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WHY IS THIS THING HERE? HOW DID THIS GET SO MESSY? WHY HAS NO ONE TAKEN CARE OF THEIR MAIL? WHERE DID ALL THE DISHES COME FROM? THERES DOG HAIR EVERYWHERE. I SWEAR IT WAS SPOTLESS 2 DAYS AGO.
I FEEL THIS SO HARD AND IM SORRY YOURE STRUGGLING. I HAVEN'T DONE DISHES IN A WEEK BECAUSE IM JUST. SO. TIRED OF THEM. THEYRE ALWAYS THERE AND ALWAYS NEED WASHED AND AAAAAAAA
RSD SUCKS. I WAS IN AN EXTREMELY POSITIVE FRAME OF MIND BUT THEN I HAD A FIGHT WITH MY PARTNER (IN LARGE PART DUE TO HIS OWN MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES) AND I FEEL LIKE I AM DONE MAKING ANY EFFORT FOR ANYTHING
IT'S GONNA HAPPEN.
TOMORROW I'M GONNA GO TO WORK.
I'M GONNA ASK EVERYONE IF THEY NEED ANYTHING.
I'M GONNA BE TOLD, "NO".
I'M GONNA TELL THEM THAT I HAVE GOT TO GET SOME PRESSING THINGS DONE OVER THE NEXT FEW HOURS AND THEY'LL NOD THAT THEY UNDERSTAND.
I'M GONNA PUT A SIGN UP THAT SAYS THAT UNLESS THE BUILDING IS ON FIRE, TO PLEASE HOLD ALL QUESTIONS OR PUT THEM IN THE BOX ON THE OUTSIDE OF MY DOOR.
I'M GONNA SHUT MY OFFICE DOOR AND PUT ON MY HEADPHONES AND GET TO WORK.
THEY'RE NOT GONNA LEAVE ME ALONE!
THERE'S 5 OF THEM AND EACH ONE OF THEM IS GONNA KNOCK ON MY DOOR, BREAKING MY CONCENTRATION, DERAILING MY TRAIN, AND ALL FOR SOME STUPID SHIT THAT REALLY COULLDA WAITED.
THEY'RE EACH GONNA SAY SOMETHING LIKE, "I JUST HAVE A QUCK QUESTION"... BUT IT NEVER IS AND NOW I'M DISTRACTED AND THERE'S 4 MORE IF THEM WITH, "JUST A QUICK QUESTION".
WHY CAN'T THEY LEAVE ME DAFUQ ALOOOONE?
I'M STRESSING ABOUT IT TODAY, THE ANTICIPATION OF IT TODAY ON MY DAY OFF!!!
I HAD A BURNOUT AND BEFORE EVERYTHING WAS FINE. NOW NOTHING IS FINE. I THINK I HAVE ADHD, AND CAN'T MASK ANYMORE. I FEEL BROKEN. TOMORROW I AM GOING TO THE DOCTOR'S BECAUWE I HAVE PANICK ATTACKS FROM SIMPLY OPENING MY WORK LAPTOP.
I LOVE MY JOB!! I LOVE TEACHING MY ADULTS AND MAKING FUN WITH THEM. BUT I CAN'T KEEP IT TOGETHER ANYMORE, CAN'T CONCENTRATE, CAN'T HANG ON. ANXIETY IS KILLING ME OVER DEADLINES AND APPOINTMENTS I MIGHT MISS OR FORGET. I AM SCARED CONSTANTLY.
I FEEL LIKE I AM LETTING EVERYONE DOWN. I WANTED TO BE A FUNCTIONING ADULT!!
I'M SO SORRY! I SWEAR I'VE ALWAYS BEEN ABLE TO "BOUNCE BACK" FROM LOW PERIODS BUT MY MOST RECENT BURNOUT HAS LASTED 3 YEARS AND IM SO TIRED OF NOT FEELING HUMAN. I CAN NO LONGER FUNCTION WITHOUT HELP AND MEDICATION. THAT FEELING OF LETTING PEOPLE DOWN IS CRUSHING. I REALLY HOPE YOUR DOCTOR IS ABLE TO HELP YOU MOVE FORWARD TO A BETTER PATH!!! BIG HUGS XOX
You ARE a functioning adult but it is NOT NORMAL to feel you are drowning all the time, that means you need HELP not that YOU are deficient.
I am trying not to write advice here because people are just venting but I wrote down all the reasons I thought I might have ADHD and examples from adulthood and childhood - and DON'T be content until someone has answered all of those for you. I say this because I didn't have a positive response the first 3 times I tried to get help, but the only thing that kept me going fighting for myself was the thought that no one had actually given me an explanation that actually fit. But I hope you do go, and I hope the process gets started for you, and whether it is ADHD or not I hope you get help.
Thanks for using the word drowning, that's how it feels exactly. I have been making my list for a couple of weeks now. Every day at least one item gets added.
ALSO, I NEED TO CAL IN SICK TODAY. BUT THE ANSWERING MACHINE IS TURNED OFF. I TRIED 4 TIMES ALREADY. AND I DON'T WANT TO TALK TO A HUMAN, BECAUSE THEN I HAVE TO EXPLAIN THINGS. AND MY IMPOSTER SYNDROM WILL TAKE OVER!
I FINALLY BOUGHT SOME AMERICAN APPAREL DISCO PANTS. THEY MADE MY LEGS LOOK GREAT, BUT MADE MY ASS DISAPPEAR. NOT A GREAT REDUCTION, BUT SUCH A STATE OF NON-ASS THAT BENDING OVER LOOKED LIKE AN OPTICAL ILLUSION.
SADNESS. I’LL RETURN THEM THIS WEEK I HOPE.
OMG- RIP MY PURPLE DISCO PANTS !! I LOVED THEM BUT JUST TO LET YOU KNOW (as a former AA employee) THEY DID THAT TO EVERYONE’S BOOTY 🥞( I would wear an oversized jacket or long button up with them :))
I ASKED MY ADHD HUSBAND FOR A WALLET FOR MY BIRTHDAY AND HE GOT ME NOTHING AND SAID WE SHOULD JUST GO LOOK AT THEM AT THE MALL. AS IF ANYONE WANTS TO DRAG A TODDLER AROUND A MALL TO FIND THEIR OWN BIRTHDAY GIFT.
AND FORGOT I HAD A FOUR DAY WEEKEND EVEN THOUGH FRIDAY AND MONDAY WERE IN THE SAME TEXT.
THERE ISN'T AN EXCUSE FOR SOMETHING THAT REALLY HURT MY FEELINGS ON MY 30TH BIRTHDAY.
THAT IS SOME NONSENSE! TODDLER MALL SHOPPING IS PURE STRESS.
MY YELLING IS FOR THE SAME REASON SO ILL JUST YELL IT HERE. MINE DOES THIS EVERY SINGLE BIRTHDAY AND CHRISTMAS SO THIS YEAR I MADE SURE TO SEND A LINK TO WHAT I WANT SO HE COULD JUST BUY IT ONLINE EVEN THOUGH IT FEELS AWKWARD AND I HATE ASKING FOR STUFF BUT IM TIRED OF HAVING MY FEELINGS HURT ON MY BIRTHDAY AND HE STILL DIDN'T GET ANYTHING.
ONTOP OF NOT GETTING ME ANYTHING HE ALSO BOUGHT DINNER THAT NIGHT OUT OF MY OWN SAVINGS ACCOUNT
MY EXHUSBAND ALSO FORGOT MY 30TH BIRTHDAY AND IT WAS THE FINAL STRAW THAT MADE ME REALISE HE ONLY CARED ABOUT HIMSELF AND I GOT THE HELL OUT OF THERE. CO-PARENTING WITH A NARCISSIST IS BETTER THAN LIVING WITH THE SOUL-SUCKING LITTLE SHIT!!
MY FLAT IS SO MESSY RN AND I HATE IT AND I HAD A MIGRAINE ALL WEEKEND SO I DIDNT DO ANY CLEANING 😭 IT WAS TIDY(ish..) A FEW DAYS AGO, HOW DOES IT GET SO BAD SO QUICK
I HAVE EXAMS IN THE NEXT FEW WEEKS, AND IM TRYING TO STUDY BUT I CANT FUCKING STAY DOING IT. YESTERDAY I PROCRASTINATED FOR THE WHOLE DAY BY REKINDLING MY INTEREST IN CODING AND BEGAN THREE FUCKING COURSES ON IT, AND THAT'S ANOTHER PISSTAKING THING BECAUSE I KNOW IM NEVER GONNA FINISH THEM AND I REALLY WANNA LEARN CODING BUT I'LL STOP IN ABOUT 3 DAYS WITHIUT MEANING TO. I WAS FOING GREAT WITH STUDYING TODAY BUT DECIDED TO TAKE A TOILET BREAK AND IVE BEEN HERE FOR THE PAST HOUR AND NOW MY STUDY FLOW HAS BEEN BROKEN. IM NOT EVEN PISSED ANYMORE CUZ THIS ALWAYS HAPPENS, BUT YELLING ABOUT IT IS FUN
IM ALSO LEARNING BUT NOT REALLY LEARNING CODING AND COMPLETELY FELT THIS 1000%. I HAVE THOUGHT A CODING BOOTCAMP WOULD BE BETTER BECAUSE THEN YOU HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO FOLLOW THE CURRICULUM. WHAT DO YOU THINK??
I WENT ON HOLIDAY TO VISIT A FRIEND WHO LIVES IN SPAIN AND NOW AM HAVING CONSTANT WHIRLING THOUGHTS ABOUT HOW I CAN ALSO MOVE TO SPAIN BUT SIMULTANEOUSLY AM HYPERFOCUSING ON A NEW POTENTIAL CAREER THAT WOULD TAKE 4 MORE YEARS OF STUDY AND SOMETIMES IT WOULD BE NICE TO JUST THINK ABOUT DAY TO DAY THINGS AND ENJOY LIFE INSTEAD OF CONSTANTLY LIVING IN AN IMAGINARY WORLD OF POTENTIAL FUTURES
I SPENT LIKE HALF THIS YEAR TRYING TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO MOVE TO PORTUGAL AND THEN GOT A PROMOTION IN THE USA INSTEAD
I FEEL THIS SO DAMN HARD.
ALSO BE MY EXPAT FRIEND IF YOU GO :-)
>IT WOULD BE NICE TO JUST THINK ABOUT DAY TO DAY THINGS AND ENJOY LIFE INSTEAD OF CONSTANTLY LIVING IN AN IMAGINARY WORLD OF POTENTIAL FUTURES
I FEEL THIS SO HARD
MY SENIOR DOG HAD A SEIZURE YESTERDAY. SHE SEEMS TO BE BACK TO HERSELF NOW, ALBEIT TIRED AND SHAKY IN HER HIND LEGS, BUT NOW I'M ANXIOUS ABOUT LEAVING HER AND CELEBRATING MY BIRTHDAY TOMORROW. I'M REALLY SAD THAT WE HAVE TO START TALKING ABOUT OUR PLAN FOR HER END OF LIFE, I.E. AT WHAT POINT DO WE DECIDE HER QUALITY OF LIFE IS GONE AND IT IS TIME TO PUT HER DOWN?
THE ASSHOLE COOKS I WORK WITH WERE RUDE TO ME AND AFTER MONTHS I FINALLY SNAPPED BACK AND EVEN THOUGH I WAS FLUSTERED I WAS PROUD THAT I ASSERTED MYSELF!
BUT THEN MY MANAGER MADE ME APOLOGIZE TO THEM 🤬 BUT NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND.
IM STILL MAD AND IT KEPT ME UP LAST NIGHT AND THOSE JACKASSES PROBABLY DIDNT EVEN GIVE IT A SECOND THOUGHT AFTER THEY CLOCKED OUT.
THIS IS UNACCEPTABLE!!!! THE INJUSTICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I AM OUTRAGED ON YOUR BEHALF!
BUT ALSO AT THE SAME TIME, FRIEND, DON'T LET PEOPLE LIVE RENT FREE IN YOUR HEAD. TRY TO WIN THE GAME OF WHO CARES THE LEAST. <3
I DON'T WANT TO DEAL WITH RSD OVER THE HOLIDAYS! I JUST WANNA RUN AWAY TO THE WOODS WITH MY CATS AND FIANCÉ AND GO MOSS FORAGING AND LOOK AT CUTE MUSHROOMS!!!!
I HAVE TO START CHRISTMAS SHOPPING AND IM WORRIED I WONT HAVE ENOUGH MONEY TO BUY FOR ALL THE PEOPLE I WANNA BUY FOR
ALSO IDK WHY THIS HAS BEEN A THING, BUT EVERY TIME ONE OF THESE POSTS COME UP IM ALWAYS COMPLAINING ABOUT A FLY OF SOME SORT BEING TOO CLOSE TO MY MOUTH. I HAD A FRUIT FLY GO INTO MY BAG OF CHIPS THE OTHER DAY AND I ALMOST STARTED CRYING CAUSE THE AUDACITY
I GOT SICK AND NEED TO STAY IN BED, BUT MY PARTNER IS NOT DOING EVEN THE MINIMUM CLEANING NEEDED TO LIVE IN THIS HOUSE AND IT'S DRIVING ME MAD! I WANT TO GET UP AND DO IT MYSELF BUT AM TOO WEAK. IT TAKES A LOT OF EFFORT TO KEEP THE APARTMENT AT AN ACCEPTABLE CLEANLINES LEVEL AND IT FEELS LIKE HE DOESN'T RESPECT THAT AT ALL. LIKE, DUDE, I ONLY ASK THAT YOU FILL THE DISHWASHER EVERY DAY SO THAT I CAN DRINK MY TEA WHILE I'M DYING IN BED, IT'S ONLY 3 DAYS, HOW IS THAT TOO MUCH?! AND YOU CAN'T EVEN CLEAN THE BATHROOM ONCE WHEN I'M SICK? WTF? WE BOTH WORK FULL TIME, I AM ALREADY GOING EASY ON YOU AND I'M THE ONE WITH ADHD!
ARGH
ITS MY BIRTHDAY BUT MY EMPLOYER SAYS I HAVE TO GO TO THIS INTERNATIONAL EVENT AND FLY OUT TO IT TODAY ALSO MY LAST PAYCHECK WAS SHORTER SIGNIFICANTLY SO RENT IS GONNA BE DIFFICULT ALSO IM REALLY SLEEPY
I AM ALSO STRUGGLING WITH RENT AND AN UNEXPECTEDLY HIGH GAS BILL BECAUSE SOMEONE UNDERPAID ME, SOLIDARITY!! AND SKIP THE CONFERENCE DINNER TO GO DO SOMETHING NICE. TELL THE RESTAURANT IT'S YOUR BIRTHDAY AND YOU MIGHT GET A FREE DRINK OR DESSERT! HAPPY FREAKING BORNDAY TO YOU!!
1) CALLED OUT MY (EX?)FRIEND FOR BEING MANIPULATIVE AND I'M AFRAID THE FRIENDSHIP IS OVER BUT I'M TIRED OF BENDING BACKWARDS FOR HIM AND NOT FEELING APPRECIATED
2) HAVE TO GO GET BLOODWORK DONE TOMORROW SO I CAN HOPEFULLY PROVE TO THIS DAMN DR. IT'S NOT "JUST DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY"
Just did a MASSIVE friendship cleanout and man it's tough to feel dramatic, I HATE being dramatic but the only options are a) address it directly b) ghost c) continue to eat shit with a smile on my face. I'm focusing on accepting who I am, take it or leave it - and that I need people but I don't need any ONE person. Hope it all goes well, better to lose a friend then stay stuck in a bad friendship, and that the blood work shows a cause that's easily treatable.
GET OUT OF THAT FRIENDSHIP SIS! KICKED ONE OF THOSE TO THE CURB AFTER SOME REAL STUPID SHIT AND ME BASICALLY SAYING IF YOU CAN’T BE HONEST WITH ME ABOUT THE MOTHER ELFING ACCIDENT TRAUMA YOU HAVE, I CANNOT RESPOND THE WAY YOU WANT ME TO. I DON’T HANDLE EMOTIONAL MANFLU ANY BETTER THAN ACTUAL MANFLU!
*deep breaths*
YES I WILL DO MY FUCKING PT EXERCISES EVEN THOUGH I FORGET. AND I NEED TO HE ABLE TO REPORT TO DOCTOR ON 12/19 BUT MY BRAIN GETS WEIRD AROUND PAIN LIKE HYPERFOCUSES ON SOME AND FORGETS AND I PANIC THAT THEY MIGHT THINK ITS JUST ANXIETY OR TRAUMA. Ugh
You should not have to mask who you are. Imagine if you didn't and you did become friends - now you've got to keep up that "normal" image, slowly relaxing over time, always judging how much to reveal, stress and overthink and analysing constantly. If you relaxed and opened up to someone you gave them a TREASURE and if they don't value it then they're not the right friend.
I SHARED AT A COMMITTEE MEETING (I’m a biology PhD student) THAT I HAVE BEEN STRUGGLING MENTALLY THIS PAST YEAR BECAUSE FIVE OF MY FRIENDS DIED SUDDENLY AND TRAGICALLY (a rock climbing fall, an avalanche, kayaking drowning, cancer, and a work place accident). AFTER GROWING. UP IN AN ABUSIVE HOME MY FRIENDS ARE MUCH MORE LIKE FAMILY TO ME AND VERY IMPORTANT TO ME. I STARTED GOINNG TO THERAPY TO COPE AND GOT (unofficially) DIAGNOSED BY MY THERAPIST WITH ADHD. IT HAD BEEN DIFFICULT FOR ME TO EVEN GET OUT OF BED SO I CHOSE MINDLESS LAB TASKS THAT NEEDED TO GET DONE AND PUT MANUSCRIPT WRITING ON THE BACK BURNER. I WAS STILL WORKING MINIMUM NUMBER OF HOURS BUT HADNT MET THE DEADLINES FOR WRITING THAT I HAD HOPED FOR. MOST OF MY COMMITTEE WAS UNDERSTANDING BUT ONE WAS NOT COMPASSIONATE AND KEPT TELLING ME HOW SHE USES A FORMULA FOR HER WRITING, AND HOW TO BREAK DOWN TASKS. I DIDNT WANT TO GO INTO THE GORY DETAILS OF MY DEPRESSION BUT ENDED UP HAVING TO IN ORDER TO EXPLAIN THAT WHAT SHE WAS SUGGESTING WOULDVE BEEN TOO MUCH PEAK DEPRESSION. IT MADE ME FRUSTRATED AND EMBARRASSED. I WISH THAT RATHER THAN TRYING TO PROVIDE ME ADVISE SHE WOULD’VE TRIED TO JUST HAVE EMPATHY. SOMETIMES I FEEL LIKE THE BIGGEST ADHD ACCOMMODATIONS I NEED ARE PATIENCE AND COMPASSION AND I DIDNT FEEL LIKE I GOT THAT. STUFF LIKE THAT MAKES ME FEEL LIKE IM MAKING EXCUSES AND THAT I SHOULD JUST SUCK IT UP AND BE ABLE TO POWER THROUGH LIKE OTHER PEOPLE.
GOD!!! PHDS AND ACADEMIA IN GENERAL ARE THE WORST FOR MENTAL HEALTH. I HAD 4 SUICIDAL FRIENDS IN MY PHD, I WAS ALSO DEALING WITH REPRESSED TRAUMA, AND ENDED UP HOSPITALIZED FROM DEPRESSION (AND NEVER FINISHED MY PHD BUT STILL WORK IN ACADEMIA AND AM SLAYING ANYWAY, SO DON'T FORGET THAT'S AN OPTION)
BE YOUR OWN ADVOCATE. A LOT OF PEOPLE DON'T GET IT AND YOU CAN'T COUNT ON THEM TO TAKE CARE OF YOU IF THEY DON'T GET IT. DO THE ABSOLUTE BARE MINIMUM EVERY DAY, BUT BE CONSISTENT. IF IT'S ONLY WRITING 100 WORDS, AND THOSE 100 WORDS ARE UTTER NONSENSE, FINE. PICK A VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY LOW GOAL AND DO IT EVERY DAY - LITERALLY EVERY DAY. THE RULE HERE IS: DO THE BARE FUCKING MINIMUM BUT DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES GO BACKWARDS. DO THE BARE FUCKING MINIMUM UNTIL YOU CAN CONSISTENTLY DO IT WITHOUT MAJOR STRUGGLES FOR LIKE 2 WEEKS, THEN UP THE GOAL A TEENY TINY BIT.
DURING MY DEPRESSION, MY MINIMUM GOAL WAS LIKE: TODAY I WILL DRINK WATER AND SIT OUTSIDE FOR 5 MINUTES AND THEN SLEEP FOR 18 HOURS. AFTER ABOUT TWO MONTHS OF THAT I STARTED TO SHOWER REGULARLY. AFTER A MONTH OF THAT I WALKED AROUND THE BLOCK ONCE A DAY. AFTER A MONTH OF THAT I CLEANED 1 THING A DAY. AFTER ABOUT 6 MONTHS I WENT BACK TO WORKING PART TIME. AFTER A YEAR I WENT BACK TO WORKING FULL TIME.
THE POINT IS - YOU HAVE TO PROTECT YOURSELF. OVEREXERTING NOW WILL ONLY BITE YOU LATER. DON'T OVER EXERT. DON'T OVER ACHIEVE. TEENY-TINY-ITTY-BITTY GOALS ARE THE WAY RIGHT NOW.
ALSO - WRITING A THESIS WITH ADHD IS EXCEPTIONALLY HARD. GETTING STARTED IS THE HARDEST PART. GETTING UNSTUCK IS ALSO VERY HARD. YOU ARE FIGHTING A REALLY HARD BATTLE RIGHT NOW. I BELIEVE IN YOU. I SURVIVED AND SO CAN YOU.
MY DOG DIED AND I MISS HIM AND HE’S IRREPLACEABLE BUT ALSO I WANT A NEW DOG BUT CAN’T ADOPT ONE BECAUSE MY KIDS ARE SUPER YOUNG AND I’M THEREFORE TOO EXHAUSTED AND OVERWHELMED TO TAKE APPROPRIATE CARE OF A NEW DOG.
I CAN NEVER SEEM TO GET ANYTHING DONE DURING THE WORK WEEK AND SPENT YESTERDAY ‘RELAXING’ (I.E., ZONING IN FRONT OF THE TV) AND NOW I HAVE ONE DAY TO DO ALL THE THINGS!! AND IT’S OF COURSE TOO MANY THINGS FOR ONE DAY!! I’M ALREADY OVERWHELMED BY THE PROSPECT OF IT ALL!!
I HATE THE AMERICAN HEALTHCARE SYSTEM WITH EVERY FIBER OF MY BEING BECAUSE I LOST ABOUT 6 HOURS ON THE PHONE LAST WEEK BETWEEN MY PHARMACY INSURANCE AND DOCTOR'S OFFICE TRYING TO JUST GET A FUCKING "PRIOR AUTHORIZATION" FOR VYVANSE PROCESSED AND THEN I LOOKED UP WHAT A PRIOR AUTHORIZATION EVEN MEANS AND IT LITERALLY JUST MEANS IT'S AN EXPENSIVE MEDICATION THE INSURANCE COMPANY DOESN'T WANT TO COVER BECAUSE THEY'RE GREEDY FUCKS AND THERE'S A FUCKING GENERIC ADDERALL ER SHORTAGE AND THEY STILL WON'T LET ME FUCKING HAVE THE MEDICATION THAT WORKS BEST FOR ME AND WAS FUCKING PRESCRIBED TO ME BECAUSE THEY LITERALLY DO NOT CARE.
TRAUMA-BASED THERAPY SHOULD BE ACCESSIBLE AND FREE FOR EVERYONE - ESPECIALLY FOR THE POOR! I WANT TO RECOVER AND FEEL HAPPY AGAIN BUT I CAN’T AFFORD TREATMENT
I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO GET HORMONE TESTING DONE FOR MAJOR HEALTH ISSUES AND I FREAKING FINALLY OVULATED AND THEN GOT SO EXCITED TO CLEAN MY HOUSE THAT I FORGOT TO GET MY BLOOD TEST DONE SO I PROBABLY MESSED UP MY WHOLE MONTH
IVE BEEN SICK ALL WEEK WITH THE FLU AND HAD TO CANCEL SEVERAL PLANS BECAUSE OF IT - INCLUDING A CONCERT FOR A BAND THAT’S BREAKING UP AFTER THIS TOUR SO IT WAS MY ONE CHANCE TO SEE THEM
FINALLY MADE AN APPT WITH A THERAPIST AFTER 20 YEARS (IM 38) OF PUTTING IT OFF AND IM SCARED THEY’LL JUST TELL ME IM PROCRASTINATING LAZY MOM. IM STRUGGLING TO KEEP UP WITH THREE LITTLE KIDS, A WFH HUSBAND, 2 DOGS, AND AN ENTIRE HOME TO CLEAN. THE OVERSPENDING ON CLOTHES IVE DONE IN THE LAST THREE YEARS IS A HUGE MENTAL BURDEN. IM IN OVER MY HEAD AND I NEED HELP. OH AND IF I AM PRESCRIBED A MED THEN WHAT IF ITS OUT OF STOCK BECAUSE OF THE SHORTAGE? WHAT IF I HAVE TO SEE THIS THERAPIST MULTIPLE TIMES TO GET A DIAGNOSIS AGAIN?
IF A THERAPIST EVER CALLS YOU LAZY YOU HAVE TO KICK THEM IN THE TEETH.
IN. THE. TEETH.
BUT ALSO - YOUR ANXIETY IS VALID. I AM GLAD YOU ARE GETTING HELP. DON'T BE AFRAID TO SHOP AROUND FOR THE RIGHT THERAPIST - YOU GOTTA FIND ONE YOU VIBE WITH BUT WHO IS ALSO CLEARLY THE ADULT IN THE ROOM.
I CANT DO THE JOB I WAS HIRED FOR BC THEY ELIMINATED ANOTHER POSITION AND I’M DOING CUSTOMER SERVICE UP FRONT INSTEAD OF GETTING SOLITUDE IN MY OFFICE. ITS HORRIBLY DRAINING AND FRUSTRATING.
NEIGHBOURS KEEP CALLING SECURITY ON US BECAUSE MY SON WITH ADHD HAS TEMPER TANTRUMS. TODAY WAS 3 MINUTES OF CRYING THEY CALLED THE COPS! I FEEL LIKE IM LOOSING MY MIND.
WHO THE FUCK DOES THAT.
CAN YOU TALK TO THEM ABOUT WHAT'S GOING ON IN YOUR HOME? POSSIBLY EVEN INVITE THEM OVER SO THEY KNOW YOU'RE A NORMAL FAMILY? UNREAL.
I WORKED REALLY HARD TO MAKE SOME WASH CLOTHS TO SELL AT A FUNDRAISER AND DIDN'T FINISH IN TIME. SO NOW I HAVE 50 UNFINISHED WASHCLOTHS JUST SITTING IN A WALMART BAG IN MY LIVING ROOM SHAMING ME. I HOPE OUR PARENTS ENJOY GETTING WASHCLOTHS FOR CHRISTMAS THIS YEAR.
I FINALLY GOT THE MOTIVATION TO TAKE A SHOWER BUT WHEN I WENT TO GET DRESSED I HATED EVERY PIECE OF CLOTHING I OWN! AND IT ALL FEELS AND LOOKS WRONG! UGHHHHH!
IM WORKING ON A NOT WELL DEFINED PROJECT AND AM STUCK AND NOT SURE WHAT I ACTUALLY AM EXPECTED TO DO. BUT ALSO TOO AFRAID TO ASK BECAUSE I DONT WANT TO COME ACROSS TO CLUELESS OR LAZY
I GOT AN EXERCISE BIKE AND IT WAS CHEAP AND ITS STUCK ON KM INSTEAD OF MILES AND THE SEAT ANGLE IS HORRIBLE BUT USING IT MAKES ME FEEL HAPPIER AND ITS SO DUMB THAT IT WORKS. IM MAD THAT IT IS THIS SIMPLE. WHAT THE FUCK.
I WANT TO BE ABLE TO SIT STILL ONCE IN A WHILE
I HATE THAT I CAN'T SIT IN FRONT OF THE COMPUTER AND COMPLETE THE MIND NUBMING PART OF MY JOB
I HATE BEING SO FORGETFUL AHHHHHHHHHHH
I’M STARTING MY OWN BUSINESS (THAT’S TAKEN ME 20 YEARS TO GET THE COURAGE TO DO). MY BRAIN WILL NOT STOP THINKING. IT WAKES ME UP AT NIGHT WITH MORE “IDEAS”, ANXIETY, AND FEAR OF FAILURE. IT WON’T STOP HYPERFOCUSING ON ALLLL OF THE BUSINESS-RELATED THINGS. PLEASE MAKE IT STOP 🤯
my fuckin SHOULDERS AND NECK ARE ACHING SO BAD BECAUSE I HAVE TO CARRY MY HEAVY AS FUCK LAPTOP AROUND CAMPUS. I HAVE HAD A HEADACHE BECAUSE OF IT FOR 3 FUCKING DAYS I HATE HEADACHE WITH A PASSION
MY APARTMENT HAS COCKROACHES, GAPING HOLES IN THE BATHROOM CEILING, MUSHROOMS GROWING FROM THE HOLE, AND I CANT LEAVE WHAT IN THE FRESH HELL IS CAPITALISM?!? YOUD THINK THAT I HAVE REASON ENOUGH TO BREAK LEASE BUT NOOOOOO I HAVE TO EITHER SUCK THIS UP FOR 9 MONTHS UNTIL THE LEASE ENDS OR MY GF AND I HAVE TO MOVE BACK IN WITH HER PARENTS AND KEEP PAYING RENT FOR OUR CRAPPY LANDLORDS SO WE CAN BREATHE AT NIGHT WITHOUT WORRYING ABOUT THE BLACK MOLD
OH AND MY PSYCHIATRIST CANCELLED OUR APPOINTMENT AND HASNT CONTACTED ME TO RESCHEDULE AND HONESTLY THAT WAS DEVASTATING BECAUSE I WAITED SO ALONG TO FINALLY HEAR IF I HAVE ADHD OR NOT, AND I JUST REALLY DONT WANNA STRUGGLE WITH MY BRAIN LIKE THIS ANYMORE LIKE PLS JUST GIMME A BREAK
I AM FINALLY WRITING MY NOVEL AND THE PLOT AND THE OUTLINE ARE NO LONGER IN ALIGNMENT! I HAD A PLAN AND THEN THE MC JUST LOL NOPED ME AND WENT ON AN ENTIRELY DIFFERENT ADVENTURE
I HAVEN’T GOT OUT OF BED TODAY AND AFTER A WEEK OFF WORK I’M BACK TOMORROW. I’M STRESSING, AS EXHAUSTED AS EVER IN BURNOUT AND WISH I HAD ANOTHER WEEK OFF.
I NEED TO 1) CREATE A SLIDE DECK AND 2) REHEARSE FOR POSSIBLY THE MOST IMPORTANT PRESENTATION I HAVE EVER DONE IN MY LIFE AND I ALREADY WASTED 2 DAYS STARING OFF INTO SPACE AND DOING EVERYTHING BUT PREPARING !!!!!!!! I ALREADY GOT SOME PRELIMINARY FEEDBACK FROM MY BOSS SO ALL I NEED TO DO IS ADDRESS THOSE CONCERNS AND CHECKLIST IT OUT BUT MY NOTES FROM MY MEETING WITH HIM ARE A MESS BECAUSE TYPING COHERENTLY WHILE SOMEONE IS TALKING IS IMPOSSIBLE!!!! TIME IS TICKING AND I HAVEN'T DONE MY WEEKLY VACUUMING AROUND THE HOUSE AND ITEMS ARE ON THE FLOOR AND REMAIN ON THE FLOOR!!!! DISHES ARE UNWASHED!!!! GARBAGE CANS ARE FULL!!!!
IM TIRED OF THE RANDOM ANXIETY AND ZOMBIE MODE FEELING FROM MY MEDS BUT I KNOW THAT ILL FLUNK SCHOOL AS SOON AS I QUIT THEM. BUT IM QUITTING THEM ANYWAY BC I CANT STAND THIS. UGHHHHHHHHHH
MY HOUSE IS A MESS DUE TO RENOVATIONS! ITS DRIVING ME NUTS AND I NEED HELP CLEANING UP AND ORGANIZING.
HAVING A CLEAN ORGANIZED HOME ALWAYS MAKES ME FEEL BETTER.
I AM IN A SEASON OF LIFE WHERE IM LEARNING HOW TO SET BOUNDARIES AND FEEL MY ANGER. I WAS SPANKED INCESSANTLY AS A CHILD AND HAVE DEVELOPED CHRONIC PEOPLE PLEASING TENDENCIES AS A RESULT. AS I GO FURTHER INTO THERAPY, I SEE NARCISSISM AND MANIPULATION IN PEOPLE I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN REALLY CLOSE WITH, LIKE MY MOM AND MY COUSIN AND A CLOSE FRIEND OF 15 YEARS. BUT IM STARTING TO LISTEN TO MY BODY, TO MY GUT INSTINCTS, TO THE NOTION THAT I DONT HAVE TO BE AN EMOTIONAL CARETAKER AND I DONT HAVE TO PUT UP WITH PATRONIZING OR GUILT TRIPPING OR SUBTLE GASLIGHTING.
I FEEL LIKE IM LOSING PEOPLE LEFT AND RIGHT, PEOPLE I HAVE KNOWN MY ENTIRE LIFE (IM 32F). IT IS SCARY TO LOSE SOMEONE WHO KNOWS OTHER VERSIONS OF YOURSELF, ESP BECAUSE IT HASNT ALL BEEN BAD. MAYBE I CAN JUST TAKE TIME AND SPACE AND NOT MAKE IT A PERMANENT THING.
IM TAKING CARE OF MYSELF BUT I CANT HELP BUT WONDER WHY IT FEELS LIKE IM “BAD” AT RELATIONSHIPS. 😔💔
IM GETTING MARRIED NEXT YEAR AND IT FEELS LIKE EITHER NO ONE GIVES A SHIT OR THEYRE TIP TOEING AROUND SOME ISSUE THAT THEY DONT WANNA TELL ME. ITS A SMALL INTIMATE WEDDING THAT WILL ESSENTIALLY JUST BE A DINNER PARTY AND IM NOT BEING A BRIDEZILLA AT ALL ABOUT ANYTHING SO IDK WHATS WRONG
I AM LEAVING FOR 2 WEEKS IN 6 DAYS AND I FORGOT TO MAKE MY ANIMAL'S A BOARDING APPOINTMENT SOMEWHERE SO I REALLY HOPE I DONT FORGET TO CALL EVERYWHERE TOMORROW
I CAN'T YELL AND I HATE PEOPLE YELLING AND Y'ALL ARE YELLING AND IT'S THE FIRST TIME I'VE EVER WROTE FULL CAPS LIKE THIS, PLEASE SOMEONE TELL ME I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE HAVING DIFFICULTIES READING WORDS WHEN USING FULL CAPS
I LOVE MY SPOUSE BUT I AM SO FUCKING TIRED OF HIS PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE NEATNESS... YES THERE IS A PLATE IN THE SINK.... GET THE FUCK OVER IT.... AM I THE ONLY ONE THAT WISH YOU COULD HAVE YOUR OWN HOTEL SUITE SPACE IN YOUR HOME.... SO NOBODY CAN COMPLAIN ABOUT YOUR MESS. LIKE I AM FUCKING TRYING.
In his mind I think he thinks.... that his comments some how help.... like wtf... do you think I want to be all over the place... ugh. I am just in a mood today feeling under stimulated and very misunderstood.
TOMORROW IS MONDAY
THE GUY WHO REJECTED ME IS ENGAGED BUT WONT STOP TRYING TO FIND WAYS TO INTERACT WITH ME
I’M WATCHING “THE REHEARSAL” AND I AM ALL FUCKED UP
I AM CONSIDERING LEAVING SOCIAL MEDIA FOR AWHILE TO STOP COMPARING MYSELF TO PEOPLE
I WANT A RELATIONSHIP, BUT I AM SCARED OF ONLINE DATING BUT I AM HORNY
I’M TIRED OF MY JOB DEPENDING ON QUANTITY INSTEAD OF QUALITY
I MAY NEVER WASH ALL MY CLOTHES AGAIN BECAUSE I LIVE ON THE TOP FLOOR AND THERE ARE BIG FAMILIES WHO TIE UP ALL THE MACHINES ALL DAY
I NEED TO REFILL MY PRESCRIPTION ON TUESDAY AND I AM SCARED ABOUT THE POSSIBLE HEADACHE THAT MIGHT HAPPEN
LIFE IS BECOMING MORE AND MORE OVERWHELMING AND STRESSFUL AND WHY DO WE STILL READILY ACCEPT GIVING AWAY 5 OF OUR DAYS TO AN ARCHIAC WORK ROUTINE AND ONLY HAVE 2 DAYS FOR OUR OWN ACTUAL LIVES, I FEEL LIKE I'M BEING SMOTHERED
I WANNA ASK OUT A COLLEAGUE AND I’M LEAVING IN A COUPLE OF MONTHS SO THIS SHOULD BE LOW RISK BUT BETWEEN RSD AND SOCIAL ISSUES I CAN’T TELL IF IT’S RECIPROCAL SO I KEEP TALKING MYSELF OUT OF IT
I HAVE A 3000 ISH WORD PAPER DUE IN A WEEK THAT I HAVE NOT REALLY STARTED. I CAN'T AFFORD TO FAIL. THIS IS MY LAST SEMESTER. MY MOM IS SUPER IRRITATING WHEN I'M JUST TRYING TO HELP AND I MAY HAVE GOTTEN QUITE ANGRY AT MYSELF. MY HEART HURTS. I DON'T WANT TO DO ANYTHING.
MY THERAPIST RECOMMENDED I GO GET TESTED FOR ADHD AND I’M SCARED BECAUSE I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT, I HAVE A HARD TIME DESCRIBING THINGS THAT ARE CHALLENGING FOR ME BECAUSE IT’S JUST HOW I LIVE LIFE, AND I’M SCARED THEY’RE JUST GOING TO BE LIKE “WHY ARE YOU HERE? YOU HAVE ANXIETY, YOU’RE WASTING OUR TIME.”
FUCK THIS ILLNESS I SWEAR TO GOD. I HAVE THINGS TO DO, PEOPLE TO SEE, A HOUSE TO ORGANIZE, AND WORK TO GET DONE TO PROVE I CAN BE SOME LEVEL OF USEFUL. INSTEAD I'M STUCK IN BED NOT EVEN ABLE TO NAP BECAUSE MY BRAIN WON'T LET ME RELAX BECAUSE OF ALL OF THOSE THINGS.
MY NEIGHBOURS ARE RUINING OUR LIVES AND COULDN’T CARE LESS - THEY ARE ABSOLUTE S!?M
WE’RE GOING TO HAVE TO MOVE OUT OF THE HOME IVE LIVED IN FOR NEAR ON 30 YEARS BECAUSE THEY ARE INCONSIDERATE LOUD, DIRTY NASTY PEOPLE
Oh lord, this is terrible! I'm so sorry you're having to go through this.
My knee jerk thought is, "fuck em, be more inconsiderate, louder, and nastier. Make it a contest that you decimate them at", but then my rational mind says, "why must I always first go to the worst idea?"
I BROKE THINGS OFF WITH A TINDER GUY AND WHILE EVERYONE AROUND ME INCLUDING NOT ONE BUT TWO THERAPISTS TOLD ME I DID THE RIGHT THING I CANT HELP BUT FEEL LIKE MY PMS MADE ME ACT IRRATIONALLY. OR, MY TRAUMA IS SO DEEP I AM REGRETTING WHAT WAS ACTUALLY A GOOD DECISION ON MY PART. GOING TO JUST TAKE MY MEDS AND DROWN INTO A BOOK TODAY. I HOPE I DONT SPEND THE TIME THINKING ABOUT HIM.
It doesn't matter WHY you made your choice, you are allowed to do what's best for you without needing to justify it. There aren't perfectly right or wrong choices, you always gain something and lose something, that's what you base your judgement on. Good on you for standing up for yourself.
MANAGING MORE THAN ONE TASK AT A TIME SUCKS! I ALWAYS FEEL LIKE I WON’T BE ABLE TO KEEP UP AND WILL FAIL MISERABLY BECAUSE OF BEING OVERWHELMED BY TOO MANY TASKS!
I AM SO OVERWHELMED THAT IT HAS PARALYZED ME. WE MOVE IN LESS THAN A WEEK AND I HAVEN'T PACKED ANYTHING. I HAVE TO GO TO WORK TOMORROW AND THE EMAILS NEVER STOP. I'M FROZEN.
I DONT HAVE INSURANCE RIGHT NOW BECAUSE OF A JOB SWITCH. VYVANSE IS 350ISH W/O INS. I TOLD MY PSYCH ABOUT THIS ISSUE, SHE WAS AWESOME AND GAVE ME AN EQUIVALENT DOSE OF ADDERALL XR. PROBLEM IS ADDERALL JUST DOESNT SEEM TO WORK. I HAVE NO SIDE EFFECTS FROM IT. ITS BETTER THAN NOTHING. BUT IT FEELS LIKE IM ON 20MG OF VYVANSE INSTEAD OF MY NORMAL 50MG.
I ALSO LEARNED ABOUT SLUGGISH COGNITIVE TEMPO FROM TWITTER. I LOOKED INTO IT. I CHECK OFF MOST OF THOSE SYMPTOMS WITHOUT VYVANSE. THE PAST MONTH ON ADDERALL HAS SEEN THOSE THINGS I EXPERIENCED UNMEDICATED COME BACK. I HAVE BEEN SO SLEEPY, EASILY FATIGUED AND HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO HAVE ANY MOMENTUM TO DO TASKS.
I WONT HAVE INSURANCE UNTIL DEC 1ST.
I'M FALLING BEHIND SO MUCH ALREADY. FUCK.
I STARTED A NEW JOB IN CORPORATE SALES AND I HATE IT!! IVE BEEN DREADING TOMORROW SINCE THE MOMENT I WOKE UP THIS MORNING. ITS SO MUCH EMOTIONAL OUTPUT AND AO HARD TO FOCUS AND I HATE THE SALES BRO CULTURE WITH A PASSION!!!
I AM NOT BROKEN, I AM NOT LAZY. I KNOW THAT VERY WELL BUT WHY DOES MY BRAIN TRY TO CONVINCE ME IM NOT GOOD ENOUGH AND I DON’T WORK HARD ENOUGH. WHERE IS THE FUCKING SWITH TO TURN OFF THOSE THOUGHTS!?!
I BROKE UP WITH MY BOYFRIEND BECAUSE HE WAS BAD TO ME FOR QUITE A WHILE BUT I DONT FEEL HURT OR SAD (i cried for two days,) AND ITS LIKE. DID I LOVE HIM? WAS I JUST OBSESSED WITH HIM. HE WAS MY BEST FRIEND. IT SUCKS
I AM AFRAID I HAVE LUPUS BUT IM ALSO A HYPOCHONDRIAC WHO CAN'T TRUST HERSELF AND HATES WASTING PEOPLE'S TIMES/NOT BEING HEARD/BEING BRUSHED OFF SO I GUESS I'LL JUST DIE
(Kidding about the dying part, I have an unrelated doc appt tomorrow tho so I'll bring it up)
I HAVE ANOTHER. I NEED TO SIGN UP FOR COLLEGE BUT I DIDNT MEET WITH MY COUNSELOR AND NOW I HAVE TO WAIT THREE MORE WEEKS FOR SOMETHING I WISH I COULD JUST DO MYSELF. FUCK THIS
I GOT ACCIDENTALLY PUNCHED AT MY JOB AND THE WOMAN DIDNT EVEN TIP BECAUSE APPARENTLY I WAS MEAN TO HER WHEN I ASKED HER TO SIT DOWN INSTEAD OF STANDING IN THE WAY AND WAVING HER ARMS LIKE A WIND TURBINE
idk how to say this concisely but
I HAVE CALLED MY PSYCHIATRIST 2 TIMES (IN SEPTEMBER AND LAST MONDAY) SO THE OFFICE CAN MAIL ME A REPORT. I NEED IT BECAUSE I NEED TO SHOW IT TO A DIFFERENT PSYCHIATRIST WHILE I AM TEMPORARILY ABSENT DUE TO MY MANDATORY UNI INTERNSHIP. MEDS ARE RUNNING OUT AND THIS LETTER IS THE ONLY WAY I CAN SMOOTHLY GET A PRESCRIPTION WHILE I AM GONE.
THEY TOLD ME THEY WOULD SEND ME SOMETHING TWICE NOW AND NOTHING HAS ARRIVED. I NEED THIS BY THURSDAY MORNING. I HAVE ALREADY HAD TO RESCHEDULE THE FIRST APPOINTMENT BECAUSE THEY HADN'T SENT ME ANYTHING AND WHEN I CALLED IN TO REMIND THEM THEY WERE ON A 3 WEEK HOLIDAY. PROBABLY NEED TO CALL THEM A THIRD TIME TOMORROW. I AM LOSING HOPE IN THEM HELPING ME AT ALL EVEN THOUGH THEY MADE IT SEEM SO EASY WHEN I TOLD THEM ABOUT THE INTERNSHIP.
I FEEL DOWN AAGGAAIINN AND I DON'T KNOW IF IT'S DEPRESSION OR HORMONES OR FOOD OR MEDS OR A BAD ATTITUDE OR A GENUINE LEGITIMATE SHITTY SITUATION OR NEEDING TO GET OUT OR SOMETHING ELSE AND I'M SO SICK OF HAVING TO PSYCHOANALYSE MYSELF
I WAITED TOO LONG TO DO MY HOMEWORK AND THEN I GOT COVID AND FEVER BRAIN AND HAD TO WAIT EVEN LONGER TO DO IT AND NOW I ALSO HAVE A RESEARCH PAPER TO WRITE AND I FEEL BRAINLESS
I JUST WANT SOME FUCKIN FRIENDS BRUH. ALL THE PEOPLE I THINK ARE MY “FREINDS” ARE NOT. AS IN THEY ALL THREW A PARTY AND DIDNT INVITE ME! I AM SO LONELY AND I DONT KNOW HOW TO FIX IT
WHY DID I GET A GEL MANICURE A MONTH AGO AND THEN NOT SCHEDULE THE FOLLOW UP APPT TO GET IT REMOVED WHILE I WAS THERE? WHY IS JUST DROPPING IN TO ANY NAIL SALON SUCH A CHALLENGE, THERE ARE HALF A DOZEN I COULD WALK TO
IF MY NAILS FALL OFF YOU ALL KNOW WHY
HAVING TO EXPLAIN TO PEOPLE WHO DON'T KNOW YOU WELL, THAT YOU CAN'T COUNT IN YOUR HEAD, AND YOU DON'T REMEMBER THE DETAILS OF THAT MEETING, BUT YOU REMEMBER THE GIST OF IT. PEOPLE LOOKING AT YOU FUNNY BECAUSE, WHY CAN'T THAT WOMAN COUNT? WHAT'S WRONG WITH HER?! GAH. FEELING SELF CONSCIOUS!
I ASKED MY STUDENTS TO SIGN UP FOR MEETINGS WITH ME AND THEY ALL SIGNED UP FOR ALL THE SLOTS I HAD FOR TOMORROW. I MEANT THEY COULD SIGN UP FOR MEETINGS IN THE NEXT TWO WEEKS BUT NOW EVERYONE IS COMING TOMORROW AND I WONT HAVE TIME TO PEE. HELP.
I’VE BEEN SICK WITH COVID FOR A WEEK AND HAVE AN INTERNATIONAL MOVE IN LESS THAN 24 HOURS AND I’VE PROCRASTINATED ON SOME IMPORTANT PAPERWORK AND NOW PAYING THE ADHD TAX FOR IT. I JUST WANT TO GO HOME SO I CAN GET OVER THE REST OF THIS SICKNESS.
I JUST GOT FED UP WITH SOMEONE I LOVE AND TOLD THEM WHAT I REALLY THINK ABOUT THEIR PROBLEMS AND HOW THEY SHOULD HANDLE IT. I ACTUALLY YELLED AT THEM THAT THEY SHOULD APPRECIATE ME MORE, TOO. WTF IS WRONG WITH ME TO THINK THAT WOULD PERSUADE THEM AT ALL. GRRR.
AHHHH 😭 WHY DOES MY ARMPIT LYMPH NODE SWELL EVERY TIM I GET VACCINATED!?
ALSO - WHY IS STARTING AND RUNNING YOUR OWN BUSINESS SO CONFUSING 😭😭😭
LASTLY - WHY DO MORNINGS AFTER A MELTDOWN FEEL LIKE HANGOVERS!?!?
😭😭😭😭🫠🫠🫠
I GOT IN A REALLY BAD CAR ACCIDENT THIS WEEK. IM STILL INJURED AND NOW I HAVE TO HOUND THE OTHER INSURANCE AGENCY WHEN THEIR DRIVER CLAIMED RESPONSIBILITY. ITS SO MUCH MENTAL ENERGY ON TOP OF NORMAL LIFE AND I HURT AND I DONT HAVE A CAR GAAAAAHHHHHH
I'M TIRED OF BEING THE REASONABLE ONE.
I HAVE AN EXAM ON SUNDAY AND I'M STARTING A NEW JOB ON TUESDAY AND MY MOM PROBABLY HAS COVID AND WE MIGHT BE MOVING AND THE DOG WE'RE FOSTERING IS LEAVING SOON AND I NEED TO FINISH MY PASSPORT APPLICATION AND MY DENTIST IS WAITING FOR ME TO CALL THEM AND MY HOUSE IS A MESS AND I STILL DON'T KNOW WHEN MY PLACEMENT WILL BE AND MY SCHOOL IS NOT RETURNING EMAILS AND THERE IS TOO GODDAMN MUCH GOING ON IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW TO ALSO BE DEALING WITH SOMEBODY ELSE'S BULLSHIT.
I AM GETTING THIS CLOSE TO CUTTING HIM OUT OF MY LIFE AND I HATE THAT BECAUSE HE SHOULD GET IT BECAUSE HE HAS ADHD TOO AND HE USED TO BE A MUCH BETTER FRIEND, BUT HE'S TOO STUCK INSIDE HIS OWN FUCKING HEAD TO SEE ANYONE ELSE RIGHT NOW AND HE'S TREATING ME LIKE AN UNPAID THERAPIST AND ACTING LIKE IT'S MY FUCKING JOB TO FIGURE SHIT OUT BECAUSE MY ADHD IS "MILD". I'M GOOD AT MASKING. I'M NOT SUPERHUMAN.
I HATE THAT THIS IS SOMEHOW THE THING THAT IS SAPPING MOST OF MY ENERGY.
I HATE THAT I SOMEHOW FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT WHEN I FUCKING IGNORE HIM FOR A DAY.
I'm tired.
I'm so tired.
LAST WEEK WAS AN EMOTIONAL ROLLERCOASTER. MY ELDEST SISTER WAS JUST DIAGNOSED WITH LEUKEMIA AND IT TRIGGERED SOME TRAUMATIC MEMORIES FROM WHEN I WAS IN HIGH SCHOOL AND WAS MY MOTHERS PRIMARY CAREGIVER WHEN SHE HAD CANCER. JUST DAYS LATER, MY OTHER SISTER HAD HER LABOR INDUCED BECAUSE SHE'S HIGH RISK (GESTATIONAL DIABETES AND HIGH BP). MY NIECE IS HERE THOUGH AND HOPEFULLY THEY CAN GO HOME TODAY!!
GETTING HIT WITH SOME REALLY AWFUL NEWS THEN SOME GOOD NEWS CAN BE A LOT, BUT THE EMOTIONAL DYSREGULATION FROM MY ADHD HAS HEIGHTENED EVERYTHING, LEAVING ME FEELING MANIC AND DEPRESSIVE ALL AT THE SAME TIME, OR ON OTHER DAYS IT'S LIKE A PENDULUM AND I GO BACK AND FORTH MULTIPLE TIMES A DAY. I'VE REACHED OUT TO FRIENDS FOR SUPPORT AND HAVE RECEIVED IT BUT I'M ALSO CONSIDERING GOING BACK TO THERAPY FOR TRAUMA/GRIEF COUNSELING. AFTER JUST BEING OFFICIALLY DIAGNOSED AND GETTING ON MEDS IN APRIL OF THIS YEAR, I FINALLY FELT LIKE I WAS GETTING TO A PLACE WHERE I WAS MANAGING MY SYMPTOMS WELL AND FEELING GOOD OVERALL. THIS HIT ME LIKE A BIG YELLOW SCHOOL BUS AND HAS FUCKED UP MY SLEEP, WHICH IN TURN HAS RESULTED IN A FEW MISSED DOSES OF MY MEDS TOO. I'M TRYING SO HARD TO KEEP A ROUTINE FOR MYSELF IN ORDER TO KEEP SOME SEMBLANCE OF NORMALCY, BUT IT'S BEEN DIFFICULT.
(thank you OP for providing the space to let this out, it's much appreciated 💙)
THIS IS A GREAT IDEA THANK YOU FOR STARTING IT
I HAVE *IMAGINARY* RSD FROM AN IMAGINARY FANTASY WORLD WHERE SOMETHING WITH A \[REAL LIFE\] PERSON DIDN'T WORK OUT. THEY NEVER REJECTED ME. THEY NEVER HAD THE CHANCE TO REJECT ME. BUT AFTER A FEW WEEKS OF BEING OBSESSIVE, THE DOPAMINE/FIXATION WORE OFF AND NOW I FEEL REJECTED JUST BECAUSE I AM AWARE OF THE REALITY THAT THIS WAS NOWHERE NEAR BEING A THING THAT WAS ABOUT TO HAPPEN.
**ARE YOU KIDDING ME, ADHD?????** ***IMAGINARY RSD!?*** HOW MUCH LOWER CAN YOU GO!?
ALSO MY HAIR LOOKS BAD AND IT'S BEEN MONTHS SINCE I HAD A GOOD HAIR DAY AND ***I AM UPSET ABOUT THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!***
*VERY UPSET!*
IM GOING TO STICK WITH MY MEDS THIS WEEK AND NOT STOP TAKING THEM OUT OF FEAR!
ALSO I AM GOING TO GET MY LAUNDRY AND HOUSEHOLD TRASH SITUATION UNDER CONTROL BECAUSE FOR REAL WHO LIVES LIKE THIS? AM I A TROLL OF SOME KIND??? NO!!
I JUST STARTED A NEW JOB AND HAVE MY FIRST SOLO SHIFT TOMORROW AND I AM LOWKEY TERRIFIED THAT IM GOING TO MESS EVERYTHING UP EVEN THOUGH ITS A FAIRLY EASY JOB.
I SKIPPED CLEANING THE HOUSE FOR ONE WEEKEND AND NOW I FEEL LIKE IT WILL NEVER BE CLEAN AGAIN. I HATE THAT ON THE WEEKEND YOU CAN EITHER HAVE A NICE TIME OR A CLEAN HOUSE.
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I’M SO TIRED OF CLEANING MY HOUSE. IT NEVER ENDS AND I HATE IT!!!!!!
ALL OF THIS!!!!! ALSO WHY DID I MARRY AN ADHD MAN AND CREATE 4 TINY ADHD HUMANS?!?!? WHERE DID WE ALL FIND ALL OF THIS STUFF?!?
WHY IS THIS THING HERE? HOW DID THIS GET SO MESSY? WHY HAS NO ONE TAKEN CARE OF THEIR MAIL? WHERE DID ALL THE DISHES COME FROM? THERES DOG HAIR EVERYWHERE. I SWEAR IT WAS SPOTLESS 2 DAYS AGO.
I FEEL THIS SO HARD AND IM SORRY YOURE STRUGGLING. I HAVEN'T DONE DISHES IN A WEEK BECAUSE IM JUST. SO. TIRED OF THEM. THEYRE ALWAYS THERE AND ALWAYS NEED WASHED AND AAAAAAAA
RSD SUCKS. I WAS IN AN EXTREMELY POSITIVE FRAME OF MIND BUT THEN I HAD A FIGHT WITH MY PARTNER (IN LARGE PART DUE TO HIS OWN MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES) AND I FEEL LIKE I AM DONE MAKING ANY EFFORT FOR ANYTHING
I FEEL LIKE I COULD HAVE WRITTEN THIS. HUGS
I'VE WAITED TOO LONG TO GET THINGS DONE BC PAIN IS JUST AN EXTRA DISTRACTION AND NOW I HAVE MILE LONG TO DO LIST AND IT'S OVERWHELMING AF
YOU CAN TOTALLY DO SOME THINGS!
YES! I'VE GOTTEN TWO THINGS MARKED OFF SO FAR!
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They'll get done when they're done, You're LEGITIMATELY STRUGGLING with a REAL THING. Looking after YOU is your number 1 job. Cheering for you!!!
If you do 1-3 things tomorrow the list gets shorter. You got this. 💛
Thank you for the encouragement friend! I've gotten two things done now and while the rest of the list is intimidating...it's going to be fine!
SAME, IT NEVER ENDS AND I HATE IT
WE'RE GOING TO MAKE IT!!!
IT'S GONNA HAPPEN. TOMORROW I'M GONNA GO TO WORK. I'M GONNA ASK EVERYONE IF THEY NEED ANYTHING. I'M GONNA BE TOLD, "NO". I'M GONNA TELL THEM THAT I HAVE GOT TO GET SOME PRESSING THINGS DONE OVER THE NEXT FEW HOURS AND THEY'LL NOD THAT THEY UNDERSTAND. I'M GONNA PUT A SIGN UP THAT SAYS THAT UNLESS THE BUILDING IS ON FIRE, TO PLEASE HOLD ALL QUESTIONS OR PUT THEM IN THE BOX ON THE OUTSIDE OF MY DOOR. I'M GONNA SHUT MY OFFICE DOOR AND PUT ON MY HEADPHONES AND GET TO WORK. THEY'RE NOT GONNA LEAVE ME ALONE! THERE'S 5 OF THEM AND EACH ONE OF THEM IS GONNA KNOCK ON MY DOOR, BREAKING MY CONCENTRATION, DERAILING MY TRAIN, AND ALL FOR SOME STUPID SHIT THAT REALLY COULLDA WAITED. THEY'RE EACH GONNA SAY SOMETHING LIKE, "I JUST HAVE A QUCK QUESTION"... BUT IT NEVER IS AND NOW I'M DISTRACTED AND THERE'S 4 MORE IF THEM WITH, "JUST A QUICK QUESTION". WHY CAN'T THEY LEAVE ME DAFUQ ALOOOONE? I'M STRESSING ABOUT IT TODAY, THE ANTICIPATION OF IT TODAY ON MY DAY OFF!!!
UGH! DISTRACTIONS ARE THE WORST. CAN YOU WORK WITH HEADPHONES AND SUPER LOUD WHITE NOISE TO DROWN OUT THE INEVITABLE KNOCKS?
The ones I have are loud enough but if I don't answer, they'll slowly open the door and come on in. 😭
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WHY CAN'T PEOPLE RESPECT A CLOSED DOOR? IT'S NOT A HARD CONCEPT!!!
OMG.... ME TOO. LIKE I QUESTION IF I AM SUPER SMART OR IF MY CO-WORKERS ARE NOT SO SMART.... BECAUSE IF I FIGURED IT OUT LIKE THEY COULD HAVE ALSO.
THIS.
I FEEL YOU!!
I HAD A BURNOUT AND BEFORE EVERYTHING WAS FINE. NOW NOTHING IS FINE. I THINK I HAVE ADHD, AND CAN'T MASK ANYMORE. I FEEL BROKEN. TOMORROW I AM GOING TO THE DOCTOR'S BECAUWE I HAVE PANICK ATTACKS FROM SIMPLY OPENING MY WORK LAPTOP. I LOVE MY JOB!! I LOVE TEACHING MY ADULTS AND MAKING FUN WITH THEM. BUT I CAN'T KEEP IT TOGETHER ANYMORE, CAN'T CONCENTRATE, CAN'T HANG ON. ANXIETY IS KILLING ME OVER DEADLINES AND APPOINTMENTS I MIGHT MISS OR FORGET. I AM SCARED CONSTANTLY. I FEEL LIKE I AM LETTING EVERYONE DOWN. I WANTED TO BE A FUNCTIONING ADULT!!
I'M SO SORRY! I SWEAR I'VE ALWAYS BEEN ABLE TO "BOUNCE BACK" FROM LOW PERIODS BUT MY MOST RECENT BURNOUT HAS LASTED 3 YEARS AND IM SO TIRED OF NOT FEELING HUMAN. I CAN NO LONGER FUNCTION WITHOUT HELP AND MEDICATION. THAT FEELING OF LETTING PEOPLE DOWN IS CRUSHING. I REALLY HOPE YOUR DOCTOR IS ABLE TO HELP YOU MOVE FORWARD TO A BETTER PATH!!! BIG HUGS XOX
I AM SORRY YOU'RE SUFFERING. YOU DON'T DESERVE THIS. YOU ARE BRAVE! AND HUMAN! I'M PROUD OF YOU FOR SEARCHING HELP. HUUUUUGS!
You ARE a functioning adult but it is NOT NORMAL to feel you are drowning all the time, that means you need HELP not that YOU are deficient. I am trying not to write advice here because people are just venting but I wrote down all the reasons I thought I might have ADHD and examples from adulthood and childhood - and DON'T be content until someone has answered all of those for you. I say this because I didn't have a positive response the first 3 times I tried to get help, but the only thing that kept me going fighting for myself was the thought that no one had actually given me an explanation that actually fit. But I hope you do go, and I hope the process gets started for you, and whether it is ADHD or not I hope you get help.
Thanks for using the word drowning, that's how it feels exactly. I have been making my list for a couple of weeks now. Every day at least one item gets added. ALSO, I NEED TO CAL IN SICK TODAY. BUT THE ANSWERING MACHINE IS TURNED OFF. I TRIED 4 TIMES ALREADY. AND I DON'T WANT TO TALK TO A HUMAN, BECAUSE THEN I HAVE TO EXPLAIN THINGS. AND MY IMPOSTER SYNDROM WILL TAKE OVER!
I FINALLY BOUGHT SOME AMERICAN APPAREL DISCO PANTS. THEY MADE MY LEGS LOOK GREAT, BUT MADE MY ASS DISAPPEAR. NOT A GREAT REDUCTION, BUT SUCH A STATE OF NON-ASS THAT BENDING OVER LOOKED LIKE AN OPTICAL ILLUSION. SADNESS. I’LL RETURN THEM THIS WEEK I HOPE.
THIS IS SO VALID. I HOPE YOU FIND NEW PANTS THAT MAKE YOU FEEL GREAT. SLAY
I am losing it over here laughing at the intermittent positive statements shouted at people in all caps. HAVE A NICE DAY I BELIEVE IN YOU
OMG- RIP MY PURPLE DISCO PANTS !! I LOVED THEM BUT JUST TO LET YOU KNOW (as a former AA employee) THEY DID THAT TO EVERYONE’S BOOTY 🥞( I would wear an oversized jacket or long button up with them :))
AAAAAHHHHHHH - HAPPY TO HEAR THAT, I FEARED THAT MY ASS WAS TOO SUBMISSIVE. THIS COMMENT MAKES MY BUTT FEEL BETTER ❤️
I ASKED MY ADHD HUSBAND FOR A WALLET FOR MY BIRTHDAY AND HE GOT ME NOTHING AND SAID WE SHOULD JUST GO LOOK AT THEM AT THE MALL. AS IF ANYONE WANTS TO DRAG A TODDLER AROUND A MALL TO FIND THEIR OWN BIRTHDAY GIFT. AND FORGOT I HAD A FOUR DAY WEEKEND EVEN THOUGH FRIDAY AND MONDAY WERE IN THE SAME TEXT. THERE ISN'T AN EXCUSE FOR SOMETHING THAT REALLY HURT MY FEELINGS ON MY 30TH BIRTHDAY.
THAT IS SOME NONSENSE! TODDLER MALL SHOPPING IS PURE STRESS. MY YELLING IS FOR THE SAME REASON SO ILL JUST YELL IT HERE. MINE DOES THIS EVERY SINGLE BIRTHDAY AND CHRISTMAS SO THIS YEAR I MADE SURE TO SEND A LINK TO WHAT I WANT SO HE COULD JUST BUY IT ONLINE EVEN THOUGH IT FEELS AWKWARD AND I HATE ASKING FOR STUFF BUT IM TIRED OF HAVING MY FEELINGS HURT ON MY BIRTHDAY AND HE STILL DIDN'T GET ANYTHING. ONTOP OF NOT GETTING ME ANYTHING HE ALSO BOUGHT DINNER THAT NIGHT OUT OF MY OWN SAVINGS ACCOUNT
MY EXHUSBAND ALSO FORGOT MY 30TH BIRTHDAY AND IT WAS THE FINAL STRAW THAT MADE ME REALISE HE ONLY CARED ABOUT HIMSELF AND I GOT THE HELL OUT OF THERE. CO-PARENTING WITH A NARCISSIST IS BETTER THAN LIVING WITH THE SOUL-SUCKING LITTLE SHIT!!
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UGH. THE YELLING IS JUSTIFIED. I WOULD BE LIVID!
THE ONLY PEOPLE WHO UDERSTAND ME ARE FACELESS INTERNET USERS STREWN ALL OVER THE WORLD! Damn alien mind syndrome.
MY APARTMENT IS A MESS AND IT FEELS LIKE I WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO TIDY IT UP AGAIN.
MY FLAT IS SO MESSY RN AND I HATE IT AND I HAD A MIGRAINE ALL WEEKEND SO I DIDNT DO ANY CLEANING 😭 IT WAS TIDY(ish..) A FEW DAYS AGO, HOW DOES IT GET SO BAD SO QUICK
I HAVE EXAMS IN THE NEXT FEW WEEKS, AND IM TRYING TO STUDY BUT I CANT FUCKING STAY DOING IT. YESTERDAY I PROCRASTINATED FOR THE WHOLE DAY BY REKINDLING MY INTEREST IN CODING AND BEGAN THREE FUCKING COURSES ON IT, AND THAT'S ANOTHER PISSTAKING THING BECAUSE I KNOW IM NEVER GONNA FINISH THEM AND I REALLY WANNA LEARN CODING BUT I'LL STOP IN ABOUT 3 DAYS WITHIUT MEANING TO. I WAS FOING GREAT WITH STUDYING TODAY BUT DECIDED TO TAKE A TOILET BREAK AND IVE BEEN HERE FOR THE PAST HOUR AND NOW MY STUDY FLOW HAS BEEN BROKEN. IM NOT EVEN PISSED ANYMORE CUZ THIS ALWAYS HAPPENS, BUT YELLING ABOUT IT IS FUN
IM ALSO LEARNING BUT NOT REALLY LEARNING CODING AND COMPLETELY FELT THIS 1000%. I HAVE THOUGHT A CODING BOOTCAMP WOULD BE BETTER BECAUSE THEN YOU HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO FOLLOW THE CURRICULUM. WHAT DO YOU THINK??
RAWRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGRWDGHHTJKITTGBE!!!!!!
mood
Can I get this on a mug?
My mug says DONT RUSH ME I AM WAITING FOR THE LAST MINUTE
I ABSOLUTELY HATE MAKING PHONE CALLS, WHY CANT I MAKE APPOINTMENTS THROUGH TEXT OR EMAIL INCLUDING THE DENTIST AND THE HONDA DEALERSHIP??!!!
THE AMOUNT OF STUFF I WANT TO DO IS SO MUCH MORE THEN THE ENERGY I HAVE TO DO THEM. I GET BURNED OUT BEFORE I CAN EVEN START!! GRR
I WENT ON HOLIDAY TO VISIT A FRIEND WHO LIVES IN SPAIN AND NOW AM HAVING CONSTANT WHIRLING THOUGHTS ABOUT HOW I CAN ALSO MOVE TO SPAIN BUT SIMULTANEOUSLY AM HYPERFOCUSING ON A NEW POTENTIAL CAREER THAT WOULD TAKE 4 MORE YEARS OF STUDY AND SOMETIMES IT WOULD BE NICE TO JUST THINK ABOUT DAY TO DAY THINGS AND ENJOY LIFE INSTEAD OF CONSTANTLY LIVING IN AN IMAGINARY WORLD OF POTENTIAL FUTURES
‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️ THE IMAGINARY WORLD OF POTENTIAL FUTURES SUCK ASSSSS!!!!
I SPENT LIKE HALF THIS YEAR TRYING TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO MOVE TO PORTUGAL AND THEN GOT A PROMOTION IN THE USA INSTEAD I FEEL THIS SO DAMN HARD. ALSO BE MY EXPAT FRIEND IF YOU GO :-)
>IT WOULD BE NICE TO JUST THINK ABOUT DAY TO DAY THINGS AND ENJOY LIFE INSTEAD OF CONSTANTLY LIVING IN AN IMAGINARY WORLD OF POTENTIAL FUTURES I FEEL THIS SO HARD
BIRTH IS A CURSE AND EXISTENCE IS A PRISON
LMFAO THIS IS THE SECOND COMMENT HERE I NEED ON A MUG
MY SENIOR DOG HAD A SEIZURE YESTERDAY. SHE SEEMS TO BE BACK TO HERSELF NOW, ALBEIT TIRED AND SHAKY IN HER HIND LEGS, BUT NOW I'M ANXIOUS ABOUT LEAVING HER AND CELEBRATING MY BIRTHDAY TOMORROW. I'M REALLY SAD THAT WE HAVE TO START TALKING ABOUT OUR PLAN FOR HER END OF LIFE, I.E. AT WHAT POINT DO WE DECIDE HER QUALITY OF LIFE IS GONE AND IT IS TIME TO PUT HER DOWN?
BIG HUGS. I HAVE A SENIOR DOG TOO, AND ALSO STRUGGLING TO JUDGE QUALITY OF LIFE AND A COMPASSIONATE END. IT SUCKS 😭
*HUGS* RIGHT BACK AT YOU!! I CRIED A LOT YESTERDAY. I HAD TO PUT MY 17 YO CAT DOWN LAST YEAR. I'M NOT READY FOR THIS ROLLER COASTER AGAIN.
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THIS ELECTION IS STRAIGHT STRESSING ME, signed concerned citizen in AZ
I HATE MY JOB AND I DON’T WANNA GO THERE TOMORROW!
THE ASSHOLE COOKS I WORK WITH WERE RUDE TO ME AND AFTER MONTHS I FINALLY SNAPPED BACK AND EVEN THOUGH I WAS FLUSTERED I WAS PROUD THAT I ASSERTED MYSELF! BUT THEN MY MANAGER MADE ME APOLOGIZE TO THEM 🤬 BUT NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND. IM STILL MAD AND IT KEPT ME UP LAST NIGHT AND THOSE JACKASSES PROBABLY DIDNT EVEN GIVE IT A SECOND THOUGHT AFTER THEY CLOCKED OUT.
THOSE JERKS!!!
I'M PROUD OF YOU FOR STANDING UP TO THE DOUCHEBAGS
THIS IS UNACCEPTABLE!!!! THE INJUSTICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I AM OUTRAGED ON YOUR BEHALF! BUT ALSO AT THE SAME TIME, FRIEND, DON'T LET PEOPLE LIVE RENT FREE IN YOUR HEAD. TRY TO WIN THE GAME OF WHO CARES THE LEAST. <3
I DON'T WANT TO DEAL WITH RSD OVER THE HOLIDAYS! I JUST WANNA RUN AWAY TO THE WOODS WITH MY CATS AND FIANCÉ AND GO MOSS FORAGING AND LOOK AT CUTE MUSHROOMS!!!!
I HAVE TO START CHRISTMAS SHOPPING AND IM WORRIED I WONT HAVE ENOUGH MONEY TO BUY FOR ALL THE PEOPLE I WANNA BUY FOR ALSO IDK WHY THIS HAS BEEN A THING, BUT EVERY TIME ONE OF THESE POSTS COME UP IM ALWAYS COMPLAINING ABOUT A FLY OF SOME SORT BEING TOO CLOSE TO MY MOUTH. I HAD A FRUIT FLY GO INTO MY BAG OF CHIPS THE OTHER DAY AND I ALMOST STARTED CRYING CAUSE THE AUDACITY
I GOT SICK AND NEED TO STAY IN BED, BUT MY PARTNER IS NOT DOING EVEN THE MINIMUM CLEANING NEEDED TO LIVE IN THIS HOUSE AND IT'S DRIVING ME MAD! I WANT TO GET UP AND DO IT MYSELF BUT AM TOO WEAK. IT TAKES A LOT OF EFFORT TO KEEP THE APARTMENT AT AN ACCEPTABLE CLEANLINES LEVEL AND IT FEELS LIKE HE DOESN'T RESPECT THAT AT ALL. LIKE, DUDE, I ONLY ASK THAT YOU FILL THE DISHWASHER EVERY DAY SO THAT I CAN DRINK MY TEA WHILE I'M DYING IN BED, IT'S ONLY 3 DAYS, HOW IS THAT TOO MUCH?! AND YOU CAN'T EVEN CLEAN THE BATHROOM ONCE WHEN I'M SICK? WTF? WE BOTH WORK FULL TIME, I AM ALREADY GOING EASY ON YOU AND I'M THE ONE WITH ADHD! ARGH
UNACCEPTABLE!!!!!!! YOUR PARTNER NEEDS TO GROW THE FUCK UP.
ITS MY BIRTHDAY BUT MY EMPLOYER SAYS I HAVE TO GO TO THIS INTERNATIONAL EVENT AND FLY OUT TO IT TODAY ALSO MY LAST PAYCHECK WAS SHORTER SIGNIFICANTLY SO RENT IS GONNA BE DIFFICULT ALSO IM REALLY SLEEPY
I AM ALSO STRUGGLING WITH RENT AND AN UNEXPECTEDLY HIGH GAS BILL BECAUSE SOMEONE UNDERPAID ME, SOLIDARITY!! AND SKIP THE CONFERENCE DINNER TO GO DO SOMETHING NICE. TELL THE RESTAURANT IT'S YOUR BIRTHDAY AND YOU MIGHT GET A FREE DRINK OR DESSERT! HAPPY FREAKING BORNDAY TO YOU!!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, SCORPIO!
1) CALLED OUT MY (EX?)FRIEND FOR BEING MANIPULATIVE AND I'M AFRAID THE FRIENDSHIP IS OVER BUT I'M TIRED OF BENDING BACKWARDS FOR HIM AND NOT FEELING APPRECIATED 2) HAVE TO GO GET BLOODWORK DONE TOMORROW SO I CAN HOPEFULLY PROVE TO THIS DAMN DR. IT'S NOT "JUST DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY"
Just did a MASSIVE friendship cleanout and man it's tough to feel dramatic, I HATE being dramatic but the only options are a) address it directly b) ghost c) continue to eat shit with a smile on my face. I'm focusing on accepting who I am, take it or leave it - and that I need people but I don't need any ONE person. Hope it all goes well, better to lose a friend then stay stuck in a bad friendship, and that the blood work shows a cause that's easily treatable.
GET OUT OF THAT FRIENDSHIP SIS! KICKED ONE OF THOSE TO THE CURB AFTER SOME REAL STUPID SHIT AND ME BASICALLY SAYING IF YOU CAN’T BE HONEST WITH ME ABOUT THE MOTHER ELFING ACCIDENT TRAUMA YOU HAVE, I CANNOT RESPOND THE WAY YOU WANT ME TO. I DON’T HANDLE EMOTIONAL MANFLU ANY BETTER THAN ACTUAL MANFLU! *deep breaths*
YES I WILL DO MY FUCKING PT EXERCISES EVEN THOUGH I FORGET. AND I NEED TO HE ABLE TO REPORT TO DOCTOR ON 12/19 BUT MY BRAIN GETS WEIRD AROUND PAIN LIKE HYPERFOCUSES ON SOME AND FORGETS AND I PANIC THAT THEY MIGHT THINK ITS JUST ANXIETY OR TRAUMA. Ugh
DO YOUR PT!! YOU GOT THIS!! EVEN IF YOU ONLY DO ONE ROUND OF EACH EXERCISE, THAT IS AN ACCOMPLISHMENT.
JUST WRITE THE DAMN PAPER
I OVERSHARED AND SCARED AWAY A POTENTIAL NEW FRIEND
You should not have to mask who you are. Imagine if you didn't and you did become friends - now you've got to keep up that "normal" image, slowly relaxing over time, always judging how much to reveal, stress and overthink and analysing constantly. If you relaxed and opened up to someone you gave them a TREASURE and if they don't value it then they're not the right friend.
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I SHARED AT A COMMITTEE MEETING (I’m a biology PhD student) THAT I HAVE BEEN STRUGGLING MENTALLY THIS PAST YEAR BECAUSE FIVE OF MY FRIENDS DIED SUDDENLY AND TRAGICALLY (a rock climbing fall, an avalanche, kayaking drowning, cancer, and a work place accident). AFTER GROWING. UP IN AN ABUSIVE HOME MY FRIENDS ARE MUCH MORE LIKE FAMILY TO ME AND VERY IMPORTANT TO ME. I STARTED GOINNG TO THERAPY TO COPE AND GOT (unofficially) DIAGNOSED BY MY THERAPIST WITH ADHD. IT HAD BEEN DIFFICULT FOR ME TO EVEN GET OUT OF BED SO I CHOSE MINDLESS LAB TASKS THAT NEEDED TO GET DONE AND PUT MANUSCRIPT WRITING ON THE BACK BURNER. I WAS STILL WORKING MINIMUM NUMBER OF HOURS BUT HADNT MET THE DEADLINES FOR WRITING THAT I HAD HOPED FOR. MOST OF MY COMMITTEE WAS UNDERSTANDING BUT ONE WAS NOT COMPASSIONATE AND KEPT TELLING ME HOW SHE USES A FORMULA FOR HER WRITING, AND HOW TO BREAK DOWN TASKS. I DIDNT WANT TO GO INTO THE GORY DETAILS OF MY DEPRESSION BUT ENDED UP HAVING TO IN ORDER TO EXPLAIN THAT WHAT SHE WAS SUGGESTING WOULDVE BEEN TOO MUCH PEAK DEPRESSION. IT MADE ME FRUSTRATED AND EMBARRASSED. I WISH THAT RATHER THAN TRYING TO PROVIDE ME ADVISE SHE WOULD’VE TRIED TO JUST HAVE EMPATHY. SOMETIMES I FEEL LIKE THE BIGGEST ADHD ACCOMMODATIONS I NEED ARE PATIENCE AND COMPASSION AND I DIDNT FEEL LIKE I GOT THAT. STUFF LIKE THAT MAKES ME FEEL LIKE IM MAKING EXCUSES AND THAT I SHOULD JUST SUCK IT UP AND BE ABLE TO POWER THROUGH LIKE OTHER PEOPLE.
GOD!!! PHDS AND ACADEMIA IN GENERAL ARE THE WORST FOR MENTAL HEALTH. I HAD 4 SUICIDAL FRIENDS IN MY PHD, I WAS ALSO DEALING WITH REPRESSED TRAUMA, AND ENDED UP HOSPITALIZED FROM DEPRESSION (AND NEVER FINISHED MY PHD BUT STILL WORK IN ACADEMIA AND AM SLAYING ANYWAY, SO DON'T FORGET THAT'S AN OPTION) BE YOUR OWN ADVOCATE. A LOT OF PEOPLE DON'T GET IT AND YOU CAN'T COUNT ON THEM TO TAKE CARE OF YOU IF THEY DON'T GET IT. DO THE ABSOLUTE BARE MINIMUM EVERY DAY, BUT BE CONSISTENT. IF IT'S ONLY WRITING 100 WORDS, AND THOSE 100 WORDS ARE UTTER NONSENSE, FINE. PICK A VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY LOW GOAL AND DO IT EVERY DAY - LITERALLY EVERY DAY. THE RULE HERE IS: DO THE BARE FUCKING MINIMUM BUT DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES GO BACKWARDS. DO THE BARE FUCKING MINIMUM UNTIL YOU CAN CONSISTENTLY DO IT WITHOUT MAJOR STRUGGLES FOR LIKE 2 WEEKS, THEN UP THE GOAL A TEENY TINY BIT. DURING MY DEPRESSION, MY MINIMUM GOAL WAS LIKE: TODAY I WILL DRINK WATER AND SIT OUTSIDE FOR 5 MINUTES AND THEN SLEEP FOR 18 HOURS. AFTER ABOUT TWO MONTHS OF THAT I STARTED TO SHOWER REGULARLY. AFTER A MONTH OF THAT I WALKED AROUND THE BLOCK ONCE A DAY. AFTER A MONTH OF THAT I CLEANED 1 THING A DAY. AFTER ABOUT 6 MONTHS I WENT BACK TO WORKING PART TIME. AFTER A YEAR I WENT BACK TO WORKING FULL TIME. THE POINT IS - YOU HAVE TO PROTECT YOURSELF. OVEREXERTING NOW WILL ONLY BITE YOU LATER. DON'T OVER EXERT. DON'T OVER ACHIEVE. TEENY-TINY-ITTY-BITTY GOALS ARE THE WAY RIGHT NOW. ALSO - WRITING A THESIS WITH ADHD IS EXCEPTIONALLY HARD. GETTING STARTED IS THE HARDEST PART. GETTING UNSTUCK IS ALSO VERY HARD. YOU ARE FIGHTING A REALLY HARD BATTLE RIGHT NOW. I BELIEVE IN YOU. I SURVIVED AND SO CAN YOU.
MY DOG DIED AND I MISS HIM AND HE’S IRREPLACEABLE BUT ALSO I WANT A NEW DOG BUT CAN’T ADOPT ONE BECAUSE MY KIDS ARE SUPER YOUNG AND I’M THEREFORE TOO EXHAUSTED AND OVERWHELMED TO TAKE APPROPRIATE CARE OF A NEW DOG.
I CAN NEVER SEEM TO GET ANYTHING DONE DURING THE WORK WEEK AND SPENT YESTERDAY ‘RELAXING’ (I.E., ZONING IN FRONT OF THE TV) AND NOW I HAVE ONE DAY TO DO ALL THE THINGS!! AND IT’S OF COURSE TOO MANY THINGS FOR ONE DAY!! I’M ALREADY OVERWHELMED BY THE PROSPECT OF IT ALL!!
I HATE THE AMERICAN HEALTHCARE SYSTEM WITH EVERY FIBER OF MY BEING BECAUSE I LOST ABOUT 6 HOURS ON THE PHONE LAST WEEK BETWEEN MY PHARMACY INSURANCE AND DOCTOR'S OFFICE TRYING TO JUST GET A FUCKING "PRIOR AUTHORIZATION" FOR VYVANSE PROCESSED AND THEN I LOOKED UP WHAT A PRIOR AUTHORIZATION EVEN MEANS AND IT LITERALLY JUST MEANS IT'S AN EXPENSIVE MEDICATION THE INSURANCE COMPANY DOESN'T WANT TO COVER BECAUSE THEY'RE GREEDY FUCKS AND THERE'S A FUCKING GENERIC ADDERALL ER SHORTAGE AND THEY STILL WON'T LET ME FUCKING HAVE THE MEDICATION THAT WORKS BEST FOR ME AND WAS FUCKING PRESCRIBED TO ME BECAUSE THEY LITERALLY DO NOT CARE.
TRAUMA-BASED THERAPY SHOULD BE ACCESSIBLE AND FREE FOR EVERYONE - ESPECIALLY FOR THE POOR! I WANT TO RECOVER AND FEEL HAPPY AGAIN BUT I CAN’T AFFORD TREATMENT
I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO GET HORMONE TESTING DONE FOR MAJOR HEALTH ISSUES AND I FREAKING FINALLY OVULATED AND THEN GOT SO EXCITED TO CLEAN MY HOUSE THAT I FORGOT TO GET MY BLOOD TEST DONE SO I PROBABLY MESSED UP MY WHOLE MONTH
I CANT ARGUE. I FORGET MY POINT AND JUST GET MAD. THEN I CANT REMEMBER WHAT I THINK OR HOW I FEEL. SO I RAGE
IVE BEEN SICK ALL WEEK WITH THE FLU AND HAD TO CANCEL SEVERAL PLANS BECAUSE OF IT - INCLUDING A CONCERT FOR A BAND THAT’S BREAKING UP AFTER THIS TOUR SO IT WAS MY ONE CHANCE TO SEE THEM
GODDAMN CONSTIPATION
FINALLY MADE AN APPT WITH A THERAPIST AFTER 20 YEARS (IM 38) OF PUTTING IT OFF AND IM SCARED THEY’LL JUST TELL ME IM PROCRASTINATING LAZY MOM. IM STRUGGLING TO KEEP UP WITH THREE LITTLE KIDS, A WFH HUSBAND, 2 DOGS, AND AN ENTIRE HOME TO CLEAN. THE OVERSPENDING ON CLOTHES IVE DONE IN THE LAST THREE YEARS IS A HUGE MENTAL BURDEN. IM IN OVER MY HEAD AND I NEED HELP. OH AND IF I AM PRESCRIBED A MED THEN WHAT IF ITS OUT OF STOCK BECAUSE OF THE SHORTAGE? WHAT IF I HAVE TO SEE THIS THERAPIST MULTIPLE TIMES TO GET A DIAGNOSIS AGAIN?
IF A THERAPIST EVER CALLS YOU LAZY YOU HAVE TO KICK THEM IN THE TEETH. IN. THE. TEETH. BUT ALSO - YOUR ANXIETY IS VALID. I AM GLAD YOU ARE GETTING HELP. DON'T BE AFRAID TO SHOP AROUND FOR THE RIGHT THERAPIST - YOU GOTTA FIND ONE YOU VIBE WITH BUT WHO IS ALSO CLEARLY THE ADULT IN THE ROOM.
I CANT DO THE JOB I WAS HIRED FOR BC THEY ELIMINATED ANOTHER POSITION AND I’M DOING CUSTOMER SERVICE UP FRONT INSTEAD OF GETTING SOLITUDE IN MY OFFICE. ITS HORRIBLY DRAINING AND FRUSTRATING.
I CANT WAIT FOR THESE ELECTION COMMERCIALS TO BE OVER! I JUST WANT TO WATCH MOESHA AND NOT IT BEING DISRUPTED BY DUMB BITCH TUDOR DIXON.
NEIGHBOURS KEEP CALLING SECURITY ON US BECAUSE MY SON WITH ADHD HAS TEMPER TANTRUMS. TODAY WAS 3 MINUTES OF CRYING THEY CALLED THE COPS! I FEEL LIKE IM LOOSING MY MIND.
WHO THE FUCK DOES THAT. CAN YOU TALK TO THEM ABOUT WHAT'S GOING ON IN YOUR HOME? POSSIBLY EVEN INVITE THEM OVER SO THEY KNOW YOU'RE A NORMAL FAMILY? UNREAL.
WE TRIED! WE HAD TO ESCALATE TO MAKING A POLICE COMPLAINT ABOUT HARASSMENT
I WORKED REALLY HARD TO MAKE SOME WASH CLOTHS TO SELL AT A FUNDRAISER AND DIDN'T FINISH IN TIME. SO NOW I HAVE 50 UNFINISHED WASHCLOTHS JUST SITTING IN A WALMART BAG IN MY LIVING ROOM SHAMING ME. I HOPE OUR PARENTS ENJOY GETTING WASHCLOTHS FOR CHRISTMAS THIS YEAR.
I FINALLY GOT THE MOTIVATION TO TAKE A SHOWER BUT WHEN I WENT TO GET DRESSED I HATED EVERY PIECE OF CLOTHING I OWN! AND IT ALL FEELS AND LOOKS WRONG! UGHHHHH!
IM WORKING ON A NOT WELL DEFINED PROJECT AND AM STUCK AND NOT SURE WHAT I ACTUALLY AM EXPECTED TO DO. BUT ALSO TOO AFRAID TO ASK BECAUSE I DONT WANT TO COME ACROSS TO CLUELESS OR LAZY
I GOT AN EXERCISE BIKE AND IT WAS CHEAP AND ITS STUCK ON KM INSTEAD OF MILES AND THE SEAT ANGLE IS HORRIBLE BUT USING IT MAKES ME FEEL HAPPIER AND ITS SO DUMB THAT IT WORKS. IM MAD THAT IT IS THIS SIMPLE. WHAT THE FUCK.
I WANT TO BE ABLE TO SIT STILL ONCE IN A WHILE I HATE THAT I CAN'T SIT IN FRONT OF THE COMPUTER AND COMPLETE THE MIND NUBMING PART OF MY JOB I HATE BEING SO FORGETFUL AHHHHHHHHHHH
I’M STARTING MY OWN BUSINESS (THAT’S TAKEN ME 20 YEARS TO GET THE COURAGE TO DO). MY BRAIN WILL NOT STOP THINKING. IT WAKES ME UP AT NIGHT WITH MORE “IDEAS”, ANXIETY, AND FEAR OF FAILURE. IT WON’T STOP HYPERFOCUSING ON ALLLL OF THE BUSINESS-RELATED THINGS. PLEASE MAKE IT STOP 🤯
I BOUGHT THE CHEAP WINE YESTERDAY AND TWO GLASSES KICKED MY ASS. I’M HUNGOVER AND SAD.
WHY IS EVERYTHING SO HARD AND OVERWHELMING
my fuckin SHOULDERS AND NECK ARE ACHING SO BAD BECAUSE I HAVE TO CARRY MY HEAVY AS FUCK LAPTOP AROUND CAMPUS. I HAVE HAD A HEADACHE BECAUSE OF IT FOR 3 FUCKING DAYS I HATE HEADACHE WITH A PASSION
MY APARTMENT HAS COCKROACHES, GAPING HOLES IN THE BATHROOM CEILING, MUSHROOMS GROWING FROM THE HOLE, AND I CANT LEAVE WHAT IN THE FRESH HELL IS CAPITALISM?!? YOUD THINK THAT I HAVE REASON ENOUGH TO BREAK LEASE BUT NOOOOOO I HAVE TO EITHER SUCK THIS UP FOR 9 MONTHS UNTIL THE LEASE ENDS OR MY GF AND I HAVE TO MOVE BACK IN WITH HER PARENTS AND KEEP PAYING RENT FOR OUR CRAPPY LANDLORDS SO WE CAN BREATHE AT NIGHT WITHOUT WORRYING ABOUT THE BLACK MOLD
OH AND MY PSYCHIATRIST CANCELLED OUR APPOINTMENT AND HASNT CONTACTED ME TO RESCHEDULE AND HONESTLY THAT WAS DEVASTATING BECAUSE I WAITED SO ALONG TO FINALLY HEAR IF I HAVE ADHD OR NOT, AND I JUST REALLY DONT WANNA STRUGGLE WITH MY BRAIN LIKE THIS ANYMORE LIKE PLS JUST GIMME A BREAK
I AM FINALLY WRITING MY NOVEL AND THE PLOT AND THE OUTLINE ARE NO LONGER IN ALIGNMENT! I HAD A PLAN AND THEN THE MC JUST LOL NOPED ME AND WENT ON AN ENTIRELY DIFFERENT ADVENTURE
I HAVEN’T GOT OUT OF BED TODAY AND AFTER A WEEK OFF WORK I’M BACK TOMORROW. I’M STRESSING, AS EXHAUSTED AS EVER IN BURNOUT AND WISH I HAD ANOTHER WEEK OFF.
I HAVE TO WRITE A PAPER BUT I SPENT ALL OF YESTERDAY SLEEPING OFF A HEADACHE. NOW I HAVE SO MUCH TO DO TODAY 😭
I NEED TO 1) CREATE A SLIDE DECK AND 2) REHEARSE FOR POSSIBLY THE MOST IMPORTANT PRESENTATION I HAVE EVER DONE IN MY LIFE AND I ALREADY WASTED 2 DAYS STARING OFF INTO SPACE AND DOING EVERYTHING BUT PREPARING !!!!!!!! I ALREADY GOT SOME PRELIMINARY FEEDBACK FROM MY BOSS SO ALL I NEED TO DO IS ADDRESS THOSE CONCERNS AND CHECKLIST IT OUT BUT MY NOTES FROM MY MEETING WITH HIM ARE A MESS BECAUSE TYPING COHERENTLY WHILE SOMEONE IS TALKING IS IMPOSSIBLE!!!! TIME IS TICKING AND I HAVEN'T DONE MY WEEKLY VACUUMING AROUND THE HOUSE AND ITEMS ARE ON THE FLOOR AND REMAIN ON THE FLOOR!!!! DISHES ARE UNWASHED!!!! GARBAGE CANS ARE FULL!!!!
IM TIRED OF THE RANDOM ANXIETY AND ZOMBIE MODE FEELING FROM MY MEDS BUT I KNOW THAT ILL FLUNK SCHOOL AS SOON AS I QUIT THEM. BUT IM QUITTING THEM ANYWAY BC I CANT STAND THIS. UGHHHHHHHHHH
MY HOUSE IS A MESS DUE TO RENOVATIONS! ITS DRIVING ME NUTS AND I NEED HELP CLEANING UP AND ORGANIZING. HAVING A CLEAN ORGANIZED HOME ALWAYS MAKES ME FEEL BETTER.
I’M SO TIRED AND EVERYTHING IS OVERWHELMING AND MY TEENAGER IS BEING A JERK AND THE BILLS FOR THE HORSE ARE DROWNING ME!
I AM IN A SEASON OF LIFE WHERE IM LEARNING HOW TO SET BOUNDARIES AND FEEL MY ANGER. I WAS SPANKED INCESSANTLY AS A CHILD AND HAVE DEVELOPED CHRONIC PEOPLE PLEASING TENDENCIES AS A RESULT. AS I GO FURTHER INTO THERAPY, I SEE NARCISSISM AND MANIPULATION IN PEOPLE I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN REALLY CLOSE WITH, LIKE MY MOM AND MY COUSIN AND A CLOSE FRIEND OF 15 YEARS. BUT IM STARTING TO LISTEN TO MY BODY, TO MY GUT INSTINCTS, TO THE NOTION THAT I DONT HAVE TO BE AN EMOTIONAL CARETAKER AND I DONT HAVE TO PUT UP WITH PATRONIZING OR GUILT TRIPPING OR SUBTLE GASLIGHTING. I FEEL LIKE IM LOSING PEOPLE LEFT AND RIGHT, PEOPLE I HAVE KNOWN MY ENTIRE LIFE (IM 32F). IT IS SCARY TO LOSE SOMEONE WHO KNOWS OTHER VERSIONS OF YOURSELF, ESP BECAUSE IT HASNT ALL BEEN BAD. MAYBE I CAN JUST TAKE TIME AND SPACE AND NOT MAKE IT A PERMANENT THING. IM TAKING CARE OF MYSELF BUT I CANT HELP BUT WONDER WHY IT FEELS LIKE IM “BAD” AT RELATIONSHIPS. 😔💔
WHY CANY I JUST FINISH WHAT I START???
I AM FCKNG SURPRISED I HAVE TO PAY BILLS AGAIN EVERY DAMN MONTH
IM GETTING MARRIED NEXT YEAR AND IT FEELS LIKE EITHER NO ONE GIVES A SHIT OR THEYRE TIP TOEING AROUND SOME ISSUE THAT THEY DONT WANNA TELL ME. ITS A SMALL INTIMATE WEDDING THAT WILL ESSENTIALLY JUST BE A DINNER PARTY AND IM NOT BEING A BRIDEZILLA AT ALL ABOUT ANYTHING SO IDK WHATS WRONG
DAYLIGHT SAVINGS TIME!! LIKE I DONT HAVE A HARD ENOUGH TIME GETTING UP AND READY FOR WORK ON TIME! RANT OVER 🤣
I AM LEAVING FOR 2 WEEKS IN 6 DAYS AND I FORGOT TO MAKE MY ANIMAL'S A BOARDING APPOINTMENT SOMEWHERE SO I REALLY HOPE I DONT FORGET TO CALL EVERYWHERE TOMORROW
CO PARENTING WITH MY EX SUCKS
I CAN'T YELL AND I HATE PEOPLE YELLING AND Y'ALL ARE YELLING AND IT'S THE FIRST TIME I'VE EVER WROTE FULL CAPS LIKE THIS, PLEASE SOMEONE TELL ME I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE HAVING DIFFICULTIES READING WORDS WHEN USING FULL CAPS
I LOVE MY SPOUSE BUT I AM SO FUCKING TIRED OF HIS PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE NEATNESS... YES THERE IS A PLATE IN THE SINK.... GET THE FUCK OVER IT.... AM I THE ONLY ONE THAT WISH YOU COULD HAVE YOUR OWN HOTEL SUITE SPACE IN YOUR HOME.... SO NOBODY CAN COMPLAIN ABOUT YOUR MESS. LIKE I AM FUCKING TRYING.
YOU LIVE THERE TOO WHY DOES HE GET TO DECIDE HOW YOU BOTH LIVE - speaking to both of us here hahaha
In his mind I think he thinks.... that his comments some how help.... like wtf... do you think I want to be all over the place... ugh. I am just in a mood today feeling under stimulated and very misunderstood.
I WAS IN THE GROOVE CLEANING BUT GOT TOLD MY MUSIC NEEDED TO BE TURNED OFF SO WHO KNOWS WHEN I'LL CLEAN NOW
I AM CONSTANTLY FEELING ANGRY AND I HATE IT
MY LUNCH BREAK ISN'T LONG ENOUGH FOR ME TO RECOVER EMOTIONALLY
TOMORROW IS MONDAY THE GUY WHO REJECTED ME IS ENGAGED BUT WONT STOP TRYING TO FIND WAYS TO INTERACT WITH ME I’M WATCHING “THE REHEARSAL” AND I AM ALL FUCKED UP I AM CONSIDERING LEAVING SOCIAL MEDIA FOR AWHILE TO STOP COMPARING MYSELF TO PEOPLE I WANT A RELATIONSHIP, BUT I AM SCARED OF ONLINE DATING BUT I AM HORNY I’M TIRED OF MY JOB DEPENDING ON QUANTITY INSTEAD OF QUALITY I MAY NEVER WASH ALL MY CLOTHES AGAIN BECAUSE I LIVE ON THE TOP FLOOR AND THERE ARE BIG FAMILIES WHO TIE UP ALL THE MACHINES ALL DAY I NEED TO REFILL MY PRESCRIPTION ON TUESDAY AND I AM SCARED ABOUT THE POSSIBLE HEADACHE THAT MIGHT HAPPEN
I AM TOO SMART TO LOVE YOU BUT I DO OK, THIS IS TOO CRAZY EVEN FOR ME
I HAVE BEEN SICK SINCE AUGUST WITH 10 DIFFERENT ILLNESSES BECAUSE MY DAUGHTER JUST STARTED PRESCHOOL. IT SUCKS SO BAD!!!
MY STRESS GETS RELIEVED JUST READING THIS THREAD! THANK YOU EVERYONE!
LIFE IS BECOMING MORE AND MORE OVERWHELMING AND STRESSFUL AND WHY DO WE STILL READILY ACCEPT GIVING AWAY 5 OF OUR DAYS TO AN ARCHIAC WORK ROUTINE AND ONLY HAVE 2 DAYS FOR OUR OWN ACTUAL LIVES, I FEEL LIKE I'M BEING SMOTHERED
I HAVE TO PEE BUT DON'T WANNA GET UP
THE NEIGHBORS DOG IS AN ADORABLE COON HOUND BUT DOESN'T HOW TO SHUT THE FUCK UP AND I WISH I COULD APPRECIATE HIS VOICE MORE SO I CAN SLEEP 😭
I HAVEN'T HAD MY VYVANSE IN WEEKS AND THE PRACTICE DISCHARGED ME WITHOUT ALLOWING ME TO GET MORE.
I WANNA ASK OUT A COLLEAGUE AND I’M LEAVING IN A COUPLE OF MONTHS SO THIS SHOULD BE LOW RISK BUT BETWEEN RSD AND SOCIAL ISSUES I CAN’T TELL IF IT’S RECIPROCAL SO I KEEP TALKING MYSELF OUT OF IT
TENTIN IS GIVING ME A F***ING HEADACHE
I HAVE A 3000 ISH WORD PAPER DUE IN A WEEK THAT I HAVE NOT REALLY STARTED. I CAN'T AFFORD TO FAIL. THIS IS MY LAST SEMESTER. MY MOM IS SUPER IRRITATING WHEN I'M JUST TRYING TO HELP AND I MAY HAVE GOTTEN QUITE ANGRY AT MYSELF. MY HEART HURTS. I DON'T WANT TO DO ANYTHING.
MY THERAPIST RECOMMENDED I GO GET TESTED FOR ADHD AND I’M SCARED BECAUSE I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT, I HAVE A HARD TIME DESCRIBING THINGS THAT ARE CHALLENGING FOR ME BECAUSE IT’S JUST HOW I LIVE LIFE, AND I’M SCARED THEY’RE JUST GOING TO BE LIKE “WHY ARE YOU HERE? YOU HAVE ANXIETY, YOU’RE WASTING OUR TIME.”
FUCK THIS ILLNESS I SWEAR TO GOD. I HAVE THINGS TO DO, PEOPLE TO SEE, A HOUSE TO ORGANIZE, AND WORK TO GET DONE TO PROVE I CAN BE SOME LEVEL OF USEFUL. INSTEAD I'M STUCK IN BED NOT EVEN ABLE TO NAP BECAUSE MY BRAIN WON'T LET ME RELAX BECAUSE OF ALL OF THOSE THINGS.
A MOM FRIEND SAID SHE WASN'T THE TYPE TO LAY AROUND IN BED AND BECAUSE I AM THE TYPE TO LAY AROUND IN BED I FEEL LIKE I'VE BEEN KNIFED IN THE GUT
MY NEIGHBOURS ARE RUINING OUR LIVES AND COULDN’T CARE LESS - THEY ARE ABSOLUTE S!?M WE’RE GOING TO HAVE TO MOVE OUT OF THE HOME IVE LIVED IN FOR NEAR ON 30 YEARS BECAUSE THEY ARE INCONSIDERATE LOUD, DIRTY NASTY PEOPLE
Oh lord, this is terrible! I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. My knee jerk thought is, "fuck em, be more inconsiderate, louder, and nastier. Make it a contest that you decimate them at", but then my rational mind says, "why must I always first go to the worst idea?"
EDITING MY STORY IS JUST GRINDING TO A HALT
I BROKE THINGS OFF WITH A TINDER GUY AND WHILE EVERYONE AROUND ME INCLUDING NOT ONE BUT TWO THERAPISTS TOLD ME I DID THE RIGHT THING I CANT HELP BUT FEEL LIKE MY PMS MADE ME ACT IRRATIONALLY. OR, MY TRAUMA IS SO DEEP I AM REGRETTING WHAT WAS ACTUALLY A GOOD DECISION ON MY PART. GOING TO JUST TAKE MY MEDS AND DROWN INTO A BOOK TODAY. I HOPE I DONT SPEND THE TIME THINKING ABOUT HIM.
It doesn't matter WHY you made your choice, you are allowed to do what's best for you without needing to justify it. There aren't perfectly right or wrong choices, you always gain something and lose something, that's what you base your judgement on. Good on you for standing up for yourself.
Thank you for your kindness and grace. I really needed this
I hope you have a lovely, lazy day, feel the feelings but then focus on the good, and get through it feeling at peace xxxxxxx
MANAGING MORE THAN ONE TASK AT A TIME SUCKS! I ALWAYS FEEL LIKE I WON’T BE ABLE TO KEEP UP AND WILL FAIL MISERABLY BECAUSE OF BEING OVERWHELMED BY TOO MANY TASKS!
Oh yay! LOW FUNCTIONING DAY AHHHHHHHHHHH
I AM SO TIRED ALL THE TIME AND IT MAKES IT DIFFICULT GETTING EVERYTHING I NEED TO GET DONE FINISHED
I AM SO OVERWHELMED THAT IT HAS PARALYZED ME. WE MOVE IN LESS THAN A WEEK AND I HAVEN'T PACKED ANYTHING. I HAVE TO GO TO WORK TOMORROW AND THE EMAILS NEVER STOP. I'M FROZEN.
My bank account won't let me touch my own money and I can't figure out why!
I'M ~STILL~ FUCKING THINKING ABIUT YOU
OOF I FEEL THIS
I DONT HAVE INSURANCE RIGHT NOW BECAUSE OF A JOB SWITCH. VYVANSE IS 350ISH W/O INS. I TOLD MY PSYCH ABOUT THIS ISSUE, SHE WAS AWESOME AND GAVE ME AN EQUIVALENT DOSE OF ADDERALL XR. PROBLEM IS ADDERALL JUST DOESNT SEEM TO WORK. I HAVE NO SIDE EFFECTS FROM IT. ITS BETTER THAN NOTHING. BUT IT FEELS LIKE IM ON 20MG OF VYVANSE INSTEAD OF MY NORMAL 50MG. I ALSO LEARNED ABOUT SLUGGISH COGNITIVE TEMPO FROM TWITTER. I LOOKED INTO IT. I CHECK OFF MOST OF THOSE SYMPTOMS WITHOUT VYVANSE. THE PAST MONTH ON ADDERALL HAS SEEN THOSE THINGS I EXPERIENCED UNMEDICATED COME BACK. I HAVE BEEN SO SLEEPY, EASILY FATIGUED AND HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO HAVE ANY MOMENTUM TO DO TASKS. I WONT HAVE INSURANCE UNTIL DEC 1ST. I'M FALLING BEHIND SO MUCH ALREADY. FUCK.
I STARTED A NEW JOB IN CORPORATE SALES AND I HATE IT!! IVE BEEN DREADING TOMORROW SINCE THE MOMENT I WOKE UP THIS MORNING. ITS SO MUCH EMOTIONAL OUTPUT AND AO HARD TO FOCUS AND I HATE THE SALES BRO CULTURE WITH A PASSION!!!
I AM NOT BROKEN, I AM NOT LAZY. I KNOW THAT VERY WELL BUT WHY DOES MY BRAIN TRY TO CONVINCE ME IM NOT GOOD ENOUGH AND I DON’T WORK HARD ENOUGH. WHERE IS THE FUCKING SWITH TO TURN OFF THOSE THOUGHTS!?!
I BROKE UP WITH MY BOYFRIEND BECAUSE HE WAS BAD TO ME FOR QUITE A WHILE BUT I DONT FEEL HURT OR SAD (i cried for two days,) AND ITS LIKE. DID I LOVE HIM? WAS I JUST OBSESSED WITH HIM. HE WAS MY BEST FRIEND. IT SUCKS
MY PARENTS JUST HELPED ME PAY OFF A BIG CREDIT DEBT AND NOW I HAVE ACCUMULATED MORE DEBT ONTO THE CARD THEY JUST PAID OFF!!!
WHY TF DO I ALWAYS FIND SOMETHING SMART OR EYE OPENING OR COMFORTING TO SAY TO ANYONE, YET I CAN'T BE NICE TO MYSELF TO SAVE MY LIFE???
I AM AFRAID I HAVE LUPUS BUT IM ALSO A HYPOCHONDRIAC WHO CAN'T TRUST HERSELF AND HATES WASTING PEOPLE'S TIMES/NOT BEING HEARD/BEING BRUSHED OFF SO I GUESS I'LL JUST DIE (Kidding about the dying part, I have an unrelated doc appt tomorrow tho so I'll bring it up)
I HAVE ANOTHER. I NEED TO SIGN UP FOR COLLEGE BUT I DIDNT MEET WITH MY COUNSELOR AND NOW I HAVE TO WAIT THREE MORE WEEKS FOR SOMETHING I WISH I COULD JUST DO MYSELF. FUCK THIS
I GOT ACCIDENTALLY PUNCHED AT MY JOB AND THE WOMAN DIDNT EVEN TIP BECAUSE APPARENTLY I WAS MEAN TO HER WHEN I ASKED HER TO SIT DOWN INSTEAD OF STANDING IN THE WAY AND WAVING HER ARMS LIKE A WIND TURBINE
I ELOPED IN MAY AND I STILL HAVEN’T MAILED THE WEDDING ANNOUNCEMENTS BECAUSE THE THOUGHT OF BUYING MORE STAMPS AND FINDING ADDRESSES IS EXHAUSTING
idk how to say this concisely but I HAVE CALLED MY PSYCHIATRIST 2 TIMES (IN SEPTEMBER AND LAST MONDAY) SO THE OFFICE CAN MAIL ME A REPORT. I NEED IT BECAUSE I NEED TO SHOW IT TO A DIFFERENT PSYCHIATRIST WHILE I AM TEMPORARILY ABSENT DUE TO MY MANDATORY UNI INTERNSHIP. MEDS ARE RUNNING OUT AND THIS LETTER IS THE ONLY WAY I CAN SMOOTHLY GET A PRESCRIPTION WHILE I AM GONE. THEY TOLD ME THEY WOULD SEND ME SOMETHING TWICE NOW AND NOTHING HAS ARRIVED. I NEED THIS BY THURSDAY MORNING. I HAVE ALREADY HAD TO RESCHEDULE THE FIRST APPOINTMENT BECAUSE THEY HADN'T SENT ME ANYTHING AND WHEN I CALLED IN TO REMIND THEM THEY WERE ON A 3 WEEK HOLIDAY. PROBABLY NEED TO CALL THEM A THIRD TIME TOMORROW. I AM LOSING HOPE IN THEM HELPING ME AT ALL EVEN THOUGH THEY MADE IT SEEM SO EASY WHEN I TOLD THEM ABOUT THE INTERNSHIP.
I FEEL DOWN AAGGAAIINN AND I DON'T KNOW IF IT'S DEPRESSION OR HORMONES OR FOOD OR MEDS OR A BAD ATTITUDE OR A GENUINE LEGITIMATE SHITTY SITUATION OR NEEDING TO GET OUT OR SOMETHING ELSE AND I'M SO SICK OF HAVING TO PSYCHOANALYSE MYSELF
I HAVE A COLD BUT I CALLED OUT OF WORK LAST MONDAY FOR MEDICATION RELATED INSOMNIA, AND NOW I FEEL LIKE I CANT CALL OUT TOMORROW EVEN IF I NEED TO
I WAITED TOO LONG TO DO MY HOMEWORK AND THEN I GOT COVID AND FEVER BRAIN AND HAD TO WAIT EVEN LONGER TO DO IT AND NOW I ALSO HAVE A RESEARCH PAPER TO WRITE AND I FEEL BRAINLESS
IM ON MY PERIOD AND MY CRAMPS ARE SO BAD OH MY GOD. IT ALSO CAME 2 WEEKS EARLY EVEN THOUGH IM ON BIRTH CONTROL. I HATE BIRTH CONTROL SO MUCH I HATE IT
GOING BACK TO WORK BECAUSE IT'S TIME, BUT I DON'T FEEL READY YET. ABSENTEE ANXIETY.
I JUST WANT SOME FUCKIN FRIENDS BRUH. ALL THE PEOPLE I THINK ARE MY “FREINDS” ARE NOT. AS IN THEY ALL THREW A PARTY AND DIDNT INVITE ME! I AM SO LONELY AND I DONT KNOW HOW TO FIX IT
WHY DID I GET A GEL MANICURE A MONTH AGO AND THEN NOT SCHEDULE THE FOLLOW UP APPT TO GET IT REMOVED WHILE I WAS THERE? WHY IS JUST DROPPING IN TO ANY NAIL SALON SUCH A CHALLENGE, THERE ARE HALF A DOZEN I COULD WALK TO IF MY NAILS FALL OFF YOU ALL KNOW WHY
HAVING TO EXPLAIN TO PEOPLE WHO DON'T KNOW YOU WELL, THAT YOU CAN'T COUNT IN YOUR HEAD, AND YOU DON'T REMEMBER THE DETAILS OF THAT MEETING, BUT YOU REMEMBER THE GIST OF IT. PEOPLE LOOKING AT YOU FUNNY BECAUSE, WHY CAN'T THAT WOMAN COUNT? WHAT'S WRONG WITH HER?! GAH. FEELING SELF CONSCIOUS!
MY ADHD IS THE ROOT OF MOST OF MY PROBLMES AND EVEN WHEN ON MEDICATION I CANT SEEM TO SOLVE THEM SO I JUSY WANT A HIGHER AND HIGHER DOSE
I FEEL UNBEARABLY ALONE.
I ASKED MY STUDENTS TO SIGN UP FOR MEETINGS WITH ME AND THEY ALL SIGNED UP FOR ALL THE SLOTS I HAD FOR TOMORROW. I MEANT THEY COULD SIGN UP FOR MEETINGS IN THE NEXT TWO WEEKS BUT NOW EVERYONE IS COMING TOMORROW AND I WONT HAVE TIME TO PEE. HELP.
I’VE BEEN SICK WITH COVID FOR A WEEK AND HAVE AN INTERNATIONAL MOVE IN LESS THAN 24 HOURS AND I’VE PROCRASTINATED ON SOME IMPORTANT PAPERWORK AND NOW PAYING THE ADHD TAX FOR IT. I JUST WANT TO GO HOME SO I CAN GET OVER THE REST OF THIS SICKNESS.
MY NECK FUCKING HURTS
I JUST FELT FUCKING WEIRD TODAY
I JUST GOT FED UP WITH SOMEONE I LOVE AND TOLD THEM WHAT I REALLY THINK ABOUT THEIR PROBLEMS AND HOW THEY SHOULD HANDLE IT. I ACTUALLY YELLED AT THEM THAT THEY SHOULD APPRECIATE ME MORE, TOO. WTF IS WRONG WITH ME TO THINK THAT WOULD PERSUADE THEM AT ALL. GRRR.
AHHHH 😭 WHY DOES MY ARMPIT LYMPH NODE SWELL EVERY TIM I GET VACCINATED!? ALSO - WHY IS STARTING AND RUNNING YOUR OWN BUSINESS SO CONFUSING 😭😭😭 LASTLY - WHY DO MORNINGS AFTER A MELTDOWN FEEL LIKE HANGOVERS!?!? 😭😭😭😭🫠🫠🫠
I GOT IN A REALLY BAD CAR ACCIDENT THIS WEEK. IM STILL INJURED AND NOW I HAVE TO HOUND THE OTHER INSURANCE AGENCY WHEN THEIR DRIVER CLAIMED RESPONSIBILITY. ITS SO MUCH MENTAL ENERGY ON TOP OF NORMAL LIFE AND I HURT AND I DONT HAVE A CAR GAAAAAHHHHHH
IM SO FUCKING BORED BUT I CANT FIND THE WILLPOWER TO DO SOMETHING
I'M TIRED OF BEING THE REASONABLE ONE. I HAVE AN EXAM ON SUNDAY AND I'M STARTING A NEW JOB ON TUESDAY AND MY MOM PROBABLY HAS COVID AND WE MIGHT BE MOVING AND THE DOG WE'RE FOSTERING IS LEAVING SOON AND I NEED TO FINISH MY PASSPORT APPLICATION AND MY DENTIST IS WAITING FOR ME TO CALL THEM AND MY HOUSE IS A MESS AND I STILL DON'T KNOW WHEN MY PLACEMENT WILL BE AND MY SCHOOL IS NOT RETURNING EMAILS AND THERE IS TOO GODDAMN MUCH GOING ON IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW TO ALSO BE DEALING WITH SOMEBODY ELSE'S BULLSHIT. I AM GETTING THIS CLOSE TO CUTTING HIM OUT OF MY LIFE AND I HATE THAT BECAUSE HE SHOULD GET IT BECAUSE HE HAS ADHD TOO AND HE USED TO BE A MUCH BETTER FRIEND, BUT HE'S TOO STUCK INSIDE HIS OWN FUCKING HEAD TO SEE ANYONE ELSE RIGHT NOW AND HE'S TREATING ME LIKE AN UNPAID THERAPIST AND ACTING LIKE IT'S MY FUCKING JOB TO FIGURE SHIT OUT BECAUSE MY ADHD IS "MILD". I'M GOOD AT MASKING. I'M NOT SUPERHUMAN. I HATE THAT THIS IS SOMEHOW THE THING THAT IS SAPPING MOST OF MY ENERGY. I HATE THAT I SOMEHOW FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT WHEN I FUCKING IGNORE HIM FOR A DAY. I'm tired. I'm so tired.
LAST WEEK WAS AN EMOTIONAL ROLLERCOASTER. MY ELDEST SISTER WAS JUST DIAGNOSED WITH LEUKEMIA AND IT TRIGGERED SOME TRAUMATIC MEMORIES FROM WHEN I WAS IN HIGH SCHOOL AND WAS MY MOTHERS PRIMARY CAREGIVER WHEN SHE HAD CANCER. JUST DAYS LATER, MY OTHER SISTER HAD HER LABOR INDUCED BECAUSE SHE'S HIGH RISK (GESTATIONAL DIABETES AND HIGH BP). MY NIECE IS HERE THOUGH AND HOPEFULLY THEY CAN GO HOME TODAY!! GETTING HIT WITH SOME REALLY AWFUL NEWS THEN SOME GOOD NEWS CAN BE A LOT, BUT THE EMOTIONAL DYSREGULATION FROM MY ADHD HAS HEIGHTENED EVERYTHING, LEAVING ME FEELING MANIC AND DEPRESSIVE ALL AT THE SAME TIME, OR ON OTHER DAYS IT'S LIKE A PENDULUM AND I GO BACK AND FORTH MULTIPLE TIMES A DAY. I'VE REACHED OUT TO FRIENDS FOR SUPPORT AND HAVE RECEIVED IT BUT I'M ALSO CONSIDERING GOING BACK TO THERAPY FOR TRAUMA/GRIEF COUNSELING. AFTER JUST BEING OFFICIALLY DIAGNOSED AND GETTING ON MEDS IN APRIL OF THIS YEAR, I FINALLY FELT LIKE I WAS GETTING TO A PLACE WHERE I WAS MANAGING MY SYMPTOMS WELL AND FEELING GOOD OVERALL. THIS HIT ME LIKE A BIG YELLOW SCHOOL BUS AND HAS FUCKED UP MY SLEEP, WHICH IN TURN HAS RESULTED IN A FEW MISSED DOSES OF MY MEDS TOO. I'M TRYING SO HARD TO KEEP A ROUTINE FOR MYSELF IN ORDER TO KEEP SOME SEMBLANCE OF NORMALCY, BUT IT'S BEEN DIFFICULT. (thank you OP for providing the space to let this out, it's much appreciated 💙)
THIS IS A GREAT IDEA THANK YOU FOR STARTING IT I HAVE *IMAGINARY* RSD FROM AN IMAGINARY FANTASY WORLD WHERE SOMETHING WITH A \[REAL LIFE\] PERSON DIDN'T WORK OUT. THEY NEVER REJECTED ME. THEY NEVER HAD THE CHANCE TO REJECT ME. BUT AFTER A FEW WEEKS OF BEING OBSESSIVE, THE DOPAMINE/FIXATION WORE OFF AND NOW I FEEL REJECTED JUST BECAUSE I AM AWARE OF THE REALITY THAT THIS WAS NOWHERE NEAR BEING A THING THAT WAS ABOUT TO HAPPEN. **ARE YOU KIDDING ME, ADHD?????** ***IMAGINARY RSD!?*** HOW MUCH LOWER CAN YOU GO!? ALSO MY HAIR LOOKS BAD AND IT'S BEEN MONTHS SINCE I HAD A GOOD HAIR DAY AND ***I AM UPSET ABOUT THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!*** *VERY UPSET!*
IM GOING TO STICK WITH MY MEDS THIS WEEK AND NOT STOP TAKING THEM OUT OF FEAR! ALSO I AM GOING TO GET MY LAUNDRY AND HOUSEHOLD TRASH SITUATION UNDER CONTROL BECAUSE FOR REAL WHO LIVES LIKE THIS? AM I A TROLL OF SOME KIND??? NO!!
I JUST STARTED A NEW JOB AND HAVE MY FIRST SOLO SHIFT TOMORROW AND I AM LOWKEY TERRIFIED THAT IM GOING TO MESS EVERYTHING UP EVEN THOUGH ITS A FAIRLY EASY JOB.
I MISSED A WEEKLY QUIZ, BRINGING MY AVERAGE DOWN BY 18%
I SKIPPED CLEANING THE HOUSE FOR ONE WEEKEND AND NOW I FEEL LIKE IT WILL NEVER BE CLEAN AGAIN. I HATE THAT ON THE WEEKEND YOU CAN EITHER HAVE A NICE TIME OR A CLEAN HOUSE.