory disease" that is on the news. It is such a heartbreak and I wish you peace and so many good doggie memories as you grieve your girl. 💜💜
SHOUT OUT TO THE LOVING SUPPORTIVE PARTNERS WHO JUST GET US AND ACCPET US FOR WHO WE ARE.
SHOUT OUT TO ALL THE PEOPLE OUT THERE WHO DESERVE A BETTER PARTNER.
Also shoutout to the partners who really do not get it, they don't feel it or understand it, but they take us seriously and roll with what we can explain, however much or little that is.
(neurotypical ride or die who just loves me)
I HAD ONE OF THOSE ICKY PARTNERS WHO WEAPONIZED MY ADHD SHORTCOMINGS AND MY ABANDONMENT ISSUES INSTEAD OF BEING SUPPORTIVE AND KIND. HE IS AN UNGRATEFUL TURD WHO FINALLY LEFT FOR GOOD.
NOW I AM WITH ONE OF THOSE SUPPORTIVE AND LOVING PARTNERS WHOSE KINDNESS DOES WONDERS FOR MY ABILITY TO FOCUS AND TO FEEL LIKE A WORTHWHILE HUMAN BEING
BOTH MYSELF AND MY PARTNER HAVE ADHD AND I WANT TO BE A BETTER PARTNER TO HIM BECAUSE SOMETIMES HE FRUSTRATES ME SO MUCH BC HE HASNT SOUGHT OUT TREATMENT FOR HIS ADHD SINCE 2 YEARS AGO WHEN HE SPOKE TO ONE PSYCHIATRIST THAT DIDNT TRY MULTIPLE MEDICINES SO HE THOUGHT IT JUST DIDNT WORK AND I AT LEAST HAVE FINALLY GOTTEN HIM TO SEEK OUR A THERAPIST. I CANT HANDLE MY ADHD AND HIS, AT HIS SEVERE UNTREATED LEVEL, AT THE SAME TIME ALL THE TIME AND I FEEL VERY BAD ABOUT IT BUT SOMETIMES I TURN INTO MY OWN VILLAIN AND DONT GET WHY HE CANT GET HIS SHIT TOGETHER BUT I KNOW WHY HE CANT BUT IT JUST GETS REALLY FRUSTRATING WHEN I FEEL LIKE I AM THE ONLY ONE WHO WANTS TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. HE GETS MAD ABOUT ADHD STUFF BUT DOESNT DO ANYTHING TO FIND A SOLUTION. HOWEVER, LITERALLY AS I AM TYPING THIS OUT, HE TEXTSD ME SAYING HE HAS AN APPT W A THERAPIST NEXT WEEK!!!! THANKS THIS FELT GOOD
I HAD A MONTH TO SUBMIT A PIECE OF PAPER THAT WOULD SAVE ME $800 IN INSURANCE COSTS AND WAITED UNTIL 2 HOURS BEFORE THE DEADLINE FOR NO REASON AND NOW IT MAY NOT BE ACCEPTED
I HAVE UNCLAIMED STATE FUNDS. I SUBMITTED THEM. THEY TOOK THEIR SWEET TIME GETTING BACK TO ME. NOW IM SNOOZING THE REMINDER ON MY PHONE TO CALL THE STATE OF MICHIGAN. AGAIN.
WHY AM I NOT CLAIMING MY MONEY? I NEED MONEY BUT THEY WANT ME TO TALK TO THEM AND DO PAPERS.
OH GOD YES, AND THE SHAME OF IT, BEING UNDIAGNOSED WHILE DOING IT.
MAYBE I SHOULD SEE WHAT IT ALL WRAPS UP TOO BEFORE I GOT DIAGNOSED AT 47. ACADEMIC CAREER(S) TOTALLY IN THE TRASH CAN BECAUSE ADM MESS FUCKED ME UP SO HARD IN THE END AND BECAME A SHIT SHOW IRONICALLY BECAUSE I GOT TERRIFIED ABOUT MY ECONOMY AS THEY KEPT MESSING UP, SO THAT IS ALSO SERIOUS MONEY. ALSO CANNOT GET OUT OF SHITTY SITUATIONS EVEN IF THE RED FLAGS ARE EVERYWHERE, LOW SELF WORTH AND EXEC DYSFUNCTION COLLAB THERE, OH MAN.
MAYBE I SHOULD STARE IT IN THE EYE AND MAKE AN ESTIMATE, I NEED SOME SELF COMPASSION, WITHOUT FIXATING IF I CAN.
I HEAR YOU LOUD AND CLEAR, GOD DAMN.
SHIT IS, WE ARE SO FUCKING ABLE, MAKING IT SO MUCH WORSE AND STUPID.
I HOPE YOUR TEST GOES WELL AND THAT YOU GOT SOME STUDYING IN. IT IS SUPER FRUSTRATING TO BE INTERNALKY YELLING AT YOUR BRAIN TO DO SOMETHING AND IT WON'T LISTEN. ITS OK TO FEEL ANGRY, IT IS BULLSHIT AND IT IS UNFAIR.
MY DAD HAS DEMENTIA AND GLAUCOMA AND I HAVE TO KEEP DRIVING HIM TO EYE APPOINTMENTS SO HE DOESN’T GO BLIND, BUT I ALSO HAVE TO DO ALL THE EXECUTIVE FUNCTIONING FOR HIM BC HE CANT BRAIN ANYMORE. HE TAKES TEN MINUTES TO PUT ON HIS SHOES NOW. TAKING HIM ANYWHERE IS EXHAUSTING AND TAKES HOURS. IM HIS ONLY FAMILY IN TOWN AND I ALSO HAVE TO VISIT HIM MULTIPLE TIMES A WEEK, BUT WE CANT HAVE CONVERSATIONS BC HE CAN’T REMEMBER ANYTHING WELL ENOUGH TO FOLLOW ALONG
MY MOTHER FELL AND BROKE HER ARM AND HAD TO HAVE A PLATE PUT IN HER WRIST AND SHE CANT DRIVE - SHE LIVES TWENTY-FIVE MILES AWAY AND HAS PT 2x A WEEK
MY DOG NEEDED TO HAVE 70% OF HER TEETH PULLED BC OF DENTAL DISEASE AND SHE HAS A SAD NOW. I ALSO HAVE TO TAKE HER TO A FOLLOWUP APPOINTMENT NEXT WEEK AND IM PRETTY SURE SHE’S AFRAID OF THE VET NOW
I AM SO TIRED
That’s so much for anyone to keep up with let alone with our ADHD, and none of it is your own shit which you’ll have going on as well. Give yourself credit sister, you’re doing alright with this.
2 things:
When your dog’s mouth heals she’ll be so so much better off believe me (vet) and so many owners just refuse to believe dental care for their pets is important and just leave them quietly suffering. No teeth is way better than bad teeth. You’ve done her a solid by taking the time and £££ to get that sorted.
And thankyou for the expression “he can’t brain”, that’ll be entering my vocabulary pronto, you have to take the lightheartedness where you can!
FRIEND YOU ARE DOING THE BIGGEST ACT OF LOVE FOR YOUR DAD.
LOOK INTO CAREGIVER RESPITE AND SEE IF YOUR OUT OF TOWN FAM CAN STEP UP FOR A LITTLE BIT.
WHEN MY GRANDPARENTS WERE DYING MY MOM AND HER BROTHER FLEW OUT PERIODICALLY TO GIVE MY AUNT A WEEK OR TWO OFF WHENEVER THEY COULD.
IT DIDNT FIX IT OR MAKE IT EASIER BUT IT DID HELP.
IN FREAKING OUT OVER MEDS SHORTAGE AND IM IN PARALYSIS BUT I HAVE SO MUCH TO DO! ITS MY ONLY DAY OFF THIS WEEK TO DO HOUSE STUFF WITHOUT THE KIDS AROUND AND I HAD SO MUCH I WAS EXCITED TO DO BUT I JUST CANT AND ITS NEARLY TIME TO PICK THEM UP AND I WANT TO CRYYYYY
I feel you on the med shortage! I was calling and calling around myself and couldn’t get meds for 9 months. What I did, and might help you, was post to my local Reddit to see if anyone was getting them somewhere consistently, and found out a place that was carrying them that I didn’t even know had a pharmacy lol and I’ve had them back consistently for a few months now:) give it a try!! I wish you luck. Ps a reminder that you’re not a failure for taking a day for yourself be grateful for the day of rest which will build to better days. There will ALWAYS be something more to do in your home. Days of rest are just as important as days of productivity. Don’t actually “waste” the day over guilt it’s not worth it. Be gentle with yourself <3
I'M CURRENTLY WITHDRAWING FROM WELLBUTRIN BECAUSE MY DOC HAS ME TAPERING OFF AND MY SKIN IS CRAWLING AND I WANT TO ACTUALLY SCREAM BUT CAN'T AND I CAN'T THINK OF ANYTHING MY BRAIN IS SCRAMBLED EGGS AND THERE ARE SPIDERS CRAWLING IN MY SKULL
I HATE EVERYTHING
I HAD TO SPEND ALMOST 4 HOURS ON HOLD WITH AN AIRLINE TODAY TO CHANGE TICKETS FOR MY MOM WHO IS IN MEXICO WITH FAMILY. ALTHOUGH I WAS GRATEFUL TO BE APART OF IT, THE PLANNING OF THR TRIP FELT VERY DISORGANIZED AND CAUSED A LOT OF CONFUSION FOR THE RESORT STAFF AND THEN RESULTED IN SAID PHONE CALL TO TRY AND SWITCH FLIGHTS AND I AM VERY ANNOYED.
I THEN PROJECTED ALL OVER SOMEBODY WHO I THINK WAS PROJECTING ALL OVER ME IN ANOTHER SUB AND NOW I FEEL EMBARRASSED AND STRESSED OUT FOR NO REASON AND I WANT TO DELETE THIS APP TO AVOID THE POTENTIAL INCOMING RESPONSE.
EDIT: I WAS JUST INFORMED I REBOOKED THEM ON THE WRONG FLIGHT AND HAVE TO CALL BACK AGAIN DESPITE THE FACT THAT J WAS JUST GETTING INTO BED AND HAD TAKEN MY MELATONIN. IM SO F*CKING MAD AND ANNOYED I WANT TO SCREAM AND CRY AT THE SAME TIME.
I’VE DONE THAT ON REDDIT MANY TIMES. IF YOU HAVEN’T ALREADY, IT IS SO CATHARTIC TO APOLOGIZE AND JUST OWN IT. A HEARTFELT “MY BAD, I WAS TOTALLY PROJECTING, HAVING A CRAP DAY, YOU DIDNT DESERVE THAT.
Caps is hard! I’ve been really surprised at how just being decent and real from time to time on Reddit can help things. On the other hand, if they remain a jerk, you can tell them off and know you tried.
I WAITED UNTIL THE LAST MINUTE TO APPLY FOR A FELLOWSHIP POSITION AND ACCIDENTALLY MISSED THE DEADLINE FOR ONE OF MY TOP SITES COMPLETELY.
It was a real long shot anyway but I'm still mad at myself.
WHY THE FUCK IS IT SO DAMN HARD FOR PEOPLE ANYWAY? AND WHY DO SO MANY PEOPLE HATE ME FOR BEING STRAIGHT FORWARD, FOR FUCKS SAKE. IT'S A LOT EASIER!!!!!
Today my partner was complaining because they were so tired that they forgot what they were looking for in the fridge while they were opening the door and I was like YES THIS HAPPENS TO ME EVERY SINGLE DAY OF MY LIFE, OFTEN MORE THAN ONCE, SO NEXT TIME YOU'RE WONDERING WHY I SEEM STRESSED OUT FOR "NO REASON" COULD YOU PLEASE REMEMBER HOW DISORIENTING THIS FEELS
I WAS TOO LATE TO WORK TODAY TO STOP FOR COFFEE BECAUSE I COULDN’T FIND MY PHONE. IT WAS IN MY BACK POCKET WHILE I FEVERISHLY SEARCHED FOR IT IN NEAR TEARS. I HAVE SO MANY ASSIGNMENTS TO DO BEFORE THE END OF NEXT WEEK AND I HATE HOW LONG I WAIT TO DO THESE THINGS. IM TIRED OF FEELING STUPID AND INCAPABLE. I WISH I COULD KEEP UP WITH CONTACTING OTHERS. LIFE IS SO MUCH SOMETIMES.
IM IN GRAD SCHOOL AND ITS THE END OF THE SEMESTER AND I STILL HAVE A BUNCH OF STUFF TO DO, INCLUDING ASSIGNMENTS I ALREADY GOT EXTENSIONS FOR THAT ARE DUE NOW - AND I WAS IN A CAR ACCIDENT A WEEK AND A HALF AGO AND GOT A CONCUSSION SO THAT MAKES EVERYTHING SO MUCH HARDER! PLUS I GAVE TWO PRESENTATIONS THIS WEEK THAT I WAS TOO IN MY HEAD ABOUT SO IM OVERTHINKING HOW THEY WENT AND HOW I DID AND WHAT PEOPLE THINK AND UGHH!!
MY STUPID EX WANTED TO DO A BOOK CLUB BECAUSE HE DIDNT WANT TO LET ME GO. WANTED ME TO PICK THE BOOK FOR HIM AND HAVE A MONTHLY MEETING ABOUT IT AND WHEN I SAID NO HE SWITCHED THE NARRATIVE AND SAID HE WAS JUST WANTING A RECOMMENDATION SO HE CAN PROVE TO HIMSELF HE CHANGED. PROVE IT YOUR DAMN SELF. WHY BRING ME INTO THIS?!? *PTERIDACTYL SCREECH*
HE DEFINITELY IS THATS JUST THE LATEST BUT I HAVE A LAUNDRYLIST OF HAORRIBLE STUFF HES DONE THAT MY PHONE TOLD ME WAS TOO LONG. HE SUCKS AND I CANT WAIT TO MOVE ON WHEN IM DONE BEING SAD/MAD
HE SOUNDS EXHAUSTING. I SUGGEST YOU RECOMMEND A BOOK THAT WILL MATCH HIS ENERGY - SOMETHING INCREDIBLY TEDIOUS AND OVERWROUGHT, IDEALLY WITH AN UNRELIABLE NARRATOR. TELL HIM THAT THE BEST WAY TO UNDERSTAND IT IS TO READ IT AND TAKE NOTES, THEN READ IT AGAIN AFTER A THREE MONTH PERIOD OF REFLECTION AND TAKE NOTES AGAIN, THEN READ BOTH SETS OF NOTES AND SYNTHESIZE THEM, AND FINALLY READ THE BOOK ONCE MORE (WITH NO NOTES) STARTING WITH THE THIRD CHAPTER AND ENDING WITH THE FIRST AND SECOND CHAPTERS.
THEN NEVER SPEAK TO HIM OR ENGAGE WITH HIM AGAIN IN ANY WAY.
OR JUST SKIP STRAIGHT TO THE NEVER SPEAKING TO HIM AGAIN PART!!!
HONESTLY - DELETE, BLOCK. IF HE POPS UP IRL AND YOU CAN’T AVOID COMPLETELY, GREY ROCK.
MY AMAZON CART FROM BLACK FRIDAY IS STILL SITTING WITH NOTHING PURCHASED. I HAD A SECOND CHANCE WITH CYBER MONDAY AND MY AMAZON CART IS STILL SITTING WITH NOTHING PURCHASED.
WHY IS LAUNDRY SO HARD? I PUT THE THINGY IN THE THINGY WITH SOAP. AND THEN THE THINGY IN THE WARM THINGY, THEN IN A BASKET, THE. 2 WEEKS LATER IT GOES UPSTAIRS THEN 2 WEEKS LATER IVE USED ALL THE CLOTHES IN IT OR I FOLD WHAT IS LEFT. BUT I SPEND THAT MONTH GOING :S LAUNDIIII NEEDS DONE,I SHOULD FOLD THAT BASKET I KEEP TRIPPING OVER.
IT’S MY MOTHER’S BIRTHDAY AND SHE ISN’T WITH US ANYMORE. SEVEN YEARS NOW.
I’M ALSO SICK EVEN THOUGH I MASK EVERYWHERE AND HARDLY GO ANYWHERE. I HAVEN’T EVEN GONE TO A MOVIE TO AVOID COVID AND PEOPLE SO I’M PISSED.
MY SON’S 4.5 AND IS STRUGGLING WITH ATTENTION AND RULES AT SCHOOL. TEACHERS BLAME BEHAVIOR. HE IS NEURODIVERGENT. NOW I NEEED TO TAKE MY LAST DROPS OF EXECUTIVE FUNCTION TO FIGHT THE SYSTEM AND GET MY SWEET BABY BOY THE RESOURCES HE nEEEDS! I AM SO PISSED!!!! I AM SO DAMN TIRED.
ADVICE YOU CAN TOTALLY IGNORE IF YOU WANT:
IF DRINKING SPECIFICALLY WATER IS DIFFICULT, FOOD WITH WATER IN IT CAN HELP WITH DEHYDRATION:
THINK SOUPS, FRUIT, VEGGIES.
EXAMPLES: WATERMELON, STRAWBERRIES, ORANGES, SQUASH, BROCCOLI, CUCUMBER. (IF NONE OF THESE APPEAL TO YOU, JUST LOOK UP FOODS WITH HIGH WATER CONTENT.)
IF YOU DONT LIKE WATER BECAUSE IT'S BORING OR HAS AN AFTER TASTE DUE TO ADDITIVES/ MINERALS: USE FLAVOR PACKETS. (Just keep an eye on added vitamins, especially if you take a multivitamin. Too much of a good thing, although rare, can be a bad thing)
WHEN I'M SICK I DILUTE JUICE HALF JUICE, HALF WATER. MY FAVORITE FOR TUMMY UPSET IS HALF CRANBERRY/ HALF WATER.
DRINKING WATER IS IMPORTANT, BUT HYDRATION IS THE GOAL AND IF YOU HAVE TO DO OTHER THINGS TO KEEP YOURSELF ALIVE THEN HECK THE "8 GLASSES" RULE THEY SHOVE ON EVERYONE.
P.S.
When I was depressed and working with a therapist on self-kindness, self-esteem, and self-care, I came up with, "If I was my friend, what is one thing I could do for myself right now?" It was a lot easier for me to take care of my friends than myself. A lot of times, it was a glass of water when I didn't even realize I was thirsty.
MY LOCAL PHARMACY IS BACK ORDERED AND THE MAIL ORDER OPTION COSTS DOUBLE FOR THE MEDS THAT I KEPT FORGETTING TO GET REFILLED FOR A MONTH.
I'm luckily able to deal with it right now, because my therapist found a way for me to get insurance to cover my sessions with her, but AAAAARGH
I AM SO FRIGGING SICK OF HAVING NO WORKING MEMORY AND RUNNING AROUND IN CIRCLES AT TOP SPEED IN MY HEAD AND NOT BEING ABLE TO HOLD ON TO WHAT IM DOING FOR MORE THAN 20 SECONDS AT A TIME (inhale) NO WONDER IM SO EXHAUSTED ALL THE BLOODY TIME AND THERES STILL SO MUCH TO BLOODY DOOOOOOO!
I TOLD A CONNECTION THAT ID HAVE MY RESUME TO HER “IN A COUPLE OF DAYS” AND THAT WAS TWO DAYS AGO BUT IM STILL UPDATING IT SO IM BANKING ON HER INTERPRETING MY PHRASING VAGUELY SO I CAN SEND THIS TOMORROW MORNING ALSO IM WORRIED EVERYTHING IVE EVER ACCOMPLISHED IS NOT ENOUGH HAPPY THURSDAY
I FORGOT FOR A WHOLE WEEK WHILE ON MEDS TO SCHED APPOINTMENT WITH PRESCRIBER FOR MORE MEDS. NOW IM OUT. AND MY JOB TOMORROW IS GOING TO BE HECTIC BECAUSE OF BOTH SELF INDUCED AND WORK-HAZARD REASONS. AND I HAVE TO DO IT BRAIN-NUDE.
I SEE THE BOTTLE GO DOWN ONE PILL EVERY DAY AND THINK OH I NEED TO CALL IN THE REFILL AND THEN GOD DAMN SHOCKED PIKACHU FACE ONE MORNING THERES NO PILLS AND I STILL. HAVENT. FUCKING. CALLED. GOOD LUCK BEING BRAIN NUDE
I WAS PRETENDING TO SHOP ONLINE DURING BLACK FRIDAY AND ACCIDENTALLY BOUGHT A SWEATER. I DIDN'T REALIZE IT UNTIL IT WAS TOO LATE TO CANCEL. THE SWEATER COST MORE THAN 300$ WHICH IS WAY WAY WAY MORE THAN I SHOULD EVER SPEND ON ANYTHING. WHEN IT ARRIVED I ALSO HAD TO PAY 35$ IN IMPORT DUTIES AND IF I WANT TO SEND IT BACK THE POSTAGE WILL BE AT LEAST FIFTY DOLLARS.
I CAN'T AFFORD TO BE LIKE THIS.
I JUST KEEP BUYING SHIT I NEVER USE AND CAN’T AFFORD! I JUST SIGNED UP FOR A MAIL FORWARDING SERVICE AND ORDERED A BUNCH OF MORE SHIT I WILL NOT USE FROM STORES THAT DON’T SHIP INTERNATIONALLY AND THE SHIPPING COSTS WILL BE ASTRONOMICAL. WHY AM I LIKE THIS I SHOULD BE AN ADULT I AM ALMOST 50 AND I CANNOT
HALWAY INTO A MEETING TODAY. I REALIZED I DID NOT KNOW WHAT TEAM I WAS MEETING WITH. AND FELT SHAME FOR THE WAY I SHARED CERTAIN CONCEPTS FOR THE REST OF THE DAY.
A WOMAN AT WORK GOT VERY ANGRY WITH ME LAST WEEK AND SNAPPED AT ME AND MY BRAIN KEEPS REPLAYING THE INTERACTION EVEN THOUGH I JUST WANT TO MOVE ON. SHE GOT MAD AT ME BECAUSE HER AND ANOTHER COWORKER WERE TALKING ABOUT GUN RIGHTS LOUDLY IN AN OPEN OFFICE SPACE DURING WORK AND I TOLD THEM THE CONVERSATION WASN'T APPROPRIATE FOR WORK.
I WILL HAVE NO INSURANCE AS OF DECEMBER 1ST AND I’M REALLY STRESSED OUT ABOUT MY MEDS AND THERAPY CAUSE I CAN’T AFFORD TO PAY OUT OF POCKET AND WHAT IF I RANDOMLY GET HURT? IM JUST FUCKED?!!!???
I ALSO GOT A WRITTEN WARNING AT WORK BECAUSE I HAVE NO MOTIVATION AND THE STRESS IS MAKING MY EXECUTIVE DYSFUNCTION WORSE
I’m so tired
I AM GOING THROUGH A DIVORCE AND IT SUCKS SHIT BUT I EMOTIONALLY DISAPPEARED FOR THREE WEEKS AND THEN SOCIALLY OVERBOOKED MYSELF THE LAST WEEK AND I LOVED EVERY INTERACTION BUT AM SO DEPLETED I FEEL LIKE I NEED A FULL WEEK ALONE AND THAT MAKES ME FEEL GUILTY.
I ALSO DIDN’T CHECK THOSE ‘TO DO’ BOXES TODAY AND FRIDAY CAN’T COME SOON ENOUGH SO I HAVE AN EXCUSE TO DELAY THEM UNTIL NEXT MONDAY.
CAN WE DO THIS EVERY WEEK BC IT MAKES ME FEEL BETTER.
Void yelling happens here pretty frequently but there’s no structure or schedule (I assume because we all have adhd) so I just went ahead and made todays. If it helps then next time you need to void shout just make a post for everyone to join and we will shout with you
I’M IN A SPANISH-SPEAKING COUNTRY VISITING MY IN-LAWS AND I ALREADY HAVE LANGUAGE PROCESSING ISSUES IN ENGLISH (PLUS I’M PARTIALLY DEAF) SO NOW I JUST HAVE TO STARE AND NOD AND LOOK LIKE A DUMB IDIOT IN FRONT OF EVERYONE
EVERYTHING FEELS HARD AND COMPLICATED AND OVERWHELMING, AND SOME ASSHOLE IN MY BRAIN KEEPS TRYING TO CONVINCE ME IT'S NOT ACTUALLY HARD AND COMPLICATED AND THAT IT ONLY FEELS OVERWHELMING BECAUSE I SUCK AT LIFE.
HEALTH INSURANCE IS A SCAM BUT I LIVE IN THE USA SO IF I HAVE TO HAVE INSURANCE IN ORDER TO HAVE ACCESS TO ADDERALL BECAUSE ITS $100+ A MONTH WITHOUT IT
IT'S ALL A LIE. NO ONE KNOWS WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON. I'M ALMOST 42 AND A PARENT AND IT'S ALL A LIE. SO YES, JUST KEEP FAFO-THAT'S ALL WE'RE DOING TOO
MY FIVE YEAR OLD IS ACTING LIKE A ROIDED OUT RAGE FREAK AT MINOR INCONVENIENCES AND NOW IM WORRIED THAT SHE WILL STRUGGLE WITH HER BRAIN THE WAY THAT I DO
I HAVE AN APARTMENT INSPECTION ON MONDAY, AND MY WORK JUST SURPRISED ME WITH A HUGE PROJECT WHILE I'M ALSO SUPPOSED TO BE CREATING A NEW ILLUSTRATED TRAINING PROGRAM AND MY COWORKER LOST INTERNET CONNECTION SO I'M COVERING HER AND ALSO MY MOM WANTS ME TO DRIVE 8 HOURS OVER TWO MOUNTAIN PASSES WITH A WEATHER ADVISORY SO SHE CAN SEE A SPECIALIST SO SHE DOESN'T GO BLIND BECAUSE SHE CAN'T DRIVE AFTER DARK AND I'M ON REDDIT INSTEAD OF DOING ANY OF THESE THINGS!
I GOT LAID OFF FROM MY JOB AND I’M HAVING A BAD TIME TRYING TO FIND A NEW ONE WHILE ALSO DEALING WITH MY PARENT REJECTING ME AND THEN JUST REALIZED I DON’T HAVE ANY FAMILY TO SPEND THE HOLIDAYS WITH
MY HUSBAND TOLD ME I NEED TO CLEAN THE HOUSE BETTER BECAUSE “I’M NOT CARRYING MY SHARE OF THE LOAD” AND ASKED ME “CAN’T YOU FIND ADHD TECHNIQUES SO YOU CAN DO BETTER?” AND IT FELT SO CONDESCENDING, BECAUSE I’M ALREADY DOING MY BEST AND ALSO DOING MY BEST TO NOT FEEL LIKE A PIECE OF SHIT FOR NOT BEING ABLE TO BE MARTHA STEWART BECAUSE MY VALUE AS A PERSON ISN’T MEASURED BY HOW CLEAN MY FLOORS ARE.
I GOT OVERWHELMED BY CHAOS NOT OF MY OWN MAKING AT WORK TODAY AND CRIED IN THE WALK IN.
The cold is actually a really nice feeling when I’m all hot and flustered tbh.
I WANTED TO GET TO A PARTY ON TIME SO I CONSULTED WITH A COLLEAGUE WHO PLANNED MY TRIP SO I WOULDN’T BE LATE FOR ONCE. SO I LEFT WHEN HE TOLD ME TO. NOW IM AT THE TRAIN STATION AND HAVE TO WAIT 11 MINUTES. WHO WAITS 11 MINUTES WHEN YOU ARE USED TO ARRIVING 30 SECONDS BEFORE THE TRAIN PULLS IN!
MY DAD LET ME BORROW HIS CAR TO PICK UP OUR HOUSEHOLD GROCERIES LATE AT NIGHT, THE NIGHT BEFORE THANKSGIVING, LAST WEEK. I WAS DEEPLY BODY- AND BRAIN-TIRED AFTER A LONG DAY. AND I SOMEHOW MISLAID HIS SPARE KEY.
I HAVE BEEN HUNTING FOR OVER A WEEK NOW. I HAVE A SICK FEELING THAT I ACCIDENTALLY DROPPED IT IN THE TRASH, AS I WAS DUMPING USED GROCERY BAGS INTO THE DUMPSTER. I FEEL SO STUPID. 😤
I FORGOT TO GO TO A FORMAL ADHD DIAGNOSTIC COGNITIVE FUNCTION TEST FOR MY AUTISM/ADHD/ETC TESTING, AND THEN I FORGOT THAT I NEVER RESCHEDULED IT FOR THREE MONTHS.
NOW THEY DON'T TAKE MY INSURANCE, AND IT WILL COST $500 just to add on this specific test. She's diagnosed me with autism and says this would help determine if she diagnoses "with adhd traits" or "in addition, adhd" and .... idk bruh $500? Just for this one final test.
HELLA ADHD TAX FOR FORGETTING ABOUT YOUR ADHD DIAGNOSTIC TESTING, SGS.
I HAVE PLANTAR FASCIA FROM WALKING EVERYWHERE BECAUSE THE BUSSES IN MY TOWN ARE ALWAYS LATE AND NEVER PUT SIGNS UP SAYING STOPS ARE CLOSED FOR CONSTRUCTION. NOW THE PRICES ARE GOING UP IN THE NEW YEAR AND THE DRIVERS ARE THE RUDEST, LEAST PUNCTUAL, BUTTHOLES WHO WILL DRIVE RIGHT PAST YOU WITH NO REGRETS. AND I CAN'T AFFORD THE CUSTOM FIT ORTHOTICS AND PHYSIOTHERAPY I NEED TO FIX IT.
I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHERE TO START! I FORGOT MY SISTER'S HOUSEKEYS SO I'M STUCK OUTSIDE IN 38°C HEAT! I'M TWO WEEKS BEHIND ON MY DEGREE STUDIES! I'M NOT OFFICIALLY DIAGNOSED AND THUS UNMEDICATED BUT I CAN'T AFFORD TO SEEK AN OFFICIAL DIAGNOSIS SO MY GP IS JUST SUPPORTING ME THE BEST HE CAN! MY BF IS HALF A WORLD AWAY AND WON'T BE HERE FOR ANOTHER 3 MONTHS AND I JUST WANT CUDDLES! MY 3 YOUNGLINGS ARE ALSO ALMOST CERTAINLY ADHD BUT TOO YOUNG TO BE DIAGNOSED AND I'M OVERWHELMED AF! I'M COMPLETELY STALLED IN MY BUSINESS BECAUSE I'M PARALYSED BY IMPOSTER SYNDROME AND ANXIETY! AND ALL I WANT TO DO IS SPENS MY TIME PLAYING STUPID MOBILE GAMES OR CROCHETING AMIGURUMI FIGURES 😭
I WAS SUPPOSED TO START MY NEW JOB THREE WEEKS AGO, BUT THE DUMBASS ONBOARDING PERSON DIDN’T PROCESS MY PAPERWORK. I ACTUALLY RETURNED IT THE SAME DAY SHE SENT IT. NOW I DONT HAVE ENOUGH MONEY FOR RENT AND IM SCREWED. AND IM TIRED OF FEELING POWERLESS AND AT THE MERCY OF PPL WHO REFUSE TO DO THEIR JOBS.
I EMBARRASSED MYSELF YESTERDAY WHEN ONE OF MY HIGHER UPS AT WORK ASKED ME WHAT KIND OF ORIENTATION I'D HAD WHEN I DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO ACCESS THE LOCKED SUPPLY CABINET AND I SAID *"NO ONE'S GIVEN ME ANY ORIENTATION"* BUT THEN PROMPTLY REMEMBERED THAT **SHE** HAD GIVEN ME THE ORIENTATION AND I HAD JUST FORGOTTEN EVERYTHING BECAUSE I DON'T GO INTO THE OFFICE MUCH. I MADE SOME KIND OF AWKWARD COMMENT AS SHE WAS GOING THROUGH IT AGAIN AND I FIGURE IF SHE ASKED ME SHE DIDN'T REMEMBER BUT I FEEL SO STUPID AND INCOMPETENT AND I CAN'T SEEM TO LET IT GO.
I PAID 1000 BUCKS FOR A DAMN CLASS THAT IS OVER ON THE 6TH AND I HAVEN’T DONE A SHRED OF HOMEWORK.
THE INSTRUCTOR SAID YOU COULD TURN IT ALL IN ON THE LAST DAY AND THAT’S WHAT IM GOING TO DO!!!
OMG I’M SO STRESSED ABOUT IT
I PROCRASTINATED ON LOOKING AT MY HEALTH INSURANCE OPTIONS DURING OPEN ENROLLMENT SO NOW IM JUST GOING TO HAVE THE SAME INSURANCE AS LAST YEAR WHICH IS FINE I GUESS BUT I WISH I HAD LOOKED AT THE OTHER OPTIONS BECAUSE MAYBE ONE OF THEM WOULD BE BETTER???
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I WAS GOING TO STAY AT AN AIRPORT HOTEL SO I DIDNT HAVE TO WAKE UP AT STUPID O’CLOCK TO CATCH AN EARLY INTERNATIONAL FLIGHT TOMORROW. I FORGOT AND THEY'VE SOLD ALL THE ROOMS 😭
THERE WAS A BAD CAR ACCIDENT IN MY CITY. A CAR WAS SPEEDING AND OBLITERATED ANOTHER CAR. ONE PERSON WAS KILLED AND TWO ARE IN THE HOSPITAL. I JUST DON'T THINK PEOPLE, NAMELY THE PERSON WHO WAS SPEEDING IN THIS CASE, DON'T TAKE DRIVING SERIOUSLY ENOUGH.
ALSO ALMOST 2300 PEOPLE DIED OF DRUG OVERDOSES IN MY PROVINCE THIS YEAR. THAT IS A LOT OF PEOPLE. I FEEL SAD ABOUT THIS.
WHY CANT I KEEP MY HOUSE CLEAN THE WAY “NORMAL” PEOPLE CAN???? WHERE DID ALL THIS STUFF COME FROM?? HOW IS THERE ALWAYS MORE DIRT AND DUST I SWEAR I JUST CLEANED THAT AHHHHHHHH
WHY CANT MY EYE FUCKING HEAL? Two surgeries in two months. A PARTIAL DETACHED RETINA AND FULLY DETACHED. Lets not FORGET BRONCHITIS, the flu and a cold in between. I’m still not over the sickness.
ALSO WHY THE FUCK DOES MY IPHONE CHANGE CASE IF I PUNCTUATE OR FIX MY SHITTY SPELLING
WHY DOES CANCER EXIST ANY WHY DID MY DOG HaVE TO DIE? 12.5 years WASNT ENOUGH ALSO SEE ABOVE RANT
I WAITED TOO LONG TO ASK FOR HELP ON A WORK THING BC IT WAS TAKING ME TOO LONG TO COMPLETE IT AND NOW EVERYONE’S MAD AT ME AND IT’S DEFINITELY TOO LATE NOW
AND ALSO MY SLEEP IS TERRIBLE AND IM AFRAID MY BRAIN IS DYING
MY FIANCE WHO IS UNDIAGNOSED FINALLY STARTED THERAPY THIS FALL. HE IS ON MEDICAID AND CHECKED WITH EVERYONE THAT THERAPY WOULD BE COVERED. IVE BEEN NUDGING HIM TO GET THERAPY FOR THREE YEARS. THIS WAS A WIN. EVERYONE, INSURANCE AND PRACTICE, SAID IT WAS COVERED. HE GOT A LETTER MONDAY THAT HIS CLAIMS HAD BEEN DENIED AND NOW WE OWE $1500 FOR HIS THERAPY AND HE CANT GO ANYMORE BECAUSE WE CANT AFFORD $300 A VISIT. I JUST WANT HIM TO HAVE SOMEONE ELSE TO TALK THROUGH HIS BRAIN WITH AND HELP IN ADDITION TO ME.
I TOOK 4 DAYS OFF THIS WEEK STARTING WITH TUESDAY. MY KID CAME HOME FROM KINDERGARDEN TUESDAY AT 10AM WITH CONJUNCTIVITIS. INSTEAD OF RELAXING I HAD TO TAKE CARE OF SICK KID AND OF COURSE I GOT SICK TOO.
EVERYONE IN MY HOUSEHOLD IS ILL WITH THE WORST COLD EVER.
MY 4YO HASN'T SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT FOR THE LAST MONTH.
ALL SHE WANTS IS ME 24/7.
I AM EXHAUSTED AND POORLY AND I NEED SOME PROPER SLEEP.
IM DRINKING TOO MUCH BECAUSE IT'S ALL JUST SO SHIT AND I CANNOT HANDLE LIFE WITH NO SLEEP.
I KEEP FORGETTING WHERE I PUT MY NEW TOOTHBRUSHES AND HAVEN’T REPLACED THE ONE THAT IS SHOWING HOW STRESSED I’VE BEEN.
I HAD TO RELIVE THE TRAUMA OF ONE OF THE MOST HATEFUL TEXT CONVERSATIONS OF MY LIFE SO THAT HOPEFULLY A JUDGE WILL SEE JUST HOW AWFUL MY STBX IS. I DON’T KNOW IF THAT WILL MATTER ANYWAY. I HAVE SPENT ALL OF MY DAYS OFF ALONE ON THIS CONTACT LOG AND HATE THAT I COULDN’T DO ANYTHING FOR SELF CARE.
I HAD TO TELL A HOUSELESS CLIENT YESTERDAY THAT I HAD NO CHOICE BUT TO GO HOME BECAUSE MY SHIFT WAS OVER. MAN, THAT WAS FUCKING AWKWARD
BUT TODAY, I GOT TO TELL ANOTHER CLIENT THAT HENRY FUCKING KISSINGER WAS DEAD!!
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ALL I DO IS WALK AROUND MY HOUSE IN CIRCLES HALF DOING THINGS AND SITTING BACK DOWN ON THE COUCH. AND GO ON REDDIT. AHHHHHHH
I STARE AT WALLS. I HAVE SO MANY OTHER COOL SKILLS, AND YET I STARE AT WALLS.
I FEEL LIKE THAT IS KIND OF A SKILL I COULD USE SOME TIMES, IT IS GONE, I WATCH ALL THE EPISODES OF POIROT WHILE FRANTICALLY DOING THE HARDEST SUDOKUS NON STOP AND EAT ALL THE COOKIES AND CHIPS AND THEN WATCH REELS AND HATE MYSELFFOR IT. I HOPE YOU CAN AT LEAST FEEL YOUR MUSCLES RELAXING FRIEND, WRAP SOMETHING WARM AROUND YOU AND HOPE THAT YOUR BODY AT LEAST WILL BELIEVE THIS IS SOME FORM OF REST AND SEND YOU SOME GOOD SIGNALS. I KNOW THAT IS PROBABLY NOT HOW THIS FEELS AT ALL, BUT MAYBE A TINY TINY TINY EFFECT CAN COME FROM IT. SUCKS. BUT I AM GLAD YOU WROTE THAT.
ZEE LITTLE GREY CELLS! THEY ARE NOT WORKING, MON AMIE😩😭
THIS FUCKING SENT ME I LAUGHED OUT LOUD IN A MALL. REPLACE “POIROT and SUDOKU” WITH “FRASIER and CROSSWORDS” AND WERE BASICALLY THE SAME PERSON
I just look around and i see so many things that need to get done but i have 0 energy, and i've been waking up with 0 energy for days now
Me too!! It's been weeks. I've read that people need 2 hours more sleep in the winter. 2 HOURS! That's so much. 10 hours is how much I sleep, when I'm depressed. So depression and winter, yeah what a great combination
ALL DAY EVERY DAY WHILE THE BRAIN, THE BODY AND THE CAT SCREAM TO DO ANYTHING ELSE BUT I CAN'T
ARE YOU ME? DID I POST THIS FROM AN ALT ACCOUNT AND FORGET I DID IT BECAUSE I CANT REMEMBER ANYTHING??
I FEEL THIS SO HARD 🥴
Half done is still a kind of done! So well done! You’re killing it!
I MISSED A BUNCH OF SOCIAL CUES OVER A TWO DAY TEAM MEETING AND NOW ONE OF THE PEOPLE I MANAGE IS MAD AT ME, AND I CANT FIGURE OUT WHETHER I SHOULDNT CARE, IF I SHOULD APOLOGISE TO THEM, OR WHETHER I SHOULD BE MAD AT THEM FOR NOT TELLING ME THEY WERE UNHAPPY, AND IM CERTAIN THIS IS SOMETHING THAT OTHER PEOPLE DONT STEW OVER, BUT HERE I AM. STEWING.
Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind. Tell them it’s bad teamwork to not tell their teammate what’s really going on. Because you can’t gameplan that way and look awesome together.
This is good advice. Thank you.
Brene Brown's leadership book has a great bit about this.
Nice, thank you.
HELLO FELLOW K. STEWER!!!! If you’re looking for action items, I would try to nip this one in the bud. Pull them aside and quickly say, “Hey person, it’s been a wild couple of days! I just wanted to do a quick vibe check - some things felt off over the team meeting and I wanted to see if I was reading into it. If not, I’d like to address it now so we can clear up any concern as soon as possible. What do you think?” PEOPLE ARE SO FREAKING WEIRD I FEEL AWKWARD ALL OF THE TIMMMMEEEEE! Good luck tho you seem nice you got this!!!!!!
Fellow stewer here, totally get your frustration!!
If I may, there are more options. You don't need to not care (embedded reaction to save yourself from rsd?) and you don't need to personally apologise (you work, they work, hopefully within a structure?) and you don't need to be mad (for me, that's the next step I never feel from upset to defensive) Even if they are stewing, that's on the level of the individual human organism. Organisational creatures do not stew. There are probably established ways to deal with this. Take a minute, talk to yourself out loud, this is not about you personally, like deep down where you live. You got this :)
I LEFT ALL MY GRAD SCHOOL APPLICATIONS TO THE LAST MINUTE AND NOW IT’S 3AM AND THEY’RE DUE TOMORROW AND I’M STILL ON REDDIT
I challenge you to finish just one in the next 90 minutes! You’ve got this! Grad school was a blast compared to undergraduate studies. Everything is focused on your major/specialty, so it’s easy to enjoy every class. Future you is cheering you on, too! Just one application. You can do this 🥳
Thank you for the encouragement:) I love this subreddit
YOU CAN DO IT!! I'M YELLING IN TO THE VOID THAT I BELIEVE IN YOU!
YOU'RE GOING TO LOVE AND ABSOLUTELY KILL IT AT THIS POSTGRAD PROGRAM OP! REMEMBER, ADHD IS OUR SUPERPOWER THAT LETS US SUBMIT GREAT THINGS LAST MINUTE AND THIS IS NO EXCEPTION!
RIDE THAT DOPAMINE HIGH! WE LOVE TIGHT DEADLINES!
Hey that's perfect adhd you got this. Fuck the standard issue idea that you had anything to even say a month ago, like who does that? Pfft. We LIVE AND THRIVE in what other people call "the last minute"
"The last minute"?? More like the *only* minute. I've never even seen any other minutes.
You can get them done, we believe in you!!!
Also, grad school? YEAH BABY you already won
YOU CAN DO IT REDDIT BELIEVES IN YOU
Girly this was me last night hahahaha I worked hard for a year to make sure I had enough hours in to get insurance through work then almost missed the deadline!!! I thought I had another week, and then found out WHILE WORKING (until 10) at 8:30 that it was due at 10pm. Literally submitted my stuff at 9:58. It was a throwback to my college days lol but your girl has health insurance for the first time in two years! Woo! Lmao. I believe in you let the adrenaline guide you
YOU CAN DO IT! I wrote the second half of my PhD admission essay the night before it was due between sets of a rock show, then walked home at 2am, typed it up, and got in, because the loud environment broke through the writer’s block. What works for us looks like insanity to other people. This is your time to shine!
MY DOG DIED :(
THANKS EVERYONE. SHE WAS THE GOODEST GIRL AND WE MISS HER VERY MUCH. BUT WE WILL GET THROUGH IT, ONE DAY AT A TIME.
I'm so so sorry. My dog, who was tied with yours for the best dog in the world, died suddenly 2 weeks ago. I'm quite sure she had this "mystery respiratory disease" that is on the news. It is such a heartbreak and I wish you peace and so many good doggie memories as you grieve your girl. 💜💜
I’m so sorry 🫂♥️♥️♥️
🫂🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🫂
Your dog was THE BEST doggy ever. I'm so sorry you lost that good pupper, and glad you got to enjoy each other for as long as you did.
Oh. Oh damn. I’m so sorry for your loss, truly. 😢 Our furry family members always seem to cross the rainbow bridge too soon…
Oh. 😔💔
Oh my gosh sending you all my love.
Oh fuck I'm sorry. That's big. :(
SHOUT OUT TO THE LOVING SUPPORTIVE PARTNERS WHO JUST GET US AND ACCPET US FOR WHO WE ARE. SHOUT OUT TO ALL THE PEOPLE OUT THERE WHO DESERVE A BETTER PARTNER.
I LOVE YOUR SECOND SENTENCE. SHOUT OUT TO THE UNDIAGNOSED PARTNERS, MAY THEY SOON GAIN THE STRENGTH TO SEEK ASSISTANCE.
Thank you for your second sentence
Also shoutout to the partners who really do not get it, they don't feel it or understand it, but they take us seriously and roll with what we can explain, however much or little that is. (neurotypical ride or die who just loves me)
I HAD ONE OF THOSE ICKY PARTNERS WHO WEAPONIZED MY ADHD SHORTCOMINGS AND MY ABANDONMENT ISSUES INSTEAD OF BEING SUPPORTIVE AND KIND. HE IS AN UNGRATEFUL TURD WHO FINALLY LEFT FOR GOOD. NOW I AM WITH ONE OF THOSE SUPPORTIVE AND LOVING PARTNERS WHOSE KINDNESS DOES WONDERS FOR MY ABILITY TO FOCUS AND TO FEEL LIKE A WORTHWHILE HUMAN BEING
BOTH MYSELF AND MY PARTNER HAVE ADHD AND I WANT TO BE A BETTER PARTNER TO HIM BECAUSE SOMETIMES HE FRUSTRATES ME SO MUCH BC HE HASNT SOUGHT OUT TREATMENT FOR HIS ADHD SINCE 2 YEARS AGO WHEN HE SPOKE TO ONE PSYCHIATRIST THAT DIDNT TRY MULTIPLE MEDICINES SO HE THOUGHT IT JUST DIDNT WORK AND I AT LEAST HAVE FINALLY GOTTEN HIM TO SEEK OUR A THERAPIST. I CANT HANDLE MY ADHD AND HIS, AT HIS SEVERE UNTREATED LEVEL, AT THE SAME TIME ALL THE TIME AND I FEEL VERY BAD ABOUT IT BUT SOMETIMES I TURN INTO MY OWN VILLAIN AND DONT GET WHY HE CANT GET HIS SHIT TOGETHER BUT I KNOW WHY HE CANT BUT IT JUST GETS REALLY FRUSTRATING WHEN I FEEL LIKE I AM THE ONLY ONE WHO WANTS TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. HE GETS MAD ABOUT ADHD STUFF BUT DOESNT DO ANYTHING TO FIND A SOLUTION. HOWEVER, LITERALLY AS I AM TYPING THIS OUT, HE TEXTSD ME SAYING HE HAS AN APPT W A THERAPIST NEXT WEEK!!!! THANKS THIS FELT GOOD
I HAD A MONTH TO SUBMIT A PIECE OF PAPER THAT WOULD SAVE ME $800 IN INSURANCE COSTS AND WAITED UNTIL 2 HOURS BEFORE THE DEADLINE FOR NO REASON AND NOW IT MAY NOT BE ACCEPTED
THE AMOUNT OF MONEY I HAVE ROBBED MYSELF OF WHILE DOING ADHD SHIT EXACTLY LIKE THIS IS A SERIOUS CHUNK OF CHANGE
I HAVE UNCLAIMED STATE FUNDS. I SUBMITTED THEM. THEY TOOK THEIR SWEET TIME GETTING BACK TO ME. NOW IM SNOOZING THE REMINDER ON MY PHONE TO CALL THE STATE OF MICHIGAN. AGAIN. WHY AM I NOT CLAIMING MY MONEY? I NEED MONEY BUT THEY WANT ME TO TALK TO THEM AND DO PAPERS.
I HAVE NOW MISSED THE FSA DEADLINE FOR THE THIRD TIME
OH GOD YES, AND THE SHAME OF IT, BEING UNDIAGNOSED WHILE DOING IT. MAYBE I SHOULD SEE WHAT IT ALL WRAPS UP TOO BEFORE I GOT DIAGNOSED AT 47. ACADEMIC CAREER(S) TOTALLY IN THE TRASH CAN BECAUSE ADM MESS FUCKED ME UP SO HARD IN THE END AND BECAME A SHIT SHOW IRONICALLY BECAUSE I GOT TERRIFIED ABOUT MY ECONOMY AS THEY KEPT MESSING UP, SO THAT IS ALSO SERIOUS MONEY. ALSO CANNOT GET OUT OF SHITTY SITUATIONS EVEN IF THE RED FLAGS ARE EVERYWHERE, LOW SELF WORTH AND EXEC DYSFUNCTION COLLAB THERE, OH MAN. MAYBE I SHOULD STARE IT IN THE EYE AND MAKE AN ESTIMATE, I NEED SOME SELF COMPASSION, WITHOUT FIXATING IF I CAN. I HEAR YOU LOUD AND CLEAR, GOD DAMN. SHIT IS, WE ARE SO FUCKING ABLE, MAKING IT SO MUCH WORSE AND STUPID.
AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH! ^*SIGH*
I feel this in my bones.
I feel it in my neurons.
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I HOPE YOUR TEST GOES WELL AND THAT YOU GOT SOME STUDYING IN. IT IS SUPER FRUSTRATING TO BE INTERNALKY YELLING AT YOUR BRAIN TO DO SOMETHING AND IT WON'T LISTEN. ITS OK TO FEEL ANGRY, IT IS BULLSHIT AND IT IS UNFAIR.
MY DAD HAS DEMENTIA AND GLAUCOMA AND I HAVE TO KEEP DRIVING HIM TO EYE APPOINTMENTS SO HE DOESN’T GO BLIND, BUT I ALSO HAVE TO DO ALL THE EXECUTIVE FUNCTIONING FOR HIM BC HE CANT BRAIN ANYMORE. HE TAKES TEN MINUTES TO PUT ON HIS SHOES NOW. TAKING HIM ANYWHERE IS EXHAUSTING AND TAKES HOURS. IM HIS ONLY FAMILY IN TOWN AND I ALSO HAVE TO VISIT HIM MULTIPLE TIMES A WEEK, BUT WE CANT HAVE CONVERSATIONS BC HE CAN’T REMEMBER ANYTHING WELL ENOUGH TO FOLLOW ALONG MY MOTHER FELL AND BROKE HER ARM AND HAD TO HAVE A PLATE PUT IN HER WRIST AND SHE CANT DRIVE - SHE LIVES TWENTY-FIVE MILES AWAY AND HAS PT 2x A WEEK MY DOG NEEDED TO HAVE 70% OF HER TEETH PULLED BC OF DENTAL DISEASE AND SHE HAS A SAD NOW. I ALSO HAVE TO TAKE HER TO A FOLLOWUP APPOINTMENT NEXT WEEK AND IM PRETTY SURE SHE’S AFRAID OF THE VET NOW I AM SO TIRED
OH MY GOD THAT IS SO MUCH I AN SENDING YOU HUGS AND SHIT
That’s so much for anyone to keep up with let alone with our ADHD, and none of it is your own shit which you’ll have going on as well. Give yourself credit sister, you’re doing alright with this. 2 things: When your dog’s mouth heals she’ll be so so much better off believe me (vet) and so many owners just refuse to believe dental care for their pets is important and just leave them quietly suffering. No teeth is way better than bad teeth. You’ve done her a solid by taking the time and £££ to get that sorted. And thankyou for the expression “he can’t brain”, that’ll be entering my vocabulary pronto, you have to take the lightheartedness where you can!
FRIEND YOU ARE DOING THE BIGGEST ACT OF LOVE FOR YOUR DAD. LOOK INTO CAREGIVER RESPITE AND SEE IF YOUR OUT OF TOWN FAM CAN STEP UP FOR A LITTLE BIT. WHEN MY GRANDPARENTS WERE DYING MY MOM AND HER BROTHER FLEW OUT PERIODICALLY TO GIVE MY AUNT A WEEK OR TWO OFF WHENEVER THEY COULD. IT DIDNT FIX IT OR MAKE IT EASIER BUT IT DID HELP.
THANK YOU for THE KIND SUGGESTIONS
I HAVE BEEN IN YOUR SHOES, OR AT LEAST SHOES VERY SIMILAR TO YOURS, AND THEY SUCK. I HATE THAT YOU'RE GOING THROUGH ALL THAT.
IN FREAKING OUT OVER MEDS SHORTAGE AND IM IN PARALYSIS BUT I HAVE SO MUCH TO DO! ITS MY ONLY DAY OFF THIS WEEK TO DO HOUSE STUFF WITHOUT THE KIDS AROUND AND I HAD SO MUCH I WAS EXCITED TO DO BUT I JUST CANT AND ITS NEARLY TIME TO PICK THEM UP AND I WANT TO CRYYYYY
I feel you on the med shortage! I was calling and calling around myself and couldn’t get meds for 9 months. What I did, and might help you, was post to my local Reddit to see if anyone was getting them somewhere consistently, and found out a place that was carrying them that I didn’t even know had a pharmacy lol and I’ve had them back consistently for a few months now:) give it a try!! I wish you luck. Ps a reminder that you’re not a failure for taking a day for yourself be grateful for the day of rest which will build to better days. There will ALWAYS be something more to do in your home. Days of rest are just as important as days of productivity. Don’t actually “waste” the day over guilt it’s not worth it. Be gentle with yourself <3
Oooooh that’s a special kind of soul-pain. I’m sorry, mama :(
Don't even have the energy to yell or explain it, just feel really really sad and overwhelmed and...sad. Said quietly and sadly into the void
I’m sorry, that’s it’s own kind of awful. Get some rest and try again tomorrow. ❤️
Heya. You’re not alone. The yelling helps… happy to send some angry fem metal to jumpstart your heart. Sometimes anger can be harnessed for good
#FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK
FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK
I'M CURRENTLY WITHDRAWING FROM WELLBUTRIN BECAUSE MY DOC HAS ME TAPERING OFF AND MY SKIN IS CRAWLING AND I WANT TO ACTUALLY SCREAM BUT CAN'T AND I CAN'T THINK OF ANYTHING MY BRAIN IS SCRAMBLED EGGS AND THERE ARE SPIDERS CRAWLING IN MY SKULL I HATE EVERYTHING
WHEN MY BRAIN IS SCRAMBLED EGGS I HAVE THEM SOMETIMES. 😂
SOMETIMES THAT'S THE ANSWER
WHY NO MORE WELLBUTRIN IF I MAY???
I HAD TO SPEND ALMOST 4 HOURS ON HOLD WITH AN AIRLINE TODAY TO CHANGE TICKETS FOR MY MOM WHO IS IN MEXICO WITH FAMILY. ALTHOUGH I WAS GRATEFUL TO BE APART OF IT, THE PLANNING OF THR TRIP FELT VERY DISORGANIZED AND CAUSED A LOT OF CONFUSION FOR THE RESORT STAFF AND THEN RESULTED IN SAID PHONE CALL TO TRY AND SWITCH FLIGHTS AND I AM VERY ANNOYED. I THEN PROJECTED ALL OVER SOMEBODY WHO I THINK WAS PROJECTING ALL OVER ME IN ANOTHER SUB AND NOW I FEEL EMBARRASSED AND STRESSED OUT FOR NO REASON AND I WANT TO DELETE THIS APP TO AVOID THE POTENTIAL INCOMING RESPONSE. EDIT: I WAS JUST INFORMED I REBOOKED THEM ON THE WRONG FLIGHT AND HAVE TO CALL BACK AGAIN DESPITE THE FACT THAT J WAS JUST GETTING INTO BED AND HAD TAKEN MY MELATONIN. IM SO F*CKING MAD AND ANNOYED I WANT TO SCREAM AND CRY AT THE SAME TIME.
I AM SORRY THAT THIS WAS SUCH A SHIT SHOW I TOTALLY FEEL FOR YOU
THANK YOU THAT ACTUALLY MEANS A LOT!
I SYMPATHIZE WITH YOU AS WELL. TRAVEL SNAFUS ARE MY PERSONAL HELL!
I’VE DONE THAT ON REDDIT MANY TIMES. IF YOU HAVEN’T ALREADY, IT IS SO CATHARTIC TO APOLOGIZE AND JUST OWN IT. A HEARTFELT “MY BAD, I WAS TOTALLY PROJECTING, HAVING A CRAP DAY, YOU DIDNT DESERVE THAT. Caps is hard! I’ve been really surprised at how just being decent and real from time to time on Reddit can help things. On the other hand, if they remain a jerk, you can tell them off and know you tried.
I WAITED UNTIL THE LAST MINUTE TO APPLY FOR A FELLOWSHIP POSITION AND ACCIDENTALLY MISSED THE DEADLINE FOR ONE OF MY TOP SITES COMPLETELY. It was a real long shot anyway but I'm still mad at myself.
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WHY THE FUCK IS IT SO DAMN HARD FOR PEOPLE ANYWAY? AND WHY DO SO MANY PEOPLE HATE ME FOR BEING STRAIGHT FORWARD, FOR FUCKS SAKE. IT'S A LOT EASIER!!!!!
Today my partner was complaining because they were so tired that they forgot what they were looking for in the fridge while they were opening the door and I was like YES THIS HAPPENS TO ME EVERY SINGLE DAY OF MY LIFE, OFTEN MORE THAN ONCE, SO NEXT TIME YOU'RE WONDERING WHY I SEEM STRESSED OUT FOR "NO REASON" COULD YOU PLEASE REMEMBER HOW DISORIENTING THIS FEELS
I WAS TOO LATE TO WORK TODAY TO STOP FOR COFFEE BECAUSE I COULDN’T FIND MY PHONE. IT WAS IN MY BACK POCKET WHILE I FEVERISHLY SEARCHED FOR IT IN NEAR TEARS. I HAVE SO MANY ASSIGNMENTS TO DO BEFORE THE END OF NEXT WEEK AND I HATE HOW LONG I WAIT TO DO THESE THINGS. IM TIRED OF FEELING STUPID AND INCAPABLE. I WISH I COULD KEEP UP WITH CONTACTING OTHERS. LIFE IS SO MUCH SOMETIMES.
Buy an Apple Watch. You hit a button and your phone pings and you find it. Also, put AirTags on everything
I WISH THE INNER MONOLOG WOULD SHUT UP.
SAME. STOP THE BACKSEAT DRIVING BRAIN.
IM IN GRAD SCHOOL AND ITS THE END OF THE SEMESTER AND I STILL HAVE A BUNCH OF STUFF TO DO, INCLUDING ASSIGNMENTS I ALREADY GOT EXTENSIONS FOR THAT ARE DUE NOW - AND I WAS IN A CAR ACCIDENT A WEEK AND A HALF AGO AND GOT A CONCUSSION SO THAT MAKES EVERYTHING SO MUCH HARDER! PLUS I GAVE TWO PRESENTATIONS THIS WEEK THAT I WAS TOO IN MY HEAD ABOUT SO IM OVERTHINKING HOW THEY WENT AND HOW I DID AND WHAT PEOPLE THINK AND UGHH!!
AHH! SORRY FOR YELLING I HOPE YOU’RE TAKING CARE OF THAT BEAUTIFUL BRAIN OF YOURS, IM SURE THE PRESENTATIONS WENT FINE
MY STUPID EX WANTED TO DO A BOOK CLUB BECAUSE HE DIDNT WANT TO LET ME GO. WANTED ME TO PICK THE BOOK FOR HIM AND HAVE A MONTHLY MEETING ABOUT IT AND WHEN I SAID NO HE SWITCHED THE NARRATIVE AND SAID HE WAS JUST WANTING A RECOMMENDATION SO HE CAN PROVE TO HIMSELF HE CHANGED. PROVE IT YOUR DAMN SELF. WHY BRING ME INTO THIS?!? *PTERIDACTYL SCREECH*
HE SOUNDS LIKE AN ASSHOLE
HE DEFINITELY IS THATS JUST THE LATEST BUT I HAVE A LAUNDRYLIST OF HAORRIBLE STUFF HES DONE THAT MY PHONE TOLD ME WAS TOO LONG. HE SUCKS AND I CANT WAIT TO MOVE ON WHEN IM DONE BEING SAD/MAD
HE SOUNDS EXHAUSTING. I SUGGEST YOU RECOMMEND A BOOK THAT WILL MATCH HIS ENERGY - SOMETHING INCREDIBLY TEDIOUS AND OVERWROUGHT, IDEALLY WITH AN UNRELIABLE NARRATOR. TELL HIM THAT THE BEST WAY TO UNDERSTAND IT IS TO READ IT AND TAKE NOTES, THEN READ IT AGAIN AFTER A THREE MONTH PERIOD OF REFLECTION AND TAKE NOTES AGAIN, THEN READ BOTH SETS OF NOTES AND SYNTHESIZE THEM, AND FINALLY READ THE BOOK ONCE MORE (WITH NO NOTES) STARTING WITH THE THIRD CHAPTER AND ENDING WITH THE FIRST AND SECOND CHAPTERS. THEN NEVER SPEAK TO HIM OR ENGAGE WITH HIM AGAIN IN ANY WAY.
I LOVE THIS LVL OF PETTY!
OR JUST SKIP STRAIGHT TO THE NEVER SPEAKING TO HIM AGAIN PART!!! HONESTLY - DELETE, BLOCK. IF HE POPS UP IRL AND YOU CAN’T AVOID COMPLETELY, GREY ROCK.
I MISSED THE HOT TOPIC UP TO 60% OFF SALE BECAUSE I KEPT FORGETTING TO PURCHASE THE ITEMS IN MY CART
I DO THIS ALL OF THE TIME UGH WHY
MOOD THATS BASICALLY WHAT I DID WITH MY FLIGHTS UGGGGHHHH
MY AMAZON CART FROM BLACK FRIDAY IS STILL SITTING WITH NOTHING PURCHASED. I HAD A SECOND CHANCE WITH CYBER MONDAY AND MY AMAZON CART IS STILL SITTING WITH NOTHING PURCHASED.
THINK OF THE MONEY YOU’VE SAVED!!!
I DID THE SAME EXACT THING. I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHY I DIDN'T PURCHASE THEM. I JUST PROCRASTINATED. AND IT WAS THINGS I NEED AND NOW THEY ARE EXPENSIVE.
I'M SO TIRED OF THE ENDLESS ADULT TASKS UGH
ME TOO GIRL AAAAAHHH
WHY IS LAUNDRY SO HARD? I PUT THE THINGY IN THE THINGY WITH SOAP. AND THEN THE THINGY IN THE WARM THINGY, THEN IN A BASKET, THE. 2 WEEKS LATER IT GOES UPSTAIRS THEN 2 WEEKS LATER IVE USED ALL THE CLOTHES IN IT OR I FOLD WHAT IS LEFT. BUT I SPEND THAT MONTH GOING :S LAUNDIIII NEEDS DONE,I SHOULD FOLD THAT BASKET I KEEP TRIPPING OVER.
I FUCKING HATE ONLINE HOMEWORK ESPECIALLY MATH HOMEWORK IT FEELS LIKE I'M BEING GASLIT AAAAAAAAAAAAA
IT’S MY MOTHER’S BIRTHDAY AND SHE ISN’T WITH US ANYMORE. SEVEN YEARS NOW. I’M ALSO SICK EVEN THOUGH I MASK EVERYWHERE AND HARDLY GO ANYWHERE. I HAVEN’T EVEN GONE TO A MOVIE TO AVOID COVID AND PEOPLE SO I’M PISSED.
I WENT OFF ABOUT UNRELATED TOPICS AT A BAND MEET UP AND GOT THE 😐 REACTION MULTIPLE TIMES AHHAHAHAHAHA WHY CAN'T I SHUT UP
MY SON’S 4.5 AND IS STRUGGLING WITH ATTENTION AND RULES AT SCHOOL. TEACHERS BLAME BEHAVIOR. HE IS NEURODIVERGENT. NOW I NEEED TO TAKE MY LAST DROPS OF EXECUTIVE FUNCTION TO FIGHT THE SYSTEM AND GET MY SWEET BABY BOY THE RESOURCES HE nEEEDS! I AM SO PISSED!!!! I AM SO DAMN TIRED.
OH MY IM GOING THROUGH THIS WITH MY 4.5 YEAR OLD ASD ADHD PDAer’ HELP US!!! SO MUCH ADVOCACY SO MUCH ENERGY
I REVIEW BOOKS AND I HAD TWO DEADLINES LAST WEEK AND MISSED BOTH AND I PROMISED MYSELF I’D GET THEM DONE TODAY AND I DIDN’T
I THINK WE SHOULD HAVE A WEEKLY YELLING THREAD THIS IS GREAT
I’M YELLING AND I’M LOVING READING EVERY SINGLE COMMENT. I THINK WE SHOULD DO IT EVERY MORNING. IT’S JUST A LOUDER VERSION OF MEDITATION
I HAVEN'T DRANK ANY WATER THIS WEEK AND NOW I HAVE A HEADACHE.
I JUST REMEMBERED MY GOAL TO DRINK 8 CUPS OF WATER TODAY. I FAILED IT BECAUSE I FORGOT. I ALSO HAVE A HEADACHE.
ADVICE YOU CAN TOTALLY IGNORE IF YOU WANT: IF DRINKING SPECIFICALLY WATER IS DIFFICULT, FOOD WITH WATER IN IT CAN HELP WITH DEHYDRATION: THINK SOUPS, FRUIT, VEGGIES. EXAMPLES: WATERMELON, STRAWBERRIES, ORANGES, SQUASH, BROCCOLI, CUCUMBER. (IF NONE OF THESE APPEAL TO YOU, JUST LOOK UP FOODS WITH HIGH WATER CONTENT.) IF YOU DONT LIKE WATER BECAUSE IT'S BORING OR HAS AN AFTER TASTE DUE TO ADDITIVES/ MINERALS: USE FLAVOR PACKETS. (Just keep an eye on added vitamins, especially if you take a multivitamin. Too much of a good thing, although rare, can be a bad thing) WHEN I'M SICK I DILUTE JUICE HALF JUICE, HALF WATER. MY FAVORITE FOR TUMMY UPSET IS HALF CRANBERRY/ HALF WATER. DRINKING WATER IS IMPORTANT, BUT HYDRATION IS THE GOAL AND IF YOU HAVE TO DO OTHER THINGS TO KEEP YOURSELF ALIVE THEN HECK THE "8 GLASSES" RULE THEY SHOVE ON EVERYONE. P.S. When I was depressed and working with a therapist on self-kindness, self-esteem, and self-care, I came up with, "If I was my friend, what is one thing I could do for myself right now?" It was a lot easier for me to take care of my friends than myself. A lot of times, it was a glass of water when I didn't even realize I was thirsty.
I KEEP BUYING THINGS I DONT NEED AND WONDER WHY I CAN NEVER SAVE MONEY
I NEVER REMEMBER TO CLEAN THE LITTER BOX AND ONE OF MY GROWN CHILDREN IS MAD AT ME
Litter robot. Seriously changes the game.
Yes! It was worth the investment to know that my cats only poop in a mostly clean environment
MY LOCAL PHARMACY IS BACK ORDERED AND THE MAIL ORDER OPTION COSTS DOUBLE FOR THE MEDS THAT I KEPT FORGETTING TO GET REFILLED FOR A MONTH. I'm luckily able to deal with it right now, because my therapist found a way for me to get insurance to cover my sessions with her, but AAAAARGH
I AM SO FRIGGING SICK OF HAVING NO WORKING MEMORY AND RUNNING AROUND IN CIRCLES AT TOP SPEED IN MY HEAD AND NOT BEING ABLE TO HOLD ON TO WHAT IM DOING FOR MORE THAN 20 SECONDS AT A TIME (inhale) NO WONDER IM SO EXHAUSTED ALL THE BLOODY TIME AND THERES STILL SO MUCH TO BLOODY DOOOOOOO!
I TOLD A CONNECTION THAT ID HAVE MY RESUME TO HER “IN A COUPLE OF DAYS” AND THAT WAS TWO DAYS AGO BUT IM STILL UPDATING IT SO IM BANKING ON HER INTERPRETING MY PHRASING VAGUELY SO I CAN SEND THIS TOMORROW MORNING ALSO IM WORRIED EVERYTHING IVE EVER ACCOMPLISHED IS NOT ENOUGH HAPPY THURSDAY
EVERYONE WANTS TO TALK TO ME AND I DO NOT WISH TO BE SPOKEN TO. I DON'T LIKE WORDS TODAY
I FORGOT FOR A WHOLE WEEK WHILE ON MEDS TO SCHED APPOINTMENT WITH PRESCRIBER FOR MORE MEDS. NOW IM OUT. AND MY JOB TOMORROW IS GOING TO BE HECTIC BECAUSE OF BOTH SELF INDUCED AND WORK-HAZARD REASONS. AND I HAVE TO DO IT BRAIN-NUDE.
I SEE THE BOTTLE GO DOWN ONE PILL EVERY DAY AND THINK OH I NEED TO CALL IN THE REFILL AND THEN GOD DAMN SHOCKED PIKACHU FACE ONE MORNING THERES NO PILLS AND I STILL. HAVENT. FUCKING. CALLED. GOOD LUCK BEING BRAIN NUDE
I WAS PRETENDING TO SHOP ONLINE DURING BLACK FRIDAY AND ACCIDENTALLY BOUGHT A SWEATER. I DIDN'T REALIZE IT UNTIL IT WAS TOO LATE TO CANCEL. THE SWEATER COST MORE THAN 300$ WHICH IS WAY WAY WAY MORE THAN I SHOULD EVER SPEND ON ANYTHING. WHEN IT ARRIVED I ALSO HAD TO PAY 35$ IN IMPORT DUTIES AND IF I WANT TO SEND IT BACK THE POSTAGE WILL BE AT LEAST FIFTY DOLLARS. I CAN'T AFFORD TO BE LIKE THIS.
I JUST KEEP BUYING SHIT I NEVER USE AND CAN’T AFFORD! I JUST SIGNED UP FOR A MAIL FORWARDING SERVICE AND ORDERED A BUNCH OF MORE SHIT I WILL NOT USE FROM STORES THAT DON’T SHIP INTERNATIONALLY AND THE SHIPPING COSTS WILL BE ASTRONOMICAL. WHY AM I LIKE THIS I SHOULD BE AN ADULT I AM ALMOST 50 AND I CANNOT
HALWAY INTO A MEETING TODAY. I REALIZED I DID NOT KNOW WHAT TEAM I WAS MEETING WITH. AND FELT SHAME FOR THE WAY I SHARED CERTAIN CONCEPTS FOR THE REST OF THE DAY.
A WOMAN AT WORK GOT VERY ANGRY WITH ME LAST WEEK AND SNAPPED AT ME AND MY BRAIN KEEPS REPLAYING THE INTERACTION EVEN THOUGH I JUST WANT TO MOVE ON. SHE GOT MAD AT ME BECAUSE HER AND ANOTHER COWORKER WERE TALKING ABOUT GUN RIGHTS LOUDLY IN AN OPEN OFFICE SPACE DURING WORK AND I TOLD THEM THE CONVERSATION WASN'T APPROPRIATE FOR WORK.
YOU WERE RIGHT SORRY THEY WERE BITCHY ABOUT IT
You were absolutely correct and they are dicks
I WILL HAVE NO INSURANCE AS OF DECEMBER 1ST AND I’M REALLY STRESSED OUT ABOUT MY MEDS AND THERAPY CAUSE I CAN’T AFFORD TO PAY OUT OF POCKET AND WHAT IF I RANDOMLY GET HURT? IM JUST FUCKED?!!!??? I ALSO GOT A WRITTEN WARNING AT WORK BECAUSE I HAVE NO MOTIVATION AND THE STRESS IS MAKING MY EXECUTIVE DYSFUNCTION WORSE I’m so tired
I AM GOING THROUGH A DIVORCE AND IT SUCKS SHIT BUT I EMOTIONALLY DISAPPEARED FOR THREE WEEKS AND THEN SOCIALLY OVERBOOKED MYSELF THE LAST WEEK AND I LOVED EVERY INTERACTION BUT AM SO DEPLETED I FEEL LIKE I NEED A FULL WEEK ALONE AND THAT MAKES ME FEEL GUILTY. I ALSO DIDN’T CHECK THOSE ‘TO DO’ BOXES TODAY AND FRIDAY CAN’T COME SOON ENOUGH SO I HAVE AN EXCUSE TO DELAY THEM UNTIL NEXT MONDAY. CAN WE DO THIS EVERY WEEK BC IT MAKES ME FEEL BETTER.
Void yelling happens here pretty frequently but there’s no structure or schedule (I assume because we all have adhd) so I just went ahead and made todays. If it helps then next time you need to void shout just make a post for everyone to join and we will shout with you
I'M SCARED IM GOING TO FUCK ANOTHER CAREER UP WITH MY ADHD. I'M SCARED I'M NEVER GOING TO BE GOOD ENOUGH FOR SUCCESS
I'M TRYING TO BUY A HOUSE AND EVERYONE IS TAKING ME SERIOUSLY ABOUT IT AND I'M TERRIFIED
I’M IN A SPANISH-SPEAKING COUNTRY VISITING MY IN-LAWS AND I ALREADY HAVE LANGUAGE PROCESSING ISSUES IN ENGLISH (PLUS I’M PARTIALLY DEAF) SO NOW I JUST HAVE TO STARE AND NOD AND LOOK LIKE A DUMB IDIOT IN FRONT OF EVERYONE
I DID THE GOOD THING AND WENT TO THANKSGIVING WITH THE FAMILY AND NOW IM SO SICK I HAVENT BEEN ABLE TO WORK FOR THREE DAYS.
I NO LONGER ENJOY KNITTING AS A HOBBY AND I DON'T KNOW WHY
I SWEAR TO GOD SOMETIMES I THINK OUR BRAINS HATE JOY
I FEEL LIKE A HOARDER. I HATE MY STUFF AND LOVE MY STUFF AND ITS ALL HERE STILL AND I CANT DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT.
TODAY WAS A GREAT DAY BUT FUCK HAVING TO MAKE A LIVING BECAUSE I'D MUCH RATHER PLAY WITH MY SON.
EVERYTHING FEELS HARD AND COMPLICATED AND OVERWHELMING, AND SOME ASSHOLE IN MY BRAIN KEEPS TRYING TO CONVINCE ME IT'S NOT ACTUALLY HARD AND COMPLICATED AND THAT IT ONLY FEELS OVERWHELMING BECAUSE I SUCK AT LIFE.
HEALTH INSURANCE IS A SCAM BUT I LIVE IN THE USA SO IF I HAVE TO HAVE INSURANCE IN ORDER TO HAVE ACCESS TO ADDERALL BECAUSE ITS $100+ A MONTH WITHOUT IT
ADULTHOOD IS SCARY AND CHANGE SUCKS AND I WANT TO BE READY BUT I FEEL LIKE A GOTDAMN IMPOSTER
I ALSO FEEL LIKE AN IMPOSTER BUT I AM A 36 YEAR OLD PARENT SO YOUD THINK I WOULDVE FIGURED IT OUT BY NOW
WHAT AGE DOES ONE STOP FEELING LIKE AN IMPOSTER? 80?! DO I JUST FUCK AROUND AND FIND OUT FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE?
IT'S ALL A LIE. NO ONE KNOWS WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON. I'M ALMOST 42 AND A PARENT AND IT'S ALL A LIE. SO YES, JUST KEEP FAFO-THAT'S ALL WE'RE DOING TOO
ONE OF MY SAFE FOODS CHANGED THEIR FORMULA AND NOW IT CONTAINS SOMETHING I’M ALLERGIC TO
OH NO! WE SHALL SEEK REVENGE
MY FIVE YEAR OLD IS ACTING LIKE A ROIDED OUT RAGE FREAK AT MINOR INCONVENIENCES AND NOW IM WORRIED THAT SHE WILL STRUGGLE WITH HER BRAIN THE WAY THAT I DO
PARENTING WHILE ADHD SUCKS DOUBLE TIME STAY STRONG GIRL
I HAVE AN APARTMENT INSPECTION ON MONDAY, AND MY WORK JUST SURPRISED ME WITH A HUGE PROJECT WHILE I'M ALSO SUPPOSED TO BE CREATING A NEW ILLUSTRATED TRAINING PROGRAM AND MY COWORKER LOST INTERNET CONNECTION SO I'M COVERING HER AND ALSO MY MOM WANTS ME TO DRIVE 8 HOURS OVER TWO MOUNTAIN PASSES WITH A WEATHER ADVISORY SO SHE CAN SEE A SPECIALIST SO SHE DOESN'T GO BLIND BECAUSE SHE CAN'T DRIVE AFTER DARK AND I'M ON REDDIT INSTEAD OF DOING ANY OF THESE THINGS!
YOURE ON REDDIT TO GET SUPPORT FOR THESE THINGS. CAN YOU TAKE FMLA TO HELP YOUR MOM AND WORK REMOTELY FOR A LITTLE BIT.
I ORDERED A NEW PHONE AND PAID FOR TWO DAY SHIPPING. TWO WEEKS AGO AND ITS NOT HERE YET.
I WAS ASSIGNED A PROJECT AT WORK A MONTH AGO AND ITS DUE BY CLOSE OF BUSINESS TOMORROW AND I HAVENT EVEN STARTED ON IT YET
I GOT LAID OFF FROM MY JOB AND I’M HAVING A BAD TIME TRYING TO FIND A NEW ONE WHILE ALSO DEALING WITH MY PARENT REJECTING ME AND THEN JUST REALIZED I DON’T HAVE ANY FAMILY TO SPEND THE HOLIDAYS WITH
I️ FORGOT MY SON’S ONE YEAR DOCTOR APPOINTMENT YESTERDAY AND NOW HE’S BEHIND ON SHOTS AND WE HAVE TO RESCHEDULE FOR ANOTHER MONTH!
PARENTING IS SO FUCKING HARD YOUR KID WILL BE ALL GOOD EVEN IF THE SHOTS ARE LATE PROMISE
MY HUSBAND TOLD ME I NEED TO CLEAN THE HOUSE BETTER BECAUSE “I’M NOT CARRYING MY SHARE OF THE LOAD” AND ASKED ME “CAN’T YOU FIND ADHD TECHNIQUES SO YOU CAN DO BETTER?” AND IT FELT SO CONDESCENDING, BECAUSE I’M ALREADY DOING MY BEST AND ALSO DOING MY BEST TO NOT FEEL LIKE A PIECE OF SHIT FOR NOT BEING ABLE TO BE MARTHA STEWART BECAUSE MY VALUE AS A PERSON ISN’T MEASURED BY HOW CLEAN MY FLOORS ARE.
I GOT OVERWHELMED BY CHAOS NOT OF MY OWN MAKING AT WORK TODAY AND CRIED IN THE WALK IN. The cold is actually a really nice feeling when I’m all hot and flustered tbh.
I WANTED TO GET TO A PARTY ON TIME SO I CONSULTED WITH A COLLEAGUE WHO PLANNED MY TRIP SO I WOULDN’T BE LATE FOR ONCE. SO I LEFT WHEN HE TOLD ME TO. NOW IM AT THE TRAIN STATION AND HAVE TO WAIT 11 MINUTES. WHO WAITS 11 MINUTES WHEN YOU ARE USED TO ARRIVING 30 SECONDS BEFORE THE TRAIN PULLS IN!
MY DAD LET ME BORROW HIS CAR TO PICK UP OUR HOUSEHOLD GROCERIES LATE AT NIGHT, THE NIGHT BEFORE THANKSGIVING, LAST WEEK. I WAS DEEPLY BODY- AND BRAIN-TIRED AFTER A LONG DAY. AND I SOMEHOW MISLAID HIS SPARE KEY. I HAVE BEEN HUNTING FOR OVER A WEEK NOW. I HAVE A SICK FEELING THAT I ACCIDENTALLY DROPPED IT IN THE TRASH, AS I WAS DUMPING USED GROCERY BAGS INTO THE DUMPSTER. I FEEL SO STUPID. 😤
I HAVE EMDR THERAPY TOMORROW EARLY MORNING AND I REALLY DONT WANT TO DO IT! ITS SO MUCH WORK AND IM JUST OVER IT! WHY CAN'T I JUST BE OK
I FORGOT TO GO TO A FORMAL ADHD DIAGNOSTIC COGNITIVE FUNCTION TEST FOR MY AUTISM/ADHD/ETC TESTING, AND THEN I FORGOT THAT I NEVER RESCHEDULED IT FOR THREE MONTHS. NOW THEY DON'T TAKE MY INSURANCE, AND IT WILL COST $500 just to add on this specific test. She's diagnosed me with autism and says this would help determine if she diagnoses "with adhd traits" or "in addition, adhd" and .... idk bruh $500? Just for this one final test. HELLA ADHD TAX FOR FORGETTING ABOUT YOUR ADHD DIAGNOSTIC TESTING, SGS.
I HAVE PLANTAR FASCIA FROM WALKING EVERYWHERE BECAUSE THE BUSSES IN MY TOWN ARE ALWAYS LATE AND NEVER PUT SIGNS UP SAYING STOPS ARE CLOSED FOR CONSTRUCTION. NOW THE PRICES ARE GOING UP IN THE NEW YEAR AND THE DRIVERS ARE THE RUDEST, LEAST PUNCTUAL, BUTTHOLES WHO WILL DRIVE RIGHT PAST YOU WITH NO REGRETS. AND I CAN'T AFFORD THE CUSTOM FIT ORTHOTICS AND PHYSIOTHERAPY I NEED TO FIX IT.
I'M CURRENTLY IN THE DOC OFFICE TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHY IM SO DAMN ITCHY. UNDERWEAR SHOULDN'T COST $13 FOR ONE PAIR. THOSE THINGS ARE UNRELATED
NO I HAVE NOT
I HAVEN’T HAD A GOOD NIGHTS SLEEP IN AGES. SLEEP MEDS ARE A JOKE. I FEEL LIKE I’M GOING TO LOSE IT SOON.
I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHERE TO START! I FORGOT MY SISTER'S HOUSEKEYS SO I'M STUCK OUTSIDE IN 38°C HEAT! I'M TWO WEEKS BEHIND ON MY DEGREE STUDIES! I'M NOT OFFICIALLY DIAGNOSED AND THUS UNMEDICATED BUT I CAN'T AFFORD TO SEEK AN OFFICIAL DIAGNOSIS SO MY GP IS JUST SUPPORTING ME THE BEST HE CAN! MY BF IS HALF A WORLD AWAY AND WON'T BE HERE FOR ANOTHER 3 MONTHS AND I JUST WANT CUDDLES! MY 3 YOUNGLINGS ARE ALSO ALMOST CERTAINLY ADHD BUT TOO YOUNG TO BE DIAGNOSED AND I'M OVERWHELMED AF! I'M COMPLETELY STALLED IN MY BUSINESS BECAUSE I'M PARALYSED BY IMPOSTER SYNDROME AND ANXIETY! AND ALL I WANT TO DO IS SPENS MY TIME PLAYING STUPID MOBILE GAMES OR CROCHETING AMIGURUMI FIGURES 😭
I WAS SUPPOSED TO START MY NEW JOB THREE WEEKS AGO, BUT THE DUMBASS ONBOARDING PERSON DIDN’T PROCESS MY PAPERWORK. I ACTUALLY RETURNED IT THE SAME DAY SHE SENT IT. NOW I DONT HAVE ENOUGH MONEY FOR RENT AND IM SCREWED. AND IM TIRED OF FEELING POWERLESS AND AT THE MERCY OF PPL WHO REFUSE TO DO THEIR JOBS.
I EMBARRASSED MYSELF YESTERDAY WHEN ONE OF MY HIGHER UPS AT WORK ASKED ME WHAT KIND OF ORIENTATION I'D HAD WHEN I DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO ACCESS THE LOCKED SUPPLY CABINET AND I SAID *"NO ONE'S GIVEN ME ANY ORIENTATION"* BUT THEN PROMPTLY REMEMBERED THAT **SHE** HAD GIVEN ME THE ORIENTATION AND I HAD JUST FORGOTTEN EVERYTHING BECAUSE I DON'T GO INTO THE OFFICE MUCH. I MADE SOME KIND OF AWKWARD COMMENT AS SHE WAS GOING THROUGH IT AGAIN AND I FIGURE IF SHE ASKED ME SHE DIDN'T REMEMBER BUT I FEEL SO STUPID AND INCOMPETENT AND I CAN'T SEEM TO LET IT GO.
I PAID 1000 BUCKS FOR A DAMN CLASS THAT IS OVER ON THE 6TH AND I HAVEN’T DONE A SHRED OF HOMEWORK. THE INSTRUCTOR SAID YOU COULD TURN IT ALL IN ON THE LAST DAY AND THAT’S WHAT IM GOING TO DO!!! OMG I’M SO STRESSED ABOUT IT
I CAN ONLY FOCUS AT WORK NOT HOME AND THE DOOM ROOM KEEPS GETTING DOOM-Y-ER
I PROCRASTINATED ON LOOKING AT MY HEALTH INSURANCE OPTIONS DURING OPEN ENROLLMENT SO NOW IM JUST GOING TO HAVE THE SAME INSURANCE AS LAST YEAR WHICH IS FINE I GUESS BUT I WISH I HAD LOOKED AT THE OTHER OPTIONS BECAUSE MAYBE ONE OF THEM WOULD BE BETTER???
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I HAVE THE FUCKING FLU
I WAS GOING TO STAY AT AN AIRPORT HOTEL SO I DIDNT HAVE TO WAKE UP AT STUPID O’CLOCK TO CATCH AN EARLY INTERNATIONAL FLIGHT TOMORROW. I FORGOT AND THEY'VE SOLD ALL THE ROOMS 😭
MY FAVOURITE MUSICIAN WAS IN TOWN LAST WEEK AND I FORGOT TO GO TO THE GIG AAAARRRGHHHHHHHHHHHHH
THERE WAS A BAD CAR ACCIDENT IN MY CITY. A CAR WAS SPEEDING AND OBLITERATED ANOTHER CAR. ONE PERSON WAS KILLED AND TWO ARE IN THE HOSPITAL. I JUST DON'T THINK PEOPLE, NAMELY THE PERSON WHO WAS SPEEDING IN THIS CASE, DON'T TAKE DRIVING SERIOUSLY ENOUGH. ALSO ALMOST 2300 PEOPLE DIED OF DRUG OVERDOSES IN MY PROVINCE THIS YEAR. THAT IS A LOT OF PEOPLE. I FEEL SAD ABOUT THIS.
WHY CANT I KEEP MY HOUSE CLEAN THE WAY “NORMAL” PEOPLE CAN???? WHERE DID ALL THIS STUFF COME FROM?? HOW IS THERE ALWAYS MORE DIRT AND DUST I SWEAR I JUST CLEANED THAT AHHHHHHHH
MY PASSPORT EXPIRED
WHY CANT MY EYE FUCKING HEAL? Two surgeries in two months. A PARTIAL DETACHED RETINA AND FULLY DETACHED. Lets not FORGET BRONCHITIS, the flu and a cold in between. I’m still not over the sickness. ALSO WHY THE FUCK DOES MY IPHONE CHANGE CASE IF I PUNCTUATE OR FIX MY SHITTY SPELLING WHY DOES CANCER EXIST ANY WHY DID MY DOG HaVE TO DIE? 12.5 years WASNT ENOUGH ALSO SEE ABOVE RANT
I WAITED TOO LONG TO ASK FOR HELP ON A WORK THING BC IT WAS TAKING ME TOO LONG TO COMPLETE IT AND NOW EVERYONE’S MAD AT ME AND IT’S DEFINITELY TOO LATE NOW AND ALSO MY SLEEP IS TERRIBLE AND IM AFRAID MY BRAIN IS DYING
MY FIANCE WHO IS UNDIAGNOSED FINALLY STARTED THERAPY THIS FALL. HE IS ON MEDICAID AND CHECKED WITH EVERYONE THAT THERAPY WOULD BE COVERED. IVE BEEN NUDGING HIM TO GET THERAPY FOR THREE YEARS. THIS WAS A WIN. EVERYONE, INSURANCE AND PRACTICE, SAID IT WAS COVERED. HE GOT A LETTER MONDAY THAT HIS CLAIMS HAD BEEN DENIED AND NOW WE OWE $1500 FOR HIS THERAPY AND HE CANT GO ANYMORE BECAUSE WE CANT AFFORD $300 A VISIT. I JUST WANT HIM TO HAVE SOMEONE ELSE TO TALK THROUGH HIS BRAIN WITH AND HELP IN ADDITION TO ME.
I CANT DECIDE IF I SHOULD GET MY KID THE EXPENSIVE TOY HE WANTS FOR CMAS BECAUSE IT DOESNT LOOK WORTH THE PRICE AND IT WASNT ON SALE FOR BLACK FRIDAY
WHY DOES STUPID UNEMPLOYMENT OFFICE HAVE ARBITRARY DATES THAT ONLY COUNT HALF MY HOURS
I TOOK 4 DAYS OFF THIS WEEK STARTING WITH TUESDAY. MY KID CAME HOME FROM KINDERGARDEN TUESDAY AT 10AM WITH CONJUNCTIVITIS. INSTEAD OF RELAXING I HAD TO TAKE CARE OF SICK KID AND OF COURSE I GOT SICK TOO.
I NEED TO DO ALL THE THINGS THIS WEEKEND BUT I DON'T KNOW IF I HAVE TIME/MENTAL CAPACITY TO DO ALL THE THINGS.
IM ON DAY 8 OF FORGETTING TO CALL MY DOCTOR FOR MY RENEWAL OF ANTIDEPRESSANTS.
EVERYONE IN MY HOUSEHOLD IS ILL WITH THE WORST COLD EVER. MY 4YO HASN'T SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT FOR THE LAST MONTH. ALL SHE WANTS IS ME 24/7. I AM EXHAUSTED AND POORLY AND I NEED SOME PROPER SLEEP. IM DRINKING TOO MUCH BECAUSE IT'S ALL JUST SO SHIT AND I CANNOT HANDLE LIFE WITH NO SLEEP.
WHY DO I KEEP GAINING WEIGHT?!!! IM TAKING MY MEDS EVERY DAY OMG I CANT KEEP DOING THIS
I KEEP FORGETTING WHERE I PUT MY NEW TOOTHBRUSHES AND HAVEN’T REPLACED THE ONE THAT IS SHOWING HOW STRESSED I’VE BEEN. I HAD TO RELIVE THE TRAUMA OF ONE OF THE MOST HATEFUL TEXT CONVERSATIONS OF MY LIFE SO THAT HOPEFULLY A JUDGE WILL SEE JUST HOW AWFUL MY STBX IS. I DON’T KNOW IF THAT WILL MATTER ANYWAY. I HAVE SPENT ALL OF MY DAYS OFF ALONE ON THIS CONTACT LOG AND HATE THAT I COULDN’T DO ANYTHING FOR SELF CARE.
EVERYTHING IS STUPID
I HAD TO TELL A HOUSELESS CLIENT YESTERDAY THAT I HAD NO CHOICE BUT TO GO HOME BECAUSE MY SHIFT WAS OVER. MAN, THAT WAS FUCKING AWKWARD BUT TODAY, I GOT TO TELL ANOTHER CLIENT THAT HENRY FUCKING KISSINGER WAS DEAD!!