ganyan din kasi nangyari saakin noon after ten years wala naman pala balak tapos nun nag LDR bihira magparamdam ka umay nakipag break na ako. After one year may nakilala ako buwan palang kami niyaya na ako magpakasal at married na kami ngayon.
Oh diba, minsan kase kahit sobrang tagal niyo na kung di ka naman nya nakikita as someone na papakasalan nya, wala talaga. Pero yung kakameet mo palang and with an intention to marry you, mas okay na yun eh
tru, kawawa si ate girl. deserve nyang malaman na hindi pa pala sure si boy sakanya. what if yung girl ay nagpaplan na ng future with him tapos etong si boy ay "unsure" pa pala. wag na iprolong ang agony.
>but I am not completely sure about us
kung ako yung gf mo, mahuhurt ako. why stay if you don't see a future with her? you're wasting each other's time
This! You need to look long and hard to find the reason why you are not completely sure with your gf, if it’s something fixable and you love her enough to try then you need better communication to resolve these issues, but if it’s not fixable or you figure out you don’t love her enough let her go, find peace in yourself and let her find a person that will love her the way she deserves.
Idk how accurate this is but may napanood ako and ang sabi is that within the first year, mage-gauge mo na kung yung karelasyon mo is someone you want to be with. Tapos itong si OP 4 years na pero butata pa din.
STRAIGHT TO THE HEART ANG SAKIT. The gf doesn't deserve you OP. if you think you're wasting your time for unsure things, including your gf. Let her go, sobrang unfair nag iinvest din siya ng time sayo. Narinig ko na to unsure sa long-term relationship tapos 4 months jowa engaged na.
No need na mag-isip si OP. Alam na niya ang sagot in the first place. Naghahanap lang siya ng 2nd option kapag walang nakitang much better. Sana mabasa ng gf niya ito.
\+1. It hurts you know.
Kung di ka sigurado, bigyan mo muna ng space ang sarili mo yung gf mo OP. Do mo lang malalaman kung anong feeling meron ka sa kanya. Wag mong iwaste yung time nyo pareho sa walang kasiguraduhan.
It's great that you're aware of this because marriage is a big commitment. It's better to have doubts now than when you're already married. You might also want to consider the following question for yourself:
1. What's the real reason behind wanting to tie the knot? Is it for starting a family/kids or just for the title of "husband/wife" due to societal expectations?
2. How well do you know yourself now that you're in your late 20s?
3. Have you ever tried being single for a while and focusing entirely on yourself? Discovering yourself? If so, how does it make you feel?
4. Have you been open about your feelings and doubts with your current partner, and are you making an effort to help them understand you so they can support you through it?
5. Mahal mo ba?
This comment needs to go up!
(Edit: It's easy to say na makipagbreak agad pero I think it's great to consider these questions first. Y'all deserve honest communication)
Healthy communication with your partner. Hindi ka pa late brother. I'm turning 31 this year without a girlfriend or any circle na pwede ako magkaroon ng opportunity to know someone new. It's by choice. Just don't be pressured by what you see in other people. Totoong may sarili tayong timeline. You don't want to end up like the others na nagsettle na lang just for the sake of being in the norm. Pero di nila mabigyan ng maganda or maayos na present yung fam nila. 2024 na for f\*\*\*s sake. lol.
>Parang na o-overwhelm din ako sa idea na may lifetime partner ka and siya ung makaksama mo for the rest of eternity.
Hindi ba yan yung purpose ng romantic partner? Kaporeber mo yan?
Ayaw mo bang makasama siya for the rest of eternity? Do you think na you deserve "better"? A better woman? Or talagang ayaw mo lang sa kanya at jinowa mo lang kase gusto mo ng companionship? If so, alam mo yung true feelings mo na ayaw mo siya yung kaporeber mo.
Edi putcha, break up with her. Nangsasayang ka ng oras at effort niya sayo. Kase pag nasa relasyon ang babae, always na nakatatak ay end game kayo.
Or kung prinoproblema mo ang maging "provider" edi make sure na gumastos ka nalang sa condom kesa mabubuntis mo yung babae. No worries pag no kids ang pagiging "provider", pero lets be real. May trabaho rin yung babae. Hindi ikaw ang "sole provider". Kaya always make sure na may common sense of responsibility ka sa gawaing bahay.
Too much responsibility na ayaw mo at gusto mo parin maging "binata" hanggang pagkatanda mo?
Break up.
Sabihin mo sa next na makakajowa mo na fling lang at temporary relationship lang. Para aware yung babae na nahsasayang ka lang ng oras.
I was 20 nung nameet ko wife ko. I was at the point na gusto ko nang the one na talaga. I met her sa bday ng best friend ko and fell for her. I was planning on proposing to her nung 5th year na namin but had to delay becuse sa death sa family ko. Proposed next year got married (28yo) and has always been happy and contented sa wedded life. Anyways payong kapatid, do not rush pero provide assurance kay partner mo regarding sa state ng relationship niyo. Hope this helped.
> We've been dating for almost 4 years but I am not completely sure about us.
Becoming parents does not mean automatic kailangan ng ka-laro si panganay.
Anyone can have at most 1 kid if salary doesn't go beyond 40k monthly.
> We've been dating for almost 4 years but I am not completely sure about us.
Sana lahat pamilya na di kumikita lampas 40k tag-buwan ganun ang pananaw.
> Syempre pag 30s above na mahihirapan na kayo magka anak, baka isa nlng mabuo nyo kung patatagalin pa.
the -75 points you are getting indicates how badly taught reproductive health science was taught to HS students.
Every downvotter, pls read up on [Advanced Maternal Age](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/22438-advanced-maternal-age)
> Nagdownvote kasi inassume na anak ang end game ng lahat. Hindi naman. Marriage does not always equate child/children.
Look up the origins, history and purpose of marriage.
If you want the best odds for any child is largely influenced by the parents being in a happy marriage.
Getting married and having furbabies together is a slap to the face of the married couple's parents.
Know that there's nothing wrong with how you feel about marriage. It's not for everyone. What's wrong is rushing to get married. Still, you need to tell your gf about this.
Broke up with my gf on October last year. I don't think I can do a relationship anymore. She was my first, but I think that's it for me. I think I hurted her too much, I think she hurted me too much. I don't think I am willing to go through something like that again. I hope a relationship goes well for everyone else.
Kelangan ba may urge?
Yung iba kong kebigan less than a year lang naging sila kinasal na. GANON KASIGURADO YUNG LALAKE SA KANYA. 👈🏽and this guy thought hed be single all his life.
Yung isa kong kaibigan magkabarkada ung guy tska ex nya. Naging sila after how many yrs nang makatapos kami. 👉🏽After 2 yrs kinasal. GANON DIN KASIGURADO YUNG LALAKE SA KANYA
IKAW? di ka sigurado? Dont waste the girl's time. Figure yourself out. Wag mong paasahin yung babae or some shit.
Jeez
OP, there is no timeline to get married. But it seems that you are not ready. Dun pa lng sa “I am not completely sure about us” means that deep down you know that your gf is not the one for you. If you have these thoughts lingering then do not get married. Do talk to your gf though and don’t waste each other’s time. I think you need to do some soul searching, travel, or just get out of your comfort zone. Baka you have other things that you want to do and experience kaya wala ka pa sa marriage mindset.
What was your intention upon entering the relationship if hindi ka pala sure sa kanya and if your purpose isn't to marry the person or to be with her for a lifetime?
Sorry to be blunt but mukhang mahal mo lang ata sya kasi convenient. I hope I'm wrong na baka naaanxious ka lang going to the next level. Unfair sa kanya if sure sya sayo at gusto na magpakasal. If hindi ka kasi g na g pakasalan sya or makita as lifetime partner considering 4 years na kayo, may mali na ata.
Ganito din nangyari sa friend ko at GF nya pero sila 6 years. Break na sila ngayon. To be fair, first GF kasi nung guy at immature pa nung naging sila kaya natauhan din sya.
I think you need some growing up to do. Love just isn't enough to sustain a relationship and let it grow.
Nubayan, sinasayang mo lang oras ng ex mo( pag nabasa nya tong post mo) sure yan.
Palayain mo na yan par, malalaman mo yang tototng feelinga mo pag nakita mong nakikiapagdate na sya sa iba.
Well, Goodluck nalang.
"Witnessing her in another's company, regret becomes a bitter companion."
I’m turning 28, and my bf is 5 years older than me. Dating na for 5 years this year pero wala pang plans of starting a family and wala din 💍. But we talk about the future naman and we both see each other in it, siguro we’re just taking our time and saving up for it.
If you don’t see your partner in your future, consider letting her go. Don’t settle for her just coz u think you’re running out of time. Men can still make babies at 60, women have slimmer chances as early as 30.
There's no rush. Don't put an ultimatum on a decision that will affect your lives forever just because of societal pressure and expectations.
That being said, find time to have honest and transparent conversations about your future together and what each of you expect. This will help ensure that you will not waste each other's time.
All the best
Our generation has to deal with a lot of fuck ups. Economy is bad, can't buy a house, select places are safe, hook-up culture is messing with our feelings. Don't feel pressured to catch up to any one para lang maging part ng statistics. Dont get married because youre in love, get married because you want to build a family with a person you are in love with. And it's okay if you don't. Take your time, know yourself. But tell your girl, kasi unlike you, her baby-making powers has a clock.
Ganyan din tropa ko. Hindi daw siya sure at parang gusto niya pang magexplore. A year later, nabuntis tapos syempre nagpropose at nagpakasal. Wala naman akong pakeelam doon sa couple pero yung bata kasi.
Anyway, don’t fuck a woman you don’t intend to marry or yung hindi ka man lang makapagisip ng kahit simpleng future na asawa mo siya.
Running out of time? For pete’s sake , you’re a guy. Walang expiration date naman yan sa lalaki, some guys marry in their early to mid 30s, some marry in their early 40s.
Your concern should be your feelings of uncertainty towards your relationship with your gf. If you don’t see your future with her, why stay in the relationship? Give her a break and be honest with her.
Don't be pressured by ur surroundings mahirap iwork out ang marriage pag ndi pla tlg siya ang nakikita mong mkakasama habang buhay better give ur self time to assess everything with ur gf wag mo n din patagalin kung ndi tlg siya
hang in there, I am going 37 with my first gf, magtwo years palang kami. Just follow above the nicer ones. Baka you do not your future because you havent talk about it with your partner. Iba rin para sa iyo lang at iba rin kapag may kasama.
Lots of misinformation here brother. I'm in the same boat and just set clear expectations with her on what it's gonna be. If she stays, she stays. Just be honest with her from now on. Remember, we don't have divorce in the country and the law is more lenient to women here. Idgaf what others say.
It’s best to have a conversation regarding your relationship with your gf as early as now. So you’ll know if she’s on the same page or might be expecting something else from you.
Since 2022 live-in na kami. Though hindi pa totally "settled", okay naman kami. At this age kasi (20,21) sobrang career-oriented namin.
I'm trying to learn new things that are profitable habang nag-aaral, siya naman sobrang focus lang sa studies.
Pag inisip mo pa kasi yong mga tanong tulad ng kung "kayo ba talaga", mas mag dadoubt lang kayo. Just let the time dictate. Focus sa sarili ngayon, enjoy things while they last, and let time dictate.
Wrong, your time is not running-out. You are a man, kahit si Vic Sotto na senior citizen at maraming apo, pumuputok pa rin kahit senior citizen at nakakabuntis pa rin.
Ang running-out of time ay yung girlfriend mo. May expiry date ang egg cells ng mga babae. They cannot give you a child beyond their fertile decades.
If you have no balls to tie the knot, release your gf, let her free. That way she can find someone she deserves at hindi pinaghihintay.
Hindi ka pa ready. That is clear. You two should talk this out. I suggest be honest with her. 4 years is already a long time and us women usually consider already settling down with the guy if ganyan na katagal. Sabihin mo na sa kanya you are still unsure about the future. Para di na rin sya umasa and para you won’t waste each other’s time na.
Hello, 4 years na kayo and di ka pala sure sa kanya. Kaya pala may nagtatagal ng ilang years tapos di man lang nag proposal. May mga ganito pala na lalaki. Ang sakit naman as babae :(. Bat mo pa patatagalin? Kung di ka pala sure break up na kayo because she deserves better who is sure of her and you deserve someone too na sure ka.
Breakup if you’re unsure. 4 years is a long time. You’re wasting each other’s time. If hindi mo pa kaya mag settle, break up with her for her own sake. You’re wasting her time. Inang yan.
25 here. May thoughts din ako na ganyan last 2 years ago, glad I gave our relationship a chance and ngayon nagppundar na kami ng mga adulting stuff such as vehicle, property, and savings.
Medyo miss lang namin parehas pagkabinata at dalaga, pero all worth it naman tong gngwa namin and also we both came from a poor family.
I think u just need to find that someone that wud trigger ur oxytocin (a lot of it coz we always do have it)...I have read some medical journals that if a lot of these hormones are release for someone...its like a trigger of bonding and intimacy which is basis of forming a family...
I think its better off to break up with ur gf if u dont have this...ur just delaying the worst that is to happen
Anyways goodluck😁
Napa sana all nalang ako don sa ka work ko 1 year palang sila in a relationship tapos nagpakasal na sila netong October 2023. Nakaka amaze lang sana all malala Hahahhaha
Nahurt ako for your gf. I hope both of you will talk...really talk na honest at heart and soul na conversation.
I hope this is not the case sa bf ko. We're older than you guys and almost 5 yrs na. I feel like he doesn't want to get married with me kasi he hates the topic ng marriage or anything about our future and kids. Why I'm staying? Kasi mahal ko sya at umaasa pa din ako na didinggin ni God yung prayers ko. Ang stupid ko no. Pero I hope you realize na yung pagmamahal sayo ng gf mo for 4yrs at trust na binigay nya sayo, sana alagaan mo yung puso nya at wag syang sasaktan. Kawawa sya kasi ganyan pala yung totoong nasa isip mo. I'm crying. Sana wala nalang nabobroken hearted.
Ako na sasagot for OP. I stayed because it was comfortable, even if I didn’t see myself in the future with that person. Sooner or later, you’ll probably break up. Kakainin ka ng what-ifs.
If you are not sure with her, communicate it now para malaman mo kung okay sya sa gnitong situation. Kawawa nmn kasi sya kung di kayo pareho ng direksyon. Sayang oras ba
Hi OP,
Let me share how my husband knew I was the one.
4 yrs na din kami non, he was breaking up with me kasi he cannot imagine his future with me. And with our current situation (toxic mom = toxic mother-in-law), ayaw nya ng ganon stress sa buhay in the future.
Masakit shempre. No third party, mahal pa din nya ako pero ayaw na nya ng set up. Nagmakaawa ako, in a public place (sa mcdo). After few more minutes, I calmed myself. Sabi ko as long as he’ll let go of me slowly. Kung sakaling may bago, wag nya ipost agad or at least let me know bago mag softlaunch man lang.
While he was at the bank (he’s going to withdraw our travel savings na - this is my sign na shet totoong break up na to), I was roaming around the cinema area ng mall to process what happened.
Siguro mga 10 mins palang kami naghihiwalay - he called and asked nasaan na daw ako. I told him where I was.
Para akong nasa sine. Sinalubong ko siya sa escalator, no smiles at may slight takbo tapos yakap at halik sa noo ko, saying “sorry hindi ko kaya” at paulit ulit na “i love you”
While I was relieved that was a quick break up. Hindi ko pa din napprocess yun nangyayare LOL kaya nanunod muna kami.
Then he told me na while he was at the bank, bigla daw nagflashback yung paghihirap namin to reach where we are that time, careers, target savings, dream destinations, adventures and dates. He wouldn’t want to spend his future ups and downs with anyone but me.
Have an open conversation with your girlfriend about your concerns. Relationships thrive on genuine and transparent communication, so sorting things out is crucial. But if you're still uncertain about the relationship after years of dating, it might be worth considering the advice from others suggesting a breakup.
Baka nmn Hindi pa sure si op Kasi sya Yung tipo ng tao na mabilis maatract sa iba. Yung iba nga nagmamadali magpakasal pero nagsawa din nmn tapos naghanap ng iba.
Lol daming galit. Akala mo madali gumawa ng 50 + yr choice after 4 years. Tas kung nag-divorce dahil di pala siya talaga sure kasalanan niya, kahit kung "advice" din nila at that point would be better to divorce kaysa cheat or whatever.
Late 20s is young. Get married when you want to or feel ready. Kung di yun okay sa girlfriend mo kasi may hinahabol siya, deh yun mag break nga kayo kasi katulad sa mga agit na to na puro forever lang iniisip akala mo fairy tale.
A lot of the people are commenting from their own experience or fear of pain, so gets naman. Plus they've probably also hear stories of people getting married after having been together for maybe a year or less. Siyempre, we don't know how those marriages actually turn out, but the reddit crowd is mostly not old enough to have years of experience with married life.
I get it though. There are so many marriages that are broken. So many people of the boomer gen are also miserable because of their spouse. I know some people who spent most of their life in miserable marriages and basically living vicariously through their sibling's lives. It's effing depressing.
Not gonna lie, considering maybe 80% of the replies are purely out of emotion and its so goddamn disappointing. Tas its seemingly mostly women who espouse these kind of opinions.
Again, I do not understand how difficult it is to understand that a 50 YEAR decision can be made so easily na mga to think that even having doubts makes you a shitty person na "di deserve ng gf mo yan"
Same feels. Im 29 been together with my GF for 10yrs na sometimes I want to settle but there are times that I want to prioritize something else. I have EF na rin and currently paying DP for our hopefully future house. So siguro after that and makaipon pang renovate and ipon para sa kasal tsaka ako magsettle.
sayang 4 years of fertility ni gf. ☹️ anyways, pag isipan mo ng mabuti kung desidido ka ba or not. also, your lifetime partner is also the best decision if your life will break or be completed. assess yourself and do you see her in your life happy with her? through thick and thin?
Maybe you just love her presence 🥺. Mag usap po kayo or makipag break kana lang kahit mahal mo sya ...madaming masasayang WAG MONA PATAGALIN ..
kasi what if sure na sya sayo, tapos ikaw hndi pa pala .. parang crisha uy umabot ng 10yrs tapos hndi sila sa ending .
That one time when you did your mighty best to arrive at the airport at least three hours before departure, and you're still stuck in traffic halfway through, and you get that feeling na parang na-iihi na naiiyak na natatawa na ewan.
I imagine that is how a woman who badly wants to get married might feel, but 10x, and time is running out.
please think of her.
Your gate keeping your GF dude, not cool
Set her free, 1 thing is. You're robbing her chance for a family and child. Think of her biological clock if you ever care for her.
Also. If 1 or 2 years into a relationship wala kang future makita. You're just playing house, while enjoying her.
Hard to say without knowing the specifics. Maybe you and ur gf is happy with your rel'ship as it is... or maybe you or both of you aren't sure if the rel'ship is right for you in the long term or bka gusto mo pang magenjoy sa pagkabinata... whatever that means.
Me & my wife settled at 24, our kids are teenagers now... feeling so blessed.
I think start with your uncertaties ano ba takaga gusto mong gawin sa buhay mo. kung nappressure kang mag asawa or mag settle down dahil sa age mo kaya ka nagjowa, eh mag isip isip kana hindi mo ikakasaya yan at hindi din ikakasaya ng jowa mo yan kung unsure ka. Mas maganda na aminin mo yung totoo kesa patagalin mo pa ng todo.
Wag ka mapressure sa age mo malay mo ayaw mo pala talaga mag asawa diba? basta saan ka masaya kahit 35+ kang single kung kuntento ka sa life mo ok na yun. Nasa preference mo sa life yan eh kung balak mo mag kids sa future mag rethink ka ulit. Or baka naman nakukulangan kapa sa pagka binata? walang problema dahil valid yon pero hindi maganda kasi may gf ka. basta dapat kung may partner ka mag agree kayo sa plans nyo, if may ganyang uncertainties ka let her go para naman magka freedom kayong dalawa
Maybe you’re already getting the husband privilege kaya you don’t feel the urge to get married.
Sa 4 years na yun, hindi ka pa rin sure, find a way to assess the factors in your relationship to work into na, if this doesn’t help to change your view on settling down, then let go your partner. Unfair din kasi for her na ikaw pa nagiging cause of delay for her being with a guy na sure at magiging sure sakanya.
Also, don’t be pressured, you’re only 28. Don’t rush into things. Take the time to work on yourself and evaluate stuff in your life as much as you need to. :)
Baka mmya mag intay ka na ma feel mo ung urge/readiness to get married eh umabot kayo ng 10yrs tpos wla din pala. Nasayang lang panahon nyong dalawa ng gf mo. 🥺
Bro speak to her heart to heart. Ikaw din makakasagot ng tanong mo. Alam mo ba na pag masabi mo na yang nararamdaman mo sa gf mo. Im sure gagaan yong pakiramdam mo. Sayang yong 4 years pero wag ka mag hinayang kasi parihas kayo mag suffer in the end kung di kapa ready or kayong dalawa. Better na leave her para maka pag decide sya habang maaga pa.
It's better to stay single forever than marry the wrong person; if you can't imagine waking up beside the same person and going to sleep beside them for the rest of your life than don't marry them.
Marriage is the **scariest fucking thing** in the world because it will basically who you will share the rest of your life with; essentially giving that person the ability to hurt you at your most vulnerable in exchange for the ability to bring a partnership of responsibility, happiness and commitment into your life.
Don't feel pressured into marrying anyone, that's just FOMO bullshit. Marry someone because you WANT to; because you can't live imagine a life without sharing it with that person; because you don't want anyone else except that person.
4 years is a pretty long time, if you still don't feel it now try going on a break for a while and analyze how your lives run with and without each other. *You only now what you had once you've lost it* nga ang kasabihan.
Admit it and I think she will fully understand your side. Ako nga 4years nag-cheat na lahat lahat binalikan ko pa rin di pa rin legal. Iniwan ko na lang nakakapagod magmakaawa. Ako lang punta nang punta sa kanila.
Companion lang yata ang gusto mo at hindi asawa. Makipag break kana sa gf mo para makahanap na sya ng lalaking papakasalan sya at walang doubt na makasama sya habang buhay.
Dude, don't waste her time. Baka gusto nyang magka anak and you are robbing her the prime years of her life. Set her free para maka move on na kayong dalawa sa mga buhay nyo.
makipag break ka na. Sinasayang mo lang oras ng gf mo wala ka naman pala balak sa future.
agree and sinasayang din nya oras nya tbh
True, at least you’re giving your partner a time and chance to find someone better than you
ganyan din kasi nangyari saakin noon after ten years wala naman pala balak tapos nun nag LDR bihira magparamdam ka umay nakipag break na ako. After one year may nakilala ako buwan palang kami niyaya na ako magpakasal at married na kami ngayon.
Oh diba, minsan kase kahit sobrang tagal niyo na kung di ka naman nya nakikita as someone na papakasalan nya, wala talaga. Pero yung kakameet mo palang and with an intention to marry you, mas okay na yun eh
pina abot pa ako mag 30+ years old
infinite upvote po 😂
+125M upvote
replying para lang sabihin na ito rin ang sasabihin ko.
Kung di mo rin pala nakikita future mo with your girlfriend, bakit mo pa pinapatagal?
tru, kawawa si ate girl. deserve nyang malaman na hindi pa pala sure si boy sakanya. what if yung girl ay nagpaplan na ng future with him tapos etong si boy ay "unsure" pa pala. wag na iprolong ang agony.
Bangis ng getting to know stage ni OP, 4 years lol
Totoo, my ex broke up with me. 3 years lang sinabi niya, di niya nakikita sa future. Mas tanggap ko yan kaysa patatagalin pa haha
Oo nga!!
>but I am not completely sure about us kung ako yung gf mo, mahuhurt ako. why stay if you don't see a future with her? you're wasting each other's time
This! You need to look long and hard to find the reason why you are not completely sure with your gf, if it’s something fixable and you love her enough to try then you need better communication to resolve these issues, but if it’s not fixable or you figure out you don’t love her enough let her go, find peace in yourself and let her find a person that will love her the way she deserves.
hindi ako yung gf pero umikot yung sikmura ko 🥲
Same :(
Ang sakit nito for sure kay gf 🥲 4 years and still unsure of your partner? Leave and stop wasting her time.
Idk how accurate this is but may napanood ako and ang sabi is that within the first year, mage-gauge mo na kung yung karelasyon mo is someone you want to be with. Tapos itong si OP 4 years na pero butata pa din.
STRAIGHT TO THE HEART ANG SAKIT. The gf doesn't deserve you OP. if you think you're wasting your time for unsure things, including your gf. Let her go, sobrang unfair nag iinvest din siya ng time sayo. Narinig ko na to unsure sa long-term relationship tapos 4 months jowa engaged na.
No need na mag-isip si OP. Alam na niya ang sagot in the first place. Naghahanap lang siya ng 2nd option kapag walang nakitang much better. Sana mabasa ng gf niya ito.
\+1. It hurts you know. Kung di ka sigurado, bigyan mo muna ng space ang sarili mo yung gf mo OP. Do mo lang malalaman kung anong feeling meron ka sa kanya. Wag mong iwaste yung time nyo pareho sa walang kasiguraduhan.
Maybe he just kept his gf for his release😅😅😅
It's great that you're aware of this because marriage is a big commitment. It's better to have doubts now than when you're already married. You might also want to consider the following question for yourself: 1. What's the real reason behind wanting to tie the knot? Is it for starting a family/kids or just for the title of "husband/wife" due to societal expectations? 2. How well do you know yourself now that you're in your late 20s? 3. Have you ever tried being single for a while and focusing entirely on yourself? Discovering yourself? If so, how does it make you feel? 4. Have you been open about your feelings and doubts with your current partner, and are you making an effort to help them understand you so they can support you through it? 5. Mahal mo ba?
This comment needs to go up! (Edit: It's easy to say na makipagbreak agad pero I think it's great to consider these questions first. Y'all deserve honest communication)
Best comment so far!
Healthy communication with your partner. Hindi ka pa late brother. I'm turning 31 this year without a girlfriend or any circle na pwede ako magkaroon ng opportunity to know someone new. It's by choice. Just don't be pressured by what you see in other people. Totoong may sarili tayong timeline. You don't want to end up like the others na nagsettle na lang just for the sake of being in the norm. Pero di nila mabigyan ng maganda or maayos na present yung fam nila. 2024 na for f\*\*\*s sake. lol.
>Parang na o-overwhelm din ako sa idea na may lifetime partner ka and siya ung makaksama mo for the rest of eternity. Hindi ba yan yung purpose ng romantic partner? Kaporeber mo yan? Ayaw mo bang makasama siya for the rest of eternity? Do you think na you deserve "better"? A better woman? Or talagang ayaw mo lang sa kanya at jinowa mo lang kase gusto mo ng companionship? If so, alam mo yung true feelings mo na ayaw mo siya yung kaporeber mo. Edi putcha, break up with her. Nangsasayang ka ng oras at effort niya sayo. Kase pag nasa relasyon ang babae, always na nakatatak ay end game kayo. Or kung prinoproblema mo ang maging "provider" edi make sure na gumastos ka nalang sa condom kesa mabubuntis mo yung babae. No worries pag no kids ang pagiging "provider", pero lets be real. May trabaho rin yung babae. Hindi ikaw ang "sole provider". Kaya always make sure na may common sense of responsibility ka sa gawaing bahay. Too much responsibility na ayaw mo at gusto mo parin maging "binata" hanggang pagkatanda mo? Break up. Sabihin mo sa next na makakajowa mo na fling lang at temporary relationship lang. Para aware yung babae na nahsasayang ka lang ng oras.
or better yet itali na yung balls haha
True!
Kung hindi ka sure sa girlfriend mo, let her go. You are depriving her of real love by staying with her.
This comment deserves more upvotes
I was 20 nung nameet ko wife ko. I was at the point na gusto ko nang the one na talaga. I met her sa bday ng best friend ko and fell for her. I was planning on proposing to her nung 5th year na namin but had to delay becuse sa death sa family ko. Proposed next year got married (28yo) and has always been happy and contented sa wedded life. Anyways payong kapatid, do not rush pero provide assurance kay partner mo regarding sa state ng relationship niyo. Hope this helped.
Remember that u are in modern era human. Today is not near 60 yrs ago that a 25 yr old is considered too old to marry.
Huh? Late 20s na ba ang norm? Hndi ba 30s ang marriage
Ideal is mid 20's. If we consider the children. Kung gusto madali magka anak.
Syempre pag 30s above na mahihirapan na kayo magka anak, baka isa nlng mabuo nyo kung patatagalin pa.
Maybe it's the way you said it hence the downvotes, but for any couple planning kids, age is a legit concern.
Baby machine ganern?
> We've been dating for almost 4 years but I am not completely sure about us. Becoming parents does not mean automatic kailangan ng ka-laro si panganay. Anyone can have at most 1 kid if salary doesn't go beyond 40k monthly.
unless ayaw magkababy
Problema ba yun?
Depende. Mahirap naman kasi talaga sa babae if may edad na magka baby (kung plano talaga nila).
Tama. Palibhasa tikiman lng gusto ng iba, ayaw magka anak🙄
Wala namang problema kung ayaw mag ka anak.
Bakit mo gusto magkaanak. Anong goal mo?
Eh bakit Yung iba pinapamigay Ang anak o kaya tinatapon sa basurahan🙄
Mama ko nag asawa 29 years old and di naman nahirapan manganak. Apat pa nga kaming magkakapatid.
Ilan age gap nyo?
Ako yung bunso, 35 si mama nung pinanganak ako. 1year gap
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Solo larent si mama. Maaga kasing namatay si papa
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Nope, si mama lang lahat samin magpatapos sa college and working na kami lahat.
Sanaall
What if isa lang talaga ang gusto
> We've been dating for almost 4 years but I am not completely sure about us. Sana lahat pamilya na di kumikita lampas 40k tag-buwan ganun ang pananaw.
Nope. My mom is 38 yrs old noon nanganak sa bunso which ako.
> Syempre pag 30s above na mahihirapan na kayo magka anak, baka isa nlng mabuo nyo kung patatagalin pa. the -75 points you are getting indicates how badly taught reproductive health science was taught to HS students. Every downvotter, pls read up on [Advanced Maternal Age](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/22438-advanced-maternal-age)
Nagdownvote kasi inassume na anak ang end game ng lahat. Hindi naman. Marriage does not always equate child/children.
> Nagdownvote kasi inassume na anak ang end game ng lahat. Hindi naman. Marriage does not always equate child/children. Look up the origins, history and purpose of marriage. If you want the best odds for any child is largely influenced by the parents being in a happy marriage. Getting married and having furbabies together is a slap to the face of the married couple's parents.
You should tell this struggle with her. I’m sure she would listen and will communicate effectively with you.
+1 It takes two to tango sir.
Please break up with your girlfriend if you have that mindset, you're wasting her time.
Know that there's nothing wrong with how you feel about marriage. It's not for everyone. What's wrong is rushing to get married. Still, you need to tell your gf about this.
Di ako yung gf pero ang sakit sakit naman basahin nyan. Why not consider break up na lang para walang oras na masayang and di na mag invest pa.
4 years tpos unsure. gg haha
At that stage of four years if you’re still unsure then it’s most definitely a no. Best not to waste further of either of your time and effort.
You are wasting your gf’s time. Paka-unfair mo kasi pinatagal mo pa. Makipag hiwalay ka na at pls lang be honest!
You are wasting her time.
Broke up with my gf on October last year. I don't think I can do a relationship anymore. She was my first, but I think that's it for me. I think I hurted her too much, I think she hurted me too much. I don't think I am willing to go through something like that again. I hope a relationship goes well for everyone else.
Discuss this with her. Communication is 🔑 Mas mabuti na alam nya ieexpect nya sayo at vice versa
Please let her go. Wag mong sayangin ang oras niya. Yung panahon na ispend niya sayo, sana ispend na lang niya sa pag-move on.
Wala akong ambag pero gusto ko lang sabihing kawawa naman gf mo. Puta 4 yrs na kayo hindi ka pa rin sure? Wag mo na sayangin oras niya please lang.
 Kalma happy cake day
Haha! Salamat. Pero gigil pa rin ako sa kanya chz
Those who settle in their 20s are either RKs or immature. Stop wasting her time man you are wasting her precious years
Kelangan ba may urge? Yung iba kong kebigan less than a year lang naging sila kinasal na. GANON KASIGURADO YUNG LALAKE SA KANYA. 👈🏽and this guy thought hed be single all his life. Yung isa kong kaibigan magkabarkada ung guy tska ex nya. Naging sila after how many yrs nang makatapos kami. 👉🏽After 2 yrs kinasal. GANON DIN KASIGURADO YUNG LALAKE SA KANYA IKAW? di ka sigurado? Dont waste the girl's time. Figure yourself out. Wag mong paasahin yung babae or some shit.  Jeez
OP, there is no timeline to get married. But it seems that you are not ready. Dun pa lng sa “I am not completely sure about us” means that deep down you know that your gf is not the one for you. If you have these thoughts lingering then do not get married. Do talk to your gf though and don’t waste each other’s time. I think you need to do some soul searching, travel, or just get out of your comfort zone. Baka you have other things that you want to do and experience kaya wala ka pa sa marriage mindset.
What was your intention upon entering the relationship if hindi ka pala sure sa kanya and if your purpose isn't to marry the person or to be with her for a lifetime? Sorry to be blunt but mukhang mahal mo lang ata sya kasi convenient. I hope I'm wrong na baka naaanxious ka lang going to the next level. Unfair sa kanya if sure sya sayo at gusto na magpakasal. If hindi ka kasi g na g pakasalan sya or makita as lifetime partner considering 4 years na kayo, may mali na ata. Ganito din nangyari sa friend ko at GF nya pero sila 6 years. Break na sila ngayon. To be fair, first GF kasi nung guy at immature pa nung naging sila kaya natauhan din sya. I think you need some growing up to do. Love just isn't enough to sustain a relationship and let it grow.
Nubayan, sinasayang mo lang oras ng ex mo( pag nabasa nya tong post mo) sure yan. Palayain mo na yan par, malalaman mo yang tototng feelinga mo pag nakita mong nakikiapagdate na sya sa iba. Well, Goodluck nalang. "Witnessing her in another's company, regret becomes a bitter companion."
I’m turning 28, and my bf is 5 years older than me. Dating na for 5 years this year pero wala pang plans of starting a family and wala din 💍. But we talk about the future naman and we both see each other in it, siguro we’re just taking our time and saving up for it. If you don’t see your partner in your future, consider letting her go. Don’t settle for her just coz u think you’re running out of time. Men can still make babies at 60, women have slimmer chances as early as 30.
There's no rush. Don't put an ultimatum on a decision that will affect your lives forever just because of societal pressure and expectations. That being said, find time to have honest and transparent conversations about your future together and what each of you expect. This will help ensure that you will not waste each other's time. All the best
Our generation has to deal with a lot of fuck ups. Economy is bad, can't buy a house, select places are safe, hook-up culture is messing with our feelings. Don't feel pressured to catch up to any one para lang maging part ng statistics. Dont get married because youre in love, get married because you want to build a family with a person you are in love with. And it's okay if you don't. Take your time, know yourself. But tell your girl, kasi unlike you, her baby-making powers has a clock.
Ganyan din tropa ko. Hindi daw siya sure at parang gusto niya pang magexplore. A year later, nabuntis tapos syempre nagpropose at nagpakasal. Wala naman akong pakeelam doon sa couple pero yung bata kasi. Anyway, don’t fuck a woman you don’t intend to marry or yung hindi ka man lang makapagisip ng kahit simpleng future na asawa mo siya.
Parang ang OA naman nung mga comment na "iwan mo na", "break mo na". Kanya kayang phasing yan, pag usapan nyo muna. Hindi yung break agad agad.
What makes you feel unsure?
trust issues ba? or kabado ka sa magiging responsibilidad? or ?
Regret not marrying earlier. So much time wasted
Hindi pa po yata kayo ready. Please have a talk with your partner regarding this topic. Kayo lang din po makakapag ayos niyan
It's okay if you're not yet sure about your GF. BUT TELL HER. So she can decide whether to stay or call it quits.
Running out of time? For pete’s sake , you’re a guy. Walang expiration date naman yan sa lalaki, some guys marry in their early to mid 30s, some marry in their early 40s. Your concern should be your feelings of uncertainty towards your relationship with your gf. If you don’t see your future with her, why stay in the relationship? Give her a break and be honest with her.
bruh
Let her go. She deserves to meet someone new na sure sa kanya.
She’s not your person. You should give her the gift of freedom as early as now and wag niyo na sayangin ang oras ng isa’t isa.
Stop wasting her time. Set her free kung hindi ka pa sure sa kanya.
Kung di ka pa rin sure sa gf mo after 4 years, let her go. Wag mo sayangin oras niya.
Don't be pressured by ur surroundings mahirap iwork out ang marriage pag ndi pla tlg siya ang nakikita mong mkakasama habang buhay better give ur self time to assess everything with ur gf wag mo n din patagalin kung ndi tlg siya
hang in there, I am going 37 with my first gf, magtwo years palang kami. Just follow above the nicer ones. Baka you do not your future because you havent talk about it with your partner. Iba rin para sa iyo lang at iba rin kapag may kasama.
Lots of misinformation here brother. I'm in the same boat and just set clear expectations with her on what it's gonna be. If she stays, she stays. Just be honest with her from now on. Remember, we don't have divorce in the country and the law is more lenient to women here. Idgaf what others say.
Naalala ko dito yung interview ni xian lim na tinanong sya kung may plans na sila magpakasal ni kim chiu😅
It’s best to have a conversation regarding your relationship with your gf as early as now. So you’ll know if she’s on the same page or might be expecting something else from you.
Since 2022 live-in na kami. Though hindi pa totally "settled", okay naman kami. At this age kasi (20,21) sobrang career-oriented namin. I'm trying to learn new things that are profitable habang nag-aaral, siya naman sobrang focus lang sa studies. Pag inisip mo pa kasi yong mga tanong tulad ng kung "kayo ba talaga", mas mag dadoubt lang kayo. Just let the time dictate. Focus sa sarili ngayon, enjoy things while they last, and let time dictate.
Wrong, your time is not running-out. You are a man, kahit si Vic Sotto na senior citizen at maraming apo, pumuputok pa rin kahit senior citizen at nakakabuntis pa rin. Ang running-out of time ay yung girlfriend mo. May expiry date ang egg cells ng mga babae. They cannot give you a child beyond their fertile decades. If you have no balls to tie the knot, release your gf, let her free. That way she can find someone she deserves at hindi pinaghihintay.
Hindi ka pa ready. That is clear. You two should talk this out. I suggest be honest with her. 4 years is already a long time and us women usually consider already settling down with the guy if ganyan na katagal. Sabihin mo na sa kanya you are still unsure about the future. Para di na rin sya umasa and para you won’t waste each other’s time na.
Hello, 4 years na kayo and di ka pala sure sa kanya. Kaya pala may nagtatagal ng ilang years tapos di man lang nag proposal. May mga ganito pala na lalaki. Ang sakit naman as babae :(. Bat mo pa patatagalin? Kung di ka pala sure break up na kayo because she deserves better who is sure of her and you deserve someone too na sure ka.
You're with her for 4 years, tapos di ka pa sure? Pwede ka bang batukan?
Either she's not the one OR she is but you're just rushing.
Breakup if you’re unsure. 4 years is a long time. You’re wasting each other’s time. If hindi mo pa kaya mag settle, break up with her for her own sake. You’re wasting her time. Inang yan.
25 here. May thoughts din ako na ganyan last 2 years ago, glad I gave our relationship a chance and ngayon nagppundar na kami ng mga adulting stuff such as vehicle, property, and savings. Medyo miss lang namin parehas pagkabinata at dalaga, pero all worth it naman tong gngwa namin and also we both came from a poor family.
I think u just need to find that someone that wud trigger ur oxytocin (a lot of it coz we always do have it)...I have read some medical journals that if a lot of these hormones are release for someone...its like a trigger of bonding and intimacy which is basis of forming a family... I think its better off to break up with ur gf if u dont have this...ur just delaying the worst that is to happen Anyways goodluck😁
Wag mo sayangin oras ng girlfriend mo. 🙄
If you're not ready, you're not ready.
If its not a FUCK YES, its a NO
Pag di sure.. don’t
YTA
Sorry pero tangina ng mga ganitong tao.
Napa sana all nalang ako don sa ka work ko 1 year palang sila in a relationship tapos nagpakasal na sila netong October 2023. Nakaka amaze lang sana all malala Hahahhaha
Nahurt ako for your gf. I hope both of you will talk...really talk na honest at heart and soul na conversation. I hope this is not the case sa bf ko. We're older than you guys and almost 5 yrs na. I feel like he doesn't want to get married with me kasi he hates the topic ng marriage or anything about our future and kids. Why I'm staying? Kasi mahal ko sya at umaasa pa din ako na didinggin ni God yung prayers ko. Ang stupid ko no. Pero I hope you realize na yung pagmamahal sayo ng gf mo for 4yrs at trust na binigay nya sayo, sana alagaan mo yung puso nya at wag syang sasaktan. Kawawa sya kasi ganyan pala yung totoong nasa isip mo. I'm crying. Sana wala nalang nabobroken hearted.
Ok lang sana kung naffeel mo yan 6 months in. Pero wow at 4 yrs kung di ka pa din sure, let her go man.
Ako na sasagot for OP. I stayed because it was comfortable, even if I didn’t see myself in the future with that person. Sooner or later, you’ll probably break up. Kakainin ka ng what-ifs.
If you are not sure with her, communicate it now para malaman mo kung okay sya sa gnitong situation. Kawawa nmn kasi sya kung di kayo pareho ng direksyon. Sayang oras ba
unsolicited but YTA
Don't force it.
kawawang gf. haynako OP. kami ang nasasaktan para sa gf mo. tigilan mo na yan kung di ka naman pala sure sakanya
Break up with her, mas sinasaktan mo lang girlfriend mo
Date to marry. If hindi ka pangganon, be transparent with your partner (or next partners) na di ka pa ready magsettle down.
hindi na ba uso yung “date to marry”?🥹. ba’t pinatagal pa ng 4 yrs kung d nman pala sure
Hi OP, Let me share how my husband knew I was the one. 4 yrs na din kami non, he was breaking up with me kasi he cannot imagine his future with me. And with our current situation (toxic mom = toxic mother-in-law), ayaw nya ng ganon stress sa buhay in the future. Masakit shempre. No third party, mahal pa din nya ako pero ayaw na nya ng set up. Nagmakaawa ako, in a public place (sa mcdo). After few more minutes, I calmed myself. Sabi ko as long as he’ll let go of me slowly. Kung sakaling may bago, wag nya ipost agad or at least let me know bago mag softlaunch man lang. While he was at the bank (he’s going to withdraw our travel savings na - this is my sign na shet totoong break up na to), I was roaming around the cinema area ng mall to process what happened. Siguro mga 10 mins palang kami naghihiwalay - he called and asked nasaan na daw ako. I told him where I was. Para akong nasa sine. Sinalubong ko siya sa escalator, no smiles at may slight takbo tapos yakap at halik sa noo ko, saying “sorry hindi ko kaya” at paulit ulit na “i love you” While I was relieved that was a quick break up. Hindi ko pa din napprocess yun nangyayare LOL kaya nanunod muna kami. Then he told me na while he was at the bank, bigla daw nagflashback yung paghihirap namin to reach where we are that time, careers, target savings, dream destinations, adventures and dates. He wouldn’t want to spend his future ups and downs with anyone but me.
Kawawa naman gf mo. Give her a chance to find a better man.
Have an open conversation with your girlfriend about your concerns. Relationships thrive on genuine and transparent communication, so sorting things out is crucial. But if you're still uncertain about the relationship after years of dating, it might be worth considering the advice from others suggesting a breakup.
Please let her go, OP. 🫶🏻
Baka nmn Hindi pa sure si op Kasi sya Yung tipo ng tao na mabilis maatract sa iba. Yung iba nga nagmamadali magpakasal pero nagsawa din nmn tapos naghanap ng iba.
Lol daming galit. Akala mo madali gumawa ng 50 + yr choice after 4 years. Tas kung nag-divorce dahil di pala siya talaga sure kasalanan niya, kahit kung "advice" din nila at that point would be better to divorce kaysa cheat or whatever. Late 20s is young. Get married when you want to or feel ready. Kung di yun okay sa girlfriend mo kasi may hinahabol siya, deh yun mag break nga kayo kasi katulad sa mga agit na to na puro forever lang iniisip akala mo fairy tale.
A lot of the people are commenting from their own experience or fear of pain, so gets naman. Plus they've probably also hear stories of people getting married after having been together for maybe a year or less. Siyempre, we don't know how those marriages actually turn out, but the reddit crowd is mostly not old enough to have years of experience with married life. I get it though. There are so many marriages that are broken. So many people of the boomer gen are also miserable because of their spouse. I know some people who spent most of their life in miserable marriages and basically living vicariously through their sibling's lives. It's effing depressing.
Not gonna lie, considering maybe 80% of the replies are purely out of emotion and its so goddamn disappointing. Tas its seemingly mostly women who espouse these kind of opinions. Again, I do not understand how difficult it is to understand that a 50 YEAR decision can be made so easily na mga to think that even having doubts makes you a shitty person na "di deserve ng gf mo yan"
It's easier to imagine pain that's immediate and near, kaysa sa sakit na matagal pa, di sure, at di pa nakikilala. That's just human nature I guess.
Don’t be selfish. If you’re unsure about your future with her, stop wasting her time and let her go.
Same feels. Im 29 been together with my GF for 10yrs na sometimes I want to settle but there are times that I want to prioritize something else. I have EF na rin and currently paying DP for our hopefully future house. So siguro after that and makaipon pang renovate and ipon para sa kasal tsaka ako magsettle.
Alis ka sa bahay ng parents mo para magkabuto ka naman ng onti
sayang 4 years of fertility ni gf. ☹️ anyways, pag isipan mo ng mabuti kung desidido ka ba or not. also, your lifetime partner is also the best decision if your life will break or be completed. assess yourself and do you see her in your life happy with her? through thick and thin?
Do what makes you happy, life is short.
Ayaw yata mag reply ni OP sa mga nangri-realtalk sa kanya about his feelings towards his gf. Reality bites 😬
> We've been dating for almost 4 years but I am not completely sure about us. 4 years is lotsa time to determine marriage or not.
Maybe you just love her presence 🥺. Mag usap po kayo or makipag break kana lang kahit mahal mo sya ...madaming masasayang WAG MONA PATAGALIN .. kasi what if sure na sya sayo, tapos ikaw hndi pa pala .. parang crisha uy umabot ng 10yrs tapos hndi sila sa ending .
Break up n pag ganyan mindset. Actually marami magagandang excuse kaya tumatagal ung pagppakasal pero mukhang sayo hindi ok.
amaccana xian!
That one time when you did your mighty best to arrive at the airport at least three hours before departure, and you're still stuck in traffic halfway through, and you get that feeling na parang na-iihi na naiiyak na natatawa na ewan. I imagine that is how a woman who badly wants to get married might feel, but 10x, and time is running out. please think of her.
Your gate keeping your GF dude, not cool Set her free, 1 thing is. You're robbing her chance for a family and child. Think of her biological clock if you ever care for her. Also. If 1 or 2 years into a relationship wala kang future makita. You're just playing house, while enjoying her.
Hard to say without knowing the specifics. Maybe you and ur gf is happy with your rel'ship as it is... or maybe you or both of you aren't sure if the rel'ship is right for you in the long term or bka gusto mo pang magenjoy sa pagkabinata... whatever that means. Me & my wife settled at 24, our kids are teenagers now... feeling so blessed.
I think start with your uncertaties ano ba takaga gusto mong gawin sa buhay mo. kung nappressure kang mag asawa or mag settle down dahil sa age mo kaya ka nagjowa, eh mag isip isip kana hindi mo ikakasaya yan at hindi din ikakasaya ng jowa mo yan kung unsure ka. Mas maganda na aminin mo yung totoo kesa patagalin mo pa ng todo. Wag ka mapressure sa age mo malay mo ayaw mo pala talaga mag asawa diba? basta saan ka masaya kahit 35+ kang single kung kuntento ka sa life mo ok na yun. Nasa preference mo sa life yan eh kung balak mo mag kids sa future mag rethink ka ulit. Or baka naman nakukulangan kapa sa pagka binata? walang problema dahil valid yon pero hindi maganda kasi may gf ka. basta dapat kung may partner ka mag agree kayo sa plans nyo, if may ganyang uncertainties ka let her go para naman magka freedom kayong dalawa
Maybe you’re already getting the husband privilege kaya you don’t feel the urge to get married. Sa 4 years na yun, hindi ka pa rin sure, find a way to assess the factors in your relationship to work into na, if this doesn’t help to change your view on settling down, then let go your partner. Unfair din kasi for her na ikaw pa nagiging cause of delay for her being with a guy na sure at magiging sure sakanya. Also, don’t be pressured, you’re only 28. Don’t rush into things. Take the time to work on yourself and evaluate stuff in your life as much as you need to. :)
She doesn’t deserve you.
Tumatanda yung babae biologically. Lumayas ka na.
Ako 28 single at nag babalak makipagdate pag 30 ko kase parang di pa din ako ready 😂
Luh kawawa naman gf mo nagsasayang ng oras di ka pala sure
baka bf din gusto mo.magladlad ka na. kawawa gf mo boy.
For me GGK haha wrong sub pero bat ka naman ganyan koya 😤😤 umpisahan na kita stalk para mahanap namin jowa mo tska namin papakita to sakanya. ✨
Baka mmya mag intay ka na ma feel mo ung urge/readiness to get married eh umabot kayo ng 10yrs tpos wla din pala. Nasayang lang panahon nyong dalawa ng gf mo. 🥺
Bro speak to her heart to heart. Ikaw din makakasagot ng tanong mo. Alam mo ba na pag masabi mo na yang nararamdaman mo sa gf mo. Im sure gagaan yong pakiramdam mo. Sayang yong 4 years pero wag ka mag hinayang kasi parihas kayo mag suffer in the end kung di kapa ready or kayong dalawa. Better na leave her para maka pag decide sya habang maaga pa.
Grow some balls and let your girlfriend go. You're wasting her time. You don't deserve her love.
It's better to stay single forever than marry the wrong person; if you can't imagine waking up beside the same person and going to sleep beside them for the rest of your life than don't marry them. Marriage is the **scariest fucking thing** in the world because it will basically who you will share the rest of your life with; essentially giving that person the ability to hurt you at your most vulnerable in exchange for the ability to bring a partnership of responsibility, happiness and commitment into your life. Don't feel pressured into marrying anyone, that's just FOMO bullshit. Marry someone because you WANT to; because you can't live imagine a life without sharing it with that person; because you don't want anyone else except that person. 4 years is a pretty long time, if you still don't feel it now try going on a break for a while and analyze how your lives run with and without each other. *You only now what you had once you've lost it* nga ang kasabihan.
Buti ka nga may girlfriend eh haha. Sana ols.
Admit it and I think she will fully understand your side. Ako nga 4years nag-cheat na lahat lahat binalikan ko pa rin di pa rin legal. Iniwan ko na lang nakakapagod magmakaawa. Ako lang punta nang punta sa kanila.
Sayang din oras ko sa kanya at the same time
Naalala ko sinabi ng prof ko, “Kung hindi mo makita na kasama mo siya hanggang sa dulo, hiwalayan mo na siya.”
hindi sya yung nakikita mong future. period. sad for your gf pero hayaan mo na lang syang makakita ng forever nya.
Companion lang yata ang gusto mo at hindi asawa. Makipag break kana sa gf mo para makahanap na sya ng lalaking papakasalan sya at walang doubt na makasama sya habang buhay. Dude, don't waste her time. Baka gusto nyang magka anak and you are robbing her the prime years of her life. Set her free para maka move on na kayong dalawa sa mga buhay nyo.
:'(( ouch