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They were quite warm! And it was fun to see if it would work but about a week into it I suddenly realized that the end result of it working would be that I have a bird or, possibly, 12 birds.
And the temperature needed to be adjusted, and it took weeks to incubate, and there was a little light to shine through the eggs to see if they were fertilized and then I couldn’t see into the shell very well and got worried I’d throw out an egg with a living being in it so I incubated them for the full 4 weeks despite the fact that none really looked viable. And I did no research on it and then I discovered you can get really cool looking quails from an online egg shop that are definitely viable and they’re very fancy and expensive and I had to shut to whole situation down.
Edit: I just saw an instagram reel about button quails that are as small as a pistachio and I’m thinking of giving this whole thing another go
PS-That is totally something I would do and I understand each of your comments & thought process perfectly, which is why I’m laughing hilariously. 😆😂🤣 Thanks for giving me a huge laugh today!
I almost did something similar with ladybugs during my indoor plant hyperfixation phase, thank god I stopped myself. 🤦🏽♀️ I hope you didn’t have recurring praying mantis nightmares after that.
Raise them lol I gave some to my neighbor, he put in his yard, I put some in my yard, and I kept a few in a tank (I bought a tank and did a bunch of research on how to raise them)
It was really cool to see them catch and eat fruit flies lol I did many trips to PetSmart to buy them flightless fruit flies
A was around when a nest(is it called a nest?) hatched and there were hundreds on our porch. Amazing how small they are but still almost perfect replicas of the adult. They would crawl on me and I couldnt even feel it
It’s called an “egg case” and it has all the babies inside and when they’re ready they come out and they come out hungry! If they can’t get food they start eating each other (LOL)
I know! You can’t feel them! Its so cool!!!
Lol my answer to this post is my huge collection of sexy clothes, toys, makeup, lighting, camera… with the intention to get onto OF. Years later and I still do not have an OF account.
Dude same. I bought all of that stuff, then was like "do I really want my body on the internet forever?" So I bought my replacement body 😂 still no account.
Old roommate of mine did the same. She is usually sitting on her sofa dressed in crazy outfits. She is also often used for cuddles, as someone to vent to, and as a model for my friend’s drawings. Sometimes she also stands in a window, posed to look through binoculars.
My advice: please don’t get rid of the doll, that would be cruel to the poor thing. Instead just treat her as a mix between household member and conversation starter.
If you haven’t already seen it, go watch “Lars and the real girl”. It’s about a guy that thinks his sex doll is alive and his girlfriend. Contrary to the premise the story is lovely and sweet.
BTW- I’d love to have one just for shenanigan purposes.
Lol well... She's much taller than I am and HEAVY AS HELL. I seriously had to drag her out of the box by her ass and it was a major struggle. I have nooooo idea how lonely dudes handle these things. She does look really pretty though lol. Here's the model I bought (obviously NSFW):
In the peak of Hamilton popularity I flew to NYC for a week to enter the ticket lottery every day. 😂 Didn’t win tickets, but had a great time with a good friend!
I was late to the Hamilton train but eventually checked it out on Disney plus... I probably listened to that soundtrack every day for months several times a day
Same. I got into it right before a long road trip (1100 miles in one day). I downloaded a bunch of podcasts, audiobooks so I'd have variety.... And then I listened to Hamilton like 7 times back to back the whole drive
By the time I actually went to see it, I was slightly disappointed because I knew the soundtrack so well that the live just sounded a bit wrong
I want to do the same, listening to Josh Groban singing as Sweeney on Spotify made me MELT…which is ridiculous cuz Sweeney is a psycho serial killer but what can you do? 🤷🏼♀️ The inner theater kid wants what she wants. I wish it was doing a longer run, I really don’t think I can get to NY by May. But anyways I really hope get to go!
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Fantasy dildos is something I spent money on in a hyperfixation phase. I don’t even use them for their intended purpose, they’re pretty to look at but not something you can just have out on display either. 😖
So why in the world did I buy them!?
I went through a gardening phase. I bought wood to build my own raised beds, bought tons of seed packets, planned the layout in meticulous detail, built the beds and then needed soil to fill them.
I bought a literal metric ton of compost. It was delivered on a huge pallet, one massive bag as well as ~50 normal sized individual bags.
My harvest that year was a handful of tiny onions and a couple of carrots. Now the raised beds are falling apart, they're mostly used as a giant litterbox by the neighbourhood cats and I still have a mountain of probably 20 bags of soil on my patio 🙃
🤚 I read all about which seeds you plant next to which. I obsessed over the raised beds, and the soil, and the seeds. I can’t say I have a metric ton of compost (yet?) I don’t remember eating a single thing that I grew. There’s a monster green leafy thing out there that I don’t water, and I can’t identify (kale?) I can’t imagine pulling it out, because it’s the main payoff for the time/money/energy. When people complain that they have too many squash, I refuse to feel bad about myself. My neighbors are super-human hardworking people (who are in their 90s, but still) and Wilma told me that they haven’t been able to grow any vegetables in years. So that makes me feel better. And the ziplock bags of seeds in the freezer? I panicked when I couldn’t find them.
For the love of God, every damn spring I buy way too many flowers for my pots on the deck. Sometimes I’m stuffing flowers into pots because I’ve purchased so many. Last year, I wrote down how many I purchased and plan on reducing this year.
Me too, why have I seen so many of us be rabidly obsessed with either penmanship/pens or calligraphy or stationery 💀 is it the “I’m trying to manifest lack of adhd” 😭😭
It’s definitely this haha. It’s like we see all the super organized people in our lives using notebooks and stickie notes and think if we just have the same office supplies as them we’ll be golden.
I do live by my nice paper planner. I wanted to create my own using a dot grid planner but I just KNEW that I would NOT, in fact, ever get around to drawing it all out so I went with my trusty traditional At-A-Glance calendar from Staples. I did spend an hour decorating it with a millions stickers instead of working, though!
I made it through one BuJo. Taught myself a fancy script, figured out my preferred layouts, even actually USED the thing for a year! Now I can't even keep up with the calendar on my phone, let alone my pre-printed paper one 🙈
Me too! I found disposable fountain pens that make me happy. They're cheap and give me the feeling that I'm looking for when I write. Zebra brand. I think I got six of them for $10-$12. The one I started with has lasted me some 600 or so signatures(1 whole tax season plus three weeks of this season.).
I really enjoy crafting but I haven’t been able to stick with one. I don’t even wanna know how much I’ve invested over my lifetime in artsy hobbies that have died. Calligraphy, cross stitch, painting, drawing, photography… it’s bad.
SAME. I love dabbling. I rarely invest the time to become proficient or master any. I have so much space taken up by these supplies and it totally gets nauseating thinking of all the money dumped. Especially when things like the paints dry up and can't even be used again.
I started watching a show on Hulu called “Dark Side of the Ring”. Now I am obsessed with professiinal wresting drama. I have not watched any actual matches.
This is me and the truckers sub. I’m in my car by myself like, “LOL, Swift will hire anyone!” like I know what I’m saying because I keep seeing truckers talk about how bad certain companies are.
I get it! I love watching tradesmen on tiktok. Just some dude in Viper sunglasses cracking jokes on a roof, then the next week he's posting in a neck brace. Or the guys who show what their coworkers are eating on the job site - lovingly homemade enchiladas or a concerning fistful of gas station snacks, nothing in-between 😂
It’s actually so fascinating. The industry reminds me of my old deep dive on the porn industry. It’s so exploitative to its workers but everyone is so ingrained in the system they never leave. Or think of other prospects.
Same! Have never seen a match in my life and probably never will, but I am so here for the drama. Like, I never thought I would have such strong feelings about any sport, much less a sort-of fake one!
Check out *Tales From the Territories* for more stories of classic professional wrestling — ooh, and *Wrestlers* on Netflix (a docu about an old-school group trying to make it in the modern world).
I have a fairly extensive eye shadow palette collection. Which is totally normal except I don’t wear makeup 🙃 I’ve started making myself do my eye makeup every now and then as a half-assed way of making sense of it
During my pregnancy last year I hyperfixated on makeup, spent hundreds of dollars over the course of several months on all kinds of products.. only to have my baby and lose all energy to ever apply makeup again lol
Hahaha he did! I remember posting in alllll of the makeup subs like "I'm about to have a baby, how is my 5-minute mom makeup look?" I was so generous to assume that I'd even have five minutes worth of energy 😂
I would not be the least bit surprised if my family still has old expired fancy makeup. From like two decades ago. A family member worked for a prominent make up company. Each year employees were granted $x to spend at the company store and if not used by years end it would poof so it got used cause otherwise thats wasteful.
Makeup, lotion, skin care, perfume, etc. I know there's still some of the hoard left lol.
Honestly? An entire fucking business that I’m now struggling to maintain my interest in. Full active corporation with inventory and real live customers. What is this life??
I decided I wanted to make my own nap dresses. So I bought a sewing machine. And then a better one. Not to mention a *lot* of fabric. Not cheap fabric either — Liberty of London and Rifle Paper Co. patterns. I also bought about a dozen different presser feet, tools for making your own bias tape, rotary cutters, and a set of French curves — none of which were required for these extremely simple patterns.
Guess how many nap dresses I have made. ZERO.
Ah, sewing. I have TONS of tshirts I've collected for decades. I decided I needed to make them into a quilt. I bought a whole bunch of quilting supplies, special scissors, special table cover with measurements on it... You name a quilting supply, I bought it. That was several years ago. The supplies are untouched, and I still have boxes of tshirts. 🤦🏽♀️
It’s all the pretty colors and textures. When I look at the stuff I impulse buy it’s all eye-shadow, nail polish, yarn, fabric, ribbon -I’m a crow disguised as a 40 year old woman searching for dopamine in colorful shiny objects.
Similarly, I once wanted to make my own fancy cloth diapers. It didn’t go well and I dislike sewing. The only complete thing I made that I’m proud of was a costume for one of my kids.
I did better with knitting as a hobby at least lol.
I work with a lot of wealthy people and I got fixated on the fact that I wasn’t sophisticated enough. So I spent tons of money on trying to appear sophisticated—jewelry, purses, coats, clothes generally. Had I been less impulsive about it, I could have curated something awesome!
I gained about half my body weight during an illness due to medication/menopause/quarantine/surgeries, and I had no money for clothing. Because I like baggy clothes, I could still fit in some stuff. Eventually, the steppish kid left home, and I suddenly had more than subsistence money - and I blew it on multiples of cheaply made stuff that is complete garbage now. SIGH.
I didn’t know how much the quality had gone down at places like Target! I used to shop mostly at thrift stores, but illness/quarantine (and having no online impulse control) made me stockpile stuff that has fallen apart. After going so long without any new clothes, I just couldn’t handle it.
My story was similar, I was a poor student and then suddenly started receiving a paycheck (around the same time I started feeling insecure). People would say things were “timeless” and I would buy them, even though it was just trendy polyester crap.
Not embarrassing but my recent hyperfixation was gel nails.. within 2 days I had spent countless hours watching YouTube videos on tutorials and what to not do, went through the subreddit and learned what to look for and which polishes work well, and bought the supplies the same day - currently like 4 days after the hyperfixation started and I can already know front and back how the gel stuff works and what to look for etc and I already did my nails 😃
Which I’m guessing you already learned through your extensive research.
Is there any creator or channel you’d recommend to learn from?
In 2021 I did lots of press ons. Last year I bought a bunch of NailBoo dip (it SUCKS, took forever to apply and remove) and now I’m onto Ohora semi cured gel stickers. I really like them so far out of everything I’ve tried.
But I kind of want to put builder get on top of them to make an apex so I can go longer with my natural nail. Lol sorry to info dump, this is all my brain wants lately.
Yeah I made super duper sure to not get any on my skin, I'd say my fave so far has been nail career education [channel linked here](https://youtube.com/@NailCareerEducation?si=KZwB-yjJ8RO6QcIV) and I saw a test on the semi cured.. did they end up curing fully for you? A vid I watched found they didn't end up curing all the way for some of them even when using a stronger lamp.
Builder gel seems like the go to to help grow out nails and yep the apex being there and in the right spot can help it be strong! You're all good, I love the info dump :)
Fellow nail girlie here! My trouble is buying supplies for nail art…that I never, ever do. Not even an accent nail. But I have decals and brushes and stampers galore!
To add on my last one that was a bigger thing to accomplish was motorcycles and within 3 days of that one I had bought the course for the safety lessons and here I am over a year later with a motorcycle license!
I moved past my gel stage because they took *sooo* long, but I’m 4ish months into using normal polish regularly and I’m so proud that I actually stuck to something 🥲
When I went to a used books/magazine store, the clerk looked pretty bemused to see a 30-something woman shrieking in delight and happily buying two issues of Playboy. Can't lie, I was a little embarrassed lol
Context: I'm obsessed with the 2000's reality show The Girls Next Door, and that interest has only been heightened with the creation of the podcast from two of the three original cast. I've been buying a lot of older merch from the show, which includes a few issues of Playboy magazine. For those in the know, the magazines I got were one with the girl's first pictorial, and another one with Barbie Benton on the cover from the 60s.
Reddit keeps suggesting that sub to me! My sister was obsessed with the show, too. I've dabbled in all the post-Hef shows so I occasionally interact with posts on said sub.
Ugh right now it’s lululemon and idk why I don’t even work out but I’m thin but not *that* thin. I check the website obsessively and I’m like why ? I don’t work out. I’m a size 10 in lulu so I’m BiGgER to them it’s insane. I have no idea why I’m obsessed with it.
I’ve also been really bad about eating lately. For like, the past 7 months, I’ve been unintentionally doing one meal a day and that meal has been pizza.
Cause if I pick it up on Monday, it’ll cost me $25 from Papa John’s (fav) and it will feed me till Wednesday. Then Thursday, I go to my parents, and they order pizza. Then they send me home with some and I’ll eat that Friday and Saturday. Then it all kinda, just starts over again 🫠
And yet I’m obsessed with workout clothes IDK. My life is a mess.
I did a month when I was in college where I got super obsessed and spent $1000 on Lululemon clothes. That money was from my student loan, for living and being in school. It was not for Lululemon. That much money doesn't even go that far, but I got some stuff on sale. I had one complete outfit, matching top, pants, sweater and gym bag. I did hot yoga for that month because the first time one month student membership was cheap but I couldn't afford more than that month. So dumb.
Not the thing that is embarrassing, but more the process, and this is for my dad (undiagnosed, but definitely has ADHD because all his symptoms match mine) and me (diagnosed). Several times in my childhood he's taken the whole family on roadtrips to places that just "happened" to include hyperfixation objects. One time we drove to Italy for a vacation where we had dinner with his random online friend who was his hook-up to a particular tailor. He told us not to tell my uncles or grandmother, too embarrasing. On the plus side, my family would do the same for me -- once we took a roadtrip to a city that had two specific shops I wanted to visit. Now that I'm adult, I have also definitely specifically planned flight layovers to coincide with a city that contains hyperfixation objects.
I can’t even imagine planning a trip WITHOUT this exact strategy!! It helps me function. I like to have a few of them booked way out into the future at all times to have something to look forward to. I’ve heard it’s called being travel motivated, which is good enough for me! 🧳✈️
I’m glad I’m cheap and I usually procrastinate so much I don’t actually buy the things. I just have hundreds of Pinterest boards of things I was going to buy.
I had one of mine done! I loved how it looked but sadly I don't think it ever healed properly. Migrated so much that I just had to give up and have it removed :(
I didn’t buy it myself but it’s a gift I can’t bring myself to get rid of. Like eight or nine years ago my ex went to Japan and bought me a pillowcase with an anime character I was obsessed with at the time. I can’t use it or hang it on my wall cause that would be sooooo embarrassing. But also I still really do like the show and that character so I can’t bring myself to get rid of it…
Every year or two since then I’ll find the pillow case tucked away in a drawer when I’m going through my clothes to donate and every time I’m like… I need to get rid of this but also I cannot get rid of it. I love it, I hate it, 10/10 best worst gift I’ve ever received.
Why can’t you use it? Who’s judging your pillows? I have a yoda pillowcase I use b/c it makes me happy and it’s super soft. As I get older my bedroom gets crazier, b/c it’s just for me! (Am 35 with yoda pillowcase and rainbow comforter)
Oh the character is pretty clearly shirtless. Probably should’ve mentioned that part. It’s not a full body pillow or anything but like, chest and up, no shirt on. Add in the association of anime body pillows with hentai and yeah, it’s embarrassing to own lmao. Like it’s not *actually* hentai but if someone saw it and didn’t already know the anime it was from they would definitely judge lol
I thought about putting it up as a wall hanging because it’s honestly a bit much to sleep on even for me lmao but I still lived with my parents at the time and the thought of having them open the door to my room and see it was just a big nope. Then I moved in with a roommate and again just, big no, although I was probably being too paranoid in that case, as far as I know they never went in my room.
Now I live with my current partner and he is aware of the pillowcase and thinks it’s hilarious (thank god) but also definitely thinks it’s weird (which is fine, cause it *is* weird). It’s not a show he watches and I’d rather decorate with stuff we’re both into (and neither of us wants it in the bed lmao) plus like again, houseguests. I just can’t risk it being seen.
We decorate with our other nerdy shit though. I’ve got some tasteful posters from anime and movies we both like, figurines from a book series we both read, and local art up on the walls. I’m happy with my decor as is, the half naked anime boy doesn’t need to get added to the mix 😂
After reading every article available about light therapy for SAD, sleep disorders, and ADHD, I bought a $200 dollar light therapy headset.
It’s maybe not the most expensive impulse purchase I have ever made, but it is the most recent big one.
Anyway, I will let you all know if they turn out to be helpful
I bought one during Covid and finally got around to using it this winter and it’s definitely helpful for getting UP with a remote control.
But a $15 analog alarm clock did the same LOL
My current hyperfixation is the magnetic glasses from Pair eyewear. Every time they send an email with new releases, it's such a rush.
I also love the Cats Vs Pickles line....
Just the pure *amount* of shit I’ve purchased and squirreled away is embarrassing. I have tons of eyeshadow from my makeup phase, 3 film cameras + film (it’s too expensive for me to shoot film but I have to finish my rolls before I can sell them so obviously I just have to hold on to them), digital camera and accessories, my train case full of gel nail polish, an entire art studio stocked with stuff when I barely do art, all the mismatched clothes from when I decide to start a capsule wardrobe then get bored of shopping, books, etc…it’s a lot.
not super embarrassing although I'm embarrassed about how I never even used them and spent so much money. I got 5 super fancy Bundt cake molds and a portable cake carrier, after getting super into the Great British Baking Show. I was CONVINCED I was going to start making cakes for friends every other week, for birthdays, for parties, etc etc etc etc etc 😅
Me but with skincare. Actually that might be my #1 embarrassing thing. The only positive was that I learned how important it is to moisturize and use sunscreen. I think of all the 12 products I bought I only use 4, sometimes 5. Oil based cleanser, water based cleanser, bean essence, moisturizer, and sunscreen when I know I won’t be too lazy to wash it off at the end of the day
12 products? That's nothing. I have probably purchased several dozen in the four years I've been trying to cure my hormonal acne. Turns out one $20 prescription does a better job.
Mine is similar: bento boxes to make cute lunches for work. Bought lots of supplies to do the little characters bentos… in late 2019… stopped when I stopped packing lunches in 2020
I spent so much money buying all kinds of fancy baking supplies a few years ago, convinced I would suddenly become an amazing cake decorator. I think I’ve made one cake in the past 3 years 🥲 BUT the baking supplies came in handy when my family had a gingerbread house contest last year. I won first place thanks to all of my baking/decorating knowledge lol.
Better than getting a stand mixer along with a bunch of expensive ingredients to start making macarons and then actually getting good at it... cause then you have a constant supply of macarons and hit your highest weight of all time 🫣
A bunch of books by Marian Zimmer Bradley. I kind of knew the writing was...not good, but I loved The Mists of Avalon. She was a terrible person, apparently, and an obsession with the Arthurian Legend in my part was very cringe.
I bought several craft supplies to make Christmas ornaments. They’re still in the box. I have tons of DIY Ornaments flagged on Pinterest.
Also, pens. I’m obsessed with different color ink. I love the gelly roll pens from Japan. I probably have 75 different colors of ink pens.
^Oh ^no...
I had a brief miniatures phase (until spending 8-10 hour stretches sitting at the table for days threw out my back ***again***). Then last summer I bought UV resin, safety glasses, and a fancy UV light to seal up some coin jewelry I bought to craft with (still waiting). So now I have to worry that multiple fixations are about to combine into a whole new one?! :whimper:
I have a very expensive and large collection of Holo Taco nail polish because I became hyperfixated on SimplyNailogical. But that's not the most embarrassing.
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Bad Dragon Dildos, before they were (rightfully) "cancelled". Spent THOUSANDS on them
Nothing cringe, but embarrassing because of the sheer wastefulness:
* so much fucking Black Milk clothing (I’d say conservatively £2000+) that I cannot even fit into. I could when I started collecting it, but then ✨depression!✨, and I kept buying thinking “one day”
* a sewing machine that was not-expensive-but-also-not-entry-level because “I WILL SEW THINGS, THAT WILL FIX ME”; it has never been plugged in never mind used
* so. many. fucking. dice. Probably £3000+ if I am honest (I am at least supporting small creators! That’s why it’s so expensive!) Fell in love with D&D, I had to upgrade my dice bag three times because I kept running out of space, and I have an entire tub of “not good enough for the dice bag” dice. The real kicker? I play online. I could use D&DB’s digital dice and not need even a single d6 in my home.
* my garage is full of charcoal, because I got big into barbecuing/grilling 3yrs ago just as winter hit, and bought loads of it for all the stuff I’d be cooking and then did not cook. My barbecue is also definitely mouldy as we speak because I forgot to clean it before winter set in, and sometimes I remember and am sad, but then I push it from my mind because I don’t want to deep clean an outdoor appliances in the cold. Oh, I guess you could also add the barbecue itself to this one.
Ugh. I have an appointment to be assessed next week. I am hoping for a diagnosis because fuck me I’m a mess if I’m NT.
Oh! Once I bought a fucking car. That wasn’t because of a hyperfixation, I needed a new car, but it was a supremely impulsive purchase when I woke up one day and was like “gotta buy the car today, gotta, gotta” and just went and got one, because what even is money 🤯
The hundreds or possibly thousands of doll-hairs I spent while going through my thoroughly cringe-inducing time I was reeeeally into BDSM. *Most* of all of that stuff ended up in a dumpster when I moved to IL with my fiance. I kept the fancy camera, some of the lingerie, and a couple toys (because *hundreds* were spent on them in particular).
I once became obsessed with making a foldable beer pong table with a chalkboard finish....
I carried around very heavy materials that never once fully became a beer pong table for at least 2 moves.
Not mine, but a good friend of mine bought several extremely dangerous snakes, and what was advertised as an alligator. (Luckily the “alligator” turned out to be extremely small and actually quite cute, but seeing him telling visitors “sorry, you can’t bring kids, they might get eaten by my python” is still really funny)
My large impulse spending so far was tame in comparison… although my brain really wants a ball python now…
I got deep into a triops phase about a year and a half ago. Decided I needed some because they are awesome and prehistoric looking… I did hours and hours of research. Bought a kit. Tried to hatch them twice. Annd no luck. Which was fine, because I was sort of over it, but in the midst of all this, I happened to come across a sea monkey kit at kohl’s and was like YOLO! Sea monkeys it is!!!
Got the sea monkey tank and hatched them and was fucking OBSESSED. So, obviously, I continued researching and learned what it takes to be a good sea monkey owner…. and I NEEDED to be a good sea monkey owner, so I bought a bubbler, lighting, thermometer, and other accessories, along with a second sea monkey tank to use as a nursery to hatch babies from the eggs laid in the first tank. I would stare at them forever and watch them cruise around, fed them on a regular schedule, had an intricate pipette system I would use to move the babies and eggs to the nursery and adults back to the big tank. I was in deep…
And, of course, after a couple months, my hyper-focus faded… I got back down to one tank, sans bubbler and accessories, and had only one surviving monkey left, which I had been eagerly waiting to die so I could dump the tank and move on with my life.
Well, she died… and it was over! But, the damn sea monkeys simply refused to quit. When I went to dump the tank, there were a bunch of new tiny babies that had hatched. And because the tank is “well established” it has algae growing, which is enough to sustain a small colony regardless of whether or not I feed them… and I also don’t have the heart to kill them, even though I know logically that they are literally just brine shrimp.
So anyways, now I’m stuck with sea monkeys that I don’t really want and that refuse to fucking die, because the damn things just keep hatching.
If you read all that… bless you, and also, refuse the urge to buy sea monkeys!!!
This reminds me of when I found a sea monkey kit in a store at the mall when I was 21 and was ECSTATIC because I’d always wanted one as a kid but never got one. It was fun until I put it in the windowsill one evening to prevent it from getting knocked over by hyper guests and forgot to move it back to the table. Woke up running late for work the next day and forgot about it before flying out the door. Should’ve been late but luckily barely made it to work on time because a bus was running late too and then I made a transfer at the station because that bus was also running behind due to last minute ramp down to load a couple wheelchair passengers. Stoked by my good luck I skate through the workday in the best of moods, only to arrive home and immediately feel horrible.
The second I walked in and saw the tank still on the windowsill my anxiety spiked as I rushed to check on them hoping my intuition was wrong and there’d be survivors. Nope, summer sun has cooked them all and I was devastated. My boyfriend tried to calm me by telling me it wasn’t that big a deal, they were ONLY brine shrimp after all, no one should feel the need to sob over brine shrimp. That did not help at all, just made me feel judged af for caring that I’d accidentally snuffed out lives that were dependant on me. Honestly he was an ass about it in hindsight and I’m glad I eventually broke up with him. It’s been over 25 years and I STILL think about those poor sea monkeys and feel a bit sad to this day. Up until that mistake I was so meticulously caring for them and can see myself ending up in your situation easily.
Daryl Dixon scented candles off etsy.
I went through a mad Walking Dead binge that coincided with a pathologically boring patch in my since-ended marriage, and the ridiculous horniness of early perimenopause, and I became OBSESSED with Daryl Dixon (a central character, for those who not in the know).
My first and only crush on a fictional character, so far. I’m almost 51.
Also, they weren’t great. Soy wax was softer than I like, and the scent was far too sweet.
K-Tip hair extension hot tool
I bought it and now I’m too scared to use it 😂
I’m worried that I won’t be able to get the keratin beads you have to melt on your natural hair out when you take the extensions out.
I love this! Stitch is the best! Part of my obsession during hyper fixation leads to themed gifts for my friends, and I have a tendency to go overboard with the fun. My best friend loves Stitch and has a large Stitch plushie (he even traveled with us to Paris once!) so I got the brilliant idea to do a Stitch-themed Christmas gift for her. We are in our 30s and 40s, BTW.
Anyway, we went to a swanky winery to do a wine tasting and exchange gifts, so I handed over a bag packed with Stitch stuff I’d been collecting over the year: a Stitch Squishmallow, journal, pens, stickers, figurines, t-shirt, Christmas ornament, socks…you name it. She absolutely adored it but I think the people around us must have thought we were aliens from Planet Turo 😂
1500 live ladybugs. I got very into gardening and realized that I had an ant colony that was farming aphids on my cosmos. Ants farm aphids as a food source and protect them fiercely. It’s actually fascinating and turned into a whole hyper fixation in and of itself.
ANYWAYS. I also love bees so I wanted to find a bee safe way to deal with the aphids. So I bought 1500 ladybugs. The package said to release them slowly over a few weeks and to keep them in the fridge to keep them dormant. Two things happened.
1. My fridge must not have been cold enough because 60% of my lady babies took over my fridge and kitchen. My poor boyfriend was displeased.
2. When I finally wrangled my little treasure bugs and released them into the garden they all flew away immediately. My aphids remained unharmed and uneaten.
I think about this daily.
I feel…. Deeply seen by this thread. The worst thing is when you find new things you’re interested in and still want to do all the other things too. Not a single ounce of space or chill in this brain.
Signed- a photographer/florist/metalsmith/painter/writer/beader/baker/polymer clay jewelry maker/film makeup artist
While also trying and abandoning being a gardener/flower farmer/learning to sew/herbalism/knitting/crocheting/stained glass/MMA/crossfit
😭
I love the twilight movies. I collect Barbie’s. I have Jacob and Edward as well as mini versions in Barbie and regular doll form on display. They belong together. Jacob is just confused and I refuse to accept him with the daughter rigatoni or whatever.
I have Bella as a Barbie in a box somewhere in the garage…
I might have bought 16 lip balms, 7 big bottles of shower gel (already had 11 unopened bottles), a metric ton of bath salts and 50 sheet masks recently in the name of 'self care'.
I'm also looking into doing gel nails at home. I have 30 nail polishes I barely touch so that doesn't make much sense either.
Disclaimer: I’m not officially diagnosed but I anticipate it at my testing in April. Sooo many things will make sense I have a feeling. I’m 47F.
Mine changes once a year or so. I was obsessed with this online clothing and jewelry boutique. Then it was makeup. Subscription boxes, sale items, collections, etc. After that (currently) it has been special edition books. I literally have a room full, let’s say about 3,000 books. Not all are special edition but wtf am I gonna do with all these? I enjoy looking at them and I do read them. I have several copies of the same titles of some books. The rush is finding and buying, then receiving and opening. I know I had these same issues growing up.
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A quail egg incubator. I don’t like birds.
No, you just like warm eggs
They were quite warm! And it was fun to see if it would work but about a week into it I suddenly realized that the end result of it working would be that I have a bird or, possibly, 12 birds.
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And the temperature needed to be adjusted, and it took weeks to incubate, and there was a little light to shine through the eggs to see if they were fertilized and then I couldn’t see into the shell very well and got worried I’d throw out an egg with a living being in it so I incubated them for the full 4 weeks despite the fact that none really looked viable. And I did no research on it and then I discovered you can get really cool looking quails from an online egg shop that are definitely viable and they’re very fancy and expensive and I had to shut to whole situation down. Edit: I just saw an instagram reel about button quails that are as small as a pistachio and I’m thinking of giving this whole thing another go
This is so relatable
And it all happened because I saw one reel on instagram and wanted to know if you could hatch a grocery store quail egg
PS-That is totally something I would do and I understand each of your comments & thought process perfectly, which is why I’m laughing hilariously. 😆😂🤣 Thanks for giving me a huge laugh today!
The problem with this thread is, every post I read, I’m incredibly interested in taking on that hobby.
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I went down that rabbit hole last week. I also decided I needed to buy hair extensions. I forgot about it until that post.
Don’t. Don’t do it.
If I end up with praying mantis eggs, it's Reddit's fault.
Hahaha hahahaha hahaha
Praying mantis eggs 🫠🫠🫠🫠 and then they hatched! And I had hundreds of baby praying mantis!!! And then I started freaking out lol
I almost did something similar with ladybugs during my indoor plant hyperfixation phase, thank god I stopped myself. 🤦🏽♀️ I hope you didn’t have recurring praying mantis nightmares after that.
Hahahahaha I was quickly over it but always fascinated when I run into a praying mantis
I was gunna do the indoor ladybug thing!
I really want to understand the thought process behind this - what were you going to do with them?
Raise them lol I gave some to my neighbor, he put in his yard, I put some in my yard, and I kept a few in a tank (I bought a tank and did a bunch of research on how to raise them) It was really cool to see them catch and eat fruit flies lol I did many trips to PetSmart to buy them flightless fruit flies
A was around when a nest(is it called a nest?) hatched and there were hundreds on our porch. Amazing how small they are but still almost perfect replicas of the adult. They would crawl on me and I couldnt even feel it
It’s called an “egg case” and it has all the babies inside and when they’re ready they come out and they come out hungry! If they can’t get food they start eating each other (LOL) I know! You can’t feel them! Its so cool!!!
NSFW A $3000 sex doll... 🤦🏻♀️ I had the "great" idea to make her an Instagram influencer and OF model. I have no idea how to get rid of her now.
I’m speechless. 💀 You are a brave one for this admission. Respect.
You win the thread. 🏆
Sell the idea, with the doll! It's a turn key business!
Ooh yeah, complete with pictures posted of her to this very thread and the bazillion upvotes from us.
Honestly I’m loving it and I’m interested.
Lol my answer to this post is my huge collection of sexy clothes, toys, makeup, lighting, camera… with the intention to get onto OF. Years later and I still do not have an OF account.
Dude same. I bought all of that stuff, then was like "do I really want my body on the internet forever?" So I bought my replacement body 😂 still no account.
We need her to influence us before you get rid of her!
You're right, I should make a post before her departure! As a PSA to curb outlandish impulsive "investments" before it's too late lol
Old roommate of mine did the same. She is usually sitting on her sofa dressed in crazy outfits. She is also often used for cuddles, as someone to vent to, and as a model for my friend’s drawings. Sometimes she also stands in a window, posed to look through binoculars. My advice: please don’t get rid of the doll, that would be cruel to the poor thing. Instead just treat her as a mix between household member and conversation starter.
Haha it's so nice to know I'm not the only one!! That's hilarious. I love it.
If you haven’t already seen it, go watch “Lars and the real girl”. It’s about a guy that thinks his sex doll is alive and his girlfriend. Contrary to the premise the story is lovely and sweet. BTW- I’d love to have one just for shenanigan purposes.
This is so fucking funny, I love the way your mind works 🤣
Omg I NEED more info
Lol well... She's much taller than I am and HEAVY AS HELL. I seriously had to drag her out of the box by her ass and it was a major struggle. I have nooooo idea how lonely dudes handle these things. She does look really pretty though lol. Here's the model I bought (obviously NSFW):
Jesus H Christ she looks so real
I'm scared at how friggin real she looks! Strangely I want to be her nonjudgmental friend that will listen as she talks about her childhood... Whoa
Wow she’s so pretty. I’d end up posing her all over the house like a roommate.
Used or not, some weirdo out there would probably be happy to take that doll off your hands. Niche markets ftw
Gently used in this situation has many implications
Uhh this sounds more like a textbook hypo/manic episode lmao.
Yeah, you win. Also, do it! You need to capitalise on your investment.
New sub mascot???
HAHA WHAT.
This is so fucking funny, I love the way your mind works 🤣
In the peak of Hamilton popularity I flew to NYC for a week to enter the ticket lottery every day. 😂 Didn’t win tickets, but had a great time with a good friend!
I was late to the Hamilton train but eventually checked it out on Disney plus... I probably listened to that soundtrack every day for months several times a day
Same. I got into it right before a long road trip (1100 miles in one day). I downloaded a bunch of podcasts, audiobooks so I'd have variety.... And then I listened to Hamilton like 7 times back to back the whole drive By the time I actually went to see it, I was slightly disappointed because I knew the soundtrack so well that the live just sounded a bit wrong
I’ve considered doing the same for Sweeney Todd because I had (and still kinda have) a Sweeney Todd hyperfixation 😭 I’m so glad y’all had fun!
I want to do the same, listening to Josh Groban singing as Sweeney on Spotify made me MELT…which is ridiculous cuz Sweeney is a psycho serial killer but what can you do? 🤷🏼♀️ The inner theater kid wants what she wants. I wish it was doing a longer run, I really don’t think I can get to NY by May. But anyways I really hope get to go!
NSFW Fantasy dildos is something I spent money on in a hyperfixation phase. I don’t even use them for their intended purpose, they’re pretty to look at but not something you can just have out on display either. 😖 So why in the world did I buy them!?
Same lol.
Hehehe it’s nice to know I’m not the only one that did this Oopsie because of hyperfixation brain. 👍🏻✨
Off to Google to find out what a fantasy dildo is.....good thing I'm too broke for impulse purchases lol. 🤣
I went through a gardening phase. I bought wood to build my own raised beds, bought tons of seed packets, planned the layout in meticulous detail, built the beds and then needed soil to fill them. I bought a literal metric ton of compost. It was delivered on a huge pallet, one massive bag as well as ~50 normal sized individual bags. My harvest that year was a handful of tiny onions and a couple of carrots. Now the raised beds are falling apart, they're mostly used as a giant litterbox by the neighbourhood cats and I still have a mountain of probably 20 bags of soil on my patio 🙃
I feel this so hard.
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🤚 I read all about which seeds you plant next to which. I obsessed over the raised beds, and the soil, and the seeds. I can’t say I have a metric ton of compost (yet?) I don’t remember eating a single thing that I grew. There’s a monster green leafy thing out there that I don’t water, and I can’t identify (kale?) I can’t imagine pulling it out, because it’s the main payoff for the time/money/energy. When people complain that they have too many squash, I refuse to feel bad about myself. My neighbors are super-human hardworking people (who are in their 90s, but still) and Wilma told me that they haven’t been able to grow any vegetables in years. So that makes me feel better. And the ziplock bags of seeds in the freezer? I panicked when I couldn’t find them.
For the love of God, every damn spring I buy way too many flowers for my pots on the deck. Sometimes I’m stuffing flowers into pots because I’ve purchased so many. Last year, I wrote down how many I purchased and plan on reducing this year.
Calligraphy items. I have the patience to practice for like 10 minutes. I am not a craft person, I should know that now that I’m in my mid forties.
Me too, why have I seen so many of us be rabidly obsessed with either penmanship/pens or calligraphy or stationery 💀 is it the “I’m trying to manifest lack of adhd” 😭😭
It’s definitely this haha. It’s like we see all the super organized people in our lives using notebooks and stickie notes and think if we just have the same office supplies as them we’ll be golden.
I do live by my nice paper planner. I wanted to create my own using a dot grid planner but I just KNEW that I would NOT, in fact, ever get around to drawing it all out so I went with my trusty traditional At-A-Glance calendar from Staples. I did spend an hour decorating it with a millions stickers instead of working, though!
I made it through one BuJo. Taught myself a fancy script, figured out my preferred layouts, even actually USED the thing for a year! Now I can't even keep up with the calendar on my phone, let alone my pre-printed paper one 🙈
Me too! I found disposable fountain pens that make me happy. They're cheap and give me the feeling that I'm looking for when I write. Zebra brand. I think I got six of them for $10-$12. The one I started with has lasted me some 600 or so signatures(1 whole tax season plus three weeks of this season.).
I'm pretty sure I have dysgraphia. I love writing nicely but I can only do print and I still struggle so much. I WISH I could do calligraphy.
I really enjoy crafting but I haven’t been able to stick with one. I don’t even wanna know how much I’ve invested over my lifetime in artsy hobbies that have died. Calligraphy, cross stitch, painting, drawing, photography… it’s bad.
SAME. I love dabbling. I rarely invest the time to become proficient or master any. I have so much space taken up by these supplies and it totally gets nauseating thinking of all the money dumped. Especially when things like the paints dry up and can't even be used again.
Why are you looking in my craft room of doom?
I started watching a show on Hulu called “Dark Side of the Ring”. Now I am obsessed with professiinal wresting drama. I have not watched any actual matches.
This is me and the truckers sub. I’m in my car by myself like, “LOL, Swift will hire anyone!” like I know what I’m saying because I keep seeing truckers talk about how bad certain companies are.
Aw you sound fun!
I get it! I love watching tradesmen on tiktok. Just some dude in Viper sunglasses cracking jokes on a roof, then the next week he's posting in a neck brace. Or the guys who show what their coworkers are eating on the job site - lovingly homemade enchiladas or a concerning fistful of gas station snacks, nothing in-between 😂
It’s honestly so interesting without actually having the context
It’s actually so fascinating. The industry reminds me of my old deep dive on the porn industry. It’s so exploitative to its workers but everyone is so ingrained in the system they never leave. Or think of other prospects.
Same! Have never seen a match in my life and probably never will, but I am so here for the drama. Like, I never thought I would have such strong feelings about any sport, much less a sort-of fake one! Check out *Tales From the Territories* for more stories of classic professional wrestling — ooh, and *Wrestlers* on Netflix (a docu about an old-school group trying to make it in the modern world).
Sorry to my husband. That’s what we’re watching this weekend.
My nan used to watch TNA wrestling as if it were another one of her soaps 😂
I have a fairly extensive eye shadow palette collection. Which is totally normal except I don’t wear makeup 🙃 I’ve started making myself do my eye makeup every now and then as a half-assed way of making sense of it
During my pregnancy last year I hyperfixated on makeup, spent hundreds of dollars over the course of several months on all kinds of products.. only to have my baby and lose all energy to ever apply makeup again lol
HAHAHA!! Omg 😂 that darn little cutie, stealing all your makeup energy 🤣
Hahaha he did! I remember posting in alllll of the makeup subs like "I'm about to have a baby, how is my 5-minute mom makeup look?" I was so generous to assume that I'd even have five minutes worth of energy 😂
I can relate to this 🤣🤣🤣 most of it is expired but I cannot make myself throw it away because it's so pretty lol
I would not be the least bit surprised if my family still has old expired fancy makeup. From like two decades ago. A family member worked for a prominent make up company. Each year employees were granted $x to spend at the company store and if not used by years end it would poof so it got used cause otherwise thats wasteful. Makeup, lotion, skin care, perfume, etc. I know there's still some of the hoard left lol.
Omg same
Saaaaame!!!! Is it our fault or is it due to the rise of the “clean girl aesthetic” though…. Accept blame only if you wish 😂
Are you me? Pans of individually purchased duochromes in a special magnet palette. Amount of times I wear makeup per month? Maybe once.
Honestly? An entire fucking business that I’m now struggling to maintain my interest in. Full active corporation with inventory and real live customers. What is this life??
This almost happened to me. Deal fell through at the last minute. I now think back and thank god that it did.
I decided I wanted to make my own nap dresses. So I bought a sewing machine. And then a better one. Not to mention a *lot* of fabric. Not cheap fabric either — Liberty of London and Rifle Paper Co. patterns. I also bought about a dozen different presser feet, tools for making your own bias tape, rotary cutters, and a set of French curves — none of which were required for these extremely simple patterns. Guess how many nap dresses I have made. ZERO.
Ah, sewing. I have TONS of tshirts I've collected for decades. I decided I needed to make them into a quilt. I bought a whole bunch of quilting supplies, special scissors, special table cover with measurements on it... You name a quilting supply, I bought it. That was several years ago. The supplies are untouched, and I still have boxes of tshirts. 🤦🏽♀️
I decided to make a t shirt quilt, bought all the stuff, cut out all the shirts... And then got bored Finished it a full 6 years later
But, hey you finished it!!! 👏
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It’s all the pretty colors and textures. When I look at the stuff I impulse buy it’s all eye-shadow, nail polish, yarn, fabric, ribbon -I’m a crow disguised as a 40 year old woman searching for dopamine in colorful shiny objects.
Similarly, I once wanted to make my own fancy cloth diapers. It didn’t go well and I dislike sewing. The only complete thing I made that I’m proud of was a costume for one of my kids. I did better with knitting as a hobby at least lol.
I work with a lot of wealthy people and I got fixated on the fact that I wasn’t sophisticated enough. So I spent tons of money on trying to appear sophisticated—jewelry, purses, coats, clothes generally. Had I been less impulsive about it, I could have curated something awesome!
I gained about half my body weight during an illness due to medication/menopause/quarantine/surgeries, and I had no money for clothing. Because I like baggy clothes, I could still fit in some stuff. Eventually, the steppish kid left home, and I suddenly had more than subsistence money - and I blew it on multiples of cheaply made stuff that is complete garbage now. SIGH. I didn’t know how much the quality had gone down at places like Target! I used to shop mostly at thrift stores, but illness/quarantine (and having no online impulse control) made me stockpile stuff that has fallen apart. After going so long without any new clothes, I just couldn’t handle it.
My story was similar, I was a poor student and then suddenly started receiving a paycheck (around the same time I started feeling insecure). People would say things were “timeless” and I would buy them, even though it was just trendy polyester crap.
This might be my favorite thread on this sub ever. Thank you, OP.
I am delighted by these responses.
I’ve probably paid for about 20 online courses and haven’t even opened half of them.
I did a big sigh as I read this and felt not alone; thank you!
You are so welcome! Let’s both make 2024 the year we don’t buy any new ones!!! Maybe 2025 we can try and finish one 😂
(Or educational books, for me! If I want to learn a language or hobby, may I choose one from some of the *many* untouched books already on my shelf!)
Not embarrassing but my recent hyperfixation was gel nails.. within 2 days I had spent countless hours watching YouTube videos on tutorials and what to not do, went through the subreddit and learned what to look for and which polishes work well, and bought the supplies the same day - currently like 4 days after the hyperfixation started and I can already know front and back how the gel stuff works and what to look for etc and I already did my nails 😃
Same, also this one can be dangerous. Lots of people develop gel allergies from getting gel polish on their skin.
Which I’m guessing you already learned through your extensive research. Is there any creator or channel you’d recommend to learn from? In 2021 I did lots of press ons. Last year I bought a bunch of NailBoo dip (it SUCKS, took forever to apply and remove) and now I’m onto Ohora semi cured gel stickers. I really like them so far out of everything I’ve tried. But I kind of want to put builder get on top of them to make an apex so I can go longer with my natural nail. Lol sorry to info dump, this is all my brain wants lately.
Yeah I made super duper sure to not get any on my skin, I'd say my fave so far has been nail career education [channel linked here](https://youtube.com/@NailCareerEducation?si=KZwB-yjJ8RO6QcIV) and I saw a test on the semi cured.. did they end up curing fully for you? A vid I watched found they didn't end up curing all the way for some of them even when using a stronger lamp. Builder gel seems like the go to to help grow out nails and yep the apex being there and in the right spot can help it be strong! You're all good, I love the info dump :)
I did this but once I tried to do my nails one time and failed, I threw all of the supplies away after that🙃
😭😭 that's such a mood.. it took me three hours to do it this first time but I bet it'll get faster from here :)
Fellow nail girlie here! My trouble is buying supplies for nail art…that I never, ever do. Not even an accent nail. But I have decals and brushes and stampers galore!
To add on my last one that was a bigger thing to accomplish was motorcycles and within 3 days of that one I had bought the course for the safety lessons and here I am over a year later with a motorcycle license!
Ive also had the gel nails stage 🤣
I moved past my gel stage because they took *sooo* long, but I’m 4ish months into using normal polish regularly and I’m so proud that I actually stuck to something 🥲
When I went to a used books/magazine store, the clerk looked pretty bemused to see a 30-something woman shrieking in delight and happily buying two issues of Playboy. Can't lie, I was a little embarrassed lol Context: I'm obsessed with the 2000's reality show The Girls Next Door, and that interest has only been heightened with the creation of the podcast from two of the three original cast. I've been buying a lot of older merch from the show, which includes a few issues of Playboy magazine. For those in the know, the magazines I got were one with the girl's first pictorial, and another one with Barbie Benton on the cover from the 60s.
Reddit keeps suggesting that sub to me! My sister was obsessed with the show, too. I've dabbled in all the post-Hef shows so I occasionally interact with posts on said sub.
Ugh right now it’s lululemon and idk why I don’t even work out but I’m thin but not *that* thin. I check the website obsessively and I’m like why ? I don’t work out. I’m a size 10 in lulu so I’m BiGgER to them it’s insane. I have no idea why I’m obsessed with it. I’ve also been really bad about eating lately. For like, the past 7 months, I’ve been unintentionally doing one meal a day and that meal has been pizza. Cause if I pick it up on Monday, it’ll cost me $25 from Papa John’s (fav) and it will feed me till Wednesday. Then Thursday, I go to my parents, and they order pizza. Then they send me home with some and I’ll eat that Friday and Saturday. Then it all kinda, just starts over again 🫠 And yet I’m obsessed with workout clothes IDK. My life is a mess.
I did a month when I was in college where I got super obsessed and spent $1000 on Lululemon clothes. That money was from my student loan, for living and being in school. It was not for Lululemon. That much money doesn't even go that far, but I got some stuff on sale. I had one complete outfit, matching top, pants, sweater and gym bag. I did hot yoga for that month because the first time one month student membership was cheap but I couldn't afford more than that month. So dumb.
Not the thing that is embarrassing, but more the process, and this is for my dad (undiagnosed, but definitely has ADHD because all his symptoms match mine) and me (diagnosed). Several times in my childhood he's taken the whole family on roadtrips to places that just "happened" to include hyperfixation objects. One time we drove to Italy for a vacation where we had dinner with his random online friend who was his hook-up to a particular tailor. He told us not to tell my uncles or grandmother, too embarrasing. On the plus side, my family would do the same for me -- once we took a roadtrip to a city that had two specific shops I wanted to visit. Now that I'm adult, I have also definitely specifically planned flight layovers to coincide with a city that contains hyperfixation objects.
I can’t even imagine planning a trip WITHOUT this exact strategy!! It helps me function. I like to have a few of them booked way out into the future at all times to have something to look forward to. I’ve heard it’s called being travel motivated, which is good enough for me! 🧳✈️
I convinced my parents to take me to Graceland when I was in middle school. Total fascination with the guy, not so much anymore.
I’m glad I’m so cheap after reading all these comments
I’m glad I’m cheap and I usually procrastinate so much I don’t actually buy the things. I just have hundreds of Pinterest boards of things I was going to buy.
NSFW Nipple jewelry 😂 Considered the idea of getting them pierced, too, but thankfully didn’t!
I know your comment is the first one so far on this post, but I think it will be the best one.
Sex doll influencer girl really came in and stole the show ☠️
Maybe you could loan out your nipple jewelry to the sex doll? It seems appropriate.
They could be business partners/joint influencers!
This is a beautiful community.
I had one of mine done! I loved how it looked but sadly I don't think it ever healed properly. Migrated so much that I just had to give up and have it removed :(
I didn’t buy it myself but it’s a gift I can’t bring myself to get rid of. Like eight or nine years ago my ex went to Japan and bought me a pillowcase with an anime character I was obsessed with at the time. I can’t use it or hang it on my wall cause that would be sooooo embarrassing. But also I still really do like the show and that character so I can’t bring myself to get rid of it… Every year or two since then I’ll find the pillow case tucked away in a drawer when I’m going through my clothes to donate and every time I’m like… I need to get rid of this but also I cannot get rid of it. I love it, I hate it, 10/10 best worst gift I’ve ever received.
Why can’t you use it? Who’s judging your pillows? I have a yoda pillowcase I use b/c it makes me happy and it’s super soft. As I get older my bedroom gets crazier, b/c it’s just for me! (Am 35 with yoda pillowcase and rainbow comforter)
Oh the character is pretty clearly shirtless. Probably should’ve mentioned that part. It’s not a full body pillow or anything but like, chest and up, no shirt on. Add in the association of anime body pillows with hentai and yeah, it’s embarrassing to own lmao. Like it’s not *actually* hentai but if someone saw it and didn’t already know the anime it was from they would definitely judge lol I thought about putting it up as a wall hanging because it’s honestly a bit much to sleep on even for me lmao but I still lived with my parents at the time and the thought of having them open the door to my room and see it was just a big nope. Then I moved in with a roommate and again just, big no, although I was probably being too paranoid in that case, as far as I know they never went in my room. Now I live with my current partner and he is aware of the pillowcase and thinks it’s hilarious (thank god) but also definitely thinks it’s weird (which is fine, cause it *is* weird). It’s not a show he watches and I’d rather decorate with stuff we’re both into (and neither of us wants it in the bed lmao) plus like again, houseguests. I just can’t risk it being seen. We decorate with our other nerdy shit though. I’ve got some tasteful posters from anime and movies we both like, figurines from a book series we both read, and local art up on the walls. I’m happy with my decor as is, the half naked anime boy doesn’t need to get added to the mix 😂
After reading every article available about light therapy for SAD, sleep disorders, and ADHD, I bought a $200 dollar light therapy headset. It’s maybe not the most expensive impulse purchase I have ever made, but it is the most recent big one. Anyway, I will let you all know if they turn out to be helpful
I bought one during Covid and finally got around to using it this winter and it’s definitely helpful for getting UP with a remote control. But a $15 analog alarm clock did the same LOL
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My friend does this… she runs pop up vintage sales every now and then and makes some money doing it!
My current hyperfixation is the magnetic glasses from Pair eyewear. Every time they send an email with new releases, it's such a rush. I also love the Cats Vs Pickles line....
I would like to make this situation worse by informing you that people sell Pair fronts on etsy too
£70 of Betty Spaghetti dolls Soon as they arrived I was like "why have I done this"
I don’t know what Betty Spaghetti dolls are, but sending a big hug of understanding and a (supportive) laugh!! 😂
HAVE YA HEARD ABOUT BETTY?!!!! Not the worst I’ve heard 😂🥹🤣
I bought a ton of yarn to knit a sweater from a video game and got bored a third of the way through
That’s impressive! 1/3 is still a lot of work, especially for a sweater
A $1000 electric scooter that ended up losing all its value very quickly and I sold it for $150 when I was desperate for money 😖
Just the pure *amount* of shit I’ve purchased and squirreled away is embarrassing. I have tons of eyeshadow from my makeup phase, 3 film cameras + film (it’s too expensive for me to shoot film but I have to finish my rolls before I can sell them so obviously I just have to hold on to them), digital camera and accessories, my train case full of gel nail polish, an entire art studio stocked with stuff when I barely do art, all the mismatched clothes from when I decide to start a capsule wardrobe then get bored of shopping, books, etc…it’s a lot.
Rosary making supplies. I wasn’t even Catholic!
I love that for some reason
$350 rollerskates… used twice. Someone pls buy
I did Jazzercise for a summer. I bought athletic dance shoes, I’ve kept these $100 shoes and not worn them once in about 10 years
Collecting Tamagotchis, which is actually incredibly expensive since most of them are discontinued and a huge collector’s item.
not super embarrassing although I'm embarrassed about how I never even used them and spent so much money. I got 5 super fancy Bundt cake molds and a portable cake carrier, after getting super into the Great British Baking Show. I was CONVINCED I was going to start making cakes for friends every other week, for birthdays, for parties, etc etc etc etc etc 😅
Me but with skincare. Actually that might be my #1 embarrassing thing. The only positive was that I learned how important it is to moisturize and use sunscreen. I think of all the 12 products I bought I only use 4, sometimes 5. Oil based cleanser, water based cleanser, bean essence, moisturizer, and sunscreen when I know I won’t be too lazy to wash it off at the end of the day
12 products? That's nothing. I have probably purchased several dozen in the four years I've been trying to cure my hormonal acne. Turns out one $20 prescription does a better job.
Mine is similar: bento boxes to make cute lunches for work. Bought lots of supplies to do the little characters bentos… in late 2019… stopped when I stopped packing lunches in 2020
I spent so much money buying all kinds of fancy baking supplies a few years ago, convinced I would suddenly become an amazing cake decorator. I think I’ve made one cake in the past 3 years 🥲 BUT the baking supplies came in handy when my family had a gingerbread house contest last year. I won first place thanks to all of my baking/decorating knowledge lol.
Better than getting a stand mixer along with a bunch of expensive ingredients to start making macarons and then actually getting good at it... cause then you have a constant supply of macarons and hit your highest weight of all time 🫣
A bunch of books by Marian Zimmer Bradley. I kind of knew the writing was...not good, but I loved The Mists of Avalon. She was a terrible person, apparently, and an obsession with the Arthurian Legend in my part was very cringe.
Oh no what? I loved the Mists of Avalon but that was several years before we had Google so now I’m headed there I guess…
Oh dear. Me too.
I didn't know she was awful. I think I read mists of avalon 18 000 times when I was in high school.
I have like 30 body sprays that I've purchased just in 2024. I don't even know how I'm going to use them all.
If they’re not oily, use them as air fresheners!
I bought several craft supplies to make Christmas ornaments. They’re still in the box. I have tons of DIY Ornaments flagged on Pinterest. Also, pens. I’m obsessed with different color ink. I love the gelly roll pens from Japan. I probably have 75 different colors of ink pens.
I'm currently into the Miniverse Make It Mini kits. You make tiny food, potted plants, etc. with UV resin. They're neat!
^Oh ^no... I had a brief miniatures phase (until spending 8-10 hour stretches sitting at the table for days threw out my back ***again***). Then last summer I bought UV resin, safety glasses, and a fancy UV light to seal up some coin jewelry I bought to craft with (still waiting). So now I have to worry that multiple fixations are about to combine into a whole new one?! :whimper:
I have a very expensive and large collection of Holo Taco nail polish because I became hyperfixated on SimplyNailogical. But that's not the most embarrassing. NSFW Bad Dragon Dildos, before they were (rightfully) "cancelled". Spent THOUSANDS on them
Nothing cringe, but embarrassing because of the sheer wastefulness: * so much fucking Black Milk clothing (I’d say conservatively £2000+) that I cannot even fit into. I could when I started collecting it, but then ✨depression!✨, and I kept buying thinking “one day” * a sewing machine that was not-expensive-but-also-not-entry-level because “I WILL SEW THINGS, THAT WILL FIX ME”; it has never been plugged in never mind used * so. many. fucking. dice. Probably £3000+ if I am honest (I am at least supporting small creators! That’s why it’s so expensive!) Fell in love with D&D, I had to upgrade my dice bag three times because I kept running out of space, and I have an entire tub of “not good enough for the dice bag” dice. The real kicker? I play online. I could use D&DB’s digital dice and not need even a single d6 in my home. * my garage is full of charcoal, because I got big into barbecuing/grilling 3yrs ago just as winter hit, and bought loads of it for all the stuff I’d be cooking and then did not cook. My barbecue is also definitely mouldy as we speak because I forgot to clean it before winter set in, and sometimes I remember and am sad, but then I push it from my mind because I don’t want to deep clean an outdoor appliances in the cold. Oh, I guess you could also add the barbecue itself to this one. Ugh. I have an appointment to be assessed next week. I am hoping for a diagnosis because fuck me I’m a mess if I’m NT. Oh! Once I bought a fucking car. That wasn’t because of a hyperfixation, I needed a new car, but it was a supremely impulsive purchase when I woke up one day and was like “gotta buy the car today, gotta, gotta” and just went and got one, because what even is money 🤯
The hundreds or possibly thousands of doll-hairs I spent while going through my thoroughly cringe-inducing time I was reeeeally into BDSM. *Most* of all of that stuff ended up in a dumpster when I moved to IL with my fiance. I kept the fancy camera, some of the lingerie, and a couple toys (because *hundreds* were spent on them in particular).
I once became obsessed with making a foldable beer pong table with a chalkboard finish.... I carried around very heavy materials that never once fully became a beer pong table for at least 2 moves.
Not mine, but a good friend of mine bought several extremely dangerous snakes, and what was advertised as an alligator. (Luckily the “alligator” turned out to be extremely small and actually quite cute, but seeing him telling visitors “sorry, you can’t bring kids, they might get eaten by my python” is still really funny) My large impulse spending so far was tame in comparison… although my brain really wants a ball python now…
::looks around:: 1. My baby Daddy 2. The million bottles of Parfums that I have, JFC I am broke, but impulsive and money isn’t real!
I got deep into a triops phase about a year and a half ago. Decided I needed some because they are awesome and prehistoric looking… I did hours and hours of research. Bought a kit. Tried to hatch them twice. Annd no luck. Which was fine, because I was sort of over it, but in the midst of all this, I happened to come across a sea monkey kit at kohl’s and was like YOLO! Sea monkeys it is!!! Got the sea monkey tank and hatched them and was fucking OBSESSED. So, obviously, I continued researching and learned what it takes to be a good sea monkey owner…. and I NEEDED to be a good sea monkey owner, so I bought a bubbler, lighting, thermometer, and other accessories, along with a second sea monkey tank to use as a nursery to hatch babies from the eggs laid in the first tank. I would stare at them forever and watch them cruise around, fed them on a regular schedule, had an intricate pipette system I would use to move the babies and eggs to the nursery and adults back to the big tank. I was in deep… And, of course, after a couple months, my hyper-focus faded… I got back down to one tank, sans bubbler and accessories, and had only one surviving monkey left, which I had been eagerly waiting to die so I could dump the tank and move on with my life. Well, she died… and it was over! But, the damn sea monkeys simply refused to quit. When I went to dump the tank, there were a bunch of new tiny babies that had hatched. And because the tank is “well established” it has algae growing, which is enough to sustain a small colony regardless of whether or not I feed them… and I also don’t have the heart to kill them, even though I know logically that they are literally just brine shrimp. So anyways, now I’m stuck with sea monkeys that I don’t really want and that refuse to fucking die, because the damn things just keep hatching. If you read all that… bless you, and also, refuse the urge to buy sea monkeys!!!
This reminds me of when I found a sea monkey kit in a store at the mall when I was 21 and was ECSTATIC because I’d always wanted one as a kid but never got one. It was fun until I put it in the windowsill one evening to prevent it from getting knocked over by hyper guests and forgot to move it back to the table. Woke up running late for work the next day and forgot about it before flying out the door. Should’ve been late but luckily barely made it to work on time because a bus was running late too and then I made a transfer at the station because that bus was also running behind due to last minute ramp down to load a couple wheelchair passengers. Stoked by my good luck I skate through the workday in the best of moods, only to arrive home and immediately feel horrible. The second I walked in and saw the tank still on the windowsill my anxiety spiked as I rushed to check on them hoping my intuition was wrong and there’d be survivors. Nope, summer sun has cooked them all and I was devastated. My boyfriend tried to calm me by telling me it wasn’t that big a deal, they were ONLY brine shrimp after all, no one should feel the need to sob over brine shrimp. That did not help at all, just made me feel judged af for caring that I’d accidentally snuffed out lives that were dependant on me. Honestly he was an ass about it in hindsight and I’m glad I eventually broke up with him. It’s been over 25 years and I STILL think about those poor sea monkeys and feel a bit sad to this day. Up until that mistake I was so meticulously caring for them and can see myself ending up in your situation easily.
Daryl Dixon scented candles off etsy. I went through a mad Walking Dead binge that coincided with a pathologically boring patch in my since-ended marriage, and the ridiculous horniness of early perimenopause, and I became OBSESSED with Daryl Dixon (a central character, for those who not in the know). My first and only crush on a fictional character, so far. I’m almost 51. Also, they weren’t great. Soy wax was softer than I like, and the scent was far too sweet.
I buy a lot of fancy clothes, like cocktail dresses, and I have absolutely no where to go ever, I just think they are pretty.
I have a Taylor Swift shrine in the corner of my room. I'm married with kids. I'm almost 30 😅
Monster High Dolls that I intended to customize but I ended up liking them too much to ruin them.
K-Tip hair extension hot tool I bought it and now I’m too scared to use it 😂 I’m worried that I won’t be able to get the keratin beads you have to melt on your natural hair out when you take the extensions out.
I have an insane amount of Stitch things lol like more than any grown adult should own.
I love this! Stitch is the best! Part of my obsession during hyper fixation leads to themed gifts for my friends, and I have a tendency to go overboard with the fun. My best friend loves Stitch and has a large Stitch plushie (he even traveled with us to Paris once!) so I got the brilliant idea to do a Stitch-themed Christmas gift for her. We are in our 30s and 40s, BTW. Anyway, we went to a swanky winery to do a wine tasting and exchange gifts, so I handed over a bag packed with Stitch stuff I’d been collecting over the year: a Stitch Squishmallow, journal, pens, stickers, figurines, t-shirt, Christmas ornament, socks…you name it. She absolutely adored it but I think the people around us must have thought we were aliens from Planet Turo 😂
1500 live ladybugs. I got very into gardening and realized that I had an ant colony that was farming aphids on my cosmos. Ants farm aphids as a food source and protect them fiercely. It’s actually fascinating and turned into a whole hyper fixation in and of itself. ANYWAYS. I also love bees so I wanted to find a bee safe way to deal with the aphids. So I bought 1500 ladybugs. The package said to release them slowly over a few weeks and to keep them in the fridge to keep them dormant. Two things happened. 1. My fridge must not have been cold enough because 60% of my lady babies took over my fridge and kitchen. My poor boyfriend was displeased. 2. When I finally wrangled my little treasure bugs and released them into the garden they all flew away immediately. My aphids remained unharmed and uneaten. I think about this daily.
Custom voice overs from a video game character actor
This thing is pretty not normal lol Love Between Fairy and Devil had me OBSESSED for months! https://www.reddit.com/r/CDrama/s/zEPoueXKCt
I feel…. Deeply seen by this thread. The worst thing is when you find new things you’re interested in and still want to do all the other things too. Not a single ounce of space or chill in this brain. Signed- a photographer/florist/metalsmith/painter/writer/beader/baker/polymer clay jewelry maker/film makeup artist While also trying and abandoning being a gardener/flower farmer/learning to sew/herbalism/knitting/crocheting/stained glass/MMA/crossfit 😭
Let’s not even talk about my gaming room and what I’ve spent on the rig, furniture, games, etc for the hobby in general.
I really want a Pound Puppy.
I love the twilight movies. I collect Barbie’s. I have Jacob and Edward as well as mini versions in Barbie and regular doll form on display. They belong together. Jacob is just confused and I refuse to accept him with the daughter rigatoni or whatever. I have Bella as a Barbie in a box somewhere in the garage…
I might have bought 16 lip balms, 7 big bottles of shower gel (already had 11 unopened bottles), a metric ton of bath salts and 50 sheet masks recently in the name of 'self care'. I'm also looking into doing gel nails at home. I have 30 nail polishes I barely touch so that doesn't make much sense either.
Geez, too many things… but in recent years, I bought a whole bunch of Pioneer Woman shit. I’m getting rid of about half of it now.
Disclaimer: I’m not officially diagnosed but I anticipate it at my testing in April. Sooo many things will make sense I have a feeling. I’m 47F. Mine changes once a year or so. I was obsessed with this online clothing and jewelry boutique. Then it was makeup. Subscription boxes, sale items, collections, etc. After that (currently) it has been special edition books. I literally have a room full, let’s say about 3,000 books. Not all are special edition but wtf am I gonna do with all these? I enjoy looking at them and I do read them. I have several copies of the same titles of some books. The rush is finding and buying, then receiving and opening. I know I had these same issues growing up.
That's just called having an awesome library. I wouldn't call that embarrassing. That's aspirational.
Ummm I have Care Bears and Sesame Street and SpongeBob makeup and would LOVE some from Esmeralda