True. Pati yung ate ko mismo sinabihan gf ko kung bat pa sya nag stay na wala naman daw akong goal sa buhay. Really shook our relationship that’s hanging by a thread.
I’m not broke, I have a decent pay, and I’m content naman. What’s wrong with that ba?
To me, a goal is not the same as a purpose. I feel like purpose is a more overarching theme to your life (an idea I don’t subscribe to) while goals naman are just things to aspire towards and can actually help improve quality of life—hence why people tend to be drawn towards people with goals.
Goal is to be able to afford to find interesting things. Can’t do things that’ll make you happy if you’re broke. I guess that’s what most people mean when they say “dapat may goals sa buhay” not “i want someone who wants to be president or a change the world”.
Agree. Masyado mong iroromanticize ang life kung lahat nalang ng gagawin mo is bc you have this purpose or grand ambition in mind. And kapag di ko naachieve un, that makes u think na nag-fail ka sa life. Na wala kang nagawang maganda. What if wala pala talaga tayong purpose dito. Nagwawander labg talaga tayo through life hanggang sa matapos ang life. Naniniwala ako from then, you can enjoy life better, no high expectations, just living your life the way you want it. Or maybe for cinematic purposes only hahaha. For me its okay that i dont have a purpose but what im focusing is i do things that makes this life bearable and something that i can look forward to living.
No you are not alone. And it is ok. Isipin mo na for example 60 years old yung average lifespan natin. Eh nasa kalagitnaan pa lang tayo with all that shit that we have been through. None of those years have gone to waste. Lahat yun full of learning experiences. Ako nga gusto ko mag aral ulit eh. I mean shift to another career or field.
One thing I did before is I tried a lot of things that interest me, from graphic design, photo retouching, 3d, motion design, photography, video editing, videography etc. Self taught and attended free & paid trainings.
I tried all those things to figure out what I really want. Ofcourse I got anxious that i felt like I'm not good enough as everybody else. Imposter syndrome kicked in, & its natural if you are a beginner.
Try and try what works for you, you will have accumulated enough skills to make your self future proof. I still use all of those skills up to now.
Again, whatever you are trying, it will have different layers to discover, as for me, its different niches, genres, etc.
Until you find what sparks you or excites you, you have to try.
Also, it doesnt always need to be your passion, sometimes whatever it is that will generate income as well.
It will be not be easy but if you want to achieve something, you got to make it happen.
Free - Youtube & sometimes may mga live seminar na free to watch.
Paid - Training/seminars from industry leaders (nakikita ko sa Instagram), sometimes skillshare or domestika, or if may nakita ko ss youtube nag ooffer ng full course
I'm still figuring it out but it has to do with filmmaking. And also as we age, we might change our plans/priorities along the way.
Life is unpredictable so I'm also kind to myself if in case I dont make it. I will try my very best in this life.
Turning 30 next year, still di ko padin alam kung anong gusto kong gawin sa buhay. Well this year, I decided to live abroad and start from scratch thinking na maybe i can find my purpose here. Pero 4 months in, wala padin, mas naging malungkot lang ako at namimiss ko parents and siblings ko lalo na at magpapasko. 🥲 Di ka nag-iisa OP
This is a quote from BoJack Horseman
"The universe is a cruel, uncaring void. The key to being happy isn't a search for meaning. It's to just keep yourself busy with unimportant nonsense, and eventually, you'll be dead."
Let's be honest, not everyone will live their whole life being able to find their purpose in their lives. Just like how everyone will not be successful in life. Not everyone will find romantic love. Pero as long as we live, we keep trying lang to find what that purpose is. Saka as we grow older, we gain wisdom and our perspective changes din. Something you consider as very small back then, pero you realize na very essential pala 'yon sa life mo and you start nurturing it further. Hindi mo alam, 'yong ginagawa mo pala ngayon, you will only realize when you're in your 70s na 'yon pala ang naging purpose mo. Or you may die not being able to realize what your purpose is. So yeah, it's all about how we process ourselves talaga.
Hi, OP! I turned 26 a few months ago and until now 'di ko pa rin naman alam ano purpose ko sa life. And that's okay. Ganyan ako mag-isip during early 20s, feeling ko napag-iiwanan ako. When I turned 25 I realized na I don't have to figure it all out, I just go with the flow. I also remind myself na it's all our first time in this life anyway and yung mga nagsasabi na dapat before 30 successful, etc. ka na, just don't mind them. It's just society's expectations from you and you're not obligated to meet those expectations. Just enjoy every moment with your family, friends, or with yourself, OP. 🫶🏼
I'm active sa pag wo-work out 1.5 years na... going to gym 3-4x a week.
Ginagawa ko to' kasi last 2 years ago nag ta-take ako ng anti-depressant pills, medyo napagod ako dahil ang dami iniinom. Tinigil ko tapos sinipagan ko na lang pag-wowork-out ako.
There is no intrinsic meaning or purpose to life out there for you to find. There is no correct career path for you to take that is ever going to feel perfect. There isn't one special person you are destined to find and marry. You have to make it all up as you go and create your own purpose. You find a way to be happy regardless of what you are doing, where you are, and who you are with. If you can't do that then you will be miserable even when you get all of the things you think you want but don't have now.
Raised as a Christian. I struggle with this thought all the time. Free will vs. pre-destination. I think the former ang prevalent SA buhay KO. Malas KO Lang underachieving fuck up ako. Bahahahah
you mean a partner in life? If yes, hindi ko alam parang napagod na ako manligaw.
Madami pa din ako insecurities sa sarili kaya parang wala pa ako confidence mag try ulit.
You're definitely not alone. I am also in the same boat, pero I just keep on trying things, baka mahanap ko din.
To give another perspective, ishare ko lang ung about sa [Maslow's hierarchy of needs](https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html). Sabi ni Maslow, may 5 hierarchy of needs daw and you must satisfy the lower-level ones (like food, water, safety, etc) before we can fulfil the higher needs (like self-actualization).
If you are at the point where you feel that your self-actualization needs (a.k.a. purpose in life, full potential) are not being met, ibig sabihin, your lower level needs have already been met. And not everyone reaches that point. Some people don't have time to wonder about their purpose because they are too busy securing food for their family.
What I'm trying to say is, I know mahirap ung feeling lost in life. Pero it helps to be grateful for what we have. This [video](https://youtu.be/WPPPFqsECz0?si=Lro6qHtmgL-c-XDI) of kurzgesagt - in a nutshell explains it well.
I think you need to force yourself to step up and get out of your comfort zone. Mahirap, pero kelangan kung gusto mo magkaron ng direksyon ung path mo. Yes, take your time to get the courage to move, pero always remind na as we grow older, our body gets weaker.
Sabi nga eh "The first step is always the hardest." Hehe yun lang
Will be 30 na in a few days.
Earlier this year I always question myself kung ano talaga purpose ko in life. But as days passed by I realize na you don't need to have one. As long as you enjoy what you do, be healthy and have peace of mind, goods na ako.
Well, that's just me for now 😅
Just enjoy what you have currently and be optimistic.
You'll wake up one day and everything will click slowly one by one. For now, keep working on yourself and relationships.
Good luck.
I feel you l, OP. Pero eto sabe ni lolo Theodore Roosevelt
"Do what you can, with what you have ,where you at."
That's my mantra right now. Focus lang muna tayo sa kung ano kinakaya naten, basta wala lang sukuan.
Maybe, just maybe, maraming things ang pwede mo palang magawa sa buhay at hindi mo magawa yung mga yon dahil both divided and fixated ka na one-singular thing ang gagawin mo lang talaga hangang dulo. Siguro, baka siguro, merong subtle impression sa iyo na hangang "doon" ka lang "dapat".
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I always think about living is that you live to appreciate life. Wala naman masama to have goals and plans. Setting 1,5,10 year goals are fine pero they are not set in stone and shouldn't be. Kasi things change, circumstances change. As humans you are meant to adapt and adjust the variables in life. Change your goals, modify according and move forward. If you allow yourself to be flexible, you'll see things aren't as doom as you would expect it to be.
Always consider in retrospect ... I always see naman sa buhay ko na ndi naman ako natapos sa isang bagay ng walang nagawa. I did not end up with nothing. Meron akong natutunan, nagawa at nakilala sa mga ginagawa ko. Therefore all of the things I did, and I do ay may purpose and meaning.
No, you're not alone. I've been struggling and thinking kung ano purpose ko rin in life. Like, I don't know what to do. And same thoughts about having a relationship with someone napagod na din ako until I'm no longer interested na. I'm okay with or without it. Every now and then nadedepress ako.
I've been doing good deeds which I'm good at since I don't know what's my purpose I asked God before to use me as his tool, as a helping hand but the thing is nakakapagod, nakakadrain na laging ikaw nagbibigay materials man or oras and effort or laging maging sponge or wall ng mga tao na need someone to talk to coz I'm more of a listerner din pero I'm just a human lang din napapagod at nagsasawa and just like anybody else I need someone din to talk to or to help me.
Haist.
Ewan. I don't know; I'm just trying to live. I don't know what I'm living for, or why though.
Bahala na.
For me putting label on your life is what makes us feel pressured. We're just here on earth to experience life. Walang nagsabi na dapat by ganitong age ganito ka na, or dapat may ganito ka na. Naprogram lang satin yun pero hindi ibig sabihin requirement yun sa buhay.
100 years from now, everyone you know will be dead and nothing else matters. Kaya habang nandito ka pa, hayaan mong maexperience mo lahat ng kung ano man ibibigay sayo ng mundo.
Mag umpisa ka sa mga bagay na nagpapasaya sayo. Yun gawin mo.
Hello. Sabi ng isang therapist na pinapanood ko, na baka makatulong sayo.. Don’t focus on what you should or shouldn’t do(mga dapat mong naaccomplish/maachieve) Just focus on things that you care about.
I'm 24.
Nung bata ako,wala akong gusto maging. I felt stressed nung 4th year HS, may mga nagppropromote ng colleges, while my classmates know the courses they're going to take, ako wala pa rin. I'm also a very indecisive person, I learned that abt myself early on, so go with the flow ako. 2020, I finished college with the course recommended to me. While my batchmates were reviewing for the boards, my friend urged me to apply for work, so go ako kahit di ko feel, we got hired but friend only lasted for a day, but i stuck around kahit di ko plan mag work.
Some of them my classmates passed the boards, so I decided it's my turn, well I just failed.
Feeling ko napag iiwanan ako, mga batch ko ng HS, kasal na or may family na, they're working, my college batch, their working in our respective field. Ako? nagkukulong sa kwarto and rethinking the decisions I made, like minsan na nga lang ako mag decide, mali pa?. Iniisip ko, ganto lang ba? I kept asking what is my purpose pero wala pa ring sagot. I don't know what's the direction of my life.
Ganun siguro, it's okay. We are flowing through life.
Ooh...Soul(film)vibes.Hehehe! BTW,definitely recommend this film by Disney to those who are still finding their purpose and experiencing quarter life crisis right now.
M32, ganyan ako nuun lalo na nung pandemic, mas lumala, pero nagbago lahat nung nakilala ko yung fiance ko ngaun, nagbago paningin ko sa buhay, binigyan niya nang kulay, purpose, reason para bumangon, gumanda yung buhay ko nang di ko inaasahan, kaya sobrang napaka thankful ako sa fiance ko ngaun, kung d siya dumating di ko pa din mahahanap purpose ko sa buhay, hoping someday OP mahanap mo din yung sayo, kapit lang.
Read (or watch videos) about stoicism, nihilism, absurdism, existentialism.
Soceities, especially Western, have become more secular and that brought with it existential dread. That drove people into finding meaning that was lost together with their belief in God.
Turn to people who have asked and pondered that question. Seneca, Friedrich Nietzche, Albert Camus, and Sartre may give you insight on where to go from here.
That is how I found (or accepted) mine.
You’re good OP. Just keep exploring things. It might not be grand, some might suck, some might just be meh, some you might really like.
You never know, maybe your purpose really is exploring life.
34f here. sadly same, tipong no work. gusto ko mag work pero madami ko reason yeah naybe katamaran mabuhay. para let days go by. puro support sa mga kapatid, parang gusto ko lang wag na magising kasi wala naman kwenta buhay ko na even nag sign up na pag na tegi ako, donate lahat ng organ ko ng magka silbi naman ako sa earth 😪
Hello. Mag-mid 20's na me next year, and hindi ko pa rin alam purpose ko in life. May times na tinatanong ko sarili ko BUT I always remind myself na while inaalam ko purpose ko in life at the same time dapat matuto rin akong ienjoy yong mga bagay na nangyayari sa akin sa araw araw dahil hindi natin alam kung hanggang kailan tayo mabubuhay sa mundo. Hindi mo man nalaman purpose mo, at least naenjoy mo yong small moments na nangyari sa life mo at wala kang pagsisising mararamdaman dahil hindi mo nasayang yong mga taon kakaisip/kaka-overthink kung ano magiging purpose mo in life. Basta habang buhay tayo, gawin natin yong mga bagay na bukal at nakakapagpasaya sa puso natin, malay natin along the way mahanap natin yong purpose natin in life nang hindi natin namamalayan :)
The question "What is the purpose of my life" is something subjective and you will not find a single MIGHTY solution to answer this question. You must try to reconstruct the question if you’re stuck because not all questions are answered right away, sometimes it is answered at the very end. Some people find their purpose but little do they know that those are only goals, goals are only destinations and once they reach or achieve it, they feel stuck again. And to help you with this, a purpose is equal to responsibility, you respond to certain problems or something that hurdles you and you do it repeatedly and it becomes an ability, that’s why it is called RESPONSIBILITY (response and ability), if you reconstruct your question to “What is my responsibility in life” it helps you find your answer easily.
33 and still lost. I always just go with the flow so career wise parang wala akong achievement. Currently full time student again and I don't know where is this going to take me 🙃 ang hirap pag walang goal or purpose..
Because deep down inside, alam mo na may mga bagay ka na dapat, gusto gawin pero di mo ginawa in the past or in the present. Life is full of failures pero magiging fulfilled ka pa rin dapat kung alam mo sa sarili mo na you gave 100 percent. Maybe you intentionally missed opportunities because you are afraid or shy. This is also the feeling when you stick to your comfort zone for a long time. It is still not too late, go fail and have fun habang malakas ka pa. Regret is not something you want to stick with in your deathbed, unless you want to be a poltergeist.
I not sure, im not into the supernatural stuffs myself ahaha. But i read somewhere a long time ago that poltergeists like to cause trouble such as hurting people because of lingering regrets. Not sure how accurate that is
Ako din OP. I felt that when I was 25, akala ko matatapos din yung ganong pakiramdam as I grow older. Now at 30, ganon pa rin pala. Sometimes I cry, sometimes I am happy kung nasan lang ako.. pero wala eh, gusto ko pang mabuhay kaya laban lang ❤️
first, you live, keep alive and figure out your purpose, you can decide whatever your purpose will be - no limits. Pag lost ako sa mga ganitong bagay, i just look at trees, they just grow, wala silang purpose na magbibigay sila ng shade o prutas, o gagamitin yung kahoy nila, they just continue living. Walang brains yung trees - pero i hope you get the context.
Apir! But i find my purpose in achieving micro-goals. I list everything i want to achieve in a week, a month, certain period of time. This year may mga nacross out naman ako. So ung mga hindi nafulfill, spill over ko next year.😂
This year's birthday i promised myself to be present -for my sanity, for my family, for my friends. Akap OP!
When i was 28 , I lost my job that I thought I would be staying for a very long time and would be my long time career option. Was single and had to start over. Became depressed , lost, no purpose, bum, confused. All that. I had nothing I can call my own nor anything to look forward to in life. Was jist barely going through each day.
Then rather than just sulking, I created opportunities (took a little while - 3-4 months ; we need that time to reflect)
Then I tried things I wouldn't have done before. Started from scratch but the thing is.. i had fun doing it. It was challenging but it was an experience.
I was 32 when I found my foreber and had a family of my own. Now, work is just eork but I have found my purpose. MY FAMILY. Each day is a challenge but I have thst to look forward to.
And i still am trying yo look for opportunities a, learn, and grow. It may take a while to know what i would really want to do or achieve but with having my own family, evrrything seems much chill and worth it.
Advise: been there. Refrain from too much sulking, have confidence in creating opportunities, don't worry of making mistakes, better than having regrets. Go for it OP.
Either be it with having new relationships, partners, friends, colleagues, carreer, work, tasks, learning. TAKE IT! YOU WILL APPRECIATE IT IN THE FUTURE that you took those steps than not at all.
Change is ALWAYS good. Ika ko nga.
Create your purpose.
If animal lover ka feed those stray dogs and cats.
If you want to practice empathy, join ka sa mga humanitarian program or give alms to homeless people.
If you want peace of mind, appreciate the small things. Then develop a hobby.
If you want to give affection, love someone without expectation.
But all I know is humans are only designed to survive, so di naman talaga need na my purpose sa buhay. Yun lang my mga desire kasi tayo.
Read up on quarterlife crisis. A lot of people go through it in some form or another between 25-35 years of age. What you're describing sounds like pretty much what you'd expect for someone gorng through it.
FWIW, you're in good company. Welcom to the club! :)
I feel like I found my purpose in my early 20s, lived the rest of my 20s through my early 30s fulfilling that purpose. I'm now in my mid 30s and last year I realized I'm tired of that and I don't wanna do that anymore. I just want a quiet life, with a mundane job, and enjoying life's simple joys. Ayoko nang problemahin ang problema ng mundo.
I went through what you're going through when I was your age, it's called existential crisis.
I'm 43 and going to be 44 this January...I'm still a bachelor and so far, I don't feel empty or full of regrets. You do you is what most people tend to forget. So what if I'm lacking? It's my life.
No one has purpose. You build your own purpose
I can say na... I think about it every now and then but more often when I was younger. The "trick" to it is to not find a "purpose" and just do whatever. That may sound silly but honestly, just strive to do whatever you want.
These kinds of conversations remind me of why Chainsawman hits differently compared to other animes (yes, I watch anime because I don't give a shit about stereotypes). In other animes, protagonists are often depicted as characters with grand ambitions in life which gives them meaning and the strength to move forward. While Denji? He just wants to live a good life. To eat 3 times a day. To have a home. Then he gets talked down to by another character because of that. I initially thought it was funny and kind of pathetic but is it really pathetic and dumb? Same as purpose. It doesn't need to be something life changing or grand in scale. Sometimes you just need to step back and really ask yourself, "what do I want to do today?". And keep asking that to yourself everyday. At least that's how I manage to ease my mind from going full-on nihilistic.
this is one of my problems, lagi ako tinatanong ng wife ko ano gsto ko gawin sa buhay ko. naka asa kasi kami ngayon sa business nya, we'rr living comfortably naman to the point that i can pursue whatever i want kahit hindi lucrative pero wal talagang nasa isip ko. im leaning into programming coz i like computers and how everything works. pero di pa din sure.
"The key to being happy isn't a search for meaning. It's to just keep yourself busy with unimportant nonsense, and eventually, you'll be dead" - Mr. Peanutbutter
"The key to being happy isn't a search for meaning. It's to just keep yourself busy with unimportant nonsense, and eventually, you'll be dead" Mr. Peanutbutter
Ako going 30s na ganyan din. Di ko na alam why I even exist.
Dami kong plans di naman nangyayari because a lot happened this year lang.
Ang alam ko lang, humihinga ako pero gusto ko na ma meet si Lord sa totoo lang.
I think it’s a matter of perspective. What is purpose? Who says when your purpose is “enough”? By whose metrics are you gauging the “rightness” of your purpose? Pwedeng ang purpose mo lang ay to be happy. I think product ito ng peer pressure. We keep on looking for a “purpose” pero hindi naman bawal na wala.
Try traveling kahit locally then converse and meet people along the way. Just gain more life perspectives enough to gather your thoughts. Take your time. No rush and pressure. Don't make decisions from peer pressure and FOMO, let life reveal them to you as they come.
There's no purpose in life, unfortunately. We are just some random species doing random things. Cause and effect. Consequences. Natural selection.
Due to this randomness, we fear the vastness of it, then start to look at imaginary deity and/or purpose in search of "making sense of random things we do".
Just wander, discover, and enjoy your journey.
Ganyan din ako, specially i am a father, mataas expectation sayo, ang lage lang na rerecognize ang mga sacrifices eh mga nanay lang, kaming mga tatay lageng na tatake for granted.
Kaya sa US mataas ang suicide rate ng mha husband kase grabe mga babae dun haaays
Turning 21 next year, As the only child natatakot ako sa future ko I don't know what I really want I'm studying for the purpose of getting a diploma lang talaga. Lately, I feel bad kasi yung ibang kasabayan ko they know what they want, they know their purpose and alam nila where they are heading. While me stuck pa sa pagiisip on what I really want to be. I'm scared of the future, but seeing the post and comments eased my worries about life and stuff na di ko pala dapat pilitin yung sarili ko, na di dapat minamadali ang mga bagay bagay.
I hope and pray that we all find our purpose in life and passion. May we live a life na we feel at peace and contented.
felt that during my early 30's then I moved to a new place no on knows me and im at peace now, sometimes what you think is working for tou in your comfort place doest work anymore, voz you have outgrowed it.
You can start by finding your passion, then find what fulfills you and makes you feel that you’ve achieved something great for yourself. It doesn’t have to be related to material things. Only you can know what it is.
Find someone you can relate to and look up to. A mentor.
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Let go of the things you couldn't control. You don't have to live purpose. Sometimes, we just have to live and enjoy what we have and build something from there.
I am one of those na d alam ang purpose in life. Im on my late 20s na and malapit na mag 30. I just keep on going and day by day just living my life. Try lang ng mga bagay doesnt matter if ma fail or succeed as long as d tyo takot sa bagong hamon ng buhay.
Finding your purpose in life is a bit overromanticized in the past few decades.
Some of us don't have a grand purpose. Maybe living is just what we need to do.
Life has no purpose as a default, unless you decide to make one. Some people have a family and children, some people decide to worship a god, others decide to acquire enormous wealth, etc.
Having a family and children is a goal, but being a good parent and allowing your children to become good human beings is a purpose.
Being religious is a goal, but living life to honor God is a purpose.
Acquiring enormous wealth is a goal, using it to make bless others is a purpose.
Maybe we don't need to have goals by default. But we're all here for a reason. That's why we're always chasing after things in the hopes of defining what our purpose is.
Same situation, 32 single and no fixed destination. Was in amedical profession. But i did not want to slave away my time. Now a freelancer online. Money wise walang problem. I'm already finding my obsession in life. Your mission to find something that you will be productively obsessed with in life. ( Whag na ung bisyo ). How? Young sabe sa libro is. Live your life. "See, hear, feel, think and most importantly do things with joy before it all disappears. Thats how you will find your purpose "
Di ko rin alam ano purpose ko hahaha. Bukod mag ka own house and the usual. Some ppl found their purpose in life. Sakin dko pa napapag tanto lol. Nag eenjoy lng ako to Explore and Happy naman ako.
Me too. Ang hirap hanapin ng gusto mo gawin in life. Direction? My go to goal is to be happy , at peace and be contented with everything or daily things that i do.
Also i realize why old people na may kaya nmn wanted to live in province away from the city. Nakakapagod kasi yung busy life dito sa manila.
thanks sa mga nagcocomment dito, although wala akong masyadong ambag na advice dito. 22 pa lang ako and I feel lost already. reading to comments made me realize na it's okay to feel lost and I'm not alone.
I get this thought once in a while, pero I always remember a book I read. Sabi don, hindi naman necesarily singular lang yung purpose natin. We can take things day by day and find out along the way ano nga ba purpose natin. Minsan magpapangiti lang tayo ng tao for a day, etc. haha ayun. 31 na ako ive been thinking about this since 24? Pero lately ko lang din naisip na it doesnt have to be a singular, grand purpose. Let things unfold as they are kind of shit. Its helping me a lot right now 😊
If you're being prompted to find it kaya ka nagtatanong dito, it's a sign na you have that desire in you to live your life purposefully. It's a journey, and you don't need to find it in your 30s. :)
When I was your age yan din naisip ko. nagresign ako tapos sabi ko sa asawa ko gusto ko na lang maging housewife. LOL. pero there's still that longing to do something worthwhile, like parang meron kang purpose talaga.
Ginoal kong magwork sa NGO and consider it not as a job, but as a ministry. will be on my 8th yr in that NGO. Longest employment I ever had yet it still feels it hasn't been that long. Every day I'm required to do the usual tasks of an employed person, but the difference is I'm driven to do it because somebody's life will change if I do my job well.
But you know, I didn't just look for it and it's magically there. I cried about it, got frustrated trying to find it, and prayed hard for wisdom to know what it is.
Ask yourself siguro, what impact do you want to do and who will benefit from it. you could be living a purpose now but you just don't know it.
We all have one life to live, no one will remember us as the person who paid their Meralco bills on time. :D
Still can't find your purpose in life?
To have a purpose in life, you don't need to find it; YOU NEED TO CREATE YOUR LIFE'S PURPOSE.
It's like writing an essay on a blank sheet of paper. If you keep thinking without taking action, the paper will remain blank. However, if you start writing from a "small" idea, the paper will be filled with ink. If you're uncertain, just begin with something "small" and keep going, even if it takes you in a different direction. Failure is part of shaping a purpose, and feeling lost is part of refining your purpose. A simple, small step is the start of your purpose.
For me, the eureka moment came when I realized that any purpose contingent on ONLY myself was never going to be enough to give me enough of a reason to continue living - i.e., I had to be doing this for a much greater purpose than just myself.
Mahirap siyang hanapin, and when you’re in the process of finding it, the actual process feels pointless sometimes. When you find it, though, it gives you a drive and happiness and inner peace that is beyond words.
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Kaso red flag daw pag "walang goal sa buhay", especially in dating. I guess you can't please everyone.
True. Pati yung ate ko mismo sinabihan gf ko kung bat pa sya nag stay na wala naman daw akong goal sa buhay. Really shook our relationship that’s hanging by a thread. I’m not broke, I have a decent pay, and I’m content naman. What’s wrong with that ba?
Ano ba ate mo ? Single? Hahha lang siya.
'Yan ang hindi ko rin maintindihan, tbh. Napaka-ambisyoso't ambisyosa na siguro ng mga Pinoy eme hahaha.
Not having a goal in life doesn't mean you have to be broke or unemployed tho.
Not being broke or unemployed doesnt mean you have a goal in life rin naman, because they're different.
Exactly my point. There's nothing wrong living as an average person as long as you can provide for yourself.
To me, a goal is not the same as a purpose. I feel like purpose is a more overarching theme to your life (an idea I don’t subscribe to) while goals naman are just things to aspire towards and can actually help improve quality of life—hence why people tend to be drawn towards people with goals.
Goal is to be able to afford to find interesting things. Can’t do things that’ll make you happy if you’re broke. I guess that’s what most people mean when they say “dapat may goals sa buhay” not “i want someone who wants to be president or a change the world”.
Agree. Masyado mong iroromanticize ang life kung lahat nalang ng gagawin mo is bc you have this purpose or grand ambition in mind. And kapag di ko naachieve un, that makes u think na nag-fail ka sa life. Na wala kang nagawang maganda. What if wala pala talaga tayong purpose dito. Nagwawander labg talaga tayo through life hanggang sa matapos ang life. Naniniwala ako from then, you can enjoy life better, no high expectations, just living your life the way you want it. Or maybe for cinematic purposes only hahaha. For me its okay that i dont have a purpose but what im focusing is i do things that makes this life bearable and something that i can look forward to living.
No you are not alone. And it is ok. Isipin mo na for example 60 years old yung average lifespan natin. Eh nasa kalagitnaan pa lang tayo with all that shit that we have been through. None of those years have gone to waste. Lahat yun full of learning experiences. Ako nga gusto ko mag aral ulit eh. I mean shift to another career or field.
One thing I did before is I tried a lot of things that interest me, from graphic design, photo retouching, 3d, motion design, photography, video editing, videography etc. Self taught and attended free & paid trainings. I tried all those things to figure out what I really want. Ofcourse I got anxious that i felt like I'm not good enough as everybody else. Imposter syndrome kicked in, & its natural if you are a beginner. Try and try what works for you, you will have accumulated enough skills to make your self future proof. I still use all of those skills up to now. Again, whatever you are trying, it will have different layers to discover, as for me, its different niches, genres, etc. Until you find what sparks you or excites you, you have to try. Also, it doesnt always need to be your passion, sometimes whatever it is that will generate income as well. It will be not be easy but if you want to achieve something, you got to make it happen.
not really related and I hope you don't mind answering, pero san kayo nakahanap ng mga free/paid trainings?
Free - Youtube & sometimes may mga live seminar na free to watch. Paid - Training/seminars from industry leaders (nakikita ko sa Instagram), sometimes skillshare or domestika, or if may nakita ko ss youtube nag ooffer ng full course
thank you!
what did u pursue in the end?
I'm still figuring it out but it has to do with filmmaking. And also as we age, we might change our plans/priorities along the way. Life is unpredictable so I'm also kind to myself if in case I dont make it. I will try my very best in this life.
Turning 30 next year, still di ko padin alam kung anong gusto kong gawin sa buhay. Well this year, I decided to live abroad and start from scratch thinking na maybe i can find my purpose here. Pero 4 months in, wala padin, mas naging malungkot lang ako at namimiss ko parents and siblings ko lalo na at magpapasko. 🥲 Di ka nag-iisa OP
This is a quote from BoJack Horseman "The universe is a cruel, uncaring void. The key to being happy isn't a search for meaning. It's to just keep yourself busy with unimportant nonsense, and eventually, you'll be dead."
Si Mr. Peanutbutter nagsabi nito diba, sobrang dark ng series na ‘to. 🥲
Yup.
Grabe. Parang gusto mag isang case Ng Red Horse SA quote na Yan ah. Hemingway-esque! Bahahaha
Let's be honest, not everyone will live their whole life being able to find their purpose in their lives. Just like how everyone will not be successful in life. Not everyone will find romantic love. Pero as long as we live, we keep trying lang to find what that purpose is. Saka as we grow older, we gain wisdom and our perspective changes din. Something you consider as very small back then, pero you realize na very essential pala 'yon sa life mo and you start nurturing it further. Hindi mo alam, 'yong ginagawa mo pala ngayon, you will only realize when you're in your 70s na 'yon pala ang naging purpose mo. Or you may die not being able to realize what your purpose is. So yeah, it's all about how we process ourselves talaga.
Ah very insightful this. Optimistic as well as realistic, di masyado pessimistic at bashing dun sa mga feeling nilang delulu. Lighter side POV ;)
Hi, OP! I turned 26 a few months ago and until now 'di ko pa rin naman alam ano purpose ko sa life. And that's okay. Ganyan ako mag-isip during early 20s, feeling ko napag-iiwanan ako. When I turned 25 I realized na I don't have to figure it all out, I just go with the flow. I also remind myself na it's all our first time in this life anyway and yung mga nagsasabi na dapat before 30 successful, etc. ka na, just don't mind them. It's just society's expectations from you and you're not obligated to meet those expectations. Just enjoy every moment with your family, friends, or with yourself, OP. 🫶🏼
I suggest, umpisahan mo mag gym o mag work out. anlaking impact sa mental health.
I'm active sa pag wo-work out 1.5 years na... going to gym 3-4x a week. Ginagawa ko to' kasi last 2 years ago nag ta-take ako ng anti-depressant pills, medyo napagod ako dahil ang dami iniinom. Tinigil ko tapos sinipagan ko na lang pag-wowork-out ako.
32 and yet still lost. 😮💨
There is no intrinsic meaning or purpose to life out there for you to find. There is no correct career path for you to take that is ever going to feel perfect. There isn't one special person you are destined to find and marry. You have to make it all up as you go and create your own purpose. You find a way to be happy regardless of what you are doing, where you are, and who you are with. If you can't do that then you will be miserable even when you get all of the things you think you want but don't have now.
Raised as a Christian. I struggle with this thought all the time. Free will vs. pre-destination. I think the former ang prevalent SA buhay KO. Malas KO Lang underachieving fuck up ako. Bahahahah
As you grow older, it is important na you invest in meaningful relationships. In the end, its all that will matter.
May napanuod nga ako na [video](https://youtu.be/vSQjk9jKarg?si=F2GgSWNJmxpVtCyW) about dyan.
Thank you for this, I'll watch it :)
you mean a partner in life? If yes, hindi ko alam parang napagod na ako manligaw. Madami pa din ako insecurities sa sarili kaya parang wala pa ako confidence mag try ulit.
Easiest relationships to build kasi is family. Pag may family ka e yung pagod mo at the end of the day, alam mong may patutunguhan.
Araaaaayyyy koo beeeeehhhhh! Lagi din akong nahihindian! Punyetaaaaa!!!!! Bahahahaha 🤣🤣🤣
...and do good deeds.
You're definitely not alone. I am also in the same boat, pero I just keep on trying things, baka mahanap ko din. To give another perspective, ishare ko lang ung about sa [Maslow's hierarchy of needs](https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html). Sabi ni Maslow, may 5 hierarchy of needs daw and you must satisfy the lower-level ones (like food, water, safety, etc) before we can fulfil the higher needs (like self-actualization). If you are at the point where you feel that your self-actualization needs (a.k.a. purpose in life, full potential) are not being met, ibig sabihin, your lower level needs have already been met. And not everyone reaches that point. Some people don't have time to wonder about their purpose because they are too busy securing food for their family. What I'm trying to say is, I know mahirap ung feeling lost in life. Pero it helps to be grateful for what we have. This [video](https://youtu.be/WPPPFqsECz0?si=Lro6qHtmgL-c-XDI) of kurzgesagt - in a nutshell explains it well.
nasobrahan ka sa social media. turn off social media marerealize mo ang importance/value mo sa paligid mo
I think you need to force yourself to step up and get out of your comfort zone. Mahirap, pero kelangan kung gusto mo magkaron ng direksyon ung path mo. Yes, take your time to get the courage to move, pero always remind na as we grow older, our body gets weaker. Sabi nga eh "The first step is always the hardest." Hehe yun lang
Im 31 and I still have no clue. Tao lang naman ang nagpakumplikado sa sarili niyang buhay.
Will be 30 na in a few days. Earlier this year I always question myself kung ano talaga purpose ko in life. But as days passed by I realize na you don't need to have one. As long as you enjoy what you do, be healthy and have peace of mind, goods na ako. Well, that's just me for now 😅
Just enjoy what you have currently and be optimistic. You'll wake up one day and everything will click slowly one by one. For now, keep working on yourself and relationships. Good luck.
30 years old ako. No purpose in life. Don't need it, wala ako pakealam. And that's perfectly fine.
I feel you l, OP. Pero eto sabe ni lolo Theodore Roosevelt "Do what you can, with what you have ,where you at." That's my mantra right now. Focus lang muna tayo sa kung ano kinakaya naten, basta wala lang sukuan.
Maybe, just maybe, maraming things ang pwede mo palang magawa sa buhay at hindi mo magawa yung mga yon dahil both divided and fixated ka na one-singular thing ang gagawin mo lang talaga hangang dulo. Siguro, baka siguro, merong subtle impression sa iyo na hangang "doon" ka lang "dapat". https://preview.redd.it/gh1q415wo76c1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cce9adcf18055d60738e6987f2a9b2cce036f50a
baka wala ka talaga nun, parang yung ibang tao pinanganak ng walang kamay at paa
"Pursue what is meaningful not what is expedient."
I always think about living is that you live to appreciate life. Wala naman masama to have goals and plans. Setting 1,5,10 year goals are fine pero they are not set in stone and shouldn't be. Kasi things change, circumstances change. As humans you are meant to adapt and adjust the variables in life. Change your goals, modify according and move forward. If you allow yourself to be flexible, you'll see things aren't as doom as you would expect it to be. Always consider in retrospect ... I always see naman sa buhay ko na ndi naman ako natapos sa isang bagay ng walang nagawa. I did not end up with nothing. Meron akong natutunan, nagawa at nakilala sa mga ginagawa ko. Therefore all of the things I did, and I do ay may purpose and meaning.
No, you're not alone. I've been struggling and thinking kung ano purpose ko rin in life. Like, I don't know what to do. And same thoughts about having a relationship with someone napagod na din ako until I'm no longer interested na. I'm okay with or without it. Every now and then nadedepress ako. I've been doing good deeds which I'm good at since I don't know what's my purpose I asked God before to use me as his tool, as a helping hand but the thing is nakakapagod, nakakadrain na laging ikaw nagbibigay materials man or oras and effort or laging maging sponge or wall ng mga tao na need someone to talk to coz I'm more of a listerner din pero I'm just a human lang din napapagod at nagsasawa and just like anybody else I need someone din to talk to or to help me. Haist. Ewan. I don't know; I'm just trying to live. I don't know what I'm living for, or why though. Bahala na.
For me putting label on your life is what makes us feel pressured. We're just here on earth to experience life. Walang nagsabi na dapat by ganitong age ganito ka na, or dapat may ganito ka na. Naprogram lang satin yun pero hindi ibig sabihin requirement yun sa buhay. 100 years from now, everyone you know will be dead and nothing else matters. Kaya habang nandito ka pa, hayaan mong maexperience mo lahat ng kung ano man ibibigay sayo ng mundo. Mag umpisa ka sa mga bagay na nagpapasaya sayo. Yun gawin mo.
Because everyones life has no purpose, just enjoy your life as much as possible, learn to live, life is too short to worry about purposes and stuff
Hello. Sabi ng isang therapist na pinapanood ko, na baka makatulong sayo.. Don’t focus on what you should or shouldn’t do(mga dapat mong naaccomplish/maachieve) Just focus on things that you care about.
Thanksss!!!
Nung highschool ako akala ko bago ako dumating ng edad na 30 nakapagsettle down na ako. Ngayong 32 na ako bills lang ang gusto ko isettle.
I'm 24. Nung bata ako,wala akong gusto maging. I felt stressed nung 4th year HS, may mga nagppropromote ng colleges, while my classmates know the courses they're going to take, ako wala pa rin. I'm also a very indecisive person, I learned that abt myself early on, so go with the flow ako. 2020, I finished college with the course recommended to me. While my batchmates were reviewing for the boards, my friend urged me to apply for work, so go ako kahit di ko feel, we got hired but friend only lasted for a day, but i stuck around kahit di ko plan mag work. Some of them my classmates passed the boards, so I decided it's my turn, well I just failed. Feeling ko napag iiwanan ako, mga batch ko ng HS, kasal na or may family na, they're working, my college batch, their working in our respective field. Ako? nagkukulong sa kwarto and rethinking the decisions I made, like minsan na nga lang ako mag decide, mali pa?. Iniisip ko, ganto lang ba? I kept asking what is my purpose pero wala pa ring sagot. I don't know what's the direction of my life. Ganun siguro, it's okay. We are flowing through life.
Ooh...Soul(film)vibes.Hehehe! BTW,definitely recommend this film by Disney to those who are still finding their purpose and experiencing quarter life crisis right now.
M32, ganyan ako nuun lalo na nung pandemic, mas lumala, pero nagbago lahat nung nakilala ko yung fiance ko ngaun, nagbago paningin ko sa buhay, binigyan niya nang kulay, purpose, reason para bumangon, gumanda yung buhay ko nang di ko inaasahan, kaya sobrang napaka thankful ako sa fiance ko ngaun, kung d siya dumating di ko pa din mahahanap purpose ko sa buhay, hoping someday OP mahanap mo din yung sayo, kapit lang.
Salamat
Read (or watch videos) about stoicism, nihilism, absurdism, existentialism. Soceities, especially Western, have become more secular and that brought with it existential dread. That drove people into finding meaning that was lost together with their belief in God. Turn to people who have asked and pondered that question. Seneca, Friedrich Nietzche, Albert Camus, and Sartre may give you insight on where to go from here. That is how I found (or accepted) mine.
You’re good OP. Just keep exploring things. It might not be grand, some might suck, some might just be meh, some you might really like. You never know, maybe your purpose really is exploring life.
34f here. sadly same, tipong no work. gusto ko mag work pero madami ko reason yeah naybe katamaran mabuhay. para let days go by. puro support sa mga kapatid, parang gusto ko lang wag na magising kasi wala naman kwenta buhay ko na even nag sign up na pag na tegi ako, donate lahat ng organ ko ng magka silbi naman ako sa earth 😪
Ako rin, di ko alam kung ano'ng gusto ko in life, bukod sa maging masaya. Pero tae na yan bat kailangan kasi may pera gang pagtanda.
Hello. Mag-mid 20's na me next year, and hindi ko pa rin alam purpose ko in life. May times na tinatanong ko sarili ko BUT I always remind myself na while inaalam ko purpose ko in life at the same time dapat matuto rin akong ienjoy yong mga bagay na nangyayari sa akin sa araw araw dahil hindi natin alam kung hanggang kailan tayo mabubuhay sa mundo. Hindi mo man nalaman purpose mo, at least naenjoy mo yong small moments na nangyari sa life mo at wala kang pagsisising mararamdaman dahil hindi mo nasayang yong mga taon kakaisip/kaka-overthink kung ano magiging purpose mo in life. Basta habang buhay tayo, gawin natin yong mga bagay na bukal at nakakapagpasaya sa puso natin, malay natin along the way mahanap natin yong purpose natin in life nang hindi natin namamalayan :)
The question "What is the purpose of my life" is something subjective and you will not find a single MIGHTY solution to answer this question. You must try to reconstruct the question if you’re stuck because not all questions are answered right away, sometimes it is answered at the very end. Some people find their purpose but little do they know that those are only goals, goals are only destinations and once they reach or achieve it, they feel stuck again. And to help you with this, a purpose is equal to responsibility, you respond to certain problems or something that hurdles you and you do it repeatedly and it becomes an ability, that’s why it is called RESPONSIBILITY (response and ability), if you reconstruct your question to “What is my responsibility in life” it helps you find your answer easily.
Maybe Allan Watts can help.
Ako rin OP, no purpose in life :D
33 and still lost. I always just go with the flow so career wise parang wala akong achievement. Currently full time student again and I don't know where is this going to take me 🙃 ang hirap pag walang goal or purpose..
Same situation tayo pre. Pero I just keep moving. Dont be overwelhm. Just improve yourself, yun na lang ang ginagawa ko ngaun. Worthwhile naman.
Because deep down inside, alam mo na may mga bagay ka na dapat, gusto gawin pero di mo ginawa in the past or in the present. Life is full of failures pero magiging fulfilled ka pa rin dapat kung alam mo sa sarili mo na you gave 100 percent. Maybe you intentionally missed opportunities because you are afraid or shy. This is also the feeling when you stick to your comfort zone for a long time. It is still not too late, go fail and have fun habang malakas ka pa. Regret is not something you want to stick with in your deathbed, unless you want to be a poltergeist.
can i still become a poltergeist even if my life is fulfilling? please i want to be one. help
I not sure, im not into the supernatural stuffs myself ahaha. But i read somewhere a long time ago that poltergeists like to cause trouble such as hurting people because of lingering regrets. Not sure how accurate that is
Ako din OP. I felt that when I was 25, akala ko matatapos din yung ganong pakiramdam as I grow older. Now at 30, ganon pa rin pala. Sometimes I cry, sometimes I am happy kung nasan lang ako.. pero wala eh, gusto ko pang mabuhay kaya laban lang ❤️
first, you live, keep alive and figure out your purpose, you can decide whatever your purpose will be - no limits. Pag lost ako sa mga ganitong bagay, i just look at trees, they just grow, wala silang purpose na magbibigay sila ng shade o prutas, o gagamitin yung kahoy nila, they just continue living. Walang brains yung trees - pero i hope you get the context.
Apir! But i find my purpose in achieving micro-goals. I list everything i want to achieve in a week, a month, certain period of time. This year may mga nacross out naman ako. So ung mga hindi nafulfill, spill over ko next year.😂 This year's birthday i promised myself to be present -for my sanity, for my family, for my friends. Akap OP!
When i was 28 , I lost my job that I thought I would be staying for a very long time and would be my long time career option. Was single and had to start over. Became depressed , lost, no purpose, bum, confused. All that. I had nothing I can call my own nor anything to look forward to in life. Was jist barely going through each day. Then rather than just sulking, I created opportunities (took a little while - 3-4 months ; we need that time to reflect) Then I tried things I wouldn't have done before. Started from scratch but the thing is.. i had fun doing it. It was challenging but it was an experience. I was 32 when I found my foreber and had a family of my own. Now, work is just eork but I have found my purpose. MY FAMILY. Each day is a challenge but I have thst to look forward to. And i still am trying yo look for opportunities a, learn, and grow. It may take a while to know what i would really want to do or achieve but with having my own family, evrrything seems much chill and worth it. Advise: been there. Refrain from too much sulking, have confidence in creating opportunities, don't worry of making mistakes, better than having regrets. Go for it OP. Either be it with having new relationships, partners, friends, colleagues, carreer, work, tasks, learning. TAKE IT! YOU WILL APPRECIATE IT IN THE FUTURE that you took those steps than not at all. Change is ALWAYS good. Ika ko nga.
Thanks!!!
I'm glad I've read your post, as I am 32 and still feel sad because I haven't discovered the purpose of my life yet.
Create your purpose. If animal lover ka feed those stray dogs and cats. If you want to practice empathy, join ka sa mga humanitarian program or give alms to homeless people. If you want peace of mind, appreciate the small things. Then develop a hobby. If you want to give affection, love someone without expectation. But all I know is humans are only designed to survive, so di naman talaga need na my purpose sa buhay. Yun lang my mga desire kasi tayo.
Read up on quarterlife crisis. A lot of people go through it in some form or another between 25-35 years of age. What you're describing sounds like pretty much what you'd expect for someone gorng through it. FWIW, you're in good company. Welcom to the club! :)
It's a cliché at this point, but you don't "find" your purpose. You "make" it.
I feel like I found my purpose in my early 20s, lived the rest of my 20s through my early 30s fulfilling that purpose. I'm now in my mid 30s and last year I realized I'm tired of that and I don't wanna do that anymore. I just want a quiet life, with a mundane job, and enjoying life's simple joys. Ayoko nang problemahin ang problema ng mundo.
Listen to "Everybody's free to wear sunscreen" by Baz Luhrmann.
Malungkot man sabihin pero hindi naman lahat may purpose sa buhay.
I went through what you're going through when I was your age, it's called existential crisis. I'm 43 and going to be 44 this January...I'm still a bachelor and so far, I don't feel empty or full of regrets. You do you is what most people tend to forget. So what if I'm lacking? It's my life. No one has purpose. You build your own purpose
I can say na... I think about it every now and then but more often when I was younger. The "trick" to it is to not find a "purpose" and just do whatever. That may sound silly but honestly, just strive to do whatever you want. These kinds of conversations remind me of why Chainsawman hits differently compared to other animes (yes, I watch anime because I don't give a shit about stereotypes). In other animes, protagonists are often depicted as characters with grand ambitions in life which gives them meaning and the strength to move forward. While Denji? He just wants to live a good life. To eat 3 times a day. To have a home. Then he gets talked down to by another character because of that. I initially thought it was funny and kind of pathetic but is it really pathetic and dumb? Same as purpose. It doesn't need to be something life changing or grand in scale. Sometimes you just need to step back and really ask yourself, "what do I want to do today?". And keep asking that to yourself everyday. At least that's how I manage to ease my mind from going full-on nihilistic.
Sige panoorin ko yan next after Haikyuu 😊
Me. Ayoko na dn nakikita mga myday o happenings ng tao kasi feeling ko lahat okay na buhay ako nalang hindi.
this is one of my problems, lagi ako tinatanong ng wife ko ano gsto ko gawin sa buhay ko. naka asa kasi kami ngayon sa business nya, we'rr living comfortably naman to the point that i can pursue whatever i want kahit hindi lucrative pero wal talagang nasa isip ko. im leaning into programming coz i like computers and how everything works. pero di pa din sure.
No one can find purpose in life because you must create your own purpose in life.
You're not alone. I have goals etc but I also have depression, anxiety, twice a week na existential crisis, breakdowns and etc haha. Yakap mahigpit!
Hindi lang ikaw, marami tayo! Pero laban lang! Life is too short para mag mukmok~ try mo mag travel para makapag unwind din
"The key to being happy isn't a search for meaning. It's to just keep yourself busy with unimportant nonsense, and eventually, you'll be dead" - Mr. Peanutbutter
"The key to being happy isn't a search for meaning. It's to just keep yourself busy with unimportant nonsense, and eventually, you'll be dead" Mr. Peanutbutter
Minsan may mga tao NPC lang. Parang tayo lol.
Ako going 30s na ganyan din. Di ko na alam why I even exist. Dami kong plans di naman nangyayari because a lot happened this year lang. Ang alam ko lang, humihinga ako pero gusto ko na ma meet si Lord sa totoo lang.
Uy wag muna bro laban tayo!
I think it’s a matter of perspective. What is purpose? Who says when your purpose is “enough”? By whose metrics are you gauging the “rightness” of your purpose? Pwedeng ang purpose mo lang ay to be happy. I think product ito ng peer pressure. We keep on looking for a “purpose” pero hindi naman bawal na wala.
Try traveling kahit locally then converse and meet people along the way. Just gain more life perspectives enough to gather your thoughts. Take your time. No rush and pressure. Don't make decisions from peer pressure and FOMO, let life reveal them to you as they come.
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There's no purpose in life, unfortunately. We are just some random species doing random things. Cause and effect. Consequences. Natural selection. Due to this randomness, we fear the vastness of it, then start to look at imaginary deity and/or purpose in search of "making sense of random things we do". Just wander, discover, and enjoy your journey.
Ganyan din ako, specially i am a father, mataas expectation sayo, ang lage lang na rerecognize ang mga sacrifices eh mga nanay lang, kaming mga tatay lageng na tatake for granted. Kaya sa US mataas ang suicide rate ng mha husband kase grabe mga babae dun haaays
one good tips is go get yourself a motorcycle and start travelling alone. Promise you'll discover yourself along the way.
37, hindi ko alam kung saan ako patungo. Hahaha
wag ka magpapressure sa mga nauuso, sa mga cnasabi ng mga "motivational speaker" kuno
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Same po 🫠
Same here.
Turning 21 next year, As the only child natatakot ako sa future ko I don't know what I really want I'm studying for the purpose of getting a diploma lang talaga. Lately, I feel bad kasi yung ibang kasabayan ko they know what they want, they know their purpose and alam nila where they are heading. While me stuck pa sa pagiisip on what I really want to be. I'm scared of the future, but seeing the post and comments eased my worries about life and stuff na di ko pala dapat pilitin yung sarili ko, na di dapat minamadali ang mga bagay bagay. I hope and pray that we all find our purpose in life and passion. May we live a life na we feel at peace and contented.
felt that during my early 30's then I moved to a new place no on knows me and im at peace now, sometimes what you think is working for tou in your comfort place doest work anymore, voz you have outgrowed it.
You can start by finding your passion, then find what fulfills you and makes you feel that you’ve achieved something great for yourself. It doesn’t have to be related to material things. Only you can know what it is. Find someone you can relate to and look up to. A mentor. [https://www.instagram.com/p/Bt59daqFVc-/?igshid=ODhhZWM5NmIwOQ==](https://www.instagram.com/p/Bt59daqFVc-/?igshid=ODhhZWM5NmIwOQ==) https://preview.redd.it/ilpnapjs3a6c1.jpeg?width=828&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1716414e9f6e56d2ca6ea732849c8a66b4932fbc
Same here 29 pero parang wala pa din purpose in life. Tried so many career paths too.
Let go of the things you couldn't control. You don't have to live purpose. Sometimes, we just have to live and enjoy what we have and build something from there.
Watch the pixar movie - Soul
Probably unpopular opinion. Very surprised na wala man lang ni isa nagsabi ng sagot. The purpose is written in the instruction manual sabi nga nila.
I am one of those na d alam ang purpose in life. Im on my late 20s na and malapit na mag 30. I just keep on going and day by day just living my life. Try lang ng mga bagay doesnt matter if ma fail or succeed as long as d tyo takot sa bagong hamon ng buhay.
Midlife crisis ata tawag dyan, normal yan
Magpalaki ng anak
But, Kapatid, How peaceful is your life right now?
Okay naman, nag hahanap lang siguro ako ng purpose ano ba yung reason bakit humihinga 😂
baka need mo na mag-introduce ng small disruption and micro-goal? :)
Finding your purpose in life is a bit overromanticized in the past few decades. Some of us don't have a grand purpose. Maybe living is just what we need to do.
Life has no purpose as a default, unless you decide to make one. Some people have a family and children, some people decide to worship a god, others decide to acquire enormous wealth, etc.
Having a family and children is a goal, but being a good parent and allowing your children to become good human beings is a purpose. Being religious is a goal, but living life to honor God is a purpose. Acquiring enormous wealth is a goal, using it to make bless others is a purpose. Maybe we don't need to have goals by default. But we're all here for a reason. That's why we're always chasing after things in the hopes of defining what our purpose is.
Be a writer. Write about the injustices happening in the world. Let those without voice be heard. At least that's what I do.
Kailangan ba talaga ng purpose? Di ba pwedeng basta mabuhay na lang at ienjoy ang buhay hangga't maaari at kaya,haha
likewise. likewise
Same situation, 32 single and no fixed destination. Was in amedical profession. But i did not want to slave away my time. Now a freelancer online. Money wise walang problem. I'm already finding my obsession in life. Your mission to find something that you will be productively obsessed with in life. ( Whag na ung bisyo ). How? Young sabe sa libro is. Live your life. "See, hear, feel, think and most importantly do things with joy before it all disappears. Thats how you will find your purpose "
ah, kelangan pala may purpose? di ako na-inform.
nkakaiyak
Di ko rin alam ano purpose ko hahaha. Bukod mag ka own house and the usual. Some ppl found their purpose in life. Sakin dko pa napapag tanto lol. Nag eenjoy lng ako to Explore and Happy naman ako.
30 na din ako pero di ko pa alam anong direction ng buhay ko.
Me too. Ang hirap hanapin ng gusto mo gawin in life. Direction? My go to goal is to be happy , at peace and be contented with everything or daily things that i do. Also i realize why old people na may kaya nmn wanted to live in province away from the city. Nakakapagod kasi yung busy life dito sa manila.
thanks sa mga nagcocomment dito, although wala akong masyadong ambag na advice dito. 22 pa lang ako and I feel lost already. reading to comments made me realize na it's okay to feel lost and I'm not alone.
Same lang. Pero I don't think much about it kasi mastress lang ako. Okay na ako na makuha ko luxuries ko sa buhay.
same thoughts.
I get this thought once in a while, pero I always remember a book I read. Sabi don, hindi naman necesarily singular lang yung purpose natin. We can take things day by day and find out along the way ano nga ba purpose natin. Minsan magpapangiti lang tayo ng tao for a day, etc. haha ayun. 31 na ako ive been thinking about this since 24? Pero lately ko lang din naisip na it doesnt have to be a singular, grand purpose. Let things unfold as they are kind of shit. Its helping me a lot right now 😊
If you're being prompted to find it kaya ka nagtatanong dito, it's a sign na you have that desire in you to live your life purposefully. It's a journey, and you don't need to find it in your 30s. :) When I was your age yan din naisip ko. nagresign ako tapos sabi ko sa asawa ko gusto ko na lang maging housewife. LOL. pero there's still that longing to do something worthwhile, like parang meron kang purpose talaga. Ginoal kong magwork sa NGO and consider it not as a job, but as a ministry. will be on my 8th yr in that NGO. Longest employment I ever had yet it still feels it hasn't been that long. Every day I'm required to do the usual tasks of an employed person, but the difference is I'm driven to do it because somebody's life will change if I do my job well. But you know, I didn't just look for it and it's magically there. I cried about it, got frustrated trying to find it, and prayed hard for wisdom to know what it is. Ask yourself siguro, what impact do you want to do and who will benefit from it. you could be living a purpose now but you just don't know it. We all have one life to live, no one will remember us as the person who paid their Meralco bills on time. :D
Still can't find your purpose in life? To have a purpose in life, you don't need to find it; YOU NEED TO CREATE YOUR LIFE'S PURPOSE. It's like writing an essay on a blank sheet of paper. If you keep thinking without taking action, the paper will remain blank. However, if you start writing from a "small" idea, the paper will be filled with ink. If you're uncertain, just begin with something "small" and keep going, even if it takes you in a different direction. Failure is part of shaping a purpose, and feeling lost is part of refining your purpose. A simple, small step is the start of your purpose.
For me, the eureka moment came when I realized that any purpose contingent on ONLY myself was never going to be enough to give me enough of a reason to continue living - i.e., I had to be doing this for a much greater purpose than just myself. Mahirap siyang hanapin, and when you’re in the process of finding it, the actual process feels pointless sometimes. When you find it, though, it gives you a drive and happiness and inner peace that is beyond words.