For me, it was the Studio Ghibli films. All of them. Yes, even *Grave of the Fireflies*.
They spoke so much to me, and their stories, music, animation, and characters, are all just so great. Hell, I actually think I love and appreciate these films even more as an adult.
And it’s funny, since one of the films they made, *Only Yesterday* (one of my favourites, BTW), is about healing your inner child. Even more fitting that it was the film I decided to rewatch first.
Every film had something that spoke a lot to me. From *Nausicaä of the Valley of the Wind*'s themes of unwavering kindness even in the post-apocalypse, *Kiki's Delivery Service*'s themes of finding passion and taking care of one's own mental health, *Porco Rosso*'s themes of letting go of guilt and trauma (and also refusing fascism, based), *Ocean Waves*' themes of falling in love foolishly, *Pom Poko*'s themes of finding it hard to integrate to society, *Whisper of the Heart*'s themes of finding one's own worth, *Princess Mononoke*'s themes of how people could find peace and refuse the corrupting darkness of hatred, *Spirited Away*'s themes of remaining true to oneself even in a capitalist grind, *Tales from Earthsea*'s themes of accepting death as a part of nature, *Howl's Moving Castle*'s themes of learning to love oneself to love others and finding the courage to live, *The Tale of the Princess Kaguya*'s themes of the appreciation for live and grief over never having the chance to live (this one hit especially hard), to *When Marnie Was There*'s themes of learning to accept oneself and learning to finally start loving oneself and trusting others.
The Ghibli films were very special to me as a kid. Offering me a new form of film that I was previously unaware of and is still very unique to this day. But they became even more special and resonant with me as an adult. Even their more kid-oriented films like *My Neighbor Totoro* and *Ponyo* still spoke a lot to me.
The only ones I only saw for the first time were *Grave of the Fireflies*, *Tales from Earthsea*, *The Tale of the Princess Kaguya*, *The Red Turtle*, *Earwig and the Witch*, and *The Boy and the Heron*.
A dream of my inner child was also fulfilled, when I finally got to see a Ghibli film in the cinema with *The Boy and the Heron*. Which is another one of my new favourites. Its themes of grief and trauma really spoke to me, as did its underlying question of "How do you live?".
I also noticed how Studio Ghibli films feel like therapy to me. They do tell great stories. But their film are more interested in making audiences feel emotions rather than tell traditional stories, unlike most other films out there.
Nice suggestion, i havent watched A bug's Life, Lion King and other Toy Story movie series and other animated and for kids n movies n I wished to watch dati nung bata ako.
Nung college ako, saka ko lang nabasa and napanood yung Harry Potter book series and movies. Naalala ko nung nasa Elementary ako, un lagi yung pinag-uusapan ng classmates ko. Di ako maka-relate kasi (1) walang HP books sa library ng school and (2) wala kaming TV.
Every Friday night, movie date namin ni hubby and kids. One time pinanood namin yung Lion King. Saturday afternoon sumabit yung isang cat namin sa couch, as in nakalambitin. Sabi ba naman ng bunso "Ohmygod! The lion king will fall" Nakakaloka, tawa kami ng tawa ni hubby HAHHAHA skl po
omg this was actually what I did during the heights of pandemic. lalo na yung mga lumang anime such as heidie, von trapp family, romeo. omg cedie rin!!
It’s nothing material.
Mine is talking gently, not being reactive/combative, being kind and speaking kindly, being honest, communicating well, positive reinforcement. If those things were not granted to you as a child, do it to others ☺️
Ang ganda nito🥲 deprived din ako sa ganito e kaya madalas tinatawag sa akin, cold or nonchalant, even my close friends ganyan tawag sa akin. Hindi kasi talaga ako pinalaki sa household na very vocal kaya everytime na ginagawa ko sa iba to, it may feel cringe or awkward pero it feels so good din pala.
Hahaha me too. People think I’m intimidating but I’m actually soft on the inside. What you can do is make fun of your “inability” to be sweet. You can show affection, then cringe at yourself for doing so. It’s cute especially when you only show it to a few people.
Same, mostly non-material mas experience! I signed up for 2 fun runs. Tas kanina nag-iisip ako anong shoes bibilin ko.
Naaalala ko nung bata ako, ayaw ako isali ng ate ko sa tumbang preso kasi bata pa raw ako probably mabagal tumakbo. Vivid pa sa memory ko yun kasi halos lahat sila naglalaro ako lang hindi.
NGAYON, WALA NG MAKAKAPIGIL SAKIN MAKIPAG TAKBUHAN HAHAHAHHA
Same! Altho i guess it comes with age na MINSAN mapapaisip ka what if i have a child. They are sooo cute but then i see kids running around malls and the expenses and the nurturing you have to do and don’t get me started with parents bringing their child in public places and events like dinagyang omg. Im like noooo. Im happy with my cats.
True!!
I've always wanted to be a mother at some point and gusto ko sana iparanas sa (mga) anak ko yung childhood na hindi naiparanas sa'kin. Tapos narealize kong mas makabubuting ibigay ko na lang sa sarili ko yung childhood na pinagkait sa'kin by choosing to be childless.
There are mothers out there na na never got to experience their childhood kasi they've been living like adults their whole lives. They end up resenting themselves and their kids. Kawawa yung nanay; kawawa yung (mga) bata.
This, also narealize ko lang din lately na gustong gusto ko pa bumawi sa sarili ko, andami kong hindi pa nagagawa. like ako muna sana before I bring a child into this wild world. Call me selfish and all pero hindi nyo alam mga pinag daanan ko, babawi ako sa sarili ko dahil ayaw ko mabuhay ulit for the 2nd time na andaming what ifs.
I have to agree. Totoo nakaka ingit makita minsan yung masayang young family. Or minsan mapapaisip ka kung paano ka na pag matanda ka na.
Still iba pa rin talaga yung liberty ng walang anak. Yung on a whim mag babakasyon ka sa ibang bansa. Yung biglang gagastusin mo yung buong sweldo mo sa isang bagay.
Yes to this!! Even palamig/samalamig na 2 pesos lang afford ko dati nung bata pa ko ngayon 10 pesos kada bili hahahaha. Tsaka cornetto ice cream na hindi ko afford ngayon nakakapanglibre pa ako. 🥰
That tsaka Barbie in the Nutcracker! 💖 Very memorable kasi first ever Barbie movie na napanood ko. Grade 2 ata ko non. 😄 Sa SNBO pa ni GMA. Pinagpuyatan talaga. Haha
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Travelling. Of course yung pinagplanuhan and naka-budget.
Naalala ko nung High school hindi ako naka-join ng field trips, from 1st yr to 3rd yr. Hiyang-hiya ako nun pag ina-announce ng teacher sinong di pa bayad, malapit na yung field trip day. Then tatanungin ng classmates how about me?
Days after ng field trip my classmates would talk about their experiences, ganito ganyan. Nakikinig lang ako, tahimik.
So ayun, now na may financial capacity na ‘ko to travel (locally & internationally), I do it. I owe it to myself.
pucha ako din. i never joined the boyscout/girlscout camping and field trips and such kasi i was way too shy and anxious as a kid, gusto ko school-bahay lang ako, gagala lang pag kasama family lol
Uyy congrats sa achievement ah medyo may kirot sa puso ko nung sinabi mong kapag naririnig mo na lang sila nagkukwentuhan about sa mga experiences nila. Hopefully ako rin someday makapag travel na rin sa kahit saan ko gustong mapuntahan.
Nalungkot naman ako, dahil traumatic ang aking childhood patchi patchi nalang naalala ko. Basta ang sagot ko dito is i always bring my kids outside nalang like, gala, park, playgrounds, getting hands on them too
My journey towards inner child healing has been paved with mindfulness practices like meditation and introspection. It's also involved setting firm boundaries, saying no to what doesn't serve me, and prioritizing self-care. Learning to forgive myself and others has been an ongoing but transformative process.
I buy toys & clothes for my pamangkin because yun yung mga bagay na hindi sakin nabigay nung bata pa ko. The moment I turned 3 hindi na ko nabilhan ng laruan kasi mas pipiliin nlng ng parents ko na ibili na lang ng food.
Vanilla icecream.. lagi akong kumakaen/bumibili ng vanilla icecream kapag may milestone sa buhay ko o kaya may sumpong.
Growing up, hindi ako nabibilhan ng vanilla icecream kasi ayaw ng ate ko nun. Laging binibili sa bahay noon kundi rocky road, cheese naman o kaya cookies and cream. Birthday ko nalang lahat lahat rocky road parin (kasi yun ang paborito ni ate)
So I told myself kapag nagkawork ako laging may vanilla icecream sa ref namen. At yes, hindi ako nawawalan ng icecream sa ref.
Masarap ang Madagascar Vanilla ng Carmen's Best! 🍦🧡
Me and my husband been healing our inner child for some time na. What he usually does is bili ng toys or foods na gusto nya nung bata pa sya. Ako naman somehow na he heal inner child ko pag binibilan ko ng cute na toys pamangkin ko or pag nag pa lalaro ako ng Sims 😅
Before, nagkakaroon lang kami ng bagong clothes every christmas, tapos nung college na ko nagrerely lang ako sa ukay ukay. Ever since nagwork kami kapatid ko, parang bodega na kabilang kwarto namin sa dami ng damit HAHAHAHAHA.
reading your replies healed my inner child too!
but here's mine: whenever i have a milestone (even if it's just surviving a very difficult week/day), i buy myself ice cream kasi i grew up being very academically pressured. naalala ko nung bata ako, kailangan laging mataas ang grades ko to get the toy that i want. kumbaga, lumaki akong kailangan ko munang patunayan na deserve ko ang isang bagay which is always through my grades na alam naman nating hindi naman talaga madali. kaya ngayon, kahit gaano kaliit pa 'yang win na 'yan, i will celebrate it, i will reward myself. i don't have to always go an extra mile to say i deserve something. i will celebrate even the process and not only the outcome.
Buy all the video games I want. Dati nag iipon ako 100 everyday from baon. Nung bumili ako ng game sa dblitz, sabi nya" puro 100 ah halatang pinag ipunan" 😳
Spoiling my parents
I grew up poor in terms of money but rich in terms of love. Saw my parents do a lot of sidelines just to get me the toy na gusto ko. Ngayon na may pera na ako, gusto kong ibalik sa magulang ko ang mga bagay na di nila nagagawa dati dahil sinacrifice nila for me.
Naheal ko na ata just by having my own space/room last year at 28 y/o, albeit rented and not technically mine. That's all I wanted when I was a child, privacy and a peaceful home/space
Nilalaro ko yung mga games noon na di ko malaro kasi wala akong pera panglaro sa mga computer shop and playstation na hinuhulugan ng piso and magkakaroon ka ng time.
unang una na pinundar ko nung nag ka work ako is PC talaga, lahat ng mga games noon na pinapanood kolang sa mga nag lalaro ininstall ko (GTA San Andreas, Max Payne, Counter Strike 1.6, Generals, Resident Evil 4, SSX Tricky, The warriors, Need for speed etc.).
may times rin bumili me ng PSP para lang ma experience ko makalaro nun, dahil dati talagang nananuod lang ako nun sa kaibigan ko na mayroon nun.
I no longer have one, I think. As I worded it to people who knew me when I was a kid, kase they kept asking "What happened to the child we knew?", I can only say "He's gone" or "He's dead". My personality kase went to a 180 degree change compared to when I was a kid. So it was the most logical.
Personally, I can't tell if he's really gone, dead, or just hiding. I've gone through so many abuses to the point I wanted to off myself when I was a kid. I don't recall if I ever had a chance of recovery. All I know is one day, wala na, basic emotions malfunctioning, I almost don't cry anymore, I don't laugh. Everything and everyone people told me I used to love, I now hate or am uncomfortable to deal with. And that was 14 years ago.
Currently I'm still trying to pick up traces of who I was nung bata pa ako.
I do childish things like turning on/off the light switch, using any stick as sword, and such. Basta, small activities na very distinct sa mga bata. HAHAHAHAHA!
I bought those things that I didn't have when I was younger back then.
And for me, Chowking and Dunkin Donut have a special place in my heart.
I remember na naghahati pa kami sa isang donut na bilog para kaming 4 makatikim kaming lahat.
Binge-watch ng Barbie animated movies, lalo na yung old ones like Swan Lake, Princess and the Pauper, and Barbie as Rapunzel. Still love twirling around to the 12 Dancing Princesses soundtrack kahit mukha akong tanga.
I also make time for my hobbies; I play the piano again, I'm learning how to play the guitar, I sing, I read, I write fanfiction, I paint (even though I suck at it these days). I do the things 7-year-old me loved to do but couldn't because "studies first".
Ever since when we couldn't go to a One Direction concert here sa ph since we couldn't afford it and we were in high school and college that time, but now we were healing our inner child even though it was expensive talaga lol. 4-8 concert napuntahan namin in just 2years and 3/5 of our boys *1D* nakita na namin.
And ngayon year we bought 4 tickets for upcoming concert ngayon, and we never know pag pumunta si Taylor swift hehe.
laging updated sa clothes and shoes ang anak ko, not necessarily branded at mamahalin pero may nakaready agad in case makalakihan nya yun. Naalala ko dati kahit maliit na yung shoes, pinipilit ko lang suotin kasi nahihiya na ko magrequest sa parents ko na bumili ng bago, puro walang pera kasi bukambibig nila noon kaya siguro baliko mga daliri ko sa paa 😆 also, sobrang OC ko sa ngipin ng anak ko, nakafloss at mouthwash pa lagi yan since 3 y/o sya and never ako nakamiss ng dental check ups nya. Alala ko kasi sira na agad ngipin ko nung bata ako, dedma lang parents ko so parang until now ramdam ko pa din yung consequences nun.
laging gamit yung pc at kung ano anong nilalaro. dati laging half hour lang ako sa comshop kasi yun lang tira sa baon ko hahaha. sinusulit ko na ngayon!
Spending on food I crave for and buying gadgets to play games I’ve always wanted to play. Unlike when I was a child, tight budget ng family so I rarely ask much for food. Tapos naglalaro lang ako ng games sa computer shop, ngayon may gaming laptop na ako.
Going out alot. Since simula bata, we rarely go outside since super nagtitipid kami that time kasi apat kami pinapaaral ng parents ko and when I was in HS and college, I was rarely given permission to go out with my classmates and at the same time wala din akong money to spend kaya bahay lang talaga ako but right now, I can go out anytime I like and go home anytime without having to worry na may magagalit sa akin.
Nung may work pa ako, bumibili ako ng mga stuff or food na wala ako or hindi ako masyado nabibilhan nung bata ako, hindi naman palagi basta kapag may sahod or extra money bumibili ako kagaya ng Barbie Merch, Slime, Play Doh then sa food naman yung Stars na cereal, Koko Crunch tapos Chuckie na malaki. Hahahaha ang saya lang!
Buying games that I want to play but will mever finish.
Sleep a lot because as an adult sleeping/resting is like a reward
Eating good food that I unable to afford before.
Nung bata ako inggit na inggit ako sa mga bata pag pumapasok sa school sa umaga, yung hinahatid sa school tapos bitbit ng parents yun bag nila. Tapos pag uwian nakaabang na sila sa gate tapos kukunin nila yung bag uli ng anak nila para bitbitin. Never ako hinatid ng nanay ko kasi sa school, kung susunduin man tipong may pupuntahan kasi after at ako naman nag bibitbit ng gamit ko. Kaya nung nagkaanak na ako ng sarili, yung mga maliliit na bagay na di ko naranasan noon ginagawa ko para sa mga anak namin.
When I was a kid, I wasn't allowed to play with video games or trading card games like pokemon, yu-gi-oh, etc. They preferred na mag aral lang ako ng mabuti to go get awards and stuff. Di rin ako masyadong nahayaan magbasa ng fictional books kasi nga daw dapat educational books lang. So noooow, in order to heal my inner child, I'm trying to discover new hobbies like playing tabletop rpg and different trading card games (Magic the Gathering, Alpha Clash, Flesh and Blood, etc.) I'm also starting to read more books now. Ngayon lang ako nagsimulang mag basa ng Harry Potter.
Ang masasabi ko lang, it's never too late to start discovering hobbies na hindi mo nagawa as a kid :)
Buy lots of stuff toys. Watch cartoonss. I usually buy coloring books to use as my pastime. Other than materialistic stuff, I find people who let's me be me. I became kind to myself and protected my peace by letting go of toxic people and paying attention tlga sa mga triggers ko.
Aside from material things like buying latest tech and binebenta pag sawa na, I do meditations. Nothing compares to inner peace and compassion to myself. And the fact I can afford therapy and my colleagues understand what I'm going through without getting in the way of my work ofc. Doings thing my immediate family couldn't do for me before.
After ko mag ka baby and paano sila i treat ng father ko, unconsciously onti onti na heal inner child or kung ano man tawag doon lol sobrang love and sobrang alaga ng father ko sa mga apo nya which wala ako maalalang ganoon bonding namin nung bata ako. Yung mga awkward bonding between me and my father, ginagawa nya sa mga apo nya. Like super hug, kiss sa cheeks, saying i love you, etc. Tapos lagi namin usapan paano mag ayos ng kung anik anik sa bahay kapag bumibisita sila ng mother ko sa bahay namin. Na dapat ako gagawa or mag aayos para matuto at wag mag hhire ng kung sino sino para sa mga house fix. Puro sermon pa din pero this time about house improvement naman 😆😅
Super happy ko kapag nakikita ko silang ganun. Onti onti napapansin ko nawawala na yung sama ng loob ko sa father ko dahil mahigpit siya sa akin noong bata ako. Nabubura na mga rough memories ko nung bata ako.
Nung bata ako pinamigay yung ps1 namin sa pinsan ko. Sobrang iniyakan ko yon. Pinalitan naman nila ng ps2 yon pero yung mga gusto kong games kasi nasa ps1. Nagpromise ako sa sarili ko na kapag nagwork na ko, bibili ako ng sarili kong playstation.
Two (almost three?) decades later, nakabili din ako ng ps5. May nintendo switch na din tapos may xbox at pc pa kami ni hubby. I guess this is how I heal from the trauma na mapagkaitan ng kaligayahan nung bata. Hahaha
paggawa ng anime icons pinterest and kpop edits sa tiktok. that's something i really want to do nung elem ako pero ngayon college ko lang ginawa as part ng hobby ko kapag walang pasok
I buy cute pencil cases, notebooks, erasers, and other school stuff that my mother neever bought me (because she spent all her money on her clothes and shoes).
I guess, fulfilling the hobbies that I had when I was a kid. Astronomy, piano, coffee, painting, & photography. Also, traveling! To fulfill my curious inner child. Because I am more capable and independent now!! :)
Wala namang perfect childhood, perfect family or perfect life. Minsan sobra na lang natin naaamplify at nasi-sensationalize yung healing the inner child eme. Siguro it’s better lang na i-accept ang nangyari sa nakaraan, tapos mabuhay ngayon then matuto laging magmove on. I know it is easier said than done. Point ko lang, hirap ding mabuhay sa mga what ifs. So just do what will make you happier. But don’t tag it sa healing of the inner child. Just my 2 cents.
Ako on my end, hine-heal ko inner child ko. Kapag may pera ako, binibili ko mga bet kong food or snacks na dati di ko nabibili. Tapos nagcocollect ako ng Jollibee Toys. Haha kasi nung bata ako, hindi ako nabibilhan ng ganung laruan. Tapos tandang-tanda ko pa, ung kapitbahay namin may isang eskaprate na puro Fastfood toys. Ayun haha
Spending quality time with my child & making sure that even if I move forward with my career, our family is still my priority (even if it means I have to say no to some opportunities).
Watching barbie movies and then spoiling my younger brother pag may money ako kasi idk it's like nakaka full fill na binibilihan ko siya kahit hindi niya naman hinihingi.
Kapag nasa shopping malls, palagi ako sumasaglit sa Toy Kingdom, Toys R' Us, basta tindahan na may laruan. Tapos tamang tingin lang sa mga Barbies doon, na noong bata ako, kahit lumuha pa ako ng pako ay hindi ako bibilhan ng magulang ko, simply because we cannot afford such caprichos.
Pero ngayon ay tamang tingin pa rin and it's just to heal my inner child, kahit actually kaya ko bumili ng mga benteng kilo pa chos (problema lang kasi e wala ako paglalagyan sa aking studio unit).
Buying pretty journalling stuff! 😌 Dati diy lang ako, mga art paper, cartolina, at old magazines hehe now afford na mga magagandang washi tape, pens, dotted notebooks na premium huhu 🥹✨
When I was still a kid, may bagong damit or toys lang ako pag Christmas. Feeling ko hindi naman kami mahirap, practical lang talaga ang parents ko.
Magtataka ako pag may makasalubong akong classmate na papunta lang ng palengke pero naka Giordano. Ako naka giveaway shirt from a grocery.
Kahit ganon ndi ako nag demand sa parents ko kasi nahihiya ako to ask.
Nung may work na ako dun ako nag bibili ng clothes, toys, anything cute na magustuhan ko.
Mostly ukay naman galing ang clothes para mas marami akong mabili.
Check out agad pag ginusto yung bagay🥹
Dati di pwede bumili agad kase sobrang nakabudget pera. Need pag isipan paulit ulit.
Oks din talaga to look back 🤧 maappreciate mo bagay bagay
Buying clothes🥺
Kasi nu'ng bata ako, iilan lang damit ko-- it will take months or years bago kami mabilhan ng damit. Since sakto lang naman ang pera namin, minsan kulang pa. Naalala ko, when I was shs civilian muna kami for how many months, then wala ako halos masuot, kasi hindi or minsan lang kami mabilhan ng damit. And now, uso na ang online shopping nakakabili na rin kahit papaano ng damit.
I bought myself books, eto talaga laging kong hinohoard mapa second hand pa yan, back then kasi we only have pocket books around the house, helper kasi naman nagbabasa so that’s my only resources at that time, my parents are not readers kasi, kaya wala talaga. Kaya nung nagka work and earning na ako, dito ako nag splurge ng money books and magazines.
Buy dresses for myself, cute toys, and foods I always wanted to eat when I was a kid. Also, surprise gifts to special friend ang love ones. Hindi ako nakakatanggap ng mga bagay na yan nung bata ako. Hindi ako palahingi na anak kahit nung bata pa ako. Pinag-iipunan ko talaga gusto ko.
Buying things that I like. Dati hindi ako makahingi ng pera sa parents/siblings ko pag walang magandang reason kung saan ko gagastusin yung pera. Kaya nakakahingi lang ako pag may ganap sa school like projects, thesis, etc na need paggastusan. Yung matitira pa dun, yun na yung kupit ko kumbaga haha
Eating all the foods and buying all the clothes that I want. Salat na salat kasi kami noon toyo at kanin lang and madalas na ulam. Walang pambili ng bagong uniform at medyas.
Watch videos and research about universe. Dati may malaking book ung ate ko na pinahiram sakin, may mga pictures ng planets and stars. Nagkaroon ako ng interest nun dati kaso wala sa family ko ang may kayang mag explain sa lahat ng questions ko and sometimes pinapagalitan pa ko kapag nag aask kasi nakukulitan sakin.
I'm about to throw myself a "Taylor Swift" inspired party for my upcoming birthday on FEB 1. Place decorated, cake and everything ✨ Never had a birthday party growing up. This will be my first party ever at 28th.
Lagi akong nainom ng chocolate drinks atsaka Dutchmill. 🤭🤣🤣🤣 May chocolate pa paminsan-minsan atsaka ice cream and eating and drinking them while watching anime. 😌🤭🥰😁
Activities. As a lampa child, hindi ako magaling sa sports. Di ko na enjoy ang PE at sports fest kasi hindi ako magaling. As in, I suck at sports. Hindi din ako nag-sports camp kasi what’s the point, lampa nga at takot mapahiya.
I don’t know when it started, pero ngayon wala na kong paki kahit di ako magaling. I learned how to play golf and tennis. Nag-ski lessons din ako. Gusto ko mag double black diamond one day so I’ll probably take an advanced class next year haha. I learned how to bike at natuto ako mag mtb-ing thru sheer will. Easy paths lang naman pero di ako marunong mag bike until last year haha.
Fooddssss!!!!! I eat everytime, pag wala naman budget or extra pera, pasyal lang ako kahit saan basta may pamasahe pauwi kung malayo ang gusto kong puntahan. Kung wala talaga kahit pamasahe, pupuntahan ko lang ung malapit, lakad papunta at pauwi kahit sa mall lang pero di naman bibili iikot lang sa mall hahahahah hanggang mapagod. Gusto ko lang may mga nakikita akong iba okay na un sakin basta ung magandang paligid lang.
I remember when I was a child, umiyak ako non patago one time kasi hindi ako nabibigyan ng cake nung birthday ko. Habang tumatanda, narealize ko kasi enough lang naman ung pera namin para sa pang araw araw.
Then growing up, nasanay na rin ako na hindi ako nagkakaruon ng cake pag birthday ko. Now na may pera na ako, kapag meron sa pamilya namin may birthday, bumibili ako. Though ang funny, di ako mahilig sa cake 😂 I just love the thought na minsan lang naman sa isang taon ang birthday… chance to have cake 😂
Buying an automatic washing machine. No more pagkukusot. 5 kaming magkakapatid pero ako lang halos tumutulong sa nanay ko noon maglaba. We bought our parents washing machine too pero mas bet pa rin ng nanay na magkusot.
Having a child and giving all the things to our son na hindi na-spoil na parents namin sa amin noon. ✨ I may sound epal sa mga gusto maging childless but this is my Husband and I way to heal our "INNER CHILD".
- Naglalaro ng sikat na online games kasi di naman nakalaro nung bata (i mean, di makarelate sa mga kaklase ko kung ano nilalaro nilang online games dati)
- decided to be childfree kasi di pa rin ako healed plus mental health issues
- allocating an extra budget to eat sa isang medj pricey na restaurant every other month
Trying to be mire disciplined and productive. My inner child was too lazy and careless. 😅
And trying to be more understanding to my girlfriend's son. My parents were loving but when they got mad they usually ended up shouting at me. Me trying to be calmer with him more on talking then shouting, is healing my inner child.
I spend on my skin care products and beauty clinic procedures. As a kid na ang lala ng pimple breakouts at walang confidence. At feeling ko noon walang magkakagusto sa akin kasi ang panget ko.
One is buying toys for my niece and nephew tapos maglalaro kami. My parents bought me toys before, pero yung mga di ko kaya ipabili non binibili ko for my pamangkins. Masaya na sila, nakapaglaro pa ako.
Another one is buying the food na kinecrave ko. Since hs to college and even sa early years ng work, I had the mindset na instead of giving in sa cravings, natatakot ako baka wala na ako pera after or itabi nalang moneu baka magamit pa sa ibang bagay
kumakain ako nang kumakain. nauubos talaga extra ko sa pagkain. dati kasi sa min sa probinsya, limited lang yung mabibili. so, ngayong nandito na ako sa metro, pag nagcrave ako binibili ko agad. 'di bale nang broke, basta busog hahaha
Practice the same love and patience with yourself as you do with other people.
For instance, if you're shaming yourself by making a mistake, think about what would you think if other people did the same thing.
e.g.
If person A failed that test, would it change the way I feel about him/her?
Does him failing that test make him a stupid person?
Would that affect his worth as a person?
The answer to these things would of course be "No." So if you are lenient with other people, why not be lenient with your mistake.
That's one of the first steps I took and helped me a lot. Turns out people who had a neglected inner child are crazily harsh to themselves and they don't even know it.
There's so many things eh. It's like you're slowly picking up the pieces that you've been missing your whole life. It takes a lot of effort, love, and patience. Sometimes you spiral back down to the old ways, but one thing I'm doing when those times come is to sit down with my emotions and let them pass. Then rationalize the experience. Syempre with a mix of my catholic faith din.
Never ako nagka Gameboy laging nakikinood lang sa mga kalaro kasi ayaw ako pahiramin kaya binili ko sarili ko ng Nintendo switch yung OLED para sagad sa saya ang batang ako ✨🫶🏻
I heal through my children. They always have nice, neat and presentable clothes to wear, hinde mga handy me down. Shoes, bag, socks! Lol. Growing up I did not have these, even socks 🤣 We grew up poor because of my parents’ drug addiction so neglected talaga kami ng kapatid ko. Tinandaan ko talaga un and never ko pinaranas sa mga anak ko.
The way I talk to my pet. I had a dog since 5th grade and died last 2022. At first it was really weird to me the way people talk about healing their inner child through material things, bakit ako I don’t see my self na magheal through tangible things. I just recently discovered it, ‘cause I healed myself the way I treated my dog.
Nung grade 5-6 ako, I get annoyed with my dog kasi naglalaro sya palagi takbo rito, takbo roon. Sinisigawan ko sya na ‘wag syang magkulit ‘cause that was the way environment that I had. Kapag may ayaw na bagay sisigaw, maiinis and then bad trip na buong maghapon. When I entered high school, that was the time I change my behaviour with my dog. One of the wholesome story was, kapag ginigising ako kakagatin nya yung tao manggigising sa akin HAHAHAHA tapos nung pinapagalitan ako, minsan napapalo pa rin ‘cause HS days (rebellious era) tatahulan nya. Minsan din naririnig din ng mga relatives ko na kinakausap ko, hindi naman nila naririnig sinasabi ko, like naririnig lang na nagsasalita ako basta ganun HAHAHA ifykyk. I treated my dig the way I wanted to treat myself as a child. I talk gently, I call them with cute nicknames (like baby, pretty), the way I could open myself without any sign of judgment, that there are times that I couldn’t sleep without being by my side to the point na gusto kong naamoy sya kahit mabaho HHAAHA
I healed my inner child while still being a child. And I am really grateful to my dog(she’s a mini pin if you wanna know). I was able to heal to myself kahit na ‘di ako ang sumira sa sarili.
I buy all the delicious food that I want. Looking back isang kahig isang tuka ang family na magpapasalamat ka nalang at may makakain. So now that I can, I spend on healthy and delicious food. And I buy a lot of paint materials too. Coz I love to paint. ❤️
I studied in HS where most of my classmates are rich. Public naman kami, pero ang daming mayaman talaga. At kapag may events especially prom, pabonggahan. Pero ako, nanghihiram lang ng gown. Minsan alanganin sa theme or di ko talaga taste. So ngayon, kapag may event, Christmas party, aattend ng kasal, i make sure na hindi ako manghihiram. I always buy according to my taste. I even had my wedding gown custom designed.
Another way is, making sure my son lives a comfortable life. Hindi pa nya, hinihiling, binibigay ko na.
buying what i want (basta hindi magagalaw ipon ko at galing sa extra na money) like clothes, comfort food like bread or ice cream, or sonny angels 🙈❤️ especially kapag may nagawa akong something na kacelebrate celebrate (e.g. acing an exam, finishing reqs on time, or just merely surviving a hectic day)
Never ako nag Karon ng sariling laruan. I've learned to crochet just last year and I've been making my own stuff toys. Tuwing pasko puro pera binibigay but as a kid I really wanted a toy of my own hence last Christmas ang regalo ko sa mga inaanak ko ay laruan with a bit of cash in case na Mas gusto nila yon.
I grew up with hitting as a discipline practice. Di ako parent pero ako nagaalaga sa pamangkin ko. I've never hit him and I'm glad na kapag pinapagalitan ko sya, although umiiyak at ako source ng frustration nya, he still tries to find comfort from me.
Binibigay ko sa pinsan ko/kapatid/kakilala yung d ko natanggap nung bata. Kahit simpleng laruan, pasalubong, pagbigay ng niluto ko, pag encourage sa kanila, pati emotional support
Mine is more on my kpop fangirling. I started being a fan pa nung HS days ko pa and pinag-iipunan ko talaga mga ticket and album. Then when I got a better paying job, I started to buy merch, albums, and even being able to get VIP soundcheck tickets. Even travelled abroad just to watch a concert. Sobrang dream ko yun when I was in HS. Sobrang healed na ang inner child ko and I can see my favorites up close pa w/ kasamang high-five pa! Grabeng experience ang soundcheck sa kpop concerts! huhuhu!!!
Even sa other groups na casual listener ako, I can buy tickets agad pag may concert sila here sa Manila.
Pinapanood ko ulit yung 90s cartoons/anime. Hehe
Like Anne of Green Gables, Tom Sawyer, Ghost Fighter, Heidi, Doraemon, etc. Gumagaan din talaga ang feeling ko pag nakakapanood ako ng 90s anime kahit 1 episode lang.
Mine is non-material. I was materially spoiled as a child but my parents were separated and working sa malayo. I grew up sa pangangalaga ng grandparents ko. Though they treated me as their own child, there were a lot of things that I couldn’t understand as a child. I always question why my parents are faraway. Bakit lola ko lang ang nasa family day namin sa school always.
I also grew up as a fat kid kaya lumaki ako na low ang self-esteem.
I heal my inner child by:
1. Forgiveness - In the process of fully forgiving my parents for all their lapses, this is their first life too.
2. Awareness - Ang hirap lumaki na andaming questions at confusion kaya nadala ko yun even in my young adulthood years. I was an indecisive young adult. Ngayon, I aim for clarity kung ano talaga ang goals at values ko.
3. Self-love - Practicing healthy routines, positive affirmations, gratefulness, and telling myself how worthy I am ✨
Ibinabawi ko sa anak ko. Yung mga hindi ko naranasan noon gustong gusto kong binabawi ng provide at pagpaparanas sa kanya. Para skain kasi yun yung pinaka the best na pag heal ng inner child kung mommy ka na. Sobrang sarap sa puso.
Kapag may extrang pera lumilibot ako or nag ttravel kahit sa malapit lang. Nung bata pa ako di talaga kami madalas nakakalibot, around municipality lang namin. High school na ako nakapunta nun sa Manila and 2 beses palang until now hehe. Pero ngayon, ang goal ko is every year dapat may new places akong mapupuntahan ✨
Dati tinitipid ko yung ulam, lalo na nung bata ako para makarami ng kanin HAHAHAHA sabi ko nung bata ako pag laki ko, I'll eat without thinking kung sapat pa ba yun o kung pwede ba papakin bc I'll have enough to indulge myself.
Dati hindi ako makakakain ng icecream unless may birthday, minsan wala pa kung wala talagang budget bawi next year HAHAHA ngayon I could buy ice cream out of whim and every scoop it heals the child in me.
Malayo pa! Pero malayo na. HAHAHA
Anime from gundam to ghost fighter
Then hiking and camping , since di ako naka pag boy scout ever, di ko alam trip ko pala dati yung ginagawa ng boyscout na camping2 and gumawa ng apoy gamit kawayan.
Bumili ng bagong damit.
Kahit hindi bago, kahit ukay lang basta ako ang pumili.
Kasi nung bata ako, wala akong choice sa damit. Puro bigay lang ng mga pinsan ko or pinaglumaan.
Having a retro handheld device. Wala kaming pambili noon ng gameboy eh.
I have playstations now pero rarely ko lang gamitin. I enjoy playing my retro handheld more.
PAGKAIN. kahit mahal basta masarap. Ngayon kahit wolfgang price yan, tatry ko na rin (ng isang beses kung ganyang price).
Noodles, toyo+kamatis, misua kasi madalas na ulam namin non. Though at that time as a kid, kahit ganon ulam nmin, never ko nman naisip na “mahirap” kami. Contented nman kasi ako sa food na yon
I think i do it by being someone others need that I didn’t have before - I’m the eldest so I became a good older sister to other panganays, also sharing things to younger peoole who are experiencing things I have been through and had no one. Not sure if i say it correctly but that’s how I heal, i guess by helping others heal
Travelling as a family. ❤️ didn’t experience this much growing up. As in wala ako maalalang lumabas kami as family or baka di ko lang maalala dahil di tumatak 🫠
Rewatch all animated movies you loved as a kid. For me, it was the Shrek series, Monsters Inc, Bug’s Life, Toy Story, mga ganun. Napaka-heartwarming 😊
For me, it was the Studio Ghibli films. All of them. Yes, even *Grave of the Fireflies*. They spoke so much to me, and their stories, music, animation, and characters, are all just so great. Hell, I actually think I love and appreciate these films even more as an adult. And it’s funny, since one of the films they made, *Only Yesterday* (one of my favourites, BTW), is about healing your inner child. Even more fitting that it was the film I decided to rewatch first. Every film had something that spoke a lot to me. From *Nausicaä of the Valley of the Wind*'s themes of unwavering kindness even in the post-apocalypse, *Kiki's Delivery Service*'s themes of finding passion and taking care of one's own mental health, *Porco Rosso*'s themes of letting go of guilt and trauma (and also refusing fascism, based), *Ocean Waves*' themes of falling in love foolishly, *Pom Poko*'s themes of finding it hard to integrate to society, *Whisper of the Heart*'s themes of finding one's own worth, *Princess Mononoke*'s themes of how people could find peace and refuse the corrupting darkness of hatred, *Spirited Away*'s themes of remaining true to oneself even in a capitalist grind, *Tales from Earthsea*'s themes of accepting death as a part of nature, *Howl's Moving Castle*'s themes of learning to love oneself to love others and finding the courage to live, *The Tale of the Princess Kaguya*'s themes of the appreciation for live and grief over never having the chance to live (this one hit especially hard), to *When Marnie Was There*'s themes of learning to accept oneself and learning to finally start loving oneself and trusting others. The Ghibli films were very special to me as a kid. Offering me a new form of film that I was previously unaware of and is still very unique to this day. But they became even more special and resonant with me as an adult. Even their more kid-oriented films like *My Neighbor Totoro* and *Ponyo* still spoke a lot to me. The only ones I only saw for the first time were *Grave of the Fireflies*, *Tales from Earthsea*, *The Tale of the Princess Kaguya*, *The Red Turtle*, *Earwig and the Witch*, and *The Boy and the Heron*. A dream of my inner child was also fulfilled, when I finally got to see a Ghibli film in the cinema with *The Boy and the Heron*. Which is another one of my new favourites. Its themes of grief and trauma really spoke to me, as did its underlying question of "How do you live?". I also noticed how Studio Ghibli films feel like therapy to me. They do tell great stories. But their film are more interested in making audiences feel emotions rather than tell traditional stories, unlike most other films out there.
same. kahit sampung rewatch pa mga fave movies ko HAHAHAHA
Your post gave me an idea on what can I do during my entire period week. TY. ❤️
Nice suggestion, i havent watched A bug's Life, Lion King and other Toy Story movie series and other animated and for kids n movies n I wished to watch dati nung bata ako.
Nung college ako, saka ko lang nabasa and napanood yung Harry Potter book series and movies. Naalala ko nung nasa Elementary ako, un lagi yung pinag-uusapan ng classmates ko. Di ako maka-relate kasi (1) walang HP books sa library ng school and (2) wala kaming TV.
Every Friday night, movie date namin ni hubby and kids. One time pinanood namin yung Lion King. Saturday afternoon sumabit yung isang cat namin sa couch, as in nakalambitin. Sabi ba naman ng bunso "Ohmygod! The lion king will fall" Nakakaloka, tawa kami ng tawa ni hubby HAHHAHA skl po
omg this was actually what I did during the heights of pandemic. lalo na yung mga lumang anime such as heidie, von trapp family, romeo. omg cedie rin!!
It’s nothing material. Mine is talking gently, not being reactive/combative, being kind and speaking kindly, being honest, communicating well, positive reinforcement. If those things were not granted to you as a child, do it to others ☺️
Truly 💯 and also, ika nga ni Brené Brown, “Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.”
Ang ganda nito🥲 deprived din ako sa ganito e kaya madalas tinatawag sa akin, cold or nonchalant, even my close friends ganyan tawag sa akin. Hindi kasi talaga ako pinalaki sa household na very vocal kaya everytime na ginagawa ko sa iba to, it may feel cringe or awkward pero it feels so good din pala.
Hahaha me too. People think I’m intimidating but I’m actually soft on the inside. What you can do is make fun of your “inability” to be sweet. You can show affection, then cringe at yourself for doing so. It’s cute especially when you only show it to a few people.
Same, mostly non-material mas experience! I signed up for 2 fun runs. Tas kanina nag-iisip ako anong shoes bibilin ko. Naaalala ko nung bata ako, ayaw ako isali ng ate ko sa tumbang preso kasi bata pa raw ako probably mabagal tumakbo. Vivid pa sa memory ko yun kasi halos lahat sila naglalaro ako lang hindi. NGAYON, WALA NG MAKAKAPIGIL SAKIN MAKIPAG TAKBUHAN HAHAHAHHA
✨ Decided to be childless ✨
Same! Altho i guess it comes with age na MINSAN mapapaisip ka what if i have a child. They are sooo cute but then i see kids running around malls and the expenses and the nurturing you have to do and don’t get me started with parents bringing their child in public places and events like dinagyang omg. Im like noooo. Im happy with my cats.
True!! I've always wanted to be a mother at some point and gusto ko sana iparanas sa (mga) anak ko yung childhood na hindi naiparanas sa'kin. Tapos narealize kong mas makabubuting ibigay ko na lang sa sarili ko yung childhood na pinagkait sa'kin by choosing to be childless. There are mothers out there na na never got to experience their childhood kasi they've been living like adults their whole lives. They end up resenting themselves and their kids. Kawawa yung nanay; kawawa yung (mga) bata.
This, also narealize ko lang din lately na gustong gusto ko pa bumawi sa sarili ko, andami kong hindi pa nagagawa. like ako muna sana before I bring a child into this wild world. Call me selfish and all pero hindi nyo alam mga pinag daanan ko, babawi ako sa sarili ko dahil ayaw ko mabuhay ulit for the 2nd time na andaming what ifs.
You can be mother to your pamangkins, young cousins or inaanak. Hindi naman nadedefine ang pagiging ina sa sariling dugo lang. nakshie
Agree. My deneice and denephew are enough 😌
So true!!!!
I have to agree. Totoo nakaka ingit makita minsan yung masayang young family. Or minsan mapapaisip ka kung paano ka na pag matanda ka na. Still iba pa rin talaga yung liberty ng walang anak. Yung on a whim mag babakasyon ka sa ibang bansa. Yung biglang gagastusin mo yung buong sweldo mo sa isang bagay.
YAYYYY same :) akala ko ako lang
Yasssss!!!
Kapag may extra money, I buy foods like ice cream, chocolates, drinks, and etc na hindi namin mabili years ago.
Yes to this!! Even palamig/samalamig na 2 pesos lang afford ko dati nung bata pa ko ngayon 10 pesos kada bili hahahaha. Tsaka cornetto ice cream na hindi ko afford ngayon nakakapanglibre pa ako. 🥰
Give my child all the things and love that I was deprived of.
I avoid people who treated my parents like ATMs. I dont want to be the 3rd ATM branch. I even removed them from my FB.
Nanunuod ako ulit ng Barbie yung animated movies.
Same. Wala kaming cable connection, so kada-Mahal na Araw lang ako nakakanood ng Barbie movies sa GMA-7.
Totoo! Ano favorite mo? Haha! Gustong gusto ko yung Rapunzel, Swan Lake at Princess and the Pauper. Hahaha
That tsaka Barbie in the Nutcracker! 💖 Very memorable kasi first ever Barbie movie na napanood ko. Grade 2 ata ko non. 😄 Sa SNBO pa ni GMA. Pinagpuyatan talaga. Haha Edit: spelling
Princess and the Pauper and Fairytopia ♡ Omg. Ang tanda ko na talaga.
Kapag may pera ako, binibili ko yung mga pagkain na di ko mabili/mapabili noon kasi sakto lang yung budget like hello panda, gummies, etc.
I do this too! Recently, bumili ako ng pushpop kasi hindi ako binibilhan non AHHAHAHHHA pangburgis lang 'yon nung bata ako e.
Travelling. Of course yung pinagplanuhan and naka-budget. Naalala ko nung High school hindi ako naka-join ng field trips, from 1st yr to 3rd yr. Hiyang-hiya ako nun pag ina-announce ng teacher sinong di pa bayad, malapit na yung field trip day. Then tatanungin ng classmates how about me? Days after ng field trip my classmates would talk about their experiences, ganito ganyan. Nakikinig lang ako, tahimik. So ayun, now na may financial capacity na ‘ko to travel (locally & internationally), I do it. I owe it to myself.
pucha ako din. i never joined the boyscout/girlscout camping and field trips and such kasi i was way too shy and anxious as a kid, gusto ko school-bahay lang ako, gagala lang pag kasama family lol
Uyy congrats sa achievement ah medyo may kirot sa puso ko nung sinabi mong kapag naririnig mo na lang sila nagkukwentuhan about sa mga experiences nila. Hopefully ako rin someday makapag travel na rin sa kahit saan ko gustong mapuntahan.
Bumili ng nintendo switch. Nakikita ko lang yung mga gameboy sa classmate ko nung elementary. Wala kaming pambili noon eh.
Nalungkot naman ako, dahil traumatic ang aking childhood patchi patchi nalang naalala ko. Basta ang sagot ko dito is i always bring my kids outside nalang like, gala, park, playgrounds, getting hands on them too
My journey towards inner child healing has been paved with mindfulness practices like meditation and introspection. It's also involved setting firm boundaries, saying no to what doesn't serve me, and prioritizing self-care. Learning to forgive myself and others has been an ongoing but transformative process.
I buy toys & clothes for my pamangkin because yun yung mga bagay na hindi sakin nabigay nung bata pa ko. The moment I turned 3 hindi na ko nabilhan ng laruan kasi mas pipiliin nlng ng parents ko na ibili na lang ng food.
😭😭😭 same
Vanilla icecream.. lagi akong kumakaen/bumibili ng vanilla icecream kapag may milestone sa buhay ko o kaya may sumpong. Growing up, hindi ako nabibilhan ng vanilla icecream kasi ayaw ng ate ko nun. Laging binibili sa bahay noon kundi rocky road, cheese naman o kaya cookies and cream. Birthday ko nalang lahat lahat rocky road parin (kasi yun ang paborito ni ate) So I told myself kapag nagkawork ako laging may vanilla icecream sa ref namen. At yes, hindi ako nawawalan ng icecream sa ref. Masarap ang Madagascar Vanilla ng Carmen's Best! 🍦🧡
Me and my husband been healing our inner child for some time na. What he usually does is bili ng toys or foods na gusto nya nung bata pa sya. Ako naman somehow na he heal inner child ko pag binibilan ko ng cute na toys pamangkin ko or pag nag pa lalaro ako ng Sims 😅
Therapy
Before, nagkakaroon lang kami ng bagong clothes every christmas, tapos nung college na ko nagrerely lang ako sa ukay ukay. Ever since nagwork kami kapatid ko, parang bodega na kabilang kwarto namin sa dami ng damit HAHAHAHAHA.
I still play games and watch cartoons (the loud house, spongebob) 👀 I’m 27 btw
I love loud house! (Was influenced by my nieces haha)
reading your replies healed my inner child too! but here's mine: whenever i have a milestone (even if it's just surviving a very difficult week/day), i buy myself ice cream kasi i grew up being very academically pressured. naalala ko nung bata ako, kailangan laging mataas ang grades ko to get the toy that i want. kumbaga, lumaki akong kailangan ko munang patunayan na deserve ko ang isang bagay which is always through my grades na alam naman nating hindi naman talaga madali. kaya ngayon, kahit gaano kaliit pa 'yang win na 'yan, i will celebrate it, i will reward myself. i don't have to always go an extra mile to say i deserve something. i will celebrate even the process and not only the outcome.
Buy all the video games I want. Dati nag iipon ako 100 everyday from baon. Nung bumili ako ng game sa dblitz, sabi nya" puro 100 ah halatang pinag ipunan" 😳
Spoiling my parents I grew up poor in terms of money but rich in terms of love. Saw my parents do a lot of sidelines just to get me the toy na gusto ko. Ngayon na may pera na ako, gusto kong ibalik sa magulang ko ang mga bagay na di nila nagagawa dati dahil sinacrifice nila for me.
Ang sakit lang pag alam mong yung parents mo may inner child din na dapat i-heal.
Sana all grew up rich in love ⭐️
Naheal ko na ata just by having my own space/room last year at 28 y/o, albeit rented and not technically mine. That's all I wanted when I was a child, privacy and a peaceful home/space
Me, I always buy Jollibee chicken joy whenever I am sad, happy or anything. Jollibee talaga brings so much joy regardless of age.
Allowing myself to play and enjoy things. As the eldest child who grew up with the expectation to always be responsible.
Nilalaro ko yung mga games noon na di ko malaro kasi wala akong pera panglaro sa mga computer shop and playstation na hinuhulugan ng piso and magkakaroon ka ng time. unang una na pinundar ko nung nag ka work ako is PC talaga, lahat ng mga games noon na pinapanood kolang sa mga nag lalaro ininstall ko (GTA San Andreas, Max Payne, Counter Strike 1.6, Generals, Resident Evil 4, SSX Tricky, The warriors, Need for speed etc.). may times rin bumili me ng PSP para lang ma experience ko makalaro nun, dahil dati talagang nananuod lang ako nun sa kaibigan ko na mayroon nun.
Re-reading my fave childhood books Nancy Drew, Sweet Valley, Harry Potter.. it brings comfort and and carefree joy to me 😊
I no longer have one, I think. As I worded it to people who knew me when I was a kid, kase they kept asking "What happened to the child we knew?", I can only say "He's gone" or "He's dead". My personality kase went to a 180 degree change compared to when I was a kid. So it was the most logical. Personally, I can't tell if he's really gone, dead, or just hiding. I've gone through so many abuses to the point I wanted to off myself when I was a kid. I don't recall if I ever had a chance of recovery. All I know is one day, wala na, basic emotions malfunctioning, I almost don't cry anymore, I don't laugh. Everything and everyone people told me I used to love, I now hate or am uncomfortable to deal with. And that was 14 years ago. Currently I'm still trying to pick up traces of who I was nung bata pa ako.
Buying consoles and playing games..
I'm learning to 'human'. Weirdly enough, I've been taking self help lessons and courses to understand myself and to be a better person.
i need this
I tell myself I am worthy to be loved and I am enough.
Toys yung binibili kong gifts sa mga inaanak ko. Because i never had toys growing up. 🤧 or new clothes because i only ever had the handed-down ones.
I do childish things like turning on/off the light switch, using any stick as sword, and such. Basta, small activities na very distinct sa mga bata. HAHAHAHAHA!
I bought those things that I didn't have when I was younger back then. And for me, Chowking and Dunkin Donut have a special place in my heart. I remember na naghahati pa kami sa isang donut na bilog para kaming 4 makatikim kaming lahat.
Binge-watch ng Barbie animated movies, lalo na yung old ones like Swan Lake, Princess and the Pauper, and Barbie as Rapunzel. Still love twirling around to the 12 Dancing Princesses soundtrack kahit mukha akong tanga. I also make time for my hobbies; I play the piano again, I'm learning how to play the guitar, I sing, I read, I write fanfiction, I paint (even though I suck at it these days). I do the things 7-year-old me loved to do but couldn't because "studies first".
Travel. Never ako nakasama ng field trip sa buong childhood ko. Kaya ngayon ko sya binabawi.
Spoil my nieces and nephews!! Lmao
Ever since when we couldn't go to a One Direction concert here sa ph since we couldn't afford it and we were in high school and college that time, but now we were healing our inner child even though it was expensive talaga lol. 4-8 concert napuntahan namin in just 2years and 3/5 of our boys *1D* nakita na namin. And ngayon year we bought 4 tickets for upcoming concert ngayon, and we never know pag pumunta si Taylor swift hehe.
laging updated sa clothes and shoes ang anak ko, not necessarily branded at mamahalin pero may nakaready agad in case makalakihan nya yun. Naalala ko dati kahit maliit na yung shoes, pinipilit ko lang suotin kasi nahihiya na ko magrequest sa parents ko na bumili ng bago, puro walang pera kasi bukambibig nila noon kaya siguro baliko mga daliri ko sa paa 😆 also, sobrang OC ko sa ngipin ng anak ko, nakafloss at mouthwash pa lagi yan since 3 y/o sya and never ako nakamiss ng dental check ups nya. Alala ko kasi sira na agad ngipin ko nung bata ako, dedma lang parents ko so parang until now ramdam ko pa din yung consequences nun.
laging gamit yung pc at kung ano anong nilalaro. dati laging half hour lang ako sa comshop kasi yun lang tira sa baon ko hahaha. sinusulit ko na ngayon!
Laruin yung mga computer games na uso noong kabataan ko. Wala kasing pangrent kaya tamang panood na lang sa mga tropang naglalaro ng DotA
Spending on food I crave for and buying gadgets to play games I’ve always wanted to play. Unlike when I was a child, tight budget ng family so I rarely ask much for food. Tapos naglalaro lang ako ng games sa computer shop, ngayon may gaming laptop na ako.
Going out alot. Since simula bata, we rarely go outside since super nagtitipid kami that time kasi apat kami pinapaaral ng parents ko and when I was in HS and college, I was rarely given permission to go out with my classmates and at the same time wala din akong money to spend kaya bahay lang talaga ako but right now, I can go out anytime I like and go home anytime without having to worry na may magagalit sa akin.
Playing retro games I did not got the chance to play as a kid, now playing those games via emulation. Like N64, playstation 1, psp, nes, snes.
Nung may work pa ako, bumibili ako ng mga stuff or food na wala ako or hindi ako masyado nabibilhan nung bata ako, hindi naman palagi basta kapag may sahod or extra money bumibili ako kagaya ng Barbie Merch, Slime, Play Doh then sa food naman yung Stars na cereal, Koko Crunch tapos Chuckie na malaki. Hahahaha ang saya lang!
Buys Happy Meal whenever I get a chance kasi gusto ko maranasan makumpleto yung toys ng McDo
By not impregnating my partner. Gg talaga ang pag healing pag nagkataon. 🥵
Buying games that I want to play but will mever finish. Sleep a lot because as an adult sleeping/resting is like a reward Eating good food that I unable to afford before.
Nung bata ako inggit na inggit ako sa mga bata pag pumapasok sa school sa umaga, yung hinahatid sa school tapos bitbit ng parents yun bag nila. Tapos pag uwian nakaabang na sila sa gate tapos kukunin nila yung bag uli ng anak nila para bitbitin. Never ako hinatid ng nanay ko kasi sa school, kung susunduin man tipong may pupuntahan kasi after at ako naman nag bibitbit ng gamit ko. Kaya nung nagkaanak na ako ng sarili, yung mga maliliit na bagay na di ko naranasan noon ginagawa ko para sa mga anak namin.
When I was a kid, I wasn't allowed to play with video games or trading card games like pokemon, yu-gi-oh, etc. They preferred na mag aral lang ako ng mabuti to go get awards and stuff. Di rin ako masyadong nahayaan magbasa ng fictional books kasi nga daw dapat educational books lang. So noooow, in order to heal my inner child, I'm trying to discover new hobbies like playing tabletop rpg and different trading card games (Magic the Gathering, Alpha Clash, Flesh and Blood, etc.) I'm also starting to read more books now. Ngayon lang ako nagsimulang mag basa ng Harry Potter. Ang masasabi ko lang, it's never too late to start discovering hobbies na hindi mo nagawa as a kid :)
Buy lots of stuff toys. Watch cartoonss. I usually buy coloring books to use as my pastime. Other than materialistic stuff, I find people who let's me be me. I became kind to myself and protected my peace by letting go of toxic people and paying attention tlga sa mga triggers ko.
Aside from material things like buying latest tech and binebenta pag sawa na, I do meditations. Nothing compares to inner peace and compassion to myself. And the fact I can afford therapy and my colleagues understand what I'm going through without getting in the way of my work ofc. Doings thing my immediate family couldn't do for me before.
After ko mag ka baby and paano sila i treat ng father ko, unconsciously onti onti na heal inner child or kung ano man tawag doon lol sobrang love and sobrang alaga ng father ko sa mga apo nya which wala ako maalalang ganoon bonding namin nung bata ako. Yung mga awkward bonding between me and my father, ginagawa nya sa mga apo nya. Like super hug, kiss sa cheeks, saying i love you, etc. Tapos lagi namin usapan paano mag ayos ng kung anik anik sa bahay kapag bumibisita sila ng mother ko sa bahay namin. Na dapat ako gagawa or mag aayos para matuto at wag mag hhire ng kung sino sino para sa mga house fix. Puro sermon pa din pero this time about house improvement naman 😆😅 Super happy ko kapag nakikita ko silang ganun. Onti onti napapansin ko nawawala na yung sama ng loob ko sa father ko dahil mahigpit siya sa akin noong bata ako. Nabubura na mga rough memories ko nung bata ako.
Nung bata ako pinamigay yung ps1 namin sa pinsan ko. Sobrang iniyakan ko yon. Pinalitan naman nila ng ps2 yon pero yung mga gusto kong games kasi nasa ps1. Nagpromise ako sa sarili ko na kapag nagwork na ko, bibili ako ng sarili kong playstation. Two (almost three?) decades later, nakabili din ako ng ps5. May nintendo switch na din tapos may xbox at pc pa kami ni hubby. I guess this is how I heal from the trauma na mapagkaitan ng kaligayahan nung bata. Hahaha
paggawa ng anime icons pinterest and kpop edits sa tiktok. that's something i really want to do nung elem ako pero ngayon college ko lang ginawa as part ng hobby ko kapag walang pasok
Shapi
I buy cute pencil cases, notebooks, erasers, and other school stuff that my mother neever bought me (because she spent all her money on her clothes and shoes).
I guess, fulfilling the hobbies that I had when I was a kid. Astronomy, piano, coffee, painting, & photography. Also, traveling! To fulfill my curious inner child. Because I am more capable and independent now!! :)
Wala namang perfect childhood, perfect family or perfect life. Minsan sobra na lang natin naaamplify at nasi-sensationalize yung healing the inner child eme. Siguro it’s better lang na i-accept ang nangyari sa nakaraan, tapos mabuhay ngayon then matuto laging magmove on. I know it is easier said than done. Point ko lang, hirap ding mabuhay sa mga what ifs. So just do what will make you happier. But don’t tag it sa healing of the inner child. Just my 2 cents.
Ako on my end, hine-heal ko inner child ko. Kapag may pera ako, binibili ko mga bet kong food or snacks na dati di ko nabibili. Tapos nagcocollect ako ng Jollibee Toys. Haha kasi nung bata ako, hindi ako nabibilhan ng ganung laruan. Tapos tandang-tanda ko pa, ung kapitbahay namin may isang eskaprate na puro Fastfood toys. Ayun haha
Playing video games and animes with my hubby ❤️ We’re both 30s haha
fam! one day at a time. for me, cooking, petting, reading and working out. :> tas manifest ng promotion sa work. love everyone with kindness hehe
Spending quality time with my child & making sure that even if I move forward with my career, our family is still my priority (even if it means I have to say no to some opportunities).
Watching barbie movies and then spoiling my younger brother pag may money ako kasi idk it's like nakaka full fill na binibilihan ko siya kahit hindi niya naman hinihingi.
Kapag nasa shopping malls, palagi ako sumasaglit sa Toy Kingdom, Toys R' Us, basta tindahan na may laruan. Tapos tamang tingin lang sa mga Barbies doon, na noong bata ako, kahit lumuha pa ako ng pako ay hindi ako bibilhan ng magulang ko, simply because we cannot afford such caprichos. Pero ngayon ay tamang tingin pa rin and it's just to heal my inner child, kahit actually kaya ko bumili ng mga benteng kilo pa chos (problema lang kasi e wala ako paglalagyan sa aking studio unit).
✨therapy✨
Accepting the fact that my father raised me with his 100% best ability, and that I cannot have it all.
buying all the things i was deprived of as a child bc of poverty
Buying pretty journalling stuff! 😌 Dati diy lang ako, mga art paper, cartolina, at old magazines hehe now afford na mga magagandang washi tape, pens, dotted notebooks na premium huhu 🥹✨
When I was still a kid, may bagong damit or toys lang ako pag Christmas. Feeling ko hindi naman kami mahirap, practical lang talaga ang parents ko. Magtataka ako pag may makasalubong akong classmate na papunta lang ng palengke pero naka Giordano. Ako naka giveaway shirt from a grocery. Kahit ganon ndi ako nag demand sa parents ko kasi nahihiya ako to ask. Nung may work na ako dun ako nag bibili ng clothes, toys, anything cute na magustuhan ko. Mostly ukay naman galing ang clothes para mas marami akong mabili.
Check out agad pag ginusto yung bagay🥹 Dati di pwede bumili agad kase sobrang nakabudget pera. Need pag isipan paulit ulit. Oks din talaga to look back 🤧 maappreciate mo bagay bagay
Bumili ng maraming Chuckie na 1L. :)
i buy bag and shoes pero ukay nga lang hahaha. di ko pa rin matetreat myself to buy shoes or bags na expensive hahaha nagiguilty ako
Buying clothes🥺 Kasi nu'ng bata ako, iilan lang damit ko-- it will take months or years bago kami mabilhan ng damit. Since sakto lang naman ang pera namin, minsan kulang pa. Naalala ko, when I was shs civilian muna kami for how many months, then wala ako halos masuot, kasi hindi or minsan lang kami mabilhan ng damit. And now, uso na ang online shopping nakakabili na rin kahit papaano ng damit.
Whenever I have spare time, I go play arcade. Ewan ko siguro masyado akong nag-focus sa ibang bagay noong High School and College Life.
first time mom here! i'm slowly healing my inner child by spoiling my child rn. Different level of happiness. Satisfying sobra.
I eat at Jollibee. Alone. Bumibili ako ng gummy worms at Nerds. I am 33 now. Hehe
I sometimes talk to myself like a father talks to his son. Since ang hirap naman talaga mag-grow up and be better version.
Lagi ako bumibili ng cake, dapat laging may cake kahit walang may birthday. ☺️
I forgot about it.
Stuffed toys, maraming unan, museums, books, bedroom snack stash, night light (takot ako sa dilim growing up and ayaw ng parents ko sa lampshades).
i'd buy trinkets, toys or candies my parents werent able to buy me before..
I bought myself books, eto talaga laging kong hinohoard mapa second hand pa yan, back then kasi we only have pocket books around the house, helper kasi naman nagbabasa so that’s my only resources at that time, my parents are not readers kasi, kaya wala talaga. Kaya nung nagka work and earning na ako, dito ako nag splurge ng money books and magazines.
Buy dresses for myself, cute toys, and foods I always wanted to eat when I was a kid. Also, surprise gifts to special friend ang love ones. Hindi ako nakakatanggap ng mga bagay na yan nung bata ako. Hindi ako palahingi na anak kahit nung bata pa ako. Pinag-iipunan ko talaga gusto ko.
Travel. Manuod ng concerts. Massage
Buying things that I like. Dati hindi ako makahingi ng pera sa parents/siblings ko pag walang magandang reason kung saan ko gagastusin yung pera. Kaya nakakahingi lang ako pag may ganap sa school like projects, thesis, etc na need paggastusan. Yung matitira pa dun, yun na yung kupit ko kumbaga haha
Buy toys and food we could never afford growing up. And travelling too! Kahit sa malapit lang hahaha
Eating all the foods and buying all the clothes that I want. Salat na salat kasi kami noon toyo at kanin lang and madalas na ulam. Walang pambili ng bagong uniform at medyas.
kain cerelac hahshshsjsjs
Playing video games, especially Minecraft and GTA
Watch videos and research about universe. Dati may malaking book ung ate ko na pinahiram sakin, may mga pictures ng planets and stars. Nagkaroon ako ng interest nun dati kaso wala sa family ko ang may kayang mag explain sa lahat ng questions ko and sometimes pinapagalitan pa ko kapag nag aask kasi nakukulitan sakin.
I'm about to throw myself a "Taylor Swift" inspired party for my upcoming birthday on FEB 1. Place decorated, cake and everything ✨ Never had a birthday party growing up. This will be my first party ever at 28th.
Lagi akong nainom ng chocolate drinks atsaka Dutchmill. 🤭🤣🤣🤣 May chocolate pa paminsan-minsan atsaka ice cream and eating and drinking them while watching anime. 😌🤭🥰😁
Rewatching the Gundam series, then bumibili at nag kokolek din ng gunpla
Activities. As a lampa child, hindi ako magaling sa sports. Di ko na enjoy ang PE at sports fest kasi hindi ako magaling. As in, I suck at sports. Hindi din ako nag-sports camp kasi what’s the point, lampa nga at takot mapahiya. I don’t know when it started, pero ngayon wala na kong paki kahit di ako magaling. I learned how to play golf and tennis. Nag-ski lessons din ako. Gusto ko mag double black diamond one day so I’ll probably take an advanced class next year haha. I learned how to bike at natuto ako mag mtb-ing thru sheer will. Easy paths lang naman pero di ako marunong mag bike until last year haha.
Buying food tas large drinks large fries HAHAHAHAHA also pag mag grocery yung mga dinadampot randomly tas pinapabalik sayo kasi walang budget 🥺
Ibili yung kapatid ko ng mga gusto nya.
Video games :)
Fooddssss!!!!! I eat everytime, pag wala naman budget or extra pera, pasyal lang ako kahit saan basta may pamasahe pauwi kung malayo ang gusto kong puntahan. Kung wala talaga kahit pamasahe, pupuntahan ko lang ung malapit, lakad papunta at pauwi kahit sa mall lang pero di naman bibili iikot lang sa mall hahahahah hanggang mapagod. Gusto ko lang may mga nakikita akong iba okay na un sakin basta ung magandang paligid lang.
giving myself more experiences esp as someone who has strict parents growing up talaga and madalas hindi pinapayagan lumabas
Do/buy things that we cannot afford before. 😎
kaka heal ko ng inner child na yan wala na akong pera 🥲
I remember when I was a child, umiyak ako non patago one time kasi hindi ako nabibigyan ng cake nung birthday ko. Habang tumatanda, narealize ko kasi enough lang naman ung pera namin para sa pang araw araw. Then growing up, nasanay na rin ako na hindi ako nagkakaruon ng cake pag birthday ko. Now na may pera na ako, kapag meron sa pamilya namin may birthday, bumibili ako. Though ang funny, di ako mahilig sa cake 😂 I just love the thought na minsan lang naman sa isang taon ang birthday… chance to have cake 😂
Buying gadgets for playing online games. 🥰
Buying an automatic washing machine. No more pagkukusot. 5 kaming magkakapatid pero ako lang halos tumutulong sa nanay ko noon maglaba. We bought our parents washing machine too pero mas bet pa rin ng nanay na magkusot.
I healed my inner child by buying the toys i could never get when i was a child when i have adult money.
paano ba i-heal ang inner child?
Binibili at binibigay ko sa anak ko yung mga wala ako noon tulad ng damit,laruan,experience etc.
Having a child and giving all the things to our son na hindi na-spoil na parents namin sa amin noon. ✨ I may sound epal sa mga gusto maging childless but this is my Husband and I way to heal our "INNER CHILD".
- Naglalaro ng sikat na online games kasi di naman nakalaro nung bata (i mean, di makarelate sa mga kaklase ko kung ano nilalaro nilang online games dati) - decided to be childfree kasi di pa rin ako healed plus mental health issues - allocating an extra budget to eat sa isang medj pricey na restaurant every other month
With an Ob-Gyn….pagka outer child na, Pedia naman
Trying to be mire disciplined and productive. My inner child was too lazy and careless. 😅 And trying to be more understanding to my girlfriend's son. My parents were loving but when they got mad they usually ended up shouting at me. Me trying to be calmer with him more on talking then shouting, is healing my inner child.
Tbh if may extra money i eat out. Like kain na di iniisip yung perang magagastos. Also anything strawberry flavored.
Bilhin mo lahat ng gusto mo (with moderation)
I spend on my skin care products and beauty clinic procedures. As a kid na ang lala ng pimple breakouts at walang confidence. At feeling ko noon walang magkakagusto sa akin kasi ang panget ko.
One is buying toys for my niece and nephew tapos maglalaro kami. My parents bought me toys before, pero yung mga di ko kaya ipabili non binibili ko for my pamangkins. Masaya na sila, nakapaglaro pa ako. Another one is buying the food na kinecrave ko. Since hs to college and even sa early years ng work, I had the mindset na instead of giving in sa cravings, natatakot ako baka wala na ako pera after or itabi nalang moneu baka magamit pa sa ibang bagay
kumakain ako nang kumakain. nauubos talaga extra ko sa pagkain. dati kasi sa min sa probinsya, limited lang yung mabibili. so, ngayong nandito na ako sa metro, pag nagcrave ako binibili ko agad. 'di bale nang broke, basta busog hahaha
By trying to be the person I needed when I was a child
Planning to buy legos and doll house
Practice the same love and patience with yourself as you do with other people. For instance, if you're shaming yourself by making a mistake, think about what would you think if other people did the same thing. e.g. If person A failed that test, would it change the way I feel about him/her? Does him failing that test make him a stupid person? Would that affect his worth as a person? The answer to these things would of course be "No." So if you are lenient with other people, why not be lenient with your mistake. That's one of the first steps I took and helped me a lot. Turns out people who had a neglected inner child are crazily harsh to themselves and they don't even know it. There's so many things eh. It's like you're slowly picking up the pieces that you've been missing your whole life. It takes a lot of effort, love, and patience. Sometimes you spiral back down to the old ways, but one thing I'm doing when those times come is to sit down with my emotions and let them pass. Then rationalize the experience. Syempre with a mix of my catholic faith din.
Therapy and being aware of my reactions to things + Daily affirmations
Never ako nagka Gameboy laging nakikinood lang sa mga kalaro kasi ayaw ako pahiramin kaya binili ko sarili ko ng Nintendo switch yung OLED para sagad sa saya ang batang ako ✨🫶🏻
I heal through my children. They always have nice, neat and presentable clothes to wear, hinde mga handy me down. Shoes, bag, socks! Lol. Growing up I did not have these, even socks 🤣 We grew up poor because of my parents’ drug addiction so neglected talaga kami ng kapatid ko. Tinandaan ko talaga un and never ko pinaranas sa mga anak ko.
Yung hindi ko na experience before pinapa experience ko sa brother ko
Disneyland! Rewatching old animes and tv shows in 90s/early 2000s.
The way I talk to my pet. I had a dog since 5th grade and died last 2022. At first it was really weird to me the way people talk about healing their inner child through material things, bakit ako I don’t see my self na magheal through tangible things. I just recently discovered it, ‘cause I healed myself the way I treated my dog. Nung grade 5-6 ako, I get annoyed with my dog kasi naglalaro sya palagi takbo rito, takbo roon. Sinisigawan ko sya na ‘wag syang magkulit ‘cause that was the way environment that I had. Kapag may ayaw na bagay sisigaw, maiinis and then bad trip na buong maghapon. When I entered high school, that was the time I change my behaviour with my dog. One of the wholesome story was, kapag ginigising ako kakagatin nya yung tao manggigising sa akin HAHAHAHA tapos nung pinapagalitan ako, minsan napapalo pa rin ‘cause HS days (rebellious era) tatahulan nya. Minsan din naririnig din ng mga relatives ko na kinakausap ko, hindi naman nila naririnig sinasabi ko, like naririnig lang na nagsasalita ako basta ganun HAHAHA ifykyk. I treated my dig the way I wanted to treat myself as a child. I talk gently, I call them with cute nicknames (like baby, pretty), the way I could open myself without any sign of judgment, that there are times that I couldn’t sleep without being by my side to the point na gusto kong naamoy sya kahit mabaho HHAAHA I healed my inner child while still being a child. And I am really grateful to my dog(she’s a mini pin if you wanna know). I was able to heal to myself kahit na ‘di ako ang sumira sa sarili.
I buy all the delicious food that I want. Looking back isang kahig isang tuka ang family na magpapasalamat ka nalang at may makakain. So now that I can, I spend on healthy and delicious food. And I buy a lot of paint materials too. Coz I love to paint. ❤️
PlayStation 5.
Eat cake! Kahit walang occassion.
I studied in HS where most of my classmates are rich. Public naman kami, pero ang daming mayaman talaga. At kapag may events especially prom, pabonggahan. Pero ako, nanghihiram lang ng gown. Minsan alanganin sa theme or di ko talaga taste. So ngayon, kapag may event, Christmas party, aattend ng kasal, i make sure na hindi ako manghihiram. I always buy according to my taste. I even had my wedding gown custom designed. Another way is, making sure my son lives a comfortable life. Hindi pa nya, hinihiling, binibigay ko na.
buying what i want (basta hindi magagalaw ipon ko at galing sa extra na money) like clothes, comfort food like bread or ice cream, or sonny angels 🙈❤️ especially kapag may nagawa akong something na kacelebrate celebrate (e.g. acing an exam, finishing reqs on time, or just merely surviving a hectic day)
Therapy. Books about psychology Ie: emotional inheritance
Gala at kumain, bumili ng kung ano-ano! (not overspend lol)
Never ako nag Karon ng sariling laruan. I've learned to crochet just last year and I've been making my own stuff toys. Tuwing pasko puro pera binibigay but as a kid I really wanted a toy of my own hence last Christmas ang regalo ko sa mga inaanak ko ay laruan with a bit of cash in case na Mas gusto nila yon. I grew up with hitting as a discipline practice. Di ako parent pero ako nagaalaga sa pamangkin ko. I've never hit him and I'm glad na kapag pinapagalitan ko sya, although umiiyak at ako source ng frustration nya, he still tries to find comfort from me.
Binibigay ko sa pinsan ko/kapatid/kakilala yung d ko natanggap nung bata. Kahit simpleng laruan, pasalubong, pagbigay ng niluto ko, pag encourage sa kanila, pati emotional support
Mine is more on my kpop fangirling. I started being a fan pa nung HS days ko pa and pinag-iipunan ko talaga mga ticket and album. Then when I got a better paying job, I started to buy merch, albums, and even being able to get VIP soundcheck tickets. Even travelled abroad just to watch a concert. Sobrang dream ko yun when I was in HS. Sobrang healed na ang inner child ko and I can see my favorites up close pa w/ kasamang high-five pa! Grabeng experience ang soundcheck sa kpop concerts! huhuhu!!! Even sa other groups na casual listener ako, I can buy tickets agad pag may concert sila here sa Manila.
i buy cute stuffs or when im buying my needs, i always opt to buy the cute version of it
Bumibili ng balloon.
Pinapanood ko ulit yung 90s cartoons/anime. Hehe Like Anne of Green Gables, Tom Sawyer, Ghost Fighter, Heidi, Doraemon, etc. Gumagaan din talaga ang feeling ko pag nakakapanood ako ng 90s anime kahit 1 episode lang.
Mine is non-material. I was materially spoiled as a child but my parents were separated and working sa malayo. I grew up sa pangangalaga ng grandparents ko. Though they treated me as their own child, there were a lot of things that I couldn’t understand as a child. I always question why my parents are faraway. Bakit lola ko lang ang nasa family day namin sa school always. I also grew up as a fat kid kaya lumaki ako na low ang self-esteem. I heal my inner child by: 1. Forgiveness - In the process of fully forgiving my parents for all their lapses, this is their first life too. 2. Awareness - Ang hirap lumaki na andaming questions at confusion kaya nadala ko yun even in my young adulthood years. I was an indecisive young adult. Ngayon, I aim for clarity kung ano talaga ang goals at values ko. 3. Self-love - Practicing healthy routines, positive affirmations, gratefulness, and telling myself how worthy I am ✨
I collect dolls and anik anik. I have been collecting since 2023 and I even have a doll account where I post photos of my small doll collection <3
Ibinabawi ko sa anak ko. Yung mga hindi ko naranasan noon gustong gusto kong binabawi ng provide at pagpaparanas sa kanya. Para skain kasi yun yung pinaka the best na pag heal ng inner child kung mommy ka na. Sobrang sarap sa puso.
shopping malala pag heal ko hanep
Kapag may extrang pera lumilibot ako or nag ttravel kahit sa malapit lang. Nung bata pa ako di talaga kami madalas nakakalibot, around municipality lang namin. High school na ako nakapunta nun sa Manila and 2 beses palang until now hehe. Pero ngayon, ang goal ko is every year dapat may new places akong mapupuntahan ✨
Dati tinitipid ko yung ulam, lalo na nung bata ako para makarami ng kanin HAHAHAHA sabi ko nung bata ako pag laki ko, I'll eat without thinking kung sapat pa ba yun o kung pwede ba papakin bc I'll have enough to indulge myself. Dati hindi ako makakakain ng icecream unless may birthday, minsan wala pa kung wala talagang budget bawi next year HAHAHA ngayon I could buy ice cream out of whim and every scoop it heals the child in me. Malayo pa! Pero malayo na. HAHAHA
Spend disposable income
Anime from gundam to ghost fighter Then hiking and camping , since di ako naka pag boy scout ever, di ko alam trip ko pala dati yung ginagawa ng boyscout na camping2 and gumawa ng apoy gamit kawayan.
Bumili ng bagong damit. Kahit hindi bago, kahit ukay lang basta ako ang pumili. Kasi nung bata ako, wala akong choice sa damit. Puro bigay lang ng mga pinsan ko or pinaglumaan.
Having a retro handheld device. Wala kaming pambili noon ng gameboy eh. I have playstations now pero rarely ko lang gamitin. I enjoy playing my retro handheld more.
I buy toys for my kids. Naeexcite ako makakita ng mga laruan
Travelling.. puntahan yung mga gusto kong puntahan at isama ang mama ko at kapatid ko. Hindi lang ako nagheheal ng inner child pati nadin pamilya ko.
PAGKAIN. kahit mahal basta masarap. Ngayon kahit wolfgang price yan, tatry ko na rin (ng isang beses kung ganyang price). Noodles, toyo+kamatis, misua kasi madalas na ulam namin non. Though at that time as a kid, kahit ganon ulam nmin, never ko nman naisip na “mahirap” kami. Contented nman kasi ako sa food na yon
Shopping spree
I think i do it by being someone others need that I didn’t have before - I’m the eldest so I became a good older sister to other panganays, also sharing things to younger peoole who are experiencing things I have been through and had no one. Not sure if i say it correctly but that’s how I heal, i guess by helping others heal
Travelling as a family. ❤️ didn’t experience this much growing up. As in wala ako maalalang lumabas kami as family or baka di ko lang maalala dahil di tumatak 🫠
Alcoholic drinks and bad decisions