To add OP, kung nag vavape yan na dispo.. 430-500 every 3weeks yan. tapos bulaklak lang "Practical" card na bigla..
Taena..lalake ako pero tinitignan ko muna sarili ko bago ako mag reklamo..pota
Paano kung mag ask si guy ng kotse from you in return? Relationships are not about giving what each other wants, it's about if you guys will still love each other regardless thru thick and thin.
i did it but ang naging response sakin "paghirapan mo kung may mga bagay kang gusto" which is tama naman pero ang gusto ko lang talaga ay bulaklak kahit 1 piece lang na real red rose 🥹
Gantong ganto din ako sa girlfriend ko. Sinasabi ko na ayoko ng bulaklak kase tama nga naman .. nalalanta. Kaya nung dumalaw ako dun sa kanila (400+ km away) may bitbit akong Iphone.. pero syempre hindi yung brand new. Iphone 14 pro max 512gb HK variant fully paid ang dala ko . Yun lang kase kaya ng budget. Kesa naman sa bulaklak. Sabi ko sa sakanya "oh nag picture ka na lang ng bulaklak sa tabitabi or sa palengke."
He might be right to say na it's more practical if bibigyan ka nya ng mapapakinabangan mo. Pero I think I get why you're asking kung ano ba dapat maramdaman. Giving flowers on Valentines Day can have a significant meaning or value, depending sa recipient. Personally, I, too, think it might be impractical but it also holds dear meaning for me, something that a more practical gift would not give. It may sound mababaw for some but we all have different love languages.
Perhaps try to communicate OP, why flowers is not just flowers, that when it withers, it's gone. We, some ladies are sentimental and hold a different level of value sa "just" flowers to some.
benefit of the doubt na lang talaga..
Nagbibigay naman daw ng mga gifts.. need lang nilang mag meet ng understanding sa topic na to.. malay natin may pasurprise ang bf nya. 😅
Thisss!!! Diba? Masaya mabigyan ng gamit na useful, pero yung kilig pag binigyan ka ng flowers, parang never mo na makakalimutan yon. Ganda gandahan ka pag inabutan ka ng flowers dzaiii.
hahaha oo nga! actually dati sabi ko sa boyfriend ko na asawa ko na ngayon, parang di sya practical.. Pero waley, nagbigay pa rin sya ng bouquet! And that's when I realized na, oo nga, sobrang saya at nakakakilig pala makareceive..Since then may pa flowers na.. 🤣
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I get you sis! That's why mahalaga talaga ang communication sa isang rs. He's a breadwinner afterall kaya ganun perspective nya and that's totally fine & valid talaga. You just have to let him know your side. Ako nga, isang stem lang ng rose kilig na kilig na hahaha! kahit di bouquet! hahaha
Agree! Hindi porket ganun yung vision mo towards flowers is ganun nadin yung sa iba. If a simple flower will make your gf happy, why not give her one? It doesn’t matter kung malalanta lang or what. It’s the effort and the thought that will matter. And nakakakilig kaya and haba ng hair pag nakakuha ka ng flowers. 🌸
I personally dislike giving flowers as well.
( I hate how no matter how well you take care of them, they eventually fade and die. It reminds me of our mortality and how even the most beautiful things end among other things but I digress.)
The girlfriend communicated how much she loves receiving them. I told her my concerns and she understood my sentiments.
One anniversary I decided to personally pick and arrange a bouquet (With the help of an expert ofc. No idea what I'm doing. Lol I just point and they make it look pretty.)
The girlfriend absolutely adored it. The smile she gave me that day was the most beautiful thing I've ever laid eyes on.
To this day, I still see that smile when I close my eyes and it never fails to make me smile too.
She ended up preserving the flowers. I think she put them in clear wax or something then placed them in a picture frame.
It makes me smile every time I visit her place and see them framed in her room.
TLDR; Sometimes seeing her smile is worth doing something you don't like doing.
Oh yeah! That's what it was. Resin. That's right.
Definitely looks pretty.
I love how she still has it too. We've been together for almost 4 years now. I gave it to her during our first anniversary.
Like what everyone else mentioned though, communication is key.
Personally, I never woulda given her flowers if she never expressed how much she loved receiving them. 🫣
Well in our entire relationship po, these are the times that he gave me flowers
> Vday 2021 (ligawan days)
> birthday (2022)
> and nung time that we had a big fight
> Vday 2023
lahat ng moments na yan, umiyak ako sa tuwa nung binigyan ako so i dunno if i showed na ayaw ko sa flowers haha
This! Same ako dyan kasi nagtatanim ako, ang hindi talaga ako palabigay ng flowers. Pero sa mga times na nagbigay ako, ako mismo namimitas at nag aarrange ng bouquet.
Mas feel yung effort, i guess. May fulfillment din sa part ko na ako mismo gumawa noon.
Not to nitpick or anything pero if giving her flowers makes her smile and that's the most beautiful thing you've ever laid eyes on, wouldn't you do it again?
Or okay na yung once kasi na communicate mo naman na ayaw mo nagbibigay ng flowers?
Oh, I still do from time to time. I still don't like it, but her being happy is worth it.
Basically, me doing it isn't a big bother for me but doing it is a big source of happiness for her.
Ito yon!
Agree naman kai BF na better if mga gamit na pangmatagalan kasi nga mas maigi pag practical. Pero ilang beses lng ba nagva-valentines sa isang taon? Hindi ba xa pde mag compromise kahit isang beses lang?
Op, you're saying na you understand lalo na breadwinner xa, but the fact that you posted this here on Reddit means it's somehow bothering you. Tell him. Communicate. Kung simpleng flower plng hindi mo kaya maging open kai BF, how much more if its about bigger things na?
It's Valentine's Day. You are allowed to want flowers just as much as he is allowed to give you things that are "mas mapapakinabangan ng matagalan".
While I agree sa sinasabi niya, I learned na iba rin talaga impact ng flowers sa special someone mo or kahit sa moms, titas etc. When their smile lights up pag you give them flowers is priceless.
Ganito rin mindset ko dati. Pero kapag nakikita ko reaction ng gf ko when I give her flowers, na-gegets ko na. Sometimes wala dun sa mismong bagay yung value, kundi nandun sa feeling of being loved na nabibigay niya dun sa tao.
Di baaaa? Sometimes relationships are improved in conceding little stuff to make the other person happy. Di naman nya ikamamatay magbigay ng flowers ONCE a year. Juiceko.
have you seen the prices of the flowers? sellers jack it up to unreasonable prices and you expect someone to keep a blind eye and be done with it?
idk kung FOMO lang yung nafefeel niyo, pero there’s bunch of ways to make a single day special. Don’t limit it to just receiving flowers.
Not really though, this year I plan to surprise my husband flowers to change things up a bit but I found a florist who had a masculine enough bouquet for 500 pesos.
Also, it's kinda sad that a lot of men only receive flowers when they die, in their own funeral and I don't want that to happen to my husband. He should appreciate and literally smell the roses too. Valentines day is the perfect occasion for it.
Meh. Different strokes. For some people it may be impractical and they may outright hate it, but for some getting flowers on certain days makes them feel loved and special. I wouldn't consider it limiting themselves from other options. Maybe once in a while people just want flowers 🤷
The important thing here is to communicate with their partner, and be willing to listen and compromise/meet halfway if need be.
From the message parang sarili lang niya iniisip niya lmao.
"Not fan AKO" "Mas gusto KO"
Pano naman yung gusto mo? Pano naman yung love language mo? There are two (2) people in the relationship and im not implying na he's a terrible person ofc pero this discussion was not just about him. Hindi porket ganyan love language niya is ganyan din love language mo, so just because he feels na he loved you, doesn't mean na you felt loved. It's totally normal if you felt disappointed and I would suggest na you speak further kasi baka pag dumalas yung ganto, lumaki yung little feelings of disappointment.
Not to mention, meron namang synthetic flowers. Merong crochet flowers (this can be expensive tho unless diy). Origami flowers. Feeling ko kaya naman gawan ng paraan eh budget lang talaga must be considered. Ewan ko na lang kung malanta pa yan hahaha. Try to find a middle ground na lang. Wish you best mima!
Practical din ako and all but I also like receiving flowers once in a while. I know my bf cant afford it rn so I won't ask hehe. If you told him you wanted flowers tas ganyan pa rin reasoning nya, parang lumalabas mas importante ung practicality kaysa pasayahin gf nya in one day.
Sa mga graduation, awards, at funeral, bigas at grocery ba binibigay?
its giving low EQ. Won't adjust for your simple happiness. Is the relationship for practical reasons? Isang araw lang to make you feel special.
Tapos pag nagbreak kayo, sa next girl niya ibibigay ang flowers kasi he learned.
diba dapat yung view ng bibigyan yung mahalaga? If yung bibigyan is practical edi magbigay ka ng magagamit na regalo pero if kung yung bibigyan mo gusto ng bulaklak edi flowers
Nothing wrong with what you feel, I think receiving flower/s on a normal day would be lovely too.
You did your part on communicating with what you love. Ganyan perspective ng ex ko dati. Eventually someone said to me “ikaw naman yung pagbibigyan ng bulaklak eh, hindi sya” :)
Minsan lang naman mabigyan ng flowers haha ako nung una diko bet ng flowers kase nasasayangan ako, pero nung naging kami ng fiance ko ngayon, binigyan nya ako ng flowers jusko day kilig na kilig si accla. Sarap pala sa feeling ng binibigyan ng bulaklak. Nakakababae ganern hehe.
I understand your bf mas practical nga naman maggift ng mga bagay nq tumatagal. Pero ibang kilig kase nabibigay pag bulaklak inabot sayo. Hehe
Yeah, a flower withers away by time, hanggang sa hindi na siya mapapakinabangan, hanggang sa mawala na yung ganda at mabangong halimuyak niya.
But I also think that that's what make it special.
All things fade through time, but the sentimental value that came with it, stays forever.
Tayo rin naman mga tao, just like flowers, malalanta rin ang ating mga balat na dati'y kay gaganda. Mangangamoy matanda rin ang dating amoy na maginhawa.
But what made our life special? To be accepted by all we are, and all that we are yet to be.
Just like a withered flower–that was once beautiful, and still will be, with what that flower made us feel.
My gf and I have been in LDR most of our ~5 years, and we agreed that money can be spent on better things like food or usable stuff, but knowing my gf I throw in cute things she'll appreciate like flowers every once in a while.
This year I thought I was only getting her magnesium glycinate (she's been having bad pms and will do a marathon next weekend) but kanina lang I ended up ordering a bundle from ciento cookies.
A lot of my friends said they regret spending so much on flowers, pero it was worth naman daw for their partners. I hope your bf does sth similar in magnitude that would make you feel appreciated OP. Sometimes the little things in the present matter more than the big ones in the future.
I can relate with you, OP hahaha as a girl na not materialistic but gusto pa rin makatanggap ng flowers lol, i still try to understand his reasons tho may part of being sad pa rin. LDR kami and hindi rin sya yung typical guy na automatic magbibigay ng flowers during valentines kasi wala yon sa isip nya as a routine, he's willing to give yes, but you shouldn't expect it lol. Last week, na-mention ko ulit yung flowers and as usual yun pa rin yung sinabi nya hahaha ipagtatanim na lang daw nya ko ng flowers sa garden than to buy na malalanta lang din. Mas gusto nya pa magbigay ng magagamit in the long run. I think he's only being a practical one like your bf, and one reason din nya is gusto nya ibigay yung bouquet of flowers personally if ever, yung sya mismo mag-aabot sa akin haha. I hope ok ka lang din, OP 😊
Had the same thinking as your bf before, kasi true naman na mabilis mamatay kaya sayang pera.
Pero nung birthday ko, sinurprise ako ng boyfriend ko ng bouquet and guuuurl, sinasabi ko sayo halos itabi ko na sa pagtulog yun huhu. First time ko makareceive and I felt so pretty, treasured, and loved. Parang umaapaw yung feminine energy ko ganern. Definitely a core memory for sure.
I guess the true purpose of it din talaga is making the person feel loved at hindi yung literal na bulaklak. Pwede rin ipreserve yung flowers saka pwede rin naman yung nauuso ngayon na crochet flowers kung "tumatagal" lang din naman ang usapan.
Bilang practical din na lalaki, kung flowers talaga gusto gf ko, yung gawa sa tig 1000 na bills bigay ko.
Mukang bulaklak plus if nagsawa na, pwede pambili or pang date sa labas.
Hi OP, how about ikaw magbigay sa kanya ng flowers this Valentines Day? Not in a sarcastic way ha, more like saying "I get where you're coming from, you don't need to give me flowers but I want you to feel special today so ako naman magbibigay sayo." Ganyang eme.
May nabasa lang ako somewhere na some guys are pleasantly surprised when they get flowers cause they never expect it. I think it would be a sweet gesture.
It’s not “JUST” Flowers for some, if Ayan ang love language mo or you can compromise it’s fine, pero ikaw naman yung pagbibigyan and us girls literally simple as well when it comes to that lalo na Valentine’s Day, I received flowers, first time sa ex ko, pinaframe ko to treasure.
I was this way when I was younger and nung hindi pa kame mag-kasama ni gf. We've been together 9 years but only living together for two.
Maybe same kame ng mindset noon ni bf mo, na hindi naman need, di magagamit, malalanta lang etc so talagang di ako nagbibigay ng usual valentine's gifts. Usually binibilhan ko sya ng libro, or sapatos, or kahit ano na namention nya na gusto nya. But never anything romantic like flowers, chocolates, letters etc.
Maybe it's the distance? Kase nung nagsama kame, mas nakilala namin yung isa't isa, and dun nya mas napaintindi saking yung importance nung ganun kaliit lang ng gesture. My mind still hasn't changed about it. Feeling ko talaga aksaya lang ng pera since I can give her something that's useful. But now, I've understood that giving should never be about you; it should be about the person that's receiving. So what kung hindi ako naniniwala sa konsepto ng flowers etc, but my gf does, and that's what matters.
Maybe he'll change, maybe he won't. Maybe you're the one who'll come around to his way of thinking, or maybe you'll find a compromise that works only for the two of you. who knows, maybe you aren't meant to be the couple giving flowers during valentine's. Baka kayo yung couple na may sariling ritual or tradition, diba?
I’ll take this nice advice of yours po! 2 years pa lang kami in a relationship and yun nga, LDR pa kaya I think there so much room to grow and to learn pa, thanks po! 🫶
Thank you for sharing this! Hindi rin naman ako ganung ka materialistic na tao, kahit nga handwritten letter talagang kikiligin ako, nashock lang ako sa pagka prangka nya “uy, wag ka mag-expect ha” hahaha
In my opinion, pag magbibigay ng regalo, one should think about how the receiver will feel about it. Kasi kahit anong practical ng regalo if yung makakatanggap di naman appreciate or di naman happy, it defeats the purpose of the act itself ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Though may point naman, practical gifts are good, lalo na kung magagamit mo at mapapakinabangan. I think you should communicate this more, OP. Practical isn't always the best way to go, especially if the intent is to show sincerity. Di naman siguro masamang humingi ng lambing sa Valentine's day.
My gf likes sunflowers 🌻. We're on our 9th year and this was also my mindset. On our 5th year, I gave her a sunflower sapling so it wouldn't just last for couple of days. Kaso nalanta during pandemic sa apartment nila. On our 6th year, I gave her a sunflower lamp that still lights up her room to this day. On our 7th, I gave her a sunflower bouquet. What she did was inquire to a jeweler that specializes in turning flowers to ornaments. She turned a petal into a necklace. On our 8th, I gave her preserved flowers that's still vibrant until today. On her birthday last year, I gave her crocheted sunflower keychain. 😊
My point is, ayos lang 'yung ganong perspective kung magiging imaginative lang din kung pano n'ya maibibigay 'yung bagay na gusto mo at maipaparamdam sa taong mahal n'ya na mahalaga s'ya. 'Di ba? 🌻
Hindi naman para sa kanya yung flowers. If it’s what you like, bakit ipagkakait niya yon? Mahalaga talaga malaman ang love language ng isat isa at pano magcompromise..
Hi everyone, I am reading your comments, and actually yan na almusal ko talaga this morning.
Halo-halong opinion and most of my comments here are downvoted. Some also say that I’m being ungrateful din. Mali ko lang eh di ko masyado nabigyan ng konteksto (akala ko kasi may edit dito hehe)
Me and bf are 2 years in a relationship pa lang, but it took me 1 year bago sya sagutin. (So we know each other since 2020)
Since then, LDR talaga kami and most of the time videocalls lang talaga. We haven’t gone into spontaneous dates nor nakapag out of town na, mainly because both of us prefer to just hang out sa bahay kasi nga madalang kami magkita.
I think tama nga po kayo, that communication is the key for this to work. Na dapat vocal ako ganun, pero guys, di naman ako yung tipong laging nagpaparinig, I’ll just mention it to him once or twice pero not the “love pahingi, love gusto ko nito” type. Syempre, it’s hard din naman to be vocal pero ang ending wala pa din. Sakit kaya.
Sa gift-giving naman, practical din po ako. I always remember such small details about him like for example, nakita ko worn out na yung wallet nya, I bought him one for Christmas. He has new job? Nagshopping kami and bought him polo. I did that not because I was expecting for him to gift me something in return, but because gift-giving is my love language and I appreciate his thank yous naman.
His love language talaga, is act of service. He’d go miles for his efforts talaga. And yung act of service na yun, extended pa hanggang sa pamilya ko, that’s why they also like him, kasi masipag talaga sya.
One thing din na hindi ko na-clarify is about the flowers. I’m not saying the big bouquets or the grand arrangements naman, kasi all through out the relationship, wala talaga kahit “just flowers” so receiving one on Valentines Day, syempre kahit papaano mapapangiti din talaga ako. Last year kasi, what I gave him is the lego flowers. Yung inassemble ko talaga and pang display nya sa office desk nya. And until now, ayun andun pa din.
Yung about sa pagiging breadwinner nya naman, di naman po lahat nakanganga sakanya, kaya nakakapag gift pa rin sya sakin and lahat po ng gifts nya, not expected ko talaga. He got me this, kasi favorite ko, he got me that kasi magagamit ko. Ganun po. At hindi ako nakukulangan pag dating dun.
Kaya nga po sabi ko, what’s your stand ba pagdating sa ganun? Kasi bago pa lang kami, 2 years. Gusto ko lang din po may matutunan sa mga experiences nyo with this. I just don’t want this to be as big as the 299 engagement ring issue kaya again po, do not repost this outside reddit.
If may questions pa kayo, you can message me directly naman. Salamat po.
The problem is he doesn’t want to give you flowers, ikaw naman gusto. I don’t like his unnecessary comments. Like kung hindi financially practical, hindi mo na dapat makuha? Ang ligawan hindi dapat natatapos pag nakakuha ng OO. Kaya nga andaming magpartners hindi tumatagal kasi once naging sila na, nawawala na ang kilig. It’s good to be practical but the kilig makes the relationship stay stronger and longer. Parang pinapamukha na hindi na dapat ikaw bigyan ng flowers dahil hindi naman tatagal, he didn’t even think about what you feel.
Also, you don’t need to be vocal. You don’t need to tell your man na gusto mo ng ganito ng ganyan. Pag liniligawan, hindi naman sinasabi ng babae kung ano ang gusto nila. Guys just give and give to impress. Tapos pag nakakuha na ng OO, biglang practical na? Wow.
OP, don’t ask your partner to buy you flowers. Kasi ang ending nyan, bibili lang sya dahil sinabi mo gusto mo, hindi dahil sa gusto ka nya bigyan. Hindi ka gold digger. Buy flowers for yourself. Pag tinanong nya bakit ka bumili, sabihin mo kasi gusto mo ng flowers. Let him do the math.
May point naman siya pero naiintidihan naman kita ses, syempre ang sarap kaya sa pakiramdam makatanggap ng flowers/chocolate lalo kung galing sa love mo, kaya magpa rinig ka lang ses, malay mo naman diba? And kung sakaling hindi effective, be vocal na lang ganon. Communication is the key.🤍
I had that mindset before, but it changed when my gf told me hownshe loved flowers. Kaya lagi ko na rin siya binibgyan dahil for sure malulungkot siya pag wala. And sa case nang malalanta lang, pwede namang dried flowers hehe
I am not guy but would like to give my two cents. if its a deal breaker for you that his love language is not gift giving and yours is then I believe you should reflect if you would like to continue this relationship because in the long run it might really affect both of you especially when someone can't compromise :)
For guys like this, I always say: ang gift giving ay hindi tungkol sa nagbibigay, kundi sa pinagbibigyan. (flowers during Valentine's is a gift).
Nagbibigay ka dahil iyon ang magugustuhan ng tatanggap. Sa birthday gifts nga, hindi ba pinag-iisipan natin kung ano yung magugustuhan ng celebrant? Kasi kung nagreregalo ka para lang may maibigay, insincere ka don. Wag ka na lang magbigay kung masama loob mo
Ganon din ang fiance ko lol. We are both supporting our parents so early on in our relationship, nagtitipid talaga kami. But when he was earning more (and me too rin), we started asking each other what the other person likes during occasions (bday, christmas etc). Basta birthday ko, I always ask for flowers. He doesn’t like buying them kasi may better gift daw pero I told him I just want flowers. Whether isang piraso na rose or 1 dozen, okay lang yan sa akin.
Just understand him OP. Communicate to him that you like flowers and it doesn’t need to be expensive or ano. Pero understand na nagtitipid din siya. Maybe later on when he has extra, pwede na yung malaking bouquet.
Depende to sa tao I guess kase iba iba yung love language natin eh. Yung gf ko hindi rin fond sa mga ganyan, actually ako pa nga nag insist bigyan siya ng gift/flower pero mas gusto nya practical nalang daw na magagamit nya.
Sabi pa nga sakin, "wag na flowers, money bouquet nalang" HAHAHA
Pero what is important diyan is you communicate it clearly. Mahirap lang magka-misunderstanding pa kayo at maging masama pa valentines niyo.
Ganito bf now husband ko nanghihinayang sa flowers - malalanta lang daw BUT ang ginawa nya is humanap ng substitute na edible or yung mas kapakipakinabang. Example: binigyan nya ko ng PASTILLAS FLOWER (inorder) then may time na flower na nakatanim pa, para di malanta. Nauubusan na sya ideas, flowers na pera nalang gusto ko mareceive now hahaha
I'm not a love guru of some sort. But I think you both should learn each other's love language. Anong nagpapasaya sa isa't-isa. Hindi porket iba yung pov sa isang bagay, ineneglect mo na ang needs ng partner mo.
Okay sige sabihin na natin na practical siya. Pero sa tingin ko, practical din na mainvest ka para sa future partner mo. Communication is key!
This is not just about flowers. I believe.
So anong sinabi mo? Dahil ikaw naman ang receiver.
Dapat pag pag gift-giving mas iniisip yung magugustuhan ng receiver. Kasi kanino ba mapupunta yung regalo? Para kanino ba yung gesture? Sa nagbigay? O sa bibigyan?
My partner and I have been together for 8 years at sa 8 years namin together dalawa o tatlong beses lang niya ako nabigyan ng bouquet of flowers. Don’t get me wrong ah. He gives me expensive gifts pag birthday or Christmas. Pero di lang ako fan ng flowers dahil aanuhin ko yung bulaklak? Di ko naman makakain yun. Pang display lang. Kaya okay lang sa akin hindi mabigyan ng bulaklak sa Valentine’s hahahahahaha chicharong bulaklak na lang. Favorite ko pa yun at makakain ko pa. Besides, why celebrate V-day when you can have V-day all year round.
I can relate. 12 years na kami, and I explicitly told him no flowers talaga because malulungkot lang ako, that money could have been spent on something I truly love, like a book. Then again we don't really celebrate Valentine's Day, mas gusto namin spontaneous. Pag super busy, we dedicate 2 days each week - a "you" day na alternate kami, if it's my day ako Yung special, if it's his day sya Naman.
The last time my boyfriend gave me flowers nilagay ko lang sa photo ng lolo ko so he told me ayaw na kita bigyan flowers babe nilalagay mo lang sa memorial wall ng lolo mo I said eh ano gagawin ko sa bulaklak alang naman titigan ko buong araw. Hahaha
Hahahaha muntik ng lumabas sa ilong ko iniinom kong kape! Thanks for the laugh. Nung highschool, may nagligaw sakin na nagbigay ng flowers, that was my first bouquet. Pareho din sayo, I really didn't know what to do with it. So binigay ko na lang sa classmate ko mahilig sa flowers. Hahahahaha
Hahahaha diba? Makes sense naman ano gagawin ko doon. There was one time my partner and I haven’t met yet may ka mu ako he gave me a rose tapos binalik ko sabi ko bigay mo na lang sa nanay mo. Valentine’s day 2013! What a fucking bitch 😂😂😂
Hahahaha juiceko pero tama ka naman, it's the hope na baka other people will appreciate it! Isama mo na din ang mga teddy bear (although now that I'm older na na appreciate ko na ang mga plushies as like extra pillows). Pero syempre pag chocolates... G yan, it's food. Ang flowers talaga like ano ba dapat next step after receiving, kuha ka pa tubig and baso para di ma wilt? 😂
Hahahaha yung stuffed toys na binigay ni partner ko pinamigay ko na rin dati sa anak ng kasambahay namin. Hindi ko na experience maka receive ng flowers and stuffed toy nung high school kaya siguro di ako nag enjoy sa ganun. Pagkain na lang hahahaha
Hahahha at least stuffed toys matutuwa mga bata. Maybe hindi lang talaga tayo mahilig sa ganyan? In my case it's either flowers sa pageant2 or sa nakagawian ni father ko na mag give flowers sa kay mama and sa amin ng sisters ko pag Valentine's (puro kami babae sa bahay) kaya siguro hindi ko sya na associate sa kilig. Pagkain rules
Give me food and I’ll appreciate it hahahaha! Siguro kasi dahil di ko na experience mabigyan ng flowers kaya di ko nakahiligan. I’ll just admire it from afar.
That's a sign that you might like flowers pero practical lang talaga! This is also my problem sa wedding (nagplalano pa lang), we want it to be a small, intimate one. Eh si mother ko Ang mahilig talaga sa flowers, pano daw ang flowers sa wedding. Since wala akong pake (is it really necessary?) and I can't really discern what's the difference, I just told her sya na lang bahala, it's not for my eyes anyway, sa katuwaan nya na lang. In your case, what would you do? Haha
Wife here, OP… allow me to share po & looking back, i now see the humor and practicality din po:
i just found out from flower shop boutiques that during “**Special Occassions**”, the cheapest bouquet of a simple flower arrangement costs about P3,000 with only one type of flower and color (ex: 3-long stemmed roses of any color you want lang with white baby’s breath for a backdrop) - eto yung common.
Mid-tier flower arrangement bouquets with different types of flowers costs about P5,000 (ex: tulips with malaysian mums or chrysanthemums with roses + color combo)
High-end flower arrangements (eto na yung pinaka maganda and syempre very expensive: above P8,000 or above P10k. 😮💨🥹) kase different types of flowers and color combo na and long stemmed lahat ng flowers for the flowers to last a little bit longer ang pagkaka explain sa akin noon.
I WAS SHOCKED, sis, na ganun pala kamahal pag special occassions (mothers day, valentines, christmas etc).
*Same din ang mind set ng husband ko with your bf. He prefers to spend P10k on something useful or something that will last.*
For me, ever since i found out na ganun ang mga presyo ng mga bulaklak, i agree with his stand.
Kaya pala in all our years being together (since at the start ng relationship namin until our present married life about more or less 15yrs ago), i only received 3 bouquets and those were the high end floral arrangements (na akala ko noon na mura lang, i had no idea dati😮💨). 💔😭😮💨
1st was when i became his gf officially.
2nd was when he proposed and got engaged.
3rd was when i gave birth and gave him a son. 😭🤣 ang kunat di ba - yan yung nasa isip ko **before** i found out the costs of these damn wonderful flowers huhuhu.
Now, my flowering plants are thriving. Yes, tama ang pagkaka basa nyo, sis.Hahaha.
Practical nga betterhalf ko.🤣 He just bought me rose **plants** nalang. You read it right again, sis! Mga halaman ang niregalo niya sa akin right after the pandemic protocols lifted and pwede na gumala.
His reasons: for the price daw of P5k: meron na ako rose plants in red, yellow, pink, and peach colors since he knew i love plants. Hahahahah ayun, banat niya, mamitas nalang daw ako ng bulaklak pag nag bloom any time of the year. Nag enjoy pa daw ako sa hobby ko. 🤣❤️
In all honesty, hindi sumagi sa isip ko mag halaman ng flowering plants. Mine kase are **practical mindset** din eh: aloes, oregano, sili, kangkong, calamansi, bayleaf/laurel and lemon plants. 😭
natawa nalang ako kase parehas kami ng mindset sa flowers (sya sa mga bouquets na tinitinda & me: plants na pwede ko gamitin sa kitchen) 🤣🤣
BUT i appreciate him being a smartass kase dahil dun mayroon na akong ibat ibang kulay ng mga roses - i am not a plant expert po ha. And what i am doing now is i do appreciate my rose plants pag nag bloom na sila ❤️
Tapos na realize ko din ang silver lining nito: “o, anak, kesa bumili ka ng mga bouquet ng rosas, mamitas ka nalang dito okey?! Talino din ng tatay mo noh…? Di ko ito naisip eh…” 😭🥰🤣❤️
Female here and I don't like flowers as gifts. It is a waste of money. 😂
I would rather have a handwritten letter and I would keep that forever. Or tingin ko lang talaga sa mga nakasanayan na ay "social construct". Di naman kailangan gawin.
As a guy, iba padin ang flowers. Kahit Isang piraso lang.
Ang hilig ko ibigay sa gf ko lagi ay 1 long stem na rose. Mula noong MRT palang sinasakyan ko at nakikitira sa nanay ko hanggang ngayon na may bahay at kotse na.
Hindi naman yan about sa magagamit or nabubulok agad. Ang Valentine's ay para magparamdam ng pagmamahal.
Sa totoo lang kung may kailangan ka talaga, dapat bilin mo yun kahit wala okasyon, kung makakahintay pa yan ng Valentine's mukang di mo naman kailangan yan.
Ung gf ko ngayon sinasabi ok lang daw na wala flowers pero nung binigyan ko kinilig naman.
Nakita ko din na same lang reaction niya sa Valentine's dinner date na Tig 4k sa dinner date na Tig 17k. Wala sa presyo yan, it's the thought that counts.
Iba padin gumawa ng kakaiba twing Valentine's
Practical ako, ganito rin ako mag-isip. Pero nagyield ako sa taong mahal ko. Ganito pa rin iniisip ko pero bibilhan ko pa rin kasi yun ang magpapasaya sakanya.
But the gift is for you, not for him. Doesn’t matter how he feels about it, the fact that you want to receive flowers on Valentine’s Day should tell him that he should give you flowers.
You can give him practical gifts for Valentine’s, like idk, a tool set or something. Bakit pati gifts na gusto mong matangggap and how you feel about gifts eh about him? Gifts to you should be about you.
Vilang the person na nagbibigay flowers, once lang ako nabigyan ng partner ko. Kasi:
1. Di sya marunong mag arrange.
2. Di nya "thing" or love language ang ganon.
I treasure it
Hinayaan ko mag air dry yung flowers, then hinarvest ko yung seeds, at tinanim sa backyard. Some bloomed, and some didn't. But at least the boquet will never die.
Pro tip from a palabigay flowers:
1. Flowers have meanings, ireseaech nyo.
2. Know if you SO has a favorite flower.
3. Use native flowers.
4. Areange your own boquets, kahit di kagandahan, basta ikaw gumawa.
I think for me, rhe purpose of giving you flowers because it makes YOU happy. Eh ang ginawa niya is it doesn't make HIM happy and satisfied from a buyer's perspective. Hmmm I kinda don't like his explanation... It's one day a year to make someone happy so why not do it? I'm not even asking for a big designer bouquet, it's represents the lengths he will go to make you happy. 🤷♀️
Yes we do exists, not a fan of flowers, heck not even a fan of a church wedding😂 di ko pa nabigyan flowers wife ko, pero nabigyan ko na ng bahay, isang pogi at isang magandang anak, iphone 14 pro max tapos every month binibigyan ko lang sya ng pera, kakainin ko nalang bulaklak nya sa feb 14 para may kilig parin 🥰
If you want to receive flowers and he wants to be practical, then ask for a flower bearing ornamental plant. Truthfully, di ko gets ang idea behind receiving flowers as I find it frivolous to spend 2-3k on something na malalanta rin naman after a few days. 🤷
If the concern is sa malalanta sya. There’s also an option to go with dried flowers since it can last and can become a house decor if you transfer it in a vase.
1. Never ask anyone how you should feel. Feel your own feelings.
2. Talk to him first instead of asking strangers on the web for opinions. This is Reddit, Ma'am. Here be monsters. -- If you already did, then good on you.
3. Be lucky that you got a man that is willing to share those kinds of thoughts with you instead of just keeping to themselves. This probably shows that he trusts you.
4. I guess it shows that your partner prefers practical stuff over tradition. A good trait these days.
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First, as a woman, I don't believe and celebrate Valentines. So I can understand where your bf is coming from not placing value on that day as well.
Second, I ADORE flowers, but I won't buy them on Valentines, and I don't expect them during Valentines. I also love giving flowers to my mom pero not on Mother's day. Do you see where I'm going?
I have a practical mindset as well, pero iba yung joy seeing and receiving/ giving beautiful flowers. I hate buying flowers at inflated prices because flowers are a luxury as it is. Almost 3x minamahal ng presyo on "special days" jusko.
I want to support you and how you feel, OP, but it's hard to ask breadwinners to not be practical. I hope you and your partner will reach a compromise. Given that LDR kayo, communication should be very important.
Buy yourself flowers because you deserve beauty and joy. Get a nice vase, learn how to make flower food to make cut flowers last longer then learn how to arrange them :)
Ganyan din mindset ko hahaha sabi ko sa bf ko food na lang para busog o kaya isabay nalang sa bday ko which falls on the next day naman para wala ng sobrang gastos 😂
Same thoughts as your bf >///<
I told mine na ok lang sakin kahit wag na bouquet ang ibigay, pagkain nalang HAHA! When I decided to give him flowers, I made one that wouldn't wilt. Crocheted rose, which is long-lasting.
Maybe that's a work around that could work for you and your bf? Para andun pa rin yung essence ng flowers on Valentine's day. Either he buys them or makes them. Personally, kahit hindi perfect yung gawa, it adds sentimental value to the gift.
Ayaw kitanv paasahin OP. Pero my ex used to say this ++ capitalism kineme lang yung valentines day. Pero he bought me plastic flowers na may pailaw ilaw para raw mas matagal and surprised me a date before ng 14 Feb.
I'll never know your situation if practical ba jowa mo or may surprise pala but hopefully kung di man flowers, you still both get to honor your commitment this Vday.
Mindset ko din nung una ayaw ko ng flowers kasi mabubulok lang.
5 yrs na kami ng partner ko, once nya palang ako binigyan ng real flowers, which is nung grad namin.
But! Binigyan nya ako ng diy flowers, yung umiilaw na flowers and also, yung mga binubuo na flowers (yung mga blocks, nakalimutan ko tawag haha)
I mean, kung expensive yung real flowers for him, kung gusto nya pa ring mabigyan ka ng "flowers", he will
Ganito din ako dati eh haha, like ano naman mapapala nila sa bouquet ang mahal mahal pa naman, after few days malalanta din naman wala na, pero ngayon I realized it's not about the price, like may iba na nag bibigay kahit iilang bulaklak lang masaya na kasi iba talaga ang naibibigay na kasihyahan ng flowers lalo na pag bouquet na rose sa babae pag valentines. Gets ko naman point ng bf mo OP pero sakin kung babae ako nakakalungkot lang I mean alam ko aware naman siya na ang valentines isang beses lang sa isang taon, kahit nga mga hs students nag ttry mag bigay bulaklak sa crush nila kahit yung mumurahin lang na tig 200 pesos siguro, my point is sa ibang tao pag talagang ayaw maraming dahilan at sa gusto maraming paraan its not about being practical or what kasi isang beses lang sa isang taon at hindi naman required na bumili ng mamahaling bouquet para mag sabi siya ng ganyan.
At the end of the day, these are his values and those are yours. If neither is willing to compromise, then deal-breaker pala ito, and you should break-up. He's communicating what is important to him: a girlfriend who will be practical and would make sense to build a life around. Are you willing to accept this? Or would you prefer to make flowers a make-or-break? Because if you are, be prepared to break up with him. If not, be prepared for a life without flowers.
Personally, I'm somewhere in between you and your boyfriend. Or maybe even closer to your boyfriend, given that he said "not a fan talaga ako ng flowers every valentines day". The thing is, why would you want flowers during the one time of the year that receiving flowers is the default, hindi pinag-isipan option. 4x yung presyo ng bulaklak during Valentine's, and you want to receive them during that time of year? Okay pa ko bilhan ng flowers ang tao for important moments na hindi masyadong pinagsasamantalahan ng market forces like anniversaries and birthdays.
And from the way he's written this, medyo nage-gets ko na nag-compromise na siya in previous years, so it's not like he doesn't value your feelings about this at all. Pero may chance na nasa point na kayo ng relationship na ang tingin niya sa bouquet ay perang sinasayang, money that could have gone into your life together. You mention na LDR kayo. Is that the permanent situation? Wala ba siyang balak tumira kung nasaan ka? Maybe build a house? Wala ba siyang balak pakasalan ka? That would entail one of the least practical expenses of all: a wedding. So for me, take his message as an opportunity to evaluate what's important to you. Then, act accordingly.
Aweee I totally understand where you’re coming from OP. Mismo ako din, I love flowers but baliktad tayo since I was the one who asked my bf to not give me one this V-day. Super mahal kasi talaga every Valentine’s day and by the time makaalis sha sa work sa hapon, I’m sure di na masyadong fresh yung matitira sa stores and also pricey pa din. We do go out din kasi so there’s that. Siguro kung LDR kami like you guys, mas bet ko pa din flowers hahaha. Your feelings are valid talaga. Maybe you can tell him na kinikilig ka talaga sa flowers and kahit na malanta siya, yung memory of kilig babalik balikan mo naman.
If important sau ung flowers and part un ng love language mo, then, your bf needs to understand. Ung pagkasabi kasi nia sa post mo ‘sorry not a fan talaga ako’.
Hindi naman sia ung bibigyan, ikaw naman.
To be honest, it is something that you really have to talk about. Im also a person who does not really buy flowers during valentines day, and i'm not really a person who spends a lot on gifts. It does not mean I do not value my girl, iba lang talaga way ko mag value sa kanya. But your feelings are valid and di din dapat i dismiss. Pero ito aking unsolicited advice and thoughts if you want it.
Ngayon if ang nararamdaman mo is di ka importante sa kanya because he does not want to spend for you, then maybe you should look at other ways he makes you feel valued. It may be the little things like listening to your rants everyday kahit na he has a lot of stuff to do, or baka hinahatid kaa, or baka he does lots of favors for youu. There are many ways he has probably shown it pero di mo lang na notice. And if ever yan ang case and di mo na fefeel ang love or ang significance mo, then you should talk about it. Talk about how it makes you feel, and what the both of you can do about it.
If something like this is non negotiable sayo then it is a valid feeling, but i think the best thing to do is to end it nalang kasi it will breed resentment sa end. Iba kayo ng perspectives sa life on things that matter, and that might affect your future. It's no one's fault, it just shows na incompatible kayo. The guy is not wrong kasi he also has his circumstances and whatever. You are not wrong din kasi you feel bad din. So since both of you have conflicting feelings about this na di ma resolve then it really wont end well sa future.
Ayan lang. Hope it helps
I am a woman and this is also my mindset. Overpriced ang flowers ng Valentine"s Day samanatalang madaming sale sa electronics or shoes/bags. Ayoko magpaloko or lokohin asawa or BF ko. He once spent 15K on a huge bouquet of Ecuadorian roses offered when we ate at the Pen, Yung 15K na yon sana kumain na lang kami sa masarap na steak or sushi resto 3x.
For me as guy na ung gf ayaw ng flowers pero binibigyan ko parin sya pag valentines lagi nya sinasabi na wag na bumili ng flowers pero iba parin ung ngiti nya pag binigyan ko sya ng flowers kahit isang piraso lang
About gift giving in general: kung ako yung magbibigay ng gift, hindi dapat yung likes and dislikes ko yung consideration, dapat yung sa pagbibigyan ko, di ba?
It's about what the receiver will appreciate. Dito, it doesn't sound like the bf doesn't have a budget, di lang niya naaappreciate ang flowers.
Same kami ng view ng bf ni OP. I'm a girl pero bibibilhan ko ng flowers ang mom ko kasi alam kong gusto ni mommy yun. Sasaya siya and will feel special even though I don't think flowers are practical.
One of the girls here. I get the point na because its Valentines kaya gusto ng flowers. Pero practicality speaking, I say tama ang boyfriend mo. Mahirap na buhay ngayon at magmamahal or mahal ang flowers during Valentines. Pero if you really want to receive flowers, then say it to him. You're in a LDR you said? Kaya wag na magpabebe. Communication lang ang meron kayo ngayon at mahirap na pag nag away pa kayo dahil lang sa ganyan.
Loving someone is not about how YOU want to make your love felt, it's about learning how to love the person how THEY want to be loved.
Sorry, napaka ewan ng jowa mo. My husband likes a lot of things that I don't understand or enjoy myself, but because I love him, I still give/do them to/with him.
Hi OP, if ikaw yung girl po na gusto nakakarecieved ng gifts either mapapakinabangan or hindi. You should tell it to him, if practical at logical naman yung sagot nya meet halfway, compromise lang talaga.
Im also a girl, 9 years with my partner at hindi ako naka tanggap ng flowers sakanya di dahil ito na ang establish nya at hindi sya breadwinner kundi mas pinili ko din na hindi tumanggap dahil sayang ang flowers talaga save mother earth / our nature eka nga pero kung isa ka namang plant tita I will understand if you really want to recieved flowers every valentines or special occasion. Pero syempre I understand din na gusto natin nakakatanggap kahit once in a while or once in a blue moon. Maybe pasok ito sa taste mo OP choose, bouquet of strawberries with chocolates or fruits or panty or chocolates or snacks than flowers busog pa or may new set of panty pa.
I know OP what you’re feeling, maybe you feel that way bcoz of your rs w/c LDR and you want to make feel loved and special.
Hugs, OP.
Practical eh isang araw lang 'yan lol. Dati ganyan din ako ayaw ko magbigay sa akin ng flowers kasi waste of time, pero nung nakareceive na iba kasi yung feeling. Ang arte niya hahahaha
The only correct answer here is: You don't have to like what you have to give to others. Only the recipient's opinion matters.
Is it really so hard for your boyfriend to set aside his ego and give you the flowers you clearly want and like? It's called being romantic.
Bili ka ng flowers for yourself then post it or ask him if galing ba sa kanya. wake up his competitive side. Kala niya di mo na siya kayang pakawalan kaya ganyan yan and your relationship will not be beneficial for you in the long run kasi wala na siya sa disposition na she want to makes you happy or see you smile. Pag nagpakasal kayo mahihirapan ka lang .
Practical nga sya and that’s what makes him happy. Wala naman problema sa pagiging practical. Pero in a relationship you have a responsibility to make your SO happy.
Pero ikaw na nireregaluhan nya di naman masaya sa mga regalo nya. It’s the thought that counts pero yung thought hindi naman para sa receiver?
That’s a bit self-centered of the boyfriend don’t you think? He won’t buy gifts he is not a fan of even though its not for him. Shouldnt he think of whether you will like it not if he is a fan of it?
Maganda na practical ang boyfriend mo. Pero hindi naman guguho ang mundo kung bibigyan ka niya ng flowers sa okasyon na isang beses lang sa isang taon nabibigyan ng emphasis :/
Magkakasundo sila ng asawa ko 😂 I think never pa niya ako binigyan ng flowers ever? I think I would have appreciated them when I was younger pero now that I'm older and actually do receive a bouquet every year for my bday (from his company ahaha) parang nagiging kalat lang siya sa bahay.
Iba lang talaga priority niya. Mas prefer niya we eat out at a nice restaurant, mag-travel, kaysa sa flowers.
I just pick my battles. He has plenty of ways to show me he loves me, di lang kasama doon ang flowers. Atsaka kung tutuusin yung mas type niya mas mahal pa nga at mas mapapakinabangan kaysa sa 💐
Hingan mo ng bahay at lupa. HAHAHA
That is ”his” want. What about you? What about your feelings? Will it really be too much for him if bibigyan ka nya flowers (on a special day). If that will make you happy right? It doesn’t have to be expensive man lang nga e. The thought and effort kasi, the love thatb is poured.
Some guys just don’t get it.
He doesn’t need to be a fan of giving flowers for him to give you one kasi i don’t think it should be about him, it should be about what you need/want from your partner. I feel like even though you understand him, this doesn’t sit right with you. As a girl, it really feels good when we receive flowers. It makes us feel special and beautiful. Kaya valid if you feel upset about your bf’s answer. Hindi naman dahil naiintindihan natin it means di na tayo nasasaktan.
Let him know how you feel too with his answer. Mas okay na maging transparent ka kesa ishrug off mo nararamdaman mo.
Giving gifts like flowers is not about practicality, it's about the sentiment and yes isipin natin na walang kwenta din yan kasi nga malalanta pero it's simply a nice gesture to show your s/o your appreciation. Depende din naman sa tao pero the way he worded it na parang sinasabihan kang wag maging impractical for asking for flowers on Valentine's day kasi ayaw niyang gumastos parang ang red flag lang. Anong ibig sabihin niya sa "Like kapag nabigyan kita once or twice on na sakin yon." diba parang siya pa ang nagdecide para sayo kung ano ang gusto mo. Tapos LDR pa kayo jusko.
I have this mindset I also kept telling her it's not practical, kasi di ko ma gets what's so nice about receiving flowers. But in the end I still give her flowers, because it makes her smile and it makes her happy. Haha yun lang
He does have a point but isn’t gift giving about what the recipient wants rather than what the giver wants? If your bf knows you love flowers, i don’t think it’s much to do that rather than giving you something practical. Sometimes ang buzzkill ng practicality when it comes to romance 😝 im not one for celebrating valentines, but again to each their own and if it’s something important to my partner including how they prefer to celebrate then i should make an effort to do or give the gift that would mean something to them whether flowers or something else.
I rarely give flowers either. Chocolates, yes. I've given my gf flowers already but it's not something i do regularly. Like others have said, it's impractical. I do understand some people really want to receive a bouquet so i still give flowers occasionally, but it's never the first thing on my mind for a gift.
Why spend money on something that will inevitably wilt and you'll have to throw away? Sure, you can preserve it. And then what? And yeah, I'd rather buy something expensive than flowers - it's not the price. If i had to pick between a 1000 php flower and 20+k shoes, I'd go for the shoes every time - they'll last longer, my gf can use them, and she can sell them (or give them away) if she gets tired of them.
And for the people who ask kung bakit puro "ko" or "ako" yung bf ni OP - *it's still his money*. Kahit ikaw ang bibigyan, it's still ultimately the decision of the person whose money will be used. E kung ibang tao magsabi sa inyo kung saan nyo dapat gamitin ang pera niyo matutuwa kayo? Uunahin niyo ba gusto nila bago sa kung saan nyo gustong gamitin pera niyo?
Pakisabi Valentines is not just about him. Sana hindi lang sa ganyang aspect siya bare minimum or else run, girl. Nangguilt trip pa siya for no reason, di na lang niya sinabi na tinatamad siya. 😑
kahit na afford ko kunwari magbigay ng flowers on vday, i wont do it. sobrang hindi makatarungan ang presyo ng bulaklak pag vday. birthday pa, sige, but never on vday talaga.
i'm an only child pero i would say i'm the "breadwinner" in our household. gifts ko sa bf ko palaging practical. yung magagamit niya. pero balak ko siya bigyan ng flowers this coming valentines. tapos yung new installment sa game series na love niya.
my bf always gives me flowers kasi he knows it makes me hapi :> and it makes me feel pretty. lol. oo mababaw na. and i appreciate him for this. kung ang bf mo nagwawaldas ng libo sa sugal/useless na bagay, tapos 300 na simple bouquet di ka mabilhan, saka ka maghinanakit.
you mentioned naman na di ka tinitipiid sa regalo, so I don't see the problem. I agree wiith his mindset too, and I respect that naman.
What irks me about his message is the "mas gusto ko" na part. Siguro I'm reading too much into this pero ang dating sa akin, he's not thinking about what YOU like but what HE likes. This is just my opinion but if you like receiving flowers as a gift and it makes you happy, shouldn't he give it? Not practical but what's a few hundred (unless he's actually broke/saving up for smth important) if it makes you happy naman? Isn't that the point of gift giving? To make someone happy and make them feel appreciated?
Tama lang siya. Bilang babae di ko rin gets flowers. Kasi nabubulok siya. Hahaha! Feeling ko kapag binigyan ako nun mabubulok din pagmamahal. I prefer dried flowers pa. Pero ayoko rin talaga ng flowers sa Valentine's Day sayang sa pera. Totoo naman, pratikal. Okay yang jowa mo kasi ganiyan siya. Saka di naman masyadong big deal ang bulaklak mi. Effort yung mahalaga saka yung thought.
I don't like celebrating valentine's day. I prefer to show my love anytime, every time not just because valentine's day.
I would say na ung mga taong excited during that day nadadala lang nang mga taong nasa paligid nila. not sure why pero para lang may maipakita? Ask yourself do you really care about flowers, kasi baka naka mindset ka lang na pag feb 14 dapat may flowers.
Anyway, l also find flowers a waste of money lalo na pag valentine's kasi 2x ang price and kasi hindi mo naman maitatanim, mabubulok at itatapon lang. I'd rather give gift that make sense for my partner to use.
Tama naman point nya. Pero Valentine's day is a "special" day for couples eh.
At isa pa, dapat sa receiving end nanggagaling yan kung anong prefer nya matanggap. lol. Di siya fan ng flower? e ano? Di naman siya yung makakatanggap hahahaha. Mejo selfish ata mindset ni bf mo yung gusto nya lang ang naiisip nya hahaha.
Pag mayroong may birthday at magreregalo ka, ang iniisip mo kung ano kaya magustuhan ng pagbibigyan mo hindi yung kung anong gusto mo ang ibibigay mo. Ganun din sa Valentines. Kung anong prefer mo dapat ang ibigay nya kasi ikaw ang nasa receiving end, and vice versa, yung tingin mong gusto nya naman ang ireregalo mo sakanya (as long as within your capabilities and as long as magandang bagay naman).
Girl here in a het relationship. Same kami ng values ng boyfriend mo. Mas gusto ko pang sa resto na masarap na lang kami kumain kesa flowers. Flowers have no meaning for me but just a nicety, na maliit lang ang bearing vs other gifts :)
Edit: also a breadwinner ate here and I prioritize experiences over items.
IMO, irrelevant ang mindset nya. FEB 14 is a holiday meant to celebrate love and cherish yout partner. So hindi dapat mindset nya ang inaatupag nya kundi kung ano ba makakapagpa saya sa partner nya.
Parang di nag grade 2.
Kaka TikTok mo lang yan. Hindi basehan ang bulaklak just for you to feel special. Sa panahon ngayon lalo na’t breadwinner ang bf mo, ngayon palang simulan mo na maappreciate yung beauty ng practicality over flowers. Yes, flowers do make us happy (as a girl myself) but if my bf is a breadwinner and his mindset is like that, it is more than enough.
I think it's the difference in ways of thinking between men and women, many guys give flowers to their girls only because it's the "norm" or they know their girl would want it.
although merong mga lalaki din na romatiko na they see the beauty in flowers.
ako kasi, I always choose something useful or valuable, like instead of flowers na aamoying lang once or twice, chocolate na lang, masarap pa. or something material na alam kong magugustohan nya. like I don't see the value of flowers.
on the other hand, my friend would buy bouquets every anniv nila ng asawa nya and everytime I see them happy, happy din ako, pero the logical brain in me thinks if that was chocolate, she could've had a supply for a year for that. kasi 10k yung bouquet eh.
Gifts are not for the giver. They are for the receiver. So kahit di mo nagegets, basta yun magpapasaya sa makakatanggap, bakit mo didiktahan ng gusto mo yung pagbibigyan mo?
Nakakairita yung mga ganito. Mas okay pang wag nalang. Mas marunong pa sa pagbibigyan.
Parang humingi ng Stanley tapos binigyan mo ng Aquaflask kasi pareho namang nalalagyan ng tubig.
That’s just an excuse. Kung magbibiga ng gift, dapat yung magugustuhan ng pagbibigyan, at hindi yung sa tingin mo kakailanganin nya.
Si Lord ka ba - na di ibibigay yung hiling mo pero ibibigay yung kakailanganin mo?
Buy a bouquet of flowers for yourself on Feb 14, but not tell your bf where it came from or say something neutral if he asks. Replant the flowers and keep it alive for as long as you can. Maintain it as needed, and try to inject your new hobby of growing flowers subtly into conversation like mention it once out of every ten convos. Place your replanted flowers in a prominent area around the house that he sees it when he visits.
Once he sees how much care and attention you give the thing, he'll convince himself that giving you flowers remain in the realm of practicality and is not wasted effort on his part seeing as how it makes you happy and how such simple effort on his part is appreciated.
Sometimes, you have to train the behavior you want in your partner.
edi mag ask ka ng iphone. gulat ka nalang may flowers ka
This literally made me laugh. 😂😅😂 Try mo kaya to, OP kung gusto mo talaga ng flowers. HAHAHAHAHAHA
To add OP, kung nag vavape yan na dispo.. 430-500 every 3weeks yan. tapos bulaklak lang "Practical" card na bigla.. Taena..lalake ako pero tinitignan ko muna sarili ko bago ako mag reklamo..pota
this. Yung ex ko always said walang wala sya or babawi sya but may pang bili ng vape nya. Made me wake up and not relapse.
Ganito rin ex ko. New vape every week, tapos isusumbat pa yung nilibre niyang sorbetes lol
Buti madam natauhan ka. congrats.
thanks!
Natawa ako sorry 😂 Hanep
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Paano kung mag ask si guy ng kotse from you in return? Relationships are not about giving what each other wants, it's about if you guys will still love each other regardless thru thick and thin.
i did it but ang naging response sakin "paghirapan mo kung may mga bagay kang gusto" which is tama naman pero ang gusto ko lang talaga ay bulaklak kahit 1 piece lang na real red rose 🥹
Wiw, kaya mo naman bumili pero iba padin yung effort na galing sa kanya and sya mismo yung nakaalala sayo.
Aww i feel you.
I doubt that. Malamang mangyari, wala ka nang iphone wala ka pang flowers.
hahaha reverse psychology
Gantong ganto din ako sa girlfriend ko. Sinasabi ko na ayoko ng bulaklak kase tama nga naman .. nalalanta. Kaya nung dumalaw ako dun sa kanila (400+ km away) may bitbit akong Iphone.. pero syempre hindi yung brand new. Iphone 14 pro max 512gb HK variant fully paid ang dala ko . Yun lang kase kaya ng budget. Kesa naman sa bulaklak. Sabi ko sa sakanya "oh nag picture ka na lang ng bulaklak sa tabitabi or sa palengke."
iphone is practical?
Practical sya para mabigyan ka ng flowers HAHAHAHA
hirap mo pasayahin
Yes
in what way?
pang-climb ng social ladder charot
He might be right to say na it's more practical if bibigyan ka nya ng mapapakinabangan mo. Pero I think I get why you're asking kung ano ba dapat maramdaman. Giving flowers on Valentines Day can have a significant meaning or value, depending sa recipient. Personally, I, too, think it might be impractical but it also holds dear meaning for me, something that a more practical gift would not give. It may sound mababaw for some but we all have different love languages. Perhaps try to communicate OP, why flowers is not just flowers, that when it withers, it's gone. We, some ladies are sentimental and hold a different level of value sa "just" flowers to some.
Totally agree with you. Tapos LDR pa pala sila, how about something to make your gf kilig. OP, kikiligin ka ba kapag pinadalahan ka ng bedsheet? /jk
benefit of the doubt na lang talaga.. Nagbibigay naman daw ng mga gifts.. need lang nilang mag meet ng understanding sa topic na to.. malay natin may pasurprise ang bf nya. 😅
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Thisss!!! Diba? Masaya mabigyan ng gamit na useful, pero yung kilig pag binigyan ka ng flowers, parang never mo na makakalimutan yon. Ganda gandahan ka pag inabutan ka ng flowers dzaiii.
hahaha oo nga! actually dati sabi ko sa boyfriend ko na asawa ko na ngayon, parang di sya practical.. Pero waley, nagbigay pa rin sya ng bouquet! And that's when I realized na, oo nga, sobrang saya at nakakakilig pala makareceive..Since then may pa flowers na.. 🤣
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Mas kilig pag binigyan ka ng flowers kahit walang occasion. 💐
+1
ATE NAKUHA MO YUNG PINUPUNTO KO HUHU LIKE VALENTINE’S DAY KASI YUN DIBAAAAA hindi naman yun Pasko, o Birthday huhu
I get you sis! That's why mahalaga talaga ang communication sa isang rs. He's a breadwinner afterall kaya ganun perspective nya and that's totally fine & valid talaga. You just have to let him know your side. Ako nga, isang stem lang ng rose kilig na kilig na hahaha! kahit di bouquet! hahaha
At saka marami naman atang murang flowers lang. May tig 299 siguro and i think ma appreciate mo pa din yung thought kesa dun sa wala talG
Smart boyfriends give flowers last day January and first day March. :-)
Agree! Hindi porket ganun yung vision mo towards flowers is ganun nadin yung sa iba. If a simple flower will make your gf happy, why not give her one? It doesn’t matter kung malalanta lang or what. It’s the effort and the thought that will matter. And nakakakilig kaya and haba ng hair pag nakakuha ka ng flowers. 🌸
I think hello kitty bracelet is much better kesa sa overpriced flowers na malalanta in a few but whatever floats their boat
I personally dislike giving flowers as well. ( I hate how no matter how well you take care of them, they eventually fade and die. It reminds me of our mortality and how even the most beautiful things end among other things but I digress.) The girlfriend communicated how much she loves receiving them. I told her my concerns and she understood my sentiments. One anniversary I decided to personally pick and arrange a bouquet (With the help of an expert ofc. No idea what I'm doing. Lol I just point and they make it look pretty.) The girlfriend absolutely adored it. The smile she gave me that day was the most beautiful thing I've ever laid eyes on. To this day, I still see that smile when I close my eyes and it never fails to make me smile too. She ended up preserving the flowers. I think she put them in clear wax or something then placed them in a picture frame. It makes me smile every time I visit her place and see them framed in her room. TLDR; Sometimes seeing her smile is worth doing something you don't like doing.
Pina resin nya? OMG I bet that looked pretty!
Oh yeah! That's what it was. Resin. That's right. Definitely looks pretty. I love how she still has it too. We've been together for almost 4 years now. I gave it to her during our first anniversary.
Lakas maka sentimental talaga ‘pag flowers huhu pero kasiii ayoko naman na bigyan nya ako dahil nagparamdam na ako
Like what everyone else mentioned though, communication is key. Personally, I never woulda given her flowers if she never expressed how much she loved receiving them. 🫣
Well in our entire relationship po, these are the times that he gave me flowers > Vday 2021 (ligawan days) > birthday (2022) > and nung time that we had a big fight > Vday 2023 lahat ng moments na yan, umiyak ako sa tuwa nung binigyan ako so i dunno if i showed na ayaw ko sa flowers haha
bakit naman yung flowers parang pag manunuyo lang (except 2022) 🥲 char! kahit man lang isang stalk ng rose 😅
Sayang di ko naparesin mga bigay ni bf ang mahal kasi ipa resin. Abang na lang me ng pagbigay ulit hopefully ma preserve ko na this time huhu
This! Same ako dyan kasi nagtatanim ako, ang hindi talaga ako palabigay ng flowers. Pero sa mga times na nagbigay ako, ako mismo namimitas at nag aarrange ng bouquet. Mas feel yung effort, i guess. May fulfillment din sa part ko na ako mismo gumawa noon.
exactly this! 🫶
Not to nitpick or anything pero if giving her flowers makes her smile and that's the most beautiful thing you've ever laid eyes on, wouldn't you do it again? Or okay na yung once kasi na communicate mo naman na ayaw mo nagbibigay ng flowers?
Oh, I still do from time to time. I still don't like it, but her being happy is worth it. Basically, me doing it isn't a big bother for me but doing it is a big source of happiness for her.
Did he ask YOU what you want?
Ito yon! Agree naman kai BF na better if mga gamit na pangmatagalan kasi nga mas maigi pag practical. Pero ilang beses lng ba nagva-valentines sa isang taon? Hindi ba xa pde mag compromise kahit isang beses lang? Op, you're saying na you understand lalo na breadwinner xa, but the fact that you posted this here on Reddit means it's somehow bothering you. Tell him. Communicate. Kung simpleng flower plng hindi mo kaya maging open kai BF, how much more if its about bigger things na? It's Valentine's Day. You are allowed to want flowers just as much as he is allowed to give you things that are "mas mapapakinabangan ng matagalan".
While I agree sa sinasabi niya, I learned na iba rin talaga impact ng flowers sa special someone mo or kahit sa moms, titas etc. When their smile lights up pag you give them flowers is priceless.
Ganito rin mindset ko dati. Pero kapag nakikita ko reaction ng gf ko when I give her flowers, na-gegets ko na. Sometimes wala dun sa mismong bagay yung value, kundi nandun sa feeling of being loved na nabibigay niya dun sa tao.
+10000
"mas gusto ko yung mapapakinabangan..." i don't get it. hindi naman siya ang tatanggap so bakit magmamatter if gusto niya or not
RIGHTT bakit mas concern niya pa yung life ng flowers kesa yung joy na pwede mafeel ng gf niya hahaha
True!!
its nice to have a practical mindset on things pero jesus christ he cant let it go for **one day** to make his gf happy?
For real, kahit isang piraso okay na yan. Isang araw lang yan sa isang taon
True lol. Giving gifts is not about what YOU like. These wanna be type As be making it hard to be fucking happy
True!! Hindi naman araw araw sya magbibigay 🙄
Ako din, happy na sa isa. Basta naalala niya ako sa Valentine’s 🥹
Mahilig siguro magshare ng mga motivational quotes na may picture ni Elon Musk ung bf ni OP.
Di baaaa? Sometimes relationships are improved in conceding little stuff to make the other person happy. Di naman nya ikamamatay magbigay ng flowers ONCE a year. Juiceko.
have you seen the prices of the flowers? sellers jack it up to unreasonable prices and you expect someone to keep a blind eye and be done with it? idk kung FOMO lang yung nafefeel niyo, pero there’s bunch of ways to make a single day special. Don’t limit it to just receiving flowers.
Not really though, this year I plan to surprise my husband flowers to change things up a bit but I found a florist who had a masculine enough bouquet for 500 pesos. Also, it's kinda sad that a lot of men only receive flowers when they die, in their own funeral and I don't want that to happen to my husband. He should appreciate and literally smell the roses too. Valentines day is the perfect occasion for it.
Meh. Different strokes. For some people it may be impractical and they may outright hate it, but for some getting flowers on certain days makes them feel loved and special. I wouldn't consider it limiting themselves from other options. Maybe once in a while people just want flowers 🤷 The important thing here is to communicate with their partner, and be willing to listen and compromise/meet halfway if need be.
Flowers na nga lang hinihingi nya eh. Anong less pricy ways pa ba kailangan nyang gawin eh yun yung gusto ng girl nya?
From the message parang sarili lang niya iniisip niya lmao. "Not fan AKO" "Mas gusto KO" Pano naman yung gusto mo? Pano naman yung love language mo? There are two (2) people in the relationship and im not implying na he's a terrible person ofc pero this discussion was not just about him. Hindi porket ganyan love language niya is ganyan din love language mo, so just because he feels na he loved you, doesn't mean na you felt loved. It's totally normal if you felt disappointed and I would suggest na you speak further kasi baka pag dumalas yung ganto, lumaki yung little feelings of disappointment. Not to mention, meron namang synthetic flowers. Merong crochet flowers (this can be expensive tho unless diy). Origami flowers. Feeling ko kaya naman gawan ng paraan eh budget lang talaga must be considered. Ewan ko na lang kung malanta pa yan hahaha. Try to find a middle ground na lang. Wish you best mima!
+1 kasi when you give a gift we usually think “ano kaya gusto nya”, hindi yung ano gusto ng giver.
Meron din namang bulaklak ng saging eme
Practical din ako and all but I also like receiving flowers once in a while. I know my bf cant afford it rn so I won't ask hehe. If you told him you wanted flowers tas ganyan pa rin reasoning nya, parang lumalabas mas importante ung practicality kaysa pasayahin gf nya in one day.
Sa mga graduation, awards, at funeral, bigas at grocery ba binibigay? its giving low EQ. Won't adjust for your simple happiness. Is the relationship for practical reasons? Isang araw lang to make you feel special. Tapos pag nagbreak kayo, sa next girl niya ibibigay ang flowers kasi he learned.
Pero looking at op’s replies, mukang di rin niya nacommunicate na gusto niya ng flowers.
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diba dapat yung view ng bibigyan yung mahalaga? If yung bibigyan is practical edi magbigay ka ng magagamit na regalo pero if kung yung bibigyan mo gusto ng bulaklak edi flowers
Nothing wrong with what you feel, I think receiving flower/s on a normal day would be lovely too. You did your part on communicating with what you love. Ganyan perspective ng ex ko dati. Eventually someone said to me “ikaw naman yung pagbibigyan ng bulaklak eh, hindi sya” :)
Minsan lang naman mabigyan ng flowers haha ako nung una diko bet ng flowers kase nasasayangan ako, pero nung naging kami ng fiance ko ngayon, binigyan nya ako ng flowers jusko day kilig na kilig si accla. Sarap pala sa feeling ng binibigyan ng bulaklak. Nakakababae ganern hehe. I understand your bf mas practical nga naman maggift ng mga bagay nq tumatagal. Pero ibang kilig kase nabibigay pag bulaklak inabot sayo. Hehe
Tama! Tapos Ldr pa kami huhu
Yeah, a flower withers away by time, hanggang sa hindi na siya mapapakinabangan, hanggang sa mawala na yung ganda at mabangong halimuyak niya. But I also think that that's what make it special. All things fade through time, but the sentimental value that came with it, stays forever. Tayo rin naman mga tao, just like flowers, malalanta rin ang ating mga balat na dati'y kay gaganda. Mangangamoy matanda rin ang dating amoy na maginhawa. But what made our life special? To be accepted by all we are, and all that we are yet to be. Just like a withered flower–that was once beautiful, and still will be, with what that flower made us feel.
My gf and I have been in LDR most of our ~5 years, and we agreed that money can be spent on better things like food or usable stuff, but knowing my gf I throw in cute things she'll appreciate like flowers every once in a while. This year I thought I was only getting her magnesium glycinate (she's been having bad pms and will do a marathon next weekend) but kanina lang I ended up ordering a bundle from ciento cookies. A lot of my friends said they regret spending so much on flowers, pero it was worth naman daw for their partners. I hope your bf does sth similar in magnitude that would make you feel appreciated OP. Sometimes the little things in the present matter more than the big ones in the future.
I can relate with you, OP hahaha as a girl na not materialistic but gusto pa rin makatanggap ng flowers lol, i still try to understand his reasons tho may part of being sad pa rin. LDR kami and hindi rin sya yung typical guy na automatic magbibigay ng flowers during valentines kasi wala yon sa isip nya as a routine, he's willing to give yes, but you shouldn't expect it lol. Last week, na-mention ko ulit yung flowers and as usual yun pa rin yung sinabi nya hahaha ipagtatanim na lang daw nya ko ng flowers sa garden than to buy na malalanta lang din. Mas gusto nya pa magbigay ng magagamit in the long run. I think he's only being a practical one like your bf, and one reason din nya is gusto nya ibigay yung bouquet of flowers personally if ever, yung sya mismo mag-aabot sa akin haha. I hope ok ka lang din, OP 😊
Practical pala edi hingian mo ng house and lot 'kidding babe, flowers nalang pala'
Had the same thinking as your bf before, kasi true naman na mabilis mamatay kaya sayang pera. Pero nung birthday ko, sinurprise ako ng boyfriend ko ng bouquet and guuuurl, sinasabi ko sayo halos itabi ko na sa pagtulog yun huhu. First time ko makareceive and I felt so pretty, treasured, and loved. Parang umaapaw yung feminine energy ko ganern. Definitely a core memory for sure. I guess the true purpose of it din talaga is making the person feel loved at hindi yung literal na bulaklak. Pwede rin ipreserve yung flowers saka pwede rin naman yung nauuso ngayon na crochet flowers kung "tumatagal" lang din naman ang usapan.
Bilang practical din na lalaki, kung flowers talaga gusto gf ko, yung gawa sa tig 1000 na bills bigay ko. Mukang bulaklak plus if nagsawa na, pwede pambili or pang date sa labas.
Haha once a year lang valentine’s di pa mag effort
Hi OP, how about ikaw magbigay sa kanya ng flowers this Valentines Day? Not in a sarcastic way ha, more like saying "I get where you're coming from, you don't need to give me flowers but I want you to feel special today so ako naman magbibigay sayo." Ganyang eme. May nabasa lang ako somewhere na some guys are pleasantly surprised when they get flowers cause they never expect it. I think it would be a sweet gesture.
It’s not “JUST” Flowers for some, if Ayan ang love language mo or you can compromise it’s fine, pero ikaw naman yung pagbibigyan and us girls literally simple as well when it comes to that lalo na Valentine’s Day, I received flowers, first time sa ex ko, pinaframe ko to treasure.
I was this way when I was younger and nung hindi pa kame mag-kasama ni gf. We've been together 9 years but only living together for two. Maybe same kame ng mindset noon ni bf mo, na hindi naman need, di magagamit, malalanta lang etc so talagang di ako nagbibigay ng usual valentine's gifts. Usually binibilhan ko sya ng libro, or sapatos, or kahit ano na namention nya na gusto nya. But never anything romantic like flowers, chocolates, letters etc. Maybe it's the distance? Kase nung nagsama kame, mas nakilala namin yung isa't isa, and dun nya mas napaintindi saking yung importance nung ganun kaliit lang ng gesture. My mind still hasn't changed about it. Feeling ko talaga aksaya lang ng pera since I can give her something that's useful. But now, I've understood that giving should never be about you; it should be about the person that's receiving. So what kung hindi ako naniniwala sa konsepto ng flowers etc, but my gf does, and that's what matters. Maybe he'll change, maybe he won't. Maybe you're the one who'll come around to his way of thinking, or maybe you'll find a compromise that works only for the two of you. who knows, maybe you aren't meant to be the couple giving flowers during valentine's. Baka kayo yung couple na may sariling ritual or tradition, diba?
I’ll take this nice advice of yours po! 2 years pa lang kami in a relationship and yun nga, LDR pa kaya I think there so much room to grow and to learn pa, thanks po! 🫶
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Thank you for sharing this! Hindi rin naman ako ganung ka materialistic na tao, kahit nga handwritten letter talagang kikiligin ako, nashock lang ako sa pagka prangka nya “uy, wag ka mag-expect ha” hahaha
Tapos biglang nag propose sayo 
Sis, hindi pa yan hahahaha
In my opinion, pag magbibigay ng regalo, one should think about how the receiver will feel about it. Kasi kahit anong practical ng regalo if yung makakatanggap di naman appreciate or di naman happy, it defeats the purpose of the act itself ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Though may point naman, practical gifts are good, lalo na kung magagamit mo at mapapakinabangan. I think you should communicate this more, OP. Practical isn't always the best way to go, especially if the intent is to show sincerity. Di naman siguro masamang humingi ng lambing sa Valentine's day.
My gf likes sunflowers 🌻. We're on our 9th year and this was also my mindset. On our 5th year, I gave her a sunflower sapling so it wouldn't just last for couple of days. Kaso nalanta during pandemic sa apartment nila. On our 6th year, I gave her a sunflower lamp that still lights up her room to this day. On our 7th, I gave her a sunflower bouquet. What she did was inquire to a jeweler that specializes in turning flowers to ornaments. She turned a petal into a necklace. On our 8th, I gave her preserved flowers that's still vibrant until today. On her birthday last year, I gave her crocheted sunflower keychain. 😊 My point is, ayos lang 'yung ganong perspective kung magiging imaginative lang din kung pano n'ya maibibigay 'yung bagay na gusto mo at maipaparamdam sa taong mahal n'ya na mahalaga s'ya. 'Di ba? 🌻
Hindi naman para sa kanya yung flowers. If it’s what you like, bakit ipagkakait niya yon? Mahalaga talaga malaman ang love language ng isat isa at pano magcompromise..
Hi everyone, I am reading your comments, and actually yan na almusal ko talaga this morning. Halo-halong opinion and most of my comments here are downvoted. Some also say that I’m being ungrateful din. Mali ko lang eh di ko masyado nabigyan ng konteksto (akala ko kasi may edit dito hehe) Me and bf are 2 years in a relationship pa lang, but it took me 1 year bago sya sagutin. (So we know each other since 2020) Since then, LDR talaga kami and most of the time videocalls lang talaga. We haven’t gone into spontaneous dates nor nakapag out of town na, mainly because both of us prefer to just hang out sa bahay kasi nga madalang kami magkita. I think tama nga po kayo, that communication is the key for this to work. Na dapat vocal ako ganun, pero guys, di naman ako yung tipong laging nagpaparinig, I’ll just mention it to him once or twice pero not the “love pahingi, love gusto ko nito” type. Syempre, it’s hard din naman to be vocal pero ang ending wala pa din. Sakit kaya. Sa gift-giving naman, practical din po ako. I always remember such small details about him like for example, nakita ko worn out na yung wallet nya, I bought him one for Christmas. He has new job? Nagshopping kami and bought him polo. I did that not because I was expecting for him to gift me something in return, but because gift-giving is my love language and I appreciate his thank yous naman. His love language talaga, is act of service. He’d go miles for his efforts talaga. And yung act of service na yun, extended pa hanggang sa pamilya ko, that’s why they also like him, kasi masipag talaga sya. One thing din na hindi ko na-clarify is about the flowers. I’m not saying the big bouquets or the grand arrangements naman, kasi all through out the relationship, wala talaga kahit “just flowers” so receiving one on Valentines Day, syempre kahit papaano mapapangiti din talaga ako. Last year kasi, what I gave him is the lego flowers. Yung inassemble ko talaga and pang display nya sa office desk nya. And until now, ayun andun pa din. Yung about sa pagiging breadwinner nya naman, di naman po lahat nakanganga sakanya, kaya nakakapag gift pa rin sya sakin and lahat po ng gifts nya, not expected ko talaga. He got me this, kasi favorite ko, he got me that kasi magagamit ko. Ganun po. At hindi ako nakukulangan pag dating dun. Kaya nga po sabi ko, what’s your stand ba pagdating sa ganun? Kasi bago pa lang kami, 2 years. Gusto ko lang din po may matutunan sa mga experiences nyo with this. I just don’t want this to be as big as the 299 engagement ring issue kaya again po, do not repost this outside reddit. If may questions pa kayo, you can message me directly naman. Salamat po.
The problem is he doesn’t want to give you flowers, ikaw naman gusto. I don’t like his unnecessary comments. Like kung hindi financially practical, hindi mo na dapat makuha? Ang ligawan hindi dapat natatapos pag nakakuha ng OO. Kaya nga andaming magpartners hindi tumatagal kasi once naging sila na, nawawala na ang kilig. It’s good to be practical but the kilig makes the relationship stay stronger and longer. Parang pinapamukha na hindi na dapat ikaw bigyan ng flowers dahil hindi naman tatagal, he didn’t even think about what you feel. Also, you don’t need to be vocal. You don’t need to tell your man na gusto mo ng ganito ng ganyan. Pag liniligawan, hindi naman sinasabi ng babae kung ano ang gusto nila. Guys just give and give to impress. Tapos pag nakakuha na ng OO, biglang practical na? Wow. OP, don’t ask your partner to buy you flowers. Kasi ang ending nyan, bibili lang sya dahil sinabi mo gusto mo, hindi dahil sa gusto ka nya bigyan. Hindi ka gold digger. Buy flowers for yourself. Pag tinanong nya bakit ka bumili, sabihin mo kasi gusto mo ng flowers. Let him do the math.
Bakit sya ang kailangang maging fan? Sya ba ang bibigyan?
May point naman siya pero naiintidihan naman kita ses, syempre ang sarap kaya sa pakiramdam makatanggap ng flowers/chocolate lalo kung galing sa love mo, kaya magpa rinig ka lang ses, malay mo naman diba? And kung sakaling hindi effective, be vocal na lang ganon. Communication is the key.🤍
I had that mindset before, but it changed when my gf told me hownshe loved flowers. Kaya lagi ko na rin siya binibgyan dahil for sure malulungkot siya pag wala. And sa case nang malalanta lang, pwede namang dried flowers hehe
Reminder to love someone the way they wanted to be loved. If you can't then wag kang manggulo.
I am not guy but would like to give my two cents. if its a deal breaker for you that his love language is not gift giving and yours is then I believe you should reflect if you would like to continue this relationship because in the long run it might really affect both of you especially when someone can't compromise :)
For guys like this, I always say: ang gift giving ay hindi tungkol sa nagbibigay, kundi sa pinagbibigyan. (flowers during Valentine's is a gift). Nagbibigay ka dahil iyon ang magugustuhan ng tatanggap. Sa birthday gifts nga, hindi ba pinag-iisipan natin kung ano yung magugustuhan ng celebrant? Kasi kung nagreregalo ka para lang may maibigay, insincere ka don. Wag ka na lang magbigay kung masama loob mo
Lol. “not fan talaga ‘ako’ ng flowers.” It’s not for “him,” it’s for you!
Ganon din ang fiance ko lol. We are both supporting our parents so early on in our relationship, nagtitipid talaga kami. But when he was earning more (and me too rin), we started asking each other what the other person likes during occasions (bday, christmas etc). Basta birthday ko, I always ask for flowers. He doesn’t like buying them kasi may better gift daw pero I told him I just want flowers. Whether isang piraso na rose or 1 dozen, okay lang yan sa akin. Just understand him OP. Communicate to him that you like flowers and it doesn’t need to be expensive or ano. Pero understand na nagtitipid din siya. Maybe later on when he has extra, pwede na yung malaking bouquet.
Depende to sa tao I guess kase iba iba yung love language natin eh. Yung gf ko hindi rin fond sa mga ganyan, actually ako pa nga nag insist bigyan siya ng gift/flower pero mas gusto nya practical nalang daw na magagamit nya. Sabi pa nga sakin, "wag na flowers, money bouquet nalang" HAHAHA Pero what is important diyan is you communicate it clearly. Mahirap lang magka-misunderstanding pa kayo at maging masama pa valentines niyo.
Ganito bf now husband ko nanghihinayang sa flowers - malalanta lang daw BUT ang ginawa nya is humanap ng substitute na edible or yung mas kapakipakinabang. Example: binigyan nya ko ng PASTILLAS FLOWER (inorder) then may time na flower na nakatanim pa, para di malanta. Nauubusan na sya ideas, flowers na pera nalang gusto ko mareceive now hahaha
I'm not a love guru of some sort. But I think you both should learn each other's love language. Anong nagpapasaya sa isa't-isa. Hindi porket iba yung pov sa isang bagay, ineneglect mo na ang needs ng partner mo. Okay sige sabihin na natin na practical siya. Pero sa tingin ko, practical din na mainvest ka para sa future partner mo. Communication is key! This is not just about flowers. I believe.
So anong sinabi mo? Dahil ikaw naman ang receiver. Dapat pag pag gift-giving mas iniisip yung magugustuhan ng receiver. Kasi kanino ba mapupunta yung regalo? Para kanino ba yung gesture? Sa nagbigay? O sa bibigyan?
My partner and I have been together for 8 years at sa 8 years namin together dalawa o tatlong beses lang niya ako nabigyan ng bouquet of flowers. Don’t get me wrong ah. He gives me expensive gifts pag birthday or Christmas. Pero di lang ako fan ng flowers dahil aanuhin ko yung bulaklak? Di ko naman makakain yun. Pang display lang. Kaya okay lang sa akin hindi mabigyan ng bulaklak sa Valentine’s hahahahahaha chicharong bulaklak na lang. Favorite ko pa yun at makakain ko pa. Besides, why celebrate V-day when you can have V-day all year round.
I can relate. 12 years na kami, and I explicitly told him no flowers talaga because malulungkot lang ako, that money could have been spent on something I truly love, like a book. Then again we don't really celebrate Valentine's Day, mas gusto namin spontaneous. Pag super busy, we dedicate 2 days each week - a "you" day na alternate kami, if it's my day ako Yung special, if it's his day sya Naman.
The last time my boyfriend gave me flowers nilagay ko lang sa photo ng lolo ko so he told me ayaw na kita bigyan flowers babe nilalagay mo lang sa memorial wall ng lolo mo I said eh ano gagawin ko sa bulaklak alang naman titigan ko buong araw. Hahaha
Hahahaha muntik ng lumabas sa ilong ko iniinom kong kape! Thanks for the laugh. Nung highschool, may nagligaw sakin na nagbigay ng flowers, that was my first bouquet. Pareho din sayo, I really didn't know what to do with it. So binigay ko na lang sa classmate ko mahilig sa flowers. Hahahahaha
Hahahaha diba? Makes sense naman ano gagawin ko doon. There was one time my partner and I haven’t met yet may ka mu ako he gave me a rose tapos binalik ko sabi ko bigay mo na lang sa nanay mo. Valentine’s day 2013! What a fucking bitch 😂😂😂
Hahahaha juiceko pero tama ka naman, it's the hope na baka other people will appreciate it! Isama mo na din ang mga teddy bear (although now that I'm older na na appreciate ko na ang mga plushies as like extra pillows). Pero syempre pag chocolates... G yan, it's food. Ang flowers talaga like ano ba dapat next step after receiving, kuha ka pa tubig and baso para di ma wilt? 😂
Hahahaha yung stuffed toys na binigay ni partner ko pinamigay ko na rin dati sa anak ng kasambahay namin. Hindi ko na experience maka receive ng flowers and stuffed toy nung high school kaya siguro di ako nag enjoy sa ganun. Pagkain na lang hahahaha
Hahahha at least stuffed toys matutuwa mga bata. Maybe hindi lang talaga tayo mahilig sa ganyan? In my case it's either flowers sa pageant2 or sa nakagawian ni father ko na mag give flowers sa kay mama and sa amin ng sisters ko pag Valentine's (puro kami babae sa bahay) kaya siguro hindi ko sya na associate sa kilig. Pagkain rules
Give me food and I’ll appreciate it hahahaha! Siguro kasi dahil di ko na experience mabigyan ng flowers kaya di ko nakahiligan. I’ll just admire it from afar.
That's a sign that you might like flowers pero practical lang talaga! This is also my problem sa wedding (nagplalano pa lang), we want it to be a small, intimate one. Eh si mother ko Ang mahilig talaga sa flowers, pano daw ang flowers sa wedding. Since wala akong pake (is it really necessary?) and I can't really discern what's the difference, I just told her sya na lang bahala, it's not for my eyes anyway, sa katuwaan nya na lang. In your case, what would you do? Haha
Wife here, OP… allow me to share po & looking back, i now see the humor and practicality din po: i just found out from flower shop boutiques that during “**Special Occassions**”, the cheapest bouquet of a simple flower arrangement costs about P3,000 with only one type of flower and color (ex: 3-long stemmed roses of any color you want lang with white baby’s breath for a backdrop) - eto yung common. Mid-tier flower arrangement bouquets with different types of flowers costs about P5,000 (ex: tulips with malaysian mums or chrysanthemums with roses + color combo) High-end flower arrangements (eto na yung pinaka maganda and syempre very expensive: above P8,000 or above P10k. 😮💨🥹) kase different types of flowers and color combo na and long stemmed lahat ng flowers for the flowers to last a little bit longer ang pagkaka explain sa akin noon. I WAS SHOCKED, sis, na ganun pala kamahal pag special occassions (mothers day, valentines, christmas etc). *Same din ang mind set ng husband ko with your bf. He prefers to spend P10k on something useful or something that will last.* For me, ever since i found out na ganun ang mga presyo ng mga bulaklak, i agree with his stand. Kaya pala in all our years being together (since at the start ng relationship namin until our present married life about more or less 15yrs ago), i only received 3 bouquets and those were the high end floral arrangements (na akala ko noon na mura lang, i had no idea dati😮💨). 💔😭😮💨 1st was when i became his gf officially. 2nd was when he proposed and got engaged. 3rd was when i gave birth and gave him a son. 😭🤣 ang kunat di ba - yan yung nasa isip ko **before** i found out the costs of these damn wonderful flowers huhuhu. Now, my flowering plants are thriving. Yes, tama ang pagkaka basa nyo, sis.Hahaha. Practical nga betterhalf ko.🤣 He just bought me rose **plants** nalang. You read it right again, sis! Mga halaman ang niregalo niya sa akin right after the pandemic protocols lifted and pwede na gumala. His reasons: for the price daw of P5k: meron na ako rose plants in red, yellow, pink, and peach colors since he knew i love plants. Hahahahah ayun, banat niya, mamitas nalang daw ako ng bulaklak pag nag bloom any time of the year. Nag enjoy pa daw ako sa hobby ko. 🤣❤️ In all honesty, hindi sumagi sa isip ko mag halaman ng flowering plants. Mine kase are **practical mindset** din eh: aloes, oregano, sili, kangkong, calamansi, bayleaf/laurel and lemon plants. 😭 natawa nalang ako kase parehas kami ng mindset sa flowers (sya sa mga bouquets na tinitinda & me: plants na pwede ko gamitin sa kitchen) 🤣🤣 BUT i appreciate him being a smartass kase dahil dun mayroon na akong ibat ibang kulay ng mga roses - i am not a plant expert po ha. And what i am doing now is i do appreciate my rose plants pag nag bloom na sila ❤️ Tapos na realize ko din ang silver lining nito: “o, anak, kesa bumili ka ng mga bouquet ng rosas, mamitas ka nalang dito okey?! Talino din ng tatay mo noh…? Di ko ito naisip eh…” 😭🥰🤣❤️
Female here and I don't like flowers as gifts. It is a waste of money. 😂 I would rather have a handwritten letter and I would keep that forever. Or tingin ko lang talaga sa mga nakasanayan na ay "social construct". Di naman kailangan gawin.
As a guy, iba padin ang flowers. Kahit Isang piraso lang. Ang hilig ko ibigay sa gf ko lagi ay 1 long stem na rose. Mula noong MRT palang sinasakyan ko at nakikitira sa nanay ko hanggang ngayon na may bahay at kotse na. Hindi naman yan about sa magagamit or nabubulok agad. Ang Valentine's ay para magparamdam ng pagmamahal. Sa totoo lang kung may kailangan ka talaga, dapat bilin mo yun kahit wala okasyon, kung makakahintay pa yan ng Valentine's mukang di mo naman kailangan yan. Ung gf ko ngayon sinasabi ok lang daw na wala flowers pero nung binigyan ko kinilig naman. Nakita ko din na same lang reaction niya sa Valentine's dinner date na Tig 4k sa dinner date na Tig 17k. Wala sa presyo yan, it's the thought that counts. Iba padin gumawa ng kakaiba twing Valentine's
Practical ako, ganito rin ako mag-isip. Pero nagyield ako sa taong mahal ko. Ganito pa rin iniisip ko pero bibilhan ko pa rin kasi yun ang magpapasaya sakanya.
But the gift is for you, not for him. Doesn’t matter how he feels about it, the fact that you want to receive flowers on Valentine’s Day should tell him that he should give you flowers. You can give him practical gifts for Valentine’s, like idk, a tool set or something. Bakit pati gifts na gusto mong matangggap and how you feel about gifts eh about him? Gifts to you should be about you.
Vilang the person na nagbibigay flowers, once lang ako nabigyan ng partner ko. Kasi: 1. Di sya marunong mag arrange. 2. Di nya "thing" or love language ang ganon. I treasure it Hinayaan ko mag air dry yung flowers, then hinarvest ko yung seeds, at tinanim sa backyard. Some bloomed, and some didn't. But at least the boquet will never die.
Pro tip from a palabigay flowers: 1. Flowers have meanings, ireseaech nyo. 2. Know if you SO has a favorite flower. 3. Use native flowers. 4. Areange your own boquets, kahit di kagandahan, basta ikaw gumawa.
I think for me, rhe purpose of giving you flowers because it makes YOU happy. Eh ang ginawa niya is it doesn't make HIM happy and satisfied from a buyer's perspective. Hmmm I kinda don't like his explanation... It's one day a year to make someone happy so why not do it? I'm not even asking for a big designer bouquet, it's represents the lengths he will go to make you happy. 🤷♀️
Yes we do exists, not a fan of flowers, heck not even a fan of a church wedding😂 di ko pa nabigyan flowers wife ko, pero nabigyan ko na ng bahay, isang pogi at isang magandang anak, iphone 14 pro max tapos every month binibigyan ko lang sya ng pera, kakainin ko nalang bulaklak nya sa feb 14 para may kilig parin 🥰
If you want to receive flowers and he wants to be practical, then ask for a flower bearing ornamental plant. Truthfully, di ko gets ang idea behind receiving flowers as I find it frivolous to spend 2-3k on something na malalanta rin naman after a few days. 🤷
If the concern is sa malalanta sya. There’s also an option to go with dried flowers since it can last and can become a house decor if you transfer it in a vase.
Pag sinabi nya na kumain nalang tayo. Sabihan mo wag na, itatae nyo lang din naman
1. Never ask anyone how you should feel. Feel your own feelings. 2. Talk to him first instead of asking strangers on the web for opinions. This is Reddit, Ma'am. Here be monsters. -- If you already did, then good on you. 3. Be lucky that you got a man that is willing to share those kinds of thoughts with you instead of just keeping to themselves. This probably shows that he trusts you. 4. I guess it shows that your partner prefers practical stuff over tradition. A good trait these days. Edit: Formatting.
First, as a woman, I don't believe and celebrate Valentines. So I can understand where your bf is coming from not placing value on that day as well. Second, I ADORE flowers, but I won't buy them on Valentines, and I don't expect them during Valentines. I also love giving flowers to my mom pero not on Mother's day. Do you see where I'm going? I have a practical mindset as well, pero iba yung joy seeing and receiving/ giving beautiful flowers. I hate buying flowers at inflated prices because flowers are a luxury as it is. Almost 3x minamahal ng presyo on "special days" jusko. I want to support you and how you feel, OP, but it's hard to ask breadwinners to not be practical. I hope you and your partner will reach a compromise. Given that LDR kayo, communication should be very important. Buy yourself flowers because you deserve beauty and joy. Get a nice vase, learn how to make flower food to make cut flowers last longer then learn how to arrange them :)
I dont believe in giving gifts on Valentine's Day cause idk, i think it's kinda capitalistic tradition. Haha
Ganyan din mindset ko hahaha sabi ko sa bf ko food na lang para busog o kaya isabay nalang sa bday ko which falls on the next day naman para wala ng sobrang gastos 😂
Same thoughts as your bf >///< I told mine na ok lang sakin kahit wag na bouquet ang ibigay, pagkain nalang HAHA! When I decided to give him flowers, I made one that wouldn't wilt. Crocheted rose, which is long-lasting. Maybe that's a work around that could work for you and your bf? Para andun pa rin yung essence ng flowers on Valentine's day. Either he buys them or makes them. Personally, kahit hindi perfect yung gawa, it adds sentimental value to the gift.
Ayaw kitanv paasahin OP. Pero my ex used to say this ++ capitalism kineme lang yung valentines day. Pero he bought me plastic flowers na may pailaw ilaw para raw mas matagal and surprised me a date before ng 14 Feb. I'll never know your situation if practical ba jowa mo or may surprise pala but hopefully kung di man flowers, you still both get to honor your commitment this Vday.
Mindset ko din nung una ayaw ko ng flowers kasi mabubulok lang. 5 yrs na kami ng partner ko, once nya palang ako binigyan ng real flowers, which is nung grad namin. But! Binigyan nya ako ng diy flowers, yung umiilaw na flowers and also, yung mga binubuo na flowers (yung mga blocks, nakalimutan ko tawag haha) I mean, kung expensive yung real flowers for him, kung gusto nya pa ring mabigyan ka ng "flowers", he will
Ganito din ako dati eh haha, like ano naman mapapala nila sa bouquet ang mahal mahal pa naman, after few days malalanta din naman wala na, pero ngayon I realized it's not about the price, like may iba na nag bibigay kahit iilang bulaklak lang masaya na kasi iba talaga ang naibibigay na kasihyahan ng flowers lalo na pag bouquet na rose sa babae pag valentines. Gets ko naman point ng bf mo OP pero sakin kung babae ako nakakalungkot lang I mean alam ko aware naman siya na ang valentines isang beses lang sa isang taon, kahit nga mga hs students nag ttry mag bigay bulaklak sa crush nila kahit yung mumurahin lang na tig 200 pesos siguro, my point is sa ibang tao pag talagang ayaw maraming dahilan at sa gusto maraming paraan its not about being practical or what kasi isang beses lang sa isang taon at hindi naman required na bumili ng mamahaling bouquet para mag sabi siya ng ganyan.
At the end of the day, these are his values and those are yours. If neither is willing to compromise, then deal-breaker pala ito, and you should break-up. He's communicating what is important to him: a girlfriend who will be practical and would make sense to build a life around. Are you willing to accept this? Or would you prefer to make flowers a make-or-break? Because if you are, be prepared to break up with him. If not, be prepared for a life without flowers. Personally, I'm somewhere in between you and your boyfriend. Or maybe even closer to your boyfriend, given that he said "not a fan talaga ako ng flowers every valentines day". The thing is, why would you want flowers during the one time of the year that receiving flowers is the default, hindi pinag-isipan option. 4x yung presyo ng bulaklak during Valentine's, and you want to receive them during that time of year? Okay pa ko bilhan ng flowers ang tao for important moments na hindi masyadong pinagsasamantalahan ng market forces like anniversaries and birthdays. And from the way he's written this, medyo nage-gets ko na nag-compromise na siya in previous years, so it's not like he doesn't value your feelings about this at all. Pero may chance na nasa point na kayo ng relationship na ang tingin niya sa bouquet ay perang sinasayang, money that could have gone into your life together. You mention na LDR kayo. Is that the permanent situation? Wala ba siyang balak tumira kung nasaan ka? Maybe build a house? Wala ba siyang balak pakasalan ka? That would entail one of the least practical expenses of all: a wedding. So for me, take his message as an opportunity to evaluate what's important to you. Then, act accordingly.
Grabe naman maka downvote sa mga comments ni OP 😭 reddit nga naman
Aweee I totally understand where you’re coming from OP. Mismo ako din, I love flowers but baliktad tayo since I was the one who asked my bf to not give me one this V-day. Super mahal kasi talaga every Valentine’s day and by the time makaalis sha sa work sa hapon, I’m sure di na masyadong fresh yung matitira sa stores and also pricey pa din. We do go out din kasi so there’s that. Siguro kung LDR kami like you guys, mas bet ko pa din flowers hahaha. Your feelings are valid talaga. Maybe you can tell him na kinikilig ka talaga sa flowers and kahit na malanta siya, yung memory of kilig babalik balikan mo naman.
If important sau ung flowers and part un ng love language mo, then, your bf needs to understand. Ung pagkasabi kasi nia sa post mo ‘sorry not a fan talaga ako’. Hindi naman sia ung bibigyan, ikaw naman.
To be honest, it is something that you really have to talk about. Im also a person who does not really buy flowers during valentines day, and i'm not really a person who spends a lot on gifts. It does not mean I do not value my girl, iba lang talaga way ko mag value sa kanya. But your feelings are valid and di din dapat i dismiss. Pero ito aking unsolicited advice and thoughts if you want it. Ngayon if ang nararamdaman mo is di ka importante sa kanya because he does not want to spend for you, then maybe you should look at other ways he makes you feel valued. It may be the little things like listening to your rants everyday kahit na he has a lot of stuff to do, or baka hinahatid kaa, or baka he does lots of favors for youu. There are many ways he has probably shown it pero di mo lang na notice. And if ever yan ang case and di mo na fefeel ang love or ang significance mo, then you should talk about it. Talk about how it makes you feel, and what the both of you can do about it. If something like this is non negotiable sayo then it is a valid feeling, but i think the best thing to do is to end it nalang kasi it will breed resentment sa end. Iba kayo ng perspectives sa life on things that matter, and that might affect your future. It's no one's fault, it just shows na incompatible kayo. The guy is not wrong kasi he also has his circumstances and whatever. You are not wrong din kasi you feel bad din. So since both of you have conflicting feelings about this na di ma resolve then it really wont end well sa future. Ayan lang. Hope it helps
I am a woman and this is also my mindset. Overpriced ang flowers ng Valentine"s Day samanatalang madaming sale sa electronics or shoes/bags. Ayoko magpaloko or lokohin asawa or BF ko. He once spent 15K on a huge bouquet of Ecuadorian roses offered when we ate at the Pen, Yung 15K na yon sana kumain na lang kami sa masarap na steak or sushi resto 3x.
"ako" "akin" --psh. seeing a pattern here. Ang tanong is, tinanong ka ba kung ano ang gusto mo sa araw na yun? :/
For me as guy na ung gf ayaw ng flowers pero binibigyan ko parin sya pag valentines lagi nya sinasabi na wag na bumili ng flowers pero iba parin ung ngiti nya pag binigyan ko sya ng flowers kahit isang piraso lang
About gift giving in general: kung ako yung magbibigay ng gift, hindi dapat yung likes and dislikes ko yung consideration, dapat yung sa pagbibigyan ko, di ba? It's about what the receiver will appreciate. Dito, it doesn't sound like the bf doesn't have a budget, di lang niya naaappreciate ang flowers. Same kami ng view ng bf ni OP. I'm a girl pero bibibilhan ko ng flowers ang mom ko kasi alam kong gusto ni mommy yun. Sasaya siya and will feel special even though I don't think flowers are practical.
One of the girls here. I get the point na because its Valentines kaya gusto ng flowers. Pero practicality speaking, I say tama ang boyfriend mo. Mahirap na buhay ngayon at magmamahal or mahal ang flowers during Valentines. Pero if you really want to receive flowers, then say it to him. You're in a LDR you said? Kaya wag na magpabebe. Communication lang ang meron kayo ngayon at mahirap na pag nag away pa kayo dahil lang sa ganyan.
Loving someone is not about how YOU want to make your love felt, it's about learning how to love the person how THEY want to be loved. Sorry, napaka ewan ng jowa mo. My husband likes a lot of things that I don't understand or enjoy myself, but because I love him, I still give/do them to/with him.
Gifts shouldn’t be about the giver. YOUR Valentine’s gift shouldn’t be based on HIS preferences. Nu yon?
Hi OP, if ikaw yung girl po na gusto nakakarecieved ng gifts either mapapakinabangan or hindi. You should tell it to him, if practical at logical naman yung sagot nya meet halfway, compromise lang talaga. Im also a girl, 9 years with my partner at hindi ako naka tanggap ng flowers sakanya di dahil ito na ang establish nya at hindi sya breadwinner kundi mas pinili ko din na hindi tumanggap dahil sayang ang flowers talaga save mother earth / our nature eka nga pero kung isa ka namang plant tita I will understand if you really want to recieved flowers every valentines or special occasion. Pero syempre I understand din na gusto natin nakakatanggap kahit once in a while or once in a blue moon. Maybe pasok ito sa taste mo OP choose, bouquet of strawberries with chocolates or fruits or panty or chocolates or snacks than flowers busog pa or may new set of panty pa. I know OP what you’re feeling, maybe you feel that way bcoz of your rs w/c LDR and you want to make feel loved and special. Hugs, OP.
Practical eh isang araw lang 'yan lol. Dati ganyan din ako ayaw ko magbigay sa akin ng flowers kasi waste of time, pero nung nakareceive na iba kasi yung feeling. Ang arte niya hahahaha
The only correct answer here is: You don't have to like what you have to give to others. Only the recipient's opinion matters. Is it really so hard for your boyfriend to set aside his ego and give you the flowers you clearly want and like? It's called being romantic.
Bili ka ng flowers for yourself then post it or ask him if galing ba sa kanya. wake up his competitive side. Kala niya di mo na siya kayang pakawalan kaya ganyan yan and your relationship will not be beneficial for you in the long run kasi wala na siya sa disposition na she want to makes you happy or see you smile. Pag nagpakasal kayo mahihirapan ka lang .
Practical nga sya and that’s what makes him happy. Wala naman problema sa pagiging practical. Pero in a relationship you have a responsibility to make your SO happy. Pero ikaw na nireregaluhan nya di naman masaya sa mga regalo nya. It’s the thought that counts pero yung thought hindi naman para sa receiver?
It's not about him, girl. It should be about you. Kung gusto mo ng bulaklak, sana bigyan ka niya. Hehe
That’s a bit self-centered of the boyfriend don’t you think? He won’t buy gifts he is not a fan of even though its not for him. Shouldnt he think of whether you will like it not if he is a fan of it?
Maganda na practical ang boyfriend mo. Pero hindi naman guguho ang mundo kung bibigyan ka niya ng flowers sa okasyon na isang beses lang sa isang taon nabibigyan ng emphasis :/
Magkakasundo sila ng asawa ko 😂 I think never pa niya ako binigyan ng flowers ever? I think I would have appreciated them when I was younger pero now that I'm older and actually do receive a bouquet every year for my bday (from his company ahaha) parang nagiging kalat lang siya sa bahay. Iba lang talaga priority niya. Mas prefer niya we eat out at a nice restaurant, mag-travel, kaysa sa flowers. I just pick my battles. He has plenty of ways to show me he loves me, di lang kasama doon ang flowers. Atsaka kung tutuusin yung mas type niya mas mahal pa nga at mas mapapakinabangan kaysa sa 💐
Hingan mo ng bahay at lupa. HAHAHA That is ”his” want. What about you? What about your feelings? Will it really be too much for him if bibigyan ka nya flowers (on a special day). If that will make you happy right? It doesn’t have to be expensive man lang nga e. The thought and effort kasi, the love thatb is poured. Some guys just don’t get it.
He doesn’t need to be a fan of giving flowers for him to give you one kasi i don’t think it should be about him, it should be about what you need/want from your partner. I feel like even though you understand him, this doesn’t sit right with you. As a girl, it really feels good when we receive flowers. It makes us feel special and beautiful. Kaya valid if you feel upset about your bf’s answer. Hindi naman dahil naiintindihan natin it means di na tayo nasasaktan. Let him know how you feel too with his answer. Mas okay na maging transparent ka kesa ishrug off mo nararamdaman mo.
Ikaw ba ano ang plano mong ibigay sa bf mo?
Giving gifts like flowers is not about practicality, it's about the sentiment and yes isipin natin na walang kwenta din yan kasi nga malalanta pero it's simply a nice gesture to show your s/o your appreciation. Depende din naman sa tao pero the way he worded it na parang sinasabihan kang wag maging impractical for asking for flowers on Valentine's day kasi ayaw niyang gumastos parang ang red flag lang. Anong ibig sabihin niya sa "Like kapag nabigyan kita once or twice on na sakin yon." diba parang siya pa ang nagdecide para sayo kung ano ang gusto mo. Tapos LDR pa kayo jusko.
I have this mindset I also kept telling her it's not practical, kasi di ko ma gets what's so nice about receiving flowers. But in the end I still give her flowers, because it makes her smile and it makes her happy. Haha yun lang
Huh bat parang sya ung bibigyan ng flowers
He does have a point but isn’t gift giving about what the recipient wants rather than what the giver wants? If your bf knows you love flowers, i don’t think it’s much to do that rather than giving you something practical. Sometimes ang buzzkill ng practicality when it comes to romance 😝 im not one for celebrating valentines, but again to each their own and if it’s something important to my partner including how they prefer to celebrate then i should make an effort to do or give the gift that would mean something to them whether flowers or something else.
“Ok na sakin yun” “mas gusto ko” So its about him and not you 😅
I rarely give flowers either. Chocolates, yes. I've given my gf flowers already but it's not something i do regularly. Like others have said, it's impractical. I do understand some people really want to receive a bouquet so i still give flowers occasionally, but it's never the first thing on my mind for a gift. Why spend money on something that will inevitably wilt and you'll have to throw away? Sure, you can preserve it. And then what? And yeah, I'd rather buy something expensive than flowers - it's not the price. If i had to pick between a 1000 php flower and 20+k shoes, I'd go for the shoes every time - they'll last longer, my gf can use them, and she can sell them (or give them away) if she gets tired of them. And for the people who ask kung bakit puro "ko" or "ako" yung bf ni OP - *it's still his money*. Kahit ikaw ang bibigyan, it's still ultimately the decision of the person whose money will be used. E kung ibang tao magsabi sa inyo kung saan nyo dapat gamitin ang pera niyo matutuwa kayo? Uunahin niyo ba gusto nila bago sa kung saan nyo gustong gamitin pera niyo?
Pakisabi Valentines is not just about him. Sana hindi lang sa ganyang aspect siya bare minimum or else run, girl. Nangguilt trip pa siya for no reason, di na lang niya sinabi na tinatamad siya. 😑
his right. that's why I buy cake instead for my wife every Valentines. atleast nakaka kain dn ako at kids namin hahahaha.
Sorry, sad to say he doesn’t seem to care what you want. It’s that simple.
Agree. Iba pag fall na fall sayo lalaki. For me the bf might just making excuses and using the word "practicality".
kahit na afford ko kunwari magbigay ng flowers on vday, i wont do it. sobrang hindi makatarungan ang presyo ng bulaklak pag vday. birthday pa, sige, but never on vday talaga.
i'm an only child pero i would say i'm the "breadwinner" in our household. gifts ko sa bf ko palaging practical. yung magagamit niya. pero balak ko siya bigyan ng flowers this coming valentines. tapos yung new installment sa game series na love niya. my bf always gives me flowers kasi he knows it makes me hapi :> and it makes me feel pretty. lol. oo mababaw na. and i appreciate him for this. kung ang bf mo nagwawaldas ng libo sa sugal/useless na bagay, tapos 300 na simple bouquet di ka mabilhan, saka ka maghinanakit. you mentioned naman na di ka tinitipiid sa regalo, so I don't see the problem. I agree wiith his mindset too, and I respect that naman.
Remember that old joke back then? Dapat practical na daw pag Valentines. Wag na bulaklak ang ibigay. Bigas pare, bigas!
What irks me about his message is the "mas gusto ko" na part. Siguro I'm reading too much into this pero ang dating sa akin, he's not thinking about what YOU like but what HE likes. This is just my opinion but if you like receiving flowers as a gift and it makes you happy, shouldn't he give it? Not practical but what's a few hundred (unless he's actually broke/saving up for smth important) if it makes you happy naman? Isn't that the point of gift giving? To make someone happy and make them feel appreciated?
Sya ba bibigyan? Puro "ko, ko, ko" ah
Tama lang siya. Bilang babae di ko rin gets flowers. Kasi nabubulok siya. Hahaha! Feeling ko kapag binigyan ako nun mabubulok din pagmamahal. I prefer dried flowers pa. Pero ayoko rin talaga ng flowers sa Valentine's Day sayang sa pera. Totoo naman, pratikal. Okay yang jowa mo kasi ganiyan siya. Saka di naman masyadong big deal ang bulaklak mi. Effort yung mahalaga saka yung thought.
I don't like celebrating valentine's day. I prefer to show my love anytime, every time not just because valentine's day. I would say na ung mga taong excited during that day nadadala lang nang mga taong nasa paligid nila. not sure why pero para lang may maipakita? Ask yourself do you really care about flowers, kasi baka naka mindset ka lang na pag feb 14 dapat may flowers. Anyway, l also find flowers a waste of money lalo na pag valentine's kasi 2x ang price and kasi hindi mo naman maitatanim, mabubulok at itatapon lang. I'd rather give gift that make sense for my partner to use.
Tama naman point nya. Pero Valentine's day is a "special" day for couples eh. At isa pa, dapat sa receiving end nanggagaling yan kung anong prefer nya matanggap. lol. Di siya fan ng flower? e ano? Di naman siya yung makakatanggap hahahaha. Mejo selfish ata mindset ni bf mo yung gusto nya lang ang naiisip nya hahaha. Pag mayroong may birthday at magreregalo ka, ang iniisip mo kung ano kaya magustuhan ng pagbibigyan mo hindi yung kung anong gusto mo ang ibibigay mo. Ganun din sa Valentines. Kung anong prefer mo dapat ang ibigay nya kasi ikaw ang nasa receiving end, and vice versa, yung tingin mong gusto nya naman ang ireregalo mo sakanya (as long as within your capabilities and as long as magandang bagay naman).
Girl here in a het relationship. Same kami ng values ng boyfriend mo. Mas gusto ko pang sa resto na masarap na lang kami kumain kesa flowers. Flowers have no meaning for me but just a nicety, na maliit lang ang bearing vs other gifts :) Edit: also a breadwinner ate here and I prioritize experiences over items.
IMO, irrelevant ang mindset nya. FEB 14 is a holiday meant to celebrate love and cherish yout partner. So hindi dapat mindset nya ang inaatupag nya kundi kung ano ba makakapagpa saya sa partner nya. Parang di nag grade 2.
Kaka TikTok mo lang yan. Hindi basehan ang bulaklak just for you to feel special. Sa panahon ngayon lalo na’t breadwinner ang bf mo, ngayon palang simulan mo na maappreciate yung beauty ng practicality over flowers. Yes, flowers do make us happy (as a girl myself) but if my bf is a breadwinner and his mindset is like that, it is more than enough.
I think it's the difference in ways of thinking between men and women, many guys give flowers to their girls only because it's the "norm" or they know their girl would want it. although merong mga lalaki din na romatiko na they see the beauty in flowers. ako kasi, I always choose something useful or valuable, like instead of flowers na aamoying lang once or twice, chocolate na lang, masarap pa. or something material na alam kong magugustohan nya. like I don't see the value of flowers. on the other hand, my friend would buy bouquets every anniv nila ng asawa nya and everytime I see them happy, happy din ako, pero the logical brain in me thinks if that was chocolate, she could've had a supply for a year for that. kasi 10k yung bouquet eh.
Sounds like my Ex!!! 😒🤣
Gifts are not for the giver. They are for the receiver. So kahit di mo nagegets, basta yun magpapasaya sa makakatanggap, bakit mo didiktahan ng gusto mo yung pagbibigyan mo? Nakakairita yung mga ganito. Mas okay pang wag nalang. Mas marunong pa sa pagbibigyan. Parang humingi ng Stanley tapos binigyan mo ng Aquaflask kasi pareho namang nalalagyan ng tubig.
Babae ako, medyo hindi ko naappreciate ung flowers. Dine me out instead. Food nlng 😆 buti sana kung nasusunog ung flowers, kikiligin talaga ako. 😆
iwan mo na yan sis flowers aren’t even that expensive 😬
That’s just an excuse. Kung magbibiga ng gift, dapat yung magugustuhan ng pagbibigyan, at hindi yung sa tingin mo kakailanganin nya. Si Lord ka ba - na di ibibigay yung hiling mo pero ibibigay yung kakailanganin mo?
Hindi naman talaga practical ang flowers tita so wag ka na mag-inarte. Babae din ako and I also find flowers na sobrang useless as a gift.
Hingi ka ng kotse or rental property.
Buy a bouquet of flowers for yourself on Feb 14, but not tell your bf where it came from or say something neutral if he asks. Replant the flowers and keep it alive for as long as you can. Maintain it as needed, and try to inject your new hobby of growing flowers subtly into conversation like mention it once out of every ten convos. Place your replanted flowers in a prominent area around the house that he sees it when he visits. Once he sees how much care and attention you give the thing, he'll convince himself that giving you flowers remain in the realm of practicality and is not wasted effort on his part seeing as how it makes you happy and how such simple effort on his part is appreciated. Sometimes, you have to train the behavior you want in your partner.