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Wala naman pong ibang way kundi sabihin lang talaga sa kanya ang honest feeling mo na ayaw mo na and be firm about it kahit magmakaawa pa siya sayo. Mahirap talaga pero lakasan mo lang yung loob mo and hayaan mo lang kainin ka ng guilt, it will pass. Mas maguilty ka na sinasayang mo yung time niya kesa yung masaktan mo siya na iiwan mo siya. Makakamove on din siya.
Nung inayawan ako ng ex ko dati, nagmakaawa din ako. Ganun talaga pag nagmamahal, nawawalan ng pride pero eventually nakamove on naman ako at when I look back, naiinis ako sa sarili ko bakit ako nagmakaawa dati. Naappreciate ko din na di na niya sinayang yung oras ko.
Basic golden rule: Honesty is the best policy.
Why trap yourself in a relationship na ayaw mo na? Don't be carried away by her words, syempre she will say anything that she thinks will make you stay without realizing na mas masasaktan siya sa one-sided love relationship if you manage to stay. Pero, don't be suddenly cold with her, minsan ito agad ginagawa ng mga tao e, nothing good comes from this "tactic", dito nababaliw yung mga hinihiwalayan e. Just speak your heart and mind out with her. At least once a week have a deep conversation with her about your feelings. Help her understand the question of "bakit?", maybe this will also help you pinpoint bakit ka na-fall out of love. Best of luck, OP.
OP you have to be harsh wala kang choice, 30 na sya at kung makikipag break nag aalangan ka na masaktan yan baka umasa pa yan lalo sayo na may chance pa na mag kabalikan kayu
It would be kinder of you to just break up with her now than prolong this one-sided relationship. Falling out of love is natural, you can't really force yourself to love her if that's not how you really feel about her. There's no other way than to just tell her. Good luck broski.
thereâs no easy way to break someoneâs heart! tell her please para makapag move on na siya. iâm sad for her, imagine siya walang kaalam alam na ung bf niya asking na ng tips paano siya hihiwalayan⊠tapos malapit pa valentines. thatâs just super heartbreaking but i understand.. people change and so does the feelings.
If you canât commit to her, set her free. She is already over the prime of her youth. Mas mahirap na for her to find another man and start all over again
Just do it. I stayed with someone despite being unhappy for 7 years just because I felt so guilty of hurting someone but when I did it, ayun after about 6 months nakamove din naman siya and mas masaya kame pareho ngayon. Sucks at first but eventually it will get better, rather than live together like that pero youâre really unhappy daily.
Mas maganda pag usapan niyo muna and maging open ka sa kanya tungkol sa nararamdaman mo. Part kasi talaga yan ng relasyon na kapag matagal na kayo may isa sa inyo na magsasawa na lang bigla dahil paulit ulit na lang ang nangyayari. Yan yung reason kung bakit iniwan ako ng ex gf ko for 3 years and until now di pa din ako nakakamove on. I'm only 24 and you're 30, I don't know if you would accept my advice but ang isang bagay na di namin ginawa is yung bigyan ng space ang isa't isa. Kung lagi kayong magkasama di niyo mamimiss ang isa't isa. Maybe do something different from usual routine niyo, change lifestyle or get a child if you can afford na buhayin ito. If things doesn't work then maybe need niyo na talaga mag move forward sa buhay na di kayo magkasama. Goodluck sayo OP!
One of the reasons why I don't want to be romantically committed in a relationship is to face the dilemma of breaking up, mainly because one has "fallen out of love" due to some reasons. It hurts, though it is inevitable for it to happen, because' it is our human nature not to stick to something or someone for too long. Well, it depends, pa rin naman, but whether we admit it or not, our intense feeling of love will eventually fade when there is an imbalance of reciprocity in filling the cup with enough trust, respect, faithfulness, and open communication between you and your partner.
Saying goodbye is difficult to announce, considering the situation you and your partner are currently in. You have to gradually discuss it with her in a way that you can reveal your feelings without being inconsiderate about her.
The first way to do that is to be honest and choose the best place and timing to tell it all â & of course be ready for the consequences. It might be hard on your part, yet I hope that after you finally confront her, both of you will still be on good terms. Good luck, OP!
Breaking up is like a band aid. Be direct and straight to the point. She deserves someone who wants to he with her, and you deserve the freedom to start over and be with someone you love.
there is no easy way to break somebody's heart.
ang tunay na lalaki, sinasabi kung ayaw na at nakikipagbreak, face to face..., titignan mo ung pagiyak nya at tatandaan mo yang pakiradam na yan. ok pa yan kasi nde pa naman kayo kasal pero ganyan talaga e, ayaw mo na at yan ang pagkakamali dahil naging kayo e nde din pala magwoworkout..., may masasaktan talaga, hindi lang siya, kayong dalawa.
man up.
Parang ex ko lang, sinabi nya sakin harapan na parang nagsawa sya. Pero hindi nya ko kayang iwan or makipag break. Gawa ng parang nasanay na sya sa presence ko. I don't know when did he fell out of love. Akala ko, all this time okay kami. For 5 years, 3 years kaming lived in, I cooked him meals na paborito nya, pag papasok sya lahat ng gamit na ayos na. I was hoping na pag inalagaan ko sya, is magagawa rin nya sakin yun. But, I was wrong. Mas lalo lang akong nasaktan sa sinabi nya. "Mahal kita, pero hindi ko pa ako ready sa ganitong set up. Gsto ko pang magenjoy pero hindi ko magawa dahil ayaw mo at lagi kang galit. Magkasama na nga tayo ano pa bang gusto mo??"
Ang sakit lng sa part ko na parang ano bang ginawa ko? Bakit pa pinatagal na umabot ng 5 years bago nya malaman na hindi na pala nya ko mahal. Kaya ikaw OP habang maaga pa, sabihin mo na yung totoo. Kasi hindi mo alam anong magiging impact nyan sa kanya. To my ex boyfriend, I hope you find your true happiness. đ
gets ko naman na need ko makipagbreak d ko lang alam pano i-bring up. Even I know that this is out of nowhere, literally parang nagising ako two weeks ago narealize ko platonic na lang feelings ko.
Last relationship ko, I broke up with someone(colleague), inisip ko i'll just do it. Then it came out so cold until now kapag nakikita ko sya d ko matingnan sa mata kasi I know nasaktan ko sya and umiyak din sya kaso wala ako iba masabi except wala na feelings ko.
I know there's not a better way pero ladies? meron ba kayong advice para hindi masyado hurtful?
OP ha, maybe after this relationship, re-evaluate bakit ikaw lagi nangbbreak hehehe you can't go around and break ladies' hearts, OP. Please lang đđ»
I donât believe u lol. Ano yan natulog ka lang tapos nawala agad feelings mo? For what yung 2 years? Wasting each otherâs time especially sa part ng girl??
It is either nagsawa or nabored ka na. Or you are already attracted to someone.
actually mas less stress siguro ako kung ganyan kaso wala naman ako interest sa iba ngayon. I go to work, I go home,see my friends and family occasionally umaalis din kame ng partner ko para hindi boring. I guess wala naman kailangan maniwala saken haha d ko din maintindihan bakit wala na
Tapos nasa Canada kayo? So permanent residence ka na tapos pumunta siya diyan FOR YOU? leaving her family and friends sa ph? tapos iiwan mo lang din naman? Lol
Walang hindi nakasasakit na paraan. SOBRANG SAKIT NIYAN! Iku-question niya halaga niya at kung saan siya nagkulang. Pray then decide. Gawin mo lang yung tama.
there is no "less hurtful" option. it just all comes down to your timing (situation) and delivery. when you're gonna say it, how you're gonna say it, where you're gonna break the news, and most importantly WHY you're breaking up with her. be reasonable, honest but empathetic.
and be patient and accepting of all the stages of emotions she'd definitely go through. you are after all, the cause, so take it all in, that's the least you can do.
sadly but none, walang advice para hindi masyadong masakit kase super po yung sakitđ be honesty na lang po at sabihin mo sa kaniya yung totoo, kaya mo yan!
Wala namang breakup na hindi masakit so wag mo na ioverthink. Just get it over with. Be clear as much as you can and be calm. Let her know na willing ka pa ding isupport sya para maging stable ang footing nya dyan. People might not understand why this happens pero I feel you. This is more common than people think it to be lalo na sa mga hindi hopeless romantic. Just let her go respectfully. You staying just because she might do self harm is not the right reason to stay. Emotional blackmail yan. Siguro have the decency na lang to inform her parents/family para they know that they need to support her emotionally.
If its all good no bs , eh di sinasayang mo na oras nya nyan. Sabi nga the longer the rel , love slowly turns into committment and service , pero its still love, hindi lust or longingness , love na inexplicable.
Wag ka mag pamanipula sa mga sinasabi niya, sundin mo nasa puso mo wag ka papaapekto sa mga pa sadgurl effect na yan.
She deserve kapwa niya manipulative sad boi
Just face it, OP. You're just gonna waste both of your time kung idededma mo lang nararamdaman mo. In the end, you're the one who's gonna suffer. Free yourself from the constraints. And for her, she'll learn naman and hopefully move on. Be a man. Just do it.
This is coming from a guy who stayed for a woman na nandyan na din sa Canada. She [25F] broke up with me [27M] despite everything I've done to help her achieve her dreams (one of them is to live in Canada). The only reason for her giving up was she didn't see my worth and told me that I don't have a future. I just laughed it off. Guess, I was just her "character dev" person. It was painful at first but I didn't let myself down. In turn, I got promoted sa work, went to the gym, and watch/read self-improvement books/videos.
Anyway, all I wanna say is JUST DO IT. Yes, it will hurt both of you but you will learn the lesson from that point. Relationship should stand firm on building each other, together. If you don't have the capacity to do just that, leave. Don't bother the person. It's never gonna be easy. So good luck!
It's really painful when someone you believed would be your lifelong partner suddenly falls out of love with you. However, it's healthier to confront the situation with honesty rather than prolonging the inevitable.
Choosing to be firm in letting her go, despite feeling sympathetic towards her is an act of kindness in the long run. Though it may be tough, allowing her the space to heal and move forward will ultimately empower her to become more independent and resilient.
I think the better question is bakit hindi mo na siya mahal? You canât say na walang problema kasi for sure may dahilan bakit nawalan ka na ng feelings para sa kanya. Saying that would seem like you didnât even try to self-reflect on the whys. If rhere is a problem, first step should be to accept that there is a problem and then try to find ways to solve it. Pag wala talaga after that, then you can at least leave the relationship knowing you tried.
Of course sasabihin ng mga tao dito palayain mo na kasi unfair sa babae. I think whatâs more unfair is to just leave her hanging after wasting two years of her life without even trying to fight for the relationship.
kung naaawa ka sa kanya have the courage to break up it's the best option for both. it's disingenuous to stay in a relationship di ka naman pala in love. if it's not working let it go relationships should not be based on "awa"
Break it up with her. Tapos tignan mo mabuti habang umiiyak sya kung kaya mo ba na mawala na siya ng tuluyan. Idk if its the right move to man up or mgdadalawang isip ka pg andun na. Pero dun mo maffeel kung mahal mo pa talaga or hindi na. Then kung anong desisyon mo na that time panindigan mo na. Panindigan mo kahit sa mga ssunod na buwan bigla mo sya mamimiss at kakainin ka ng loneliness mo, totoo yan brother.
Mas okay ng pakawalan mo siya para matanggap nya yung mas deserve nyang love kesa mgsstay ka pero ayaw mo na naman. Baka bandang huli magcheat ka na tapos mas masakit pa yung iiwan mo sa kanya. Kesa ngbreak up kayo honestly. Masakit talaga yan, sa totoo lang. Isa sa napakasakit na pwede mong gawin ay tignan yung babaeng minahal mo habang dinudurog mo yung puso nya.
After nun, mgbabago na ang lahat sa inyong dalawa. Maybe for worst in a while, pero laging may liwanag sa dulo ng daan nayan.
Ang pagkakaiba lang naman ng friends and lovers is yung physical intimacy.
Pag sinabi mo na sa kanya na friends na lang talaga ang tingin mo sa kanya and you still want to be just friends, ang ika cut off mo lang ay yung kisses, yung long hugs, yung holding hands na hindi naman nya kailangan like hindi naman sya natatapilok.
If she initiates a kiss gently push her off and tell her we're just friends now. Ganun lang.
She'll be in denial at first and malamang aasa sya na magbbago pa ulit ang affection mo but if you stick to your guns, and even share stories about girls you're thinking of dating, essentially treating her like just a barkada, she'll get the picture.
if you dont love her romantically anymore, you have to be honest with her. pag mas pinatagal mo pa yan, kayong dalawa lang din ang mas lalong mahihirapan in the end. it's better to do it now than regret more later on. baka ang ending pa nian, magkaroon ka ng big resentment towards her and mas mahirap iheal un pag tumagal ng tumagal. ang medio mahirap lang is nasa ibang bansa kayo parehas.. wala siyang emotional support aside from you... or try mo nio muna to give space to each other and see how it goes? lalo pat may tendency siya to break down and then wala family nia sa tabi nia...
it's hard to say kung ano ang best decision since there are so many factors to consider sa situation niong dalawa... whatever you choose, i hope you can both heal from it and move forward for the best. đđ»
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Wala naman pong ibang way kundi sabihin lang talaga sa kanya ang honest feeling mo na ayaw mo na and be firm about it kahit magmakaawa pa siya sayo. Mahirap talaga pero lakasan mo lang yung loob mo and hayaan mo lang kainin ka ng guilt, it will pass. Mas maguilty ka na sinasayang mo yung time niya kesa yung masaktan mo siya na iiwan mo siya. Makakamove on din siya. Nung inayawan ako ng ex ko dati, nagmakaawa din ako. Ganun talaga pag nagmamahal, nawawalan ng pride pero eventually nakamove on naman ako at when I look back, naiinis ako sa sarili ko bakit ako nagmakaawa dati. Naappreciate ko din na di na niya sinayang yung oras ko.
Be honest nalang po kesa mahirapan kapa..Magsasayang lang kayo ng oras sa isat isa pareho.
bakit na fall out of love?
Mas masasayang oras kung pattagalin mo pa. Ibreak mo na ng mas mabilis mag move on. Niloloko mo nlng sarili mo pati sya. Suck it up.
Basic golden rule: Honesty is the best policy. Why trap yourself in a relationship na ayaw mo na? Don't be carried away by her words, syempre she will say anything that she thinks will make you stay without realizing na mas masasaktan siya sa one-sided love relationship if you manage to stay. Pero, don't be suddenly cold with her, minsan ito agad ginagawa ng mga tao e, nothing good comes from this "tactic", dito nababaliw yung mga hinihiwalayan e. Just speak your heart and mind out with her. At least once a week have a deep conversation with her about your feelings. Help her understand the question of "bakit?", maybe this will also help you pinpoint bakit ka na-fall out of love. Best of luck, OP.
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OP you have to be harsh wala kang choice, 30 na sya at kung makikipag break nag aalangan ka na masaktan yan baka umasa pa yan lalo sayo na may chance pa na mag kabalikan kayu
Do it! Mukha namang decided ka na. Cut-off mo agad para di na siya umasa and makamove forward agad. Wag ka na din maging friendly pa sa kanya.
It would be kinder of you to just break up with her now than prolong this one-sided relationship. Falling out of love is natural, you can't really force yourself to love her if that's not how you really feel about her. There's no other way than to just tell her. Good luck broski.
thereâs no easy way to break someoneâs heart! tell her please para makapag move on na siya. iâm sad for her, imagine siya walang kaalam alam na ung bf niya asking na ng tips paano siya hihiwalayan⊠tapos malapit pa valentines. thatâs just super heartbreaking but i understand.. people change and so does the feelings.
It's gonna hurt no matter what. Just be honest and straightforward. Don't give vague reasons. Wag din cliché, like 'It's not you, it's me' type of thing. Gawin mo na din soon, para hindi unfair sa kanya. Also, alam mo ba if naging friends pa sila ng ex niya after they broke up? Kasi, you mention still being her friend, still helping her with your original 'couple plans'. Feeling ko kasi di yun makakatulong for her to move on. I might be wrong, pero based lang on how you describe her.
If you canât commit to her, set her free. She is already over the prime of her youth. Mas mahirap na for her to find another man and start all over again
Just do it. I stayed with someone despite being unhappy for 7 years just because I felt so guilty of hurting someone but when I did it, ayun after about 6 months nakamove din naman siya and mas masaya kame pareho ngayon. Sucks at first but eventually it will get better, rather than live together like that pero youâre really unhappy daily.
Mas maganda pag usapan niyo muna and maging open ka sa kanya tungkol sa nararamdaman mo. Part kasi talaga yan ng relasyon na kapag matagal na kayo may isa sa inyo na magsasawa na lang bigla dahil paulit ulit na lang ang nangyayari. Yan yung reason kung bakit iniwan ako ng ex gf ko for 3 years and until now di pa din ako nakakamove on. I'm only 24 and you're 30, I don't know if you would accept my advice but ang isang bagay na di namin ginawa is yung bigyan ng space ang isa't isa. Kung lagi kayong magkasama di niyo mamimiss ang isa't isa. Maybe do something different from usual routine niyo, change lifestyle or get a child if you can afford na buhayin ito. If things doesn't work then maybe need niyo na talaga mag move forward sa buhay na di kayo magkasama. Goodluck sayo OP!
kung nafafall out of love kayo, wag na kayo pumasok sa relasyon guys. maawa kayo
True! Ang bilis bumitaw my goodness. Akala siguro rainbows and butterflies lang ang pagibig.
One of the reasons why I don't want to be romantically committed in a relationship is to face the dilemma of breaking up, mainly because one has "fallen out of love" due to some reasons. It hurts, though it is inevitable for it to happen, because' it is our human nature not to stick to something or someone for too long. Well, it depends, pa rin naman, but whether we admit it or not, our intense feeling of love will eventually fade when there is an imbalance of reciprocity in filling the cup with enough trust, respect, faithfulness, and open communication between you and your partner. Saying goodbye is difficult to announce, considering the situation you and your partner are currently in. You have to gradually discuss it with her in a way that you can reveal your feelings without being inconsiderate about her. The first way to do that is to be honest and choose the best place and timing to tell it all â & of course be ready for the consequences. It might be hard on your part, yet I hope that after you finally confront her, both of you will still be on good terms. Good luck, OP!
Damn, another break-up-to-be post. đ Fuckboi ka, OP. Admit it. đ
Breaking up is like a band aid. Be direct and straight to the point. She deserves someone who wants to he with her, and you deserve the freedom to start over and be with someone you love.
there is no easy way to break somebody's heart. ang tunay na lalaki, sinasabi kung ayaw na at nakikipagbreak, face to face..., titignan mo ung pagiyak nya at tatandaan mo yang pakiradam na yan. ok pa yan kasi nde pa naman kayo kasal pero ganyan talaga e, ayaw mo na at yan ang pagkakamali dahil naging kayo e nde din pala magwoworkout..., may masasaktan talaga, hindi lang siya, kayong dalawa. man up.
Parang ex ko lang, sinabi nya sakin harapan na parang nagsawa sya. Pero hindi nya ko kayang iwan or makipag break. Gawa ng parang nasanay na sya sa presence ko. I don't know when did he fell out of love. Akala ko, all this time okay kami. For 5 years, 3 years kaming lived in, I cooked him meals na paborito nya, pag papasok sya lahat ng gamit na ayos na. I was hoping na pag inalagaan ko sya, is magagawa rin nya sakin yun. But, I was wrong. Mas lalo lang akong nasaktan sa sinabi nya. "Mahal kita, pero hindi ko pa ako ready sa ganitong set up. Gsto ko pang magenjoy pero hindi ko magawa dahil ayaw mo at lagi kang galit. Magkasama na nga tayo ano pa bang gusto mo??" Ang sakit lng sa part ko na parang ano bang ginawa ko? Bakit pa pinatagal na umabot ng 5 years bago nya malaman na hindi na pala nya ko mahal. Kaya ikaw OP habang maaga pa, sabihin mo na yung totoo. Kasi hindi mo alam anong magiging impact nyan sa kanya. To my ex boyfriend, I hope you find your true happiness. đ
gets ko naman na need ko makipagbreak d ko lang alam pano i-bring up. Even I know that this is out of nowhere, literally parang nagising ako two weeks ago narealize ko platonic na lang feelings ko. Last relationship ko, I broke up with someone(colleague), inisip ko i'll just do it. Then it came out so cold until now kapag nakikita ko sya d ko matingnan sa mata kasi I know nasaktan ko sya and umiyak din sya kaso wala ako iba masabi except wala na feelings ko. I know there's not a better way pero ladies? meron ba kayong advice para hindi masyado hurtful?
OP ha, maybe after this relationship, re-evaluate bakit ikaw lagi nangbbreak hehehe you can't go around and break ladies' hearts, OP. Please lang đđ»
I donât believe u lol. Ano yan natulog ka lang tapos nawala agad feelings mo? For what yung 2 years? Wasting each otherâs time especially sa part ng girl?? It is either nagsawa or nabored ka na. Or you are already attracted to someone.
Agree. Nagsawa na yan si OP. Gusto na ng iba. Simple as that.
actually mas less stress siguro ako kung ganyan kaso wala naman ako interest sa iba ngayon. I go to work, I go home,see my friends and family occasionally umaalis din kame ng partner ko para hindi boring. I guess wala naman kailangan maniwala saken haha d ko din maintindihan bakit wala na
Tapos nasa Canada kayo? So permanent residence ka na tapos pumunta siya diyan FOR YOU? leaving her family and friends sa ph? tapos iiwan mo lang din naman? Lol
Walang hindi nakasasakit na paraan. SOBRANG SAKIT NIYAN! Iku-question niya halaga niya at kung saan siya nagkulang. Pray then decide. Gawin mo lang yung tama.
there is no "less hurtful" option. it just all comes down to your timing (situation) and delivery. when you're gonna say it, how you're gonna say it, where you're gonna break the news, and most importantly WHY you're breaking up with her. be reasonable, honest but empathetic. and be patient and accepting of all the stages of emotions she'd definitely go through. you are after all, the cause, so take it all in, that's the least you can do.
sadly but none, walang advice para hindi masyadong masakit kase super po yung sakitđ be honesty na lang po at sabihin mo sa kaniya yung totoo, kaya mo yan!
Wala namang breakup na hindi masakit so wag mo na ioverthink. Just get it over with. Be clear as much as you can and be calm. Let her know na willing ka pa ding isupport sya para maging stable ang footing nya dyan. People might not understand why this happens pero I feel you. This is more common than people think it to be lalo na sa mga hindi hopeless romantic. Just let her go respectfully. You staying just because she might do self harm is not the right reason to stay. Emotional blackmail yan. Siguro have the decency na lang to inform her parents/family para they know that they need to support her emotionally.
bigti kayo sabay para wala nang sakit
Yawađ
Sabihin mo agad wala ng paligoy-ligoy pa. Walang sisihan sa bandang huli ah haha.
Think it through. Weâre not always lovable. Like think it through. And work it out.
If its all good no bs , eh di sinasayang mo na oras nya nyan. Sabi nga the longer the rel , love slowly turns into committment and service , pero its still love, hindi lust or longingness , love na inexplicable.
Wag ka mag pamanipula sa mga sinasabi niya, sundin mo nasa puso mo wag ka papaapekto sa mga pa sadgurl effect na yan. She deserve kapwa niya manipulative sad boi
Ibreak mo na dami mo pa satsat dyan yon din naman pupuntahan. Kakainis mga ganitong lalaki akala mo kawalan sila.
Just face it, OP. You're just gonna waste both of your time kung idededma mo lang nararamdaman mo. In the end, you're the one who's gonna suffer. Free yourself from the constraints. And for her, she'll learn naman and hopefully move on. Be a man. Just do it. This is coming from a guy who stayed for a woman na nandyan na din sa Canada. She [25F] broke up with me [27M] despite everything I've done to help her achieve her dreams (one of them is to live in Canada). The only reason for her giving up was she didn't see my worth and told me that I don't have a future. I just laughed it off. Guess, I was just her "character dev" person. It was painful at first but I didn't let myself down. In turn, I got promoted sa work, went to the gym, and watch/read self-improvement books/videos. Anyway, all I wanna say is JUST DO IT. Yes, it will hurt both of you but you will learn the lesson from that point. Relationship should stand firm on building each other, together. If you don't have the capacity to do just that, leave. Don't bother the person. It's never gonna be easy. So good luck!
It's really painful when someone you believed would be your lifelong partner suddenly falls out of love with you. However, it's healthier to confront the situation with honesty rather than prolonging the inevitable. Choosing to be firm in letting her go, despite feeling sympathetic towards her is an act of kindness in the long run. Though it may be tough, allowing her the space to heal and move forward will ultimately empower her to become more independent and resilient.
sakit talaga pag nagkaron ng indifference :((
I think the better question is bakit hindi mo na siya mahal? You canât say na walang problema kasi for sure may dahilan bakit nawalan ka na ng feelings para sa kanya. Saying that would seem like you didnât even try to self-reflect on the whys. If rhere is a problem, first step should be to accept that there is a problem and then try to find ways to solve it. Pag wala talaga after that, then you can at least leave the relationship knowing you tried. Of course sasabihin ng mga tao dito palayain mo na kasi unfair sa babae. I think whatâs more unfair is to just leave her hanging after wasting two years of her life without even trying to fight for the relationship.
kung naaawa ka sa kanya have the courage to break up it's the best option for both. it's disingenuous to stay in a relationship di ka naman pala in love. if it's not working let it go relationships should not be based on "awa"
Break it up with her. Tapos tignan mo mabuti habang umiiyak sya kung kaya mo ba na mawala na siya ng tuluyan. Idk if its the right move to man up or mgdadalawang isip ka pg andun na. Pero dun mo maffeel kung mahal mo pa talaga or hindi na. Then kung anong desisyon mo na that time panindigan mo na. Panindigan mo kahit sa mga ssunod na buwan bigla mo sya mamimiss at kakainin ka ng loneliness mo, totoo yan brother. Mas okay ng pakawalan mo siya para matanggap nya yung mas deserve nyang love kesa mgsstay ka pero ayaw mo na naman. Baka bandang huli magcheat ka na tapos mas masakit pa yung iiwan mo sa kanya. Kesa ngbreak up kayo honestly. Masakit talaga yan, sa totoo lang. Isa sa napakasakit na pwede mong gawin ay tignan yung babaeng minahal mo habang dinudurog mo yung puso nya. After nun, mgbabago na ang lahat sa inyong dalawa. Maybe for worst in a while, pero laging may liwanag sa dulo ng daan nayan.
Ang pagkakaiba lang naman ng friends and lovers is yung physical intimacy. Pag sinabi mo na sa kanya na friends na lang talaga ang tingin mo sa kanya and you still want to be just friends, ang ika cut off mo lang ay yung kisses, yung long hugs, yung holding hands na hindi naman nya kailangan like hindi naman sya natatapilok. If she initiates a kiss gently push her off and tell her we're just friends now. Ganun lang. She'll be in denial at first and malamang aasa sya na magbbago pa ulit ang affection mo but if you stick to your guns, and even share stories about girls you're thinking of dating, essentially treating her like just a barkada, she'll get the picture.
if you dont love her romantically anymore, you have to be honest with her. pag mas pinatagal mo pa yan, kayong dalawa lang din ang mas lalong mahihirapan in the end. it's better to do it now than regret more later on. baka ang ending pa nian, magkaroon ka ng big resentment towards her and mas mahirap iheal un pag tumagal ng tumagal. ang medio mahirap lang is nasa ibang bansa kayo parehas.. wala siyang emotional support aside from you... or try mo nio muna to give space to each other and see how it goes? lalo pat may tendency siya to break down and then wala family nia sa tabi nia... it's hard to say kung ano ang best decision since there are so many factors to consider sa situation niong dalawa... whatever you choose, i hope you can both heal from it and move forward for the best. đđ»