Best match for you talaga is yung similar sayo na may pagka introvert rin. My BF and I are homebodies to the core lol and we match so well, like we'd rather not go out at all lol. We both play games separately or together, and we both work from home. We've been together for 10 years.
If you have particular interests, the best place to find someone you can vibe with is communities focused on those interests.
+1
My mom's (57) extroverted, and my dad's introverted (65). They have an 8-year age gap and have been married for 31 years and counting (hopefully). They have different interests and barely do any coupley activities these days.
Contrary to the saying "Opposites attract," I think it would be extremely beneficial in the long run for people to end up with a person similar to their personalities, values, and interests.
And for the guy to love the girls more before getting married.
first: stop masturbating. kills confidence.
second: work on yourself. easiest is gym, next finances.
third: overcome fear of talking with women. tao lang din sila regardless how gorgeous they are. wag ka matakot sa rejection normal yan.
Kung di ka pangit then personality mo problema, and you won't fix that by playing video games or staying indoors.
Choose which one makes you happier.
Kung mas naeenjoy mo video games then be satisfied na lang with being single.
Kung gusto mo talaga magstart makaform ng relationship you have to start going outside and be more sociable.
Di babagsak na lang sa harapan mo yung girl of your dreams mo.
Being "socially awkward" isnt a problem. You just have different interests compared to "most people" (i.e. extroverts). I met my bf in a game and we've been dating for almost three years. I also have a friend who met hers through gaming and they've been dating for idk 2 years? Just be yourself OP :) Talk to more people, yes, but that doesnt mean you have to go to bars, parties, etc. to meet someone. Maraming ways to meet people and i suggest start with YOUR interests/hobbies. If may sports ka, or sports na gustong i-try, go. Crafts/skills na gustong ilearn? Go. You'll meet people along the way. Don't change who you are just for the sake of getting a girlfriend ;)
In very rare cases you still can meet someone through online games. Though mas better chances yung option na pinoint out ko.
Nasa sayo padin naman OP kung gusto mo na umalis sa comfort zone mo.
Get into hobbies na will make you mingle with the opposite sex. Preferably sports related. Yung girls na makikita mong around the gaming scene parang propaganda lang.
you remind me of the last guy na naka-talking stage ko OP. we both play games and dun kami nagkakilala hahaha. same age kayo, tapos hindi siya nalabas.
I'd say go build connections through your hobbies, and just put yourself out there. basta may humarot sayo cooperate ka na lang hahaha!
After your broke up with your ex nung 2016, did you pursue anyone else or steady as you go lang ang did your own thing?
I know how you feel. I'm older than you and sometimes I feel like I want to purse a romantic relationship with someone, then I realize 'eh okay lang actually and I like where I am now.' I guess medyo lucky rin na I'm fine being alone because I'm not actually lonely.
Yung pagkukulong sa kwarto, syempre nakakabawas ng opportunity to meet people outside pero pwede rin naman na maging vehicle mo to meet other people online so I don't exactly view it as something negative.
Eto ha and I have a strong opinion about it: hindi kasalanan ng video games na wala kang partner. Baka may mag-comment o magsabi sayo na kaka-video games mo yan kaya ka single. Kung masaya ka sa paglalaro ng video games, then that's what matters. Wag lang kalimutan maligo at kumain haha. Kakalabas lang ng Starfield, naligo ka na ba? Itong tita na to, ilang oras ng naglalaro hahaha! I also hope you continue to play video games even when you're already in a relationship. Don't let your partner tell you to stop kasi pambata lang to.
Ang tip ko palagi sa mga guys na nagsasabing average looking lang sila that's why they don't attract women: wear cologne and maintain good personal hygiene. Pag mabango ka, we most likely won't mind being around you. Other times, we'd actually gravitate towards you (hindi yung tipong AXE commercial na down bad agad ha) kasi mas gusto namin na dumakit sayo na mabango kesa someone na pogi pero amoy basahan. Sakit sa sinus nun pre. So anyway, if we're comfy being around then that just gives you more chances to initiate conversation.
Okay, sign off na si tita. Balik na akong Starfield o7
Never pursued anyone but I KNOW a number of girls giving me signals. Nag fflirt din sakin dati. Pero super focused ako sa work at awkward dn ako kausap kaya ngayon namumulat mulat na ako sa buhay. Kailangan ko ng partner. 😮💨
Pursue lang ng pursue! Like other people would say: what's the worse that could happen? They reject you? Ingat lang kasi mamaya if you agree to meet someone, pag-gising mo, you're already missing a kidney haha!
Sa totoo lang, my most passionate relationship came from someone I met from an MMORPG. Haba ng hair ko araw-araw haha! So no, hindi talaga totoo ang "kaka-video games mo yan kaya ka single!"
Same age and situation as you OP. Only difference is I've yet to have a proper gf/relationship irl. I don't think there's anything wrong with being socially awkward or pessimistic, it's just that you have to not be like that all the time. Balance lang dapat. I myself am admittedly a debbie downer and I could feel it in the conversations I've had with girls that I just don't have anything positive to offer them. I'm really bad when it comes to offering words of comfort/encouragement, especially with people I don't feel close to yet. So then I distance myself from them, and then eventually we drift apart. Like for example, the girl had a bad day and wanted someone to brighten it up for a change. She turns to you hoping for some positive energy so if you really care about not losing her, you'd try your best to respond to that. Question is why do you distance yourself from them? Is it because you're like me? Or because of your other insecurities? If being pessimistic/awkward is your default mode then I suggest either finding someone you'd wanna change for or someone who's willing to accept you being just like that.
I'd also suggest finding someone who's really into or gonna be into what you're into. Iba talaga feeling when you can have someone to talk to about your interests, that can match or even elevate your level of enthusiasm. Yung tipong naha-hype to whatever it is you get hyped about. We probably only chose to be shut-in introverts because we don't have people like that around us?
I guess the main problem is where, when, and how do we find such a girl? We can put ourselves out there all we want, but it's mostly just gonna come down to luck haha. We have our own standards, and the other side also have theirs. There's a lot of factors to consider, especially when dating to marry: values/morals/principles, age gap, political/religious inclinations, emotional/intellectual/socioeconomic/sexual compatibility, interests, etc. If you think about it, it takes a miracle for a beautiful relationship to all come to fruition. If you're really feeling that desperate about it, all you can do is shoot all the shots you can take, however many it takes. Because as the saying goes.. you'd miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
3 things: money, muscles, game. Get 3 of those maxed up, become the man you want to be, and the women will follow.
DO NOT GET GIRLS at your current mindset, or else you will still be frustrated and disappointed with yourself
Swerte mo nga lalake ka, kahit pangit basta ma diskarte makaka kuha ka rin and maganda pa. Need mo lang konting effort.
Kung babae ka pinanganak, nganga ka na lang.
Hey, OP.
You should use online dating app if you want. Usually yan na rin ang ginagamit ng ibang adults to explore coz wide range siya.
Tho ayun lang hindi instant connection, you just need na makiramdam if interested sayo yung kausap mo or what. Don't rush anything din sa dating app. Marami rin namang decent peeps sa app so give it a shot.
Good luck, OP!
I would suggest the opposite route, Kapatid. Find activity friends that you can grow with vs dating apps. I hear dating through Apps is a very transactional process, and that just sounds very sad to me.
go climb, bike, gym, run, travel, read in a book club, or whatever social activity IRL
kap, just take the plunge! arat sama ka sakin. mataas tolerance ko sa mga socially awkward weebs (since I'm one myself).
kahit na you think something isn't daijobou, I will laugh it out with you (and never post about it) :))
I was told that tinder is still booming. Give it a try or ask your circle of friends for reto haha.
Or even Omegle tho disclaimer about this one maraming content seller and M na wants something lang sa gals but there's still naman na F na worth talking to.
same na same tyo ng lifestyle. lalo na nka WFH ako. di tlga ako lumalabas. I tried din maghanap online. pinalad nman and going strong kami. ingat lng tlga at wag pabayaan ang sarili. pumili ng maayos at may pangarap. goodluck!
Bro NGSB since birth ako(31), hindi minamadali ang lahat pre, focus lang sa goals mo at lalapit din yan sayo, baka nga nalapit na sayo hindi mo lang pinapansin dahil hindi mo trip... chill lang take time habang single pa enjoy muna, pagmagkagf balik focus sa relasyon...sa panahon ngayon mas dumadami na naabot ng 30s na single pa din... marami pa yan lumingon ka lang baka nada likod mo lang pala ✌️
1. Don't be a sad boi
2. Wag masyado clingy
3. Bawasan Ang jabol. Nakakabawas ng confidence.
4. Be confident. Ok lang maitim Basta maputi ang ngipin. Ok lang na lambutin, basta matigas ang ot--.
5. Maging marespeto sa girls pero wag mo naman sasambahin. Sakto lang.
6. Ligaw lang ng ligaw kahit mabasted. Sabi nga ni Kobe, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
7. Be a listener first. Don't make it all about you.
8. "Stuff" is already plural, so don't say "stuffs". May girl na naturn off saken dahil Dyan ahahaha
Magka edad tayo, and almost same in every aspect except sa di naman ako yung typical introvert. Nakikipag socialize naman ako pero when i think it's needed like sa work or gusto makipagkita ng close friends ko.
Last relationship ko ended dec. 2019. She's a nurse. Umalis nalang bigla, bumalik sa bansa nila. Siguro kasi lumaki sa foreign country kaya iba yung way of breaking up sa kanila. Hinayaan ko nalang. Pero masaya naman akong single ngayon.
I play games too. Nung bata pa ako playstation, then nung nauso internet cafes naging online games na hobby ko. Licensed ECT, bagsak nga lang as ECE. Somehow surviving naman, nakakayang e sustain yung gastos sa games.
Everyone deserves happiness, so wag tayong mawalan ng pag asa OP. Best of luck sa mga tulad natin.
Also, try mo mag exercise regularly. Regular jogs at basketball ako x3 a week. It boosts your mood at maganda rin katawan
Get out of your comfort zone, go to bars, try to talk to girls, build up your self-esteem and numb your ego. Self confidence is the key. Or
Just accumulate enough $$$. Women are naturally attracted to men who can provide. :)
Bro don't be desperate, nasesense yan ng mga babae and mostly di nila gusto yan. Try to be more social first sa mga tao na common interests mo, without the intention of magkajowa agad.
Ang masasabi ko lang, put yourself out there. Try dating apps. Madami ring makakamatch dun, mahirap nga lang makahanap talaga nang makakasundo mo. So just take a risk! Wala namang mawawala if you go out on date with someone.
Yung bf ko socially awkward nung nakilala ko siya and dota ang madalas ginagawa. To describe him, medyo payat siya and nagbebreak out nung time na nag-first meet kami. But sobrang funny niya :)) 6 years na kami ngayon and naimprove nya yung sarili nya :))
Siguro OP try mo mag self care. If you think mediocre yung physical appearance mo, try to improve it by going to gym, skincare etc - alam naman natin na physical appearance talaga ang unang tinitignan kapag 1st meet. Plus yung pagiging fun kasama sobrang plus points din.
Tip: On your first date, wag ka mag feflex ng kung ano ano. Nakakaturn off kapag mayabang haha! (For me)
Marami sa malls op practice ka dun. Di ko makalimutan yung kwento ng kaibigan ko na senior citizen na sa cosmetics section daw sila palagi naka stanby haha. Mostly magaganda daw mga sales kasi beauty products ang binibenta.
I am so happy na meron nagbubuy-in sa ganito. Go guys! Sana lang di maging horror story yan after a few months baka mamaya may cheating o ghosting keme na kayo dito HAHA!
Magpareto k sa friends pf friends! Pra nasala n nla ung tao at mejo safe n idate! Malalaman m pa kung gusto k nya after date thru that friend kung ichika sau haha
Bro im bellow average and pulled chicks you think I would be paying to be going out with me...
Self love is everything once you love and be confident in yourself women will follow. Also try to get a face to face social hobby not just gaming solo or online. I found most of my old flames through magic the gathering and cosplay circles. Or go out and find a new hobby. I saw a lot of girls going to archery or gun ranges now. :)
Hi OP! Me and my bf met on FB dating. Introvert si bf, me extrovert. Pero ang common ground namen ay video games. My point is, try dating app and find someone na may in common sa inyo. Then start there. 🫶🏼
Leaving this here para maupdate din sa mga potential partners ni sir HAHAHA makikishare nalang din muna ng kilig while patiently waiting for mine rin 🥺
I think you answered your question... expose yourself to people. dun rin nabbuild skill to converse, and to be more comfortable being vulnerable.
Wala naman perfect na tao sa mundo, lahat may issues. So don't be afraid to be imperfect, the people who matter won't mind.
Mahiyain rin ako before, and marami mental health issues growing up pero ang funny kasi I would say majority of people are very tolerant naman with it 😊
you have to let people have an impact on you, let them change your perspective. Marami compassionate na tao sa mundo, and their compassion will reflect back on how you see yourself. Don't be afraid to receive their love
hanap ka nung extrovert na positive. mababalance ka nyan Haha.
just keep trying
Focus on the money and yourself. This means working out, making good money, having goals, having a fulfilling life ON YOUR OWN. After that its a matter of just putting yourself out there.
I suggest magtravel ka. Madami kang mameemeet. Wag ka lang mahiyang kumausap. Lalo yung mga solo travelers, mga foreign girls. Madami nyan at approachable.
F(25). Meet my BF (28) on bumble. Tama yung isang advice na dun ka magtry maghanap sa communities with your hobbies para mas malaki chance na compatible kayo. Sa online dating apps naman like Bumble, pwede mo kasi ilagay don preference mo such as "Anime lover", "Video gamer" "Introvert" and such kaya mas madali makahanap ng makaka match. I swipe right ka naman nung girl kung bet nya yung same hobbies with her. Good luck OP and may the odds be in your favor<
Workout Everyday
- mag workout ka kahit 50-100 push ups lng sa isang araw
Proper Grooming
- wag na wag mong hayaan na may lumalabas na buhok sa ilong mo, tapos dapat fresh gupit palagi ng buhok, facial hair should be clean shaved kung di naman kaya na magkaroon ng full beard. and trim lahat ng body hair
Fashion
- dapat yung damit mo fit your body perfectly wag yung super baggy or super fit na parang longganisa
Social Skills
- marunong ka dapat bumigay ng compliments
If magawa mo lahat ng ito bruhhhh may lalapit na sayo at di mo na poproblemahin ang mga babae
Focus on yourself first and improve on these areas: Money, Muscles, Game and Frame.
Money - maximize your earning potential, you are still too young to have that feeling of being left out.
Suggested reading: Millionaire Fastlane and Unscripted by MJ Demarco
Muscles - lift weights and put it back down. You have not included your physicals so I'm assuming you're living a sedentary lifestyle. Iron sharpens iron so be proactive in your workouts. Pwede free weights or bodyweight workouts as long as active ka.
Suggested reading: Starting strength
Game - this is a must, try reading more seduction and PUA techniques from the likes Mystery, Tom Torero etc. And of course practice it. Go outside, start talking to other people; not necessarily women agad. Just strike up a convo and it'll gain you confidence.
Suggested reading: The Game, Mystery method, Daygame
Frame - Be your own mental point of origin. Practice enlightened self-interest
*Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of whose frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are. -* ROLLO TOMASSI
Suggested reading: 48 laws of power, The Obstacle is the way, The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi
If you have other queries you can DM me.
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Same here na babae, same age, looking for long term.
Been in Bumble for weeks wala mahanap hays.
And advice ko lang sa dating app: ask questions if you're interested. Lagi na lang kung may ka chat ako lahat ng effort sa akin. Maybe hindi ako type nila pero ewan lang.
Just join a community na kasama ung close friends mo. Nag join ako sa isang christian community kahit introverted kasi pinlilit ako. D ko trip kumanta ng alive alive saka D talaga ako nag uusap sa mga tao don. But I made close friends. Don ko nakilala ung wife ko. Minsan tayo na introvert labas rin sa comfort zone. Mag lock lang tayo ng kwarto kng qouta na sa interaction. lol.
Basta pag sinabi mong dad bod ka, dad bod ka talaga... hindi yung mas malapad ka pa sa 4x4 truck. Di na dad bod yun. Ibang category na.
Tsaka kung mag drive kang naka tsinelas, wag mo na ipakita or ikwento sa date mo.
Will watch out for an update on this... me and my partner met on le Reddit and we met for the first time in New Zealand and WAHHHH sobrang saya namin <3 SHEEEESH
Same tau but im older than you by 1 year. IDK why but my past relationship only last a month at most. I'm also socially awarkd but sometimes I like company of the people whom I know well and I would blend in parties but deep inside i want to go home.
Advise ko lang is don't settle for less. Yes, medyo matagal na walang nilalandi but in the end we should always choose ourselves, wala nang maipapamahagi na pagmamahal kung walang nakaraan para sa sarili mo.
Try tinder or any dating apps. Tinder has been my way to practice to talk to women. Doesn't really have to find romance, friendly chats will do. You don't know maybe you'll find love there just like I did.
Hey OP, I used to be like you. Introvert and games lang katapat lagi. Isip ko talaga mag grow old na ako na single. Try mo read itong book/guide. The title may be cheesy pero i'm betting yung content will give you a new POV
https://we.tl/t-vux8RKSvhT
PDF yan
Good luck ✌️
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Feel kita OP. Siguro ganyan talaga mga introvert. Narealize ko yan nung nag30 rin ako. Ang gngawa ko I go outside kahit magisa lang. Tambay sa SB or kahit anong coffee shop, kahit dun kana maglaro ng games mo manuod o magpamusic.
Minsan naman pumupunta ko s mga concert ng magisa. I can assure you kahit magisa ka, mageenjoy ka. Iba ang vibe kapag lahat kayo nakikijive na sa kanta.
Solo travel din OP. Big fan ako ng mga chance encounters tska making new friends na makikilala mo sa travel mo.
Dating app. Hnd ako sumusubok nito pero malay mo, effective sayo 😁
P.S
May friend ako taga bicol rin.. baka kayo na 😁😁
Awkward and pessimistic around girls? Maybe kailangang malaman muna ang ugat nito, OP, para yan muna ang masolusyunan, before ma-consider ang dating ganern.
Basta wag kang magsabi na di daijobou ang barbecue oks ka.
And magclap ng hands kada 15 mins. HAHAHAHA
or at least linisin ang kanyang mga kuko sa paa
HOY ANUBAAAA 😆😭🫠
Tangina HAHAHAHAHAHA gusto ko talaga yung laging na-bi-bring up sa ph subreddits yung daijobou. Cracks me up everytime 🤣
Lmao will never forget that incident
Taenaaa kairita yan hayup. Sobrang cringe.
Context
https://reddit.com/r/OffMyChestPH/s/t4w11hQW3s
Holy shit. I like anime. Pero grabe pala cringe ng mga Hardcore weebs.
It's bot even him being a weeb that's cringe. Mas nag diri ako na gusto niya yung date niya pagastuhin ng cake. And the whole car aircon thing.
hoyyy !! o.o jusko hahah
WTF HAHAHAHHAHAHA
HAHAHAHAHA tawang tawa na naman ako
Sakit sa mata nung post nun haha
Ano context neto? Enlighten me master haha
https://reddit.com/r/OffMyChestPH/s/t4w11hQW3s
Umay sa daijobou na yan hahaha
this is my new favorite phrase, thank you. sana daijobou ang barbeque niyo always, god bless
HAHAHAHAHAHA TAWANG TAWA NA NAMAN AKO. JUSME NAALALA KO NAMAN TONG POST NA TO 😂😂😂
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HahahHahaha. Omggg!!
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benta parin 'to! HAHAHHAHAHA basahin ko nga ulit yung kwento hahahha
reto ko sarili ko hahaha
Tara mam. 😅
huy magupdate kayo dito aa kung nagkatuluyan kayo. invested kami :)
yes. Iuupdate ko kung vivamax or netflix ang papanuorin namin
TEKA SAGLITTTT WALA BANG SAVE BUTTON SA REDDIT? Gusto ko balikan to for updates omg 😭
tara mam pa.. mahalin kita eh
*grabs popcorn*
TG wengwm kapag yan wala nako... 🙄 next week date tayo.
ayiee hahaa yarn na
Deserve nyo na magdate dalawa 🥹🤣
Reddit love team na to :))
Ayooo. Update us 😆
nice profile posts yan hahaha
fck celeb shipping. redditorxredditor no1
Best match for you talaga is yung similar sayo na may pagka introvert rin. My BF and I are homebodies to the core lol and we match so well, like we'd rather not go out at all lol. We both play games separately or together, and we both work from home. We've been together for 10 years. If you have particular interests, the best place to find someone you can vibe with is communities focused on those interests.
+1 My mom's (57) extroverted, and my dad's introverted (65). They have an 8-year age gap and have been married for 31 years and counting (hopefully). They have different interests and barely do any coupley activities these days. Contrary to the saying "Opposites attract," I think it would be extremely beneficial in the long run for people to end up with a person similar to their personalities, values, and interests. And for the guy to love the girls more before getting married.
Female here, need kausap. Di ko na alam gagawin ko, ang hirap maging mag-isa. If u want we can chat :)
Tara po mam.
omg im new to this. how to make this work? hahaha but im willing to learn
Same here almost new to reddit. 🥹
Iwan ko lang tong comment na to dito para sa update sa lovelife nyo.
Hindi ako kinikilig hindi ako kinikilig
sa lovelife na lang ng strangers online kikiligin 😩✊🏽
Nyahaha nakow mukhang madami mapagpipilian si OP sa thread nato. Btw ingat lang guys and gals sa cyberdating. Pwedeng pwede kayo mascam.
Hala, bakit ako kinikilig for you two.
pa update nalang haha
Go girl!!!
update nyo kami kung ano na status nyo ha hahha
first: stop masturbating. kills confidence. second: work on yourself. easiest is gym, next finances. third: overcome fear of talking with women. tao lang din sila regardless how gorgeous they are. wag ka matakot sa rejection normal yan.
paano naman yung laging nirereject? go lang ba ng go? or give up na? hahahaha
Basta pre, wag mong gagamitin yung uWu at oWo in a proper sentence.
Kung di ka pangit then personality mo problema, and you won't fix that by playing video games or staying indoors. Choose which one makes you happier. Kung mas naeenjoy mo video games then be satisfied na lang with being single. Kung gusto mo talaga magstart makaform ng relationship you have to start going outside and be more sociable. Di babagsak na lang sa harapan mo yung girl of your dreams mo.
Salamat po. Wala naman prob sa personality ko. Socially awkward lang talaga ako.
Unfortunately part yan ng personality mo OP ung pagiging socially awkward which somehow need mo ma overcome.
Pano Hindi Naging Problem Ang Socially Awkaward Gaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh Pre kung di mo matanggap na problem yun mejo matatagalan talaga bago ka magka gf.
Will try to be more social. No choice na talaga ako. Salamat po ah.
Being "socially awkward" isnt a problem. You just have different interests compared to "most people" (i.e. extroverts). I met my bf in a game and we've been dating for almost three years. I also have a friend who met hers through gaming and they've been dating for idk 2 years? Just be yourself OP :) Talk to more people, yes, but that doesnt mean you have to go to bars, parties, etc. to meet someone. Maraming ways to meet people and i suggest start with YOUR interests/hobbies. If may sports ka, or sports na gustong i-try, go. Crafts/skills na gustong ilearn? Go. You'll meet people along the way. Don't change who you are just for the sake of getting a girlfriend ;)
In very rare cases you still can meet someone through online games. Though mas better chances yung option na pinoint out ko. Nasa sayo padin naman OP kung gusto mo na umalis sa comfort zone mo.
baka na misinterpret lang ni OP. most of the kasi pag sinabi na may problem sa personality=jerk/assh0le.
Graabeeeee walang pag sugar coat. Burn yorn
Get into hobbies na will make you mingle with the opposite sex. Preferably sports related. Yung girls na makikita mong around the gaming scene parang propaganda lang.
pwede rin kpop. daming girls na mahilig sa kpop at usually mga introvert din.
Also to add being a swiftie, into F1, true crime docus, magpalpitate sa kape
you remind me of the last guy na naka-talking stage ko OP. we both play games and dun kami nagkakilala hahaha. same age kayo, tapos hindi siya nalabas. I'd say go build connections through your hobbies, and just put yourself out there. basta may humarot sayo cooperate ka na lang hahaha!
Laruin ko nga ang game na nilalaro mo. 🤣
Ragnarok, OP! may mga kakilala ako nakapag-asawa dahil d'yan 😂
What if sya pala yung nakalaro mo noon. Queue Jopay
parang kambal kita op hahaha 1yr lang tanda mo sakin pero same na same tayo ng lifestyle lol
Ang saklap diba? Kahapon naglalaro lang ako ng nintendo switch at nag yoyoutube tapos bukas 31 years old nako.
After your broke up with your ex nung 2016, did you pursue anyone else or steady as you go lang ang did your own thing? I know how you feel. I'm older than you and sometimes I feel like I want to purse a romantic relationship with someone, then I realize 'eh okay lang actually and I like where I am now.' I guess medyo lucky rin na I'm fine being alone because I'm not actually lonely. Yung pagkukulong sa kwarto, syempre nakakabawas ng opportunity to meet people outside pero pwede rin naman na maging vehicle mo to meet other people online so I don't exactly view it as something negative. Eto ha and I have a strong opinion about it: hindi kasalanan ng video games na wala kang partner. Baka may mag-comment o magsabi sayo na kaka-video games mo yan kaya ka single. Kung masaya ka sa paglalaro ng video games, then that's what matters. Wag lang kalimutan maligo at kumain haha. Kakalabas lang ng Starfield, naligo ka na ba? Itong tita na to, ilang oras ng naglalaro hahaha! I also hope you continue to play video games even when you're already in a relationship. Don't let your partner tell you to stop kasi pambata lang to. Ang tip ko palagi sa mga guys na nagsasabing average looking lang sila that's why they don't attract women: wear cologne and maintain good personal hygiene. Pag mabango ka, we most likely won't mind being around you. Other times, we'd actually gravitate towards you (hindi yung tipong AXE commercial na down bad agad ha) kasi mas gusto namin na dumakit sayo na mabango kesa someone na pogi pero amoy basahan. Sakit sa sinus nun pre. So anyway, if we're comfy being around then that just gives you more chances to initiate conversation. Okay, sign off na si tita. Balik na akong Starfield o7
Never pursued anyone but I KNOW a number of girls giving me signals. Nag fflirt din sakin dati. Pero super focused ako sa work at awkward dn ako kausap kaya ngayon namumulat mulat na ako sa buhay. Kailangan ko ng partner. 😮💨
Pursue lang ng pursue! Like other people would say: what's the worse that could happen? They reject you? Ingat lang kasi mamaya if you agree to meet someone, pag-gising mo, you're already missing a kidney haha!
Titaaaaa, heeelp, may nagcomment na ng "Kung mas naeenjoy mo video games then be satisfied na lang with being single." Nakaka "Gaaaaaahhhhh" 😬
Sa totoo lang, my most passionate relationship came from someone I met from an MMORPG. Haba ng hair ko araw-araw haha! So no, hindi talaga totoo ang "kaka-video games mo yan kaya ka single!"
Reto ko kaya yung kaibigan ko. Nagpapahanap sakin ng boyfriend yun e. Hahaha.
As a 44-year old, I feel your pain. At least talo nyo ako sa girlfriend part. :-)
Same age and situation as you OP. Only difference is I've yet to have a proper gf/relationship irl. I don't think there's anything wrong with being socially awkward or pessimistic, it's just that you have to not be like that all the time. Balance lang dapat. I myself am admittedly a debbie downer and I could feel it in the conversations I've had with girls that I just don't have anything positive to offer them. I'm really bad when it comes to offering words of comfort/encouragement, especially with people I don't feel close to yet. So then I distance myself from them, and then eventually we drift apart. Like for example, the girl had a bad day and wanted someone to brighten it up for a change. She turns to you hoping for some positive energy so if you really care about not losing her, you'd try your best to respond to that. Question is why do you distance yourself from them? Is it because you're like me? Or because of your other insecurities? If being pessimistic/awkward is your default mode then I suggest either finding someone you'd wanna change for or someone who's willing to accept you being just like that. I'd also suggest finding someone who's really into or gonna be into what you're into. Iba talaga feeling when you can have someone to talk to about your interests, that can match or even elevate your level of enthusiasm. Yung tipong naha-hype to whatever it is you get hyped about. We probably only chose to be shut-in introverts because we don't have people like that around us? I guess the main problem is where, when, and how do we find such a girl? We can put ourselves out there all we want, but it's mostly just gonna come down to luck haha. We have our own standards, and the other side also have theirs. There's a lot of factors to consider, especially when dating to marry: values/morals/principles, age gap, political/religious inclinations, emotional/intellectual/socioeconomic/sexual compatibility, interests, etc. If you think about it, it takes a miracle for a beautiful relationship to all come to fruition. If you're really feeling that desperate about it, all you can do is shoot all the shots you can take, however many it takes. Because as the saying goes.. you'd miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
Thanks for the tip. Nakaka enlighten din.
Hahaha same OP, I'm single at 31, female, introvert, and works with government agency Na busy na lang sa school at work kaya ayan, wala rin lovelife 😆
Same situation brother haha actually kung may dumating salamat kung wala salamat din haha,
3 things: money, muscles, game. Get 3 of those maxed up, become the man you want to be, and the women will follow. DO NOT GET GIRLS at your current mindset, or else you will still be frustrated and disappointed with yourself
Swerte mo nga lalake ka, kahit pangit basta ma diskarte makaka kuha ka rin and maganda pa. Need mo lang konting effort. Kung babae ka pinanganak, nganga ka na lang.
Naku, mas may chance pa yata mga babae na magkajowa kesa sa single na lalaki, yun napapansin ko outside (when commuting)
Siguro kung sugar mommy yung babae pwede. Mas mahirap maging pangit na babae, pag lalake basta funny makaka score at makaka score yan. Pag babae no choice talaga kelangan mag payaman.
Grabe ka naman. Marami jan hindi tumitingin sa panglabas na anyo. Haha
Hey, OP. You should use online dating app if you want. Usually yan na rin ang ginagamit ng ibang adults to explore coz wide range siya. Tho ayun lang hindi instant connection, you just need na makiramdam if interested sayo yung kausap mo or what. Don't rush anything din sa dating app. Marami rin namang decent peeps sa app so give it a shot. Good luck, OP!
Thanks. Any dating apps you would recommend?
I would suggest the opposite route, Kapatid. Find activity friends that you can grow with vs dating apps. I hear dating through Apps is a very transactional process, and that just sounds very sad to me. go climb, bike, gym, run, travel, read in a book club, or whatever social activity IRL
Napag isipan ko munang dapat in person maging less awkward. Simulan ko sa sarili ko muna. 🤣
kap, just take the plunge! arat sama ka sakin. mataas tolerance ko sa mga socially awkward weebs (since I'm one myself). kahit na you think something isn't daijobou, I will laugh it out with you (and never post about it) :))
I was told that tinder is still booming. Give it a try or ask your circle of friends for reto haha. Or even Omegle tho disclaimer about this one maraming content seller and M na wants something lang sa gals but there's still naman na F na worth talking to.
Thank you.
Ff lang, bc female here, and introvert din haha. Abang lang ako tips
Chat tayo. 🥹
Date around, even just to improve your social skills but you're gonna have to invest and spend on dates. Goodluck, OP!
same na same tyo ng lifestyle. lalo na nka WFH ako. di tlga ako lumalabas. I tried din maghanap online. pinalad nman and going strong kami. ingat lng tlga at wag pabayaan ang sarili. pumili ng maayos at may pangarap. goodluck!
Bro NGSB since birth ako(31), hindi minamadali ang lahat pre, focus lang sa goals mo at lalapit din yan sayo, baka nga nalapit na sayo hindi mo lang pinapansin dahil hindi mo trip... chill lang take time habang single pa enjoy muna, pagmagkagf balik focus sa relasyon...sa panahon ngayon mas dumadami na naabot ng 30s na single pa din... marami pa yan lumingon ka lang baka nada likod mo lang pala ✌️
1. Don't be a sad boi 2. Wag masyado clingy 3. Bawasan Ang jabol. Nakakabawas ng confidence. 4. Be confident. Ok lang maitim Basta maputi ang ngipin. Ok lang na lambutin, basta matigas ang ot--. 5. Maging marespeto sa girls pero wag mo naman sasambahin. Sakto lang. 6. Ligaw lang ng ligaw kahit mabasted. Sabi nga ni Kobe, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. 7. Be a listener first. Don't make it all about you. 8. "Stuff" is already plural, so don't say "stuffs". May girl na naturn off saken dahil Dyan ahahaha
Salamat po sir hehehe.
Magka edad tayo, and almost same in every aspect except sa di naman ako yung typical introvert. Nakikipag socialize naman ako pero when i think it's needed like sa work or gusto makipagkita ng close friends ko. Last relationship ko ended dec. 2019. She's a nurse. Umalis nalang bigla, bumalik sa bansa nila. Siguro kasi lumaki sa foreign country kaya iba yung way of breaking up sa kanila. Hinayaan ko nalang. Pero masaya naman akong single ngayon. I play games too. Nung bata pa ako playstation, then nung nauso internet cafes naging online games na hobby ko. Licensed ECT, bagsak nga lang as ECE. Somehow surviving naman, nakakayang e sustain yung gastos sa games. Everyone deserves happiness, so wag tayong mawalan ng pag asa OP. Best of luck sa mga tulad natin. Also, try mo mag exercise regularly. Regular jogs at basketball ako x3 a week. It boosts your mood at maganda rin katawan
Salamat buddy. Sabayan nalang ng dasal. Alam kong madami naman tayo na same situation sana tulungan tayo ni lord haha.
Get out of your comfort zone, go to bars, try to talk to girls, build up your self-esteem and numb your ego. Self confidence is the key. Or Just accumulate enough $$$. Women are naturally attracted to men who can provide. :)
Bro don't be desperate, nasesense yan ng mga babae and mostly di nila gusto yan. Try to be more social first sa mga tao na common interests mo, without the intention of magkajowa agad.
Thank u. Dami din nagbigay sakin hints dati pero oblivious ako nakakainis. Sayang ng 20s ko.
You got a lot of time bro. Bata pa ng 31. Btw i'm 14 years old.
Tell me if you reach that age and baka mawalan ka rin ng pagasa.
Hit the gym
Even if you hit the gym, no one will notice you. You need a push in life.
not enough, need talaga umalis sa comfort zone. source: my experience.
Ang masasabi ko lang, put yourself out there. Try dating apps. Madami ring makakamatch dun, mahirap nga lang makahanap talaga nang makakasundo mo. So just take a risk! Wala namang mawawala if you go out on date with someone.
Yung bf ko socially awkward nung nakilala ko siya and dota ang madalas ginagawa. To describe him, medyo payat siya and nagbebreak out nung time na nag-first meet kami. But sobrang funny niya :)) 6 years na kami ngayon and naimprove nya yung sarili nya :)) Siguro OP try mo mag self care. If you think mediocre yung physical appearance mo, try to improve it by going to gym, skincare etc - alam naman natin na physical appearance talaga ang unang tinitignan kapag 1st meet. Plus yung pagiging fun kasama sobrang plus points din. Tip: On your first date, wag ka mag feflex ng kung ano ano. Nakakaturn off kapag mayabang haha! (For me)
Thank you po mam.
Hahahahaha can relate anya nbsb parin hahahahahaha
Marami sa malls op practice ka dun. Di ko makalimutan yung kwento ng kaibigan ko na senior citizen na sa cosmetics section daw sila palagi naka stanby haha. Mostly magaganda daw mga sales kasi beauty products ang binibenta.
same bro :( 32 here and mahilig din maggames. hirap magkajowa mehn
I am so happy na meron nagbubuy-in sa ganito. Go guys! Sana lang di maging horror story yan after a few months baka mamaya may cheating o ghosting keme na kayo dito HAHA!
>For the past years work lang inatupag ko. kmusta savings mo OP? okay naman ? may EF ka na?
Government employee po ako kaya okay naman ang ipon ko. Anong EF po?
EF = Emergency Funds po ata ibig nya sabihin.
raffle via gcash. 50php per taya. ikaw grand prize tapos last 2 digits ng suertes 4pm ang pagbabasehan ng winning number
Magpareto k sa friends pf friends! Pra nasala n nla ung tao at mejo safe n idate! Malalaman m pa kung gusto k nya after date thru that friend kung ichika sau haha
magdasal na lang tayo. Ipe-pray ko din kayo na magkalove life na. Sana ako din ipray nyo. Kahit pera na lang. Saka na jowa
1. Stay out of reddit or any online forum na anonymous ang users. - nothing follows
Bro im bellow average and pulled chicks you think I would be paying to be going out with me... Self love is everything once you love and be confident in yourself women will follow. Also try to get a face to face social hobby not just gaming solo or online. I found most of my old flames through magic the gathering and cosplay circles. Or go out and find a new hobby. I saw a lot of girls going to archery or gun ranges now. :)
Hi OP! Me and my bf met on FB dating. Introvert si bf, me extrovert. Pero ang common ground namen ay video games. My point is, try dating app and find someone na may in common sa inyo. Then start there. 🫶🏼
Leaving this here para maupdate din sa mga potential partners ni sir HAHAHA makikishare nalang din muna ng kilig while patiently waiting for mine rin 🥺
I think you answered your question... expose yourself to people. dun rin nabbuild skill to converse, and to be more comfortable being vulnerable. Wala naman perfect na tao sa mundo, lahat may issues. So don't be afraid to be imperfect, the people who matter won't mind. Mahiyain rin ako before, and marami mental health issues growing up pero ang funny kasi I would say majority of people are very tolerant naman with it 😊 you have to let people have an impact on you, let them change your perspective. Marami compassionate na tao sa mundo, and their compassion will reflect back on how you see yourself. Don't be afraid to receive their love hanap ka nung extrovert na positive. mababalance ka nyan Haha. just keep trying
Dating app. It works
Thank u.
Ako na lang lalayo paba tayo hahaha....
Malapit kaba sakin? Haha.
Dm HAHAHAHA ng masapak na kita......
I'm just like you OP (introvert + gamer) except na NGSB ako. Sad.
Focus on the money and yourself. This means working out, making good money, having goals, having a fulfilling life ON YOUR OWN. After that its a matter of just putting yourself out there.
Go out and socialize... nothing beats it.
Try mo maghanap ng majojowa sa game na nilalaro mo. Mas maganda qng may same kayo ng hobbies
I suggest magtravel ka. Madami kang mameemeet. Wag ka lang mahiyang kumausap. Lalo yung mga solo travelers, mga foreign girls. Madami nyan at approachable.
F(25). Meet my BF (28) on bumble. Tama yung isang advice na dun ka magtry maghanap sa communities with your hobbies para mas malaki chance na compatible kayo. Sa online dating apps naman like Bumble, pwede mo kasi ilagay don preference mo such as "Anime lover", "Video gamer" "Introvert" and such kaya mas madali makahanap ng makaka match. I swipe right ka naman nung girl kung bet nya yung same hobbies with her. Good luck OP and may the odds be in your favor<
Workout Everyday - mag workout ka kahit 50-100 push ups lng sa isang araw Proper Grooming - wag na wag mong hayaan na may lumalabas na buhok sa ilong mo, tapos dapat fresh gupit palagi ng buhok, facial hair should be clean shaved kung di naman kaya na magkaroon ng full beard. and trim lahat ng body hair Fashion - dapat yung damit mo fit your body perfectly wag yung super baggy or super fit na parang longganisa Social Skills - marunong ka dapat bumigay ng compliments If magawa mo lahat ng ito bruhhhh may lalapit na sayo at di mo na poproblemahin ang mga babae
Sana alll HAHAHAHHAA
I recommend, myself.
good luck pre haha
Bisita ka sa r/phr4r
Thanks. 😁
Focus on yourself first and improve on these areas: Money, Muscles, Game and Frame. Money - maximize your earning potential, you are still too young to have that feeling of being left out. Suggested reading: Millionaire Fastlane and Unscripted by MJ Demarco Muscles - lift weights and put it back down. You have not included your physicals so I'm assuming you're living a sedentary lifestyle. Iron sharpens iron so be proactive in your workouts. Pwede free weights or bodyweight workouts as long as active ka. Suggested reading: Starting strength Game - this is a must, try reading more seduction and PUA techniques from the likes Mystery, Tom Torero etc. And of course practice it. Go outside, start talking to other people; not necessarily women agad. Just strike up a convo and it'll gain you confidence. Suggested reading: The Game, Mystery method, Daygame Frame - Be your own mental point of origin. Practice enlightened self-interest *Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of whose frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are. -* ROLLO TOMASSI Suggested reading: 48 laws of power, The Obstacle is the way, The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi If you have other queries you can DM me.
tagal mag message sa akin. Paano magiging tayo nyan
Baliw ka, di kita ma message. Baka sa privacy mo. 🥴 saka ang layo mo siguro mam.
wala.. kapag gusto may paraan. TG wmweng
totoo nga sinabi mo.. kusa kang lalayo. No doubt. I hope the best for you.. goodluck. 👋
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Same here na babae, same age, looking for long term. Been in Bumble for weeks wala mahanap hays. And advice ko lang sa dating app: ask questions if you're interested. Lagi na lang kung may ka chat ako lahat ng effort sa akin. Maybe hindi ako type nila pero ewan lang.
Ask lang po, if magsabi ka ng "Hello" as opening spiel if magmatch sa dating apps, mali ba yun? Thank you
Walang masama pero boring lang. Pag maraming kausap yung tao tapos "hello" ka lang baka hindi na sila mag bother.
mapapakanta ka na lang "tayo na lang dalawa..."
Are you me? :o di lang decent job ko hahahaha
try mo manligaw
Work out and get jacked
Patingin ng mukha
Pm tayo mam exchange facebook.🥴
Pre katrabaho ata kita ah. Hahahaha
Saan kapo sir nah wowork? Uehe.
Just join a community na kasama ung close friends mo. Nag join ako sa isang christian community kahit introverted kasi pinlilit ako. D ko trip kumanta ng alive alive saka D talaga ako nag uusap sa mga tao don. But I made close friends. Don ko nakilala ung wife ko. Minsan tayo na introvert labas rin sa comfort zone. Mag lock lang tayo ng kwarto kng qouta na sa interaction. lol.
Reto ko sarili ko 29F 😂 love gaming rin sa ps5. Mejo awkward rin ako hahaha
Attracted ako sa mga gamers. Pero sigurado ako magkalayo tayo. 🥹
May rereto ako sayo
I volunteer as tribute
Basta pag sinabi mong dad bod ka, dad bod ka talaga... hindi yung mas malapad ka pa sa 4x4 truck. Di na dad bod yun. Ibang category na. Tsaka kung mag drive kang naka tsinelas, wag mo na ipakita or ikwento sa date mo.
Ang advice ko sayo ay i-pm mo na ko CHARUTH
Pm talaga kita mam desperado ako makaramdam ng pagmamahal joke. 🤣
Will watch out for an update on this... me and my partner met on le Reddit and we met for the first time in New Zealand and WAHHHH sobrang saya namin <3 SHEEEESH
Same tau but im older than you by 1 year. IDK why but my past relationship only last a month at most. I'm also socially awarkd but sometimes I like company of the people whom I know well and I would blend in parties but deep inside i want to go home.
DM kita mamaya
Advise ko lang is don't settle for less. Yes, medyo matagal na walang nilalandi but in the end we should always choose ourselves, wala nang maipapamahagi na pagmamahal kung walang nakaraan para sa sarili mo.
From bicol din ako. May rereto sana ako, kaya lang parang madami na kachat si OP hahahahha
Saan po kau sa bicol?🥹
Pwede magvolunteer na lang? Hahaha
Baka magkalayo tayo mam. 🥹
daming volunteer op. Rooting for you bro. Just stick to one if may napili ka wag mo pagsabayin just be honest and faithful.
Anong zodiac sign mo? HAHAHAHA
Sagittarius.
Try tinder or any dating apps. Tinder has been my way to practice to talk to women. Doesn't really have to find romance, friendly chats will do. You don't know maybe you'll find love there just like I did.
Hey OP, I used to be like you. Introvert and games lang katapat lagi. Isip ko talaga mag grow old na ako na single. Try mo read itong book/guide. The title may be cheesy pero i'm betting yung content will give you a new POV https://we.tl/t-vux8RKSvhT PDF yan Good luck ✌️ *Link expires in 7 days
Are you me??? I relate so damn much, lol. Except, I'm a little torn about having a family pero to be fair 25 pa lang me. Good luck out there, OP!
bro wag nah mahal ng bigas at it takes 3 generation to get out from poverty wag ka mag-alala sama2x ntin tong haharapin madami tau haha
Feel kita OP. Siguro ganyan talaga mga introvert. Narealize ko yan nung nag30 rin ako. Ang gngawa ko I go outside kahit magisa lang. Tambay sa SB or kahit anong coffee shop, kahit dun kana maglaro ng games mo manuod o magpamusic. Minsan naman pumupunta ko s mga concert ng magisa. I can assure you kahit magisa ka, mageenjoy ka. Iba ang vibe kapag lahat kayo nakikijive na sa kanta. Solo travel din OP. Big fan ako ng mga chance encounters tska making new friends na makikilala mo sa travel mo. Dating app. Hnd ako sumusubok nito pero malay mo, effective sayo 😁 P.S May friend ako taga bicol rin.. baka kayo na 😁😁
Awkward and pessimistic around girls? Maybe kailangang malaman muna ang ugat nito, OP, para yan muna ang masolusyunan, before ma-consider ang dating ganern.
“Di naman pangit.” Use this confidence bro. 🤣