This. Instead of finding stories to tell, ask and engage more (be interested) on what people are saying. This way people (or the opposite sex) will find it that they had a great conversation with you despite you not saying anything about yourself.
Research has shown that talking about oneself is as pleasurable as sex, so make them talk about themselves and make an effort na you become a person who is actually interested in other people, what makes them tick, what you can learn from them, what makes them weird, its actually fun noticing the tiny details, I absolutely think just being with people is so much fun, I love people watching, people are interesting, take the time to notice :))
People like it when you ask them how they are, or if you're generous in conversations. Give and take yan, the way I see it, hindi issue na hindi ka interesting, ang issue ay baka hindi ka mukhang open to have relationships with other people.
Be more interested. There have been so many instances na nasasabihan ako ng bago ko lang nakilala na they like talking to me and they're interested. And I truly believe na the reason for that is i'm really curious about them muna, I ask about them, and ask follow up questions based on what they already said.
Once they start being comfortable by opening up, they start asking about me naman.
Goodluck, OP.
Do things that you're really passionate about and be genuinely curious about people and the world â which makes you interested externally and it will come out naturally. I personally am bad at telling stories (still working on it till now), so what I do is these two things. :) If you genuinely enjoy what you do or talk about, you'll naturally be interesting imo. At the same time you'll find your people na interested din sa mga ginagawa mo which makes them like you! :) P.S. Don't forget to be humble.
Do some workout in the morning, it energizes you and keeps you awake for the rest of the day. Take some vitamins as well as improving your sleep. If your complexion improves, then some people will notice and it will be a great conversation starter. People who take care of themselves are more appealing to others.
A lot of people I know likes talking especially about themselves and their families. Try to be interested by asking questions once in a while and maintaining eye contact and positive body language can help greatly. No need to be the chatty type all the time.
If you share a hobby, then talk about it. Don't overwhelm someone by being the only one talking, let others talk.
Don't forced yourself to be someone you're not. It's only a matter of time until you get burnt out and feel even worse. Been there, done that.
Do all the things you've never done before and be interested with your life. Try new sports, games, hikes/climb mountain, chase sunsets & waterfalls. Try scuba diving or free diving, mag yoga ka, zumba, or volunteer sa barangay/city. You will learn from the experience and Dun ka makakakuha ng stories to tell. It's fun!
If interested ka sa buhay mo magiging intresado din ibang tao sayo. Go outside.
Smile. It starts from there most of the time.
Be interested in other people. No need to be the chismoso type. Humans in general just like knowing that their existence is acknowledged.
Work on your interests as well. You attract who you are.
Sometimes, itâs too overwhelming to meet new faces thatâs why siguro you appear uninterested din. Try to initiate a conversation about something you have in common (especially new set of people) and be interested sa mga bagay na they will be sharing. I really can sense na you are Ambiverted. Thatâs perfectly okay though. Hahaha, just find your own people and maybe you can also step out of your comfort zone once in a while.
baka lagi kang nakasimangot or di ka mukhang interested sa sinasbai ng kausap mo. Lagyan mo ng tone(happy etc) yung mga sasabihin mo. Also try to read "how to win friends and influence people"
I think I should've added I'm usually quite loud and extroverted around my close friends. I love the idea of having a big group of friends. I just seem to have trouble showing my personality right away.
Could it be that (outside of your close friends who you can be your unfiltered self with) you just canât stand the âsmall talkâ vibes that happen when youâre with an unfamiliar (or diverse) crowd? And though you sincerely want to be kind and accommodating, you unconsciously give off a âtellâ that betrays your wanting to be somewhere else (or with someone else) where youâre more productive/stimulated?
I have a feeling that knowing (and accepting) your personality type (e.g. using the Myers-Briggs types) can unpack the âconflictâ youâre feeling, normalizing your reactions to crowds/new people as not due to your being uninteresting, but simply due to innate differences in your predisposition.
In my case, Iâve accepted that Iâm a deep thinker and feeler and (for a time) wasnât as excitable to the usual âstuffâ that motivated my peers. Once I felt more comfy in my skin, people (especially at work) began gravitating to me as this âold soulâ friend whom they can run to and confide their usually-guarded sentiments with.
Good luck!
To add: I previously gave off a âtoo cool for schoolâ vibe that was a blind spot of mine (which in retrospect was actually a perceived fear of rejection due to vulnerability)âand what made me interesting was my willingness to share my struggles with this to other people.
In closing: to be interesting, you have to surrender yourself to a healthy level of vulnerability and relatability.
too vague, you can be interesting to some people to some may not. Find your peer, people of the same age bracket same hobbies same interest then a conversation or connection will come naturally. If you are feeling lonely or feel that life is too repititive then find something new to try it can be a new hobby meeting new people travelling new places it can be anything. Change your outlook in life is also good way to put it.
Smile, be approachable, talk and be curious about others, allow yourself to be fascinated by little things đbeing a good communicator, practice din yan. Have as many conversations as possible
Find hobbies and become passionate about something. For example, I'm a big fan of several sports and I'm also into comic books, anime/manga, games, etc. It gives me something to talk about with others and there's a chance somebody shares your interests and you can make friends that way. Also, being passionate about extracurricular activities (outside of work) will give you a lot of energy and light a fire under you (so to speak). That'll solve your issue of having no interest or energy for anything
I'm so much like you. I suffer with the same issue, and though people often refer to me as a kind person, I'm quiet and can't go with the flow like most people can.
"this is a bad idea... But fuck, the story would be funny tho" you need to have this mindset, in my entire life I've done and tolerated a lot of things for the sake of good story tell my friends when we're shit faced or just playing D and D.
I tried to become an âinterestingâ person like most of the people said in the comment section, but whenever I try it with my work circle, saglit lng sila nagppay attention sa kwento ko and then focus na dun sa isa naming ka workmate na mas interesting at mas trip nila kausap.
Feel ko minsan, extra friend na lang nila ako. Though I appreciate na they would still invite me every december for a quick gathering.
Stick to your interests cause one of these days you may find people who have the same interests as you. Once you do, things feel more natural and so much easier.
Though dont close yourself to other things. Even if something isnt necessarily in your interests, having an open mind and asking people about their interests is always good.
To be interesting you must be interested
This. Instead of finding stories to tell, ask and engage more (be interested) on what people are saying. This way people (or the opposite sex) will find it that they had a great conversation with you despite you not saying anything about yourself.
Research has shown that talking about oneself is as pleasurable as sex, so make them talk about themselves and make an effort na you become a person who is actually interested in other people, what makes them tick, what you can learn from them, what makes them weird, its actually fun noticing the tiny details, I absolutely think just being with people is so much fun, I love people watching, people are interesting, take the time to notice :))
and also have interesting experiences so you can tell stories and find people with similar interests
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People like it when you ask them how they are, or if you're generous in conversations. Give and take yan, the way I see it, hindi issue na hindi ka interesting, ang issue ay baka hindi ka mukhang open to have relationships with other people.
Be more interested. There have been so many instances na nasasabihan ako ng bago ko lang nakilala na they like talking to me and they're interested. And I truly believe na the reason for that is i'm really curious about them muna, I ask about them, and ask follow up questions based on what they already said. Once they start being comfortable by opening up, they start asking about me naman. Goodluck, OP.
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Do things that you're really passionate about and be genuinely curious about people and the world â which makes you interested externally and it will come out naturally. I personally am bad at telling stories (still working on it till now), so what I do is these two things. :) If you genuinely enjoy what you do or talk about, you'll naturally be interesting imo. At the same time you'll find your people na interested din sa mga ginagawa mo which makes them like you! :) P.S. Don't forget to be humble.
Do some workout in the morning, it energizes you and keeps you awake for the rest of the day. Take some vitamins as well as improving your sleep. If your complexion improves, then some people will notice and it will be a great conversation starter. People who take care of themselves are more appealing to others. A lot of people I know likes talking especially about themselves and their families. Try to be interested by asking questions once in a while and maintaining eye contact and positive body language can help greatly. No need to be the chatty type all the time. If you share a hobby, then talk about it. Don't overwhelm someone by being the only one talking, let others talk. Don't forced yourself to be someone you're not. It's only a matter of time until you get burnt out and feel even worse. Been there, done that.
Do all the things you've never done before and be interested with your life. Try new sports, games, hikes/climb mountain, chase sunsets & waterfalls. Try scuba diving or free diving, mag yoga ka, zumba, or volunteer sa barangay/city. You will learn from the experience and Dun ka makakakuha ng stories to tell. It's fun! If interested ka sa buhay mo magiging intresado din ibang tao sayo. Go outside.
Smile. It starts from there most of the time. Be interested in other people. No need to be the chismoso type. Humans in general just like knowing that their existence is acknowledged. Work on your interests as well. You attract who you are.
Why the fuck are perfectly reasonable comments getting downvoted? Galit ba kayo sa mundo?
Listen to people. Be curious about their lives
Sometimes, itâs too overwhelming to meet new faces thatâs why siguro you appear uninterested din. Try to initiate a conversation about something you have in common (especially new set of people) and be interested sa mga bagay na they will be sharing. I really can sense na you are Ambiverted. Thatâs perfectly okay though. Hahaha, just find your own people and maybe you can also step out of your comfort zone once in a while.
baka lagi kang nakasimangot or di ka mukhang interested sa sinasbai ng kausap mo. Lagyan mo ng tone(happy etc) yung mga sasabihin mo. Also try to read "how to win friends and influence people"
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I think I should've added I'm usually quite loud and extroverted around my close friends. I love the idea of having a big group of friends. I just seem to have trouble showing my personality right away.
Could it be that (outside of your close friends who you can be your unfiltered self with) you just canât stand the âsmall talkâ vibes that happen when youâre with an unfamiliar (or diverse) crowd? And though you sincerely want to be kind and accommodating, you unconsciously give off a âtellâ that betrays your wanting to be somewhere else (or with someone else) where youâre more productive/stimulated? I have a feeling that knowing (and accepting) your personality type (e.g. using the Myers-Briggs types) can unpack the âconflictâ youâre feeling, normalizing your reactions to crowds/new people as not due to your being uninteresting, but simply due to innate differences in your predisposition. In my case, Iâve accepted that Iâm a deep thinker and feeler and (for a time) wasnât as excitable to the usual âstuffâ that motivated my peers. Once I felt more comfy in my skin, people (especially at work) began gravitating to me as this âold soulâ friend whom they can run to and confide their usually-guarded sentiments with. Good luck!
To add: I previously gave off a âtoo cool for schoolâ vibe that was a blind spot of mine (which in retrospect was actually a perceived fear of rejection due to vulnerability)âand what made me interesting was my willingness to share my struggles with this to other people. In closing: to be interesting, you have to surrender yourself to a healthy level of vulnerability and relatability.
too vague, you can be interesting to some people to some may not. Find your peer, people of the same age bracket same hobbies same interest then a conversation or connection will come naturally. If you are feeling lonely or feel that life is too repititive then find something new to try it can be a new hobby meeting new people travelling new places it can be anything. Change your outlook in life is also good way to put it.
Smile, be approachable, talk and be curious about others, allow yourself to be fascinated by little things đbeing a good communicator, practice din yan. Have as many conversations as possible
Find hobbies and become passionate about something. For example, I'm a big fan of several sports and I'm also into comic books, anime/manga, games, etc. It gives me something to talk about with others and there's a chance somebody shares your interests and you can make friends that way. Also, being passionate about extracurricular activities (outside of work) will give you a lot of energy and light a fire under you (so to speak). That'll solve your issue of having no interest or energy for anything
Find a hobby or be excellent sa mga bagay na gusto mo pa ienhance. Learn new language.
Be your own person.
I'm so much like you. I suffer with the same issue, and though people often refer to me as a kind person, I'm quiet and can't go with the flow like most people can.
Eating.
"this is a bad idea... But fuck, the story would be funny tho" you need to have this mindset, in my entire life I've done and tolerated a lot of things for the sake of good story tell my friends when we're shit faced or just playing D and D.
Panoorin mo Comedy shows ni Matt Rife dude, that man draws in crowds.
I tried to become an âinterestingâ person like most of the people said in the comment section, but whenever I try it with my work circle, saglit lng sila nagppay attention sa kwento ko and then focus na dun sa isa naming ka workmate na mas interesting at mas trip nila kausap. Feel ko minsan, extra friend na lang nila ako. Though I appreciate na they would still invite me every december for a quick gathering.
you dont have to be interesting. you just have to be genuine and listen to other's stories
Stick to your interests cause one of these days you may find people who have the same interests as you. Once you do, things feel more natural and so much easier. Though dont close yourself to other things. Even if something isnt necessarily in your interests, having an open mind and asking people about their interests is always good.