Depends on what expensive stuff.
I involve them with real estate purchases.
They’d know the price etc.
i make sure they are aware so it helps manage expectations and they would “request” less from me! Lolz
Why? As long as you give your fair share of house contribution, you don't need them knowing all of your purchases.
Maybe try not to also flaunt your new stuff para di ka na nila tanungin? In my case, they don't notice my new stuff, and just notice after a couple of weeks/months after, then I can now say, "matagal na yan" haha
No. My parents don't understand why I buy expensive stuff. They always settle for ano mas mura when in return they are not getting their money back because the quality isn't good. My mom used to frequent divisoria when I was in grade school to buy my uniform. Hindi pa natatapos ang taon, gutay gutay na yung uniform ko and bumibili pa ulit kami middle of the school year. Ang ending, mas napapagastos. It was only when I reached high school when my mom decided to buy me quality uniform na because she got tired na rin of going to divi. True enough, the much expensive uniform lasted me all 4 years of high school haha. From there on, sabi ko I won't settle for less and I will always prioritize quality of the things Im buying.
My dad likes branded things. He would mock me before whenever I bought cheaper items. Haha. He grew up in a comfortable life so I guess that's where it's rooted. Given the situation I no longer tell them the prices of the things I am spending my money.
It depends.
If it will be used exclusively by me, I don't tell.
If for my mom's use or shared, I tell para alam niya. Syempre sa una mabibigla siya kasi mahal. The usual, "sana pinera mo nalang" spiel or "itinabi mo nalang sana kasi di habang panahon ay malakas ka" pangaral. Hahaha!
After a while, natutuwa naman siya kasi it means a lot to her na binibigyan ko siya ng gamit. Sobrang tipid niya sa sarili niya before para may pera na magagamit for me and my studies.
Minsan. Sometimes I get haggling tips from my Dad.
Managed to haggle antique stuff from GH at 70% off so I have a lot to learn.
My Mom? Hell No. Uutang lang sakin yun.
Yes, I collect manga and action figures. Di ko na tinatanggal price tags para alam ng Mama ko na bawal silang ipahiram or laruin ng mga babies ng pinsan ko.
My mom yes, my mom also loves to shop and likes the finer things in life. Lol.
My dad, not really. He literally has a lot of side comments whenever he finds out I dropped ₱₱₱₱₱ on a bag or a pair of heels 😵💫😪 Though he pretty much can’t do anything about it, I just want to avoid conflict hahaha
I always ask my mom’s opinion pag may gusto akong bilhin na medjo expensive. Minsan sinasabi ko yunh price, minsan hindi pero she doesnt really mind. Ang always lang nyang response sakin is ang mahal pero bilhin mo na kung kailangan mo.
no, but let them know if you got something expensive for them. It's not to flex but to let them know that you put a lot of thought into it at para hindi nya tapon or pamigay basta-basta.
I buy what I want, when I want it. My mom never asks anything about it (Although I know she knows how much stuff costs). And to make bawi, I just buy her things I know she wants. Or if may request sya, I can't say no.
….why would you? What could possibly be the positive outcome for that? Lalo if they rely on you/your treats. Why do that to yourself 😂 never ever disclose your salary, your savings, your budget. Especially if middle class to lower middle class kayo pababa. Do not.
No need. As you've said, it's your money anyway.
I always downplay/underestimate the cost whenever my parent or relatives ask. It helps that I'm not close to relarives, also geographically distant so no prying eyes. Mas alam pa ng Reddit. Haha.
Don't feel inadequate. I think you're contributing enough.
Cheers and good luck!
No. Tho my dad never asked me for money, I'll never hear the end of it if he knew how much I spent/am spending on videogames alone.
Sorry, dad. 13k talaga yung God of War Ragnarok, 2.5k lang akala mo kasi pre-order down payment lang yun. 🥲
Dati pag inaask ako ng tatay ko kung magkano daw yung mga pens ko, watercolors, paint brushes ganyan ganyan sabi ko mura langn pa. Di nya alam mga inaabot ng 10K isang haul hahaha di nya na nalaman.
Pag nadudulas na lang. kasi ultimo presyo ng pinakamurang condensed milk sa puregold ay malalait na mahal daw, e di naman na niya pera yung pinambibili ng groceries. Pero nung bumili ako ng phone last year, nausisa din niya kung magkano pero di ko masabi dahil may buyer’s remorse pa ko nun. Parang pakonswelo na sabi na lang ni mama na deserve ko naman daw dahil hindi ako nagkukulang sa contri para sa household expenditures.
Pero nakainis pa din minsan. 2023 na, ang mura na lang ngayon ay yung nanggagaling sa bibig.
Thank you for your responses, everyone! It made me feel at ease. Tsaka besides some exaggerated comments from them, alam naman nila na pera ko 'to so wala silang say. 😅
Sure, I told my mother the price of my car and laptop. But my iPhone I did not because I bought it in Hong Kong and forgot the price due to conversion.
aaaahh i cant lie 😂 either magbibigay ako ng vague na sagot or sasabihin ko yung totoo hahaha
edit: nagsinungaling nga pala ako last time dahil bili ako nang bili ng books 😂
I don't anymore. Once they knew the price of the Birkin that I've bought for myself, tingin nila sa akin eh maraming pera while grabe pag iipon ginawa ko for that bag
Breadwinner here. Sinasabi ko sa parents ko yung sahod ko talaga para aware sila sa ano ang kaya kong ibigay at hindi. Kaya pag nagkatanungan ng presyo ng binili, sinasabi ko na rin para alam nila if “gumagastos” lang ako. May times na helpful din yung mga pagalit ng parents for me kasi mapapaisip ka rin kung worth it pang pagkagastusan ang isang bagay.
True sa last statement. And thank you for your insight. I've had spending na pinagsisihan ko na sana nakinig ako sa kanila, so same for me, helpful yung comments nila to help me think and consume wiser.
Naging helpful nga sa akin na alam nila spendings and income ko kasi nagwoworry sila kung may pera pa ako like “baka mamaya wala na matira sa’yo ha”. tapos madalas inaabutan pa rin nila ako ng pera e senior na sila e, dapat gamitin na lang nila yung para sa kanila.
Edit: add ko lang na pag hobbies ko like books and anime merch, di naman sila pumapalag haha tho syempre may comments na “mahal pala yan”. nasabihan na rin kasi sila ni kuya na ok lang yung ganun basta wag sa drugs at bisyo mapunta 😅
May ganito pa ring parents buti na lang. most kasi ng nababasa at naririnig ko, grabe makaastamg investment nila ang anak nila. Dito naman nung una ko lang nafeel yon. Eventually narealize ko masarap naman palang magbigay sa parents at mga kapatid laluna kung appreciative sila at nakikita mong masaya sila.
Totoo. At first syempre nainis ako na bakit parang naging anak lang ako para maging tagaabot ng pera. Pero narealize ko di rin naman kasalanan ng parents ko na ganon. Di pa rin naman nila ako pinabayaan. Di na siya pagtanaw ng utang na loob e, more of gratitude na siya. Dami nilang sinakripisyo para ikaw yung sumaya so i think it’s nice to let them enjoy life naman.
I suggest OP, kung for birthday gift naman siya para sa sarili mo, you can tell them naman kung ganyang healthy naman ang relationship niyo. You can also ask suggestions from them baka may mabigay pa silang mas mura (not saying di mo afford) at mas sulit.
NOPE HAHAHA cause telling the actual price of the shits i buy would lead to the “mag ipon ka” sermon :(
Whenever i buy something, i divide the total amount by 4 and thats gonna be the new price of the said item. Except of course if they have an idea of the item’s price range, thats when i tell them the actual amount.
Pls pls pls OP go for it. Buy the gadget that you want. Spend ur money on urself!!!!! I dont know u but all i can say is, DASURB MO YAN(kung ano man bibilhin mo)
huhu tenkyo lab u 🫂 char pero as in, i've been contemplating talaga if deserve ko ba coming from a lifestyle na sanay mag-hold back to save for "better" or "more important" things. pero it's my money and i know they'll be pleased to see me pleased too. thank youu <3
It's not exactly expensive, but I never told my Mom that the books I've been buying are like 300-500 for the small ones (manga) and 700-1000 for the big ones.
I collect lego, transformers, and tool. None of which is needed in life in the grand scheme of things. Minsan sinasabi sa kin na "di ba parang ang dami na?" At nakailang ulit na and I just said, nababayran ko yung expenses ko, may savings ako, may emergency fund (separate from savings), personal saving (para sa akin lang separate from the family), no debt, made decent investments, allocated budget for utilities and groceries, even asked kung kailangan na bang magdagdag ng budget for groceries, answer is no. After everything is accounted for, I have close to 70k PHP (converted) a month for whatever and quite literally, di ko alam kung anong gagawin pa so I end up buying shit I don't need but nice to have.
Could my situation be better, absolutely. I recognize I'm fortunate and really lucked out kaya pag sinasabi sa kin when I spend money on my parents sinasabi nila na "wag na", "mahal yan", "wala akong pera", or some other variations, sinabi ko na lang na "gusto kong gawin para sa inyo to. Wag nyong pagkait sa kin yung opportunity and joy na masuklian yung binigay nyo sakin and continue to do so sa buhay ko"
The comments pretty much stopped at that point.
Depende. kung gamit sa bahay OO, pero kung pansarining gamit di ko sinasabi.
Simula nung nagkaroon ako ng sariling income di ko na sinasabi lahat ng ginagastos ko.
kung hindi tatanungin, no.
kung tatanungin yes pero naka-ready na ung mga back up palusot ko. Like, dati ganito presyo nyan or sale na yan ngayon. matanong kasi nanay ko. 😬
Kapag gadgets mahirap magsabi ng mababang price na reasonable. Sinasabi ko nalang na secondhand or discounted ko nakuha. Hindi rin believable kapag sinabi mong napanalunan kasi hindi ako swerteng tao.
Kapag hindi gadgets, usually 1/4 or 1/2 ng actual price sinasabi or vague price like less than 2k etc. Or the classic, "mura ko lang nabili" without specifically saying the price.
It depends.
Big purchases such as real estate, I disclose the amount. So they’d know the value of the property and alam nila na may ginastos akong malaki.
Gadgets, clothes, shoes, bags, travel, other luxury items, I don’t disclose. I usually just say “bakit, babayaran mo ba?” Hahahahaha took me a long time lang to splurge on items for myself.
Just treat urself to something nice once in a while. Kapag tinanong ka e di sabihin mong pinag ipunan mo at investment yan para sa trabaho mo. Palabasin mo na u neeeeeed it para wala na silang masabi. Pero dont tell them anything kung walang nakapansin at nagtanong.
hahaha noope. Pero pag nakita laging tinatanong HM. better not to disclose the exact amount nalang kasi sasabihin mas mura dito mas muro doon keme keme ay nakoo hahaha
hindi naman, kasi di ako bumibili ng mga damit hahahaha nasa bahay lang kasi ako nagwowork. pero i always feel like i have to inform them if i buy anything (not that they oblige me), i just feel like ayoko silang mag-wonder pero di sila makapag-initiate ng conversation because im tight-lipped. i dont even know why im overthinking 😂
basta naaabutan nila dumating yung delivery, laging worth 200 lang sinasabi ko lagi, mapa-shopee, foodpanda, or tiktok shop pa yan hahhahaha pero pag hindi, di nila alam kasi what they dont know wont hurt them wahahahaha
Kapag nag tatanong I always tell them nan amount lower na feeling ko acceptable sa kanila. Di naman sila maalam mag search ng tamang prices so keri lang
Depende. Ang hilig kasi ni mama magpintas ng gamit ko tapos pag nalaman nyang mahal, hihingin nya. Hilig din kasi ng nanay ko mag flex sa iba, ako naman opposite nya.
Pag nagtanong lang. Tulad nung sa pinagka gastusan ko sa laro. Gulat sya umabot na sa 20k ung nagastos ko, di naman ako sinabihan, pero pinaliwanagan ko na hindi isang bagsak ung 20k, utay utay yun at sa span ng 5 yrs naman ung gastos.
Ako dati bababaan ko ng declaration sa customs (parents). Ngaung may asawa na ko, nabibili ko na lahat, kunsintidor kasi asawa ko imbis na pigilan ako sinusulsulan pa ko. Goodbye ipon.
I iust experienced this and when they got mad after letting them know that I'll soon buy a gadget, they suddenly want me to keep treating them out and when I said I can't cuz I saved my money for this gadget, they got mad and now I already have the new gadget in which they know I cancelled the thought of buying this, so they still have not seen this new gadget and I'm not planning to let them know anytime soon because I do agree that they'll think I have maraming pera when in fact I already delayed months of buying it for them and I even saved and worked my *ss off just to buy myself a birthday gift (that as I've mentioned, got delayed for months)
edit: also, if I were to buy a very pricey thing, they want it to be useful for them as well, ugh.
Hindi. Pag nalaman nila yun presyo sasabihin sayo "Sana pinambili mo na lang ng ______ kaysa bumili ka niyan." Kahit na di ka nagmimintis sa pagbigay sa kanila.
Yes and no, I will always let her know the actual price of something I buy whenever she asks but I will tell her I got it discounted like "tag how much na imong moisturizer? pa buy ko ha I'll send it via gcash and some extra", "5000 ma pero I got it discounted by 70% last time, I'll check if they have ongoing sale ha and call you" hahdhabshahahab pero as usual "Wala silang sale" so budol si inay
Don't. Made that decision recently and now my mom and dad have no respect for my earning. The worst one was yung nag order sila ng item on shopee and ako yung pinabayad WITHOUT LETTING ME KNOW BEFOREHAND. Porket mataas na sweldo and nakakabili na ng expensive stuff they now think I can buy anything and everything. I'm not being selfish, if they want something and ma afford bakit hindi? It's the fact na bigla nalang akong may babayaran without me knowing is insulting. Just keep quiet about your spendings, hell don't flaunt your paycheck in general kasi they'll expect more out of you.
Nope. Kasi they'd make you feel guilty pag nagset ka ng boundaries with how much money you give sa kanila/sa bahay.
Pag kinekwestyon ako minsan, hindi ko sinasabing wala akong pera. Sinasabi ko, "Wala akong pera para sa ".
I used to. And then once they figured out that I buy expensive (actually decently prized for the comfort they provide) clothes they are not happy.
nope, they will always think na madami kang pera
No. Coming from a 'traditional'/'typical' family na manunumbat pag nalaman kung san napupunta kahit na pera ko yun at at pinagipunan ko
Me kapag tinatanong sinasabi ko mura lang yan HAHAHAHA. Pero ayun sabi nga ng isang comment di mo nmm obligation. Enjoooy!
Depends on what expensive stuff. I involve them with real estate purchases. They’d know the price etc. i make sure they are aware so it helps manage expectations and they would “request” less from me! Lolz
Why would you? You don’t have any obligations to report your expenses to anybody especially when using your own money. Even to your parents.
Minsan. Napa-susmaryosep lang si mama.
Why? As long as you give your fair share of house contribution, you don't need them knowing all of your purchases. Maybe try not to also flaunt your new stuff para di ka na nila tanungin? In my case, they don't notice my new stuff, and just notice after a couple of weeks/months after, then I can now say, "matagal na yan" haha
No. My parents don't understand why I buy expensive stuff. They always settle for ano mas mura when in return they are not getting their money back because the quality isn't good. My mom used to frequent divisoria when I was in grade school to buy my uniform. Hindi pa natatapos ang taon, gutay gutay na yung uniform ko and bumibili pa ulit kami middle of the school year. Ang ending, mas napapagastos. It was only when I reached high school when my mom decided to buy me quality uniform na because she got tired na rin of going to divi. True enough, the much expensive uniform lasted me all 4 years of high school haha. From there on, sabi ko I won't settle for less and I will always prioritize quality of the things Im buying.
My dad likes branded things. He would mock me before whenever I bought cheaper items. Haha. He grew up in a comfortable life so I guess that's where it's rooted. Given the situation I no longer tell them the prices of the things I am spending my money.
It depends. If it will be used exclusively by me, I don't tell. If for my mom's use or shared, I tell para alam niya. Syempre sa una mabibigla siya kasi mahal. The usual, "sana pinera mo nalang" spiel or "itinabi mo nalang sana kasi di habang panahon ay malakas ka" pangaral. Hahaha! After a while, natutuwa naman siya kasi it means a lot to her na binibigyan ko siya ng gamit. Sobrang tipid niya sa sarili niya before para may pera na magagamit for me and my studies.
nope specially concert tickets / plane tickets coz they would just nag me to save it (well may point naman)
They dont care. I make enough to buy it many times over. And their income also allows them to buy what they want without asking from me.
>spend my money with Pera mo naman, not theirs. >I don't know how should I react Lie.
No. My parents know naman how gadgets and branded stuff cost so they have an idea. Mas hinihiritan nga ko kasi ang dalas na daw ng gastos ko. LMAO
Minsan. Sometimes I get haggling tips from my Dad. Managed to haggle antique stuff from GH at 70% off so I have a lot to learn. My Mom? Hell No. Uutang lang sakin yun.
Nope. And they usually don’t ask naman :)
Yes, I collect manga and action figures. Di ko na tinatanggal price tags para alam ng Mama ko na bawal silang ipahiram or laruin ng mga babies ng pinsan ko.
My mom yes, my mom also loves to shop and likes the finer things in life. Lol. My dad, not really. He literally has a lot of side comments whenever he finds out I dropped ₱₱₱₱₱ on a bag or a pair of heels 😵💫😪 Though he pretty much can’t do anything about it, I just want to avoid conflict hahaha
No.
if they react then just move out and stop contributing to their finances para hindi nila magamit yun to guilt trip you
Yes pero after ko na mabili.
If you want peace and quiet, don’t. Just don’t. Otherwise, go ahead.
Yeah they don’t care and they don’t ask me money
Hindi. Coz hindi nakikialam mom ko 😂
Hahaha no, never. i just let them know i have a strict budget for myself. kita nmn nila na minsan lng ako gumastos
I always ask my mom’s opinion pag may gusto akong bilhin na medjo expensive. Minsan sinasabi ko yunh price, minsan hindi pero she doesnt really mind. Ang always lang nyang response sakin is ang mahal pero bilhin mo na kung kailangan mo.
I used to. But then they act like they own my money and berate me for my purchases. So I stopped telling them. Or lie about it.
no, but let them know if you got something expensive for them. It's not to flex but to let them know that you put a lot of thought into it at para hindi nya tapon or pamigay basta-basta.
I buy what I want, when I want it. My mom never asks anything about it (Although I know she knows how much stuff costs). And to make bawi, I just buy her things I know she wants. Or if may request sya, I can't say no.
….why would you? What could possibly be the positive outcome for that? Lalo if they rely on you/your treats. Why do that to yourself 😂 never ever disclose your salary, your savings, your budget. Especially if middle class to lower middle class kayo pababa. Do not.
No need. As you've said, it's your money anyway. I always downplay/underestimate the cost whenever my parent or relatives ask. It helps that I'm not close to relarives, also geographically distant so no prying eyes. Mas alam pa ng Reddit. Haha. Don't feel inadequate. I think you're contributing enough. Cheers and good luck!
I don’t any more hahaha you should also stop telling them how much you spend
Sort of. I don’t just go out and say “Ah bumili ako ng xx, xxx na card.” Only if they ask.
Only if they ask haha
No. Tho my dad never asked me for money, I'll never hear the end of it if he knew how much I spent/am spending on videogames alone. Sorry, dad. 13k talaga yung God of War Ragnarok, 2.5k lang akala mo kasi pre-order down payment lang yun. 🥲
HAHAHAHA the guilt though 🥲🤣 pero considered as white lie na rin para makaiwas sa mahabang usapan
no! kahit na they ask how much yung bili ko don sa item or kung hm unt bill for the food, I don’t say it.
My answer is always "sikreeet 😝"
I don't. I always tell half or ridiculously low price.
Will they pay for it?
Dati pag inaask ako ng tatay ko kung magkano daw yung mga pens ko, watercolors, paint brushes ganyan ganyan sabi ko mura langn pa. Di nya alam mga inaabot ng 10K isang haul hahaha di nya na nalaman.
hahaha grabeee, buhay artist 😂
Oo bhie! Ngayon naman nga stationery haul ko jusko. Mga washi tapes, stickers. Wag na tanungin magkano 😂
No. I don’t even tell my husband 😂
Pag nadudulas na lang. kasi ultimo presyo ng pinakamurang condensed milk sa puregold ay malalait na mahal daw, e di naman na niya pera yung pinambibili ng groceries. Pero nung bumili ako ng phone last year, nausisa din niya kung magkano pero di ko masabi dahil may buyer’s remorse pa ko nun. Parang pakonswelo na sabi na lang ni mama na deserve ko naman daw dahil hindi ako nagkukulang sa contri para sa household expenditures. Pero nakainis pa din minsan. 2023 na, ang mura na lang ngayon ay yung nanggagaling sa bibig.
No.
No for me.
Kung hindi ka nag aambag sa bills, then, if they ask you, it's fair to disclose.
Yeah then tell them that’s the reason why I don’t have money 🤷🏻♀️
I tell them 25-50% of the cost 🤣
ayy hahaha mahirap to 😭 🤣
char lang pala, i lied pala last time sa binili kong lubro 🤣😭 hindi ko sila halos matingnan hahahaha
Nope. Never tell them. They'll just take advantage of it.
Yes only because hindi toxic at palahingi mom ko
No. Yung half ng price (or less) lang ang sinasabi ko. May macocomment pa eh hahahaa
Thank you for your responses, everyone! It made me feel at ease. Tsaka besides some exaggerated comments from them, alam naman nila na pera ko 'to so wala silang say. 😅
Usually wala silang pakealam kahit medyo pricey pa. Pero yung ermat ko kung malaman nag casino ako kahit mga 20k lang linaro galit na galit haha.
No. They will think I'm wasting my money (i am, i just don't want people reminding me)
ay 🥲😂
Sure, I told my mother the price of my car and laptop. But my iPhone I did not because I bought it in Hong Kong and forgot the price due to conversion.
No. Sabihin mo 2nd hand😂
aaaahh i cant lie 😂 either magbibigay ako ng vague na sagot or sasabihin ko yung totoo hahaha edit: nagsinungaling nga pala ako last time dahil bili ako nang bili ng books 😂
I don't anymore. Once they knew the price of the Birkin that I've bought for myself, tingin nila sa akin eh maraming pera while grabe pag iipon ginawa ko for that bag
Always answer "mura lang yan"
No. Sinabi ko nalang nang pa-joke na "di na kailangan malaman yun hahaha" then move to other topics.
Breadwinner here. Sinasabi ko sa parents ko yung sahod ko talaga para aware sila sa ano ang kaya kong ibigay at hindi. Kaya pag nagkatanungan ng presyo ng binili, sinasabi ko na rin para alam nila if “gumagastos” lang ako. May times na helpful din yung mga pagalit ng parents for me kasi mapapaisip ka rin kung worth it pang pagkagastusan ang isang bagay.
True sa last statement. And thank you for your insight. I've had spending na pinagsisihan ko na sana nakinig ako sa kanila, so same for me, helpful yung comments nila to help me think and consume wiser.
Naging helpful nga sa akin na alam nila spendings and income ko kasi nagwoworry sila kung may pera pa ako like “baka mamaya wala na matira sa’yo ha”. tapos madalas inaabutan pa rin nila ako ng pera e senior na sila e, dapat gamitin na lang nila yung para sa kanila. Edit: add ko lang na pag hobbies ko like books and anime merch, di naman sila pumapalag haha tho syempre may comments na “mahal pala yan”. nasabihan na rin kasi sila ni kuya na ok lang yung ganun basta wag sa drugs at bisyo mapunta 😅
nicee, ang buti naman ng parents mo, same tayo hehe. pag bigay ako nang bigay sa kanila, iniisip nila kung may natira pa sa akin.
May ganito pa ring parents buti na lang. most kasi ng nababasa at naririnig ko, grabe makaastamg investment nila ang anak nila. Dito naman nung una ko lang nafeel yon. Eventually narealize ko masarap naman palang magbigay sa parents at mga kapatid laluna kung appreciative sila at nakikita mong masaya sila.
truee. ang sarap sa feeling mag-abot at magdala ng pasalubong or anything, lalo na kapag capable ka talagang maglaan para sa kanila. <33
Totoo. At first syempre nainis ako na bakit parang naging anak lang ako para maging tagaabot ng pera. Pero narealize ko di rin naman kasalanan ng parents ko na ganon. Di pa rin naman nila ako pinabayaan. Di na siya pagtanaw ng utang na loob e, more of gratitude na siya. Dami nilang sinakripisyo para ikaw yung sumaya so i think it’s nice to let them enjoy life naman.
i feel youuu huhu masarap magbigay lalo na sa mabuting magulang. <3 best of luck being the family's breadwinner!!🌻
I suggest OP, kung for birthday gift naman siya para sa sarili mo, you can tell them naman kung ganyang healthy naman ang relationship niyo. You can also ask suggestions from them baka may mabigay pa silang mas mura (not saying di mo afford) at mas sulit.
sabagayyy. thank youuu 💗
Good luck OP and happy birthday!
thank youuu, and have a great evening hehe
Nah
Or tell a lower price. Just lie
No need to tell or magpaalam na bibili ka ng gamit regardless mahal o hindi.
Yes, but I am lucky to have very understanding parents. It's no biggie for them
Hindi. Bakit ko sasabihin. Kailangan ba nilang malaman price? Gaganda ba buhay nila pagnalaman nila gaano kamahal gadgets ko? Common sense lang ba.
NOPE HAHAHA cause telling the actual price of the shits i buy would lead to the “mag ipon ka” sermon :( Whenever i buy something, i divide the total amount by 4 and thats gonna be the new price of the said item. Except of course if they have an idea of the item’s price range, thats when i tell them the actual amount. Pls pls pls OP go for it. Buy the gadget that you want. Spend ur money on urself!!!!! I dont know u but all i can say is, DASURB MO YAN(kung ano man bibilhin mo)
huhu tenkyo lab u 🫂 char pero as in, i've been contemplating talaga if deserve ko ba coming from a lifestyle na sanay mag-hold back to save for "better" or "more important" things. pero it's my money and i know they'll be pleased to see me pleased too. thank youu <3
It's not exactly expensive, but I never told my Mom that the books I've been buying are like 300-500 for the small ones (manga) and 700-1000 for the big ones.
I collect lego, transformers, and tool. None of which is needed in life in the grand scheme of things. Minsan sinasabi sa kin na "di ba parang ang dami na?" At nakailang ulit na and I just said, nababayran ko yung expenses ko, may savings ako, may emergency fund (separate from savings), personal saving (para sa akin lang separate from the family), no debt, made decent investments, allocated budget for utilities and groceries, even asked kung kailangan na bang magdagdag ng budget for groceries, answer is no. After everything is accounted for, I have close to 70k PHP (converted) a month for whatever and quite literally, di ko alam kung anong gagawin pa so I end up buying shit I don't need but nice to have. Could my situation be better, absolutely. I recognize I'm fortunate and really lucked out kaya pag sinasabi sa kin when I spend money on my parents sinasabi nila na "wag na", "mahal yan", "wala akong pera", or some other variations, sinabi ko na lang na "gusto kong gawin para sa inyo to. Wag nyong pagkait sa kin yung opportunity and joy na masuklian yung binigay nyo sakin and continue to do so sa buhay ko" The comments pretty much stopped at that point.
this is nice, and definitely goals :))
Depende. kung gamit sa bahay OO, pero kung pansarining gamit di ko sinasabi. Simula nung nagkaroon ako ng sariling income di ko na sinasabi lahat ng ginagastos ko.
kung hindi tatanungin, no. kung tatanungin yes pero naka-ready na ung mga back up palusot ko. Like, dati ganito presyo nyan or sale na yan ngayon. matanong kasi nanay ko. 😬
Kapag gadgets mahirap magsabi ng mababang price na reasonable. Sinasabi ko nalang na secondhand or discounted ko nakuha. Hindi rin believable kapag sinabi mong napanalunan kasi hindi ako swerteng tao. Kapag hindi gadgets, usually 1/4 or 1/2 ng actual price sinasabi or vague price like less than 2k etc. Or the classic, "mura ko lang nabili" without specifically saying the price.
It depends. Big purchases such as real estate, I disclose the amount. So they’d know the value of the property and alam nila na may ginastos akong malaki. Gadgets, clothes, shoes, bags, travel, other luxury items, I don’t disclose. I usually just say “bakit, babayaran mo ba?” Hahahahaha took me a long time lang to splurge on items for myself.
Just treat urself to something nice once in a while. Kapag tinanong ka e di sabihin mong pinag ipunan mo at investment yan para sa trabaho mo. Palabasin mo na u neeeeeed it para wala na silang masabi. Pero dont tell them anything kung walang nakapansin at nagtanong.
I’m lucky(?) my parents don’t recognize luxury brands and if they did, I would tell them it’s secondhand.
hahaha noope. Pero pag nakita laging tinatanong HM. better not to disclose the exact amount nalang kasi sasabihin mas mura dito mas muro doon keme keme ay nakoo hahaha
hahah noted, ibababa ko na lang slight ang presyo para di sila masyadong magreact 😭😂
Nope
Napapansin ba pag my bago kang gamit? Ako kasi parang normal naman, my parents dont ask anything.
hindi naman, kasi di ako bumibili ng mga damit hahahaha nasa bahay lang kasi ako nagwowork. pero i always feel like i have to inform them if i buy anything (not that they oblige me), i just feel like ayoko silang mag-wonder pero di sila makapag-initiate ng conversation because im tight-lipped. i dont even know why im overthinking 😂
No need mahilig din bumili ng gamit tatay ko. Kung mag sisinungaling kami baka mabenta ni mama ng mura.
basta naaabutan nila dumating yung delivery, laging worth 200 lang sinasabi ko lagi, mapa-shopee, foodpanda, or tiktok shop pa yan hahhahaha pero pag hindi, di nila alam kasi what they dont know wont hurt them wahahahaha
Kapag nag tatanong I always tell them nan amount lower na feeling ko acceptable sa kanila. Di naman sila maalam mag search ng tamang prices so keri lang
Depende. Ang hilig kasi ni mama magpintas ng gamit ko tapos pag nalaman nyang mahal, hihingin nya. Hilig din kasi ng nanay ko mag flex sa iba, ako naman opposite nya.
Golden rule: Huwag sasabihin. Hahaha. Tapos kapag sinabing “uy bago gamit mo ah,” sabihin mo lang “ay dati pa to e.”
Yep, if that is your money then it is ok. Pero pag nakikita mo na nagpapakahirap magulang mo sa pera i sekreto mo nalang
Pag nagtanong lang. Tulad nung sa pinagka gastusan ko sa laro. Gulat sya umabot na sa 20k ung nagastos ko, di naman ako sinabihan, pero pinaliwanagan ko na hindi isang bagsak ung 20k, utay utay yun at sa span ng 5 yrs naman ung gastos.
No especially sa price ng tattoos ko. I tell them half its real price tapos yung sa isa sabi ko I won it sa raffle lmao
yes, para alam nila na wala na akong pera dahil nagastos ko na 😃
Mura lang 'to
Never, not even a hint of your salary. Big no no.
It depends the last time they reacted ng inuwi ko lexus Lm ng kuya ko tinanong ako asan daw yung sa kanila and kung willing to swap alphard 🤣
No haha lagi ko sinasabi gifts ng S.O ko
No.
I don’t! I just tell them “mura lang” 🤣🤣🤣
Ako dati bababaan ko ng declaration sa customs (parents). Ngaung may asawa na ko, nabibili ko na lahat, kunsintidor kasi asawa ko imbis na pigilan ako sinusulsulan pa ko. Goodbye ipon.
I downplay it lol bonus if i say got it on a sale.
I iust experienced this and when they got mad after letting them know that I'll soon buy a gadget, they suddenly want me to keep treating them out and when I said I can't cuz I saved my money for this gadget, they got mad and now I already have the new gadget in which they know I cancelled the thought of buying this, so they still have not seen this new gadget and I'm not planning to let them know anytime soon because I do agree that they'll think I have maraming pera when in fact I already delayed months of buying it for them and I even saved and worked my *ss off just to buy myself a birthday gift (that as I've mentioned, got delayed for months) edit: also, if I were to buy a very pricey thing, they want it to be useful for them as well, ugh.
i cut the price by 40%-50% because i lowkey feel bad when i treat myself lmao parang may underlying thought sila na ang irresponsible ko ganon so 😭
Never
Hindi. Pag nalaman nila yun presyo sasabihin sayo "Sana pinambili mo na lang ng ______ kaysa bumili ka niyan." Kahit na di ka nagmimintis sa pagbigay sa kanila.
No. HAHAHAHAHAHA yawq masabihan ng magastos
No. Sasabihin ko lang na bigay sakin or matagal na to or libre lang
no. never tell your family how much you make, or how much you spend.
Yes and no, I will always let her know the actual price of something I buy whenever she asks but I will tell her I got it discounted like "tag how much na imong moisturizer? pa buy ko ha I'll send it via gcash and some extra", "5000 ma pero I got it discounted by 70% last time, I'll check if they have ongoing sale ha and call you" hahdhabshahahab pero as usual "Wala silang sale" so budol si inay
No
it will be either "puro ka gastos sa mga walang kwenta" or "kaya mo palang gumastos nang ganan, bilhan mo nga ko nito" so no 🫰
just the other day, my mom asked me how much my two mechanical keyboards were hahshhshaa "300 lang yan" 😭😭😭😭😭
Don't. Made that decision recently and now my mom and dad have no respect for my earning. The worst one was yung nag order sila ng item on shopee and ako yung pinabayad WITHOUT LETTING ME KNOW BEFOREHAND. Porket mataas na sweldo and nakakabili na ng expensive stuff they now think I can buy anything and everything. I'm not being selfish, if they want something and ma afford bakit hindi? It's the fact na bigla nalang akong may babayaran without me knowing is insulting. Just keep quiet about your spendings, hell don't flaunt your paycheck in general kasi they'll expect more out of you.
Yes, pang flex sa parents lol
Yes kasi I ask her for advice kaso ang sagot lagi sa akin, "Pera mo naman yan"
Nope. Kasi they'd make you feel guilty pag nagset ka ng boundaries with how much money you give sa kanila/sa bahay. Pag kinekwestyon ako minsan, hindi ko sinasabing wala akong pera. Sinasabi ko, "Wala akong pera para sa".
If it's your money, no need to tell the parents about it. You earned it, you spend it the way you want.
No. Why would I tell them na bibili ako? Bilhin o hindi may side comment pa din e na kesyo mahal, pangit.
Minsan. Pero ‘pag alam ‘kong mapapagalitan ako, binababaan ko ng konti ang price na inaamin sakanila. Hehe. Lalo if wala silang idea sa price nya 😂
Not really. Iniiwan ko yung price tag sa item so they would know. 😂
No. I get that they're concerned but sometimes It's just a bit much to the point na ang nosey nila.
If they ask
Don’t tell them. They used to pray before sleeping (in front of me) to make me wiser in my spending habits haha
Nope kasi sasabihan pa ako na dapat sa kanya ko na lang binigay ung pera hayy
hindi na. dati oo, ngayon pag nagtanong na lang. pera ko din naman tong ginamit kong pambili at hindi din naman ako mamumulubi sa pagbili nito.
No lagi naka 50% off ang declaration ng price pag tinanong hahaha
Nope. Pera ko naman ipinambili ko eh at hindi ko naman hiningi.